"We Want Class, That Is NOT Class!" Mum Doesn't Like Bride's Chosen Dress | Say Yes To The Dress UK
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- Bride Chengetai has been wedding dress shopping before, but her dream dress was way over her budget. Will her visit to Confetti & Lace finally provide her with the perfect and mum approved wedding dress?
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A dress hasn’t been shown a million times on the show? That looks absolutely stunning on her? That is way under the budget? ON SYTTD UK?! I think i‘m in a parallel universe
It’s because they knew going over budget could actually cost them the sale.
That isn't by Dando London? Mind blown!
@@4pensword4 They seem to forget that little gem of wisdom with regularity.
@Olivia H Hahahaha brilliant. You made me laugh.
same xD
I have to respect that, for once, the mother wasn't swayed by the veil.
" That's a ugly ass dress" sales team jacks up the bride with a veil all of a sudden the frock goes from a -1 to a +10!
I just thought the same thing! But did she say yes to the belt? 🤣
@@ellenmason3833 the belt, and the bouquet, and...😂🤣😂🤣
😂😂😂
No but it took rhinestone belt to make it look classy. 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏽♀️
13 years ago, my Daughter married. My heart was in love with a particular dress that I so badly wanted her to choose. She chose a dress that I hated, but I never said a word. I pretended to love it, but secretly, my heart was broken. When the wedding pics came in, there was that dress that I hated. I kept silent and respected her choice. She was gorgeous in anything she wore and on her wedding day she was stunning.
March 15, 2021 my Daughter, Leslie, passed in her sleep from a brain bleed. The first thing I asked for is her Wedding dress. Yes, the dress I hated has now become the dress I love because it represents one of the happiest days of her life. I will cherish it all the days of my life.
It's not about the dress. It's about the joy the dress brings to the excited, beautiful Bride in this phase of life's journey. My advice...like the dress. Write the check. Pretend you love it because you love her!
So sorry for your loss, and yes, keep that dress for your lovely daughters memory. She loved it, and that happiness will remain with it.
So sorry for your loss. Sending all the love and light. ❤💖
That was so touching. I am so sorry for your loss. You must have been an amazing mother to her. I'd like to think when we lose a family member that we just gain a guardian angel.
I am very sad. It is a very difficult situation for a mother. I am sure you will take very good care of your wedding dress. Stay with love.
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you.
BRIDE: my budget is $1500
SYTTD: here are a bunch of $2500-3000 gowns
BRIDE: my budget is $3000
SYTTD: here are a bunch of $1200 gowns
?????????
Only this franchise does that foolishness
My thoughts exactly…
IkR??
I remember one ep, the bride stated her budget was £3000 & David Emmanuel immediately replies, "Is there any wiggle room??" Like, really, David 🙄🙄🙄
They offered cheap dresses because she said she had a dress she loved but didn´t got it because of the prize. They already knew this bride respects her budget. If they offered her expensive dresses, she could say "I´d rather buy the dress I fell in love" instead
I have watched every single clip of every SYTTD on youtube, it's like I am studying for a wedding I am not having
I felt you lady.
same-
I know!!
😂😂 we need to pass anyhow
ME TOO. I don't even have someone to marry lol
I had a friend that went to 4 bridal shops with her mother, cousins, friends, and all of them said NO to all 19 dresses she tried on, even though she absolutely loved a good 5 of them. After the last place, she would dress shop in secret, just her. Too many opinions spoiled it for her, so she went alone. No, I was not involved in anything and yes, the bride was using her own money to pay. Anyway, she went back to place #2 (or 3, it's been years, can't remember) and got one she had tried on, and I was GORGEOUS. She showed her mom who...loved it, said she didn't see that one. Friend just rolled her eyes. Point is: don't take too many people with you. It can really mess up your own opinion. You want to feel and be gorgeous on your wedding day, not have any doubts. I took my own mother, and she said I looked like a big calla lily in my dress, LOL (she loved it, not hated it).
