Not quite. It's not so much you're rejecting yourself, but being self-conscious of your SMV and syllogizing that based on where you stand, you're probably not going to get what you're looking for. If you're 5'10" skinny fat with an average face making 50k living in a 1-room apartment, you're probably not going to be able to get more than a 3-4/10 who's fast approaching the wall, if not already hit it. It wouldn't necessarily be that easy either, since even if they're 3/10, you're competing with other guys your level. I was a 7.5-8 facially at 6'4" in my prime, had at least half a dozen 6-7s approach me or give off signals they were interested, and this wasn't at a club or bar, just random places like a car show, airport etc. So my sex appeal was great, but my social skills are a 2, not to mention I'm a degenerate gambler still living with his parents, so I knew where I stood. Could I have possibly hit it once? Maybe. But after ghosting her, there was also the chance I could be accused of rape. So I either ignored them or gave off close-ended responses that made them lose interest.
@@StatesofnewIsraelwatch the video fully. In most cases not every case being different etc etc… ofcourse everyone has the different position and different situation so thats why u shouldn’t deny it
@name4391 I'm not denying that what he says applies to a lot of guys, hence the lack of confidence. Unfortunately, I probably have mild Aspergers, although due to being fairly intelligent (Mensabrah), I can somewhat read people. The real issue is I'm super uptight in social situations, it's not so much that I'm timid, I just come off as someone who's constantly analyzing what he should or should not be saying cause everyone seems to be so thin-skinned nowadays. This is why I only surround myself with like-minded individuals online and force myself to put on a mask of normalcy whenever I interact with normies, albeit you can see through the cracks if you're around me for enough time. The bigger issue is I genuinely hate the majority of people cause they seem borderline retarded, and that's not a dig on them, they're just operating on a much lower frequency, and I lack the patience or empathy to deal with that. Managers have told me in the past I have a tendency to be very callous to anyone who doesn't operate at the same pace as myself, and then there's antisocial tendencies like throwing coworkers under the bus when it benefits me, lack of remorse, impulsiveness, and a general indifference to anyone else.
@@StatesofnewIsrael ok buddy if you know ur flaws why give urself a chance to work on it and fix them. Reading ur comment gives me an energy of a narcissist who thinks himself a better than anyone but at the same time u also mentioned ur problems I understand . I hope u dont get offended.
@name4391 Not offended, I'm aware of where I stand. In many ways, I'm better than most (beat almost every non-pro chess player on Lichess), consistently score 135+ on IQ tests, but in some cases, I'm severely lacking. I've been called a psychopath, a narcissist, a menace to society, a deplorable person, a loser; probably all true to varying extents.
People seriously need to ditch the concept of somebody being "The One", it's an adolescent fantasy that so many adults have failed to grow out of, we need to start adhering to reality
Yeah it's by definition putting her on a pedestal. Even if she is the most compatible and hottest woman in your life, treat her like that and she'll quickly lose attraction. She actually wants to experience the dynamic of uncertainty and comfort, the full emotional expression of competing with other hot women for your attention and interest, and winning you over. Viewing her as "The One" kills any notion of that.
Here's a pro tip for you guys: Get a part time job at a place where alot of women frequent like a clothing store, Target, Starbucks, a gym etc. Not only will you have a chance of meeting someone who works there, but you could flirt with a regular too. You also build your social skills at talking to women since you're forced to talk to them and vice versa. I took a second job at a gym earlier this year only working 12 hours a week and I loved it due to the social aspect of it, didn't even care about the money.
This is good advice, especially post 2020. If you are working in a job where you meet no one and single, you need to get a new job. Same with colleges, etc.. Get a hobby or join something where you meet people. Dont let circumstance of life make you a hermit. This used to not be a thing, but it is now with everything online.
Great advice. I usually work remotely, so I'm mostly stuck at home. But on a part-time job, there's a chance to meet somebody. Recently, I approached a girl at work and things are looking up, we'll see. Hoping to see where this goes after the holidays. Being isolated at home all the time definitely limits chances of meeting women, so we all need to branch out more.
The best job you can have, purely from the standpoint of attracting girls, is working in the club scene. If you're a club promoter, bar tender, or bouncer, you'll eventually get cat one way or another just by the default of you being in that environment regularly.
Some guys even going through high school, just have an insane amount of confidence when they were young, But they didn't have parents giving them anxiety or try and tear down their self esteem, the people around them growing up, built them up and it carries over into adulthood. Smaller guys in school have it rough, Picked last in sports, girls ignore them, parents criticize them ect.. Then when they get older, they're at a constant battle with themselves.
lol I’m a weird case I’m the funny kid I’m like the nonchalant of the chad but to the next level nonchalant to the point t made me known as weird and funny. Even though I used to be average looking everyone thought I got all these girls because of my aura. But I was skinny and no one picked me for sports but I always was one of the fast kids and knocked there asses out the park. I remember this girl said I was like as fast as usain bolt lol it kinda sounded simpy. Hey maybe I was that “cute” type of attractive cause this random girl stared at me the first time we met and called me cute… and I’m not good with girls in that way hineskty. I have extreme easy way with talking to girls since I’m fatherless and have 2 sisters and a mom but I’m constantly constrained by mom and I can’t even have a relationship sooooo…. Whenever a girl asks me out I freak the hell out even if I like them I have to reject them. Maybe it’s also because of this certain ch8dhood traumas I had lol.
There was this one time… it was the last day of primary school which for us would be the last day before highschool. We had like a dance party thing and this girl I liked asked me to dance with her. My instincts kicked in and I immediately rejected her and ran away. I was also the weird kid so it might’ve not been like what I thought it was but the way she approached me was kinda like she was asking me out. Another girl asked me to dance with her but I knew it wasn’t like that so I danced. But that girl I felt like it could’ve just been my imagination and she just wanted to see my funny dancing or something but… imagine if that wasn’t it and I said yes? lol I couldn’t do that.
I had a similar but different experience: High school was chill for me, but wasn't very fruitful, courtesy of peers, parents and teachers mistreatment that came before. And after that I glowed up but I can't leverage it because of social anxiety and avoidant attachment.
Church/religious point is valid. Even though I stand on my beliefs, it’s frustrating to try to date outside of it because I’ve got limited options that share enough ideals with me who I’d be comfortable dating. I’ve dated outside of it many times, and it never works.
I am 30 years old and had to work on myself WITHOUT all these youtube videos growing up and I will tell you, this is the most BASED video I have every watched. Software Engineer, League of Legends, Anime, Gym, Partying, socializing you name it, I've done it. This kid nailed it. I'm impressed. I'm actually quite surprised how well you picked up on these as a 21 year old.
I grew up with a lot of the bottom two tiers (no social life, anime, games, pc nerd, working as a programmer) and none of the top two tiers (no female attention, disliked sports, rarely going out, no assertiveness as I had a lot of social anxiety). Makes sense that I have to overcompensate now.
@PlebiteBaller Tried to socialize a lot when I got to university, started latin because a lot of girls there. But after some years I still didn't have any success. I tried cold approach when I was 22 after finding a related community and I had some success (make outs for the first time) but only at the first months. I had sex for the first time after about 2 years of cold approaching (25 years old, but I am saying 2 years instead of 2.5 because of covid in between), but also I was lucky enough to have a friend who was really good at it and he helped me. Lots of psychological up and downs because of failed cold appraoching. Now, 28 years old, I can have sex a few times a year (let's say 1 to 4 times) if I try and cold approach. But I really have to try a lot and it's both psychologically and time taxing.
It really doesn't matter much what type of entertainment you're into as long as you moderate your indulgence in them.. Having the mentality that "no girl wants me because I like X, Y and Z" is way worse than the actual fact that you like X, Y and Z.. It's important to own who you are and show that you're not insecure, women are attracted to confidence way more than they are turned off by things like anime and video games..
