When I was younger, I’d always relied on the “idea” of a boyfriend/partner/friendship to save me. And that’s what drove me all my life. Until I realised this year when Id worked towards my goals and exams this year - that I could change and live outside that box I created in my head and start living for myself since no one will catch me. And it gave me so much hope for the future from the past trauma I’d gone through with people
“So if you need a hero Just look in the mirror No one's gonna save you now So you better save yourself And everybody's hurting Everybody's going through it But you just can't give up now 'Cause you gotta save yourself” - Kali Uchis
It’s hard to learn that you can be a good and bad person base on your choices rather than your feelings. I sometimes get stuck between the victim mentality or hating myself because I don’t as the bad guy. I’m learning that I’m not good or bad, I’m just make good or bad choices.
God can save you. He literally gave Gis Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we could be saved from everything that imprisons us, especially death. John 3:16
Humans are diverse and confusing. It’s not black and white. learning we’re in that grey area can really held us learn how to have better relationships and a better life overall
If you ever feel lonely, just remember that God gave his Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins, so that those same sins would not keep us from being close to him. He died and rose again, all this because he didn't want to be away from you.
@@thisismahba9935if you feel alone, remember that God gave his son Jesus Christ to die for our sins, so that those same sins would not keep us from being close to him. He died and rose again, all because he didn't want to be away from you.
@@luizadeabreu7174 Thanks, but I do not believe in your God. I think it would be nice if you would not put the expectation that everyone believes in the same god that you do :)
I saved myself two weeks ago. I'm the eldest daughter from a toxic family and from a small town. Six years ago I met my two best, closest friends through the Internet and it helped me to see that there is actually a whole world outside of my hometown. I never wanted to live there, and thanks to them, I could see more of my country. Their friendship was the most valued thing I ever had. But then... two years ago, one of my friends started to drift apart from our trio. And just like that, a year after trying to fix our relationship... we stopped talking at all. Thank God I had my other friend and after that, we just got closer and started thinking about moving out of our family houses and living together. Moving out was one of the hardest things in my life. It took me half a year and I counted every day. I did everything to get out. I cried bc of what my father told me but then I clenched my teeth and told myself "Just 151 days, just one more month, just one more week..." And now, I'm on the other side of my country, living in a small, quiet flat with my best friend (and her cat). No more home drama, no more chores that are more than I can bare, just us and this new chapter in our life. Sure, having a best friend in those hard times in my life was so helpful bc I could always tell her everything, every time that I cried bc of my home, every time I got angry and depressed. I tend to overthink a lot so having her was like a safe space outside of my mind but still connected to it. Of course, she still doesn't know all the details, how really hard it was. But it was enough. It's easier to live with someone you know and trust. But I did it mostly for me. I saved myself If I didn't make the decision, and really move out, I'd still be there, not living my life but serving my family and dealing with their problems. Now I can fully breathe, do what I still love to do, and think about the future less scared. Please, save yourself if you can. Don't wait for your future lover or your best friend. They can help you from afar, but the decision has to be yours. To save you. Take care.
God can save you. He literally gave Gis Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we could be saved from everything that imprisons us, especially death. John 3:16
I love your story you shared with us so much and I’m glad you’re out of that toxic environment now But this is bothering me Bare= used as in “bare feet” Bear= holding something like “bear arms” like a burden You used bare when bear was better Sorry that was just bothering me
If you wait for God, you're screwed from the start There is nothing more foolish than waiting for a god who has not appeared for centuries to help humanity. @@luizadeabreu7174
"Just because you made a few mistakes, you're not a bad person if you're willing to change for the better." I needed to hear that. We're often so harsh with ourselves and can be our own worst enemy. It's important to remember you got yourself for life, so might as well become best friends with yourself
as a wise person once said, ‘“you’re on your own, kid. you always have been “ the wise person being taylor swift but genuinely i feel like that song really encapsulates the message of this video like!! you can cry and cry but ultimately you have to take the first step. it also reminds me of something my mom always tells me. she says, “i can help you reach a 7/10 for anything you want to do/ achieve. but i can never get you to a 10/10, no one can. only you yourself have the capability to get there. whether you get there is a choice YOU have to make.” powerful message via!! thank u for this video
I have stuttered my whole life and I am so insecure about it that I actually never really lived like I wanted to. I've always hoped for a miracle or for someone to save me from my disability and this video really made me realize that I need to accept myself and start to live the life that I want because nothing will change if I don't do anything. I deserve a beautiful life and I need to create it myself ❤ thank you Via
Damn... You made me cry while doing my morning walk. All the realizations came to me all at once. I'm 29, and I'm severely depressed, unemployed, broke and unloved. Thanks for this.
I've been on a self-healing journey since I was 18. Currently, I am ongoing 23 and I'm at a point where I majorly regressed and now I just sit around waiting for life to happen. To be saved. The way you talking about it made me open my eyes to how I have been currently viewing my life. I rely too much on others and hope that things will just fix themselves. I don't want to have to be the one to fix my hurt. And, I want to want to get better. Which isn't quite the same as wanting to get better. I want to want to do the things I need to get to a better place. But I just don't currently. My victim mentality and social isolation have made me very comfortable in my misery and loneliness. I can't get hurt if I don't go out, nothing can be worse than me wasting away "helplessly" and comfortably uncomfortable. I know I will never get the justice I deserve; or the apologies I seek move past from what triggered my regression. That everything I ruminate and cry over will never take me back to the time I was getting better before I crumbled. But I know I have the strength to overcome the pain just like I did at 18. I just need to start being responsible and more accountable for my actions and choices that have left me feeling stuck. And healing isn't linear....sometimes I tend to forget that.
After reading your comment, I realised that I was in the same situation to you as before. Though there are still times when I’m very aware that I haven’t fully healed and “fixed” myself, I decided to take full responsibility of loving myself and creating a version of me whom I really want to be. There was a horrible situation where I experienced relapse and it made me disappointed in myself and thought that I was doing better… I felt mad at myself because another situation came up wherein I realized I didn’t fully heal from all the trauma and bad experiences that I had gone through during high school and that made me so upset with myself cause I realized that I was still the same coward as I am before. I really wanted to try and stop myself from doing the same habits I did before and not being able to stand up for myself. In the end, I just sucked everything up and did everything that I could (at that time) but it made me so angry that I didn’t do better and that I couldn’t be the person whom I thought I already was. After that situation, I just waited for things to go disappear and left everything in the past and tried my best not to remember that experience. Ff to now, I’m currently trying to change my mindset and perception of how I would view myself to be able to stand up for myself and have the confidence of being the person that I am today, regardless of my traumas and regardless of how awful my past experiences were. I’ve decided not to care so much of what people think of me and that, what their perception of me won’t dictate my confidence and how I would live my life. I decided to live life for myself and do the things that I want to do without being able to give a fuck about them and also, I accepted the fact that not everyone will like me and that everyone doesn’t need to like me, and what matters much more is if I like them. Also I’m trying to be find new skills and hobbies in order to be more confident of myself. In conclusion, I learned that its okay to not be okay and accept the fact that healing isn’t linear. There are times when we will relapse or regress, but we should also keep in mind that someday, at the right time, you will be able to fully heal yourself and recover the person that you are meant to be. Its okay to wait for things to happen, but you should give yourself a time when you will stop waiting and actually try doing something through your actions. Not everything will be the same and not everything will be temporary. Being consistent with yourself and having a strong mindset of your perception of yourself may help you recover. Change your mindset, REWRITE YOUR STORY. You are the only person who will have a full control of your life so it is your responsibility whether or not you choose to heal. Take responsibility and take your time to heal, just keep on practicing and eventually it will be consistent. I hope this may change your views somehow and maybe open something… I’m rooting for you and for myself too! We both got this! 🤍✨
Im not an adult but as a teen I really needed this. I'm currently starting my journey of healing and shadow work because I also realized like... I have problems and I NEED to fix this now and learn about it so when I get older it doesn't become worse. I started journaling and being kinder to myself and I can already see the difference. I know I am making progress of healing. However, I still have a crap ton of procrastination.. And Im very aware and its something I know I just need to discipline myself to be happier. Its not easy, I can still act stupid or get angry at myself for immediately not veing good at something whicj is where alot of my procrastination stems from.. But I'm aware of these things now which will make it at least a bit easier to understand "Why dont I want to do this despite it being something I want to do?" Its definitely not gonna be easier but im so excited to stary thjs journey and hopefully be able to look back one day and be proud of how far I've come
Heyy, thank you for commenting your story. Im going through a similar situation right now. Its a combination of procrastination and perfectionism. Makes me stress until I do everything last minute. Doomed to never seek out my potential. Unless I do smth about the situation of course. You motivated me
"you need to start no matter how shitty it is" and the following sentences made me quite emotional. I barely comment on videos but i just wanted to share how comforting that was to me. We rarely are perfect at something in the beginning, right? Well ive just realised: that also goes for my healing journey. I know its silly, it should've been obvious but it was not! Now i feel enough courage to continue and feel less alone. One more thing is that starting (anything) was always a big struggle for me even if i had the motivation. Thanks to your vid i now feel enough to continue. Truly, thank you.
It's important to understand that "You can be wrong too". Maybe you're blaming on others everytime, but sometimes you also hold responsibility on that. I strongly believe in that to a point it becomes so negative to myself. Now I'm more like "I'm the wrong one, you're right, this is my fault" type. But that's bad too. Accepting your own faults when you made them is important, but blaming yourself always even for others' mistakes won't to any good for you. I should fix myself on that.
