Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t. We often make the same mistakes, and also, learning about something only makes us a fractionally more logical. But maybe in a very very small way, you’ll have that clarity.
I have a friend (who is the most logical person I know) in a toxic relationship. It's not that he doesn't know he's being illogical. He knows but it's still a struggle to let go. I understand him because I've been in his shoes as well. It's one thing to know but at the end of the day humans are emotional beings and so Knowing and feeling are two different things.
I love how you guys are not only focusing on the scientific side of everything, but now also exploring the complexity of human emotions, nature, and how we navigate through life. It is important to gain knowledge about the physical world. At the same time, shining some light onto human behaviors, what make us who we are and our ways of thinking is, from my point of view, at equal significance. Really hope to see more videos like this. Keep up the good work guys. Regards.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
as a 19 year old who just entered stage 1 for the first time, I just hatefully love this video for its honesty PS: hoping that it lasts though EDIT: Its been 3 months and while our love was on an exponential growth a few days ago the first tremors creeped into the relationship, something I was theoretically but not emotionally prepared for. I wonder what the future holds... EDIT2: its been a year together and we had a sweet little anniversary celebration. I don't think I've ever matured as much as I've matured in this year ever before in my life. Everytime, I feel I've reached the pinnacle of my love for her and boy does is just keep surging ahead faster. She's no longer a date, she's family
Did I seriously have to find this video after going through infatuation, compassionate love, and heartbreak? This would have been really helpful back in February when we first confessed feelings for each other. But even though the heartbreak hurt so much, I would do it all over again.
Likewise. Always good to keep ur chin up and view every love as a learning experience (which seems like what you've done) and have fun along the way. It's heartbreaking 4 sure but as my mom always said "sometimes nothing heals but time always will."
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
I feel really terrible after my first heartbreak during adolescence, but I find it rewarding to learn all the faults I made... Still hurtful to think back about the memories, but they're all in the past. I should let them forever be the past...
Absolutely adore the changes in animation style through the video and color palette, along with the story used to educate ^ ^ Very informational and beautifully made
@@catdogmousecheese I'm pretty sure that during the "planner moments", the people are 3D which some 2D effects over top, and the setting around them is 2D.
Being a 20 year old and feeling the emotional pain of heartbreak is agonizing. It's the hardest truth of life "you may love a person but the other person doesn't share the same emotion" accept it and find the one who loves you and accept you the way you are .
stages of falling in love: 1. infatuation/passionate love (excessively daydreaming about someone and wanting to spend more time with them - and last for a few months) 2. attachment/ compassionate love (start to observe and know the downfalls of our partner and cope with them or against them)
I had a whirlwind relationship with a girl. It was as passionate as humanly possible. We shunned the rest of the world as we loved and quarreled. Family included. We broke up after 2 years. it was excruciating to be without her, but a blanket of toxic selfishness coated our once loving relationship. 5 years later. I met her on a chance encounter and it was an absolute whirlwind like before.Because of the sins of the past, It was more challenging this time around, but we managed to pull through. Our time apart made me realize that I have always loved her. Even when we were apart, i still loved her. Selfishness just got in the way. I just Hope that everyone gets the same chance as we did.
I realized a month ago that the reason why I couldn't establish any romantic relationship since I broke up with my first and last relationship in 2015 was because I have already fallen for a good friend back in 2014. However, due to a lot of personal reasons, I could not confess my feelings. Fast forward to 2023, after an unexpected incident, I finally realized and accepted that the reason I could not seem to find the one for me is because I have already found her, but the realization came too late. She has been in a healthy relationship for almost 4 years. I'm experiencing all 3 stages, but mainly the 1st and 3rd, at the same time. It's heartbreaking to live through regret.
I can’t thank you guys enough for this beautiful animation. It’s helping me figure myself out and how I love the people around me by explaining things in a rational way. It’s a thousand times better than someone saying, “oh, you’ll know when you’re in love”, because I don’t know if it’s that or not.
i love this animation so much. And i love that at the end of rollercoaster ride, which represents his experience and journey of love, his partner wasn’t there anymore on the ride, instead of looking very depressed, he looks back and smile. As if he has learned and move on. Knowing he’ll be okay
I remember when my girlfriend and I first broke up, it was especially painful because it wasn't out of an argument but rather because she was afraid her parents would disapprove of it. At least now I'm glad it happened, like developing immunity to an illness.
What happens with the brain chemistry when the relationship lasts? What are the later stages? How do big life changes - moving in together, getting a pet, having a child, growing old together - affect your brain and your perception of the relationship? How is the grief different when a partner dies of old age, or in childbirth, or if there's cheating after years of commitment? What causes the "7-Year Itch"? I have so many more questions!