Sadly its the other way around, we like to say that the nerdy behavior is what keeps them single. But its looks and the nerds and sub 5 men just learn they are not welcome no matter what they do. The "weird" behavior comes afterwards. For guys like us its not worth even trying at all.
Your videos are so real and raw that you don’t have to mention stats or studies. As long as you’re a well functioning human being, it’s so easy to relate to and grasp your content.
"Now I know what it is like to be a mid chick" LOL! That's not even a joke which is the sad thing. Also, for computer science majors you could include a lot of engineering majors. I got a degree in mechanical engineering. Eighty-eight percent of all mechanical engineering undergrad majors were male when I attended college. I had to join non-academic clubs, talk to neighbors in my apartment building and complex, and go out to the bars to talk to, not just women, but ordinary, fun people.
Super good advice for everyone. Im no supreme chad but I am in the top 20% I get cold approached by a woman or two every year in a serious way, as in she gives me her number out of no where and this has been consistent for 10 years, but I am fairly isolated. I see men below me in the "absolute rankings" having a much better dating life than me. Building and maintaining a social circle is extremely hard for a lot of us today, but it is the most important thing for dating
I am a "social isolated" guy, not really voluntarily though. I dont have a social circle outside of workmates. Being shy and introverted makes this terrible. I totally agree that its really hard. Its either by online dating, cold approach or not at all.
Being a righteous guy will attract a righteous woman, which is the type of woman a righteous guy would want anyway. Sure it'll take longer, but sometimes the best things don't come easy. And once you get that person it'll be perfect(nothings perfect but you know what i mean lol). If you got your stuff together the girl you want will value you over anything, since righteous guys are just as rare as righteous woman. You still need to be attractive tho.
While the ranking system is engaging, it risks boxing people into stereotypes. Personal growth is fluid and doesn't fit neatly into tiers. A "negative" foundation like social isolation could be the start of a transformative journey for someone, while a "positive" foundation like assertiveness might mask deeper insecurities. At its best, this video could inspire men to reflect on areas of improvement. At its worst, it might overgeneralize and cause some to feel pigeonholed or judged. The ultimate takeaway should be: focus on becoming a better version of yourself, not on fitting into social ideals.
@@Xenozillex Becoming better isn't about following some universal rulebook - it's about figuring out what aligns with your own values and goals. It's a personal journey, not a judgement of others. Growth starts with self-reflection and asking, "what's holding me back from living the life I want?" If someone's happy with where they are, that's great too - it's not about labeling people as good or bad.
I agree in the sense that you should never change yourself for a woman. I guess this list is just for people who are trying to maximize their dating life and since women are the ones who dictate culture, he has to make some generalizations to inform the average man how the average woman would think of certain interests
I totally agree-you should never change yourself just to please a woman or anyone else. The list isn’t a rulebook but more of a perspective on how certain habits or interests might be perceived by the majority. That said, it’s up to you to balance self-awareness with authenticity. The goal is to find someone who appreciates the real you, not a version of you that’s been curated to fit cultural norms.
Short, socially isolated(and awkward, thanks 10+ years of bullying), mostly stay home other than going to college and gym, on the first days of college i tried making friends but instead got humiliated and made fun of, and now everyone kinda has their own little group, not to mention i have no idea what the heck they're talking about most of the time so chiming in is rough, and yes I'm in a STEM field(Mechanical Engineering). I don't drink and don't want to ever start, i don't like it. Blackpilled, check. Overthinker, check. Dad was never really around, check. The only somewhat good foundations were that i had my first kiss at 10yrs old(if that counts for anything) and always played sports up until i started getting bullied heavily at 13. Guess I'm cooked lol
You kinda remind me of myself but. look you didnt get used to put up to with things you liked .wich can mean more things but i feel like you just needed to put this out so you good.If people dont show up to you its not the end of the world. If you seem "cooked " tf that means and try to change it put yourself out to the world and do shit not in corny way but the way you think its right to attract diffrent disscusions and meet likepath people
unsolicited advice: train muay thai or bjj. you will hopefully learn A: not to take a sliver of disrespect. B: not to disrespect others even if you can and want to. someone disrespects you you fucking go for them. disrespect them harder. show them some teeth. we are apes, bullying is ape behaviour, you need to be able to ape them back. It's one of the highest ROI disciplines for a man, especially a fatherless one. I hear no fight in your words, just submission. where's your anger at these bullies? Good shit on going into STEM, and good luck.
Who gives a crap of women love you or not. Be happy with yourself and learn embracing your loneliness doing what you love and earning money. Not everyone is destined to have a partner. Sorry, but if you dont accept that hard truth, you will be miserable
What you need are postive male role models to imitate at first. Either find masculine youtubers or watch older movies where masculine men saving the world was still a thing. Like an infant mind copy and embody those traits and apply them to the real world. You'll notice you'll start to be less awkward and gain respect from both men and women. Also won't hurt to watch some comedians as well. Hope that helps cause it's what worked for me
I think we are running out of ideas eh? The more social, more you party, the more you work out, the less you overthink, less you care the more girls you get, yeah no shit
Those ones are obvious, but the commentary is important. He speaks golden nuggets of truth for every item, ESPECIALLY for the "bad foundation tier" such as "overthinker" and "lover boy".
doesn't hurt to get reminded and think about the details. some people are also just oblivious and have no idea where to start or are not aware that they are hurting there chances.
Sort of adding onto what you said about CS majors, as a CS major myself, I feel like most, if not all CS dudes are primarily focused on their careers, getting a job at a FAANG company, etc. rather than focused on getting a girlfriend. I go to a pretty good CS school, if I went up to most of these dudes in my classes and asked if they had to choose between a job at FAANG and a loving/loyal girlfriend most of them would choose the FAANG job 100%. I never see the other dudes in my classes at the bars or clubs either, they just stick to themselves for the most part, play video games with each other etc. and don't take many risks towards women. Add onto this most CS women aren't that social either. Most CS girls I've been friends with haven't been very adventerous or talkative. I've been doing CS for 4 years now, and the first time I met a decent value CS woman that was relatively interesting was at my gym a few months ago. She's nerdy yes of course but she likes to travel, and in the gym she's hella strong, definitely looks feminine and she already has a full time job while doing a Master's at the same time.
I don’t understand why CS dudes chase FAANG jobs i worked at Apple. Corporate america is not worth it there are so many more opportunities out here in tech where you could make 6 figures or more without being at a FAANG people just want the clout and bragging rights. Those companies are not long term you can get laid off at anytime
At the end of the day - you got to cold approach. Or approach with chosing signals. Friend circles post 23 kinda disapear. By 25 people got their own stuff going on completely. You might have 3-5 friends but thats it. And you don't hang out with them that often. By 30 you might meet your friend like twice a year. It is what it is. If a woman is interested - she will show that even if you are a NASA astronaut that is 80 percent outside earth. People are not really that open to friends once you get to your 20s. Just get out of the house. Something will happen.
17:20 I'd also add combat sports to that, even if you're doing them when you're older. Not only is it a massive confidence boost and goes relatively hand in hand with the overthinking aspect, but you'll also be able to handle dicey situations much better which women would probably pick up on at least subconsciously.
I swear if you’re a challenger in league you actually got aura to e-girls. I have a friend who’s challenger and he met his girlfriend through league and he told me egirls used to spam him because they see it as high status.
Yeah one thing I will say is that not all PVP games are created equal when it comes to women. I think like fighting games for example and being into those is way worse than being into League, Valorant, or Fortnite for example. At least with the latter games there’s a pretty okay chunk of women who play them and I’ve spoken to women who have met dudes irl off of those games lol. Fighting games on the other hand, few or no women play them AND they’re extremely grind-y if you want to be good like League is. Thoughts?
