When first getting to know someone, it’s hard to distinguish ENFJs and INFJs since INFJs can come across as social and sometimes, ENFJs can come across more introverted
Yes, they have a sensitivity to your needs like no other :) ENFJs can tell when something's off and are great at asking the right questions at the right time. Thanks for sharing, Taco!
You all been so helpful. I do have burn outs quite regularly as I feel like if I don't do it all then nobody will do it 😢 I put my all into everything and everyone but when I am feeling overwhelming no one wants to know and then I'm feeling all alone.
Then again I could be 2w3 who knows. If you’re looking for an ENFJ “villain” in fiction, you should check out Monika from Doki Doki Literature Club! Amazing character.
This is was really interesting! ENFJs are sweethearts. Regarding what Vicky was saying about loud Americans, it's so true. I lived in Sydney, Australia for 13 months and when I first got there, I couldn't hear what people were saying because they all seemed to be soft spoken. Then after living there for a few weeks and being immersed, I started noticing that the Americans were SO LOUD! It made them come off arrogant, oblivious, and obnoxious. They didn't even realize how loud they sounded. I vowed to never speak loudly again. I have visited many countries and have friends from several others and apparently the whole world sees Americans this way. Americans who have not traveled much have no idea how they are viewed by the rest of the world. It's embarrassing once you see us from the perspective from around the world.
As an INTJ, I must push back on the notion that the damaged version Maleficent is an INTJ. I agree that her child version seemed to be ENFJ though. But the INTJs I know, including myself, are VERY strong in their values and making the world a better place. All of us are very driven and consumed by doing good, improving the world or at least the community. There is no way that an INTJ would be intentionally cruel like Maleficent, even a damaged INTJ. Also, even if we were damaged, we are just not that people-focused. I think a damaged INTJ would more likely manifest as more of a cranky recluse, reverting back into herself and shunning the world in favor of focusing on her own projects, not bothering to get along with others or even interface with them at all. As a personal anecdote, my entire life I have fantasized about living alone in the wilderness. I used to dream of being Grizzly Adams or the boy from My Side of the Mountain. As an adult I have promised myself one day I will outfit a camper van and live in it in a state park or national forest so I can focus on my projects in complete seclusion and focus without fear of the Se tidal wave taking over. So, I think an unhealthy INTJ would more likely manifest as to reject and withdraw from all other people in a very bitter, resentful, misunderstood way, rather than engaging with them in any sort of manipulative or dramatic way as Maleficent does. Maleficent is extremely focused on and engaged with the other living beings. Her whole life is consumed by all the creatures and people. INTJs, whether damaged or not, are just not THAT into people (animals are a different story). Don't get me wrong, healthy INTJs LOVE their favorite humans to the end of the world, but taking it as far as engaging with the whole Kingdom of creatures, fairies, all the creatures of the forest, the King, etc., not gonna happen. That's a LOT of socializing! LOL Also, we are just not going to look back, revenge is not our thing. We're more likely to ghost than take revenge. I think Maleficent is still an ENFJ just a very tragically damaged, hurt ENFJ. It broke my heart that they took her wings.
This was so helpful! I'm an enfj 1w2 and I totally relate to the Ni fuction. In my job I have a coworker who is esfp and does not reflect and just reacts. I don't take up his work. I let him deal with his mess
Joyce Meng I very much enjoy them, even though I’m not as verse in the functions and personality lingo... but I’m catching on slowly haha... have to admit though, this was a hard one for me bc My sister’s an ENFJ(self typed) and we’ve recently been butting heads. Lol so going to have to rewatch this one to maybe understand her a little better. Haha
I’m loving your type talks videos Joyce!! Great examples and also, my husband loves you too and he’s the more skeptical one on this stuff. Excellent job!!!!
Big greetings to all from fellow ENFJ, 8w7 social🙋♀️ Just can’t believe how serious we can be😳🤯ps. I met a men ENFJ but not a single female who is ENFJ besides myself so it’s lovely to see this😁thank you all🙏❤️
As an Infj I tend to hold space for people, and bring less extravted clarity to the group than an Enfj would. Although, I can come up with some uncomfortable ideas, I am more likely to keep them to myself. One thing I am learning via Ni is boundaries of privacy and navigating that.
Ok, i have to say Something about this! I think this way every time people type characters in movies. First i have to preface with how MBTI practitioners always say that you can't just type someone based on behavior, but off of the functions themselves. Because many different types can adopt the same behaviors. So when talking about the characters and their types, say for instance the type was an ENFJ. ENFJs have introverted intuition, which is something going on inside the mind and not actually directly visible in Behavior. These characters in movies are actors. Likely what is going on in their minds is actually just that they need to follow the script and act according to what the director of the movie directed them to do. Meaning what's going on inside of their heads is actually just following the instructions. Them as an individual themselves outside the character they play in the movie may be having introverted intuition going on inside of their heads, but this is not going to be going to be defined by the action of the character. The character is only doing as the Director directed them to do. So for starters, I think typing characters in movies is all just fantasy, which is fine for having fun. But as a serious conversation trying to type characters I feel like one could actually type each character in many different ways just assuming how a character like that in real life may be getting to the conclusions of action that they are portraying in the movie.
