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I gave my heart, mind, body and soul for 45 years. Married 3 kids 7 grandchildren. He was the love of my life. Devastation Humiliation Disrespect was just the begining. Still healing. Forgave him but will never forget what he did to me. There was no reason at all why.he did what he did. His loss . God help him
I find this so helpful. Healing is a fight. That’s exactly what I’ve been doing. I’ve been giving myself the love I wanted to receive and more. I removed the access. I put God at the center of my life. My peace is important. I realized that I’m worthy of myself. I don’t wish bad on him, I just know that one day he will look at who has and he will see who I was in that moment, he will probably reach out but will not find me. I’m in the season of healing. I am becoming the woman I need to be for me God and the future husband He is preparing me for.
Also, I’m proud of myself for staying strong during the hovering phase where they resort back to the love bombing, which is why you stayed with them for as long as you did to get back to that after they turned to the biggest asshole that you never met😲🤷🏽♀️
Nope...22 times of break up..I said there won't be a 23rd time Im out of chances! Healing all my wounds by the GRACE AND HEALING OF JESUS CHRIST!! GOD is AWESOME HEALING GOD!!
@@browneyes9507 I agree and that part makes me feel sick . However I am not mad at her because he is playing her too . I actually feel sorry for her because she will be another victim of his games . Maybe this was a blessing from God . The trash took itself out !!
Exactly! Tried to long. I’m on my healing fight and yes it is a fight Omg is it. But I’m strong and I know I deserve better, I’m gone! Think about him everyday, but I refuse to let him back in…heard a song this morning “finders keepers losers weepers” 😭 and it will be his loss. I did everything I shouldn’t of been doing for him. Haven’t met one yet that didn’t miss me after I checked out.
Thank you for this video. He might eventually realize that he threw away someone who didn't give up on him. In any case I'm going to keep trying to find peace.
I am in the good fight this season, And I love how it’s turning out! I like these videos for the Reminders to stand on these 10 toes 🎩 Bestie and your family this holiday season 🎩
Thank you. Im in my season of healing. Bless you 🙏 Every word has hit home for me. I'm chasing Love and I was going about it the wrong way. I am a strong woman and in God's favor I will find.
Derek, you are talking 100% to me as if you know Me and walking with me in life knowing what I’m going through. This is amazing and crazy all the same time
I have serial watched your videos. You have no idea how much you have helped start healing and support it. Also, how to spot someone who is healed and ready. I never knew how to pick those people. I’m learning now. I’ve watched so many others, but did not resonate like you. Thank you!!!
Been there done that I gave 30 years to my first marriage kids and all thank God above I got divorced and with my second marriage well I thank God above I got divorced again
Hey 🌹 Derix jaxin How are you doing, it's been a long time I JUMPED ON THE NOTICE AS SOON AS I SIGHTED UR NAME AND FOUND MYSELF HERE AND I NOW I REALLY LOVE UR CHANNEL FOR REAL ❤❤❤ I GREET U BIG DERIX THANKS FOR ALL THE WAYS U PUT US THROUGH TO THIS AND THANKS FOR "ALWAYS" "LETTING US OUT" 😊WE LOVE U 💘
That’s how I felt. And I cried for 163 days in a row. Fought the fight. And now I don’t even recognize myself. Remember to put your mental health first.
24 years and three of his kids. I was 17 and he was 22. I settled and it has cost me my peace. I told him that he can not give me the love that I need. That he just is not capable of loving me the way I need to be loved. His response is how can he love me the way I treat him. He can not take accountability for anything he does. Past 10 years have been hell. He financially has cute me off.
After that I started fighting for me and it took me 6 yrs to get my divorce. Just that was an accomplishment. I was drained, suck dry and I vowed it would never happen again.
I healed from a 23 year marriage.. 'thought Id try it again. Now, 10 1/2 years with 2nd, still married in our apt., but once again, I have not stood up for myself. I humiliated myself. I'm older & wiser to heal & Work on me but I'm Exhausted, no f left in me, but I Learned. F
So after you have suffered a little while, He will restore, support and strengthen you, and He will place you on a firm foundation". (This too shall pass) (1 Peter 5:10 ) 😢
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@Jaxnvideos I need help 😢
I want me back 😢
❤✊
Yesssss
❤
Make him be dead to you in real life. You don't even need to care if he misses you or not. It's all about YOU now.
Exactly !
EXACTLY. I 💕 LOVE MY HUSBAND AND HE LOVES ME.
📂
Exactly Funeralize
They are sorry only for themselves ... never for you...
They will miss the benefits of you... never you....
I disagree. Sometimes they do miss you. They had to have loved you and you checked them in a healthy way
Ty I needed to hear that.
@@tiffi271Yes.
They need.what you have
They will.get theres
The saddest people are people who stay living in the past.
1,000%
I agree
I’m one of them😔
“Remember when is the lowest form of conversation”
Am one of them😢😢😢😢
He said he likes me as a friend and still text me good morning text messages i told him i have enough friends in my life
Thanks
Yes! Trying to keep you in the loop as back up... nope
same :(
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I agree. Most of my ex's wanted me back. Even years later. Cause I love so deeply.