😓😓 when you said i didnt asked to be truamatised , i started tearing up and i started to look back at my younger self she was disrespected and abused and her emotions were invalidated , as an adult i'm trying to fix myself and heal.. thank you via this video was needed today.
this showed up in my feeds at just the right time. i realized i was getting too comfortable being stuck in my depressive state. for me today, it was as simple as "i don't have to be stuck in this energy" to set myself free
This is like in Harry Potter when he thought his father was the one saving him and Sirius and not, at the end was himself with his strength. This video is exactly what I needed you're the most relatable person out there for me. ❤
“because at the end of the day all we’ve got is ourselves” i actually realized this too late because all this time i was thinking that someone will heal me. it turns out this someone is the reason why i keep hurting myself. and yes i left my old environment, the old people who kept hurting me. now i may not have the closest relationship with people but at least im happy with myself and starting to change myself after turning 18. i hope that everyone finds their way to heal
In high school I ended up making a lot of terrible decisions, that I definitely regret now cause it's affecting my chances of getting into university. and my dad would usually help me get out of trouble or fix it for me. but this year it really sunk in that others can't fix my issues and I need to do things myself and step up and fix my own mistakes yk. In general just do better for myself because i need to show myself love and care. Thank you sm for the video Via🥺❤
it's really concerning how the social media has created this idea of "perfection" and "ideal lifestyle/ routine". However, it is really comforting to know that not everything portrayed in the social media is perfect. You taking the first step and showing that feeling your emotions, being sad, not having anyone around you is perfect and valid as well. Thanks for making this journal entry. Looking forward to more of your journal entries 💞💞
via, if you made a podcast on your journal entries i would listen to them for hours. they are so motivating, inspiring, and really what you need to get going through your day. they are honestly the realest things on this app
Can I just say...I'm really glad I found your channel. I have never felt more heard than watching your videos, your experience. I'm 22 too and I've come face to face with a lot of hard truths, and needing to fix yourself as an adult is definitely one of them. I've been spending the last year and a half really trying. And it is hard. It's like I'm trying to fix past me but simultaneously fix current me and the problems that happen as time goes on. The past year I've realized something that kind of encompasses my own thoughts with this. The sun. The sun rises and the sun sets. It doesn't matter what happens the day before and when the day ends. No one and no thing suddenly goes out of its way to help you. You need to grab your own hand and pull yourself out of whatever situation you're in. And on this journey i've definitely taken two steps back. But as long as you keep making progress...there will be a day where we can come out of this. We all can. For everyone that is going on this journey, keep the faith. No matter how hard it gets. Get better for yourself. For your true self. For your happiness. For your past self. For your current and futute self. Live, and live in the moment. We all deserve to Live and have a Life of worth. ❤️❤️
"I was just so comfortable with my sadness because I wasn't going to get any better, I might as well get comfortable with it" hits hard and I think I'd like it more than to try and change things
Listen I'm only 2 minutes into this video and I just need to thank you so much. I never realized that I'd been becoming attached to my friends and placing my identity in my friendships until you put it into words. You've helped me realize where I need to grow and I am forever grateful for that. ❤
I think this is the biggest problem I have. Depression is taking a toll on me and even with my boyfriend there to support me, if I don't take those steps myself I won't feel better. I'm still at a point where I cannot sign up to psychiatrist. I'm making small steps towards it tho - looking out for a good one, collecting my issues I want to consult, making sure which ones can be resolved by myself, by meds or by therapy. Your channel really does help me collect certain pieces in my puzzled mind - thanks to you I'm stopping my "hunt" for a friend. They will come once I'm and they are ready. Thank you Via for supporting my journey! I know I can do this! Little steps... 🌷
Towards the part where you were talking about how you've sat in bed and not felt like doing anything, I was reminded of something that my therapist had said to me before. She said, "Your 100% is not going to be the same every day." It's a bit insane because all it took were those few words for me to realize that she was correct. It was something that had made life a bit easier for me, but of course, I have to keep in mind that life won't always be easy. Lastly, I just want to thank you so much for sharing these more sensitive topics with us. To whoever reads this, I hope that you can keep in mind what my therapist had said and wish for everyone to have a wonderful rest of your day or night ❤
'Waiting for someone to save you' I relate to that so much I'm in the same place as you right now. I feel heard and validated thank you so much oh my god
I'm from Germany. I can relate to so many aspects. I've had a really hard time the last couple of years. While being in this phase I realized that I needed change. I realized that I couldn't live like that anymore. Not only did I try to distract myself with TH-cam or movies or books or literally anything. I also started to hint to friends and family how miserable I was. I didn't know how to fix myself and my issues. That's why I wished for others to save me. It was not until some months ago that I realized that I was actually almost losing some friends because of the amount of times I talked about myself in hopes they would save me. Right now I try to change and fix some things. I'm actually recieving help from a school therapist but I also know that I have to do it myself. I already made progress but I still have a long way to go. While it's really hard to pull myself together such videos help me gain strength and help me get hope. THANK YOU
I was also really anxious and dependent on others with whom i share bonds with i used to imagine all the futuristic activities and idea of being with em until they started leaving like my bestfriend left then so did my boyfriend this year and then i thought now I won just go for help i mean it's not bad to seek help from friends and all but the friends are just not the good ones and next year I've to get a good college and really have to work for it, ik it's not as easy as being said it takes a lot but i really wanna get happy with being me and being with myself, i really wanna enjoy who I'm and want to feel that happiness within and not by someone who's there for a while . And I really love you video like it makes me feel so much better whatever you say explain and had is something i can relate and it's just so appreciating , thankyou for making such a amazing content for everyone like us who has been going through these phases and these are really helping me to heal from my traumas breakup and I started looking forward for being me and to love and enjoy my own company 🌷
I had an ex girlfriend tell me that she wanted to “fix me.” Automatically my brain took me down what ever rabbit hole and I started overthinking - wondering to myself “am I broken?” And that fucked with me for a while. Now I try to look at from every angle, spectrum and perspective and it’s weird to say that, yes; I am broken. And since life is a roller coaster I will continue to break - after I break, I will mend myself. Fix myself. I don’t know how long I will have to keep fixing myself but I find solace in knowing I don’t need anyone to help me do so. Thank you for the words of wisdom. - Tony
the comfort in sadness and just letting yourself sit in it is UGH that is such a big thing for a lot of people. I also really struggled with that, still do. Sometimes i just don't have the energy to care or to try. Like you said its really not easy. There's nothing easy about forcing yourself out of your comfort zone and doing self improving tasks. Its comforting though, knowing other people are experiencing the same things. This video really comforted me.
This feels like someone just made me come to realty because sometime i think i fell so fustrated because i don't have any friend or anyone else to talk to to exprees my feelings but now i understand that everything that happens is because of what i do or how i think of other things thanks a lot via from such a long time i blamed my own faults on others thanks for making us to come to reality
Me at 23 no job no friends, got bullied and hurt throughout my life, no one truly cared for me. Now, I'm just on my own, I practice self care, I love spending time with my dog, person are a saviour. Only we can love ourselves fully. I feel like living for what makes me happy really helps.
I started going to therapy at the beginning of this year thinking I didn't love myself enough but after many months I realized that deciding to ask for help and going to therapy is the biggest act of love I could for my self and I loved myself so much to the point that I asked for help. I used to compare myself to others because I didn't take action and define myself lazy when in reality there were rooted issues I needed to face and fix. I really enjoyed the way you spoke about being our own super hero and fix ourselves and also it was not boring because you used your humor. Thank you so much for your words and wishing the best for your healing journey. And thank you for being open and taking us with your thought your journey
thank you so much for this series, its the wake up call but at the same time it doesnt feel aggressive but very comfortable and cozy? like yeah, you are saying some harsh truths but you say it in a way thats so comforting to me
Since young I used to relied so much, like I couldn't ask the teacher any questions, I'd tell my friend to ask, I didn't really had any confidence, but since last two years I've been working on myself,not to be nervous, calming myself, it's still hard, I'm trying :) 🌷Thanks Via for talking about such relating topics.
I love these videos because it’s like a friendly reminder that I’m in control of MY life. I can’t control everything but I have agency over what I do about it and how react. I just want it to be okay without the work but i just have to deal with the cards ive been dealt and look toward the future I do want to have and that gives me power
Thank you very much for this. Around a week ago, I hurt my best friend's feelings due to my own anxiety and I've been feeling terrible ever since. I always leaned more to the positive side of life, but now for the first time in so many years I've been feeling depressed and lonely. I want to change, fix my issues and become a better person so I don't hurt my loved ones again. I've held myself accountable and wrote a honest apology to her, but the hardest part so far is forgiving myself. I don't really expect a boyfriend or other friend to come save me, all I hope is that I can forgive myself and that we both can heal.
Well said! I commend your willingness to open up about your own inner struggles, especially in an age where doing so can expose one to ridicule. People often use the power of anonymity that the internet provides and let the worst of themselves come out. The fact that despite this you choose to invite people into your own private thoughts is both brave and inspirational. I practice journaling as well and have found ot to be therapeutic. Being a book lover, I have also sought wisdom from philosophers, poets, and great minds for some of my most difficult questions that I find myself facing. Keep up the great work!
I'm going through a hard time and I'm trying to heal and every night I watch one of your videos, your words help me a lot and I can't explain how thankful I am to you. Thanks for making videos and helping us out I love you and I wish you the best 🩷 I've been following you since 2022 from tiktok till now and here on youtube :)) please keep making videos 🩷🩷
I think this hit me, because I realized this last year. It was a hard concept to grasp.... and it still is a hard pill to swallow, but taking responsibility and fix my own problems is true growth.
