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Definitely not. Women have worked for so long just for rights to work along with men. it feels like a slap to the face that these women are trying to make these lifestyles seem Amazing when just last century this was the only lifestyle we could choose. Just imagine all the women that died fighting for their independence would think of this :( The thought that at any time this person could dump them and they'd have no where to go is frightening. Independence is so important, these girls are gonna end up homeless :( That one girls man was already saying to her that he'd dump her for someone younger, how scary.
Stay at home wife? Maybe. Stay at home girlfriend? Never!
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Noooo definitely not
Being a stay at home gf makes you vulnerable because you never build up an independent sustainable life system for yourself. So if one day your boyfriend does not want to support you anymore you are basically left at the streets. You are also vulnerable for manipulation and other toxic behaviors, you become easy to toy around because without your bf you have nothing.
i fully whole heartedly agree with you. well said. it’s so sad to see after all these feminist movements for women to gain independence that they would just be so ignored. I want women to feel independent and empowered wether they are in a relationship or not
@@ily279Well if a woman chooses to live this way then what is the problem? Believe it or not but some people actually want to live like this.
Then save up your money baby, and let him spend on you and don't do things 50/50 so if he decides to leave, you have money. Problem solved.
@@margo3342 They choose to live like this because most of the time they do not want to work, the guy has money and shes pure laziness that can't handle work/real world lol So yeah its kind of sad if not only women but ANYONE to want to live like this. But social media is stupid enough to acknowledge it soooo its why its a stupid trend..
@@mellybearand that's why they say never trust social media lol
I hope everyone knows that the woman with the boyfriend „William“ is not actually a stay at home gf and William does not exist😂 she makes parodies
Yeah and the videos are hilarious
Yup. Love her videos. 🤣🤣
What’s her @? Id loved to see more. My video isn’t high quality enough for me to read
@@kuuverse she is haley kalil or something on yt, i think. She is a sports illustrated swimsuit model!
@@kuuverse haley khalil
What’s REALLY problematic is the young “rich” boyfriend is only rich from inherited/family wealth. You’ve got two people who are unable to provide for themselves. That can get pretty ugly when the cash dries up.
How are you sure about that
@@aileen8492 usually from what I have seen and known i think men who educate themselves , work hard and build an empire wouldnt want stay at home girlfriends ,they would rather be attracted to someone who has those similar traits for better compatibility and understanding. But thats not a fact , choices are still affected by upbringing and personality
@@aileen8492 obviously I’m not sure, but when the couple are both infantilised, it’s can’t be good if the BFs money supply dries up. I have known couples where the man presents as rich, but in reality he doesn’t work and the house/car etc are owned by his parents. GF thinks she’s in a great situation and the BF falls out with his family and suddenly he hasn’t a penny. GF and BF expect the other person to solve the problem, but neither have ever adulted before. And the relationship crashes and burns.
Basically, if you wanna be a stay at home GF, be involved in the finances and make sure the guy is self made and financially responsible.
@@aileen8492 it usually takes time to build up wealth.
Aside from intimacy and limited emotional and physical support the only good thing here is that when the inevitable end comes he won't have to pay alimony or CS if there's no kiddo. She is replaceable with no consequences. I hope he knows when common law marriage kicks in.
While I love the idea of having a rich boyfriend and doing whatever I want I also feel like the lack of ring would make it difficult for me to jump into a essentially marriage-esque lifestyle…
Exactly….i don’t believe anyone should be playing housewife if they ain’t married. You just setting yourself up if you do that..😅
Even a ring on your finger doesn't have any guarantee these days 😅
Just asking why?
Not being pessimistic but divorce is a thing and it actually happens a lot especially in the us
@@kash_n_bags1744 true but divorce is also a long and difficult process and usually in lucky cases the women at least get something out of it (property, money etc.) i’d rather take that chance than to spend half my life acting like someone’s wife and then being dumped with nothing to my name
“The maid got in the way kind of rude.” You hired her to clean so shes doing it?
Lol I was wondering if that one was satire
She kinda is a maid too 😂
Yeah ik lol! Like, at least the maid is doing something and working hard for her future unlike the prejudiced, hyper-privilaged woman who is so inconvenienced because 'oh no! the maid is doing her job and slightly obstructing the view of the tv!' like girl literally get a job you need to humble yourself
I think there is more than just the aspect of “what if he leaves” - what if he gets sick or unable to work? How are you going to provide?
When you have kids, what are you going to teach them?
Having skills of your own is IMPORTANT. It educates you, make you meet people and help you grow a little bit more everyday
The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
@@rba4377 yes, my mother in law is stay at home housewife and she is the one of the best cook, and most organised person I’ve ever seen!!
I agree very much with your last part too, of course, there is love, but there should be a “security” in case, so marriage or wills, etc. It’s not just in case they leave, but if something bad happens etc
If you stay with him through thick and thin you will be rewarded no matter what
Do what most women do when the man is unable to work- leave him and find another man. Get the courts to siphon something out of the previous man to cover you til you find a new one.
Nah
I wouldn't judge anyone for how they choose to live their life, but personally I wouldn't be able to be a stay at home gf. Going out, working, studying and being around people is what keeps me going. Being home 24/7 would make me so lonely and sad in the longer run
I mean if we're talking about the toxic, constantly micromanaged and belittling, and there is a gossipy, backstabbing culture, work environment. Then being harassed by worker for my "accent" and forcing me to take on extra unpaid work while they're in the front on their phones, then complained to the boss if I dare leave early cuz I'm not going to be pushed around like that. Then gaslit me into thinking I was incapable of making any minute decision, which manifested into larger issues for me when I felt I couldn’t make any correct decision at all -> dread -> panic. OPENLY talked about how dumb and incompetent I was and how their try to hire a better person. Now trying to detoxify for that workplace. I wouldn't mind being a stay-at-home girlfriend.
