I'm 79, a widow, my husband was a disabled veteran. I was his caregiver for 10 years out of the 35 years we were together. Now that I'm alone, I'm enjoying the solitude. I garden, do a little charity work. What I really hate is people that feel because I live alone, I must be lonesome and they want to constantly visit me. No, I'm not lonesome. I have a house to take care of, I have hobbies, I like to read, sit on my terrace and enjoy my beautiful flowers because I love to garden. Sometimes I like sitting quietly and just watch the birds in my birdbath, or take my coffee out on my terrace and enjoy my beautiful flowers. I worked my entire life for an airline, I lived in NYC, so I had constant people around me my entire life. Now, I like being alone and I don't care how weird people think I am. I don't drink, I don't overeat, I don't do doctors and I don't own a cellphone and I manage to live and breathe. I have a few years left, if that, and I'm going to do what I want to do with those years, not what other people think I should do.
Hm. Well, I do get lonely but many are too busy or too self-involved to want to visit. Also, I don't text and that throws a lot of people off. Many can't handle doing phone calls. I do really admire the fact you don't have a cell phone. Many I know couldn't survive without their phone.
Just let people know if you're ok, because maybe one day you fall, can't stand up, could died alone. Neighbors realize the smell when you pass away 7 days ago. It's sad.
I am 74, live in SE Florida, no close friends or family, no responsibility for the first time in decades. Love the isolation. Surrounded by books and devices. So much to learn!
What a beautiful way to live! Your peace and independence are truly inspiring. It sounds like you’ve created a wonderful balance of activities that bring joy and fulfillment. Wishing you continued happiness and tranquility in all that you do!
i have to make a humorous reply here ; my two sons used to get a kick outof this 85-ishyear old man who lived in our neck of the woods . he drove , but not very well , yet his front license plate said " jesus is my copilot " . my sons used to swear and be damned that jebus hopped out at the last intersection .
It’s comforting to know that God is always watching over us, especially those who feel alone. Blessings to all seniors living by themselves-they are never truly alone
After my husband passed away, I decided to live alone instead of living with our children. It was my decision but never regretted it.Everyday is a blissful day, I enjoyed gardening,planting flowers and fruits. I stop watching tv,instead the garden is my oasis. From time to time my children will call and asked if I'm okay. Neighbors sometimes dropped by and spent a minute of conversation. I also enjoyed trying different recipes but cut down the measurements to one person. Loneliness never struck me, since 24 hours is not enough to realize all what I wanted to do which you can only accomplish not taking care of another person. My life revolve around reading books, Bible, and prayers, and most of all trying to eat nutritious food and be healthy.
I live just the way you do and I love it. Sure I miss my husband but life goes on. living alone is good I can decide what I want to do at any time. I watch my health and eat properly. I write everything on my calendar so I don't forget and thank God every morning for the life I have.
I agree with this but would like to add. If I do have a problem such as at the moment I have a legal battle - I do every appropriate action I can and once done, knowing that I have done everything possible, I relax and stop thinking about it.
I also have, at 76, learned not to worry about much of anything. I do what I can and leave the rest to God. My faith is what gets me through everything. 😊
@@cathiemcginnis3997 Like you dear older sister, I adopted the don't worry "about much of anything" starting age 55. I don't worry about my wife, our 3 adult kids, grand kids,,. Visiting son in Texas I decided to run an errand with my granddaughter and her freshly obtained drivers permit. Driving with cell on her lap, I attempted to share with her the wrongness of such practice. After ridicule of my old 65-year- old way of thinking, I requested she pull over and I continued on foot to Target. Boy Texas blocks are long but was good exercise.
Great overview! Thank you. I would add one more: Be careful of who you let into your life. As a 72-year-old disabled cancer survivor I needed some support on a physical and emotional level. I enlisted the help of a "friend" who over a short time managed to weasel several thousand dollars out of me. My sense of betrayal, sadness and depression regarding the human condition, and my shame at falling for his multiple cons far outweighed the monetary loss. I would say to the elderly: be extra cautious -- you are viewed as a target by the predators in our society.
@@lesd1051 I'm OK now, but it took me awhile to shake it off (about 6 months). Finally had to let it go. Actually, probably a better man for the experience -- having to surrender to transcend.
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and important reminder. I’m so sorry you had to experience that betrayal, especially when you were seeking support during a vulnerable time. It’s devastating how some people take advantage of others' kindness and trust. Your advice is invaluable-staying cautious and protecting ourselves is essential, especially as we age. I hope you’ve found a sense of peace and strength moving forward. Wishing you continued healing and all the support and kindness you truly deserve. Stay strong! 🌟💖
I am 95 yrs. old. Female. I love being alone. Very independent. Stay busy. Never bored. Grateful. Minimist. Only need basics. Constantly decluttering. 💗
I'm 74 and live in clutter. I have a whole shelf full of record albums, I have a bookcase of movies and TV shows, I have over a thousand books, most of which I have read -- several times each. I have 11 cats I call my little monsters. I am taking a writing course and an art course. I also have a household of furniture I hauled home from garage sales or the side if the road. I restore antiques and plan on restoring some modern furniture that I have. I NEVER get bored. I have done volunteer work -- taught a literacy class at the jail and then at a school for pregnant teens. I do not want to go to Heaven because, as far as I am concerned, Heaven is right here and now. So take your silly advice and stuff it where the sun doesn't shine!! LOL!!
For years now, I’ve made a habit of going out to the coffee shop with a book. Great for people watching! Today, the lady behind the counter greeted me by name. Can’t tell you what a boost that was to my day! She earned a tip for sure.
I am 77 and live alone since my wife passed two years ago. Your comments were helpful. Thank you. Finances are well managed. I am a retired accountant. I have joined a retirees group to help with loneliness. I employ a good yardman to look after the lawn and some gardening. My kids have promised to look through my wife's stuff and take what they want. 2 years later it is yet to happen. I rarely see them. But I really do need to declutter the home in several places. A community support group comes each fortnight to help clean the home. I usually walk 14,000 steps most days. I cared for my wife with MS for 26 years. She wasn't able to ambulate for the last 15 years. It was a very big job. I had a heart attack and pneumonia as a result but I am keeping very well now.
Your adult children may be avoiding looking at your wife's belongings as part of not accepting her passing. You can give them a date by which this must be completed, or you'll need to make other arrangements. I understand, caregiving truly is a big job. After I became a widow, I was glad to pass on my husband's clothing, coats and things, so someone who needed them could put them to use. Of course, I'll always keep some of his belongings as sentimental, but knowing someone who was cold now has a coat matters, and would have pleased him. Take care. PS My oldest living sister recently entered a nursing home, as she needs 24/7 professional nursing care. I learned some of the residents did not have basic clothing. It was not difficult to collect proper clothing, in fine condition, in various sizes so these folks could have basics.
If you are reading this, I want to tell you that everything will be fine. You are incredible, you are unique, you can face anything in your life, you have the strength within yourself to overcome any obstacle, loss, or situation. You are not alone, you are loved, you have the right to feel bad and good, you have the right to feel. Be blessed by these positive vibes and live your life to the fullest. I am sending my love to the universe so that I can reach you
Thank you for this utube program. I am 77yrs old and live with my son and his family. All the things you share are so true. My church family has helped me keep in community. But I do like being alone and just being in the moment, resting and listening to God's Word. Thanks again.
I married when i was 22...from mom i went to husband...x 43 years till he passed...14 years ago...i live alone for my first time in my life and i love the freedom , indepence , doing whatever i want ( my husband was a ver good man who push me to be free)..i clean my house , cook my meals ,do laundry , etc ,etc...i love all this also i don't have any problem in going to restaurants by myself , im planning to start painting again.... lonely. ?? , yes ..!!! Sometimes i miss the great conversations with my hubby...is very hard to find people who are very stimulating nowadays...but i realize how lucky im to had found a man that showed me how to be free and independent...❤❤
Just before I turned seventy, I moved to 32 acres that my son bought for me. I have no tV (but am glued to youTube. I have no washer, dryer, or dishwasher. I lived in the house at first but found it wasn't built to release heat in summer so I started renovating a delapidated cabin. My neighbor restored the missing floor that had rotted out. From a shed we found all sorts of insulated windows all free. I restored the walls. (this is all over the last ten years) I studded up and built three walls from scratch. My young grandchildren got to paint the walls after the insulation was in, then I put the walls up. When I hit a snag along the way, I'd get a contractor, to put in plumbing electricity, The bathtub was $88 , a stock tank. A room had to be torn down, I didn't do that but have used the material in all sorts of other things. Like building a screened in porch. A year ago August I wanted the room back. The contractor did the whole room after my grandchildren and I prepainted and stained all the material I had ready for him and his helper. My son wanted me out of the house as the steps to the basement where the bedrooms are were too steep for an aging lady. During this time I had lots of kidney stone surgery, breast cancer surgery. My son lives six hours away. My neighbors believe only Fox and News Max. I have two riding mowers to keep the growth down. Most of my stuff is electric now, no hauling gas. When I get to sit down, here I am. Never, ever lonely. Cats show up. I care for them all. Working on number 13 now. Big party of blue friends a week ago planned by my son on my 80th birthday. Planted trees, ordering more raspberriy busshes. All my books are on Kindle so the world of books is my oyster. I just don't have time to get lonely. Oh, I pay the taxes, the insurance, the generator, all the repairs. that was my agreement with my son.
