Therapist Secrets: How Therapists Feel About Their Clients

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  • Discover the transformative power of working with a therapist in this insightful video, Therapist Secrets! Whether you're contemplating starting therapy or simply curious about what therapists think, I've got you covered. Join me as I break down the essential role of a therapist and how their expertise can help you navigate life's challenges, enhance your emotional well-being, and achieve your personal goals.
    In this video, I'll explore the secrets that your therapist might not always tell you I'll also provide practical tips on maximizing your therapy experience. With a friendly yet assertive approach, I aim to empower you with the knowledge to make informed decisions about your own mental health and therapy journey.
    Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more valuable content on mental health and personal development. Hit the notification bell to stay updated on our latest videos! Together, let's demystify the world of therapy and discover how a therapist can be a powerful ally in your pursuit of a happier, healthier life. 🌟 #Therapist #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #WellBeing
    Ready to take the first step? Click play and start your journey with us!
    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Introduction
    01:24 What Your Therapist Thinks Initially
    02:18 Another Thought They Have
    03:06 And Another Thought or Two
    03:59 One Thing They DON'T Think
    05:11 Closing Thoughts
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  • @DrLeifSmith
    @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for stopping by! Check out my most popular video, 3 Secrets Your Therapist WON'T Tell You, here: th-cam.com/video/FD2o8OcCN7Y/w-d-xo.html

  • @jespermikkelsen7553
    @jespermikkelsen7553 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    3:55 If a therapist ever thinks of a client, how pathetic he or she is, or judge a client in a negative way, it's time for the therapist to find a new job

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I agree, because that means that the therapist is not in a good headspace anyway. This is why it is so important for us therapists to monitor our own well-being carefully.

  • @danarodzen9034
    @danarodzen9034 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I wish other therapists were like you. I have been judged by psychiatrist practitioner straight in the session and comparing me to herself on multiple occasions that she didn’t have problems going through her life where she started to telling me her problems instead of listening to mine and with her obstacles and comparing me how strong and ok she is which made me feel angry and hurt until on last session I just stopped her and put set my boundaries and told her that I won’t be treated like that and she is being rude and she is constantly putting me down.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m glad you set that boundary with her! That can be difficult to do in that sort of situation. Be proud of yourself, and go find a psychologist (psychiatrists typically dont make the best therapists, though they are needed for medication prescribing) whom you feel comfortable with.

    • @marymotherofgod4861
      @marymotherofgod4861 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Good for u u got rid of her I find a lot of nuts are in this field but I like
      This dude here he’s awesome🙏💜

  • @vivianesantana6162
    @vivianesantana6162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Wow. Thank you. As a patient, I’ve always wondered. This is really encouraging 👍🏻

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Viviane! I'm glad this video helped!

  • @quietcontraire
    @quietcontraire ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You know how medications often have possible adverse side effects mentioned? Well, whenever I used to go to therapy, I always felt anxious walking into the door and leaving the "broken, helpless, hopeless," etc. impression upon the professional. I thought that was a bad thing that would give bad results, as often is the case in public scenarios. Though at the same time, I also knew thinking such things was practically counterintuitive to the original reason I went into the office.
    This video really helped me get a new perspective on how I may be judged by the therapist. I shouldn't try to judge myself so harshly on an objective viewpoint, it's a vicious cycle. So thank you, thank you so so much!

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You are very welcome! We need to be more compassionate with ourselves. It is an important lesson

  • @LunaSky381
    @LunaSky381 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Aw thank you for sharing that. I often wondered. Good therapists are truly wonderful people. Thank you for your caring hearts all you therapists out there 🧡

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the kind comment, Johanna! Glad to have you as a part of my community here!

  • @fernandocastro3531
    @fernandocastro3531 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wow! This is awesome stuff. Also admire your guys courage to see people that have gone through a ton and feel the worst about themselves....

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks Fernando, I feel one of the best things I can do for people is to walk beside them through their most uncertain or troubling times.

