These people will avoid their own shame & responsibility to such a degree that they will destroy other people and climb on top of them. They are unsafe They are blinded with anger & superiority. Be brave & tell someone you need help. Do not be afraid
Yes Andrew. Had no idea I was in this mess. All I felt was that things were wrong and I took most of the blame. Never knew words like gaslighting, traumabonding, discard and all the other terms. I felt like a defenceless child or a immature adult before finding this channel. It is hard to put into words exactly how it was for me. My heart goes out to those of you new here. Man! I know how tough it must be for you!! Never thought any of the shit I went through would be worthwhile sharing with anyone. Yet here I am encouraging others to hang in there and you will get past this one day. I am grateful to those of you who got here before I did, too. You jave helped me get to where I am now with your hearfelt honest comments! Thank all of you!
"Mess"-- that one word describes a lot of it. I'm glad you found this channel. I ran out of words to express my own luck on finding this place. Prior, I had no idea others went through this too.
All of the above. That's why I'm a shell it was as if it was suction out of my soul. I feel like a dim soul like legit a blowing out fire. Like eyes are in agony all the time I can't make eye contact with others because I don't want them 2 see the black, dark empty, grundge, dead body in my heart & soul.
You won't realize until the end, that they have been lying to you from the beginning. You were in love with a complete illusion, a lie, a fraud. Get out of this. You deserve another life. You will make it!!! This is a beautiful landscape you are in, Thank you Andrew. Good night ❤🌲🚄⛩🌿🙏
Time lost was angered me the most. I didnt know I was living a lie. Betrayed by someone who I thought loved me but was stringing me along. They do know what they are doing. Pay attention to actions. In the end that is what I did. I paid attention to words and actions and I got out. I won!
@@Liz-l3f Yes. 2 decades wasted plus the ‘aftermath’ years. Your words help. Didn’t know I was living a lie. (Like trapped in someone else’s fantasy.) Betrayed by someone I thought loved me. Stringing me along. It was so hard to accept, so much self doubt. I’d got so far down that I thought I couldn’t get out but I did. Like you I won (before he discarded me for the new supply he was lining up.) 👏🙏💪
Absolutely agree ..time lost is my biggest regret 😢THAT IS THE REASON we must pay our wisdom forward to those who don't know they need wisdom because they don't see the red flags. I was so confused by what on earth is wrong with this individual I never knew about the personality disorders. NPD'S
Yes often time it's too late because we are already in it like you said. But thank God it's never too late to get out of it and rebuild ourselves. Thanks Andrew. Have a great afternoon. ❤😊🫶🙏
This video honestly felt like you were describing my life. I’ve been with him 26 years and the red flags have always been there for years but I never knew what a narcissist was. No one told me. We separated multiple times in the last 11 years of our marriage and the last 7 years were the worst years ever. For months I couldn’t wrap my mind around how this man could be so absolutely cruel and mean….I have so many examples it’s too hard but one example was on my birthday this past Feb, I am a nurse and just worked 14 hours and I work 60 hrs a week. He does not work because according to him “he doesn’t have to work because I make plenty of money.” That night I finally after months of fighting and ignoring eachother which was just a vicious cycle for years he ended up coming barreling into the room I was sleeping in at 12 am and in the dark starts screaming at me like a lunatic because I questioned him about something with the heat upstairs. I just remember laying there in the dark in the middle of the night on my birthday with my heart racing for 2 hours and crying, sobbing and asking myself why? Why would he do something so horrible? Who does that to someone? He knows I just worked 14 hours and I’m exhausted but after finding this channel and therapy it’s like the clouds parted and the sun was shining and hit finally dawned on me that he doesn’t love me or respect me as a person. I pay for everything and he barely lifts a finger. He doesn’t clean he doesn’t cook and what’s worse is the verbal abuse in front of our son. My son is now 10 and I’ve been floating through life just numb, miserable exhausted and tired hoping things would change but I know now they won’t and I have to make the change and I’m starting that journey. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and it’s only started but my first step was I left the house and I took back control over my money. He convinced me to deposit my entire check into his account that I didn’t have access to because “I’m terrible with money” and I would have to ask him for cash. God I’ve been such an idiot all these years. What hurts the most is all the years of verbal abuse and the things he would call me in front of our son. I know I have a long road ahead of me and lots of therapy but I’m lucky I have an amazing family that is there for me. I just pray and take one day at a time. I thought to myself that this is just my life and I can’t leave him because he has no where to go and I was just accepting that. But now I think to myself what the hell was I thinking? Why did it take me so many years and so much sadness and pain. I think I would rate my narcissistic relationship on a scale of 1-10, probably a 9, 10 being the worst. I have some scary stories and moments that I can’t share but for once I finally see him for the sad pathetic man that he is.
I can relate to much of what you are describing. I too am a nurse, married to a low life who won't work or contribute. Keep educating yourself and the decision to leave will become crystal clear. He knows his time is limited, so be strong! For yourself and your child. Peace V✌💙
Please understand how strong you are to have coped with so much. Both you and your son will be much better off away from him. Plan your leaving carefully so he doesn't have a chance to react. It's good your family are supportive and you can soon begin healing. Blessings to you. ❤
Your making the absolutely best decision to leave not only for you but your son. I was in a similar situation to you and have two boys of my own. Know that if you got through all of that your stronger than you know or realize. You’ve got this. It hurts. You will struggle with it all. Breaking the trauma bond aside from leaving is seriously the hardest thing anyone has to go through. I still have ups and downs a year from leaving my husband. It’s ongoing healing but incrementally feeling better each day. You will get there too. Keep watching Andrew’s videos as they really do help and the more understanding around it you get the more healing happens. I sincerely wish you nothing but the best. Stay on the path no matter what happens and in time you will look back and say how did I get through that! Onto a better life for you. Take good care of yourself.
Don’t wind up spending your life with someone to one day years later only realize you’ve been so damaged that it’s almost impossible to recover from it. That happens. You see someone so together and so smart and on a great path and then…they can barely look at themselves in the mirror, there is almost nothing left of what they had been, they don’t even know how to act socially and they have no one, nothing left for them in their life. Do not stay silent… if you see this happening to someone please say something to the person.
Great video Andrew. Very true when I was in the narcissistic relationship, I didn't see the harm he was causing because it was so subtle and slow. Little things at first rude comments, or he would ignore me. I would always say oh he's just having a bad day. It just kept getting worse and I kept making excuses for him. I was in love and I didn't know that he was a narcissist and that he can't love anyone but himself. I couldn't wrap my mind around the lies he told and he made me think it was my fault and that something was wrong with me. But now that I'm out of the relationship I can see everything so clear, I think back to all the signs I ignored. Never again will I let someone treat me like that again. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for the video.
Narcs like to blame shift. No accountability as mine would say "I did nothing wrong." It was a mind warp. I was stunned by the behavior. I put up with it from him and his flying monkey family. These people are miserable and can only see what they can get for themselves. It's never their fault. They are always the victim. Don't walk, Run as fast as you can!!!
Recognizing the true extent of narcissistic abuse can be an arduous journey, often obscured by the very nature of the relationship. The insidious tactics employed by narcissists can manipulate our perception, making it challenging to see the toxicity from within. It takes immense strength and self-reflection to break through the fog, but once we do, we empower ourselves to reclaim our lives and establish healthier boundaries.