No one said you can't do anything, they are not locked up in a tower, you could go for a nice yoga class, learn a new language, attend a cooking lesson.... etc
@@AoKajii you never know
well although i agree that stay at home girlfriend isn't the best concept , it doesn't necessarily mean that they cant go out ,study , meet friends, etc
@@user-KK812 I see your point! But having a job is the perfect place for meeting other people! If my friends are busy and I have nothing to do, at least I can talk with my coworkers when I am at work. I don’t think the stay at home life is fully lonely and that you can never go out and do things, but having a job is a great place to start if you don’t know a lot of people.
i used to want this lifestyle and then i noticed what i want is just to get pampered and i can literally just be rich and go to a salon
Middle class people can afford decent salons though, so you don’t need tons of wealth for a hair cut and back massage 😂
Or get a rich HUSBAND not boyfriend
@@caitlingill true but if you want to be pampered on a frequent basis then get rich on your own and do it
@@vikkidonn ^^^ Be rich (climb up), then marry rich- (double income)
I get you girl, I wish I could afford all those expensive clothes, treatments and surgeries
A. I feel like it's a kink (vanilla version for a daddy)
B. I feel like the problem is promoting the shallow notion that if you have money and time all you should do to be fulfilled is shopping and beauty routines. When you can become an activist or an artist or whatever. It's not jobs that bring us value but our actions and mind.
Oh please. Some people would be depressed not working like some are depressed working. Some people would be depressed being ugly like some people deny they wouldn’t want to be better looking. If it’s a kink, a lot of people have it. Most women just don’t want to hear it but if you aren’t a virgin or a ten, you’re not going to get the same type of offers. Being pretty is art. And keep long that art alive over the years is impressive. Girls who get paid to exist put faith in the world for me and good for them. Still tells me no matter what pc crap is preached, people still appreciate beauty and you can’t preach that away. Armpit hair or untweezed eyebrows will never be paid to stay at home looking that way. Fat girls work on onlyfans to get that life’s ty ale and pretend men want that. Liking fatties is a kink btw. And less men like fatties.
This! I never thought about the kink aspect of it, but now that you mention it, it kind of makes sense. Also, I agree that you don't have to have a job in this life, but you should do something in it. If these girls were painting, going to museums, or even learning how to play an instrument or how to program it would make sense. But just a life filled with skin care routines and lash extensions just feels wrong. Hell, if they took even making drinks seriously and were really passionate about it and constantly were experimenting with new flavors I would respect them more or if they were studying skincare and really into that it would be fine. The thing about these lifestyles is that even though they have money, they lack passion or drive. It just feels like these women are living to consume and look pretty instead of living to experience
@@Erika-wc2om tell me no one considers your beauty a work of art without telling me no one considers your beauty a work of art. Tattoo artists can make a blank canvas beautiful, but makeup and beauty treatments can’t? Don’t tel a woman how to define her worth if she has decided how she wants to define it.
@F aychel I totally get that! I agree that makeup is art and lots of those who put on makeup are creating art. But these women don't seem to be doing that. From what I've gathered on from these videos, these women put on makeup not because they are passionate about light and shadows or cool looks, but because they have to. I didn't see a single stay at home girlfriend wearing something other than "clean makeup" which isn't intended to be art, but to be minimal and mimic a bare face. I completely agree that one can be passionate about makeup in an artistic way, but these women don't seem to be doing that. I don't know them personally, maybe they experiment with makeup all the time off camera, but from the way that they are presenting themselves in TikTok, their lives seem to be without purpose.
Thiiiss! It s just toxic and laughable imo from start to bottom
As a disabled female I feel like this really does hit us differently. A lot of us struggle w/financial stability
As a *person living with disability* no one is disabled. It shouldn't define you.
YESSSSSS thank yoU The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
@@brendakinya It shouldn't but too often society forces you into certain boxes because of it. Similar with gender, sex, skin colour, social and financial background, etc.
@@brendakinya societal model of disability falls apart when the disability impedes the person from even having normal bodily or social functioning irrespective of the social structure it falls in. People _are_ disabled. How is it not gonna define someone when it's part of who they are? Tf? I am autistic and disabled, I am never going to be able to live independently of my autism because it's in my brain!! I could be in some dark cage in the early stages of humanity and still struggle with sensory overload and executive dysfunction.
Agree
My father's older sister was terribly abused by her husband. She ran home a few times but was marched right back to her abusive husband because that was the reality of the early 60s. Ultimately, her husband moved and took her overseas. Soon after, my grandparents received news that she died. An illness, they were told ..
My father was just a child during all this. He remembers her being kind and smart , but this was at a time and in a society where girls were only valued for marriage and child bearing, nothing else. His sisters were at the mercy of the men they were married to. After all he saw and heard, my father made sure to raise daughters who valued their financial independence.
It's confounding to see these young women purposefully put themselves into these vulnerable positions. Even in those moments where I wish I could quit my job and still have a worry-free life, I daydream about winning the lottery - not about having a rich boyfriend! I could never be comfortable being so dependent on the whims of another, the risks are too high ... sometimes fatally so.
