When I was 59kg people would call me fat, when I was over 80kg people have said I look thin or fine. Strange world we live in. Even the scale said I should be 55kg. The scale was wrong, I had a lot of muscle from riding my bike everywhere, running every day and dancing at night and I know some people use this as an excuse, but I have big bones, I'm large framed and that doesn't get taken into consideration with BMI calculations. I just fell into the over weight category, down from the obese category by 1kg. I want to look normal again. When I look in the mirror, I want to see a normal sized person, that's all I want. It's amazing how you lost all the weight you did. I don't have to lose anywhere near as much. I'm tired of dieting, but I can't stop. The hard thing is, even when I get down to 69kg or even 65kg which is my end goal, I will have to continue to watch what I eat, that bothers me more than this diet, because even on maintenance, I find it a chore and consuming of energy and I worry that it's going to be too much to endure. I'm not being strict, I eat 3 meals with light snacks like a mandarin or a few nuts, my portion control is good, I eat normal portions and aim for about 1500 calories but definately below 2000 cal, just doing that is an effort in self discipline and willpower. Maybe I need it to become a habit, hopefully it will. Thanks for the vlog anyway, for sending compassion through youtube to us 🙂
Journaling is a gift you give to yourself. For me, it's helped me go to the source of where lots of pain started and helped me see things from a new perspective.
🤩😍 I am going to be compassionate with myself by not berating myself for all the years I've "lost" or "wasted" because I have lived them fat and miserable. I'm going to be gentle with myself and focus on the here and now.
❤ My way of being self compassionate with myself this week is going to be getting myself out for walks every day. I haven't been consistent lately, and I am finally getting to the point where I recognize how good I feel after I have done it. I'm going to be good to myself and work on ingraining the walking habit. I know I will be happier when I do it. I won't be self-indulgent and let myself get away with not walking. Thank you for another incredibly helpful video! You are a blessing, Carla🙏 The part on compassion vs indulgence vs beration really spoke to me.
Your explanation of the difference between self compassion and self indulgence flicked the light switch for me. Self compassion does not say “you deserve a pastry” - that is self indulgence. Self compassion says, you deserve to reach your goal, and if you step outside that occasionally, we will still be ok, and are still on the good path and worthy of reaching our goal. You are a blessing Carla. 💜🤍💜 This week I will not stress about the scale.
Hi Carla, love your kindness and perspective. I am a food junkie, but i have landed in a great place. 40 lbs down and 2 1/2 years on maintenance. I think your words are exactly what is needed for so many in a similar situation. Take care
I’m going to be happy with what I am able to accomplish towards my goals each day, and not berate myself for not doing every single thing all at once. 😇😇😇
Explained difference between self compassion, indulgence, berating very well. Great examples for each. This week being self compassionate by taking scheduled breaks. ✌️✌️✌️
🖤 Thank you, Carla. To be more self compassionate this week I'm going to try to go to bed earlier and make an effort daily to take deeper breaths and give myself self compassion hugs to keep me grounded. Thank you for your encouraging words and for sharing your experiences. Finding your channel has really helped me in my own mental health and weight loss journey and I am grateful to you. 💝🌹
It's so great to recognize the things I control vs the things outside my control. This truth was illuminating to me. Love your talks, love to hear the Irish accent, and love the scenery. Any glimpse of my home land is the best. Stay well.
❤ This week I will take care of myself and think about all the different ways my bingeeating has played different functions in my life. Thank you again for all your videos, so I finally found therapy.
Great content Carla and on your way to 100,000 but I don’t need to tell you because you know better than most that it is about the journey and staying in the moment . Eckhart Tolle is always worth a read especially his first book The Power Of Now ❤
Thank you soo much for answering my question! As with all the answers you’ve given, you explained so well. I definitely go to defensive a lot when having to say no or stand by a decision. I am going to try to work on being more compassionate in my responses while standing by just saying ‘no’ ❤❤❤
❤ I really loved this series Carla. My self compassion this week will be to prioritize healthy foods even with all the social outings this week. To keep my body feeling good 😊
Very interesting and thought provoking video, Carla. This week I will be working on my nighttime routine, which has been very hit and miss over the years. Have a great week, Laura 🌸🌸🌸
Distinguishing guilt vs shame, and self compassion vs self indulgence was so helpful! To be more self compassionate, I will be kind to myself when I'm feeling low energy and don't get all the things on my to do list completed. I love to make lists, and more often than not, I make then unreasonably long then beat myself up for "failing" to accomplish everything. I no longer use the word "LAZY". I work very hard every day, and it's okay to leave some items on the list. ❤️
I’m stoked I discovered your channel! I can relate to you in many ways, and of course we have our own paths and experiences too! You’re an inspiration for me to get healthier and feel better about myself, inside and out. I think it’s rad you’re also an “alternative” chick too!
