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"if your partner wants you to be healthy then they don't care about you" girl what
"I hate you so much that I want you to live healthy lifestyle habits and live a long and healthy life!" Weird people
So I guess allowing your partner to live a physically uncomfortable life is caring…
It’s literally THE EXACT OPPOSITE. The partner cares about you feeling your best and living your longest, they’re willing to hurt your feelings temporarily to wake you up to a needed change.
If they DIDN’T truly care about you, they would stay quiet and keep letting you destroy yourself with overeating because if you develop a serious condition or die… “meh, I don’t really care.”
Also, the person in that reel is making a HUGE false assumption. I’d only want my partner to lose weight to be healthy, happy, and live a long time, but if they did develop a chronic health condition, I wouldn’t love them any less. I’d just prefer they did everything in their power to avoid any self-inflicted medical issues. If anything, the person who WOULDN’T speak up would be the person who might dip out if their partner developed a medical condition.
only on tiktok will ppl claim a partner who wants u to take care of urself is them "not caring" about u
Yeah, I have multiple disabilities and they definitely don't make my partner love me any less! He just wants me to try to be as healthy as I can be *for my own benefit*!
‘You don’t owe anyone your health’ is such a bullshit line. I owe my kids my health, because if I die, they are without a mother and my medical debt could one day become theirs. Even if I don’t die, I couldn’t be there for them the way they need me to with all my health problems. Additionally, the example I set will influence the health habits they develop as they age. I owe my husband my health because if I die, he has to hold our whole family together, provide for them, AND deal with the expensive fallout from my issues. Take it from someone whose mother has been morbidly obese, agoraphobic, and house-bound my entire life- you DO owe some people your health.
very well said 💕
Also, if you became disabled by your own stupidity, some sweet tax payers money will go to waste...
yes!!!!
Exactly! Their whole movement just focuses on being self-cenetered.
Exactly. My dad died from heart disease due to obesity. He left my family devastated. I was SO angry at him for many years because he gave up and chose his unhealthy habits. I know it’s hard but we weren’t enough for him to choose wellness.
As someone who does blood work for a living, one of my least favorite talking points they have is “my blood work is fine, so I’m fine” Blood work is only part of the picture. A good example is that a patient had come in coughing up blood, and all the labs were pretty much normal.
Exactly and many of these people are young. Cardiovascular disease is a progressive illness. Further, what tests are they doing?
It's like I have things wrong but it's not in my bloods. Bloods aren't a magical screening for anything and everything your body can go through. And the human body is generally a very good machine that can cope and mask until it can't
My 'blood work' was fine while I was actively dying and accumulating brain damage, and everyone was scrambling to figure out what the hell was going on. Blood work is in no way the end all be all of measuring your health, and its tiring to hear people say that it is
My blood work was normal but I was getting out of breath walking up stairs and I couldn’t walk 500m up the block to the store without getting sweaty and tired and winded. That was when I knew I had gotten really unhealthy and needed to lose weight.
Right? A lot of times people have to be really sick before labs start to show significant changes. Conversely, I’ve also seen patients that looked fine and felt fine and their labs were garbage (full blown diabetes, kidney damage, all kinds of shenanigans). Gotta look at the whole picture.
Them: stop moralising food 😭😭
Also them: are you going to the gym/exercising for the right moral reasons??
it's just a trick so they don't have to REALLY respect bodily autonomy. If they actually believed people have control of their own bodies it wouldn't matter motivation. But by pinning it on something unprovable they can look at people and go "yeah I think you're lying about why" and criticize them anyway. Because the ultimate point is that despite them supposedly saying there are these narrow paths to weight loss which are morally acceptable in their worldview the exceptions are so narrow and in their view any given fat guy anywhere in the world is entitled to interrogate you, make whatever assumptions they wish about you, and then decide that you lied about why you want to lose weight and are a bigot anyway.
For people who claim to love being fat so much and who love their bodies and see nothing wrong with being fat, they sure are a fragile mountain of insecurities who are triggered by seeing other people live their lives and take every little thing thin women do as a personal attack against them.
"nobody should remark on bodies, let alone fat bodies!!" Remarks on bodies. It's impossible to underestimate miserable, hypocrites. Your comment is bang on.
This times infinity.
I’ve lost quite a few friends in the last two years because exactly this. It was fine for them to go to the gym to walk but when I started working out suddenly I’m a bad guy because I was tired of being weak.
@@Varikas They weren't your friends.
Mental health can go hand in hand with physical health. If you aren't taking care of one, the other will follow suit.
Man, I know medical fatphobia is a thing but… even if your vitals are good your doctor is still gonna suggest weight loss to increase your chances of *staying* healthy in the future. Same as they’d suggest you stop smoking even if your lungs are totally clear right now. 🤷♀️
It's like my drs telling me to continue using drugs, despite me almost dying just trying to get clean(like a decade ago, dont worry im fine😂). It's absolute insanity
Exactly if you smoke your doctor is going to recommend you stop even if you don’t have lung cancer
Medical fatphobia is a problem. But at the same time, I understand where the doctors are coming from. I’m skinny (unhealthily) and doctors always bring that up in checkups, so fat chics need to stop acting like they’re the most oppressed.
they will always tell u to not smoke and to loose weight. it’s normal lol
You also never see smokers having a smoking acceptance movement. I'm waiting for the day that some of these people get sued for spreading misinformation like the tobacco industry did.
