Sad Slugfest Over Captain Anshuman Singh: Parents Or Widow, Who Should Get Pension? | Urban Debate
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- In today's episode of The Urban Debate, anchor Shreya Dhoundial delves into the contentious dispute between the parents and the widow of war hero Captain Anshuman Singh. The episode examines the sad slugfest over Captain Singh's legacy, where the prestige and pension have been allocated to his wife, leading his parents to call for a reexamination of the Army's 'next of kin' policy. This discussion highlights the emotional and bureaucratic challenges faced by families of fallen soldiers."The loss is immeasurable for both parents & the wife" says Surbhi Singh ,wife of late Major Dhruv Yadav. Watch the full video to know more and stay tuned with Mirror Now for more latest updates.
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Its simply a revenge of the parents. It was a love marriage after a very long affair , parents were most likely not happy about it . Most likely they would have not got any dowry and now their son gave all death benefits to his wife so they are frustrated .
It is a case of money nothing else and parents should be ashamed of falling so low
Sorry what if they didn’t have money
@@RiseVibeAcademy parents are retired officials they are already getting pension and they have 2 more children both are doctors one son and daughter.
The father even shamelessly asked his sons widow to marry another son so the money will stay with them. I think that is enough reason to not stay with those in law. And it was a love marriage she loved him for 8 years and finally married him looks like parents were never wanted this marriage for 8 years.
@@Acceptourflaw His father himself said that he had enough money as pension to live and he is not interested in getting money for himself. In fact he requested for Kirti chakra and is ready to give all his that received amount to the girl in exchange of it.
Regarding the marriage thing, the girl father only said my daughter is still young and she should settle later, to which the boy father suggested- that they will do as she decides wether to get married to another person or stay by herself and according to old tradition he suggested if she wants to live in this family m ok with her marrying my other son. U being the Morden person might find it weird and most of us do but there is no ill intention of parents from different generation.
@@preetikumari1907 lol better go to govt ask them to give a copy of the chakra. All this nonsense of media is nothing but making fun of his sacrifice.
Parents ko sare paise chahiye Jo unka beta jinda hota to salary ka bhi single penny nahin utha pate
I'm the wife of an army personnel, living with him on base. Due to the current situation, he's constantly deployed to different locations for defense operations, facing attacks. As I write this, I'm sitting in darkness, surrounded by the sound of alert sirens blaring, indicating a high red alert on the base. It's not his parents who are going through this; they're safe in their hometown with their daughter. But I'm the one who stands to lose everything, along with our two children. If something happens to my husband, his parents will grieve, but their social status won't change. Mine, however, will change from wife to widow."
Well said 👏 👌 👍
Kitna fekuuu story hai reh😂😂😂
Bdw, your case is different here ! You are married and a have the childrens but smriti doesn't have the childrens and she left her in-laws home within a days is something very smelly and wrong !
@@tastymukbang5278 Tum jashe civilian ko sab kuch fhaku lagti hogi.. News k badle tum sunny Leone k dance dekhna pasand karte ho.. Hamari life base k andar kuch jada normal nahi hai.. You lead normal life bcoz we pay the price. Kabhi red alert base k sideseh pass karo, pant mai susu kardohge, Baache... About that widow, she did right thing.. It is not possible to marry dead husband younger brother for any widow.. Her inlaw unwants her to do that..
@tastymukbang5278 Tum jashe civilian ko sab kuch fhaku lagti hogi.. News k badle tum sunny Leone k dance dekhna pasand karte ho.. Hamari life base k andar kuch jada normal nahi hai.. You lead normal life bcoz we pay the price. Kabhi red alert base k sideseh pass karo, pant mai susu kardohge, Baache... About that widow, she did right thing.. It is not possible to marry dead husband younger brother for any widow.. Her inlaw unwants her to do that..
Her husband nominated her as next of kin. He wanted her to get the remenant benefits in case anything untoward happened to him. End of story. Lets respect his decision.
when a person joins the army, the names of their parents or guardians are recorded as their 'next of kin,' signifying their closest relatives. However, once the individual marries, their spouse replaces the parents in the NOK record
@@aryapatel7615 as per law only 65% goes to spouse, rest to parents. If its 100% it's his decision
This is the rule of army that since she is the nok why are the PPL giving their comments she his nok yes his choice respect it
He didn't know his wife would turn out to be such a super b
@@dishita_shorts well he definitely knew that his parents will turn into Mega B.
His parents have already got 65L in total 50% amount of the army insurance and 15L from UP govt.
Why are they saying everywhere ki "bahu sab leke bhag gayi". Humare paas to bete ki tasveer ke alawa kuch nhi bacha. Dishonouring their son's widow publicly.
Kaise parents hai bhai..
Exactly its seems like everyone are turning blind eye to this so they can blame that widow girl.
Librandu, The girl was not ashamed to come home without even talking she packed her bags and took the kirti chakra with her along with the money, First of all she should've stayed a week or so to console his parents even if she doesn't likes them if she loved him she should've stayed with his parents and consoled them which she didn't, The problem is she didn't even attend her husband's funeral ceremony, She didn't even take a second to spend time with his parents offering them atleast half of the compensation she got and the kirti chakra this is some basic manners in people but girls sides are shameless asf.
@@ParasharFor2029 I agree 👍💯
No. That's not true. It wasn't sudden. They had many arguments/discussions. His father has said in one of his interviews that the army people made both the parties sit and resolve. His father said that I will go to the court for my son's entitlements. So the girl's family said that you are free to do that. Capt Anshuman Singh died last year. All these things have been going on since then.
Bina facts jane bakwas karne aa jate hai. Civilians jinko fauj k bare me kuch pata bhi nhi h.. ki chize kis tarah hoti h.. wo bhi bakwas krne pahuch jate hai. She has attended his funeral. Uski video bhi hogi net pe. He parents must respect their son's widow. Iss tarah se misinformation nhi failate uske bare me.
@ParasharFor2029 @@ParasharFor2029
No. That's not true. It wasn't sudden. They had many arguments/discussions. His father has said in one of his interviews that the army people made both the parties sit and resolve. His father said that I will go to the court for my son's entitlements. So the girl's family said that you are free to do that. Capt Anshuman Singh died last year. All these things have been going on since then.
Bina facts jane bakwas karne aa jate hai. Civilians jinko fauj k bare me kuch pata bhi nhi h.. ki chize kis tarah hoti h.. wo bhi bakwas krne pahuch jate hai. She has attended his funeral. Uski video bhi hogi net pe. He parents must respect their son's widow. Iss tarah se misinformation nhi failate uske bare me.
@ParasharFor2029 @ParasharFor2029
He changed the nominee for a reason. The parents have been compensated 65 lakhs. They wanted the daughter in law to marry their younger son so that the money stays in the family. She was with him for 8 yrs...just coz the marriage was 5 months doesn't mean they had just gotten to know each other. The parents are evil and should accept what their son wanted.
People commenting how she should return the money show how less married women respected in our society.
Stop lying. She is a gild digger wanting to run to Australia. If she has so much courage, she should speak up.
Actually ladkiyon se uska haq kaise cheene jaye ye society ko achhe se pata hai, girls should be financially independent n not marry anyone especially army, Air Force n navy guy
Parents are only demanding Kirti chakra as they want it to be part of statue build in Lucknow.... His wife is travelling to Australia for Masters in structural engineering. Please read properly before commenting.
It's not a matter of money as Anshuman father is a retd sainik himself.
He nominated his wife for a reason. He changed the nominee after their wedding from mother to wife for a reason. Its his wish and that should be respected. The parents going to media inspite of knowing this shows they are greedy in this case.
You are right. This is throwing dirt on the son's name.
He would have never thought she would leave her in-laws within a month after his death...it's generally like they would think of children and make wife as nok thinking she wouldn't leave his family
Would have known this prior to marriage he would never change nok to wife 😂
Exactly ! he decided his wife to get it!