I am so thankful to you for the usage of that beautiful homoromantic animated clip. It reminds me I’m valid, everything mentioned applies to me just as well, and it’ll be fine eventually.
I dated a girl and obviously didn't go well. Soon after, she found a new boy, my friend, who was infinitely better than me I basically just listened to a band I liked (Keane) because most of their songs are breakup songs. Then one day, I woke up, heard a song titled 'Watch How You Go', and it made me open my eyes that at least I wish her well in her life with her new boyfriend, and I don't care anymore, I moved on. I sent the song to her, and said thank you. I don't think she understands what I meant though.
My last heartbreak broke me from ever wanting to fall in love again. There really isn't true moving on for me. I'm on good terms with my ex and he's still a friend, so it's not because I didn't get closure. But because I don't ever want to go through that pain again. I'd rather be dead.
Last year I went not through my first, but my worst heartbreak so far. Now this video was recommended as I am falling for someone new again. I hope that I have learned from my past experiences and that this time it won't devastate me as much, but whatever comes, I will be enjoying my infatuation for as long as it lasts.
I want to fall in love. I'm tired of spending all my time being sad and alone, being desperate and lonely. Things are hard right now but yeah let's hope for the best. Everyone deserves the love that they give back don't they?
well I think its important to make a distinction between deserving love and deserving the love you give back everyone deserves to be loved, but you shouldn't love with the expectation to receive something in return
@@bellezavudd that's definitely true, but I think OP means they want that kind of companionship in which they WONT feel sad and alone. As in, specifically.
Worthy to mention, though, that falling in love is all that chemical activity right before the attachment level of a relationship, and that the attachment level, if successfully passed, is the indication of true love (not just falling in love). This has a lot to do with how the definition of love has been getting ambiguated, specially through the western culture.
i honestly agree. the infatuation stage is really just your brain in need of that dopamine(not saying that it is 100% of the time) However, once you get into that stage and you learn about their strengths, weaknesses, and what they truly are and STILL accepting them, you truly are in love.
I really agree with this. It's frustrating that culturally we aren't more specific about distinguishing falling in love VS true love/compassionate love. Especially for young kids who are just starting to experience these emotions, we aren't giving them a good framework to interpret how they are feeling. To them a swashbuckling romance is true love despite the fact it could be (and often is) toxic.
Is no one going to appreciate the fact ted-ed decided to use an LGBTQ+ example? Props to representation Edit: Y’all are fighting it out in the replies…thanks for the 800 likes ♥
Last two years was my first heartbreak of my first wlw relationship. And all the stages this video showed was literally what exactly I've been through as long as I'm healed. See this, I just open my mind that yeah, not only me feel this kind of way, and trust myself that I will find another one someday.
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
I feel like the main reason why people can only have relationships that last only a few months is that they crave that addictive feeling of being in love and when that feeling fades, they feel like they lost interest in their partner. This causes people to have problems maintaining long-term relationships because they need to feel "high off of love"
I was eleven. I knew the heartbreak phase would happen before anything even began. I didn't go through infatuation long. I saw her faults, and loved her for them. I always saved her favorite chair for her in the library even though it would put her farther away from me. I watched her from afar and quietly appreciated the moments when she went up and talked to me, or held my hand, or pressed her face to mine. And then, one day, I looked at her and realized that it felt like home. A place where I belonged. Where I fit. This is doomed, but I can still hope. I can still enjoy the feeling of being in love. Because if there's one mistake I won't make, it's being so desperate to get out of love, so afraid of heartbreak, that I don't let myself feel. I'm running headfirst into pain with no regrets.
Love is something that tored up my heart into pieces 2 years ago . But I gradually accepted it as a heart-wreching is inenvitable when you had a connection with a careless man.
i dont know which phase i m in but am still having the same strong feelings for him during our first weeks even now although its been 10 months together❤ it feels like the very first day
I love how beautifully this is put, social and visual media really makes love a confusing thing where ur not sure whether what u have is love or not, in the end i feel, its the intensity of the heartbreak that tells.
This is an amazing video that gives a rational explanation to irrational process of falling in or out of love that most people don't get. It's natural and it needs to happen, i love how your channel is able to explain many things in under 10 min. Nice job and keep being awsome
As a 16 year old who was deeply in love and then in heartbreak, the feeling was so agonizing. But learnin the actual biological reasons help me feel much better in understnding things in a logical sense instead of emotionally taking things forward.
Now, i can successfully call those things I love - You're my Dopamine. Also thanks Ted-Ed for voicing and bringing out the issue. Lots of people die because of rejection and unable to accept the situation. It may help them to reconsider it and giving life another chance, accepting life as it is.
Fantastic video. I watch when I was a bit drunk, just made my girl sad and felt really terrible, but I still can feel it. Thanks for making it. And if my girl can read this cmt, I just wanna say I just think for her, all the time. I love her so much.
