Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
Going through the same thing, except we have a child involved that I also don't get to see as much. She cheated numerous times, it's just what she is. I'm gutted and have been in a dark place a couple times throughout the relationship.
Omg,you are so right my ex and I were talking about something I did to break her trust and then she went back on other things I did in the past,and I was just defenseless after that
SO WHAT?! Let them have their own feelings about the situation. You don’t have to force-feed the “truth” just so you could get your satisfaction from saying it. 🙄
The last thing she spoke about was not bringing up the past. That "past" is what made me the person I am now. Not just for a year or 2, but for 32+ Years if marriage, I thought my life was mine, it wasn't, he made choices that effected both of us, but I had no say. I didn't find out about MANY things for most of that 32 years.
That's so hard. You're right, we have to talk about the past to learn from it and to be validated. If we choose to stay in the relationship, we'll have to focus on the present and future at some point though. It's finding that healthy balance and when to move our gaze to building something life-giving.
Exactly 20 years of emotional and sexual neglect. How do I just forget that when my self esteem is so very low. Sexless marriages well it erodes loyalty and love. God we need a miracle.
I never knew how to communicate and listen i would always go mute and just assume time would fix it but it wont my partner lost trust in me because i promised to talk and never did because i was scared to accept my own problems and now that i have truly found who i need to be and wanna talk about thi gs she is scared that im just saying i wanna fight for us to be manipulative and not let her go anywhere else.. which i understand why she feels how she does i struggled with ym feelings and being a good partner due to the home i grew up in but i genuinely want this girl to see that im a new me and we can take the life step that we always wanted together ans she can trust im not who i was im who i should be. Thank you for the video it helped put alot into persepctive
I want to keep bringing it up. They need it drilled in their mind that they betrayed me. Sucks when it’s a marriage because you can just leave a girlfriend. Can’t just leave a marriage.
@@Follower_of_Yahusha " They need it drilled into their mind ..." I like that. In fact, that's the kind of thing I'd say. And if they don't like it ... Tough. They bought the ticket. Now they gotta endure the ride.
Just found your channel and wanted to say thank you sharing your knowledge with us. I learned a lot and it has made a positive change in my relationship of 9 years. Take care.
What is someone supposed to do when they’ve been lied to, the other person owned up to it, you think they’re lying about something else but won’t admit to it? Is that a sign of broken trust and how does one repair that?
Yes, it is a sign of broken trust. You cannot force the truth out of them, but you do have the power to chose whether you want to continue trusting them. If it's a yes, you gotta do just that: trust them. If it's a no, maybe it's time to move on and let them go. How do you repair it? Sit down and talk it out. Tell them how to feel and why. You will figure it out.
Great video! I really appreciate the insights shared here. It’s super helpful, but I can’t help but think that sometimes talking about trust might put too much pressure on a relationship. Sometimes it feels like we should just give it time and let things heal naturally instead of forcing conversations about it. What do you all think?
I have hurted my partner a couple times and he forgive me. We got okay in 2 weeks, but after that I did something that hurt him again and made him to finally leave me. I have been crying everyday hoping we will still be okay, but because he said we'd be okay if we finally part ways. I agree but I only want time and space for the both of us, so that I can't do such hurtful things anymore. I agree that it's for the both of us but I still want him back:( I cannot even explain why I did horrible things many times to him. I do not understand myself, that's why I agreed that we won't be talking to each other anymore. But I don't want to forget him like he said. I just need time and space, I still want him back when the time is right. I do not want to look selfish. I regret everything of what I did. What should I do to be sure that we'll be okay like we used to?:(
When we do horrible things, it is usually because we're trying to meet one of our needs. Maybe not in the healthiest way but it's important to figure out what those needs are and how you can meet them so you are able to bring the best version of yourself into your relationships. As painful as this is, it is giving you information about yourself. How can you support yourself and grow into the person you want to be? Maybe that's what this time if for. Sending you big love.
