Here's a quick, but important tip for all the ladies: Clarify at the beginning (preferably before marriage) what your man believes that a man's role is in the relationship. I only found out at the end that my ex-husband held the belief that it is *not* the man's role to be a provider and protector for his wife *nowadays* . So, that's why I was being essentially forced into both masculine and feminine roles, which obviously did not work out.
Protector yes but nowadays the system makes us both working and providing for the family. But it definitely depends on the agreement between the couple.
@@0to100RealQuick-f3i OK, but let me tell you that problems *will* arise when you have your wife providing 50% (or more) financially yet she finds herself doing 100% of everything else to manage the household, the children, etc. Consider yourself warned.
Lisa thanks so much for this tip.. Unfortunately my s/o wasn’t able to communicate properly as soon as I’ve asked him „what are we“ and then he ran away XD how easy it is to weed out men that way is by being straightforward. I love actually dropping this on them to see their reaction
1) 4:44 be in your feminine energy 2) 7:20 don't nag, communicate with love 3) 9:30 allow him to lead 4) 11:45 believe in him 5) 13:00 appreciate him and be grateful
He can't lead I'm older and he's a finisher. I start and he's competitive so he gets into it when he sees me doing it and he is better at me at fishing things. It's romantic to me that we have this and it works for us
Thank you! I was tuned out with her talking about her wardrobe and actually stopped watching and was going to complain about it until I saw your timestamp but I don't care to watch anymore now anyway
My boyfriend is totally a protector and provider and it’s been a huge learning curve for me bc I always had to do both gender roles. It’s been a wonderful breath of fresh air and I am so lucky to have him in my life! ❤🎉😍
I’m happy for you! Unfortunately women today have been forced into their masculine energy because either they’re supporting themselves or they’re forced to be the provider and protector because they’re a single mom. When meeting a guy in their masculine energy, it is a bit of a learning curve to slip into the feminine, but it ends up being easy to do.
@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living I don't know if you can speak for women in general. I think by default, there might be some biological drive to adopt femininity, but a growing number of women seem to genuinely want to play a masculine role. Now, it's a totally different story if she's being both the main breadwinner and the majority contributor to domestic duties. But folks nowadays are more flexible than, say, 50 years ago.
Ive seen many times where a woman was doing everything to stay in her feminine and treat her man like a king but he never stepped up, still took all her money and came to expect her to treat him like 'the man' even when he wasnt doing anything. In my opinion if a man is not in his masculine when you meet him nothing you do will make him want to be that. Men that have strong masculine energy will be like that regardless.
Agreed. This video gave some good points but honestly I don’t think it’s fair we shift the issue onto how women react to not being treated fairly. It doesn’t matter what the woman does.
@@iaf4454 I have to disagree with this one! Only because many men come from trauma and it deeply impacts their confidence. Sometimes all they need is someone to help them regain that confidence in order to step back into his masculine energy/role. She also reiterated a lot that you can’t force anyone to do anything. So it’s worth a shot to try and inspire your partner if you really care for them, but if there is no change, that obviously means that you’re not compatible and it’s time to move on.
I agree with you. If a man wants YOU, he’ll come correct or make changes to suit you. If a man doesn’t want you but wants your resources (free secks, free labor, free counseling, and/or money), he’s not going to change, or he’ll change but leave you for the woman he really wants, so don’t even waste your time. As for “traumas” - it’s not your job to fix a man. If he wants to be fixed, he can get counseling. The professionals do a better job at it.
It feels so good to lean back. My husband took over the investing/ money with me on the accounts. That way I can see how he's managing it passively and it has become something he is proud of. I hated managing my money. I'd let it sit there and at times buy dumb stuff I don't need. He gives me money for whatever I want and invests the rest in our future.
My husband is a Leo and I am a Cancer he is the sun I am the moon. He is the masculine I am the feminine. It's amazing how everything worked out for us.
I'm a Leo and my husband is a Pisces. Lucky you, cause i feel like having more of that Leo boldness and masculinity so Jillz videos really help me out.
I discovered your channel maybe a week ago and got hooked. It came right on time. I watched A LOT of them and I've actually come to realized that my relationship with my husband is wonderful. and I am wonderful. Growing up is hard for every individual, it's obviously even harder to grow up together as a couple. Finding the right therapist has done wonders for us, and maybe most of all, realizing that we are eachothers family and we will never be alone in this life because we found each other, thank god! As long as we love and respect each other, everything can be adjusted/taught/communicated. I find that most of the problems tend to sort of.. solve themselves, if communicated properly and given the healthy environment respecting the process requires. I hope ny English isn't too embarrassing 😅😅❤️🩷 Big hug from Israel ❣️🏝️♥️😘😃🌟⭐
I LOVE this video. I realized way too late in life that my feminine energy FEELS so much better! I became aware of how much more life that amazing masculine energy provides that he brings.
I wish this worked the way you suggest it. I just end up with a messy, disordered household, stressed out of my mind because the clutter overwhelmed me. Instead of telling women we're not feminine enough, I'm liking the trend lately of telling men they're slacking.
This is a gem. Thank you for new ideas for bettering our relationship! I always wanted to lean into my female energy but was scared to do so. I always was told that I needed to provide for myself and that it's not good to let a partner do basically anything for me. My partner wants to provide, he loves making me happy be it money, emotionally or just carrying heavy stuff for me. I know I can do anything of that myself, but I definitely need to relax more into the thought that he WANTS to make me happy and be the masculine energy I secretly wish for. I will work on that and tell him his actions are appreciated more often.
I needed to hear this today, thank you. My stress and feeling a bit unstable has really had me pushing and nagging and all the horrible things I DONT want to be. I do wish the masculine would spend more time in the self-help realm though. So that we can both be working on ourselves. Bookmarking this one because I need to hear it often I think.
Can relate to this, me and my bf have been clashing a lot as of late and I think it is partially due to me nagging so much and being more in my masculine energy than my feminine, this video has really helped me though and I can realise this now and figure out how to improve it ♥
1. Embrace your feminine energy. 2. Communicate with love & be playful. 3. Give him the space to lead. 4. Believe in him. 5. Be appreciative & show gratitude.
