I’m 27 years old and my girlfriend (26) of just over 5 years have been having a rough time the past few weeks/months. A lot of it is due to my anger issues from growing up in an abusive household but after realizing just how much my temper affects the love of my life and reflecting on just how much I need to change for myself and for us I’m taking every precaution I possibly can to better our relationship. We’ve been on a break for almost a week and after days of feeling nothing but heartbreak I’m trying to get over that and to be better and be more positive. I’m trying to take things slower focusing on my breathing and meditating to help control my anger and to not let it manifest physically. It’s been very tough to do this but for the sake of her myself and our relationship I’ll do whatever I can to repair her trust in me and to become a better person.
@@DarkestVoid I have snapped and promised and snapped and left my gf alone emotionally over and over again not seemingly able to change all out of anger out of myself not considering her at all in those moments or in the times in between. How’s it going what else have you done?
I have broken the trust with my Fiancée, she is the most amazing woman I know. As a man I was taught from a very young age to never show your emotions, never ever cry in front of a woman and never talk about your feelings. I have very dark moments about what I have done and struggle with my behavior and my actions. I truly do want a future with my Fiancée, I have owed what I have done and truly committed to doing what I have to do to earn her trust again. Your videos are very informative, powerful. I was struggling knowing what to do and how to go about it Thankyou
I have lost the trust of my wife an amazing women not by cheating but by lies. However what I say to her are not all lies, I may not tell her things the way she wants to hear it, but we have a toxic relationship and she knows it as well. I have caught her in lies as well but I see they are miniscule and nothing to complain about. I don't want to lose her but I struggle with myself because I'm afraid that I will lose her
I don’t know we’re you guys come up with your titles but they are amazing....all of the things I be wanting advice on but can’t ask anyone without them looking at me crazy...Thank you so much for promoting couples to work things out...so positive 💖
While it's a noble thing to strive to rebuild trust, you also have to exercise discernment, otherwise you could end up spinning your wheels trying to correct a situation which cannot be corrected. I'm not saying to just throw in the towel and not try, not at all, but you have to recognize when it's better to just walk away.
Thank you for all your videos. It always guides me in the right directions and reminds me of what I should do, when I get frustrated and lost. Thank you for all your endeavors. Happily Committed. Best luck to everyone.
This video touch me because I can understand that I have my problem with controlling. I hate being in the past... And I don't want my boyfriend and I go through the traumatized to fix the relationship... I mess up. Is there a way
The guy I am with keeps cheating, I don’t think I can take it anymore. He flirts with his ex’s, takes them on dates, hugs them, video calls them then tries to tell me they are just friends and that I should trust him. I recently had a miscarriage and even during all of this he was taking his ex’s on dinner dates and neglected me the entire time and I had to go through the loss myself. I eventually took a break from him and we started off again in year but it’s the same thing. If it’s not a random new female he’s out with then it’s his two exs from the past. I just dont think I can stick around anymore for this.
Do you have any tips for how to gain trust back after only doing something that would hurt them once? I did a foolish thing, which I am sorry for and will never do to them again. I'm just not sure how to gain their trust back.
I lost my girlfriend’s trust for the second time on the exact same thing, being irresponsible with finances. I was dishonest and I lied about how I was spending my money. And instead of focusing on the things that she and I want and that she deserves like marriage and a house, I carelessly disregarded all of the priorities. She is understandably angry and sad and torn apart, and I don’t know how I can come back from this. She and I have a 6+ year relationship so far, and to lose everything would be the most devastating thing that could ever happen to me. I wish I could’ve stopped make rash and impulsive decisions and heeded her advice about the things in life that our important. I feel like she doesn’t deserve to be with someone like myself after this happening for a second time.
Don’t give up man. It hurts knowing you hurt her, but be patient. She understands your sorry but she’s struggling to trust in the moment. Give her time.
I feel for you. Will it help for you to go on ADHD or bipolar tablets. When you are ADHD or bipolar then you do make these mistakes. You don't think and you are impulsive. Some times like me you say things which you did not even mean but it hurts people around you. I am going back on my tablets now and I know it will work. Pray
Same here I’m going thru the same thing she still says she loves me so much & will never give up but she isn’t contacting me as much as before & it’s me always chasing her now instead of the other way around smh I don’t know what to do
I have broken someone trust, who loved whole heartedly, talking about my past. I screwed everything. Now he wants to quit this relationship. But I can't get him away. Please give me a way.
