Not quite. It's not so much you're rejecting yourself, but being self-conscious of your SMV and syllogizing that based on where you stand, you're probably not going to get what you're looking for. If you're 5'10" skinny fat with an average face making 50k living in a 1-room apartment, you're probably not going to be able to get more than a 3-4/10 who's fast approaching the wall, if not already hit it. It wouldn't necessarily be that easy either, since even if they're 3/10, you're competing with other guys your level. I was a 7.5-8 facially at 6'4" in my prime, had at least half a dozen 6-7s approach me or give off signals they were interested, and this wasn't at a club or bar, just random places like a car show, airport etc. So my sex appeal was great, but my social skills are a 2, not to mention I'm a degenerate gambler still living with his parents, so I knew where I stood. Could I have possibly hit it once? Maybe. But after ghosting her, there was also the chance I could be accused of rape. So I either ignored them or gave off close-ended responses that made them lose interest.
@@SatanyahuDisciplewatch the video fully. In most cases not every case being different etc etc… ofcourse everyone has the different position and different situation so thats why u shouldn’t deny it
@name4391 I'm not denying that what he says applies to a lot of guys, hence the lack of confidence. Unfortunately, I probably have mild Aspergers, although due to being fairly intelligent (Mensabrah), I can somewhat read people. The real issue is I'm super uptight in social situations, it's not so much that I'm timid, I just come off as someone who's constantly analyzing what he should or should not be saying cause everyone seems to be so thin-skinned nowadays. This is why I only surround myself with like-minded individuals online and force myself to put on a mask of normalcy whenever I interact with normies, albeit you can see through the cracks if you're around me for enough time. The bigger issue is I genuinely hate the majority of people cause they seem borderline retarded, and that's not a dig on them, they're just operating on a much lower frequency, and I lack the patience or empathy to deal with that. Managers have told me in the past I have a tendency to be very callous to anyone who doesn't operate at the same pace as myself, and then there's antisocial tendencies like throwing coworkers under the bus when it benefits me, lack of remorse, impulsiveness, and a general indifference to anyone else.
@@SatanyahuDisciple ok buddy if you know ur flaws why give urself a chance to work on it and fix them. Reading ur comment gives me an energy of a narcissist who thinks himself a better than anyone but at the same time u also mentioned ur problems I understand . I hope u dont get offended.
@name4391 Not offended, I'm aware of where I stand. In many ways, I'm better than most (beat almost every non-pro chess player on Lichess), consistently score 135+ on IQ tests, but in some cases, I'm severely lacking. I've been called a psychopath, a narcissist, a menace to society, a deplorable person, a loser; probably all true to varying extents.
People seriously need to ditch the concept of somebody being "The One", it's an adolescent fantasy that so many adults have failed to grow out of, we need to start adhering to reality
Yeah it's by definition putting her on a pedestal. Even if she is the most compatible and hottest woman in your life, treat her like that and she'll quickly lose attraction. She actually wants to experience the dynamic of uncertainty and comfort, the full emotional expression of competing with other hot women for your attention and interest, and winning you over. Viewing her as "The One" kills any notion of that.
Here's a pro tip for you guys: Get a part time job at a place where alot of women frequent like a clothing store, Target, Starbucks, a gym etc. Not only will you have a chance of meeting someone who works there, but you could flirt with a regular too. You also build your social skills at talking to women since you're forced to talk to them and vice versa. I took a second job at a gym earlier this year only working 12 hours a week and I loved it due to the social aspect of it, didn't even care about the money.
This is good advice, especially post 2020. If you are working in a job where you meet no one and single, you need to get a new job. Same with colleges, etc.. Get a hobby or join something where you meet people. Dont let circumstance of life make you a hermit. This used to not be a thing, but it is now with everything online.
Great advice. I usually work remotely, so I'm mostly stuck at home. But on a part-time job, there's a chance to meet somebody. Recently, I approached a girl at work and things are looking up, we'll see. Hoping to see where this goes after the holidays. Being isolated at home all the time definitely limits chances of meeting women, so we all need to branch out more.
The best job you can have, purely from the standpoint of attracting girls, is working in the club scene. If you're a club promoter, bar tender, or bouncer, you'll eventually get cat one way or another just by the default of you being in that environment regularly.
Some guys even going through high school, just have an insane amount of confidence when they were young, But they didn't have parents giving them anxiety or try and tear down their self esteem, the people around them growing up, built them up and it carries over into adulthood. Smaller guys in school have it rough, Picked last in sports, girls ignore them, parents criticize them ect.. Then when they get older, they're at a constant battle with themselves.
lol I’m a weird case I’m the funny kid I’m like the nonchalant of the chad but to the next level nonchalant to the point t made me known as weird and funny. Even though I used to be average looking everyone thought I got all these girls because of my aura. But I was skinny and no one picked me for sports but I always was one of the fast kids and knocked there asses out the park. I remember this girl said I was like as fast as usain bolt lol it kinda sounded simpy. Hey maybe I was that “cute” type of attractive cause this random girl stared at me the first time we met and called me cute… and I’m not good with girls in that way hineskty. I have extreme easy way with talking to girls since I’m fatherless and have 2 sisters and a mom but I’m constantly constrained by mom and I can’t even have a relationship sooooo…. Whenever a girl asks me out I freak the hell out even if I like them I have to reject them. Maybe it’s also because of this certain ch8dhood traumas I had lol.
There was this one time… it was the last day of primary school which for us would be the last day before highschool. We had like a dance party thing and this girl I liked asked me to dance with her. My instincts kicked in and I immediately rejected her and ran away. I was also the weird kid so it might’ve not been like what I thought it was but the way she approached me was kinda like she was asking me out. Another girl asked me to dance with her but I knew it wasn’t like that so I danced. But that girl I felt like it could’ve just been my imagination and she just wanted to see my funny dancing or something but… imagine if that wasn’t it and I said yes? lol I couldn’t do that.
I had a similar but different experience: High school was chill for me, but wasn't very fruitful, courtesy of peers, parents and teachers mistreatment that came before. And after that I glowed up but I can't leverage it because of social anxiety and avoidant attachment.
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Dark mind tricks lmao. The copes keep evolving where sub 5 losers need to do Jedi magic to get a girl to look at them. I bet you also think the popular guy at school was doing voodoo on the girls that simp for him
Your videos are so real and raw that you don’t have to mention stats or studies. As long as you’re a well functioning human being, it’s so easy to relate to and grasp your content.
I am 30 years old and had to work on myself WITHOUT all these youtube videos growing up and I will tell you, this is the most BASED video I have every watched. Software Engineer, League of Legends, Anime, Gym, Partying, socializing you name it, I've done it. This kid nailed it. I'm impressed. I'm actually quite surprised how well you picked up on these as a 21 year old.
Being a righteous guy will attract a righteous woman, which is the type of woman a righteous guy would want anyway. Sure it'll take longer, but sometimes the best things don't come easy. And once you get that person it'll be perfect(nothings perfect but you know what i mean lol). If you got your stuff together the girl you want will value you over anything, since righteous guys are just as rare as righteous woman. You still need to be attractive tho.
I grabbed my nerd interests, and showed women them. It rooted/roots out falsities in other humans. No bs. They seem to have seen me as the cute smart nerdy hot boy/young man/man or whatever. Where is the woman who likes Astronomy? Girls I guess don't like to stargaze but I could take her (and will if I get any chance) and sweep her off of her feet and run to the top of a mountain with her soul in my arms and life in my protection and let our spirits melt into the vast waters of the Universe
My Grandpa said he was a pretty shy dude. He was so nervous that when he gave my Grandma a gift after seeing her at a show, he didn't even put his name on it. However, he was the most amazing man I ever knew. He had a lot of love to give, was hard working, and had good values. They eventually started dating and they ended up getting married for 60 years, going through a lot of things together, including my Grandpa losing his business and going unemployed. Having good values always means a lot more to the women that matter rather than transactional things like muscle, height, and money.
"Now I know what it is like to be a mid chick" LOL! That's not even a joke which is the sad thing. Also, for computer science majors you could include a lot of engineering majors. I got a degree in mechanical engineering. Eighty-eight percent of all mechanical engineering undergrad majors were male when I attended college. I had to join non-academic clubs, talk to neighbors in my apartment building and complex, and go out to the bars to talk to, not just women, but ordinary, fun people.
The part where you only really need one friend for it to snowball into a friend group is so true. I was isolating myself by playing video games until I met a guy in a match, and we started playing together. Later, his girlfriend joined our little group, and we started playing with her too, and I eventually befriended her as well. After a couple of months, we met up in real life for her birthday, and, to no one's surprise, there were a bunch of girls I was able to talk to. Coincidentally, one of those girls lives near my town and I got into a relationship with her eventually. I never really lacked confidence-my height (thank God for that) gave me all the confidence I ever needed-but I just wanted to play video games so much. I was never allowed to play a lot as a kid, so when I moved out, it was pretty much all I wanted to do. I learned about the black pill and took advantage of it, which boosted my confidence about eventually finding a girl. But it was that one male friend who was basically the one who got the ball rolling for me.