Love the video as always! ❤❤ The volume is quite low though, could you maybe do something about that in future videos? I watch with earbuds in and I have to have the volume high so I hear you, and so when I get ads I have a huge scare because they're super loud in comparison and they hurt my ears
❤ What a great video. My self compassion is focusing on walking (week 2 - 20 minutes each day) which makes me feel so good. Thank you for all the inspirations, you deliver them well xx
❤ This week or tomorrow I should say, I will start to draw again. This is a passion of mine and I let it go for far too long. I do not know if it exactly an act of self compassion or an act of self care. Believe me when I say that I know for sure sure that is going to be hard but I always loved it and it is extremely fulfilling. ❤Thank you as always for your time and effort, thank you very much. A huge hug from Italy. Rita
Another great video Carla💜I really needed to hear that distinction between guilt and shame. I also am struggling with feelings of guilt/shame when eating anything. I need to think about if I am feeling guilty because I know what I ate is not the healthiest option for myself, or societal shame of my body causing negative self talk anytime I eat any less than perfect.
💝 There are so many things you say that are so new to me, but also things I have heard so many times but never sunk in, or I could never apply to myself But how you talk about those things, how you relate them to your experience, and just how you speak, means those things sink in more. You have a real gift for this and have obviously put in so much great work. Thank you. My self compassion this week is sitting with my feelings and recognising that sometimes my feelings will come out sideways, and I owe it to myself to have those feelings be heard. I've been doing too much and trying to do many things, just because I feel like I SHOULD and "other people can do this why can't I." So I'm going to scale back, focus on my feelings and my inputs and my reactions.
❤️🙅🏻♀️thank you Carla so much for answering my question as well as all the others. Yes, it was very much a help. These tips/advice are so appreciated and gives me practical tactics I can put into use. Sorry for the late reply, we were on holidays and I am now catching up.
❤ I am on vacation this week, and so my self-compassion is allowing myself to fully embody my Winnie-the-Pooh nature and "just be" in my metaphorical 100 acre wood.
💗Pink heart for your nails 😊 My self compassion action for this week is hitting pause when I want to reach for something to put in my mouth and write what I’m feeling. Either a word or sentence. As much as I can
Great information. 🖤 I had to think really hard when you spoke about the difference between shame and guilt after eating. I think a video about that topic would be helpful . Thanks
💜 Thank you, Carla. I NEVER get the sleep I should. This week, I will work really hard at turning that around. You mentioned dump Journaling. I can't even begin. I'm a total blank. Any suggestions on how to move past that? Thanks for all that you do 💜
I'd say something like " Auntie Phyllis, that's a hurtful thing to say, even if it's true" "AP, i always speak to you with respect, and would never make a negative comment about your body, no matter what I thought" "Negative comments on my body are really inappropriate" I could go on. Have the generic statement ready in advance❤
I am asking a big favour … I follow you and relate so much to your mental health journey However I unashamedly want to draw your attention to my son who wrote a song about Dublin .. Dublin on mind It’s amazing !! On you tube please just share .. xx
When I was 59kg people would call me fat, when I was over 80kg people have said I look thin or fine. Strange world we live in. Even the scale said I should be 55kg. The scale was wrong, I had a lot of muscle from riding my bike everywhere, running every day and dancing at night and I know some people use this as an excuse, but I have big bones, I'm large framed and that doesn't get taken into consideration with BMI calculations.
I just fell into the over weight category, down from the obese category by 1kg. I want to look normal again. When I look in the mirror, I want to see a normal sized person, that's all I want.
It's amazing how you lost all the weight you did. I don't have to lose anywhere near as much. I'm tired of dieting, but I can't stop. The hard thing is, even when I get down to 69kg or even 65kg which is my end goal, I will have to continue to watch what I eat, that bothers me more than this diet, because even on maintenance, I find it a chore and consuming of energy and I worry that it's going to be too much to endure.
I'm not being strict, I eat 3 meals with light snacks like a mandarin or a few nuts, my portion control is good, I eat normal portions and aim for about 1500 calories but definately below 2000 cal, just doing that is an effort in self discipline and willpower. Maybe I need it to become a habit, hopefully it will.
Thanks for the vlog anyway, for sending compassion through youtube to us 🙂
❤ putting up my devices 2 hrs before bed so I can fall asleep at a reasonable time and get up early to start my day of being Grateful.
Journaling is a gift you give to yourself. For me, it's helped me go to the source of where lots of pain started and helped me see things from a new perspective.
❤ listen to my heart❤ not compare myself to others ❤
🤩😍 I am going to be compassionate with myself by not berating myself for all the years I've "lost" or "wasted" because I have lived them fat and miserable. I'm going to be gentle with myself and focus on the here and now.