Ooh my gosh you are so independent girl I am almost seventy and living on a income in my own home .I wish I could have moved to the country side with my pets an my plants .I have very good to myself health wise an otherwise. You do enjoy your space I do enjoy mines 😅❤❤❤God Bless 🙌 You always 💖
All of these suggestions are vital. I live in small apartment with thin walls. I love it that all I need to do is ask for help and my neighbors are there!
I grew up as the youngest from a large family but I was always alone with my books. For my sisters I was too young, for my brothers I wasn't a boy. Then i married young and had children and wish to be alone sometimes 😅my husband and I started having marriage problems and that was terrible, to live with someone and still be lonely 😢after our divorce i meet someone else and after our separation, I live alone and I am enjoying it. First time that I have my own place. I moved from my mom's house to our house with my husband, after my divorce i still had children with me. Then I had a boyfriend and we moved in together. Now I am retired and at peace. My children and my grandchildren visited me, but they seem to be more concern about me living alone than I do. Accidents can happen if you are alone or not. I hope that i will be able to do things on my own as long as possible ❤
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. It’s heartwarming to see such positivity shared-it serves as a reminder that life’s challenges can be met with strength and thoughtful choices. I hope that message provides inspiration to others who may be navigating similar experiences. 🌟💙
I am very grateful for this enlightening advice on liviing alone particularly on health, safety, self-care and social involvement.. I just turned 71 and living alone. Thank you very much. Wish you the best of life.
I just found your TH-cam channel and I am delighted to see all the topics and suggestions. As a 78 year old, living alone i have learned to cherish my alone time and make time to do so many things I never had time to do before. I feel so very grateful . I have learned to love and appreciate who I am. Time for introspection and give to others what I can keeping strong boundaries. I love to put my thoughts and feelings on paper or write using an app on my iPad. Thank you for the excellent topics.
I am 77 and although I have been married twice that ended up in divorce, last one was 22 years ago, I realized that I actually prefer to live alone. And after many years of psychology therapy, I also realized that I am a 100% introvert and it is natural for me to seek solitude. My ex and I discussed this finding and at least now we can talk to each other in a somewhat civil tone and thank God the screaming and yelling at each other is now almost non existent. So, I suggest to people that they should check out if you to might be an introvert--hey, it's better than an argument.
I wasn’t quite 20 when I married. My husband died several months before our 53 anniversary. My best friend said she was praying I would remarry. I literally begged her not to. I’m enjoying my life as it is!
yes , old lion males are forsaken and turned out in the wilderness to deteriorate and die ( by their own mate and offspring ) . i suspect you were " over him " 25 years ago . more brazen women and ( brainwashed ) kids throw him out the moment that they think they can make it without him , ( 40 ish yr old women ) . divorce laws and radical femenism encourage it .
1avoid isolation 2 avoid neglecting health 3 safety 4 unhealthy habits 5 home burden 6 sense purpose 7 doing without support 8 make house nice 9 lose track of time ,get a routine 10 holding onto junk 11 emergency plans 12 banks, bills , paperwork
I have lived alone most of my life, and enjoy it. Aside from friends and family (only one of whom lives nearby), I find just saying hello to neighbors and talking to strangers is a boost in everyday life. I also enjoy going to synagogue & having meals and snacks with others on these occasions. But I do enjoy unstructured days.
67 here and alone and I feel the same as I did when I was 7. In fact I tend to see people half my age as being "older than me". I just don't feel "old". I don't even know what "old" is supposed to feel like. As far as isolation goes for.me the more isolated the better.
77 years old retired from nursing….. Lot of kids and grandkids. I live alone….. I love it. Me and my dog and cat. I am not isolated. I enjoy the time I am alone. I am quite tired of people assuming I am isolated.
I found the section on finding purpose and avoiding isolation especially touching. Living alone can be challenging, but with the right mindset, it can also be fulfilling!
"Especially Touching" Touching can create problems in today's societies. The only people I touch are my kids, wife, parents if still alive and that's it. I don't even touch my grandkids. Man of all ages do not put yourselves in possible situations please. Oh, I'm 65.
Great video! 👏 These tips are so helpful for older people living alone. It's important to stay safe and be mindful of health and well-being, and you really nailed the essentials. 💡 The advice about staying connected with others and keeping your home secure is key! 🔒 Thank you for sharing this valuable information! 😊💖
I am a widow on SS. I have a bad left knee. I just had a hysterectomy which means 12 weeks of taking it easy. I can't afford to move. I am an introvert. I need unaffordable dental help. I agree with what you've said but easier said than done.
If you live near Mexico dental can be affordable, a trusted friend could take you. Most people around the world can't really afford to move. The question most times is where would you like to live? Introvert like me! join chat groups no need to lose your privateness with that.
I like the way the narration is presented in your videos, because they touch upon real issues and offer common sense approaches to how to move forward each day. I also like the underlying sense that we need to forgive ourselves for all that we cannot do that we have been used to doing all of our lives; that is to say, for us to not to be so hard on ourselves. I love that it is implied in your various videos. At age 75, and coping with severe chronic pain and other health issues, I still deal with the guilt that comes with not being able to be more involved with family, friends or doing volunteer work. I do spend a lot of time alone in my apartment because I don't feel well. But one thing I like about your videos, too, is the presence of one constant message that comes through: take care of yourself, which includes making sure you have a routine that also involves some form of exercise even if it's for a short period. And the video here also addresses the realistic issues around limitations that we, as older people, often experience in different ways. For example, instead of thinking we need to go visit somebody physically, if that becomes increasingly too difficult to do, a phone call can be just as important. Now it has become an effective substitute for something that was unrealistic to something that you are able to actually do. I live within a very short walking distance of two different grocery stores that provide most everything you need or want for your day-to-day needs. On days where I want to get out and get some shopping done, but the presence of pain is creating some clear limitations for walking great distances, I will take my car and go to each parking lot, where I will then park in a space that's on the outer edge of the parking lot as an incentive get a bit of walking in. Plus, if I need to buy any bulky and/or heavy grocery items, instead of trying to haul them home by hand, now I've got my car to help me with that, as well. ~ So, can Elderhood be defined as "The Golden Years?" I think we know the answer is relative to our own (present) personal challenges and experiences. How we define the "golden years," in the way that it implies that they are filled with joy and promise, is found more in our daily attitudes toward how we want to approach life, and how we want to perceive ourselves in the world, and especially in how we relate effectively with other people in a spiritual way, one that conveys love and a deeper understanding.
My wife passed away this year and I’m trying to follow the routines that we did together. I do miss her very much but I’m going to try to use her memory to still do things that we love together.
I am 80 years old. My grandson starts with me. He is 21 years old. I see him for about 15 minutes in the mornings, because I get out of my room around 10am. He leaves home around 12 noon for work. I downsize and moved to this area a year now. I live far from my old area. I cut down on my driving. I do not have a TV and do not want one. I go to a senior center where I enjoy the company. I stay busy. I like and enjoy a well kept home. I pray and have devotion every morning. I also do stretching exercise in the morning. I do some crafts, and I also sew. For my 80th birthday I started a TH-cam channel “Retirement living with Travis “ I am struggling with it. I like the challenge. I pray not to give it up. I feel that it is good for my brain. I have never been board and do not know what it is like to be board. I brought up 5 kids and 3 grandkids. I count my blessings.
I am 74 and have always lived alone. My parents were both EXTREMELY critical. Suicidal at 17 and hospitalized. I couldn't possibly live with someone and share my life. Criticism is never acceptable! It's now my way or the highway. And I do take exceptional care of myself. I got over being lonely in my 30s.
I understand how you feel, but, I really don’t believe it’s lack of caring on our kids part generally, but more so the pace of life is almost impossible for many of them, either long commutes, double incomes to exist, etc, etc. And possibly in part because we continue to plug along it’s easy for them to see us as a fire they don’t need to put out just yet. No one has weekends off to go visit Grandma, who now lives out of town because they had to move away for a job. Or perhaps they are splitting childcare while working weekends, or they are traipsing their kids to planned activities because people can’t just open their door to their kids and say “have fun, come back when the streetlights come on”, etc etc. Everyone’s life is orchestrated to a ridiculous level. I have four adult kids who are right out straight. I know they would drop everything for an emergency I might have, and I’d love to see more of them, but we cannot go back to days of yore, there are just too many obstacles and people to deal with now, not always out of preference. Three generation families were often the norm years ago as well, not as possible these days.