YES to the rhetoric being anti-feminist. Zero body autonomy. What does what I do with my body offensive to anyone??
hella true
spoiler: the answers are insecurity and not even realizing how much agency they still have over their own condition. now, this is not to disregard systemic issues that may make it hard for them to get better. still, systemic change and personal responsibility still go hand-in-hand with each other
anyway, those are my thoughts
100%! If you attack other women because of their bodies while claiming to be a feminist you can’t call yourself a feminist
And they get upset when men don't find them attractive. Like, why do they care so much?
It's not what you do with your body that they don't like, it seems they don't want you to feel good about it AND share those feelings because you feeling good about it makes them feel bad.
@@katwest7336I mean plenty people are attracted to plus size people or just don't care about that in general. However I understand what you mean with the whole "if you aren't sexually attracted to some physical trait then you're discriminating or whatever 🙄 like whaaat... it's a personal preference, everyone has theirs.
‘It’s oppressive to other people when you go to the gym with the wrong intentions’
These people spit in the face of every person who has ever felt the heavy boot of oppression on their neck. every. day.
They disgust me on every level.
No, seriously. This is so fucking insufferable. Being fat and especially other people going to the gym has never and never will get you lynched, murdered, imprisoned or any other kind of shit that oppressed minorities actually have been dealing with on daily basis (often legally). Unless you meet some fucked up killer, but like, some of those target solely women with blonde hair or people wearing snickers and other kinds of irrational things, so that's a non-argument. You're not systematically opressed, because people don't want to look like you or date you or are mean to you sometimes lol
What always bugs me is they shame people for wanting to feel beautiful, but then some of these same people spend thousands a month on their things that make them feel beautiful
They wear make up it’s essentially the same thing you’re doing something to make yourself feel more confident for some people that’s going the gym and losing weight, as long as your not harming yourself or anyone else what you do to feel better about yourself is no one’s business but yours
@@IzzyandShadow makeup. And nails, and expensive hair treatments, and fillers, and piercings, and tattoos, and thousands of dollars in shein hauls.
You misunderstand. Whatever you do to feel good about you, I don't care. I care that they think all of those are fine or aspirational but the two things they don't want to do? Well if you do those it's actually racist!
Yeah, I feel like nobody talks about how these people tend to try and morph their apperance in literally any other way besides weight loss. It seemed like a very big contradiction to me, because wanting to dye your hair and wanting to be more toned is very hand in hand in my eyes; being more toned would just require more labor/time.
Even big fat influencers, like Tess Holiday or Lizzo both fit beauty standereds to a T besides being fat. (Ex. perfectly done hair, clear skin, perfect face of makeup, ect.)
@@dismurrart6648They were agreeing with you...?
@seashellgarden2227 - of course - because weightloss is exhausting…. 😂
I don’t understand why these people can’t understand that saying “I PERSONALLY want to lose weight/grow my ass/build muscle so I look more fit by eating better and going to the gym” isn’t fatohobic, because you deserve to look the way you want to look, period. It’s only fatohobic if they project that standard onto OTHER. PEOPLE. and say other people should also want to look that way or they are wrong or bad.
What other people do with their own bodies and the reasons why people do those things with their own bodies are none of their business! They straight up don’t believe in bodily agency except for themselves. Other women’s bodies are things that need to be policed but not fat women’s bodies
Thisssssss 🎉🎉
Welp guess I should cancell my gym trip today to avoid offending people I dont know! 🤣
i should also stop eating foods with peanuts on social media bc i could be offending people that have peanut allergies 😱
We all might aswell never leave the house to avoid offending people that cannot go out lol
@@nahicoruajokes on you, that's offensive to people who don't have houses
I never am ceased to be amazed at how the FA community can preach about how nobody has the right to tell THEM what to do with their bodies, but they have no problem telling fit and not fat women what they should or should not be doing with THEIR bodies. Does the double standard and hypocrisy really fly over their heads that much?
Exactly this!!!
rules for thee and all that
A lot of folks who make specific “Activism” their personality seem to have this flaw. Some women who make being a feminist their entire existence will be the first to shame a woman who makes choices they don’t agree with. It’s weird. Same with men who hyper fixate on certain issue. Can’t wait to pick a fight with someone.
They don't just tell us (skinny women) what to do with our Body but what legitimate reasons are to do it. They want mind control or whatever 😂 I personally work out for my mental health, thats a reason that didn't even came to their minds (at least in the Video)
nah they police fat people too if they ever wanna lose their excess weight too and police fat people who are “small fats” because they ain’t “marginalized enough”
I'm a firm believer about honestly in a relationship, even about uncomfortable topics. Within 3 years of getting married, covid happened, my husband and I both found ourselves working from home at desk jobs and had 3 kids back to back. So yeah, we both put on some extra weight neither of us needed, but we were honest with each other about it and are now eating better and going to the gym together. And honestly this is the smoothest weight loss either of us ever had because of the extra mutual support.
das really cute 💛
hoping both of you are doing well and i admire your communication skills and empathy for each other
I get annoyed when I see stuff like that last clip. "Any abled bodied person could suddenly become disabled." Imo, it's kind of gross to equate gaining weight, which is never instant as far as I know with suddenly losing a limb or the ability to walk from an accident that might have been completely out of your control. Everyone has their own circumstances but gaining weight is not the least bit comparable to other disabilities that can happen suddenly and without warning. Obesity is just as serious, since its slow and insidious in how it affects your health but still. Very ignorant place to try and make a point.