ENFJs need to have a job that serves the community like a community center director, homeless shelter director, retirement home director, nursing home director, domestic abuse shelter director, addiction center director, mental health center director, dean of a college or university, principal, psychiatrist, psychologist, minister, pastor, priest, doctor, nurse,, teacher, counselor, or social worker. By the way, Meghan, Leeann, Rebecca, Stephanie, and Vicky are definite female ENFJs.
I found it very interesting that Stephanie, the only type 5 ENFJ here, had a very INTP-ish cadence, pausing to reflect when speaking, as well as a less (outwardly) emotive affect and sort of stoic presence. It might seem like it should be super obvious that a 5 would appear withdrawn and reflective, but I guess I've never seen a type 5 ENFJ before. Based on statistical correlation alone, I can't help but wonder if she had a leg up on Ti. I've seen type 5 ENTPs who originally mistyped as INTPs. I can't help but wonder how often she's thought an introvert or whether she ever mistyped herself. It trips me out sometimes how much I (think I) can relate to ENFJs... but I guess they're good at making people feel understood, kindred -- mirrored, if you will, and amplifying commonality with their Fe. Plus there's that intense Fe vs Ti struggle (what OP would call single-decider or people problems) coupled with being an intuitive (moreover, intuition tool with a sensory blind spot). Some traits, of course, (everything Se) I don't relate to at all. This video actually helped me realize something I've been noticing lately, that often when I recognize a similar energy or perspective in someone, it's coming from their enneagram type and not necessarily their cognitive functions. Stephanie, Rivkah, Denzel, and Meghan all stood out to me as relatable in different ways based on a common enneagram type (if my tritype typing is correct as 5w4 9w1 2w1... lately I've been toying with the idea of being a 5w? 4w5 1w2 but that's just a loose possibility). I really enjoy listening to ENFJs talk in a forum such as this, especially where we are brought together by common interest, but I think dominant Fe might feel a bit too overwhelming in person for me... especially out in "the wild." This is part of why I doubt Socionics intertype relations. I think I'm digressing too far in too many directions though, so I'm gonna wrap it up soon...if Ne will let me! BTW, for whatever it's worth, I think I have decent Si but I'm also terrible with names. (I made a conscious effort in this comment). But for me, in person, oftentimes that moment when a person extends their hand to shake mine (which I guess is a thing of the past now!), it's like my mind goes blank that very moment they say their name...like a split second of static over a broadcast. So strange. I think it's partly nerves during high-pressure social interactions (which I'd say includes first impressions) + some kind of involuntary detachment from "reality" from Se PoLR... so I imagine it's the same phenomenon for entirely different reasons. Once I actually _learn_ a name, I'll remember it and feel pretty confident in my memory. Problem is when there's no memory to retrieve in the first place because the initial encoding got scrambled into Webdings. It's probably an Fe+Se issue. I imagine for ENFJs it's more of an Si issue of retrieving that detail from memory (correct me if I'm wrong). I think many intuitives might not place such a high value priority on calling people by name because it's the meaning behind the words, not the words themselves, that really matter. Personally, when someone uses my name too often, my geiger counter for sycophancy starts chirping, so I try not to overdo attempts at ingratiating others towards me via name-usage. Of course, habits like these are likely heavily influenced by culture & family too. But to circle back to my original point, I think Si doesn't guarantee you'll remember names well. Si users tend to be very particular (or, subjective, lol) about what they recall, and can get so caught up in other details that they mix some details up, or reinforce an incorrect memory via repetition, or fall victim to misattribution or blocking. No doubt, in my experience, SJs are the biggest offenders when it comes to calling you the wrong name several times consecutively, as they go down a list of the names of everyone in your family. My SJ family members do this on a regular basis!
Heather, what you say about relating to ENFJs struck a chord. I too was surprised by how much I related to the discussion of Fe vs Ti although I'm not Fe dominant. I'm not 100% on my type but have considered INTP since reading Drenth who focuses more on the Ti / Fe tension than other descriptions I've read. One hesitation is I tend to think Ti doms sound so much more precise and articulate than I do, at least in writing. That's also an interesting point about enneagram and tritype and I also find I relate to 5 energy across MBTI types. Geiger counter for sycophancy! Love that, I feel the same!