I went alone, it was my day, my money and my own dress, all the dresses 50 to 80% off nobody could beat that lol, about $500 in total, was a good day
Same thing happened with me! All the opinions were distracting. One day I popped into a shop all alone and then found "the one."
I went alone as well. I knew exactly what I wanted and found it - I was the bride and I was paying so other opinions did not matter to me. No one else saw it until my fitting and everyone there loved it.
For my first wedding, I only had my mom, and for my second dress, I went alone and paid for it as well! For my daughter's wedding, it was just her and me and we had the dress in 30 minutes! No "entourages" whatsoever. You do NOT need them--they are WAY too distracting.
This!! As a bengali I've been to wedding dress shopping of my family and have been supportive however there are too many people and too many opinions and it just gets to you and ruins the day. It puts you in a bad mood. I'd rather go alone or with my partner (as in my tradition the men buys the dress and matche) at the end of the day its the brides decision as its her wearing it. It's as if people forget about being comfortable in the dress
Here's a tip: When my daughter went dress shopping, I wasn't in love with the dress she picked but it was her wedding and I supported her, kept my negative thoughts to myself and was happy that she found the dress she loved. Basically, I shut my mouth and went along with her vision because it was HER DRESS, HER DAY! In the end on her wedding day, she looked stunning! More moms/entourages should follow that rule and support the BRIDE!
Every mother isn't you. And she knows her mom yet she brought her. They live for the drama
My mom did the same when my sister went dress shopping, she said it didn't matter if anyone else liked it as long as my sister did & at the end of the day she picked an amazing dress that she loved!
A good mother is one who respects that her adult children are adults in their own right and supports their choices or stays silent. In this case it is the brides day and her choice is the only choice that matters. Good on you x
Yep. I agree. I think that was the best approach. The problem is in all honesty a lot of mother's are jealous of their daughters. They also don't respect them as an adult or individual. Everyone don't like the same things, and we have to learn that is okay. We should NEVER force our opinions onto others. Because that then become narcissistic and controlling. No one have that right to attempt to rule over someone in that manner.
@@shershan254 Not necessarily. Generally most children respect and value their mother or parents in general. And if you have been around controlling and narcissistic parents all of your life. You don't really see their attitude as an issue. Because they brainwash you to feel as though you really don't have the right to have a voice. And if you try to share your own opinion or insight. They will try to make you feel as though you are being disrespectful towards them, and in a lot of cases you just shut down as an attempt to keep the peace if you will. In cases like this you generally have to go no contact with them in order to protect your own joy, peace, and sanity. Because more often then not they will NOT change, and they will keep dismissing you as an individual and your feelings. It's not what you want to do, but it's necessary at times. Parents like these are emotionally, psychologically, and verbally abusive. Try not to judge or condemn people to harshly if you really don't understand what they are going through.
This mother is one of the few mothers on this channel who gave their opinion, but still gave respect to the bride. She's happy if her daughter is happy. You can tell what she needed to see was the full picture meaning the veil, flowers and more customization. For her class=more glam. That's what the daughter wanted in the first place with a two into one piece anyways.
How's it not "class"? this dress looks AMAZING on her! and it is "class" lol
True
It is beautiful but it does have plenty ruffles
I think it's because the handkerchief ruffles look deconstructed and "raw". Traditionalists will want everything to look clean and neat, otherwise it will look unfinished and low class. But the thing is, the raw elements will tell a story if the "messy" elements transition into an elegant, classy finish.
Meeting her fiancé like that? It’s straight out of a movie 🥺💜
I don’t understand, they had a good budget but they only showed her dresses way under. And David really pushed that last dress. There is so many options in that shop. The bride looked amazing in all the dresses.
i could be wrong but only three dresses are shown from which to select. otherwise, we’d be here for hours watching her try on every dress in the shop. (i really wouldn’t mind. she’s someone who would look gorgeous in every dress!)
No he didn't push the dress. She loved it and she wanted glitz, David Emmanuel just offered her the glitz and asked her a question at the end. 🙄
They probably showed dresses under budget so that she would have the wiggle room to modify the dress and make it a 2 in 1
because she already had a dress she fell in love in other shop (but was over the budget). If she had to go for the second best option, they had to offer a very cheap dress (in comparison with her dream dress)
Guys, let's just be happy that for once he showed gowns under budget.
