Honorable Courtship: The Way to a Happy Marriage | Fr. Isaac Mary Relyea
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- The importance of properly discerning one’s vocation; and subsequently, for those called to the married state, the importance of a pure period of discerning a proper spouse as the first essential step to realizing that vocation.
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For all these years of not having "found a girlfriend" I thought there was something wrong with me. Now I realise the immense grace of God, which kept me from falling into grave sin. God be praised!
God bless you for this difficult but much needed conference talk, Father!
my favorite priest, Father Isaac . Thank you Fatima center
This talk is life changing.
Lots of discernment needed...
Sending this to my children... all who have stopped going to MASS since college
Hope your children watch it.
Thank God I watched this video.. It gave me much clarity to what courtship is about before getting married. Thanks Fr. Isaac :)
So many young men nowadays don't know the meaning of honor and chivalry. This talk is priceless. Thank you Father Isaac for guiding these kids in the right direction.
Careful with the chivalry part. Its origin is in the late medieval period, where its intention was to ridicule Christian sexual morality. Or ridicule weak men who compensated by pedestalizing women. The more painful it was for a man to court another man's wife, the more dirt and humiliation he went through, the more chivalrous he was considered to be in these stories.
@@seriouscat2231 either you got the cowboy in you, or you don't.
@@eddietozzi5682, that's just another mythical figure in this context.
@@seriouscat2231hopefully you read this but I recently discovered the truth on chivalry and the sinful practice of “courtly love”. I was trying to share with some friends at a TLM parish but they where not receptive. Do you have any recommendations on where I can find more information on the twisted concept of romantic chivalry?
I love this man! Such a beautiful priest! Thank you Fr.!
I need a talk/preaching like this for my three young adult children. Especially that I am far away from them, I don't have that much eloquence to explain for them something like this. But I am constantly reminding them that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19), on how we are supposed to respect each other's lives especially our own bodies.
I am a Filipina mom, working here in Hong Kong.
Thank you so much father for this great preaching of yours, God bless always! 🙏❤
You are loved and cherished, true to the game, among the darkness of religious negligence you glow in the dark. Your lamp is Bright and you got the lamp oil. I can literally see/feel your radiance from the other side of the earth. I dwell in the
the Southern States of America,
@@eddietozzi5682 Amen 🙏
Wow! I just got back from giving flowers and chocolates to a lady I want to court, funny thing that when i was giving her the flowers my alarm went off on my phone to let me know it was time to say the Angelus and now i get home and i see this. Awesome! God bless you Father Isaac.
Alejandro God bless you for trying to be romantic the right way lucky girl 🙏☺️
Alejandro please update us! Will pray for you meeting a devout wife who helps you to go to heaven.
@@danialezero93 it didn't work out but I gave it a shot.
Awesome priest, God bless you Fr!
May Our Lord and Our Lady shower graces upon grace for the eventual sainthood of Fr. Isaac!!!
Thank you Fr. Isaac! May God continue to bless you and the Fatima Center.
Thank you Father Isaac
May God continue to bless you and keep you holy & pure
You are a powerful witness to His love & saving grace
I'm just a fourteen year old girl whose trying to decide my vocation. I think about being a Sister sometimes, but I yearn for children and a husband one day. I want to be a mother when I grow up more then anything else in the world. But at the same time, I look at convent life and I question. Maybe one day I'll know.
Anyhow, Viva Crsto Rey!
Amazing teaching wow I wish I would of heard a teaching like this since 1996 I would of cause less trouble 🙏😀🙏🙏 I could help my kids do better at least 🙏🙏 txxx father
Father Isaac is the best! I learn so much from him every time he speaks. God Bless!
God bless u Fr isacc thank u for ur Spiritual works
Thank you, Fr. Relyea. Great talk. Wish that I would've heard this MANY TIMES in my high school years. We're sheep; repetition is important.
A teaching as to what happens when hard times/infidelity- hits a marriage and how one stays together with the Grace from God will be good for the viewers. Too many people are divorcing. Thank you for your content. Father Gruner and John Vennari are so happy, I am sure.
beautiful presentation....finding a good catholic spouse now is like finding a needle in a haystack.
Thank you for your message, Father Isaac. I recently "discovered" your show on You Tube. When the Holy Spirit brings you to mind, I pray for you. God bless.