You should tell her. Please don't build some hopes up that your girl will read this comment. Say it to her instead. She will appreciate that more than reading this comment on TH-cam.
@@AkaneTendo yah I did tell her. Fortunately, we just misunderstood each other a little bit. We're okay now. Thanks guys for caring about me - really don't think sbd will reply to my cmt
Thank you, this is just the video I needed. It's been 3 weeks since the most amazing love I've ever known came to an end because my partner wanted to break up. I don't think she doesn't love me anymore, I think adulthood is hard and past trauma is difficult to overcome. But understanding it doesn't make it painless. I think about her often, and passionately. I wish everyone in the same situation a lot of strength. I know you need it, friend.
I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS. Almost the same story in this video. He is a soccer player and yes I supported him on those times. We usually had chat before on a daily basis sending goodnight messages
They called "love at first sight" in literature :) I also think that eye contact for the first time is vastly effective to falling in love with somebody :)
I agree, eye contact can be so powerful. I saw a guy at work a few months ago and thought he was cute but didn’t think much else of him. It wasn’t until we made eye contact for the first time that I fell in love, and to this day every time we make eye contact I feel the same, but I’m too nervous to ask him out 😅
This is a rewarding video that not only providing us numerous useful aspects of science but also exploring the complexity of human emotions. Anyway, it's something cool
the short video is of great value to the LGBTQ+ community since I have thought that they will never get depicted in educational videos like this. This has been a great breakthough, an innovative moves that show the care and cosideration that the content team pay to this community.
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
@@SierNotsruht A thousand years is but an instant. There's nothing new, nothing different; same pattern over and over. The same clouds, same music, the same things I felt an hour or an eternity ago. There's nothing here for me now, nothing at all. Now I remember, this happened to me before. This is why I left. You have begun to find your answers. Although it will seem difficult the rewards will be great. Exercise your human mind as fully as possible knowing that it is only an exercise. Build beautiful artifacts, solve problems, explore the secrets of the physical universe, savor the input from all the senses, filled with joy and sorrow and laughter, empathy, compassion, and tote the emotional memory in your travel bag. I remember where I came from, and how I became human, why I hung around, and now my final departure's scheduled. This way out, escaping velocity. Not just eternity, but Infinity.
When I first entered stage one, I did what any 15 year old would do, search wt. was going on on my brain, and then abused the segregation of dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine on my brain, and then entered oxytocin stage without doing anything other than befriending for a couple months. The one thing I got from this video is that now I know why almost every relation of my classmate lasted 3-4 months, when the frontal cortex kicked in. Note: I haven't had a romantic relationship yet, just the feeling
TedEd made video with almost the same topic 8 years ago. „The science of attraction - Dawn Maslat“ and „What is love? - Brad Troeger“. It was so much better than this. Look at what society has regressed to:
Hello, TED-Ed I want to make a request, can you make a video about the maladaptive daydreaming disorder? I have been very fond of it and I want to learn more about it, about its symptoms, how it is caused, and much more, it would be great if you can do it. Thanks a lot if you see this!!!
Love isn't just a "chemical reaction", or whatever people try to place it as. *Love is both a feeling and a choice.* True love is doing things you don't feel like doing, regardless of what you want. You make the conscious decision every morning/day, when you see them, to love that person. "I am going to love them, whether I have the emotion/wanting to do it or not, because this person holds more importance to me than myself." Even if the other person never sees it that way. Bringing "that" up (out of anger; twisted) would only be trying to justify your side, which is reactive jealousy. It may feel like a loss afterwards, but that's only natural. The difference is, both hatred and sorrow are uniquely divergent. You recover from sorrow overtime, but you _"satisfy" yourself from hatred after you get what you believe is deserved._ If you become bitter/jealous over something which they have in that case, it will only get worse. *Love is not jealous.* Ask yourself this.. Can I still celebrate this person, even when they have the very thing I want for myself? You can desire what they have, but jealousy has two sides. It's the idea of "I want what you have", but then the deeper aspect of jealousy is oh, "I wish you didn't have what you have". That's when jealousy gets really deep seated, deep rooted, and very severe. Anyway, most people don't see it that way, and most people choose that it should be both ways. (If it isn't, they only were in it to also be loved back, which is "Conditional" Love.) However, Yes, it should be, but true love is not dependent on both sides cooperating to the same goal. "Unconditional" Love is when you truly love the person, despite/regardless of what they can give or offer. That love is beyond desire and passion, unselfish and thoughtful, and the morality of both trust and self-sacrifice. It's both hard and unfair when it isn't reciprocated back.. After that, it's a choice. After all, knowledge leads capacitation (capacity) for choice. Ask yourself this.. Can I look out for the best interest of this person, even when, they are *disregarding* mine? Can I put up with this person over a *long* period of time, even if they never ever change? Can I do random acts of kindness even when it's *not reciprocated* back to me? *Love does not demand it's own way.*
So getting over a breakup is just the brain's struggle in forgetting the old source of dopamine and finding new source of dopamine. Fascinating.
