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How To Attract AND Keep A Girl

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  • @clairedevindson7868
    @clairedevindson7868 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    As a women when I was younger I always thought that that what matt is saying is really true for example: that men want a feminine women etc.. but after being brainwashed by the media, movies etc. it was hard to keep on that mindset. Anyways I thank you for putting a nice example for realistic standards and for making me believe that it is ok as a women to be feminine.

    • @nekemli2622
      @nekemli2622 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What do you mean by "making you as a woman feel ok to be feminine"? Feminine as in doing nothing? Feminine as in not approaching and waiting for men to do all the work?

  • @DavidMartin04
    @DavidMartin04 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    This lad spitting so much facts it's crazy. Don't know where I'd be without masculine leaders like yourself and Hamza, keep it up bro👍

    • @grubbyarmadillo9863
      @grubbyarmadillo9863 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      hey, another future Adonis!

    • @vinmazter4219
      @vinmazter4219 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Yes, but always make sure you stay yourself and that you don't copy everything from them

    • @grubbyarmadillo9863
      @grubbyarmadillo9863 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@vinmazter4219 this is one thing that I'm glad Hamza spoke about.

    • @SuperVoidBoyz
      @SuperVoidBoyz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Speaking facts about how to catch a charge lmao.

    • @Workhard.16
      @Workhard.16 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@vinmazter4219but it's better to first copy them for 3 years and then find your own personality than just stay the same for years and not change, because you get too sceptical to lose yourself in Selfimprovement.
      But the best would be to implement the things that suit you without changing your personality to someone you aren't supposed to be.

  • @theclimbfam469
    @theclimbfam469 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    This reminds me of a girl i met when we were kids, she was overweight and now she has model fit body with 2 buisnesses at 22. Im 23 and that alone gave me hope in my self improvement.

  • @wstafa99
    @wstafa99 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +247

    In Matt we trust

    • @KinGoksu
      @KinGoksu 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      its date or bust

  • @common_suprise8
    @common_suprise8 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Yea I agree I met a girl on my birthday this year and I showed her what I look like and immediately in an instant she was in love with me. Fast forward to August I was FaceTiming her and my small group of friends and one of them said are guys dating yet and out of nowhere she magically said yes. And then fast forward to this month I was in a FaceTime with just my friend, his girlfriend, and a 5 year old boy so my friend and the 5 year old left the call and you know what my friend’s girlfriend said she said, “I was only dating him to get closer to you.” Not only that my own girlfriend wants to have s*x with me but my friend’s girlfriend also wants to have s*x with me. I don’t know why but that’s unbelievable bro. But hey what can I say I was doing the right thing for me. Which was focusing on myself. You see brothers the more you focus on yourself the more girls you’ll get and attract. Remember that brothers. Stay Strong 💪.

    • @WayVey
      @WayVey 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yessir, it's all about purpose. you just cannot get boring

    • @Gabriel-Cold
      @Gabriel-Cold 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      She belong to the streets

    • @joashedwards7206
      @joashedwards7206 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Write a book ok that and put in under the section of "that never happened"

  • @bellows3088
    @bellows3088 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    i ate 18 oranges today

  • @Kidwithadog-ru6oe
    @Kidwithadog-ru6oe 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm almost 16 years old and I've barely had one relationship about half a year ago and I did so much wrong. I texted and called her 24/7, complimented her as much as I could, and told her literally everything about myself and how I felt about her, no mystery whatsoever. What do you think happened? She left me after a MONTH and asked to be friends. Fast forward to now I've learned a lot and now whenever I get into another relationship I'm not gonna let this happen. Dude if it wasn't for you I would be on track to get into the friend zone every time and would repeat all my mistakes.

  • @kliss23
    @kliss23 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    love this consistent uploads... keep going strong my brother, brotherhood is grinding every day 💪

    • @kliss23
      @kliss23 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FRGTNN ayoooooo

    • @icypop69
      @icypop69 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kliss23 wow man nice back

  • @Frank_Iver
    @Frank_Iver 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good stuff Matt, i'm gonna get that book asap.