@@k.t.5519 Thanks! Glad it resonated with you. I'll admit I never got around to buying any of Drenth's books, but I've read some of his articles online and concepts credited to him by other INTPs I've spoken to sounded interesting and resonated as true. I think I know what you mean. INTPs do tend to be precise with language, especially in writing. There's a (perceived/felt) need to communicate ideas as accurately as possible, create logically defensible arguments, be realistic, avoid hyperbole (except when obvious usage of sarcasm or poetic license), etc. We want to establish definitions to make sure we're on the same page & perfectly understanding what is actually meant. Plus Ne is always gonna be considering alternative possibilities, exceptions, and synonyms, which can come across as ambiguous, wish-washy waffling to some, or failing to take a stance. Just as the Ti comes off as pedantically splitting hairs. But I think the extent to which that might be the case will vary depending on life experiences. The more people (do/have) relied on you for the truth, the deeper your sense of responsibility to tell the truth precisely might be. Knowing that people will believe almost anything you say without questioning, and knowing the damage that ignorance can cause, places the feeling of a huge burden on your shoulders-- the responsibility to do the research and choose your words carefully to ensure what you say is as close as possible to 100% accurate, because almost no one else is gonna bother to verify or fact-check or look for holes in your logic or play devil's advocate. We are good at noticing mistakes and inconsistencies, and the world hates us for it lol. Or at least for tactlessly pointing them out. The other, somewhat opposite, possibility is that if you've grown accustomed to being challenged and having to prove yourself, whether through speech & debate or people who are paranoid, argumentative, or defensive, you will probably have trained yourself over time to anticipate possible rebuttals and counter those before they are even raised. However, if you haven't had experiences like that in life, I could see an INTP being more sloppy with their wording. It's not until you suffer the embarrassment of being proven wrong, especially publicly, that you start to take it really seriously. And INTPs will secretly beat themselves up over both Ti and Fe mistakes, so the embarrassment will really get under their skin if they're an INTP. The third factor that comes to mind is how much your Fe has developed. You live & learn, and as you slowly develop emotional intelligence, you realize sometimes you have to suppress your inclinations and either let mistakes go or speak a little more loosely. I do think that female INTPs tend to feel more pressure to develop Fe due to normative cultural standards, but any number of other factors could theoretically cause an INTP to learn how to sacrifice Ti for the sake of Fe. As for being articulate, I think that's not necessarily always the case. Whatever you repeatedly do will determine your skillset with Si, so especially when it comes to actually uttering words out of your mouth, it's gonna take a lot of practice before you can convert the thoughts in your head to spoken words and have them come out right. Especially when you're nervous. But even with written words, we really need the practice, I think. The more you write, the better you will be at writing. Not sure if you can relate to any of this, but that's my perspective. As for your type, if you're sure you're on the Ti/Fe axis and not Fe dominant, you might consider INFJ. Or even ISFJ. Do you relate to Ne/Si more than Ni/Se? Or, I guess I should ask, do you value Se? Like, do you see any use in Se? Do you feel the need to get shit done and be productive? Are appearances important? What about physical skills/prowess? The thing about auxiliary Ne is that if you do have that, you might never feel 100% certain about your type. And if you're a 5, the 6-wing, whether your preferred wing or not, will likely add a bit (or a lot) of doubt and skepticism to your thought process. Sixes are famous for saying "it depends" because they're forever weighing different options/factors/alternatives in their minds. So they can also struggle to pin down their type. And actually 4s can be reluctant to comit to a type for different reasons. It's more like nothing seems to capture the nuance or uniqueness of their identity fully, and it always feels like something is missing. A 5 with a 4 wing is likely to be a better writer though, in my opinion. At least when it comes to poetic wordsmithing, creative or maybe even persuasive writing, and obscure word-choice. I could see a 6-heavy 5 being better at technical writing. Btw, on that note, I realize I switched pronouns back & forth several times in the first paragraph, going from "they" to "you" to "we," but hopefully it wasn't too confusing.
I'm also an ENFJ 5w6. It's a very much uncommon combination but every MBTI can have any of the 9 enneagram numbers and wings. It seems that we're quiet but in the inside we're analyzing the situation, our attention is focused on people reading the vibes or energies, and so on. It's not always like that, it happens more often when I'm surrounded by many other extraverts and I let them to have the spotlight, I don't care about that unless that, according to the situation, I feel the responsibility of being the master of ceremonies and entertain the group. I think that there are traits that we all have regardless our enneagram type. We get along with most people because we can accurately spot the boundaries, they feel secure next to use because they think we're reliable. We're good at giving counsel but so bad at applying it in our lives, and many other things that all the ENFJs in the video could relate each other.
Rivkah seems like a mistyped ENFP to me. Often going on tangents, connecting random things together to what she’s interested in (fashion), talking about her Fi values, her Fi smile, the Fi attention she put out onto herself…
It's not only her. I noticed that Meghan seemed to not be a Fe dom neither. She doesn't read the room enough and seems to be not that self conscious about her environment most of the time
As an INFP I think I’ve adopted the behaviour of ‘emotionally pivoting’ and it’s a guilt thing for feeling like I know what I need, but I don’t get it from people, so I do this in the hopes that if I fill their cup they’ll fill mine. Otherwise I feel I’m too much/too intense and don’t want to lose people for not being ‘something’ enough. But I no longer feel comfortable receiving because the fear has grown past the goal - this may be my fearful avoidant attachment quirk though 🤷🏼♀️
Do any of you guys sing???? I wanna sing with y’all. 😊❤ Many ENFJ’s are musical so I’d be thrilled to sing something with anyone or all of you…..dreaming here. 😊
Hey I am a pro singer and a typical ENFJ. I am rather musical. Not only do I love to teach music, music is also something, where I can make the world a better place. So indeed, I think music suits us ENFJs very well.