Girl, this younger generation doesn’t remember…or no one bothered to teach them. They come on TH-cam and TikTok and see this glamorous lifestyle and think that’s it. No dark side or disadvantage to this at all…when you don’t remember not having that right, you take for granted when you have it and YOU LOSE IT. These ladies setting themselves up to fail. SMH.
they're prostitutes, russian apartment girls
@@NoIDontActuallyLiveInSeattle yes just look at the movies enough with jlo and diary of a mad black woman
@@Cheerleader644860 YUP. Diary of a Mad Black Woman made me wake up and realize I couldn’t and SHOULDNT put my fate in the hands of a man. I refuse to ever be in a situation where they’re throwing me out the house like I’m trash, just so they can replace me with a newer and younger model
@@NoIDontActuallyLiveInSeattle yes. Thank u4 this. I'm not either. Women better learn how to do something.
Girls who want this lifestyle i won’t judge. But me personally, I want to earn my own money, spend my own money, and be able to provide stability and financial stability. No one, definitely not my partner will take that stability away from me. That’s such a stressful lifestyle and toxic relationship in my opinion.
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The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
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It’s not toxic though 😂 speak for yourself 😊
Honestly I think the scariest thing in the world would be to be entirely dependent on a man, that’s why later women stay in abusive relationships, cause they literally can’t live without the other person. And also why are all these girls in their 20’s I see a patron there that I worry about.
right like shouldn’t they be in college or starting their career
These men obviously only want young and attractive women to stay by their side like a shiny trophy. I doubt if they even love their girlfriends tbh..
@@ily279 exactly, they think staying at home and taking "care" of themselves/their partner(s) and not going out to do work will save them cause they "don't have to do any work"apparently,cause they're lazy as hell but they don't realise that being at home and doing nothing other than making food for your man and yourself and doing laundry and stuff can be so depressing and unmotivational, like they're basically pets in their so called bf's home, and that leads to toxic and abusive behaviour and they can't even take a stand cause they be living on his money :/ that's just terrifying
@@dune.3297 exactly and they don't realize that one day they'll get themselves a more ' prettier ' and ' younger ' gf because heck these are the only things the girls are bringing to the relationship. A trophy gf . I just don't get their thought process. How is this a happy life?
Must be incredibly exhausting to constantly live with that thought that the guy could just dump you for someone prettier/younger and you'd be left with nothing. Makes me shiver to think about it. I feel sorry for the women who think they have to degrade themselves like that
I’m sure that rich boyfriend thinks he has access to your body whenever he wants. And he can do anything he pleases or you’re on the street.
wow thats a big leap of thought my friend. The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
yeah it's a form of prostitution, apartment girl
No he's not, he respects her. What she's doing is what most of Western females should be doing. It's crazy how women in the West look down on other women who just want to take care of their men and build a family with them. No wonder your divorce rates and loneliness is so high.
@@User40919 women in the east/south who stay at home do the clothes, dishes, cooks , cleans all day long. That never ends , i saw my mom and so many women in my family who were stay at home do it and raise the children, like the father has no idea about their kids lives , no wonder they hate their brown dads. These western women aren't doing that. They have hired help. They journal their thoughts , women in my country become the maids after marriage because the men aren't taught to do that. Besides if u do want a woman to stay at home , u have to earn to two fucking people , which isn't easy and unpaid house labour is around half a million dollars or 50 mil in my currency, all u care about is power dynamics and how much control u actually have.
@@User40919 shut up bish
Stay at home girlfriends is problem because those girls can be dropped so instantly, they sound more like pets then actual people. Unlike parents who have a responsibility to take care of a child another person doesn't and like you said that can become parasitic or worse abusive (on both ends not just one or the other) because of the reliability. Romance is great but complete dependency can reduce ability to think independently.
Edit: I should mention stay at home ANYTHING is not bad in itself disabled people, people going through a situation, or people who just so happen to have the support to stay at home is ok, whats not is those who brag and belittle others which this trend is doing.
The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
@@rba4377 They do, do a disservice to stay at home people. My dad is disabled and became a stay at home dad for 8-9 years only this year began working again. Stay at home parents take care of children and stay at home spouses take care of the home and even most likely have a job they can do at home aswell. Unlike children or spouses they don't have the legal security, breakups could mean being homeless. This is worse because in stay at home situations even with legal documents once it becomes abusive it's bad and without documentation? It's probably worse
“They sound more like pets than actual people” perfectly sums up why this feels kind of gross
“Can be dropped” CAN, also they aren’t parents, it’s their choice and theyre happy
@@jhopesspriteempty8173 The main problem is they preach this life of being dependent with no worries but as you see in the video they also have this "I must be pretty to not be left" additude which is unhealthy, and this is one of the many issues. this is deeper than "they're happy"
Stay at home gf is ridiculous but a wife makes sense since you’re caring for kids who can die & suffer without care.
True! And usually you become a wife with kids after studying or working, so you're technically able to provide for yourself if needed
I feel we're forgetting that it takes two to tango, so the man can stay at home also? Maybe switch roles once in a while?
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No. Stay at home wife is just as ridiculous as being a stay at home gf. Depending on someone for money and survival will always be a wrong decision. Especially if you have kids you should be able to take care of them financially if your husband is there or not. Wasting your time skills, talents to be at home...better to make money for kids so that they get a better lifestyle and you have some money for their education too. And this saves you from being broke if your husband dies or cheats or whatever. How are you going to pay for lawyers if your husband is not a good fellow?