Dragging it out as long as possible using and abusing any and all supply/resources available including children and courts for maximum punishment. Until you stop caring 💥❤
We who know the One True God have come to understand narcissists are demons. Narcissists/demons have one job, to cause chaos and destruction. Once we become fully educated we understand this. We also understand narcissism is not rare, but all too common. We just couldn’t fully see it before. Its a very hard road but please take the hard road. If you don’t, the cycle will be on repeat in your life.
It's very spiritual when you see those BLACK EYES 👀 it's Demonic. Pray 🙏 in whatever belief you believe in and ask for protection because soul ties are real.
Mental Jujitsu....I like that!!😂😂😂 No matter what we do its like living in the game ca-plunk!! 🙃😲🤯🥴😉 Going to bed now, match sticks holding my eyes open....running on empty. " Incase I don't see ya....good morning, good day, good evening and good night "...( Trueman show ) love that documentary)!!😉 Very true, when the door to realising that they are a narc, we wake up instantly and THEN. .....the abundance begins to come in.❤🙏💪💯🌱💓💝😊🍀😊🍀😊🍀😊🍀
I love that movie the Truman show 🙂.. I like many of Jim Carrey’s movies from the 90s.. good afternoon good evening and good night to you too Maria and wishing you sweet dreams and a peaceful Wednesday when it arrives for you ❤❤🌙🌙
🎉 All true . The narc was never reliable. Never kept his promise of holidays for e.g.. So good to be out and to be me 😊. I'd forgotton who I was . His so boring to me now ..I love life again even better then before the narc . So if I can do it anyone can ❤🎉
I listened to this today and it was just the right time. Had to deal with the ex narcissist and it was a shit show but his daggers didn't hurt because I'm on the other side, but in his anger he actually admitted to taking advantage of me. I know I've come a long way because hearing him say it is a relief. Validates that I wasn't crazy. But when I was in it everything was devastating. The promise to be there and do something with you and then ghosting you, you texting them so many times and getting no answer...experienced that! Or they ghost you for a couple of days and come back with a casual "what's up" as if nothing happened, experienced that! It's really good to know that I'm not alone. And I can't blame myself for being a decent person who wanted to help my guy. I know the signs now and I'm stronger!
Great video, Andrew ... 100 % true. Painfully true. I had no clue, for years... I am thankful that I have learned how to protect myself from toxic and narcissistic people. I viewed video after video Andrew created as well as others, and I read through the comments on this channel and learned from the testimonials of veterans' experiences and the wisdom they shared, and I still do. Sometimes it wasn't easy and I made many mistakes in my personal healing process and it took me a while to stop accepting hoovers, but it finally sunk in, and that was a huge turning point in my personal healing process. I have to admit that sometimes I wondered if the healing path would ever end or even improve. I shed a lot of tears, got angry, learned to forgive myself and to be honest and learn how to let go of the negativity and adopt positivity in my thoughts,feelings, and words about myself. I developed boundaries and learned to trust my instincts, and it has greatly helped me. I still have good days and bad days, but I'm beginning to have more good than bad.I encourage the newbies to never give up, to keep learning. 😊
Its hard to believe, hard to face, hard to admit you have been manipulated, hard to go no contact, hard to grieve & hard to figure out a new life.... BUT, Its the most loving thing to do for ourselves. We are privileged to know the truth & have a chance for a healthy happy life & pass on the wisdom. God Bless all who walk this path 🎀😘
Hello from Deadwood, SD! This video really hit home! I watch your videos to reinforce my decision to leave the relationship (of nine years). Thank you 😊
I watch every day even listen to older videos over and over, to remind myself of what my ex-narcissist did to me.❤ Hang in there, for me it was a 12 year relationship. 🙏 Namaste
Why is taking care of my needs SO HARD! I am doing better at boundaries, it just feels so wrong, i walked on egg shells my whole life, caretaker and a yes person YU CK 😊
Narc saw my load, would rather sit and watch me do it. I would get upset and he would say, "All you have to do is ask". I would say, "You see what needs to be done, why should I have to ask?" I would never get a response and then he would punish me for being upset and not help at all.
"WHEN YOUR VISION BECAMES DISTORTED, YOUR JOURNEY BECOMES DELAYED." (famous quote) The other problem was that we IGNORED OUR "GUT" INSTINCTS AND OUR EMOTIONS. (We denied reality) Our vision become distorted with our own efforts to "FIX THE UNFIXABLE" and our need to "UNDERSTAND THE INSANITY" Radical Honesty and Acceptance. Blessings to all. Namaste ♥
Crossing that bridge to freedom you 💯 don’t see it when it the only one that can change is yourself whatever the relationship looking back I never felt like myself so if you’re feeling like this these are red flags if you’re questioning yourself on anyone around you listen to your inner self I didn’t for many years I was tangled in so many relationships ( marriage ,friendships and family) it’s not easy to remove yourself and they definitely are going to make it extremely difficult be true to who you are keep fighting for you get the education I’ve crossed that beautiful bridge with a better understanding of myself you too will so many of us had lost everything & had to rebuild keep going you’ve got this sending courage and strength to all that need 🙏💕🚂🚂loving your surroundings
Insult has been pouring onto my healing injury, slowly, the last four years. While healing from one, that I did'nt recognize, while, I was in it, another one appeared. This one, with their flying monkeys, their passive aggressive behaviors, their charm mask towards others, I see, and it has been a slow and subtle smear campaign. I continue to gray rock and placing more biundaries. The best way, is to stay completely away from toxic people, any way you can, as soon as you can.💯❤🙏🙌
Yes, I found out the hard way, it took 10 years of being continuously slapped in the face, one after the other before I said, "I'm done with people". Now I have peace!
You are right Andrew. Everything you said is true. It is vital to spread the knowledge about narcisistic abuse because lots of people are being abused and slowly destroyed everywhere on the planet. Covert narcisists are the most dangerous, they are sociopaths who are methodically erasing life and love from vulnerable and sensitive people. We must protect our most precious assets: TIME and our energy.
If i commented about everything you are spot on about in this video no one would read it because it would be chapters long... Children of narcissists are nothing more then extensions, vessels for narcissists to live vicariously through them, and energy...💙💯👍💪🙌
Newbies, it's only serious if you care about your Life. If you are on the fence, you could be facing a choice- live like half a person ( or less) or get out and away from a Narcissistic relationship ( and all residue of the love bombing memories). Taking the first choice-- if you're not eventually reduced to a fraction of what you were, you still may be able to hazily see your Narc walking on to the new supply. It will happen. Re-watch this video and let it sink in. Good One, Andrew!👍💯
The Universe many times sends us a crossroads to test us which path to take. Do we listen to our intuition and take the path to the right, or do we take the unknown path because we want something to be that never may?? When you're still attached to the energy cord, you can't see it, because you are in it. ❣️🕊
I used to have zero credit card debt I was in great shape I was playing tennis 5 days a week, owned 2 cars, my mortgage was paid off and I could do whatever I wanted. Now I have 18k in credit card debt multiple surgeries or hospital visits, I can’t see properly, no car, my dog is no longer with us on the planet… all of the above!
