It’s kind of catch 22 because they get bored very easily. So if you’re too accessible they get bored but if you aren’t then they try to control you more. Ugh… it’s crazy making!!!!
No matter how good you are to them, how you treat them, if you jump off a bridge, it's NOT GOOD ENOUGH! 24-7 attention, buying them anything they want (if you have the money), etc, etc.. IT'S OVER....I actually feel sorry for the new supply (s). Jess, you are spot on, and one of the BEST..❤️💙
The absolute truth. They will tell you to your face and a million other ways “ You aren’t enough”. But for them nothing will ever be good enough, ever!
This one struck home. The last text message she sent before I blocked her said “ all these years I thought I was asking too much, I was just asking the wrong person”. It seems they always tell on them selves…We are enough, but we will never be enough to make them happy!
So true Jess. If you pay too much attention to them they say ( your too clingy ) then if you don't give them enough they say ( your never around for them ) 😑
Spot on! They want you around all the time and when you try to get time to yourself they tell you they never expected you to be around all the time. Absolute crazy making.
I spent a whole weekend with my ex narc gf at the beech (3 days) ..on Monday I said I was busy I couldn't come to her..we argued and I ended it..I'd completely stopped goin the gym to please her which I regret now as i was in great shape..she admitted she needed constant attention..I couldn't give enough attention I was wore out..i remember thinking to myself.."jesus ive no idea who i am anymore"..by the fallowing Friday she had a new bf.
That's how narcissists are. They always need attention from their supply. They expect you to cater to them and take care of their needs 24/7. It can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. Take care of your needs too. Give space away from her.
I know guys it's hard to stop ruminating tho..this happened last July.. I reached out to see how she was in October and she said she was gettin married!..after 2 months!!??.aside from that she was rude and it was like talking to a stranger...she then said she ended it!..an absolute lie..I 100 percent ended it..I said loom back at the texts ..then she blocked me..unbelievable crazy stuff!
It's too bad there isn't something you can buy on Jess's website called a Narc Detector.. Something that would buzz in your pocket to alert you when you are in danger around one. I think the next best thing is to be aware of the red flags as best we can, as pointed out by Jess herself.
Ah! We might not be able to have one of those but we have something almost as good! Our intuition that we don't deserve bullshit treatment. Along with good self worth to know... there has to be better than this in the world.
The narc is kind of person to offer you a cup of tea but give you their used tea bag for your cup. If give them the stink eye for this faux pas they'll tell you to just squeeze it.
The lady in black flew into my barn last night. I know this because something bit the heads off my chickens, my milking cows are giving spoiled milk, and all my hogs have Snapchat filters on. Oh and the huge pile of tarry stool in the hay loft.
Look at it this way, you are water and they are a leaky douche bag. Now you can feel bad that there's not enough of you to keep it filled or you can be happy that you didn't dry yourself out for some douche bag. God bless.
@@JessStanley it is the least I could do for all the kindness and help you have provided me and all of us survivors. I have really appreciated your one on one’s the past few years and want to do what I can do to support your message so it helps future survivors! Happy New Year Jess!
Dear Jess, I’m a subscriber, the alerts are wonderful, a reminder that i need to hear repeatedly. This information reminds myself of actually how how horrible narcs are. I’m talking about both my sisters and mother. I have had to fight off their abuse my whole life. I am very grateful for your valuable information. It keeps me on track. Thank you.
He only calls here now if he thinks he can get something. Then he goes back to being abusive and mean. He's old and has no teeth he can't trick anymore girls. I expect multiple hoovers.
Hi Jess! Wow! This was amazing today!!! So much in such a short time.... Kind of reminds me of the saying by Aristotle, I think, "you can experience a moment in infinity and infinity in a moment" ...😌 thanks so much! 💥
I totally agree Jess….guys who struggling, they are literally the embodiment of a hollow shell with no real developed personality of their own…I’m pretty sure there’s only gray matter where their personality is! They then grab onto an established, vibrant personality to give their sad, (and very insignificant) life some sense of excitement. 🫤🤢 The empath in me actually pities them, to go through life not making much spiritual progress 😔 I see it as a blessing they are not able to hurt me anymore & can create the life I know I deserve!!💝🎉
You realise it was YOU that was the magic, YOU that was special, YOU that was amazing, and they were a poor imitation of that.
It’s kind of catch 22 because they get bored very easily. So if you’re too accessible they get bored but if you aren’t then they try to control you more. Ugh… it’s crazy making!!!!
Backwards goofs!
No matter how good you are to them, how you treat them, if you jump off a bridge, it's NOT GOOD ENOUGH! 24-7 attention, buying them anything they want (if you have the money), etc, etc.. IT'S OVER....I actually feel sorry for the new supply (s). Jess, you are spot on, and one of the BEST..❤️💙
The absolute truth. They will tell you to your face and a million other ways “ You aren’t enough”. But for them nothing will ever be good enough, ever!
Are we enough, probably but the narc is a bucket with a huge hole in the bottom. I guess what I'm trying to say is they should get plugged.