If I understand correctly as a feminine I gotta hypnotise myself to see something in my partner I haven't seen since honeymoon phase and I should treat him like he does things the way he doesn't (delussion myself) and when I talk to him I gotta exibit the self control of a buddhist monk so I don't scare away that strong masculine that I'm having beside me. Errrm. Yeah. And stay in my gentle, playful, patient, go with the flow, devil may care attitude while I'm doing it. I should just get a dog, this is becoming ridiculus :D
Yeah, I can't help but think...Why so much "gotta" and "should" be this or that way? Why confuse optional desires and luxuries with necessities? Honestly, you could do without a completely masculine man, no? Why go back to the 1950s?
I just discovered your channel today and I'm amazed by how beautiful and cozy it is! Loving your energy and appreciate your advices. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
This has been your best video yet. My mother in law has been impossible to please, critical, competitive, and controlling my husbands whole life. Even though my husband has stepped up with me, provides for me, etc, he often falls back into the feminine trap when dealing with her, as he has been conditioned to see that’s how “to deal with women”. It frustrates me because I need him to be more confident and in control, but it seems like every time he is with her he reverts back to his old ways, or, he gets into fights with her because he is trying to be more masculine and not let her walk all over him. . As a result it’s obvious she doesn’t care for me because I’m the one “that’s changed him” (I.e he is finally setting boundaries with her and she hates it). How can I help him be more macyline without causing friction with my MIL?
Glad you liked it! I think you need to let him handle this situations himself as long as he is still treating you with love and respect and prioritizing you ❤️
Jillz's right. And if he feels the need to go deeper, he could refer to a therapist: nowadays there are short yet effective forms of inner work that can be guided by a specialist. Good luck ❤️
I feel awful just by reading your description 😢 it's the worst when you have to compete with another woman in marriage.. husband and wife are supposed to be teamed up
Jillz I love your content and perspective so much!! I'm binge watching your videos hehe, they are so edifying. I've bought your book (become the woman of your dreams in 30 days) a few weeks ago but I found it uninspiring for me to journal electronically so I've had it printed. Im collecting it from the printer shop on my way home today. (I just came from your "Stop mothering your man" video) and I realise that I have been mothering my husband too much due to certain childhood circumstances that made me that way. I could see he thought it was cute but it also kind of annoyed him, because as you say, they are their own person! I was suffocating my intimacy with my hubby as well as ruining my masculine image of him. Thank you so much for these videos, they are a blessing. I can't wait to reap the benefits of this new dynamic/spark in my marriage. Its also a relief to actually step back and tell myself that I don't HAVE to do everything! Lots of love xx Your new subscriber.
That’s why I feel it’s so important to date the person with caution before getting married to them. See if they play in their masculine role. I feel yes they can step up with time, but I also feel like if they don’t have it from the beginning (masculine energy) then you should t waste your time because you already know that’s what you want in a relationship. I feel it shouldn’t be our job to change them to be more better. Whether it’s being more masculine or being more ambitious, etc. It’s either they want to or don’t. What are peoples thoughts?
I totally understand when you stated it shouldn’t be our job but as Jillz stated in the video he might just need a little bit of encouragement. I think it also takes observation, stepping back, and observing the energy that you are putting out as well as the energy he is exhibiting to see what areas call for improvement. Essentially it takes two in a relationship if you find yourself doing everything Jillz stated in the video but he is not doing his part it might be time to step away from that dynamic.
I agree with you. If the man really wants you, he’ll come correct or change to suit you without having to remind him. If a man is fully in his feminine energy and doesn’t want to change, let him find a woman in her masculine energy.
100% agree, so many people settle in relationships thinking the person will change once they get married and 'maybe' they will or 'maybe' they won't but you should not bet your life on it. Let them be who they are and if they are not meeting your expectations move on. You will make that person miserable and vice versa.
TOTALLY AWESOME VIDEO JILLZ!!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 100%. MASCULINE AND FEMININE ENERGY ARE TWO POWERFUL FORCES THAT NEED TO BE BALANCED IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. AND GREAT COMMUNICATION IS VERY HELPFUL.
I love your videos as always. As an older sister, I just realized I take on the masculine energy a lot but I don’t want to do that in a relationship. I’ll watch your feminine energy videos. I would love to hear more on how to communicate with love and kindness and softness
I am gradually trying to get my husband to step into his masculine energy. His ex wife was constantly belittling and emasculating him to the point where he didn't think he could do anything right. It has been a learning curve for me because my ex husband forced me to take on so much that I struggle to take a passive receiving role and it actually scared me to do so. However, now that I've been working on it, my husband is stepping up and we are happy, balanced and secure
I understand all this...i just wish there were more videos out there to educate men on how to take a healthy masculine role so that his lady will be able to nurture the relationship 🙄
Jillz, I think I might have just attract this video from you - it just came in, when I (and my bf) need it the most! We had a weird time in our relationship and even had an awful fight on the weekend. I feel like our energies were messed up, so thank you for the reminder to work on that. As always, you looked beautiful and I loved the video!