@@Blox117 it doesn’t need to happen 99% of the time. It already happened, that’s good enough. That’s the problem with you dudes. You’re told a success story, and the first thing you wanna talk about are the percentages and odds and chances.. 🙄
@@Treasuswell yeah that's how you track metrics about stuff. It's a nice story, but it's not a realistic suggestion . So many variables that would have to be met.
I grew up with a lot of the bottom two tiers (no social life, anime, games, pc nerd, working as a programmer) and none of the top two tiers (no female attention, disliked sports, rarely going out, no assertiveness as I had a lot of social anxiety). Makes sense that I have to overcompensate now.
@PlebiteBaller Tried to socialize a lot when I got to university, started latin because a lot of girls there. But after some years I still didn't have any success. I tried cold approach when I was 22 after finding a related community and I had some success (make outs for the first time) but only at the first months. I had sex for the first time after about 2 years of cold approaching (25 years old, but I am saying 2 years instead of 2.5 because of covid in between), but also I was lucky enough to have a friend who was really good at it and he helped me. Lots of psychological up and downs because of failed cold appraoching. Now, 28 years old, I can have sex a few times a year (let's say 1 to 4 times) if I try and cold approach. But I really have to try a lot and it's both psychologically and time taxing.
Harsh truth- and filled with opposites of the paragons and ideals. A much needed analysis. I wonder if our grandmas in their time had the same tier list- or would some foundations skyrocket upward and vice versa?
It really doesn't matter much what type of entertainment you're into as long as you moderate your indulgence in them.. Having the mentality that "no girl wants me because I like X, Y and Z" is way worse than the actual fact that you like X, Y and Z.. It's important to own who you are and show that you're not insecure, women are attracted to confidence way more than they are turned off by things like anime and video games..
Sadly its the other way around, we like to say that the nerdy behavior is what keeps them single. But its looks and the nerds and sub 5 men just learn they are not welcome no matter what they do. The "weird" behavior comes afterwards. For guys like us its not worth even trying at all.
As a CS major, I am offended, but I totally get where the stereotype is coming from. I have been going to the gym regularly for about 2 years now, and in my class, there are only about 2% of people who exercise regularly. Most CS students tend to hang out in a really nerdy type of group, socializing on Discord all day instead of in real life, and I’m not joking-the not-showering stereotypes are real. Now I try to socialize outside of my major by joining clubs, the gym, etc. I’m only in this CS major because I like doing computer stuff and have been good at math ever since I was a kid, but this is really not the type of friends/colleagues I was hoping for, lol.
Church/religious point is valid. Even though I stand on my beliefs, it’s frustrating to try to date outside of it because I’ve got limited options that share enough ideals with me who I’d be comfortable dating. I’ve dated outside of it many times, and it never works.
I swear if you’re a challenger in league you actually got aura to e-girls. I have a friend who’s challenger and he met his girlfriend through league and he told me egirls used to spam him because they see it as high status.
Yeah one thing I will say is that not all PVP games are created equal when it comes to women. I think like fighting games for example and being into those is way worse than being into League, Valorant, or Fortnite for example. At least with the latter games there’s a pretty okay chunk of women who play them and I’ve spoken to women who have met dudes irl off of those games lol. Fighting games on the other hand, few or no women play them AND they’re extremely grind-y if you want to be good like League is. Thoughts?
At the end of the day - you got to cold approach. Or approach with chosing signals. Friend circles post 23 kinda disapear. By 25 people got their own stuff going on completely. You might have 3-5 friends but thats it. And you don't hang out with them that often. By 30 you might meet your friend like twice a year. It is what it is. If a woman is interested - she will show that even if you are a NASA astronaut that is 80 percent outside earth. People are not really that open to friends once you get to your 20s. Just get out of the house. Something will happen.
F those self improvement gurus who are 100% against video games, they dont promote having a fun life or having the freedom to do what you love in moderation
Great list, but disagree to some extend on the religious one; why? If you go to church etc. there is a whole community, with multiple families and friends groups attached to it. If you are in that environment on a frequent basis and get to know the people there, there will be options coming your way (just like the 'social circle' you ranked high).
yeah it's another social circle with good options as long as your church is positive. although i feel like it would get harder if you are older and new versus being young. I grew up going to our church but then dropped out completely for over a decade meanwhile all my old friends got married. definitely took the wrong path
The exact same hierarchies apply in church communities as anywhere else. The girls there do not care about your religiousness at all. They care about your leadership qualities and your looks. That’s it.
The exact same social hierarchies exist there as they do anywhere else. Girls at churches do not care about your religiousness. They care about your looks and your leadership characteristics. That’s it.
The problem is that in general if I am in a group of people often I feel as though I can't be myself. So I don't feel that much of a connection to people and feel as though I am losing myself.
5:25 100% having a guy best friend who is ambitious, competitive, smart etc. is just a cheat code to fkn life.... hopefully can find that one day, the masses of mfs who get friendzoned by women or those who get a gf and then drop their dude friends... thats brutal
ngl i had the most happiness w women when i quitted social media and did a bunch of dumb stuff like yell weird jokes in class or say super out of pocket things, even when i was ugly so i wouldnt even say looks matter at all cuz they was a bunch of 10s too, just do a bunch of things daily and surround urself w the fun people instead of the complainers who vent about dating issues and youll be the average of the 5 fun ppl (girls like fun they dont want that one sorry loser who feels bad about himself 24/7 like imagine tryna fall for someone who constantly brings up trauma and bad experiences-)
just do things that make you happy bro youll be EXTREMELY more confident and fun to be around when you can always talk about good experiences youll be doing like make peoples days sometimes, i used to always have my own things going on like playing music and going to late night concerts/playing sports and going to crazy fun and exhausting games, deadass the key to get women is just to not think of them as only dating options, trust me bro id rather have hundreds of female friends who i gladly started talking to in a platonic way and kept at it for years to come instead of constantly getting hurt tryna seek more then that. summary: do fun stuff in ur life, seek being friends w women not dates and keep your head up no matter anything and youll attract positive people who help you DEVELOP confidence and high self esteem, people always say be confident but the real meaning of confidence is constantly being told youre enough by others and being appreciated.
@@KevinKevin-qp1lg idk bro i dont need women friends or have trouble with women xD but due to my lifestyle and introvert etc. i haven't found the type of guy friend i'd have liked,,, well,,, yet sounds kinda gay ngl
dudes are idiots nowadays, they use their guy friends to get women instead of making an actual friend. then they just leave. damaging actions from the people that call you “friends”
23:21 building a muscular foundation for say 2 years~ of bulking natty then leaning down to 10%~ body fat is the best thing genetically less fortunate people can do to compete
i’m 23 now, in school i was shy, wasn’t really into sports and rarely chatted to girls, started boxing at 18 and that has boosted my confidence a lot over the years but still struggle to approach women even at bars/clubs, your videos are all bangers tho
Fundamentally girls are just like you and me...they are to their core normal people who have life of their own, stop putting them on a pedestal or seeing them as some other beings cuz when you realize they are just like you with some difference you don't feel scared to talk to them
I'm a woman studying at a computer science school, and the ratio of men to women is heavily skewed-there are significantly more men than women. At our school, there are, of course, some nerdy and anti-social people, but there are also plenty who are more outgoing and don’t look too bad. Since there are so few girls compared to guys, you can imagine that a few of them have tried to talk to us over time
Super good advice for everyone. Im no supreme chad but I am in the top 20% I get cold approached by a woman or two every year in a serious way, as in she gives me her number out of no where and this has been consistent for 10 years, but I am fairly isolated. I see men below me in the "absolute rankings" having a much better dating life than me. Building and maintaining a social circle is extremely hard for a lot of us today, but it is the most important thing for dating
Short, socially isolated(and awkward, thanks 10+ years of bullying), mostly stay home other than going to college and gym, on the first days of college i tried making friends but instead got humiliated and made fun of, and now everyone kinda has their own little group, not to mention i have no idea what the heck they're talking about most of the time so chiming in is rough, and yes I'm in a STEM field(Mechanical Engineering). I don't drink and don't want to ever start, i don't like it. Blackpilled, check. Overthinker, check. Dad was never really around, check. The only somewhat good foundations were that i had my first kiss at 10yrs old(if that counts for anything) and always played sports up until i started getting bullied heavily at 13. Guess I'm cooked lol
You kinda remind me of myself but. look you didnt get used to put up to with things you liked .wich can mean more things but i feel like you just needed to put this out so you good.If people dont show up to you its not the end of the world. If you seem "cooked " tf that means and try to change it put yourself out to the world and do shit not in corny way but the way you think its right to attract diffrent disscusions and meet likepath people
unsolicited advice: train muay thai or bjj. you will hopefully learn A: not to take a sliver of disrespect. B: not to disrespect others even if you can and want to. someone disrespects you you fucking go for them. disrespect them harder. show them some teeth. we are apes, bullying is ape behaviour, you need to be able to ape them back. It's one of the highest ROI disciplines for a man, especially a fatherless one. I hear no fight in your words, just submission. where's your anger at these bullies? Good shit on going into STEM, and good luck.