If she has gotten love from in laws, why she wouldn't have stayed with in laws? They have problem with widowed wife on everything even for her job! Why she can't work. So what if she was married for 5 months, it's her fate she is widowed, will her life be the same? Yes NOK should be revised but the way they threw dirt on bahu shows how greedy they are. They should not have brought homely matters on public platform. Even the mother has a problem that bahu didn't talk even once the day they recieved chakra. Then saas should have approached her, she should have hugged her, why this ego? Why only bahu is expected to do that, she has lost her husband, the mother doesn't know being empathetic is important rather being egoistic. Sad reality of society mentality. It won't change.
The parents are are wrong they are making a mockery of a grieving wife, she was with him for 8 years why so much emphasis on only 5 months. Rather then talking in private they choose to trash talk their Daughter in Law on national media. As soon as son is dead they treated her like an outsider if they had treated her like daughter they would have wanted her to keep the Chakra
And the parents lived with him for 20+ years
Leave that woman alone. She lost her husband and still struggling
What about her parents who gives birth
Then their parents should have make him a businessman. What kind of logic is this? Who is saying that they aren't suffering. But itna nanga kon hota hai ki channel par ake ye sab karna pade. I guess these two people want to enter into politics @@rajmaurer2460
@@rajmaurer2460 "Amid allegations made by the parents of late Captain Anshuman Singh against their daughter-in-law Smriti Singh, Army sources clarified that the Army Group Insurance Fund (AGIF) of ₹1 crore was split between his wife and parents while the pension goes directly to the spouse. In addition, Uttar Pradesh Chief Minister Yogi Adityanath had announced ₹50 lakh in aid, of which ₹35 lakh went to his wife and ₹15 lakh to his parents"
-The Hindu.
The parents are just being greedy and playing the victim card.
Do not worry about her life. She will get married . Now society changes, divorce and remarriage is a common thing
@@aditikhair7725 her husband is dead, and u r talking about divorce lol.
Married for 5 months or married for 20 years, marriage is marriage, holy. But if the wife remarries parents should take the benefits.
Lmfao what's up with y'all getting mad at women remarrying like😂😂 if the wife was dead it will take only 6 months or even less for a man to remarry. Stop the hypocrisy.
@@XxGamersxx1990 if a woman remarries pension and compensation of the fallen soldier should go to the parents. This is common sense. How pathetic is ur brain?
@@XxGamersxx1990 no one is interested in her remarriage. The matter here is how unashamedly she took away all the money without having any discussion with the parents.
She was only interested in the money maybe that is why after his death she was quick to run away with the money.
Any civil person would discuss what to do with the money since she has a job already and doesn't have children.
She could have offered atleast half of the money to the parents but no. What a thug this woman is
@@XxGamersxx1990True that!!
@@namratagogoi2763It's her money. How's she a thug? Indian mindset is so fucking disgusting lol.
Will capt Anshuman parents give his son share of inheritance to their daughter in law??
Valid question honestly. He willingly married someone who he loved. And the brave man died a martyr. Why are the parents reducing this soldier to his pension? And do they have no regard for the newly married woman who in just 5 months got widowed and will have to live with that for the rest of her long life?
He won't get a share of inheritance in first place!
By law she have to get some..
It is so unpleasant to see that the parents who are supposed to act grown up and responsible are mud slinging this young bereaved girl in public..this way not only the parents are losing their respect but also tarnishing the intelligence, dignity, sacrifice and achievement of their brave heart son!
@@zorozoro2495it's been only days died no loved ones be behind money immediately after the death,let her breath and get comforted to think of this financial s
4:00 It should be noted that his parents are not dependents. His father is retired from Army & has a pension. They have other children who are also doctors, just not in public sector.
After dating him for 8 years, why would she agree to an arranged marriage with his brother?
In every interview, her father-in-law has mentioned that she can't cook properly. And apparently, it's a problem if a mother in law cooks for her daughter in law. They wanted a pretty maid. Why would ANYONE choose to stay with such people if not necessary?
She is 22! They expect her to stay with such a toxic family!
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27 actually
It's a family dispute which should be solved amicably rather than getting nasty on the media
Ikr? I bet they were being nasty to her from the get go. I know my grand parents are trash. If (may the Gods forbid) anything was to happen to my father, who is also in defence, and my mother wasn't the nominee on anything that my father made as a policy, you can bet that my grandparents would make up homeless.
Yes. These people are literally tarnishing his memory . What kind of family is this ?
It’s not family issue. It’s policy change discussion regarding next of kin.
@@nesarag9546 Martyr Mr Anshuman has given his wife's name as nominee knowing his nature of job and his father is a retired army personnel too. Now where's the question of policy change here ? If all 141 crore Indians resort to social media for all their disputes will it be of any good 💁🏻
It's not a family dispute. Its problem of country. Govt needs to bring reform in this rules. If wife marry again then 70 % should go to parents and 30 % to wife. If he had children's then 60 % amount should be go to them, 20 % for wife, 20 % for parents...... Current rules are unfair for parents of soldiers. Most of soldiers wifes grabbing all the money and marring another person..... Govt of india should give attention to this.
Everyone saying married fir just 5 months. She dated him for 8 years too. God the grief the woman is going through
Yup . And imagine in-laws not caring a damn about her grief and trying to get her married to their younger son to grab her money. And publicly shaming her with idiotic allegations when being an ex service man he KNOWS that the kirti charkra belongs to the wife rightfully
You will know the pain if you are a mother
Please listen carefully to what his parents say.
They spend their life making him a great army officer. She married an army officer . Not an ordinary young man. Who made him? She will marry now and choose a good young man as a life partner, where will keep Kirti Chakra
Correct
Aajkal toh bahue yaa wofe ko goddigger bol ey ka fashion baan gayaa hai bahu/ wife kee barbadee kisse ko dekhna nahee hai
Indian current generation, grow up. Being parents you sacrifice, but don’t put that blame or put share of sacrifice on your kid. You became parents by your choice, your kid didn’t urge you. As parents your responsibility is to make your kid a good human and financially independent. Not to expect that as we have sacrifised, so kid should take my responsibility in old age. Plan your future wisely so that you can be independent always. If your children take care of you that’s their choice, there is no dignity in forcing.
Couldn’t agree more
This is true in America's not in Indian context if that's the case parents should leave the children after 18 to fend for themselves.....so no need to sacrifice anything and no need to expect ....anything in return
@@user-zk1rl9ui8n what happens in other countries not interested at all. One should learn to be independent on own from age 18 as you are old enough to decide democracy . This happens in India, look into houses in lower middle class families. We live together not for financial support but for emotional support, isn’t? If you say financial have nothing to say.
Virgin?
True that. Expecting children to give back....is business
Isnt NOk nominated by the soldier himself ..so he nominated his own wife and as per correct news both parents n wife got half of the insurance amount...n if wife remarries the pension stops going to the wife..so why this slinging mud on their daughter in law...they just cannot digest that in just 5 month their son died n now they have to divide his inheritance with her ..see the languge the mothrr is using for her own bahu ki bahuein bhaag jaati hai jaise koi gali ka chor ho...n father asking the money should be divided to all the dependents evn siblings...why the soldiers sibings are not working themselves or what..
The nomination of NOK seems to be the problem, some are saying after marriage the status automatically changes from parents to spouse without the consent of soldiers
If soldiers want to reverse the status they'll have to manually get it done
This is a very high possibility of many soldiers not knowing this rule given earning bread and butter is their primary focus while at the same time there's an inconsiderate attitude towards administrative work contributing further to this issue
@@theredstar6493 no soldiers are aware of it..n they are especially made aware of such things coz nobody knows next day who is surviving or not so army make sure these administrative works are up to date..n if it's regarding money they hot money from up govt. As well ..then mother n father are toeing the lines of Rahul gandhi for agniveer which is casting suspicion on there claim...n if it's not abt money n only Kirti Chakra then govt should provide a duplicate to the parents as well for there mental peace n pride..matter resolved no need for such ho halla
@@mitalichakravarty9347 Concept of giving kirti chakra doesn't make sense of it's own
To understand it's complications here's a situation, This widow remarries 2-3 years down the lane and settles down with her new family
Unfortunately due to some medical circumstances or after living her natural age she later on loses her life, could you guess who would this chakra go to? The husband of her new marriage or his kids who doesn't have anything to do with it!
