This is not able chakra anymore. It is all about pension and money they want. If the widow has kids, this money would help her in future. Whether she remarries or not its her choice, she has to move on. That doesn’t mean that they will snatch the medal/ pension from her. Please don’t disrespect your daughter in law. Yeh ghar ka mamla tha , aap logo ne sadak pe laa diya.
Whattt the mother also has a right over her son and has a life ahead, why only the wife and her life matters, what about the parents....shame on you girl opposing a lady's emotions just to support others...
@@work-holicsharma5084 his parents also got money....Paise k bukhe h ye....Jo haq wife ka h wo uska hi rhega ...uspe kya beet rhi h uski gnta fikar ni h tumhe
This controversy brought to the public domain by parents of Anshuman and not by wife of the deceased officer. She has maintained dignified silence. You can imagine from their shameless posturing what will happen to her if she stays with them.
Bringing the issue into the media spotlight has inadvertently shifted attention away from their son's bravery. If the parents had concerns about specific criteria for financial assistance, it would have been more appropriate to address them privately, ensuring that their son's courage remained the central focus of public discussion. The young wife will need time to process such a difficult emotional state. It's important to empathize with her during this challenging period.
The girl and her parents are not responding thats why they brought it after a year of contacting and negotiating them, just think from the parents side oce and you will understand the pain they are under...
As a person who has went through seperation, the mental distress it causes - is unimaginable. And on top of that she was in a love relationship with that army officer. Now these are the proofs why she didn't live with them after this loss. Also it has just washed away this moment of pride from this family - disgraceful behaviour. I completely agree that it is a huge loss for the parents, but this behaviour of bitching against daughter in law cannot be explained.
@@295hardwork he left money for her. it was hers according to his pension. parents ko paise se pyaar hai isliyen har news channel pe bhonk rahen hain. bacche se pyaar hota toh uski bivi ke saath yeh na karte
@@295hardwork mil gaya unko jitne par hak tha 15 lakh+. anshuman ne apni zinddagi di uski marzi voh kiske kiye pension chhode. voh shaheed ho sakta hai aur yeh nahi decide kar sakta kiske liye chhode? yeh kaisi baat hai
This is such a shame that the father has put everything into public domain and he is going to media and crying in front of them like a child. How can someone be so obsessed with money rather than relations he should have valued the respect and dignity of his daughter-in-law
kirti chaker is only a physical object ....jiske liye inke maa baap itna bole jaa rahe h...ager ye hi incident inki biwi k sath hota...to unki wife kya krti 2 beto ko lekar ...bete ko death hue 1 year bhi nahi hua h aur ye pura account check ker chuke h aur pension ye vo me dimag laga rahe h.....NOk me hi change krne ki baat krta hai...ager bahu ka pension nahi milega to kya ye bahu ko jindagi bhar bitha ker khila sakte hai....bahut sa exmple eise bhi hai janha ager wife ko pension na mile to sasural wale to bahu ko ghar se bahar bhaga hi denge 2 tym ka khana bhi na de bas free ki naukrani mil jati hai en logo ko
It does. But we don't know about their internal matters. Kirti chakra is just symbolic. Koi bhi rakhe. Uske liye itne duniya bhar ke interviews dene ki kya zaroorat. Uncle apne aap ko ghar ke mukhiya keh rahe hai harr interview me. Agar sach me ghar ke mukhiya hote to bahu ko sare-aam badnaam na karte. @@train_xc
@@akankshasharma903 are you dumb, Akansha Sharma? Kirti Chakra is not symbolic. And no award is. An award belongs to a person, and if dead belongs to the home. The lady not keeping the award in his home where he grew up is the utmost disrespect. (PS. I’m not saying about the money)
It is very distasteful to see parents speaking about this on a public platform. Apni hi family ki izzat ucchal rahe hai. Why get your army son married to a young girl if you want to have his compensation money? She lost her life partner. No wonder the daughter in law went back to her parents house. Who will stay with these greedy people. Shameful act
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
This father in law wants money..only money..no wonder the girl left queitly. Still not speaking because expect throwing dirt at him what can she say? Govt gave her due as wife..its her wish she studies, visits her brother, or stays with father This man clearly scared her with his dominating nature. His overpowering attitude. He doesnt listen to others .
The parents should not do this out of respect for their son. This is a personal matter and should not be made public. Whatever their relationship with their daughter-in-law, she is the widow of the martyr. Let his soul rest in peace.
