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I was crying all the way through this video. Esther Perel has articulated the complexity of interpersonal and romantic relationships. It’s like she was describing my whole life and I’ve never met her.
I love her! Why is it that once I started watching this video while working that i got ad spams of your relationships Lewis? Co uncomfortable. Love your stuff and love her even more!
Absolutely the best advice I have ever heard! I’m married for almost a decade, and this interview made realize a lot. I feel regrounded after thinking about all the advice she just said. Thank you! ❤
"Are you looking for a love story or a life story?" "It's about values, not just feelings. It's not just what attracts you, it's who you can build a life with. " - EP
I believe a thriving relationship to be: with someone who supports you on your journey while you support them on theirs… with complete respect… also learning how to argue in a . Way that isn’t toxic and is healthy 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I love this. We’re not setting our expectations right as a result we’re measuring our relationships against unrealistic standards. If we want long lasting relationships, we have to be realistic in our expectations of our partners.
I laughed so hard when she mentioned how great we are at finding ways NOT to own our own sh*! Yes...the real journey begins with honest introspection ☺️
Relationships take self work… we shouldn’t have to work on them but merely agree to both work on ourselves to best serve ourselves and the relationship! 🙏🏽❤️
There is a lot of truth is what this woman is saying. One thing people do not do after a break up is self reflection. I love that she highlighted relationship and expectations are different based on culture.
In my divorce I though I had done errors. When I did self-reflection, I decided it was best to make a proper research on the case. I found out that it was chiefly her fault. Self-reflection does not always mean you conclude that you have done any major error. It takes two to marry and two to divorce but always one wants more than the other to marry and always one pushes more for divorce than the other. And in both cases that one is the wife most of the times.
I can relate to Esther Perel. As I’ve been in a heterosexual relationship with a woman for 15 years thereof 5 years married, it has taught meIts best to calibrate your time together and apart, be communacative and be vulnerable about your psyche and your deepest inner truthw, verbalize gratitude and love when you feel like it, show kindness without the need to receive it immediately back, use humor in rough and good times (although within context), make fun of your partner in a benvalent way (a little tease), express your needs and desires without shaming them about not fulfilling them, be emtionally present and help your woman back on her feet when she feels overwhelmed, and take equal responsibility with the children; make sure that their connection with you is not any less than with their mother.
There was very good topics in that interview for me to pay attention to. I'm almost 60 now, and have been finished working for some year's now and after 20 of being in a real relationship I'm definitely wanting to find a special person to spend the rest of my life with and to make that person happy. In my heart I'm still so very young and want to experience so many long lasting memories with that special person :) :)
Wow! Such wisdom presented and shared here! I need to go back through and take notes. What little I know and have learned is it can’t be “all about me” in a relationship. If I love someone, I want the very best for them and am concerned about their happiness and well-being. However, in order for the relationship to work, this must go both ways. Mutual love and respect.
Thank you for bringing this psychologist to your show!! Everything she talked about resonated within me. For the first time I truly understood why my relationships failed. She’s opened my eyes and I am so grateful!! I shall watch this video again and again and share it with my friends!! Bravo 👏 well done!! Thank you 🙏
I am now, after many years in a stable relationship, freshly in the dating pool. However, it seems that finding a sane, grounded, cognitively capable, functional, loving, sensual, sweet, communicative, self-aware partner on a path of continuous self-development is not easy, because these attributes (and others) have not been specifically recognized and developed, in order that relationships can work. Building relationships takes conscious effort, commitment, compromise, unerring honesty, and the capacity to hear what is often unspoken. Plus more. Its a failure of the culture, parenting styles and education system. But that does not prevent individuals from such self-development. According to reviews, the dating apps work well for hookups, but are not designed for showing or matching those criteria i find necessary/desirable. So listening to the common-sense Esther Perel analysis and prescriptions is a breath of fresh air. Thanks for this video!
I think too many people don't realize that life is about tradeoffs. If you find someone just like you they'll have the same dislikes and certain chores will always be a sacrifice. If you find someone that compliments you the house might run smoother, but there might be areas that require growth where you don't relate. My MB type is INTP and my fiancée's is ISFP. Sometimes I miss deep, intuitive conversations, but what is lost there is made up with her practical, caring side during family emergencies that wear me out. If you take the time to care and understand each other's strengths and limitations relationships become so much easier and we don't force others into our mold to be accepted.