One of my bros is like 5'6, fat, average job (taxi driver), he still gets women no issue at all because he's simply a naturally open guy and he takes no **** from anyone A good smile and a confident attitude is all his has and its all he seems to need
Great list, but disagree to some extend on the religious one; why? If you go to church etc. there is a whole community, with multiple families and friends groups attached to it. If you are in that environment on a frequent basis and get to know the people there, there will be options coming your way (just like the 'social circle' you ranked high).
yeah it's another social circle with good options as long as your church is positive. although i feel like it would get harder if you are older and new versus being young. I grew up going to our church but then dropped out completely for over a decade meanwhile all my old friends got married. definitely took the wrong path
The problem is that in general if I am in a group of people often I feel as though I can't be myself. So I don't feel that much of a connection to people and feel as though I am losing myself.
5:25 100% having a guy best friend who is ambitious, competitive, smart etc. is just a cheat code to fkn life.... hopefully can find that one day, the masses of mfs who get friendzoned by women or those who get a gf and then drop their dude friends... thats brutal
ngl i had the most happiness w women when i quitted social media and did a bunch of dumb stuff like yell weird jokes in class or say super out of pocket things, even when i was ugly so i wouldnt even say looks matter at all cuz they was a bunch of 10s too, just do a bunch of things daily and surround urself w the fun people instead of the complainers who vent about dating issues and youll be the average of the 5 fun ppl (girls like fun they dont want that one sorry loser who feels bad about himself 24/7 like imagine tryna fall for someone who constantly brings up trauma and bad experiences-)
just do things that make you happy bro youll be EXTREMELY more confident and fun to be around when you can always talk about good experiences youll be doing like make peoples days sometimes, i used to always have my own things going on like playing music and going to late night concerts/playing sports and going to crazy fun and exhausting games, deadass the key to get women is just to not think of them as only dating options, trust me bro id rather have hundreds of female friends who i gladly started talking to in a platonic way and kept at it for years to come instead of constantly getting hurt tryna seek more then that. summary: do fun stuff in ur life, seek being friends w women not dates and keep your head up no matter anything and youll attract positive people who help you DEVELOP confidence and high self esteem, people always say be confident but the real meaning of confidence is constantly being told youre enough by others and being appreciated.
@@KevinKevin-qp1lg idk bro i dont need women friends or have trouble with women xD but due to my lifestyle and introvert etc. i haven't found the type of guy friend i'd have liked,,, well,,, yet sounds kinda gay ngl
dudes are idiots nowadays, they use their guy friends to get women instead of making an actual friend. then they just leave. damaging actions from the people that call you “friends”
Definitely profit of your social life if you're still in school because after you're out it's going to be harder to make friends and it will impact your dating life negatively.
Merry Christmas bro man. Nice video. While I do work in the stem field, I’m 27 years old making 6 figures and did 6 years of service in the military. I can agree some of my colleagues at work who were much more hardcore comp sci majors aren’t the best when it comes to just general socializing. I’m single but also play soccer and surf too so I have the sports foundation for one plus side.
I dont care. I wont reject myself for a woman. I love myself for who i am and i love my house and i have my own preferences and hobbies. Lol. Not taking any risks to let a woman ruin my life. I have ny faith and principles. Why would i try to impress a woman for validation. Thats lame
As a CS major, I am offended, but I totally get where the stereotype is coming from. I have been going to the gym regularly for about 2 years now, and in my class, there are only about 2% of people who exercise regularly. Most CS students tend to hang out in a really nerdy type of group, socializing on Discord all day instead of in real life, and I’m not joking-the not-showering stereotypes are real. Now I try to socialize outside of my major by joining clubs, the gym, etc. I’m only in this CS major because I like doing computer stuff and have been good at math ever since I was a kid, but this is really not the type of friends/colleagues I was hoping for, lol.
Honestly the anime doesn't do any damage, I've had girls thought it was really cute when I made anime references or talked about it. It's about being yourself, and that will carry you further than anything on this list.
The part where you only really need one friend for it to snowball into a friend group is so true. I was isolating myself by playing video games until I met a guy in a match, and we started playing together. Later, his girlfriend joined our little group, and we started playing with her too, and I eventually befriended her as well. After a couple of months, we met up in real life for her birthday, and, to no one's surprise, there were a bunch of girls I was able to talk to. Coincidentally, one of those girls lives near my town and I got into a relationship with her eventually. I never really lacked confidence-my height (thank God for that) gave me all the confidence I ever needed-but I just wanted to play video games so much. I was never allowed to play a lot as a kid, so when I moved out, it was pretty much all I wanted to do. I learned about the black pill and took advantage of it, which boosted my confidence about eventually finding a girl. But it was that one male friend who was basically the one who got the ball rolling for me.
i notice a lot of your advices and principles are based on or coincides with the teachings of ‘ The way of the superior man ‘ , and your videos feel like a great modernised ,practical version of that book with combination of understanding what’s actually going on in modern dating scene and life in general , and a blend of self improvement , that’s why i find your videos so interesting and informative , it’s a brilliant blend of the traditional and the modern with an open mind and good intention rather than toxicity of getting into extremity of red , blue and black pill , in short , great job 👍
This comment means a lot man, thank you. I’ve read the way of the superior man at least 4 times, so naturally it seeps into what I speak about. Very cool someone noticed 🤝🤝
I’m most of everything on the lower tier lol. Over thinker, no sports, video games, no attention as a kid, single mother, bullied in school, lone wolf, nerdy yapper. Technically, I should be cooked. But I’m married. Lol. There’s always hope fellas. Women aren’t as 1 dimensional as we may think.
In my free time I watch anime and I play video games (with my now engaged gf) and I go to the gym. We have a very healthy relationship but maybe we are an exception
@ Yes. Its a bit complicated because I travel a lot between 2 countries because of work and family but I have around 2/3 very close male friends in each country.
As a homebody "lover boy" who tries to be righteous all the time, I often feel exhausted, isolated, and like it's straight up over for me. At least I'm "assertive" (more accurately, I just like to be chill and not gaf about what others think of me) and am consciously expanding my social circle for the first time in my life (I'm 24)
I was bullied during my school days but i fought back and slowly in the last few years of my school life i started taking stand for myself but by that time my brain had already gotten into that bad effects of bullying state but after highschool i worked on myslef, workout and improved my social skills became very attractive and now i can atleast talk with people normally and can socialize with women or men it doesn't matter as. It takes time but you have to work upon yourself and make your brain feel safe and your inner child that its okay, you got this you aren't the same person anymore you can stand up for yourself
The biggest problem is when you’re older (I’m 31) with no friends and trying to find dates and make new friends. I had chronic illness most of my 20s and spent 8 years very isolated. I have extreme arrested development from lack of life experience and don’t relate to people my age well because they are mainly settling down and having kids. I, on the other hand, feel 18 inside. At this point, it’s a lot harder asking out girls at the mall and Starbucks and stuff because they are 10+ years younger than me and while I’m fine with that I don’t want to come across like a creep.
Growing up playing alot of Sports & with alot of friends definitely helps you with your behaviour with girls. It makes you competitive & socially aware then the average person.