Why can't Mums just realise it's not their day it's their daughters day and the dress has to be the the bride feels beautiful in
Why bring your mother if you do not want her opinion?
@@Jenny-fl5cn It's not that I don't want her opinion it's just she shouldn't act entitled like some moms I've seen.
The way I just laughed when Emmanuel pretended to be sad and shocked when the client said her previous dress was too overpriced.
did you noticed he only offered cheaper dresses to her? He didn´t try to con her because he knew that bride respected her budget
Hahaha…
Normally I have a favorite dress, but this girl was just lovely. They all looked gorgeous on her. 😍
I personally find it so sad that so many brides r dominated in their choice of gowns by their mother. I never did that to my daughters. My mother did it to me though. So I moved many states away from her.
Yeah. Most mom's are narcicisstic, and very jealous of their daughters. And they are very controlling. She shouldn't have took her mom with her. Smh.
@@ladennayoung2939 I totally agree.
@@ladennayoung2939 I don't know if it's so much narcissistic and jealous as opposed to wanting the best for her daughter. My mother was the same way, but I knew that she had the best intentions at heart. It's hard, especially when you are very close to your momma. When I had picked out my first dress, my mom was very opinionated on it. Unfortunately he had passed away only a few years into the marriage. Now the second time I have to pick a dress, I have to do it without my momma close by as she passed away a couple of years ago. I would give anything to have her here to be a part of the process. To have shut the mom out of the process would have caused unnecessary issues and tension that the bride didn't need.
Hahahahaaaa,,, u have fully cracked me up,,,
😂😂 That last line made me chuckle Harriet! ❤️
Her mom cracks me up 😊 I think she meant well in her critique and she really helped her out with adding more detail. Unlike the other moms who are either jealous or controlling.
Thank you. Mum
She looked beautiful in all the dresses
Mama keeps making a face like she smelled something bad. You can always put the sparkle on the actual bride. Bling her up with jewelry instead of sequins. Necklace, bracelets, rings..... She's drop dead gorgeous in this dress!!!
Mom is too picky. She's not the bride.
This bride is adorable. She looks fabulous in all of it. Great final choice.
When I went wedding dress shopping with 2 of my daughters they picked what they wanted. My oldest daughter picked the dress I loved as well. She & I both love lace & bling. My 2nd daughter, however, is more fond of plain dresses. She tried on dresses that I loved & that she liked but the gown she ended up picking was made of dutchess satin and had a little bling on it. Was it my favorite? No, but I didn't tell her because when she put it on she radiated beauty & looked so happy in the dress. It's her day & she picked the dress she loved. She's tall & thin so quite frankly she looked gorgeous in everything she tried on.
How is not class??😕
I don’t understand 😕
One more thing: This bride is so gorgeous 🥰
Zimbabwean moms are not easy to please. She looks stunning
Vangu ndakavasiya hanzi uku waster mari
@@AM-di5eg sha sorry 😅 vangu did not want my arms showing lol but i had to stand up for my self
I went by myself and just showed her my choice. Done :) went with the in law lol hanzi wakatogona kuculture kwedu unoenda nefamily ye hubby
African mums.
Period
Has anyone noticed that the mannequins are always wearing beautiful dresses ...
Yes...you right
Of course, it’s showing what they have
No shit Sherlock.
Isn't that the whole point?
But they never show those dresses on the brides.
The dress looks stunning on her! Just because doesn't like it doesn't mean you can't be happy for her.
"I thought I was in love with the dress".... What? Never let someone change your mind. If you love it that's all that matters!
Yep. That was very frustrating to me. Her mom was annoying and jealous acting.
…and don’t forget this is a reality show and is probably scripted.
@@joycedavis9996 oh I'm sure it is but honestly we would watch it even without all the added drama.
I don't understand why brides feel dress-shopping is a community event. Unless someone else is paying & wants a say in how their money is spent (not ideal but money always creates these issues), just go with what you want. It's your wedding, you're wearing it, you're keeping it.