I'm going through something similar-- which took time for me to appreciate-- with my ISFJ...I guess I can just find some random people to have my intuitive talks with.
@@kellikakes81 I feel your pain. I was married for 18 years to a narcissistic ISFJ. Her Si hero thought there was only one right way to do anything and my Ne parent thinking outside of the box was me being immature.
A relationship is about love, trust, and being accepted!!!! I’m in a relationship that’s been a business deal that’s still going but no love in sight! I’m married to a man that’s a total a--hole! It’s time to walk. I’m ending the contract & who cares what people think!!!!!
☝️this is the crux of the matter! When a partner doesn’t feel valued enough to be able to air their grievances and be respected enough to be listened to and feel heard…this is what happens to SO many women and why they are more than willing, SO ready to walk and not look back. Because for Much.Too. Long. A. Time. They’ve asked for and been denied their rightful place in the partnership. Put a fork in it…it’s done!
I have listened to the same segment a couple of times through different videos and finally had an aha moment. "Were you raised as self-reliant or interdependent." My father definitely raised us as self-reliant; he feels very much alone in life. I finally realized I keep attracting men who are in this category because that's what I grew up with. But my experience with my siblings is completely the opposite. My siblings and I formed a tight knit family; supporting each other through the difficult childhood we shared. I never realized there were these 2 opposing belief systems fighting in the background.
I do believe in a Monagamous Relationship or Nothing~no part-timers. A sincere relationship in my world is where We grow individually and together with love and sensuality as friends and lovers✌️❣️❣️
I've been asked why I am still single. Because there are not much men out there that cares. In the past 12 yrs I've been in 2 long relationships and a 3rd one that lasted less than a year but in all 3, It ended bec it's either my ex partner only cared about themselves and their hobbies or they have been lying bec they are seeing other people while in a relationship. Disappointing. But I dont give up easy. I know, I will one day find my person.
I just recently committed to a women, my decision did not come lightly. But this video really confirms my decision. I already planned on navigating my relationship just like everything she's saying.
58:45 Key questions : "How did this happen? What happened to us? Where were we at? Is the related to the relationship? What betrayals took place because the relationship had disintegrated in some way, or degraded, and which ones have nothing to do with the relationship? What were you thinking about me when this happened? Did you even think about me? Did you think what this would do to me? Were you tortured/conflicted in any way, or did I just disappear from your screen/mind? Did you want me to find out? Did you want it to come out? Are you relieved that it came out? Do you actually want to come back? Are you coming back because it's convenient for you or are you choosing me again? Are you here because it suits you better to be in a relationship with me because I make the money/we have a family/it's comfortable?" Can you/do you trust yourself?
She was very refreshing to hear. Very old school tried and true antidotes that work unlike the modern dating coaches that are more focused on getting their clients to be the taker in the relationship without trying to reciprocate because reciprocity equates to weakness. This is meaningful advice that everyone wants but too afraid to admit that they need this advice because people really do want long term relationships.
From my personal experience in dating over the last twenty years I have seen more men who are not committed in relationships with myself and others I have known. More so than women. Most women I have known want a long term commitment relationship with the right person. And a lot of relationships don’t last because of abuse, mental health issues including personality disorders. And there is an extremely high amount of narcissistic abuse. Women are starting to wake up more to identifying these behaviors and taking charge of their life. That’s a large part of divorce rates. People who have narcissistic personality disorder feel they are entitled to have multiple partners and still expect to hold onto the main SO. They have short attention spans and get bored easily. It goes way past what is being discussed here.
I agree with you and her. My experience is that the boundaries of what is considered faithful have changed dramatically with the onset of the internet. Now people have online relationships while in a relationship and think it's okay if they do not physically have sex. Cyber sex is considered okay
You nailed it. It is in a woman's nature to want a long term relationship for stabilizing the family, because everybody needs to live in a stable, trustworthy, loving environment. Old-fashion family is full of extremely high amount of mental, verbal, physical abuse & suppression of woman wanting to advance in life (I was talking to a 93 years Irish woman). Women are starting to wake up more to identifying these behaviors, putting boundaries and taking charge of their life. Man feel threaten of these boundaries & want to merry only to a submissive "sweet" young & naive girl - if she is uneducated, without much confidence - even better. I have seen it so many times. Esther Pere is absolutely correct -all good relationships are about being a kind person, truly caring about the other & communicating this to the other.
