Pain management not being routinely offered for gynecological procedures is wrong
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Cervix pain is excruciating. It IS sensitive. Where on earth did they get the idea that it wasn't?
You are so right, I passed out when I had my biopsy done the pain was intense!
I bet it was a man. Lol
In all seriousness, modern gynecology has a history associated with the torture of black slaves-
A man...smh
I'm sure a man with noncervix decided this procedure doesn't hurt
You know where they got it from and it wasn't women doctors
A few years ago I had an IUD put in, the OBGYN “nicked my cervix” there was blood all over the floor, my gown.. down to my ankles. She said I could GO TO WORK.. so I wiped myself down. And then when I was driving home in pain, my uterus started to reject the IUD. I was having contractions. Actual LABOR.
I was luckily close to my moms work. I pulled up and she moved me to the back and drove me straight to the ER, where they removed it.
Women’s healthcare needs huge improvements
I heard that in Australia it's treated like actual surgery. Like fully go under.
@FukaiKokoro , Australian here, some gynaecologists will put you under but not all. Plenty of people just get it put in in the clinic.
I’m sorry you went through that honey , It shouldn’t be ignored and the main priority is to stop the bleeding and monitor the client to make sure that there’s no unusual pain or bleeding. I used to do EMT training and that’s the first subject we learned. I really hope that you get the right care in the future because it shouldn’t be that careless.
The first time I got an IUD I had told them that I was very sensitive down there and asked if should I take something. They said to take a Tylenol, so I took two Pamprin. The pain was so excruciating that I blacked out and they sent me to the hospital. After a long fight on payment for the whole mess, I reported the gyno who did the procedure. Nothing ever came of it and they were still saying you only need to take one Tylenol for an IUD. I am still traumatized by feeling fisted and then waking up in an ambulance.
When I was 21 and pregnancy was still considered a pre-existing condition I had to have my first born on medicaid and I got my IUD put in at the free clinic after he was born. Within a couple of weeks I couldn't stand up to walk I had to walk at a 90° angle and tiptoe. It was so painful, so I finally went in there to remove it. The female Doctor that removed the IUD said very rudely to me, you know these aren't free right? Somebody has to pay for this! I told her I am aware of that but I can not walk, something is wrong and this needed to be removed.
I know how she feels. That procedure hurt SO bad!! I had tears running down my face and was clearly in absolute agony, but the doc was completely cold, as was the nurse there. I balled my eyes out right after, and they just looked at me with blank faces, told me to get dressed, and left the room. I got dressed and didn't even check out. I was very upset and just wanted to get the hell out of there and go home. I cried all the way. I was seriously traumatized, and just thinking about it, 10+ years later, gives me anxiety. Thank you for speaking up about this. ❤
Similar experience. There were students in the room to watch too 😫 all females and the doctor was annoyed WITH ME because it wouldn't stop bleeding and told me it was because I needed to relax and stop clenching. Idk what I could have been clenching but I wasnt trying to 😥
And absolutely no warning there was going to be so much pain
They are practicing old medicine back where they use slaved African women as guinea pigs. Slap a label on it and pretend that a patient is not crying in agony. Look st them, if they are old then most likey they really dont give a fk how you feel.
Mee too😢
I got my IUD implant done while awake and just some Tylenol a few hours before. I was in so much pain but was still the whole time and just talked to the aid about my cat. Once it was done, I was told I could go on free and be okay. Just some small cramping is normal.
I got home and was on the ground sobbing from the pain. My Dad had to help me to bed, and I called out of work the following day.
In some way, I felt ... violated. That the "small pressure" and "small cramps" were non-existent and I was lied to just so it was easy on them. I will never forget that day. I changed my doctor and she now is very kind and upfront.
i was able to trust again.
I also had an IUD done when I was awake I love you doctor but she was wasn’t prepared for the pain I was in. She’s done them before and said they went pretty good but I guess since I havent had children it was harder. The pain was something Ive never experienced and the cramps were so bad I could barely move. She did apologize for not being prepared for my pain levels as she hasn’t experienced that with others.
I had a cervical biopsy with no pain meds onboard. I cried the entire time. I was 23. This was 51 years ago. The male doctor told me I was being a baby. I reported him to the Board of Kaiser Permanente and reported him to the AMA. He was no longer able to practice under Kaiser. Women! Be the Warriors that you are. Speak up!
Sorry that happened to you, so glad you reported him.
@@saundracohen4032 Thank you!
This happened to me also. I wish I knew that I could have done that
@@anaeichenlaub3215you’re a troll. Just because something doesn’t hurt for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt for others. Good for you you weren’t in pain. Papsmeres are INCREDIBLY painful for me. I would rather be made comfortable then just not get them because I hate the obgyn. Gain some perspective and a little bit of class.
Period. So glad to hear people speaking up and making change.
The fact that they say it pinches means that it does, in fact, have nerve endings. 😤
LITERALLY
I blew out my ACL, my MCL and my PCL of my right knee all at the same time. That, including the surgery and recovery, did not come close to the pain of my biopsy. Yes, in terms of time the biopsy was quicker than the knee injury and rehab, but it will forever be worse. When I watched this video the first time and the Doctor mentioned it was a biopsy, I began to sweat. I'll never forget it.
And it's a whole lot more than "a little pinch".
It’s also super insidious because they’re basically insinuating that the vagina does not have ANY nerve endings reducing it to nothing more than a sleeve of skin that men can procreate and reproduce with.
Any woman who has sex can tell you the cervix has an INCREDIBLE amount of nerve endings that can feel both extreme pleasure and pain.
I’ve had a cervix biopsy in my 20s (15 years ago) and I cried the whole way through it due to the pain. The doctor said nothing while a nurse came in and held my hand. I went home and bled worse than a period for 2 days.
I am so sorry that this had happened to you I audibly gasped. You are a such a brave soul for dealing with that because I might've have just left the table mid process
I’m sorry this happened to you. The same exact thing happened to me.
Make your requests whether for medication or procedures. And if they refuse, ask them to document that refusal in your record. Best piece of advice I’ve ever read.
I never fully went out and started moving. Now it's in my chart to give me more lol
Even pap smears are uncomfortable. I can feeeeel the “gentle” scraping. It’s like a gentle scraping of your eyeball. How tf can you “gently scrape” ANYTHING???
I hate them
I hates those and im practically terrified going so i just dont go
@@FallenHalfWingedWolfi know how you feel, i really do. But my mom had ovarian cancer and regular pap smears probably would have saved her the pain of going through that. We live in a very rural area so she went every 3 years at which point it was too late. It’s preventative care, please get checked once a year or every 18 months if you can’t muster more💜
@@FallenHalfWingedWolfsame. Im 26 and have not gone. I have an actual phobia of the OBGYN. I just try everything in my power to keep myself as healthy as possible
@@abbieliz396omg me too, i have a phobia of it and don’t go
As a single dad of a teenage daughter...this is important for me to know. I am all there is. So unfortunately, educating my daughter to female medical procedures is up to me. Thank you for making this video
If your daughter is OK with it, go with her to her appointments. It's sucks that the world still works this way, but a doctor is *far* more likely to actively listen and address complaints if a man is "validating" what the woman says.
@chesneymigl4538 I already do. But I agree. It isn't right or fair that sexism exists in our health care system...but it does. And my fear in certain states it is only going to get worse. Thank you for the input
Thank you for watching this video, Dad! Doctors listen to men more than they listen to women. Your daughter may need you to advocate for her someday. Stand your ground!
You’re a good Dad, just by coming in the comments and being horrified of what really goes down.
We need more Dads/men like you!