It's different when it's your mother especially african moms
She makes any dress look amazing. I love her personality too.
Thanks to David for turning mom around!
She looks absolutely stunning in this dress of her choice - so pleased Mum came on board! Xx
Talk about a beautiful dress. And mom came around. She loved her daughter. She realized it was her daughter's day.
Stunning bride. Sometimes it just takes a little shift and then the mother can see that her daughter's happiness means everything. Radiance comes from within.
The more I see disappointing episodes like this, the more I see just how Talented and Amazing Gok is.
What's GoK?
@@WeNeedAMeteor38274 Say Yes To The Dress Lancashire. He's the consultant on those episodes, and he's really good at taking care of the bride. He's like a therapist who helps them overcome their insecurities, and picks out amazing dresses to show off their figure in a way they've never seen before.
@@bluewolf2708 that's cool😌 but still what does GoK stand for?
@@WeNeedAMeteor38274 I think that's just his name.. I'm not really sure. He's of Chinese descent, so Gok could be a common Chinese name. Edit: His full name is Kowkhyn Wan MBE, or so it says on google. Not sure why he goes by Gok though 🤔
@@bluewolf2708 ohh ok thanks
She’s about to get married, so she needs to learn how to make her own decisions and respectfully tell her mother it’s her wedding, her day, her dress and her choice!
Maybe you should ask about African culture. The American attitude doesn't go over well. Stay out of this one
@@shershan254 And who are you to tell me anything Ki Ki Kizzzzy? Maybe you should stay out of my comments…..
@@alleykatt6110 I said what I said 😂 stay mad clown
Hoping you respectively told your mum and she respectively listened to you. Chenge is a well educated, well read, intellectual cultured girl, she knows culture and has manners, unlike you.The wedding was 4yrs ago WE, African ….family enjoyed her wedding day. The MARRIAGE IS HERS
@@hazelsalmon4948 Well, I’m happy as hell for ya!
I LOVEEE ruffle on a dress, the dress she chose looks GORGEOUS she looks incredible in it I'm am super duper happy for her ❤️❤️
Normally I think ruffles like that look like the bottom of a feather duster but it actually looked very nice on her and not dingy like most dresses would've been!!
He always says his work is done, but don’t think he does much.😫😫😫😫😫😫
Maybe he took credit coz it's his shop hehe.
I loved the dress that she loved! She was radiant in it! That mom needed to be supportive!
I love how her mum still wasn't convinced even with the veil on at first 😂 I always thought that it's such an unfair move to put on veil just to make them agree 😂😂
the bride handled everything VERY well!
The third dress fits her personality so much
She looked stunning in her gown, so happy for her!! 🙏🙏
I love the mum. What a sweetheart. So soft spoken and poised.
I adore her mom. What a reserved, classy lady. 👑
First thought when she said the other dress was way over budget: what are you doing at SYTTD UK then???
So we've learnt that when magic veil fails, magic belt will do the job! 🤣
she looks absolutely gorgeous in the dress she tried on with the veil
Never thought I'll see my Zimbabwean girl on say yes to the dress
Mama is so sweet. She just needed to see her baby looking how she would walking down the aisle. Bless!
I wouldn’t choose that dress for myself, but it looks STUNNING on her, fits her personality as well.
I love how he pretends not to know what a "2-in-1" dress might be. Good lord.
He's a designer and didn't understand what she meant by 2in1.????
Haha my thoughts exactly!
When you know your mom is too opinionated, it's best to go alone and try on dresses. It irritates me when your family is way too critical of EVERY dress you try. They know what looks good. There are mirrors. LOL
That’s not happening in an African or Indian family. You just suck it up and move on. Not a big deal.
@Valencia Smith I feel the same way.
That isn't the culture in her case.
But if the parents are paying they have the right to see it and say yeah or nay. And by the way different religions have certain modesty rules for example no sleeveless dresses or low cut dresses.