With the emotional knowledge and depth for people, what often lurks inside the ENFJ is bound to loop and entangle if you do not let the branches grow their own way. - ENFP
INFP here!! What's the name of the chef again? I think Christina Tosi, a pastry chef, is also an ENFJ. What do you guys think? ENFJs are definitely my favourite Fe type :).
You all have this beautifull natural smiling feature at the corners of your mouth great to see, you do not look alike just only this tipical very friendly vibe
ENFJ here. I accept fashion to a certain extent. I don't really like when people are too extravagant , more so in environments that require sobriety. I also don't agree with dressing slutty. I think nowadays women dress showing too much skin and their body and then complain when men get the wrong message. So I am all about people being comfortable except when fashion seems to be driving humanity to individualism over the mood required for a place/moment or to drive them to hyper sexuality. I find that high Fi users go too far with expressing their individuality with clothes or tatoos to a point where they are not capable of not being distracting and out of place in certain environments that require sobriety. I am against that for sure.
She reminds me sooo much of a lovely person I met on my last trip to Gotland ( Sweden's biggest Island, so beautiful ), the same type of presence energetically. On that whole trip I vibed the most with her! :)
Vicky is all sorts of wonderful packed into 1 person. haha I'm glad she reminded you of someone you met on your trips. :) It seems like you had a really magical time.
@@AntoinetteSarpong they're probably an introvert, and my assumption is that ENFJs are a bit too passionate about what they believe in and sometimes might force that on to others, especially less healthy enfjs Maybe, I'm still new to all this
ENFJs sound like they're filibustering, to me. Do they ever stop the monotone talking, or ask questions? It's like they're filling the air with words, to avoid any real vulnerability. I don't find myself to naturally reveal myself to an ENFJ because they never stop talking long enough.
This was such a good point! I noticed that there was a lot of "filler" conversation said between points without any real personal input from their own experiences aside from Rivkah. A lot of the conversation was stating typical experiences ENFJs have rather than personal stories I am an ENFJ and it was frustrating to listen to at times! Because I love sharing my own personal experiences with others so I thought that was strange lol.
Being a body of jesus I guess to remind people is full of themselves in the name of jesus' selfless actions. I guess we need time to reflect more direct interests and points of view that seem to point needs evolutionary matters at some points reflecting true interests hidden within personas
When first getting to know someone, it’s hard to distinguish ENFJs and INFJs since INFJs can come across as social and sometimes, ENFJs can come across more introverted
Id like more on this topic ENFP vs INFP
@@rgoldberg3655 I find the difference between the two easily distinguishable.
Thank you for finally bringing some ENFJs to represent!!! This group makes me proud to be an ENFJ! 🌟
Haha. :) ENFJs are fantastic!! Thank you for all the love and light you bring to the world.
Yes!
If everyone were an ENFJ there would probably be no wars...
These guys are awesome
I love the ENFJ ladies in my life. One called me today because she felt something was bothering me. They know how to touch my soul.
Yes, they have a sensitivity to your needs like no other :) ENFJs can tell when something's off and are great at asking the right questions at the right time. Thanks for sharing, Taco!
ENFJs are amazing 😊💜
all ENFJs are beautifully dressed...my wife does too..
(-ENTJ here)
Dude, you have been cracking out the content lately and I love it. All of it. Keep it up because I am gobbling this stuff up!
-INFP
Thanks! Will do! Glad to hear you enjoy watching these videos, Phillip. :) It means a lot
She is a mastahpiece
ENFJs are awesome and adorable
You all been so helpful. I do have burn outs quite regularly as I feel like if I don't do it all then nobody will do it 😢 I put my all into everything and everyone but when I am feeling overwhelming no one wants to know and then I'm feeling all alone.
Wow I love how denzel said he waters his friendship like a garden.
As an INTJ i learned a lot from this! thank you all :)
Glad you enjoyed it @Bimbambu tV! :)
you ENFJs are such blessed people ♥︎ keep shining, you guys are amazing and lovely!
Feels nice to see and relate to another ENFJ 3w2, thank you so much for putting this on! ^^
Then again I could be 2w3 who knows.
If you’re looking for an ENFJ “villain” in fiction, you should check out Monika from Doki Doki Literature Club! Amazing character.
My God, I'm in love with those whole... dynamic and unique expression. Yeah I still love and praise ENFJs alright!
Thank you beloved Joyce
The Fe just makes the dynamic all the more enjoyable! Warmth and insightfulness abound with these ENFJs 🙂 Thank you for watching, @TheAwakenedINFJ
Look at Rivkah’s smile just bask in that. You guys are the rockstars of love 💕❤️❤️❤️
Oh my gosh... I love you guys so much!!!!!
This is was really interesting! ENFJs are sweethearts. Regarding what Vicky was saying about loud Americans, it's so true. I lived in Sydney, Australia for 13 months and when I first got there, I couldn't hear what people were saying because they all seemed to be soft spoken. Then after living there for a few weeks and being immersed, I started noticing that the Americans were SO LOUD! It made them come off arrogant, oblivious, and obnoxious. They didn't even realize how loud they sounded. I vowed to never speak loudly again. I have visited many countries and have friends from several others and apparently the whole world sees Americans this way. Americans who have not traveled much have no idea how they are viewed by the rest of the world. It's embarrassing once you see us from the perspective from around the world.