A server told me she loves my energy this evening. When I dedicate myself to being my best Version 3, I believe I am honoring my Divine nature. Grateful when Strangers express appreciation. Thank you Andrew and tribe. Blessings abound.❣️
Boy Andrew, the narcissist underestimated you, what a loser, so have mine. 😮 Losers!❤👍🏻. I don't wish this hell on anybody, but I'm grateful you can reach so many. I wish I'd been younger when I finally got to really see it. Namaste.😊
Your headline grabbed my attention. I recognise narcissistic types in my workplace, (aka..the playground). The traffic controller, (aka favourite teacher), gives the kids favourable (cream) work. I witnessed the teacher lying and gaslighting the manager last week. The manager doesn’t recognise narcissism. The kids and fave teacher are running circles around him. It’s real people. It’s in your workplace. Please listen to Andrew, he speaks the Truth. Andrew, thank you.
Yes, sometime after the discard it came to my mind that I could not see who he really was because I loved him. Lightbulb moment- who he really was. You will get there. It's just alot to digest. It will come in stages. But 1 day you will realize that they were never the person they portrayed in the beginning. In the healing process, that was the last thing for me to realize & accept. The person I met in the beginning never existed. It was all planned manipulation & deceit. You will get to the pinnacle of indifference. Give it alot of time. Be kind to yourself. Andrew, very good idea for a topic & title. And very excellent all encompassing video. God's blessings to you 🙂☀️☀️🐦
Thank you for helping me and thousands of others exit the relationship and for your help in the most difficult but ultimately rewarding journey of my life. You are saving lives and you are also helping people to live a much happier life. I wish you health, happiness and I hope that your journey continues its meteoric rise.
I wish I had remembered to say all that! Thank you for the kind, grateful words. Thank you so very much Andrew. May your journey continue to bless you as you have blessed so many. 🎉 ❤🙏🌎
Hello Andrew,My heart goes out to you with the loss of your dog 🐕. Dogs love us unconditionally. Financially, emotionally, and spiritually, the narcissist drained us . By learning about narcissism, my world has opened new freedom. Keep life simple,set boundaries, pay off debts , trust my gut, and give to God my heart and worship Him daily and seek wisdom and understanding.Give wisely and ask deep questions. Is this person a taker or a giver. Narcissists do not give from the heart . I lost my two cats by helping sibling back in 2016 for one year, and my sibling didn't apologize nor felt the isolation i felt coming home to an empty house from work post my sibling returned to their home. They never change. Pets are dear to many of us and help us to lower stress and feel loved. God bless all as your new knowledge gives you light and freedom. Newbies ,you will make it. Keep learning, go for walks. Deep breath. God will give you strength. He never changes. He knows pain and suffering but continues to love us.❤❤❤
Thank you for your words of wisdom, your time and your energy. You are such a positive force for survivors. My father was the first narcissist in my life… The healing process is under way. Thank you, Andrew! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 🙏 Namaste!
I get what you're saying about working hard and being your best self, then you're in your 40s, and you're somewhere you never thought you'd be, cleaning up the mess. It's disheartening, but it is what it is, and hopefully, people won't judge and see how brave and determined you're being.
True! You can’t wrap your head around the darkness in their pupils, the disdain they have for you, and the reality that they wanted to destroy you. It is literally demonic how they turn on you and show their true colors-reserved for a few select designees.
I have started a new chapter in my life, Narc Free. Working on the debt, caring for a friend who is end of life ALS, and growing a beautiful relationship with my male friend. It's been 20 months of freedom and peace is wonderful. I'm outside more, learning about the forest and wildlife; deer, woodchuck, beaver, and squirrels!!! I have found my place on 🌎 and feel great everyday! Love and prayers for all those healing souls and anyone dealing with illnesses.
ya.. everyone telling ya.. even by mother & sister warning not to date him because I was too nice for him.. oh, me.. so many people saw and tried to tell me.. It worked to keep people away from me.. Now.. 😊
It's my Sister. I have no car only a SS Check. I have no where to go. I feel frozen and so alone. I cannot afford an apartment on my own. I am ready to give up. North Carolina has no help anywhere.
On an SS check you can move into a low income affordable housing apartment in your state. Every state has low cost apartments. It's a federal program. You can apply and get your name on different waiting lists for different apartment buildings. Some or all utilities are subsidized (paid for) and the rent is a small portion of the SS or SSDI check. Some people who have no income pay nothing for affordable low cost housing. 🙏 ❤️
The highest peaks were reached by people who had the courage to take risks. Even when everything seemed to be against them. And when others didn't give them any chance. And that's because everything valuable in us is vulnerable. Deeply vulnerable. Because there are a lot of feelings. And a lot of soul. And it's worth fighting for. That's why people who have been at the bottom for the longest time have reached the highest peaks. Take a risk. And decide. Go on. Never back.
Oh my Exactly that’s exactly how it was. So draining. So tormenting. Especially when you are so kind & so soft spoken. You love 💕 greatly & had do much compassion. Forgiving & giving always so kind & generous . All the while they were know ing evil wicked plans to steal your peace & rob you from whatever they possibly could. But it’s so sad. No one could see it gor what it was.
it’s hard to watch my younger siblings sacrifice themselves for our parents. they’re so enmeshed that my siblings have become crippled adults. it makes me so sad. the last thing i wanted to do was - plant the seed of awareness before going no-contact. unfortunately they chose “not to see it” but that was of course likely to happen anyway. I hope one day they wake up from this tho, sooner than later. only time will tell🤞
Andrew your videos saved me. I was able to get my wife into couples counseling and her true colors started to show. When narcissists are backed against a wall, they will use all kinds of tactics to somehow put the spotlight on you, and make you the problem. All counseling did was confirm what I already knew. She refused to change all the way to the end. Then proceeded to send messages about how she broke our relationship and wished things could work out. Whether she was a narcissist or not, the relationship was toxic, and she was somehow ok with it. We're getting a divorce now. It sucks, but for some reason I still care for her a little. The next step is to get counseling for myself, so that I can move one properly.
Wow. Andrew. God bless you. I'm so sad and sorry to hear about your dog. Your life path has led you through some very extreme times, moments, and challenges, especially with narcissism. These life experiences have brought you to such incredible growth, strength, and purpose. You're amazing. You've turned this part of your life into something so positive not only for yourself but so many others. As we see here on your channel, you've helped and changed so many lives and encouraged others here in this community to help others wherever they are in or out of these toxic relationships. Genius and so positive. Excellent video and content. Keep doing what you're doing, Andrew. You are a big bright, beautiful star. Keep spreading your light 🌟
Dear Andrew Dear Star told me that you are healed from your horrific experience Makes me very very happy to know that G-D bless your beautiful soul forever for all you do for humanity ! It is truly very very Godly and very very spiritual to do Have a beautiful beautiful day and life with your two pups Take care Tamar
Thank you Andrew for the education that you give to us. I lost soo much time with the narcissist that I regret so uch. 36 years is a lot in an abusive relationship but GOD has seen me through and now am out. This is one of the best video I have listened to. Keep up educating guys because so many people are suffering and don't have the confidence to walk away from the abusive person.