I feel like my trust has been broken. I wont go into details. But it took me years to realize it. Im talking about friendship not a dating thing im single lol
What if they have been told to stop or you were leaving then they do this 3 more times? (10 times total) I sound so stupid for staying but I care about them.. 14 years
I loved her since 2012, and we had been working on it always texting and sharing I've been hurt myself those 8-9 years and finally when she agreed to be my gf somehow i got attached with another person and i left her in 2020 completely cut her off . This month after may be 4 years i reached her out through a game that we used to play.. i only had excess to that .. and now m talking with her and she told me she values me and stuff.. but she also told me she lost the trust that she had for me... Should i work it out or do i let her go... I mean she was the person i ever loved completely, i even cried 😂 for her.. I dont understand she was the only girl i ever wanted in my life and now when i got her i left her for another...😢 May be she let me be in pain for too long or i dont know.. I just don't know weather to work on it or not.. but i do care about her
In re: The Past: Big Factor: Was the behavior ... like an act (or multiple or ongoing) acts of personal Betrayal ... ever owned, explained? Was accountability ever taken for the personal transgression? If so, that's one thing. But if not ... Sorry. Still a very live issue. If you don't wanna hear about over and over ... RESOLVE IT!!! It's that simple. 🎼TD, Boston
Exactly you neglect me over and over and over 20 years. My husband has neglected me emotionally and sexually. Rebuilding trust hmmm I don’t know depends on him. We finally have a therapist. We still don’t know if we can make it as a couple. God pleas create a miracle!
Hi there, I was insecure about who I was so I lied to my partner about my past (made up a whole life almost) and came clean to her willingly. If she wants to, how can I help rebuild trust and move forward in a situation like this? I don’t have insurance so therapy would be extremely expensive but I would be willing to pay for it
That will take time and one honest share at a time, if she is willing to rebuild. Be transparent about even the smallest things and vow to yourself that you will be completely truthful. The rest is kinda in her court.
Hi Stacy, My wife caught me vaping delta 8 thc again after I promised I would not (not the first or second or third time) and now is holding firm to the line in the sand she drew and does not care what I do anymore and wants to live separate lives in the same house and needs her space. Although she did qualify it with “right now”. She even brought up divorce. I have quit harder substances, actual thc and cigarettes in the past. My justification was stress from new ownership at my job but really I was mentally addicted. I have thrown out all the vapes. Do I have a chance in saving this marriage and rebuilding or regaining her trust again?
It sounds like this has been a major struggle for you. It can be so hard. I can't say whether or not you'll be able to rebuild after several chances but your best shot is not just throwing out the vapes but diving deep into your recovery so that you don't trip up again. Best of love to you.
I am going to work through the steps in my recovery as now I have the desire to not use and I’m doing it not because I’m in hot water with my wife or any other reason but for myself. Thanks for your guidance and response.
Staying out of the past is litterally the only thing she does is stay in it and it has been years? What do you suggest for someone who is constantly reminded of the past?
When people keep talking about something over and over, they are seeking something they aren't getting. Maybe a question...What do you need so that we can heal this and look forward together instead of feeling stuck in the past?
Depends on whether or not it was ever resolved. Can't actively avoid any and all conversation about it, and then, having dodged it for a certain period of time, pull the "That's in the past" crap out of your you-know-what. If it's been fully discussed, should be a closed file. But, if not on account of your active evasion, then you have no standing to complain whenever it's put to you. Common sense. 🎼TD, Boston
I think it depends on the person. What feels like a small vulnerability to one person (sharing a feeling for example) could feel like a massive vulnerability to someone else.
So question I’ve searched for I broke trust talking to other women not putting on social media not married. Then she cheated. Done what I done on but on steroids. Everyone says to ignore not bring it up till she’s ready to speak of it. But now she’s single but we married.
There are some ok points, but her advice is oddly more demanding on the victim than the perpetrator. Bite me once, shame on you, bite me twice, shame on me.... There ARE things the victim can do to respect the efforts of the perpetrator, but the perpetrator needs to be the one going to the extreme to regain what they violated and destroyed.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I reach him?
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
Going through the same thing, except we have a child involved that I also don't get to see as much. She cheated numerous times, it's just what she is. I'm gutted and have been in a dark place a couple times throughout the relationship.
Omg,you are so right my ex and I were talking about something I did to break her trust and then she went back on other things I did in the past,and I was just defenseless after that
"You can tell truth by your feelings?" Ah, no. You can tell the truth, and a person can still not believe you because of how they feel.
So true!
This is what I have looking for! Lil ways to fix big long-term problems. Prayers answered!
SO WHAT?! Let them have their own feelings about the situation. You don’t have to force-feed the “truth” just so you could get your satisfaction from saying it. 🙄
I was the one who broke trust with a friend, I want to do better
Thanks for the video
The last thing she spoke about was not bringing up the past. That "past" is what made me the person I am now. Not just for a year or 2, but for 32+ Years if marriage, I thought my life was mine, it wasn't, he made choices that effected both of us, but I had no say. I didn't find out about MANY things for most of that 32 years.
