Your question concerned uneven growth in couples where one focuses on growth and the other doesn't. When you asked your question Esther heard something very different than what I heard. Esther heard you to mean the dynamic tension between two fundamental dynamic needs: 1. the need for security and stability and safety and predictability and 2. the need for adventure and novelty and change and discovery. That one of the couples is geared towards growth and the other is geared towards anchoring and maintaining stability and that this imbalance was part of the attraction initially. I heard you to mean that one was gaslighted to her detriment, and the other reaped the benefits of his constant and continuous fraud. I loved the interview, thank you for giving it.
Such a lovely conversation, Esther is brilliant and the interviewer really gave her the space to express herself, such thoughtful questions too! Thank you!
this is a fantastic talk. the one thing i wanted discussed as a question here is… the issues that ep discusses here…how much of resolving these is asking for corrections from our partners vs interpretation and self growth from within? eg, how much is healthy to depend on from others vs how much should come from self? eg with jealousy, is this a problem that should be mostly resolved by the other….or more from the person experiencing the jealousy. I also wanted to hear more about what EP thinks are healthy and unhealthy friendships. eg., are friendships of the opposite sex good? can those friendships be close? seems like in the past, we'd talk to everyone in the tribe, not just men (if i'm a man). eg., more on the topic of "emotional affairs". this happens so much these days. why is this bad? maybe we all need a little more freedom and less fear in this regard?
Really loved this interview, found Esther on the podcast of the roommates. Took a lot from this and can definitely work on applying it to my personal life.
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Fabulous! Esther is so wonderful and loved the topics covered. Jason..great questions. Watch to the end..Gold! Thank you!
Your question concerned uneven growth in couples where one focuses on growth and the other doesn't. When you asked your question Esther heard something very different than what I heard. Esther heard you to mean the dynamic tension between two fundamental dynamic needs: 1. the need for security and stability and safety and predictability and 2. the need for adventure and novelty and change and discovery. That one of the couples is geared towards growth and the other is geared towards anchoring and maintaining stability and that this imbalance was part of the attraction initially. I heard you to mean that one was gaslighted to her detriment, and the other reaped the benefits of his constant and continuous fraud. I loved the interview, thank you for giving it.
Such a lovely conversation, Esther is brilliant and the interviewer really gave her the space to express herself, such thoughtful questions too! Thank you!
Spot on when she mentioned 'that sense of deadness' . How does one fix that?
Very good questions!Thank you for this show.
this is a fantastic talk. the one thing i wanted discussed as a question here is… the issues that ep discusses here…how much of resolving these is asking for corrections from our partners vs interpretation and self growth from within? eg, how much is healthy to depend on from others vs how much should come from self? eg with jealousy, is this a problem that should be mostly resolved by the other….or more from the person experiencing the jealousy.
I also wanted to hear more about what EP thinks are healthy and unhealthy friendships. eg., are friendships of the opposite sex good? can those friendships be close? seems like in the past, we'd talk to everyone in the tribe, not just men (if i'm a man). eg., more on the topic of "emotional affairs". this happens so much these days. why is this bad? maybe we all need a little more freedom and less fear in this regard?
Wow. FANTASTIC question
Loved the conversation with Esther, but way too many ads for me to listen to your channel!
Yes 100% agree! I Love dancing.
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Really loved this interview, found Esther on the podcast of the roommates. Took a lot from this and can definitely work on applying it to my personal life.
As wise as Shefeli. You are in good company
Man, she's always on point
Longevity it does not measure the success of the relationship.
Excelt your oattner with all theur faults and never try to change them. Uts will cause disappointment and wirse
Why not elaborate on 30min mark? 1 continuously threatened the other continuously constricted