We could all fix relationships. We could all have happier, healthier, wonderful relationships where we have a reliable source of love and affection while we also work on ourselves. Imagine what we could achieve if we stopped chasing the ones that broke us. If you want online therapy check out BetterHelp: www.betterhelp.com/Rory - (Get 10% off using that link.) I am sponsored by betterhelp. Lil mental health never hurt anyone.
Hey Rory, I’m interested in coaching. I’m just wondering if it would be beneficial. My ex left me 7 months ago and got into another relationship a few months after she left. I don’t think I will get her back, I want to, but I don’t see it happening. Still I’m so lost and I keep relapsing over the breakup. I could use some advice and insight on the situation.
Some times we cant fix someone, the best we can do is show them wat they did wrong and hope they can fix it them selfs. Sometimes u can love someone who has broken u r trust but love doesnt mean u should be with them.
I guess its like the rush of having someone to chase, a lot of people think of this as adding "spice" to relationships or life in general. People with that secure, clear, and stable style of loving are seen as boring and unexciting. I feel like Im one of those secure, clear types. I just don't understand why in love we have to play mind games or try to confuse our partner.
I’m the same clear & stable. (Boring) I’ve always been that way. Instead of drama and games I focus on building for retirement and traveling with friends. I recently decided not to chase because that means someone is running from me.
Lots of valuable insight here man, I think it applies a lot to my previous relationship too. I've taken my personal growth seriously, but my ex I don't believe has. I don't keep tabs, but from what I can sense it's very similar to this. People want excitement or distraction from themselves, which really is sad. I agree wholeheartedly with you though, I definitely would have a boring secure relationship, because it would enable me to be my best. How sad it truly is that most relationships are fixable but most already have one foot out the door. Not everything is meant to last, but I feel that everyone is so eager to jump ship and move on to someone else in the hopes that it works out, without putting any thought or effort into themselves. I think that's a bullshit copout. Like many have said, the grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it, for yourself and for others.
Beautifully said. I agree with your statement. Your entire statement. I believe my ex is the same as your ex. I know for a fact from many friends that she is all over the place. It doesn't bother me. I know that I did my best and in the end it's up to her to change, but I doubt that'll happen. In the mean time I have new people in my life and feel like a new person
@@erycktackitt6771 For sure, I wanted to fix things. I was committed to the bitter end. I can at least have that off my conscience. But looks like we didn't have a choice, we had to move on, and I know in my case it absolutely was for the best. On to bigger and better things my friend.
If we can just get a person with that same mindset it's going to work.. I guess my ex isn't one of them either. Frustrating when they leave before really trying.
Amazing. I love boring and stable. My excitement comes from my perception of life not by chasing others. Sadly it's hard as hell in the early 20's,because like you said, everyone expects to find some magically perfect match that requires no effort
This is me. I ended a secure relationship after 13 years because it became boring, and have been choosing unstable (avoidant) partners ever since. It always ends in tears. The last one ended a week ago. Six months ago, I was dating two girls: one appeared quite secure, the other was a fearful avoidant. Guess who I chose. I chose the challenge, the rollercoaster ride. I had to work really hard to keep her interested, to get her to commit, and in the end she still pulled away, lost interest, triggered my anxiety and then dumped me because of my clingy reaction. It always ends in tears. But I can't seem to help myself from being drawn to the difficult ones. Nice to know it isn't just me. Avoidants must get a lot of action, lol :)
Hey, Rory. We had a coaching call about a month and a half ago or so I believe. My ex broke up with me after almost 4 years and 8 months. We had planned a trip to Disney before Covid and I was going to propose to her there. I even bought a ring about 2 years ago. I work out and run just about everyday. I’m cleaning my diet up and I’m going back to school this fall. I still do love her and miss her but I must try to move on and keep bettering myself. Most of the cause of the breakup was my fault. I’m learning from my mistakes. I plan on finishing out an undergraduate degree in about 2 years then completing a master’s degree. I used to be lazy with no drive. Now I’m one of the hardest working people that I know. I know this should be about me first but I want to prove her wrong and all of her friends that hated me.
I find it so disturbing to dump a quality loving and attractive person because he/she doesn't cause you anxiety....it feels like your life is so empty cant feel joy or positive emotion through hobbies or achievements so you try to live through negative emotions.