  • @logicalapostate
    @logicalapostate 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was looking for an answer to a very different question when YT suggested this video. I am am a 100% disabled veteran specifically for PTSD. Though I know people want to jump to show appreciation, I share it only for context. My viewing of your video is quite fortuitous indeed. This was something I needed to hear and wasn't even aware of it.
    THANK YOU

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you! Im honored that you felt you got something of value out of this video. Hope you stay here and be a part of my growing community!

  • @ladytube64
    @ladytube64 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I like your video but the background music is very distracting. You can do without that...

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      thanks for the comment. The music is meant to distract from my face, though...

  • @isatodd87
    @isatodd87 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you ❤️

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @isatodd87 you are welcome, thanks for stopping by!

  • @lisareed9078
    @lisareed9078 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you!

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are welcome, and thanks for stopping by!

  • @fidgetykoala
    @fidgetykoala 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Watching this vid while populating the ABC model, I really hope my new therapist will be a good team member in this journey. The only thing I'm a bit scared is that she wants to test me for personality disorders, I mentioned I'm an online tests junkie and already did a few reputable ones online, I scored super high as avoidant (which is not surprise as I have GAD , first diagnosis was in 2013) but I have some BPD traits as well, at least from those tests.She kind of already made up her mind that I have BDP, this after 40 min sessions and a sum-up I wrote to her regarding important low-lights of my life.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      take it slow, and don't overthink it. You are not a diagnosis, so try not to get caught up in that. Thanks for your comment!

  • @tanyahuntley245
    @tanyahuntley245 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    😭 VA mental health providers are narcissistic and have ruined my peaceful life and made it so that I’ve lost everything and are mocking me . I’ve lost everything I own

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Tanya, sorry to hear about your experience at the VA, hope things get better for you soon!

  • @gauravsehra6326
    @gauravsehra6326 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lovely

  • @katecollins2982
    @katecollins2982 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I thought therapists did not endorse mind reading… how do you know what my therapist thinks of me? Okie dokie!

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      maybe because Im a therapist who has also trained hundreds of therapists over the years? : )

  • @birdseye_2020
    @birdseye_2020 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My therapist has mentioned twice now to contact him outside of session. First time, it was the recommendation that if I ever need an additional session to let him know. The second time was that I can email him whenever if I need to contact him outside of our session. Additionally, I notice that we tend to go overtime by a few minutes frequently. Those senarios singled out didn’t make me think much of it besides that perhaps he was just extending himself to help if need be. But the last two sessions I’ve had it feels like he wants to induce/provoke me into transference. He brought about trust and asked me an odd question. Which I thought my attendance and willingness to face issues and seeking out his guidance was that it’s unspoken but the trust is there. Now I doubt that he thinks I trust him. My question is could my therapist unconsciously be experiencing countertransference? Is he feeling attached? Hence why he’s recommending more contact.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Of course, this could be what's happening. If you feel that this is the case, I would recommend bringing it up in session.

    • @birdseye_2020
      @birdseye_2020 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@DrLeifSmith I will sit on this for a bit till I see a pattern of behaviour and can establish a baseline. But will definitely bring it up. Thank you for the feedback :)

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@birdseye_2020 you're welcome! You are very insightful

    • @birdseye_2020
      @birdseye_2020 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@DrLeifSmith Thank you, Dr.Smith. I appreciate it. 🙏☺️

    • @carol-kp3bk
      @carol-kp3bk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      contact outside of the therapeutic setting is an ethical violation by your therapist. it violates the rules of boundaries. while some people have difficulty setting and establishing boundaries, your therapist doesn't so by encouraging you to contact him for what you feel is inappropriate and is making you question the integrity of the therapeueic relationship, he is doing you a disservice. this is bad therapy. ideally you would be able to talk this through with him (i've questioned my own therapist when something she's said or done struck me wrong). that is and of itself is what therapy is about. Honest and difficult conversations, in my experience, have been the most rewarding and revelatory

  • @lone_wolf106
    @lone_wolf106 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What are you thinking when a patient repeated goes off meds or are doing other self-sabotaging behaviour?

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that is a great question Diane. First, meds serve a purpose in treatment, I agree, but they aren't a SOLUTION in and of themselves (for most mental health problems). But, to answer your question, when I feel a client is continually sabotaging themselves, I try to work with them to find the cause of this behavior. There's an approach-avoidance tension going on. They want the solution, but are worried/fearful/scared of the unknown that occurs on the other side.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Maybe I should make a video about this dynamic, actually!