I love this. I left my husband of 22 years because I was totally burned out being provider, protector, housekeeper, financial planner, problem fixer, decision maker, mother, nurse, etc. I think if at least I might have received love and affection and appreciation I might have stayed and powered through, but I just finally got to a breaking point. I started valuing myself and left to find a more fulfilling relationship, not another child. I am very feminine by nature and I have found a strong man with the qualities I appreciate. I am so happy but I do sometimes stop and wonder if I'm giving enough. I'm used to giving everything. Practicing receiving can be challenging if I think I'm not giving enough. We are in our forties and have had children with other people and so I feel like I can't fulfill my role or give him enough because we're past the stage of me giving him children and raising them. Does this make sense to anyone else? I don't know how to give in the "right" feminine ways at this stage. Of course providing babies is not all we're good for, but I love him so much and I want to give enough.
from my perspective you’ve endured a long journey. it’s your first time living too! and age does not equal a thing. your femininity is your now gained wisdom from your past, the knowledge, the strength, the independence, and the skills you’ve acquired along the way! it may seem like a waste, but all these lessons and challenges were teaching you and just circling right back to you! at this stage with your new partner, child bearing is irrelevant, especially to a dude who will never experience the bond a mother has. so at this matured stage you take it easy and slow, be patient with your wise mind, sit back and enjoy:) im glad you’ve moved on, i wish my momma could. 30 years with my dad so toxic she deserves a lot better, she’s exactly what you were in your past relationship. wish you the best
Well yeah, but you can only change the dynamic to a certain degree. There are usually underlying reasons. And to be honest, I want to have a man who is already confident and not someone whom I have to constantly manipulate in order to change him into someone more appealing to me. As you said: pushing Leads to nothing and no matter how you phrase it, criticism or encouragement, if you want him to be different than he is, that's a problem. Better to find someone you can love as he is, that's just fair to both people.
I totally agree with you! It’s not about trying to change him or manipulate him, it’s about learning to support the relationship + loving and supporting him through the uncomfortable moments. Relationships are much more nuanced than black and white 💕
This is so far my FAVORITE video 😍😍🤍🤍 I'm learning to lean in my feminine more everyday and now i'm learning how to be feminine with Other people. So far, my dad and brothers have been a great option to practice. I noticed that appreciation and gratitude WORKS LIKE CRAZY. Ever since i started appreciating everything my dad and brothers do for us, i noticed that they do anything i ask them. Before they used to say no or avoid doing it until i started nagging like my mom but now, as long as i appreciated or showed genuine happiness and support on something they care about, whatever i ask, they comply. It's so effortless ladies.
People are not fixed in these “energies.” This is so simplistic. People just want a simple formula for their relationships and guess what… that doesn’t exist!
Very insightful video, thanks. I am a male human and spend lots of times in other countries. My discovery in the last years in eastern Europe was that i really like the strong female side in these cultures. The women manage to wake up the masculine energy a lot more there. I liked it. Most of what these women did, you mentioned. Sentences like "i like your determination", or waiting for the man to lead. It's great to navigate betweeen the two energies, make life more enjoyable.
Wow this video is amazing!! I just listened it to it with my husband and he said you are bang on with everything. We are trying to shift some dynamics right now. Thank you!!! 💖💖💖💖💖
This information is soooooo valuable as I just started to date a man who is in his healthy masculine energy and I (single mom) have sometimes difficulties to move into my feminine energy as I have to be in my masculine all the time.
I did all of these and he just became more and more lazy and did not put any effort in the relationship, probably because he felt accepted so he figured he’s good. I couldn’t help but feel neglected and unloved and we broke up after 2 years
My ex exuded all masculine energy and had the provider mindset but I ended up taking on the leadership role and was unappreciative/took away his confidence... Now I lost him bc of my actions 😞 and all he has is built resentment towards me. He was my first boyfriend and I didn't know how to treat him right. I hope I can find another man who matched me like him
Great video. Just want to say though that girls looking attractive does not mean that “masculine” energy you’re receiving back is true masculine energy. They may be giving lustful energy which is NOT protection, rather them seeking to objectifying and consume you.
Jillz thank you for posting this ❤️❤️ Your videos are helping me become the woman that I really want to be. I've been following your advice about being softer and it really does work, I just need to stick with it and allow things to flow instead of trying to control them. I didn't realize how hard this would be to change into this type of person but that just shows how much I was in my masculine. Thank you thank you thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Some men are femenine and some women are masculine , and they complement each other perfectly!! I have known many couples like that , that get married and have lasted for decades
So helpful Jillz ❤ thank you so much, I’m stepping into my feminine more and more each day and knowing how to create polarity is super! It also relates with other relationships, not just with a SP, male friends, brother…
I'm sooooooo masculine, I'm very no bulshit take action solve things direct. I'm very used to guys who wont take initiative no matter what, but my current crush is a bit different. And, well, he also likes to have things his way so he cuts me through sometimes.
Love love love this topic about polarity. Would love to have more future content on specifically this and how to revert polarity because this video is so practical and makes the topic very applicable. Thank you!!!❤
I have been binge watching all of your feminine energy videos and landed here. My relationship is struggling right now and one of my husband's main concerns was that he does not feel independent anymore. I originally thought this just meant he wanted to go out with friends more or that he wants his name on bills more. Which may be part of it, but I now feel like this is a huge part of it. My question is...how do we tap into my feminine and his masculine energy when I am the primary provider financially. I think this has a big role in the relationship & I cannot quit my job nor do I want to. I am okay with being the financial provider if we can figure out how to shift our energies around that. If you or anyone has any thoughts on that I would so appreciate it!! You definitely gained a follower today, you are amazing.
It’s great if two people compliment each other well in the masculine feminine energy areas, but it’s not one or the others responsibility to push the other person to have some more masculine or feminine energy, because they’ll need to generate from within from themselves at the end of The day, which will never go away from them again
I am the man , I need help validating her feelings and not taking them personal I am also trying to step up and lead more in our relationship but having a hard time knowing what that feels and looks like . Any and all help would be great I’m 24 and my girlfriend is 30 so obviously we are at different parts in our healing stages I feel really behind her and wondering how I can if possible catch up without rushing my own process . This video was very helpful watching from a man’s point of view 🙏🏽
These are good tips and it's also important to note that some men simply don't have it in them to step up into that masculine role. It is actually super painful to remain in your feminine energy for months and months in the hopes that a naturally low effort, lazy man (who clearly would be better suited to a more domineering woman) finally steps up to take the lead. It's completely demoralising. If I ever date again I'll be reserving my feminine energy for a man who will actually appreciate it
Balanced. Thats all. The overcomplication can lead to confusion, and later lack of motivation in the relationship. Is better to keep things simple and practical.
i guess i’m starting to embrace more of my masculine side now but still a lot in my feminine and it feels for me like i’m lost, insecure, anxious and i think this comes from being too much out of balance of what my core energy would be
While watching more of Jillz’s videos I have realised I am the worst woman existent on this planet and I have messed up relationships with so many amazing partners and men, because of not knowing how to really be feminine or a woman. My mother didnt really taught me that so I am grateful for Jill’s videos and at the same time don’t want to exist anymore. I feel ashamed of calling myself a woman or human being even.