It's like jumping from coke to weeb
It's the brain's transition from loving someone else to loving yourself
Sounds good 😅
This comment gave me more insight than the video
Or Dr Pepper to mr PIBb
I hope having an understanding of how my brain functions can help me be more logical in future, and avoid toxic relationships.
pray to dream Bread Man.... pray to dream
Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t. We often make the same mistakes, and also, learning about something only makes us a fractionally more logical. But maybe in a very very small way, you’ll have that clarity.
@@syedbasiljaved6201 All true. But now, thanks to this video, you'll know the life you have, is the one you have chosen for yourself...
Well played agenda in animations lol love of two bulls and you just have to accept and admit the distorted morals 😂😂😂
I have a friend (who is the most logical person I know) in a toxic relationship. It's not that he doesn't know he's being illogical. He knows but it's still a struggle to let go.
I understand him because I've been in his shoes as well. It's one thing to know but at the end of the day humans are emotional beings and so Knowing and feeling are two different things.
Ted-Ed really made us emotionally invested in this man’s life. 😩😩😩 Netflix series when? 😳
I was over here hurt😢! Then happy and now feeling like how do we move on from here, geesh, I need chocolate now
Pixar-level emotional rollercoaster. He even looks like me lmao
@@patrickjarvis631 yes, I had to check it😂
@@patrickjarvis631 exactly, 😂
Why those emojis tho-
“But what is grief, if not love persevering?”
-Vision
Beautiful video Ted -ed! ❤️
Love that quote, thank you for sharing! 💓
Meaning ?
@@sanatanipandit1166 The loss of the lover doesn't mean the loss of love
I love how you guys are not only focusing on the scientific side of everything, but now also exploring the complexity of human emotions, nature, and how we navigate through life. It is important to gain knowledge about the physical world. At the same time, shining some light onto human behaviors, what make us who we are and our ways of thinking is, from my point of view, at equal significance. Really hope to see more videos like this. Keep up the good work guys. Regards.
I'm doing this because I'm confused why I feel this way I can't stop smiling and at random points I cry happy tears
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse. Also, you are more likely to be much more closer to someone who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
This was an award-winning animated short on its own. TedEd, you always raise your own bar.
No replies? But yes I definitely agree
What's the name of the short film?
that's g*y 🤮🤬
@yashatwal5922 all. In mm no no job n . Mm JJ in j
@@yashatwal5922yea now I’m curious too
Not a single ted-ed video is lesser than the other. They keep improving and teaching something new every time. ❤️
777 likes!! i don't wanna ruin it😩 but you’re definitely right!!❤
But if they kept improving, wouldn't the old one be lesser than the new one? 😜
as a 19 year old who just entered stage 1 for the first time, I just hatefully love this video for its honesty
PS: hoping that it lasts though
EDIT: Its been 3 months and while our love was on an exponential growth a few days ago the first tremors creeped into the relationship, something I was theoretically but not emotionally prepared for. I wonder what the future holds...
EDIT2: its been a year together and we had a sweet little anniversary celebration. I don't think I've ever matured as much as I've matured in this year ever before in my life.
Everytime, I feel I've reached the pinnacle of my love for her and boy does is just keep surging ahead faster. She's no longer a date, she's family
Good luck on your journey mate
I hope so too 💗
Just don't let the trust go between you both good luck for ur journey 🫶🏻
I wish you luck!
It won’t last. Reply when it ends.
Did I seriously have to find this video after going through infatuation, compassionate love, and heartbreak? This would have been really helpful back in February when we first confessed feelings for each other.
But even though the heartbreak hurt so much, I would do it all over again.
i would too
Likewise. Always good to keep ur chin up and view every love as a learning experience (which seems like what you've done) and have fun along the way. It's heartbreaking 4 sure but as my mom always said "sometimes nothing heals but time always will."
How would you have avoided it? Just asking
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
Oh my god, the feeling of falling in love is wow - it’s one of the best feelings. Never give up.
It is the best feeling in the world..love is everything
What does love feel like? Im curious
I feel really terrible after my first heartbreak during adolescence, but I find it rewarding to learn all the faults I made...
Still hurtful to think back about the memories, but they're all in the past. I should let them forever be the past...
Well said my friend
Learn from your faults and theirs we are humans don’t become a monster
You are vietnamese, right :>>?
It hurts, still does
Especially when you have to ask "am i just that, that much in the end?"
Why don't you, then?