Yess whenever i saw people with there bf taking care of them i felt so lonley but as i grew up i understood that we have to take care of ourselves on our own.....no one is sitting to listen to our problems we have to solve them on our own......and there are many things that we have to prioritize in life above that gf/ bf thing......btw love and thank you for shairing yours thoughts with us.....❤
You’ll find the most comforting words from strangers who feel like angels when looking at comment section of videos like this. I love going through the comment session and seeing how supportive people are!
always always and always prioritise yourself first, no matter how important that person is to you or how guilty you'll feel after. love you via!! it feels like as if i have a new friend now :)
Currently having a mental breakdown and this video was just so raw and blunt i didn't realize how much i needed to hear this. Thank you so much for doing the work in order to be able to post this
I really needed this, I had a very attached friendship for 6 years where I was so attached to them and took everything personal, not to say what they did didn’t hurt because it did and I still have anger but slowly I start to realize that I have faults to and I hurt them as well. Taking responsibility is hard for me and I’m still trying to be nicer to myself in the acknowledgment that good people can do bad things it’s not black and white. So thank you for this journal entry I can’t describe how much I genuinely love this channel there’s so many places where I can relate and some where I learn about differences in people so thank you. And let’s all continue to grow as people :)
Everything Via Li is saying I’ve been telling people this for over 25 years. You are you and if you want to be your own person & have your own feelings, your own thoughts, your own ideas well you have to start living your own life. That means you are responsible for knowing what’s right and what’s wrong in your own life. It’s ok to make mistakes, just don’t follow in the same footsteps as your parents or anyone else in your family. It’s ok to make stupid mistakes when your younger, we all have made them, especially financial mistakes. I’m 51 years old and I’m totally all alone and I love every minute of it, I have no more family or friends anymore and I love it. My family and friends had a lot of problems that they created when I was younger. I left all of them in 2001 & 2017. Your never too old to learn something new and start a new life for yourself. Don’t stop your life to help anyone that doesn’t want to help themselves. Make a list for yourself and change your mindset and your life.
Over the years I realized I've become very dependent on my friends for my happiness, so much so that I didn't even remember what small things made me happy, or what my hobbies where, I didn't even realize that I hated myself because of how I presented myself to people, how I dressed, acted etc. It's slowly taking time to become an actual person again, but I've been getting there- I realized that I really enjoy tea, scheduling, finger painting, baking, and music. All these small little moments make me WANT to love myself, and that already is so much improvement compared to a few years ago
As someone who most of the times just ignores their feelings because it hurts to remember the things my younger self had to go through i totally understand the "taking responsibility" part and that it was never my fault but i just never voice out these thoughts i just get myself indulge in work so that I'm too busy to even hurt it feels good watching your videos and honestly start crying because it feels like someone else is saying the things that i want to say to myself but was never able to 💕💕 thankyou
I’ve known this since I was younger…but actually making it happen became exhausting and overwhelming. Now it’s empowering because I’m in control and I can set my own boundaries and goals 😊❤
I'm always in tears watching these entries. It's such a difficult journey to understand why it's hard to keep up with friendships/relationships. I realise I've done the same thing, hoping and wishing that someone is out there who would save me from my misery. And last year I did find "that someone". It was all great until I was told I put too much on them, making them feel like I was a baggage to deal with. It hit me like a truck then and lost my identity when they stopped talking to me. I'm a lot better now and on my way to taking care of myself. I relate to everything you said and makes me joyful to see so many people going/gone through the same things. so much love to you and all of the people in the comments 💛🌷
I realized that no one is gonna fix me and i can only depend on myself when i was i 10th grade so i started to heal and look after myself and thats fine but sometimes i just wish someone would help me, i wish someone try for me for once
Hi Via, I admire your honesty and wisdom. I also started therapy this year and I realized that I had an anxiety and avoidance tendency. At first acknowledging this made me feel so incapable, but when I started accepting the real side of me, I grew and matured. Although everyone has to fix their own problems, sharing and knowing others are also going through struggle is so soothing. Thank you so much for sharing your inner world with us❤
this is so incredibly true-lovely video. i love your point on how, even if someone tried, the relationship would ultimately collapse due to your issues. i've been on both sides of this type of relationship. both are so terribly heartbreaking and draining. i used to find myself victimizing myself and wallowing in pity instead of taking responsibility of what i can control and my issues, which has been an ongoing process. small steps are so important! i have such a drastically different mindset from a year ago. on the outside, i was much more productive and happy, but like you said, i had been around people i'd known all my life. my issues hadn't manifested to the point where they caused significant problems (they did soon after). so i'm trying to be gentle with myself and not get down due to my decreased productivity. my mindset and trajectory are definitely much healthier!
Ever since I was a kid, and now, I always got too attached to people, I thought they were always going to be by my side "helping" me , My mom, the friends I got to know, I always needed them and depended on them to feel okay in life and like I could do anything with them by my side. So everysingle time I got to another grade or school, this feeling of melancholy would cover me all the time for so many time. And I kinda fed that feeling, seeing things that made me sadder, remembering even more without knowing or being conscious, I didn't exist if it werent thinking about people That were no longer in my life or I couldn't have, them I was always fucked up. So.. when I was in high school, I got into problems with some friends and never talked again, I got into depression for so long, 3+ years, I didn't do basic things taking care of myself, stop my studies (it was horrible). And now my mom died. So im just getting back on my feet after all the shit. Im realizing how dependant I always have been, and now is like life is obligating me to be completely by my own.
your videos are so comforting, and somehow they always come at the right time! :) just yesterday i felt like i didn't belong and lonely after hanging out with my so-called group friend, and your videos popped onto my homepage. thank you for making inspiring contents via! ily
thank you for pushing me out of that darkness again...I've been feeling very lonely and lost these days, but watching you has given me peace of mind and helped me find myself, first of all, thank you for that...i've been trying to do something for myself since the beginning of the year, and I'm finally very close to achieving it,the last few days I've tried to do a thing I've wanted for a long time, but I was desperate, and again you've supported me. so glad that I have you. From a social media platform, you help people not to experience the same things when you talk about the bad periods that you feel and go through. i hope you are also aware of your own value, hope you have a lovely rest of the week,ı also genuinely hope that the rest of the week will be very kind to you because you deserve it...sometimes you may feel lonely even with all the people around you, or you might be around w the people who doesn't always appreciate you but I hope you don't forget that you are enough the exact way you are right now and don't forget that there are people from other countries who support and love you...have a wonderful day/night !!! 🤍
whenever I watch your videos, it reminds me of my actual life. I always told myself that the reason I'm like this right now is because of my friends and that they ruined me, sure they may have ruined me and changed me but all I do suck up to it and stay the same, I started giving them snarky rude comments, ignoring them and all. It made me feel awful. Like I'm only 14, idk how to deal w this kind of stuff but ik it's something I'm supposed to deal with on my own but i STILL continue to try and like get someone's attention so they can care about me or like try cheer me up or something, i find it so pathetic. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, find comfort in my own mind. I don't enjoy my friends' company right now I even deleted my account just so I can take time to heal because everytime I went on there, it just felt so draining and overwhelming. I've completely made up my mind that this summer I'll take care of myself and fix my issues by myself and the thought of that makes me feel so much happier and free.
i have been watching your videos and it makes me feel understood. When I was a kid (until the end of middle school) I never had friends and I always blamed people for wanting me to change to whatever they want. I now know that I wasn't entirely right either, I let people that actually cared for me down but it took me a lot of time to figure that out. I didn't know I to make up for her and even now I want to apologize but i can't do it through text and we both have strict parents so we can't meet. I has been weighing me down. I realized that sometimes you have to realize that I am the bad person even though I didn't mean any of the things I did. Listening to you talking about that, made me think about this and thought I should share that I love your journal entries and NEED more
i agree with what a lot of things you said but I think you need to mention and remember that it is okay to reach out and seek support, you don't have to do everything alone. There are professional who will support you and empower you to have control over your lives. Sometimes it takes a small reach out to someone to get the process going. Yes you shouldn't rely on them to fix everything for you but there are people who can help guide you as it can take a lot of energy and strength for some people to get started. Asking for help is one of the biggest step you can make
It took me such a long time to realize this. When i was younger i always thought that getting a boyfriend or a best friend will heal the wounds of my past. When I finally broke out of the cycle I was in, of getting toxic friends and very questionable partners to fill the void in me, i had already done so much additional damage to myself. When I worked hard and got the academic achievements i was hoping for in high school was when i realized that i had the power to change myself on my own. That Im not in a state of limbo when it comes to my pain and anguish.. but i still somehow ended up meeting someone i really love while i studied and I made him go through a lot because I wasnt ready for a relationship mentally in any sort of way when I accepted his confession. Realizing you have a problem and that you can fix it better is only the first step of getting better after all. Its a miracle he never gave up on me and always saw that i was struggling, and doing my best for the relationship however way that i can. There's much that I wish I didnt do when it came to the both of us and, I was just met with a stroke of luck to find someone willing to bear through it all with genuine love. Looking back, i still wish i fixed myself first, even if he was fine with the state that i was in, though I could never fully heal, at least do so to a certain extent. Please dont gamble your life on finding the right partner to support you, and bear it with you by your side while they comfort you. Theres only a very low chance of meeting someone like that in this day and age, and the journey of finding that person will probably end up making you need even more help than where you initially started. Even though I achieved it, they still dont really deserve it either, thats the truth of it. You know the brunt of your trauma, so dont go pushing that huge weight onto someone else. Even if you may not fully heal, heal yourself enough until youre able to realize your wrongs, stop yourself before youre involving someone else in your outbursts, recognize you have a problem and have found solutions to make yourself feel better without their constant help. Go to therapy, establish some hobbies, try yoga.