2:00 I'll be honest I don't see many people that are out going. It's kind of a problem and hard to actually find your match, idk if it's the same for women.
damn this video roasted me 😭 i usually stay home im an overthinker and a programmer but id love to change this, i just dont know what to do besides going out w my classmates (and girls too ofc which i talk to sometimes, just not too often) any advices? idk if i would be able to cold approach too, i might overthink too much and it might be awkward
Small steps. Anything that steps you out of your comfort zone, no matter how little, is a win. Cold approaching and making friends is something you kind of have to build up to if you’re used to staying home all day and not socializing. It gets way easier over time
most informative and comedic channel, although i gotta admit u aint wrong u gotta grind way 2 hard in league and it does effect ur dating life, but being challenger in league does get you some popularity and a sorta preselection with women getting challenger is what might have put me in "chad" catagory whithin the community sorta cause the girl who i ended up sleeping with i didnt realize it at the time but she was cheating on her boyfriend with me and we met off league, kinda wild tbh but it did happen
"Humans are not born like a Lone Wolf". This is so true. Do ya'll remember the phrase "No man is an island"? Because humans are born as social creatures. We literally can't live without each other. That is the basis why we dominate the planet Earth now: Unity. We 're like brother and sisters here, and one of the sole purpose why we live is to help each other. Stop being so selfish and holing your house for your whole life and get out, touch slme grass, talk face to face.
Bro I just joined my country’s military just to get out and not hang out at home all day. This video is so important because it just slapped all the facts into my face that I probably cope with by lying to myself. I only go out if I have to and I feel socially awkward when talking to people I don’t know well. And I unintentionally come off as rude because they perceive me as unapproachable when it’s just that I didn’t develope any social skills and am not interested in small talk. It feels like I have to wear a mask which feels exhausting in small talk situations. But small talk is important because it gives a glimpse of the persons trust value. I just have one bro whom I talk with about money, investing, psychology, politics, and I enjoy quality time but I understand that you need a network to become more successful in life. Idk if the people in the military will kind of be the people I’d like to have as friends but I go in with no expectations. It’s probably easier to form friendships because you go through stuff together and talk about it. Perhaps, I can even relate with them better because they might have similar reasons. But yeah, you’re making one of the most valuable content on TH-cam for guys like me rn and I’m fucking grateful for guys like you!
Yesterday, my bro recognized an old class mate (girl) of us and I just stood there and let them two talk 1 o 1. It’s been perhaps 6 years. And when she kind of did a few steps to me facing me, I just said “bye”. But I noticed how she wanted to say something because she also made eye contact. That’s the type of rudeness I mean. I just cut her off, ended it and seem unapproachable just because I had no interest in talking to her. Kinda feel bad rn cuz she said she studies psychology and she perhaps knows what I did or felt.
I wouldn't recommend joining the military. The generals and politicians don't care about you and are happy to sacrifice people if they make money from it. They are also not the ones doing the fighting.
If its really bothering you, you can contact her through social media if you have it and just tell her it seemed like she wanted to talk but you guys just didn't have enough time. Or you can just move on and remember that next time it's ok to barge into a conversation especially if it's people you already know
Confirmin the "party animal". As an Ex-Fat-Mature-man DJ, I always have some options, mostly with lesbians an bi-sexual girls. Most men I know, would "sold their souls" for a fate like that.
I'm a woman studying at a computer science school, and the ratio of men to women is heavily skewed-there are significantly more men than women. At our school, there are, of course, some nerdy and anti-social people, but there are also plenty who are more outgoing and don’t look too bad. Since there are so few girls compared to guys, you can imagine that a few of them have tried to talk to us over time
23:21 building a muscular foundation for say 2 years~ of bulking natty then leaning down to 10%~ body fat is the best thing genetically less fortunate people can do to compete
I have a "community", close friends I meet every week, a group of around 15 people in total, 50-50 male and female. Still no options for a girlfriend and I'm not ugly
That CS Major shit hit home kinda. And the reason why I'm saying "kinda", is because I really am the orange inside the bananas. I've seen nerds, bottom-dwelling weebs, creeps, furries. I might be the only person in my class that just outperforms most of them, dresses with trapstar, jordan, nike etc., smells good (wearing colognes), has a good hygiene and goes to the fucking gym. I also socialize a lot since I am on beatmaking & sound engineering, and football as a hobby. It REALLY is THAT simple to stand out in this domain. Just be like other people that got nothing to do with CS, and you'll stand out completely.
Regarding 20:00, Bible Study or YAG (Young Adult Groups) are your main place to go. But don't go in there if you are not a believer because girls won't buy your BS.
the idea that not putting yourself out there is the same as rejecting yourself is a great observation, total perspective shift.
Not quite. It's not so much you're rejecting yourself, but being self-conscious of your SMV and syllogizing that based on where you stand, you're probably not going to get what you're looking for. If you're 5'10" skinny fat with an average face making 50k living in a 1-room apartment, you're probably not going to be able to get more than a 3-4/10 who's fast approaching the wall, if not already hit it. It wouldn't necessarily be that easy either, since even if they're 3/10, you're competing with other guys your level.
I was a 7.5-8 facially at 6'4" in my prime, had at least half a dozen 6-7s approach me or give off signals they were interested, and this wasn't at a club or bar, just random places like a car show, airport etc. So my sex appeal was great, but my social skills are a 2, not to mention I'm a degenerate gambler still living with his parents, so I knew where I stood. Could I have possibly hit it once? Maybe. But after ghosting her, there was also the chance I could be accused of rape. So I either ignored them or gave off close-ended responses that made them lose interest.
@@StatesofnewIsraelwatch the video fully. In most cases not every case being different etc etc… ofcourse everyone has the different position and different situation so thats why u shouldn’t deny it
@name4391 I'm not denying that what he says applies to a lot of guys, hence the lack of confidence. Unfortunately, I probably have mild Aspergers, although due to being fairly intelligent (Mensabrah), I can somewhat read people. The real issue is I'm super uptight in social situations, it's not so much that I'm timid, I just come off as someone who's constantly analyzing what he should or should not be saying cause everyone seems to be so thin-skinned nowadays.
This is why I only surround myself with like-minded individuals online and force myself to put on a mask of normalcy whenever I interact with normies, albeit you can see through the cracks if you're around me for enough time.
The bigger issue is I genuinely hate the majority of people cause they seem borderline retarded, and that's not a dig on them, they're just operating on a much lower frequency, and I lack the patience or empathy to deal with that. Managers have told me in the past I have a tendency to be very callous to anyone who doesn't operate at the same pace as myself, and then there's antisocial tendencies like throwing coworkers under the bus when it benefits me, lack of remorse, impulsiveness, and a general indifference to anyone else.
@@StatesofnewIsrael ok buddy if you know ur flaws why give urself a chance to work on it and fix them. Reading ur comment gives me an energy of a narcissist who thinks himself a better than anyone but at the same time u also mentioned ur problems I understand . I hope u dont get offended.
@name4391 Not offended, I'm aware of where I stand. In many ways, I'm better than most (beat almost every non-pro chess player on Lichess), consistently score 135+ on IQ tests, but in some cases, I'm severely lacking. I've been called a psychopath, a narcissist, a menace to society, a deplorable person, a loser; probably all true to varying extents.
Signs you’re being cheated on/ Signs she’s gonna leave soon tier list
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If she has more than 2 good looking guy friends
@@binks69count don’t matter, girls should not have male friends
Almost all people cheat especially women, its not worth getting into a relationship at all.
travis hunter tier list
People seriously need to ditch the concept of somebody being "The One", it's an adolescent fantasy that so many adults have failed to grow out of, we need to start adhering to reality
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Yeah it's by definition putting her on a pedestal. Even if she is the most compatible and hottest woman in your life, treat her like that and she'll quickly lose attraction. She actually wants to experience the dynamic of uncertainty and comfort, the full emotional expression of competing with other hot women for your attention and interest, and winning you over. Viewing her as "The One" kills any notion of that.
tbh I only want a woman who cares about me and loves me
@@AndWeWillNeverBeAloneAgain Then listen to the guy above u
@@ybctoocold Social circle game after college is dead bro.