That's your anecdotal experience, but the numbers say women file for divorce at almost 80%. The problem with your comment is that it reeks of the lack of accountability and pushes the blame on one gender entirely.
@@greatnessembodied so what your saying is that men don’t abuse women? I said the majority of abuse that goes on is from men. I’m completely aware that plenty of women are and can be abusive. I didn’t exclude anyone. And like I said more women are waking up. That is why thousands of women are in support groups. They are finally creating relationship boundaries and standing up to mistreatment.
@@roseflowersmarie3116 I addressed the statement about men not being committed by pointing out that most divorces are filed by women. Secondly men and women abuse each other. Research into the matter supports that the most physical abuse is bidirectional and most Entiat abuse is initiated by women.
Hello Lewis, Good question! The biggest takeaway in this video is definitely the inside in the female mind! How the average female is experiencing her emotions and her needs and how it affect her behavior and choices! Since I'm a total nincompoop in understanding women and their mindsets and they are always secretive about them. Like always choosing the wrong que while waiting in front of the checkout in stores or at the gas pump, i always choose the wrong interpretation of a woman her behavior. So thank you (and your guest speaker, Miss Perel, of course!) for this revelation. I wil study this video meticulously!
@Lewis Howes I really enjoy your work. Thank you for all the time spent to create the best quality content possible, from all angles. Dr Perel had some very interesting points. I don't really agree with some of them, and am more in the thought that we're not reinventing the wheel, rather we are Rome at the end. She does have great insight into the thought processes and feelings, emotions, and all those subjective realities very much exist. NOT EVERYTHING REAL IS TRUE, NOT EVERYTHING FALSE IS A LIE. Discernment is key. Keep up the great work sir! I appreciate you
Interesting the host, Lewis takes credit for making the relationship spontaneous and then say that these actions are initiated by his girlfriend because he get focused on other things. Interesting… What’s even more interesting and insightful, is watching her mannerisms when she notices the incongruency statements. You can actually see a pause as she attempts to discern whether to address it, or leave it alone. She is masterful
Thank you Lewis, for this interview with Esther. I can relate to a lot of topics raise. I think i'd like the opportunity to meet that person, but find it difficult with trust in a relationship. I will continue to watch more of your school of greatness.
Couldn't one argue that in those traditional societies... Being a unique individual is even more important for the society could thrive. In a loose network society.. nobody cares what you're doing so people end up being pathetic. That's how I see it.
Your almost at 2 million subscribers. 🎉🥳 Congrats! Today is 222. Mark my words . (I’m going to screenshot this). I will be on your podcast within 1-2 years. After I make it on the Forbes List. I’ll be one of your most popular episodes.
This content is a trove of innovative thoughts. I read a book with akin subjects that transformed my approach. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
We have to be playful with our long-term partners. We get bored and expect the other to bring novelty. What's desire? Communication and sexshop are a must to be in a healthy long-term relationship.
Iv been with my partner for 33 years ... I know him from school 4th grade and he was my boyfriend in 7th grade and started to live together at the age of 15 OMG by are selfies in a one bedroom and worked and just been going this hole time it's hard but it can be done ...you need to talk and do things together
This proves my theory!! Thank you for sharing your story. I've always said relationships that endure are ones starting at 14. This is due to 14 year olds experiencing everything with the same person at such an empathetic age versus with various ppl later in life. The innocence, friendship, partnership and mutual respect is bonded when it starts young. If it starts in the 20's there are endless options. These choices can steer ppl towards thinking the "grass is always a greener on the other side" mentality while never achieving happiness.
It is "Weltanschauung" and it means the way someone sees "the world" (e.g. a religion) It is a way of understanding the world, nature and the essence of man
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Hey Lewis!! Have been loving your interviews!! Such great and valuable information .. just wanted to say appreciate all you do ..
I was crying all the way through this video. Esther Perel has articulated the complexity of interpersonal and romantic relationships. It’s like she was describing my whole life and I’ve never met her.
I love her! Why is it that once I started watching this video while working that i got ad spams of your relationships Lewis? Co uncomfortable. Love your stuff and love her even more!
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Absolutely the best advice I have ever heard! I’m married for almost a decade, and this interview made realize a lot. I feel regrounded after thinking about all the advice she just said.