I didn’t realize before but I tend to get emotional attached to people easily. It’s like I’m afraid of my own feelings so I feel the need to find someone to distract myself and so when I’m alone I feel useless and unmotivated. You’re absolutely right. We are in charge of our lives. I needa start doing things alone allow myself to feel what I feel and respect myself by finding those who have the same goals as me. I tend to want to keep relationships with people who don’t really treat me well because I simply don’t want to lose them. In my mind, it hurts when they’re with me but it’ll hurt even more if they leave. I need to take more accountability of my actions. I also seem to be impatient always wanting to speed up my own healing process but I needa to go at it slowly yes some days will be easier but other days will not and that’s okay. The bad and good is needed to heal yourself and become a better version. I hope one day I’ll be strong to be alone and be okay with that.
i really need this video,yesterday was one of the lowest i ever felt in 2023,i feel so bad and i feel so guilty to even think that someone can save me from all my pain and trauma that others caused. it got to point where i dont believe i can even save myself,im really grateful that you posted this journal series,it really help a lot via
I just want to say thank you for this video. ive been feeling lost and didnt know what to do with my life after leaving a toxic family environment. its been about two years since ive been independent but its so hard to live when no one taught me how to live a life. ever since i was a child ive been locked inside the house and was treated like a house helper so i dont really have much knowledge in the world. thats part of the reason why im having such a hard time, i feel like im still a kid in an adults body still trying to learn how to run and talk to people. this video gave me strength to actually do something about it now and strive to be a better version of me. once again Thank you Via Li P.s. I cried through out the whole Video huhuhuhu
Girl I really love you for this. I just started with my realisation and healing journey. I felt and still feel so desperate and stuck due to social anxiety. While listening to you I saw myself in so many things you said. Your channel and videos give me strength. Thank you for showing us your vulnerable side and trying to help. I wish you and everyone else the best in their healing journey! You‘re not alone, we‘re all in this together and we will make it! Sending hugs to everyone 🫶🏼❤️
as a person who's a suicide survivor. I realised that there's only one person who can fix and save you is just only YOU. Especially in this world honestly no one cares what you're going thru or what you're doing so just you're the only one who can comfort yourself, be kind and nice and love yourself and that's the BIGGEST WIN if you're able to really do it. Thanks for this video sissy, she's the older sister we all needed as a kid
thank you for this amazing video ! at times i lose sight of the fact that i am capable of controlling my future and use my "issues / trauma" as an excuse. this was a great video to remind us that our trama / issues do not define us and we have every power to shape our future and take that first step. 💌
This video has helped me understand a lot on how to focus on myself, to be comfortable with myself, and care about my feelings. Thank you. I hope your healing journey is going well.
I learned this through my hard journey with a friendship where it started all good but going on through time i keep getting drained and triggered that it keeps on activating my coping mechanism. Though we talked and talked about it, things keep on repeating, i keep being drained and i know we both are drained. And this video are just basically pointing out that i also have my own problems and they have their baggage they need to solve themselves. As a person who has always resolve things myself, being with a person who act like they wanted to be saved and fixed eventhough they said they aren't doing that is very hurtful. I now am focusing on fixing myself and seeking peace for myself and i hope they too can work for it themselves.
Ive been dealing with depression and i was just sitting in my bed for a quite long while bur thanks to you I realized that escaping and hurting myself won't change anything. I need to work on myself because otherwise I won't be better but honestly it's still scary for me to challenge myself because I can't stand failing . I'll try little by little
OMG, I love your videos so much! It's so reassuring how you're able to explore such themes. It's almost like a therapy session. Sometimes we feel so misunderstood and alone, but we forget that many people are going through something similar as well. These videos are really helpful.❤
i’m only 15 but tbh your vids help me everyday and i finally started journaling! so far it’s really helped me with so much childhood trauma and i really appreciate all the journal entries you’ve made 🤗
thank you, im 13 and i suffer from social anxiety and depression. it took me a while to accept that because i believed that i wasnt suffering enough that i didnt deserve to feel bad for myself for not being good at things i wish i was good at, like my grades, i used to be horrible because i went through a long depression period, and i blamed myself like “why cant i be better?” even though i was at a disadvantage mentally and physically, i wasnt taking care of myself i wasnt doing daily tasks and my parents were getting really worked about it. for my social anxiety i always feared trying new things because trying new things meant chance at failure which is a good thing but i only saw it as a bad thing because i was always pressured to be the best because i was the “gifted, spoiled kid.” i didnt ask for any of this and yet i get held responsible for all of it. when my friend recommended me to trying track, i was very quick to decline but then i thought about it and i really wanted to try something different so i stepped out of my comfort zone. i obviously was the worst at track because i had never done it before and there are people that have been training years before me, but even so, it was still fun. i learned that i loved track, and i actually improved a lot by 10 seconds in the span of less than 15 days. so yeah im proud of getting out of my comfort zone, so if theres anything you want to do, do it. dont let your fears hold you back from becoming your best self. (sorry this was a long vent)
A few months ago I’d been in a relationship where we hope from the other they “you will save me from ourselves” and obviously, that ended up in a toxic way to all. But seeing you, in all your videos being yourself with you, remind me how we can be without a person. My process is less hard, thx.
i needed this video right now. i got diagnosed with 4 mental illnesses this week and i’m terrified to work on getting treatment, but this was a good reminder that i’m not going to get better unless i do something about it and actually try to get to a healthy point. 💗
Genuinely, this made me cry. I realized that for a while now I’ve became too comfortable in my own sadness. But now that I’ve realized it, it’s just really hard to change the habit. It’s like choosing to go down a slide instead of taking the next step of stairs up. Right now I’m at the point where I already realized what’s happening but I’m not doing anything about it. I don’t know what’s going to happen to me
First episode I watched of yours. You have a very pure and fair way of assessing yourself and the world around you. I feel a lot of what you described. Lots of MAJOR life changing events (I won't mention) recently so this resonates with my spirit for sure.
hey via! hope you had a good week. i actually had therapy a couple days ago and this topic resonates with my situation a lot. i have always held the mindset that “i’m the only one that can solve my issues, so i shouldn’t burden anyone else with them.” i liked what you said about stepping out of your comfort zone and making change. because of my mindset, i have developed some issues communicating with others about what i’m going through, and i end up giving then the silent treatment as you also mentioned. i’m working to achieve a sort of happy medium between working through the issues on my own and telling my friends that i am going through things so they don’t get the wrong idea if i seem quiet or distant. anyways great vid! also rly cool seeing the progression in your editing skillset over the weeks and months
I really needed to watch this, thank you so much! I’m going through a 10-year relationship break up, and I feel the biggest reason for the relationship to come to an end was that I was always expecting her to fix all my issues; I’ve been trying since then to take ownership of my life and fix my own issues; it is a lonely and scary process, but watching this helps a lot and confirms I’m on the right path; Love the channel, and I wish you all the best in your journey too!
Thank you for what you are doing. You use your tools and experience to help and inspire others, I am currently trying to go through a recovery process, it is going to be hard, but now I know that it is not undoable, and that some people actually made it. I am going to keep fighting for myself once and for all
Love it! You’re so wise for your age, i wasn’t even close to this when I was your age. Only now at age 30 am I learning this. You’re going to be just fine. Also it’s very normal to not have dated at your age. Take your time and be a solid person first and you will eventually meet someone who appreciates that and loves you for who you are
When I was younger, I’d always relied on the “idea” of a boyfriend/partner/friendship to save me. And that’s what drove me all my life. Until I realised this year when Id worked towards my goals and exams this year - that I could change and live outside that box I created in my head and start living for myself since no one will catch me. And it gave me so much hope for the future from the past trauma I’d gone through with people
Omg samee,, my dumb ass believed that once I got a partner all my life problems will be resolved😂💀
literally same. I need to use the same mindset you have now as well
We are all the same person
Took the words out of my mouth! Independancy to self is powerful~
@@ninisky2706 🖤🖤🖤
“So if you need a hero
Just look in the mirror
No one's gonna save you now
So you better save yourself
And everybody's hurting
Everybody's going through it
But you just can't give up now
'Cause you gotta save yourself” - Kali Uchis
I love her
Sameeee she’s amazing
The sun will come out, nothing ever lasts forever
nothing good ever comes easy* I KNOW TIMES GET ROUGH, BUT WINNERS DONT QUIT! SO DONT YOU GIVE UP!
My fav song ever, listen to it nearly every minute 💗
It’s hard to learn that you can be a good and bad person base on your choices rather than your feelings. I sometimes get stuck between the victim mentality or hating myself because I don’t as the bad guy. I’m learning that I’m not good or bad, I’m just make good or bad choices.
I love what you just said, I never thought of it that way and it's so true!!
God can save you. He literally gave Gis Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we could be saved from everything that imprisons us, especially death. John 3:16
❤❤😊
Humans are diverse and confusing. It’s not black and white. learning we’re in that grey area can really held us learn how to have better relationships and a better life overall
If you ever feel lonely, just remember that there are trillions of cells inside you, that literally can't live without you
hahahah thanks :)
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If you ever feel lonely, just remember that God gave his Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins, so that those same sins would not keep us from being close to him. He died and rose again, all this because he didn't want to be away from you.