My man and I have a baby together. He is stepping up for other things he’s not (maybe that’s just the way that he is) because he feels threatened with all the debt that we’re in. He doesn’t earn enough for us to be okay for now because we’re in a small debt. Once we are out of this debt we thought about buying a house and him working and me staying at home. He said he was okay with that. I was the one who encouraged this idea of him being the provider and me staying at home with our kid because I realized he maybe didn’t think about it at all since his past relationship his girlfriend didn’t want to settle down for a family, marriage and a life together so I think he just found himself entering in his feminine energy which now it has become a turn off for me because now I find myself being in my masculine energy and battling between being feminine and masculine. I’m trying to embrace my femininity and get rid of this masculine energy that’s always stressing me out and encouraging him to be more masculine, more himself so that he feels happier with himself. Any advices?
Thank you for your interesting video! We have 3 children together so it is VERY hard for me not to take the lead, check everything (school bags, children clothes, children hobbies, danse/activity bags, lunch bags, if there s anything missing,..) or even for the house (we need to do this or that or buy this or that) it s hard to lean back and send the kids to school without food for example 😅
Being in healthy feminine energy doesn’t mean you have to stop doing things that are feminine? (I.E. Feeding your children, making sure your house is comfortable and well-equipped for your lifestyle…) Letting your hubby be masculine doesn’t mean doing NOTHING, it just means letting him provide and be the man in the relationship. You can totally still be the WOMAN! 👌🏻
In the beginning, my ex was showing up as this masculine man and I thought I found the one finally. A few months in, he complained that he's spending too much money and that I don't contribute enough financially and with planning. I thought I was letting him take the lead and I was offended as my efforts seem to be taken for granted.
I struggle with this but for reasons I don't know what to do... for one, he is in the military so he's gone ALL THE TIME, actually MOST of the time. This forces me to take on "both roles" the majority of the time. So then when he does come home, it's hard for me to just suddenly count on him to take care of the things I had been taking care of by myself. I'm willing to, but it just doesn't get done because he's too busy "catching up on all the stuff he couldn't do since he wasn't at home for the past few months," or whatever. Then allllll I want is to go on a date with him. A lot of the time, I take on ALL of the responsibilities when he's gone so that when he comes back, there's time for US, and he doesn't have to worry about doing all the house stuff. But then when I'm like "heyyy wanna go on a date" or something like that, he's all "I'm not into being around people." In the rare time that he DOES agree (or even come up with the idea) to go to dinner or something, he gets there and is IMMEDIATELY overwhelmed and starts going "Eff this this was a huge mistake, I regret everything I do" and I don't know how to handle that.
Here's a quick, but important tip for all the ladies: Clarify at the beginning (preferably before marriage) what your man believes that a man's role is in the relationship. I only found out at the end that my ex-husband held the belief that it is *not* the man's role to be a provider and protector for his wife *nowadays* . So, that's why I was being essentially forced into both masculine and feminine roles, which obviously did not work out.
Protector yes but nowadays the system makes us both working and providing for the family. But it definitely depends on the agreement between the couple.
@@0to100RealQuick-f3i OK, but let me tell you that problems *will* arise when you have your wife providing 50% (or more) financially yet she finds herself doing 100% of everything else to manage the household, the children, etc. Consider yourself warned.
@@LisaCulton and when you get a job and make way more than him, a new can of worms open.
@@samia6888 That's when they start the resentment and sabotage.
Lisa thanks so much for this tip.. Unfortunately my s/o wasn’t able to communicate properly as soon as I’ve asked him „what are we“ and then he ran away XD how easy it is to weed out men that way is by being straightforward. I love actually dropping this on them to see their reaction
1) 4:44 be in your feminine energy
2) 7:20 don't nag, communicate with love
3) 9:30 allow him to lead
4) 11:45 believe in him
5) 13:00 appreciate him and be grateful
He can't lead I'm older and he's a finisher. I start and he's competitive so he gets into it when he sees me doing it and he is better at me at fishing things. It's romantic to me that we have this and it works for us
I read finn
Thank you! I was tuned out with her talking about her wardrobe and actually stopped watching and was going to complain about it until I saw your timestamp but I don't care to watch anymore now anyway
Thank you for the time stamps!
Thank you
you just saved my marriage
14:00-14:18 As a man, I’ve never heard more truer words. Very well said!
My boyfriend is totally a protector and provider and it’s been a huge learning curve for me bc I always had to do both gender roles. It’s been a wonderful breath of fresh air and I am so lucky to have him in my life! ❤🎉😍
I’m happy for you! Unfortunately women today have been forced into their masculine energy because either they’re supporting themselves or they’re forced to be the provider and protector because they’re a single mom. When meeting a guy in their masculine energy, it is a bit of a learning curve to slip into the feminine, but it ends up being easy to do.
@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living I don't know if you can speak for women in general. I think by default, there might be some biological drive to adopt femininity, but a growing number of women seem to genuinely want to play a masculine role.
Now, it's a totally different story if she's being both the main breadwinner and the majority contributor to domestic duties. But folks nowadays are more flexible than, say, 50 years ago.
Where has this channel been my whole TH-cam account life???
I like the soft and open way you say things 🩷
Ive seen many times where a woman was doing everything to stay in her feminine and treat her man like a king but he never stepped up, still took all her money and came to expect her to treat him like 'the man' even when he wasnt doing anything. In my opinion if a man is not in his masculine when you meet him nothing you do will make him want to be that. Men that have strong masculine energy will be like that regardless.
I agree with you!! If a man is not so masculine at the beggining of a relantionship he would never be
Agreed. This video gave some good points but honestly I don’t think it’s fair we shift the issue onto how women react to not being treated fairly. It doesn’t matter what the woman does.