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
@@RaviKumar-zv3xz Everyone is entitled to their opinion. It's a SHAME that you don't see that. Also, before just writing anything, READ and UNDERSTAND properly. Oh and you have copy-pasted the same reply to some other people who commented as well. Wow, how genuine.
@@MeghnaSasan Your reply itself speaks about you. No logical answer, only attacking the personality. Yes, everyone is entitled to make a point, we live in democracy. So do I! I criticize people like youv who just pass judgement without understanding the full spectrum. I feel Anshuman's parents have put the facts with dignity Yes, I don't have time to stalk people's comments. So doing copy paste is not bad idea if my view point remains the same.
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
Isnt the girl insensitive to take away things from the parents, what about the mother who gave birth to a brave son and now has no rememberance of him, ask your parents if something similar happens to you...they'll tell you...
@@RaviKumar-zv3xzNOK does all duties of wife in army. As wife. Organizing parties, functions,speeches,taking care of jawans families. Not one rupee pay for that. Ok? She leaves her job for husband. Lives in remote areas. Travels alone. Takes care of his visiting family. She does a lot. All army people know. Have you not seen cheif with his wife? She is always with him . Bipin Rawats wife died with him. They were going for an official function. Did she get any payment? Her parents?
@@user-de5xy2rz4yexactly. Real fight is. Father wants her share. Thats what drama is about First he wanted wife to just stand with girl, then touch, then wants it with him. He is never happy. This way brother sister can also say we should have collected it. Army sees officermarried, then wives right. Not duration. Marriage is marriage His logic is its 5 month Marriage so wife doesn't deserve it..only mother
Completely unwarranted interview. A tradegy taken a totally different aspect... shameful behaviour by press...best not to make it sensational please...he has got the award because of his bravery...please don't marginalise it...sincere request As far as Army policies are concerned, it has been made after lots pf deliberation. There exits provision of distribution of all amount as per the directives of Service personnel
It’s all about pension and it’s v sad Young girl did not fight for pension It came to her by law What can she do ? They should not drag her into media . This can be solved privately .
How? His fight is with rules. With govt. Not girl. He drags her name Girl should file defamation suit of 1 crore on him. Imagine if she was in india. If tomorrow she goes for interveiw. FIL wants to spoil her image reputation
These parents should understand, it was their sons wish, he nominated his wife as NOK. Atleast respect his love for her. They have already got a big amount. If within 13 days only they tell her to get married to the younger son, she will go away. His father is changing hos statement again n again Pls don't defame the army.
What has he done for the bahu? Talk of that. Not one word on that? Why?how much did he spent on her. What responsibility he took of daughter in law? Spent a single paisa on her. Since marriage, she was looking after sister in law, mother in law,their expenses. What father spent on son after marriage. He is putting all expenses of his education on her head. He wants to her pay him for bringing up his son. Thats what he is saying.Why he brings 5 months duration of marriage?
sir ne kaha ek bhi example dedo! kisi ladki ne aisa karwaya ho yeh karwaya ho! voh karwaya ho! we have the biggest instance in our country Captain Vikram Batra's girlfriend. Na unhone shadi ki, na unhe koi samaan mila na, na kabhi media mein aai. Keh rahe hain bahunein parehshan kar rahin sabki. Pata bhi hai dobara shadi ke liye rishta mil pana kitna mushkil hota hai. Chahe ladka ho yaa ladki ek widow person se sab karan poochte hi poochte hain. Aur yahan toh pyaar involve tha. Sir khud bole ki ek fauji hain, unhe sab perks milenge aur voh ladki ek yaad bhi dil se lagakar nahi rakh sakti. 8 saal dur rehkar pyaar karna aur 2 mahine mein shadi karke hamesha ke liye door ho jana. Uska loss hum samjh bhi nahi sakte. Dekha jaye toh smiriti ke sath toh voh kabhi raha hi nahi
You mean to say ..the boys parents who raised him up for so many years has not lost anything??the girl is 26 and has a good chance of remarrying..she doesn't have any children either..the parents won't get their son back..this type of comments by some women are just exposing their selfish nature.. This matter should be resolved privately and the girl should contact his parents for a resolution..