@@chesneymigl4538 I don't think the answer is to find a male and sacrifice self-respect. For anything to change, the answer is to demand respect. Period.
I was subjected to a uterine biopsy and told it would just be “uncomfortable.” LIES!!! It was excruciatingly painful! At the 1st scraped I yelled so loud, people down the hall were startled. I yelled “Stop! Stop!!!” I don’t know what super woman could EVER endure that pain. I ended up doing the biopsy under general anesthesia. Never ever again!!
The way this girl is -still- in tears out of pain and horror but calls it 'the discomfort I experienced" is so telling to how she - how woman - are being adressed. Horrible. Thank you for fighting for us by educating
We shouldn't have to ask for pain control or treatment! It should be offered to us!
you better ask!!!
Not just Gynecology. I was literally tortured when a radiologist fumbled around trying to put a "Tracing clip" on a suspicious area of my breast. Told not too move/breathe while I was face down with my breast hung below me through a hole in the table FOREVER, until she got the right spot. I was screaming inside, my tears falling on the floor. When it was over she told me the injection to numb me would have hurt as much if not more than the procedure! I went to the surgeon for the biopsy, and NEVER went back to that radiologist for a mammo or anything else. Brutal!
Young Male gynecologist disturb me frankly sometimes..it’s like my exhusband refusing to buy me pads ..they just don’t get it and it sticks with us in our minds because for what we do and what our bodies are expected to do we need support and we need people to hear and listen and acknowledge
They treat you like a drug seeker when you ask. 😢 Advocate for yourself.
My cousin had a hysterectomy this year. She was given 7 pills for pain & told that would be all she'd get.
I love that the doctor is always saying pain, and not "discomfort" because clearly, what the woman in the original video felt was pain and not discomfort.
They mean, the discomfort of the doctor who has to work while you’re screaming.
I was gonna say that! That was almost jarring. I do not think what she felt was merely 'discomfort' if it's something she is in tears over in her car.
Now I've never had this procedure, nor have I even read up on it, but I'm going to suggest that 'discomfort' is the word her *doctor* chose to use, not she. And she is so overwhelmed that she apparently didn't even notice this, because she is still using word her doctor used instead of what it obviously was.
@@evelynsaungikar3553 WTF is wrong with you
Right, because they will say discomfort, and it will be pain..
Yeah, but we all know that OB/GYN refuses to give any pain meds for anything it’s ridiculous and it’s because the medical professionals over abused over wrote for Percocet and every other narcotic under the sun so now everyone is punished. I have cancer patients that can’t get medicine for pain that are dying.
I had this procedure done and it was horrific! He also talked down to me afterwards stating I was imagining the pain. I filed a complaint and was redirected to another gyno for the following surgery. I feel for this young lady. 😢❤
Having my “membranes” stripped when I was pregnant was one of the most excruciatingly painful experiences next to childbirth. Hands down.
I had to have frequent colposcopies over a three year period. My doctor never once let me suffer. He was the best GYN ever. He literally worked until he died at 86. Hundreds of women came to his memorial. He always listened and always believed what you said.
Love doctors like this. Some doctors really need a reminder of what their job is
This is wonderful and the kind of story we need to hear to be reminded that there are good ones out there. It's not a list cause to change doctors to you find the one that will listen. Thank you for the bright spot in a comment section of horror
How did he manage not to let you suffer? Please let us know!
My three colposcopies were agonising. I had a panic attack during one.
All nurses doing colposcopies should have to undergo one before they can practice
What pain management did he provide?
I've had the same female gynaecologist for 26 years. I just had to have a biopsy of my uterus. The doctor said she could do it in the office, but it would be uncomfortable for me and she recommended we do it at a surgical center where they could put me under and it would be over in less than an hour and I would feel no pain whatsoever. It ended up just being a polyp which she removed and biopsied and it was benign. I didn't realize how lucky I am to have such a wonderful doctor.
Recommend that doctor to all the women you know in your area, what a saint!
You don't happen to be in Colorado, right? 😂
You were incredibly fortunate to have that particular doctor.
I had a uterine biopsy (in 3 different areas for “thoroughness”) without a stitch of pain control-not even an aspirin. It was excruciating.
I did have cancer, so I tried to feel as though it was worth the pain to find out, but to learn that was something I didn’t have to endure makes me a bit angry now. No woman should have to go through that.
Mine was done in office, cut the polyp off. And nothing for pain.
I love my doctor too. There's a reason he's called the gentle gyno.
I had to get an endometrial biopsy and my obgyn told me it would be done in seconds and it will feel like a pinch. The procedure lasted for minutes and it was the most painful procedure i ever had while awake. I felt violated and cried the whole day after, I had a really hard time comprehending what had happened. It was a HORRIBLE experience.
I had a cervical stitch when I was pregnant with my second child. It was done in the hospital by my surgeon.
When it was time to remove it, I was booked into the gynaecologist to have it removed in his office with no pain meds. Told me the surgeon had drawn a picture of where to locate the stitch and it should be relatively pain-free.
Well, I screamed the office down, and I clawed the seat until I couldn’t take it anymore. All while being heavily pregnant.
Eventually, they decided to book me into surgery to remove it with a blocker for pain meds. It was all over within seconds, with no pain obviously and stress-free. He apologised after and said that the stitch was not quite where he had been told it was and that was why it was painful.
I will never forget it. Such a vulnerable place to feel that kind of pain.
This EXACT same thing happened to me. I almost created my own comment before I saw yours. I’m sorry either of us had that experience.
This happened to me, I was told you will just feel a pinch, instead what I felt was intense pain to the point I almost passed out and experienced days of bleeding and uterine contractions, I could barely walk afterwards but was expected to go on with my day and had back to work. Obviously, the guidance to not treat this procedure without proper pain meds was written by someone without a uterus/cervix.
@@Remember_when how many women must experience this profound pain before you realize it's not "a little pinch" how long until you realize the men & textbooks lie? Why do you insist her pain is wrong when the reality is the teaching is wrong? Incredible ignorance.
I didnt ask b/c I could handle a pinch. It hurt so bad. I drove home barely sitting, I used my big toe to to gas and brake, I felt every peeble and grain of sand on the road. To make matters worse, the dye they injected gave me an yeast infection. I will never have another without strong pain meds on advance.
I had one maybe almost 4 years ago and sex has been pretty uncomfortable since. 😢
@@Remember_when Why should it have been "just a pinch"?
@@Remember_whenAgreed. I had a colposcopy done and it did feel like a pinch. Painful, yes, but very brief, just like a pinch. I was told that was what to expect and that’s exactly what I experienced.
Whenever a doctor says it shouldn’t cause any pain just a little discomfort and pressure, you know it will be a 9/10 pain.
That has been my experience. The lady Gyn had a stoney exterior. I couldn't be understood around that office. Without doing an exam, she stepped in the door, said " it all has to go" and left me sitting there. I went home with a ton of questions,so I did a follow up where I asked about options. All of it would tell them something else and would be painful and would only put off the inevitable, but at least I knew WHY.
In 2007, I had a radical hysterectomy and I don't miss flowing 24/7. But a little compassion would've gone a long , long way !.
Glad I just did that instead of having them pick at me from then on. And all that couldn't remove my tumor. But in time, the tumor may have gone cancerous. It had already turned dark.
True for ear infection device removal, as well!
That’s Exactly what I was told. The pain was so EXCRUCIATING I left the office kin tears. I can tolerate intense pain but this was HORRIBLE!
same for eye procedures. I never trust doctors now
EVERY.SINGLE.TIME! 😮
Even after 2 x labor, kidney stones, and lupus, the 2 procedures that hurt more than anything were a colposcopy and having my membranes stripped.