It's long become an American tradition; they will dump you in a home if you're not careful. My wife and daughter wonder why I have to visit my Dementia afflicted stepdad, every 3 weeks?? I know where they will toss me when my faculties start sputtering.
We are all different. Lack of money and disability limits physical things, whether exercise or just tidying, and I can’t bearl other people rearranging me, as then I can’t find anything! I know how to live in my muddle. I say don’t interfere with people, but only help in things you are asked to help with.!
No ! I do not need to join any social groups! I get more than enough social interaction at my tennis club ! As for “friends,” I keep them at a distance. Most of them have life problems. I don’t have time for that . I’m my own best friend! When in your 60s , life is about dropping most of what carried you into your 60s - that includes family, relatives and friends!
Why do people feel they need to "declutter" so as to not "burden" those left behind? My Dad did not want to downsize. He did not want to declutter. He stated that he was leaving it up to us kids. I didnt see it as a burden. It was important to him to have his stuff near him, why woukd i take that joy from him? As long as its nor dangerous/unhealthy clutter let them keep their memories.
I fully agree with you. I, too, am happy with all that stuff around me. Old papers, letters, books, household ustensils, everything reminds me of a person, an event or something else. And I am happy with all these memories.
I'm 79 and and live alone and stay very productive, I have a few friends that I go do yoga classes with to stay active. You are right about needing company from others even if you do enjoy your alone time, because if you don't then you feel depressed more often
and don't leave out listening to Music! i have everything from blues to bluegrass and christmas music. go to the library to learn technology and read and get in on pop trivia night. and the other fun things. pop into the movie theatre around noon when there is not a lot of people . cook new recipes, ride my bicycle. i could go on and on, but i have to go bye! oh i'm 77.
All this is good advice to a point... some people do not have any family or a trusted freind especially with personal finances. I have recently retired and although consider myself failry active have started to over think things... the what if senario....this worries me, im trying hard to look for some type of hobby or palces to go and visit/ heating bills are a big issue in the UK although i welcome my own company this will be the first winter i have experinced as a retired person and already find myself going days without speaking to anyone. I do try and keep myself busy but have moments of doubt about my self worth, i also find it hard to ask fro help for fear of rejection.
I can relate to some of the things you've said,,,I'm 69 and those I come from a big family we don't keep in touch often,, I too often goes many days without talking to anyone,, my cell rarely rings, only time I get a chance to talk to someone is when I go out to get grocery or tend to some kind of business,, I depend on the kindness of strangers when it comes to someone too talk too and I often thank them for talking with me cause it's a blessing,, being a women, women are talkers and when we don't talk enough it affects us emotionally cause we have to express our selves ,, I'm often depressed and loneliness can breed depression for some people ,,this loneliness is getting to me as well, I've been living alone 8 years and it's just difficult,, I haven't been in a relationship over twelve years, I just didn't want to deal with the drama that comes with relationships,,, I hope things change for me next year,,, I hope to find. A home with my own porch and yard so I could grow vegetables,, I presently live in a building, also with my own apartments I could have cats and rabbits again,, my present apartment has rugs in every room, I think a rabbit may eat it therefore I won't take the chance of having them here, I don't keep rabbits confined to a cage, I let them out to run around ,,,I have to commit to making some changes in my life next year and what I miss about having my rabbits and cats is animals will always give you someone to talk too,,,getting a pet will help you as well,,they enrich a person's life and give it meaning,,,take care!!
I am 67 years old just had a birthday. My life is a lot different now that i live alone. As a younger women i was very very active with my associates and had a lot of outside activities. Now i have a sight impairment, knee replacement that is still healing. Overweight, over active thyroid aches pains and cant move the way i use too. I live alone with my Son who is gone and when he does come home he goes to bed. I need to be active so i stay connected to my church of 15 years. I mentor the women and pray with them and help them when they need a listening ear. I sing and play on our worship team. I love my crafts and it brings me much joy i do it nearly everyday. I still try to keep my home clean by having my Son help me. Its important for me to keep going even though i find my life is so different and difficult now that im older. As senior citizens we much stay strong and hang in there and do the best we can. Reach out for help when uts needed. Thank you for this video it actually is a blessing!!!
Well, obviously you need something in your life or have some loneliness or you wouldn't have clicked on this link, listened to it, and commented. No one is forcing you to go to "social groups" you seem immature for your age. Spoiled or something.
At 78, I find that most people do not want to have anything to do with the elderly. Not even your own family. In fact, some of them go out of their way to hurt you because they think you are not good enough to even breathe. I even get harassed by some of the children in the neighborhood. They know I can't take after them and if you call the police, they will get away with it.
Yes ...attitude towards older people has changed ...plus ,where I thought there would be kids who'd like a little job for money ,but they sneer at it. ......they get too much money from parents
I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. Maybe you would enjoy a Bible class set up for seniors. That is one of the pleasures in my life. Some senior centers are good too. One near me just hosted a sing along that turned out to be lots of fun even tho I can't carry a tune. Maybe some of the people at the center can help you find a way to solve the problems you are having with the local children. Wishing you the best!
Health should always be number 1.....doing things like gardening, volunteer, square dance, cooking classes, books and maybe a chess group? I walk 3 miles a day regardless of weather.
Grass here in Central America grows like weed; so, every 3 weeks I drive to manually remove weeds from an acre of property I purchased. I use a plow to remove roots. Locals ponder why I don't pay someone, I'm a little loco, I often respond.
At 84 - I am busy with hobbies - know everyone down the street by name - have two wonderful and supportive daughters -- have two rottweiler dogs - have a lot of social interaction -- go for two walks every day - hardly have time for t.v. - eat sparingly but well and in great health -- take no medication - and know that the future is bright and beckoning - and have lots of plans for activities and travel - life has to be worked on - it does NOT just happen
After my spouse’s death I joined a state-sponsored group of counseling for a 55 year plus age group. It was very helpful in order to see where I stood as a woman living alone compared to other women and men in similar circumstances.
Living alone, I have always loved it, lived alone more than any other way. I live out in the sticks, nearest person is a mile away. I love the alone life, don't need thos people
If you like living alone, It's a Good Idea to avoid People !!! I am happy to avoid people. They only want you to give them Money or for you to Run Around after Them !!! I have everything I want in my Home with my 2 Dogs !!! I cook lovely food. I don't Drink or Smoke. I couldn't be Happier !!! I never married or had children !!! I'm 70 yrs old and my only aim is to be Happy !!!
If you are a female living alone, you will undoubtedly attract neighborhood bullies. I have experienced this at 3 different homes. They will park their cars to block your driveway and do all sorts of things to test you. I nip this in the bud, the minute they start up with me. Recently, I had two neighbors ask me why I was walking down the street in front of their homes. I asked them both, do they own the streets that I walk on (for exercise.) If not, they should mind their own business.
@@deeandrews7051 I think everyone is horrible. If you want to be loved get a Dog. But you have to look after them, unlike my Ignorant neighbour who doesn't give a sh*t about her Dog !!!
@@spaceted3977Ask her if you could walk her Dog for her. Dog deserves better and needs a better home. Dog Warden should be called for animal neglect. I like feeding and finding homes for all the stray cats we have here...
I am 90, disabled,live alone, have self discipline and most importantly, a very rich inner spiritual life. I belo ng to a church and having travelled much in my life am in contact with friends and family abroad and friends near me who pop in regularly. I am quite content, and love solitude. I admit to a phobia of hospitals, because of many bad experiences in them.!
Security cameras are now very cheap, and easy to install. Keep phone when going to basement and to the second story. keep up repairs, do what you can and hire out what you cannot.
Im 77. Im sharing caring by nature. Come from big asian family. Love to have family and friends around. I like to be alone as well, just to be with my réflexions and dreams, sometimes.
Really? That’s what you think about? I am 72 with no family nor friends and I don’t think about that. I mean, when I die, I won’t have any thoughts about my body nor who finds it nor what happens to it because I’ll be dead then! Someplace else. Some other level of existence. It’s so much more important what you do or don’t do in life before death. In other words: make amends now while you can and give back all you have stolen and pay back all you owe and have cost your victims.
I have thought about that myself but only because I worry what would happen to my cat or my chickens. I am concerned about them more than I am about who will find my body. I am 76 years old and have no close friends or family. No one checks on me to see if I am well. That doesn't bother me so much but what would happen to my animals? If they hadn't been left outside they would probably starve to death inside the house or inside their coop. I hate to think about them suffering just because I am no longer here to care for them. For me to die is only to be set free. I am ready to go home now.
@@claudiamia2058 I too am in your situation so-to-speak. Check with your local sheriff/law enforcement or fire department and express your concern. I’ll bet they might have a system in place to check on the local elderly for that very reason regarding your pets. If, not, then they may call you once a day just to say hi and ask how you are doing!
Many years ago, during my old summer job, the factory had a sign that said "A place for everything and everything in its place." These are words to live by. Every item in your home should have a designated PLACE. For example, my cell phone is ALWAYS either in my pocket, on the nightstand by the bed, or next to my PC. I never lay it down anywhere else, especially when I'm out. The same applies to files on the PC. Each one has its place.