Thank you! ❤
"Are you looking for a love story or a life story?" "It's about values, not just feelings. It's not just what attracts you, it's who you can build a life with. " - EP
Oh thank you for sharing this Deb
Without attraction first values are ignored. Ironically values are also ignored vice-versa. There has to be a balance
I Agree Deb
Beautiful. Simple yet profound 🙏🏽
Fabulous take aways!!
I believe a thriving relationship to be: with someone who supports you on your journey while you support them on theirs… with complete respect… also learning how to argue in a . Way that isn’t toxic and is healthy 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Absolutely! I want someone just like this! Not that I NEED but want. Difference.
@@lourdestorres9825 that’s a fact!! I Antony someone is what I think we all deserve but when you need someone it’s totally different 🤯
Agreed, but that doesn’t necessarily foster sexual attraction which is also important
Spot on! Respect and honesty.
@@11nica5 100% agree that is the difference between a friendship and relationship for sure!!! That has to be there 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
"There's lots of people you can love and there's only a few you can make a life with". Thank you so much for another great interview!
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This is absolutely 100% true
She is phenomenal! 💋💋❤️❤️ Every word she says is true! Her language is so rich and poetic, and sharp and close to point!
hello
Brilliant woman. Huge heart.
What an articulate and well versed woman : thank you Lewis for having her as a guest.🙏🏽❤️
You're welcome🧡
Me thinketh yes very attractive and just love that., sexy.......French accent!@?😉🙂
I love this. We’re not setting our expectations right as a result we’re measuring our relationships against unrealistic standards. If we want long lasting relationships, we have to be realistic in our expectations of our partners.
I laughed so hard when she mentioned how great we are at finding ways NOT to own our own sh*! Yes...the real journey begins with honest introspection ☺️
💓🤭😂😂☝️☝️
Relationships take self work… we shouldn’t have to work on them but merely agree to both work on ourselves to best serve ourselves and the relationship! 🙏🏽❤️
There is a lot of truth is what this woman is saying. One thing people do not do after a break up is self reflection. I love that she highlighted relationship and expectations are different based on culture.
In my divorce I though I had done errors. When I did self-reflection, I decided it was best to make a proper research on the case. I found out that it was chiefly her fault. Self-reflection does not always mean you conclude that you have done any major error. It takes two to marry and two to divorce but always one wants more than the other to marry and always one pushes more for divorce than the other. And in both cases that one is the wife most of the times.
FANTASTIC TALK
THANK YOU🌷
I can relate to Esther Perel. As I’ve been in a heterosexual relationship with a woman for 15 years thereof 5 years married, it has taught meIts best to calibrate your time together and apart, be communacative and be vulnerable about your psyche and your deepest inner truthw, verbalize gratitude and love when you feel like it, show kindness without the need to receive it immediately back, use humor in rough and good times (although within context), make fun of your partner in a benvalent way (a little tease), express your needs and desires without shaming them about not fulfilling them, be emtionally present and help your woman back on her feet when she feels overwhelmed, and take equal responsibility with the children; make sure that their connection with you is not any less than with their mother.
There was very good topics in that interview for me to pay attention to. I'm almost 60 now, and have been finished working for some year's now and after 20 of being in a real relationship I'm definitely wanting to find a special person to spend the rest of my life with and to make that person happy. In my heart I'm still so very young and want to experience so many long lasting memories with that special person :) :)
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Wow! Such wisdom presented and shared here! I need to go back through and take notes. What little I know and have learned is it can’t be “all about me” in a relationship. If I love someone, I want the very best for them and am concerned about their happiness and well-being. However, in order for the relationship to work, this must go both ways. Mutual love and respect.
Thank you for bringing this psychologist to your show!!
Everything she talked about resonated within me. For the first time I truly understood why my relationships failed.
She’s opened my eyes and I am so grateful!!
I shall watch this video again and again and share it with my friends!!
Bravo 👏 well done!!
Thank you 🙏
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The grass is always greener where we water it...
This woman is wise, very wise, I could listen to her for hours.
👍
EVERY.SINGLE.THING this woman says is a GEM!
I am now, after many years in a stable relationship, freshly in the dating pool.
However, it seems that finding a sane, grounded, cognitively capable, functional, loving, sensual, sweet, communicative, self-aware partner on a path of continuous self-development is not easy, because these attributes (and others) have not been specifically recognized and developed, in order that relationships can work.
Building relationships takes conscious effort, commitment, compromise, unerring honesty, and the capacity to hear what is often unspoken. Plus more.