Thank you for this. I had a cervical biopsy in 2021 and not only was it extremely painful, feeling like she was cutting my cervix with dull manicure scissors and trekking me to breathe, but also traumatizing. I felt violated and had flashbacks of exotics from the past. I hid in my house for week crying and became extremely depresssd.
I had no idea that anyone else felt the same.
I don't normally chime in, but I had a biopsy too, and it's four cuts. I screamed and bled everywhere. This woman didn't suffer discomfort, it's actual pain. I'm so glad it's being addressed. I'm old, but I'm telling you, these young people are changing the world and I'm happy they're demanding to be taken seriously.
I’m so sorry that you ever had to endure any of that, and you’re so brave to be sharing your story. But stories and experiences like your are exactly why we’re fighting so hard for change. 💕
As someone who’s nearly 18 we are trying our hardest to change the system and will continue to do so until this bullshit is fixed
Thank you!! There is a HUGE difference between discomfort and pain. I've been told so many times "it'll just be a bit of discomfort" and instead felt excruciating pain.. I always anticipate the worst before anything I get done at the doctor OR obgyn because of this.
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@@averixx06 Social media is powerful! Keep posting and demand change! Women need to be heard.
This seems so common I don’t understand how doctors can still say “you won’t feel much” when they’ve likely had years of patients crying, bleeding, or even screaming in their offices. How can you ignore that?
I was given an IUD without anything, which is already uncomfortable enough... it went through my uterine wall.... they then pulled it back out without any medication and zero follow up. It wasn't considered a big deal by anyone other than me.
I was struggling to make it back to my car after a IUD, i had 2 babies after that happened and i still say the IUD was more painful!
@@juwairiyahummabdullah same- I was so shocked at the pain I became incoherent. 3 weeks later after continual haemorrhaging and unbelievable pain I was admitted to the ER and had to have it taken out because it had damaged my uterine lining. Never again. I was told by the female doctor it would be ‘slightly uncomfortable’ and that’s when I learned to watch women doctors as closely as men- now I only go to LGBTQI+ focused or feminist based female doctors.
It's medical misogyny. It's a serious issue but there is little to no awareness about it because it only affects women :)))
I have a tilted uterus and a abnormally small cervix entrance. Still they denied me getting any kind of pain medicine or anesthesia for this as they put the IUD in and yes I totally cried during this procedure and what they said is a 5-minute procedure turned out to be 35 minutes of just pain. They finally got it in and then I literally cried the whole way home once I got home I could barely walk and cried to the bed and fell asleep for the rest of the day but yet I was supposed to go back to work same day
I was given a surprise biopsy on my cervix. I didn’t know the gynaecologist was going to do this to me until I felt the pain. I was in such horrible pain but just told to relax and it would soon be over. On the way home I started to feel faint and bled a lot for over a week. I phoned and was told it was “normal”.
I had an episiotomy during my delivery. At my follow-up visit, I told the GYN that my episiotomy wasn't healing correctly. There was one section where he stitched that skin was coming through the stitches, and it was uncomfortable even to sit. He said no problem, easy fix. He took a cauterizer and burned the part of the skin off with no pain medication or numbing. He had no empathy and didn't care. This was 30 years ago, and I still remember the pain and smell of burning flesh.
😱
I asked for pain meds after my operation and my OBGYN said "if you want pain meds go to a pain managment doctor, I don't prescribed them..." I found a new OBGYN and then left a review.
I was offered Tylenol after the birth of my first child. I told the nurse, no I don't have a headache, my v was just shredded by a watermelon exiting.
We need to report cruel Drs. to the STATE BOARDS! I have.
I have a tumor on my ovary that's actually larger than my ovary and the second I asked my obgyn for something for the pain she wrote me a full script for tramadol with refills. Not even one of those here's 10 pills use them sparingly kind of things. I love her.
@@kristys7172they gave me percocets, not sure if it was only because I had 4th degree tear with my first and the second was a third degree tear and botched epidural,percs both times,prolly needed something more stronger to be honest 😢 better then Tylenol tho!
You should also report him to the Board of Medicine.
I had my first culposcopy in 1977, exactly as the doctor said "few nerve endings no big deal ". I screamed so loud and was lifted off the table from the unbearable intense pain. How are they still doing it the exact same way FORTY SEVEN years later!!!!! Stand up and make them change this procedure ladies, WE ARE NOT GOING TO STAND FOR THIS!!!!
Then can numb it for 10 min. first or use a brush method. Keep looking for a dr. that cares and is up on the newest techniques.
Yes. We never even had any choice for these procedures. We just had to take it and drive home 10 minutes later.
Insist or abuse of abbandonment
Acuse
I find pap smears VERY painful and I still get told that it’s all in my head and to just suck it up 😣. I can’t wait to get my hysterectomy
I was a virtual medical scribe for 2 years for a OBGYN. I can’t tell you how many screams I have heard while people were having colposcopies. It really is awful.
I had the same thing happen. Had a colposcopy and was totally blindsided by how painful it was. I left the office in tears afterwards. Very traumatic
It goes beyond gynecology! I was in the ER while the girl next to me was getting her broken leg set with NO pain meds. She was screaming her head off, and understandably so! But the doctor just kept going! This went on for 15 minutes at least! She was even still trying to be polite and kept calling him "sir" while she screamed! It was horrifying! This is inexcusable!
I myself have had to beg for pain meds when I got nerve damage. It shouldn't have to be like this!
It's because zero research has been done on female bodies. All the cadavers they disect are males. They literally know nothing about us.
That's terrifying. Why don't they believe women, they must enjoy seeing us in extreme pain
@@kab9706 I don't know what it is, and it's also women who don't believe women. The two doctors who denied me pain relief were both women.
I really don't get it.
@@aliciamoon9816I have had 14 pelvic surgeries and my doctors were women that also treated me like I was a nothing and literally gave me nothing and even after my surgeries I was given so few pain meds that I had to beg for extra because it was so excruciating they just don't care this is getting ridiculous I'm tired of people punishing us because of drug addicts it's not fair....
Same thing happened to me when I was in 5th grade. A kid broke my leg at school right before lunch, the school called my mom and wouldn't let me speak to her cause they thought I would "Exaggerate" or whatever. I wasn't crying, because I had a fear of crying in public and being seen as weak, but I literally couldn't walk. The school didn't call an ambulance, and downplayed it to my parents. When I got to the ER, my leg was broken right under the knee. I was given no pain meds, and they tried to set my leg in place or make it go straight(I don't remember much it was quite a bit ago). I was in a cast and wheelchair for months. Oh, and the kid(Who had groped me prior and the school nurses said I over exaggerated too, he also later slapped me) was not punished or even had a talking to.
Problem is we do ask and they tell us we are being over dramatic and overly emotional.
I was told there is no good way to provide local anesthesia to the cervix.
I remembered after having my son via C-section I was in a ward with another mom who also had a C-section but we had different obgyns. She was in so much pain and couldn't understand why I was walking so freely and never in pain. My doctor had also booked me a physiotherapist and the lady next to me said " please give me your doctor's contacts I'm changing gynaes". He always used to say, he doesn't want his patients to be in pain. He is an Amazing Dr.
One thing I have learned as a pharmacist…what we learn in school sometimes we need to unlearn and learn correctly through clinical experience
The fact that every woman that has had procedures done has ALWAYS experienced pain is proof enough
Never been to the gynecologist, never will lol I'm 25
That's not a "fact." Many women do not experience pain from routine procedures.