👩💻🗯"Father Isaac Mary Relyea, I am happy and grateful you are,who you are and I feel BLESSED". ALL,of your videos are such a BLESSING to this world. Thank you for being who you are,thank you❣🙏😇😊
This is one of, if not *the* best Catholic talk on courtship. I am so incredibly grateful. Some things to take from it and learn from going forward in my own courtship, both things we are doing well and areas to improve. Thank you, Father!! May God bless you. I will pray for you and your ministry - please pray for God’s will to be done in my life.
Thank you so much for this. Please post more of this priest!
Father your an amazing blessing to our faith thank you for your great talks. We need more priest like you. GOD bless you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank God for Fr Isaac. God bless you, Father.
Fr isaac is correct about marriage, he is real priest GOD bless him we need more such priest!
Great great theology and catechesis. 26:45
Beautiful! Your truth and wisdom is so refreshing, especially from a man with a great voice so easy to listen to. Thank you Father.
I honestly felt somewhat of a pang of shame and disappointment when he mentioned that you may find out that the husband spent 5 years in prison for homicide. I did. I did 6 years actually, for manslaughter. I was intoxicated and on drugs, and 19, and I was hit first and I blacked out. I called 911 and tried to save them.
I made up my mind to give my life to God ever since. I’ve studied all faiths for 12 years and I, although already being baptized Catholic, am not yet confirmed, but will be in 2020. I went to my first confession Nov 2, and I am truly trying to be a saint.
I understand that the context likely was in the case of a murderer or something, or maybe not. I don’t know.
Either way, the video was great.
God bless
We all did stupid things when we were young. The point is not to continue doing stupid things as we grow older for we should be growing wiser. God bless you and may you find inner peace.
Pea Stone Thank you, and God bless you as well.
I’m trying!
@@itsnotallrainbowsandunicor1505 homicide is a little more serious than “doing stupid things when we’re young.”
@@lilyw.719 people can make mistakes and change.
I think his point was asking hard questions needs to be part of the process and one need not conceal that which may cause the other party to enter without informed consent.
Ask me after ruining my own life by hurting the one I should have protected...😢
so I have already lost the game, the war, and life... to hear this near the end of life is enough to cause one to go into a deep despair and despondency... glad these young kids get this information now so that they can't make the same kinds of mistakes...
So long as we are in this life, it is never too late to begin to love and serve Our Lord properly. Let's thank Him for preserving us in this world through all of those dark years so that we could at last find space for repentance. God bless you.
Patricia, unfortunately how many people when young even if they had listened to such advice would have heeded it. Hindsight is always 20/20. It's easy to beat ourselves up, but we must remember it's the devil that likes to beat us up and send us into despair. A lot of us, including myself need to move away from the past. I could have, should have.....doesn't really solve anything.
Do not despair that is a trick of the devil. Go to confession and receive communion. Pray for hope.
Thanks Father Isaac.
I Pray that CJ in West Virginia finds and hears this. And many like him in heart a Good Man but still (as us all) in need of Prayer.
God be with us.
An amazing speach. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
She is our Mother.
Father, I’m on plan Q 😛 Can’t get married when no one is interested, especially as a woman. I’ve never wanted or felt called to anything other than marriage, the idea of dying alone, neither husband nor children, terrifies me, but if no man is interested, there’s not a thing I can do about it. I’m a woman-initiating anything is off the table, and at 35, men who CAN form holy, healthy marriages already HAVE, often a decade ago.
Trust me, if you're single. It's because your angel is keeping you single until a proper spouse is sent to you. Trust in God, be grateful your angel is keeping reprobates away from your doorstep.
I totally understand I am right there with you and I have so many friends that can relate to this as well. I am going on 57 years old and I've never been married. I have had some opportunities to marry but I'm glad I didn't marry any one of those men as it turned out God was truly protecting me. However no good Catholic man ever presented himself to me that was marriage material. The ones that I did know that I would have thought would have been good marriage candidates we're not at all interested in me for whatever reason. And I did focus on making myself a good candidate for marriage. Now at 56 I can't see getting married and I'm not pursuing it. If God wants it to happen he will have to drop the man into my lap literally.
