It’s time to delve into the evil side of autism… Do you have any idea where you might find that no eye contact sign? I’m confuzzled! Is it real? You may also want to watch… The Problematic & the CRINGE | Autism Mom Memes: th-cam.com/video/aa8kpZZ1xpM/w-d-xo.html She Diagnosed Herself as Autistic after ONE TIKTOK?! r/AmITheA**hole: th-cam.com/video/G2YKe35z9f0/w-d-xo.html If you're wondering whether to bother pursuing an official diagnosis, you might find this one useful: th-cam.com/video/sQ102wzqaXY/w-d-xo.html Hope you’ve all had a great September so far and that any returns to education (whether it’s you or your children) haven’t been too stressful. Sending love 💛
The neurotypicals trying to comprehend and represent protection and safety for autistic people(in regards to that cringe car that doesn't have any style but it's made like a chaotic heresy, mockery, misconception and ignorance) it's like walking with a flashlight during day and believing to brighten the mood of others by pointing that light into the face of people and asking incessantly if they are opressing too much...
*Neurotypicals parents-peeple praying for blessings and for help to solve their problems* God sends in autists and neurodivergents divine warriors of love and reason to be prepared to help them. Meanwhile the neurotypicals... turns into abusive envious narcs... they use mocking and harassing tactics... gaslighting, exploiting and trying to afflict covertly the autists. Meanwhile they autists: "God can we come back please? These people are diseased and they are draining our lifeforce. They are disgusting inconsiderative and unkind degeneratives degenerates!"
Only place i could imagine it remotely being relevant would be in prison where it's considered a sign of aggression. Or in another country where you're not allowed to look people of a higher status in the eyes. But who tf knows.
The no eye contact sign looks like it could be on a train. There is a cultural perception that commuting on the London Underground can be quite an antisocial experience, no-one talking to the other tired strangers, avoiding eye contact etc, so I'd guess someone may have stuck that sign up on a tube train as a hilarious Banksy-esque commentary?
I don't have any sensory issues with the police car, but it's super infantilizing, like they expect us to walk up to it and say "Oooh! Me have mental age of three! Me like bright colors! Me trust policeman in pretty car!"
Neurotypicals managers into their office snorting nasty stuff: "Let's make the most unintelligible car that has no order or sense to afflict and offend autists in order to bully them even more, that would be so much fun." Then they proceed to slander or use power dynamics in the office because they are stressed, bored or don't know how to contain or focus their energy adequately.
Yes. I enjoy bright colours as a chosen symbol of my personal eccentricity, but not in an infantilising manner. The colours are way too much, rainbows should be an accent, not the whole thing. For example, I pair my favourite rainbow jersey with black pants.
If my eyes could throw up from the sight they would. I love bright and colorful art, but if they got an actual designer or autistic artist to create it then it wouldn’t be so bad. The car is not only bad because of how offensive it is but it’s also bad because of its obnoxious use of color/shapes and no negative space. Having some negative space, balance, and using less colors would make it more bearable.
@@imautisticnowwhat I would love to joke more but there are decrepid neurotypicals narcs prowling that take that humour literally for misery intents and want to condemn autists out of envy especially if we are thriving despite our different conditions in a society built on greed and obnoxious non-reasonable and non-accurate talking.
@@vxvxxvxvxvxvxvxvxvxxv a organisation that pretends to be charitable and well educated but is the opposite has a puzzle peace as its logo; if that helps!
@@skootergirl22+ Yeah, in my hometown they have LGBTQ+ decals too. As a pan autistic person that's had several bad encounters with the police where they violated my rights despite me being innocent every time, they disgust me lol
As an autistic person,a graphic designer prolific in their field of work for more than 10 years…. That car hurt my eyes… please, don’t do it… we are not elementary school children… just don’t
True dat. As someone who used to work in graphic design too, I know what I bet you know: that a lot of graphic designers are prone to coming to a fast conclusion on what seems pretty and clever, and don’t always give much thought to what they are actually communicating with their design. Decades ago, I was doing an illustration that involved Native American imagery, and, this being a college town, the magazine put me in touch with a Native American academic for guidance. The guy said to me, basically, “remember that a lot of objects and such associated with Native American culture have religious significance. They are often treated as if they are curios or souvenirs, but they shouldn’t be. It’s offensive to us, the same as treating a cross or a Star of David as a decoration.” I tried to take that to heart, followed his direction and carried that message forward with me in other situations. Perhaps I’m being unfair, but my sense is that a lot of designers now are mostly guided by if something looks cool to them.
Personally I already hated the « shiny colors for the little kids aesthetic » when I was a child. It felt both unpleasant and condescending to me. Like, « do you think that because I’m 6 I don’t have any taste, or that you need to assault my eyes to get my attention ? » So Im not going to start liking it now just because it turns out Im autistic lol
The elementary age children in my family with autism also hate these designs. I asked them why the puzzle pieces are used and they were like no clue! Me neither, buddy, me neither.
Agree. I have no degree in any form of art (although I do write fantasy stuff, hobby of mine I picked up a view years ago), but I can design you something better-looking in 5 minutes. Drunk. With my non-dominant hand.
The other infuriating thing about the police car is that autistic people are at an increased risk of police brutality (especially autistic POC). Difficulty understanding social norms means accidentally offending people, and police tend to attack anyone who challenges their authority. Police in many places around the world are also taught to see behaviours associated with distress as evidence that someone can turn violent, and so they often react more harshly to people with mental illnesses and disabilities. The fact that Miami cops tried to do this “autism awareness uwu” stuff makes me feel physically ill. That car doesn’t come off as a gesture of support- I read it far more as a threat. I would like police to be _less_ aware of me, actually.
That car....it seems like it's been designed by somebody who asked Autism Speaks what autistic people like and they replied with, "Well, autistic people are always children", so "Yeah, great! Kids! I got this...".
Oh, yes… I went looking for articles about how to help Autistics with moving because I was moving to a different state and the whole process was excruciatingly stressful, and only found ONE article talking about adults. Every single other one tells you how to help your Autistic kids move. And my Autistic kids are all either adults or nearly adults and just still live with us, so all the precious bits of advice like “warn them in advance” weren’t of much use.
Ok so here's the plan- we need to destroy the Autism Awareness police car (cuz it's giving me sensory overload) so we dress up in suits (so they know we're serious), steal it, drive it onto the train tracks, and fine anyone 200 pounds if they try to stop us.Then the train hits it, and hopefully there won't be any damage- to the train. It's a foolproof plan! Unless the train gets damaged. I'm trying my best to use all the jokes
@@kj_H65f I love when someone asks me to explain a joke and I just go into as much detail as possible and it becomes so unfunny that it's funny (to me lol)
@kingofichigo it's a Ford Explorer, mid 2010s generation. It's in a smaller size class than its predecessor. If we position it just right, on a line with larger engines, preferably diesel freight lines, things should be fine.
Why a police car, of all things? Knowing the history of violence by the hands of law enforcement towards neurodivergent folk... this is definitely sending quite a message. They're so messed up.
When you know about the history of Autism Speaks, and how they contributed to the abuse faced by Autistic people.... it's very clear why they chose to be involved. As for why this got made in the first place... simple: Ignorance, ablelism, PR stunts to try and make people forget about the police's history of abuse towards neurodivergent people, and a good old inspiration porn to make ignorant neurotypicals feel better about themselves and pat themselves in the back thinking: "I'm making a difference, I'm giving autistic people a voice and helping them." while refusing to actually listen to autistic people and do something that activelly causes them harm.
It's totally just an image thing. The cops get in hot water all the time, so the logic goes "Maybe if we do something nice for autistic people we can get social media to stop talking about us beating black people?" And then they just go for it without consulting a single autistic person just for the sake of it.
I'm definitely autistic, and in my 30s, but I'm also trans and am refraining from seeking a diagnosis because I know the hospitals here in the US will use any little reason to refuse service, and infantilization would be too easy a scapegoat to provide.
In the UK here, and currently here it is not an issue (good job, as most of the trans people I know are neuro divergent), but given some of the reports from the USA I fully understand your decision.
I didn't have any problems with the hospital I go to, but some most likely would be discriminatory. Avoiding religious hospitals and picking one in a city area is the best bet
@kingofichigo I'm right in the middle of the Bible Belt and can't afford to travel. Trying to get approved for a medically necessary mastectomy (have always had a disproportionately large chest that mildly deformed my spine as a kid) never bringing up the trans thing in the office because it's more likely to get approved, but even at that, insurance is a pain.
@@FrankiKaye I'm in Indiana and definitely keep being trans to myself most of the time. I just lucked out in the hospital department. I hope you are able to get your surgery
God, same... my grandparents kept trying to get me diagnosed for disability money and I always hated it. Thankfully, it never came back positive, so I should be good to transition now. I mean, I'd HAVE to be, right...? Because it'd be really stupid if I'm too neurotypical to be counted as autistic and too "autistic" to get HRT......
I enjoy eyebleed colors because of my hypersensitivity to them, I've taken some tests and seem to see more of the color spectrum than most people! But I absolutely loathe the color white for how loud and pure it is. Even just the color is like staring straight into a fluorescent light without blinking. Sensory issues are like a double-edged sword, you get more out of the stuff you like, but also get way more out of the stuff you don't like.
@@aleisterlilywhite1109 Nerds too. You know, I wonder how many subcultures have been spawned by ND folks just trying to build a society in which they feel comfortable.
I need more of the "fastest diagnosis in history" genre. Please tell me your stories, because I love my own and I love the suit, so I'll start: I wrote a 26 pages long list of traits with examples that I have and gave them to the diagnostitian. The first point on the list was "I wrote this list, because I can't follow a thought when I'm speaking and also I can't speak when I'm stressed"
During my assessment I was asked “do you find yourself blaming other people for things?” I responded “only if they’re actually the ones in the wrong” She then said “that’s a very literal answer.” It’s been three months and I have no idea if I missed some context or how else anyone could possibly answer that question 🤷♀️😂 (I was diagnosed that day!)
@@kathymarshall220 I know neurotypicals love to blame/complain about other people, sometimes I feel that's all they talk about, like it's their special interest. I remember that I only knew the stereotype which I didn't fit, but luckily we had a family friend that worked with autistic children and knew the signs but no one explained it to me properly and said that must be why I've struggled in school and talked about it like it was a learning difficulty. (which is not what I really had difficulty with as had secret scientific special interests as didn't like showing an interest in something unless my twin sister did/my social compass) But I was being compared to my twin sister like never before saying stuff like "would explain why she's the smart twin; why she's so behind her sister; so she'll definitely not be going to college with her sister then 😉" 😡 although my bachelor's degree proved that wrong, even there people were talking about surprised they were that I was graduating. Back to my version of the suit/instant diagnosis story. When I had someone come to the house to talk to me I got up my brain training app and talked non-stop (a habit you may have noticed 😅) about all the stuff I did (as didn't realize autism wasn't the same as learning difficulty, not that there's anything wrong with that, just not something I identified with). Then on his way out my parents asked if he thought I'd get diagnosed (about a year away) and to my surprise he said quietly DEFINITELY. Funnily enough when I did automatically get assessed for a LD they said "DEFINITELY DON'T have a learning difficulty". The suit reminded me of that; trying to show how smart and grown up you are just to break the stereotype you've been told.