@@OliviaLannon if you are sexually active I would highly suggest going at least once. BUT do research on who you go to and know your rights.
@@susansmith493 uh news flash, we do. Are you a woman?
@@OliviaLannon you really should think about getting Pap tests done occasionally though. It does hurt somewhat but it’s worth it to catch cancer early.
Unmedicated cervical biopsy was probably THE most painful thing I have experienced and I have gone through labor and childbirth and multiple surgeries. I literally saw stars exploding before my open eyes.
That's wild! I have not gone through child birth, but I had 3 total 20 years ago...one every 6 months zero pain killers and I literally left the dr office and went to work! I hope that means child birth won't be too bad 😂🎉❤
Agree!
I passed out from the procedure.
I was told the same but still given several injections before all my biopsies were cut off. Thank God! I have other issues and my provider does not provide any type of pain management for OB issues. It's sad.
Thank you for your post, same for me...I feel less alone. For years I felt I was the only "weak" one that felt excruciating pain during that procedure
What a nightmare. They bully you & say “oh it’s no big deal”.
You’re already there and also if you’re a “difficult” patient they dump you. Some docs are A holes
I recently had an endometrial biopsy and was told “there’s going to be some pressure.” LIESSS!! I screamed and cried. I wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone.
Omg the doctor told me there were no nerve endings in the cervix when i had a colposcopy. I said, it hurts and he literally told me no, it didn't. Thank you! 35 years later
The audacity!
Show your Doctor this video. Better yet show this to the Clinic Nurse’s AND clinic Administrator!
Same to me. Had it done 3 times and no pain meds…
I can almost guarantee it was a make doctor who stated there was no pain but that of a pinch. I’m sure there are plenty of great male gynos, but much like a female MD knowing about the penis from what she was taught, it goes the same for male MD’s and the physical aspect of female anatomy.
It’s horrible. It really hurts and the doctors don’t listen at all I remember crying and sobbing through the whole procedure and the doctor saying oh it don’t hurt… he’s a man he would never understand.
I asked for pain meds during my last IUD insertion and they refused to give me anything and said it doesn’t help anyway. I almost passed out and had to lay down for 15 minutes afterwards. I work in healthcare and if anything this taught me to advocate for pain management for my patients, especially groups like women and African Americans that frequently are not treated sufficiently for pain. Thank you for this.
When I got my IUD I actually did lay down for 15 mins and passed out... woke up not knowing I passed out... the pain was no joke
Had one 6 months ago. I had no idea how painful it was going to be. I almost blacked out.
I'm really sorry this happened to you, I had an iud fitted recently and was told to take pain meds beforehand and they applied something to numb my cervix as well without me having to ask for it. The process for me was quick with only a few small cramping pains, I literally just got up, left and drove myself home afterwards perfectly fine. I read loads of horror stories from other women before getting it fitted though and it's shocking to me how much of a difference it can make depending on who fits it, It should just be a quick relatively painless procedure, but unfortunately it seems for a lot of women it's far from it
As if latinas get better treatment than african americans lol wheres their advocacy
I had my first IUD put in and it was really uncomfortable. I had it replaced just last year and my mom said she could hear me out in the waiting room. There needs to be change
I'm 55 recently treated for cancer and I had multiple gynecological biopsies with no pain management. When it came back I delyed going to be checked. They asked why i waited and I told them why. This time I voiced my feelings and they listened and apologized.
I remember having my first endometrial biopsy. Absolutely love my GYN. He was easy to talk to, caring and compassionate when it came to discussing my pregnancy losses. However, after that biopsy and me screaming for him to stop for just 5 seconds, he was surprised. After he asked me, “wow. Did it really hurt that bad.” It was a combination of the pain and PTSD from my first loss that involved a lot of tests, needles, etc. it’s excruciating. Before my hysterectomy my insurance company demanded I have another one. Knowing how bad it would hurt I literally worried myself sick.
I made an Ob/Gyn blush once. I told her my cervix was sensitive and to please warn me before poking it so I'd not flinch. She told me that it wasn't sensitive, and I shouldn't be able to feel it. I reiterated what I said and she asked how I could be so sure. "My husband has very long fingers." Made her turn very red and stop questioning me.
Great response!!
😂😂😂I think anyone that believes that a cervix has no nerves either has never had a deep bonking or hasn't got the goods for delivering a deep bonking, and they need to hush up and stop telling on their sex lives.
Love❤it
Bravo😂👏🏻
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My female gynecologist told me ovarian cysts were normal, they’re supposed to hurt, and they’re supposed to burst. She called me a baby and told me to leave.
What a POS. I a few burst as a 14 yr old and couldn’t go to school, threw up and it was so heartbreaking my parents didn’t know whether to bring me to the ER. That doctor is DISGUSTING!
Oh my gosh, when they burst, it's some of the worst pain I ever felt. My ovaries were covered in them, they told me I'd never have kids. But I got on birth control afterward to stabilize my periods, within 23 months they had all cleared up and I was pregnant. I swear these Drs are out here guessing half the time.
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I’ve literally had the same happen. & then another time at the ER they told me I should be use To it by now. And use to my endometriosis. Scolded me for misusing ER as a “pill mill” and ALMOST KILLED ME. They sent me home. Hours later I came back because I started 💩 nothing but 100% blood. Because I actually had an awful infection. Later found out I also have Crohn’s disease. I was in palliative care for 2 weeks.
I have far too many stories. I’m actually gunna write a book at some point. If for
Nothing else, for my own therapy lol. 🥲
Years AFTER surgical diagnosis. A SURGEON poked me with a toothpick a few times and told me “you don’t have endometriosis haha who told you that?” And so much more awful things.
My sister thought I was exaggerating about how doctors & nurses treat me. So she came to that appt. Had to pick her jaw up off the floor. I’m 35 and STILL gotta bring my Mama to the ER with me if Ima need pain meds from them.
Thankfully, after 20 YEARS, I’m finally in PM for the last 4 years with an AMAZING office and care team. Praise God. They saved my life. Truly.
I too have had the pleasure of having painful ovaries and the pain associated with cysts is excruciating until they pop, and it still hurts just not as bad.
I have endometriosis Adenmyosis bleed for 5 years straight had 5 surgeries last one finally was a hysterectomy. And what I went through at times is really sad and really gave me a whole new understanding of our healthcare system.
I had this done in my early 20s. It was horrible, and everyone was completely dismissive of how much it affected me. Now, 30 yrs later, i can't do a pap smear without completely freaking out. I have a wonderful Dr who gives me pain meds and anxiety meds for my pap smear appt. I feel so bad for thia young lady and thank you to this and ny Dr for hearing and understanding.
I am 76 years old and i still remember the pain when my Dr. said he wss going to snip a sample off my uterus to biopsy. He said i wld feel a little pinch. Well let me tell you, i screamed and rose right up off that table snd he yelled at me and his nurse shamed me. Its been 45 years and i remember like it was last wk !
I had to have it done twice with different tools and both times the samples were not intact enough. And the second time was so bad i felt the metal scratch up the inside me. I still feel the pain from it being done 6 months ago. And they want me to go to a specialist to have a DNC but I am traumatized now.
I had 4 done when I was 50 (i'm 54 now) they gave me a towel and told me to bite down and to not scream..........after telling me it will just pinch a little............. 5 pipettes skewered into my uterus for samples after cracking my cervix open and I have a 12 inch long vaginal canal so they have to have special seculums to hold me open. They've pinched my clitorus so bad I shouted at them and again was told to not make such a fuss.
GAH!
I feel faint just reading your message. That's horrible, and disgusting, so sorry for you!