@@iaf4454 I have to disagree with this one! Only because many men come from trauma and it deeply impacts their confidence. Sometimes all they need is someone to help them regain that confidence in order to step back into his masculine energy/role.
She also reiterated a lot that you can’t force anyone to do anything. So it’s worth a shot to try and inspire your partner if you really care for them, but if there is no change, that obviously means that you’re not compatible and it’s time to move on.
She needs to move on
I agree with you. If a man wants YOU, he’ll come correct or make changes to suit you. If a man doesn’t want you but wants your resources (free secks, free labor, free counseling, and/or money), he’s not going to change, or he’ll change but leave you for the woman he really wants, so don’t even waste your time.
As for “traumas” - it’s not your job to fix a man. If he wants to be fixed, he can get counseling. The professionals do a better job at it.
It feels so good to lean back. My husband took over the investing/ money with me on the accounts. That way I can see how he's managing it passively and it has become something he is proud of. I hated managing my money. I'd let it sit there and at times buy dumb stuff I don't need. He gives me money for whatever I want and invests the rest in our future.
My husband is constantly stepping up, but I’m open to learning how to encourage him even better. 🥰
My husband is a Leo and I am a Cancer he is the sun I am the moon. He is the masculine I am the feminine. It's amazing how everything worked out for us.
That’s your Sun signs though. What about your inner planets?
I'm a Leo and my husband is a Pisces. Lucky you, cause i feel like having more of that Leo boldness and masculinity so Jillz videos really help me out.
@@SparkTO and houses and aspects T_T
its crazy bc my parents are also Leo and Cancer and that turned out terribly lol
@@tamarahcortezz yeah it's really a terrible combination.
I discovered your channel maybe a week ago and got hooked. It came right on time. I watched A LOT of them and I've actually come to realized that my relationship with my husband is wonderful. and I am wonderful. Growing up is hard for every individual, it's obviously even harder to grow up together as a couple. Finding the right therapist has done wonders for us, and maybe most of all, realizing that we are eachothers family and we will never be alone in this life because we found each other, thank god! As long as we love and respect each other, everything can be adjusted/taught/communicated. I find that most of the problems tend to sort of.. solve themselves, if communicated properly and given the healthy environment respecting the process requires. I hope ny English isn't too embarrassing 😅😅❤️🩷 Big hug from Israel ❣️🏝️♥️😘😃🌟⭐
I LOVE this video. I realized way too late in life that my feminine energy FEELS so much better! I became aware of how much more life that amazing masculine energy provides that he brings.
I wish this worked the way you suggest it. I just end up with a messy, disordered household, stressed out of my mind because the clutter overwhelmed me. Instead of telling women we're not feminine enough, I'm liking the trend lately of telling men they're slacking.
How pathetic
This is a gem. Thank you for new ideas for bettering our relationship! I always wanted to lean into my female energy but was scared to do so. I always was told that I needed to provide for myself and that it's not good to let a partner do basically anything for me. My partner wants to provide, he loves making me happy be it money, emotionally or just carrying heavy stuff for me. I know I can do anything of that myself, but I definitely need to relax more into the thought that he WANTS to make me happy and be the masculine energy I secretly wish for. I will work on that and tell him his actions are appreciated more often.
Can you make a video specifically on how to help your dad be more masculine?
I needed to hear this today, thank you. My stress and feeling a bit unstable has really had me pushing and nagging and all the horrible things I DONT want to be. I do wish the masculine would spend more time in the self-help realm though. So that we can both be working on ourselves.
Bookmarking this one because I need to hear it often I think.
Can relate to this, me and my bf have been clashing a lot as of late and I think it is partially due to me nagging so much and being more in my masculine energy than my feminine, this video has really helped me though and I can realise this now and figure out how to improve it ♥
1. Embrace your feminine energy.
2. Communicate with love & be playful.
3. Give him the space to lead.
4. Believe in him.
5. Be appreciative & show gratitude.
If I understand correctly as a feminine I gotta hypnotise myself to see something in my partner I haven't seen since honeymoon phase and I should treat him like he does things the way he doesn't (delussion myself) and when I talk to him I gotta exibit the self control of a buddhist monk so I don't scare away that strong masculine that I'm having beside me. Errrm. Yeah. And stay in my gentle, playful, patient, go with the flow, devil may care attitude while I'm doing it. I should just get a dog, this is becoming ridiculus :D
Best thing I read
Yeah, I can't help but think...Why so much "gotta" and "should" be this or that way? Why confuse optional desires and luxuries with necessities? Honestly, you could do without a completely masculine man, no? Why go back to the 1950s?
I just discovered your channel today and I'm amazed by how beautiful and cozy it is! Loving your energy and appreciate your advices. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
Either leave him or have him step up, complaining or “nagging” isn’t the solution…
This has been your best video yet. My mother in law has been impossible to please, critical, competitive, and controlling my husbands whole life. Even though my husband has stepped up with me, provides for me, etc, he often falls back into the feminine trap when dealing with her, as he has been conditioned to see that’s how “to deal with women”. It frustrates me because I need him to be more confident and in control, but it seems like every time he is with her he reverts back to his old ways, or, he gets into fights with her because he is trying to be more masculine and not let her walk all over him. . As a result it’s obvious she doesn’t care for me because I’m the one “that’s changed him” (I.e he is finally setting boundaries with her and she hates it). How can I help him be more macyline without causing friction with my MIL?
Glad you liked it! I think you need to let him handle this situations himself as long as he is still treating you with love and respect and prioritizing you ❤️
Emotional enmeshment
Jillz's right. And if he feels the need to go deeper, he could refer to a therapist: nowadays there are short yet effective forms of inner work that can be guided by a specialist.
Good luck ❤️
I have the exact same issue with my husband and MIL , I am the problem in her eyes
I feel awful just by reading your description 😢 it's the worst when you have to compete with another woman in marriage.. husband and wife are supposed to be teamed up
Jillz I love your content and perspective so much!! I'm binge watching your videos hehe, they are so edifying. I've bought your book (become the woman of your dreams in 30 days) a few weeks ago but I found it uninspiring for me to journal electronically so I've had it printed. Im collecting it from the printer shop on my way home today.