😄👏as an infp i have to laugh and enjoy this... its how ive always felt and only lived in u.s. really good to hear its not everywhere 👏😄
❤enfjs❤.
Yours truly from an intp✨✨✨✨✨✨
YAAHHH GO ENFJS!! -infj
GO GO GO ENFJs!!!! Hi Monique 😊
@@JoyceMeng22 hi hi
As an INTJ, I must push back on the notion that the damaged version Maleficent is an INTJ. I agree that her child version seemed to be ENFJ though. But the INTJs I know, including myself, are VERY strong in their values and making the world a better place. All of us are very driven and consumed by doing good, improving the world or at least the community. There is no way that an INTJ would be intentionally cruel like Maleficent, even a damaged INTJ.
Also, even if we were damaged, we are just not that people-focused. I think a damaged INTJ would more likely manifest as more of a cranky recluse, reverting back into herself and shunning the world in favor of focusing on her own projects, not bothering to get along with others or even interface with them at all. As a personal anecdote, my entire life I have fantasized about living alone in the wilderness. I used to dream of being Grizzly Adams or the boy from My Side of the Mountain. As an adult I have promised myself one day I will outfit a camper van and live in it in a state park or national forest so I can focus on my projects in complete seclusion and focus without fear of the Se tidal wave taking over.
So, I think an unhealthy INTJ would more likely manifest as to reject and withdraw from all other people in a very bitter, resentful, misunderstood way, rather than engaging with them in any sort of manipulative or dramatic way as Maleficent does. Maleficent is extremely focused on and engaged with the other living beings. Her whole life is consumed by all the creatures and people. INTJs, whether damaged or not, are just not THAT into people (animals are a different story). Don't get me wrong, healthy INTJs LOVE their favorite humans to the end of the world, but taking it as far as engaging with the whole Kingdom of creatures, fairies, all the creatures of the forest, the King, etc., not gonna happen. That's a LOT of socializing! LOL Also, we are just not going to look back, revenge is not our thing. We're more likely to ghost than take revenge. I think Maleficent is still an ENFJ just a very tragically damaged, hurt ENFJ. It broke my heart that they took her wings.
This was so helpful! I'm an enfj 1w2 and I totally relate to the Ni fuction. In my job I have a coworker who is esfp and does not reflect and just reacts. I don't take up his work. I let him deal with his mess
Great as always, been really enjoying your premieres.
Glad you like them! :) I try my best!! Thanks for watching so many of these interviews, @theMADjeweler's Bench!
Joyce Meng I very much enjoy them, even though I’m not as verse in the functions and personality lingo... but I’m catching on slowly haha... have to admit though, this was a hard one for me bc My sister’s an ENFJ(self typed) and we’ve recently been butting heads. Lol so going to have to rewatch this one to maybe understand her a little better. Haha
ENFJs are so cool!! We just click on a weird wavelength. My best friend and the guy I’m talking to are ENFJs - an INFP
I’m loving your type talks videos Joyce!! Great examples and also, my husband loves you too and he’s the more skeptical one on this stuff. Excellent job!!!!
Hope that you do more enfj videos in the future! ❤️ - from an infp
Yesss. More ENFJ videos to come in the future :)!!
The very first thought that came to mind when I saw the thumbnail was, "7 enfjs, that ought to be fun". Click. Lol I love the smiley faces. -infj
I am starting to realize that as an Infj my passive aggressiveness is directed more at others when something doesn't go right. Like Denzel said.
Big greetings to all from fellow ENFJ, 8w7 social🙋♀️
Just can’t believe how serious we can be😳🤯ps. I met a men ENFJ but not a single female who is ENFJ besides myself so it’s lovely to see this😁thank you all🙏❤️
As an Infj I tend to hold space for people, and bring less extravted clarity to the group than an Enfj would. Although, I can come up with some uncomfortable ideas, I am more likely to keep them to myself. One thing I am learning via Ni is boundaries of privacy and navigating that.
Dude!! Denzel just described the StrengthsFinder strength called "Relator" to a T! 4 levels of relationships. So cool.
25:03 Look how everyone is leaning over. 0.o
Ok, i have to say Something about this! I think this way every time people type characters in movies. First i have to preface with how MBTI practitioners always say that you can't just type someone based on behavior, but off of the functions themselves. Because many different types can adopt the same behaviors. So when talking about the characters and their types, say for instance the type was an ENFJ. ENFJs have introverted intuition, which is something going on inside the mind and not actually directly visible in Behavior. These characters in movies are actors. Likely what is going on in their minds is actually just that they need to follow the script and act according to what the director of the movie directed them to do. Meaning what's going on inside of their heads is actually just following the instructions. Them as an individual themselves outside the character they play in the movie may be having introverted intuition going on inside of their heads, but this is not going to be going to be defined by the action of the character. The character is only doing as the Director directed them to do. So for starters, I think typing characters in movies is all just fantasy, which is fine for having fun. But as a serious conversation trying to type characters I feel like one could actually type each character in many different ways just assuming how a character like that in real life may be getting to the conclusions of action that they are portraying in the movie.