So true what Andrew says . You can only actually see the toxic relationship, and the ways you were treated appallingly, when you have distance and time away from them. My 8 years relationship, also had me finding out after he had discarded me, he had been using a false sir name all of that time . I felt sick to the stomach, but now realise these Parasites are heartless, master Manipulators, and we are better off by ourselves than to exist living into their false complete nonsense
Thank you so much Andrew. I am learning so much from you and your messages. I hope you realize the impact you have on people. I appreciate you from my soul. Much blessings to you. I’ll see you tomorrow. Namaste
I am amazed you stayed so focused on your message without losing your train of thought! Well said Andrew, as usual. I was in a similar relationship for over 20 years. I’m pretty much losing everything I’ve worked towards and invested in because I was disillusioned into believing his fake narrative, falling for his never ending self victimization and gaslighting. I’m done yet still have some noise to walk through to get out of this mess. I find you videos very inspiring. Thank you!
So true, so true… thank you for your words of wisdom! Please do a video about when the covert narcissist actually accuses their spouse of being a manipulator when they are the one actually playing mind games and emotional games.
This title makes me sad 😢 .. I thought this man loved me .. I felt like a big fool .. but the real fool is him for losing a person who cares and loved him
Thank you, Andrew, your videos are great and you are correct, they do NOT teach this but they should. Hopefully women have a good father and mother raising them so they are less likely to accept bad behavior…unfortunately many did not. Thanks for what you are doing it is making a difference.
You can't see the forest for the trees, i know exactly what you mean 25 years with 3 kids, i knew something was off but could not put a name on it, like an exorcism..you can't expell the demon unless you know it's name,... my demon exorcised now, these videos have helped me so much on the healing path
I went through the entire relationship going to places by myself yet he expected me to go to whatever function he wanted me to accompany him. I have given many examples previously, but when you are in it you don't see it, but once you gain the wisdom then it becomes crystal clear. Love the scenery and the train, but I like the windchimes better😊❤
Thank you so much we love you your education saved me last year . We cant see it because of our addiction to suffer and pain . We have been conditioned to consume suffering Because of abusive childhood . I recommend you to heal like me in a daily 12 steps group that helps me to grow as a healthy adult . Like drugs if you are in it you wont see it . I pray for you and for your - pain adficted friends to heal from this horfible pain
I started down the rabbit hole because of a romantic relationship (which actually never was romantic or a relationship in retrospect) and it blows my mind that so many other people I dealt with were narc situations as well. The moving situation was 💯 spot on! Thank you Andrew and community ❤️
There's a lot of good channels and they do get the point across about narcissist but the detail that you state is just so amazing because it's so right on
🙏 isn't Hindsight a Wonderful thing.. keep Looking Back.. but do not STaRe... ... to long, you may see to much you were Blind to.. 🙏.... Thank you Andrew..🤠🙏, Move on One and all! Get out of the WhirLpool!
Why empath HAVE you helped so many move, are you big and burly or good at packing those fragile dishes? Nope... Cuz nobody else WOULD... The thing you must hang dearly onto... Just know most won't be there when you call 🤙 in your hour of need... And you'll be just like the person you're helping now who simply needs an extra hand. And even though you know you'll most likely never even visit them let alone be there in your hour of need, long story short karma don't give a crap, and ya don't want somebody handing your life in boxes that doesn't care about or know you... That's why it sucks so bad.... And why you're so awesome... Because even to a stranger, you can't say no, you retain COMPASSION... that is your reward on which you can lean.
Love your knowledge Andrew and your videos. Could we have a video on simple replies we could use when we are up against the Narcissist in tricky situations. I love this one " how could you possibly know what I'm thinking because you are not me" works a treat and so on, I think it would be helpful and great for the community to have some simple replies on hand to shut the narcissists down. Blessings Andrew 💕🙏
Somehow the narc would misconstrue whatever you said and make it look like it's all your fault. It almost doesn't matter what you say, it will get twisted in to an unrecognizable attack.
Oh Andrew you are so true right when you said boom boom boom is true I was manipulated I was going out of my mind cuz I thought that was what a good person and I know him from 1978 I know him since oh my God forever so it's like why did he had to do that well you know how do you say relationships like that's only seasonal thank you so much Andrew I appreciate it thank you for this video and his advice
True. For years and years I had someone tell me (and others) that I considered to be a narcissist, always told me when they cooked dinner it would be ready at a certain time but it was always two to three hours later. So every one came to know what ever the narcissist said about dinner time, to come two hours later than what we were told. They held their food hostage over us. 😢
These people will avoid their own shame & responsibility to such a degree that they will destroy other people and climb on top of them. They are unsafe They are blinded with anger & superiority. Be brave & tell someone you need help. Do not be afraid
In today society most individuals dont want to seek therapy
I didn't see it because I grew up in a terribly narcissistic family. I thought narcissists were normal people.
That is the impression you get, that everyone is like this to some degree.
Yes Andrew. Had no idea I was in this mess. All I felt was that things were wrong and I took most of the blame. Never knew words like gaslighting, traumabonding, discard and all the other terms. I felt like a defenceless child or a immature adult before finding this channel. It is hard to put into words exactly how it was for me. My heart goes out to those of you new here. Man! I know how tough it must be for you!! Never thought any of the shit I went through would be worthwhile sharing with anyone. Yet here I am encouraging others to hang in there and you will get past this one day. I am grateful to those of you who got here before I did, too. You jave helped me get to where I am now with your hearfelt honest comments! Thank all of you!
Same with me. I've been learning thanks to Andrew's sharing on his channel.
Thank you Richard for your heart felt words.Thank God for others that understand! 👍
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So true. They keep you confused and drained until you can't even think straight. ❤
"Mess"-- that one word describes a lot of it. I'm glad you found this channel. I ran out of words to express my own luck on finding this place. Prior, I had no idea others went through this too.
All of the above. That's why I'm a shell it was as if it was suction out of my soul. I feel like a dim soul like legit a blowing out fire. Like eyes are in agony all the time I can't make eye contact with others because I don't want them 2 see the black, dark empty, grundge, dead body in my heart & soul.
Young people, get out NOW. Don't waste your precious life ❣️
💯✌️😎. When your intuition is telling you something is wrong or up listen to it. 🙏😇
💜Yes. Ignoring it when I feel confused is a mistake.
Hi Sir!
Very glad to read that you understand to follow and listen to your intuition.
Wishing you a very very beautiful day!
Tamar
@@tamargoldstein2451 Thank you ✌️ I hope you have a great evening yourself. I appreciate the kind words.
@@jessmason2112You are very very welcome !
Wishing you a real great evening
Tamar
@@tamargoldstein2451 🙏😇✌️
You won't realize until the end,
that they have been lying to you from the beginning.
You were in love with a complete illusion, a lie, a fraud.
Get out of this. You deserve another life. You will make it!!!
This is a beautiful landscape you are in, Thank you Andrew. Good night
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Yes Andrew, you are totally right: time lost is the biggest regret.💛
Time lost was angered me the most. I didnt know I was living a lie. Betrayed by someone who I thought loved me but was stringing me along. They do know what they are doing. Pay attention to actions. In the end that is what I did. I paid attention to words and actions and I got out. I won!