(I just came from your "Stop mothering your man" video) and I realise that I have been mothering my husband too much due to certain childhood circumstances that made me that way. I could see he thought it was cute but it also kind of annoyed him, because as you say, they are their own person! I was suffocating my intimacy with my hubby as well as ruining my masculine image of him.
Thank you so much for these videos, they are a blessing. I can't wait to reap the benefits of this new dynamic/spark in my marriage. Its also a relief to actually step back and tell myself that I don't HAVE to do everything!
Lots of love xx
Your new subscriber.
That’s why I feel it’s so important to date the person with caution before getting married to them. See if they play in their masculine role. I feel yes they can step up with time, but I also feel like if they don’t have it from the beginning (masculine energy) then you should t waste your time because you already know that’s what you want in a relationship.
I feel it shouldn’t be our job to change them to be more better. Whether it’s being more masculine or being more ambitious, etc.
It’s either they want to or don’t.
What are peoples thoughts?
I totally understand when you stated it shouldn’t be our job but as Jillz stated in the video he might just need a little bit of encouragement. I think it also takes observation, stepping back, and observing the energy that you are putting out as well as the energy he is exhibiting to see what areas call for improvement. Essentially it takes two in a relationship if you find yourself doing everything Jillz stated in the video but he is not doing his part it might be time to step away from that dynamic.
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I agree with you. If the man really wants you, he’ll come correct or change to suit you without having to remind him. If a man is fully in his feminine energy and doesn’t want to change, let him find a woman in her masculine energy.
100% agree, so many people settle in relationships thinking the person will change once they get married and 'maybe' they will or 'maybe' they won't but you should not bet your life on it. Let them be who they are and if they are not meeting your expectations move on. You will make that person miserable and vice versa.
Thank you. We shouldn't, really, it's a trap leading into long term issue
Wowww I love the tip of the prophecy. “You will treat him the way you think he is” woww 😮
TOTALLY AWESOME VIDEO JILLZ!!!! I AGREE WITH YOU 100%. MASCULINE AND FEMININE ENERGY ARE TWO POWERFUL FORCES THAT NEED TO BE BALANCED IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. AND GREAT COMMUNICATION IS VERY HELPFUL.
Girl this was a slap to my face 😢 The fact that I have been holding him back and not realizing until today. Thank you for this video!!❤
I love your videos as always. As an older sister, I just realized I take on the masculine energy a lot but I don’t want to do that in a relationship. I’ll watch your feminine energy videos. I would love to hear more on how to communicate with love and kindness and softness
I am gradually trying to get my husband to step into his masculine energy. His ex wife was constantly belittling and emasculating him to the point where he didn't think he could do anything right. It has been a learning curve for me because my ex husband forced me to take on so much that I struggle to take a passive receiving role and it actually scared me to do so.
However, now that I've been working on it, my husband is stepping up and we are happy, balanced and secure
Thats brilliant
Why do men have to be masculine? Don't you think expecting your husband to be a leader in your relationship is putting a lot of pressure on him?
I understand all this...i just wish there were more videos out there to educate men on how to take a healthy masculine role so that his lady will be able to nurture the relationship 🙄
The Bible has many verses about what a husbands role is/how to properly treat his wife. Not married? It is still applicable for a relationship.
I agree there need to be more videos for men to learn how to be masculine.
Jillz, I think I might have just attract this video from you - it just came in, when I (and my bf) need it the most! We had a weird time in our relationship and even had an awful fight on the weekend. I feel like our energies were messed up, so thank you for the reminder to work on that. As always, you looked beautiful and I loved the video!
Thank you so much!! Glad this video was helpful ❤️❤️
Jee, ahoj do Česka :D
I love this. I left my husband of 22 years because I was totally burned out being provider, protector, housekeeper, financial planner, problem fixer, decision maker, mother, nurse, etc. I think if at least I might have received love and affection and appreciation I might have stayed and powered through, but I just finally got to a breaking point. I started valuing myself and left to find a more fulfilling relationship, not another child. I am very feminine by nature and I have found a strong man with the qualities I appreciate. I am so happy but I do sometimes stop and wonder if I'm giving enough. I'm used to giving everything. Practicing receiving can be challenging if I think I'm not giving enough. We are in our forties and have had children with other people and so I feel like I can't fulfill my role or give him enough because we're past the stage of me giving him children and raising them. Does this make sense to anyone else? I don't know how to give in the "right" feminine ways at this stage. Of course providing babies is not all we're good for, but I love him so much and I want to give enough.
from my perspective you’ve endured a long journey. it’s your first time living too! and age does not equal a thing. your femininity is your now gained wisdom from your past, the knowledge, the strength, the independence, and the skills you’ve acquired along the way! it may seem like a waste, but all these lessons and challenges were teaching you and just circling right back to you!
at this stage with your new partner, child bearing is irrelevant, especially to a dude who will never experience the bond a mother has. so at this matured stage you take it easy and slow, be patient with your wise mind, sit back and enjoy:) im glad you’ve moved on, i wish my momma could. 30 years with my dad so toxic she deserves a lot better, she’s exactly what you were in your past relationship. wish you the best
@@dmtbreakthrough thank you! That's very sweet encouragement. In the end, I do know that I bring a lot to the relationship and I'm so happy!
Thank you! That's very sweet encouragement. In the end, I do know that I bring a lot to the relationship and I'm so happy!
If you support & love him be enough imo he understands the situation maybe help his children if appropriate.
Well yeah, but you can only change the dynamic to a certain degree. There are usually underlying reasons.
And to be honest, I want to have a man who is already confident and not someone whom I have to constantly manipulate in order to change him into someone more appealing to me.
As you said: pushing Leads to nothing and no matter how you phrase it, criticism or encouragement, if you want him to be different than he is, that's a problem. Better to find someone you can love as he is, that's just fair to both people.