Truth be told most housewives are either to stupid to understand how ruthless this world can be and how your husband would dominate you if he is earning money and you are not
or they are too clever to understand that they can get anything if they are beautiful ..so be a gold digger and marry a rich man..what's self respect?
@@Balli942 I definitely disagree. Being a stay at home wife when children are involved is not ridiculous or a waste of time. Raising children that become stable, kind, responsible adults takes attention and skill. Choosing a spouse is one of the most important decisions for this reason. My mom stayed home and my dad worked, as the kids got older my mom went back to work and she was just as happy being home as at work. This isn't the case for all people, but it's an absolutely viable and honorable decision if the "bread winner" is a decent human who cares about the well-being of their family. But then again, in my case, we were a lower-middle class family with no gold digging and a whole lot of mutual respect.
I was a stay at home gf in my mid-20's for 1,5 years. Didn't plan on it, just happened during the course of a (toxic) relationship. My bf was working 80 hours per week and while he made tons of money, I was alone at home most of the time and "prepared" the house and myself for him to come back from work late at night. At first it was fun having so much time and money on your hands to do all the pilates reformer classes, expensive beauty treatments and having shopping sprees etc. But after a while I completely lost myself and felt incredibly lonely. The thought of having to keep up with so much self-maintenance for the exchange of living this lifestyle for the rest of my life terrified me after a while. It was exhausting. You are dependent on this one person after a while and to me, this was a feeling of sheer terror because what if he leaves you? I left him and picked up my university studies. Best decision ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! To all the stay-at-home gf's: You are sacrificing your life and education and wasting your best years in exchange for a dependency of a life in a golden cage where nothing you use, eat and buy everyday is actually yours. It literally can be taken away from you every moment.
That's something a lot of married women needs to listen to.
I mean, is not possible to have the boyfriend and finish college studies ay the same time? Supposing its not a toxic person, I think with all that free time finish a degree would be attainable
i read a reddit post about a SAHM's husband dying and leaving her and the kids his secret debt (he had a double life and a gambling addiction). she had no formal work experience because she was a full time SAHM and struggled to support her kids. it is so, so important to have your own money and independence.
I think that the stay at home girlfriend or wife is attractive for a lot of women who hate their jobs because of the freedom aspect. Some jobs suck so bad because on top of the stress of your job you can’t use the restroom when you want to, eat when you want to, and the amount of stress and office politics and bad bosses/ managers in insane. Some salaried jobs have people doing way more work then they are getting paid for. I think that most women just crave the freedom to own their day. It’s nice to have the freedom to control your day and come and go as you please, wake up when you want to, work out when you want to, eat when you want to etc. There is no stability in being a stay at home girlfriend because if the couple breaks up the girlfriend gets nothing and she has no work history or skills to even create a resume so that she could get a job and support herself. Relying on a man that you’re not married to can make a woman put up with things that she normally wouldn’t because she needs the financial support. If they break up then the woman either has to hurry up and find another guy to support her or due to non existent job skills she wouldn’t be able to get a job that would pay enough money to support the lifestyle that she was used to. If she was married to the guy and a wife she would at least get alimony. I think that it really means that most women want financial freedom to not have to work at a job that they hate, and have more stress free peaceful days.
I think you said it perfectly
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@@emilycorlett8082 Thank you. 😊
I agree completely and get where you're coming from, but I also feel like women who do choose this lifestyle should/could still continue to try to develop their knowledge and interests rather than living a mundane, shallow lifestyle of getting coffee, going to get their hair and nails done and leeching off their boyfriend. Surely, they don't hate all jobs humanly possible. They could volunteer, read/learn about things they're interested in, develop skills, create art and so many other things - just try to find a purpose for their life. I think that this lifestyle (where a woman is free and has complete control over her day) is only appealing for a while but it would get extremely boring with time and might lead to insanity. But that might be just my opinion.
Maybe I didn’t make it clear with my comment but when a woman has the freedom to control her day she also has the time, energy, and freedom to explore her interest, start a business, take a class, learn a foreign language etc. Most people are so drained from their jobs that the weekends and vacation and holidays are used to catch up on sleep, de stress and recover physically and mentally. Why do you think people want to win the lottery or get a windfall of money. People want the freedom and time that money can provide.
I understand the appeal of that effortless lifestyle but having independence feels so goddamn good! When I started to work at 16, I realized how important it was to learn how to manage my own money
I feel like you'd be fine as long as you have a side hustle or work and have savings prior to the relationship.
Boyfriends and girlfriends both come and go like the wind. Get married and build a life together or otherwise build your career and take care of yourself.
Normalize being a stay at home BF. That sounds fun for me
Honestly, if you strive for this the stay at home gf something is wrong with you. I completely agree with what Zoe said about the women becoming a parasite, not being able to survive without a man. Sure it's all rainbows now but once he dumps you, then what? The woman is forced to leech of another man and you're left asking, will the cycle end?
The possibility of finding another man is pretty slim afterwards (the girl is aging thus losing her desirability)
And with so many gap years in her resume finding a job would be a real challenge
yeah, and you dont even have the safety net of marriage! While I disagree with your statement of women staying at home being "leaches" as they still provide labor, I think its very naive and irresponsible. Housewives at least tend to have a few more safety nets than a stay at home gf, because they are bound by a legal contract that protects them. That's not to say it isnt risky.
that’s why you have to invest or save a half from the allowance he gives lol
But it is very easy for women (especially pretty) to find a job as a waitress or department stores selling clothes if they know how to speak English if they get dumped. Plus, if they do end up getting married, she can take half of his money if they get divorced. I don't really see how she cant even survive after breakup. Plus, waitresses actually make a ton of money.