  • @danielmccarthy2445
    @danielmccarthy2445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Lose the music

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But the music is supposed to distract from my face…!

    • @danielmccarthy2445
      @danielmccarthy2445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@DrLeifSmith haha, nothing wrong with your face mate.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@danielmccarthy2445 well thanks kind sir. Now, what should we do about my voice?! lol

    • @barbs1298
      @barbs1298 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yep, not just the music...the stupid clicking fingers in the background. Can't tune them out when they're there. The background music & clicking noise is unnecessary!!!

    • @Mulejaw
      @Mulejaw หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yip, drop it or turn it way down or maybe something ambient. The loop is very distacting

  • @Ilovecerealcerealcereal
    @Ilovecerealcerealcereal 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I always make my therapists cry so I googled this video

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      hi Kimberly! Do you keep raw onions in your purse during sessions?

  • @grassfedmilkmomma
    @grassfedmilkmomma ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I pay my therapist to listen to me and give me homework. He's not my friend or my lover so I don't care what he thinks since he's gonna reveal it in the homework lol

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hi Jamilla! Your therapist isn't a passive party in your progress! He is there to give you the feedback and instruction you need to move forward. Being human, we all care what others think about us! (and I include myself in that). Thanks for your comment!

  • @JohnDoe-vy5hh
    @JohnDoe-vy5hh 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Last summer I had a therapist who was abusive.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Im sorry to hear that, did you resolve that situation?

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ur a cool cat ❤

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thanks for the kind comment

  • @kateroth7154
    @kateroth7154 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Please kill the music.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      May it rest in peace forevermore…😎

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My Therapist is seeing a Therapist it’s the blind leading the blind I had to get rid of her😮

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      nothing wrong with a therapist getting therapy, but it sounds like there are also other factors in play with your former therapist!

  • @tonimontoya274
    @tonimontoya274 หลายเดือนก่อน

    1:0pm Sunday June 2nd. Dude, I couldn't make it past the first 2 or 3 minutes because of the obnoxious music. What is with everyone and the music in a psych video? I would like to hear content. Music just destroys any message and a big turn off from the information I would've enjoyed learning about. That's my view of this video I would've stayed engaged if there hadn't been obnoxious music throughout the talking.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Appreciate the feedback, thank you 🙏

    • @tonimontoya274
      @tonimontoya274 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What's sad is, I would've found this video beneficial at this point in my therapy. I have more than what I am able to handle on top of my weird therapy sessions with my current therapist. I'm moving my health and mental well-being to a different network so, I willb soon be away from my current therapist which I find necessary.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@tonimontoya274 here's hoping you find a better connection with your next therapist!

  • @danielmccarthy2445
    @danielmccarthy2445 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Now tell the truth, this is an advert for therapists lol

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well, technically, my entire YT channel is an advert for therapists, right?!

    • @danielmccarthy2445
      @danielmccarthy2445 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      True, I wasn't trying to be difficult...but let's be real, I'm sure it's not all rainbows and unicorns.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@danielmccarthy2445 You're right, it's not. Therapy is a difficult and nuanced process, on both sides.

  • @MsRotorwings
    @MsRotorwings 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What makes you think it’s appropriate to tell patients that you’re proud of them?
    Why would they care?
    As for not judging patients, you get paid not to judge. But if you had a family member in the same position there would be lots of judgements.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Thanks for your comment! I think it's perfectly appropriate to tell someone you are proud of them and all the hard work they've put into changing their life. Sometimes, I'm the only person in their life telling them such things!
      As for judging, we are ALWAYS judging, sometimes positively, sometimes negatively, but it's part of the human experience. I'm paid to help get people better, not to sit there like a potato and nod!

    • @ratchul
      @ratchul ปีที่แล้ว +5

      this is quite a negative comment, if you have a poor opinion on therapy, don't take it out on this man.

    • @DrLeifSmith
      @DrLeifSmith  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ratchul thanks!