Here's a pro tip for you guys: Get a part time job at a place where alot of women frequent like a clothing store, Target, Starbucks, a gym etc. Not only will you have a chance of meeting someone who works there, but you could flirt with a regular too. You also build your social skills at talking to women since you're forced to talk to them and vice versa.
I took a second job at a gym earlier this year only working 12 hours a week and I loved it due to the social aspect of it, didn't even care about the money.
If i did that with my looks id be in jail in less than a day lol
@thesaddestdude3575 Your literrly doing your job added with the benefits of talking to girls
This is good advice, especially post 2020. If you are working in a job where you meet no one and single, you need to get a new job. Same with colleges, etc.. Get a hobby or join something where you meet people. Dont let circumstance of life make you a hermit. This used to not be a thing, but it is now with everything online.
Great advice. I usually work remotely, so I'm mostly stuck at home. But on a part-time job, there's a chance to meet somebody. Recently, I approached a girl at work and things are looking up, we'll see. Hoping to see where this goes after the holidays. Being isolated at home all the time definitely limits chances of meeting women, so we all need to branch out more.
The best job you can have, purely from the standpoint of attracting girls, is working in the club scene. If you're a club promoter, bar tender, or bouncer, you'll eventually get cat one way or another just by the default of you being in that environment regularly.
Some guys even going through high school, just have an insane amount of confidence when they were young, But they didn't have parents giving them anxiety or try and tear down their self esteem, the people around them growing up, built them up and it carries over into adulthood. Smaller guys in school have it rough, Picked last in sports, girls ignore them, parents criticize them ect.. Then when they get older, they're at a constant battle with themselves.
lol I’m a weird case I’m the funny kid I’m like the nonchalant of the chad but to the next level nonchalant to the point t made me known as weird and funny. Even though I used to be average looking everyone thought I got all these girls because of my aura. But I was skinny and no one picked me for sports but I always was one of the fast kids and knocked there asses out the park. I remember this girl said I was like as fast as usain bolt lol it kinda sounded simpy. Hey maybe I was that “cute” type of attractive cause this random girl stared at me the first time we met and called me cute… and I’m not good with girls in that way hineskty. I have extreme easy way with talking to girls since I’m fatherless and have 2 sisters and a mom but I’m constantly constrained by mom and I can’t even have a relationship sooooo…. Whenever a girl asks me out I freak the hell out even if I like them I have to reject them. Maybe it’s also because of this certain ch8dhood traumas I had lol.
There was this one time… it was the last day of primary school which for us would be the last day before highschool. We had like a dance party thing and this girl I liked asked me to dance with her. My instincts kicked in and I immediately rejected her and ran away. I was also the weird kid so it might’ve not been like what I thought it was but the way she approached me was kinda like she was asking me out. Another girl asked me to dance with her but I knew it wasn’t like that so I danced. But that girl I felt like it could’ve just been my imagination and she just wanted to see my funny dancing or something but… imagine if that wasn’t it and I said yes? lol I couldn’t do that.
I had a similar but different experience: High school was chill for me, but wasn't very fruitful, courtesy of peers, parents and teachers mistreatment that came before. And after that I glowed up but I can't leverage it because of social anxiety and avoidant attachment.
Is that a tear? boohoo
Blame everyone and everything for your circumstances! You're doing great! Gigachad vibes.
Church/religious point is valid. Even though I stand on my beliefs, it’s frustrating to try to date outside of it because I’ve got limited options that share enough ideals with me who I’d be comfortable dating. I’ve dated outside of it many times, and it never works.
Bros content is pure comedy too 🤣 [edit: got more likes in this comment than my own videos]
It is indeed
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Very entertaining
That’s why I watch as well
Not if it applies to you... :/
I am 30 years old and had to work on myself WITHOUT all these youtube videos growing up and I will tell you, this is the most BASED video I have every watched. Software Engineer, League of Legends, Anime, Gym, Partying, socializing you name it, I've done it. This kid nailed it. I'm impressed. I'm actually quite surprised how well you picked up on these as a 21 year old.
Bro I’ve been saying the same thing for the past 2 days since I found this channel dude is advanced af for his age
@@karterkloudwith the added humor. I’m straight cracking up listening to some of these lol
Thank you bro, I’m glad the video resonated with you🫡🫡
Nah, blowing too much smoke up this guys azz. Plenty of crap takes in this vid.
Im nearly 30 as well and 21 year olds are not kids. Theyre adult.
I grew up with a lot of the bottom two tiers (no social life, anime, games, pc nerd, working as a programmer) and none of the top two tiers (no female attention, disliked sports, rarely going out, no assertiveness as I had a lot of social anxiety). Makes sense that I have to overcompensate now.
Same bro, it's okay. We're all gonna make it if we work hard.
so what did you do, did you get a good social circle in later adult age?
play sport, learn to dance eg salsa or latin, learn to cook basic food, learn life skills, camp, TRAVEL (stay at backpackers)..LIVE LIFE
why do you care? why completely change yourself for women?
@PlebiteBaller Tried to socialize a lot when I got to university, started latin because a lot of girls there. But after some years I still didn't have any success. I tried cold approach when I was 22 after finding a related community and I had some success (make outs for the first time) but only at the first months. I had sex for the first time after about 2 years of cold approaching (25 years old, but I am saying 2 years instead of 2.5 because of covid in between), but also I was lucky enough to have a friend who was really good at it and he helped me. Lots of psychological up and downs because of failed cold appraoching. Now, 28 years old, I can have sex a few times a year (let's say 1 to 4 times) if I try and cold approach. But I really have to try a lot and it's both psychologically and time taxing.
bro roasting all the gamers and anime fans. also the nerds and kpop stans. i'm cooked then
It really doesn't matter much what type of entertainment you're into as long as you moderate your indulgence in them.. Having the mentality that "no girl wants me because I like X, Y and Z" is way worse than the actual fact that you like X, Y and Z.. It's important to own who you are and show that you're not insecure, women are attracted to confidence way more than they are turned off by things like anime and video games..
Sadly its the other way around, we like to say that the nerdy behavior is what keeps them single. But its looks and the nerds and sub 5 men just learn they are not welcome no matter what they do. The "weird" behavior comes afterwards. For guys like us its not worth even trying at all.
True gaming and anime are only a good idea if you’re already rich, grind in 20’s
You're fine just date weebs
@@chemical_28 at least i got that part down
I think this is the best tier list channel ngl. The categories he chooses are unique from other channels
Appreciate you 👑
I think out of all the videos you've put out so far, this one is the most valuable.
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Your videos are so real and raw that you don’t have to mention stats or studies. As long as you’re a well functioning human being, it’s so easy to relate to and grasp your content.
Thanks roy, really appreciate all the love you’ve shown the channel man. I see you 💯💯
*Building attraction on superficial traits like money or looks alone is a shaky foundation.*
"Now I know what it is like to be a mid chick" LOL! That's not even a joke which is the sad thing. Also, for computer science majors you could include a lot of engineering majors. I got a degree in mechanical engineering. Eighty-eight percent of all mechanical engineering undergrad majors were male when I attended college. I had to join non-academic clubs, talk to neighbors in my apartment building and complex, and go out to the bars to talk to, not just women, but ordinary, fun people.
he said stem degree
Not a single video fucking misses, and the funny tangents you go off on are hilarious. Best channel I found in a while. Keep it up.
Thanks man 🤝🤝
Super good advice for everyone. Im no supreme chad but I am in the top 20% I get cold approached by a woman or two every year in a serious way, as in she gives me her number out of no where and this has been consistent for 10 years, but I am fairly isolated. I see men below me in the "absolute rankings" having a much better dating life than me. Building and maintaining a social circle is extremely hard for a lot of us today, but it is the most important thing for dating
The importance of a social circle is so underrated
I am a "social isolated" guy, not really voluntarily though. I dont have a social circle outside of workmates. Being shy and introverted makes this terrible.