That’s a classic question, and the place I got it was in the personality test I completed. I’ve expended so much energy over the years playing devil’s advocate with my perceptions, in what I now see as an attempt not to get too black and white and judgmental, so I answered “no.” There were other questions, in the personal failing department, where I answered I do something “a bit,” because I don’t like to represent myself as not having flaws I’ve got. A couple of these got flagged as “of concern.” I concluded that a lot of the questions were probing for personality disorders, and that the test was not suited for autistic people. So I suspect that question is trying for a binary result: “yes” = 1, flag for narcisssism, paranoia, antisocial, etc., and “no” = 0, no red flag, you’re okay. Never mind that people that think others are never at fault can be easily gaslit. Maybe other questions got at that, but it felt like the test was looking for menaces to society, and victims aren’t menaces, just people who are supposed to be treated for depression (I hit high marks on that!). I don’t know what I would have said if offered an opportunity to respond with something other than preprogrammed radio buttons. I rarely give a plain yes/no answer to anything, because the facts always require context. I probably would have given an answer like yours, but in 25 sentences instead of one (ADHD too).
I asked for/got an oil immersion microscope as my Sweet Sixteen present from my parents. I took it with me to college and wouldn't let anyone touch it.
My mother got many things very wrong, traumatically wrong, but one thing she got right... If I wanted her to answer no when asking to go somewhere or have someone over, I just had to call her "Mother" instead of mom when asking.
I’ve heard other people say that their parents and them have a ‘code word’ like they’ll start their texts with “so…” if they want their parents to say no - which helps with not being peer pressured into something they don’t want to do while still saving face. For example if there’s a party at someone’s house where you know their won’t be any parent supervision and probably drugs you would message “So Emilea is having a party at her place tonight, can I please go?” And your parents would know to respond that you can’t go for some reason or another. I wish my parents had something like this place because I lot of the time while I felt the peer pressure and was still able to decline invites or offers towards dangerous situations, I would get bullied about those things too. If I ever have kids I’m definitely going to implement this so that I know my kids have another option to stay safe and avoid peer pressure and anxiety type situations if they want to.
Honestly I love bright colors ngl. Candy pinks, purples, bright yellows. I recently found a special interest in decora fashion so yeah. Something I noticed is that an autistic person might absolutely LOVE bright kidcore-esque colors or they might absolutely despise them. Very rarely do I see an in between.
I replied on another comment saying a similar thing and I think it's great. I think it's because sensory hypersensitivity is a double edged sword-- you get more intense experiences of the things you hate and the things you love. In some cases you get to even experience both at the same time-- like I LOVE horror and it's not because I have a stronger stomach for it, it isn't because I don't scare easy, it's BECAUSE I naturally find things scary and horror is a great outlet to explore my feelings while staying safe in reality. It sounds weird to enjoy discomfort but the fact that being uncomfortable is the intended thing too, and not something to be ashamed of or suppress, actually is a huge relief too since I'm used to pretending I'm fine when I'm not. With horror you just get to react as instinctively as you want and it kinda breaks down my masking barriers because it's so intense. I also love music that's intense and jarring, like metal, breakcore, chaotic stuff with lots of mixed up sounds-- and I've noticed other neurodivergent people get really into "crunchy" or "textured" music too. I think it's extremely neat. Sorry for the comment essay and special interest infodump but at least this is the type of comment section where that kind of thing is most understandable LOL
Yeah, I like the car. I don't think the giant rainbow "AUTISM" on the side really fits with the rest, it makes it look more like a Pride car, but otherwise I find it hysterical and fun to look at and I'd absolutely snap a selfie with it just for shits. Happily my visual sensory issues are limited to light sources. I actually despise neutral colors on vehicles specifically. And I'm with the guy above, I love complex music. Last time I needed to tune out I literally put on Drumstep for an hour. I love roller coasters kind of in the way they describe horror. I like the feeling of "maybe I might die but probably not".
I love bright colours too, and I liked the way the previous poster described music, because I think that probably applies to me too. What I don't like about the car is the metaphor of the puzzle pieces, the fact that they aren't even fitting together, and that it's promoting Autism Speaks, because 'autism' doesn't speak when they're around, neurotypicals do.
On euphemisms about death: As a student reporter, we were taught to say "dead" and "died" and I like it a lot better in most cases. And looking at understanding that maybe I'm on the spectrum, I see why it's always appeared to me so strongly. And probably why I loved journalism style guidelines so much (unless I didn't agree with them ...) .
A few months ago, I saw a news report in which a robot dog was sent into a collapsed building (in New York I think) to look for survivors. I got excited about seeing the robot dog, then felt bad, and recalled the Michael Falk sketches, so watched them.
I have a thing where I have to "dress the part" no matter where I was going. A big part of fitting in and not causing waves is to dress in the style that everyone else is. It's been really hard for me to get comfortable wearing the clothes I like to wear.
I get it, I've spent my life wearing clothes so as not to stand out. I had clothes I loved but didn't feel able to ever wear because they might have been commented on or judged in some way. I try to wear what I like now and not worry but it is hard to undo years of trained thinking. Thinking about it now, I put no thought into clothes and wore jeans and t-shirts usually. Comfortable and free movement, with pockets. Lol
Until about a year ago I pretty much only wore black, then I started experimenting with wearing colourful shirts. Now my wardrobe is full of obnoxious patterned shirts 😂
If it was culturally acceptable, most of my wardrobe would probably be cosplays of my favorite videogame and movie characters. Edit: If cosplays were easier to clean/maintain as well.
I would assume the 'no eye contact' sticker is a parody - there are often joke decals made and put up on tube trains, which would be a logical place for this joke.
I have googled it and as I suspected it is a spoof sign from London tube trains that appeared back in 2012. The joke is that you would be fined for making eye contact with fellow passengers. On the London tube it is generally expected that despite being crammed in close together that everyone ignore each other so it doesn't get awkward.
The autistic reporter felt a lil bit like laughing at us, not with us for me. But that could be because if I don't present as that stereotype, my diagnosis is so often & openly questioned. It's frustrating to be so overly sensitive about stuff that I know is supposed to be lighthearted without ill intent. This noggin of mine is nothing if not stubborn 😂
Yes, I totally get what you mean! I don't think it's just you at all - it definitely does feel like a stereotypical representation. I so understand your frustration! I wish the average person knew more about autism and masking etc. Hopefully things are changing! 💛
I was offended by it a little, it's play to the illusion that all autistic folk have no empathy whatsoever. I am super over sensitive, other people's emotions can feel as uncomfortable and overwhelming as music that is too loud.
@@grigoriraspoutine9298Yeah, tbh I couldn’t be mad because I kept recognizing myself. All they exaggerated in my case was that he valued the train over the dead guy. That bit could definitely be seen as offensive but the general demeanor was kinda hilarious.
I 💯 am with you I just wear the same thing Summer basketball shorts and a butterfly tank top long not short so I can bend winter sweat pants and butterfly sweater and I have those thoughts I should dress up dress nice but allways a butt then I feel stupid and just wish I would've wore my normal 🦋🦋🦋
I found a way to dress nicely and comfortably, to the point where people would ask me why I got all dressed up for a casual occasion and I'd respond "oh these are my pajamas" lol
Once I find set of clothes that speak to me and are comfy, I will wear the hell out of them. For almost all of 2020, I rocked the 12th Doctor's look. Hoodie and suit jacket all the way!
They couldn't have put in on a worse vehicle either. Of all the service vehicles, utility vehicles, buses, trains, etc, they had to put it on the one that has intense flashing lights and extremely loud siren....
I had a friend years ago who grew up in Chad, she said that it was considered inpolite to make eyecontact whilst talking there and apologied to me for that habit, as if i had ever made eye contact 😂
I remember a guy at my college who always wore a suit and briefcase. I really liked his dedication. I really wish I had gone and said hello to him as he was always by himself.
@@TheSoftestGirlYouKnow Comfort is always the most important! Those legging sound wonderful, do you know what brand they are? And yes!! Plushies don't have an age limit, they are for everyone. I am almost 30 and plushies are just as important to me now as they always have been! Thanks for sharing with me💜
The way I didn't even understand the joke about wearing the suit, I just thought "oh what else would he wear?" haha. But I'm also a lifelong over-dresser. Sometimes it works in my favor! I think there are some situations in different cultures where making direct eye contact is not good! I've noticed American adults often want kids to look them directly in the eye when they're reprimanding them, but I felt like it was the opposite while I lived in Korea. Adults often expect kids to bow their heads and avert their eyes, not aggressively stare them down (yet I got in trouble for that when I was younger😅)
I was told by my spouse from the Philippines that eye contact isn't as normal there either, so it seems like it's not so much a thing in (at least some) Asian countries!
To this sick society, we are seen as evil for our honesty.... but I assure you, that when society has gone evil, those it considers evil, are in fact, the good guys.
I've always hated the puzzle piece design, but I'll be wildly unpopular as I love really really bright clashing colours, I actually seek them out and wear them and surround myself with them. I'm 47 and have always been focussed on neon and super bright colours. I just sensory seek these colours. It's weird because I have huge sensory overload with other sensory input, not colour though! quite the opposite ;)
Controversial take: I like the puzzle piece design, because I've always felt like the broken puzzle piece that never fits in anywhere. But no one else should ever feel that way because of their diagnoses!
Not unpopular at all! Lots of us love neon burning colors. I love color in general, it's one of my special interests, especially since I'm an artist. Hypersensitivity goes both ways-- more intense experience of what you hate, more intense experience of what you love! I think allistics have a way wider range of neutral to extreme with sensory stuff, they can mildly dislike a thing or mildly enjoy something, but autistic experience feels way more "I either hate it or love it" (maybe with a secret third option, "I'm 100% neutral on this, I feel nothing about it"). I'm at least like that with everything.
The frustration with “seasonal appropriate” fashion is SO TRUE! But also consider: frustration with seasonal scents. I only like “autumnal” scents, and have to buy all my candles/perfume at this time of year to last through the rest of the year because I can’t stand being stuck with nothing but floral scents for spring and summer. Why are warm spicy scents autumn exclusive??
Me too. One time some colleagues were talking about a person they knew who died sky diving when the parachute did not open. I said something like “well sometimes there are risks when engaging in dangerous sports.” That did not go over well. 😒
@@nude_cat_ellie7417 That makes perfect sense to me. It suggests that what happened wasn't either a freak accident or the result of malice. It makes the event very sad but not troubling.