That's so hard. You're right, we have to talk about the past to learn from it and to be validated. If we choose to stay in the relationship, we'll have to focus on the present and future at some point though. It's finding that healthy balance and when to move our gaze to building something life-giving.
Exactly 20 years of emotional and sexual neglect. How do I just forget that when my self esteem is so very low. Sexless marriages well it erodes loyalty and love. God we need a miracle.
I never knew how to communicate and listen i would always go mute and just assume time would fix it but it wont my partner lost trust in me because i promised to talk and never did because i was scared to accept my own problems and now that i have truly found who i need to be and wanna talk about thi gs she is scared that im just saying i wanna fight for us to be manipulative and not let her go anywhere else.. which i understand why she feels how she does i struggled with ym feelings and being a good partner due to the home i grew up in but i genuinely want this girl to see that im a new me and we can take the life step that we always wanted together ans she can trust im not who i was im who i should be. Thank you for the video it helped put alot into persepctive
I want to keep bringing it up. They need it drilled in their mind that they betrayed me. Sucks when it’s a marriage because you can just leave a girlfriend. Can’t just leave a marriage.
@@Follower_of_Yahusha " They need it drilled into their mind ..."
I like that. In fact, that's the kind of thing I'd say. And if they don't like it ... Tough. They bought the ticket. Now they gotta endure the ride.
I have money issues and have broken trust with my husband because of it. I really need to sort myself out because I hate our fighting
Just found your channel and wanted to say thank you sharing your knowledge with us. I learned a lot and it has made a positive change in my relationship of 9 years. Take care.
That's so great to hear! 💙
What is someone supposed to do when they’ve been lied to, the other person owned up to it, you think they’re lying about something else but won’t admit to it? Is that a sign of broken trust and how does one repair that?
Yes, it is a sign of broken trust. You cannot force the truth out of them, but you do have the power to chose whether you want to continue trusting them. If it's a yes, you gotta do just that: trust them. If it's a no, maybe it's time to move on and let them go. How do you repair it? Sit down and talk it out. Tell them how to feel and why. You will figure it out.
Great video! I really appreciate the insights shared here. It’s super helpful, but I can’t help but think that sometimes talking about trust might put too much pressure on a relationship. Sometimes it feels like we should just give it time and let things heal naturally instead of forcing conversations about it. What do you all think?
Can you pls do a video on self forgiveness
Great idea! I'm on it. Stay tuned.
Please say prayers for me and my husband Travis Michaud for our marriage and our finances and our job searching for job offers.
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I have hurted my partner a couple times and he forgive me. We got okay in 2 weeks, but after that I did something that hurt him again and made him to finally leave me. I have been crying everyday hoping we will still be okay, but because he said we'd be okay if we finally part ways. I agree but I only want time and space for the both of us, so that I can't do such hurtful things anymore. I agree that it's for the both of us but I still want him back:(
I cannot even explain why I did horrible things many times to him. I do not understand myself, that's why I agreed that we won't be talking to each other anymore. But I don't want to forget him like he said. I just need time and space, I still want him back when the time is right. I do not want to look selfish. I regret everything of what I did. What should I do to be sure that we'll be okay like we used to?:(
When we do horrible things, it is usually because we're trying to meet one of our needs. Maybe not in the healthiest way but it's important to figure out what those needs are and how you can meet them so you are able to bring the best version of yourself into your relationships. As painful as this is, it is giving you information about yourself. How can you support yourself and grow into the person you want to be? Maybe that's what this time if for. Sending you big love.
What do you do if, as the person who broke trust, you do all these things and it's still doesn't resolve anything?
Can I send this to someone that have lose my trust
My wife keeps bringing up the past in every conversation almost.
I bet she claims she forgave you too but if she’s still bringing it up, she didn’t.
@johnnova6999 oh is that how it goes
Well that was actually help, Stacey!
thank you Stacy!
💙
I feel like my trust has been broken. I wont go into details. But it took me years to realize it.
Im talking about friendship not a dating thing im single lol
Apologies are an effective tool to soften and healthy relationships.