Imo government should rather keep these awards at a display in some museum or stop distributing them
Regarding the administration part I still stand by my statement, being in the field of administration I know from experience there are too many micro level issues present which would take decades to correct
-Far too many soldiers believe the compensation would be given to his "family" and not parent/spouse
-A large chunk never even focus while they're guided through policies at the orientation phase
-Many aren't properly educated and believe whatever policies they wrongly interpret
@@theredstar6493not true. Parents also get paid the compensation and benefits, wife gets more than parents but parents also have sufficient money as compensation. Once the dependent of an army personnel (daughter, wife) gets married, remarried or divorced, she doesn't get pension.
@@gia42472 False!
The criteria and ratios of compensation were recently changed (atleast in MP)
Mohan Yadav have recently bought a proposal which would grant equal compensation to spouse and parents
Commenting about remarry is little bit harsh for girl just imagine your husband died recently and everyone telling her she can get another husband , what if she is not willing to get remarried , doesn’t her side of story should we listen and may be their is another side of story.
As if someone is already waiting to marry a widow. The in laws want all the money to remain in the family by her marrying their younger son. Definitely its about money. Girl should not be forced.
It is the reality. If she were so sad why would she run away with the money?
She could have shared it with her in-laws and then leave for home. But no. As soon as she received it she ran for the hills.
She definitely is not in love with her husband just with the money
@@namratagogoi2763 He husband is no more and her in-laws don't treat her well.
What do you a lone woman would do in this situation?
@@Sol-ps8ox How are you making these assumptions? And what does that have to do with the award money?
She can work. She is just 24. His parents on the other hand are old and need that money. She could take half and give the half to his parents. Why does she need all of it? She is greedy to the core.
At a time like this she is only interested in the money
She lacks conscience. Is she impoverished that she need all the money? His parents raised him , they are not worthy of a share?
@@namratagogoi2763 The father in law is an ex-armyman (JCO rank) and gets all the army benefits along with monthly pension of 60-75 thousand per month.
He has other children too...son and daughter.
There are some reports that even parents have got 65 lakhs from the total amount.
They are just targetting Anshuman wife because she got her rightful share.
Should she be left without any support if she does not want to live with her inlaws?
Why should she marry Anshuman's brother? Is she an object to keep in house?
You assumed that they are poor and the girl is wrong.
Just imagine...Anshuman gave his life for people like you who are calling his wife selfish and whatnot after his sacrifice.
It was Anshuman's choice when he nominated his wife as next of kin.
You or other people will decide who gets money when Anshuman is the one who sacrificed his life?
You all disgust me!
They are crying over money but no one thinks about man's life that he enjoyed nothing. This is how man live his life do everything and get nothing out of it. I feel pitty about captain and rest of the man who dies in the army.
As a mother, I do everything for my son out of the love I have for him, not because he will take care of me someday. If I expect so, then the relationship I have with him becomes transactional, and there is nothing loving about it. Also as a mother, i will want my son to live the life he desires, and would respect all the choices he makes, even if they are not in my best interest.
You are very kind hearted....respect! I strongly believe the departed soul's wishes must be respected...!!
Mother India 🙏
Best comment!
You are a kind mother. Wish every mother thought the same as you.
All perfect lovable mother think like you.u r the best mother.❤️❤️❤️😍🙏
Wife’s contribution to the Army cannot be matched…welfare roles, social, emotional support and always living with that subconscious fear of the future casualties… sometimes living in separated family homes…parents visit on vacations like they are entitled to the facility etc…fauji wives are the unsung heroes! As wives, we are always told that we stand behind the nation, regiment and the men! I lived with this reality for 20 years, that I wasn’t the first on my husband’s mind… I respected that and took it as my duty as a fauji wife… parents are not groomed like this,
Once children are born ,all rights should be of the child and wife. Just 20,25 percent parents. Child should be given job when he grows up.
@@induchopra3014 YES, once a child is involved all the compensation should go to the wife and Children. Parents have to acknowledge that their Son has grown out and has a Family of Himself. Family is husband wife and their offsprings.
@@MZs2179 parents raise their child and they have no right to their child’s honours? Wives like you are so scary. The mother will suffer more if the child were to die. Wife will anyway remarry. The parents are unsung heroes as well.
@@namratagogoi2763 see yourself in an analogy in the non defence aka civil world…a woman’s husband say nominated his wife as the next of kin in his will for the assets. He dies of an illness/ accident. Now what?! Why is the army system being dragged?
@@namratagogoi2763 wife will anyway marry…??
It has gotten so ugly. Beloved ones aren't grieving , they are running after money.
@@shatakshipandey8014 well you gotta survive. Patriotism and grief won't feed you.
@@mnd7381 log jyada dukhi hai ki smrita singh ne late anshuman sir ke parents ko completely ditch kardiya na ki thoda time spend kia
we are in kalyug , if the parents were sad they wouldnt have done this drama
@@subhasankarbhattacharya3454 well the wife already left their home and the parents aren't getting a penny from Army. What shall they do?
@@subhasankarbhattacharya3454 Put yourself in place of the family, don't say shit without knowing the truth
He nominated her as his next kin, why didn't these parents tell this fact in any of their interviews, pathetic behaviour by parents, i am got to know about this from this video
And yes running and taking All husbands benefits and treat Parents like Dogs 🐕 This is an educated behavior I could see.
This is an logical answer wow 😮
If the wife was not Selfish, why she immediately run ? She didn't even respected her late husband.
By law both mother and wife will gave 50 50 evennif he nominated
Nominee is only a custodian and not the next of kin
@@Anime_Animation_Illustration..they got 65 lakh
@@CmPunk-mk9ry both got 50% each of 1cr insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacs.
The widow left her in-laws home, there must be a reason!! The parents have turned this personal issue into a public issue and now it's on National TV. And it's all about money. I wonder how she was treated when the husband was alive. Also, the President of India handing the award directly to the wife and putting her hand on the window's shoulder's without even looking at the mother says it all. Mother should have never accompanied the widow in the first place. The father said he has his pension to support his family, then why is he fighting for money? Harassment!!
apparently his parents asked her to marry their other son. Disgusting actually
@@venn9552 - Disgusting!! Tricky way of keeping the money in the family.
Tum sub akal sey paidal ho ya baat samjhne mey dikkat hoti h. Learn to comprehend.
He is not at all talking about getting money for himself, for himself he only wanted Kirti chakra for inauguration of his son statue to which girl father said he will think and then they never responded back to him and always made excuses.
The girl family continually refused to meet them or get involved in shaheed pooja, girl family also inquired about the money given for final rights by army without even but family knowledge.
He only came out in media when he talked to army commanders, and politicians for NOK rule about Kirti chakra and regarding money he only asked about reform for future of parents who don’t have any other income and were dependent on son.
His father himself said that he had enough money as pension to live and he is not interested in getting money for himself. In fact he requested for Kirti chakra and is ready to give all his that received amount to the girl in exchange of it.
Regarding the marriage thing, the girl father only said my daughter is still young and she should settle later, to which the boy father suggested- that they will do as she decides wether to get married to another person or stay by herself and according to old tradition he suggested if she wants to live in this family m ok with her marrying my other son. U being the Morden person might find it weird and most of us do but there is no ill intention of parents from different generation.
If u don’t get the gist of it , stop spewing half information.
@@preetikumari1907 - did anyone ask the girl or her parents why they were avoiding the martyr’s family? There must be a pretty strong reason. They are dignified and hence maintaining their silence, not appearing on national television to bash the other family. Young or old, it’s too early to talk about her setting down by either family’s. And this is 2024 not 1500 to even suggest that she has the option of marrying her husband’s brother. It might seem okay to you but not to me.