Amazing message, Rory. I’ve come to the realization that the chances of my ex taking this time to better herself are slim. These past 9 months have been life changing for me. I’ve grown a lot and we could even argue I’ve outgrown my ex in some degree. I still love and miss her and wish the situation was different but I’m very thankful I was able to truly find myself as a result of this break up. I don’t need my ex, I need myself and the fact that I have myself is magnificent! I’ve never been happier with my life and I’m excited for the next chapter. I love you all. It gets easier! I promise.
I'm looking for someone who is really mature and not looking for a mother. Every thing you said is right. Except I didn't do the chasing. Maybe I should have but I figure if he wants me he knows what he was getting. He chose to leave. And I really don't think he gave a crap from the get go. Great listening to this reading. Did make a lot of sense. Take care. Hugsx
Aaaaanndd...you are still chasing that 'if I could just get one person who treats me like crap, cheats, lies, dumps but reels me back in, rinse, repeat" to be consistent and loving then we could, in a sense, win. Moreover, sometimes finally resolve the horrible pain of childhood. I'm finally there. With the boring guy. And you know what? He's not so boring. Addendum: As we roll along Google will throw up a happy-ish memory from those days. And then the very next picture will be from a time I was alone again, hurting and trying to make myself feel better. Compare to today where each picture is not, day in and out. We really can fix things. Thanks for doing what you do, sir. :)
This is probably my favorite that you've ever done. Very Alain de Botton School of Life approach to the psychology behind our actions. I listened to this three times. Thank you, Rory. Stay positive and stay healthy.
"Your heart is an idiot", "You're being actively manipulated" That point you made is so true, sometimes, if we are like that, we'll acept or be in denial of every action that the insecure person does, even if it's hurting us. I often listen to you on Spotify, but I wanted to say thank you. I'm going trough a breakup of a long time relationship and your talks are helping me SO much. I'm understanding a lot of myself and of him, and it helps me to sleep better at night and feel more calm at day. Keep it up, you are great and believe that you are helping a lot of people. God bless you
Yeah... I'm that pretty normal and secure person. My top criteria is a man with a good heart and balanced ego. Real relationship takes work. Hard work. Get ready to work or leave me alone. We also go after someone we think we deserve...
Yes I am so of this mindset . We can all save this . And yes foundational relationship element, accountability. Be your word; do what you say you’re going to do; have it don’t want it. It has been the issue in my last one. Thank you Rory for this great episode. Brilliant
I just got out of a situation of 4 years with someone. It’s so true what the video says. For me, it was an absolute thrill to get affection from this person. Because he was always reserved in his feelings and wasn’t direct in what he wanted, I felt that when I DID get something, it was more meaningful than if I had gotten it without trying. Weirdly enough, if I had met someone who was emotionally readily available, I would’ve found them boring and not fun. Humans are so complex. I really don’t understand why we do this to ourselves.
I don't know how many times I listened to this episode. One of the best your videos so far. Things you said are absolutely true and I can relate to them, because all of them has happened to me in my recent relationship. Thanks for your time and wisdom!
Damn Rory, this video in particular is Gold. You should honestly have millions subscribers. This is the realest shit anyone has ever put on TH-cam. And the way you explain it is nothing less than perfect. Good shit man! This one hits in a different way.
This is such an insightful video. Looking into personal experiences and relationships around, I still never understood why being secure was often boring. In the end, giving everything your person would want just makes it loose its price for some reason and not be able to struggle with the bare minimum which other would give just makes it boring. I've felt this so many times and dont know how I'd fix this so called 'boring side'. Dont worry they'd say... in the end its just one of the factors it doesn't work out in the end.
I replayed this video from time to time when I felt confused about my current state, but the video always helped me find my self-value and confirmed what I really looked for in a relationship!
this hit me deep tbh because before my ex broke up with me I was a player and I just liked the fact I myself was unattainable... and now I guess I've grown and seen it's not really a healthy view to have or particularly nice to people either
I really just need to thank Rory for every video on this chanel! I was broken and lost for 2 months, and he was my only comfort at that time. I didnt know if the pain would stop, but Rory did. Thank u so much Rory, we all love u!!❤️
I just ordered that book this morning, per Craig and Margaret. You just described my situation in introducingthe book, it's good to hear it will help gage my situation.