ENFJs need to have a job that serves the community like a community center director, homeless shelter director, retirement home director, nursing home director, domestic abuse shelter director, addiction center director, mental health center director, dean of a college or university, principal, psychiatrist, psychologist, minister, pastor, priest, doctor, nurse,, teacher, counselor, or social worker. By the way, Meghan, Leeann, Rebecca, Stephanie, and Vicky are definite female ENFJs.
I found it very interesting that Stephanie, the only type 5 ENFJ here, had a very INTP-ish cadence, pausing to reflect when speaking, as well as a less (outwardly) emotive affect and sort of stoic presence. It might seem like it should be super obvious that a 5 would appear withdrawn and reflective, but I guess I've never seen a type 5 ENFJ before. Based on statistical correlation alone, I can't help but wonder if she had a leg up on Ti. I've seen type 5 ENTPs who originally mistyped as INTPs. I can't help but wonder how often she's thought an introvert or whether she ever mistyped herself.
It trips me out sometimes how much I (think I) can relate to ENFJs... but I guess they're good at making people feel understood, kindred -- mirrored, if you will, and amplifying commonality with their Fe. Plus there's that intense Fe vs Ti struggle (what OP would call single-decider or people problems) coupled with being an intuitive (moreover, intuition tool with a sensory blind spot). Some traits, of course, (everything Se) I don't relate to at all. This video actually helped me realize something I've been noticing lately, that often when I recognize a similar energy or perspective in someone, it's coming from their enneagram type and not necessarily their cognitive functions. Stephanie, Rivkah, Denzel, and Meghan all stood out to me as relatable in different ways based on a common enneagram type (if my tritype typing is correct as 5w4 9w1 2w1... lately I've been toying with the idea of being a 5w? 4w5 1w2 but that's just a loose possibility).
I really enjoy listening to ENFJs talk in a forum such as this, especially where we are brought together by common interest, but I think dominant Fe might feel a bit too overwhelming in person for me... especially out in "the wild." This is part of why I doubt Socionics intertype relations. I think I'm digressing too far in too many directions though, so I'm gonna wrap it up soon...if Ne will let me!
BTW, for whatever it's worth, I think I have decent Si but I'm also terrible with names. (I made a conscious effort in this comment). But for me, in person, oftentimes that moment when a person extends their hand to shake mine (which I guess is a thing of the past now!), it's like my mind goes blank that very moment they say their name...like a split second of static over a broadcast. So strange. I think it's partly nerves during high-pressure social interactions (which I'd say includes first impressions) + some kind of involuntary detachment from "reality" from Se PoLR... so I imagine it's the same phenomenon for entirely different reasons. Once I actually _learn_ a name, I'll remember it and feel pretty confident in my memory. Problem is when there's no memory to retrieve in the first place because the initial encoding got scrambled into Webdings. It's probably an Fe+Se issue. I imagine for ENFJs it's more of an Si issue of retrieving that detail from memory (correct me if I'm wrong). I think many intuitives might not place such a high value priority on calling people by name because it's the meaning behind the words, not the words themselves, that really matter. Personally, when someone uses my name too often, my geiger counter for sycophancy starts chirping, so I try not to overdo attempts at ingratiating others towards me via name-usage. Of course, habits like these are likely heavily influenced by culture & family too. But to circle back to my original point, I think Si doesn't guarantee you'll remember names well. Si users tend to be very particular (or, subjective, lol) about what they recall, and can get so caught up in other details that they mix some details up, or reinforce an incorrect memory via repetition, or fall victim to misattribution or blocking. No doubt, in my experience, SJs are the biggest offenders when it comes to calling you the wrong name several times consecutively, as they go down a list of the names of everyone in your family. My SJ family members do this on a regular basis!
Heather, what you say about relating to ENFJs struck a chord. I too was surprised by how much I related to the discussion of Fe vs Ti although I'm not Fe dominant. I'm not 100% on my type but have considered INTP since reading Drenth who focuses more on the Ti / Fe tension than other descriptions I've read. One hesitation is I tend to think Ti doms sound so much more precise and articulate than I do, at least in writing. That's also an interesting point about enneagram and tritype and I also find I relate to 5 energy across MBTI types.
Geiger counter for sycophancy! Love that, I feel the same!