Love is like a rose; It's both happy and painful at the same time.
There's a Turkish saying: The one who loves a rose must also endure its thorns.
@@Rowosehip wow!
Yup. There's a reason it represents romance
every rose has a thorn
@@Rowosehip cool, but did i ask?
jk im not toxic or bad or anything
Absolutely adore the changes in animation style through the video and color palette, along with the story used to educate ^ ^
Very informational and beautifully made
What I want to know is how does this animation look 2-D and 3-D at the same time?! Doesn't that defy physics?! Are these animators gods?!
@@catdogmousecheese I'm pretty sure that during the "planner moments", the people are 3D which some 2D effects over top, and the setting around them is 2D.
Imagine being a research participant for this and the doc just says "Alright, so now we're going to look at some pictures of your ex."
😂 this comment has me rolling
Being a 20 year old and feeling the emotional pain of heartbreak is agonizing. It's the hardest truth of life "you may love a person but the other person doesn't share the same emotion" accept it and find the one who loves you and accept you the way you are .
Love with family is true... Love with opposite gender is false... It's only lust... Only this you must know, and you are set free!
This is true i feel you i've been there
@@happyandhappyonly yeah bro great idea lol
@@shubhmishra66 wtf
@@shubhmishra66love for family isn’t true either it’s obligation to them because they are consider blood. There is no true love imo.
stages of falling in love:
1. infatuation/passionate love (excessively daydreaming about someone and wanting to spend more time with them - and last for a few months)
2. attachment/ compassionate love (start to observe and know the downfalls of our partner and cope with them or against them)
I had a whirlwind relationship with a girl. It was as passionate as humanly possible. We shunned the rest of the world as we loved and quarreled. Family included.
We broke up after 2 years. it was excruciating to be without her, but a blanket of toxic selfishness coated our once loving relationship.
5 years later. I met her on a chance encounter and it was an absolute whirlwind like before.Because of the sins of the past, It was more challenging this time around, but we managed to pull through.
Our time apart made me realize that I have always loved her. Even when we were apart, i still loved her. Selfishness just got in the way.
I just Hope that everyone gets the same chance as we did.
How long have you been together now?
Thats good for you, man
What a chance
Damn good for you man
Bro when update??
Almost shed a tear for when the guy was longing for his man after the breakup 😢♥️
WHY IS THIS SO CUTE? this love story NEEDS to become a book series or something
heartstopper exists :)
@@cherryblossom1339 omg i just realized all the parallels this has to heartstopper
@@adannayoutube4243omg ikrr
"CUTE"???
Frfr
There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice
~ F.Scott Fitzgerald
I understand the video wanted to explain the brain activity of a heartbroken person but their break up made me so sad 😭😭😭
Noone cares noone loved u
@@almaraimilk7805 aww, we still love you, sweetie! even if you rather be mad and hateful.
EXACTLY i was rooting for them : (((
This is not enough I need a whole series with these two OCs!!
When I watched this video, I saw hope and the brighter future for anybody who belongs to my community
For someone who's never fallen in love, I totally love this video ❤
I realized a month ago that the reason why I couldn't establish any romantic relationship since I broke up with my first and last relationship in 2015 was because I have already fallen for a good friend back in 2014. However, due to a lot of personal reasons, I could not confess my feelings. Fast forward to 2023, after an unexpected incident, I finally realized and accepted that the reason I could not seem to find the one for me is because I have already found her, but the realization came too late. She has been in a healthy relationship for almost 4 years.
I'm experiencing all 3 stages, but mainly the 1st and 3rd, at the same time. It's heartbreaking to live through regret.
The animation and story board were so cool! I loved his journal entries tho it made me sad when they broke up :'(
Why was I actually invested in their story
I can’t thank you guys enough for this beautiful animation. It’s helping me figure myself out and how I love the people around me by explaining things in a rational way. It’s a thousand times better than someone saying, “oh, you’ll know when you’re in love”, because I don’t know if it’s that or not.
Dude! While everyone is on about the content of the video, I'm like, THE FRIGGING ANIMATION!!!!!!! Another level man!
i love this animation so much. And i love that at the end of rollercoaster ride, which represents his experience and journey of love, his partner wasn’t there anymore on the ride, instead of looking very depressed, he looks back and smile. As if he has learned and move on. Knowing he’ll be okay
In the infactuation stage now.. I always HATE the fact that this ends. It just feels soooo good!!!!
Romantic love is two persons who are willing to be together and love each other no matter what kind of hardship is ahead.❤
I remember when my girlfriend and I first broke up, it was especially painful because it wasn't out of an argument but rather because she was afraid her parents would disapprove of it. At least now I'm glad it happened, like developing immunity to an illness.