@@preetikumari1907 and when the husband himself wrote on paper that everything should go to his wife, his parents should be respectful of his decision and not fight it.
Men dies! Men sacrifices... And yet these people are fighting for his money and fame.
The father of Captain Anshuman Singh is retired as a senior Army Officer and gets a very good pension, they are well off, not poor at all. So what's wrong if the widow gets her husband's pension? They are not only defaming their daughter-in-law but all this is a shame for them too. No doubt It is an age-old fight that the son belongs to the mother or wife.
Wife and parents should get half each. If the widow gets into another relationship or remarries, then parents should get the full amount.
She can and will remarry, but parents can't raise another son like him.
if what u are saying is done then laws have to be changed.
@@abhijitguha494 absolutely lol. In this shithole of a country hundreds of old laws need to be changed. The world isn't at 1950s anymore.
@@abhijitguha494 hundreds of laws need to be changed. This ain't 1950 anymore
Parents have lived their lives, parents are selfless. What type of parents are they who except son’s or daughter’s money? wife’s life just started and she has to go through the biggest sorrow. In such situation, the in laws are blaming her, they should have stand by her. When they married they took each other’s responsibility right? who will take responsibility of the wife at this moment?
@@lonelysailor2434 accept son's money? Why not, after getting a job if your parents retire will you not support them?? Lmao it's literally govt policy that children can't completely abandon parents. A 60 year old woman can still live upto 80-85. And if their condition is not good, will they beg on streets? You guys have no rational knowledge lmao.
So you mean the parents who paid for a man's education and life should not expect anything in old age? I feel sad for your parents.
And no they're not doing anything bad. That girl as per reports has already left the martyred officer's home and the parents haven't got a penny of that monetary support. So their complaint is acceptable.
Nobody is bothered about a young widow. Everyone just cares for the money/pension. A hero’s death reduced to a few dollars more.
Which the "young widow" did.
@@ParasharFor2029 clearly you have patriarchal views and hence side with the crass in-laws.
How shameless these people are in bringing up their family issues in public domain. Apni hi family ki izzat uchhal rahe hai. Now parents will be scared to marry their daughters into a army family if the family is like this. She lost her life partner.😢 She definitely has right to all the benefits till she decides to remarry.
She's a nominee and it was her husband 's decision that if anything happens to him everything should go to his wife... Why is the family behaving like this... It shows how toxic they were and also greedy.
Just woww
In 4 lines you proved his 'THE' parents toxic and greedy 'WHO' embraced their Love marriage decision, despite North Indian Dowry system where they can demand as their wish!!!!!
Dowry is not legal in india sir.
When you talk like this you prove that sons are nothing but a source of income for the parents@@dhruvakumar5803
@@dhruvakumar5803these parents literally suggested on television that the widow marry her younger brother in law...
They are greedy and characterless....
Very very toxic
No… they married for 5months. Wife is nominee by default. Maybe he thought he had time. he din go n write her name instead of his parents. Its a default thing. But to add his parents he had to write it, 5 hi months huwa tha so maybe it din not occur to him.
She is the one being greedy atleast she should ave share wit her in-laws….
The comment section really reflects the reality of our society.
The video really shows how sick someone can be. Husband mar gaya but focus sirf paise main hai. She is not even willing to give 50% despite being young and able to work
@@namratagogoi2763 lol the parents got his insurance money. Even she is grieving too. Her being young and able to work means nothing atp. Already society is planning for her future. "She should remarry in 6 months" "She can work" "Should look after his parents, if not give no money". "She is greedy". Do we even know the relationship between them or the son with their parents?
Coz our society always sees a widow as a burden. Lol we have a whole city where widows and mothers are dumped on a daily basis in numbers. Just listen to their stories. Kids dumbing them, lol I guess the mother was greedy too.
Already people are calling her greedy. Then what the parents? Are they not talking about money too, even the father gets pension from the govt. Instead of applying to govt to change the law, they are here with the click bait media circus dragging her like this.
Already psycho men commented on her, even before all these started. Am sure some "society aunties" Had their say too. I would say to anyone, just once ask your mother , if she was in this situation of having no husband dying so soon post marriage, what will her inlaws behave towards her.
I'm sure in the comments section someone called her "bad luck". It's fu*kas$ better the law changes fast, and ensures that the Servicemen nominate their beneficiaries, every 6months Or so.
@@namratagogoi2763 what does young and able to work has to do with this. Didn't their son die too , so they are also focusing on money. The parents have another son, also the father has pension too, got part of 1cr of his insurance money, still doing this with media circus. Should I call them also greedy?
@@CateamS-dm7sg he didn’t get any entitlements, the whole amount is given to her. Did the you see the video.
And ofcourse young and able to work has a lot to do in this case. She has her life ahead of her. She may marry in 2 to 3 years than this kirti chakra will be in some dusty storage room. The parents will never get their son back. And also why does she need so much money half of a crore is also a lot. She is not from an impoverished family
@@namratagogoi2763 she got the money for the award. Also that what the parents are saying. Parents got insurance money of 1cr Or at least part of it. He has his own pension too. They could have filed a PIL or application to army for revision of law. Instead within few days of getting that award, they did media circus. Dragging their dead son and his wife too. In our society there is no doodh ka dula In laws or daughter in law. Pointing fingers at one party based on what another party is saying is wrong. Give both of them the benefit of doubt too. What if she comes out and says she was abused by the parents are you going to support or not?!
No need to change the rule. Soldiers have the right to give their NOK.
Aren't the parents getting almost 1cr of insurance and award money? Plus the father has his own pension and other children and other ex army benefits??? Is this about who should be getting more? It's abhorrent to discuss this in media after their late son made a very sensible decision keeping everyone in mind.
The wife is getting that money
@@namratagogoi2763 Parents have got approx 65 Lakhs.
@@namratagogoi2763 Amid allegations made by the parents of late Captain Anshuman Singh against their daughter-in-law Smriti Singh, Army sources clarified that the Army Group Insurance Fund (AGIF) of ₹1 crore was split between his wife and parents while the pension goes directly to the spouse. In addition, Uttar Pradesh Chief Minister Yogi Adityanath had announced ₹50 lakh in aid, of which ₹35 lakh went to his wife and ₹15 lakh to his parents
@@namratagogoi2763 no. both got 50% each of 1cr insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacs.
@@namratagogoi2763 parents received their share as well. Pls read The Hindu. The army has already clarified about the matter. Parents just want all the money.
Indiabreally does not treat daughtwr in lws well.
Ive never heard such a thing
Its obvious the wife....How can there be a dispute???
If he was married for 20 years will anyone question this......?????
5 months does not change the commitment.
Im from northeast and im shocked.......he is married that the end of it..
Im a parent and ill never do tha to my son's wife. It will be a matter of shame in my society.
Parents have done their job raising him.Its not a favour.
Talking about the girl getting remarried....
She just lost her husbnad
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Women earn on your own .
Don't you have any shame in living on husband's money .
When it comes to responsibility it is shared but when it comes to benefit you want to eat it fully .
@gurunaveen2647 If a woman soldier dies, and if she had nominated her spouse to be the beneficiary, her husband gets it all. There are women who have died protecting us in the military, too. There are many men who have received their late wife's kirti chakra and beneficiary, too. That doesn't mean they couldn't earn on their own. They all deserve that respect, and legally, they had been nominated to inherit their late spouse's money. There is no gender here, the responsibility is always shared. There are women who work hard, earn and contribute to this society more than you and me. So, we should stop selectively blaming only women for everything.
@@srinidhisridharan5416
That women you say are fractional and it's unjust to compare.
It's like asking treat house husbands as women and give them women privileges meant for house wifes .
If your comparison made sense mine is even more appropriate.