Rori, I would love you to make a video about distance relationship when ex reaches out and what to do ( cause you can not hang out with them) and stuff like that. That would be awesome. You are amazing. Thanks Rori
This is a great message Rory. Following a break up I’ll meet great stable women who display genuine interest and affection...but they seem boring to me. I’ve always wondered why because logically I know they are a great fit. It really is twisted how we are drawn to those who reject us or are unclear.
God has touched this man 🙏 this video is gem and different from your other videos but really good one after long time. Keep making and also be happy and healthy Rory. You are making thousands of people's life better so I wish you happy and healthy life ❤️❤️💔
Hey Rory, that's my favourite video of yours. But I'm not sure if I understand it fully. I feel like in my relationship I was this stable source of love and affection, I was supporting my ex as best as I could while still having my own opinions and interests. But he got bored. He said he wanted a change, and left to seek other girls. So does this mean that I was giving him too much and so that wasn't attractive to him? I think I might have to watch this video again! Thank you Rory for making me think so much hahah
Broken up with my ex 7 months now. 5 months no contact. She deleted a nice instagram photo she used to have of us today. I'm getting better but kind of felt a bit devastated when I noticed. I really want to let go of hope. We were friends for 10 years before going out. Didnt think she would delete photos of us.
I actually crave for secure “boring” if you will relationship. My guy is typical avoidant. I got attracted to him because at start he seemed to be secure, and provide everything i wanted in terms of relationship, and one day its just like switch went off. Because he got feelings for me, after some time (he had 10+y relationship that broke him years ago) And he got scared. And he told me he got scared, and i get it. But boy this is a rollercoaster ride, and i already got off once. Tried for the second time because i love this guy to bits and pieces. I see he has emotions, but also a lot of problems with emotional part. I have no idea what to do, i dont want to give up. Ah...lord have mercy
Gosh, Rory, I felt like a dashboard nodding head dog, all the way through listening to this. So many eureka moments listening to your videos! Thank you, dear friend, of ours...xx
I'm a secure attachment style. My ex was avoident... She pulled away till she ended it. I got a I need to heal more I'm not ready for a relationship yada yada yada. It's all bs ppl work on you the one will come
Hey Rory another great video! I have a video topic suggestion that I haven't seen among a lot of relationship coaches online. What are a list of questions to build intimacy between a partner, someone you're dating or looking to get to know on a deeper level. I think this topic will help guys in the friendzone or guys who like me who have an fearful-avoidant attachment style. Keep up the good work!
Wow that was deep, from everything you said there it really does make you think, gotta be a Part 2 Rory as this is a big topic, just pure amazing content, thanks for the mental health boost 😊
Life saver Rory xx Wow, this is crazy- I've been studying my 50% secure and 50% fearful avoidant attachment style and boom you post this ❤️ I hope you're feeling better 😃
Such a great video Rory... resonated completely with my current situation and it’s so helpful getting insight when you’re feeling so confused about what happened to the relationship and why... thank you 🙏
People who are not whole make for a challenging relationship. It’s unhealthy! How about you fix your heart? Love yourself completely and stay on your purpose! Yes, rollercoaster behavior is addicting. Recently, I almost slipped up myself. The more you give to them the more 💩 you get in return. But moment you realize your value... 💰🏃♀️
Yeah secure, "boring" and reliable.. that's me.. it wasn't her though. I guess I made the mistake of thinking that's what she wanted after her turbulent past. I gave it all. But I know it was mutual for at least a while.. I'm not sure how I can turn off this intense desire to have someone like that at my side. I'm driving myself crazy and I can't even date right now. Patience I guess..
Its a weird video content, but can you try making a video review of "500 days of summer"? Some dumpee thinks that their breakup is somehow relatable to 500 days of summer. I would like to know what went wrong in their relationship, and how could it have been avoided or what would be the best thing to do if you were in his shoes. I think it would be a nice video. Thank you and God bless you rory.
I think our expectations of love and reasons for love have changed over the years. Its no longer based on responsibility and survival. Add the ease of divorce and we have a 50% divorce rate
It's been a month she broke up with me.. and she asked me to be her friend and some what i agreed bt it's been 9 days i didn't call her or texted her bt she contacts me to ask how I'm doing how my family members are doing sometimes she has nothing to talk about just asks me what's up then she cuts the call . Please help me i don't know what to do at this situation ami acting cool and clam during this time though she is talking to someone other guy all the time.. And yesterday she unblocked me on whatsapp and posting negetive things .. "like I'm done loving " only memories remain nothing else etc it actually makes me sad .. and she is posting it just to show me others can't see her whatsapp stories .