I totally agree with you! It’s not about trying to change him or manipulate him, it’s about learning to support the relationship + loving and supporting him through the uncomfortable moments. Relationships are much more nuanced than black and white 💕
This! 👏
This video is exactly what I asked for today.I feel like you made it for me. Thank you so much girl. Sending you love from Kenya 🇰🇪
Aww I hope it was helpful! 😘
@@JillzGuerin it really is helpful. I've been looking for practical advise and I got it here
This made me tear up a little! Thank you!
By the way, I'm not a native speaker and wanted you to tell that I could understand you very well.
Thank you. I just saw all the reasons my previous relationship didn't work out. This was a god learning experience.
I love how easy you make it to understand and apply. Plus you look so pretty.
This is so far my FAVORITE video 😍😍🤍🤍 I'm learning to lean in my feminine more everyday and now i'm learning how to be feminine with Other people. So far, my dad and brothers have been a great option to practice. I noticed that appreciation and gratitude WORKS LIKE CRAZY. Ever since i started appreciating everything my dad and brothers do for us, i noticed that they do anything i ask them. Before they used to say no or avoid doing it until i started nagging like my mom but now, as long as i appreciated or showed genuine happiness and support on something they care about, whatever i ask, they comply. It's so effortless ladies.
100%!! 🔥
You should do much more videos of this. Definitely women need this info like air.
Why are men so influenceable when they re supposed to be the strong ones 😢 thank you for your videos ❤
So it was because my partner was feminine that I became so masculine it makes so much sense now
CURRENTLY MY LIFE IS OUT OF BALANCE. BUT AS I TRANSFORM MY LIFE. THE BALANCE WILL RETURN. THANKS FOR LETTING ME SHARE.
If a man doesn't take you on dates.. HE DOES NOT LIKE YOU!! Leave IMMEDIATELY, that is the most feminine thing to do!
People are not fixed in these “energies.” This is so simplistic. People just want a simple formula for their relationships and guess what… that doesn’t exist!
wow that girl just reinvented gender concept with spiritual taste
Very insightful video, thanks. I am a male human and spend lots of times in other countries. My discovery in the last years in eastern Europe was that i really like the strong female side in these cultures. The women manage to wake up the masculine energy a lot more there. I liked it. Most of what these women did, you mentioned. Sentences like "i like your determination", or waiting for the man to lead. It's great to navigate betweeen the two energies, make life more enjoyable.
The fact that every sentence is correct. Loved this video❤ thank you
I have two sons and I will teach them to step up themselves. Women ars not responsible for men's actions
Wow this video is amazing!! I just listened it to it with my husband and he said you are bang on with everything. We are trying to shift some dynamics right now. Thank you!!! 💖💖💖💖💖
Needed to hear this. This was recommended a couple hours after a little argument with my boyfriend.
This information is soooooo valuable as I just started to date a man who is in his healthy masculine energy and I (single mom) have sometimes difficulties to move into my feminine energy as I have to be in my masculine all the time.
Thank you Jillz! Your content is much needed in today's society🙏
Thank you ❤️❤️
girl it’s almost like you read my mind! this is wonderful thank you ❤
So glad you liked it! 💖
I did all of these and he just became more and more lazy and did not put any effort in the relationship, probably because he felt accepted so he figured he’s good. I couldn’t help but feel neglected and unloved and we broke up after 2 years
Same here and probably we'll break up
I have a friend who has the same problem. She's so encouraging and blows his head up and he is the laziest person I know. SMH
People like you and videos like this makes me realize that some of us are doing things completely wrong😮
Everything you say makes total sense
I need to watch that everyday.
This is soo timely, been wondering why they keep pulling away. Will definitely step into this😍
My ex exuded all masculine energy and had the provider mindset but I ended up taking on the leadership role and was unappreciative/took away his confidence... Now I lost him bc of my actions 😞 and all he has is built resentment towards me. He was my first boyfriend and I didn't know how to treat him right. I hope I can find another man who matched me like him
Great video. Just want to say though that girls looking attractive does not mean that “masculine” energy you’re receiving back is true masculine energy. They may be giving lustful energy which is NOT protection, rather them seeking to objectifying and consume you.
Jillz thank you for posting this ❤️❤️ Your videos are helping me become the woman that I really want to be. I've been following your advice about being softer and it really does work, I just need to stick with it and allow things to flow instead of trying to control them. I didn't realize how hard this would be to change into this type of person but that just shows how much I was in my masculine. Thank you thank you thank you ❤️❤️❤️
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Some men are femenine and some women are masculine , and they complement each other perfectly!!
I have known many couples like that , that get married and have lasted for decades
So helpful Jillz ❤ thank you so much, I’m stepping into my feminine more and more each day and knowing how to create polarity is super! It also relates with other relationships, not just with a SP, male friends, brother…
Glad you liked it!! 😘😘
So well said! Thank you for this! I think most women, from 18 to 88, hear this!.
I'm sooooooo masculine, I'm very no bulshit take action solve things direct. I'm very used to guys who wont take initiative no matter what, but my current crush is a bit different. And, well, he also likes to have things his way so he cuts me through sometimes.
I love your TH-cam channel, you were destined for giving women advice ✨
Love love love this topic about polarity. Would love to have more future content on specifically this and how to revert polarity because this video is so practical and makes the topic very applicable. Thank you!!!❤
Amazing advice thank you for being super feminine
Great information 🙏we should be taught this kind of stuff at school. Human beings would be so much happier. Beautiful pieces. 💐
Yet here I am again trying to fix the relationship by ‘fixing’ myself. And he does absolutely nothing neither does he care. I’m so done with this man
yeah sometimes u just need to leave. i give you permission.
People forget that estrogen is the aggressive hormone, not testosterone (the competitive hormone).
I have been binge watching all of your feminine energy videos and landed here. My relationship is struggling right now and one of my husband's main concerns was that he does not feel independent anymore. I originally thought this just meant he wanted to go out with friends more or that he wants his name on bills more. Which may be part of it, but I now feel like this is a huge part of it.