This one struck home. The last text message she sent before I blocked her said “ all these years I thought I was asking too much, I was just asking the wrong person”. It seems they always tell on them selves…We are enough, but we will never be enough to make them happy!
So true Jess. If you pay too much attention to them they say ( your too clingy ) then if you don't give them enough they say ( your never around for them ) 😑
Spot on! They want you around all the time and when you try to get time to yourself they tell you they never expected you to be around all the time. Absolute crazy making.
Spot on here Jess!!!!! I love you so much for speaking the truth!!!!
I spent a whole weekend with my ex narc gf at the beech (3 days) ..on Monday I said I was busy I couldn't come to her..we argued and I ended it..I'd completely stopped goin the gym to please her which I regret now as i was in great shape..she admitted she needed constant attention..I couldn't give enough attention I was wore out..i remember thinking to myself.."jesus ive no idea who i am anymore"..by the fallowing Friday she had a new bf.
That's how narcissists are. They always need attention from their supply. They expect you to cater to them and take care of their needs 24/7. It can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. Take care of your needs too. Give space away from her.
I know guys it's hard to stop ruminating tho..this happened last July.. I reached out to see how she was in October and she said she was gettin married!..after 2 months!!??.aside from that she was rude and it was like talking to a stranger...she then said she ended it!..an absolute lie..I 100 percent ended it..I said loom back at the texts ..then she blocked me..unbelievable crazy stuff!
It's too bad there isn't something you can buy on Jess's website called a Narc Detector.. Something that would buzz in your pocket to alert you when you are in danger around one. I think the next best thing is to be aware of the red flags as best we can, as pointed out by Jess herself.
Like a stud finder but instead a narc detector. Love it.
Try sticking a flashlight up their bum, if they say "thanks now I can see" you will know you've found one.
That's a great idea! I love it. I would like a narc detector too. Got a laugh out of that one. 🤣
Ah! We might not be able to have one of those but we have something almost as good! Our intuition that we don't deserve bullshit treatment. Along with good self worth to know... there has to be better than this in the world.
@@JessStanley
Boo-yah!!
You'll never be good enough to the wrong person and my friends the narcissis is the wrong person,👍 Jess thanks for the video 🦋
The narc is kind of person to offer you a cup of tea but give you their used tea bag for your cup. If give them the stink eye for this faux pas they'll tell you to just squeeze it.
The lady in black flew into my barn last night. I know this because something bit the heads off my chickens, my milking cows are giving spoiled milk, and all my hogs have Snapchat filters on. Oh and the huge pile of tarry stool in the hay loft.
He said once “ no one has any idea how insecure I am”. One of the few honest things he ever shared. I had no idea at the time how true that was.
Mine used to talk about how much he hated himself but deny it later.
Yes definitely “the new car smell has worn off”! 😂
Wish I would have known this stuff ten years ago
Well said. We are only “new” once.
Once you're off the pedestal, they will never look at you the same again.
Thanks for another fantastic video, Jess. It is a struggle knowing I wasn't enough. Moving past this is brutal. 😢
Look at it this way, you are water and they are a leaky douche bag. Now you can feel bad that there's not enough of you to keep it filled or you can be happy that you didn't dry yourself out for some douche bag. God bless.
Thanks!
Thanks so much Dave for your continued support! It means the world that you still think of me!
@@JessStanley it is the least I could do for all the kindness and help you have provided me and all of us survivors. I have really appreciated your one on one’s the past few years and want to do what I can do to support your message so it helps future survivors! Happy New Year Jess!
Dear Jess, I’m a subscriber, the alerts are wonderful, a reminder that i need to hear repeatedly. This information reminds myself of actually how how horrible narcs are. I’m talking about both my sisters and mother. I have had to fight off their abuse my whole life. I am very grateful for your valuable information. It keeps me on track. Thank you.
True..good to hear you again..I remember you in the park
He only calls here now if he thinks he can get something. Then he goes back to being abusive and mean. He's old and has no teeth he can't trick anymore girls. I expect multiple hoovers.
Hi Jess! Wow! This was amazing today!!! So much in such a short time.... Kind of reminds me of the saying by Aristotle, I think, "you can experience a moment in infinity and infinity in a moment" ...😌 thanks so much! 💥
Gosh this is powerful stuff!!!!! T y. Jess
I totally agree Jess….guys who struggling, they are literally the embodiment of a hollow shell with no real developed personality of their own…I’m pretty sure there’s only gray matter where their personality is! They then grab onto an established, vibrant personality to give their sad, (and very insignificant) life some sense of excitement. 🫤🤢 The empath in me actually pities them, to go through life not making much spiritual progress 😔 I see it as a blessing they are not able to hurt me anymore & can create the life I know I deserve!!💝🎉
Soooo TRUE, great video.
True Dat! ❤️🩹
Thank you for always staying true to yourself.
Fucking crazy
They are.. and we don't have time for that!!!
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+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD outstanding video message, Jess Stanley. thank you so much, Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
They need a robot not a human
‘So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key’. Stolen from Already Gone by The eagles!
He’d call me 10 times a day.
He is a haram builder
Ok but you stole the line about self esteem at 06:50 from Katt Williams.
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