Who gives a crap of women love you or not. Be happy with yourself and learn embracing your loneliness doing what you love and earning money. Not everyone is destined to have a partner. Sorry, but if you dont accept that hard truth, you will be miserable
What you need are postive male role models to imitate at first. Either find masculine youtubers or watch older movies where masculine men saving the world was still a thing. Like an infant mind copy and embody those traits and apply them to the real world. You'll notice you'll start to be less awkward and gain respect from both men and women. Also won't hurt to watch some comedians as well. Hope that helps cause it's what worked for me
Dating aside, this video really opened my eyes to a bigger issue in society. Loneliness. I think every man & woman should try to go out and build solid social foundations instead of staying at home.
@@EpicMinecraftFailThey are lonely. They just lie to themselves and others and think that they have someone. But at the end of the day. Most will be forever alone once they hit the wall
Right after I graduated from University the pandemic began so I never learned any skills how to go out and build a social foundations. I spent my life as a hikikomori during those years, and only now I am getting out of that extremely detrimental mental state. All of us, we have been let down by "society". Those of us who never had any guidance, only restrictions and forbiddance.
Out of all the videos I’ve seen about this topic, for some reason this one hit me rock hard. It’s like someone threw me a bucket of cold water right as I’m falling asleep. Extremely useful information tho, I’ll put it in practice
@@benjamin9056r On internet and conversations with girls! And its not my problem I'm 5'9" with wide shoulders, weigh 180 lbs. and can easily carry double my size.
I'm skinny, not so strong, and additionally I have a damaged spine so I cannot life heavy objects. But who cares, I don't let that stop me. If a particular girl dos not want me, it's fine, I'll just find one who will! Love is about loving a person inspite of his or her imperfections. I am not perfect, I am also not looking for a perfect woman. I would be willing to overlook any of her imperfections, if she has a golden heart. I want the one who really want me. Of course I have standards, for instance no fat girls, no girls with loose morals, addictions or vices. But if she has burn scars on the face, it's no big deal. And one thing that you should know for certain is that hearts can change. There's no problem with asking later once more even if you were rejected before.
This one of the most simplest yet detailed explanation ...it's all truth and facts I knew most of these things but I wished I knew it sooner, when I was younger. Iam sure every guy here can relate to this we are all at different pace I'm 34 and I still am trying to improve..there's nothing else to do but to improve...
While the ranking system is engaging, it risks boxing people into stereotypes. Personal growth is fluid and doesn't fit neatly into tiers. A "negative" foundation like social isolation could be the start of a transformative journey for someone, while a "positive" foundation like assertiveness might mask deeper insecurities. At its best, this video could inspire men to reflect on areas of improvement. At its worst, it might overgeneralize and cause some to feel pigeonholed or judged. The ultimate takeaway should be: focus on becoming a better version of yourself, not on fitting into social ideals.
@@Xenozillex Becoming better isn't about following some universal rulebook - it's about figuring out what aligns with your own values and goals. It's a personal journey, not a judgement of others. Growth starts with self-reflection and asking, "what's holding me back from living the life I want?" If someone's happy with where they are, that's great too - it's not about labeling people as good or bad.
I agree in the sense that you should never change yourself for a woman. I guess this list is just for people who are trying to maximize their dating life and since women are the ones who dictate culture, he has to make some generalizations to inform the average man how the average woman would think of certain interests
@@binks69 I totally agree-you should never change yourself just to please a woman or anyone else. The list isn’t a rulebook but more of a perspective on how certain habits or interests might be perceived by the majority. That said, it’s up to you to balance self-awareness with authenticity. The goal is to find someone who appreciates the real you, not a version of you that’s been curated to fit cultural norms.
Sort of adding onto what you said about CS majors, as a CS major myself, I feel like most, if not all CS dudes are primarily focused on their careers, getting a job at a FAANG company, etc. rather than focused on getting a girlfriend. I go to a pretty good CS school, if I went up to most of these dudes in my classes and asked if they had to choose between a job at FAANG and a loving/loyal girlfriend most of them would choose the FAANG job 100%. I never see the other dudes in my classes at the bars or clubs either, they just stick to themselves for the most part, play video games with each other etc. and don't take many risks towards women. Add onto this most CS women aren't that social either. Most CS girls I've been friends with haven't been very adventerous or talkative. I've been doing CS for 4 years now, and the first time I met a decent value CS woman that was relatively interesting was at my gym a few months ago. She's nerdy yes of course but she likes to travel, and in the gym she's hella strong, definitely looks feminine and she already has a full time job while doing a Master's at the same time.
I don’t understand why CS dudes chase FAANG jobs i worked at Apple. Corporate america is not worth it there are so many more opportunities out here in tech where you could make 6 figures or more without being at a FAANG people just want the clout and bragging rights. Those companies are not long term you can get laid off at anytime
I am a CS major myself. I graduated with a Bachelor's degree. Now I'll tell you the absolute honest truth, I'll choose a loving/loyal girlfriend anytime over a FAANG job. I could still find a job, any job using my skills, but finding a loving/loyal girlfriend is hard. If she is loving/loyal by definition, she wouldn't hate me for not having a FAANG job, she would be happy with any job that I have, as long as I can make enough money to cover expenses. Believe me, I've had the FAANG job before, and without a girlfriend. Although I was making six figures, I felt terrible because I was all alone. You know, when I was in University everything that I did, I did it for my future family. I thought that if I were to get a six figure job then I would be able to free up my future girlfriend to be a house wife. I wanted to provide for my family, but without a family all that money meant nothing to me. This was during the pandemic too, so I was depressed because of the social isolation and worrying about the clot shots. If I had a wife during that time, then it would have motivated me much more to work at my best, but I ended up failing that job due to depression and lack of motivation. When I went to University for my undergrad, my main mistake was that I didn't do enough for meeting and dating girls. I was kind of just going through the motions of life, taking the courses and doing all the required assignments without engaging in any clubs or extra curriculum activities. Even then, there were tons of cute girls all around me on the campus, and looking back, I've counted 14 different times when I could have asked out a girl. But I didn't do that, because of my own awkwardness and stupidity. I had few social skills and a low emotional IQ. Only focused on knocking out tests and assignments, a kind of tunnel vision, not really looking at the world around me. "Locked in" is also not good, it is a kind of primitive mentality, not flexible enough. You have to be able to see the beauty of life, and be plucky. You can't have the Yin without the Yang. Too focused on career or academics without any focus on dating or relationships is also not good. The best is in the balance. Because even if you become successful in your field, if you have no one to share that success with, what was the point of it all if you don't have a family? I'm going to go back to University to do my Master's Degree, partly for career, but also mainly for dating and relationships. On campus you see tons of cute girls each day walking about, just ask her out. But in the world outside of University I haven't seen even a single cute girl. I don't go to bars or clubs because I want a loving/loyal girlfriend, and those that are in the bars and clubs are not virgins. I don't really see the point of playing video games with each other. When I was in Undergraduate I literally had no time for that because I was playing "whack a mole" with assignments, exams, and projects, and I had to do them very quickly. If I had any time for playing video games, I would rather go searching for a waifu.
I dont care. I wont reject myself for a woman. I love myself for who i am and i love my house and i have my own preferences and hobbies. Lol. Not taking any risks to let a woman ruin my life. I have ny faith and principles. Why would i try to impress a woman for validation. Thats lame
This comment right here is the truth. These people are going to change their whole self worth for a woman who won't respect you and leave you anyways. If you start acting fake they can smell that crap right away
I go to an art school and one thing I've noticed is some of these qualities are frowned upon there. You can express yourself in certain ways but it's very easy to overstep and hurt people's feelings. I think it's a weird thing that's happening that if you have an alternative identidy people aren't allowed to critisize you and have to tread lightly. I can tell the morale there is low because of this and it makes it hard to be social. I think everyone should be treated equally and take the same amount of shit but they don't see it that way over there.
Watch romance animes of wcostream. Study how the men interact with women. Emulate them, do as they do. This is how during the pandemic I learned how to talk to women. By watching animes and old movies. Modern movies are wokey trash.
I was bullied during my school days but i fought back and slowly in the last few years of my school life i started taking stand for myself but by that time my brain had already gotten into that bad effects of bullying state but after highschool i worked on myslef, workout and improved my social skills became very attractive and now i can atleast talk with people normally and can socialize with women or men it doesn't matter as. It takes time but you have to work upon yourself and make your brain feel safe and your inner child that its okay, you got this you aren't the same person anymore you can stand up for yourself
I think we are running out of ideas eh? The more social, more you party, the more you work out, the less you overthink, less you care the more girls you get, yeah no shit
Those ones are obvious, but the commentary is important. He speaks golden nuggets of truth for every item, ESPECIALLY for the "bad foundation tier" such as "overthinker" and "lover boy".
doesn't hurt to get reminded and think about the details. some people are also just oblivious and have no idea where to start or are not aware that they are hurting there chances.