Lots of disabilities are gradual. Lots of disabilities are directly related to how you live your life. I don't think "suddenly" has to be taken completely literally. But I see what you mean.
I had an accident and I'm now paralyzed, and if someone came up to me and said they could relate because they're overweight after years of making bad decisions, I would simply pass out from the ignorance. It's so condescending and rude to equate those two things. I don't have the luxury of possibly getting better by changing my lifestyle, this is how I am now and there's nothing I can do to change it.
Sometimes certain medications can cause you to gain weight very rapidly and make it difficult to lose, but otherwise yeah usually weight gain is pretty gradual.
It’s because they refuse to admit that weight is something we can control. They equate it to disabilities because they like to pretend that they just get “stuck” with a fat body, and that it’s not a direct result of their choices.
This but also weight is ALWAYS in your control. Getting disabled from say a car accident is NOT. Your CHOICE will NEVER be a disability
Curious to hear what your thoughts on the self-infantalizing that happens in FA spaces. The use of child-like terms or high pitched baby voices (for example, the way FAs talk about their "tummies") are always super jarring for me.
Also critiquing women about why they go to the gym is also anti-feminist to me. How about we just stop policing women's bodies at all? And women's thoughts? All these fat activist spaces are so critical of other women who don't fit their definition of acceptable. Let women do what they want without interrogating the morality of their motives holy shit
That would be interesting since she mentioned early in the video about how many people infantilize fat people. Did the FAs just take that and run with it?
It’s giving 1984 lmao
Yessssss I follow this gym girl who sometimes does body positive stuff. And she said something like "my stomach loves this yummy food"
A lot of them seem to also act as if their body parts or body is separate from them- so cringe.
Ugh the baby talk in FA spaces is nauseating whether its "tummy", "yummy" or weirdly taking in 3rd person or the "pUt A bUbBlE iN yOuR mOuTh" lady 🤢
I feel like fat activists body shame and police way more than the so-called "fatphobic" healthy people they shame and police. Not to mention their whole stance on eating disorders and how it's apparently a privilege to be so sick you could die from it. Wtf
Can we not thought police people’s motives for going to the gym? Exercise and building muscle is proven to have long term positive health effects. As long as they’re working out in a safe and reasonable manner, why they’re there does not matter.
Going to the gym video - yeah, I go to the gym for ALL those reasons and yes, I am fatphobic. I have a fear of gaining fat because it's uncomfortable and hurts my joints.
Partners are ABSOLUTELY allowed to be concerned about your health without seeming phobic. If my husband was doing things that were steadily making his health decline, I'd absolutely be having a conversation about how to support him. the people in your life who you love deserve to have you as healthy and able-bodied as you are able to be, which means taking care of yourself. Yes that looks different for everyone, but claiming fatphobia because someone they love expresses concern is really toxic.
I hear a lot of wild takes on the internet but "it's oppressive to other people when you go to the gym with the wrong intentions" has to be up there. Even if you are going to gym with the wrong intention (like losing more weight than it's healthy for you to lose) that's still a personal issue you need to resolve with yourself not with strangers
Yeah, I don’t get how me losing weight affects someone else. Except for the fact that a lot of these fat activists have a crab in the bucket mentality. It’s similar to incels. They don’t want to see another fat person lose weight.
The problem i have with the argument with medical fatphobia is that losing weight is a non invasive solution. Once you take care of the simplest solution, if you still have the issues, you can move on to the next solution.
Like, it doesn't even have to be a lot of weight. You lose 20lbs and the problems are still there, ok, let's see what else.
But also, I was 300lbs and never had a doctor talk to me about my weight. Even though they should have. I feel like it's shit doctors who do that.
exactly. the goal of medicine should be to avoid unnecessary drug usage and surgeries. if I was facing a health issue and my options were lose 20 pounds and see if that helps, or undergo invasive surgery and have to deal with weeks if not months of recovery? yeah, I'll try the weight loss first.
also, if there are immediate concerns that aren’t attributable to their weight or something, they can tell their doctor, otherwise report if their doctors are dismissive
that still doesn’t disprove that losing excess weight can and will likely be able to help them in recovery though while taking medication for the problem they have that can be handled quickly
but if the case is like, it’s really their weight, even with the best empirical evidence, then they already have their answer and should push through losing weight
Yeah I think that's part of the scientific method- the simplest answer is usually correct
"If your partner is concerned about your health, they don't care about YOU!"
These people literally never listen to themselves.
As a recovering people pleaser in my 40s, I've had almost the same exact thoughts about FAs claiming to be feminists while expecting other people (let's be real, other women) to diminish their own accomplishments in order to make them feel more comfortable. I am glad that I didn't encounter this kind of content when I was younger, because I think it would have honestly messed with my head. Now I can clearly see the absurdity of some random person on TikTok telling me what I'm "allowed" to think and feel about going to the gym. But to that point, I think if you are moralizing or politicizing someone else's personal choices that they make with their body, you are not respecting the person's bodily autonomy. It doesn't matter if you use weasel words like "of course you're ALLOWED to do this" (with the implication that if you do it, you're problematic, a bad person, a bad influence, etc). To me this has the same energy as an Evangelical Christians saying, "I don't hate the gays, I just think what they do is sinful and they should stay in the closet forever." Like, just because you don't have the power to literally coerce people doesn't mean your message isn't coercive and icky.