Same
same
Prayer is the key
The only way !!
Love this...'He is going to feel it in his chest forever'
I've fought so so hard. I give up. I can't make anyone do anything. I'm so alone w/o him.
I gave my heart, mind, body and soul for 45 years. Married 3 kids 7 grandchildren. He was the love of my life. Devastation Humiliation Disrespect was just the begining. Still healing. Forgave him but will never forget what he did to me. There was no reason at all why.he did what he did. His loss . God help him
So sorry for you 😢 i don't understand why people are so heart less like they don't fear the karma
You're not alone !!!!!!
Wish I'd known better a lonnnnnnggg time ago.
I'm so sorry. They ruin everything and it's devastating.
I find this so helpful. Healing is a fight. That’s exactly what I’ve been doing. I’ve been giving myself the love I wanted to receive and more. I removed the access. I put God at the center of my life. My peace is important. I realized that I’m worthy of myself. I don’t wish bad on him, I just know that one day he will look at who has and he will see who I was in that moment, he will probably reach out but will not find me. I’m in the season of healing. I am becoming the woman I need to be for me God and the future husband He is preparing me for.
AMEN N AMEN.
SAME😪
Also, I’m proud of myself for staying strong during the hovering phase where they resort back to the love bombing, which is why you stayed with them for as long as you did to get back to that after they turned to the biggest asshole that you never met😲🤷🏽♀️
My thoughts, in your voice ❤❤
I’m fighting for my self now! I honestly gave it my all, he pushed me away! Karma is real
Healing is the killer im in this stage healing is so painful
I don't want him to miss me. I want him to learn his lesson and move on . I'm moving on..
Nope...22 times of break up..I said there won't be a 23rd time
Im out of chances! Healing all my wounds by the GRACE AND HEALING OF JESUS CHRIST!!
GOD is AWESOME HEALING GOD!!
I got discarded after ten years and out of nowhere he replaced me for another lady and showed no remorse for the pain he caused me .
@ Kristen
She was already there .. when they move that fast this is usually the case
So cold hearted 😢 pray you be ok love ❤
@@browneyes9507 I agree and that part makes me feel sick . However I am not mad at her because he is playing her too . I actually feel sorry for her because she will be another victim of his games . Maybe this was a blessing from God . The trash took itself out !!
@@Greeneyedlady923 yes he did ! Trash is gone ..
@@Greeneyedlady923how do you know he's playing her ? He might've just played you an chose his person
When you used a person, you will get what coming to to you.
Facts on facts on facts‼️✨
I SO NEEDED to hear this. This happened to me more than once. I am in my healing phase. Thank you! ❤❤
Exactly! Tried to long. I’m on my healing fight and yes it is a fight Omg is it. But I’m strong and I know I deserve better, I’m gone! Think about him everyday, but I refuse to let him back in…heard a song this morning “finders keepers losers weepers” 😭 and it will be his loss. I did everything I shouldn’t of been doing for him. Haven’t met one yet that didn’t miss me after I checked out.
Same here I'm with you sis never again my peace means everything.
Yes. Ik the feeling.
It's great that I'm back to myself I did the healing praying and surrendering releasing letting go and letting God be in control of all of it
Amen! “What a rarity he lost”.
I’d love one day to hear that from him but in the meantime, I need to move on and heal.
He finally admitted he was the one who messed up our marriage.
How long after you all divorced that he admitted that?
@@kTorres007 we were separated for 3 years, just before he died in October.
Thank you for being there for all of us naive woman!
I'm fighting for myself now all the pain I have is my strength and I'm strong
Mentally, physically, emotionally and spirituality
😢 with tears in my eyes I really needed this 😢. 💔 got dumped New Year's Eve
😢
I got dumped this year on Valentines Day (2024) 💔
❤❤❤❤❤
So sorry to hear this. Hope you’re ok ❤
New Year, New You😙
He has played with my feelings too much . His bad karma can keep him company
Thank you for this video. He might eventually realize that he threw away someone who didn't give up on him. In any case I'm going to keep trying to find peace.
Brother, we appreciate your dedication, transparency and wisdom on these issues. Stay safe. ❤️ ❤
This was so valuable. Thank you! I've been fighting for my relationship and I'm exhausted. I was blindsided but I'm praying for the best outcome.
I. after 13 years just moved on like I was garbage but God brought me out you still have some times you think about it
I am in the good fight this season, And I love how it’s turning out!
I like these videos for the Reminders to stand on these 10 toes 🎩
Bestie and your family this holiday season 🎩
Been there but I guess his karma is he gonna always remember me
Profound message!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌 Thank you!!!!
Exactly 💯. Healing is a FIGHT... NOT a journey. --D Jaxn
Thank you. Im in my season of healing. Bless you 🙏
Every word has hit home for me. I'm chasing Love and I was going about it the wrong way. I am a strong woman and in God's favor I will find.