❤ My way of being self compassionate with myself this week is going to be getting myself out for walks every day. I haven't been consistent lately, and I am finally getting to the point where I recognize how good I feel after I have done it. I'm going to be good to myself and work on ingraining the walking habit. I know I will be happier when I do it. I won't be self-indulgent and let myself get away with not walking. Thank you for another incredibly helpful video! You are a blessing, Carla🙏 The part on compassion vs indulgence vs beration really spoke to me.
Your explanation of the difference between self compassion and self indulgence flicked the light switch for me. Self compassion does not say “you deserve a pastry” - that is self indulgence. Self compassion says, you deserve to reach your goal, and if you step outside that occasionally, we will still be ok, and are still on the good path and worthy of reaching our goal. You are a blessing Carla. 💜🤍💜 This week I will not stress about the scale.
Hi Carla, love your kindness and perspective. I am a food junkie, but i have landed in a great place. 40 lbs down and 2 1/2 years on maintenance. I think your words are exactly what is needed for so many in a similar situation. Take care
I’m going to be happy with what I am able to accomplish towards my goals each day, and not berate myself for not doing every single thing all at once. 😇😇😇
Compassionate by allowing myself to stop trying to multi task and do one thing at a time 💕
Explained difference between self compassion, indulgence, berating very well. Great examples for each. This week being self compassionate by taking scheduled breaks. ✌️✌️✌️
I will drink more refreshing cool water. Living in Arizona with super hot temps, so keeping
hydrated is super important, and just makes me feel good.
🖤 Thank you, Carla. To be more self compassionate this week I'm going to try to go to bed earlier and make an effort daily to take deeper breaths and give myself self compassion hugs to keep me grounded. Thank you for your encouraging words and for sharing your experiences. Finding your channel has really helped me in my own mental health and weight loss journey and I am grateful to you. 💝🌹
I love how you named the 'person' Phil. My dad is called Phil. We have arguments Monthly. I want to stop reacting and just breathe. Thank you.
Put a halt on spending so much🦋🦋🦋 & save 🚶♀️Keep walking
❤ my self compassion will be to go for a walk every day this week
It's so great to recognize the things I control vs the things outside my control. This truth was illuminating to me. Love your talks, love to hear the Irish accent, and love the scenery. Any glimpse of my home land is the best. Stay well.
Brilliant video, especially, the part about being honest, compassionate or indulgent.
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❤ just saying ‘NO’!! Thank you for this great series ❤️🙏
❤ This week I will take care of myself and think about all the different ways my bingeeating has played different functions in my life. Thank you again for all your videos, so I finally found therapy.
🖤 I’m going to also prioritize sleep, I never get enough and I know it would help my over all well-being if I corrected that!
Great content Carla and on your way to 100,000 but I don’t need to tell you because you know better than most that it is about the journey and staying in the moment . Eckhart Tolle is always worth a read especially his first book The Power Of Now ❤
Thank you soo much for answering my question! As with all the answers you’ve given, you explained so well. I definitely go to defensive a lot when having to say no or stand by a decision. I am going to try to work on being more compassionate in my responses while standing by just saying ‘no’ ❤❤❤
Thankyou Carla....You are an inspiration 💖.....my self compassion goal is to focus on my daily walk!
❤ I really loved this series Carla. My self compassion this week will be to prioritize healthy foods even with all the social outings this week. To keep my body feeling good 😊
Very interesting and thought provoking video, Carla. This week I will be working on my nighttime routine, which has been very hit and miss over the years. Have a great week, Laura 🌸🌸🌸
Distinguishing guilt vs shame, and self compassion vs self indulgence was so helpful! To be more self compassionate, I will be kind to myself when I'm feeling low energy and don't get all the things on my to do list completed. I love to make lists, and more often than not, I make then unreasonably long then beat myself up for "failing" to accomplish everything. I no longer use the word "LAZY". I work very hard every day, and it's okay to leave some items on the list. ❤️
I’m stoked I discovered your channel! I can relate to you in many ways, and of course we have our own paths and experiences too! You’re an inspiration for me to get healthier and feel better about myself, inside and out. I think it’s rad you’re also an “alternative” chick too!
Love the video as always! ❤❤
The volume is quite low though, could you maybe do something about that in future videos? I watch with earbuds in and I have to have the volume high so I hear you, and so when I get ads I have a huge scare because they're super loud in comparison and they hurt my ears
❤ you Carla! thank you so much for all you do! Your work is so valuable to me and my journey❤️
💚 I will prioritize my self-care time daily for this week.