Now we are leaving in 2024 not in 18 century We need to reform the NOK because government should think about the both family dont think about the one family if daughter In law feel actual pain then she will has to stand her husband family hence both are lost their son and husband then why she went to her parental house and government gave all the benefits to Anshuman family not parental family here Smriti has a part of Anshuman family she has to responsibility to look after the Anshuman family see this kind of incident happen to your family then you will understand how Anshuman parent bearing the pain
But we can't treat our children as SIP for future because we looked after them. They just couldn't bear the fact that she got all the media attention n sympathy.
Ekdom sahi, Next of Kin ke definition review hona chahiye with condition that parents are fully dependent on deceased soldier and parents have no source of income. Aisa gold digger parents ke liye nahi.
I think she will be entitled to pension money till she remarries or no? Army has already clarified how much amount has been disbursed to the parents. Its sad she is keeping mum on this issue, after a week now. Agreed silence is golden but how can she or her family remain mum so long.I dont think this issue will cool down soon.
She is going through a horrible phase in her life. These in laws are insensitive better to keep silence and keep distance from the in laws for mental peace
@@priyas7358 no koi ajkal chup nahi baithta, agar itni hi woh chup baithti toh woh account kyo band karwati aur apney ghar kyon jaati. Chup isliye bhi hain ki she is acting smart. Punjabis don't keep mum so long. This only raises eyebrows
shameful behaviour by greedy crook parents harassing daughter in law- it's the soldier's choice who to leave his inheritance. the undignified behaviour is by these parents. i don't know why media is giving these monsters endless coverage. if the daughter in law wanted she could also spend all day cooking up stories about how horrible her in-laws are but thankfully she is above it
@@Tushar.Rai. wives do receive medals for their husbands, like the wife of major Anuj Sood, Akriti Sood, she received the medal..major Anuj Sood k parents bhi nahi aye the medal lene, in the past it has happened many time that wives receive medals of there husband and it had never been an issue because in laws were sensible. Wife of Anuj Sood akriti Sood was also young and had no kids.
I am neither for or against anyone but I do agree parents had to be invited too and the parents and the wife both needed to given the bravery medal on Captains behalf. The parents and the wife both seem immature.
Both were invited. Both went to receive. She was told only one will collect. Or in confusion,it falls. Girl will collect, you just touch token. Not grab it. This was in rehearsal. Full rehearsal of ceremony is there so no confusion. Thats hurting her. Its given to wife. Not mother if married. Father is extended family. Not family for employer its same in any job. They dont care for your parents. Only you. Or your wife and children. They dont care for your grandparents. By his logic the alive grandfather is head of family.
Bahu ko apne hak ka mila hai jo kuch bhi mila hai, saadi kiya thaa ,widow hai woh, uska bhi life damage huwa hai... insurance ka paisa maa baap ko bhi mila hai , kirti chakra ek symbolic hai ,unlogo ka beta sahid huwa hai ye fact koi nahi lejasakta ,ek chhota sa trophy me kya hai.itni bejati k layak hai kya ye sab... paise aur free ka lifelong maid chahiye inlogo ko... aise in laws ho toh kaise rahegi in laws k ghar.. achha kiya chaligayi apne ghar.
Is insaan ki soch bahot gatiya hai laalchi hai sharmjanak hai Patni darja sabje upar hota hai in legal terms Thats the rule applied to common people as well If spouse dies partner will automatically owns all the properties financial assets Isme kuch bhi galat nai hai She deserves at least this much in return of her husband 😢 Poor girl Be strong youre brave
iski kisi baat me bete ke jane ka dard nahi dikhta ...enhe to bas ...ye lag raha h ki hamare hisse ka bhi paisa biwi ko ku mil gaya sab chij par bas hamara huq tha....sari chije hame milni chahiye thi ...kirti chakrr is only physcical object ...saman to tabhi maa baap ko mil jata h jab bete ka naam aa gaya log unke bete ko maa baap k hi naam se jante h ....but inhone to aapne bete k choice ki bhi respect nahi ki use pure gali mahole me beijjat kar diye hai...eisa krke vo aapne bete ko hi disrespect kr rahe hai aapne bete k hi sansakaro par ungli utha rahe h...ager aapka beta achha h brave hai kind hai to us jise pyaar kiya ya jiske liye uske man me respect hai vo kaise gold digger girl ho sakti hai....koi uski wife ki situation samjho ...use to abhi samjh aane me hi 2, 3 saal lag jayenge...
@@madhweesahu5505 god is big power. Same will happen to his other two children. Worse. Who will marry into this family with such jhagdallu toxic parents.Noone.