I totally agree that its really hard. Its either by online dating, cold approach or not at all.
Being a righteous guy will attract a righteous woman, which is the type of woman a righteous guy would want anyway. Sure it'll take longer, but sometimes the best things don't come easy. And once you get that person it'll be perfect(nothings perfect but you know what i mean lol). If you got your stuff together the girl you want will value you over anything, since righteous guys are just as rare as righteous woman. You still need to be attractive tho.
While the ranking system is engaging, it risks boxing people into stereotypes. Personal growth is fluid and doesn't fit neatly into tiers. A "negative" foundation like social isolation could be the start of a transformative journey for someone, while a "positive" foundation like assertiveness might mask deeper insecurities. At its best, this video could inspire men to reflect on areas of improvement. At its worst, it might overgeneralize and cause some to feel pigeonholed or judged. The ultimate takeaway should be: focus on becoming a better version of yourself, not on fitting into social ideals.
bro, how do you 'become better' without knowing whats good and bad? Are you judging people who don't become the mystical 'better'?
@@Xenozillex Becoming better isn't about following some universal rulebook - it's about figuring out what aligns with your own values and goals. It's a personal journey, not a judgement of others. Growth starts with self-reflection and asking, "what's holding me back from living the life I want?" If someone's happy with where they are, that's great too - it's not about labeling people as good or bad.
I agree in the sense that you should never change yourself for a woman. I guess this list is just for people who are trying to maximize their dating life and since women are the ones who dictate culture, he has to make some generalizations to inform the average man how the average woman would think of certain interests
I totally agree-you should never change yourself just to please a woman or anyone else. The list isn’t a rulebook but more of a perspective on how certain habits or interests might be perceived by the majority. That said, it’s up to you to balance self-awareness with authenticity. The goal is to find someone who appreciates the real you, not a version of you that’s been curated to fit cultural norms.
1:27 “im getting wayy to many D” 😐
Short, socially isolated(and awkward, thanks 10+ years of bullying), mostly stay home other than going to college and gym, on the first days of college i tried making friends but instead got humiliated and made fun of, and now everyone kinda has their own little group, not to mention i have no idea what the heck they're talking about most of the time so chiming in is rough, and yes I'm in a STEM field(Mechanical Engineering). I don't drink and don't want to ever start, i don't like it. Blackpilled, check. Overthinker, check. Dad was never really around, check.
The only somewhat good foundations were that i had my first kiss at 10yrs old(if that counts for anything) and always played sports up until i started getting bullied heavily at 13. Guess I'm cooked lol
Just keep working on yourself brother, effort pays off. Wish u all the best.
You kinda remind me of myself but. look you didnt get used to put up to with things you liked .wich can mean more things but i feel like you just needed to put this out so you good.If people dont show up to you its not the end of the world. If you seem "cooked " tf that means and try to change it put yourself out to the world and do shit not in corny way but the way you think its right to attract diffrent disscusions and meet likepath people
unsolicited advice: train muay thai or bjj. you will hopefully learn A: not to take a sliver of disrespect. B: not to disrespect others even if you can and want to.
someone disrespects you you fucking go for them. disrespect them harder. show them some teeth.
we are apes, bullying is ape behaviour, you need to be able to ape them back.
It's one of the highest ROI disciplines for a man, especially a fatherless one.
I hear no fight in your words, just submission. where's your anger at these bullies?
Good shit on going into STEM, and good luck.
Who gives a crap of women love you or not. Be happy with yourself and learn embracing your loneliness doing what you love and earning money. Not everyone is destined to have a partner. Sorry, but if you dont accept that hard truth, you will be miserable
What you need are postive male role models to imitate at first. Either find masculine youtubers or watch older movies where masculine men saving the world was still a thing. Like an infant mind copy and embody those traits and apply them to the real world. You'll notice you'll start to be less awkward and gain respect from both men and women. Also won't hurt to watch some comedians as well. Hope that helps cause it's what worked for me
I think we are running out of ideas eh? The more social, more you party, the more you work out, the less you overthink, less you care the more girls you get, yeah no shit
Lol facts
Fax
Those ones are obvious, but the commentary is important. He speaks golden nuggets of truth for every item, ESPECIALLY for the "bad foundation tier" such as "overthinker" and "lover boy".
doesn't hurt to get reminded and think about the details. some people are also just oblivious and have no idea where to start or are not aware that they are hurting there chances.
That’s a pretty harsh summary of the list but I’ll take it
Sort of adding onto what you said about CS majors, as a CS major myself, I feel like most, if not all CS dudes are primarily focused on their careers, getting a job at a FAANG company, etc. rather than focused on getting a girlfriend. I go to a pretty good CS school, if I went up to most of these dudes in my classes and asked if they had to choose between a job at FAANG and a loving/loyal girlfriend most of them would choose the FAANG job 100%. I never see the other dudes in my classes at the bars or clubs either, they just stick to themselves for the most part, play video games with each other etc. and don't take many risks towards women. Add onto this most CS women aren't that social either. Most CS girls I've been friends with haven't been very adventerous or talkative. I've been doing CS for 4 years now, and the first time I met a decent value CS woman that was relatively interesting was at my gym a few months ago. She's nerdy yes of course but she likes to travel, and in the gym she's hella strong, definitely looks feminine and she already has a full time job while doing a Master's at the same time.
I don’t understand why CS dudes chase FAANG jobs i worked at Apple. Corporate america is not worth it there are so many more opportunities out here in tech where you could make 6 figures or more without being at a FAANG people just want the clout and bragging rights. Those companies are not long term you can get laid off at anytime
CS guys are locked in. Gotta respect it
As a non-anime guy I've seen them pull! they got a whole niche of cute, submissive anime girls they will have a leg up on
At the end of the day - you got to cold approach. Or approach with chosing signals. Friend circles post 23 kinda disapear. By 25 people got their own stuff going on completely. You might have 3-5 friends but thats it. And you don't hang out with them that often. By 30 you might meet your friend like twice a year. It is what it is. If a woman is interested - she will show that even if you are a NASA astronaut that is 80 percent outside earth. People are not really that open to friends once you get to your 20s. Just get out of the house. Something will happen.
17:20 I'd also add combat sports to that, even if you're doing them when you're older. Not only is it a massive confidence boost and goes relatively hand in hand with the overthinking aspect, but you'll also be able to handle dicey situations much better which women would probably pick up on at least subconsciously.
I swear if you’re a challenger in league you actually got aura to e-girls. I have a friend who’s challenger and he met his girlfriend through league and he told me egirls used to spam him because they see it as high status.
yeah good luck getting challenger
Yeah if you're among 0.05% best ppl at anything chicks approach you, shocking xD
@@grayhat_9x does it work if I'm among 0.0006% toxic people that get perma banned from lol ?
Yeah one thing I will say is that not all PVP games are created equal when it comes to women. I think like fighting games for example and being into those is way worse than being into League, Valorant, or Fortnite for example. At least with the latter games there’s a pretty okay chunk of women who play them and I’ve spoken to women who have met dudes irl off of those games lol. Fighting games on the other hand, few or no women play them AND they’re extremely grind-y if you want to be good like League is. Thoughts?
Could probably get the same aura if you are masters. Diamond not so much anymore.
One of my bros is like 5'6, fat, average job (taxi driver), he still gets women no issue at all because he's simply a naturally open guy and he takes no **** from anyone
A good smile and a confident attitude is all his has and its all he seems to need
ya thats totally the norm man....., my lying eyes have be deceiving me this whole time i guess rofl.