Derek, you are talking 100% to me as if you know Me and walking with me in life knowing what I’m going through. This is amazing and crazy all the same time
I've been there..17 years,married,4 kids..sigh
And he just moved on like I've never mattered
Oh Lord this actually made me cry… thank you brother! God bless you
I have so much admiration for you and your judgement. It's healing just listening to you. Thank you!
Yes it is !! He is deep!!!
Seconded...today, tomorrow and always...
I have been on this rollercoaster ride
Bless u mr Jackson your words are healing and great warnings for those who loved those that didnt love us correctly....
I needed to hear this and I received it ❤️💪🏾🙏🏾
I- sadly going through same thing right now. 20 years- ended through a text message.
You’re doing you bro and thank you for giving us these vibes ❤
I'm that person. It's unfair how they can move on and be happy.
I am in season of healing. It’s been 3 years thank you.
Real talk right here. Thank you ❤
The season of FIGHTING FOR MYSELF in the Dark night of the Soul 😞
I have serial watched your videos. You have no idea how much you have helped start healing and support it. Also, how to spot someone who is healed and ready. I never knew how to pick those people. I’m learning now. I’ve watched so many others, but did not resonate like you. Thank you!!!
I had a really hard morning and this helped me so much. Thank you
Going thru it now!
Your vibe is so real. Thank you!
Been there done that I gave 30 years to my first marriage kids and all thank God above I got divorced and with my second marriage well I thank God above I got divorced again
I really needed this ❤❤❤❤
Hey 🌹 Derix jaxin
How are you doing, it's been a long time
I JUMPED ON THE NOTICE AS SOON AS I SIGHTED UR NAME AND FOUND MYSELF HERE AND I NOW
I REALLY LOVE UR CHANNEL FOR REAL ❤❤❤
I GREET U BIG DERIX
THANKS FOR ALL THE WAYS U PUT US THROUGH TO THIS
AND THANKS FOR "ALWAYS" "LETTING US OUT" 😊WE LOVE U 💘
Thank You Jaxn. God bless you overabundantly.
Been there going through it now
Always so good ❤ Thank you Derrick
Wow, I completely understand! DJ is the best in the game! Go DJ! Keep on being you!
Oooh!! Amen to all that. ❤
Thank you so much brother! ❤ you awesome!!
Derek it's not worth it!.... not worth my time......
Right ...Amen we deserve someone who puts in as much work as we do... time is too precious. Id rather be single and put that energy in myself
Yes i need that season , I'm just finding your page. This is a few relationships time to get back and find me . 😅
Loved this & needed this encouragement to continue to stay focused in my healing season, thank you
Words of the real flex actually is how i was gaslit. Always works for him saying it
Currently going through the exact same thing as the lady in the story
So true! They move on so easily!!!!
Absolutely agree with that statement
Thank you for sharing great info👍🏽
Derrick you talk wonderful positive sense and your voice is smooth and pleasant to listen to.
I’m here now but I’m moving forward for GOOD! In Jesus name❤🥰
Needed to hear this lil big brother 💕💕💕💕
This video is 💯 the truth and right on time. I will replay this video everyday to keep motivated!
God is good and he will see me through!
i am so in love with him. i know he is my soulmate, not giving up
🧎🏾♀️➡️praying for you …You are assisting in your own sucide 😢
That’s how I felt. And I cried for 163 days in a row. Fought the fight. And now I don’t even recognize myself. Remember to put your mental health first.
I'm Fighting for Myself again ❤❤
Let God work on him
I can relate!!
Wow!!! I'm fighting for us right now.
Derrick is correct.. Because he maybe talking to ppl who may have experienced these chapters in their life.
Every last word spoke to me. Thank you.
24 years and three of his kids. I was 17 and he was 22. I settled and it has cost me my peace. I told him that he can not give me the love that I need. That he just is not capable of loving me the way I need to be loved. His response is how can he love me the way I treat him. He can not take accountability for anything he does. Past 10 years have been hell. He financially has cute me off.
I
Going through it right now!!
After that I started fighting for me and it took me 6 yrs to get my divorce. Just that was an accomplishment. I was drained, suck dry and I vowed it would never happen again.
I healed from a 23 year marriage.. 'thought Id try it again. Now, 10 1/2 years with 2nd, still married in our apt., but once again, I have not stood up for myself. I humiliated myself. I'm older & wiser to heal & Work on me but I'm Exhausted, no f left in me, but I Learned. F
Powerful 🔥🔥🔥
The way I needed this!!!!!!
Thank you awesome message I am dealing with this exact issue 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
I needed this
I. Was in a relationship for 15 hrs married and kids. But better now with your help more aware and growing.
Praise God I need this right now
Derek you are blessed Beyond blessed I think you're so awesome
Thank you Derrick for the FYI , yes, i've been there before. However, I'm good now.😊
Jjst found ur channel. Brilliant . Love ur videos
One here.. trying to get back to myself....
So after you have suffered a little while, He will restore, support and strengthen you, and He will place you on a firm foundation". (This too shall pass) (1 Peter 5:10 ) 😢
I need that 15 day challenge
Amen!!
"Word" Love this...
I'm dealing with this exact issue!!!
I did that too even after he pulled back
Loved it❤