I feel the discrimination bit. I was heavily discriminated against at my last job because I let them know I am autistic. I ended up having a mental health leave at one point because it was affecting my mental and physical health so much. I was on a fixed-term contract and as soon as it was done they offered me another job (at a different site, but with the same company), but kept saying at the interview that they didn't think I could cope. I kept saying I could and giving examples of where I had coped in tough situations in the past, but still didn't get it.
I once did an internship and withheld the information for 2 months. Coïncidentally the two months that my boss was on holiday. He returned (I was 16 btw) and he heared from a coworker that I had been eating my lunchbread in the teabreaks (I was fricking hungry) and that I got a stack of calendars out of the bin, because I thought someone had thrown away stock (turns out there was a typo in them, but nobody bothered to let me know this. I thought I'd witnessed a crime, basically.) I then accidentally mentioned my autism to a co-worker that gasped and asked if anybody else knew. I said to her that I was going to make it public in a week, for the group, but I felt like they needed to get to know me first. She immediately left and informed the boss about my autism, who immediately ordered them to send me to the 6th floor. They all gathered around me when I arrived there. He publicly shamed me and shouted and screamed for a long time. About how I had been lying and deceiving and how DARE I EVEN CONSIDER STARTING THIS INTERNSHIP WITH SUCH A BIG LIE??!" The horse-shoe people (colleagues) just stood there and nodded, while I teared up and apologized. One week later, my mentor was called and the boss clarified that he didn't want a 'defect' to work in his store and he demanded an apology from the mentor for the bad quality student that he had tried to 'give him to work with', because if it happened again that a faulty student would be handed to their store, they would no longer support the bond between the school and the internship-opportunity-part of their company. So my mentor profusely apologized and they kicked me from school, so their name wouldn't be tarnished. I asked what I did wrong, they said I was a diamond, like all the other students, but instead of being able to sand off the nasty spots, like you do with diamonds, I turned out to have those spots in the middle, where they can't reach them. And jewelers don't sell diamonds with spots to the costumer, they don't like those. I was un-sell-able, I was faulty and therefore I had to go and find some education/school that díd want to work with a faulty diamond. Because they were not going to soil their "good name" by having it known that they 'sold diamonds that were unfit for selling.'
@@Widdekuu91wtf u never deserved that, they are all shitty people for doing that to you and you deserved so much better than those assholes, u didnt do ANYTHING wrong u just existed, ate bread and took out paper from the bin, to have them do that to u is despicable and utterly disgusting, im so sorry :[[🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Nothing wrong with dressing nice! I'm always asked why all dressed up, what's the special occasion? Ummmm....I left the house and jammies in public is embarrassing 🤣
my empathy is very closely tied with my spoons. there are some days where I would feel more empathy for a leaf i see floating down a creek or a knickknack in a thrift store than an actual person, but you come back to me a few days later, im listening, im engaged, im here. for. you. i am the solviest of problem solvers and a rock to lean on. if youre having a problem _I Am_ *There* unfortunately, I only have about 2 days of that, max, on my _best days_ so definitely no help to anybody if im also going through some shit.
"Hey, you know those people who are sensitive to bright colors, lights, and noises? Let's make the bright-lights-and-loud-noises car covered in bright colors for them!"
That no eye contact sign just reminded me of how I thought I couldn’t be autistic because I didn’t have a problem with eye contact and continued that thought with… “In fact, I once wrote a whole story about an alternate universe where eye contact was a huge taboo and forbidden to the point that fashion had developed to deliberately attract your attention away from the face and making eye contact was a crime worse than murder. Then the main character accidentally makes eye contact with another character and they fall in love but they are hunted down and…” OH. DAMN. 👀😅 Yeah.
I have yet to be diagnosed with autism but I have an ADHD diagnosis. I was diagnosed when I was 15 and with my diagnosis was given a book called "ADHD is my superpower". It was clearly made for little kids and was oversimplified and cartooney. My parents got a book all about how to "deal with me".
I do not wear colors because it is too much for my sensory issues, so I wear all black. But I also have collections of plushies, dolls, books, comics, action figures that are colorful and are strategically placed in areas I can look at while walking to and from my room but are not suffocating me at my desk. I think the distinction is the ability to remove myself from color if needed, which I cannot do with my own clothing. Being stopped by the autism awareness-mobile would be a difficult situation to avoid those colors and would actively be harmful for me personally. I could not imagine that along with bright flashing police lights, that sounds like the deepest circle of sensory hell.
A friend I met at Starbucks has gone on a lot of rants about self diagnosis and refusing any suggestion she might be neurodivergent for the last few years. Recently she moved and I hadn't talked to her in a while because post moving she just...disappeared for a bit. She's resurfaced talking about getting an ADHD diagnosis and a bunch of us are like "UH HUH FANCY THAT."
if there was ever a reason for me to accept payment for committing a crime, it would definitely involve that car and stealing a tank from a nearby army base. the rest should speak for itself.
My whole family are in the spectrum. Kids are grown now. Showed this to hubster and said it would have confused our kids: "Are they really the police?" "So I shouldn't talk to the other police, right?" "Do these colorful police have a different phone number?" "Do they have paint? I want to paint!" Hubster said he would think he could go get ice cream from this car. 🍦🤣 It's a travesty.
I never masked as a kid/teen, I walked around wearing exactly what I wanted and acted like the real me! 🥰 I was horrendously bullied and ended up getting homeschooled. BUT I STAYED TRUE TO MYSELF, GOD DAMN IT, AND THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING!
I really have a tough time with people walking into the room that I am in, even when it is irrational. It's terribly bad for my ability to connect well with people... But, I'm the weird one, or have issues to work out. It's tough, i guess only now realizing all of this stuff.
My assessment (in my mid-50s) is tomorrow afternoon, I've been trying to decide what to wear for weeks now. I've never felt so understood as I do having discovered this community
I accidentally wore sunglasses half way through my autism assessment. It ended up on the report😅 So I have these sunglasses that are really cute and aren't that dark, so I can wear them indoors. I don't usually, only if I'm walking into a store and don't want to stop in the middle of the entrance, I'll wait until I'm in an aisle to take them off. Well, I was so anxious that I forgot to take mine off until my anxiety started wayning and I took them off. The doctor mentioned it on the report as to how ne pf the many reasons why he gave me the diagnosis. Turns out I'm crap at reading faces too.
I settled on blue/grey/white and clothes colors a long time ago - I don't have to think about matching that way. And, yeah, calling that car a rolling migraine is a perfect decription. All the more reason to not like the cops.
The only bright color I can tolerate is neon green but that's because I'm obsessed with all the variance of green. I guess you could say colorescience is one of my special interests
At 5:31, I'm almost the exact opposite: If I feel I need to be dressed up, I'll wear slacks and a button down shirt, but before my brother's wedding it had probably been a decade since I wore an actual suit. I no longer wear T-shirts now that I'm in the workforce: I don't like to have to think about getting dressed, I just buy a bunch of polos and pick one at random every morning.
I'm the same. It is most important that clothes are a.) comfortable and loose, b.) functional for any activity, c.) did not require extra work or time.
I love your energy so much and have never knew that anyone else had my experience of autism before watching your videos. I’m a late diagnosed PDAer and it’s a really good feeling to know there’s other people in the world who know what it’s like. Keep doing what you’re doing (but only if you want to and it gives you happiness ofc)!! 💕
I hate that the puzzle piece is a part of Autism Speaks because I was diagnosed at 30 years old and I can't tell you how many times I've gone through my life in my head through a new understanding, I caught myself multiple times almost shouting "Man! This is all connecting!!! Like this one piece has been missing! Like a puz.... oh yeah 😫. I guess I shouldn't say that."
My autistic male friend always emails me (autistic female) a photo of his outfit of the day before church and I just don't know what to say other than "you look clean and admissible into a church". The suit to an appointment reminded me of that for some reason.
I tried to explain to my mother why the autistic community doesn’t like the puzzle pieces as a symbol, she got mad at me and super defensive for no reason 💀💀💀
I know I'm late to the vid but it is actually considered respectful to avoid a lot of eye contact, especially with elders or authority figures in Diné (Navajo) culture and other Native American tribes! 💖 Lots of my old classmates were chewed out to make eye contact when doing presentations in front of the teacher, because they were raised the opposite.
😂 "I'm just like everyone else only different" reminds me of a conversation I was having with my niece. I'm autistic and adhd and we think she may also be on the spectrum. Me and her were talking about how we are similar in the way we act and the things we do to cope with things and she was concerned about being "different" at school as she has just started year 2. I said something like "it's okay , me and you are the same and that makes us unique" My niece said "I am unique and so are you." My sister (my nieces mum) looked really confused and said "you are the same and that makes you unique, that makes no sense." I had to clarify 😅 "me and lilly are the same (on the spectrum), yes but we are different from other people (neurotypical people) and that's okay because that makes us unique compared to everyone else" 😂 my niece understood what I meant 😅 and my sister still looked confused after I explained but she kindu got it 😂 Also damn that car be ugly 😅
I went to get diagnosed for ADHD... I hated it because it was just a questionnaire I could intentionally botch to get the diagnosis I wanted and no deep diving into how I would react to hypotheticals or interviewing people who know me or any deeper analysis. Edit: After hearing Doctor Amon's deep analysis using brain scans for brain activity and how he went into much greater detail about what he called the 7 forms of ADD, I also hate the ADHD definitions even more... They're disappointing by comparison.
I'm autistic and I've literally had friends and a close person to me, worry more for the vehicle. I asked in a round about way several years later why they asked about the car instead of me, they said, "you were standing and talking okay, so obviously you were alright." They are sometimes sweet, sometimes stubborn to the point of hurting their own goals, they are autistic, high functioning Asperger's syndrome.
Cops already make me super uncomfortable, I could go into a whole thing about PDA and anarchism and coercive forces to maintain unjust hierarchy, but I'll just say that Autism Awareness police car is one of the worst things I've seen on the internet today. It takes something that is already undesirable in my mind and makes it unpleasant to look at as well.
OMG I'm not the only one that has had those thoughts about what used to happen to autistic people in the war. I'm assuming that's what you were referring to about being afraid of being diagnosed. I know that's a huge fear of mine.
I actually remember having this bright yellow tracksuit when I was a child...then my cousin called me a banana and I never wore it again 😂 I definitely like some bright colours...it just has to be the right ones 😅
There should be yearly psych checkups funded by gov (but not shared data with) for everyone. I mean I wasn't checked by a psych, but I'm sure they'd find like 6 different disorders
I know the suit to your autism diagnosis was supposed to be funny, but I wore one to a new therapist once. That is the same appointment where she asked me if I had ever been tested because she thought I might be on the spectrum. I never went back to see her again. But I am often told that I am over dressed. I am the only person in my 200+ person building that wears a button up, slacks, and a tie to work everyday.