@@Liz-l3f Yes. 2 decades wasted plus the ‘aftermath’ years. Your words help. Didn’t know I was living a lie. (Like trapped in someone else’s fantasy.) Betrayed by someone I thought loved me. Stringing me along. It was so hard to accept, so much self doubt. I’d got so far down that I thought I couldn’t get out but I did. Like you I won (before he discarded me for the new supply he was lining up.) 👏🙏💪
That's it. Time is the valuable thing. Only the narcissist's time is a priority.
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Absolutely agree ..time lost is my biggest regret 😢THAT IS THE REASON we must pay our wisdom forward to those who don't know they need wisdom because they don't see the red flags. I was so confused by what on earth is wrong with this individual I never knew about the personality disorders. NPD'S
Totally agree! They’re out to destroy your soul. Run ..
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Yes often time it's too late because we are already in it like you said. But thank God it's never too late to get out of it and rebuild ourselves. Thanks Andrew. Have a great afternoon. ❤😊🫶🙏
"Save your energy for yourself 🔥🔥🔥Wake up from the fog. You are not alone. When you are not in it. You can't see it."
This video honestly felt like you were describing my life. I’ve been with him 26 years and the red flags have always been there for years but I never knew what a narcissist was. No one told me. We separated multiple times in the last 11 years of our marriage and the last 7 years were the worst years ever. For months I couldn’t wrap my mind around how this man could be so absolutely cruel and mean….I have so many examples it’s too hard but one example was on my birthday this past Feb, I am a nurse and just worked 14 hours and I work 60 hrs a week. He does not work because according to him “he doesn’t have to work because I make plenty of money.” That night I finally after months of fighting and ignoring eachother which was just a vicious cycle for years he ended up coming barreling into the room I was sleeping in at 12 am and in the dark starts screaming at me like a lunatic because I questioned him about something with the heat upstairs. I just remember laying there in the dark in the middle of the night on my birthday with my heart racing for 2 hours and crying, sobbing and asking myself why? Why would he do something so horrible? Who does that to someone? He knows I just worked 14 hours and I’m exhausted but after finding this channel and therapy it’s like the clouds parted and the sun was shining and hit finally dawned on me that he doesn’t love me or respect me as a person. I pay for everything and he barely lifts a finger. He doesn’t clean he doesn’t cook and what’s worse is the verbal abuse in front of our son. My son is now 10 and I’ve been floating through life just numb, miserable exhausted and tired hoping things would change but I know now they won’t and I have to make the change and I’m starting that journey. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and it’s only started but my first step was I left the house and I took back control over my money. He convinced me to deposit my entire check into his account that I didn’t have access to because “I’m terrible with money” and I would have to ask him for cash. God I’ve been such an idiot all these years. What hurts the most is all the years of verbal abuse and the things he would call me in front of our son. I know I have a long road ahead of me and lots of therapy but I’m lucky I have an amazing family that is there for me. I just pray and take one day at a time. I thought to myself that this is just my life and I can’t leave him because he has no where to go and I was just accepting that. But now I think to myself what the hell was I thinking? Why did it take me so many years and so much sadness and pain. I think I would rate my narcissistic relationship on a scale of 1-10, probably a 9, 10 being the worst. I have some scary stories and moments that I can’t share but for once I finally see him for the sad pathetic man that he is.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏😌🙌💯
I can relate to much of what you are describing. I too am a nurse, married to a low life who won't work or contribute. Keep educating yourself and the decision to leave will become crystal clear. He knows his time is limited, so be strong! For yourself and your child. Peace V✌💙
Please understand how strong you are to have coped with so much. Both you and your son will be much better off away from him. Plan your leaving carefully so he doesn't have a chance to react.
It's good your family are supportive and you can soon begin healing. Blessings to you. ❤
Your making the absolutely best decision to leave not only for you but your son. I was in a similar situation to you and have two boys of my own.
Know that if you got through all of that your stronger than you know or realize. You’ve got this.
It hurts. You will struggle with it all. Breaking the trauma bond aside from leaving is seriously the hardest thing anyone has to go through. I still have ups and downs a year from leaving my husband. It’s ongoing healing but incrementally feeling better each day. You will get there too. Keep watching Andrew’s videos as they really do help and the more understanding around it you get the more healing happens.
I sincerely wish you nothing but the best. Stay on the path no matter what happens and in time you will look back and say how did I get through that! Onto a better life for you. Take good care of yourself.
Try Sam Vaknin videos too for a really in depth explanation of this personality disorder.
Don’t wind up spending your life with someone to one day years later only realize you’ve been so damaged that it’s almost impossible to recover from it. That happens. You see someone so together and so smart and on a great path and then…they can barely look at themselves in the mirror, there is almost nothing left of what they had been, they don’t even know how to act socially and they have no one, nothing left for them in their life. Do not stay silent… if you see this happening to someone please say something to the person.
Great video Andrew. Very true when I was in the narcissistic relationship, I didn't see the harm he was causing because it was so subtle and slow. Little things at first rude comments, or he would ignore me. I would always say oh he's just having a bad day. It just kept getting worse and I kept making excuses for him. I was in love and I didn't know that he was a narcissist and that he can't love anyone but himself. I couldn't wrap my mind around the lies he told and he made me think it was my fault and that something was wrong with me. But now that I'm out of the relationship I can see everything so clear, I think back to all the signs I ignored. Never again will I let someone treat me like that again. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for the video.
We have learned a great lesson!😅
Narcs like to blame shift. No accountability as mine would say "I did nothing wrong." It was a mind warp. I was stunned by the behavior. I put up with it from him and his flying monkey family. These people are miserable and can only see what they can get for themselves. It's never their fault. They are always the victim. Don't walk, Run as fast as you can!!!
All there many bad days😂
Recognizing the true extent of narcissistic abuse can be an arduous journey, often obscured by the very nature of the relationship. The insidious tactics employed by narcissists can manipulate our perception, making it challenging to see the toxicity from within. It takes immense strength and self-reflection to break through the fog, but once we do, we empower ourselves to reclaim our lives and establish healthier boundaries.
Immense strength but just like how they slow cooked you, YOU can with Gods help turn the Titanic around. It begins with the decision
Yes absolutely!
Dragging it out as long as possible using and abusing any and all supply/resources available including children and courts for maximum punishment. Until you stop caring 💥❤
I think if they are lower on the spectrum and even capable of loving another… they don’t love us the way we deserve to be loved…
We who know the One True God have come to understand narcissists are demons. Narcissists/demons have one job, to cause chaos and destruction. Once we become fully educated we understand this. We also understand narcissism is not rare, but all too common. We just couldn’t fully see it before. Its a very hard road but please take the hard road. If you don’t, the cycle will be on repeat in your life.
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So true.
It's very spiritual when you see those BLACK EYES 👀 it's Demonic. Pray 🙏 in whatever belief you believe in and ask for protection because soul ties are real.
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The narcissist is about competition, the empath is about completion. ❤
Love you survivors! ☀️ better days are coming
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Thank you!! ❤
Mental Jujitsu....I like that!!😂😂😂
No matter what we do its like living in the game ca-plunk!!