❤ What a great video. My self compassion is focusing on walking (week 2 - 20 minutes each day) which makes me feel so good. Thank you for all the inspirations, you deliver them well xx
❤ This week or tomorrow I should say, I will start to draw again. This is a passion of mine and I let it go for far too long. I do not know if it exactly an act of self compassion or an act of self care. Believe me when I say that I know for sure sure that is going to be hard but I always loved it and it is extremely fulfilling. ❤Thank you as always for your time and effort, thank you very much. A huge hug from Italy. Rita
I am going to postpone things that don't need to get done asap and spend time on an art project. Thanks for inspiration!
Tak!
I'm going to go to bed at 9PM every night for the rest of the week.
Great q&a 💜🚶♀️
🥰💖 - I'm going to try to control my response to uncontrollable events and situations this week. I have a feeling it's going to take a lot of practice!
Another great video Carla💜I really needed to hear that distinction between guilt and shame. I also am struggling with feelings of guilt/shame when eating anything. I need to think about if I am feeling guilty because I know what I ate is not the healthiest option for myself, or societal shame of my body causing negative self talk anytime I eat any less than perfect.
💝 There are so many things you say that are so new to me, but also things I have heard so many times but never sunk in, or I could never apply to myself
But how you talk about those things, how you relate them to your experience, and just how you speak, means those things sink in more. You have a real gift for this and have obviously put in so much great work. Thank you.
My self compassion this week is sitting with my feelings and recognising that sometimes my feelings will come out sideways, and I owe it to myself to have those feelings be heard. I've been doing too much and trying to do many things, just because I feel like I SHOULD and "other people can do this why can't I." So I'm going to scale back, focus on my feelings and my inputs and my reactions.
💗 Compassionately setting boundaries with my family and friends so I can focus on one thing at a time and have some tiny measure of privacy.
I'm going to seek to be honest with myself. No strings attached. ❤
I loved this series so much - thank you for sharing this❤
Self compassion thru drinking lots of water
I'd say "I made a promise, and meant it"❤
For the therapist. I'm a people pleaser, working on boundaries ❤
You are inspiring and I am so grateful to be listening to your channel tonight! Well done!! Thank you! 💜💜💜
🧡 I'm allowing myself to believe in my own self compassionate talk.
Thank you so much for all your information and kindly sharing your knowledge ❤
My self compassion this week will be giving my feelings validation💕
❤❤I am going to work on not berating myself.
💗Honestly examine my eating habits without judgement! I am so glad I found your channel!
Thank you for visiting my question … it helps❤This week more self care ( less TV)
I’m so glad I was able to help a bit xx
Great content Carla...I'm going 2 try and stay in bed come weekend 😍 Have a good week ××
❤amazing xx
❤️🙅🏻♀️thank you Carla so much for answering my question as well as all the others. Yes, it was very much a help. These tips/advice are so appreciated and gives me practical tactics I can put into use. Sorry for the late reply, we were on holidays and I am now catching up.
❤ I am on vacation this week, and so my self-compassion is allowing myself to fully embody my Winnie-the-Pooh nature and "just be" in my metaphorical 100 acre wood.
❤ I'm going ti be kinder to myself when j make well meaning mistakes.
💗Pink heart for your nails 😊
My self compassion action for this week is hitting pause when I want to reach for something to put in my mouth and write what I’m feeling. Either a word or sentence. As much as I can
❤ I will use your 20 second tip x
Great information. 🖤 I had to think really hard when you spoke about the difference between shame and guilt after eating. I think a video about that topic would be helpful . Thanks
Absolutely!! I'll have a think about it xx
♥️ Meeting myself where I am right now
💜 Thank you, Carla. I NEVER get the sleep I should. This week, I will work really hard at turning that around.
You mentioned dump Journaling. I can't even begin. I'm a total blank. Any suggestions on how to move past that? Thanks for all that you do 💜
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Same with Sleep for me and taking more breaks away from my computer during the day
Lots to think about-this is very helpful.
Thanks
Thank you for this ❤ I will drink more water.
What if you’re new at setting boundaries and people don’t respect them
❤ not take everything so personally
Thank you 💖
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I'd say something like " Auntie Phyllis, that's a hurtful thing to say, even if it's true" "AP, i always speak to you with respect, and would never make a negative comment about your body, no matter what I thought" "Negative comments on my body are really inappropriate"
I could go on.
Have the generic statement ready in advance❤
I am asking a big favour … I follow you and relate so much to your mental health journey
However I unashamedly want to draw your attention to my son who wrote a song about Dublin .. Dublin on mind
It’s amazing !! On you tube please just share .. xx
❤I’ve lost 70 lbs now and don’t really see it. I will try to see the smaller person in the mirror.
You look a lot more like snow white than Rachel Zegler
My self care this week will be focused on going to bed early. 🩷🩷🩷
Forgiving myself for eating 4 chocolates after learning about the passing of a dear person on UTUBE-Sarah Pog
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