I'm so sorry this happened to you I would have done the same thing I'm in pain thinking about it
Wow!! See?? OMG
They would say “sorry, no, nothing is available for this” and then you choose to stay and endure it or leave and get billed for it. It’s sad. We are treated like we don’t matter and it only gets worse (the treatment we get) as we age.
I think the Doc‘s just get a kick out of inflicting pain on women because they can. They’re not held accountable. Bastards.
I hear her say to ask for pain meds but if you’ve never had the procedure you wouldn’t know to ask.
@@lindafitch6692People need to research their procedures, their practitioners, and finally get 2nd and 3rd opinions.
Agreed. So unbelievably sad how medical ethics is shoved under the rug in medicine today and the lack of accountability and all for profit.
Exactly. And maybe it is within your right to ask for pain medication but they will never give it to you and if you were to press it in any sort of way, they were just label you. I mean, what would they give you for that anyway I don't even know they would just treat you like a drug addict these days
25 years ago, I was told I'd feel a little pinch. Instead it felt like he was stapling my uterus shut. I would have hoped it was no longer like this. Much thanks to you and doctors like you who understand.
During my colposcopy biopsy years ago, the only pain medication they were allowed to use was topical lidocaine. Anything more than that would not be covered by my insurance. We need to do better and fix this issue before our children have to endure it. I had 2 procedures before they decided to just perform a full hysterectomy. During the biopsy of my cervix, they finally found cancer cells. I pray my daughters NEVER have to go through that.
"you need to ask" No. They need to offer. And in fact RE-TRAIN EVERYONE ABOUT THIS!
As a male medical student who recently rotated in ObGyn, I was shocked to see what women have to go through for basic medical care. I have newfound respect for women who go to their ObGyn on a regular basis to willingly endure pain for the sake of their health.
Please, please don't forget what you saw. I've worked in medicine for 30 years and was given nothing for my own cervical biopsy. I passed out in the lobby from pain. I was told to take ibuprofen for pain. That is just cruel and I know better. Please never be that kind of doctor
Please learn from that and don't dismiss our pain!
Oh but I’m not willingly enduring it, that’s the problem
We aren't willingly taking the pain. It is basically forced on us because we are not listened to more times than we are. We go because we don't relish the idea of dying from cancer.
No woman is "willingly" enduring pain, we are simply never made aware of the existence of a painless option, let alone offered.
A procedure like the one described in the video is presented as "just a pinch", so by the time you realize it really isn't it's already to late and you are left traumatized.
Had a biopsy last year asked for pain med prior and was told it's not necessary. Passed out from the pain , woke up and was told that I should've eaten prior to the procedure. I had lunch 20 minutes prior to appointment. Never went back.
I just had this done this year. They had me take over the counter meds before the procedure. It was EXCRUCIATING! I saw the looks on their faces. They really sympathized with me.
Her verbage also says it all. Her" discomfort" when it was clearly pain. We feel like we have to down play our pain all the time. It's insane
The sad part is after experiences like this my brain doesn’t interpret painful stimuli the same way anymore. I now interpret it as uncomfortable, cramping, burning, or pressure but I can’t tell if it’s actual pain anymore.
When you say it hurts the doctors say, "no it doesn't, it is just uncomfortable"
And if we say it’s extreme pain we are being an overly emotional woman
It is insane the way we are taught to gaslight ourselves. I have a hard time knowing what hurts, what doesn't and how much. 🤦🏼♀️
I had a miscarriage & my OB at the time wouldn’t give me anything for the pain when he performed a DNC. He lied and told me it would take too long for it to take affect and wouldn’t help anyway. I later spoke with a nurse and she informed me that he lied. The emotional loss of losing my baby and the physical pain I endured during the medical procedure was excruciating. Many years later, that doctor was sent to prison totally unrelated to anything medical, but I think he got what he deserved
That's crazy...so sorry. I had to have a dnc due to miscarriage back in 1998 and they put me to sleep for it. I didn't request it or anything. Had to have a blood transfusion so no clue why I lost so much blood during the procedure.
I'm wondering if things changed with the pain management during these procedures due to the opioid 'crisis'. I do know it's difficult to get decent pain meds for injuries.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that! 😢
I had to look it up what a ndc is. I must preface what's about to come next by saying that my anger is in no way directed at you but instead the medical staff who did this.
They fucking SCRAPED your uterus without pain medication? That shit would hurt on skin, our most resistent organ!! What kind of brainrotted fuck of a doctor would think that it's not going to hurt in an internal organ?!?! That straight up even just SOUNDS like torture. I have no words to express how deeply horrified and sorry I feel right now. Absolutely embarrassing
That’s awful. I’m so sorry! I had a D&C for a miscarriage as well, and I am so very thankful I was put out for the whole thing. I didn’t feel it, hear it, anything.
@@invisiblespirit5476 I remember passing large clots after mine.
Very sorry for your loss as well.
I had another miscarriage in my 30s and passed my baby at home. 10 weeks along. Size of an overgrown lima bean.
Doc gave me options to take a pill to pass it or let it happen. Skipped the pill and it was similar to having a baby with subtle contractions. Way less pain then when I gave natural birth to my son (who hates me and is brainwashed against me).
Never went back to doc.
I wish more doctors spoke out about this! I had a biopsy of my cervix in my early twenties. "Just a pinch" was incredibly bad pain, cramping and bleeding for several days after.
The first time I had a Barthalin Cyst drained the doctor numbed the skin area but once they started squeezing the fluid out it didn't feel like it worked. Thought I was gonna die. I layed on the table afterwards for several minutes with uncontrolable shaking. The nurse was very compassionate - told me I could lay there as long as I needed.
I ADORE my female OB/GYN. She did my uterine biopsy in her office, with soft music. She gave me a fantastic painkiller and the whole time she was up in there she kept saying "I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry! I know it's not fun!" I wanted to hug her after.
She needs to train any health care professionals who come within 3 feet of any vagina.
This! This is how it should be AND hugs after. AND days off to recover.
Yeah, same I just feel more comfortable with them but the men are supper nice too and seem like they like their jobs and care about it so by any chance I couldn't get a female doctor at least I'm not panicked
@@orielwiggins2225or at least a stick to bite on.
@@MsSkipperkim right?! They at least did that in the old days.
Omg my sister is a midwife, she talks about this to me every single day. She finds it insufferable how women are left to suffer despite the advances in pain management. Mind boggling really.
Adding this here so more people see it, but at a Yale University fertility clinic a dozen women underwent egg retrieval procedures without being given any aesthetics. For months they complained of severe pain. But they were all dismissed, ignored and told that they were given the maximum dose, until one day when an anesthesiologist noticed a loose cap on a vial of the painkillers. I believe a nurse was stealing it and swapping it with saline solution.
Regardless, it took them months to finally listen to these women, and it was only after (what I’m assuming is a male anesthesiologist) reported something else!
It’s demonic by design
@@Astronatcreatesdid they reach for the women later?
@chaimomma9198 yes, they are harvesting negative energy. It's going to get much worse I'm afraid. They're firing doctors who even dare prescribe pain meds.
@@Astronatcreates This is profoundly psychotic. Really, why are they even entering this profession? They should be in a mental hospital or in jail.
I had this procedure done when I was 19, Im now 60 & was told the same thing by a male Dr, it will be just a pinch. The pain was severe, tears welled up in my eyes & I clinched the nurses hand & told her how painful that was. What could she say or do except wipe the tears from my face & apologize. It was more than a pinch.😢
Glad this is something thats being talked about. An experience I’ll never forget but would like to….