Please make a video in response the today's released video from Lucia TheArtOfLove, she is contradicting your point saying when your ex does the indirect direct approach we should ignore them until they reach out with something significant, she specifically called out your channel. Please clarify what should we do, because i am following your advise blindly.
Do you think ignoring someone is right? Seems a bit manipulative to me. Instead lets go for telling the truth and holding our boundaries rather than playing the game of a child. In the same video Lucia is making fun of one of her viewers and calling them out by name. This is not a grown adult.
How you gonna keep a women attracted to you when she has 100 of guys hitting on here and bombarding here in every social media platform? It's almost impossible they have to many options and the got so confused who to choose from
We could all fix relationships. We could all have happier, healthier, wonderful relationships where we have a reliable source of love and affection while we also work on ourselves. Imagine what we could achieve if we stopped chasing the ones that broke us.
If you want online therapy check out BetterHelp: www.betterhelp.com/Rory - (Get 10% off using that link.)
I am sponsored by betterhelp. Lil mental health never hurt anyone.
Hey Rory, I’m interested in coaching. I’m just wondering if it would be beneficial. My ex left me 7 months ago and got into another relationship a few months after she left. I don’t think I will get her back, I want to, but I don’t see it happening. Still I’m so lost and I keep relapsing over the breakup. I could use some advice and insight on the situation.
I honestly think this is one of the most important videos you've ever made.
Some times we cant fix someone, the best we can do is show them wat they did wrong and hope they can fix it them selfs. Sometimes u can love someone who has broken u r trust but love doesnt mean u should be with them.
I guess its like the rush of having someone to chase, a lot of people think of this as adding "spice" to relationships or life in general. People with that secure, clear, and stable style of loving are seen as boring and unexciting. I feel like Im one of those secure, clear types. I just don't understand why in love we have to play mind games or try to confuse our partner.
I’m the same clear & stable. (Boring) I’ve always been that way. Instead of drama and games I focus on building for retirement and traveling with friends. I recently decided not to chase because that means someone is running from me.
Lots of valuable insight here man, I think it applies a lot to my previous relationship too. I've taken my personal growth seriously, but my ex I don't believe has. I don't keep tabs, but from what I can sense it's very similar to this. People want excitement or distraction from themselves, which really is sad. I agree wholeheartedly with you though, I definitely would have a boring secure relationship, because it would enable me to be my best. How sad it truly is that most relationships are fixable but most already have one foot out the door. Not everything is meant to last, but I feel that everyone is so eager to jump ship and move on to someone else in the hopes that it works out, without putting any thought or effort into themselves. I think that's a bullshit copout. Like many have said, the grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it, for yourself and for others.
Beautifully said. I agree with your statement. Your entire statement. I believe my ex is the same as your ex. I know for a fact from many friends that she is all over the place. It doesn't bother me. I know that I did my best and in the end it's up to her to change, but I doubt that'll happen. In the mean time I have new people in my life and feel like a new person
@@erycktackitt6771 For sure, I wanted to fix things. I was committed to the bitter end. I can at least have that off my conscience.
But looks like we didn't have a choice, we had to move on, and I know in my case it absolutely was for the best. On to bigger and better things my friend.
If we can just get a person with that same mindset it's going to work.. I guess my ex isn't one of them either. Frustrating when they leave before really trying.
Amazing. I love boring and stable. My excitement comes from my perception of life not by chasing others. Sadly it's hard as hell in the early 20's,because like you said, everyone expects to find some magically perfect match that requires no effort
If only I could imprint this message onto my mind, it resonated with me so much. Thank you.
You’re a Godsend man I’ve told you this multiple times but again I’ll say thank you because you’ve saved my life literally
Rory you’re so right. Everything could be saved with awareness, compassion and growth for the less developed parts of us.
This is me. I ended a secure relationship after 13 years because it became boring, and have been choosing unstable (avoidant) partners ever since. It always ends in tears. The last one ended a week ago.