I’ve been chronically ill for a decade and my blood work always looked “healthy”. I am in constant pain, I’m always tired, poor quality of sleep, weird food intolerances, etc yet it took two years to get a diagnosis (fibromyalgia) and even then I still don’t get taken seriously by doctors. The fact is, many of the worst illnesses do not show up on blood tests, and that adds to the suffering because you are gaslit into believing you are “healthy” and everyone is as miserable as you are. I do not believe for a moment that morbidly obese people are living with no consequences. Just imagine carrying an extra 50, 100, even 200 lbs every day all the time. Gravity exists. Also, no one’s body is breaking the laws of thermodynamics - I have several diagnosis’s that contribute to weight gain but only by making me hungrier - it’s the food. If you work on your nutrition and don’t exceed calorie intake, you will loose weight if you are obese!
i should have guessed your diagnosis even before i read it. your story rings too close to home for me. been complaining about pain since ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. first theyd say its due to growing or mild scoliosis or "its nothing kid, your labs are all good" in my early 20s i would get sick for days on end. vomiting 100+ times a day. im surprised my heart hasnt given out. they removed my gallbladder and that has helped a little but i understand what you mean by so many intolerances. it seems like anything can make me feel sick at random. i wake up sweating and in pain and my sleep is abysmal. im so sorry that you suffer through what im suffering through. i wouldnt wish this on anyone. oh and a new thing that popped up is i have psoriosis now because yay fibro can make anything go haywire
Currently on bed rest today thanks to a fibro flare. Luckily I'm off so I can, but man the pain and fatigue SUCK. I do my sincere best to manage my fibro - lots of low intensity walking, whole food,anti inflammatory diet, stress management, keeping my weight down so the pain hopefully doesn't get worse. I'm 113 lbs, but at the end of the day literally none of this guarantees I'll be pain free. It doesn't keep me safe. I'm sorry to hear anyone else is going through this. The struggle is definitely real.
You are correct. I lost 100 lbs 6 years ago; was fat for at least 15 years prior to that. For me and several other former fatties I know, there were heavy consequences to being fat. I was constantly miserable, my knees and back ached all the time, like my joints were screaming that they couldn’t carry the extra weight.
After 6 years of living in a comfortable, pain-free body, I would never go back to living with the constant burden of being fat.
@@anne853Yes! I was 360 lbs. and I had a fused knee and the other knee needed to be replaced. I had to lose 75 lbs to have the knee replacement. I went on a low carb diet. I had the knee replacement. I am currently at 182.5 lbs. My eating was the most important thing. I am much more physically active now, but the food is so important!
i was really into fat activism until this may when i was diagnosed with diabetes and fatty liver. my mom died of liver disease and it absolutely scared the shit out of me so i changed my diet immediately and started working out. so far i've lost 26 pounds and feel so much better. i watch your videos when i'm at the gym (rn) to keep me focused on why i'm here. thank you ❤
Congrats! I'm 56 years old and 100 lbs overweight. I NEED to get my act together before it's too late. Don't want diabetes, cancer, heart problems and/or joint issues. I've been getting foot pain recently and struggle to climb stairs. Soooo sick of this BS!! I used to think I was heavy when I was only 30 lbs overweight! How I would LOVE to be only 30 lbs overweight now! It's amazing how quickly weight creeps up on you. I was warned by a nurse practioner a few months ago. She told me that SO many people express regret of not taking care of themselves after having a major life event such as a heart attack or diabetes diagnosis.
Congrats on the weight loss! You’ve got this.
Way to go! Keep up the awesome work!
I’ve noticed that their vitriol and demands are usually targeted towards conventionally attractive and/or fit women. Aside from demanding that hot men desire them, they don’t ever tell men what they can or can’t do with their bodies. My man has an absolute dump truck of an ass. A whole wagon. He’s fit. But I bet they’d see him as desirable and not “fat phobic”? But if I try to build my glutes and legs I’m an issue? I have a hard time believing that if I said it was because I feel empowered when I feel strong that they still wouldn’t be mad about me posting about it too…
They're incels, plain and simple. Everything is the fault of conventionally attractive women
They’re femcels. They pretend to be super woke & feminist but their arguments mirror incels’ arguments. They display the same sense of entitlement as incels do, only for different reasons.
SO MUCH THIS. The misogyny is IN the house.
@@divitiaeyup! Ironic that a supposed “feminist” movement turned out to be full of misogynists. Real classy.
Megan's titles are always funny
Funny title cuz butt
That's why I love her channel.
hELP I read “titties” 🤣
this reminds me of that vid of fatsapphicbro saying that gyms are classist, i was FLABBERGASTED 😭😭
FSB is such a professional victim. I mean tbh all FA's are :P
Planet fitness is sooooo cheap
there's a big difference between staying with a partner who becomes disabled, and a partner choosing to opt into a disability. wanting your partner to do their best to avoid becoming disabled by a preventable disease is not ableism. i hate how they twist this "oh you don't want to be disabled, you're saying disabled bodies aren't valuable" disabilities suck!!! it doesn't say anything about the value of a person but seriously it's not ableist to not want disabilities. people with severe physical disabilities that cause pain would usually rather not have them and that's not some kind of self hate to want an easier life with less pain. blame ableism all you want, no amount of social change promoting accessibility will make living in pain as good as living without pain.