@@k.t.5519 Thanks! Glad it resonated with you. I'll admit I never got around to buying any of Drenth's books, but I've read some of his articles online and concepts credited to him by other INTPs I've spoken to sounded interesting and resonated as true. I think I know what you mean. INTPs do tend to be precise with language, especially in writing. There's a (perceived/felt) need to communicate ideas as accurately as possible, create logically defensible arguments, be realistic, avoid hyperbole (except when obvious usage of sarcasm or poetic license), etc. We want to establish definitions to make sure we're on the same page & perfectly understanding what is actually meant. Plus Ne is always gonna be considering alternative possibilities, exceptions, and synonyms, which can come across as ambiguous, wish-washy waffling to some, or failing to take a stance. Just as the Ti comes off as pedantically splitting hairs. But I think the extent to which that might be the case will vary depending on life experiences. The more people (do/have) relied on you for the truth, the deeper your sense of responsibility to tell the truth precisely might be. Knowing that people will believe almost anything you say without questioning, and knowing the damage that ignorance can cause, places the feeling of a huge burden on your shoulders-- the responsibility to do the research and choose your words carefully to ensure what you say is as close as possible to 100% accurate, because almost no one else is gonna bother to verify or fact-check or look for holes in your logic or play devil's advocate. We are good at noticing mistakes and inconsistencies, and the world hates us for it lol. Or at least for tactlessly pointing them out. The other, somewhat opposite, possibility is that if you've grown accustomed to being challenged and having to prove yourself, whether through speech & debate or people who are paranoid, argumentative, or defensive, you will probably have trained yourself over time to anticipate possible rebuttals and counter those before they are even raised. However, if you haven't had experiences like that in life, I could see an INTP being more sloppy with their wording. It's not until you suffer the embarrassment of being proven wrong, especially publicly, that you start to take it really seriously. And INTPs will secretly beat themselves up over both Ti and Fe mistakes, so the embarrassment will really get under their skin if they're an INTP. The third factor that comes to mind is how much your Fe has developed. You live & learn, and as you slowly develop emotional intelligence, you realize sometimes you have to suppress your inclinations and either let mistakes go or speak a little more loosely. I do think that female INTPs tend to feel more pressure to develop Fe due to normative cultural standards, but any number of other factors could theoretically cause an INTP to learn how to sacrifice Ti for the sake of Fe. As for being articulate, I think that's not necessarily always the case. Whatever you repeatedly do will determine your skillset with Si, so especially when it comes to actually uttering words out of your mouth, it's gonna take a lot of practice before you can convert the thoughts in your head to spoken words and have them come out right. Especially when you're nervous. But even with written words, we really need the practice, I think. The more you write, the better you will be at writing. Not sure if you can relate to any of this, but that's my perspective.
As for your type, if you're sure you're on the Ti/Fe axis and not Fe dominant, you might consider INFJ. Or even ISFJ. Do you relate to Ne/Si more than Ni/Se? Or, I guess I should ask, do you value Se? Like, do you see any use in Se? Do you feel the need to get shit done and be productive? Are appearances important? What about physical skills/prowess? The thing about auxiliary Ne is that if you do have that, you might never feel 100% certain about your type. And if you're a 5, the 6-wing, whether your preferred wing or not, will likely add a bit (or a lot) of doubt and skepticism to your thought process. Sixes are famous for saying "it depends" because they're forever weighing different options/factors/alternatives in their minds. So they can also struggle to pin down their type. And actually 4s can be reluctant to comit to a type for different reasons. It's more like nothing seems to capture the nuance or uniqueness of their identity fully, and it always feels like something is missing. A 5 with a 4 wing is likely to be a better writer though, in my opinion. At least when it comes to poetic wordsmithing, creative or maybe even persuasive writing, and obscure word-choice. I could see a 6-heavy 5 being better at technical writing.
Btw, on that note, I realize I switched pronouns back & forth several times in the first paragraph, going from "they" to "you" to "we," but hopefully it wasn't too confusing.
I'm also an ENFJ 5w6. It's a very much uncommon combination but every MBTI can have any of the 9 enneagram numbers and wings. It seems that we're quiet but in the inside we're analyzing the situation, our attention is focused on people reading the vibes or energies, and so on. It's not always like that, it happens more often when I'm surrounded by many other extraverts and I let them to have the spotlight, I don't care about that unless that, according to the situation, I feel the responsibility of being the master of ceremonies and entertain the group.
I think that there are traits that we all have regardless our enneagram type. We get along with most people because we can accurately spot the boundaries, they feel secure next to use because they think we're reliable. We're good at giving counsel but so bad at applying it in our lives, and many other things that all the ENFJs in the video could relate each other.
Rivkah seems like a mistyped ENFP to me. Often going on tangents, connecting random things together to what she’s interested in (fashion), talking about her Fi values, her Fi smile, the Fi attention she put out onto herself…
Interesting
It's not only her. I noticed that Meghan seemed to not be a Fe dom neither. She doesn't read the room enough and seems to be not that self conscious about her environment most of the time
As an INFP I think I’ve adopted the behaviour of ‘emotionally pivoting’ and it’s a guilt thing for feeling like I know what I need, but I don’t get it from people, so I do this in the hopes that if I fill their cup they’ll fill mine. Otherwise I feel I’m too much/too intense and don’t want to lose people for not being ‘something’ enough. But I no longer feel comfortable receiving because the fear has grown past the goal - this may be my fearful avoidant attachment quirk though 🤷🏼♀️
TH-cam thanks me for tuning in.
Will it understand me if I say "you're welcome"?
Loving your humor Paul :)
@@SirenoftheVoid You and you alone, my NFP friend.
@@PaulWBruce Did i miss that? I thought Denzel appreciated you too. :(
@@SirenoftheVoid Dang it. Now I MUST take your compliment. 🙂
I think looking to the future and keeping track of a train of thought is related to the Ni function.