I've told my son , if I find an isolated cave, that's where I'll live . Off the grid but furbished with comforts. I'm happiest isolated from people who causes me anxiety and immense stress. As long as my only son, his wife and toddler daughter are in consistent communication, I am content.
Don't wait till loneliness creeps in? Too late. I've never been married, have had very few girlfriends, and have never known how to even get someone in my life. So I sit here, retired and living alone since my parents are gone and I'm an only child. Loneliness has been what my life has been about for so long, I've given up on trying to find someone. Being no good at getting women hurts, and I've never been any good at it. Secondly., I have no interest in joining groups. All other old people talk about is 1) their wife -which I have and had none 2) their kids - which I've had none and 3) their grandkids -which obviously I have none of them. I have no common interests and don't care to give a crap about their lives which I could never relate to. When I'm sick I have no one to help me, and an occasional phone call to or from a friend doesn't wipe away my depression, lack of self confidence, and lonliness.
I’m sad to hear that. Although I got big family I kind of felt your pain in that comment. I divorced in 87 never had any other relationships worth mentioning either before or after the split . Am more or less an outcast in social situations so am tending to avoid them these days. Reading and music are brilliant for me . I can relate to what you’re going through I really hope you pull through and find some happiness somewhere.
@wielandhartwich3184 I'm 69 years old now. I'm not one to mingle with people I dont know. I do have some close friends - the only saving grace in my life.
i was forced to retire at 49 , unexpectedly due to MS . loosing my independence is abig loss!!! my husband still working and Yes i enjoyed being alone as soon he’s gone to work I’m so peaceful ( i hope this is normal 😮
perfectly normal. I never got that pleasure which i would have loved .when my husband took early retirement and worked from home ,I felt I had to be constantly seen working at something in the house. 30 years later he was still working from home , and I felt uncomfortable if he walked past the lounge room and saw me reading a book. Now in my 80`s ,and he`s in a nursing home ,so i`m catching up on all the old movies from the 40`s 50`s that he would never watch ....4 months now,I`m still enjoying it , between driving to visit him ever 2nd day ....my son lives with me ,in a separate apartment,I don`t see him every day,I don`t want to ,but hes marvellous when I need him .
Now I am 74 years. In my age of 24 by God's grace I am intact. My life Lord Jesus Christ hands. Peace of mind.I am not living alone. My Lord is with me always. Prophet Elijah crow not comming .But Lord sent to Widows house to exist.in Sarafat. Life is in third world countries. I am not living alone. Lord took care in past. Lord will take care in the days to come. Jacob varghese
I spend my time learning to sing this song : Ya no estás más a mi lado corazón en el alma sólo tengo soledad y si yo no puedo verte por qué Dios me hizo quererte para hacerme sufrir más? Siempre fuiste la razón de mi existir adorarte para mi fue religión y en tus besos yo encontraba el calor que me brindaba el amor y la pasión. Es la historia de un amor como no hay otro igual que me hizo comprender todo el bien todo el mal que le dio luz a mi vida apagándola después. Ay, qué vida tan oscura sin tu amor no viviré.
I am 80 years old veteran Live a lone is a haven Young people are ok with you when you are giving eat healthy and a walk look forward to passing over I am not sick I have had my life Don't wount to come again
I choose to go out to lunch every single day, to get me out into public. It keeps me from becoming a hermit . Also, on the internet, I spend my time sharing the gospel, explaining Bible Prophecy, and reaching out to folks to encourage them or make small common sense suggestions of help when they are ill. I don’t spend ANY time thinking about my age or my diseases ! My time is spent in trying to help and encourage others.
Very good ideas presented in your video, except you left one of the most critical things. The constant phone ringing by scammers wanting to take your money or sell you one of those medicare advantage plans. I fell for that when I first went on SS. It took 4 years and a lawyer to fight medicare and social security. The latest scam is people calling every day saying that I must call the to help settle my large federal tax debt. ( I pay before April 15 each year.) I get 30-60 scammer calls every day. Most are foreign voices. I even got a call from my own phone number. This is a constant stress that a heart patient does not need.
Living alone I'll let keeping things tidy go. Till it gets to me. Also family momentos from my grandparents. Yes I knew them. My dad recently gave them to me. What to keep, what to give away?
I have sole care of two geriatric horses. They are at my farm. I feed three times a day. muck out, tend to any I also have a fairly large home. I do have a cleaning service twice a month. I am 70 years old. Stay active.
Thanks for a great message ❤, I have my little dog he's wonderful I'm alone 😢I've always been a people person I walk my dog daily I'm not happy ,it's hard to get motivated, I'm 70years I'm not good at asking for help, thanks Bev ❤❤
After going through a divorce several years back and putting up with his crap , I have been on my own for27 years and am very happy! I enjoy taking care of my own finances, and finally now am investing on my own! Do not want a man telling me what I should be doing. EVER! Love being single!
I'm 79, a widow, my husband was a disabled veteran. I was his caregiver for 10 years out of the 35 years we were together. Now that I'm alone, I'm enjoying the solitude. I garden, do a little charity work. What I really hate is people that feel because I live alone, I must be lonesome and they want to constantly visit me. No, I'm not lonesome. I have a house to take care of, I have hobbies, I like to read, sit on my terrace and enjoy my beautiful flowers because I love to garden. Sometimes I like sitting quietly and just watch the birds in my birdbath, or take my coffee out on my terrace and enjoy my beautiful flowers. I worked my entire life for an airline, I lived in NYC, so I had constant people around me my entire life. Now, I like being alone and I don't care how weird people think I am. I don't drink, I don't overeat, I don't do doctors and I don't own a cellphone and I manage to live and breathe. I have a few years left, if that, and I'm going to do what I want to do with those years, not what other people think I should do.
" and I'm going to do what I want to do with those years,"
I endorse those comments! so, so beautiful doing what you want,,
Hm. Well, I do get lonely but many are too busy or too self-involved to want to visit. Also, I don't text and that throws a lot of people off. Many can't handle doing phone calls. I do really admire the fact you don't have a cell phone. Many I know couldn't survive without their phone.
Very well said. I like your attitude.
Just let people know if you're ok, because maybe one day you fall, can't stand up, could died alone. Neighbors realize the smell when you pass away 7 days ago. It's sad.
I hope you have many more years to enjoy your garden and life in general.
I am 74, live in SE Florida, no close friends or family, no responsibility for the first time in decades. Love the isolation. Surrounded by books and devices. So much to learn!
The opportunity to learn is a gift. Online material to explore things is great.
The key for me is having a care giver she helps than goes home my freedom isn’t compromised with help just easy in my opinion wirh aging alone
I am 78 and live alone and busy all day - gardening, cook, do the laundry, read, write reflections and pray. I love my peace and independence.
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What a beautiful way to live! Your peace and independence are truly inspiring. It sounds like you’ve created a wonderful balance of activities that bring joy and fulfillment. Wishing you continued happiness and tranquility in all that you do!
. i am 78 also and feel the same as you do . what i like also iis going for coffee every day somewhere .
I'm 76 and feel the same way.
You're never alone..God is with you and all seniors living alone..Blessings to all..
That is the best truth agreed on
Well said.
God bless you.
i have to make a humorous reply here ;
my two sons used to get a kick outof this 85-ishyear old man who lived in our neck of the woods . he drove , but not very well , yet his front license plate said " jesus is my copilot " . my sons used to swear and be damned that jebus hopped out at the last intersection .
It’s comforting to know that God is always watching over us, especially those who feel alone. Blessings to all seniors living by themselves-they are never truly alone
After my husband passed away, I decided to live alone instead of living with our children. It was my decision but never regretted it.Everyday is a blissful day, I enjoyed gardening,planting flowers and fruits. I stop watching tv,instead the garden is my oasis. From time to time my children will call and asked if I'm okay. Neighbors sometimes dropped by and spent a minute of conversation. I also enjoyed trying different recipes but cut down the measurements to one person. Loneliness never struck me, since 24 hours is not enough to realize all what I wanted to do which you can only accomplish not taking care of another person. My life revolve around reading books, Bible, and prayers, and most of all trying to eat nutritious food and be healthy.
I live just the way you do and I love it. Sure I miss my husband but life goes on. living alone is good I can decide what I want to do at any time. I watch my health and eat properly. I write everything on my calendar so I don't forget and thank God every morning for the life I have.
I am now 80, and one thing that has added to my peace of mind since retiring is that I don't worry about things that I cannot influence.
I agree with this but would like to add. If I do have a problem such as at the moment I have a legal battle - I do every appropriate action I can and once done, knowing that I have done everything possible, I relax and stop thinking about it.
Same for me. I'm 76 and anymore, try not to worry about minutia or as they say, dont sweat the small stuff.
@@marthavojtko6268 "Sweating the small stuff" has taken many to early graves.