KMF I’m short enough that, if he literally falls into my lap, it’s probably going to break his spine 😜 And when I say no one, I mean NO ONE, decent or reprobate.
@@ChiakiNanami736 LOL 😂😢🤔
Far better, my dear, to be single than to be trapped in a bad marriage. Often what we see on the outside to be good (I.e. a nice presentable potential husband) conceals a bad interior
I wish they would teach this in CCD right in preparation for confirmation.
We have children confirmed when they’re receiving first communion at the age of 7 or 8, sometimes a diocese will push confirmation until the age of 9 or 10. Seems a bit young.
Fantastic!
AWESOME
My father left me at 2 yrs old but my mom remarried to a mexican who was catholic and he made sure I was catholic. I consider my Heavenly Father is my Father and my step dad my St. Joseph doesnt mean I'm making my marriage hell because God turns broken things into mosaics of grace.
Pray for our priests and the souls in purgatory
Hard to listen to but truth typically sits that way...
Amen. Now, another point to remember.... Just because he or she is Catholic they have to be practicing. If they are not it's going to be hard. I know about this already. I'm sure there's some exceptions..
Wonderful Talk Fr. Issac 🙏 🤲 🕍
All you who write comments that you missed out, that at 35 you want marriage but you can find no one. Well, the time we live in is especially difficult to find someone. But did you hear this priest about Plan B? It may be you, many of us, must live a single life and do the work of God that this sinful world so very much needs. Afraid to age and be alone? Imagine you do marry but your husband dies early and there you are. Alone is tough but there still is Plan B. Calmly, in God's grace, working with people, and helping people, and making friends who become your family. Called to marriage but can't find anyone? Continue socializing only with committed Catholics. Get to know that guy you may be overlooking. If time passes and you still cannot find someone, the world is in desperate need of workers in his vineyard.
Michael W, agree with you. It is now very difficult to find a committed Catholic for a husband because most are already taken. God must have other plans for those Catholics in Blessed Singleness like myself. The world has already let loose false information and blurred that demarcation line between the truth and lies and many people are confused. What was clearly sinful and bad are now sugar-coated with justifications and half-truths, and many people have fallen from grace.
Adultery, for example, seemed a prevalent norm in groups of men with a machismo mentality. My own father committed Adultery, such a grievous sin that my mother suffered so much, the sadness and despair I see in her eyes and her mental breakdown is so hard to witness as a child that even when I reached adulthood, it placed an indelible mark in my heart. My mother died of an illness in 2016. I will now stop going into details, but to cut the story short, I forgive him for my own peace of mind, but I may never forget, and it is really hard to forget because the fruits of his sins are there constantly present. He is now a very old man, kept some legal matters like real estate, etc., to himself, that I wonder what situation we will be in, his children, during his funeral? I pray that God protects us, me and my six siblings plus two other half siblings, from harm. That we will be free from the curse that my father started. That we will always be graced by God's Presence for the rest of our lives. I was born in the month of the Rosary, and my mother named me after that month, and because of this, I feel I must always strive to pray the rosary everyday and ask for the intercession of our Holy Mother, the ever Blessed, and ask that my father's soul be spared. I love my father and will always do.
Sheila Rosari, pretty name and a name easy to remember in prayer. I assure you, Sheila, you are now in my prayers.
The Celibate life is the more perfect life.
Guess I need to get used to not having a vocation. Just turned 39 and I go to a TLM. So far, no prospects. I wanted to become a nun but God turned me away from that. I felt thrown towards marriage but where are the faithful men? They’re either married or there’s just no one.
@@sheilatuano9633 God bless you, what a wonderful daughter you are.
This is fantastic a bit far too long. I really enjoyed the second half. Would really love to have my adult children be able to listen to just that part to understand how to be prepared for marriage.
What happens when you come to know the faith later in life? How can you properly discern??
Monsignor Perez made my Baptist Girlfriend cry for speaking the truth that if she doesn't convert, she will go to hell. No tradition by him....which I wish he would have. I'm at peace knowing the TRUTH was told.
Dear Fatima Centre, may we know where you purchased your beautiful Our Lady of Fatima statue from?
Thank you for this question. The statue, made of carved wood, is a rare National Pilgrim Virgin Statue of Our Lady of Fatima, one of the 25 statues personally blessed by Pope Paul VI on May 13, 1967, while he was in Fatima for the 50th anniversary celebration.