Its a failure of the culture, parenting styles and education system. But that does not prevent individuals from such self-development.
According to reviews, the dating apps work well for hookups, but are not designed for showing or matching those criteria i find necessary/desirable.
So listening to the common-sense Esther Perel analysis and prescriptions is a breath of fresh air. Thanks for this video!
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I think too many people don't realize that life is about tradeoffs. If you find someone just like you they'll have the same dislikes and certain chores will always be a sacrifice. If you find someone that compliments you the house might run smoother, but there might be areas that require growth where you don't relate. My MB type is INTP and my fiancée's is ISFP. Sometimes I miss deep, intuitive conversations, but what is lost there is made up with her practical, caring side during family emergencies that wear me out. If you take the time to care and understand each other's strengths and limitations relationships become so much easier and we don't force others into our mold to be accepted.
I'm going through something similar-- which took time for me to appreciate-- with my ISFJ...I guess I can just find some random people to have my intuitive talks with.
@@kellikakes81 I feel your pain. I was married for 18 years to a narcissistic ISFJ. Her Si hero thought there was only one right way to do anything and my Ne parent thinking outside of the box was me being immature.
A relationship is about love, trust, and being accepted!!!! I’m in a relationship that’s been a business deal that’s still going but no love in sight! I’m married to a man that’s a total a--hole! It’s time to walk. I’m ending the contract & who cares what people think!!!!!
☝️this is the crux of the matter! When a partner doesn’t feel valued enough to be able to air their grievances and be respected enough to be listened to and feel heard…this is what happens to SO many women and why they are more than willing, SO ready to walk and not look back. Because for Much.Too. Long. A. Time. They’ve asked for and been denied their rightful place in the partnership. Put a fork in it…it’s done!
But wait, you can fix him. Have him listen to one of these videos.
How are you doing. I hope all is well with you now.
I enjoy listening to Esther she is so knowledgeable and speak the truth.
No, swearing like others. Bless them both.
I love listening to Esther. Her understanding and insights on relationships are a revelation. 🙏🏽
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Esther knows her sh*t. Thanks for posting this! Very helpful.
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
Oh wow indifference, neglect but disrespect too. Kills relationships 🙏 So true.
I’m really impressed that Esther Perel is now openly speaking about ethical non-monogamy as an option. 👏👏
I always love listening to Esther. She’s one of my favorites 🥰❤️❤️
She's brilliant
Wish she was my neighbor. She has her sh”$&t together!
She’s one of my favorite guests on your show.
Happy to hear this :)
I have listened to the same segment a couple of times through different videos and finally had an aha moment. "Were you raised as self-reliant or interdependent." My father definitely raised us as self-reliant; he feels very much alone in life. I finally realized I keep attracting men who are in this category because that's what I grew up with. But my experience with my siblings is completely the opposite. My siblings and I formed a tight knit family; supporting each other through the difficult childhood we shared. I never realized there were these 2 opposing belief systems fighting in the background.
Who would I be in a life with a partner and what would I bring to a relationship- what a valuable thought! Thank you!
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I love Esther!! Her perspectives are so helpful and her advice is immeasurable.
I do believe in a Monagamous Relationship or Nothing~no part-timers. A sincere relationship in my world is where We grow individually and together with love and sensuality as friends and lovers✌️❣️❣️
I've been asked why I am still single. Because there are not much men out there that cares. In the past 12 yrs I've been in 2 long relationships and a 3rd one that lasted less than a year but in all 3, It ended bec it's either my ex partner only cared about themselves and their hobbies or they have been lying bec they are seeing other people while in a relationship. Disappointing. But I dont give up easy. I know, I will one day find my person.
I love the 'you're gone' ... emotional abuse, disrespect, kills desire .. ego play .. confrontational attitudes.
This woman is amazing, thank you so much!
I love to listen and learn from her she is amazing.
OMG This is the most amazing message! I will listen again because there is so much to learn and understand. Thank-You❤️❤️
Im listening to it for the 5th time now and still discovering so much and important input. Thanks! Btw: Just ordered both yr books
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.
This is one of my favourite videos you've posted Lewis. So many 'wow' moments thank you so much. I'm actually watching with a notepad taking notes 😆.
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
I appreciate this so much!!!
One main distraction is Lewis’s breathing in the microphone.
Lewis Howes with the breathing!!
I just recently committed to a women, my decision did not come lightly. But this video really confirms my decision. I already planned on navigating my relationship just like everything she's saying.