I love the lack of awareness the 'fatphobic gym reasons' lady displays. I go to the gym to have a flat stomach, have a juicy butt, AND ESPECIALLY feel sore the day after. My reasons? I'm a recovering anorexic and I have spina bifida, so having a strong back and feeling a different and more productive kind of soreness, as well as looking great and happy with my new muscular body, are super important. Her lack of awareness of these illnesses shows.
A lot of these videos prove my theory that fat acceptance has morphed from an excuse to live out fat-admiration kinks, to now being basically like money laundering, but for insecurity. You take your dirty insecurities, shove ‘em in the fat acceptance movement, and they clean them up and put them out to the world as “bigotry” or “oppression,” or even something comparatively benign like “perpetuating diet culture.” I’ve used the term “insecurity laundering” a lot when talking about the fat acceptance movement with friends and family (feel free to use it if you want lol).
Just like with money laundering, though, inconsistencies start to pop up-that’s how you get fat activists crowing all day about “bodily autonomy,” i.e. the ability to do what you want with your own body and not have to answer to anyone, but then they also tell gym-goers, people trying to lose weight, etc. that their actions “don’t exist in a vacuum” and that when you act on your own body, you owe an explanation of that to people you don’t know because you set off their insecurity.
They’ll say that you’re allowed to look any type of way, and that they don’t want to be made to feel a certain way about their body, but then they’ll turn around and say that if your intentions are to go to the gym to look a certain way, even if you don’t tell anyone about it, that’s bad. They’ll talk about how the medical system is fatphobic (which I think it is) but then they’ll hold up their bloodwork as the One True Pillar of Health, day-to-day consequences of obesity be damned. They’ll say that they as people don’t want to be reduced to just a fat body, which is obviously fair, but then they make some wild assumptions about thin people and former fat people, not realizing that other people’s histories with their body/health can be just as complicated, or more complicated, than their own.
Even back when I was insecure enough to vibe with some of the wild shit they say (and it seemed less wild back in like late-2000s and early-2010s than it is now, but idk), I was never so self-unaware that I wanted to deny science to assuage my own insecurity-and the older I got, the more I noticed that no matter how much these people try to convince themselves that their insecurities and fears about their body are all society’s fault, they never seem to be as happy as they say the movement makes them. It kinda seems like they’re just using it as an excuse to be angry all the time and never do the work to address their issues. Speaking as someone who has done some of that work, it’s really hard and it may never “end,” but you can greatly improve, and time spent improving is never wasted.
The thing with "my bloodwork is okay" is that it ignores how much the human body can compensate to make you appeare healthy.
The whole reason why diabetes-2 happenes is because your bloodsugar is so high that your body needs extra insulin so it puts pressure on the cells in your pancreas which exhausts those cells and causes them to be unable to create insulin, thus diabetes.
nothing like a megan anne video and a bong rip after a long day of classes and work
I’m going to print out this comment and frame it I swear to god
@@heylookitsmegananne the honor would be like no other
Oh man, i canNOT wait go hear your takes on the Lizzo situation.
THE QUEEN HAS RETURNED 💗
Nothing like watching a Megan Anne video after a long day at work and a good workout at the gym!!!! Another slay of a video, thanks Megan x
Oooooh the stitch lady about the boyfriend. My husband is always worried about my health because I'm disabled in a number of ways. He is absolutely a part time caretaker. If I gain weight he is ecstatic and when I lose weight he will start bringing me shit like mcdonalds when he's off work because sometimes the number on the scale is all that matters and we will sort the rest later. Literally identical situation just flipped. If I got to be overweight he would do the same thing, though. His behavior has not changed as my disability has progressed. He wants to keep me around as long as possible because he kinda likes me. If your partner is worried about your health you should honor them by listening. Did he say "you're getting fat and I don't like that" or "you're getting fat and I'm not attracted to it"? No. He said "I am worried about your health".
As a fat person, I'm always kind of scared of clicking on reactions to the fat acceptance movement, not because I agree with what fat acceptance influencers say, but because usually has a lot of fatphobic comments in the mix that end up getting me really unmotivated. I got to say, your video was a breath of fresh air. Really down to earth, respectful and honest. Really, thank you!
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100% yes about the infantilisation.
When I was morbidly obese I had the feeling nobody would take me seriously and I was a lot of the time nagged, mocked, talked over, and treated like an actual child in some places. Like I remember shopping for clothes and everytime I was saying to the lady that I don't like this outfit she would put her fists on her hips and told me almost verbatim (It was in french-) in the same voice my elementary school teacher took (I was 21) "Listen to the lady young woman ! I have been doing this job for 15 years and I know my stuff, so you better try this outfit and listen to me!"
I was disgusted and I left, with my confused mom that felt like shit to haven't realized it before I told her.
But it was pretty much the same in a "positive way" I was almost cuddled sometimes like I was a gigantic baby and I needed everything to be done for me.