Are you serious!? I had this done when I was 18, it was in the 80's.
It hurt so bad, when done the Dr. said "you were very brave" now I understand. I've thought back on that often thinking what a nice Dr. he was.
So as I understand this now, he felt sorry for me and the pain he put me through? This has me now so confused on how to feel.
But I'm still glad I had it done, they found cancer cells and I wouldn't be here without it being done.
I went into the exam room with my daughter for moral support. Her male doctor insisted the procedure would be a minute of “slight discomfort.” I am not exaggerating when I tell you she levitated on the exam table. Don’t be that kind of medical monster. Whether a doctor or a physicians assistant, have some compassion.
It was not painful for me ….ever but every woman is different!
NO MORE MEDICAL MONSTERS.
The reason I prefer women doctors…
It was a male doctor. How the hell would he know if something he doesn't have would hurt? I can't stand male ob/gyns.
@charisselinnell-morton4137 I didn't experience pain as well. It was extremely uncomfortable but not painful.
I understand pain is objective. But after reading so many of these stories on here, I'm starting to think the doctors were getting greedy with sample size or something. I know the device is like a stamper. Maybe these doctors are using excessive pressure with the device.
Something is not adding up.
I had a uterine biopsy where they went up through the cervix with a little grabber tool and pinched pieces of tissue off of the inside of my uterus! Done in office, zero pain meds!!! I screamed for the whole 10 minutes!! I thought I was going to pass out. My husband had to practically carry me out to the car because I was so weak from the pain I had just experienced. They gave me nothing to go home on and I laid on the couch in agony for three days before it finally subsided. Unacceptable!!
Same here, was the worst pain ever!
Me too ! I swore at my gynecologist. He looked at me like, "Why are you yelling???? Complete garbage
That's horrendous. At that point, you should not be liable if you fight back. No doctor should ever allow a patient to scream in agony like that. If you're a violent psych patient that's a threat to THEM, they'll sedate you real quick but they will literally torture someone and not care.
OMG. I'm due for one of these and they were going to do it in office and I refused because I don't trust them anymore. The med asst. said it hurts, but not for long. I asked the dr. and I said is it really quick like 10 secs and she said, no not, really because she also has to "look around in there" at my fibroids and stuff and it would be 5-10 min. of looking and taking pics. So I requested to be under in the OR. I don't trust these people about pain anymore after too many bad experiences. SO sorry you had to go through that--that's my exact nightmare. I'm already dreading afterward. Plus, I have no husband to help.
😔Same. My then boyfriend couldn't go with me, so after my procedure I had to sit outside the office (in VA hospital) in the waiting area and re regulate my NS best I could, and hold back tears before I slowly walked to the car. I was curled up for several days.
I had an HSG done, and they told me to take a Tylenol 30 minutes before my procedure. I have never felt pain like that, in my entire life. I told the gentleman that he needed to hurry up and finish, or I was afraid that I was going to involuntarily kick him. It was AGONY. White hot agony.
I had this done when I was 16 and they said there would only be a pinch as well. It hurt so bad I passed out on the table so I’m so glad women now have the option of pain management while enduring this procedure.
The worst part is that your insurance won’t cover the pain killer because “it is not necessary for the procedure”
And now you have a huge bill
My insurance covered it
Fuck it send me the bill in the mail
@@ileanasantiago2301 Mine too.
OMG that $50 worth of local anesthesia for your already unnecessary procedure!! Bank breaking 😮
I had this procedure twice, once while I was pregnant! 40 years ago and thirty years ago, both times with no pain meds. I asked both times and both times denied! Thank goodness when my daughter recently had it done, her doctor routinely administered pain meds!
My IUD was the worst pain I have ever experienced, I almost had a panic attack on the table. My legs were shaking so bad after I couldn’t leave for like twenties minutes. The doctor literally said “It will feel mildly uncomfortable.” I SCREAMED.
Same for me. Worst pain I’ve ever felt. I turned white as a ghost afterwards and almost passed out. So traumatic.
@@mamied7663 I’m glad I have it because I live in a state where abortion is almost entirely banned (thank you USA! 🙃✊🏻) but when I need to get it replaced I will DEMAND pain management or leave.
Same. And I was shushed for screaming! I could barely drive myself home. Luckily it was just two miles away. Part of the shock was not being prepared for pain. But also, why the F don’t they offer something for it?!
My male doctor told me it wasnt that bad as i was crying so i asked him oh you've had one before...smfh ill never get another one without some type of meds
I had the same experience it hurt so bad. I expected a cramping feeling but got severe pain. All my doctor said was try not to move 😭
I’ll never forget the pain from a cervical biopsy. Excruciating! And at age 50 I had a hysterectomy gone bad. The cuff that they make in replacement of my cervix was compromised after an infection so they had to go in and repair. I wasn’t fully out and I flailed around I could only move my
Head and I remember the gyno saying “give her more” it was horrible.
My OBGYN gave me OTC pain meds before my IUD insertion and gave me a pill to take the day before to help relax my cervix to ease the process. I can’t imagine dealing with a doctor who doesn’t care about their patients’ pain and discomfort.
True Facts I was numbed during my cervical biopsy. There was a pain medication prescribed for the next few days after the procedure. I was told after those run out that I could take an over-the-counter pain medication such as Advil liquid gel. I was so thankful to have one of the best OBGYN's in the Washington, DC area. Thank you to Dr. Stephen Horowitz for being one of the best. I am forever grateful that I had him, as a Doctor.
Thank you for naming your doctor. I'm in the DC area and I'm in need of a new GYN bc the current female that I have is just not the one.
YES - Things are FINALLY changing! ❤
I was a 16 year old virgin girl with uncontrollable bleeding. The doctor told me it would feel like a cramp before. I can even say I've never even had a cramp in my life. She began to cut and clip my cervix. I had never experienced that kind of pain before. I never forgot that and never forgot how I felt behind it.😢😢
Did they find the cause of your problem?
I was fortunate enough to work day by day with OB/GYNs and my own 14 year old daughter was miserable. Heavy periods and horrible cramps.
One of the GYNs I worked with suggested a laproscopic exploration both of inside the uterus and through a tiny incision in the abdomen.
He found she had polycystic ovaries and endometriosis. That day she was put on birth certificate pills that she took year round without the "fake pill week" in attempts to slow down the disease.
I had a LEEP procedure and was told there would only be minor discomfort. When the procedure started, I immediately felt intense pain. It was so intense that I was literally trembling uncontrollably. I was only given a little time to process and then they started again. That was the worst pain I've felt in my life!
This is absolutely the truth. I am a 68 year old woman and due to a specific condition I have pap smears are excruciating. And the doctor just says you have to get through it.
This is what keeps women from getting regular checkups. I am so glad someone is bringing this topic up. You're already feeling vulnerable because of the position you're in with a stranger. Then, you know the pain is coming.
Absolutely it is painful. It's ridiculous to cut a piece of you out for a biopsy but not offer pain meds.
Sadly this is true because this is also me… I’m so terrified of going to the last doc… I’ve never been.. my mom never took me and last time I went for BC I was told I needed to get a check up and I’m too scared!!
I could not agree more, we avoid important checkups because our discomfort is not validated or mitigated. I have to be medicated for anxiety only for these kind of appointments, why do they act like SCRAPING your cervix isn't painful?!
I'm 22 and have never gone because I'm scared
My concern is what if my insurance company doesn’t cover the pain med after it’s already done.