  • @teodortodorov1662
    @teodortodorov1662 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    The part about sex hitted me, because I don`t want to have sex until I end up in long-term relationship. I don`t wanna give my virginity for someone who will break up with me few days later. I wanna keep it until I spend months with that girl and see that she also want a long-term relationship with me

    • @KitsuPaintsMaps
      @KitsuPaintsMaps 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      i think the same as you, but its true that most men are like that

    • @fireboybg1745
      @fireboybg1745 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      брат това, което си написал е много вярно

    • @jimder2791
      @jimder2791 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      based

    • @louiswinterhoff334
      @louiswinterhoff334 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      save for marriage

  • @ItsColbyWallace
    @ItsColbyWallace 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Matt you’ve been killing it lately bro. The advice has been stellar and the consistency is really been there too. Can’t wait to see where you go next bro!!

  • @RuudAwakening
    @RuudAwakening 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    How about a video of your girlfriend and you together talking about stuff like this. How you met, what moments were clear it was going somewhere (maybe you have the same, maybe you have very different ones). Also what you both believe makes it work and click between you.
    Gives a perspective on how things are from both sides, see the total frame.
    How the puzzle clicks. How the shoe fits. How the lid is put on the jar.

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @owenmwhiting yet not all married couples/people are aware of what works and what not, and why things happen and why they work out a certain way
      (most of my family for example)
      it takes concious decision making, and Matt got that

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @owenmwhiting man you are very right there.
      Everyone is just trying their own, just figuring it out as they go.
      thanks for this keep-an-open-mind perspective!

  • @louiswinterhoff334
    @louiswinterhoff334 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am not having sex until I am married.

    • @jaxbarnettprice
      @jaxbarnettprice 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And there’s nothing wrong with that at all.

  • @Nhintaolamgi.
    @Nhintaolamgi. 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    your video is getting more quality, keep going

  • @ignatiusv1869
    @ignatiusv1869 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    He does it again. Thanks Matt

  • @vincentpeaks
    @vincentpeaks 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    good video matt, really appreciate the value you give!

  • @Kyles000
    @Kyles000 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I definitely trust Matt’s judgment

  • @muellersgame8001
    @muellersgame8001 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video really helps. Thanks Matt.

  • @lpduval7398
    @lpduval7398 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Man watching this video makes me realize how much work I have to do on myself. Not being a leader in the relationship might be one of the biggest turn off I ended up adopting, i hope i can find someone again and be better

  • @KayMCPE
    @KayMCPE 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Uh man girls are hard. How do i understand if she is just kind with me or she actually likes me? Im not kind of guy who asks every girl out because i dont want to lose everything ...

    • @shaunzy1074
      @shaunzy1074 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Real

    • @KayMCPE
      @KayMCPE 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@shaunzy1074 man i actually confessed and we are dating now. Dont be afraid to lose everything these are my words. If its not mutual you can still continue being friends if you want

    • @joashedwards7206
      @joashedwards7206 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You don't just ignore them treat them like a bro or be repulsed by them to the point where you don't need them they be throwing "you know what" at you in seconds

  • @jackhubert
    @jackhubert 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This happened to me just recently. She was so into me, we went on five dates. It was great. And I wrecked it because I started letting her take the lead with plans and lost all polarization. She gave me multiple opportunities to get deep/sexual/flirty conversations going and I missed the cues because I was in my head. She ended it due to “not sure she’s feeling this is the relationship she wants. Not feeling any chemistry”

  • @jaxbarnettprice
    @jaxbarnettprice 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We tend to underestimate ourselves deeply when it comes to talking to people. We need to realize that we can establish our own authority, be respected and have the power to talk to ANYONE that we want to. We need to be bold. Not timid. Humans are social creatures. Remember, the worst a girl can say to you is No. And even if they say No, they will respect you for your confidence. They’ll respect you for the fact that you had the audacity to even come up to them and ask them.