The biggest problem is when you’re older (I’m 31) with no friends and trying to find dates and make new friends. I had chronic illness most of my 20s and spent 8 years very isolated. I have extreme arrested development from lack of life experience and don’t relate to people my age well because they are mainly settling down and having kids. I, on the other hand, feel 18 inside. At this point, it’s a lot harder asking out girls at the mall and Starbucks and stuff because they are 10+ years younger than me and while I’m fine with that I don’t want to come across like a creep.
They will label you as a creep even if you don't really act as such, no matter what you do, just as a habit. Just freely be as "creepy" as you want and don't self-censor anything about you (law matters, opinions don't). Ten years older is an advantage, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially women your age. The only way out of the "creepy" fear into confidence is repeated exposure+experience, doing the reps.
Definitely profit of your social life if you're still in school because after you're out it's going to be harder to make friends and it will impact your dating life negatively.
Honestly the anime doesn't do any damage, I've had girls thought it was really cute when I made anime references or talked about it. It's about being yourself, and that will carry you further than anything on this list.
Boys just be who you are, dont change no hobbies for a girl. If you like gaming, continue gaming, if you like anime, watch anime. You'll find someone who appreciates these hobbies aswell.
@@KurisuNo1 I agree with you on the not changing part, but you’re also lying to guys on the 2nd part. If you’ve never dated or received attention from women, then it’s better to begin to accept that it most likely will never happen and move on. That’s what I did
What is love, it is living for another person, it is putting the needs of the other person above your own. Love is sacrifice. You have to overcome yourself. Much of living in a family requires you to put others ahead of you, such as your children or wife. It's called responsibility and duty as a father. You can't continue living a hedonistic lifestyle and expect things to take care of themselves. You have to take care of things. So many things to do, that you don't have time for your former vices anymore. And then you realize that you never needed those vices to begin with, they were limiting your potential. And if you're truly in love, you no longer care about sacrificing your vices or hobbies. It's but a small burden. When you're truly in love, then you will happily do even more harder tasks for your people, compared to which getting rid of your hobbies is a miniscule thing.
You like anime right? Why don't you live your life as the anime characters? Do what they do. For example in Avatar the Last Airbender, we have not one but two examples of saving their lovers from the concentration camp. In fact I would save my wife from a concentration camp or die, if it ever came to it. Giving up gaming or some other vice is pennies compared to the amount of efforts and nerves and balls that something like that would take.
Well, I never lived, but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna destroy the shell. In the past few years, I was alone (also because I chose to be) and I opened my eyes. I needed to change. So I started. How is it going? Well, it's a work in progress, but I'm confident to say that despite I never had wings, I've still learned how to fly. Now, I found your channel and I'm gonna keep some of your tips in my mind.
I was really really impressed by your shit testing video great work. This video I will not argue with the logic but maybe the chad you described as talking without thinking is really just being emotionally present.
17:20 I'd also add combat sports to that, even if you're doing them when you're older. Not only is it a massive confidence boost and goes relatively hand in hand with the overthinking aspect, but you'll also be able to handle dicey situations much better which women would probably pick up on at least subconsciously.
Damn. Single child, 5,7, have father in the picture, overanalytical, small circle of friends, had sports. Currently working on social skills, making a bigger social circle, partying a bit, engaging in small talk, mostly quit the games, working on assertiveness. But damn, the cards were heavily out of my favour growing up, can't believe I felt bad about having no relationships as a teenager.
Some of the greatest advice I’ve ever heard: “the things you do to attract the low quality women are likely the things you’ll have to do to attract ‘the one’”
Nice video bro i like your channel! You should make a video about when is it a good idea to end the relationship (what situations, behaviors from her, etc should lead to you ending the relationship I mean)
This guy was recommended to my feed, like 3 days ago, & since then, I'm binge watching his videos (even though, I'm a Woman), they are entertaining. 🤭🤭🤭
I’m most of everything on the lower tier lol. Over thinker, no sports, video games, no attention as a kid, single mother, bullied in school, lone wolf, nerdy yapper. Technically, I should be cooked. But I’m married. Lol. There’s always hope fellas. Women aren’t as 1 dimensional as we may think.
Women chase men based on the prominence and symmetry of their skulls and then their race, height and leanness. If you have the right proportions women wouldn't care if you were a shut-in Pokemon master. The rankings in this vid sometimes confuse cause and effect. Guys who are into anime and Disney are essentially wishing that they will turn into the pretty boy with a symmetrical face who does not need to do much to attract fine women. We've all met that guy.
2:00 I'll be honest I don't see many people that are out going. It's kind of a problem and hard to actually find your match, idk if it's the same for women.
@@TheShowOff2I fr...they think women in thd third world are like mother Mary or something when in reality they are far more greedy and materialistic and want the best of both worlds ie western freedom+cultural value of men providing...and they are not even that good looking
I am a "social isolated" guy, not really voluntarily though. I dont have a social circle outside of workmates. Being shy and introverted makes this terrible. I totally agree that its really hard. Its either by online dating, cold approach or not at all.
the idea that not putting yourself out there is the same as rejecting yourself is a great observation, total perspective shift.
Not quite. It's not so much you're rejecting yourself, but being self-conscious of your SMV and syllogizing that based on where you stand, you're probably not going to get what you're looking for. If you're 5'10" skinny fat with an average face making 50k living in a 1-room apartment, you're probably not going to be able to get more than a 3-4/10 who's fast approaching the wall, if not already hit it. It wouldn't necessarily be that easy either, since even if they're 3/10, you're competing with other guys your level.
I was a 7.5-8 facially at 6'4" in my prime, had at least half a dozen 6-7s approach me or give off signals they were interested, and this wasn't at a club or bar, just random places like a car show, airport etc. So my sex appeal was great, but my social skills are a 2, not to mention I'm a degenerate gambler still living with his parents, so I knew where I stood. Could I have possibly hit it once? Maybe. But after ghosting her, there was also the chance I could be accused of rape. So I either ignored them or gave off close-ended responses that made them lose interest.
@@SatanyahuDisciplewatch the video fully. In most cases not every case being different etc etc… ofcourse everyone has the different position and different situation so thats why u shouldn’t deny it
@name4391 I'm not denying that what he says applies to a lot of guys, hence the lack of confidence. Unfortunately, I probably have mild Aspergers, although due to being fairly intelligent (Mensabrah), I can somewhat read people. The real issue is I'm super uptight in social situations, it's not so much that I'm timid, I just come off as someone who's constantly analyzing what he should or should not be saying cause everyone seems to be so thin-skinned nowadays.
This is why I only surround myself with like-minded individuals online and force myself to put on a mask of normalcy whenever I interact with normies, albeit you can see through the cracks if you're around me for enough time.
The bigger issue is I genuinely hate the majority of people cause they seem borderline retarded, and that's not a dig on them, they're just operating on a much lower frequency, and I lack the patience or empathy to deal with that. Managers have told me in the past I have a tendency to be very callous to anyone who doesn't operate at the same pace as myself, and then there's antisocial tendencies like throwing coworkers under the bus when it benefits me, lack of remorse, impulsiveness, and a general indifference to anyone else.
@@SatanyahuDisciple ok buddy if you know ur flaws why give urself a chance to work on it and fix them. Reading ur comment gives me an energy of a narcissist who thinks himself a better than anyone but at the same time u also mentioned ur problems I understand . I hope u dont get offended.
@name4391 Not offended, I'm aware of where I stand. In many ways, I'm better than most (beat almost every non-pro chess player on Lichess), consistently score 135+ on IQ tests, but in some cases, I'm severely lacking. I've been called a psychopath, a narcissist, a menace to society, a deplorable person, a loser; probably all true to varying extents.
Signs you’re being cheated on/ Signs she’s gonna leave soon tier list
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If she has more than 2 good looking guy friends
@@binks69count don’t matter, girls should not have male friends
Almost all people cheat especially women, its not worth getting into a relationship at all.
travis hunter tier list
1:16 *“I get a hundred DM’s a day, now I know what it feels like to be a mid chick”* I’m crying bro
People seriously need to ditch the concept of somebody being "The One", it's an adolescent fantasy that so many adults have failed to grow out of, we need to start adhering to reality
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Yeah it's by definition putting her on a pedestal. Even if she is the most compatible and hottest woman in your life, treat her like that and she'll quickly lose attraction. She actually wants to experience the dynamic of uncertainty and comfort, the full emotional expression of competing with other hot women for your attention and interest, and winning you over. Viewing her as "The One" kills any notion of that.
tbh I only want a woman who cares about me and loves me
@@AndWeWillNeverBeAloneAgain Then listen to the guy above u
@@ybctoocold Social circle game after college is dead bro.
Here's a pro tip for you guys: Get a part time job at a place where alot of women frequent like a clothing store, Target, Starbucks, a gym etc. Not only will you have a chance of meeting someone who works there, but you could flirt with a regular too. You also build your social skills at talking to women since you're forced to talk to them and vice versa.
I took a second job at a gym earlier this year only working 12 hours a week and I loved it due to the social aspect of it, didn't even care about the money.