@gurunaveen2647 What comparison did you exactly make? "Women, earn on your own. Don't you have shame". Those are called judgments, not comparison. You brought up blame and judgment on all women together. You made no comparison at all, just shamed women. Now I see that my comparison is very valid because when the widowed husbands received kirti chakras of their late wives, no woman made a remark on their husband's receiving the money. Nobody raised a self-assumption that he might remarry. A nominated man's in-laws didn't start a media drama saying that their son-in-law should've shared the medal and money with them. But, when the genders are reversed, you can all shame women all together. Women earning more than many men aren't fractional. Wake up to reality!! Women scientists and doctors of our country aren't fractional. In fact, in some depts, more than men. Not any less than a man's contribution at all. In military, there are more than 7000 women serving the country, that's lesser than the men, but still a big number. And there are way more women in non-combat roles. Lots of women serve in administration and police services. Let's imagine it all to be fractional also, even then, who gave you the right to trivialize it all and blankly shame all the people if 1 gender? This applies to both genders.
Shameless parents .
Mother in law. Unfortunate reality. Young widow wife has to face. Anshuman nominee will get as per his wish. In laws should not drag a young girl who lost her husband into public like this. Disgusting.
Completely agree
@@kalyanipriyadarshini3497 it's heartbreaking that people are not discussing about Anshuman sacrifice.
Brother sister ... most of the entitlememt are given to wife if he is married .. but inlaw must take care of parents .. if they dont ..atlrasy some portion of pension must be given to parents .. such cases usually come to our office where inlaw didnt took care of their ailing parents while taking pension
@@rkr20055044 Dude the father in law is an ex-armyman and gets all the army benefits.
He has other children too.
There are some reports that even parents have got 65 lakhs from the total amount.
They are just targetting Anshuman wife because she got her rightful share.
Should she be left without any support if she does not want to live with her inlaws?
Why should she marry Anshuman's brother? Is she an object to keep in house?
It is trend now. Many women puts cases and extorting money.
But if she is modern women.
Then the should also get the money.
65 lakh mil gaye parents ko ,do betey hein ,ek beti hey tabhi bhi itna lalach .telling the bahu to marry younger son ..greedy parents rushing to come in media to attack bahu .lakdi ko grieve karney do ..anshumans parents are showing thr true colors .betey k jaatey hi .bahu k khilaaf interview dena sahi nahi hey ..shame on his parents ..they have eachother ..she lost her partner .shame on them .let the lady grieve atleast ..13vi tak ni ruk paye yeh maa baap .betey ki aatma ki shanti se zada inko apne man or lalach ki shanti ki fikr hey.aur btw inka ek aur beta bhi hey aur beti bhi hey ..woh ladki ki family aisey narrow minded ghar mein jahan sasur keh raha hey dusrey betey se shadi karle ..kyun rahegi ek din bhi ni rahegi ..
U got the clear point they are gold digger
Oh my god.. You are straight.. You are true
When was this when did they tell her to marry the younger son? This is so shocking
@p.lakhyaharichandana879 in a news video the father himself said it , he doesn't even realize how disgusting his words are . Those parents are so money minded , in order to not lose money that is on daughter in laws name they suggested her to marry their other son.
Then why did she leave her in-law's house? Her attitude is very doubtful and immoral in the society we know. Once someone is married, it is not only a partnership between the spouses but also a moral relationship with the entire family of both partners. How could she leave her in-law's house the day after her husband's death? Her behavior speaks volumes and raises many questions. She is not only responsible to her husband, whom she knew for 5-6 years, but her husband was also the son of parents who brought him into this world with tears and sweat. One cannot overlook the sacrifices and rights of the parents over their childrens.
Only one guest spoke sense, Maj gen Dr Mor.. stating straight that the rule should be changed. Thats how it should be dealt.. instead of "this shouldnt come out in public"
Bhae its actually v good that through this one family conflict, so many more in the future can be avoided. Its a bigger than just "washing ur dirty linen in public", its more got to do with law than personal attack.
yes and also nowadays wives do not want to live with in-laws house nor do the house chores so why should any money be given to her? she's gonna marry again obviously
And also this anchor doesn't seem to have genuine Intensions towards the parents
@@SuplexCityF5..no laws for civilians wives...?
@@babyboltbark laws should be there but not in percentage blindly like 50-50 etc. ofcourse some compensation should be there if there's a child involved
Very shameful of parents. Girl was married only for five months is no logical answer, she was his wife legally and she will get those benefits. And do parents raise their kids to be of benefit to them in future, it is a selfish act, we raise kids because we enjoy doing it not as an insurance or support for future. This is very very bad behaviour of parents.
What are you even blabbering, the fact she left the home after his tervi that too with the medal and money is a shameful act, medal belongs to the son's home, his family. Parents are right to question, ideally this should have been settled within the family, but from the looks of it the girl is shamefully selfish.
And yes running and taking All husbands benefits and treat Parents like Dogs 🐕
This is an logical answer wow 😮
If the wife was not Selfish, why she immediately run ? She didn't even respected her late husband.
So Mr/Miss..Did she marry him for any Material benefit??..If parents are supposed to raise a child without any selfishness then the partner should also keep this in mind that she married the person with no intention of material gain..And regarding anything about side takings..Just imagine yourself to be a mother who had raised a child and had been his Parents for around 25years..And you lost the son and you have to fight for everything ?!!!..
@@Paaakhiii well I am sorry that people of your thinking also exist.
@@Healingmyselfeveryday There’s no point of any unnecessary debate and Chaos..The Parents should get what they should and the widow should get what she deserve.
Ground reality is bitter !
More than honour they scramble for PF and pension .It's imperative that we discuss this matter and find a solution.
All want money and the honor too
Dont be a dodo. Who is asking for pension. They are hurt by her actions.
You do too
@@nemesis1ization so by being hurt they go to the media?
He was married so his wife has every right
And God said, 'So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one body. ' So there are not two, but one. God has joined the two together, so no one should separate them.”
She will go and unite with someone else in a few years. And then he will mean nothing to her
@@manasac3102 That's an assumption isn't it?
@@manasac3102 but she hasn’t married yet. Give her the benefit of the doubt
@@manasac3102 that's what. She may have never love him - it was all for benefits 😢 Once he dead, she thought now I could get no advantage, she ran away taking every possession he could cling into
@@Anime_Animation_Illustration they were dating for eight years. I think it must be love right otherwise why wait 8 years
The wife gets everything. The mother gets pension from her husband not son. Will the fathers pension go to daughter or the father get his son.
The family is wrong.
Parents got 65 lakhs
Who whole case is strange.
When husband choose the nominee i don't understand why to even question it but yes if wife remarries then she does not remain wife of the soldier, then the compensations should be delivered to parents...but if she stays widow she has each and every right to have 100% of what she already has been nominated for
I feel sorry for both the parents and the young wife. But the spouse is always the NOK according to law. So the parents should not malign her, esp after she has lost her husband who was also their son. At least they have their other children.
such a filthy issue bringing a shame to that hero is such a shame they should talk amongst themsleves, fighting over pension is such a shame he doesnt deserve this...
its not that the family is poor the father has his own pension insurance, then other children, so fighting at this time for money is such a shame...its the worst disrespect to the person our hero
Actually the main issue is that the parents want the Chakra which the Captain's wife took with her and tried to break all ties with her in laws.She even changed the captain's ancestral address(Action speaks louder than words).It is the most heartbreaking for the parents.But as per the NOK rule, they can't do anything.
His father is also a retired soldier.So, the Chakra means a lot for him.
Lets aside all the family matters,can a father not even touch his son's achievement?
Every family encounters problems, which can range from property disputes and extramarital affairs to financial issues. Turning to social media is not a solution; these matters are best resolved privately. It's important to recognize that she dated him for eight years and was married for five months, making this a significant issue for her as well. Blaming someone without knowing the full story is unfair. It's the responsibility of their son to include his parents' names on the documents. My will states that, after my death, my property should be divided equally between my parents and my wife. Observing his parents with RG makes me consider that there might have been pre-existing conflicts with their daughter-in-law. It is best to allow them to handle the situation privately, without the involvement of others.
Just respect the Jawans choice.
Shameless parents.