@@jesusramirezromo2037 Because I like it and I like to look good. Growing up, I was constantly made fun of because I couldn't wear anything but sweat pants. I couldn't stand the tightness of jeans. So I made a conscious choice to change that.
I live in Miami. They have modified newer versions to be police cars with puzzle pieces which isn’t much better but at least it looks better? They usually send them to schools for school police.
I have chatted to a number of people on dating websites who will casually say they are neurodivergent, and I am like 'Oh what were you diagnosed with?' The silence is deafening.
Honestly the "polished" thing feels pre spot on, i always had a deep seated obsession/special interest with suits and all of the accoutrements that came with it. As i look back at that to me it feels like the penultimate form of masking i can do, the moment i put on a suit i feel out of body and more 'put together' more structured.
I can confirm getting payed to be autistic is 1000% worth the diagnosis, I can save money for future without having to talk to anyone, or worst of all make eye contact. If the government thinks of us as disabled that's their problem, I'll gladly take their money.
I was all dressed up fancy for several weeks of training when first working as a casino dealer. Everyone else in class was wearing jeans and tees. Someone asked me why I was so dressed up and the instructor said, because she's dressing for the job she wants, not the job she's getting 😅
6:37 something I absolutely loved about being in a private school my whole life was that our uniform was cool. I had issues with having to always wear skirts (afab transmasc here) but having always the same outfit and it being the same as everyone else's was soothing to me.
I knew someone in middle school who used to wear a suit and carrying an attache case to school every day, just like the one described in the video. I gave him the nickname "Mr. Business Man" I can't even remember his real name I called him that so much. It wasn't a poking fun thing either, it was positive like you're gonna end up with a really good job when you finish school type of thing.
Hi darling! I've been binge watching your videos for months and I love this series so much!! The only trait that I actually thank to masking is using sarcasm KDNFKFK it's so fun when you know how to use it, sometimes I use it so much, but it's actually fun. Thank you for making me feel welcomed into the community. I'm on the way to get my diagnosis soon, and seeing your videos made it less scary. I've told all of my neurodivergent friends to take a look at your page too! Have a nice day, darling~
Oh I've seen the parody "autistic reporter" in another skit - he was reporting on what prison is like & concluded he'd love the routines & asked what he had to do to live in a prison 🤣
my dad used to work for the swiss railway company SBB and they have their own firefighter trains where basically normal employees get trained to be firefighters and roll out with the train and all. they usually just assisted with fires near the rails (because the train can carry a lot of water). but they also had to go and pick up bodyparts of suiciders. and indeed, with the newer high speed trains that have carbon hulls, denting was an issue
The “just say no” one, my mother has done that for me a lot growing up. I’d call her to say someone called me to sleep over in their house and ask for her permission and since the call was never on speakerphone, she’d always say something like “if you actually want to sleep over just say “yes and I’ll allow it, if you don’t, ask me why not” and it was just so wholesome, I’m so grateful for her doing that, because she was the one that came up with it, I didn’t ask her to, and it made me feel safe ‘cause I knew if I was ever too shy to deny my friend’s invite, I could count on my mother giving me codes to tell her if she should allow it or not via her end of the line
11:07 this is invalidating to say that someone has "never stimmed" because they describe colors as "stimmy." Though most autistics can't stand bright colors, some of us are visually sensory seeking and use bright colors to visually stim.
No, I’m not autistic. And I fuckin love this! To tell your truth, as accurately as you can, as soon as you can - I could wish I’d had the courage sooner. We are all fuckin human - we are an amazing tapestry, we humans. We all belong. This makes so much sense to me - thank you, Megan…
@@mr.x2567 Not is OK. I have been “not” most of my life: not appropriate, not feminine enough, not dressed appropriately, not being dumb enough…Not is not a repudiation of appropriate or normal, “not” is a plus to the human calibration. Well done, you…
I like about 1/3 of the stuff on evilautism. A LOT of it is divisive talk about The Neurotypicals(^TM). But enough of it is memes and amazing infodumping that i stick around for it.
" A LOT of it is divisive talk about The Neurotypicals(^TM)" - Thank you. Back when I thought I was NT, but my brother had been diagnosed, he got super political and made a lot of hurtful comments about NTs that I felt were pretty arrogant for him to assume he knew how I thought, while telling me I didn't understand how he thought. Ofc, I also understood that he was frustrated and working through his feelings. Now of course, I understand I am also autistic, which makes the memory of two autistics yelling at eachother about being NT into a comedy of sorts.
I don’t follow that subreddit because most of the stuff I see is people saying legitimately hateful things about non-autistics or NTs in general… and it just rubs me so wrong. I get it… NTs can be jerks… but so can autistic people. There’s really no difference. If we don’t want others to hate us for our communication differences we shouldn’t hate others for not connecting with us. I realized I was different in part when NTs would TRY to include me. They were nice but it didn’t work. Also it’s so unbelievably self centered to only think autistic people have struggles. NTs suffer from poverty, racism, grief, and many other things that some of us do or don’t suffer from.
People tell me I should wear suits for certain occasions, but I find them incredibly uncomfortable (for my wedding I wore jeans, a collarless shirt because fuck ties, a waistcoat because they're fun, and a suit jacket that got taken off as soon as possible) so I only really wear a suit for other people. Going a funeral soon. It's a sad time. When sad, wear big soft clothes for reassurance. Why suit?
I actually like the colors on the dreaded police car. But Im fond of garishness as a social display of asburdity and an active effort to make the world just a bit weirder. I want pants that are four different colors where the seams are if that make sense? That sorta thing. Throw color theory out the window and hurt peoples eyes. Though I definitely hate the puzzle pieces and their lack of symmetry.
My best guess for the suit thing is that people don't listen to autistic people very often, but wearing a suit is associated with importance and authority, so the hope is that wearing a suit will get people to actually listen to you when you say something.
One time a Girl told me i didnt look autistic, so, naturally, i did the only thing any person would do in such a situation and vowed to constantly Wear something about my hyper fixation. I hope you know it was for you Ida, i dont have the autism, i am the autism. “Whos that Character on Your shirt?” “FUNNY YOU SHOULD SAY”
Just wanted to pop in for a quick thank you for doing this channel. I'm only recently coming to grips with my own (profoundly certain if not currently diagnosed) autism. Your videos have been such a massive help in clearing up my own confusion and connecting the dots of my life's most circular clues and at the same time, showing me there is such a massive and welcoming community of people I identify with in ways I never would have guessed before I had such an effective tool for dipping in as I begin (I've been beginning for some time) the long journey of confirmation for my own understanding and peace of mind. Thank you so, and cheers.
Oh I have a story about suits! I'm in high school, and my teacher is also the MUN teacher and organizes the MUN convention our school does, and I wanted to go but I have social anxiety so I ended up not going as a representative but I still wanted to go so she let me do the thing where you give notes to the representatives because they can't talk during the meeting so you move the notes between them (and they played tick-tack-toe and I didn't let them because THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING), and you're supposed to come to an MUN convention with professional clothes, but my parents have no professional clothes because IDK, it's unnecessary, and it made me cry and yell and maby have a panic attack over not having the right clothes (like a suit). Then I ended up wearing my most professional clothes that are not very professional and thinking I would wear them for the second day too because I don't have any other professional clothes but then my teacher was giving away white button ups because it was too small for her son so I took them and now I have 2 white button ups (that one of them I sometimes can't wear because it feel like sandpaper but its alright) Edit: I use the word professional insted of formal because I just forgot that the word formal exist and while I didn't notice professional wasn't the right word, I didn't have the energy to actually try to remember the word I was looking for I had another story in mind but I forgot what it was while writing this so if I will remember I will come to edit this
It’s time to delve into the evil side of autism…
Do you have any idea where you might find that no eye contact sign? I’m confuzzled! Is it real?
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Hope you’ve all had a great September so far and that any returns to education (whether it’s you or your children) haven’t been too stressful. Sending love 💛
The neurotypicals trying to comprehend and represent protection and safety for autistic people(in regards to that cringe car that doesn't have any style but it's made like a chaotic heresy, mockery, misconception and ignorance) it's like walking with a flashlight during day and believing to brighten the mood of others by pointing that light into the face of people and asking incessantly if they are opressing too much...
*Neurotypicals parents-peeple praying for blessings and for help to solve their problems*
God sends in autists and neurodivergents divine warriors of love and reason to be prepared to help them.
Meanwhile the neurotypicals... turns into abusive envious narcs... they use mocking and harassing tactics... gaslighting, exploiting and trying to afflict covertly the autists.
Meanwhile they autists: "God can we come back please? These people are diseased and they are draining our lifeforce. They are disgusting inconsiderative and unkind degeneratives degenerates!"
Only place i could imagine it remotely being relevant would be in prison where it's considered a sign of aggression. Or in another country where you're not allowed to look people of a higher status in the eyes. But who tf knows.
The no eye contact sign looks like it could be on a train. There is a cultural perception that commuting on the London Underground can be quite an antisocial experience, no-one talking to the other tired strangers, avoiding eye contact etc, so I'd guess someone may have stuck that sign up on a tube train as a hilarious Banksy-esque commentary?
That's amazing and meta af @@AcrosticBinbag
I don't have any sensory issues with the police car, but it's super infantilizing, like they expect us to walk up to it and say "Oooh! Me have mental age of three! Me like bright colors! Me trust policeman in pretty car!"
Neurotypicals managers into their office snorting nasty stuff: "Let's make the most unintelligible car that has no order or sense to afflict and offend autists in order to bully them even more, that would be so much fun." Then they proceed to slander or use power dynamics in the office because they are stressed, bored or don't know how to contain or focus their energy adequately.
Yes. I enjoy bright colours as a chosen symbol of my personal eccentricity, but not in an infantilising manner. The colours are way too much, rainbows should be an accent, not the whole thing. For example, I pair my favourite rainbow jersey with black pants.
It gets worse when you think about how much cops love killing autistic people
If my eyes could throw up from the sight they would. I love bright and colorful art, but if they got an actual designer or autistic artist to create it then it wouldn’t be so bad. The car is not only bad because of how offensive it is but it’s also bad because of its obnoxious use of color/shapes and no negative space. Having some negative space, balance, and using less colors would make it more bearable.
@@PurpleAmharicCoffee😂 as a queer autistic, the rainbow’s working _overtime_ for me! 🫡🏳️🌈
evil autism is my favourite subreddit. Despite it's name it's actually a lot more accepting and open than other online autistic spaces.
Yes, I loved it!! Definitely want to do another one of these 😁💛
@@imautisticnowwhat I would love to joke more but there are decrepid neurotypicals narcs prowling that take that humour literally for misery intents and want to condemn autists out of envy especially if we are thriving despite our different conditions in a society built on greed and obnoxious non-reasonable and non-accurate talking.
why's it called evil autism I've seen some open wholesome online autistic spaces. :) but why puzzle pieces and why a police car.