Six months ago, I was dating two girls: one appeared quite secure, the other was a fearful avoidant. Guess who I chose. I chose the challenge, the rollercoaster ride. I had to work really hard to keep her interested, to get her to commit, and in the end she still pulled away, lost interest, triggered my anxiety and then dumped me because of my clingy reaction.
It always ends in tears. But I can't seem to help myself from being drawn to the difficult ones. Nice to know it isn't just me. Avoidants must get a lot of action, lol :)
💔😔
This is sad. Relationship is hard work.
Wow same story as me
Hey, Rory. We had a coaching call about a month and a half ago or so I believe. My ex broke up with me after almost 4 years and 8 months. We had planned a trip to Disney before Covid and I was going to propose to her there. I even bought a ring about 2 years ago. I work out and run just about everyday. I’m cleaning my diet up and I’m going back to school this fall. I still do love her and miss her but I must try to move on and keep bettering myself. Most of the cause of the breakup was my fault. I’m learning from my mistakes. I plan on finishing out an undergraduate degree in about 2 years then completing a master’s degree. I used to be lazy with no drive. Now I’m one of the hardest working people that I know. I know this should be about me first but I want to prove her wrong and all of her friends that hated me.
I find it so disturbing to dump a quality loving and attractive person because he/she doesn't cause you anxiety....it feels like your life is so empty cant feel joy or positive emotion through hobbies or achievements so you try to live through negative emotions.
Amazing message, Rory. I’ve come to the realization that the chances of my ex taking this time to better herself are slim. These past 9 months have been life changing for me. I’ve grown a lot and we could even argue I’ve outgrown my ex in some degree. I still love and miss her and wish the situation was different but I’m very thankful I was able to truly find myself as a result of this break up. I don’t need my ex, I need myself and the fact that I have myself is magnificent! I’ve never been happier with my life and I’m excited for the next chapter. I love you all. It gets easier! I promise.
I'm looking for someone who is really mature and not looking for a mother. Every thing you said is right. Except I didn't do the chasing. Maybe I should have but I figure if he wants me he knows what he was getting. He chose to leave. And I really don't think he gave a crap from the get go. Great listening to this reading. Did make a lot of sense. Take care. Hugsx
Aaaaanndd...you are still chasing that 'if I could just get one person who treats me like crap, cheats, lies, dumps but reels me back in, rinse, repeat" to be consistent and loving then we could, in a sense, win. Moreover, sometimes finally resolve the horrible pain of childhood.
I'm finally there. With the boring guy. And you know what? He's not so boring.
Addendum: As we roll along Google will throw up a happy-ish memory from those days. And then the very next picture will be from a time I was alone again, hurting and trying to make myself feel better. Compare to today where each picture is not, day in and out. We really can fix things. Thanks for doing what you do, sir. :)
This is probably my favorite that you've ever done. Very Alain de Botton School of Life approach to the psychology behind our actions. I listened to this three times. Thank you, Rory. Stay positive and stay healthy.
"Your heart is an idiot", "You're being actively manipulated" That point you made is so true, sometimes, if we are like that, we'll acept or be in denial of every action that the insecure person does, even if it's hurting us.
I often listen to you on Spotify, but I wanted to say thank you. I'm going trough a breakup of a long time relationship and your talks are helping me SO much. I'm understanding a lot of myself and of him, and it helps me to sleep better at night and feel more calm at day.
Keep it up, you are great and believe that you are helping a lot of people. God bless you
You're on fire lately, Rory - pure fire. 🔥 Thank you for all that you do.
Yeah... I'm that pretty normal and secure person. My top criteria is a man with a good heart and balanced ego. Real relationship takes work. Hard work. Get ready to work or leave me alone.
We also go after someone we think we deserve...
Yes I am so of this mindset . We can all save this . And yes foundational relationship element, accountability. Be your word; do what you say you’re going to do; have it don’t want it. It has been the issue in my last one. Thank you Rory for this great episode. Brilliant
I just got out of a situation of 4 years with someone. It’s so true what the video says. For me, it was an absolute thrill to get affection from this person. Because he was always reserved in his feelings and wasn’t direct in what he wanted, I felt that when I DID get something, it was more meaningful than if I had gotten it without trying. Weirdly enough, if I had met someone who was emotionally readily available, I would’ve found them boring and not fun. Humans are so complex. I really don’t understand why we do this to ourselves.