But you’re leaving a lot of details out
Such as the women’s age, looks, financial status and if they have kids already or not
Living in the west should be on the list at the bottom
Women in other countries are the same if not worse thanks to social media
nah I am blackpill but I see it as a huge positive at motivation
If you were really black pill you would understand its over.
@@thesaddestdude3575
Real black pill is iman ul qadr, realising that God might have planned something else than settling down with a lady.
@@thesaddestdude3575 not if u are not sub 5. its over for sub 5.
Great list, but disagree to some extend on the religious one; why? If you go to church etc. there is a whole community, with multiple families and friends groups attached to it. If you are in that environment on a frequent basis and get to know the people there, there will be options coming your way (just like the 'social circle' you ranked high).
yeah it's another social circle with good options as long as your church is positive. although i feel like it would get harder if you are older and new versus being young. I grew up going to our church but then dropped out completely for over a decade meanwhile all my old friends got married. definitely took the wrong path
It's officially Joever
Never began for most 🥴🖕
The problem is that in general if I am in a group of people often I feel as though I can't be myself. So I don't feel that much of a connection to people and feel as though I am losing myself.
Being alone is better than being with the wrong people. When you’re with the right friends you vibe with, it doesn’t always feel that way.
5:25 100% having a guy best friend who is ambitious, competitive, smart etc. is just a cheat code to fkn life.... hopefully can find that one day, the masses of mfs who get friendzoned by women or those who get a gf and then drop their dude friends... thats brutal
ngl i had the most happiness w women when i quitted social media and did a bunch of dumb stuff like yell weird jokes in class or say super out of pocket things, even when i was ugly so i wouldnt even say looks matter at all cuz they was a bunch of 10s too, just do a bunch of things daily and surround urself w the fun people instead of the complainers who vent about dating issues and youll be the average of the 5 fun ppl (girls like fun they dont want that one sorry loser who feels bad about himself 24/7 like imagine tryna fall for someone who constantly brings up trauma and bad experiences-)
just do things that make you happy bro youll be EXTREMELY more confident and fun to be around when you can always talk about good experiences youll be doing like make peoples days sometimes, i used to always have my own things going on like playing music and going to late night concerts/playing sports and going to crazy fun and exhausting games, deadass the key to get women is just to not think of them as only dating options, trust me bro id rather have hundreds of female friends who i gladly started talking to in a platonic way and kept at it for years to come instead of constantly getting hurt tryna seek more then that.
summary: do fun stuff in ur life, seek being friends w women not dates and keep your head up no matter anything and youll attract positive people who help you DEVELOP confidence and high self esteem, people always say be confident but the real meaning of confidence is constantly being told youre enough by others and being appreciated.
@@KevinKevin-qp1lg idk bro i dont need women friends or have trouble with women xD but due to my lifestyle and introvert etc. i haven't found the type of guy friend i'd have liked,,, well,,, yet sounds kinda gay ngl
dudes are idiots nowadays, they use their guy friends to get women instead of making an actual friend. then they just leave. damaging actions from the people that call you “friends”
@@gpercreeper9413 jep so many weak men around, either mentally and or physically...
Damn bro. Thanks for the video. Keep making more.
There should be another tier for League of Legends players specifically 😂
Definitely profit of your social life if you're still in school because after you're out it's going to be harder to make friends and it will impact your dating life negatively.
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Always imagine you with a whiteboard explaining this to me like im a student 😂
I didnt sleep for 12 hours i imagine him as Dolphin muzzle in auditorium explaining me how to pull. 😭
These videos just get better and better
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Merry Christmas bro man. Nice video. While I do work in the stem field, I’m 27 years old making 6 figures and did 6 years of service in the military. I can agree some of my colleagues at work who were much more hardcore comp sci majors aren’t the best when it comes to just general socializing. I’m single but also play soccer and surf too so I have the sports foundation for one plus side.
Only channel I got notifications on for
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Really good video man, i'ma make sure my son play sports when he's young
I dont care. I wont reject myself for a woman. I love myself for who i am and i love my house and i have my own preferences and hobbies. Lol. Not taking any risks to let a woman ruin my life. I have ny faith and principles. Why would i try to impress a woman for validation. Thats lame
i know seriously, i'm not changing. i'm too old for that shit
I agree with you but bro y are you here then lol
@@kyleball8396 we like the content lol
As a CS major, I am offended, but I totally get where the stereotype is coming from. I have been going to the gym regularly for about 2 years now, and in my class, there are only about 2% of people who exercise regularly. Most CS students tend to hang out in a really nerdy type of group, socializing on Discord all day instead of in real life, and I’m not joking-the not-showering stereotypes are real. Now I try to socialize outside of my major by joining clubs, the gym, etc. I’m only in this CS major because I like doing computer stuff and have been good at math ever since I was a kid, but this is really not the type of friends/colleagues I was hoping for, lol.
Honestly the anime doesn't do any damage, I've had girls thought it was really cute when I made anime references or talked about it. It's about being yourself, and that will carry you further than anything on this list.
The part where you only really need one friend for it to snowball into a friend group is so true.
I was isolating myself by playing video games until I met a guy in a match, and we started playing together. Later, his girlfriend joined our little group, and we started playing with her too, and I eventually befriended her as well. After a couple of months, we met up in real life for her birthday, and, to no one's surprise, there were a bunch of girls I was able to talk to. Coincidentally, one of those girls lives near my town and I got into a relationship with her eventually.
I never really lacked confidence-my height (thank God for that) gave me all the confidence I ever needed-but I just wanted to play video games so much. I was never allowed to play a lot as a kid, so when I moved out, it was pretty much all I wanted to do.
I learned about the black pill and took advantage of it, which boosted my confidence about eventually finding a girl. But it was that one male friend who was basically the one who got the ball rolling for me.
Gotta be a trick in this society to win
i notice a lot of your advices and principles are based on or coincides with the teachings of ‘ The way of the superior man ‘ , and your videos feel like a great modernised ,practical version of that book with combination of understanding what’s actually going on in modern dating scene and life in general , and a blend of self improvement , that’s why i find your videos so interesting and informative , it’s a brilliant blend of the traditional and the modern with an open mind and good intention rather than toxicity of getting into extremity of red , blue and black pill , in short , great job 👍
This comment means a lot man, thank you. I’ve read the way of the superior man at least 4 times, so naturally it seeps into what I speak about. Very cool someone noticed 🤝🤝
Man never disappoints to upload another banger
Thank you brother
I’m most of everything on the lower tier lol. Over thinker, no sports, video games, no attention as a kid, single mother, bullied in school, lone wolf, nerdy yapper. Technically, I should be cooked.
But I’m married. Lol. There’s always hope fellas. Women aren’t as 1 dimensional as we may think.
What are you doing here then
You got lucky. And she knows that.
Happy for you bro 👑
exception is not the rule.
This is peak entertainment
In my free time I watch anime and I play video games (with my now engaged gf) and I go to the gym. We have a very healthy relationship but maybe we are an exception
do you have any male friends/friend group?
@ Yes. Its a bit complicated because I travel a lot between 2 countries because of work and family but I have around 2/3 very close male friends in each country.
As a homebody "lover boy" who tries to be righteous all the time, I often feel exhausted, isolated, and like it's straight up over for me.
At least I'm "assertive" (more accurately, I just like to be chill and not gaf about what others think of me) and am consciously expanding my social circle for the first time in my life (I'm 24)
You give the best advice in the game 100%
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I was bullied during my school days but i fought back and slowly in the last few years of my school life i started taking stand for myself but by that time my brain had already gotten into that bad effects of bullying state but after highschool i worked on myslef, workout and improved my social skills became very attractive and now i can atleast talk with people normally and can socialize with women or men it doesn't matter as. It takes time but you have to work upon yourself and make your brain feel safe and your inner child that its okay, you got this you aren't the same person anymore you can stand up for yourself
"It's fine, I'm not hating" is code for "You did something wrong bro, turn this shit around ASAP."