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Going to bed now, match sticks holding my eyes open....running on empty.
" Incase I don't see ya....good morning, good day, good evening and good night "...( Trueman show ) love that documentary)!!😉
Very true, when the door to realising that they are a narc, we wake up instantly and THEN. .....the abundance begins to come in.❤🙏💪💯🌱💓💝😊🍀😊🍀😊🍀😊🍀
I love that movie the Truman show 🙂.. I like many of Jim Carrey’s movies from the 90s.. good afternoon good evening and good night to you too Maria and wishing you sweet dreams and a peaceful Wednesday when it arrives for you ❤❤🌙🌙
1 yr free today!!!❤ ty Andrew for all your wisdom this past yr 🙏
👍💪🙌 i am very happy for you. Have a great evening and night 💞🤗
Congrats! ❤❤❤
Thanks! Nars work against we Empaths! To get the service out of us, …….. to serve them! Mean people 🤦♀️
🎉 All true . The narc was never reliable. Never kept his promise of holidays for e.g.. So good to be out and to be me 😊. I'd forgotton who I was . His so boring to me now ..I love life again even better then before the narc . So if I can do it anyone can ❤🎉
Got ghosted recently and was shocked cuz I " thought " we were friends. Nope I was wrong. They were working against me.
Thank you
I listened to this today and it was just the right time. Had to deal with the ex narcissist and it was a shit show but his daggers didn't hurt because I'm on the other side, but in his anger he actually admitted to taking advantage of me. I know I've come a long way because hearing him say it is a relief. Validates that I wasn't crazy. But when I was in it everything was devastating. The promise to be there and do something with you and then ghosting you, you texting them so many times and getting no answer...experienced that! Or they ghost you for a couple of days and come back with a casual "what's up" as if nothing happened, experienced that! It's really good to know that I'm not alone. And I can't blame myself for being a decent person who wanted to help my guy. I know the signs now and I'm stronger!
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Great video, Andrew ... 100 % true. Painfully true. I had no clue, for years... I am thankful that I have learned how to protect myself from toxic and narcissistic people. I viewed video after video Andrew created as well as others, and I read through the comments on this channel and learned from the testimonials of veterans' experiences and the wisdom they shared, and I still do. Sometimes it wasn't easy and I made many mistakes in my personal healing process and it took me a while to stop accepting hoovers, but it finally sunk in, and that was a huge turning point in my personal healing process. I have to admit that sometimes I wondered if the healing path would ever end or even improve. I shed a lot of tears, got angry, learned to forgive myself and to be honest and learn how to let go of the negativity and adopt positivity in my thoughts,feelings, and words about myself. I developed boundaries and learned to trust my instincts, and it has greatly helped me. I still have good days and bad days, but I'm beginning to have more good than bad.I encourage the newbies to never give up, to keep learning. 😊
I think you are a fabulous person, Mary!😊❤
@emilywilson7308 Thank you, Emily. So are you. 😊
@janetdavis not yet, but I will have to check it out. Thanks for bringing it up. 🙏
@@marybarton5651 Much admiration🌈🌻🌸
Its hard to believe, hard to face, hard to admit you have been manipulated,
hard to go no contact, hard to grieve & hard to figure out a new life.... BUT,
Its the most loving thing to do for ourselves. We are privileged to know the truth & have a chance for a healthy happy life & pass on the wisdom.
God Bless all who walk this path 🎀😘
Hello from Deadwood, SD! This video really hit home! I watch your videos to reinforce my decision to leave the relationship (of nine years). Thank you 😊
I watch every day even listen to older videos over and over, to remind myself of what my ex-narcissist did to me.❤ Hang in there, for me it was a 12 year relationship. 🙏 Namaste
Oh heck! Newcastle now in guernsey! Heeey!! 👋
Why is taking care of my needs SO HARD! I am doing better at boundaries, it just feels so wrong, i walked on egg shells my whole life, caretaker and a yes person YU CK 😊
Narc saw my load, would rather sit and watch me do it. I would get upset and he would say, "All you have to do is ask". I would say, "You see what needs to be done, why should I have to ask?" I would never get a response and then he would punish me for being upset and not help at all.
Must be that they're so paranoid that they can practically read minds, and that they assume everyone else thinks like them. 🙄
The universe, I will go with that.
"WHEN YOUR VISION BECAMES DISTORTED, YOUR JOURNEY BECOMES DELAYED." (famous quote) The other problem was that we IGNORED OUR "GUT" INSTINCTS AND OUR EMOTIONS. (We denied reality) Our vision become distorted with our own efforts to "FIX THE UNFIXABLE" and our need to "UNDERSTAND THE INSANITY" Radical Honesty and Acceptance. Blessings to all. Namaste ♥
You said it...plain & simple!!! 👍
Keep up the good work Lourdes!
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Crossing that bridge to freedom you 💯 don’t see it when it the only one that can change is yourself whatever the relationship looking back I never felt like myself so if you’re feeling like this these are red flags if you’re questioning yourself on anyone around you listen to your inner self I didn’t for many years I was tangled in so many relationships ( marriage ,friendships and family) it’s not easy to remove yourself and they definitely are going to make it extremely difficult be true to who you are keep fighting for you get the education I’ve crossed that beautiful bridge with a better understanding of myself you too will so many of us had lost everything & had to rebuild keep going you’ve got this sending courage and strength to all that need 🙏💕🚂🚂loving your surroundings
Insult has been pouring onto my healing injury, slowly, the last four years. While healing from one, that I did'nt recognize, while, I was in it, another one appeared. This one, with their flying monkeys, their passive aggressive behaviors, their charm mask towards others, I see, and it has been a slow and subtle smear campaign. I continue to gray rock and placing more biundaries. The best way, is to stay completely away from toxic people, any way you can, as soon as you can.💯❤🙏🙌
Yes, I found out the hard way, it took 10 years of being continuously slapped in the face, one after the other before I said, "I'm done with people". Now I have peace!
You are right Andrew. Everything you said is true. It is vital to spread the knowledge about narcisistic abuse because lots of people are being abused and slowly destroyed everywhere on the planet. Covert narcisists are the most dangerous, they are sociopaths who are methodically erasing life and love from vulnerable and sensitive people. We must protect our most precious assets: TIME and our energy.
If i commented about everything you are spot on about in this video no one would read it because it would be chapters long...
Children of narcissists are nothing more then extensions, vessels for narcissists to live vicariously through them, and energy...💙💯👍💪🙌
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Newbies, it's only serious if you care about your Life. If you are on the fence, you could be facing a choice- live like half a person ( or less) or get out and away from a Narcissistic
relationship ( and all residue of the love bombing memories). Taking the first choice-- if you're not eventually reduced to a fraction of what you were, you still may be able to hazily see your Narc walking on to the new supply. It will happen. Re-watch this video and let it sink in. Good One, Andrew!👍💯
The Universe many times sends us a crossroads to test us which path to take. Do we listen to our intuition and take the path to the right, or do we take the unknown path because we want something to be that never may?? When you're still attached to the energy cord, you can't see it, because you are in it. ❣️🕊
Insightful. ✌️😎
Believe in the one who created the universe. It makes more sense. Jesus is Lord.