I don’t know how to do this because in my husband’s eyes he doesn’t think he is doing anything bad or he thinks that I am the one to blame. To start I understand my jealousy is my biggest flaw but he triggers that he is secretive and a liar he lies about the smallest things he ven if I confront him about something I found his answer always is well if u don’t like it do something about it. I am so lost I don’t want to give up on my marriage but I think he has.
Please see if he is willing to go counselling because it seems like you have some underlying issues, and communication issues in your relationship. Couples therapy will help!
Be wholehearted and open. But dont push your truth, be ready to prove what you say is true but dont push it that you can prove it. Mention it only if she asks
i am the person who broke the trust. My fiancé says she wants to stay and still loves me, but is actively in my face seeing other women and tells me i have no right to have any feelings about it, has removed me completely from her social media accounts, but still wants to operate like we are together. she want to have regular sex, share bills, celebrate holidays, tell me she loves me, but only her body and heart belongs to me. Also anytime someone else upsets her she dosent want work on it any more, when i give her what she asks shes upset because "i'm not fighting to keep her" when i actively display change and a will to let her heal while i fight for her i'm making her miserable. I dont know what to do...
Well my husband and I took some space apart because I was so hurt. He wanted a divorce and then I said let’s work it out. Now I want a divorce so it’s a back and forth. We are in counseling and he has been very remorseful and accepting of my emotions.
Yeah, same here. But apparently I lost her trust a year before it happened because of a few fights we had (where we were both in the wrong and each handled it poorly). I plan on giving her the space she needs, but I hope she comes around.
Thank you very much me and gf had a big fight. Just quick question is it fine to pop up sometimes like give her a hug and go back to what your doing so that way she doesnt feel like you forgot abt her
My husband cheated on me i can't trust him he is willing to work and ask me to start fresh and forget what happened but my brain still feels 🙃 what should I do im going crazy we love each other but the trust is broken
Thank you for reaching out. I understand what you're going through. ⭐ How To overcome being cheated on?👇 www.love.happilycommitted.com/offer-page-infidelity1608666073419 Coach Natalie
I didn't cheat on my lady but I did called two other women beautiful. I know shouldn't done it and the only woman I should be calling beautiful is my girlfriend.
I went behind my partners Back in having a drink when I should have told her. I swore promised that I would not do it again She asked for a 3 month break No Communication and to see if I have gotten my act together I’m in a really bad place now What can I do could you please help me
Need a little more help. I screwed up big time with my girlfriend of 2yrs. I did not mean to do it but it did. I do not know how to fix it and i love her a bunch. What could be another way that i can help her understand i am sorry for what i did and i want to fix it
Hi Gabriel! We would love to help you with your situation, however, we would need to know a little more about what happened in your relationship in order to give you proper advice. I hope you can book a coaching session with us! happilycommitted.com/coaching/ - Happily Committed Team
I need help I took some steps in the past to help out with bills at home which includes sleeping with men for a certain fee I met this guy(jay) along the line And I fell in love I stopped for some time Buh continued when he had financial issues I wanted to help him out with the bills He found out and was hurt badly Also I've been lying repeatedly to him and now he doesn't trust me What do I do 😭
Move on. You shouldn't be with a man who cannot provide. On top of that, if he couldn't provide and you did what you had to do to be able to provide, then he can't be mad at you. You did what he couldn't.
Hi Cindy! We would be happy to support you and answer any questions you might have. You can book your 1:1 coaching session via our website: www.happilycommitted.com
Great video. How to rebuild trust? The sole reason my almost girlfriend stopped dating me, is that my sister's friend was in the city and I let her stay at my and my sister's place and showed her the city without any flirtatious intension, but also without my sister accompany us. My almost girlfriend was also upset that I told her about the visitor just 2 days before that friend arrived.