I had a flashback of this when the Aline Video about Amberlynn went out and all the french army gathered to protect her for a few weeks. I was absolutely outraged watching the video because she was considered like a poor big girl that have no control over her life and that's not her fault. The fact like Amber have a lot of toddler behaviour doesn't help at all. But I remembered being geniuely angry at some comments talking about Amber like she's a big baby. She's a grown ass woman ffs.
You’d be right. It also happens with skinny/petite women.
I agree with you!
What annoyed with Aline’s videos was the way she was using Amberlynn’s fatness as a shield to any criticism. Just because she’s super morbidly obese suddenly means it’s not okay to call out her terrible actions.
I moved to a tiny village in BC, Canada. There's a 1000 ft long hill at an 8% grade between me and the only grocery store. I walk it two to three times a day until fire seasom started. I got fitter by force. Am I fatphobic? Trick question. I don't care.
as purely spite motivated individual thats it im going to start doing bum building workouts
As someone who has 3 chronic illnesses, I agree whole heartedly that what the FA community fails to understand about labs and vitals is that they can be fine until it is too late sometimes. No I don’t mean like until something is fatal, but I do mean until a condition is potentially triggered. Our attitude should be about prevention, not patching the problems once they’ve already been triggered in our bodies.
Unbelievable that anyone can tell me why I am „allowed“ to loose weight or go to a gym….. 😂
What an entitlement!!! 🤦🏼♀️
Shoutout to the four people who beat me to this videk when its been up for 49 seconds lol. And hi Megan!
I actually think it’s good to rethink why you are at the gym, rather than I want to get skinny it should be about getting stronger, adding muscle, losing fat building stamina… bc these are actually factors that you can see and feel results pretty quickly. You will start to improve stamina and go up in weights faster than you will get skinny or even feel skinny which the makes you feel defeated faster… but running around scolding ppl and calling them names is the worst way to fight a battle.
I go to the gym for my mental health and personal satisfaction. Because the world we currently live in is so relentlessly cruel and uncertain, the bare minimum I can do is blow off steam by training my body to be as resilient as possible.
9:30 - I just don't want to digest any of the words she's saying because of the way she's eating and looking at me like a teacher who is accusing me of cheating on a math test
IDK anything about filming things but I just want to say your videos look so pretty and well-lit.
Regarding the last tiktok, I think there's a huge difference between someone being concerned about their partner's health because of things that are within their control (like diet and exercise, or other lifestyle choices like smoking, drinking, etc) and someone only wanting to be with a "healthy" able-bodied person. I feel like fat activists misconstrue and mislabel any concern about someone's health as ableism. Of course fat folks do get a lot of unsolicited opinions on weight/health/etc but I feel like there's a pretty obvious difference when it comes from a place of love & genuine concern.
And yeah the argument of "anyone could become disabled at any time" almost feels like a red herring argument, the original tiktok didn't say anything about disabilities and not every health issue is a disability, so to suddenly throw in this argument and try to spin this as ableism just feels kind of wrong. Though tbh I feel like tiktok (and the internet in general) thrives on arguments that use logical fallacies so I'm not that surprised, lol.
Anyways I really appreciate your nuanced and thoughtful takes on all of these!
ableism is an easy shield to hide behind like "oh youre also being prejudiced against disabled people not just us" even though they always purposefully misuse it which is both speaking over actual disability rights issue by trying to say those are the real issues and also watering down ableism which also harms us.
whos more ableist someone caring about someone they care about or the person mindlessly yelling ableism on social media.. hmmm...
unless they are saying being fat is a disability while also not being a medical issue at the same time lmao
its bizarre to me how these "feminists" only target other women in these kinds of videos
THIS. That is something I will yell until I’m blue in the face. The only reason they call fit guys fatphobic is for not dating fat women, but a skinny woman, especially a pretty skinny woman is fatphobic no matter what due to her size. Very interesting how that works. The misogyny is IN the house. It’s really fucked up how a supposed movement of “feminists” turned out to have a bunch of misogynistic femcels. Keep it classy ladies 🤣
the gym one is so weird to me because it's not like you have to state your intentions when you go to the gym? you can just go?
This obsession with disability is so infuriating and harmful. I have a few disabilities, including one of the big names. Currently, fingers crossed,it's controlled by meds that are injected. When I got diagnosed (early in the relationship) I gave my partner an out but all he said "well, I can learn to give injections to help". But you can bet your behind that when I slipped up on compliance with taking my meds last year (after decades of suffering with the side effects--no excuse, I know), he sat me down and had a serious talk on why that was stupid. That's what a real relationship is: sticking through the uncontrollable but helping you be strong and control what you can.
MAAM I AM LITERALLY CONCUSSED IT SUCKS
HEAD INJURY BESTIES
I love how one of their main talking points is that there needs to be more plus sized options in clothing because fat people deserve to look and feel nice too. When people want to lose weight in order to look how they want to, it's not allowed, but they advocate for cute clothing to be human right. I genuinely feel like the FA movement is the one oppressing everyone else with their tomfoolery 🙄
I mean, it's great having perfect vitals and bloods at 153kg. I had a patient that looked great on paper, but at her weight she couldn't roll over in bed without assistance, couldn't weight bare or walk more than a couple of steps with a walker, and slept in her own piss and shit until 2-3 people could come and clean her. Not to mention the missing toes, infected leg ulcers, fungal skin infections in skin rolls, hair loss, difficulty breathing. It's nice when you're still young and your body is coping, but then it stops coping and you're F'ed
People forget that routine blood work is just a snap shot of your health at the time. And in two weeks, a month and a year it will change
About your setup: the bookshelf is so cute. The moon lamp looks great on camera. Also your stripy shirt is cute and I love your channel font.