It's a choice! We can teach the "boring" person how to capture more of our attention.
I don't know how many times I listened to this episode. One of the best your videos so far. Things you said are absolutely true and I can relate to them, because all of them has happened to me in my recent relationship. Thanks for your time and wisdom!
Glad you enjoyed it!
7:30 man this words are so true it really gets me.
It's easier to break up and move on than trying to fix the relationship we have... unfortunately it's how life works nowadays...
Wow, what a video. It deserves more views!
Damn Rory, this video in particular is Gold. You should honestly have millions subscribers. This is the realest shit anyone has ever put on TH-cam. And the way you explain it is nothing less than perfect. Good shit man! This one hits in a different way.
This is such an insightful video. Looking into personal experiences and relationships around, I still never understood why being secure was often boring. In the end, giving everything your person would want just makes it loose its price for some reason and not be able to struggle with the bare minimum which other would give just makes it boring. I've felt this so many times and dont know how I'd fix this so called 'boring side'. Dont worry they'd say... in the end its just one of the factors it doesn't work out in the end.
I replayed this video from time to time when I felt confused about my current state, but the video always helped me find my self-value and confirmed what I really looked for in a relationship!
this hit me deep tbh because before my ex broke up with me I was a player and I just liked the fact I myself was unattainable... and now I guess I've grown and seen it's not really a healthy view to have or particularly nice to people either
I really just need to thank Rory for every video on this chanel! I was broken and lost for 2 months, and he was my only comfort at that time. I didnt know if the pain would stop, but Rory did. Thank u so much Rory, we all love u!!❤️
That had a twist at the end. Loveeee it ❤️❤️ I accept the challenge 🔥
I just ordered that book this morning, per Craig and Margaret. You just described my situation in introducingthe book, it's good to hear it will help gage my situation.
Hope you enjoy it!
Rori, I would love you to make a video about distance relationship when ex reaches out and what to do ( cause you can not hang out with them) and stuff like that. That would be awesome. You are amazing. Thanks Rori
This is a great message Rory. Following a break up I’ll meet great stable women who display genuine interest and affection...but they seem boring to me. I’ve always wondered why because logically I know they are a great fit. It really is twisted how we are drawn to those who reject us or are unclear.
God has touched this man 🙏 this video is gem and different from your other videos but really good one after long time. Keep making and also be happy and healthy Rory. You are making thousands of people's life better so I wish you happy and healthy life ❤️❤️💔
Hey Rory, that's my favourite video of yours. But I'm not sure if I understand it fully. I feel like in my relationship I was this stable source of love and affection, I was supporting my ex as best as I could while still having my own opinions and interests. But he got bored. He said he wanted a change, and left to seek other girls. So does this mean that I was giving him too much and so that wasn't attractive to him? I think I might have to watch this video again!
Thank you Rory for making me think so much hahah
Every video gets better just like we should be
Broken up with my ex 7 months now. 5 months no contact. She deleted a nice instagram photo she used to have of us today. I'm getting better but kind of felt a bit devastated when I noticed. I really want to let go of hope. We were friends for 10 years before going out. Didnt think she would delete photos of us.
It's been a while since i watched on of your videos.
I actually crave for secure “boring” if you will relationship. My guy is typical avoidant. I got attracted to him because at start he seemed to be secure, and provide everything i wanted in terms of relationship, and one day its just like switch went off. Because he got feelings for me, after some time (he had 10+y relationship that broke him years ago) And he got scared. And he told me he got scared, and i get it. But boy this is a rollercoaster ride, and i already got off once. Tried for the second time because i love this guy to bits and pieces. I see he has emotions, but also a lot of problems with emotional part. I have no idea what to do, i dont want to give up. Ah...lord have mercy
Gosh, Rory, I felt like a dashboard nodding head dog, all the way through listening to this. So many eureka moments listening to your videos! Thank you, dear friend, of ours...xx
One of your best videos. Thanks Rory!
Glad you enjoyed it
I think this is the best video Rory ever made so far ❤️
maybe you should do a video about maturity in a relationship?!
Very good advice. Thanks
Glad it was helpful!
I'm a secure attachment style. My ex was avoident... She pulled away till she ended it. I got a I need to heal more I'm not ready for a relationship yada yada yada. It's all bs ppl work on you the one will come
Woww! Amazing content! One of the best video you made! Thank you 🙏🏻
You're so welcome!