@@dreamychaos5935 But if she takes care of herself like she does in the video, she can still find a man who is willing to take care of her financially even at 45. My mom was like that (a stay at home wife) and after divorce, she got half the money from previous husband and found another man to financially support her (he is not THAT rich like 200k salary but treats my mom very very well). My mom took care of herself physically and is a good cook. My moms friend (also late 40s) found a rich boyfriend as well and does not work herself. Theres so many examples
I love how the internet constantly pushes unrealistic lifestyles like this one on to the fyp for so many young girls who will probably aspire to be like that. You'll see less and less young people looking for good, stable careers that they could live comfortably with and instead just wanting to be rich from their partner and relying on them to live in luxury. In the end, most of these relationships will not last. It's literally leave high school and start pursuing internet fame now.
Imagine giving all wifey energy to someone you're not even married to....
the problem with being a stay at home gf is that at any point, if ur bf breaks up with you, you're on your own, no income, no home, nothing to work up from
The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
Isn't that the same as being a housewife? People didn't have a problem with that but have a problem with this one? It's a genuine question
@@shakira7301 the difference is that it's really easy to just break up with someone, it's just oh let's break up. but if you're married, you can't just be dumped in the streets as easily.theres a process to divorce and also splitting assets, which would be better than just breaking up with nothing left
To put in Cher's words: "Mom, I am a rich man."
Isn’t this just sugar baby… (sorry don’t kill me) but yea I can totally relate w Zoe on the boyfriend and less than two jobs 😂
I thought so too. Of course It doesn’t apply to every one of those relationship but at least to the girls that said if they would age too much, their boyfriends would dump them. That’s extremely toxic
@@minibadger that girl in particular was joking haha ,her whole channel is sarcastic. She made a whole series of her "rich boyfriend"
No. I'm a sugar baby and it's a completely different arrangement. Being someone's girlfriend is not the same as being their sugar baby.
@@naonyaru5679 i don't really understand how people think they're the same. You don't have to pay your girlfriend to give you attention. It's as simple as that.
@@naonyaru5679 I don't know how to simplify it anymore but ill try. Being a sugar baby is being a sugar baby. Being a girlfriend is being a girlfriend. Most sugar babies are not gonna live with their sugar daddy and they expect payment for any sort of attention, doesn't have to be explicit.
Whereas a girlfriend would be expected to care for her boyfriend regardless of what he spends on her.
They're just not the same. I hate the idea that they are because too many sugar daddies don't know their place as it is so the idea that their sugar baby is actually their girlfriend just supports the delusion in their mind.
As a woman in my 40s who has physically labored since 15 years old i can say...the body breaks. It ages. The wish is that you find someone who is faithful and good and trustworthy. No matter the arrangement.
Unfortunately, we don't get to choose our circumstances.
I would really not want to live my adult life relying on someone else’s money and kindness. Just not the life for me.
As a person who lives in 3rd world countries it is expected for a women to stay at home in here, but this sort of thinking is starting to fade. Unfortunately My parents still believe in this, I've always kept told that I'll never make it on my own and that I am meant to depend on a man. It is very frustrating having your life decided just because you were born a female , I feel like I am a can of tuna who's only purpose is to get consumed. That is why this trend should be stopped because nothing good comes from teaching young girls that depending and pleasing man is what they meant to do.
It isn't for everyone, your choice to work should be respected, and the choice of these girls to become stay at home gfs should also be respected
I was a stay at home wife. We are now divorced. It fosters a system where you feel like they are your parent. THIS IS JUST MY EXPERIENCE! Not meant to invalidate anyone that enjoys the lifestyle and has a healthy relationship!!
I wish there was a trend named “MY RICH BF WHO I WAS LIVING OFF OF DUMPED ME & HERE IS NOW A DAY IN MY LIFE”!!
I would be so curious to watch videos in that trend.
Lol are You serious??? I dated a wealthy guy for 3 years and let me tell You they are the worse of all and most cheap off all. Now I have an average boyfriend and gives me everything I want. Because he is deeply in love with me. And i AM the happiest I have ever been!
You dated a wealthy guy who was so not into you. He won obviously because you dated him for 3 years for nothing.
@@DiamondsRexpensive exactly
@@DiamondsRexpensive 3 years of testing the cow and never buying it. He won.
@@faychel8383 i mean maybe he did for three years. All that matters is that she is happy now
@@samanthazhu1234 she’s older and has more notches on her bedpost. Her options were wider before the 3 year relationship.
as a guy, it would be my dream to be able to have that kind of money that I could just be able to give a girl my card and say hey, go get whatever you need 😊 I love to give to others it makes me feel so fulfilled, if I ever had that kind of money I would be so happy to be able to provide for a stay at home girlfriend. I would feel really happy. It would be just so wonderful, I wouldn’t really expect anything in return, I just love to give to others and see others happy. I can understand a girl would want to feel cared for , because I know there’s guys out there that are maybe like me, who just want to care for someone. I love to care for others, and also for pets. I love caring for people and animals.
I would caution about it though, because there are definitely bad people out there that would use that to take advantage or pressure girls because they expect they’re “owed” your body etc and that’s not okay. So ladies if you seek that out please be very careful 😔
Edit; I also never would expect them to clean up after me or something either. I just want to provide stability and safety. That sounds wonderful. I want to be able to buy what my girl wants when she asks. And surprised her with little gifts. I want her to be able to have her career without worrying about it flopping or worrying about “what if it doesn’t make enough”. I would love to have money to where she could do whatever she wanted. She could study, have good food, etc. I would just feel so happy providing stability for a partner
@Kim everyone should be able to have the life they want! i dont think theres a right or wrong way to be or live.