My question is...how do we tap into my feminine and his masculine energy when I am the primary provider financially. I think this has a big role in the relationship & I cannot quit my job nor do I want to. I am okay with being the financial provider if we can figure out how to shift our energies around that. If you or anyone has any thoughts on that I would so appreciate it!! You definitely gained a follower today, you are amazing.
It’s great if two people compliment each other well in the masculine feminine energy areas, but it’s not one or the others responsibility to push the other person to have some more masculine or feminine energy, because they’ll need to generate from within from themselves at the end of The day, which will never go away from them again
SO HELPFUL!!! thank you
Drill sargeant-y 😂😂😂😂 cracked me up so much!!
I am the man , I need help validating her feelings and not taking them personal I am also trying to step up and lead more in our relationship but having a hard time knowing what that feels and looks like . Any and all help would be great I’m 24 and my girlfriend is 30 so obviously we are at different parts in our healing stages I feel really behind her and wondering how I can if possible catch up without rushing my own process . This video was very helpful watching from a man’s point of view 🙏🏽
I'll come back to watch this video once I find a 'him' for me
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We appreciate your effort and hard work. May God bless you.
Aw thank you so much ❤️
These are good tips and it's also important to note that some men simply don't have it in them to step up into that masculine role. It is actually super painful to remain in your feminine energy for months and months in the hopes that a naturally low effort, lazy man (who clearly would be better suited to a more domineering woman) finally steps up to take the lead. It's completely demoralising. If I ever date again I'll be reserving my feminine energy for a man who will actually appreciate it
Thank you for this video💓I agree with everything you said, but I am a firm believer that naturally gender does matter.
This video is a BLESSINGGG so aligned and I needed it thank you for this wise guidance !
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You looked amazing with the pink blouse! ❤
Taking out the trash was the BEST example this happens ALL the time 🤦🏾♀️😂😂💓💓
Balanced. Thats all. The overcomplication can lead to confusion, and later lack of motivation in the relationship. Is better to keep things simple and practical.
OMG thank you so much for this, this is exactly what I needed to hear today ❤
i guess i’m starting to embrace more of my masculine side now but still a lot in my feminine
and it feels for me like i’m lost, insecure, anxious
and i think this comes from being too much out of balance of what my core energy would be
While watching more of Jillz’s videos I have realised I am the worst woman existent on this planet and I have messed up relationships with so many amazing partners and men, because of not knowing how to really be feminine or a woman. My mother didnt really taught me that so I am grateful for Jill’s videos and at the same time don’t want to exist anymore. I feel ashamed of calling myself a woman or human being even.
Could you please show us how to achieve this goddess hair? :)
Haha yes I will do this soon!💖
Loved this content. “just don’t” lol. Great advice
I’ve been married 46 years. Everything you’re saying here is 100% fact! Young ladies pay attention 😊
Absolutely loved this!!
My man and I have a baby together. He is stepping up for other things he’s not (maybe that’s just the way that he is) because he feels threatened with all the debt that we’re in. He doesn’t earn enough for us to be okay for now because we’re in a small debt. Once we are out of this debt we thought about buying a house and him working and me staying at home. He said he was okay with that. I was the one who encouraged this idea of him being the provider and me staying at home with our kid because I realized he maybe didn’t think about it at all since his past relationship his girlfriend didn’t want to settle down for a family, marriage and a life together so I think he just found himself entering in his feminine energy which now it has become a turn off for me because now I find myself being in my masculine energy and battling between being feminine and masculine. I’m trying to embrace my femininity and get rid of this masculine energy that’s always stressing me out and encouraging him to be more masculine, more himself so that he feels happier with himself.
Any advices?
Thank you for your interesting video! We have 3 children together so it is VERY hard for me not to take the lead, check everything (school bags, children clothes, children hobbies, danse/activity bags, lunch bags, if there s anything missing,..) or even for the house (we need to do this or that or buy this or that) it s hard to lean back and send the kids to school without food for example 😅
Being in healthy feminine energy doesn’t mean you have to stop doing things that are feminine? (I.E. Feeding your children, making sure your house is comfortable and well-equipped for your lifestyle…) Letting your hubby be masculine doesn’t mean doing NOTHING, it just means letting him provide and be the man in the relationship. You can totally still be the WOMAN! 👌🏻
In the beginning, my ex was showing up as this masculine man and I thought I found the one finally. A few months in, he complained that he's spending too much money and that I don't contribute enough financially and with planning. I thought I was letting him take the lead and I was offended as my efforts seem to be taken for granted.
Why do men have to be masculine? Why do partners have to fit into roles? Why can't people be whoever they want to be without hurting anyone?
Believe me, we've tried all of this. I think you're giving them way too much credit lol.
I struggle with this but for reasons I don't know what to do... for one, he is in the military so he's gone ALL THE TIME, actually MOST of the time. This forces me to take on "both roles" the majority of the time. So then when he does come home, it's hard for me to just suddenly count on him to take care of the things I had been taking care of by myself. I'm willing to, but it just doesn't get done because he's too busy "catching up on all the stuff he couldn't do since he wasn't at home for the past few months," or whatever. Then allllll I want is to go on a date with him. A lot of the time, I take on ALL of the responsibilities when he's gone so that when he comes back, there's time for US, and he doesn't have to worry about doing all the house stuff. But then when I'm like "heyyy wanna go on a date" or something like that, he's all "I'm not into being around people." In the rare time that he DOES agree (or even come up with the idea) to go to dinner or something, he gets there and is IMMEDIATELY overwhelmed and starts going "Eff this this was a huge mistake, I regret everything I do" and I don't know how to handle that.
I suggest the book "The Surrendered Wife" or "The Surrendered Single."" Not everything in them is great, but there's a lot of good stuff.
Hello Queen!!! Thank-you sooo much for the great advice!!!!! Wonderful!!!!!
Lovely! A good book about this topic is 'Fascinating Womanhood' (you can also get it as a free pdf)
hi where to find it?
Big lesson here: be patient ❤
I can't wait to watch this tomorrow while I'm alone 😍 thanks jillz