  • @EarthBatTV
    @EarthBatTV 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video was everything I needed, thank you Matt!

  • @93kProfit
    @93kProfit 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I respect this video a lot 💯💯💯💯 keep making videos

  • @Superfexil
    @Superfexil 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this channel is what i needed! Real talk

  • @Luigi2Wild
    @Luigi2Wild 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This guy is a god🙏🏼 you’ve earned a sub!

  • @matteobmartini
    @matteobmartini 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very helpful, look forward to other lessons like this!! Peace man

  • @Wolf-zl8pw
    @Wolf-zl8pw 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    BRO I LOVE THIS VIDEO

  • @ilovezcats2079
    @ilovezcats2079 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    hey matt, thanks for this video. really helpful! I'd like to see more videos like this

  • @CaseyCarbon
    @CaseyCarbon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    took notes so when i do get a girl that is not online thats i can actually see in person i will remember these things

  • @madnessb8305
    @madnessb8305 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless you Matt

  • @DarianD04
    @DarianD04 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In matt we always trust

  • @vip_lord357
    @vip_lord357 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Im a good looking guy and i got many girls crushing on me but the problem is i dont know how to talk to them which makes them not like ig

  • @silva-beatbox6626
    @silva-beatbox6626 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Big fan!🙏🏽

  • @gagemartin7207
    @gagemartin7207 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Step 1:be good looking

  • @aayangoverski3437
    @aayangoverski3437 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    15:08 bro speaking facts

  • @dsk9887
    @dsk9887 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Matt , the video , it did in fact helped . Thank you .

  • @tomh1593
    @tomh1593 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Shyness killed me in school. I remember a cute girl in school walked by and nicely nudged me on the shoulder and smiled and I froze and looked down and kept on walking. She never did that again. I blew it. It was all downhill from there. If a girl was pretty I just couldn't talk to her. It was brutal.

  • @ademp92
    @ademp92 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I feel like I'm having deja vu. I swear all these self improvement youtubers just say the same thing Hamza says

  • @user-iw9bn3fc4f
    @user-iw9bn3fc4f 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fck bro you’re truly on fire🔥🔥
    I’m from Taiwan, just subscribing to you, what a great video, you really a mindset changer❤❤

  • @freddynz
    @freddynz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Love your videos Matt, if I can add one thing to think about… real men don’t swear… cause they don’t need to ! They’re not an emotional bitch that can’t articulate themselves, their words are few, weighty, and carry their own strength without addition… a man who masters self control, even their words express that. It’s why God says “every loose word will be judged”, it’s cause He wants our very words to be an ambassador of representation…. Anyway, just a thought, I’d be interested in your opinion on this

  • @Rapbando
    @Rapbando 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    After 13 years with the same woman I can say shit test are real as fuck and they can come any time, most likely when all is going well and you are not expecting none

  • @kingofspain_
    @kingofspain_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    10/10 video

  • @jethromcgl3697
    @jethromcgl3697 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    21:37 I have a story that kind of relates to this advice. One day in class I was talking with some classmates. For context, in Ireland at the beginning of secondary school you're put into one of a few base classes for the first three years. In fourth year (otherwise known as transition year), the classes get mixed up and in third year we got a survey in which we put down the names of five people who we wanted to be in the class with us in TY and you're guaranteed to get one of them.
    Back to that conversation, we we're talking and someone brought up the survey and another guy mentioned how he put his girlfriend at the top of the list and he said he kind of regretted that decision. We were all wondering why someone would say that and his reason was because he knew he'd spend all of his time talking to her instead of paying attention in class (what's funny is that they shared that class, but she wasn't in that day) and that was actually a very valid reason and I never realised the full potential of that until that piece of advice.
    (In case you're wondering, I'm currently in TY and guess what happened. Yep, he got put in the same class as her, womp womp)

  • @user-mq6kr2cb7s
    @user-mq6kr2cb7s 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Living legend