If i did that with my looks id be in jail in less than a day lol
@thesaddestdude3575 Your literrly doing your job added with the benefits of talking to girls
This is good advice, especially post 2020. If you are working in a job where you meet no one and single, you need to get a new job. Same with colleges, etc.. Get a hobby or join something where you meet people. Dont let circumstance of life make you a hermit. This used to not be a thing, but it is now with everything online.
Great advice. I usually work remotely, so I'm mostly stuck at home. But on a part-time job, there's a chance to meet somebody. Recently, I approached a girl at work and things are looking up, we'll see. Hoping to see where this goes after the holidays. Being isolated at home all the time definitely limits chances of meeting women, so we all need to branch out more.
The best job you can have, purely from the standpoint of attracting girls, is working in the club scene. If you're a club promoter, bar tender, or bouncer, you'll eventually get cat one way or another just by the default of you being in that environment regularly.
Some guys even going through high school, just have an insane amount of confidence when they were young, But they didn't have parents giving them anxiety or try and tear down their self esteem, the people around them growing up, built them up and it carries over into adulthood. Smaller guys in school have it rough, Picked last in sports, girls ignore them, parents criticize them ect.. Then when they get older, they're at a constant battle with themselves.
lol I’m a weird case I’m the funny kid I’m like the nonchalant of the chad but to the next level nonchalant to the point t made me known as weird and funny. Even though I used to be average looking everyone thought I got all these girls because of my aura. But I was skinny and no one picked me for sports but I always was one of the fast kids and knocked there asses out the park. I remember this girl said I was like as fast as usain bolt lol it kinda sounded simpy. Hey maybe I was that “cute” type of attractive cause this random girl stared at me the first time we met and called me cute… and I’m not good with girls in that way hineskty. I have extreme easy way with talking to girls since I’m fatherless and have 2 sisters and a mom but I’m constantly constrained by mom and I can’t even have a relationship sooooo…. Whenever a girl asks me out I freak the hell out even if I like them I have to reject them. Maybe it’s also because of this certain ch8dhood traumas I had lol.
There was this one time… it was the last day of primary school which for us would be the last day before highschool. We had like a dance party thing and this girl I liked asked me to dance with her. My instincts kicked in and I immediately rejected her and ran away. I was also the weird kid so it might’ve not been like what I thought it was but the way she approached me was kinda like she was asking me out. Another girl asked me to dance with her but I knew it wasn’t like that so I danced. But that girl I felt like it could’ve just been my imagination and she just wanted to see my funny dancing or something but… imagine if that wasn’t it and I said yes? lol I couldn’t do that.
I had a similar but different experience: High school was chill for me, but wasn't very fruitful, courtesy of peers, parents and teachers mistreatment that came before. And after that I glowed up but I can't leverage it because of social anxiety and avoidant attachment.
Is that a tear? boohoo
Blame everyone and everything for your circumstances! You're doing great! Gigachad vibes.
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
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Dark mind tricks lmao. The copes keep evolving where sub 5 losers need to do Jedi magic to get a girl to look at them. I bet you also think the popular guy at school was doing voodoo on the girls that simp for him
Your videos are so real and raw that you don’t have to mention stats or studies. As long as you’re a well functioning human being, it’s so easy to relate to and grasp your content.
Thanks roy, really appreciate all the love you’ve shown the channel man. I see you 💯💯
Not a single video fucking misses, and the funny tangents you go off on are hilarious. Best channel I found in a while. Keep it up.
Thanks man 🤝🤝
Bro's been exposing me for like 10 minutes straight😂
I am 30 years old and had to work on myself WITHOUT all these youtube videos growing up and I will tell you, this is the most BASED video I have every watched. Software Engineer, League of Legends, Anime, Gym, Partying, socializing you name it, I've done it. This kid nailed it. I'm impressed. I'm actually quite surprised how well you picked up on these as a 21 year old.
Bro I’ve been saying the same thing for the past 2 days since I found this channel dude is advanced af for his age
@@karterkloudwith the added humor. I’m straight cracking up listening to some of these lol
Thank you bro, I’m glad the video resonated with you🫡🫡
Nah, blowing too much smoke up this guys azz. Plenty of crap takes in this vid.
Im nearly 30 as well and 21 year olds are not kids. Theyre adult.
Being a righteous guy will attract a righteous woman, which is the type of woman a righteous guy would want anyway. Sure it'll take longer, but sometimes the best things don't come easy. And once you get that person it'll be perfect(nothings perfect but you know what i mean lol). If you got your stuff together the girl you want will value you over anything, since righteous guys are just as rare as righteous woman. You still need to be attractive tho.
Also , not this ugly anymore and I get hit up/hit on /asked for snap constantly
I grabbed my nerd interests, and showed women them. It rooted/roots out falsities in other humans.
No bs.
They seem to have seen me as the cute smart nerdy hot boy/young man/man or whatever.
Where is the woman who likes Astronomy? Girls I guess don't like to stargaze but I could take her (and will if I get any chance) and sweep her off of her feet and run to the top of a mountain with her soul in my arms and life in my protection and let our spirits melt into the vast waters of the Universe
No substance in 2024. (60%+ low substance of personal character)
I think...
My Grandpa said he was a pretty shy dude. He was so nervous that when he gave my Grandma a gift after seeing her at a show, he didn't even put his name on it. However, he was the most amazing man I ever knew. He had a lot of love to give, was hard working, and had good values. They eventually started dating and they ended up getting married for 60 years, going through a lot of things together, including my Grandpa losing his business and going unemployed. Having good values always means a lot more to the women that matter rather than transactional things like muscle, height, and money.
"Now I know what it is like to be a mid chick" LOL! That's not even a joke which is the sad thing. Also, for computer science majors you could include a lot of engineering majors. I got a degree in mechanical engineering. Eighty-eight percent of all mechanical engineering undergrad majors were male when I attended college. I had to join non-academic clubs, talk to neighbors in my apartment building and complex, and go out to the bars to talk to, not just women, but ordinary, fun people.
he said stem degree
same here, i'm studying software engineering and for me it's even harder because I live in a different city than the one where the campus is located
The part where you only really need one friend for it to snowball into a friend group is so true.
I was isolating myself by playing video games until I met a guy in a match, and we started playing together. Later, his girlfriend joined our little group, and we started playing with her too, and I eventually befriended her as well. After a couple of months, we met up in real life for her birthday, and, to no one's surprise, there were a bunch of girls I was able to talk to. Coincidentally, one of those girls lives near my town and I got into a relationship with her eventually.
I never really lacked confidence-my height (thank God for that) gave me all the confidence I ever needed-but I just wanted to play video games so much. I was never allowed to play a lot as a kid, so when I moved out, it was pretty much all I wanted to do.
I learned about the black pill and took advantage of it, which boosted my confidence about eventually finding a girl. But it was that one male friend who was basically the one who got the ball rolling for me.
that is an extreme chance moment though. this wont happen 99% of the time
@@Blox117 it doesn’t need to happen 99% of the time. It already happened, that’s good enough. That’s the problem with you dudes. You’re told a success story, and the first thing you wanna talk about are the percentages and odds and chances.. 🙄
@@Treasus ok, then quit your job and get rich winning the lottery
so what if youre also lacking in confidence AND height
@@Treasuswell yeah that's how you track metrics about stuff. It's a nice story, but it's not a realistic suggestion . So many variables that would have to be met.
I grew up with a lot of the bottom two tiers (no social life, anime, games, pc nerd, working as a programmer) and none of the top two tiers (no female attention, disliked sports, rarely going out, no assertiveness as I had a lot of social anxiety). Makes sense that I have to overcompensate now.
Same bro, it's okay. We're all gonna make it if we work hard.
so what did you do, did you get a good social circle in later adult age?
play sport, learn to dance eg salsa or latin, learn to cook basic food, learn life skills, camp, TRAVEL (stay at backpackers)..LIVE LIFE
why do you care? why completely change yourself for women?
@PlebiteBaller Tried to socialize a lot when I got to university, started latin because a lot of girls there. But after some years I still didn't have any success. I tried cold approach when I was 22 after finding a related community and I had some success (make outs for the first time) but only at the first months. I had sex for the first time after about 2 years of cold approaching (25 years old, but I am saying 2 years instead of 2.5 because of covid in between), but also I was lucky enough to have a friend who was really good at it and he helped me. Lots of psychological up and downs because of failed cold appraoching. Now, 28 years old, I can have sex a few times a year (let's say 1 to 4 times) if I try and cold approach. But I really have to try a lot and it's both psychologically and time taxing.
Harsh truth- and filled with opposites of the paragons and ideals. A much needed analysis.
I wonder if our grandmas in their time had the same tier list- or would some foundations skyrocket upward and vice versa?
Bros content is pure comedy too 🤣 [edit: got more likes in this comment than my own videos]
It is indeed
😂😂meeehn
Very entertaining
That’s why I watch as well
Not if it applies to you... :/
bro roasting all the gamers and anime fans. also the nerds and kpop stans. i'm cooked then
It really doesn't matter much what type of entertainment you're into as long as you moderate your indulgence in them.. Having the mentality that "no girl wants me because I like X, Y and Z" is way worse than the actual fact that you like X, Y and Z.. It's important to own who you are and show that you're not insecure, women are attracted to confidence way more than they are turned off by things like anime and video games..