I also have, at 76, learned not to worry about much of anything. I do what I can and leave the rest to God. My faith is what gets me through everything. 😊
@@cathiemcginnis3997 Like you dear older sister, I adopted the don't worry "about much of anything" starting age 55.
I don't worry about my wife, our 3 adult kids, grand kids,,. Visiting son in Texas I decided to run an errand with my granddaughter and her freshly obtained drivers permit.
Driving with cell on her lap, I attempted to share with her the wrongness of such practice. After ridicule of my old 65-year- old way of thinking, I requested she pull over and I continued on foot to Target.
Boy Texas blocks are long but was good exercise.
Great overview! Thank you. I would add one more: Be careful of who you let into your life. As a 72-year-old disabled cancer survivor I needed some support on a physical and emotional level. I enlisted the help of a "friend" who over a short time managed to weasel several thousand dollars out of me. My sense of betrayal, sadness and depression regarding the human condition, and my shame at falling for his multiple cons far outweighed the monetary loss. I would say to the elderly: be extra cautious -- you are viewed as a target by the predators in our society.
Good advice have been there.
I’m so sorry that your goodwill and trust was betrayed
@@lesd1051 I'm OK now, but it took me awhile to shake it off (about 6 months). Finally had to let it go. Actually, probably a better man for the experience -- having to surrender to transcend.
He’s the one who is shameful! Unfortunately the con artists are out there. Sharing your story will help others!
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and important reminder. I’m so sorry you had to experience that betrayal, especially when you were seeking support during a vulnerable time. It’s devastating how some people take advantage of others' kindness and trust.
Your advice is invaluable-staying cautious and protecting ourselves is essential, especially as we age. I hope you’ve found a sense of peace and strength moving forward. Wishing you continued healing and all the support and kindness you truly deserve. Stay strong! 🌟💖
Some people enjoy solitude, peace and quite. To them, this is "GOLDEN". One can always adopt a dog or cat if they ever get too lonely.
I am 95 yrs. old. Female. I love being alone. Very independent. Stay busy. Never bored. Grateful. Minimist. Only need basics. Constantly decluttering.
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Wow! ❤ that !
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@@Advicefortheelderly I'm a 70 yr old male exactly the same except I'm cluttering all the time !
I'm 74 and live in clutter. I have a whole shelf full of record albums, I have a bookcase of movies and TV shows, I have over a thousand books, most of which I have read -- several times each. I have 11 cats I call my little monsters. I am taking a writing course and an art course. I also have a household of furniture I hauled home from garage sales or the side if the road. I restore antiques and plan on restoring some modern furniture that I have. I NEVER get bored. I have done volunteer work -- taught a literacy class at the jail and then at a school for pregnant teens. I do not want to go to Heaven because, as far as I am concerned, Heaven is right here and now. So take your silly advice and stuff it where the sun doesn't shine!! LOL!!
For years now, I’ve made a habit of going out to the coffee shop with a book. Great for people watching! Today, the lady behind the counter greeted me by name. Can’t tell you what a boost that was to my day! She earned a tip for sure.
Oh wow!
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I am 77 and live alone since my wife passed two years ago. Your comments were helpful. Thank you. Finances are well managed. I am a retired accountant. I have joined a retirees group to help with loneliness. I employ a good yardman to look after the lawn and some gardening. My kids have promised to look through my wife's stuff and take what they want. 2 years later it is yet to happen. I rarely see them. But I really do need to declutter the home in several places. A community support group comes each fortnight to help clean the home. I usually walk 14,000 steps most days. I cared for my wife with MS for 26 years. She wasn't able to ambulate for the last 15 years. It was a very big job. I had a heart attack and pneumonia as a result but I am keeping very well now.
Your adult children may be avoiding looking at your wife's belongings as part of not accepting her passing. You can give them a date by which this must be completed, or you'll need to make other arrangements. I understand, caregiving truly is a big job. After I became a widow, I was glad to pass on my husband's clothing, coats and things, so someone who needed them could put them to use. Of course, I'll always keep some of his belongings as sentimental, but knowing someone who was cold now has a coat matters, and would have pleased him. Take care.
PS My oldest living sister recently entered a nursing home, as she needs 24/7 professional nursing care. I learned some of the residents did not have basic clothing. It was not difficult to collect proper clothing, in fine condition, in various sizes so these folks could have basics.
Your comment is on point. It seems you are well managed your life being alone but happy! I must learn from you! 🎉
I feel a lot better reading the responses. Been alone all life . Never married. Thought I was the only one.
I am living alone ! I manages still ! I have children but busy with their family !
I find it very hard to give away my husband’s things. It’s much harder than I ever thought it would be.
I enjoy my own company, always have
Same with me!
Yes i do also but need some company @marthavojtko6268
Me too, always have!
When I am alone I know I am in good company.
Good for you!
I'm a 71 yo widower and I'm thriving. I cook for myself, some times clean, still drive and am quite happy in my solitude. Great topic.😄
If you are reading this, I want to tell you that everything will be fine. You are incredible, you are unique, you can face anything in your life, you have the strength within yourself to overcome any obstacle, loss, or situation. You are not alone, you are loved, you have the right to feel bad and good, you have the right to feel. Be blessed by these positive vibes and live your life to the fullest. I am sending my love to the universe so that I can reach you
Oh stop you made me cry bless you xx
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Thank you so much. Bless you.
That was exactly what I needed to hear,,,thank you!
I love living alone
Me too and it's healthy
🇬🇧 my cousin said, " you'll wonder how you ever had time to go to work , after you retire. " true.
So true!
True, like there isn't enough hours in the day.
Truth
My dad always said he was twice as busy after retiring than working before no time to do it all ha
I love my own company I read love documentary s I look after my health and the Lord is with at all times ❤
Good for you, so why are you on here..?
Thank you for this utube program. I am 77yrs old and live with my son and his family. All the things you share are so true. My church family has helped me keep in community. But I do like being alone and just being in the moment, resting and listening to God's Word. Thanks again.
I married when i was 22...from mom i went to husband...x 43 years till he passed...14 years ago...i live alone for my first time in my life and i love the freedom , indepence , doing whatever i want ( my husband was a ver good man who push me to be free)..i clean my house , cook my meals ,do laundry , etc ,etc...i love all this also i don't have any problem in going to restaurants by myself , im planning to start painting again.... lonely. ?? , yes ..!!! Sometimes i miss the great conversations with my hubby...is very hard to find people who are very stimulating nowadays...but i realize how lucky im to had found a man that showed me how to be free and independent...❤❤
Just before I turned seventy, I moved to 32 acres that my son bought for me. I have no tV (but am glued to youTube. I have no washer, dryer, or dishwasher. I lived in the house at first but found it wasn't built to release heat in summer so I started renovating a delapidated cabin. My neighbor restored the missing floor that had rotted out. From a shed we found all sorts of insulated windows all free. I restored the walls. (this is all over the last ten years) I studded up and built three walls from scratch. My young grandchildren got to paint the walls after the insulation was in, then I put the walls up. When I hit a snag along the way, I'd get a contractor, to put in plumbing electricity, The bathtub was $88 , a stock tank. A room had to be torn down, I didn't do that but have used the material in all sorts of other things. Like building a screened in porch. A year ago August I wanted the room back. The contractor did the whole room after my grandchildren and I prepainted and stained all the material I had ready for him and his helper. My son wanted me out of the house as the steps to the basement where the bedrooms are were too steep for an aging lady. During this time I had lots of kidney stone surgery, breast cancer surgery. My son lives six hours away. My neighbors believe only Fox and News Max. I have two riding mowers to keep the growth down. Most of my stuff is electric now, no hauling gas. When I get to sit down, here I am. Never, ever lonely. Cats show up. I care for them all. Working on number 13 now. Big party of blue friends a week ago planned by my son on my 80th birthday. Planted trees, ordering more raspberriy busshes. All my books are on Kindle so the world of books is my oyster. I just don't have time to get lonely. Oh, I pay the taxes, the insurance, the generator, all the repairs. that was my agreement with my son.
Ooh my gosh you are so independent girl I am almost seventy and living on a income in my own home .I wish I could have moved to the country side with my pets an my plants .I have very good to myself health wise an otherwise. You do enjoy your space I do enjoy mines 😅❤❤❤God Bless 🙌 You always 💖
Nice story of your life, but some of us have disabilities and no family so hard to identify with your lifestyle.
Happy for you and your many blessings 🙏❤
Great! Love, "Blue Party"
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All of these suggestions are vital. I live in small apartment with thin walls. I love it that all I need to do is ask for help and my neighbors are there!
I wouldn't like the thin walls..