I hope you ll get rich one day then 😊 sounds as a nice dream for yourself and the people around you 💪😊
@Kim i agree independence increases a woman’s self esteem
Wow you are the type of guy who fits the ideal of femininity channels! It's refreshing to see a guy who is not deadbeat. Who doesn't spew crap like "what do you bring to the table?"
"Everything is 50-50!" (Despite the woman already took care most of chores and childcare)
The manosphere channel only wants feminism when it fits their agenda (not wanting to provide). But once it's about women's career or future they're dead silent
I hope you'll find a woman who would do the same for you. You two would conquer the world ✨️
Girlfriends don’t have rights within a relationship, wives do. So the whole stay at home girlfriend trend is mind boggling to me. Because When the relationship ends or the money dries up, you get nothing.
“The nostalgia for being someone’s daughter” the truth in that statement… 🤯
Even rich people don't live like that. My friend comes from a very influential family in VN. Yes, her mom stays at home, but she also takes care of all their real estate (leasing/ maintenance/building properties). She's always busy
But, william girlfriend's life is a total skit.. she's a model, influencer, and restaurant owner in real life😭🤣
The increased instability that comes with depending on others for well-being is terrifying. I’d rather consistently struggle than risk being cut off and abandoned.
Someone once said that if you marry for money, you’ll be working every day of your life. And it’s true. Everything you need to survive isn’t coming from within, it’s coming from someone else and when you fail to please that someone else, what do you think happens to your ability to survive?
I feel like the boyfriend could cheat so easily and she wouldn’t have any money of her own so she wouldn’t be able to leave
I would have to be married with kids before I would consider being stay at home. I do like the idea of having extra time for working out and skincare, as well as doing more with hobbies and interests but I don't think it would be worth losing my independence and identity over.
*if done in the right context and setting you dont lose your identity or independence
The girls making this trendy are doing a disservice to stay at home ____. In general people staying at home are very productive. Not only that, in general theres a good reason for it, in my case (and many other people's) sickness. By doing all the house work and running errands I assist my partner in progressing at work which is one of his goals. Also, im constantly SO BUSY!
I do believe though that this is only for the kind of relationship that is pretty much like a marriage but without signing the papers, like my partner and I are on each other Will's and all docs in that category.
Being a stay at home mum gives you extra time to do facials and work out? Unless you're from a rich household that's false
@@shakira7301 yess
@@shakira7301 Considering I have seen working moms and working single moms take time to get in a workout and skincare routine everyday AND somehow keep the house spotless, I would say that being stay at home would give them plenty of extra time for working out and skincare routines if they choose since they would have an extra 8-9 hours a day. Just saying. And no they are not rich. Not saying stay at home moms aren't busy, because most of them are but it does give more time to do stuff since there is not 8-9 hours of work taking up their day.
My mum is a stay at home mum, my dad is a sailor. They've split up and my dad has made it clear that he can and will threaten her with money. He's even threatened to stop paying for school for me and my sibling. Being a stay at home girlfriend/wife is based on dependacy. If someone want to be a stay at home whatever, at least have a small side gig for yourself, as if something goes wrong, you have stability. And if you love being a stay at home whatever, I hope your lover loves you enough th not threaten you. I personally just wouldn't make that choice. Just think about the things that could go wrong. (Note, I don't live in the US, and if I drop out of school, I'll have to go to one where I don't understand the language that everyone would speak.)
See? That's the point.
Girlies out there literally doing wife work at girlfriend level.
getting paid at wife rates though
@@timothypotts3913 paid?
I’m chronically ill and feel tired & sick a lot. Having this type of set up is exactly the type of thing that would be perfect for what I can handle.
If your boyfriend "warns" you that you are "getting older" or that he will leave you for younger girlfriend, ask yourself is that really a quality relationship?
If you're talking about the first one it's just a parody. She's actually mocking the stay at home girlfriends
Watching your videos are so soothing. I’m so glad I stumbled on your videos
Zoe's insights are fascinating to watch. Seems like this trend keeps going. These people still need to go out and about.
Omg how do I see u everywhere, saw you on worldofxtra before and julie and camilla and sm other places lol
wait i thought these were literally just intricate sarcastic jokes... i thought the internet finally figured out my strange humor this whole time...
Some totally are lol
Just the fact that the girlfrieds state that they will be dropped as soon as they aged or wear a bandage on the arm is bad, shows me how much "love" exists in their relationship...
that's probably the parody ones. the real ones wouldn't say that
that was a parody lol
as much as i hate my work on certain days, i could never not work, I'd get so bored...
As a child free woman, it never was an option for me. And I love meeting new people every day throughout job/hobby, and creating things, so i wouldn’t stay home either way.
Honestly if I were rich I couldn't have a partner like that. Not working isn't necessary an issue but if you're not striving for something or trying to achieve something with yourself what are you doing?
The problem i have with the trend of beeing a stay at home gf/wife is, that they don’t show the organisation part in the relationship that goes with it. Talking about money, savings, about a possible brake up and what happens with the money (when not married) so the stay at home part doesnt have a problem afterwards. You have to talk A LOT AND REALLY OPEN. And that‘s what people don‘t see.
I was a stay at home gf for nearly a year (mostly bc of a burnout). It was hard at the beginning and i felt not worthy as women who worked.