@@shawnnewell4541 No they don’t or they are just toxic
Expressions of her mum on every single dress 😂
The dress she chose is soooo stunning on her. She has a fabulous figure and she’s soooo naturally beautiful. Her mum crying in the end was so sweet and made me cry !!! ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜
The dress is absolutely beautiful on you and your mother has such a beautiful heart you can see how much she loves her daughter
I absolutely love her moms face and facial expressions lol.love you mom!
Stopppp... She is just flawless. Gorgeous. Beautiful. Just WOW
Even i started tearing up because its clear that dress reflects who she is. Classy, elegant, unique, fearless, confident.
What a stunningly beautiful bride. Took her mom a minute but she got there.
This girl is one of the most beautiful brides they've ever had. I wish her many years of wedded bliss and babies
She had enough left in the budget for a glamorous tiara.
She has a fabulous face, an elaborate tiara would’ve really worked.
Definitely a first they respected her budget. Definitely need to respect their culture and how family dynamics can be very different than what they are used to dealing with daily. It helps to understand what the parents have issues with and respecting that while helping the bride fulfill their dream gown. Plus many people can’t see the whole picture without seeing a veil, and accessories because not everyone can visualize it in their head. So glad that she found her gown and everyone was happy in the end.
I like the fact that the daughter didn't have an argument with her mom ..she was so nice .... Other bride on this show had it out with their mom .
You don’t argue with a African parent.Unless of course you woke up and chose death instead go ahead.
Loved the dress at the end. Only fourteen hundred, the price is amazing.
Thought the family were lovely and the lady herself was so sweet. She looked amazing. Also the sales assistant looked so happy too for her.
Her family was annoying.
Mom likes bling and she's not afraid to say it. It really is a beautiful dress and her daughter is so pretty.
I'm confused why she needs a 2-in-1 dress if she's changing into cultural attire for the reception.
The first dress she fell in love with just happened to be and 2-in-1 so she probably wanted something similar in budget. And why not since it was frickin gorgeous on her? But clearly she just wanted a dress she liked and didn't insist on a 2-in-1.
Two different ceremonies, one civil and the other is traditional, likely on 2 different days.
Mother looks like she's never cracked a smile in her life.
😂😂
True
Seemed to me that Mother did not like the look of white wedding dresses, implying they lack class and she will perhaps be much happier with the Guian wedding clothes I bet she will be smiling then. The bride to be looked beautiful and there was a marked difference in their acceptance of what 'class' was. I am glad the Mother appeared to come round in the end but I bet she was still critical of the dress once home - oh, dear! My Mother would have been the same if she had seen me in Guain wedding attire. Young people have so much to deal with in this generation game. I wish the bride to be and her handsome husband all the very best.
@@riastuart6209 Mum is not GHANAIAN.
@@PKAYSO16 No, I know she is Barbian butr the colourful weddings of other places are beautiful in comparison to the whites and pastels in Uk and USA.
It is the groom who is ghanaian (thanks for correction is spelling? but the colour and carnival atmosphere will be there, for sure!
Beautiful bride and family. I'm glad her mom chilled out at the end.
She looks absolutely GORGEOUS.
Chengetai is so lovely in any dress and beautiful.
Everytime I watch these episodes of SYTDD, I remember why Gok is the best bridal consultant lmao
i can't choose this dress, without my mum's love in it 🖤 there .. she stole my heart. so thoughtful
Mother’s need to let their daughter’s make their only
choice when choosing their
their wedding dress, she is
the one getting married👩❤️👨
This dress was suppose to excell the Kente reception dress I designed .Yvonne do you know any African mum or culture? Anyway you can get your opinions across. I really needed an Oscar for my performance . The wedding was 4 yrs ago
@@hazelsalmon4948 At this time
We are focus on praying for
family’s that need spiritual
help in America🙏🏾
A belt changes her mind? No. She did that for her daughter. God bless her, what a wonderful thing for her to do. Now that's a Mom. ♥️
Once they put the veil and gave her the flowers and I could see the mom tearing up-I cried. This was one of the first that actually brought a tears to my eyes. What a gorgeous bride! She deserves it!