Father Gruner was instrumental in bringing this particular statue into Canada, and it has been entrusted to The Fatima Center since 1977, accompanying us to all of our conferences and rallies in which we have tried to make the Fatima Message properly understood and acted upon.
Father Gruner considered the statue to be miraculous, noting that at various times it had given off perfumed aromas and changed its facial expression.
An interesting example of Our Lady’s love and solicitude for those who honor Her sacred images occurred on one of Father’s visits to India, when thousands of people had gathered to follow our Pilgrim Virgin statue in procession. The region was then suffering a sever drought, and there was very little drinking and washing water available. Also because of the drought, the path used for the procession was terribly dry, and a great deal of dust was being stirred up by the steps of those in the procession. Out of reverence for Our Lady, some of the villagers began to go along ahead of the statue, pouring water (the little they had) on the path, to prevent the statue from being soiled. Shortly afterward, the months-long drought was broken by a tremendous downpour -- just, however, in that village, whose people had been so generous toward Our Lady with the little water which they had!
What if you prayed and discerned a vocation to marriage but never found someone to marry and now it's too late.
That is a very common cross in our time. We suggest that you dedicate yourself to serving Our Lord in whatever ways He opens for you -- perhaps in devoting extra time to prayer and study in a Third Order; perhaps in doing all you can to support your siblings' marriages; or perhaps in giving your parents the support and care they will increasingly need toward the end of their lives. God bless you.
You are still alive, it is truly never too late🙏📿✝️
@@VoteTrumpagain LOL yes I know. But it really is too late for me. I'm sorry I do not want to be that elderly person that gets married for the first time. So in less God wants to completely drop this person into my lap and absolutely commands me to marry him it's not going to happen.
@@KMF3 There are a number of elderly that do get married. Despite being past child bearing age....a sensitive topic...... both of you can spiritually support each other and increase in virtue. One of the things in marriage is to help each other get to heaven. Perhaps being married with a spouse God has sent you is you can be a beacon of light too other marriages that are struggling, as well as to those who are thinking of marriage. Too marriages that struggle? Yes, you think that a couple would listen to a single woman about marital advice? Pie in your face reply would be outcome. I have met several elderly who loved each other. What a tremendous grace. They had so much peace between themselves. It was like a little part of heaven on Earth.......and in this dog eat dog world that is a welcome sight.
@@itsnotallrainbowsandunicor1505 well it is totally in God's hands
Court-ship
Questions: what leads (reason for a Court?)
Define: Ship.
Only until all parties agree upon in accordance with the Lord may the "ship" be Christianed and sail.
Where do you buy this version of the Baltimore Catechism?
Minute marker, please?
@@TheFatimaCenter 51:09
@@amendez6358 Father Relyea is citing the 1891 text by Fr. Thomas L. Kinkead, "An Explanation of the Baltimore Catechism of Christian Doctrine for the Use of Sunday-School Teachers and Advanced Classes" (also known as the Baltimore Catechism #4 in later printings). Many new and used copies are available for sale. The text can also be found online in numerous places, including the Nazareth Master Catechism site mentioned by Father Relyea. God bless you.
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Is there a book mentioned by Fr. Isaac in this video or other videos that he mentioned are beneficial for discerning one's vocation or whether or not they are called to the priesthood. I feel like he mentioned reading it himself when he was young. Would appreciate any help!!
Yes, at 11:30 Father mentions St. Alphonsus Liguori's treatise on the "Choice of a State of Life" contained in his book, "The Great Means of Salvation and Perfection." As Father mentions, it can be found online (under various titles). bit.ly/2SGkJeU
Fr, thank you for this teaching. I have a question. What do I say to women divorced and wants to go back to church? How do they start again? Or friends who are LGBT, how do i minister to them? Thank you!
Thank you for your questions which we will submit to Father Relyea. In the meantime, in regard to fallen-away Catholics, their first step back toward the Church is contrition and purpose of amendment. By praying for these persons' conversion and by encouraging them toward these dispositions, you would do them a great service. The next step of course would be a sacramental Confession and resuming the practice of the Faith. God bless you.
Why does he say save yourself? Obviously I can't. And I fail everyday .