@@vxvxxvxvxvxvxvxvxvxxv a organisation that pretends to be charitable and well educated but is the opposite has a puzzle peace as its logo; if that helps!
oh ok that helps but isn't that autism speaks@@sugarcubegirl8292
Its not enough for the police to strike fear in the neurotypical heart.
Me: Ok, maybe they're exagerating, maybe not all cops are..
(Autism Police Car: Exists)
Me: nvm... ACAB, absolutely ACAB.
Don't theu also do this for the lgbtq?
@@skootergirl22+
Yeah, in my hometown they have LGBTQ+ decals too.
As a pan autistic person that's had several bad encounters with the police where they violated my rights despite me being innocent every time, they disgust me lol
@IJustAnimateThatsTheJist yea the police hate autistic people
@@skootergirl22 They made another for black people, and it looked even worse.
"Here comes the Sensory Distressmobile to slaughter more innocents" had me choking on my food. I really shouldn't eat when watching something funny.
OMG! I am terrified of police. I've seen the horror news articles.
That is exactly how i feel about cops and their cars too, so that hit WAY too close to home.
As an autistic person,a graphic designer prolific in their field of work for more than 10 years…. That car hurt my eyes… please, don’t do it… we are not elementary school children… just don’t
True dat. As someone who used to work in graphic design too, I know what I bet you know: that a lot of graphic designers are prone to coming to a fast conclusion on what seems pretty and clever, and don’t always give much thought to what they are actually communicating with their design.
Decades ago, I was doing an illustration that involved Native American imagery, and, this being a college town, the magazine put me in touch with a Native American academic for guidance. The guy said to me, basically, “remember that a lot of objects and such associated with Native American culture have religious significance. They are often treated as if they are curios or souvenirs, but they shouldn’t be. It’s offensive to us, the same as treating a cross or a Star of David as a decoration.” I tried to take that to heart, followed his direction and carried that message forward with me in other situations. Perhaps I’m being unfair, but my sense is that a lot of designers now are mostly guided by if something looks cool to them.
Personally I already hated the « shiny colors for the little kids aesthetic » when I was a child. It felt both unpleasant and condescending to me. Like, « do you think that because I’m 6 I don’t have any taste, or that you need to assault my eyes to get my attention ? »
So Im not going to start liking it now just because it turns out Im autistic lol
Agreed - if that was my design, it would be black, grey and earth tones.
The elementary age children in my family with autism also hate these designs. I asked them why the puzzle pieces are used and they were like no clue! Me neither, buddy, me neither.
Agree. I have no degree in any form of art (although I do write fantasy stuff, hobby of mine I picked up a view years ago), but I can design you something better-looking in 5 minutes. Drunk. With my non-dominant hand.
“My cousin’s allistic and you’re nothing like him” 😂😂😂😂
Not gonna lie, that broke me 😂
The other infuriating thing about the police car is that autistic people are at an increased risk of police brutality (especially autistic POC). Difficulty understanding social norms means accidentally offending people, and police tend to attack anyone who challenges their authority. Police in many places around the world are also taught to see behaviours associated with distress as evidence that someone can turn violent, and so they often react more harshly to people with mental illnesses and disabilities.
The fact that Miami cops tried to do this “autism awareness uwu” stuff makes me feel physically ill. That car doesn’t come off as a gesture of support- I read it far more as a threat. I would like police to be _less_ aware of me, actually.
That car....it seems like it's been designed by somebody who asked Autism Speaks what autistic people like and they replied with, "Well, autistic people are always children", so "Yeah, great! Kids! I got this...".
Oh, yes… I went looking for articles about how to help Autistics with moving because I was moving to a different state and the whole process was excruciatingly stressful, and only found ONE article talking about adults. Every single other one tells you how to help your Autistic kids move. And my Autistic kids are all either adults or nearly adults and just still live with us, so all the precious bits of advice like “warn them in advance” weren’t of much use.
Yeah they really like kids 💀
@@BeeWhistlereh what? who dosent warn their kid in advance for a move anyways??
Autism speaks and PETA are similar
Both claim to care for what they believe but still hurt those who they "protect"
"it's WhEN yOu HaVe ThE mInD oF a ChIlD"
Ok so here's the plan- we need to destroy the Autism Awareness police car (cuz it's giving me sensory overload) so we dress up in suits (so they know we're serious), steal it, drive it onto the train tracks, and fine anyone 200 pounds if they try to stop us.Then the train hits it, and hopefully there won't be any damage- to the train. It's a foolproof plan! Unless the train gets damaged.
I'm trying my best to use all the jokes
We’ve gotta fine anyone 200 pounds if they DO look at us or make eye contact, obviously.
I like that you used all the jokes, but I like that you explained that you used all the jokes even more 😊
I'm just worried people on the train may get injured. Perhaps explosives from a safe distance would work
@@kj_H65f I love when someone asks me to explain a joke and I just go into as much detail as possible and it becomes so unfunny that it's funny (to me lol)
@kingofichigo it's a Ford Explorer, mid 2010s generation. It's in a smaller size class than its predecessor. If we position it just right, on a line with larger engines, preferably diesel freight lines, things should be fine.
Why a police car, of all things? Knowing the history of violence by the hands of law enforcement towards neurodivergent folk... this is definitely sending quite a message. They're so messed up.
When you know about the history of Autism Speaks, and how they contributed to the abuse faced by Autistic people.... it's very clear why they chose to be involved.
As for why this got made in the first place... simple: Ignorance, ablelism, PR stunts to try and make people forget about the police's history of abuse towards neurodivergent people, and a good old inspiration porn to make ignorant neurotypicals feel better about themselves and pat themselves in the back thinking: "I'm making a difference, I'm giving autistic people a voice and helping them." while refusing to actually listen to autistic people and do something that activelly causes them harm.
"Autistic lives matter. Just in a different way."
So was my joke inappropriate enough to get my diagnosis? 😅
@@mikalappalainen2041abso Fucking lutely
I think it shiuld be more spread as satire lol
It's totally just an image thing. The cops get in hot water all the time, so the logic goes "Maybe if we do something nice for autistic people we can get social media to stop talking about us beating black people?" And then they just go for it without consulting a single autistic person just for the sake of it.
I'm definitely autistic, and in my 30s, but I'm also trans and am refraining from seeking a diagnosis because I know the hospitals here in the US will use any little reason to refuse service, and infantilization would be too easy a scapegoat to provide.
In the UK here, and currently here it is not an issue (good job, as most of the trans people I know are neuro divergent), but given some of the reports from the USA I fully understand your decision.
I didn't have any problems with the hospital I go to, but some most likely would be discriminatory. Avoiding religious hospitals and picking one in a city area is the best bet
@kingofichigo I'm right in the middle of the Bible Belt and can't afford to travel. Trying to get approved for a medically necessary mastectomy (have always had a disproportionately large chest that mildly deformed my spine as a kid) never bringing up the trans thing in the office because it's more likely to get approved, but even at that, insurance is a pain.
@@FrankiKaye I'm in Indiana and definitely keep being trans to myself most of the time. I just lucked out in the hospital department. I hope you are able to get your surgery
God, same... my grandparents kept trying to get me diagnosed for disability money and I always hated it. Thankfully, it never came back positive, so I should be good to transition now. I mean, I'd HAVE to be, right...? Because it'd be really stupid if I'm too neurotypical to be counted as autistic and too "autistic" to get HRT......
That police car makes my eyes bleed. The nice thing about being an autistic goth is the color pallet. I do black and darker reds and purples.
That car was truly offensive. I mix my black with dark blue and green, because red and purple would clash with my red dyed hair 💀
Ooh, yes, same. ♥️
There are so many autistic goths! I didn’t realize how many of us are autistic 🖤
I enjoy eyebleed colors because of my hypersensitivity to them, I've taken some tests and seem to see more of the color spectrum than most people! But I absolutely loathe the color white for how loud and pure it is. Even just the color is like staring straight into a fluorescent light without blinking. Sensory issues are like a double-edged sword, you get more out of the stuff you like, but also get way more out of the stuff you don't like.
@@aleisterlilywhite1109 Nerds too. You know, I wonder how many subcultures have been spawned by ND folks just trying to build a society in which they feel comfortable.
I need more of the "fastest diagnosis in history" genre. Please tell me your stories, because I love my own and I love the suit, so I'll start:
I wrote a 26 pages long list of traits with examples that I have and gave them to the diagnostitian. The first point on the list was "I wrote this list, because I can't follow a thought when I'm speaking and also I can't speak when I'm stressed"
During my assessment I was asked “do you find yourself blaming other people for things?”
I responded “only if they’re actually the ones in the wrong”
She then said “that’s a very literal answer.”
It’s been three months and I have no idea if I missed some context or how else anyone could possibly answer that question 🤷♀️😂
(I was diagnosed that day!)
@@kathymarshall220 I know neurotypicals love to blame/complain about other people, sometimes I feel that's all they talk about, like it's their special interest.
I remember that I only knew the stereotype which I didn't fit, but luckily we had a family friend that worked with autistic children and knew the signs but no one explained it to me properly and said that must be why I've struggled in school and talked about it like it was a learning difficulty.
(which is not what I really had difficulty with as had secret scientific special interests as didn't like showing an interest in something unless my twin sister did/my social compass)
But I was being compared to my twin sister like never before saying stuff like "would explain why she's the smart twin; why she's so behind her sister; so she'll definitely not be going to college with her sister then 😉" 😡 although my bachelor's degree proved that wrong, even there people were talking about surprised they were that I was graduating.
Back to my version of the suit/instant diagnosis story.
When I had someone come to the house to talk to me I got up my brain training app and talked non-stop (a habit you may have noticed 😅) about all the stuff I did (as didn't realize autism wasn't the same as learning difficulty, not that there's anything wrong with that, just not something I identified with).
Then on his way out my parents asked if he thought I'd get diagnosed (about a year away) and to my surprise he said quietly DEFINITELY. Funnily enough when I did automatically get assessed for a LD they said "DEFINITELY DON'T have a learning difficulty".
The suit reminded me of that; trying to show how smart and grown up you are just to break the stereotype you've been told.
That’s a classic question, and the place I got it was in the personality test I completed. I’ve expended so much energy over the years playing devil’s advocate with my perceptions, in what I now see as an attempt not to get too black and white and judgmental, so I answered “no.” There were other questions, in the personal failing department, where I answered I do something “a bit,” because I don’t like to represent myself as not having flaws I’ve got. A couple of these got flagged as “of concern.” I concluded that a lot of the questions were probing for personality disorders, and that the test was not suited for autistic people. So I suspect that question is trying for a binary result: “yes” = 1, flag for narcisssism, paranoia, antisocial, etc., and “no” = 0, no red flag, you’re okay.
Never mind that people that think others are never at fault can be easily gaslit. Maybe other questions got at that, but it felt like the test was looking for menaces to society, and victims aren’t menaces, just people who are supposed to be treated for depression (I hit high marks on that!).