Hey im 25 years old my name is mario i have cheated on girl in november and now im loosing her we still love each othe the same but she say she need sum space and she also say she dont wanto be in this relationship anymore we talk off and onn but its not the same..wat can i do
Thank you for reaching out, Mario. I understand what you're going through. ⭐ This is how to fix your relationship if you cheated👇 www.love.happilycommitted.com/offer-page-infidelity-you-cheatedjiql05ni Coach Natalie
Hi coach Adrian. My wife moved out with the kids.We were married 22 years. Obviously I am not perfect but I would not trade her in for a million other woman. I know you said that you must give each other space. We use to pray in the morning and at night for each other.Every morning we would send each other a hug ; a heart a kiss or a nice goodmorning card. I really love her and I understand that you said you must give your partner space. I still want to send her at least in the morning or night a nice card. I think by doing that she will know that I think about her and that I still care and hopefully one day we can be together again. I am scared that if I stop sharing a nice goodmorning or good night message that she will think that I don't care about her or that i am not in love with her anymore. I am ADHD and Bipolar 1. I haven't taken my tablets for a few months and I thought I can with out the tablets. Now my behavior is even worst before I start taking my tablets a year or so ago. What do you suggest. Morne
It’s been 11 months and I’m wondering how you are doing. From my experience if you don’t have a tried and true alternative to meds then you should stick to them unless your doctor says otherwise. As for the daily messages - if space is needed, truly give space. I wish you the best
I pushing her away on accident by being needy at times stop now by shifting your perspective to Jesus Christ and look within to recognize your emotions and reactions to her
Thank you for this video.
Alot of secrets, lies betrayal. Hubby wants to try again but theres just no trust. Hurt and confused.
This past months have been the hardest.😢 Whoever is here i encourage you not to give up.
I’m 27 years old and my girlfriend (26) of just over 5 years have been having a rough time the past few weeks/months. A lot of it is due to my anger issues from growing up in an abusive household but after realizing just how much my temper affects the love of my life and reflecting on just how much I need to change for myself and for us I’m taking every precaution I possibly can to better our relationship. We’ve been on a break for almost a week and after days of feeling nothing but heartbreak I’m trying to get over that and to be better and be more positive. I’m trying to take things slower focusing on my breathing and meditating to help control my anger and to not let it manifest physically. It’s been very tough to do this but for the sake of her myself and our relationship I’ll do whatever I can to repair her trust in me and to become a better person.
@@DarkestVoid I have snapped and promised and snapped and left my gf alone emotionally over and over again not seemingly able to change all out of anger out of myself not considering her at all in those moments or in the times in between. How’s it going what else have you done?
You wrote that comment like 6 months ago, is it possible to know where you at now ? how things are going ? and were you able to make it ?
I needed to hear these words of encouragement this morning. Thank you for dedicating your life to rebuilding lives.
I'm happy the video was helpful for you.
Coach Natalie
I have broken the trust with my Fiancée, she is the most amazing woman I know.
As a man I was taught from a very young age to never show your emotions, never ever cry in front of a woman and never talk about your feelings. I have very dark moments about what I have done and struggle with my behavior and my actions.
I truly do want a future with my Fiancée, I have owed what I have done and truly committed to doing what I have to do to earn her trust again.
Your videos are very informative, powerful. I was struggling knowing what to do and how to go about it
Thankyou
Hopefully it worked out men. I am going through the same with my girlfriend 😑
Hope you got her back ❤
I have lost the trust of my wife an amazing women not by cheating but by lies. However what I say to her are not all lies, I may not tell her things the way she wants to hear it, but we have a toxic relationship and she knows it as well. I have caught her in lies as well but I see they are miniscule and nothing to complain about. I don't want to lose her but I struggle with myself because I'm afraid that I will lose her
I don’t know we’re you guys come up with your titles but they are amazing....all of the things I be wanting advice on but can’t ask anyone without them looking at me crazy...Thank you so much for promoting couples to work things out...so positive 💖
You're welcome, Theresa. Thank you for watching.
Coach Natalie
It's called common sense
While it's a noble thing to strive to rebuild trust, you also have to exercise discernment, otherwise you could end up spinning your wheels trying to correct a situation which cannot be corrected. I'm not saying to just throw in the towel and not try, not at all, but you have to recognize when it's better to just walk away.
Very good videos really helpful for people's lives, great job
Thank you for all your videos. It always guides me in the right directions and reminds me of what I should do, when I get frustrated and lost. Thank you for all your endeavors. Happily Committed. Best luck to everyone.
You're welcome. I'm glad the videos were helpful for you.
Coach Natalie
She blamed it on my past and did not fully take responsibility. This hole thing left me not wanting to live anymore.