Mine was also not out of an argument , We broke up happily , but afterwards it had hurt me so much
What happens with the brain chemistry when the relationship lasts? What are the later stages? How do big life changes - moving in together, getting a pet, having a child, growing old together - affect your brain and your perception of the relationship? How is the grief different when a partner dies of old age, or in childbirth, or if there's cheating after years of commitment? What causes the "7-Year Itch"? I have so many more questions!
I am so thankful to you for the usage of that beautiful homoromantic animated clip. It reminds me I’m valid, everything mentioned applies to me just as well, and it’ll be fine eventually.
Omg, I love the way you build up this video's characters. The animation is so cute!
I improve my English everyday because Ted-ed makes beautiful and animation videos and it doesn't see bore. It helps me to increase best vocabulary.
Listen to metal
I dated a girl and obviously didn't go well. Soon after, she found a new boy, my friend, who was infinitely better than me
I basically just listened to a band I liked (Keane) because most of their songs are breakup songs. Then one day, I woke up, heard a song titled 'Watch How You Go', and it made me open my eyes that at least I wish her well in her life with her new boyfriend, and I don't care anymore, I moved on.
I sent the song to her, and said thank you. I don't think she understands what I meant though.
thank you for this, going thru a breakup ain’t easy at all 🥺😭
My last heartbreak broke me from ever wanting to fall in love again. There really isn't true moving on for me. I'm on good terms with my ex and he's still a friend, so it's not because I didn't get closure. But because I don't ever want to go through that pain again. I'd rather be dead.
what is your opinion now?
@@alokkumar5123 Same thing. My ex and I don't speak anymore, but yeah, I still am good on all that
Last year I went not through my first, but my worst heartbreak so far. Now this video was recommended as I am falling for someone new again. I hope that I have learned from my past experiences and that this time it won't devastate me as much, but whatever comes, I will be enjoying my infatuation for as long as it lasts.
I want to fall in love. I'm tired of spending all my time being sad and alone, being desperate and lonely. Things are hard right now but yeah let's hope for the best. Everyone deserves the love that they give back don't they?
well I think its important to make a distinction between deserving love and deserving the love you give back
everyone deserves to be loved, but you shouldn't love with the expectation to receive something in return
@@timeme5460 Absolutely.
Falling in love is no guarantee that a person wont be sad and alone.
@@bellezavudd that's definitely true, but I think OP means they want that kind of companionship in which they WONT feel sad and alone. As in, specifically.
Jesus ❤
Worthy to mention, though, that falling in love is all that chemical activity right before the attachment level of a relationship, and that the attachment level, if successfully passed, is the indication of true love (not just falling in love). This has a lot to do with how the definition of love has been getting ambiguated, specially through the western culture.
i honestly agree. the infatuation stage is really just your brain in need of that dopamine(not saying that it is 100% of the time) However, once you get into that stage and you learn about their strengths, weaknesses, and what they truly are and STILL accepting them, you truly are in love.
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@@auun2101 anonymous :)
I really agree with this. It's frustrating that culturally we aren't more specific about distinguishing falling in love VS true love/compassionate love. Especially for young kids who are just starting to experience these emotions, we aren't giving them a good framework to interpret how they are feeling. To them a swashbuckling romance is true love despite the fact it could be (and often is) toxic.
Is no one going to appreciate the fact ted-ed decided to use an LGBTQ+ example? Props to representation
Edit: Y’all are fighting it out in the replies…thanks for the 800 likes ♥
Noticed that. That's a beautiful way of explainin ❤
APPRECIATE? Y'ALL NEED HELP LOL
I hv shared it with u all of my community frnds
@@kh41245 Cry us a river 🤣 mad cause we’re on top
No one should care ot appreciate it. If people do care about that stuff, the hate and missunderstanding will continue
Last two years was my first heartbreak of my first wlw relationship. And all the stages this video showed was literally what exactly I've been through as long as I'm healed. See this, I just open my mind that yeah, not only me feel this kind of way, and trust myself that I will find another one someday.
This animation style FUCKS. Like for real, I fell in love. Simply incredible
I already confessed like two days ago to my lover and I am so happy she felt the same way. Since then, I’ve felt like a completely changed human being and my brain seems to have like altered in a way. I’m so glad that I found this video, so I know what is really going on with me.
I feel like the main reason why people can only have relationships that last only a few months is that they crave that addictive feeling of being in love and when that feeling fades, they feel like they lost interest in their partner. This causes people to have problems maintaining long-term relationships because they need to feel "high off of love"
I was eleven. I knew the heartbreak phase would happen before anything even began.
I didn't go through infatuation long. I saw her faults, and loved her for them.
I always saved her favorite chair for her in the library even though it would put her farther away from me. I watched her from afar and quietly appreciated the moments when she went up and talked to me, or held my hand, or pressed her face to mine.