I grew up as the youngest from a large family but I was always alone with my books. For my sisters I was too young, for my brothers I wasn't a boy. Then i married young and had children and wish to be alone sometimes 😅my husband and I started having marriage problems and that was terrible, to live with someone and still be lonely 😢after our divorce i meet someone else and after our separation, I live alone and I am enjoying it. First time that I have my own place. I moved from my mom's house to our house with my husband, after my divorce i still had children with me. Then I had a boyfriend and we moved in together. Now I am retired and at peace. My children and my grandchildren visited me, but they seem to be more concern about me living alone than I do. Accidents can happen if you are alone or not. I hope that i will be able to do things on my own as long as possible ❤
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. It’s heartwarming to see such positivity shared-it serves as a reminder that life’s challenges can be met with strength and thoughtful choices. I hope that message provides inspiration to others who may be navigating similar experiences. 🌟💙
I am very grateful for this enlightening advice on liviing alone particularly on health, safety, self-care and social involvement.. I just turned 71 and living alone. Thank you very much. Wish you the best of life.
I just found your TH-cam channel and I am delighted to see all the topics and suggestions. As a 78 year old, living alone i have learned to cherish my alone time and make time to do so many things I never had time to do before. I feel so very grateful . I have learned to love and appreciate who I am. Time for introspection and give to others what I can keeping strong boundaries. I love to put my thoughts and feelings on paper or write using an app on my iPad. Thank you for the excellent topics.
Thank you for the advice/formula.
I am 77 and although I have been married twice that ended up in divorce, last one was 22 years ago, I realized that I actually prefer to live alone.
And after many years of psychology therapy, I also realized that I am a 100% introvert and it is natural for me to seek solitude.
My ex and I discussed this finding and at least now we can talk to each other in a somewhat civil tone and thank God the screaming and yelling at each other is now almost non existent.
So, I suggest to people that they should check out if you to might be an introvert--hey, it's better than an argument.
I too am living alone and loving it 75 young
I prefer to be alone! 💜
Me too. People confuse loneliness and solitude.
Good for you, so why are you on here???
@@elianad2083 Your rely is a bit harsh. Why are you on here? I find It can be helpful & learning site. ☮️
I get out of the house almost every day and it keeps me from getting depressed. Also it helps me get my steps in for the day.
I wasn’t quite 20 when I married. My husband died several months before our 53 anniversary. My best friend said she was praying I would remarry. I literally begged her not to. I’m enjoying my life as it is!
yes , old lion males are forsaken and turned out in the wilderness to deteriorate and die ( by their own mate and offspring ) . i suspect you were " over him " 25 years ago . more brazen women and ( brainwashed ) kids throw him out the moment that they think they can make it without him , ( 40 ish yr old women ) . divorce laws and radical femenism encourage it .
Wellsaid I'm living alone I keep my self busy. Never get bored .grateful and I'm blessed beyond measure!
Amazing!
1avoid isolation
2 avoid neglecting health
3 safety
4 unhealthy habits
5 home burden
6 sense purpose
7 doing without support
8 make house nice
9 lose track of time ,get a routine
10 holding onto junk
11 emergency plans
12 banks, bills , paperwork
It’s wonderful. 70 years old.
I have lived alone most of my life, and enjoy it. Aside from friends and family (only one of whom lives nearby), I find just saying hello to neighbors and talking to strangers is a boost in everyday life. I also enjoy going to synagogue & having meals and snacks with others on these occasions. But I do enjoy unstructured days.
67 here and alone and I feel the same as I did when I was 7. In fact I tend to see people half my age as being "older than me". I just don't feel "old". I don't even know what "old" is supposed to feel like. As far as isolation goes for.me the more isolated the better.
77 years old retired from nursing….. Lot of kids and grandkids. I live alone….. I love it. Me and my dog and cat. I am not isolated. I enjoy the time I am alone. I am quite tired of people assuming I am isolated.
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I found the section on finding purpose and avoiding isolation especially touching. Living alone can be challenging, but with the right mindset, it can also be fulfilling!
"Especially Touching"
Touching can create problems in today's societies. The only people I touch are my kids, wife, parents if still alive and that's it. I don't even touch my grandkids.
Man of all ages do not put yourselves in possible situations please. Oh, I'm 65.
Great video! 👏 These tips are so helpful for older people living alone. It's important to stay safe and be mindful of health and well-being, and you really nailed the essentials. 💡 The advice about staying connected with others and keeping your home secure is key! 🔒 Thank you for sharing this valuable information! 😊💖
I am a widow on SS. I have a bad left knee. I just had a hysterectomy which means 12 weeks of taking it easy. I can't afford to move. I am an introvert. I need unaffordable dental help. I agree with what you've said but easier said than done.
If you live near Mexico dental can be affordable, a trusted friend could take you.
Most people around the world can't really afford to move. The question most times is where would you like to live?
Introvert like me! join chat groups no need to lose your privateness with that.
I like the way the narration is presented in your videos, because they touch upon real issues and offer common sense approaches to how to move forward each day. I also like the underlying sense that we need to forgive ourselves for all that we cannot do that we have been used to doing all of our lives; that is to say, for us to not to be so hard on ourselves. I love that it is implied in your various videos. At age 75, and coping with severe chronic pain and other health issues, I still deal with the guilt that comes with not being able to be more involved with family, friends or doing volunteer work. I do spend a lot of time alone in my apartment because I don't feel well. But one thing I like about your videos, too, is the presence of one constant message that comes through: take care of yourself, which includes making sure you have a routine that also involves some form of exercise even if it's for a short period. And the video here also addresses the realistic issues around limitations that we, as older people, often experience in different ways. For example, instead of thinking we need to go visit somebody physically, if that becomes increasingly too difficult to do, a phone call can be just as important. Now it has become an effective substitute for something that was unrealistic to something that you are able to actually do. I live within a very short walking distance of two different grocery stores that provide most everything you need or want for your day-to-day needs. On days where I want to get out and get some shopping done, but the presence of pain is creating some clear limitations for walking great distances, I will take my car and go to each parking lot, where I will then park in a space that's on the outer edge of the parking lot as an incentive get a bit of walking in. Plus, if I need to buy any bulky and/or heavy grocery items, instead of trying to haul them home by hand, now I've got my car to help me with that, as well. ~ So, can Elderhood be defined as "The Golden Years?" I think we know the answer is relative to our own (present) personal challenges and experiences. How we define the "golden years," in the way that it implies that they are filled with joy and promise, is found more in our daily attitudes toward how we want to approach life, and how we want to perceive ourselves in the world, and especially in how we relate effectively with other people in a spiritual way, one that conveys love and a deeper understanding.
Thank you and I'm glad to hear that you're enjoying the videos.
My wife passed away this year and I’m trying to follow the routines that we did together. I do miss her very much but I’m going to try to use her memory to still do things that we love together.
I am 80 years old. My grandson starts with me. He is 21 years old. I see him for about 15 minutes in the mornings, because I get out of my room around 10am. He leaves home around 12 noon for work. I downsize and moved to this area a year now. I live far from my old area. I cut down on my driving. I do not have a TV and do not want one. I go to a senior center where I enjoy the company. I stay busy. I like and enjoy a well kept home. I pray and have devotion every morning. I also do stretching exercise in the morning. I do some crafts, and I also sew. For my 80th birthday I started a TH-cam channel “Retirement living with Travis “ I am struggling with it. I like the challenge. I pray not to give it up. I feel that it is good for my brain. I have never been board and do not know what it is like to be board. I brought up 5 kids and 3 grandkids. I count my blessings.
Your explanation at [01:15] was so clear and easy to follow. This video is a must-watch for everyone!
I am 74 and have always lived alone. My parents were both EXTREMELY critical. Suicidal at 17 and hospitalized. I couldn't possibly live with someone and share my life. Criticism is never acceptable! It's now my way or the highway. And I do take exceptional care of myself. I got over being lonely in my 30s.
Amen! You're on point.... 😊😊
Well said sir 👏. I am 51 never lived with anyone since my da. And I don't have any plans to live with anyone. Life is good 👍 😊
Herrdoktor-gtq they unload their own crap on you..its them
Way to go!
Right On
My adult children don't care and this seems to be at an epidemic level for many elderly.👍
Will your kids are probably gen xers that were left alone so they're just returning the favor
@@naturalwitch1359 actually no I was a stay at home Mom
I understand how you feel, but, I really don’t believe it’s lack of caring on our kids part generally, but more so the pace of life is almost impossible for many of them, either long commutes, double incomes to exist, etc, etc. And possibly in part because we continue to plug along it’s easy for them to see us as a fire they don’t need to put out just yet. No one has weekends off to go visit Grandma, who now lives out of town because they had to move away for a job. Or perhaps they are splitting childcare while working weekends, or they are traipsing their kids to planned activities because people can’t just open their door to their kids and say “have fun, come back when the streetlights come on”, etc etc. Everyone’s life is orchestrated to a ridiculous level. I have four adult kids who are right out straight. I know they would drop everything for an emergency I might have, and I’d love to see more of them, but we cannot go back to days of yore, there are just too many obstacles and people to deal with now, not always out of preference. Three generation families were often the norm years ago as well, not as possible these days.
It's long become an American tradition; they will dump you in a home if you're not careful. My wife and daughter wonder why I have to visit my Dementia afflicted stepdad, every 3 weeks??