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congratulations
This is absolutely beautiful.
This woman has it figured out
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Lewis asks the best questions just love this awesome man!!!
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watching right away! and liked! Thanks you so much for this information!
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
This is fabulous! Thanks so much for this Lewis! 😊🙏
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Open relationship's are never fruitful. Especially if children are involved, eventually their will be hurting souls.
58:45 Key questions :
"How did this happen?
What happened to us?
Where were we at?
Is the related to the relationship?
What betrayals took place because the relationship had disintegrated in some way, or degraded, and which ones have nothing to do with the relationship?
What were you thinking about me when this happened? Did you even think about me? Did you think what this would do to me?
Were you tortured/conflicted in any way, or did I just disappear from your screen/mind?
Did you want me to find out?
Did you want it to come out?
Are you relieved that it came out?
Do you actually want to come back?
Are you coming back because it's convenient for you or are you choosing me again?
Are you here because it suits you better to be in a relationship with me because I make the money/we have a family/it's comfortable?"
Can you/do you trust yourself?
Thank you for taking such good notes.
I think truth in a relationship is important
She was very refreshing to hear. Very old school tried and true antidotes that work unlike the modern dating coaches that are more focused on getting their clients to be the taker in the relationship without trying to reciprocate because reciprocity equates to weakness. This is meaningful advice that everyone wants but too afraid to admit that they need this advice because people really do want long term relationships.
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Alot of good information I need to reavaluate some of my behaviour
From my personal experience in dating over the last twenty years I have seen more men who are not committed in relationships with myself and others I have known. More so than women. Most women I have known want a long term commitment relationship with the right person. And a lot of relationships don’t last because of abuse, mental health issues including personality disorders. And there is an extremely high amount of narcissistic abuse. Women are starting to wake up more to identifying these behaviors and taking charge of their life. That’s a large part of divorce rates. People who have narcissistic personality disorder feel they are entitled to have multiple partners and still expect to hold onto the main SO. They have short attention spans and get bored easily. It goes way past what is being discussed here.
I agree with you and her. My experience is that the boundaries of what is considered faithful have changed dramatically with the onset of the internet. Now people have online relationships while in a relationship and think it's okay if they do not physically have sex. Cyber sex is considered okay
You nailed it. It is in a woman's nature to want a long term relationship for stabilizing the family, because everybody needs to live in a stable, trustworthy, loving environment. Old-fashion family is full of extremely high amount of mental, verbal, physical abuse & suppression of woman wanting to advance in life (I was talking to a 93 years Irish woman). Women are starting to wake up more to identifying these behaviors, putting boundaries and taking charge of their life. Man feel threaten of these boundaries & want to merry only to a submissive "sweet" young & naive girl - if she is uneducated, without much confidence - even better. I have seen it so many times.
Esther Pere is absolutely correct -all good relationships are about being a kind person, truly caring about the other & communicating this to the other.
That's your anecdotal experience, but the numbers say women file for divorce at almost 80%. The problem with your comment is that it reeks of the lack of accountability and pushes the blame on one gender entirely.
@@greatnessembodied so what your saying is that men don’t abuse women? I said the majority of abuse that goes on is from men. I’m completely aware that plenty of women are and can be abusive. I didn’t exclude anyone. And like I said more women are waking up. That is why thousands of women are in support groups. They are finally creating relationship boundaries and standing up to mistreatment.
@@roseflowersmarie3116 I addressed the statement about men not being committed by pointing out that most divorces are filed by women. Secondly men and women abuse each other. Research into the matter supports that the most physical abuse is bidirectional and most Entiat abuse is initiated by women.
Worthy to watch again and again
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Fantastic, interview. Gave me a lot to think about. Thank you both!!
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Nobody can tell it like Esther can!
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Another great interview! Love it. Thanks again
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I learned so much Thank you !
Glad you found it helpful! 🧡
is this a new video? I am sure I watched it before like last month. Great video btw :)
Very enlightening indeed!
Hello Lewis, Good question! The biggest takeaway in this video is definitely the inside in the female mind! How the average female is experiencing her emotions and her needs and how it affect her behavior and choices! Since I'm a total nincompoop in understanding women and their mindsets and they are always secretive about them. Like always choosing the wrong que while waiting in front of the checkout in stores or at the gas pump, i always choose the wrong interpretation of a woman her behavior. So thank you (and your guest speaker, Miss Perel, of course!) for this revelation. I wil study this video meticulously!