And then, one day, I looked at her and realized that it felt like home. A place where I belonged. Where I fit.
This is doomed, but I can still hope. I can still enjoy the feeling of being in love. Because if there's one mistake I won't make, it's being so desperate to get out of love, so afraid of heartbreak, that I don't let myself feel.
I'm running headfirst into pain with no regrets.
Love is something that tored up my heart into pieces 2 years ago
. But I gradually accepted it as a heart-wreching is inenvitable when you had a connection with a careless man.
I watched this video when everything just started and now I'm watching it again with tears in my eyes
I really love how Ted Ed used a timeline in the video. Makes it more investing.
i dont know which phase i m in but am still having the same strong feelings for him during our first weeks even now although its been 10 months together❤ it feels like the very first day
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I love how beautifully this is put, social and visual media really makes love a confusing thing where ur not sure whether what u have is love or not, in the end i feel, its the intensity of the heartbreak that tells.
okay ted-ed definitely left us hanging, crying for ep 2
the animation is so awesome!! they killed it fr
i also love how the colors in the guy’s bedroom is rainbow :)
This is an amazing video that gives a rational explanation to irrational process of falling in or out of love that most people don't get. It's natural and it needs to happen, i love how your channel is able to explain many things in under 10 min. Nice job and keep being awsome
i really felt that after love heartbreaks and healing, i got matured and grow more.
Pretty sure they are deleting comments
Why
Lucky are those who experienced love ❤️
Love will be unexpectedly waiting for you during Your Path of life
Love, unlike matter or energy, is of an infinite supply in the universe.
IM CRYING THIS IS SO CUTE
The animation was absolutely calming.
Loved everything about the video
As a 16 year old who was deeply in love and then in heartbreak, the feeling was so agonizing. But learnin the actual biological reasons help me feel much better in understnding things in a logical sense instead of emotionally taking things forward.
i love how teded just illustrates fallin in love by bringing 2 men. thats so sweet
Now, i can successfully call those things I love - You're my Dopamine. Also thanks Ted-Ed for voicing and bringing out the issue. Lots of people die because of rejection and unable to accept the situation. It may help them to reconsider it and giving life another chance, accepting life as it is.
I have so many questions about life, so TED-Ed is here for all of us, Thank you TED-Ed!
Fantastic video. I watch when I was a bit drunk, just made my girl sad and felt really terrible, but I still can feel it. Thanks for making it.
And if my girl can read this cmt, I just wanna say I just think for her, all the time. I love her so much.
Don't tell us - tell her!
You should tell her. Please don't build some hopes up that your girl will read this comment. Say it to her instead. She will appreciate that more than reading this comment on TH-cam.
@@AkaneTendo yah I did tell her. Fortunately, we just misunderstood each other a little bit. We're okay now. Thanks guys for caring about me - really don't think sbd will reply to my cmt
Thank you for confirming a life long theory I hav head since childhood. Love is nothing more than a cruel physiological prank your body plays on you.
If you look at it objectively. If you don't it can be a beautiful thing to harness.
The journey from first spark to last tear… damn that was deep!
I was really down these couple of days and this video made me cheer up. That quote by Maya Angelou at the start is gold 💕
I ❤️how every ted-ed video is soo different in terms of animation style and colour pallets ..it's like channel is collection of animation types..
The research is beautifully animated and expertly summarized. Also, Good Luck to anyone looking for love nearing the end of 2022 and into 2023.
This video was an absolute work of art! Ted Ed you have done it again
Thank you, this is just the video I needed. It's been 3 weeks since the most amazing love I've ever known came to an end because my partner wanted to break up. I don't think she doesn't love me anymore, I think adulthood is hard and past trauma is difficult to overcome. But understanding it doesn't make it painless. I think about her often, and passionately.
I wish everyone in the same situation a lot of strength. I know you need it, friend.
Can we also appreciate how good the animation is !!!
I CAN RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS. Almost the same story in this video. He is a soccer player and yes I supported him on those times. We usually had chat before on a daily basis sending goodnight messages
ted ed is stalking you
@@RickrollFoot 😂
"Given time and the support, most can heal and learn from even the most devastating heartbreak." 👏
this will never not break my heart every time i watch it
I love the way ted just make this video animation to be a love between to man. That makes it more special to me
Nope it makes it worse
You suck@@Doit357
They called "love at first sight" in literature :)
I also think that eye contact for the first time is vastly effective to falling in love with somebody :)
I agree, eye contact can be so powerful.
I saw a guy at work a few months ago and thought he was cute but didn’t think much else of him. It wasn’t until we made eye contact for the first time that I fell in love, and to this day every time we make eye contact I feel the same, but I’m too nervous to ask him out 😅
This is a rewarding video that not only providing us numerous useful aspects of science but also exploring the complexity of human emotions. Anyway, it's something cool
To feel love and the feeling of being loved promotes healing! It's perfectly healthy!