I know where they will toss me when my faculties start sputtering.
@@SophieBird07Very well said , a sensible assessment and understanding of modern life today - which I do not consider to be “ progress” !
We are all different. Lack of money and disability limits physical things, whether exercise or just tidying, and I can’t bearl other people rearranging me, as then I can’t find anything! I know how to live in my muddle. I say don’t interfere with people, but only help in things you are asked to help with.!
Stay alone, stay healthy, stay strong, stay peaceful, no worrysome..you already stay on your BEST LIFE❤😊❤!!!
No ! I do not need to join any social groups! I get more than enough social interaction at my tennis club ! As for “friends,” I keep them at a distance. Most of them have life problems. I don’t have time for that . I’m my own best friend!
When in your 60s , life is about dropping most of what carried you into your 60s - that includes family, relatives and friends!
. ya . go see a doctor and get sick . my plan is just keep active and don't listen to any advice .
Very interesting comment.
@@rcas350pilot8
Makes little sense as advice though.
Your tennis club certainly is a social group.
Yes, know what gives u joy and what is a source of drama
I’m 81 and I enjoy living alone. My dog keeps me busy. Thanks for the great advice.
Such important advice! This video really highlights the key things to be mindful of when living alone. Thank you for sharing these tips!
Why do people feel they need to "declutter" so as to not "burden" those left behind? My Dad did not want to downsize. He did not want to declutter. He stated that he was leaving it up to us kids. I didnt see it as a burden. It was important to him to have his stuff near him, why woukd i take that joy from him? As long as its nor dangerous/unhealthy clutter let them keep their memories.
I fully agree with you. I, too, am happy with all that stuff around me. Old papers, letters, books, household ustensils, everything reminds me of a person, an event or something else. And I am happy with all these memories.
Agreed
I decluttered to make it easier to clean.
I wish everyone who reads the comments after watching this meaningful video always peace, happiness and success! 🙏🙏🙏
I'm 79 and and live alone and stay very productive, I have a few friends that I go do yoga classes with to stay active. You are right about needing company from others even if you do enjoy your alone time, because if you don't then you feel depressed more often
and don't leave out listening to Music! i have everything from blues to bluegrass and christmas music. go to the library to learn technology and read and get in on pop trivia night. and the other fun things. pop into the movie theatre around noon when there is not a lot of people . cook new recipes, ride my bicycle. i could go on and on, but i have to go bye! oh i'm 77.
My mom insists on living alone. She should see this.
All this is good advice to a point... some people do not have any family or a trusted freind especially with personal finances. I have recently retired and although consider myself failry active have started to over think things... the what if senario....this worries me, im trying hard to look for some type of hobby or palces to go and visit/ heating bills are a big issue in the UK although i welcome my own company this will be the first winter i have experinced as a retired person and already find myself going days without speaking to anyone. I do try and keep myself busy but have moments of doubt about my self worth, i also find it hard to ask fro help for fear of rejection.
I can relate to some of the things you've said,,,I'm 69 and those I come from a big family we don't keep in touch often,, I too often goes many days without talking to anyone,, my cell rarely rings, only time I get a chance to talk to someone is when I go out to get grocery or tend to some kind of business,, I depend on the kindness of strangers when it comes to someone too talk too and I often thank them for talking with me cause it's a blessing,, being a women, women are talkers and when we don't talk enough it affects us emotionally cause we have to express our selves ,, I'm often depressed and loneliness can breed depression for some people ,,this loneliness is getting to me as well, I've been living alone 8 years and it's just difficult,, I haven't been in a relationship over twelve years, I just didn't want to deal with the drama that comes with relationships,,, I hope things change for me next year,,, I hope to find. A home with my own porch and yard so I could grow vegetables,, I presently live in a building, also with my own apartments I could have cats and rabbits again,, my present apartment has rugs in every room, I think a rabbit may eat it therefore I won't take the chance of having them here, I don't keep rabbits confined to a cage, I let them out to run around ,,,I have to commit to making some changes in my life next year and what I miss about having my rabbits and cats is animals will always give you someone to talk too,,,getting a pet will help you as well,,they enrich a person's life and give it meaning,,,take care!!
I am 67 years old just had a birthday. My life is a lot different now that i live alone. As a younger women i was very very active with my associates and had a lot of outside activities. Now i have a sight impairment, knee replacement that is still healing. Overweight, over active thyroid aches pains and cant move the way i use too. I live alone with my Son who is gone and when he does come home he goes to bed. I need to be active so i stay connected to my church of 15 years. I mentor the women and pray with them and help them when they need a listening ear. I sing and play on our worship team. I love my crafts and it brings me much joy i do it nearly everyday. I still try to keep my home clean by having my Son help me. Its important for me to keep going even though i find my life is so different and difficult now that im older. As senior citizens we much stay strong and hang in there and do the best we can. Reach out for help when uts needed. Thank you for this video it actually is a blessing!!!
Try walking a bit, then a bit more if you can !!
@@bromptinowner763 I will
I have dogs and parrots-I’m 74 and do whatever I want. And I don’t want any social groups!!
Same here
@@Braveheart.22
Me too. 2 Grey's I'm always sweeping, 2 dogs to cate for and walk. I feel peaceful. Time for making wind chimes and ghomes. Always yard work I love.
Well, obviously you need something in your life or have some loneliness or you wouldn't have clicked on this link, listened to it, and commented. No one is forcing you to go to "social groups" you seem immature for your age. Spoiled or something.
@@KMyrtleThen why did you click on this link, listen to it, and then comment?
Being 75 what really helps me is my pets two dogs i never feel lonely.
Good for you, so why are you on here?
@@elianad2083 why are you?!
Thank you for this programme. It is very helpful.
Glad to hear that!
At 78, I find that most people do not want to have anything to do with the elderly. Not even your own family. In fact, some of them go out of their way to hurt you because they think you are not good enough to even breathe. I even get harassed by some of the children in the neighborhood. They know I can't take after them
and if you call the police, they will get away with it.
Yes ...attitude towards older people has changed ...plus ,where I thought there would be kids who'd like a little job for money ,but they sneer at it. ......they get too much money from parents
I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. Maybe you would enjoy a Bible class set up for seniors. That is one of the pleasures in my life. Some senior centers are good too. One near me just hosted a sing along that turned out to be lots of fun even tho I can't carry a tune. Maybe some of the people at the center can help you find a way to solve the problems you are having with the local children. Wishing you the best!
Agree, remembered at 50 all the ageist comments kept coming in, my advice since then don't react, be nonchalant fuk em !!
@@Lisa-eo9gdIt's bad parenting..
This is a great advice for all the seniors living alone…….this is the fact,,,,,,thanks for the advice..iam one of the seniors….
You are most welcome! 😊
Health should always be number 1.....doing things like gardening, volunteer, square dance, cooking classes, books and maybe a chess group? I walk 3 miles a day regardless of weather.
Grass here in Central America grows like weed; so, every 3 weeks I drive to manually remove weeds from an acre of property I purchased. I use a plow to remove roots.
Locals ponder why I don't pay someone, I'm a little loco, I often respond.
At 84 - I am busy with hobbies - know everyone down the street by name - have two wonderful and supportive daughters -- have two rottweiler dogs - have a lot of social interaction -- go for two walks every day - hardly have time for t.v. - eat sparingly but well and in great health -- take no medication - and know that the future is bright and beckoning - and have lots of plans for activities and travel - life has to be worked on - it does NOT just happen
After my spouse’s death I joined a state-sponsored group of counseling for a 55 year plus age group. It was very helpful in order to see where I stood as a woman living alone compared to other women and men in similar circumstances.
Living alone, I have always loved it, lived alone more than any other way.
I live out in the sticks, nearest person is a mile away. I love the alone life, don't need thos people
Good for you! So...why are you on here..to brag about your alone life?
@@elianad2083 thought weak wimps, dependent p#ssies might get inspiration and try growing a pair. Maybe it works for you
@@elianad2083 must suck to be such a liser
It's almost impossible to meet people where I live that will give you any form of 'friendship' or interest.
So true.
@@afisanaaDoesn't work. I tried. Most are on computers, their cell phones or just keep to themselves..
I’m one year into retirement.. the time/ day blur has already creeped in. I find my wall calendar to be a great source of my plans.
The only way we can truly be ourselves is to live alone.
I hate being alone after being widowed. I keep myself busy I am 78 no children but this is not living
@@sylviabaxter265so true..I hate it. I feel the world is passing me by while I sit on the bleachers..
If you like living alone, It's a Good Idea to avoid People !!! I am happy to avoid people. They only want you to give them Money or for you to Run Around after Them !!! I have everything I want in my Home with my 2 Dogs !!! I cook lovely food. I don't Drink or Smoke. I couldn't be Happier !!! I never married or had children !!! I'm 70 yrs old and my only aim is to be Happy !!!