Completely understand the parent’s side, especially if they aren’t financially strong. But if my son married someone, and something ever happened to him. As a parent, I would 100 percent take the girl’s responsibility, even if that involves marrying her off again and financially supporting her. But then again, I wouldn’t know what their family dynamics is. Seems very odd to pull her down like this in social media, especially when he lost her husband at such a young age.
Media shouldn't create unnecessary controversy. The Soldier's ultimate sacrifice should be remembered by all of us. The family lost their loved one and the nation has lost a Braveheart. Let's remember the Braveheart fondly. RIP.
Instead of pension, if there were loans to repay, who will be responsible for it? Parent or wife? The same person should also receive the pension and benefits…
Don't think loans work that way here in India, the one who applied for loans is the only one responsible for repayment irrespective of his marital status (unless one has co-signed)
@@theredstar6493 ah i get what you are saying..I just meant it as a concept.. that the one who takes the liabilities should get the benefits.. also, they really need to respect who their son nominated as Next of kin.. she is not being greedy, that was choice made by their son…i think it is a bit of a poor behaviour from the parents to bad mouth her in public like this..
@@suchitrasubramanian The issue seems to be with NOK policy
After marriage the status of nominee automatically changes from parents to spouse without the consent of soldier
Army could've formed a better policy with regards to compensation, we're at a situation where either parents have to stay at the mercy of spouse or spouse at the mercy of parents
@@theredstar6493 the Army personnel are informed of this change at the time of marriage for this specific reason.. and they can submit a request to retain the parents as Nok … in this case, Capt Anshuman Singh chose not to, and decided to retain his wife as the NoK. Also, insurance, PF etc can have multiple nominees, and the Capt filled it all out, and the money was disbursed accordingly. Only pension is not divided and is fully given to the NoK (in this case, the wife)
And if the in laws and the spouse are in good terms with each other, they wouldn’t be at anybody’s mercy. All this controversy is because they aren’t.
@@suchitrasubramanian Being in administration industry I know from my own experience "informing" The employees means nothing unless you feed them with the information 24/7
We live in the land of careless where one couldn't be bothered to check/verify/understand documents which was likely the case in their family
Moreover this was a recent marriage and there's a very high possibility they were waiting for the dust of marriage ceremonies to settle down before going for documentation (I mean who would? I surely won't be running to the army headquarters a day after marriage to manage these legal changes)
If people stayed on "good terms" We won't require a law and order, unfortunately that isn't the case anymore and army (and other branches) need to immediately manage these policies
It could have been avoided!!!
But politicians n media are on a different planet altogether.
This is how in laws treat daughter in laws..
.her life just started ans she lost her husband.
Parents have lived their life .Its their duty to bring up their son. Not a favour
The wife is legally married. Its her right.
Will anyone here question if they were married for 50 years.
No right
Commitment is commitment be it 5 months or 70 years. Wife comes first
Women will say I am working for 10 years as wife even I am abstaining my husband on my will .
I have to be paid.
Then no one will say both have committed to each other but she willing leave him. She doesn't need to be paid.
Everyone will say she need to be paid.
Yess thank youuu. I don’t know why no one understands this. Bringing up your child is a duty not a favour. But expecting money just because you took care of your son is beyond me. The wife was chosen by her husband to be his next of kin. We have to respect his decision. The wife 100% deserves it.
@@shreyaanumalasetty8288 have some humanity. The money can be divided. People don’t need to be this greed. They can have 50:50
@@shreyaanumalasetty8288 he has duty to take care of parents.
@@namratagogoi2763money has been divided already. Army has released a letter in which they have mentioned that the parents have got 50L from army insurance and 15L from state govt.
Such a heartless mother, she should give the situation a little time.
Is remarrige is easy in India. How many widow are remarrying? Is women a flesh, without emotion. Yaha se utha k wahan rakh diya. Life restart karna is not easy. How many writing this will approach widow, divorcee, rape women or girl to marry?And why can not society these days accept husband do things wife and for their future. Wife and husband have its own importance and parents have their own in anyone life. If the parents does not get anything, then it is wrong?They got money from government and a job offer. They lived their life, they have no responsibility, with other settle children, getting pension and benefits. People don't want to give anything to wife and DIL .
No mother forgets her son with time
I appreciate your view...the widow is being maligned by the parents...she is veernari...respect her....the mother has been meddling in politics too...met LoP and made comment on Agniveer...they have been disgraceful...
@@megha1191 it is social effect. Most people now try to exploit husbands with fake cases.
People are thinking that everyone is there for money.
Same like some men harrass women, so we are afraid of other innocent men.
@@megha1191 she waited for him for 8 years long and just after few months she lost him. People are so cruel and judgemental nowadays. Kabhi veer nari bana dete ha kabhi laalchi aurat. 😑
You are right.. everyone is so easily saying she will get remarried.. but, don't understand that being a widow, very few men will be ok to consider her for marriage. Second marriage options for women is very less. People are commenting as if they are in America.
The benefits should be given 50:50 to the martyrs Widow: surviving Parents. 😢
Both have got 50 50 in I nsurance amount
Both got 50 50 only....
They are greedy....
They want full amount
Nowhere on earth is mother compensated for son's death in military, if son is married. If son marks a beneficiary on insurance documents, thats it. Beneficiary designation is golden standard.
@@subhashisnag6090 people act like the son is married to his mother and it's disgusting.
@@subhashisnag6090 but parents got 50% insurance money. Now how it is distributed among husband n wife that their decision
It is a sensitive issue and should be dealt with care. Politicians and media should stop cashing in. There should be counselling of soldiers when it come to selecting the NOK but once the choice is made, the decision needs to be respected by the families.
Shame on these parents. They didn't get dowry now they want sons pension. How shameless. Fil getting his pension. How shame he wants sons pension.
If this next kin will change no girl will be interested to marry. After taking such a risk and then losing everything in a single day, spoiling one life getting such type of in laws would be nightmare for all girls. Those who are saying wife ko kuchh nhi milna chaiye… see the thing ki koi bhi widow se shadi nhi krna chahta unless wo khud widow ho and living kids ho. Aise mein ldki ki life spoil toh ho jati hai. Iss case mein parents k pass unka khud ka retired pension hai and they are still after the son’s money. Agr ldki remarry krti hai phir she won’t get anything. Lekin abhi wo kuchh ki nhi hai… Let her breath for a while guys bhot kuchh dekh liya usne life mein wo bhi 24yrs mein.
It's not that she stopped talking Her in laws
When army got a proposal to make a statue of him
In laws tried to reach her and her house
Without informing she changed the house took all his things with her
For statue also she didn't responded
Even herParents
They asked to bring kriti chakra to his statue inauguration
She didn't respond
She left the raj bhavan with kirti chakra without informing in-laws
While they are waiting for her
After that gayab hogayi
@@GamerOne_me how u know all this. Or are u assuming
@@bejoyk see news they said in other interview
@@GamerOne_me okay. it's sad. what can be solution i don't know. any husband would want his wife to get everything in case he dies but would believe that his wife wouldn't abandon his parents. wont say she should live with his parents bcoz that is not to bs done.. she didnt marry his parents. but should keep touch with them and should share award with parents.
money the parent in this case don't require as they have pension medical facility and canteen card for themselves. and most probably any extra money would be given to their other children..
@@bejoyk if she gets married award should be transfer to parents
Becz she got no children
Becz 2nd husband won't allow past of her for sure
Things of her ex husband
Pension Govt need to decide
We are no one to decide
There are other parents who have been in a similar situation, so his parents aren't the only ones who've gone through it, but there are lots of others as well. However, his parents seem to be an educated family, so they have the guts to bring this up to the nation. Otherwise, it would have happened to other soldiers mourning who lost too. The Army needs to look into such serious matters, and parents also need to make sure their nominees don't do the same thing again. And yours braver son will remember by the nation as always dear parents, and we also consider tou both as our own parents ! Jai jind 🫡
Meghna Girish spoke very well. Her views are unbaised.
NoK and the percent of share must be logged in as per the servicemen's decision.
But it is the wish of the one who is getting this benefit, whether that person wants to share it or not.