Sadly its the other way around, we like to say that the nerdy behavior is what keeps them single. But its looks and the nerds and sub 5 men just learn they are not welcome no matter what they do. The "weird" behavior comes afterwards. For guys like us its not worth even trying at all.
True gaming and anime are only a good idea if you’re already rich, grind in 20’s
You're fine just date weebs
@@chemical_28 at least i got that part down
I think out of all the videos you've put out so far, this one is the most valuable.
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As a CS major, I am offended, but I totally get where the stereotype is coming from. I have been going to the gym regularly for about 2 years now, and in my class, there are only about 2% of people who exercise regularly. Most CS students tend to hang out in a really nerdy type of group, socializing on Discord all day instead of in real life, and I’m not joking-the not-showering stereotypes are real. Now I try to socialize outside of my major by joining clubs, the gym, etc. I’m only in this CS major because I like doing computer stuff and have been good at math ever since I was a kid, but this is really not the type of friends/colleagues I was hoping for, lol.
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@@WoFeng我疯 Taiwan is a country!!!!
I think this is the best tier list channel ngl. The categories he chooses are unique from other channels
Appreciate you 👑
Church/religious point is valid. Even though I stand on my beliefs, it’s frustrating to try to date outside of it because I’ve got limited options that share enough ideals with me who I’d be comfortable dating. I’ve dated outside of it many times, and it never works.
Bro if you are really into church you should not even date. That doesn't mean you will never get woman though ;)
I swear if you’re a challenger in league you actually got aura to e-girls. I have a friend who’s challenger and he met his girlfriend through league and he told me egirls used to spam him because they see it as high status.
yeah good luck getting challenger
Yeah if you're among 0.05% best ppl at anything chicks approach you, shocking xD
@@grayhat_9x does it work if I'm among 0.0006% toxic people that get perma banned from lol ?
Yeah one thing I will say is that not all PVP games are created equal when it comes to women. I think like fighting games for example and being into those is way worse than being into League, Valorant, or Fortnite for example. At least with the latter games there’s a pretty okay chunk of women who play them and I’ve spoken to women who have met dudes irl off of those games lol. Fighting games on the other hand, few or no women play them AND they’re extremely grind-y if you want to be good like League is. Thoughts?
Could probably get the same aura if you are masters. Diamond not so much anymore.
At the end of the day - you got to cold approach. Or approach with chosing signals. Friend circles post 23 kinda disapear. By 25 people got their own stuff going on completely. You might have 3-5 friends but thats it. And you don't hang out with them that often. By 30 you might meet your friend like twice a year. It is what it is. If a woman is interested - she will show that even if you are a NASA astronaut that is 80 percent outside earth. People are not really that open to friends once you get to your 20s. Just get out of the house. Something will happen.
Ok.
@FillupMan it's been 10 days. Did somethjng happen yet? 😂
F those self improvement gurus who are 100% against video games, they dont promote having a fun life or having the freedom to do what you love in moderation
Great list, but disagree to some extend on the religious one; why? If you go to church etc. there is a whole community, with multiple families and friends groups attached to it. If you are in that environment on a frequent basis and get to know the people there, there will be options coming your way (just like the 'social circle' you ranked high).
yeah it's another social circle with good options as long as your church is positive. although i feel like it would get harder if you are older and new versus being young. I grew up going to our church but then dropped out completely for over a decade meanwhile all my old friends got married. definitely took the wrong path
The exact same hierarchies apply in church communities as anywhere else. The girls there do not care about your religiousness at all. They care about your leadership qualities and your looks. That’s it.
The exact same social hierarchies exist there as they do anywhere else. Girls at churches do not care about your religiousness. They care about your looks and your leadership characteristics. That’s it.
The problem is that in general if I am in a group of people often I feel as though I can't be myself. So I don't feel that much of a connection to people and feel as though I am losing myself.
Being alone is better than being with the wrong people. When you’re with the right friends you vibe with, it doesn’t always feel that way.
@ybctoocold I do have some good friends. They just live far away so I don't see them that often.
5:25 100% having a guy best friend who is ambitious, competitive, smart etc. is just a cheat code to fkn life.... hopefully can find that one day, the masses of mfs who get friendzoned by women or those who get a gf and then drop their dude friends... thats brutal
ngl i had the most happiness w women when i quitted social media and did a bunch of dumb stuff like yell weird jokes in class or say super out of pocket things, even when i was ugly so i wouldnt even say looks matter at all cuz they was a bunch of 10s too, just do a bunch of things daily and surround urself w the fun people instead of the complainers who vent about dating issues and youll be the average of the 5 fun ppl (girls like fun they dont want that one sorry loser who feels bad about himself 24/7 like imagine tryna fall for someone who constantly brings up trauma and bad experiences-)
just do things that make you happy bro youll be EXTREMELY more confident and fun to be around when you can always talk about good experiences youll be doing like make peoples days sometimes, i used to always have my own things going on like playing music and going to late night concerts/playing sports and going to crazy fun and exhausting games, deadass the key to get women is just to not think of them as only dating options, trust me bro id rather have hundreds of female friends who i gladly started talking to in a platonic way and kept at it for years to come instead of constantly getting hurt tryna seek more then that.
summary: do fun stuff in ur life, seek being friends w women not dates and keep your head up no matter anything and youll attract positive people who help you DEVELOP confidence and high self esteem, people always say be confident but the real meaning of confidence is constantly being told youre enough by others and being appreciated.
@@KevinKevin-qp1lg idk bro i dont need women friends or have trouble with women xD but due to my lifestyle and introvert etc. i haven't found the type of guy friend i'd have liked,,, well,,, yet sounds kinda gay ngl
dudes are idiots nowadays, they use their guy friends to get women instead of making an actual friend. then they just leave. damaging actions from the people that call you “friends”
@@gpercreeper9413 jep so many weak men around, either mentally and or physically...
23:21 building a muscular foundation for say 2 years~ of bulking natty then leaning down to 10%~ body fat is the best thing genetically less fortunate people can do to compete
It's officially Joever
Never began for most 🥴🖕
i’m 23 now, in school i was shy, wasn’t really into sports and rarely chatted to girls, started boxing at 18 and that has boosted my confidence a lot over the years but still struggle to approach women even at bars/clubs, your videos are all bangers tho
Fundamentally girls are just like you and me...they are to their core normal people who have life of their own, stop putting them on a pedestal or seeing them as some other beings cuz when you realize they are just like you with some difference you don't feel scared to talk to them
This video reflects the manners & foundations of western society.
I'm a woman studying at a computer science school, and the ratio of men to women is heavily skewed-there are significantly more men than women. At our school, there are, of course, some nerdy and anti-social people, but there are also plenty who are more outgoing and don’t look too bad. Since there are so few girls compared to guys, you can imagine that a few of them have tried to talk to us over time
Checked out your server on discord and set my expectations too high, all it is is nerds arguing over religion and pokimane simps 💀
Lmao
Typical Discord server
Super good advice for everyone. Im no supreme chad but I am in the top 20% I get cold approached by a woman or two every year in a serious way, as in she gives me her number out of no where and this has been consistent for 10 years, but I am fairly isolated. I see men below me in the "absolute rankings" having a much better dating life than me. Building and maintaining a social circle is extremely hard for a lot of us today, but it is the most important thing for dating
The importance of a social circle is so underrated
"i am silent often."
I hide as well brother
Always imagine you with a whiteboard explaining this to me like im a student 😂
I didnt sleep for 12 hours i imagine him as Dolphin muzzle in auditorium explaining me how to pull. 😭
Short, socially isolated(and awkward, thanks 10+ years of bullying), mostly stay home other than going to college and gym, on the first days of college i tried making friends but instead got humiliated and made fun of, and now everyone kinda has their own little group, not to mention i have no idea what the heck they're talking about most of the time so chiming in is rough, and yes I'm in a STEM field(Mechanical Engineering). I don't drink and don't want to ever start, i don't like it. Blackpilled, check. Overthinker, check. Dad was never really around, check.
The only somewhat good foundations were that i had my first kiss at 10yrs old(if that counts for anything) and always played sports up until i started getting bullied heavily at 13. Guess I'm cooked lol
Just keep working on yourself brother, effort pays off. Wish u all the best.
You kinda remind me of myself but. look you didnt get used to put up to with things you liked .wich can mean more things but i feel like you just needed to put this out so you good.If people dont show up to you its not the end of the world. If you seem "cooked " tf that means and try to change it put yourself out to the world and do shit not in corny way but the way you think its right to attract diffrent disscusions and meet likepath people
unsolicited advice: train muay thai or bjj. you will hopefully learn A: not to take a sliver of disrespect. B: not to disrespect others even if you can and want to.
someone disrespects you you fucking go for them. disrespect them harder. show them some teeth.
we are apes, bullying is ape behaviour, you need to be able to ape them back.