@@thisismahba9935if you feel alone, remember that God gave his son Jesus Christ to die for our sins, so that those same sins would not keep us from being close to him. He died and rose again, all because he didn't want to be away from you.
@@luizadeabreu7174 Thanks, but I do not believe in your God. I think it would be nice if you would not put the expectation that everyone believes in the same god that you do :)
I saved myself two weeks ago.
I'm the eldest daughter from a toxic family and from a small town. Six years ago I met my two best, closest friends through the Internet and it helped me to see that there is actually a whole world outside of my hometown. I never wanted to live there, and thanks to them, I could see more of my country. Their friendship was the most valued thing I ever had. But then... two years ago, one of my friends started to drift apart from our trio. And just like that, a year after trying to fix our relationship... we stopped talking at all.
Thank God I had my other friend and after that, we just got closer and started thinking about moving out of our family houses and living together. Moving out was one of the hardest things in my life. It took me half a year and I counted every day. I did everything to get out. I cried bc of what my father told me but then I clenched my teeth and told myself "Just 151 days, just one more month, just one more week..." And now, I'm on the other side of my country, living in a small, quiet flat with my best friend (and her cat). No more home drama, no more chores that are more than I can bare, just us and this new chapter in our life.
Sure, having a best friend in those hard times in my life was so helpful bc I could always tell her everything, every time that I cried bc of my home, every time I got angry and depressed. I tend to overthink a lot so having her was like a safe space outside of my mind but still connected to it. Of course, she still doesn't know all the details, how really hard it was. But it was enough.
It's easier to live with someone you know and trust. But I did it mostly for me. I saved myself If I didn't make the decision, and really move out, I'd still be there, not living my life but serving my family and dealing with their problems. Now I can fully breathe, do what I still love to do, and think about the future less scared.
Please, save yourself if you can. Don't wait for your future lover or your best friend. They can help you from afar, but the decision has to be yours. To save you. Take care.
im so so proud of you gabry :')
Oh i really understand. I Hope you're okay
God can save you. He literally gave Gis Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we could be saved from everything that imprisons us, especially death. John 3:16
I love your story you shared with us so much and I’m glad you’re out of that toxic environment now
But this is bothering me
Bare= used as in “bare feet”
Bear= holding something like “bear arms” like a burden
You used bare when bear was better
Sorry that was just bothering me
If you wait for God, you're screwed from the start There is nothing more foolish than waiting for a god who has not appeared for centuries to help humanity. @@luizadeabreu7174
You’re like an the older sister figure we never knew we needed, thank you
"After all, it is yourself the only one who will stay with you" When I feel lonely I always think that and try to enjoy being alone. 🌷😺
"Just because you made a few mistakes, you're not a bad person if you're willing to change for the better."
I needed to hear that. We're often so harsh with ourselves and can be our own worst enemy. It's important to remember you got yourself for life, so might as well become best friends with yourself
as a wise person once said, ‘“you’re on your own, kid. you always have been “
the wise person being taylor swift but genuinely i feel like that song really encapsulates the message of this video like!! you can cry and cry but ultimately you have to take the first step.
it also reminds me of something my mom always tells me. she says, “i can help you reach a 7/10 for anything you want to do/ achieve. but i can never get you to a 10/10, no one can. only you yourself have the capability to get there. whether you get there is a choice YOU have to make.”
powerful message via!! thank u for this video
I always say people can support you and hold your hand (methaphorically) but you’re the one who has to walk the path
@@food8419 well said!
@@Anaclara-rl7vf hi! the song is called 'you're on your own, kid' by taylor swift. it's from her latest studio album Midnights!
What that "wise person" said wow no wonder no one asked to be born
I have stuttered my whole life and I am so insecure about it that I actually never really lived like I wanted to. I've always hoped for a miracle or for someone to save me from my disability and this video really made me realize that I need to accept myself and start to live the life that I want because nothing will change if I don't do anything. I deserve a beautiful life and I need to create it myself ❤ thank you Via
you deserve to live a happy and vibrant life.
You can do it I believe in you
i stutter as well !!! i relate to this sm.
Damn... You made me cry while doing my morning walk. All the realizations came to me all at once. I'm 29, and I'm severely depressed, unemployed, broke and unloved. Thanks for this.
I've been on a self-healing journey since I was 18. Currently, I am ongoing 23 and I'm at a point where I majorly regressed and now I just sit around waiting for life to happen. To be saved. The way you talking about it made me open my eyes to how I have been currently viewing my life. I rely too much on others and hope that things will just fix themselves. I don't want to have to be the one to fix my hurt.
And, I want to want to get better. Which isn't quite the same as wanting to get better. I want to want to do the things I need to get to a better place. But I just don't currently.
My victim mentality and social isolation have made me very comfortable in my misery and loneliness. I can't get hurt if I don't go out, nothing can be worse than me wasting away "helplessly" and comfortably uncomfortable.
I know I will never get the justice I deserve; or the apologies I seek move past from what triggered my regression. That everything I ruminate and cry over will never take me back to the time I was getting better before I crumbled. But I know I have the strength to overcome the pain just like I did at 18. I just need to start being responsible and more accountable for my actions and choices that have left me feeling stuck. And healing isn't linear....sometimes I tend to forget that.
After reading your comment, I realised that I was in the same situation to you as before. Though there are still times when I’m very aware that I haven’t fully healed and “fixed” myself, I decided to take full responsibility of loving myself and creating a version of me whom I really want to be. There was a horrible situation where I experienced relapse and it made me disappointed in myself and thought that I was doing better… I felt mad at myself because another situation came up wherein I realized I didn’t fully heal from all the trauma and bad experiences that I had gone through during high school and that made me so upset with myself cause I realized that I was still the same coward as I am before. I really wanted to try and stop myself from doing the same habits I did before and not being able to stand up for myself. In the end, I just sucked everything up and did everything that I could (at that time) but it made me so angry that I didn’t do better and that I couldn’t be the person whom I thought I already was. After that situation, I just waited for things to go disappear and left everything in the past and tried my best not to remember that experience.
Ff to now, I’m currently trying to change my mindset and perception of how I would view myself to be able to stand up for myself and have the confidence of being the person that I am today, regardless of my traumas and regardless of how awful my past experiences were. I’ve decided not to care so much of what people think of me and that, what their perception of me won’t dictate my confidence and how I would live my life. I decided to live life for myself and do the things that I want to do without being able to give a fuck about them and also, I accepted the fact that not everyone will like me and that everyone doesn’t need to like me, and what matters much more is if I like them. Also I’m trying to be find new skills and hobbies in order to be more confident of myself.
In conclusion, I learned that its okay to not be okay and accept the fact that healing isn’t linear. There are times when we will relapse or regress, but we should also keep in mind that someday, at the right time, you will be able to fully heal yourself and recover the person that you are meant to be. Its okay to wait for things to happen, but you should give yourself a time when you will stop waiting and actually try doing something through your actions. Not everything will be the same and not everything will be temporary. Being consistent with yourself and having a strong mindset of your perception of yourself may help you recover. Change your mindset, REWRITE YOUR STORY. You are the only person who will have a full control of your life so it is your responsibility whether or not you choose to heal. Take responsibility and take your time to heal, just keep on practicing and eventually it will be consistent.
I hope this may change your views somehow and maybe open something… I’m rooting for you and for myself too! We both got this! 🤍✨
same except I'm only 20 haha
After reading you guys comments I feel like we should have a community
@@ninadrangonthank you so much for your comment
Just remember to be gentle and patient with yourself.
Im not an adult but as a teen I really needed this. I'm currently starting my journey of healing and shadow work because I also realized like... I have problems and I NEED to fix this now and learn about it so when I get older it doesn't become worse.
I started journaling and being kinder to myself and I can already see the difference. I know I am making progress of healing. However, I still have a crap ton of procrastination.. And Im very aware and its something I know I just need to discipline myself to be happier.
Its not easy, I can still act stupid or get angry at myself for immediately not veing good at something whicj is where alot of my procrastination stems from.. But I'm aware of these things now which will make it at least a bit easier to understand "Why dont I want to do this despite it being something I want to do?"
Its definitely not gonna be easier but im so excited to stary thjs journey and hopefully be able to look back one day and be proud of how far I've come
Heyy, thank you for commenting your story. Im going through a similar situation right now. Its a combination of procrastination and perfectionism. Makes me stress until I do everything last minute. Doomed to never seek out my potential. Unless I do smth about the situation of course. You motivated me
Me too, I’m a teenager as well and currently I have a lot of free time so I’m working on myself.
"you need to start no matter how shitty it is"
and the following sentences made me quite emotional.
I barely comment on videos but i just wanted to share how comforting that was to me. We rarely are perfect at something in the beginning, right? Well ive just realised: that also goes for my healing journey. I know its silly, it should've been obvious but it was not! Now i feel enough courage to continue and feel less alone. One more thing is that starting (anything) was always a big struggle for me even if i had the motivation. Thanks to your vid i now feel enough to continue. Truly, thank you.
It's important to understand that "You can be wrong too". Maybe you're blaming on others everytime, but sometimes you also hold responsibility on that. I strongly believe in that to a point it becomes so negative to myself. Now I'm more like "I'm the wrong one, you're right, this is my fault" type. But that's bad too. Accepting your own faults when you made them is important, but blaming yourself always even for others' mistakes won't to any good for you. I should fix myself on that.
