Gaslighting is real. Here's how to stop it.

Do you have a sense your partner is sticking it to you but they keep denying it?
Do you or your partner deny certain bad behaviors to each other?
We all sometimes semi-consciously act in small negative ways to our partners - David Schnarch calls this phenomenon "Normal Marital Sadism". After all, the opposite of love is apathy (not hatred). So we all do it.
But when one partner continuously denies aggressive, belittling, or mean relational behavior, in a way that makes their partner doubt themselves and their perception - that is called Gaslighting.
Gaslighting is real and happens in all relationships in one form or another.
In this talk, we unpack the phenomenon of Gaslighting and it's tax on relationships, through examples from the clinic and our marriage. Practical tips will help you stop (or at least minimize) Gaslighting in your relationship today.
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[@jacobbforster]

I'm super impressed with the tenacity you as a couple take in utilizing your similar studies to help others with content. thanks for the courage to do these for others. it takes two to tango it takes one to dance and thanks for showing me how to move.

[@ThePotentialState]

Thanks Jacob for watching and commenting. It's really nice to read your comment because we work hard on our marriage as the gym to the our teaching and we're happy it's coming across. Good luck!

[@celia.m]

How come you don't have thousands and thousands of views??! I have just discovered your channel and I am in awe! Thank you so much for the clarity, compassion and playfulness your bring to such important and confusing issues. I so appreciate that you demonstrate examples of healthy and unhealthy dynamics and how a couple can have both and work together to help each other grow. Your channel is a blessing! thank you.

[@ThePotentialState]

Thanks Celia so much for watching and commenting. We are the best kept secret on TH-cam :)
We're thrilled you enjoyed the content and the channel and wish you good luck!

[@DVTOM]

But what if the one accused of Gaslighting is actually right? For instance if my wife accuses me of saying something to her 20yrs ago yet I have proof I said something different, is that still gaslighting? Or is the wife now the gaslighter?

[@ThePotentialState]

Thanks Tom for your comment. That's a great question. I think that gaslighting refers more to an overall pattern in relationships. In relation to a specific topic or fight, I recommend you two watch this video about the importance of subjectivity in relationships: th-cam.com/video/_d5bUFoiMQ8/w-d-xo.html
Good luck!