The Vocation to Get Married - Does it Exist? Vocations Series #3 with Fr. McFarland
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Father McFarland always looks so well put together as do most of the SSPX priests and seminarians in Virginia - including our SSPX French priests here in South Africa. Makes one proud to be a faithful of the society, Thank you for all the series you put together with the priests Andrew - so informative and such a blessing!
I can see now why he is the vocations director 👍
The Sacrament of Matrimony is just SO beautiful.❤️
Thank you Fr. McFarland. Hope you can come back to Saint Peter and Saint Paul soon.
The contrast of 6 years of preparation for the priesthood with a few classes over a few months doesn't consider that for those raised by faithful Catholic parents in a stable marriage, their preparation spanned the whole time they lived with their parents. We learn more by example than by word. For those who didn't have have a good family example, much more is needed. So often that isn't taken into consideration with marriage prep that tends toward a "one size fits all" approach.
Yes, the example of good Catholic marriages is the best training for those entering into any state of life.
Well said. I was negatively prepared for marriage by my parents' intact but very dysfunctional marriage. My father treated my mother as a second-class citizen and he severely damaged the self-esteem of us children. My mother also did some damage in her own way. Relationships, romantic/marital and otherwise, were difficult to dysfunctional for all of us except one sibling. Only in my return to the Church after my divorce did I learn what marriage was supposed to be about, even more so after I found Tradition.
LIFE is the classroom. You can only provide so much preparation until it becomes redundant. Marriage is not for everybody who doesn't want to become a Priest or Religious. You want "Marriage prep?" See "Penny Serenade" starring Cary Grant and Irene Dunne.
You can show that you have actually learned something when you can say, regardless of what everyone else is saying, " I don't think that I can handle this and I would probably be better off staying single and so would everyone else concerned."
Best explanation of state of life/vocation/free-choice I’ve heard to date.
It looked like a horror movie to me when I tried it before, and I didn't even get married!
Thank you for this series.
It would be nice if you would have a podcast that touches in the role of secular third orders and how they are for the laity and non-religious clergy.
Great question! That would be a nice series, would love that for us secular Carmelites.
Clarifying and valuable guidance. Thank you Father.
Great episode as always. It help's to look more rationally on the topic.
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Thank you for the clarity, Father! God bless you
+JMJ+
I pray for family life for it should be the way for children to be formed for marriage or to pick to sacrifice it to spiritual family life. Even tho children do not have seminary education for their state like priest but I hear the stories of youth would see the gospel lived by their parents to see and be formed. Pray for holy families.
I wish I could finally live the vocation God planned for me...
The greatest saints, Mary & Joseph, were both married and lived a consecrated life. I would like to hear you talk about this vocation, the josephite marriage. There is also St. Edward the Confessor, St. Cunegundes, and St. Cecilia who are saints that chose continence/virginity while entering into marriage.
I absolutely understand what he's saying. Marriage is very scary because you don't know what you are going to get. You don't know if the person who you are marrying is actually a good person even after you have dated them for a few months. He could have hidden a serious character defect. He could also have chosen to show you only what you wanted to see, and then turn the cards and turn out to be unfaithful.
It is much easier to be single and celibate or to enter the religious life.
I chose to marry after having been accepted to the Religious life. I chose marriage because I was struggling with abstinence and was afraid that I would not be able to save my soul in the Religious life. I actually wish that I had packed my bags and gone to the convent. Marriage is very scary and I actually can't say that I have done well with marriage.
To think about what people call single life is more what I think used to refer to consecrated state of life and third order religious life. Just like St. Rosa de Lima. Just seems like so many third orders secular and regular, ppl are not open to or do not know about because they been so lost and modernized.
What if the desire/goal for discerning+entering Consecrated Religious Life is rooted in the desire to live this life as closely as possible to what our relationship to God in Heaven will be / is said to become? Despite alleged "impediments" (which is centered more in the superior or community than the individual) is that still a valid reasoning?
If it is ever "forgotten" (human nature being what it is), or if there are other "reasons" said, does that invalidate or deny the existence of that reason?
I love the music/score at the beginning and end of this conference series. Could someone provide the name and composer of this song?
Me too.