😓😓 when you said i didnt asked to be truamatised , i started tearing up and i started to look back at my younger self she was disrespected and abused and her emotions were invalidated , as an adult i'm trying to fix myself and heal..
thank you via this video was needed today.
this showed up in my feeds at just the right time. i realized i was getting too comfortable being stuck in my depressive state. for me today, it was as simple as "i don't have to be stuck in this energy" to set myself free
This is like in Harry Potter when he thought his father was the one saving him and Sirius and not, at the end was himself with his strength.
This video is exactly what I needed you're the most relatable person out there for me. ❤
“because at the end of the day all we’ve got is ourselves”
i actually realized this too late because all this time i was thinking that someone will heal me. it turns out this someone is the reason why i keep hurting myself. and yes i left my old environment, the old people who kept hurting me. now i may not have the closest relationship with people but at least im happy with myself and starting to change myself after turning 18. i hope that everyone finds their way to heal
TRUE, nobody can fix nor change the chaotic life or the shortcomings of other people. It's only themselves that can make their life better.
In high school I ended up making a lot of terrible decisions, that I definitely regret now cause it's affecting my chances of getting into university. and my dad would usually help me get out of trouble or fix it for me. but this year it really sunk in that others can't fix my issues and I need to do things myself and step up and fix my own mistakes yk. In general just do better for myself because i need to show myself love and care. Thank you sm for the video Via🥺❤
it's really concerning how the social media has created this idea of "perfection" and "ideal lifestyle/ routine". However, it is really comforting to know that not everything portrayed in the social media is perfect. You taking the first step and showing that feeling your emotions, being sad, not having anyone around you is perfect and valid as well. Thanks for making this journal entry. Looking forward to more of your journal entries 💞💞
via, if you made a podcast on your journal entries i would listen to them for hours. they are so motivating, inspiring, and really what you need to get going through your day. they are honestly the realest things on this app
0:10 really hit hard for me, thank you for saying it. I hadnt realized it for so long
Can I just say...I'm really glad I found your channel. I have never felt more heard than watching your videos, your experience. I'm 22 too and I've come face to face with a lot of hard truths, and needing to fix yourself as an adult is definitely one of them. I've been spending the last year and a half really trying. And it is hard. It's like I'm trying to fix past me but simultaneously fix current me and the problems that happen as time goes on. The past year I've realized something that kind of encompasses my own thoughts with this. The sun. The sun rises and the sun sets. It doesn't matter what happens the day before and when the day ends. No one and no thing suddenly goes out of its way to help you. You need to grab your own hand and pull yourself out of whatever situation you're in. And on this journey i've definitely taken two steps back. But as long as you keep making progress...there will be a day where we can come out of this. We all can. For everyone that is going on this journey, keep the faith. No matter how hard it gets. Get better for yourself. For your true self. For your happiness. For your past self. For your current and futute self. Live, and live in the moment. We all deserve to Live and have a Life of worth. ❤️❤️
"I was just so comfortable with my sadness because I wasn't going to get any better, I might as well get comfortable with it" hits hard and I think I'd like it more than to try and change things
'What you feel is what you feel' is a really useful thing to remember. Thank you for this video, you're helping people
Listen I'm only 2 minutes into this video and I just need to thank you so much. I never realized that I'd been becoming attached to my friends and placing my identity in my friendships until you put it into words. You've helped me realize where I need to grow and I am forever grateful for that. ❤
I think this is the biggest problem I have. Depression is taking a toll on me and even with my boyfriend there to support me, if I don't take those steps myself I won't feel better. I'm still at a point where I cannot sign up to psychiatrist. I'm making small steps towards it tho - looking out for a good one, collecting my issues I want to consult, making sure which ones can be resolved by myself, by meds or by therapy. Your channel really does help me collect certain pieces in my puzzled mind - thanks to you I'm stopping my "hunt" for a friend. They will come once I'm and they are ready. Thank you Via for supporting my journey! I know I can do this! Little steps... 🌷
i am so so proud of you bestie 🩷🩷🩷🌷
depression sucks so hard i agree,im very proud of you for taking little steps,thats a good progress
I'm also really proud of you :) I hope you keep taking those little steps. I wish you all the best
Towards the part where you were talking about how you've sat in bed and not felt like doing anything, I was reminded of something that my therapist had said to me before.
She said, "Your 100% is not going to be the same every day."
It's a bit insane because all it took were those few words for me to realize that she was correct. It was something that had made life a bit easier for me, but of course, I have to keep in mind that life won't always be easy.
Lastly, I just want to thank you so much for sharing these more sensitive topics with us.
To whoever reads this, I hope that you can keep in mind what my therapist had said and wish for everyone to have a wonderful rest of your day or night ❤
'Waiting for someone to save you' I relate to that so much I'm in the same place as you right now. I feel heard and validated thank you so much oh my god
I'm from Germany. I can relate to so many aspects. I've had a really hard time the last couple of years. While being in this phase I realized that I needed change. I realized that I couldn't live like that anymore. Not only did I try to distract myself with TH-cam or movies or books or literally anything. I also started to hint to friends and family how miserable I was. I didn't know how to fix myself and my issues. That's why I wished for others to save me. It was not until some months ago that I realized that I was actually almost losing some friends because of the amount of times I talked about myself in hopes they would save me. Right now I try to change and fix some things. I'm actually recieving help from a school therapist but I also know that I have to do it myself. I already made progress but I still have a long way to go. While it's really hard to pull myself together such videos help me gain strength and help me get hope. THANK YOU
I was also really anxious and dependent on others with whom i share bonds with i used to imagine all the futuristic activities and idea of being with em until they started leaving like my bestfriend left then so did my boyfriend this year and then i thought now I won just go for help i mean it's not bad to seek help from friends and all but the friends are just not the good ones and next year I've to get a good college and really have to work for it, ik it's not as easy as being said it takes a lot but i really wanna get happy with being me and being with myself, i really wanna enjoy who I'm and want to feel that happiness within and not by someone who's there for a while .
And I really love you video like it makes me feel so much better whatever you say explain and had is something i can relate and it's just so appreciating , thankyou for making such a amazing content for everyone like us who has been going through these phases and these are really helping me to heal from my traumas breakup and I started looking forward for being me and to love and enjoy my own company 🌷
I had an ex girlfriend tell me that she wanted to “fix me.” Automatically my brain took me down what ever rabbit hole and I started overthinking - wondering to myself “am I broken?” And that fucked with me for a while.
Now I try to look at from every angle, spectrum and perspective and it’s weird to say that, yes; I am broken. And since life is a roller coaster I will continue to break - after I break, I will mend myself.
Fix myself.
I don’t know how long I will have to keep fixing myself but I find solace in knowing I don’t need anyone to help me do so.
Thank you for the words of wisdom.
- Tony
the comfort in sadness and just letting yourself sit in it is UGH that is such a big thing for a lot of people. I also really struggled with that, still do. Sometimes i just don't have the energy to care or to try. Like you said its really not easy. There's nothing easy about forcing yourself out of your comfort zone and doing self improving tasks. Its comforting though, knowing other people are experiencing the same things. This video really comforted me.
This feels like someone just made me come to realty because sometime i think i fell so fustrated because i don't have any friend or anyone else to talk to to exprees my feelings but now i understand that everything that happens is because of what i do or how i think of other things thanks a lot via from such a long time i blamed my own faults on others thanks for making us to come to reality
Me at 23 no job no friends, got bullied and hurt throughout my life, no one truly cared for me. Now, I'm just on my own, I practice self care, I love spending time with my dog, person are a saviour. Only we can love ourselves fully. I feel like living for what makes me happy really helps.
It's amazing how much I feel about everything you've said. thanks✨
I started going to therapy at the beginning of this year thinking I didn't love myself enough but after many months I realized that deciding to ask for help and going to therapy is the biggest act of love I could for my self and I loved myself so much to the point that I asked for help. I used to compare myself to others because I didn't take action and define myself lazy when in reality there were rooted issues I needed to face and fix. I really enjoyed the way you spoke about being our own super hero and fix ourselves and also it was not boring because you used your humor. Thank you so much for your words and wishing the best for your healing journey. And thank you for being open and taking us with your thought your journey
thank you so much for this series, its the wake up call but at the same time it doesnt feel aggressive but very comfortable and cozy? like yeah, you are saying some harsh truths but you say it in a way thats so comforting to me
I rarely comment on TH-cam, but I wanted to say thank you for being you and allowing us to get to know you. It’s refreshing to relate to you ❤
Since young I used to relied so much, like I couldn't ask the teacher any questions, I'd tell my friend to ask, I didn't really had any confidence, but since last two years I've been working on myself,not to be nervous, calming myself, it's still hard, I'm trying :) 🌷Thanks Via for talking about such relating topics.
I love these videos because it’s like a friendly reminder that I’m in control of MY life. I can’t control everything but I have agency over what I do about it and how react. I just want it to be okay without the work but i just have to deal with the cards ive been dealt and look toward the future I do want to have and that gives me power
Thank you very much for this. Around a week ago, I hurt my best friend's feelings due to my own anxiety and I've been feeling terrible ever since. I always leaned more to the positive side of life, but now for the first time in so many years I've been feeling depressed and lonely. I want to change, fix my issues and become a better person so I don't hurt my loved ones again. I've held myself accountable and wrote a honest apology to her, but the hardest part so far is forgiving myself. I don't really expect a boyfriend or other friend to come save me, all I hope is that I can forgive myself and that we both can heal.