I just saw a short clip of their wedding on TH-cam. Chenge looked stunning especially with her jewelry and the wedding was so beautiful 😍
Oh man... I loved that whole entire thing on her... it really pulled together so nicely. Some people like to stick to a pre determined plan, I mean why else did we plan? But when something else makes the bride just as happy, or happier, to heck with the plan, its plan b now baby!
The bride to be fits perfectly in that last dress; it's stunning on her!
I do like that the mother didn't back down with the MAGIC of a veil. Like, that's what the show forces obviously. But it's nice to see a POC mother not throwing up a huge fuss but being like, nah I don't like it, sorry. Seems more real
love the whole fam and the dress too. The mom is a very typical Zimbabwean mom, love her too!
Gosh her first pick (the over-budget one) was BEAUTIFUL
Her hair is absolutely fabulous!!!
Awww .... momma crying at the end. On my 3rd box of tissues here!!
We need a SY2TD Plus Size edition. All of the brides are model shapes and gorgeous. I personally would love to see some plus size brides.
Just out curve bridal boutique with jo and al :)
There is version for plus size and is really lovely
Curvy Brides Boutique...there's also a show here on YT called The Perfect Fit, by People TV...I'd also watch the Lancashire version--many shapes and sizes on that show, and Auntie Gok is amazing! :)
There IS one - on YT for many years (although never saw it on TV): Curvy Brides Boutique.
The Perfect Fit. The brides look BEAUTIFUL
Going to that specific shop wouldn't be my first reflex to find an under budget gown but ok
😂😂
It depends on what you consider to be under budget. Some people think 2,000 dollars is cheap. Because they may make a really good income.
@@ladennayoung2939 yes but whatever your budget is, this shop always manages to go over. And since the brides problem was finding a dress that's in her budget I was surprised she picked this shop that's all
I LOVE that she gave her and her husband’s full African names
How could the mom not like the mermaid? It was GORGEOUS! Plus she looked bangin' in it. Not many can wear a mermaid like that.
Dress 1. "Showing too much skin and it's too long". - I feel confused with that comment 😅.
Dress 2. "Too plain". Also confused coz it has the laces, the overlay skirts.
Dress 3. "Too many ruffles (few minutes later) ... too plain". Also another confusing comment haha.
Scripted darling.I won an Oscar . Mum
All she can wear is her beautiful full Natural hair on her wedding day and people would gasp at her sight. Gosh, melanin is just breathtaking..... Zimbabwean and Ghanaian, what a match 💘
The dress she wasn’t able to purchase at the other bridal boutique was beautifullllll on her. What a shame :(
Definitely. That dress was so unique and beautiful!
The bride, the groom and very member of her entourage is gorgeous. The dress was the icing on the cake.
What one person thinks is class, the ruffles, the diamanté, too much. She’s pretty though and has a great figure.
compared to the pretty Victorian looking dress she liked before, those ruffles have cheapened the look
For a girl that is Zimbabwean that is a typical Zim mom 🥰
It makes me so upset when the entourage especially the mother isn’t supportive or nice at all, like I’m sure they wanted only the best for her, but to put every dress down, to not even tell her she looks gorgeous, which she does, just bothers me. Be nicer 🤷🏻♀️
The wedding was 4yrs ago. She looked gorgeous with a similar dress. She got rid of organza ruffles , for lace ruffles. Both of my daughters are stunning and gorgeous and I am so used and forget to comment. Thanks for your comment
WOW she's breathtaking, absolutely beautiful, the dress enhances her beauty
How GORGEOUS and sweet is the bride? GAAHH!!! She'd be stunning in ANYTHING!
And this is exactly why everyone will know what dress I CHOOSE when I walk down the aisle, lol I don't need anyone's negativity raining all up on me.
Stunning bride! I love the dress on her, the belt really makes it. Best wished to her and her groom. ❤
Whats the point of the double look if there's already a second dress
Her mum reminds me of my High school Principal. The facial expressions
The dress in the back during her interview will look stunning on her also her dress with ruffle is beautiful