They got 65 from govts plus sons savings. Plus all furnishing carpets curtains,utensils, fridge, TV. They had furnished a flat Cooking. Girl only took clothes
A brave soul like Anshuman was given birth and brought up by such wonderful parents . This is def not a money issue . The way she has ignored the parents insulting them as if she owned him solely is what their pain is ? They should be awarded the medal and the money can be given to her until she get married for the second time ..
May be the wife has her own point on the matter but i think she must respect the views of parents afterall they are not demanding everything for themselves they are saying we also want to feel the pride brought to the nation by our son atleast show the kriti chakra let us feel that ,,,if the feminists also arguing on that,,,then i think no point of further discussions ...go to hell😢
I agree with parents..girl has whole life ahead of her, she will be fine. Think of parents who lost their son at this age!! Shame to people who are siding with this immature girl!
shame to you! siding with greedy parents crossing all boundaries to rob their son's widow of what he decided to leave for her. he can choose to bravely sacrifice his life but he can't choose who to leave his pension for? shame to you for insulting a martyred soldier's intelligence
@@dafliwalefromiim3454 shame on you for judging her before hearing her side of the story- parents probably treated her badly and told her to give them all the money so she left- if she can remarry they can also adopt a child- shame on you for not respecting martyrs decision of leaving pension for his wife- they have 2 children more children anyway so they can easily move on she only had 1 husband and now he is dead
@@dafliwalefromiim3454 I hope your relatives can make up all sorts of negative stories about you and then people on the internet will believe everything they say and curse and judge you
She was emotionally invested in this relationship for 8 yrs. After all this media trial, she has maintained a dignified silence, she can also come out n say a lot of things. He is am ex servicemen n still hell bent on defaming the army. He knows very well how army follow s the rules n takes care of it's men n their families. Shame on this father for his selfish reasons he is washing his dirty lining in public
This is not able chakra anymore. It is all about pension and money they want. If the widow has kids, this money would help her in future. Whether she remarries or not its her choice, she has to move on. That doesn’t mean that they will snatch the medal/ pension from her. Please don’t disrespect your daughter in law. Yeh ghar ka mamla tha , aap logo ne sadak pe laa diya.
yeh low agayi feminist nibbi
Whattt the mother also has a right over her son and has a life ahead, why only the wife and her life matters, what about the parents....shame on you girl opposing a lady's emotions just to support others...
@@work-holicsharma5084 his parents also got money....Paise k bukhe h ye....Jo haq wife ka h wo uska hi rhega ...uspe kya beet rhi h uski gnta fikar ni h tumhe
@@mrnobody5145 ye gareeb ladko ki soch yahi hoti hai
Aapko kaisa pata chala mata ji ki mai gareeb hu. App to antaryami ho@@pechkas3492
The in laws seem to be a bit toxic, the further she gets away the better it is
This controversy brought to the public domain by parents of Anshuman and not by wife of the deceased officer. She has maintained dignified silence. You can imagine from their shameless posturing what will happen to her if she stays with them.
Bringing the issue into the media spotlight has inadvertently shifted attention away from their son's bravery. If the parents had concerns about specific criteria for financial assistance, it would have been more appropriate to address them privately, ensuring that their son's courage remained the central focus of public discussion. The young wife will need time to process such a difficult emotional state. It's important to empathize with her during this challenging period.
She is Australia now .. enjoying her life
Stupid @@ABHINANDAN272
shifting attention because women was beautiful , young wife doesn't block numbers. you are a fool ,
The girl and her parents are not responding thats why they brought it after a year of contacting and negotiating them, just think from the parents side oce and you will understand the pain they are under...
Absolutely
As a person who has went through seperation, the mental distress it causes - is unimaginable. And on top of that she was in a love relationship with that army officer. Now these are the proofs why she didn't live with them after this loss. Also it has just washed away this moment of pride from this family - disgraceful behaviour. I completely agree that it is a huge loss for the parents, but this behaviour of bitching against daughter in law cannot be explained.
They why she took money ?ya fir paise se pyar tha
@@295hardwork he left money for her. it was hers according to his pension. parents ko paise se pyaar hai isliyen har news channel pe bhonk rahen hain. bacche se pyaar hota toh uski bivi ke saath yeh na karte
Parents hv got 15 lakhs + 50 lakhs.