Well said! I commend your willingness to open up about your own inner struggles, especially in an age where doing so can expose one to ridicule. People often use the power of anonymity that the internet provides and let the worst of themselves come out. The fact that despite this you choose to invite people into your own private thoughts is both brave and inspirational.
I practice journaling as well and have found ot to be therapeutic. Being a book lover, I have also sought wisdom from philosophers, poets, and great minds for some of my most difficult questions that I find myself facing.
Keep up the great work!
I'm going through a hard time and I'm trying to heal and every night I watch one of your videos, your words help me a lot and I can't explain how thankful I am to you. Thanks for making videos and helping us out I love you and I wish you the best 🩷 I've been following you since 2022 from tiktok till now and here on youtube :)) please keep making videos 🩷🩷
I think this hit me, because I realized this last year. It was a hard concept to grasp.... and it still is a hard pill to swallow, but taking responsibility and fix my own problems is true growth.
Yess whenever i saw people with there bf taking care of them i felt so lonley but as i grew up i understood that we have to take care of ourselves on our own.....no one is sitting to listen to our problems we have to solve them on our own......and there are many things that we have to prioritize in life above that gf/ bf thing......btw love and thank you for shairing yours thoughts with us.....❤
each journal entry heals me. the style of communicating the ideas is done so well and really puts feelings into words easily understood
You’ll find the most comforting words from strangers who feel like angels when looking at comment section of videos like this. I love going through the comment session and seeing how supportive people are!
Best part of fixing yourself is that after you have progressed you felt so proud and happy that litteraly felt like
a victory 🎉
always always and always prioritise yourself first, no matter how important that person is to you or how guilty you'll feel after.
love you via!! it feels like as if i have a new friend now :)
Currently having a mental breakdown and this video was just so raw and blunt i didn't realize how much i needed to hear this. Thank you so much for doing the work in order to be able to post this
you have no idea how much this is bringing me to my senses AGAIN. i'm really thankful to you.
I really needed this, I had a very attached friendship for 6 years where I was so attached to them and took everything personal, not to say what they did didn’t hurt because it did and I still have anger but slowly I start to realize that I have faults to and I hurt them as well. Taking responsibility is hard for me and I’m still trying to be nicer to myself in the acknowledgment that good people can do bad things it’s not black and white. So thank you for this journal entry I can’t describe how much I genuinely love this channel there’s so many places where I can relate and some where I learn about differences in people so thank you. And let’s all continue to grow as people :)
Everything Via Li is saying I’ve been telling people this for over 25 years. You are you and if you want to be your own person & have your own feelings, your own thoughts, your own ideas well you have to start living your own life. That means you are responsible for knowing what’s right and what’s wrong in your own life. It’s ok to make mistakes, just don’t follow in the same footsteps as your parents or anyone else in your family. It’s ok to make stupid mistakes when your younger, we all have made them, especially financial mistakes. I’m 51 years old and I’m totally all alone and I love every minute of it, I have no more family or friends anymore and I love it. My family and friends had a lot of problems that they created when I was younger. I left all of them in 2001 & 2017. Your never too old to learn something new and start a new life for yourself. Don’t stop your life to help anyone that doesn’t want to help themselves. Make a list for yourself and change your mindset and your life.
Over the years I realized I've become very dependent on my friends for my happiness, so much so that I didn't even remember what small things made me happy, or what my hobbies where, I didn't even realize that I hated myself because of how I presented myself to people, how I dressed, acted etc. It's slowly taking time to become an actual person again, but I've been getting there- I realized that I really enjoy tea, scheduling, finger painting, baking, and music. All these small little moments make me WANT to love myself, and that already is so much improvement compared to a few years ago
we all have come this far so we need to keep pushing and fix ourselves
As someone who most of the times just ignores their feelings because it hurts to remember the things my younger self had to go through i totally understand the "taking responsibility" part and that it was never my fault but i just never voice out these thoughts i just get myself indulge in work so that I'm too busy to even hurt it feels good watching your videos and honestly start crying because it feels like someone else is saying the things that i want to say to myself but was never able to 💕💕 thankyou
I’ve known this since I was younger…but actually making it happen became exhausting and overwhelming. Now it’s empowering because I’m in control and I can set my own boundaries and goals 😊❤
I’ve come to an understanding that no one will save me but sometimes I just want/need a hug…
I'm always in tears watching these entries. It's such a difficult journey to understand why it's hard to keep up with friendships/relationships. I realise I've done the same thing, hoping and wishing that someone is out there who would save me from my misery. And last year I did find "that someone". It was all great until I was told I put too much on them, making them feel like I was a baggage to deal with. It hit me like a truck then and lost my identity when they stopped talking to me. I'm a lot better now and on my way to taking care of myself. I relate to everything you said and makes me joyful to see so many people going/gone through the same things. so much love to you and all of the people in the comments 💛🌷
I realized that no one is gonna fix me and i can only depend on myself when i was i 10th grade so i started to heal and look after myself and thats fine but sometimes i just wish someone would help me, i wish someone try for me for once
Hi Via, I admire your honesty and wisdom. I also started therapy this year and I realized that I had an anxiety and avoidance tendency. At first acknowledging this made me feel so incapable, but when I started accepting the real side of me, I grew and matured. Although everyone has to fix their own problems, sharing and knowing others are also going through struggle is so soothing. Thank you so much for sharing your inner world with us❤
absolutely love your vulnerability and these diaries
this is so incredibly true-lovely video. i love your point on how, even if someone tried, the relationship would ultimately collapse due to your issues. i've been on both sides of this type of relationship. both are so terribly heartbreaking and draining. i used to find myself victimizing myself and wallowing in pity instead of taking responsibility of what i can control and my issues, which has been an ongoing process. small steps are so important! i have such a drastically different mindset from a year ago. on the outside, i was much more productive and happy, but like you said, i had been around people i'd known all my life. my issues hadn't manifested to the point where they caused significant problems (they did soon after). so i'm trying to be gentle with myself and not get down due to my decreased productivity. my mindset and trajectory are definitely much healthier!
Ever since I was a kid, and now, I always got too attached to people, I thought they were always going to be by my side "helping" me , My mom, the friends I got to know, I always needed them and depended on them to feel okay in life and like I could do anything with them by my side. So everysingle time I got to another grade or school, this feeling of melancholy would cover me all the time for so many time. And I kinda fed that feeling, seeing things that made me sadder, remembering even more without knowing or being conscious, I didn't exist if it werent thinking about people That were no longer in my life or I couldn't have, them I was always fucked up.
So.. when I was in high school, I got into problems with some friends and never talked again, I got into depression for so long, 3+ years, I didn't do basic things taking care of myself, stop my studies (it was horrible). And now my mom died.
So im just getting back on my feet after all the shit. Im realizing how dependant I always have been, and now is like life is obligating me to be completely by my own.
your videos are so comforting, and somehow they always come at the right time! :) just yesterday i felt like i didn't belong and lonely after hanging out with my so-called group friend, and your videos popped onto my homepage. thank you for making inspiring contents via! ily
thank you for pushing me out of that darkness again...I've been feeling very lonely and lost these days, but watching you has given me peace of mind and helped me find myself, first of all, thank you for that...i've been trying to do something for myself since the beginning of the year, and I'm finally very close to achieving it,the last few days I've tried to do a thing I've wanted for a long time, but I was desperate, and again you've supported me. so glad that I have you. From a social media platform, you help people not to experience the same things when you talk about the bad periods that you feel and go through.
i hope you are also aware of your own value, hope you have a lovely rest of the week,ı also genuinely hope that the rest of the week will be very kind to you because you deserve it...sometimes you may feel lonely even with all the people around you, or you might be around w the people who doesn't always appreciate you but I hope you don't forget that you are enough the exact way you are right now and don't forget that there are people from other countries who support and love you...have a wonderful day/night !!! 🤍
whenever I watch your videos, it reminds me of my actual life. I always told myself that the reason I'm like this right now is because of my friends and that they ruined me, sure they may have ruined me and changed me but all I do suck up to it and stay the same, I started giving them snarky rude comments, ignoring them and all. It made me feel awful. Like I'm only 14, idk how to deal w this kind of stuff but ik it's something I'm supposed to deal with on my own but i STILL continue to try and like get someone's attention so they can care about me or like try cheer me up or something, i find it so pathetic. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, find comfort in my own mind. I don't enjoy my friends' company right now I even deleted my account just so I can take time to heal because everytime I went on there, it just felt so draining and overwhelming. I've completely made up my mind that this summer I'll take care of myself and fix my issues by myself and the thought of that makes me feel so much happier and free.
i have been watching your videos and it makes me feel understood. When I was a kid (until the end of middle school) I never had friends and I always blamed people for wanting me to change to whatever they want. I now know that I wasn't entirely right either, I let people that actually cared for me down but it took me a lot of time to figure that out. I didn't know I to make up for her and even now I want to apologize but i can't do it through text and we both have strict parents so we can't meet. I has been weighing me down. I realized that sometimes you have to realize that I am the bad person even though I didn't mean any of the things I did. Listening to you talking about that, made me think about this and thought I should share that I love your journal entries and NEED more
omg the first sentence???? oh she's popping off in this one fr
HAHA ILYYYY
i agree with what a lot of things you said but I think you need to mention and remember that it is okay to reach out and seek support, you don't have to do everything alone. There are professional who will support you and empower you to have control over your lives. Sometimes it takes a small reach out to someone to get the process going. Yes you shouldn't rely on them to fix everything for you but there are people who can help guide you as it can take a lot of energy and strength for some people to get started. Asking for help is one of the biggest step you can make
It took me such a long time to realize this. When i was younger i always thought that getting a boyfriend or a best friend will heal the wounds of my past. When I finally broke out of the cycle I was in, of getting toxic friends and very questionable partners to fill the void in me, i had already done so much additional damage to myself. When I worked hard and got the academic achievements i was hoping for in high school was when i realized that i had the power to change myself on my own. That Im not in a state of limbo when it comes to my pain and anguish.. but i still somehow ended up meeting someone i really love while i studied and I made him go through a lot because I wasnt ready for a relationship mentally in any sort of way when I accepted his confession. Realizing you have a problem and that you can fix it better is only the first step of getting better after all.