I used to have zero credit card debt I was in great shape I was playing tennis 5 days a week, owned 2 cars, my mortgage was paid off and I could do whatever I wanted. Now I have 18k in credit card debt multiple surgeries or hospital visits, I can’t see properly, no car, my dog is no longer with us on the planet… all of the above!
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Hi sweet man are growing a beard 🤩👌☺️ beautiful scenery loved seeing you today andrew enjoy your night 🌟 😊
Ohhh, love the gazebo and bridge-how quaint!! 🩵💚💙🧡
A server told me she loves my energy this evening. When I dedicate myself to being my best Version 3, I believe I am honoring my Divine nature. Grateful when
Strangers express appreciation. Thank you Andrew and tribe.
Blessings abound.❣️
Truth. Sad but the truth.
Andrew👉🏽👏🏽👍🏾🙏🏽❤️✋🏾💯
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They are good at what they do
Boy Andrew, the narcissist underestimated you, what a loser, so have mine.
😮 Losers!❤👍🏻.
I don't wish this hell on anybody, but I'm grateful you can reach so many. I wish I'd been younger when I finally got to really see it.
Namaste.😊
Namaste 😌🙏🙌
It's funny, when I was in it, I never once refered to it as a "relationship", I ALWAYS refered to it as a COPING EXPERIENCE!
Your headline grabbed my attention.
I recognise narcissistic types in my workplace, (aka..the playground).
The traffic controller, (aka favourite teacher), gives the kids favourable (cream) work.
I witnessed the teacher lying and gaslighting the manager last week.
The manager doesn’t recognise narcissism. The kids and fave teacher are running circles around him.
It’s real people. It’s in your workplace.
Please listen to Andrew, he speaks the Truth.
Andrew, thank you.
Welcome 🙌😌🙏
Yes, sometime after the discard it came to my mind that I could not see who he really was because I loved him. Lightbulb moment- who he really was. You will get there. It's just alot to digest. It will come in stages. But 1 day you will realize that they were never the person they portrayed in the beginning. In the healing process, that was the last thing for me to realize & accept. The person I met in the beginning never existed. It was all planned manipulation & deceit.
You will get to the pinnacle of indifference. Give it alot of time. Be kind to yourself.
Andrew, very good idea for a topic & title. And very excellent all encompassing video. God's blessings to you 🙂☀️☀️🐦
That's the worst of it to me, waiting for them to "come back" to you, when what you don't realize is that they never really were that person at all. ❤
@@cc1k435 Yep. It's heartbreaking.
Thank you for helping me and thousands of others exit the relationship and for your help in the most difficult but ultimately rewarding journey of my life.
You are saving lives and you are also helping people to live a much happier life.
I wish you health, happiness and I hope that your journey continues its meteoric rise.
I wish I had remembered to say all that!
Thank you for the kind, grateful words.
Thank you so very much Andrew. May your journey continue to bless you as you have blessed so many.
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Awakened. Aware. Educated. Empowered. New sub. Excellent wording! Thanks!!
Hello Andrew,My heart goes out to you with the loss of your dog 🐕. Dogs love us unconditionally.
Financially, emotionally, and spiritually, the narcissist drained us . By learning about narcissism, my world has opened new freedom. Keep life simple,set boundaries, pay off debts , trust my gut, and give to God my heart and worship Him daily and seek wisdom and understanding.Give wisely and ask deep questions. Is this person a taker or a giver. Narcissists do not give from the heart .
I lost my two cats by helping sibling back in 2016 for one year, and my sibling didn't apologize nor felt the isolation i felt coming home to an empty house from work post my sibling returned to their home.
They never change.
Pets are dear to many of us and help us to lower stress and feel loved.
God bless all as your new knowledge gives you light and freedom. Newbies ,you will make it. Keep learning, go for walks. Deep breath. God will give you strength. He never changes. He knows pain and suffering but continues to love us.❤❤❤
Thank you for your words of wisdom, your time and your energy. You are such a positive force for survivors. My father was the first narcissist in my life… The healing process is under way. Thank you, Andrew! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 🙏 Namaste!
I get what you're saying about working hard and being your best self, then you're in your 40s, and you're somewhere you never thought you'd be, cleaning up the mess. It's disheartening, but it is what it is, and hopefully, people won't judge and see how brave and determined you're being.
True! You can’t wrap your head around the darkness in their pupils, the disdain they have for you, and the reality that they wanted to destroy you. It is literally demonic how they turn on you and show their true colors-reserved for a few select designees.
Listen to Andrew ! Revelation 11:11 stand up for yourself life gets better . This too shall pass. Love from Socorro nm.
He was chilling while I was running the house.😢
SOOOO TRUE!!! 💯 ❤😊
I have started a new chapter in my life, Narc Free. Working on the debt, caring for a friend who is end of life ALS, and growing a beautiful relationship with my male friend. It's been 20 months of freedom and peace is wonderful. I'm outside more, learning about the forest and wildlife; deer, woodchuck, beaver, and squirrels!!! I have found my place on 🌎 and feel great everyday! Love and prayers for all those healing souls and anyone dealing with illnesses.
The problem is its everywhere
True words!! Well explained! I don’t miss those days at all! Whew it is lovely to be FREEEEE TO BE ME❤️❤️❤️
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Andrew...this titel is just brilliant. 👍💯
ya.. everyone telling ya.. even by mother & sister warning not to date him because I was too nice for him.. oh, me.. so many people saw and tried to tell me.. It worked to keep people away from me.. Now.. 😊
PROFITEURS,uitzuigers, Thank you❤🙏
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It's my Sister. I have no car only a SS Check. I have no where to go. I feel frozen and so alone. I cannot afford an apartment on my own. I am ready to give up. North Carolina has no help anywhere.
On an SS check you can move into a low income affordable housing apartment in your state. Every state has low cost apartments. It's a federal program. You can apply and get your name on different waiting lists for different apartment buildings. Some or all utilities are subsidized (paid for) and the rent is a small portion of the SS or SSDI check. Some people who have no income pay nothing for affordable low cost housing. 🙏 ❤️
The highest peaks were reached by people who had the courage to take risks. Even when everything seemed to be against them. And when others didn't give them any chance. And that's because everything valuable in us is vulnerable. Deeply vulnerable. Because there are a lot of feelings. And a lot of soul. And it's worth fighting for. That's why people who have been at the bottom for the longest time have reached the highest peaks. Take a risk. And decide. Go on. Never back.
Oh my Exactly that’s exactly how it was. So draining. So tormenting. Especially when you are so kind & so soft spoken. You love 💕 greatly & had do much compassion. Forgiving & giving always so kind & generous . All the while they were know ing evil wicked plans to steal your peace & rob you from whatever they possibly could. But it’s so sad. No one could see it gor what it was.
it’s hard to watch my younger siblings sacrifice themselves for our parents. they’re so enmeshed that my siblings have become crippled adults. it makes me so sad. the last thing i wanted to do was - plant the seed of awareness before going no-contact. unfortunately they chose “not to see it” but that was of course likely to happen anyway. I hope one day they wake up from this tho, sooner than later. only time will tell🤞
Andrew your videos saved me. I was able to get my wife into couples counseling and her true colors started to show.