I can’t stop staring at the droopy background cat 😂
So glad to see a video from you! Also the lighting in this setup looks really good! It lights up your beautiful face without reflecting on your glasses much. Very nice.
Do what you want, but it will hurt other people. Me losing weight will NOT hurt people. Me staying the weight I am or gaining WILL hurt me. I’m not going to harm myself just to make you feel better about yourself.
And just an fyi, I have an immune disorder and if my blood platelets go under 30 (the lowest it should be is 140 lol, my current blood platelets is 45ish?) I have to go on a steroid and it has to be 1 mg per 1 kg. And I’m not gonna get on 80 mg and up on steroid. I already have bipolar disorder type two. I don’t need to fucking do that to myself.
The second one… “let’s talk about why you want to work out” she’s just so fake. There’s no need to be eating her big burrito and having her little chat about people’s reasons for wanting to work out. Who is judging who here? 🙄
Your videos have been an inspiration for me to get back into exercise and start going to the gym more :) watching this video while working out right now!
As someone who is in the process of losing weight for health reasons it is so damaging for me to hear that I’m “fat phobic” for losing weight because if I don’t lose weight I will continue to have heart palpitations and that’s super bad and I don’t want that as a 16 year old. Yet I still feel like a bad person sometimes it’s truly sad because I wanna live as long as I can but I don’t wanna have to feel bad because of how I go about that.
Mom and pediatrician here. Baby, you’re doing great. Keep up the awesome work. Also, please be careful with your consumption of social media. It’s been scientifically proven SM is damaging to adolescents, especially adolescent females. Now, drink some water, make sure you’re wearing sunscreen, and go show them who’s boss ❤
I love your videos Megan, so glad you are back and feeling better after the head injury. You are looking stunning as always and the background is giving production!
There is nothing wrong with having aesthetic preferences and wanting your OWN body to look a particular way. Aesthetic goals are just as valid as health goals. You could just as easily say celebrating fat bodies is exclusionary and thin phobic.
Megan Anne you are very good at picking awesome glasses. Love these frames on you! Zenni Optical? They look familiar!
I am 5'4 and 140 lbs- my doctor reminded me every time I went to see him (to review my lithium levels for bipolar disorder) that I really needed to work with a dietician to lose weight. I can't imagine what actual obese people deal with in the medical industry.
Also I work out to be able to crush my enemies in battle, what about it?
the talking point you had at the end of the video i think is so important and reminded me of my parents because my dad has always mentioned my moms weight and eating behaviors to her, and although it feels hurtful at face value, she recently did become basically disabled due to botched spinal fusion surgery and my dad is now her main caretaker. so even though yeah it stings when your significant other tells you about yourself like that, that absolutely does not equate that they just dont like it that you're fat or would love you more if you weren't. like it really can just be about your health and longevity, and also that they love you regardless.
I think it’s sad when people get to this mindset where they take something and see it through their lense of insecurities or trauma and then respond without trying to overcome the insecurities in the first place to then respond
The gym TikTok: All movement is good movement, mind your business at the gym!
YES THIS I have lost so many friends because my decision to work out to build my muscles (I have EDS- literally a health thing) was such a sore point for my friends who claim to be “feminists” are the ones who immediately shot me down and told me that trying is pointless because “most diets fail”
14:53 yeah, fat people do know they could lose weight. And yet they're not doing it. A doctor's job is to help you become the most healthy you can possibly be. Fat isn't a chronic disease. You can lose weight and be healthier, even if it doesn't effect your chronic illnesses.
19:15 that stitch felt like it supported your point about fat activism constantly telling people that no one could genuinely be attracted to them. Like who was that person to imply the boyfriend wasn’t being insincere when he said he loved her body or was genuinely concerned about her health.
This is such a breath of fresh air, thank you. I am so tired of FA rhetoric. I want to lose weight because I can’t play with my son. I hurt all the time. Why would you make someone feel bad about that, or any other reason that affects them and them alone?! 😭
Saying that wanting your partner to be healthy is fatphobic and unacceptable and then following it up with "What if they suddenly became disabled/weren't able-bodied anymore?" is actually kind of ableist. As if having a disability automatically makes you unhealthy.
The last one trying to say "health can change at any time" is basically that they don't want to have their self-destructive behaviour highlighted because it will hurt their feelings. As for "ablelism" they are actually "able" to correct their situation they simply don't want it to be acknowledged as being self-destructive to not do so. This isn't a case of "I can't prevent the bad stuff looming around the corner", this is "I don't want to, so don't remind me or I'll feel bad". If things were early on in a relationship and this was their attitude about their state this would be a clear sign of a lack of self-respect and that I should not pursue anything longer with them.
Wait wait wait i'm just at the beginning but how is having a workout goal contributing to toxic body hirarchies but seperating people into "skinny fat", "midsize" or "super fat" and valueing their opinions depending on their size NOT creating a body hirarchy?!
My motivations for going to the gym are all the reasons she mentioned.