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@Lewis Howes I really enjoy your work. Thank you for all the time spent to create the best quality content possible, from all angles. Dr Perel had some very interesting points. I don't really agree with some of them, and am more in the thought that we're not reinventing the wheel, rather we are Rome at the end. She does have great insight into the thought processes and feelings, emotions, and all those subjective realities very much exist. NOT EVERYTHING REAL IS TRUE, NOT EVERYTHING FALSE IS A LIE. Discernment is key. Keep up the great work sir! I appreciate you
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Interesting the host, Lewis takes credit for making the relationship spontaneous and then say that these actions are initiated by his girlfriend because he get focused on other things. Interesting…
What’s even more interesting and insightful, is watching her mannerisms when she notices the incongruency statements. You can actually see a pause as she attempts to discern whether to address it, or leave it alone.
She is masterful
Thank you Lewis, for this interview with Esther. I can relate to a lot of topics raise.
I think i'd like the opportunity to meet that person, but find it difficult with trust in a relationship. I will continue to watch more of your school of greatness.
So good , so helpful 🙏🏻❤️🩹✨🌹
So happy to hear we have supported you!
Couldn't one argue that in those traditional societies... Being a unique individual is even more important for the society could thrive. In a loose network society.. nobody cares what you're doing so people end up being pathetic. That's how I see it.
Nice moment to remember what was said in this conversation/podcast.
I like it so much. Thank you
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
This women is so adorable ❤.
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Your almost at 2 million subscribers. 🎉🥳 Congrats! Today is 222. Mark my words . (I’m going to screenshot this). I will be on your podcast within 1-2 years. After I make it on the Forbes List. I’ll be one of your most popular episodes.
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Nice conversation i learn a lot og good ideas from you Lewis thanks from Africa ♥️
Thank you so much for doing this amazing video. It's so many new perspectives, just loved it 🤍
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Thank you both!💖💖
You are amazing 😻
Thanks for being here!
Fantastic video!
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Great conversation
Thank you!
Truly said mam 👍
Brilliant 👏👏👏
Constantly doing new things sounds like a challenge. Especially if you’re living in the same place for years
This content is a trove of innovative thoughts. I read a book with akin subjects that transformed my approach. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Thnks Esther!!
VERY IMPORT ,THESE QUESTIONS!!!!I'M TO WISH REFLECT.....THANKS
If you have to work for attraction is it really attraction ?
Can she talk about if attraction is important??
Very educative. Thanks
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
We have to be playful with our long-term partners. We get bored and expect the other to bring novelty. What's desire? Communication and sexshop are a must to be in a healthy long-term relationship.
Iv been with my partner for 33 years ...
I know him from school 4th grade and he was my boyfriend in 7th grade and started to live together at the age of 15 OMG by are selfies in a one bedroom and worked and just been going this hole time it's hard but it can be done ...you need to talk and do things together
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This proves my theory!! Thank you for sharing your story. I've always said relationships that endure are ones starting at 14. This is due to 14 year olds experiencing everything with the same person at such an empathetic age versus with various ppl later in life. The innocence, friendship, partnership and mutual respect is bonded when it starts young. If it starts in the 20's there are endless options. These choices can steer ppl towards thinking the "grass is always a greener on the other side" mentality while never achieving happiness.
So true.
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There is a saying that if you want to make it quick in life or want respect and order then you shouldn’t marry a girl you have fallen in love with 😊
What is the name if this lady? Does she have any books out?
Esther Perel
I think relationships get to be to much thoughts. It needs to flow or just go🤣❤️👍
I dont have a relationship with parents. Never had
Well said 👏👏👏👌💯
Thank you so much🙂
Your awesome
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
52:15 - What's that German word for 'visions of the world'? Anyone know?
It is "Weltanschauung" and it means the way someone sees "the world" (e.g. a religion)
It is a way of understanding the world, nature and the essence of man
@@marclander5802 Amazing, thank you
Women get bored before men.
This is research!
Hi Lewis I need to meet a great man I’ve been on my own for the last 5 years ….I really want it to change my life ….Rachel lewis
I recognize the french accent.
Belgian : )
@@chelseavuchinich4859 which makes it a French accent, as this is the language she spoke in Belgium.
Dang, the second section about the self was spot-on.
He's cute writing notes down, when he could just watch the video back but each to their own.
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