When narcissists are backed against a wall, they will use all kinds of tactics to somehow put the spotlight on you, and make you the problem.
All counseling did was confirm what I already knew. She refused to change all the way to the end. Then proceeded to send messages about how she broke our relationship and wished things could work out.
Whether she was a narcissist or not, the relationship was toxic, and she was somehow ok with it.
We're getting a divorce now. It sucks, but for some reason I still care for her a little.
The next step is to get counseling for myself, so that I can move one properly.
Wow. Andrew. God bless you. I'm so sad and sorry to hear about your dog. Your life path has led you through some very extreme times, moments, and challenges, especially with narcissism. These life experiences have brought you to such incredible growth, strength, and purpose. You're amazing. You've turned this part of your life into something so positive not only for yourself but so many others. As we see here on your channel, you've helped and changed so many lives and encouraged others here in this community to help others wherever they are in or out of these toxic relationships. Genius and so positive.
Excellent video and content. Keep doing what you're doing, Andrew. You are a big bright, beautiful star. Keep spreading your light 🌟
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Dear Andrew
Dear Star told me that you are healed from your horrific experience
Makes me very very happy to know that
G-D bless your beautiful soul forever for all you do for humanity !
It is truly very very Godly and very very spiritual to do
Have a beautiful beautiful day and life with your two pups
Take care
Tamar
That is a beautiful place you are filming from this evening.😎
Thank you Andrew for the education that you give to us.
I lost soo much time with the narcissist that I regret so uch.
36 years is a lot in an abusive relationship but GOD has seen me through and now am out.
This is one of the best video I have listened to.
Keep up educating guys because so many people are suffering and don't have the confidence to walk away from the abusive person.
Welcome 😌🙌🙌
So true what Andrew says . You can only actually see the toxic relationship, and the ways you were treated appallingly, when you have distance and time away from them. My 8 years relationship, also had me finding out after he had discarded me, he had been using a false sir name all of that time . I felt sick to the stomach, but now realise these Parasites are heartless, master Manipulators, and we are better off by ourselves than to exist living into their false complete nonsense
Thank you so much Andrew. I am learning so much from you and your messages. I hope you realize the impact you have on people. I appreciate you from my soul. Much blessings to you. I’ll see you tomorrow. Namaste
Namaste 😌🙌🙏
Sooo much info out now. Thank goodness . They need to teach this in schools
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I am amazed you stayed so focused on your message without losing your train of thought! Well said Andrew, as usual. I was in a similar relationship for over 20 years. I’m pretty much losing everything I’ve worked towards and invested in because I was disillusioned into believing his fake narrative, falling for his never ending self victimization and gaslighting. I’m done yet still have some noise to walk through to get out of this mess. I find you videos very inspiring. Thank you!
So true, so true… thank you for your words of wisdom! Please do a video about when the covert narcissist actually accuses their spouse of being a manipulator when they are the one actually playing mind games and emotional games.
Oh yes! I seen the dark eyes and the smirk😈😈😈
Your channel is a blessing to a lot of people. Thank you for everything you do.❤
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Yes,. The black dark pupal of their eyes. Sounds like JAWS 😱🤷🏼♀️🙈
This title makes me sad 😢 .. I thought this man loved me .. I felt like a big fool .. but the real fool is him for losing a person who cares and loved him
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I am indeed so fortunate thanks to you, as your help is tremendous. Thank you so much, dear Andrew! ❤️ 🙏
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Andrew ty for being so gentle I got myself untangled fromit but ended up with terrible ibs waste of time and a waste of space
Thank you, Andrew, your videos are great and you are correct, they do NOT teach this but they should. Hopefully women have a good father and mother raising them so they are less likely to accept bad behavior…unfortunately many did not. Thanks for what you are doing it is making a difference.
A huge challenge indeed, Andrew, but the one that must be done for your own sake and sanity. ❤
You can't see the forest for the trees, i know exactly what you mean 25 years with 3 kids, i knew something was off but could not put a name on it, like an exorcism..you can't expell the demon unless you know it's name,... my demon exorcised now, these videos have helped me so much on the healing path
I went through the entire relationship going to places by myself yet he expected me to go to whatever function he wanted me to accompany him. I have given many examples previously, but when you are in it you don't see it, but once you gain the wisdom then it becomes crystal clear.
Love the scenery and the train, but I like the windchimes better😊❤
Thank you so much we love you your education saved me last year .
We cant see it because of our addiction to suffer and pain .
We have been conditioned to consume suffering
Because of abusive childhood .
I recommend you to heal like me in a daily 12 steps group that helps me to grow as a healthy adult .
Like drugs if you are in it you wont see it .
I pray for you and for your - pain adficted friends to heal from this horfible pain
I started down the rabbit hole because of a romantic relationship (which actually never was romantic or a relationship in retrospect) and it blows my mind that so many other people I dealt with were narc situations as well. The moving situation was 💯 spot on! Thank you Andrew and community ❤️
There's a lot of good channels and they do get the point across about narcissist but the detail that you state is just so amazing because it's so right on
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🙏 isn't Hindsight a Wonderful thing.. keep Looking Back.. but do not STaRe... ... to long, you may see to much you were Blind to.. 🙏.... Thank you Andrew..🤠🙏, Move on One and all! Get out of the WhirLpool!
NEVER expect someone to return the "moving" favor... Just know there's zero karma in the relocation game, even across town😂
Why empath HAVE you helped so many move, are you big and burly or good at packing those fragile dishes? Nope... Cuz nobody else WOULD... The thing you must hang dearly onto... Just know most won't be there when you call 🤙 in your hour of need... And you'll be just like the person you're helping now who simply needs an extra hand. And even though you know you'll most likely never even visit them let alone be there in your hour of need, long story short karma don't give a crap, and ya don't want somebody handing your life in boxes that doesn't care about or know you... That's why it sucks so bad.... And why you're so awesome... Because even to a stranger, you can't say no, you retain COMPASSION... that is your reward on which you can lean.
Love your knowledge Andrew and your videos. Could we have a video on simple replies we could use when we are up against the Narcissist in tricky situations. I love this one " how could you possibly know what I'm thinking because you are not me" works a treat and so on, I think it would be helpful and great for the community to have some simple replies on hand to shut the narcissists down. Blessings Andrew 💕🙏
Somehow the narc would misconstrue whatever you said and make it look like it's all your fault. It almost doesn't matter what you say, it will get twisted in to an unrecognizable attack.
Great topic idea.
I feel like my life is over before it even began 😢
It is the planet we are on, unfortunately.
Oh Andrew you are so true right when you said boom boom boom is true I was manipulated I was going out of my mind cuz I thought that was what a good person and I know him from 1978 I know him since oh my God forever so it's like why did he had to do that well you know how do you say relationships like that's only seasonal thank you so much Andrew I appreciate it thank you for this video and his advice
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True. For years and years I had someone tell me (and others) that I considered to be a narcissist, always told me when they cooked dinner it would be ready at a certain time but it was always two to three hours later. So every one came to know what ever the narcissist said about dinner time, to come two hours later than what we were told. They held their food hostage over us. 😢
Another great video thank you it’s helping me to know how to go forward and what too look out for so not to go down the same paths!
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