I'm looking for it also
6:10 What if they are both Baptised in the Catholic Church, but neither was raised in the faith, and one became an atheist and the other one agnostic. They lived together and married only civilly because of unplanned pregnancy. Then, after a few years, agnostic one converted back to Catholicism. Is their marriage elevated to the Sacramental status since they are both Baptized?
If they were baptized in the Catholic church, then they cannot marry validly in a registry office. So, no it does not become a sacrament until they have their marriage witnessed by a priest. If you know someone in this situation and they are interested in rectifying their marital status, I suggest you direct them to their parish priest. It is very possible for them to sort their situation out and have a sacramental marriage, but it will involve talking to the priest about the next step.
One question: in times of crisis, communism, war... is it fair to marry or seek marriage? as it is difficult to have/take care of a large family. Or, in that case, should you not seek marriage?
Thanks you. Just a little mistake. There was 4 millions more women than men in France after World War One (Not Two).
+JMJ+
Thank you, again, for these wonderful videos you produce. By the way, traditional Catholic or rather, Catholic gentlemen do not wear a wedding ring. The lady wears a wedding ring but the gentleman doesn't. I think that gentlemen started to wear wedding rings in the 1960s in the Catholic Church......Modernism again!
My father is an atheist and he does not wear a ring. He was married in a C of E church in Huddersfield in 1958 aged 23 and it was normal to marry in a church building then and the lady was the person to be given a ring by the groom/gentleman. All the married gentlemen at our SSPX chapel in Manchester UK do not war a wedding ring even if they got married after the 1960s! They are Catholic.
Marriage is fascinating as an historical subject. I think in Britain before the Reformation/Revolution, 80% of people would get married but the ceremony was basic, short, simple and cheap in cost!
I read that the ring used to be worn on the L hand.
The Church used to be the place to go for
Midwife,
Baptism,
Weddings,
Funerals,
Hospital,
Library,
School,
Art gallery,
Shelter.
Today....it is rather different.
Mrs Darley, SSPX choir, Manch, UK
May you be blessed by Almighty God.
Interesting. I heard two conflicting things about catholic men and wedding rings....that 1) The Catholic Church decreed that they be worn by both the man and the woman during the 1300s and for 500 years was the only religion requiring this of men 2) That wedding rings, at least in America, started being worn by men (including non catholic men) during World War II as another way to feel close to their wives while away at war. Neither of those cases involves Modernism. It may just be a UK custom that men don't wear wedding rings-if it's true that the Catholic Church decreed that they be worn, perhaps the custom started in the UK as a way to distance themselves from "catholic popery". All the traditional catholic men in our SSPX parish (and the ones I've attended over my lifetime-I was raised in Tradition and the SSPX) wear wedding rings. But I'm American, and so this sounds like perhaps it's a custom based upon country vs a religious, catholic-specific custom. As for the left hand, in America everyone, male or female, wears wedding rings on the left hand. I think the only people that don't are Orthodox Jews and Muslims (who don't wear wedding rings at all I believe).
I'm single and feel like I'm in limbo...🙄🥴
Pray the Rosary DAILY and ask for discernment and prudence. Your "feelings" come and go, change and should NOT rule your life. It is a sad fact that we are now collectively being chastised for the prevalent sins of heresy, blasphemy and impurity. (Look up Our Lady of Good Success, Quito, Ecuador) Finding a good spouse is a blessing, not an entitlement. I think that due to current conditions, cultural decay, rampant debauchery and unrest, that many men and women of marriageable age will be deprived of finding a suitable mate. I can assure you that having an active prayer life will help you immeasurably and you MUST start praying the Rosary DAILY. Look up the fifteen promises of the Rosary.
Mhmm, that is a loaded question. Clearly, God intended mankind to procreate, but did not create marriage. Mankind did, and primarily for legal not spiritual reasons. God also provides inalienable rights. Freedom to choose a different path. Interwoven into society's tapestry of cultural rites and rituals, I say, "yes." Some are called to marriage, but not all, and therein lies the problem. Society is a mess because many who marry and/or procreate should not; Immoral, confused, mentally ill, incapable, unworthy. Like false prophets they anoint themselves. Cannot build a strong society on a weak foundation raise moral children in a broken world. So, there's that.