Love it! Well said
This video touch me because I can understand that I have my problem with controlling. I hate being in the past... And I don't want my boyfriend and I go through the traumatized to fix the relationship... I mess up. Is there a way
The guy I am with keeps cheating, I don’t think I can take it anymore. He flirts with his ex’s, takes them on dates, hugs them, video calls them then tries to tell me they are just friends and that I should trust him. I recently had a miscarriage and even during all of this he was taking his ex’s on dinner dates and neglected me the entire time and I had to go through the loss myself. I eventually took a break from him and we started off again in year but it’s the same thing. If it’s not a random new female he’s out with then it’s his two exs from the past. I just dont think I can stick around anymore for this.
Thank you 😊 💓 keep posting!
Thank you, I we will!
Do you have any tips for how to gain trust back after only doing something that would hurt them once? I did a foolish thing, which I am sorry for and will never do to them again. I'm just not sure how to gain their trust back.
Thanks for this video and all of your vids new subscriber here
You're welcome, Nikita. Thank you for watching and subscribing!
Coach Adrian
anyone here ?? how to rebuild a trust even if we accept our faults.
What about when she says that she can never trust again? No matter how much you apologize, take ownership or genuinely change.
I lost my girlfriend’s trust for the second time on the exact same thing, being irresponsible with finances. I was dishonest and I lied about how I was spending my money. And instead of focusing on the things that she and I want and that she deserves like marriage and a house, I carelessly disregarded all of the priorities.
She is understandably angry and sad and torn apart, and I don’t know how I can come back from this. She and I have a 6+ year relationship so far, and to lose everything would be the most devastating thing that could ever happen to me. I wish I could’ve stopped make rash and impulsive decisions and heeded her advice about the things in life that our important. I feel like she doesn’t deserve to be with someone like myself after this happening for a second time.
Don’t give up man. It hurts knowing you hurt her, but be patient. She understands your sorry but she’s struggling to trust in the moment. Give her time.
I feel for you. Will it help for you to go on ADHD or bipolar tablets. When you are ADHD or bipolar then you do make these mistakes. You don't think and you are impulsive. Some times like me you say things which you did not even mean but it hurts people around you. I am going back on my tablets now and I know it will work. Pray
Same here I’m going thru the same thing she still says she loves me so much & will never give up but she isn’t contacting me as much as before & it’s me always chasing her now instead of the other way around smh I don’t know what to do
@@zacheryrichardson875 samething , only thing you can only do is keep pushing and pushing
I have broken someone trust, who loved whole heartedly, talking about my past. I screwed everything. Now he wants to quit this relationship. But I can't get him away. Please give me a way.
He’s gone. Don’t be selfish. Let him go. You messed up but learn from it!
Thank You so much!!❤
You're welcome!
Coach Adrian
I don’t know how to do this because in my husband’s eyes he doesn’t think he is doing anything bad or he thinks that I am the one to blame. To start I understand my jealousy is my biggest flaw but he triggers that he is secretive and a liar he lies about the smallest things he ven if I confront him about something I found his answer always is well if u don’t like it do something about it. I am so lost I don’t want to give up on my marriage but I think he has.
Walk away because he isn’t taking accountability and therefore, he will continue his behavior. He seems to be a narcissist.
Please see if he is willing to go counselling because it seems like you have some underlying issues, and communication issues in your relationship. Couples therapy will help!
I am in the same position
I want my girlfriend back
What kind of actions can I make to get her trust?? What can I do to make her see with my actions that she can trust me??
Be wholehearted and open. But dont push your truth, be ready to prove what you say is true but dont push it that you can prove it. Mention it only if she asks
i am the person who broke the trust. My fiancé says she wants to stay and still loves me, but is actively in my face seeing other women and tells me i have no right to have any feelings about it, has removed me completely from her social media accounts, but still wants to operate like we are together. she want to have regular sex, share bills, celebrate holidays, tell me she loves me, but only her body and heart belongs to me. Also anytime someone else upsets her she dosent want work on it any more, when i give her what she asks shes upset because "i'm not fighting to keep her" when i actively display change and a will to let her heal while i fight for her i'm making her miserable. I dont know what to do...
I was the one cheated on yet he's the one asking for space :(
Sorry that’s is so hurtful and I been there multiple times with him . Idk what the right thing to do is .
Well my husband and I took some space apart because I was so hurt. He wanted a divorce and then I said let’s work it out. Now I want a divorce so it’s a back and forth. We are in counseling and he has been very remorseful and accepting of my emotions.
He’s a Chad
Aye sis don't trip happens to the best of us.... they double back everytime just keep glowing
Yeah, same here. But apparently I lost her trust a year before it happened because of a few fights we had (where we were both in the wrong and each handled it poorly). I plan on giving her the space she needs, but I hope she comes around.