I worked since i was 10 and pre covid i was self-employed and made a lot of money by myself. But i got over it bc my boyfriend respected me either ways. Our relationship got so much better. We started talking a lot about money, earnings, savings, combined bank accounts, how WE want to have our future… something i never talked about in my previous relationship bc it was always „taboo“. Your money, my money. Now every penny is our money. Ofc it was hard at the beginning but we want to build a life together so we had to. Also bc i stayed at home, cooked, cleaned, did the groceries etc he was way more focused and efficent at work. He was way less stressed out, and so i was way stressed out. It is only something for people who REALLY want to be together for the rest of their life. It‘s a commitment on BOTH SIDES to always care for the other person and to not put your ego in the front.
The best part about it was that i could finally do what i wanted. I started going to the gym again. My cooking got sooo much better and i cooked way healthier which resulted to us beeing healthier (perfect skin, not beeing sick, wtc) I learned new skills and knowledge. If i had a bad day or week i didn’t have to push myself to go to work. I could just rest and heal. Since that i‘m so much more connected to my body and my mind.
Everyone is saying they want more time to do what they really want to do. But judge others who have the possibilities to do so.
I started working fulltime recently and i couldn‘t do it. I was stressed the whole time like i was befor staying at home. Even at my boyfriends work they asked if everything is alright and if i‘m not taking care of him anymore. And they didn‘t even know i started to work full time. I‘m switching to part time next month and we will see how that it going to work.
Maybe cause I don’t care, but women being stay at home girlfriends shouldn’t concern anyone. If someone wants to live like this then let them. If their partner breaks up with them, or does what they do (to them), then that’s the consequence of those women being lazy/not wanting to work. Sounds cold/f**ked up, but it’s the plain truth.
My mum made the choice to be a stay at home mum. And while I love her and appreciate her being there for me, I see first hand how vulnerable she is.
While this sort of lifestyle may have been sustainable in a period where divorce was rare and taboo, it is very risky to be fully financially reliant on your partner in the modern age.
Sure, if you want to use your youth and good looks to secure a rich man that will look after you, go for it. But use that as a temporary springboard towards a better, independent life, not as a free ride. Use the free time you have to study, use his connections to get into the industry you want, get into volunteering, build solid friendships and a network. Because if he loses interest in you, you need to be able to stand on your own two feet.
If you’re past 25 and still have a life where your success relies mainly on your looks…you’re going to be more anxious and miserable with each passing year. Looks are a depreciating asset. It’s a hard to hear, but it’s true.
I absolutely adore these different discussions... thx Zoe
In itself dating a "rich" boyfriend it's not bad, where the line comes it's on how autonomous/independent you are. Because yeah he is rich but why you don't make a living/career for yourself? To be in a relationship with someone rich doesn't mean instantly that you need to depend on him. That's when the relationship it's not equal, because, in the end, it's the money that he earns not you, or is yours, so when you break up what are you going to do? Continue the cycle to live since you didn't study or can't find a job?
I believe a relationship it's all about "I give the same amount that you gave me" from what I seem they do everything for their boyfriends (making food, laundry, keeping the house clean, etc.) while they just give them money/a stable life/luxury stuff, it doesn't feel fair to me, why the boyfriend can do the same things for them? (Like dividing the house chores or even doing them together) Just because he's rich and thus giving money and a house to live in is enough? That is not love is more like a parasite/host example (in my opinion).
It's their choice and that's fine but what I dislike is how they are portraying this illusion/fantasy that just by being pretty and following a certain lifestyle you can get a rich boyfriend and live your best life (especially to younger girls), why can you archive that by yourself? Or even if you have a rich boyfriend still being a successful person by your own person?
It's all about don't making your whole personality base around that and just being identified as "the girlfriend" when you can be much more.
Finally, I also feel these relationships also tend to develop problems like power imbalance, especially if you are not independent.
(Side note: it isn't more fulfilling having a job so that you can buy things for your boyfriend with the money you make? I feel it's more meaningful to give your boyfriend a surprise knowing full well that it came with your efforts, which shows how much you love him).
Hell yeah. I want a rich boyfriend, and guess what? I will be rich too because I love my career.
Summary “ having a rich bf is great but don't completely depend on them, since you don't know what future brings” and i agree
Fully agree with this!! So many people want to say we are bashing stay at home people but it's more to it then that infact it's not that aspect at all! Well said
i'm a chinese girl with super traditional parents who want me to marry off well so they can too benefit from it.. this means that i AGAIN have to go against their wishes (I ran away from home once) and am so tired to even think of meeting a stranger and marry him off just for the money
Love your videos, so informative yet entertaining
I never want to be rich, I just want to make enough money that I’m not struggling financially. As long as I have enough to be able to afford nice things every once in a while I will be content. I just want to be able to but my own house one day in the future.
Same and I say this as a guy, deep down I just want a quiet life but as your average millennial might say I sometimes worry that I'll never be able to reach that lifestyle.
@@monus782 as a gen z just starting to get my life together, I hope things don't get worse. The chances of getting to a place of being financially stable is getting harder in some ways. Everything like rent and food is just getting more expensive.
oh lord, gurl, you're looking stunning☺️☺️
As a stay at home mom, it’s concerning. Being married or in a legal domestic partnership, you get legal protection if the partner leaves you. As a girlfriend, he could drop her instantly and leaving her stuck.
I watched until the end thinking about how this trend might be impacting younger generations, and then Zoe actually brought up this point. I have a small niece who already has plenty of access to the internet, and I don’t want her to get the impression that in order to live a fulfilling life, you need to pick “the right guys” and that’s it.