It's an expression, we don't save ourselves it's Jesus who saves us when we accept him
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What is mental prayer
Thank you for your question. Mental prayer in general is contrasted to vocal prayer, which consists in the recitation of formalized (usually written) prayers. More strictly speaking, mental prayer may be either meditation or contemplation, as one’s thoughts proceed according to a plan or spontaneously. The resources listed below may be useful in learning more about this essential form of prayer, which Our Lady of Fatima specifically asks of us in our daily Rosaries and our monthly First Saturday devotions. God bless you.
Father Albert Kallio, "Mental Prayer and the Five First Saturdays"
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Fr. Michael Rodriguez has several talks on mental prayer
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Father Philip Wolfe, "Carmelie Mental Prayer"
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A wonderful book that we recommend on the subject is "Difficulties in Mental Prayer" by Fr. Eugene Boylan. We also find an online article of the same title which you may find helpful. www.ourcatholicprayers.com/Difficulties-in-mental-prayer.html
Fr Mueller's classic text on prayer includes a brief chapter on mediation. sensusfidelium.us/meditations/fr-michael-muller/prayer-the-key-to-salvation-fr-michael-muller/chapter-xi-on-the-practice-of-meditation/
@@TheFatimaCenter Thank you very much …
I would like Fr Issac to tell us where in Pope Francis Amoris Laetitia it says people in adulterous situations is pleasing to God. I can not find that anywhere in the document. Perhaps I'm missing something?
Chapter 8, specifically paragraphs 291 and *298.* But the most obvious example is paragraph 305, which begins on page 236 of the .pdf below. It states,
"Because of forms of conditioning and mitigating factors, it is possible that _in an objective situation of sin_ - which may not be subjectively culpable, or fully such - _a person can be living in God’s grace,_ can love and can also grow in the life of grace and charity, while receiving the Church’s help to this end." (emphasis mine)
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Kiotee Nouw Look at how the South American conferences of Bishops interpreted the infamous footnote. Francis had their heretical interpretations entered into the AAS. Father’s not off-base on that.
@@ChiakiNanami736 Precisely, thank you. Mr. Ferrara has also written about this subject in a number of his Fatima Perspective articles.
archive.fatima.org/perspectives/fe/perspective853.asp
archive.fatima.org/perspectives/fe/perspective854.asp
archive.fatima.org/perspectives/fe/perspective855.asp
36 minutes no discussion whatsoever about courtship. not sure if he ever even talked about it!
He does just get to the 40 minute mark
The Holy Ghost??
Fr. That's quite a talk but from what you preach I don't believe many souls of this day and age will enter Heaven . Everything u say is true but if two people come close to what u say they'll have to be a saint . And if we're living the THIRD SECRET OF FATIMA , few souls will enter heaven because God restricts His Sacraments to a few ,, only the one's with the true traditional CATHOLIC FAITH will be saved ..I hope I'm wrong but in the world today good is bad And Bad is good . Just look at the government & the VATICAN there in concert together .SAD.
you cant be completely debt free in your twenties, there is going to be a mortgage no matter what
This is aimed at reckless credit card spending, buying an unnecessarily pricey car, having unnecessary debt.
Please fix the Mike!!!!!! I so want to listen to this but the sound is a bit like chalk on a blackboard.
Catholic priests giving advice on marriage.
That's like me giving advice on how to give birth. Why do you think you find Orthodox priests working at Catholic schools as teachers?
Because the monks know no teen boy will listen to them about anything regarding women.
Priests didn't fall out of the sky, they grew up in families. Also, those priests are married too...the Bride of Christ...so they know what true sacrifice and love looks like. God bless~
In the structure of the Church, it is the duty of clerics to teach every means of the faithful life. I'm referring this from Catechism of St Pope Pius X, one of the book he mentioned.
So, he is obliged to teach about marriage to his flock on the views of the Church.
Why do the Orthodox only choose Bishops from Celibate Monks, and not their wonderful and worldly married Priests? So are your Orthodox Celibate Bishops unable to give advice to married couples? Complete nonsense
@@Requiescat_in_pace Many give wonderful advice. The best usually coming from Bishops who are widowers. Besides, Laity don't usually have bishops as their confessors and Spiritual Fathers.
Thank you so much, Fr. Relyea!
Thank you for your priesthood!