To Each Their Own Pain - You are NOT responsible for your partner's feelings
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 มิ.ย. 2019
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This is some of the best advice I’ve heard.
This very concept has come up time and again in couples counseling. That my partner is not responsible for my feelings. And I get caught in my own trap because I am also asked "what do you need in times of conflict" my answer seems to appropriate the response that my partner is not responsible for my feelings. This does make me feel trapped but thats because I realize I don't have the tools for effective communication. I'ts been a really slow process but at least I am aware of the dynamic and trying to do better.
Thanks for sharing your journey. Good luck!
Using I Statments such as. I need you to respect me . I feel you. I want you. I dont think you should keep doing this to me
Okay, so heres the thing, i agree with EVERYTHING said in this video. But im getting myself stuck.
Let's says we express how we feel, and it hurts the other person. If their feelings are their responsibility, do we ever need to apologize? And if we apologize, what are we apologizing for? And when is our behaviour the issue versus their feelings as a response? And how can we admit our behaviour is a cause of someones feelings, when their feelings are their responsibility and not ours?
I agree with all of this theres just something not clicking for me. I dont know if im overthinking this, but this is all new to me as ive always felt responsible for peoples feelings.
Any advice would be so appreciated
Hey, Usually say, “I'm sorry for making you feel this way but I'm not sorry for what I said since that was just the truth” because of course my aim was never to hurt them, just to say my truth. That was a side effect
I think that's would you taking responsibility for you actions and admitting was you did was wrong. But if you feel you have nothing just “Im sorry for making you this way but I've done nothing wrong”
@deea7843 this us amazing, thank you for this. This really helps so much. I especially like your suggestion of the 3 steps as this allows me to work through it methodically, especially if I'm in an emotional state. I really appreciate this 🙏
@@mrsilencer5542does that mean you are responsible for their feelings of you do something wrong ? Surely we are social animals and it’s good to help each other, Idon’t understand
32 seconds in and i already feel so called out 😅
I know. Me too.
Wow. Good video.
Thanks so much for watching and commenting. Good luck!