@@angadsingh3771 jisne anshuman par Paisa kharch kiya use pdaya , khilaya acha insaan bnaya unka hak hai paise par
@@295hardwork mil gaya unko jitne par hak tha 15 lakh+. anshuman ne apni zinddagi di uski marzi voh kiske kiye pension chhode. voh shaheed ho sakta hai aur yeh nahi decide kar sakta kiske liye chhode? yeh kaisi baat hai
Dear lt anshuman ji's parents.
Let her take some breath.
May God give wisdom to these kind of parents.
Hn yr...kitne lalchi log hain
This is such a shame that the father has put everything into public domain and he is going to media and crying in front of them like a child. How can someone be so obsessed with money rather than relations he should have valued the respect and dignity of his daughter-in-law
kirti chaker is only a physical object ....jiske liye inke maa baap itna bole jaa rahe h...ager ye hi incident inki biwi k sath hota...to unki wife kya krti 2 beto ko lekar ...bete ko death hue 1 year bhi nahi hua h aur ye pura account check ker chuke h aur pension ye vo me dimag laga rahe h.....NOk me hi change krne ki baat krta hai...ager bahu ka pension nahi milega to kya ye bahu ko jindagi bhar bitha ker khila sakte hai....bahut sa exmple eise bhi hai janha ager wife ko pension na mile to sasural wale to bahu ko ghar se bahar bhaga hi denge 2 tym ka khana bhi na de bas free ki naukrani mil jati hai en logo ko
He has given the expenses of a cat. Have you noticed, not once he mentions expenses on his sons wedding. Not once. He spent nothing
His father is changing statement in every interview. How cheap. Bhagwaan aise saas sasur kisi ko na de
Exactly.
But the chakra belongs to his home.
It does. But we don't know about their internal matters.
Kirti chakra is just symbolic. Koi bhi rakhe. Uske liye itne duniya bhar ke interviews dene ki kya zaroorat. Uncle apne aap ko ghar ke mukhiya keh rahe hai harr interview me. Agar sach me ghar ke mukhiya hote to bahu ko sare-aam badnaam na karte. @@train_xc
@@akankshasharma903 are you dumb, Akansha Sharma?
Kirti Chakra is not symbolic. And no award is. An award belongs to a person, and if dead belongs to the home.
The lady not keeping the award in his home where he grew up is the utmost disrespect. (PS. I’m not saying about the money)
@@ShradhaRana aagyi femoid apni gndi jaati ko bchaane.
It is very distasteful to see parents speaking about this on a public platform. Apni hi family ki izzat ucchal rahe hai. Why get your army son married to a young girl if you want to have his compensation money? She lost her life partner. No wonder the daughter in law went back to her parents house. Who will stay with these greedy people. Shameful act
Paisa agar chodkr bhagto for mante vo schi thi use paise se pyaar nhi tha parents Galt vo 😂to usne Kiya nhi
ur wrong parents first
are gadhe last me dekho kya bol rhe hai
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
And parents lost their son
This father in law wants money..only money..no wonder the girl left queitly.
Still not speaking because expect throwing dirt at him what can she say? Govt gave her due as wife..its her wish she studies, visits her brother, or stays with father
This man clearly scared her with his dominating nature. His overpowering attitude. He doesnt listen to others
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The parents should not do this out of respect for their son. This is a personal matter and should not be made public. Whatever their relationship with their daughter-in-law, she is the widow of the martyr. Let his soul rest in peace.
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
@@RaviKumar-zv3xz Everyone is entitled to their opinion. It's a SHAME that you don't see that. Also, before just writing anything, READ and UNDERSTAND properly. Oh and you have copy-pasted the same reply to some other people who commented as well. Wow, how genuine.
@@MeghnaSasanyou are a feminist money hungry fiend and just want her to take all the money and live in luxury
@@Neuromancer2310IMBECILE READ.
@@MeghnaSasan Your reply itself speaks about you. No logical answer, only attacking the personality. Yes, everyone is entitled to make a point, we live in democracy. So do I! I criticize people like youv who just pass judgement without understanding the full spectrum. I feel Anshuman's parents have put the facts with dignity
Yes, I don't have time to stalk people's comments. So doing copy paste is not bad idea if my view point remains the same.