That is very good point.
But yes there is a need to review this issue and rule.
Army has clear rules about the money part . I remember my son ( army officer )taking my photo . When I asked he told in case of an eventuality some pension the mother will get for few yrs. But the rules will not be applicable if the couple have a child . Also she will loose the benefits if she remarries.Dont know about the award .
Award money was also divided ..
It was in newspapers
The government of India has given 65 lakh already to his parents.
So ridiculous that TV channels are encouraging debates of this kind.
Remarriage is like a horror story in India
they hate it when a woman knows her worth lol
Aap dhund rahi ho lagta he
@@dhimanreetika9241 nobody is interested in remarriage here, they are only talking about how the wife should not have taken all the money. She should have given half of it to the parents. She can marry whoever. She is just 24
Who would've guessed people who went through hell of divorce courts would want to do it again?
Great debate. This show goes so well ...at the end people can understand the real issue. It's not about this family only but generally ' next of kin' rule needs some changes,more option should be given to the army officer to add in next of kin and that should be recheck Every year. And the most important thing ot this whole case is that people should deal with it dignity bcoz a son of bharat mata given his life for us. That should be respected.each of his family members are in grief whether it's his parents or his wife.
It's there, dude. I know of an offucer who died with his parents as the next of kin, even though he had two kids and a wife. Wife and kids were homeless cause parents threw her out.
@@catcat63527 Thats why rule was changed to make wife the next of kin automatically.
@@catcat63527 this is how in laws usually treat their daughter in laws.
These parents are shameless....they are maligning a veernari....the widow has evey right to chose her path....
He chose his wife to be the nominee!!! parents need to understand this
It's a shame for Anshuman and our fraternity that it landed up in media but then it is blessing in disguise as it's important to have this debate. I personally followed 50-50 for both my parents before marriage and 50-50 between my spouse and one of my parent after marriage. It's individuals choice at the end of the day. But parents cannot be ignored in such cases and choice of option of percentage of NOK should be provided in such monetary matters for the NOK of Brave martyr's. Jai Hind! Former Naval warrior.
You can't decide what others should do. Respect anshumans wish
Anshuman had nominated his mom as 50 percent beneficiary of insurance fund. The parents have recieved 50 lacs. They are bothered that they cannot control his widows share and making a public spectacle of this.
@@indianmarine2313 didn't both got 50% each of one crore of insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacsdidn't both got 50% each of one crore of insurance fund. And parents got 15 lacs from UP govt. So parents got 50+15 lacs. She got 35+50 lacs. Now they want the pension too which their son decided to nominate his own wife?
@@babyboltbark yes absolutely! That's the very reason I mentioned that its upto individual choice. The HQ honours whatever is opted by the soldier.
Very shameful. They are pissed off that ATM card to pension account are blocked. And that free ka phone chala gaya. Changing statements aa per his convenience. Aise log sirf dialog bade bade bolte hain. Yeh karayenge uski shadi. Bechari bahu ko desh bhar mein badnaam kar rahe hain. Inhein 15 Lakh rupees mile hain Anshumaan ki will ke mutabik. Inhein bahu ka hissa bhi chahiye.
Their family has turned officers sacrifice into a controversy!!!! Its not a choice, its is this very reason of ostracising the daughter in laws after the soldier or officer which we have seen after the death of our ppl that their next of kin is nominated as the wife…unfortunately the gallantry award and the hero have been made into a controversy.
Exactly
Exactly. Very shameful of parents.
Spouse is the only one who deserves everything. It is widow who lost every thing. Parents should be of generous heart towards a person who lost her husband and lost everything. It is sad that this parents are greedy towards money.
Western country ke laws copy karoge ‘Next to Kin’ to yahi problem hoga .
Indian ka social and family construct alag hain compare to western.
In India Parent give too much to children for their education, wedding , house etc .
Western countries mein most of children build their life on their own . So giving 100% next to kin spouse is okay .
But in India it should be distributed between spouse ,parents . At least when there is no kid or marriage is less than few years.
Exactly..they have each other as a couple ...she lost her love of her life ..they didnt even let her grieve and went to talk about this in media .
Is she going to continue as daughter in law and staying with their laws.
We are not living in that type of age anymore.
We are living in modern times, she will just start her new life.
I see in many cases.
Court see what women does and give favour to women.
But in this case, you are not talking about who contributed what.
It is just manipulation.
Parents contributing so much unconditionally to raise the children. They must also deserve something.
Go and watch full interview in Hindi. His father made appeal to Yogi Adityanath and wanted to donate of his(Anshuman's father) wealth to govt. and wanted to make a hospital or school on Anshuman's name. Moreover she(smriti) changed the Anshuman's personal address from his home town to her hometown without letting them know. It is not about money. His father just wanted to take the medal for some HOURS because he wanted to go in opening ceremony of Anshuman's statue in Lucknow. She flew away without talking to them. They are Anshuman's parents not his enemies.
They may not be Anshuman s enemies but they certainly are her enemy.
They are badmouthing her in public
They tried to marry her off to another son to grab her money not respecting her wishes or her grief.
They have recieved 50 percent of the insurance fund that is 50 lacs.
The father is an ex serviceman and recieves pension . He KNOWS wife is the person who has legal right to the Kirti Chakra, yet he is making a spectacle of this. If holding the Kirti charkra was the real issue, he would have sorted it out at the Unit level. It looks like he wanted to keep it with himself ( which he said in an interview) this event as an excuse to grab it.
No sound will come without clapping using both hands...won't believe the above, ashamed of his parents
In this case Capt Anshuman was married for only five months and she is 24 years old and at this age children are charting out their future and career most of the time struggling to have a bright stable future and thus so can Smriti,life has just begun for her like the children of our country just that she happens to be married for five months. Then comes the parents, who as it seems struggled their entire life to settle their son gave him their everything got him where he was until his death. In most cases the fallen soldiers leave behind a wife with growing children not financially settled and justified when all benefits goes to the wife and the in-laws also support the decision as grandchildren are involved but not in this case. Thats why the citizens of our country are commenting.
So you expect the wife to be a beggar....she has a life to lead and marriage is a choice of her own...parents have been shameless in maligning a veernari...
Although Smriti and Dr. Anushman were married for only five months, this does not diminish her rights or the depth of her relationship with him. Whether it’s a day or a decade , losing a loved one leaves a profound void in our lives. She has already mentioned about their relationship. His mother’s deep sorrow is understandable, but it shouldn’t serve as a justification for disrespecting his widow. So please don’t keep mentioning about “5 months”marriage.
@@deepakmakhija932 She's able bodied young and educated woman, therefore must fend for herself
While at the same time his parents are old, uneducated as per today's standards and lack stamina to go in the fields for 8 hours
For once stop your gynocentric approach and look with wide eyes!
@@deepakmakhija932they are not saying anything which belittle her but she took all the things related to him like they are memories for the parents ..for life but wife can remarry and will forget in some years ....this is the reality of society now
@@deepakmakhija932 you seem to be as shameless as the wife. She is not from a beggars family. She left off like she OWNED the kirti chakra. Ya your veer nari is so veer that she ran with the money and award.
Amma (Mother), its unfair if we go on either side. But, kindly, humbly and with utmost respect, I urge you to follow the protocol . Most importantly , you are THE Mother. He is proud son of the Nation . You dont need any picture or anything and we dont need to go public on such things. At the end you are remembered as Raja Matha of India and Capt. Anshuman Sing for eternity. Period. Smt Smriti has long and uncertain life ahead. Kindly do not make this big and make the great departed soul and his choices. 🙏🙏🙏
If the Mother wants financial assistance, we can come together and make sure she will live her life good.
As per law her husband nominated her in thr form.
She deserves kirti chakra+ pension
Painful to know about it.
Hope the issue will get resolved Amicably.
Captain Anshuman Singh's wife has lot of future ahead of her which needs Finanacial backup.
Parents need Monetary help during the fag end of their lives.
Hope this issue get reslved soon.