Thank you very much me and gf had a big fight. Just quick question is it fine to pop up sometimes like give her a hug and go back to what your doing so that way she doesnt feel like you forgot abt her
That's totally fine!
I’m struggling to trust her after what happened and I don’t know what to do with it
Leave. Why are you with someone you can't trust?
My husband cheated on me i can't trust him he is willing to work and ask me to start fresh and forget what happened but my brain still feels 🙃 what should I do im going crazy we love each other but the trust is broken
Thank you for reaching out. I understand what you're going through.
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I didn't cheat on my lady but I did called two other women beautiful. I know shouldn't done it and the only woman I should be calling beautiful is my girlfriend.
That doesn’t sound healthy. There’s more than just one beautiful person in the world and not being able to say that shows an insecurity
I went behind my partners Back in having a drink when I should have told her. I swore promised that I would not do it again
She asked for a 3 month break
No Communication and to see if I have gotten my act together
I’m in a really bad place now
What can I do could you please help me
It’s been 3 months, did you get your act together?
Need a little more help. I screwed up big time with my girlfriend of 2yrs. I did not mean to do it but it did. I do not know how to fix it and i love her a bunch. What could be another way that i can help her understand i am sorry for what i did and i want to fix it
Hi Gabriel!
We would love to help you with your situation, however, we would need to know a little more about what happened in your relationship in order to give you proper advice.
I hope you can book a coaching session with us!
happilycommitted.com/coaching/
- Happily Committed Team
Was it fixed or not?
Did you fix it ?
I need help
I took some steps in the past to help out with bills at home which includes sleeping with men for a certain fee
I met this guy(jay) along the line
And I fell in love
I stopped for some time
Buh continued when he had financial issues
I wanted to help him out with the bills
He found out and was hurt badly
Also I've been lying repeatedly to him and now he doesn't trust me
What do I do 😭
Move on. You shouldn't be with a man who cannot provide. On top of that, if he couldn't provide and you did what you had to do to be able to provide, then he can't be mad at you. You did what he couldn't.
Hi would like yo get some advice about how to save my relationship with my husband.
Hi Cindy! We would be happy to support you and answer any questions you might have. You can book your 1:1 coaching session via our website: www.happilycommitted.com
Great video.
How to rebuild trust?
The sole reason my almost girlfriend stopped dating me, is that my sister's friend was in the city and I let her stay at my and my sister's place and showed her the city without any flirtatious intension, but also without my sister accompany us.
My almost girlfriend was also upset that I told her about the visitor just 2 days before that friend arrived.
Hey im 25 years old my name is mario i have cheated on girl in november and now im loosing her we still love each othe the same but she say she need sum space and she also say she dont wanto be in this relationship anymore we talk off and onn but its not the same..wat can i do
Thank you for reaching out, Mario. I understand what you're going through.
⭐ This is how to fix your relationship if you cheated👇
www.love.happilycommitted.com/offer-page-infidelity-you-cheatedjiql05ni
Coach Natalie
Hi did you guys fix it ?
Hi coach Adrian. My wife moved out with the kids.We were married 22 years. Obviously I am not perfect but I would not trade her in for a million other woman. I know you said that you must give each other space. We use to pray in the morning and at night for each other.Every morning we would send each other a hug ; a heart a kiss or a nice goodmorning card.
I really love her and I understand that you said you must give your partner space. I still want to send her at least in the morning or night a nice card. I think by doing that she will know that I think about her and that I still care and hopefully one day we can be together again. I am scared that if I stop sharing a nice goodmorning or good night message that she will think that I don't care about her or that i am not in love with her anymore. I am ADHD and Bipolar 1. I haven't taken my tablets for a few months and I thought I can with out the tablets. Now my behavior is even worst before I start taking my tablets a year or so ago. What do you suggest. Morne
Maybe ask your doctor?
Or if you don't want to, if your behavior is worse when you don't take the tablets, consider taking them?
It’s been 11 months and I’m wondering how you are doing. From my experience if you don’t have a tried and true alternative to meds then you should stick to them unless your doctor says otherwise. As for the daily messages - if space is needed, truly give space. I wish you the best
I pushing her away on accident by being needy at times stop now by shifting your perspective to Jesus Christ and look within to recognize your emotions and reactions to her
nice thanks