The parents are very insensitive
You have done blanket generalization. He is so unfortunate that he could not hold the highest honour awarded to his son. His daughter in law abandoned them from the day his husband was martyred. There are many incidents and watsapp chats he has revealed, all suggesting grave injustice done to Anshuman's parents. He is fighting for NOK which refers wife as family. I feel NOK as martyr's wife should only hold if widow stays with family and not remarried What a shame you are supporting her?
Isnt the girl insensitive to take away things from the parents, what about the mother who gave birth to a brave son and now has no rememberance of him, ask your parents if something similar happens to you...they'll tell you...
@@RaviKumar-zv3xzNOK does all duties of wife in army. As wife. Organizing parties, functions,speeches,taking care of jawans families. Not one rupee pay for that. Ok? She leaves her job for husband. Lives in remote areas. Travels alone. Takes care of his visiting family. She does a lot. All army people know. Have you not seen cheif with his wife? She is always with him . Bipin Rawats wife died with him. They were going for an official function. Did she get any payment? Her parents?
@@user-de5xy2rz4yexactly. Real fight is. Father wants her share. Thats what drama is about
First he wanted wife to just stand with girl, then touch, then wants it with him. He is never happy. This way brother sister can also say we should have collected it. Army sees officermarried, then wives right. Not duration. Marriage is marriage
His logic is its 5 month Marriage so wife doesn't deserve it..only mother
Completely unwarranted interview. A tradegy taken a totally different aspect... shameful behaviour by press...best not to make it sensational please...he has got the award because of his bravery...please don't marginalise it...sincere request
As far as Army policies are concerned, it has been made after lots pf deliberation. There exits provision of distribution of all amount as per the directives of Service personnel
It’s all about pension and it’s v sad
Young girl did not fight for pension
It came to her by law
What can she do ?
They should not drag her into media .
This can be solved privately .
How? His fight is with rules. With govt. Not girl. He drags her name
Girl should file defamation suit of 1 crore on him. Imagine if she was in india. If tomorrow she goes for interveiw. FIL wants to spoil her image reputation
These parents should understand, it was their sons wish, he nominated his wife as NOK. Atleast respect his love for her.
They have already got a big amount. If within 13 days only they tell her to get married to the younger son, she will go away.
His father is changing hos statement again n again
Pls don't defame the army.
Who told they got big amount already ?
They have got 15 lakhs + half of insurance and assurance from up govt for a job
He said in one of the interview
@@manikapharasi7253 there shouldn't be a issue then
@@soumyadipmukherjee6627army officials themselves
@@soumyadipmukherjee6627exactly
What has he done for the bahu? Talk of that. Not one word on that? Why?how much did he spent on her. What responsibility he took of daughter in law? Spent a single paisa on her. Since marriage, she was looking after sister in law, mother in law,their expenses. What father spent on son after marriage. He is putting all expenses of his education on her head. He wants to her pay him for bringing up his son. Thats what he is saying.Why he brings 5 months duration of marriage?
This is so cheap and undignified
sir ne kaha ek bhi example dedo! kisi ladki ne aisa karwaya ho yeh karwaya ho! voh karwaya ho! we have the biggest instance in our country Captain Vikram Batra's girlfriend. Na unhone shadi ki, na unhe koi samaan mila na, na kabhi media mein aai. Keh rahe hain bahunein parehshan kar rahin sabki. Pata bhi hai dobara shadi ke liye rishta mil pana kitna mushkil hota hai. Chahe ladka ho yaa ladki ek widow person se sab karan poochte hi poochte hain. Aur yahan toh pyaar involve tha. Sir khud bole ki ek fauji hain, unhe sab perks milenge aur voh ladki ek yaad bhi dil se lagakar nahi rakh sakti. 8 saal dur rehkar pyaar karna aur 2 mahine mein shadi karke hamesha ke liye door ho jana. Uska loss hum samjh bhi nahi sakte. Dekha jaye toh smiriti ke sath toh voh kabhi raha hi nahi
By uncles logic
What did Vikram Batra family did for dimple? Nothing. Why? She was almost their bahu. His siblings called her bhabhi. She got nothing
Stop it, media shark. Leave that 26 years old girl alone. She has lost everything
You mean to say ..the boys parents who raised him up for so many years has not lost anything??the girl is 26 and has a good chance of remarrying..she doesn't have any children either..the parents won't get their son back..this type of comments by some women are just exposing their selfish nature..
This matter should be resolved privately and the girl should contact his parents for a resolution..