Entire nation is Greatful to Anshuman Singh's Parents and wife for his Sacrifice.
She is an educated young woman. She can earn n provide for herself.
Financial backup ?? She doesnt have anyone to support but herself. So the financial backup is only for her expenses.
@@Dua958 yes even her parents are too. If they have child I could understand. But now which backup she needs 😮😮😮?
@@Anime_Animation_Illustrationno child no money. One should be sanyasi according to you. I wish the parents follow the same, why not he give up his pension too because he lost his beloved son.
The father is a pensioner!!!! They have recieved half of the insurance fund (50 lacs) as per Anshuman s wishes
Being a male saying this, he wrote a will, so shut uppp, gige the wife what she deseves
They insult her daughter in-law infront of everyone by bringing this issue... they can solve between two families why they need to bring to media? Think about her how she feels of losing her dear husband...Shame parents...
Wife of the soldier has rights .
The soldier chose her wife .hence respect it .
In this matter stop triggering the problem into different terms
I have seen the same case.. girl was just married for 7 months...the boy was in the army...boy died at duty and girl got all money...she took the money and returned to her home ..and didn't gave a single penny to the boy's family...
I too have seen it.
Girls nowadays try to find escape route from serving, taking care of inlaws. Even i know a colleague, she's married and husband is alive but does not stay at husband's house. Instead stays at mothers home with her 5 yr old son, makes her mother take care of her son, getting ready for school, cooking etc. Lol. Very lazy girl.
Maybe the in laws didn't treat them well
@@rosekamei-mt5vxyes, that’s a possibility..
@@rosekamei-mt5vx Or maybe it was the wife who ran away!
Government benefits should be 50:50 as I too have observed the emotional and financial suffering of parents following the death of their army son. During this difficult time, the wife receives both sympathy and financial support from the government. Eventually, she also remarried.🙏
It is already 50 50
Award money was also divided
It is in newspapers
They are greedy, they want full money
Sometimes parents love for their son can turn in to hatred for their daughter in law!! Leave her alone!! The parents aren’t respecting the wishes of their son!
Absolutely. and 100 percent defence analysts said is Correct.
Well my mother is getting pension due to.my father's natural death 26 years ago,
She has to do her physical KYC and non marriage diclairation every year end to continue pension,
I know if this girl remarry she will loose her pension only, if she lie of remarrage and didnt indorsed her new surname then still she can fool the system, also what about all that money and medals, she will respect that medels if she remarry????,
I think this was foult of the solder who nominated his wife for full beneficiaries and not parents,
I know there is 50 % couse in nomination process so it was clear there sons decision to give all benifits to her.
Yes rules should be changed" wife can get remarried' she will get a job" what about parents...
What if she does not marry again dude as if it's easy to re marry 😂is marriage a joke ?
She dated him for 8 years remarriage is not going to be easy.
If your argument is that she can marry again. Then these parents have an other son to take care of them.
Will they give his share of inheritance to her is she shares the money?
that remarriage criteria is so injustice for the widow of army jawan. parents are not entitled if next of kin transferred to wife no matter she was married for 1 day or 25 years. Parents have been compensated. They honestly are being greedy about the benefits of their son's post demise. They probably want that job benefit to go to their daughter or their kids that's why they are doing all this.
Why are these parents giving news clips to every news channel?
The girls version is not there. Her father must have spent on her wedding,
reception , dowry,dresses,jewellary, house setting. She deserves 50 ,50. Its no garantee that she will get married. Again her father will have to spend same money on herwedding
The girl gave her youth to the man. Why cut her off ?
She will get married anyhow in today's world, all facts and factors must be reviewed 😅
@@SunilSoni-zh4woIf her in-laws had their way she would have already been married off to their younger son to grab her money. No surprise she has chosen not to be in touch with such toxic people.
@SunilSoni-zh4wo Who are we to judge and decide whether she'll remarry or not? At the end of the day, the late husband had nominated her, and yes, the wife gets the honor. She becomes the beneficiary as it was the martyr's choice. Whatever the problem may be, his parents need not bring their family dispute to the media and taunt the young widow of their son. But they did! Practically, a young wife losing her husband is definitely a greater loss than a parent losing one of their adult sons. Most don't realize that.
50:50 between wife and parents
80/20
10:90
Sasur gets his own pension here.
Soo sad to see them fighting over money. 😢
Yes some changes need to be made. Speaking in general, parents of the bravehearts who lost their child should not be left penniless. The wife & parents both should be considered dependants.
Yes we should give the sensitivity to his wife but doesn't she should be sensetive towards his husband's parents as well? First of all they are seniors the second thing is she is not communicating with them anymore! Parents and spouse both should have equal rights and we can't ignore this fact that their are chances that she may and should get remarry but his parents can not have second son anymore so, this is the time where family needs each other even more that's why she should not stop communicating with her in- laws! This is the time to cry together and support each other rather thn creating distance in between!
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Parents suggested widow marry her younger brother in law on hindi news channel
2. Army already divided money 50 50
A very very very good discussion on this extremely sensitive matter of fallen bravehearts or Shaheeds. Govt needs to take this matter seriously & change rules in accordance with evolution of society. Over-idealistic & overt feministic stands have to be done away with & practical approach needs to be implemented. Mam Meghna Girish Ji sums both sides of the coin & addresses the very key issue in which parents of Shaheeds r left away. Unnecessary vilification of Captain Anshuman Singh's parents is being done on SM just for speaking out loud on this issue of being left out, an issue which has been faced by many other Parents of fallen in the past but they couldn't speak it out loud or muster the courage. Maybe the current narrative also didn't allow for their issues to be addressed in the danger of being labelled 'backward' or regressive thinking. In cases where widows of Shaheeds who do get remarried the medal should be rightfully in the custody of his parents & same vice versa if the fallen happens to be female.
Both wife & the mother should be respected and shared his belongings
This case: Wife gets ! 5 months or 5 years doesn’t matter. If the spouse remarries, then the situation changes.
Be amicable & the money can be mutually divided. I have seen daughters in law taking care of in laws. Their difference with each other is internal issue. Family discords are a pain. Dignified approach required on both sides !
Overall- 14:44 to 15:44 agreed✔️
He think that she will take care of his parents, otherwise which child want their parents live without any benefit, if she will live with his family then its ok to get benefit from his service, otherwise she should submit everything to his parents.
God 👑. Atleast I found one good person in this comment who are thinking about parents.
They have other sons to take care of them
@@Playerone1287 so what ? She can move away with money great 😃 ideas
@@dishants197 are you dumb why should she live with his parents? The entitlememt and dumb logic! He married her! SHE is his freaking family as well! The case changes ONLY when she marries someone else.
Let's see if her helpless sweet mother in-law give her husband's assets to the husband's family.
His parents are well settled. Their greed just couldn't take it. On the same note the daughter in law could give a little of the money to her in laws as well.
Goes both ways.
Agreed, if you wanna enjoy the compensation of man you've at least got to take his responsibilities over your head!
If she wanna move on/remarry or do whatever else she want she should be free but at the same time get disentitled from compensation
It doesnt seem to be about the money. More about respect and recognition for the parents from the army and the daughter in law.
Such a shameful act in laws have done to come publicly . This is not disgrace to the lady also to the martyr. Atleast he should have thought of his son's sacrifice. Whatever was the case they should have not come in media. A huge respect to the veer naree she is already in deep sorrow and then must be seeing all these media reports and people's comments. She doesn't have anyone to listen to her....keeping all her pain and agony with herself.
Please people don't comment without knowing other side if the story.
Had this happen with there daughter then........
All this disgrace happened due to immature act of parents
PENSION
Parents 50% & wife 50%
(If wife remarries then 10%)
Medal - To solve the dispute it's better to put it in a public museum or in a trust
Councelling plus a default NOK setting
Unmarried - 100% parrents
Married with no kids - 50 - 50
Married with kids - 80% spouse, 20% parrents
Just like a will the soilder can change the default to any split as per his liking based on his family's financial conditions, and this decision should be respected.