It's one of the highest ROI disciplines for a man, especially a fatherless one.
I hear no fight in your words, just submission. where's your anger at these bullies?
Good shit on going into STEM, and good luck.
Who gives a crap of women love you or not. Be happy with yourself and learn embracing your loneliness doing what you love and earning money. Not everyone is destined to have a partner. Sorry, but if you dont accept that hard truth, you will be miserable
What you need are postive male role models to imitate at first. Either find masculine youtubers or watch older movies where masculine men saving the world was still a thing. Like an infant mind copy and embody those traits and apply them to the real world. You'll notice you'll start to be less awkward and gain respect from both men and women. Also won't hurt to watch some comedians as well. Hope that helps cause it's what worked for me
Bro us physics and engineering majors are cooked 😭
Dating aside, this video really opened my eyes to a bigger issue in society. Loneliness. I think every man & woman should try to go out and build solid social foundations instead of staying at home.
women aren't lonely
@EpicMinecraftFail They are. A lot of people is lonely in these times
@@EpicMinecraftFailThey are lonely. They just lie to themselves and others and think that they have someone. But at the end of the day. Most will be forever alone once they hit the wall
Right after I graduated from University the pandemic began so I never learned any skills how to go out and build a social foundations. I spent my life as a hikikomori during those years, and only now I am getting out of that extremely detrimental mental state. All of us, we have been let down by "society". Those of us who never had any guidance, only restrictions and forbiddance.
@@wildsirius4649 they choose to be lonely, they are not lonely like you and me are
So basically im cooked. But, this is a great wake up call. Great content bro
Out of all the videos I’ve seen about this topic, for some reason this one hit me rock hard. It’s like someone threw me a bucket of cold water right as I’m falling asleep.
Extremely useful information tho, I’ll put it in practice
*Building attraction on superficial traits like money or looks alone is a shaky foundation.*
Being skinny is turnoff if you can't relatively easily lift up a girl.
You must of been hurt bruh , where the fuck do yall come up with this shit 😂
@@benjamin9056r On internet and conversations with girls! And its not my problem I'm 5'9" with wide shoulders, weigh 180 lbs. and can easily carry double my size.
I'm skinny, not so strong, and additionally I have a damaged spine so I cannot life heavy objects. But who cares, I don't let that stop me. If a particular girl dos not want me, it's fine, I'll just find one who will! Love is about loving a person inspite of his or her imperfections. I am not perfect, I am also not looking for a perfect woman. I would be willing to overlook any of her imperfections, if she has a golden heart. I want the one who really want me. Of course I have standards, for instance no fat girls, no girls with loose morals, addictions or vices. But if she has burn scars on the face, it's no big deal.
And one thing that you should know for certain is that hearts can change. There's no problem with asking later once more even if you were rejected before.
A lot of thought goes into these. Keep it up bro u earned my sub.
This one of the most simplest yet detailed explanation ...it's all truth and facts I knew most of these things but I wished I knew it sooner, when I was younger. Iam sure every guy here can relate to this we are all at different pace I'm 34 and I still am trying to improve..there's nothing else to do but to improve...
While the ranking system is engaging, it risks boxing people into stereotypes. Personal growth is fluid and doesn't fit neatly into tiers. A "negative" foundation like social isolation could be the start of a transformative journey for someone, while a "positive" foundation like assertiveness might mask deeper insecurities. At its best, this video could inspire men to reflect on areas of improvement. At its worst, it might overgeneralize and cause some to feel pigeonholed or judged. The ultimate takeaway should be: focus on becoming a better version of yourself, not on fitting into social ideals.
bro, how do you 'become better' without knowing whats good and bad? Are you judging people who don't become the mystical 'better'?
@@Xenozillex Becoming better isn't about following some universal rulebook - it's about figuring out what aligns with your own values and goals. It's a personal journey, not a judgement of others. Growth starts with self-reflection and asking, "what's holding me back from living the life I want?" If someone's happy with where they are, that's great too - it's not about labeling people as good or bad.
I agree in the sense that you should never change yourself for a woman. I guess this list is just for people who are trying to maximize their dating life and since women are the ones who dictate culture, he has to make some generalizations to inform the average man how the average woman would think of certain interests
@@binks69 I totally agree-you should never change yourself just to please a woman or anyone else. The list isn’t a rulebook but more of a perspective on how certain habits or interests might be perceived by the majority. That said, it’s up to you to balance self-awareness with authenticity. The goal is to find someone who appreciates the real you, not a version of you that’s been curated to fit cultural norms.
@@arthwick5325 What if you become the best version of yourself but you still just don't get a lover?
You can do a tier list about ways to cause emotions or which emotions are the best to provoke
"It's fine, I'm not hating" is code for "You did something wrong bro, turn this shit around ASAP."
Sort of adding onto what you said about CS majors, as a CS major myself, I feel like most, if not all CS dudes are primarily focused on their careers, getting a job at a FAANG company, etc. rather than focused on getting a girlfriend. I go to a pretty good CS school, if I went up to most of these dudes in my classes and asked if they had to choose between a job at FAANG and a loving/loyal girlfriend most of them would choose the FAANG job 100%. I never see the other dudes in my classes at the bars or clubs either, they just stick to themselves for the most part, play video games with each other etc. and don't take many risks towards women. Add onto this most CS women aren't that social either. Most CS girls I've been friends with haven't been very adventerous or talkative. I've been doing CS for 4 years now, and the first time I met a decent value CS woman that was relatively interesting was at my gym a few months ago. She's nerdy yes of course but she likes to travel, and in the gym she's hella strong, definitely looks feminine and she already has a full time job while doing a Master's at the same time.
I don’t understand why CS dudes chase FAANG jobs i worked at Apple. Corporate america is not worth it there are so many more opportunities out here in tech where you could make 6 figures or more without being at a FAANG people just want the clout and bragging rights. Those companies are not long term you can get laid off at anytime
CS guys are locked in. Gotta respect it
I am a CS major myself. I graduated with a Bachelor's degree. Now I'll tell you the absolute honest truth, I'll choose a loving/loyal girlfriend anytime over a FAANG job. I could still find a job, any job using my skills, but finding a loving/loyal girlfriend is hard. If she is loving/loyal by definition, she wouldn't hate me for not having a FAANG job, she would be happy with any job that I have, as long as I can make enough money to cover expenses. Believe me, I've had the FAANG job before, and without a girlfriend. Although I was making six figures, I felt terrible because I was all alone. You know, when I was in University everything that I did, I did it for my future family. I thought that if I were to get a six figure job then I would be able to free up my future girlfriend to be a house wife. I wanted to provide for my family, but without a family all that money meant nothing to me. This was during the pandemic too, so I was depressed because of the social isolation and worrying about the clot shots. If I had a wife during that time, then it would have motivated me much more to work at my best, but I ended up failing that job due to depression and lack of motivation.
When I went to University for my undergrad, my main mistake was that I didn't do enough for meeting and dating girls. I was kind of just going through the motions of life, taking the courses and doing all the required assignments without engaging in any clubs or extra curriculum activities. Even then, there were tons of cute girls all around me on the campus, and looking back, I've counted 14 different times when I could have asked out a girl. But I didn't do that, because of my own awkwardness and stupidity. I had few social skills and a low emotional IQ. Only focused on knocking out tests and assignments, a kind of tunnel vision, not really looking at the world around me. "Locked in" is also not good, it is a kind of primitive mentality, not flexible enough. You have to be able to see the beauty of life, and be plucky. You can't have the Yin without the Yang. Too focused on career or academics without any focus on dating or relationships is also not good. The best is in the balance. Because even if you become successful in your field, if you have no one to share that success with, what was the point of it all if you don't have a family? I'm going to go back to University to do my Master's Degree, partly for career, but also mainly for dating and relationships. On campus you see tons of cute girls each day walking about, just ask her out. But in the world outside of University I haven't seen even a single cute girl. I don't go to bars or clubs because I want a loving/loyal girlfriend, and those that are in the bars and clubs are not virgins. I don't really see the point of playing video games with each other. When I was in Undergraduate I literally had no time for that because I was playing "whack a mole" with assignments, exams, and projects, and I had to do them very quickly. If I had any time for playing video games, I would rather go searching for a waifu.
I dont care. I wont reject myself for a woman. I love myself for who i am and i love my house and i have my own preferences and hobbies. Lol. Not taking any risks to let a woman ruin my life. I have ny faith and principles. Why would i try to impress a woman for validation. Thats lame
i know seriously, i'm not changing. i'm too old for that shit
I agree with you but bro y are you here then lol
@@kyleball8396 we like the content lol
This comment right here is the truth.
These people are going to change their whole self worth for a woman who won't respect you and leave you anyways. If you start acting fake they can smell that crap right away
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man every video you put out i say that this is the top but yet again a banger.
I go to an art school and one thing I've noticed is some of these qualities are frowned upon there. You can express yourself in certain ways but it's very easy to overstep and hurt people's feelings. I think it's a weird thing that's happening that if you have an alternative identidy people aren't allowed to critisize you and have to tread lightly. I can tell the morale there is low because of this and it makes it hard to be social. I think everyone should be treated equally and take the same amount of shit but they don't see it that way over there.