Now we are leaving in 2024 not in 18 century We need to reform the NOK because government should think about the both family dont think about the one family if daughter In law feel actual pain then she will has to stand her husband family hence both are lost their son and husband then why she went to her parental house and government gave all the benefits to Anshuman family not parental family here Smriti has a part of Anshuman family she has to responsibility to look after the Anshuman family see this kind of incident happen to your family then you will understand how Anshuman parent bearing the pain
But we can't treat our children as SIP for future because we looked after them. They just couldn't bear the fact that she got all the media attention n sympathy.
The officer decides his nomniee, army doesn't decide.
Yeah she lost everything....and now she is Australia... with all money and enjoying her life
NOK army decide nahi krta. Serving person decide krta h.
Yes he mentioned his wife's name.
Ekdom sahi, Next of Kin ke definition review hona chahiye with condition that parents are fully dependent on deceased soldier and parents have no source of income. Aisa gold digger parents ke liye nahi.
I think she will be entitled to pension money till she remarries or no? Army has already clarified how much amount has been disbursed to the parents. Its sad she is keeping mum on this issue, after a week now. Agreed silence is golden but how can she or her family remain mum so long.I dont think this issue will cool down soon.
She is going through a horrible phase in her life. These in laws are insensitive better to keep silence and keep distance from the in laws for mental peace
The girls father is dealing with him for 5 months. Imagine his state. This man is so toxic
Girls family know no use fighting.
@@priyas7358 no koi ajkal chup nahi baithta, agar itni hi woh chup baithti toh woh account kyo band karwati aur apney ghar kyon jaati. Chup isliye bhi hain ki she is acting smart. Punjabis don't keep mum so long. This only raises eyebrows
shameful behaviour by greedy crook parents harassing daughter in law- it's the soldier's choice who to leave his inheritance. the undignified behaviour is by these parents. i don't know why media is giving these monsters endless coverage. if the daughter in law wanted she could also spend all day cooking up stories about how horrible her in-laws are but thankfully she is above it
Exactly
@@angadsingh3771 aab ladke ne khud wife ko nominee rakha hai to kya problem hai
@@pechkas3492Main issue ye hai, ki parents ko medal milna chahiye tha, parents jyada deserve karte hai.
@@Tushar.Rai. wives do receive medals for their husbands, like the wife of major Anuj Sood, Akriti Sood, she received the medal..major Anuj Sood k parents bhi nahi aye the medal lene, in the past it has happened many time that wives receive medals of there husband and it had never been an issue because in laws were sensible. Wife of Anuj Sood akriti Sood was also young and had no kids.
I am neither for or against anyone but I do agree parents had to be invited too and the parents and the wife both needed to given the bravery medal on Captains behalf. The parents and the wife both seem immature.
Both were invited. Both went to receive. She was told only one will collect. Or in confusion,it falls. Girl will collect, you just touch token. Not grab it. This was in rehearsal. Full rehearsal of ceremony is there so no confusion. Thats hurting her. Its given to wife. Not mother if married. Father is extended family. Not family for employer its same in any job. They dont care for your parents. Only you. Or your wife and children. They dont care for your grandparents. By his logic the alive grandfather is head of family.
Bahu ko apne hak ka mila hai jo kuch bhi mila hai, saadi kiya thaa ,widow hai woh, uska bhi life damage huwa hai... insurance ka paisa maa baap ko bhi mila hai , kirti chakra ek symbolic hai ,unlogo ka beta sahid huwa hai ye fact koi nahi lejasakta ,ek chhota sa trophy me kya hai.itni bejati k layak hai kya ye sab... paise aur free ka lifelong maid chahiye inlogo ko... aise in laws ho toh kaise rahegi in laws k ghar.. achha kiya chaligayi apne ghar.
Is insaan ki soch bahot gatiya hai laalchi hai sharmjanak hai
Patni darja sabje upar hota hai in legal terms
Thats the rule applied to common people as well
If spouse dies partner will automatically owns all the properties financial assets
Isme kuch bhi galat nai hai
She deserves at least this much in return of her husband 😢
Poor girl
Be strong youre brave
iski kisi baat me bete ke jane ka dard nahi dikhta ...enhe to bas ...ye lag raha h ki hamare hisse ka bhi paisa biwi ko ku mil gaya sab chij par bas hamara huq tha....sari chije hame milni chahiye thi ...kirti chakrr is only physcical object ...saman to tabhi maa baap ko mil jata h jab bete ka naam aa gaya log unke bete ko maa baap k hi naam se jante h ....but inhone to aapne bete k choice ki bhi respect nahi ki use pure gali mahole me beijjat kar diye hai...eisa krke vo aapne bete ko hi disrespect kr rahe hai aapne bete k hi sansakaro par ungli utha rahe h...ager aapka beta achha h brave hai kind hai to us jise pyaar kiya ya jiske liye uske man me respect hai vo kaise gold digger girl ho sakti hai....koi uski wife ki situation samjho ...use to abhi samjh aane me hi 2, 3 saal lag jayenge...