WOW!!!! its so mesmerizing how it portrayed and explained...great work. TED Ed
the short video is of great value to the LGBTQ+ community since I have thought that they will never get depicted in educational videos like this. This has been a great breakthough, an innovative moves that show the care and cosideration that the content team pay to this community.
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
All of those things are untrue buddy
@@SierNotsruht
A thousand years is but an instant. There's nothing new, nothing different; same pattern over and over. The same clouds, same music, the same things I felt an hour or an eternity ago. There's nothing here for me now, nothing at all. Now I remember, this happened to me before. This is why I left. You have begun to find your answers. Although it will seem difficult the rewards will be great. Exercise your human mind as fully as possible knowing that it is only an exercise. Build beautiful artifacts, solve problems, explore the secrets of the physical universe, savor the input from all the senses, filled with joy and sorrow and laughter, empathy, compassion, and tote the emotional memory in your travel bag. I remember where I came from, and how I became human, why I hung around, and now my final departure's scheduled. This way out, escaping velocity. Not just eternity, but Infinity.
This video also shows me how addictive we are to phones. Just even a message ping can cause us to stop everything else to check that message.
When I first entered stage one, I did what any 15 year old would do, search wt. was going on on my brain, and then abused the segregation of dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine on my brain, and then entered oxytocin stage without doing anything other than befriending for a couple months. The one thing I got from this video is that now I know why almost every relation of my classmate lasted 3-4 months, when the frontal cortex kicked in.
Note: I haven't had a romantic relationship yet, just the feeling
this is so beautiful, thank you TED!
A story telling masterpiece.
Nooo I was so invested I forgot it's a Ted Ed video 😭
I thought their relationship will keep getting wholesome..I feel sad
TedEd made video with almost the same topic 8 years ago. „The science of attraction - Dawn Maslat“ and „What is love? - Brad Troeger“. It was so much better than this. Look at what society has regressed to:
the guy ending the rollercoaster on his own 🥲
omgg, this animation warms my heart🥰🥰
Do one about those of us who don't feel infatuation as acutely as others!
Yes, ace spectrum representation is much needed as we're basically invisible nowadays
Hello, TED-Ed I want to make a request, can you make a video about the maladaptive daydreaming disorder? I have been very fond of it and I want to learn more about it, about its symptoms, how it is caused, and much more, it would be great if you can do it. Thanks a lot if you see this!!!
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The animations are mind blowing, so smooth
I needed this! Thank you Ted and TH-cam algorithm
Love isn't just a "chemical reaction", or whatever people try to place it as. *Love is both a feeling and a choice.* True love is doing things you don't feel like doing, regardless of what you want. You make the conscious decision every morning/day, when you see them, to love that person. "I am going to love them, whether I have the emotion/wanting to do it or not, because this person holds more importance to me than myself." Even if the other person never sees it that way. Bringing "that" up (out of anger; twisted) would only be trying to justify your side, which is reactive jealousy. It may feel like a loss afterwards, but that's only natural. The difference is, both hatred and sorrow are uniquely divergent. You recover from sorrow overtime, but you _"satisfy" yourself from hatred after you get what you believe is deserved._ If you become bitter/jealous over something which they have in that case, it will only get worse. *Love is not jealous.* Ask yourself this.. Can I still celebrate this person, even when they have the very thing I want for myself? You can desire what they have, but jealousy has two sides. It's the idea of "I want what you have", but then the deeper aspect of jealousy is oh, "I wish you didn't have what you have". That's when jealousy gets really deep seated, deep rooted, and very severe. Anyway, most people don't see it that way, and most people choose that it should be both ways. (If it isn't, they only were in it to also be loved back, which is "Conditional" Love.) However, Yes, it should be, but true love is not dependent on both sides cooperating to the same goal. "Unconditional" Love is when you truly love the person, despite/regardless of what they can give or offer. That love is beyond desire and passion, unselfish and thoughtful, and the morality of both trust and self-sacrifice. It's both hard and unfair when it isn't reciprocated back..
After that, it's a choice. After all, knowledge leads capacitation (capacity) for choice. Ask yourself this..
Can I look out for the best interest of this person, even when, they are *disregarding* mine?
Can I put up with this person over a *long* period of time, even if they never ever change?
Can I do random acts of kindness even when it's *not reciprocated* back to me?
*Love does not demand it's own way.*
I love your thoughts and words on this, well done!
I've never seen a drawn animation in this style look so tridimensional, I can't understand what gives it this depth effect
I think it might be a style where they record actual footage and trace over it
@@duckydoombringer9206 so a rotoscope?