I don’t know what I would have said if offered an opportunity to respond with something other than preprogrammed radio buttons. I rarely give a plain yes/no answer to anything, because the facts always require context. I probably would have given an answer like yours, but in 25 sentences instead of one (ADHD too).
that's a brilliant first point on your list, i'm using that.
I asked for/got an oil immersion microscope as my Sweet Sixteen present from my parents. I took it with me to college and wouldn't let anyone touch it.
My mother got many things very wrong, traumatically wrong, but one thing she got right...
If I wanted her to answer no when asking to go somewhere or have someone over, I just had to call her "Mother" instead of mom when asking.
That’s brilliant
I’ve heard other people say that their parents and them have a ‘code word’ like they’ll start their texts with “so…” if they want their parents to say no - which helps with not being peer pressured into something they don’t want to do while still saving face. For example if there’s a party at someone’s house where you know their won’t be any parent supervision and probably drugs you would message “So Emilea is having a party at her place tonight, can I please go?”
And your parents would know to respond that you can’t go for some reason or another.
I wish my parents had something like this place because I lot of the time while I felt the peer pressure and was still able to decline invites or offers towards dangerous situations, I would get bullied about those things too.
If I ever have kids I’m definitely going to implement this so that I know my kids have another option to stay safe and avoid peer pressure and anxiety type situations if they want to.
Imagine being robbed and when you call 911 the autistic police show up
Honestly I love bright colors ngl. Candy pinks, purples, bright yellows. I recently found a special interest in decora fashion so yeah.
Something I noticed is that an autistic person might absolutely LOVE bright kidcore-esque colors or they might absolutely despise them. Very rarely do I see an in between.
I replied on another comment saying a similar thing and I think it's great. I think it's because sensory hypersensitivity is a double edged sword-- you get more intense experiences of the things you hate and the things you love.
In some cases you get to even experience both at the same time-- like I LOVE horror and it's not because I have a stronger stomach for it, it isn't because I don't scare easy, it's BECAUSE I naturally find things scary and horror is a great outlet to explore my feelings while staying safe in reality. It sounds weird to enjoy discomfort but the fact that being uncomfortable is the intended thing too, and not something to be ashamed of or suppress, actually is a huge relief too since I'm used to pretending I'm fine when I'm not. With horror you just get to react as instinctively as you want and it kinda breaks down my masking barriers because it's so intense.
I also love music that's intense and jarring, like metal, breakcore, chaotic stuff with lots of mixed up sounds-- and I've noticed other neurodivergent people get really into "crunchy" or "textured" music too. I think it's extremely neat.
Sorry for the comment essay and special interest infodump but at least this is the type of comment section where that kind of thing is most understandable LOL
Yeah, I like the car. I don't think the giant rainbow "AUTISM" on the side really fits with the rest, it makes it look more like a Pride car, but otherwise I find it hysterical and fun to look at and I'd absolutely snap a selfie with it just for shits. Happily my visual sensory issues are limited to light sources. I actually despise neutral colors on vehicles specifically. And I'm with the guy above, I love complex music. Last time I needed to tune out I literally put on Drumstep for an hour. I love roller coasters kind of in the way they describe horror. I like the feeling of "maybe I might die but probably not".
I love bright colours too, and I liked the way the previous poster described music, because I think that probably applies to me too. What I don't like about the car is the metaphor of the puzzle pieces, the fact that they aren't even fitting together, and that it's promoting Autism Speaks, because 'autism' doesn't speak when they're around, neurotypicals do.
I don’t hate colors but that car is a travesty to look at
I can and do do both! I love it!
On euphemisms about death: As a student reporter, we were taught to say "dead" and "died" and I like it a lot better in most cases. And looking at understanding that maybe I'm on the spectrum, I see why it's always appeared to me so strongly. And probably why I loved journalism style guidelines so much (unless I didn't agree with them ...) .
A few months ago, I saw a news report in which a robot dog was sent into a collapsed building (in New York I think) to look for survivors. I got excited about seeing the robot dog, then felt bad, and recalled the Michael Falk sketches, so watched them.
REAL i’d get excited too one of my special interests is robots and things with robots in them
This is my autism... I read your post and immediately thought "...and then I rode off on my ROBOT DAWG."
I have a thing where I have to "dress the part" no matter where I was going. A big part of fitting in and not causing waves is to dress in the style that everyone else is. It's been really hard for me to get comfortable wearing the clothes I like to wear.
I get it, I've spent my life wearing clothes so as not to stand out. I had clothes I loved but didn't feel able to ever wear because they might have been commented on or judged in some way. I try to wear what I like now and not worry but it is hard to undo years of trained thinking. Thinking about it now, I put no thought into clothes and wore jeans and t-shirts usually. Comfortable and free movement, with pockets. Lol
I fully relate to this. I often have awkward moments with people when I ask them what activities will take place so I know how to dress.
Most of the country:
hates cops
Autism Speaks:
"That's the branding we need!"
Until about a year ago I pretty much only wore black, then I started experimenting with wearing colourful shirts. Now my wardrobe is full of obnoxious patterned shirts 😂
Same. I went from goth to super colorful!
If it was culturally acceptable, most of my wardrobe would probably be cosplays of my favorite videogame and movie characters.
Edit: If cosplays were easier to clean/maintain as well.
@@feiradragon7915 I always wanted to cosplay.
@@colleenmcbride3656 Thankfully pastel goth is a good look too, so you get to wear both
@@user-ly3li3ex8c I call it Sunshine Goth 😂
I would assume the 'no eye contact' sticker is a parody - there are often joke decals made and put up on tube trains, which would be a logical place for this joke.
Kind of looked like the back of the driver privacy shield in a bus to me.
I’m still confused by the decal. Was it a fine if you or don’t? Irrelevant if it was a fake or not. I just don’t understand the instruction. 😵💫
I have googled it and as I suspected it is a spoof sign from London tube trains that appeared back in 2012. The joke is that you would be fined for making eye contact with fellow passengers. On the London tube it is generally expected that despite being crammed in close together that everyone ignore each other so it doesn't get awkward.
The autistic reporter felt a lil bit like laughing at us, not with us for me. But that could be because if I don't present as that stereotype, my diagnosis is so often & openly questioned. It's frustrating to be so overly sensitive about stuff that I know is supposed to be lighthearted without ill intent. This noggin of mine is nothing if not stubborn 😂
Yes, I totally get what you mean! I don't think it's just you at all - it definitely does feel like a stereotypical representation. I so understand your frustration! I wish the average person knew more about autism and masking etc. Hopefully things are changing! 💛
@@imautisticnowwhat 💯
I was offended by it a little, it's play to the illusion that all autistic folk have no empathy whatsoever. I am super over sensitive, other people's emotions can feel as uncomfortable and overwhelming as music that is too loud.
he is soo me
@@grigoriraspoutine9298Yeah, tbh I couldn’t be mad because I kept recognizing myself. All they exaggerated in my case was that he valued the train over the dead guy. That bit could definitely be seen as offensive but the general demeanor was kinda hilarious.
Dressing nice is wonderful and I genuinely wish I fell into that stereotype. I can’t get myself out of sweatpants if it kills me. 😭
They are very comfy! I live in my pyjamas when I'm at home 😅
I 💯 am with you I just wear the same thing Summer basketball shorts and a butterfly tank top long not short so I can bend winter sweat pants and butterfly sweater and I have those thoughts I should dress up dress nice but allways a butt then I feel stupid and just wish I would've wore my normal 🦋🦋🦋
I found a way to dress nicely and comfortably, to the point where people would ask me why I got all dressed up for a casual occasion and I'd respond "oh these are my pajamas" lol
Once I find set of clothes that speak to me and are comfy, I will wear the hell out of them. For almost all of 2020, I rocked the 12th Doctor's look. Hoodie and suit jacket all the way!
Try leggings?
They couldn't have put in on a worse vehicle either. Of all the service vehicles, utility vehicles, buses, trains, etc, they had to put it on the one that has intense flashing lights and extremely loud siren....
I had a friend years ago who grew up in Chad, she said that it was considered inpolite to make eyecontact whilst talking there and apologied to me for that habit, as if i had ever made eye contact 😂
Then that country has an accurate name
I remember a guy at my college who always wore a suit and briefcase. I really liked his dedication. I really wish I had gone and said hello to him as he was always by himself.
the gman
I wore my comfiest clothes to my autism assessment and I brought a plushie with me and I think that tipped them off right away💜
I don't have autism but I totally do this. Especially when I feel sick. I like beanie babies. (I'm currently sick so I don't care)
@@Grace-ms7un Anyone can benefit from comfort items💜
Oh my gosh, I literally did the exact same thing for my assessment!!!
@@TheSoftestGirlYouKnow Comfort is always the most important! Those legging sound wonderful, do you know what brand they are? And yes!! Plushies don't have an age limit, they are for everyone. I am almost 30 and plushies are just as important to me now as they always have been! Thanks for sharing with me💜
I have autism. I actually have ADHD but I prefer to focus on the autism.@@TheSoftestGirlYouKnow
The way I didn't even understand the joke about wearing the suit, I just thought "oh what else would he wear?" haha. But I'm also a lifelong over-dresser. Sometimes it works in my favor!
I think there are some situations in different cultures where making direct eye contact is not good! I've noticed American adults often want kids to look them directly in the eye when they're reprimanding them, but I felt like it was the opposite while I lived in Korea. Adults often expect kids to bow their heads and avert their eyes, not aggressively stare them down (yet I got in trouble for that when I was younger😅)
I was told by my spouse from the Philippines that eye contact isn't as normal there either, so it seems like it's not so much a thing in (at least some) Asian countries!
To this sick society, we are seen as evil for our honesty.... but I assure you, that when society has gone evil, those it considers evil, are in fact, the good guys.
Troof😊
Whaaaaa?
I've always hated the puzzle piece design, but I'll be wildly unpopular as I love really really bright clashing colours, I actually seek them out and wear them and surround myself with them. I'm 47 and have always been focussed on neon and super bright colours. I just sensory seek these colours. It's weird because I have huge sensory overload with other sensory input, not colour though! quite the opposite ;)
Controversial take: I like the puzzle piece design, because I've always felt like the broken puzzle piece that never fits in anywhere. But no one else should ever feel that way because of their diagnoses!
Not unpopular at all! Lots of us love neon burning colors. I love color in general, it's one of my special interests, especially since I'm an artist. Hypersensitivity goes both ways-- more intense experience of what you hate, more intense experience of what you love! I think allistics have a way wider range of neutral to extreme with sensory stuff, they can mildly dislike a thing or mildly enjoy something, but autistic experience feels way more "I either hate it or love it" (maybe with a secret third option, "I'm 100% neutral on this, I feel nothing about it"). I'm at least like that with everything.
You puzzle people puzzle me 🧩 😹😈 ….ehhhhh?? 😅
Same. Neon colors are awesome and I love any color pallettes with them. (I also hate the puzzle piece allegory/comparison.)