If you are a female living alone, you will undoubtedly attract neighborhood bullies. I have experienced this at 3 different homes. They will park their cars to block your driveway and do all sorts of things to test you. I nip this in the bud, the minute they start up with me. Recently, I had two neighbors ask me why I was walking down the street in front of their homes. I asked them both, do they own the streets that I walk on (for exercise.) If not, they should mind their own business.
@@deeandrews7051 I think everyone is horrible. If you want to be loved get a Dog. But you have to look after them, unlike my Ignorant neighbour who doesn't give a sh*t about her Dog !!!
Good for you! So why are you on here? To brag about your alone life?
@@spaceted3977Ask her if you could walk her Dog for her. Dog deserves better and needs a better home. Dog Warden should be called for animal neglect. I like feeding and finding homes for all the stray cats we have here...
Good advice!
Thanks!
I am 90, disabled,live alone, have self discipline and most importantly, a very rich inner spiritual life. I belo ng to a church and having travelled much in my life am in contact with friends and family abroad and friends near me who pop in regularly. I am quite content, and love solitude.
I admit to a phobia of hospitals, because of many bad experiences in them.!
Security cameras are now very cheap, and easy to install. Keep phone when going to basement and to the second story. keep up repairs, do what you can and hire out what you cannot.
Thanks for the tips
Im 77. Im sharing caring by nature. Come from big asian family. Love to have family and friends around. I like to be alone as well, just to be with my réflexions and dreams, sometimes.
At 74 and live alone! The only thing I have thought about is who will find me dead in my bed! The mail man? Family? Who hardly ever visit me! Hmmm 😮
Really? That’s what you think about? I am 72 with no family nor friends and I don’t think about that. I mean, when I die, I won’t have any thoughts about my body nor who finds it nor what happens to it because I’ll be dead then! Someplace else. Some other level of existence. It’s so much more important what you do or don’t do in life before death. In other words: make amends now while you can and give back all you have stolen and pay back all you owe and have cost your victims.
What if like me your health stops are from doing much 😢
@@vernonpritchard3810 then just do what you can.
I have thought about that myself but only because I worry what would happen to my cat or my chickens. I am concerned about them more than I am about who will find my body. I am 76 years old and have no close friends or family. No one checks on me to see if I am well. That doesn't bother me so much but what would happen to my animals? If they hadn't been left outside they would probably starve to death inside the house or inside their coop. I hate to think about them suffering just because I am no longer here to care for them. For me to die is only to be set free. I am ready to go home now.
@@claudiamia2058 I too am in your situation so-to-speak. Check with your local sheriff/law enforcement or fire department and express your concern. I’ll bet they might have a system in place to check on the local elderly for that very reason regarding your pets. If, not, then they may call you once a day just to say hi and ask how you are doing!
Many years ago, during my old summer job, the factory had a sign that said "A place for everything and everything in its place." These are words to live by. Every item in your home should have a designated PLACE. For example, my cell phone is ALWAYS either in my pocket, on the nightstand by the bed, or next to my PC. I never lay it down anywhere else, especially when I'm out. The same applies to files on the PC. Each one has its place.
I've told my son , if I find an isolated cave, that's where I'll live . Off the grid but furbished with comforts. I'm happiest isolated from people who causes me anxiety and immense stress. As long as my only son, his wife and toddler daughter are in consistent communication, I am content.
I am 76 an my husband died 2 years ago. I took care of him until his death. I like living alone and being who I am.
Don't wait till loneliness creeps in? Too late. I've never been married, have had very few girlfriends, and have never known how to even get someone in my life. So I sit here, retired and living alone since my parents are gone and I'm an only child. Loneliness has been what my life has been about for so long, I've given up on trying to find someone. Being no good at getting women hurts, and I've never been any good at it. Secondly., I have no interest in joining groups. All other old people talk about is 1) their wife -which I have and had none 2) their kids - which I've had none and 3) their grandkids -which obviously I have none of them. I have no common interests and don't care to give a crap about their lives which I could never relate to. When I'm sick I have no one to help me, and an occasional phone call to or from a friend doesn't wipe away my depression, lack of self confidence, and lonliness.
I'm the female version of you. I hear you. 👍🏾
How old are you? What are you doing all day long? What is (was) your profession?
I’m sad to hear that. Although I got big family I kind of felt your pain in that comment. I divorced in 87 never had any other relationships worth mentioning either before or after the split . Am more or less an outcast in social situations so am tending to avoid them these days. Reading and music are brilliant for me . I can relate to what you’re going through I really hope you pull through and find some happiness somewhere.
@wielandhartwich3184 I'm 69 years old now. I'm not one to mingle with people I dont know. I do have some close friends - the only saving grace in my life.
@@wielandhartwich3184 69. I was an accountant. Retired now.
Thank you very much!!!
@@joannapo9122 You're welcome
i was forced to retire at 49 , unexpectedly due to MS . loosing my independence is abig loss!!! my husband still working and Yes i enjoyed being alone as soon he’s gone to work I’m so peaceful ( i hope this is normal 😮
perfectly normal. I never got that pleasure which i would have loved .when my husband took early retirement and worked from home ,I felt I had to be constantly seen working at something in the house. 30 years later he was still working from home , and I felt uncomfortable if he walked past the lounge room and saw me reading a book. Now in my 80`s ,and he`s in a nursing home ,so i`m catching up on all the old movies from the 40`s 50`s that he would never watch ....4 months now,I`m still enjoying it , between driving to visit him ever 2nd day ....my son lives with me ,in a separate apartment,I don`t see him every day,I don`t want to ,but hes marvellous when I need him .
Now I am 74 years.
In my age of 24 by God's grace I am intact.
My life Lord Jesus Christ hands.
Peace of mind.I am not living alone.
My Lord is with me always.
Prophet Elijah crow not comming .But Lord sent to Widows house to exist.in Sarafat.
Life is in third world countries.
I am not living alone.
Lord took care in past.
Lord will take care in the days to come.
Jacob varghese
Great advice, thank you for this video :)
No worries!
I spend my time learning to sing this song :
Ya no estás más a mi lado corazón
en el alma sólo tengo soledad
y si yo no puedo verte
por qué Dios me hizo quererte
para hacerme sufrir más?
Siempre fuiste la razón de mi existir adorarte para mi fue religión
y en tus besos yo encontraba
el calor que me brindaba
el amor y la pasión.
Es la historia de un amor
como no hay otro igual
que me hizo comprender
todo el bien todo el mal
que le dio luz a mi vida
apagándola después.
Ay, qué vida tan oscura
sin tu amor no viviré.
I am LOVING living alone! First time in 81 years!
I'll stay alone baby for a thousand years, nothing's gonna touch you in these golden years.
Outstanding thank you soo much. I needed this reinforcement.
Thank you so much for this video. Really very helpful.
I am 80 years old veteran
Live a lone is a haven
Young people are ok with you when you are giving eat healthy and a walk look forward to passing over I am not sick I have had my life
Don't wount to come again
I choose to go out to lunch every single day, to get me out into public. It keeps me from becoming a hermit . Also, on the internet, I spend my time sharing the gospel, explaining Bible Prophecy, and reaching out to folks to encourage them or make small common sense suggestions of help when they are ill. I don’t spend ANY time thinking about my age or my diseases ! My time is spent in trying to help and encourage others.
Very good ideas presented in your video, except you left one of the most critical things. The constant phone ringing by scammers wanting to take your money or sell you one of those medicare advantage plans. I fell for that when I first went on SS. It took 4 years and a lawyer to fight medicare and social security. The latest scam is people calling every day saying that I must call the to help settle my large federal tax debt. ( I pay before April 15 each year.)
I get 30-60 scammer calls every day. Most are foreign voices. I even got a call from my own phone number. This is a constant stress that a heart patient does not need.
turn your gd phone off idiot .
Living alone I'll let keeping things tidy go. Till it gets to me. Also family momentos from my grandparents. Yes I knew them. My dad recently gave them to me. What to keep, what to give away?
Mission. Live with a mission like to achive something worthy pursuing.
I have sole care of two geriatric horses. They are at my farm. I feed three times a day. muck out, tend to any I also have a fairly large home. I do have a cleaning service twice a month. I am 70 years old. Stay active.
Wonderful tips and suggestions. Wish you a great time.
R. Akhter Abbasi
Great information thank you
Glad it was helpful!
DON'T listen to the news for a better outlook on life
Thanks for a great message ❤,
I have my little dog he's wonderful I'm alone 😢I've always been a people person I walk my dog daily I'm not happy ,it's hard to get motivated, I'm 70years I'm not good at asking for help, thanks Bev ❤❤
Video games involving driving around a city helps quite a bit. My 70 year old uncle does it.
I love living alone....l have 3 dogs ..they enjoy a good walk..love gardening...op shopping...
After going through a divorce several years back and putting up with his crap , I have been on my own for27 years and am very happy! I enjoy taking care of my own finances, and finally now am investing on my own! Do not want a man telling me what I should be doing. EVER! Love being single!