After 3 months in no contact I decided to text my ex gf asking if she is OK and I got no response. I'm desperately waiting, maybe I should move on
Tell me about it?
Hey Rory another great video! I have a video topic suggestion that I haven't seen among a lot of relationship coaches online.
What are a list of questions to build intimacy between a partner, someone you're dating or looking to get to know on a deeper level. I think this topic will help guys in the friendzone or guys who like me who have an fearful-avoidant attachment style.
Keep up the good work!
I'll look into this - thank you!
@@TheLoveChat No prob I think this will be a great idea and video topic
You are again spot on. I can recognize so many things in there. I wish she could her that too
Wow that was deep, from everything you said there it really does make you think, gotta be a Part 2 Rory as this is a big topic, just pure amazing content, thanks for the mental health boost 😊
That episode was "Amok Time". Spock went into heat... if that's a thing for Vulcans. McCoy was smart to give Kirk the drug to.
knock him out.
Life saver Rory xx Wow, this is crazy- I've been studying my 50% secure and 50% fearful avoidant attachment style and boom you post this ❤️ I hope you're feeling better 😃
Such a great video Rory... resonated completely with my current situation and it’s so helpful getting insight when you’re feeling so confused about what happened to the relationship and why... thank you 🙏
This video is gold. I will be sharing this to lots of my friends.
This is such an amazing video!! Def we all should hear this couple of times tho
Wow, this is such an eye opener. Thank you Rory.
People who are not whole make for a challenging relationship. It’s unhealthy! How about you fix your heart? Love yourself completely and stay on your purpose! Yes, rollercoaster behavior is addicting. Recently, I almost slipped up myself. The more you give to them the more 💩 you get in return. But moment you realize your value... 💰🏃♀️
SO . ON . POINT .
I'm constantly saying : " If I could just ............" everything you said :(
Yeah secure, "boring" and reliable.. that's me.. it wasn't her though. I guess I made the mistake of thinking that's what she wanted after her turbulent past. I gave it all. But I know it was mutual for at least a while..
I'm not sure how I can turn off this intense desire to have someone like that at my side. I'm driving myself crazy and I can't even date right now. Patience I guess..
Its a weird video content, but can you try making a video review of "500 days of summer"? Some dumpee thinks that their breakup is somehow relatable to 500 days of summer. I would like to know what went wrong in their relationship, and how could it have been avoided or what would be the best thing to do if you were in his shoes. I think it would be a nice video. Thank you and God bless you rory.
Deep thoughts 💭..
It's all about "self love"
I think our expectations of love and reasons for love have changed over the years. Its no longer based on responsibility and survival.
Add the ease of divorce and we have a 50% divorce rate
Well done sr !
True words 💯
Ryt video just at the ryt time 👍👌
It's been a month she broke up with me.. and she asked me to be her friend and some what i agreed bt it's been 9 days i didn't call her or texted her bt she contacts me to ask how I'm doing how my family members are doing sometimes she has nothing to talk about just asks me what's up then she cuts the call . Please help me i don't know what to do at this situation ami acting cool and clam during this time though she is talking to someone other guy all the time..
And yesterday she unblocked me on whatsapp and posting negetive things .. "like I'm done loving " only memories remain nothing else etc it actually makes me sad .. and she is posting it just to show me others can't see her whatsapp stories .
Cut her out of your life. You being friends with someone you want and they don't want you only hurts you.
Please make a video in response the today's released video from Lucia TheArtOfLove, she is contradicting your point saying when your ex does the indirect direct approach we should ignore them until they reach out with something significant, she specifically called out your channel. Please clarify what should we do, because i am following your advise blindly.
Do you think ignoring someone is right? Seems a bit manipulative to me. Instead lets go for telling the truth and holding our boundaries rather than playing the game of a child. In the same video Lucia is making fun of one of her viewers and calling them out by name. This is not a grown adult.
@@cidblock6760 Rot in hell.
How you gonna keep a women attracted to you when she has 100 of guys hitting on here and bombarding here in every social media platform? It's almost impossible they have to many options and the got so confused who to choose from
Yes!!!!
The one single dislike
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most men wouldn't fix they'd rather have something new (rebound)
Gender is irrelevant with this. All genders do this.
@@TheLoveChat Couldn't agree more!