@@madhweesahu5505 god is big power. Same will happen to his other two children. Worse. Who will marry into this family with such jhagdallu toxic parents.Noone.
They should be get money too, whats wrong in seeking.
They got money from the state government.The parents as well as the daughter in law.
They already received 15 lakhs
They want all of them and aapko kya lagta hai ye media mein interview dene k bhi paise mil rahe hai in mahashay ko
They got 65 from govts plus sons savings. Plus all furnishing carpets curtains,utensils, fridge, TV. They had furnished a flat
Cooking. Girl only took clothes
Strange that people have a problem with parents seeing their kid as an investment but fine with wife seeing her husband as a lottery.
Yes because we live in a gynocentric world
Shut up. She waited 8 years to marry the guy she loved.
@@divm8559 The reward is for 8 years of waiting?
No. Marriage is equally valid if its one day or one decade long. Trust me you are sick @@BasuDev-y6r
Uncle ji gaaliya mai apko bahut deta...ap galti se Hamare Bahadur Shahid jawan k baap ho to chup hu...
Bhai medal le gyi, ek baar toh Father in law ko touch karne deti.
Money money money 💰🤑
Shaadi ke time apne liya hoga dahej isiliye zyadatar bahu phir in Laws k emotions par dhyaan nh deti 🙂
Bina soche samjhe kuch bhi comment na kre
Who gives doctee son with out dahej. Ofcourse
@@induchopra3014you know her parents personally ?
@@Tushar.Rai. yes
@@induchopra3014 Jhuuuut Matt bolo.
A brave soul like Anshuman was given birth and brought up by such wonderful parents . This is def not a money issue . The way she has ignored the parents insulting them as if she owned him solely is what their pain is ? They should be awarded the medal and the money can be given to her until she get married for the second time ..
Its pure money issue they want girls money
Rahul Gandhi is feeling this controversy indirectly.. Congress party is hell bent on destroying Indian army Ethos
This man got power from there
May be the wife has her own point on the matter but i think she must respect the views of parents afterall they are not demanding everything for themselves they are saying we also want to feel the pride brought to the nation by our son atleast show the kriti chakra let us feel that ,,,if the feminists also arguing on that,,,then i think no point of further discussions ...go to hell😢
They say they only want touch kirti chakra media person repeat then you only want the medal then they so no money should also be given to parents.
I agree with parents..girl has whole life ahead of her, she will be fine. Think of parents who lost their son at this age!! Shame to people who are siding with this immature girl!
shame to you! siding with greedy parents crossing all boundaries to rob their son's widow of what he decided to leave for her. he can choose to bravely sacrifice his life but he can't choose who to leave his pension for? shame to you for insulting a martyred soldier's intelligence
@@dafliwalefromiim3454 well said! Most commenters here are privileged idiots who have no awareness of parents' plight!
@@dafliwalefromiim3454 shame on you for judging her before hearing her side of the story- parents probably treated her badly and told her to give them all the money so she left- if she can remarry they can also adopt a child- shame on you for not respecting martyrs decision of leaving pension for his wife- they have 2 children more children anyway so they can easily move on she only had 1 husband and now he is dead
@@dafliwalefromiim3454 I hope your relatives can make up all sorts of negative stories about you and then people on the internet will believe everything they say and curse and judge you
She was emotionally invested in this relationship for 8 yrs.
After all this media trial, she has maintained a dignified silence, she can also come out n say a lot of things.
He is am ex servicemen n still hell bent on defaming the army. He knows very well how army follow s the rules n takes care of it's men n their families.
Shame on this father for his selfish reasons he is washing his dirty lining in public
Daughter in law is responsible for the guilt!😢
kirti chakra ko lekar woh chaligayi, aapko kya mila XD
yaha mojo pe sab feminist hai🤣🤣
@@ajaykumar-n6m5w tu gareeb h