What if they have been told to stop or you were leaving then they do this 3 more times? (10 times total) I sound so stupid for staying but I care about them.. 14 years
I loved her since 2012, and we had been working on it always texting and sharing I've been hurt myself those 8-9 years and finally when she agreed to be my gf somehow i got attached with another person and i left her in 2020 completely cut her off . This month after may be 4 years i reached her out through a game that we used to play.. i only had excess to that .. and now m talking with her and she told me she values me and stuff.. but she also told me she lost the trust that she had for me...
Should i work it out or do i let her go...
I mean she was the person i ever loved completely, i even cried 😂 for her.. I dont understand she was the only girl i ever wanted in my life and now when i got her i left her for another...😢
May be she let me be in pain for too long or i dont know..
I just don't know weather to work on it or not.. but i do care about her
I was the one who broke their trust and i have got one more chance and they told me that they talk less to me and i am super sad
I'm sure it will get better. You will become better. And you will find better people.
Thank you
In re: The Past:
Big Factor: Was the behavior ... like an act (or multiple or ongoing) acts of personal Betrayal ... ever owned, explained? Was accountability ever taken for the personal transgression? If so, that's one thing. But if not ... Sorry. Still a very live issue. If you don't wanna hear about over and over ... RESOLVE IT!!! It's that simple.
🎼TD, Boston
Exactly you neglect me over and over and over 20 years. My husband has neglected me emotionally and sexually. Rebuilding trust hmmm I don’t know depends on him. We finally have a therapist. We still don’t know if we can make it as a couple. God pleas create a miracle!
She won’t allow us to work on it. It’s killing me. So no contact 😢
How can I fix it cause my bf thinks I can't tthst him no more when he told me bout a coworker 😭
Hi there,
I was insecure about who I was so I lied to my partner about my past (made up a whole life almost) and came clean to her willingly.
If she wants to, how can I help rebuild trust and move forward in a situation like this?
I don’t have insurance so therapy would be extremely expensive but I would be willing to pay for it
That will take time and one honest share at a time, if she is willing to rebuild. Be transparent about even the smallest things and vow to yourself that you will be completely truthful. The rest is kinda in her court.
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH;) xo
You're welcome!
Hi Stacy,
My wife caught me vaping delta 8 thc again after I promised I would not (not the first or second or third time) and now is holding firm to the line in the sand she drew and does not care what I do anymore and wants to live separate lives in the same house and needs her space. Although she did qualify it with “right now”. She even brought up divorce. I have quit harder substances, actual thc and cigarettes in the past. My justification was stress from new ownership at my job but really I was mentally addicted. I have thrown out all the vapes. Do I have a chance in saving this marriage and rebuilding or regaining her trust again?
It sounds like this has been a major struggle for you. It can be so hard. I can't say whether or not you'll be able to rebuild after several chances but your best shot is not just throwing out the vapes but diving deep into your recovery so that you don't trip up again. Best of love to you.
I am going to work through the steps in my recovery as now I have the desire to not use and I’m doing it not because I’m in hot water with my wife or any other reason but for myself. Thanks for your guidance and response.
I have a problem with my relationship I need help
Staying out of the past is litterally the only thing she does is stay in it and it has been years? What do you suggest for someone who is constantly reminded of the past?
When people keep talking about something over and over, they are seeking something they aren't getting. Maybe a question...What do you need so that we can heal this and look forward together instead of feeling stuck in the past?
Depends on whether or not it was ever resolved. Can't actively avoid any and all conversation about it, and then, having dodged it for a certain period of time, pull the "That's in the past" crap out of your you-know-what.
If it's been fully discussed, should be a closed file. But, if not on account of your active evasion, then you have no standing to complain whenever it's put to you.
Common sense.
🎼TD, Boston
What are examples of small vulnerabilities? The small openings to prove actions for trust
I think it depends on the person. What feels like a small vulnerability to one person (sharing a feeling for example) could feel like a massive vulnerability to someone else.
11:11 🌎🧿🙏🏻
How can I contact you and better explain you my personal situation so that it can be solved? Perhaps an Email would work.
So question I’ve searched for I broke trust talking to other women not putting on social media not married. Then she cheated. Done what I done on but on steroids. Everyone says to ignore not bring it up till she’s ready to speak of it. But now she’s single but we married.
There are some ok points, but her advice is oddly more demanding on the victim than the perpetrator. Bite me once, shame on you, bite me twice, shame on me....
There ARE things the victim can do to respect the efforts of the perpetrator, but the perpetrator needs to be the one going to the extreme to regain what they violated and destroyed.
Thank you