  • @jmtrumpet2025
    @jmtrumpet2025 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good stuff man

  • @chandanroy6932
    @chandanroy6932 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is a complete package 📦

  • @Dow-Charts
    @Dow-Charts 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    very helpful thankyou

  • @TheModernMuses
    @TheModernMuses 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is great sh*t! Seal of approval 😊

  • @cybermats2004
    @cybermats2004 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    cool i bought the book. I hope to find more friends and maybe females too

  • @jamesgwilson11
    @jamesgwilson11 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love Matt

  • @SudiptoMW7
    @SudiptoMW7 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fixing your mental health is the first step to fixing everything, not just to be attractive.

  • @keyvaan6714
    @keyvaan6714 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm confused about the part that he says you shouldn't be her friend, but her lover. How so? What's the difference?

  • @BrickUnit
    @BrickUnit 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ok ive got this all down, so what do women do in the relationship?

  • @joostjansen1954
    @joostjansen1954 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Rn I do self improvement for myself because I want to be a better person . God doesn’t want to see me being lazy

  • @Error-dq9wf
    @Error-dq9wf 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I breathed oxygen today

  • @jamilhamza2672
    @jamilhamza2672 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In our country we can't make GF...
    Society doesn't like it..🇧🇩.fuck our society 😭😭😭...I want a GF.....I never have GF..I never takl to girl....and iam 18 NOW.

  • @jamilhamza2672
    @jamilhamza2672 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You.....are the bosss...man...

    • @MattSpear99
      @MattSpear99  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Appreciate you Jamil

    • @jonnsmith556
      @jonnsmith556 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@MattSpear99I've been coming to the same conclusion it's not wrong it's what were designed to be thank you I needed to hear this, you confirmed what I've been thinking

  • @GeordieStevo
    @GeordieStevo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    13:06 I've given up with tinder, The standards im looking for, no where near compares to whats on there

    • @GeordieStevo
      @GeordieStevo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@retroguy9494 havnt had the right connection with anyone yet

    • @Battie1
      @Battie1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      U aint getting no hot girls ur getting the leftovers boy

  • @swedxr9590
    @swedxr9590 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    what if she constantly texts you?

  • @CodyDaGoat_
    @CodyDaGoat_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    keep it up Matt, best self improvement channel around 🤝

  • @craigconway4093
    @craigconway4093 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Awesome

  • @Merliiin
    @Merliiin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    trust ya

  • @matejpolivka4883
    @matejpolivka4883 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So you think you shouldn’t text a girl even when she’s your girlfriend

  • @westoncroye643
    @westoncroye643 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That is a pretty good video! However, I disagree on the physical fitness part. I have so many reason other than just women that I go to the gym for. For example, one day when I have obtained the required mass I will start to go to body building competitions to have fun and compete with other men. Another example is that I want to get into tip top shape as a personal trainer to show people what is possible naturally since majority of fitness influencers have downplayed our ability to build really decent physiques with 5% bodyfat skin and bone physiques at 165lbs of muscle as our "limit". Women are also obviously apart of the equation but the reality is that it isn't just to appeal to women, its to appeal to everyone as that is human nature. I'd recommend watching Natural Hypertrophy's take on women and how to get a girlfriend as he has A LOT to say about that in a very well thought out manner.

  • @Josh_estrada
    @Josh_estrada 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can relate to all this

  • @jamilhamza2672
    @jamilhamza2672 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It is a Blassing to fine you matt

  • @joshuav1088
    @joshuav1088 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You can’t always be to alpha you need the beta side to show up trust me. If you are alpha all the time the relationship won’t last just speaking from experience.

  • @b1ker1989
    @b1ker1989 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro provides better and higher quality content than all these 500k sub "dating coaches", that doesn't mean i want you to stay at low sub count, i hope the opposite but your content is like a fresh gust of wind.