Thank you for being our advocate. Hysterectomy 2011. My gyn, female, knew I was in recovery (opioids) long before my procedure. After procedure back in my room she actually said to me when discussing discharge ‘I’m sending you home with pain meds (it was Percocet) then said boldly “and don’t ask for a refill”. After my follow up office visit she cleared me and at that point I could return to work. I never went back to her.
I'm so sorry.
I nearly passed out trying to get up after a colposcopy that I PERSONALLY found extremely painful. A month later a female friend had no pain from HER colposcopy...are our nerves different? I have no idea, but I stopped GYN care when I went through premature menopause at 35. His first words: " how does it feel to be an old lady?", when delivering the news that my menopause was actually OVER at 35... I have HATED 2 of my gyns and at 60 something, I will NEVER EVER go back. Retired RN with zero problems leaving this "care" behind.
As an anesthesia provider, I whole heartedly endorse this! Y’all have a right to have your pain/discomfort appropriately managed, and you can ALWAYS ask for anesthesia to be involved with your care if you feel you’re not being heard!
That's right!
Anesthesia for the procedure and pain meds for aftercare.
A person heals much more quickly when they are not in pain.
Anesthesiologist was my life saver in the recovery room after my total hysterectomy 12 days ago. After screaming in excruciating pain for 4 hours, he finally came and gave me an epidural and admitted me. I'm so grateful for him and his compassion.
@@AuthenticallyAlvarez praise God 🎉❤️
Many gynos or hospital staff will refuse. It can be a real crapshoot on what they'll force on you
Any kind of care???
I was told the same during a colposcopy, that there were no nerve endings there and I would only feel a pinch. It was so painful I passed out. The worst was being ridiculed for my reaction because as they told me “I must have passed out from my improper breathing due to anxiety” or that “I just don’t handle pain well since it was only a pinch.” It was very painful and I continued to have severe cramps afterwards. Thank you being such an advocate for women.
My boyfriend's mom had to have two colonoscopies this year and she said both were awful, painful experiences. She is a badass with no anxiety that I can see lol, and she still had a very bad time. Sorry you had to go through that :(
@@marzipanmangocolposcopy or colonoscopy?
@@marzipanmangothey give medication for colonoscopies usually the twilight sedation. I can't remember the specific name but you don't feel anything but are still somewhat aware of what's going on. Its completely different from what they're talking about in the video. I've been too multiple colonoscopies with two different family members and have never seen them done unmedicated. What they're talking about in the video is a biopsy of the cervix which they don't medicate for. I had one done when I was 20 and pregnant with my first child. Thankfully for me it was painful but manageable. I had a problem with how it was done though. Mine was done at my local hospital which is a teaching hospital. The doctor asked if a student could observe and despite feeling uncomfortable about it, I said yes. Instead of one student coming in, 5 students came in, 3 men and 2 women. They all stood at the foot of my bed while I laid there spread eagle naked from the waist down. They took turns looking through the microscope before and after the biopsy. They then stood there discussing my cervix and me as if I wasn't even in the room. During the discussions they would glance at my vagina even when nothing was being done. It was mortifying. It made me not trust them but unfortunately they were the only option to go t for my oregnancy.
@@Xessa82I was knocked the F out.
I didn’t know that they even do colonoscopies with the person awake 😳 I feel like besides for the obvious pain in the western world we aren’t very open and relaxed when it comes to butts and poop but anxiety not only will show in your pelvic floor but show there first… so I feel like being asleep would be better all around. I’m so sorry you went through that 😔
Thank you for your response! I under went a biopsy and it was terribly painful!! My female doctor didn't have words and walked out the room. 😢
My OBGYN was a sweetheart! He was the sweetest dude. Like the ultimate middle aged dad.
He held my hand and looked me deep in my eyes and offered me a variety of options for the pain, from suppository style to oral to an injection to a topical spray he could use in-procedure.
I've never gone to anyone else since that day.
It's empathy, amd it's not all doctors.
I've been treated like sh!t by female doctors too.
That man took "do no harm" into his whole heart
I got told DURING this procedure by a female doctor, WHILE there was pain shooting through me, that my pain tolerance was really low. I was shaking like a leaf because they required a larger sample of tissue than anticipated and told me i would be fine without any medication for the pain, and also feeling extremely vulnerable because i was shamed on the doctor's table.
This was the fourth procedure i had in the same area and a day before my menstrual cycle before which pain tolerance levels dip because of other discomforts, and not enough information was shared with me to prepare myself for the experience.
I had to go straight to work after. My manager took one look at me and told me to go home. I had to take a cab because i could barely walk and cried every time we went over a speedbump. Days of bleeding and cramps followed.
I only later realised this had been a common experience with my friends. Something must change!
My pain tolerance is very high but this procedure was very painful. And so was all the cramping for the whole day after. Your doctor was a jackass
I'm so sorry
So sorry
So she basically acknowledged that you were experiencing more pain than the average person and then did nothing about it? Low pain tolerance means a greater need for pain medication, there's nothing shameful about it. Likewise, there is nothing superior about having high pain tolerance. It's just one of those variations in human experience.
It shouldn't matter if someone pain tolerance is low. They should be given medication so they DONT have to endure any pain omg
Just had my hysterectomy 03/04 and couldn't believe how many women in my support group, were either denied pain killers altogether or just Tylenol 😮 We're having body parts removed! Thank god my incredible specialist understands pain.
I used to work in retail pharmacy. I've had men come in with pain med scripts for the smallest things while I've had a woman who just got out of the hospital after BEING STABBED only being prescribed tylenol and motrin.
I'm incredibly grateful for my primary care and gyn who are very forward thinking and pro-pain control.
I can't imagine not having pain meds. I had a total hysterectomy over 10 years ago. The procedure was supposed to be 2 hours long. But because endometriosis was so bad it took 4 hours. I also had polycystic ovaries and fibroid tumors in my uterus. Nothing worth keeping. I've had a cervical biopsy without pain meds. It does hurt and for a while afters. It feels like you fell down and scraped your knee, but it's your cervix.
@MsSkipperkim that sounds horrific
That's insane! Not the same but I left the hospital after my C-section, on a Sunday, when the pharmacies are closed (where I live, at least), so I couldn't get my medication, and that first night home, I cried literally ALL night. It was horrendous. So I imagine the pain of the removal of the uterus (and possibly ovaries) would be even worse! To not get proper medication for pain management, is just incredibly cruel.
I've asked for help before because of this and the doctor said "it doesn't hurt that bad it's in your head".
So painful!!!! No bed side manner! Good job for bringing this topic to light!
I had a random male doctor instead of my regular OBGYN. Thankfully my mom was in the room. It hurt sooooo badly and I was so stressed by the entire scenario that when I got up my nose started bleeding. The doctor said “oh are you ok?” and then just walked out of the room.
I am a 74 year old woman. When I was 50 years old, a doctor took a biopsy of my cervix,, it hurt like fiery hell, traumatized my uterus, and the cervix, and I lived with the most brutal, painful stabbing cramps as my uterus went into contractions and proceeded to give me terrible pain for the next three weeks. It was torturous. From the time I was 50 years old until now when I am going to be 75 this summer, I will not go see a doctor. Horrible, sadistic, no mercy doctors. I do not trust doctors. They don’t care if I have pain. I was a disposable menopausal woman to them. Now as an older woman, only God knows what cruelty they could put me through.
Yep! I had the same thing as everyone is saying in these comments and my FEMALE doctor said; "aren't you scared of cancer?" Seriously?! So we should be put into pain because of the "scare of cancer." *It's SICK!*
Find better doctors, and stay healthy.
@@CheriMichaels734 I love how they use fear to get you to come in and get procedures. Sorry, that's not gonna work.