Wow, I love your content! Keep up the awesome work! -INFP
Thanks so much! 😃 The encouragement really helps me create more content 💜
Rivkah has such a radiant energy I loved her. -intj
I love Denzel's seed/garden metaphor! :) ENFJs are such a gift to the world!
me fanboying enfjs and being starstruck by this group hahahaha
Do any of you guys sing???? I wanna sing with y’all. 😊❤ Many ENFJ’s are musical so I’d be thrilled to sing something with anyone or all of you…..dreaming here. 😊
Hey I am a pro singer and a typical ENFJ. I am rather musical. Not only do I love to teach music, music is also something, where I can make the world a better place. So indeed, I think music suits us ENFJs very well.
@@simonbullinger7949 That’s awesome to hear about! Where are you from?
@@rowanfinley293 Germany! :)
That’s very cool! Do you have music out somewhere where I can listen?
With the emotional knowledge and depth for people, what often lurks inside the ENFJ is bound to loop and entangle if you do not let the branches grow their own way. - ENFP
First look, my eyes was stuck on Rivkah hahaha i love her glasses
INFP here!! What's the name of the chef again? I think Christina Tosi, a pastry chef, is also an ENFJ. What do you guys think? ENFJs are definitely my favourite Fe type :).
I see her typed as an ENFJ! I don't know much about her though. :) Yeess. ENFJs and INFPs are awesome types.
Would love to see ISFJs too!!
Coming next month!!
Some of these are not enfj they are enfp mistyped.
You all have this beautifull natural smiling feature at the corners of your mouth great to see, you do not look alike just only this tipical very friendly vibe
ENFJ here. I accept fashion to a certain extent. I don't really like when people are too extravagant , more so in environments that require sobriety. I also don't agree with dressing slutty. I think nowadays women dress showing too much skin and their body and then complain when men get the wrong message. So I am all about people being comfortable except when fashion seems to be driving humanity to individualism over the mood required for a place/moment or to drive them to hyper sexuality. I find that high Fi users go too far with expressing their individuality with clothes or tatoos to a point where they are not capable of not being distracting and out of place in certain environments that require sobriety. I am against that for sure.
Vicky
She reminds me sooo much of a lovely person I met on my last trip to Gotland ( Sweden's biggest Island, so beautiful ), the same type of presence energetically. On that whole trip I vibed the most with her! :)
Vicky is all sorts of wonderful packed into 1 person. haha I'm glad she reminded you of someone you met on your trips. :) It seems like you had a really magical time.
Enfjs are a crazy bunch, best appreciated from a safe distance before they tear of a limb
Haha why? What’s your MBTI btw?
ENFJ asking :)
@@AntoinetteSarpong they're probably an introvert, and my assumption is that ENFJs are a bit too passionate about what they believe in and sometimes might force that on to others, especially less healthy enfjs
Maybe, I'm still new to all this
Can someone tell Rivkah she is an ENFP or stuck in her INFP shadow? ENFJs are not into fashion. That is an ENFP, INFP, ESFP, and ISFP thing.
That's it? That's the only thing that makes you think she is an ENFP instead of an ENFJ?
I’m typed enfj but I love fashion
Are ENFJ's mostly Libras?
I am Libra, enfj
@@user-zz4km7xw6z Thanks!
@@dogdonut3 np, whats urs?
@@user-zz4km7xw6z intj/gemini
ENTPs are also Libras.
わ〜、Vickyちゃんはめっちゃ美人ですねー
Wow, Vicky is so beautiful.... 🥰
Me an infp...❤
As an ENFJ, I really related with Vicky and Rivkah! :) We're so alike!
As ENFJ I related to Denzel.
So many
Enfj Jackie Gleason and Fred Flintstone
INFJ Wilma
Intp Barney
Esfj Betty
Lmfaoo love ENFJ’s but y’all look crazy af 😂😂😂😂 - INFP
I miss Leeann on twitter.
I miss her too
The voice…
ENFJs sound like they're filibustering, to me. Do they ever stop the monotone talking, or ask questions? It's like they're filling the air with words, to avoid any real vulnerability.
I don't find myself to naturally reveal myself to an ENFJ because they never stop talking long enough.
This was such a good point! I noticed that there was a lot of "filler" conversation said between points without any real personal input from their own experiences aside from Rivkah. A lot of the conversation was stating typical experiences ENFJs have rather than personal stories
I am an ENFJ and it was frustrating to listen to at times! Because I love sharing my own personal experiences with others so I thought that was strange lol.
Interesting…
I have a man boss who is an ENFJ and he rocks! ☺️
enfj s sound like the karens
How so?
Rivkah is a bit creepy with her smiling
nooo she seems sooo sweet!!! and nice :))
No, she's just engaged. She seems to be a passionate individual.
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@@tahah.babikir7698 I wonder if Denzel used to smile too much, too, and as he has developed his stack he expresses himself more calmly , neutrally
Being a body of jesus I guess to remind people is full of themselves in the name of jesus' selfless actions. I guess we need time to reflect more direct interests and points of view that seem to point needs evolutionary matters at some points reflecting true interests hidden within personas
I have a serious question…. Do all ENFJs avoid bathing? 🧼 🚿