Right, it can be more than one reason. And many losing weight also want to improve health in all those other reasons.
The 'why are you going to the gym' thing was really annoying because I'm a petit person. I just am naturally, I gain weight more in my thighs than in my core. I have always had a flat stomach naturally even though my diet isn't always the healthiest. I just have a flat stomach and people think I do like 300 crunches a day but no I just gain weight in different areas of my body.
Literally would have forgotten to take my antidepressants today if it wasn‘t for you - so thanks for the reminder, appreciate it ❤
Your office looks great! I'm so happy you are no longer concussed! ❤️❤️❤️
I read a comment a while ago, and Lord did it stur up shytee in that thread.
A blogger posted how intentional weight-loss and posting "healthy" what I eat in a day videos are toxic and contributes to hatred of fat people.
The comment that started a storm stated. "Intentional weight gain and posting empty carbs, sugar filled "what I eat in a day" videos are toxic and contributes to the obesity epidemic."
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😂😂😂
i love your little reminder to take care of yourself at the end of your videos, today it was the only reason i remembered to take my meds T-T (ive had a very hard time remembering recently... :P)
I always thought the thought control in this was wacky. Like saying that if you think in your own head that you want a big butt you're fatphobic and need to not think that..... that seems culty.
If your BF cares about your health, he doesn't really care about you. WTF.
I appreciate your nuanced takes! Im glad I found your channel as it can be hard to find people criticizing the bad parts of the movement without them just making fun of fat people for the way they look.
I absolutely owe my kids my health. Mental, physical, and emotional. If one is out of whack, they all suffer and so does my family. Soooooo it’s wild to me that someone would say I don’t owe anyone health.
The viatls point is very true. the same is for underweight people
I used to be severely underweight, 35kg and a bmi of 15, and never ever was my ekg bad or wrong. That does NOT mean i was healthy, whatsoever
I go to the gym 5x a week not only because it’s good for mental health but I also have fitness & aesthetic goals I’m trying to achieve. I like my body with muscles, I want a nice body, how is that affecting anyone else??
They’re all about bodily autonomy until someone makes the choice to not be fat. Why are we not allowed to do what we want with our bodies just bc of their feelings?
For a group of ppl who say they love being fat, they’re incredibly insecure & weak-minded.
I want to lose weight. Not because I have problems with fat people or even my own body. I have a problem with the way my clothes fit me, I barely fit or simply cannot fit into some pairs of pants that used to fit great and I can’t afford a new wardrobe, so I can either live with a greatly reduced closet or lose weight to make the rest of my clothes fit. I don’t think I’m fat phobic for wanting access to my closet again, and anyone who disagrees is free to send me money to buy bigger clothes
I really appreciate that my husband didn’t want to hurt my feelings, and that’s why it took him so long to say something about my weight gain. But I wish he had done it sooner. It would have saved me, personally, a lot of grief to get an outside perspective.
Why does the Gym Judgment Girl care why anyone else goes to the gym? How is it even a concern for her? And she clearly does not know that some workouts might leave people feeling happy and energized, but a different type of workout might leave people exhausted and sore. It’s not… fatphobic. Girl, stop worrying about my booty and just focus on your burrito thingie.
You’re back!!!
new subscriber here, i'm thankful for your account. i have been troubled by the "fat phobia" stuff, especially when it gets compared to racism. i never would shame anyone for weight or food problems, etc, but to act like being obese is ok or even healthy is dangerous.
WOOHHHHHHHH excited to get started
My motivation to work out is nobodies business! My motivation is not broadcast to anyone. You can’t tell what my motivations are just by looking at me. Butt out of my relationship to working out
I do like the point you made about, you may be find now until your not. So many young people think there body is always going be like that, oh sure I'm overweight, but I'm fine. True, but as you get older, your body changes, and can easily turn into a problem so quick, and now you have to deal with it or face some serious life concerning issues.
Yeah most people are fine when they're young because the body can handle quite a lot but not forever
Totally agree with you're healthy now at 26 and 300lbs, but just like your retirement plan you have to plan for the future. 40 comes fast and hard for most people and they start seeing side effects of the way they treated their bodies in their 20s and 30s.
I'm so sick of how much FA's overblow the importance of "bloodwork." there are SO many diseases that don't show up in vitals and bloodwork, and there's no one panel that tests for everything. and if their doctor doesn't have reason to test for something, they won't.
it's extra hilarious to me because my "vitals and bloodwork" were absolutely perfect when i was anorexic and drinking at least a pint of vodka a day lmao. it doesn't mean your lifestyle is healthy or sustainable. especially if you have the benefit of being young.
at my worst physical and mental health i was getting my blood drawn monthly for tests and nothing but my iron was ever an issue. I got out of breath walking up stairs, i could barely pick up my backpack, i was dizzy every. single. time. i stood up. But my GP said everything looked fine so HOORAH!!!! I think these fat activists, like i did when I was very unhealthy, just have health issues that aren’t obvious that they’re afraid/unwilling to address
Thank you for covering this topic! The hatred & bias the comes from the fat acceptance community is staggering & it makes a huge difference for you to tell us about your personal experiences. Personally, my take on weight loss comes when it hurts your health & overall well-being. I could care less what size you are, as long as you are healthy! I actually have gotten such mean & nasty responses & judgement towards me from just the way I looked - the ignorance is truly bliss.