The biggest problem is when you’re older (I’m 31) with no friends and trying to find dates and make new friends. I had chronic illness most of my 20s and spent 8 years very isolated.
I have extreme arrested development from lack of life experience and don’t relate to people my age well because they are mainly settling down and having kids. I, on the other hand, feel 18 inside. At this point, it’s a lot harder asking out girls at the mall and Starbucks and stuff because they are 10+ years younger than me and while I’m fine with that I don’t want to come across like a creep.
Growing up playing alot of Sports & with alot of friends definitely helps you with your behaviour with girls. It makes you competitive & socially aware then the average person.
I grew up watching how I met your mother, little did I know barney was the only real one.
fr tho
Facts. Ted got cooked
2:00 I'll be honest I don't see many people that are out going. It's kind of a problem and hard to actually find your match, idk if it's the same for women.
The bully thing really just matters how you came out after it, do you still let people walk on you or do you give them cues of I will fight you
Bro called out travis hunter indirectly with the twitch.
Bro, you got really good information, really good research on this channel
“Now I know what it feels like to be a mid chick”💀
Keep these up i want to challenge myself cause picking up girls has become way too easy
damn this video roasted me 😭 i usually stay home im an overthinker and a programmer
but id love to change this, i just dont know what to do besides going out w my classmates (and girls too ofc which i talk to sometimes, just not too often)
any advices? idk if i would be able to cold approach too, i might overthink too much and it might be awkward
Small steps. Anything that steps you out of your comfort zone, no matter how little, is a win. Cold approaching and making friends is something you kind of have to build up to if you’re used to staying home all day and not socializing. It gets way easier over time
most informative and comedic channel, although i gotta admit u aint wrong u gotta grind way 2 hard in league and it does effect ur dating life, but being challenger in league does get you some popularity and a sorta preselection with women
getting challenger is what might have put me in "chad" catagory whithin the community sorta cause the girl who i ended up sleeping with i didnt realize it at the time but she was cheating on her boyfriend with me and we met off league, kinda wild tbh but it did happen
"Humans are not born like a Lone Wolf". This is so true. Do ya'll remember the phrase "No man is an island"? Because humans are born as social creatures. We literally can't live without each other. That is the basis why we dominate the planet Earth now: Unity. We 're like brother and sisters here, and one of the sole purpose why we live is to help each other. Stop being so selfish and holing your house for your whole life and get out, touch slme grass, talk face to face.
Bro I just joined my country’s military just to get out and not hang out at home all day.
This video is so important because it just slapped all the facts into my face that I probably cope with by lying to myself.
I only go out if I have to and I feel socially awkward when talking to people I don’t know well. And I unintentionally come off as rude because they perceive me as unapproachable when it’s just that I didn’t develope any social skills and am not interested in small talk. It feels like I have to wear a mask which feels exhausting in small talk situations. But small talk is important because it gives a glimpse of the persons trust value.
I just have one bro whom I talk with about money, investing, psychology, politics, and I enjoy quality time but I understand that you need a network to become more successful in life.
Idk if the people in the military will kind of be the people I’d like to have as friends but I go in with no expectations. It’s probably easier to form friendships because you go through stuff together and talk about it. Perhaps, I can even relate with them better because they might have similar reasons.
But yeah, you’re making one of the most valuable content on TH-cam for guys like me rn and I’m fucking grateful for guys like you!
Yesterday, my bro recognized an old class mate (girl) of us and I just stood there and let them two talk 1 o 1. It’s been perhaps 6 years. And when she kind of did a few steps to me facing me, I just said “bye”. But I noticed how she wanted to say something because she also made eye contact. That’s the type of rudeness I mean. I just cut her off, ended it and seem unapproachable just because I had no interest in talking to her.
Kinda feel bad rn cuz she said she studies psychology and she perhaps knows what I did or felt.
I wouldn't recommend joining the military. The generals and politicians don't care about you and are happy to sacrifice people if they make money from it. They are also not the ones doing the fighting.
If its really bothering you, you can contact her through social media if you have it and just tell her it seemed like she wanted to talk but you guys just didn't have enough time. Or you can just move on and remember that next time it's ok to barge into a conversation especially if it's people you already know
I hope you don't live in Ukraine
As a years long blackpiller , I watch your content and approve that your advice will certainly help the average normie to get a gf.
There is no normal
Thank you bro
You’re right Corn addiction is bad i get less mileage and the smell throws people off but the feeling when i gap them is to addicting 🏎️
You a TH-cam God bro
Confirmin the "party animal". As an Ex-Fat-Mature-man DJ, I always have some options, mostly with lesbians an bi-sexual girls. Most men I know, would "sold their souls" for a fate like that.
Oh the Bad boy effect 🤯🤯
I'm a woman studying at a computer science school, and the ratio of men to women is heavily skewed-there are significantly more men than women. At our school, there are, of course, some nerdy and anti-social people, but there are also plenty who are more outgoing and don’t look too bad. Since there are so few girls compared to guys, you can imagine that a few of them have tried to talk to us over time
"im getting hundreds of dm's a day now i know what it feels like to be a mid chick" caught me of guard 🤣🤣🤣🤣
16:29 i was expressing my opinion to a girl like couple days ago. She literally said "it's too logical, i didn't like it"
This is a goodsht content absolute cinema
Not a bad video, I agree with pretty much all your points as a generalization but there are always outliers.
"the one isn't going to spawn in your house" hahahaha
You have some mad quotes my g
I'm cooked. No friend circle. Only a couple of not so close friends, and they don't really do much fun stuff that would attract girls
Cool. preciate your input.
Most based man on YT👏
Idea: Careers girls like tier list
Can you make a video about the guys in your comment section crying how unfair life is and how everyone but themselves are to always to blame?
Bro us physics and engineering majors are cooked 😭
I go outside. I get no eye contact, then I go back inside. The end. Why even bother if women aren’t checking for you or approaching you?
Don’t rely on eye contact. Initiate. You have nothing to lose
Lmao, 99% of girls and women are too chicken to cold approach a guy they like - YOU are gonna have to take the lead.
23:21 building a muscular foundation for say 2 years~ of bulking natty then leaning down to 10%~ body fat is the best thing genetically less fortunate people can do to compete
Being skinny is turnoff if you can't relatively easily lift up a girl.
''Now I know what it's like to be a mid chick.'' Oh snap! 🔥🔥🔥
Never heard the term "foundation" used in this sense until now.
Haha had to get creative
I have a "community", close friends I meet every week, a group of around 15 people in total, 50-50 male and female. Still no options for a girlfriend and I'm not ugly
That CS Major shit hit home kinda. And the reason why I'm saying "kinda", is because I really am the orange inside the bananas. I've seen nerds, bottom-dwelling weebs, creeps, furries. I might be the only person in my class that just outperforms most of them, dresses with trapstar, jordan, nike etc., smells good (wearing colognes), has a good hygiene and goes to the fucking gym. I also socialize a lot since I am on beatmaking & sound engineering, and football as a hobby. It REALLY is THAT simple to stand out in this domain. Just be like other people that got nothing to do with CS, and you'll stand out completely.
A lot of thing to think about but for me is being bullied and social isolated are the problems I need to overcome for me to learn to get with women
Manipulation tactics vid next pls💯
Already made that
@@ybctoocold male manipulation tactics for women* my bad, that video would be interesting 💯
Regarding 20:00, Bible Study or YAG (Young Adult Groups) are your main place to go. But don't go in there if you are not a believer because girls won't buy your BS.
Drake for the lover boy is crazy work 😭