Its a miracle he never gave up on me and always saw that i was struggling, and doing my best for the relationship however way that i can. There's much that I wish I didnt do when it came to the both of us and, I was just met with a stroke of luck to find someone willing to bear through it all with genuine love. Looking back, i still wish i fixed myself first, even if he was fine with the state that i was in, though I could never fully heal, at least do so to a certain extent.
Please dont gamble your life on finding the right partner to support you, and bear it with you by your side while they comfort you. Theres only a very low chance of meeting someone like that in this day and age, and the journey of finding that person will probably end up making you need even more help than where you initially started. Even though I achieved it, they still dont really deserve it either, thats the truth of it. You know the brunt of your trauma, so dont go pushing that huge weight onto someone else. Even if you may not fully heal, heal yourself enough until youre able to realize your wrongs, stop yourself before youre involving someone else in your outbursts, recognize you have a problem and have found solutions to make yourself feel better without their constant help. Go to therapy, establish some hobbies, try yoga.
I didn’t realize before but I tend to get emotional attached to people easily. It’s like I’m afraid of my own feelings so I feel the need to find someone to distract myself and so when I’m alone I feel useless and unmotivated. You’re absolutely right. We are in charge of our lives. I needa start doing things alone allow myself to feel what I feel and respect myself by finding those who have the same goals as me. I tend to want to keep relationships with people who don’t really treat me well because I simply don’t want to lose them. In my mind, it hurts when they’re with me but it’ll hurt even more if they leave. I need to take more accountability of my actions. I also seem to be impatient always wanting to speed up my own healing process but I needa to go at it slowly yes some days will be easier but other days will not and that’s okay. The bad and good is needed to heal yourself and become a better version. I hope one day I’ll be strong to be alone and be okay with that.
i really need this video,yesterday was one of the lowest i ever felt in 2023,i feel so bad and i feel so guilty to even think that someone can save me from all my pain and trauma that others caused. it got to point where i dont believe i can even save myself,im really grateful that you posted this journal series,it really help a lot via
I just want to say thank you for this video. ive been feeling lost and didnt know what to do with my life after leaving a toxic family environment. its been about two years since ive been independent but its so hard to live when no one taught me how to live a life. ever since i was a child ive been locked inside the house and was treated like a house helper so i dont really have much knowledge in the world. thats part of the reason why im having such a hard time, i feel like im still a kid in an adults body still trying to learn how to run and talk to people. this video gave me strength to actually do something about it now and strive to be a better version of me. once again Thank you Via Li
P.s. I cried through out the whole Video huhuhuhu
Girl I really love you for this. I just started with my realisation and healing journey. I felt and still feel so desperate and stuck due to social anxiety. While listening to you I saw myself in so many things you said. Your channel and videos give me strength. Thank you for showing us your vulnerable side and trying to help. I wish you and everyone else the best in their healing journey! You‘re not alone, we‘re all in this together and we will make it! Sending hugs to everyone 🫶🏼❤️
as a person who's a suicide survivor. I realised that there's only one person who can fix and save you is just only YOU. Especially in this world honestly no one cares what you're going thru or what you're doing so just you're the only one who can comfort yourself, be kind and nice and love yourself and that's the BIGGEST WIN if you're able to really do it. Thanks for this video sissy, she's the older sister we all needed as a kid
You got this girl ♡ !
You have the right to do if you do so if you want to, if you are not happy with life at all, you didn't ask to be born anyway
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thank you for this amazing video ! at times i lose sight of the fact that i am capable of controlling my future and use my "issues / trauma" as an excuse. this was a great video to remind us that our trama / issues do not define us and we have every power to shape our future and take that first step. 💌
This video has helped me understand a lot on how to focus on myself, to be comfortable with myself, and care about my feelings. Thank you. I hope your healing journey is going well.
"You are on your own kid,you always have been"
No wonder no one asked to be born
I learned this through my hard journey with a friendship where it started all good but going on through time i keep getting drained and triggered that it keeps on activating my coping mechanism. Though we talked and talked about it, things keep on repeating, i keep being drained and i know we both are drained. And this video are just basically pointing out that i also have my own problems and they have their baggage they need to solve themselves. As a person who has always resolve things myself, being with a person who act like they wanted to be saved and fixed eventhough they said they aren't doing that is very hurtful. I now am focusing on fixing myself and seeking peace for myself and i hope they too can work for it themselves.
You know what,i have been stuck in this situation for quite a long time and will try to make changes thanks for making this videoo.
So am I
My best friend being to me rude. I don't know what to say to her behavior cuz I've never argued
Ive been dealing with depression and i was just sitting in my bed for a quite long while bur thanks to you I realized that escaping and hurting myself won't change anything. I need to work on myself because otherwise I won't be better but honestly it's still scary for me to challenge myself because I can't stand failing . I'll try little by little
OMG, I love your videos so much! It's so reassuring how you're able to explore such themes. It's almost like a therapy session. Sometimes we feel so misunderstood and alone, but we forget that many people are going through something similar as well. These videos are really helpful.❤
i’m only 15 but tbh your vids help me everyday and i finally started journaling! so far it’s really helped me with so much childhood trauma and i really appreciate all the journal entries you’ve made 🤗
thank you, im 13 and i suffer from social anxiety and depression. it took me a while to accept that because i believed that i wasnt suffering enough that i didnt deserve to feel bad for myself for not being good at things i wish i was good at, like my grades, i used to be horrible because i went through a long depression period, and i blamed myself like “why cant i be better?” even though i was at a disadvantage mentally and physically, i wasnt taking care of myself i wasnt doing daily tasks and my parents were getting really worked about it. for my social anxiety i always feared trying new things because trying new things meant chance at failure which is a good thing but i only saw it as a bad thing because i was always pressured to be the best because i was the “gifted, spoiled kid.” i didnt ask for any of this and yet i get held responsible for all of it. when my friend recommended me to trying track, i was very quick to decline but then i thought about it and i really wanted to try something different so i stepped out of my comfort zone. i obviously was the worst at track because i had never done it before and there are people that have been training years before me, but even so, it was still fun. i learned that i loved track, and i actually improved a lot by 10 seconds in the span of less than 15 days. so yeah im proud of getting out of my comfort zone, so if theres anything you want to do, do it. dont let your fears hold you back from becoming your best self. (sorry this was a long vent)
sobbing. struck really hard. you’re the big sister my big sister needs. thank u so much, via❤
A few months ago I’d been in a relationship where we hope from the other they “you will save me from ourselves” and obviously, that ended up in a toxic way to all. But seeing you, in all your videos being yourself with you, remind me how we can be without a person. My process is less hard, thx.
i needed this video right now. i got diagnosed with 4 mental illnesses this week and i’m terrified to work on getting treatment, but this was a good reminder that i’m not going to get better unless i do something about it and actually try to get to a healthy point. 💗
Genuinely, this made me cry. I realized that for a while now I’ve became too comfortable in my own sadness. But now that I’ve realized it, it’s just really hard to change the habit. It’s like choosing to go down a slide instead of taking the next step of stairs up. Right now I’m at the point where I already realized what’s happening but I’m not doing anything about it. I don’t know what’s going to happen to me
Honestly , I needed this
I love your videos sooo much thank you 😭😭😭
First episode I watched of yours. You have a very pure and fair way of assessing yourself and the world around you. I feel a lot of what you described. Lots of MAJOR life changing events (I won't mention) recently so this resonates with my spirit for sure.
hey via! hope you had a good week. i actually had therapy a couple days ago and this topic resonates with my situation a lot. i have always held the mindset that “i’m the only one that can solve my issues, so i shouldn’t burden anyone else with them.” i liked what you said about stepping out of your comfort zone and making change. because of my mindset, i have developed some issues communicating with others about what i’m going through, and i end up giving then the silent treatment as you also mentioned. i’m working to achieve a sort of happy medium between working through the issues on my own and telling my friends that i am going through things so they don’t get the wrong idea if i seem quiet or distant. anyways great vid! also rly cool seeing the progression in your editing skillset over the weeks and months
I really needed to watch this, thank you so much! I’m going through a 10-year relationship break up, and I feel the biggest reason for the relationship to come to an end was that I was always expecting her to fix all my issues; I’ve been trying since then to take ownership of my life and fix my own issues; it is a lonely and scary process, but watching this helps a lot and confirms I’m on the right path;
Love the channel, and I wish you all the best in your journey too!
Thank you for what you are doing. You use your tools and experience to help and inspire others, I am currently trying to go through a recovery process, it is going to be hard, but now I know that it is not undoable, and that some people actually made it. I am going to keep fighting for myself once and for all
Love it! You’re so wise for your age, i wasn’t even close to this when I was your age. Only now at age 30 am I learning this. You’re going to be just fine. Also it’s very normal to not have dated at your age. Take your time and be a solid person first and you will eventually meet someone who appreciates that and loves you for who you are