The frustration with “seasonal appropriate” fashion is SO TRUE! But also consider: frustration with seasonal scents. I only like “autumnal” scents, and have to buy all my candles/perfume at this time of year to last through the rest of the year because I can’t stand being stuck with nothing but floral scents for spring and summer. Why are warm spicy scents autumn exclusive??
Oh dear. I do have “but is the train ok?” type thoughts, and I embarrass myself.
Me too. One time some colleagues were talking about a person they knew who died sky diving when the parachute did not open. I said something like “well sometimes there are risks when engaging in dangerous sports.” That did not go over well. 😒
@@nude_cat_ellie7417 That makes perfect sense to me. It suggests that what happened wasn't either a freak accident or the result of malice. It makes the event very sad but not troubling.
I feel the discrimination bit. I was heavily discriminated against at my last job because I let them know I am autistic. I ended up having a mental health leave at one point because it was affecting my mental and physical health so much. I was on a fixed-term contract and as soon as it was done they offered me another job (at a different site, but with the same company), but kept saying at the interview that they didn't think I could cope. I kept saying I could and giving examples of where I had coped in tough situations in the past, but still didn't get it.
I once did an internship and withheld the information for 2 months. Coïncidentally the two months that my boss was on holiday.
He returned (I was 16 btw) and he heared from a coworker that I had been eating my lunchbread in the teabreaks (I was fricking hungry) and that I got a stack of calendars out of the bin, because I thought someone had thrown away stock (turns out there was a typo in them, but nobody bothered to let me know this. I thought I'd witnessed a crime, basically.)
I then accidentally mentioned my autism to a co-worker that gasped and asked if anybody else knew. I said to her that I was going to make it public in a week, for the group, but I felt like they needed to get to know me first.
She immediately left and informed the boss about my autism, who immediately ordered them to send me to the 6th floor. They all gathered around me when I arrived there.
He publicly shamed me and shouted and screamed for a long time. About how I had been lying and deceiving and how DARE I EVEN CONSIDER STARTING THIS INTERNSHIP WITH SUCH A BIG LIE??!" The horse-shoe people (colleagues) just stood there and nodded, while I teared up and apologized.
One week later, my mentor was called and the boss clarified that he didn't want a 'defect' to work in his store and he demanded an apology from the mentor for the bad quality student that he had tried to 'give him to work with', because if it happened again that a faulty student would be handed to their store, they would no longer support the bond between the school and the internship-opportunity-part of their company.
So my mentor profusely apologized and they kicked me from school, so their name wouldn't be tarnished. I asked what I did wrong, they said I was a diamond, like all the other students, but instead of being able to sand off the nasty spots, like you do with diamonds, I turned out to have those spots in the middle, where they can't reach them.
And jewelers don't sell diamonds with spots to the costumer, they don't like those. I was un-sell-able, I was faulty and therefore I had to go and find some education/school that díd want to work with a faulty diamond. Because they were not going to soil their "good name" by having it known that they 'sold diamonds that were unfit for selling.'
@@Widdekuu91
I almost want you to name this company, so they can be named and shamed. But it’s ok if you’re not comfortable with that.
@@newtfigton8795
V&D, Vroom&Dreesmann.
As far as I know, they're only online now, they went bankrupt for the department stores shortly after.
@@Widdekuu91wtf u never deserved that, they are all shitty people for doing that to you and you deserved so much better than those assholes, u didnt do ANYTHING wrong u just existed, ate bread and took out paper from the bin, to have them do that to u is despicable and utterly disgusting, im so sorry :[[🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
@@SkullZie Thankyou, that's very kind of you.
Nothing wrong with dressing nice! I'm always asked why all dressed up, what's the special occasion?
Ummmm....I left the house and jammies in public is embarrassing 🤣
my empathy is very closely tied with my spoons. there are some days where I would feel more empathy for a leaf i see floating down a creek or a knickknack in a thrift store than an actual person, but you come back to me a few days later, im listening, im engaged, im here. for. you. i am the solviest of problem solvers and a rock to lean on. if youre having a problem _I Am_ *There*
unfortunately, I only have about 2 days of that, max, on my _best days_ so definitely no help to anybody if im also going through some shit.
"Hey, you know those people who are sensitive to bright colors, lights, and noises? Let's make the bright-lights-and-loud-noises car covered in bright colors for them!"
That no eye contact sign just reminded me of how I thought I couldn’t be autistic because I didn’t have a problem with eye contact and continued that thought with… “In fact, I once wrote a whole story about an alternate universe where eye contact was a huge taboo and forbidden to the point that fashion had developed to deliberately attract your attention away from the face and making eye contact was a crime worse than murder. Then the main character accidentally makes eye contact with another character and they fall in love but they are hunted down and…” OH. DAMN. 👀😅
Yeah.
I have yet to be diagnosed with autism but I have an ADHD diagnosis. I was diagnosed when I was 15 and with my diagnosis was given a book called "ADHD is my superpower". It was clearly made for little kids and was oversimplified and cartooney. My parents got a book all about how to "deal with me".
I do not wear colors because it is too much for my sensory issues, so I wear all black. But I also have collections of plushies, dolls, books, comics, action figures that are colorful and are strategically placed in areas I can look at while walking to and from my room but are not suffocating me at my desk. I think the distinction is the ability to remove myself from color if needed, which I cannot do with my own clothing. Being stopped by the autism awareness-mobile would be a difficult situation to avoid those colors and would actively be harmful for me personally. I could not imagine that along with bright flashing police lights, that sounds like the deepest circle of sensory hell.
A friend I met at Starbucks has gone on a lot of rants about self diagnosis and refusing any suggestion she might be neurodivergent for the last few years. Recently she moved and I hadn't talked to her in a while because post moving she just...disappeared for a bit. She's resurfaced talking about getting an ADHD diagnosis and a bunch of us are like "UH HUH FANCY THAT."
if there was ever a reason for me to accept payment for committing a crime, it would definitely involve that car and stealing a tank from a nearby army base. the rest should speak for itself.
I will gladly either pay your bail or put money on your books, homey!
Only question: cannon or treads?
@@jclocks1661 why not both while making the tank breakdance or do donuts over the flattened remnants?
@lurch789 why not both?
My whole family are in the spectrum. Kids are grown now. Showed this to hubster and said it would have confused our kids:
"Are they really the police?"
"So I shouldn't talk to the other police, right?"
"Do these colorful police have a different phone number?"
"Do they have paint? I want to paint!"
Hubster said he would think he could go get ice cream from this car. 🍦🤣
It's a travesty.
I never masked as a kid/teen, I walked around wearing exactly what I wanted and acted like the real me! 🥰
I was horrendously bullied and ended up getting homeschooled. BUT I STAYED TRUE TO MYSELF, GOD DAMN IT, AND THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING!
I really have a tough time with people walking into the room that I am in, even when it is irrational. It's terribly bad for my ability to connect well with people... But, I'm the weird one, or have issues to work out. It's tough, i guess only now realizing all of this stuff.
My assessment (in my mid-50s) is tomorrow afternoon, I've been trying to decide what to wear for weeks now. I've never felt so understood as I do having discovered this community
I accidentally wore sunglasses half way through my autism assessment. It ended up on the report😅
So I have these sunglasses that are really cute and aren't that dark, so I can wear them indoors. I don't usually, only if I'm walking into a store and don't want to stop in the middle of the entrance, I'll wait until I'm in an aisle to take them off. Well, I was so anxious that I forgot to take mine off until my anxiety started wayning and I took them off. The doctor mentioned it on the report as to how ne pf the many reasons why he gave me the diagnosis. Turns out I'm crap at reading faces too.
I settled on blue/grey/white and clothes colors a long time ago - I don't have to think about matching that way.
And, yeah, calling that car a rolling migraine is a perfect decription. All the more reason to not like the cops.
The only bright color I can tolerate is neon green but that's because I'm obsessed with all the variance of green. I guess you could say colorescience is one of my special interests
Green is pretty great!
At 5:31, I'm almost the exact opposite: If I feel I need to be dressed up, I'll wear slacks and a button down shirt, but before my brother's wedding it had probably been a decade since I wore an actual suit. I no longer wear T-shirts now that I'm in the workforce: I don't like to have to think about getting dressed, I just buy a bunch of polos and pick one at random every morning.
I'm the same. It is most important that clothes are a.) comfortable and loose, b.) functional for any activity, c.) did not require extra work or time.
The fluffy part of those horns match your hair perfectly (at least in camera) so they really look like they belong there.
I love your energy so much and have never knew that anyone else had my experience of autism before watching your videos. I’m a late diagnosed PDAer and it’s a really good feeling to know there’s other people in the world who know what it’s like. Keep doing what you’re doing (but only if you want to and it gives you happiness ofc)!! 💕
I hate that the puzzle piece is a part of Autism Speaks because I was diagnosed at 30 years old and I can't tell you how many times I've gone through my life in my head through a new understanding, I caught myself multiple times almost shouting "Man! This is all connecting!!! Like this one piece has been missing! Like a puz.... oh yeah 😫. I guess I shouldn't say that."
My autistic male friend always emails me (autistic female) a photo of his outfit of the day before church and I just don't know what to say other than "you look clean and admissible into a church". The suit to an appointment reminded me of that for some reason.
I tried to explain to my mother why the autistic community doesn’t like the puzzle pieces as a symbol, she got mad at me and super defensive for no reason 💀💀💀
I know I'm late to the vid but it is actually considered respectful to avoid a lot of eye contact, especially with elders or authority figures in Diné (Navajo) culture and other Native American tribes! 💖 Lots of my old classmates were chewed out to make eye contact when doing presentations in front of the teacher, because they were raised the opposite.
I discovered r/evilautism a few months ago, and it quickly became one of my top 3 most visited parts of the internet
Hahaha I love that 'faking allism' bit, it was very on the nail.
😂 "I'm just like everyone else only different" reminds me of a conversation I was having with my niece.
I'm autistic and adhd and we think she may also be on the spectrum.
Me and her were talking about how we are similar in the way we act and the things we do to cope with things and she was concerned about being "different" at school as she has just started year 2.
I said something like "it's okay , me and you are the same and that makes us unique"
My niece said "I am unique and so are you."
My sister (my nieces mum) looked really confused and said "you are the same and that makes you unique, that makes no sense."
I had to clarify 😅 "me and lilly are the same (on the spectrum), yes but we are different from other people (neurotypical people) and that's okay because that makes us unique compared to everyone else" 😂
my niece understood what I meant 😅 and my sister still looked confused after I explained but she kindu got it 😂
Also damn that car be ugly 😅
I went to get diagnosed for ADHD... I hated it because it was just a questionnaire I could intentionally botch to get the diagnosis I wanted and no deep diving into how I would react to hypotheticals or interviewing people who know me or any deeper analysis.