  • @alih6953
    @alih6953 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Soon brother 100K by the end of year

  • @njames69
    @njames69 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro is speaking the gospel

  • @b.o.t7888
    @b.o.t7888 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If she's just your friend then make her hook you up with her friends.

  • @beatsbymellow5075
    @beatsbymellow5075 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Straight game bro nice

  • @Niklas-ru2lj
    @Niklas-ru2lj 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ok, just to get this right. You are going the college, you have your first real long term relationship in your life and principally nothing big done. Now you stand in Front of the Camera and act like a toxic flirting coach and there are actually men who believe you. As Jordan Peterson said, love needs closeness and polarity needs distance. The Art of an healthy relationship isn’t to keep the polarity guy, it is to keep the Balance. So you need your own goals, she need her own goals and in the end of the day you go the way together. She’s not your lover, she’s your girlfriend, in this word is the word friend and if you can’t be her friend, you can’t be a good boyfriend cause in long term every girl is looking for security, also emotional security. I know enough guys with a good sex live and there girlfriend is also there best friend. The only thing every girl hates is if you are so needy for her love, that you can’t stand your ground. You have no own opinion, no principals nothing, then she will probably leave you one day. I don‘t know how old you are, but I hope someday you will learn that there is more then black and white.

  • @hectornevarez6804
    @hectornevarez6804 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's not the suit that makes the man, it's the man that makes the suit

  • @general4582
    @general4582 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Matt you literally just described my first relationship.

  • @KJ18327
    @KJ18327 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m still 13 💀

  • @sadaheyl
    @sadaheyl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you don’t keep her, she stays

  • @flarekv
    @flarekv 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    bro is actually the white hamza

  • @Peace_in_Christ
    @Peace_in_Christ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Money.

  • @D.M.S.
    @D.M.S. 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The same toxic shit every coach repeats over and over and over. They don't want you to be better, they just want your money. Don't fall for it!

  • @aonth3r994
    @aonth3r994 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Higher quality girl in your book just means a girl who only
    likes you for your muscles. Great.

    • @RuudAwakening
      @RuudAwakening 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It takes effort, discipline, character to reach and maintain a certain physique
      It's that what's attractive, for both sexes. And it shows in different ways. A strong trained healthy physique is one of those.

  • @nesano4735
    @nesano4735 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No, you've been conditioned to have sex before marriage.

  • @Onewholp
    @Onewholp 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @striveprime5993
    @striveprime5993 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👊🏾🔥

  • @pinkpanther0001
    @pinkpanther0001 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is only one thing that attract girls. MONEY

    • @johnweak6788
      @johnweak6788 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You mean whores

  • @SuperVoidBoyz
    @SuperVoidBoyz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    5:07-5:13 thats you.. but for me.. no.

  • @BALEVANI_
    @BALEVANI_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro dropping bars 🔥

  • @Detya777
    @Detya777 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You need to have money🙃🙃

    • @yea3722
      @yea3722 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nope not true

    • @Detya777
      @Detya777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yea3722 ?

  • @Tyler-Al
    @Tyler-Al 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    f

  • @dosomestuff1949
    @dosomestuff1949 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I heavily disagree with the act of doing self improvement for urself being an act of selfishness. Infact I’d say that doing it for other people to get their approval is just as bad as trying to please other people in general. I’m all for going to the gym, but you need to ask urself if u really care ahout having a good physique beyond just your girl. Respect yourself more.

    • @dosomestuff1949
      @dosomestuff1949 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@retroguy9494I partially agree, it’s just that no matter how in charge a woman wants to be, they subconsciously want other men to take charge. This instinct is built through 100 of thousands of years of evolution.

    • @dosomestuff1949
      @dosomestuff1949 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@retroguy9494 no, the female mind has not evolved to that point. If it did, procreation would become a lot less common.

  • @sonderexpeditions
    @sonderexpeditions 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You accomplished the hardest part as you're already very attractive. Then second you seem charismatic and confident. 3rd you're super fit. Most guys fail at those. That's so cute you guys were each other's firsts 🥹