That pic of Drake with the Lover-Boy Topic is just pure gold
I don’t know how to talk to women, and I’ve been socially isolated my whole life, I’m so cooked…
Watch romance animes of wcostream. Study how the men interact with women. Emulate them, do as they do. This is how during the pandemic I learned how to talk to women. By watching animes and old movies. Modern movies are wokey trash.
This is literally life changing perspective.
I was bullied during my school days but i fought back and slowly in the last few years of my school life i started taking stand for myself but by that time my brain had already gotten into that bad effects of bullying state but after highschool i worked on myslef, workout and improved my social skills became very attractive and now i can atleast talk with people normally and can socialize with women or men it doesn't matter as. It takes time but you have to work upon yourself and make your brain feel safe and your inner child that its okay, you got this you aren't the same person anymore you can stand up for yourself
you’re going to have to do a tier list of your tier lists soon
Inception
Maybe add this one to the bad foundation list. Not having your own car and taking public transport lol
Tier list on ways to "calibrate yourself socially"
nah I am blackpill but I see it as a huge positive at motivation
If you were really black pill you would understand its over.
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Real black pill is iman ul qadr, realising that God might have planned something else than settling down with a lady.
@@thesaddestdude3575 not if u are not sub 5. its over for sub 5.
@@thesaddestdude3575 absolutely not true I have seen a huge increase in attention from girls
@bogeefn You must be a 7/10 then, ive never even meta woman who was interested in me in the slightest.
I think we are running out of ideas eh? The more social, more you party, the more you work out, the less you overthink, less you care the more girls you get, yeah no shit
Lol facts
Fax
Those ones are obvious, but the commentary is important. He speaks golden nuggets of truth for every item, ESPECIALLY for the "bad foundation tier" such as "overthinker" and "lover boy".
doesn't hurt to get reminded and think about the details. some people are also just oblivious and have no idea where to start or are not aware that they are hurting there chances.
That’s a pretty harsh summary of the list but I’ll take it
Best line Chad rizzing up the the ladies
"what's up dude? oh shit for real?!" 😁
Ticking most of the points from the video hit hard.
The biggest problem is when you’re older (I’m 31) with no friends and trying to find dates and make new friends. I had chronic illness most of my 20s and spent 8 years very isolated.
I have extreme arrested development from lack of life experience and don’t relate to people my age well because they are mainly settling down and having kids. I, on the other hand, feel 18 inside. At this point, it’s a lot harder asking out girls at the mall and Starbucks and stuff because they are 10+ years younger than me and while I’m fine with that I don’t want to come across like a creep.
They will label you as a creep even if you don't really act as such, no matter what you do, just as a habit. Just freely be as "creepy" as you want and don't self-censor anything about you (law matters, opinions don't). Ten years older is an advantage, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially women your age. The only way out of the "creepy" fear into confidence is repeated exposure+experience, doing the reps.
You’re right Corn addiction is bad i get less mileage and the smell throws people off but the feeling when i gap them is to addicting 🏎️
As a non-anime guy I've seen them pull! they got a whole niche of cute, submissive anime girls they will have a leg up on
These videos just get better and better
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Can you make a video talking about the different youtubers you've learned helpful things from??
Definitely profit of your social life if you're still in school because after you're out it's going to be harder to make friends and it will impact your dating life negatively.
And yooo CS tier is also sooo true brooo😂
Damn bro. Thanks for the video. Keep making more.
12:00 ONG i was playing this video in the background of my League game 😭that was VERY personal.
16:14 😂😂. Great video man keep it up!
Honestly the anime doesn't do any damage, I've had girls thought it was really cute when I made anime references or talked about it. It's about being yourself, and that will carry you further than anything on this list.
Your a real one. Keep it up man
Boys just be who you are, dont change no hobbies for a girl. If you like gaming, continue gaming, if you like anime, watch anime. You'll find someone who appreciates these hobbies aswell.
@@KurisuNo1 I agree with you on the not changing part, but you’re also lying to guys on the 2nd part.
If you’ve never dated or received attention from women, then it’s better to begin to accept that it most likely will never happen and move on. That’s what I did
What is love, it is living for another person, it is putting the needs of the other person above your own. Love is sacrifice. You have to overcome yourself. Much of living in a family requires you to put others ahead of you, such as your children or wife. It's called responsibility and duty as a father. You can't continue living a hedonistic lifestyle and expect things to take care of themselves. You have to take care of things. So many things to do, that you don't have time for your former vices anymore. And then you realize that you never needed those vices to begin with, they were limiting your potential. And if you're truly in love, you no longer care about sacrificing your vices or hobbies. It's but a small burden. When you're truly in love, then you will happily do even more harder tasks for your people, compared to which getting rid of your hobbies is a miniscule thing.
You like anime right? Why don't you live your life as the anime characters? Do what they do. For example in Avatar the Last Airbender, we have not one but two examples of saving their lovers from the concentration camp. In fact I would save my wife from a concentration camp or die, if it ever came to it. Giving up gaming or some other vice is pennies compared to the amount of efforts and nerves and balls that something like that would take.
@@konstantinrebrov675 To each their own.
@@konstantinrebrov675 I aint reading all that gang but aye you have a good one bro
Well, I never lived, but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna destroy the shell.
In the past few years, I was alone (also because I chose to be) and I opened my eyes.
I needed to change.
So I started.
How is it going? Well, it's a work in progress, but I'm confident to say that despite I never had wings, I've still learned how to fly.
Now, I found your channel and I'm gonna keep some of your tips in my mind.
I was really really impressed by your shit testing video great work. This video I will not argue with the logic but maybe the chad you described as talking without thinking is really just being emotionally present.
Computer science major here! This was 100% facts.
As a years long blackpiller , I watch your content and approve that your advice will certainly help the average normie to get a gf.
There is no normal
Thank you bro
17:20 I'd also add combat sports to that, even if you're doing them when you're older. Not only is it a massive confidence boost and goes relatively hand in hand with the overthinking aspect, but you'll also be able to handle dicey situations much better which women would probably pick up on at least subconsciously.
Damn. Single child, 5,7, have father in the picture, overanalytical, small circle of friends, had sports.
Currently working on social skills, making a bigger social circle, partying a bit, engaging in small talk, mostly quit the games, working on assertiveness.
But damn, the cards were heavily out of my favour growing up, can't believe I felt bad about having no relationships as a teenager.
It's not a tier list, it's an "are you cooked?" bingo card.
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Some of the greatest advice I’ve ever heard: “the things you do to attract the low quality women are likely the things you’ll have to do to attract ‘the one’”
Step one: be attractive
And rich
and have perfect genetics and a body of a mr. olympia 1995
As an socially isolated person who like to stays at home (neglecting invites) & going to become bcm a CS student This is abosule W(from the bottom).
Nice video bro i like your channel! You should make a video about when is it a good idea to end the relationship (what situations, behaviors from her, etc should lead to you ending the relationship I mean)
This guy was recommended to my feed, like 3 days ago, & since then, I'm binge watching his videos (even though, I'm a Woman), they are entertaining.
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Travis Hunter Still needs that Ultimate ‘How to keep her Loyal Tier List’
Only channel I got notifications on for
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I’m most of everything on the lower tier lol. Over thinker, no sports, video games, no attention as a kid, single mother, bullied in school, lone wolf, nerdy yapper. Technically, I should be cooked.
But I’m married. Lol. There’s always hope fellas. Women aren’t as 1 dimensional as we may think.
What are you doing here then
You got lucky. And she knows that.
Happy for you bro 👑
exception is not the rule.
@@QWERTY-gp8fd Better to try to be the exception then
Thanks bro, quality videos, you are the real one. Starting an software engineering degree in 2025 wish me luck
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computer science couldn’t be more true lmao. I was in the exact same position as u
Women chase men based on the prominence and symmetry of their skulls and then their race, height and leanness. If you have the right proportions women wouldn't care if you were a shut-in Pokemon master. The rankings in this vid sometimes confuse cause and effect. Guys who are into anime and Disney are essentially wishing that they will turn into the pretty boy with a symmetrical face who does not need to do much to attract fine women. We've all met that guy.
Really good video man, i'ma make sure my son play sports when he's young
Bro called out travis hunter indirectly with the twitch.
2:00 I'll be honest I don't see many people that are out going. It's kind of a problem and hard to actually find your match, idk if it's the same for women.
Living in the west should be on the list at the bottom
Women in other countries are the same if not worse thanks to social media
@@TheShowOff2I fr...they think women in thd third world are like mother Mary or something when in reality they are far more greedy and materialistic and want the best of both worlds ie western freedom+cultural value of men providing...and they are not even that good looking
@@TheShowOff2I The west is the worse
I am a "social isolated" guy, not really voluntarily though. I dont have a social circle outside of workmates. Being shy and introverted makes this terrible.
I totally agree that its really hard. Its either by online dating, cold approach or not at all.