Edit: After hearing Doctor Amon's deep analysis using brain scans for brain activity and how he went into much greater detail about what he called the 7 forms of ADD, I also hate the ADHD definitions even more... They're disappointing by comparison.
Make every answer A so they know you reject their dumb quizlet
I'm autistic and I've literally had friends and a close person to me, worry more for the vehicle. I asked in a round about way several years later why they asked about the car instead of me, they said, "you were standing and talking okay, so obviously you were alright." They are sometimes sweet, sometimes stubborn to the point of hurting their own goals, they are autistic, high functioning Asperger's syndrome.
Autism level 1😊
Cops already make me super uncomfortable, I could go into a whole thing about PDA and anarchism and coercive forces to maintain unjust hierarchy, but I'll just say that Autism Awareness police car is one of the worst things I've seen on the internet today. It takes something that is already undesirable in my mind and makes it unpleasant to look at as well.
OMG I'm not the only one that has had those thoughts about what used to happen to autistic people in the war. I'm assuming that's what you were referring to about being afraid of being diagnosed. I know that's a huge fear of mine.
I've heard it can impact immigration to other countries, which is why I'm wary of it
I don’t mind bright colours and I have plenty of loud gym clothes. It embarrasses the heck out of anyone seen with me😂
I actually remember having this bright yellow tracksuit when I was a child...then my cousin called me a banana and I never wore it again 😂 I definitely like some bright colours...it just has to be the right ones 😅
There should be yearly psych checkups funded by gov (but not shared data with) for everyone. I mean I wasn't checked by a psych, but I'm sure they'd find like 6 different disorders
I know the suit to your autism diagnosis was supposed to be funny, but I wore one to a new therapist once. That is the same appointment where she asked me if I had ever been tested because she thought I might be on the spectrum. I never went back to see her again. But I am often told that I am over dressed. I am the only person in my 200+ person building that wears a button up, slacks, and a tie to work everyday.
Why would you wear that?
@@jesusramirezromo2037 Because I like it and I like to look good. Growing up, I was constantly made fun of because I couldn't wear anything but sweat pants. I couldn't stand the tightness of jeans. So I made a conscious choice to change that.
I live in Miami. They have modified newer versions to be police cars with puzzle pieces which isn’t much better but at least it looks better? They usually send them to schools for school police.
Maybe mental health screenings could be part of regular checkups for everyone? It would at least bring more attention to mental health...
I think that would be incredible!
Even if I didn’t have sensory hypersensitivity that car would be an assault on my visual senses. Bloody hell.
I have chatted to a number of people on dating websites who will casually say they are neurodivergent, and I am like 'Oh what were you diagnosed with?' The silence is deafening.
I hope you mean neurodivergent my friend 😂
@@rosesapling72 I did 😆 Thanks for the spot.
Honestly the "polished" thing feels pre spot on, i always had a deep seated obsession/special interest with suits and all of the accoutrements that came with it.
As i look back at that to me it feels like the penultimate form of masking i can do, the moment i put on a suit i feel out of body and more 'put together' more structured.
I can confirm getting payed to be autistic is 1000% worth the diagnosis, I can save money for future without having to talk to anyone, or worst of all make eye contact. If the government thinks of us as disabled that's their problem, I'll gladly take their money.
I was all dressed up fancy for several weeks of training when first working as a casino dealer. Everyone else in class was wearing jeans and tees. Someone asked me why I was so dressed up and the instructor said, because she's dressing for the job she wants, not the job she's getting 😅
7:50 no no, what if we kissed while slamming sledgehammers into the autism awareness police car
6:37 something I absolutely loved about being in a private school my whole life was that our uniform was cool. I had issues with having to always wear skirts (afab transmasc here) but having always the same outfit and it being the same as everyone else's was soothing to me.
I never really latched onto formalwear as a thing. Formal clothing always increases my dysphoria
Try medieval clothing. It feels right. Long tunics, comfy leather flats, big pants, cozy coats
I knew someone in middle school who used to wear a suit and carrying an attache case to school every day, just like the one described in the video. I gave him the nickname "Mr. Business Man" I can't even remember his real name I called him that so much. It wasn't a poking fun thing either, it was positive like you're gonna end up with a really good job when you finish school type of thing.
Hi darling! I've been binge watching your videos for months and I love this series so much!! The only trait that I actually thank to masking is using sarcasm KDNFKFK it's so fun when you know how to use it, sometimes I use it so much, but it's actually fun. Thank you for making me feel welcomed into the community. I'm on the way to get my diagnosis soon, and seeing your videos made it less scary. I've told all of my neurodivergent friends to take a look at your page too! Have a nice day, darling~
Oh I've seen the parody "autistic reporter" in another skit - he was reporting on what prison is like & concluded he'd love the routines & asked what he had to do to live in a prison 🤣
I love this subreddit! I'd love to see you cover it again
I definitely will! It was so fun 😁
my dad used to work for the swiss railway company SBB and they have their own firefighter trains where basically normal employees get trained to be firefighters and roll out with the train and all. they usually just assisted with fires near the rails (because the train can carry a lot of water). but they also had to go and pick up bodyparts of suiciders. and indeed, with the newer high speed trains that have carbon hulls, denting was an issue
It's important to remember that "Autism Speaks" is NOT a friend of people with autism.
The “just say no” one, my mother has done that for me a lot growing up. I’d call her to say someone called me to sleep over in their house and ask for her permission and since the call was never on speakerphone, she’d always say something like “if you actually want to sleep over just say “yes and I’ll allow it, if you don’t, ask me why not” and it was just so wholesome, I’m so grateful for her doing that, because she was the one that came up with it, I didn’t ask her to, and it made me feel safe ‘cause I knew if I was ever too shy to deny my friend’s invite, I could count on my mother giving me codes to tell her if she should allow it or not via her end of the line
11:07 this is invalidating to say that someone has "never stimmed" because they describe colors as "stimmy." Though most autistics can't stand bright colors, some of us are visually sensory seeking and use bright colors to visually stim.
I can imagine all the other cops lighting up that vehicle on instinct. "WATCH OUT! THE AUTISM HAS A CAR!"
No, I’m not autistic. And I fuckin love this! To tell your truth, as accurately as you can, as soon as you can - I could wish I’d had the courage sooner. We are all fuckin human - we are an amazing tapestry, we humans. We all belong. This makes so much sense to me - thank you, Megan…
I’m not.
@@mr.x2567 Not is OK. I have been “not” most of my life: not appropriate, not feminine enough, not dressed appropriately, not being dumb enough…Not is not a repudiation of appropriate or normal, “not” is a plus to the human calibration. Well done, you…
Man hits train, the train hits him back. The train obviously acted in self defense.
I like about 1/3 of the stuff on evilautism. A LOT of it is divisive talk about The Neurotypicals(^TM). But enough of it is memes and amazing infodumping that i stick around for it.
" A LOT of it is divisive talk about The Neurotypicals(^TM)" - Thank you. Back when I thought I was NT, but my brother had been diagnosed, he got super political and made a lot of hurtful comments about NTs that I felt were pretty arrogant for him to assume he knew how I thought, while telling me I didn't understand how he thought. Ofc, I also understood that he was frustrated and working through his feelings. Now of course, I understand I am also autistic, which makes the memory of two autistics yelling at eachother about being NT into a comedy of sorts.
I don’t follow that subreddit because most of the stuff I see is people saying legitimately hateful things about non-autistics or NTs in general… and it just rubs me so wrong. I get it… NTs can be jerks… but so can autistic people. There’s really no difference. If we don’t want others to hate us for our communication differences we shouldn’t hate others for not connecting with us. I realized I was different in part when NTs would TRY to include me. They were nice but it didn’t work. Also it’s so unbelievably self centered to only think autistic people have struggles. NTs suffer from poverty, racism, grief, and many other things that some of us do or don’t suffer from.
With how I am with my autism, I love big bright colors, so the colors are the least of my worries on the POLICE car
I had an opposite phase where I underdressed for everything lmfaooo
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People tell me I should wear suits for certain occasions, but I find them incredibly uncomfortable (for my wedding I wore jeans, a collarless shirt because fuck ties, a waistcoat because they're fun, and a suit jacket that got taken off as soon as possible) so I only really wear a suit for other people. Going a funeral soon. It's a sad time. When sad, wear big soft clothes for reassurance. Why suit?
I actually like the colors on the dreaded police car. But Im fond of garishness as a social display of asburdity and an active effort to make the world just a bit weirder. I want pants that are four different colors where the seams are if that make sense? That sorta thing. Throw color theory out the window and hurt peoples eyes. Though I definitely hate the puzzle pieces and their lack of symmetry.
My best guess for the suit thing is that people don't listen to autistic people very often, but wearing a suit is associated with importance and authority, so the hope is that wearing a suit will get people to actually listen to you when you say something.
Thank you for another wonderful video! You totally made my day. 😁
One time a Girl told me i didnt look autistic, so, naturally, i did the only thing any person would do in such a situation and vowed to constantly Wear something about my hyper fixation. I hope you know it was for you Ida, i dont have the autism, i am the autism.
“Whos that Character on Your shirt?”
“FUNNY YOU SHOULD SAY”
Fun fact: the guy who plays Michael Faulk is actually a broadway actor and I’ve seen him live on stage.
(I don’t remember his name sorryyyy)
Just wanted to pop in for a quick thank you for doing this channel. I'm only recently coming to grips with my own (profoundly certain if not currently diagnosed) autism. Your videos have been such a massive help in clearing up my own confusion and connecting the dots of my life's most circular clues and at the same time, showing me there is such a massive and welcoming community of people I identify with in ways I never would have guessed before I had such an effective tool for dipping in as I begin (I've been beginning for some time) the long journey of confirmation for my own understanding and peace of mind. Thank you so, and cheers.
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Oh I have a story about suits! I'm in high school, and my teacher is also the MUN teacher and organizes the MUN convention our school does, and I wanted to go but I have social anxiety so I ended up not going as a representative but I still wanted to go so she let me do the thing where you give notes to the representatives because they can't talk during the meeting so you move the notes between them (and they played tick-tack-toe and I didn't let them because THAT'S NOT WHAT THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE DOING), and you're supposed to come to an MUN convention with professional clothes, but my parents have no professional clothes because IDK, it's unnecessary, and it made me cry and yell and maby have a panic attack over not having the right clothes (like a suit). Then I ended up wearing my most professional clothes that are not very professional and thinking I would wear them for the second day too because I don't have any other professional clothes but then my teacher was giving away white button ups because it was too small for her son so I took them and now I have 2 white button ups (that one of them I sometimes can't wear because it feel like sandpaper but its alright)
Edit: I use the word professional insted of formal because I just forgot that the word formal exist and while I didn't notice professional wasn't the right word, I didn't have the energy to actually try to remember the word I was looking for
I had another story in mind but I forgot what it was while writing this so if I will remember I will come to edit this