@@RuthBhmand Unfortunately, these "better doctors" are getting harder to find. They are essentially "unicorns" at this point.
I’m so sorry and I understand avoiding doctors as a result. It’s hard to trust when you’ve literally been tortured and abused. It should be criminal behavior.
I had a uterine biopsy. Hurt something terrible. They told me I wouldn't need a driver. I sat in the parking lot for an hour. After an ablation I was told to take Tylenol. I thought I was dying it hurt so bad. Had the second biopsy after the ablation! I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. It's ridiculous that a female OB/Gyn wouldn't figure this out. Thank you for informing younger women that they can get pain meds.
Same...
A lot of women doctors are biased too. It's so weird.
Omg I had a cervical biopsy and was told it would be a pinch. My twin sister came along with me. The whole time I kept asking why did you want to come along. She said just to hold my hand. I thought it was strange thinking it would be as uncomfortable as a routine pelvic exam. Yeah that “pinch” was super surprising and was a hell of a lot more than a pinch. My sister had one previously. I’m glad she was there.
My doctor told me no one else feels it, but it was excruciating for me, so I figured I must just be really sensitive.
I'm glad I saw this clip.
PACU nurse here.. I was also trained not to give pain meds post op for procedures like these.. I didn’t care - if my patient was in pain .. I gave pain meds! I got written up for it and ended up quitting.. if it was a man - they would have a smorgasbord of pain meds available! I’m sick to death of the amount of ignorance in the medical field directed at women’s health! If women united and voted accordingly- we could change the WORLD! Hugs to all that’s experienced this ‘discrimination’!!
Yes girl!!!!! 😘
The argument saying if this was a man doesn’t truly apply here… since a man doesn’t get gynecological exams done. Why is everybody jumping on this weird feminist bandwagon lately about women being treated like shit by health care? A majority of nurses are women… so are you saying other women are treating women like shit? Hmmm 🤔
@@APLW33 girl you are totally missing the point.. and if you haven’t experienced this discrimination then good for you - but I have NO idea how you didn’t!
You must live under a rock somewhere. SMDH
@@APLW33Because a man gets pain control while having a quick procedure called a vasectomy.
I had a d&c recently and I mentioned I was in a bit of pain after, boom, painkillers right into the IV. So happy I didn't even have to ask for it. Also they gave me warm blankets to put on my belly.
I had a cervix biopsy. I was 19. I had no idea that it would need pain killer. All they offered was the hand of the nurse to hold.
I remember going ice cold, sweats, excruciating pain, clenched teeth, nurse telling me to squeeze her hand, tears rolling down my cheeks.
I'm now 52 but that experience is as vivid today as it was all those years ago.
They also had me squeeze her hand, they know how painful it is
A nurse*
Same happened to me. My Mom was there to hold my hand.
It’s still like that!
to be fair, I got someone to hold my hand when I got a tick removed. they just freaked me out. physical comfort can just be to help with nervousness, not necessarily proof something is incredibly painful.
my favorite dentist's assistant was actually really skilled at holding your face in just the right place and way that made me infinitely more comfortable.
that being said, doctors should still recognize the difference between nervousness and actual pain and flipping act accordingly.
I can handle pain, I've had a root canal without anesthesia because she tried two different ones and they just didn't numb my tooth so we said fuck it let's just do it.
I had my IUD inserted and removed without any pain management.
but my doctors told me that things would hurt in a moment, my gyno even stopped to check in with me when I was clearly in pain, and the dentist apologized and said she knew it was unpleasant but it would be over soon.
I feel like even just that acknowledgement, empathy and calming/encouraging instead of cold dismissal can make a huge difference.
My OB is wonderful…the last exam I had to have an IUD inserted, they numbed my cervix before doing anything else. Nothing like having a doctor who knows and cares.
I feel for this woman. I had a procedure and was told the same, "just a pinch." I had no idea or experience to think otherwise. I have a high pain threshold, but the pain I experienced was beyond it. I was shouting and crying. They had to stop and couldn't complete. The female doctor left and never said anything to me. The nurse stayed with me as I was hyperventilating and had to check my vitals before I was allowed to leave. I left shaking and crying and still in pain which was not mild cramping as they claimed I could experience. Stand up for your rights and take control of your healthcare. Challenge your doctors if you feel you are not heard and have concerns.
I don’t like to talk about this, but I screamed in a dr’s office one time. It is absolutely cruel what they do to women without pain medication.
those doctors better catch these feet if they hurt me
I am glad you screamed. Your reaction was primal.
I screamed also at my Doctor and the nurses while giving birth to my last child. I had told them I wanted pain relief the entire time and I didn't get it. They told me to shut up because I was scaring the other women on the floor. Can you believe..
I was thinking to myself they need to be scared because they're in a sicko sadist environment!
I was also screaming. Nothing wrong at screaming when you are being tortured.
@@eveslady100 that’s so scary… you’re literally birthing a human being without being medicated and they expect you to just sit there and calmly push it out? I’m so sorry that happened to you.
Biopsy was so painful I started crying. I was told that I was overreacting. If you guessed I had Kaiser, youre right! I turned in the provider. I was a nurse. I would have NEVER subjected my patients to pain like that.
I am going for my first screening next month, and I am with Kaiser. This is both extremely helpful and extremely terrifying
I cannot even imagine. I slept on my neck wrong yesterday and literally ended up crying and seeing stars when I popped it back into place. I can’t imagine literally scraping my goddamn cervix!
This has happened to me at Kaiser a few years ago. I had to have it done twice. I told them it was so painful the first time and they said they offer pain medication to numb the area. I asked why isn’t this common practice for everyone then? Why do I have to experience the pain for you to then give pain medication upon me asking? I was told it feels like a pinch but I was soo uncomfortable the first time around.
As someone who got a IUD and i knew they would practically stab and poke a hole. It is not just a pinch i love that we are told to "just take some advil before" that doesnt even help with menstral craps at all.
I had to get bladder infusions for IC when I was a young girl. Not only was the catheter going all the way in my bladder incredibly painful but the first time they did it I had an unknown bladder infection. It was the first time I'd yelled and my vision actually went dark from pain. The gyno actually told me she could feel my bladder spasming but kept going. I had to go back in and get the process done 9 more times just for the treatment to not work in the end. I never even considered asking about pain management because unfortunately as I young woman I was raised to believe I both didn't deserve it and didn't need it. I loved my gyno's and I know their field is working against them but it still hurts to remember.
I was told I needed this procedure and when I started screaming my doctor said NOPE, you’re not gonna be awake for this one! And they scheduled it in the hospital and I was put under. Thank GOD!
That’s an amazing Dr.! It’s unfortunate how little that happens
They reassured me I’d just feel a “quick pinch”, so I had my kids in the waiting room👀, as we were supposed to go to a big family dinner that day. They are removing A PIECE OF your BODY- how is that done without pain control- It’s BARBARIC!! It was so painful & shocking I was left crying alone in the room because i couldn’t get up. I phoned my ex asking him to come get the kids because I could barely drive home safely (he didn’t, that’s why he’s an ex, but I digress)
Thankfully, the 2nd time, years later, the Dr stopped & said you’re going to need to be hospitalized. Granted, it’s an expensive pain in the butt having to be put under but, in many cases, it’s necessary (I apparently have scar tissue that was partially blocking the cervix.)
@@smartmarketing173 i have endrometetriosis and pcos. My doctor was actually originally from India, and they are trained differently there. They even have procedures for pcos where they will burn the cysts off your ovaries. They don’t do it here because it can stop your ovaries from working (my ovaries already don’t work! And I don’t want to have more kids.)