I just happened to come across by your channel by chance, stayed for the content, and just loving your style.
It’s their choice of lifestyle yall, don’t hate. If it’s a kink who cares, if they get dumped and they don’t know how to care for themselves, their problem, at the moment their happy
I agree
Ok but your hair so pretty 😭
Isn't this just the same housewife pattern that has been going on for centuries but just premarital version?
Yes.
I rlly dont know why ppl are flabbergasted by this.
My parents have been married for 18 years and I wouldn't say it was a perfect marriage, every marriage has its flaws but I just realized how it worsened during the stay-at-home covid era and their everyday fights about doing household chores and with my fathers demeaning words towards my mother because according to him he worked hard for all us and her lack of help and respect for his mother [my grandma] wasn't appreciated. [which isn't really true because sorry to say but she has been a bitch to my mother which I understand better because I am not a small kid anymore]. This just showed me how important it is to be financially independent for not just money but it gives you more confidence too.
being fully dependent on a man scares me 🫣
I just love the way you talk, you just look so naturally ellegant
I’ll also add that I feel most girls have the fantasy of having a rich boyfriend but becoming fully dependent on him puts u in a risky and vulnerable position
I'm so worried that my laziness is making me complacent and I'll just find the easy way out and marry a rich guy 😭
Same!
It feels like a natural continuation of the sugar dating trend, which sadly according to studies causes more bad than good, so for most ppl it's really not good to encourage.
The amount of people that don’t want to work for themselves is so sad. I get it, genuinely. But it isn’t a good thing for society lmao
The problematic part is lowkey sounding good to me 😭🤷♀️
Getting left on the streets if he dumps you😭😭
I get so happy to see your videos and I love all your outfits
I would go crazy cause of the amount of creativity or just work spirit bursting out of me.. I love independence as an indian middle class girl who grew up with traumatised parents who are overprotective.
I will never understand gen z. I worked really hard to be a free woman and this is the only thing that protects me from gender violence and other things.
Don't we all dream of getting a rich boyfriend 😂💅
( its just a joke, don't take anything personally like the people in the comment section )
Frr😭
no
Why rich boyfriend if you could be rich lol
@@flower360 you are not wrong but some of us just wanna get money for taking care of our self, you know? Easy money coming in from a rich boyfriend
nope. I wanna be the rich one
Thankyou for making my day💙
I loved this and you did an amazing job addressing everything
Very good points, Zoe! 🙌
I gotta say having ADHD and being lazy all the time I gotta say this sounds nice. I don’t know how many weekends I feel *like doing absolutely nothing however even though I say such things my long screen time embarrasses me now , so I know this wouldn’t be my goal now.
I always look forward to your videos bcs you cover and talk about such interesting topics. And also important ones like your healing diaries. Love your commentary videos. Keep making interesting content when you can 💜🙌
As a mexican girl who grew up in a misogynistic violent surrounding with a father who was a threatening finantially/psychologycally violent husband for my mom, who just couldn't divorce him, I can say that the idea of being finantially dependant of a man/partner scares the hell out of me. I really hope those stay at home girlfriends to be safe...
How ironic it is that we're slowly regressing. Masculine girls are being called "pick me" and being a sugar baby or a stay at home gf is being encouraged.
oh we're evolving, just backwards
Both of them are equally annoying tbh
@@camilaferrorojas What's annoying about muscular girls?
I don't want a bf who controls my life
What that woman said about her boyfriend leaving her for a younger woman made me think. When these women are young and attractive they can live off their boyfriends money and even if they break up they can find someone else (as is stated in the video) but what happens when you're starting to age? Research shows that for most men no matter their age the ideal age for their partners is around 22 years. You'll be old and you'll have to support yourself alone and that is something you haven't experienced before.
She's haley kalil and she's making parodies about these type of girls. "My boyfriend william" is her running skit and if you watch all of them you'll see how they're all satire. It's embarassing how zoe would put it up there. Shows how she hasn't done her research
What?? Seriously, around 22 years old??? 35 and below for women is still pretty young for me. Ageism on women is pretty bad in this society🤪
@@felinelover1191 true
If anyone is interested in reading about the research it's on Insider and the article is called "Charts: Guys like women in their early 20s regardless of how old they get". I'm not posting a link because TH-cam recently has been deleting most of my comments that contain links.
@@rulingstone123 I'm 23
love youuu😩🛐🛐🛐💗✨
Why do I feel like some of these Tiktoks are fake lol. Like these girls just want social media clout by putting something they know is aesthetically glamorous and ideologically controversial - the perfect combo to get views
Thanks for making these videos Zoe! I really love watching them in my free time and i enjoy how you put things in perspective for your viewers to understand. This is one of my favorite TH-cam channels! Don’t give up and stay strong x
Zoe, I absolutely looove your videos!
Me too, even as a child me and my sister wouldn't go out much and people where always like "aren't you guys bored staying at home?!?" We were always like, if the day could have 10 more hours they would be greatly appreciated. There where always something fun or interesting to do or learn.
My friend is a stay at home wife like this. Huge house, expensive car and all the free time to spend it in a diagnosed depression because of how little control you have of your life. And this is while her relationship with husbend is pretty good.
blink twice if u need help girls
To me feels extremely unstable
Like I would constantly worry if he would leave me.
I would literally die if I were living like this. Like, I have a problem with sharing my problems with other people out of fear of dependending on them too much, can't even imagine building my whole life on somebody ;-;