Yup. And in the end, no resolution, no karma, no vindication for OP. I mean real life doesn't always have a Hollywood-like ending, but this whole story was almost pointless to feature on a channel like this.
As a victim of SA, the amount of victim-blaming from the family and comment section is just infuriating. This is exactly why OP kept her mouth shut for 6 months! I didn't had the courage to confess to my own mom that my ex-boyfriend tried to r*pe me for 3 years precisely because I had already seen so much victim-blaming in the world that I was scared she would say I should have listened to her as she saw the red flags before he SA'd me and would preach about my stupidity. She took my side and it meant the world.
There have been family members who got mad when their pedophile member was exposed for molesting his daughter. They thought it was better to let him do as he pleased than embarrass the family. Some families are just not worth staying around. (FYI, this was not my family, but one in the neighborhood that we knew).
For people stuck in this situation? Record every conversation you have with him. If you're in a 2-party-consent state, those recordings cannot be used in a court of law unless he knows he's being recorded, but you absolutely can use them with your family. And if you do want to use them & need him to know, just start prefacing every few sentences of your speeches with him and his wife, "For the record..."
Ah yes! Because confronting the person who's been harassing you and making weird comments is very easy! Sarcasm aside though, her family is awful. "Its going to take time for us to heal for what you did?" How do you think OP's gonna heal?? You should be putting her concerns first since she's YOUR child.
It's like when you go to HR. The first thing they are going to ask is how you've tried to fix it yourself, and if you haven't done anything, that will damage your credibility. People also don't react well when you just drop information on them without giving expectations and directions on what you want them to do with it. "Dumbo is harassing me" causes a whole lot of consternation on what they need to do about it, but "Dumbo is harassing me, can you ensure I'm never in a room alone with him, and go with me when I tell him to knock it off?" is much more likely to get the result you want.
What happened once will happen again. If maybe has not already happened as noticed by Rose’s behavior. The one where no one spoke up. One commenter very close to prophetic, makes OP testify on dumbo’s behalf. Rotten is the word and either response from OP is fine with me. I saw no innocent by-standers. I did see the making of historical precedent, perhaps the future will be bright for someone in the remaining family. These videos are very close to revealing the birth of the gangster ethos.
OMG all the questions in the comments echoing exactly all the arguments the parents used to not believe OP, GROSS GROSS GROSS. YOU are what's wrong with the world?
I bet you anything there were signs well before this that the parents clocked and they still sided with Dumbo. I bet if you check that family tree, there's more predators in there
That family 100% knows Dumbo is a creep and they've basically offered up OP as a sacrificial lamb so he stay with his wife.
Dumbo will end in jail for harassing another woman and suddenly people will expect to OP to tell the police she "never had a problem with Dumbo".
Bet on it.
I have read a few comments calling people dumbo, why dumbo? What does it mean? I tried to find it but all I get is the elephant movie.
It's the name OP gave to her cousin's husband.
Family loves to blame the victim 🙄😒
this was just infuriating to listen to. spineless victim-blaming family
Yup. And in the end, no resolution, no karma, no vindication for OP. I mean real life doesn't always have a Hollywood-like ending, but this whole story was almost pointless to feature on a channel like this.
"DIVIDED THE WHOLE FAMILY!?" THEY ALL HATE HER AND BLAME HER!? They ARENT divided. I hope OP just goes NC for her own good.
As a victim of SA, the amount of victim-blaming from the family and comment section is just infuriating. This is exactly why OP kept her mouth shut for 6 months! I didn't had the courage to confess to my own mom that my ex-boyfriend tried to r*pe me for 3 years precisely because I had already seen so much victim-blaming in the world that I was scared she would say I should have listened to her as she saw the red flags before he SA'd me and would preach about my stupidity. She took my side and it meant the world.
cant wait for the update where the mom and dad are homeless and something horrible happened to rose and dumbo! 🙏
"why won't our daughter visit us in the retirement home" and "why is our daughter keeping our grandchildren away from us"
I don’t understand how a parent cannot take matter like this seriously
Block your good for nothing of a parents
There have been family members who got mad when their pedophile member was exposed for molesting his daughter. They thought it was better to let him do as he pleased than embarrass the family. Some families are just not worth staying around. (FYI, this was not my family, but one in the neighborhood that we knew).
For people stuck in this situation? Record every conversation you have with him. If you're in a 2-party-consent state, those recordings cannot be used in a court of law unless he knows he's being recorded, but you absolutely can use them with your family. And if you do want to use them & need him to know, just start prefacing every few sentences of your speeches with him and his wife, "For the record..."
Ah yes! Because confronting the person who's been harassing you and making weird comments is very easy!
Sarcasm aside though, her family is awful. "Its going to take time for us to heal for what you did?" How do you think OP's gonna heal?? You should be putting her concerns first since she's YOUR child.
"talk to and spend time with the guy that touched you".
Just go no contact they're TERRIBLE
What terrible parents
Op you don’t have family, you need to accept that and not let them hurt you.
naming the husband dumbo caught me so off guard for some reason
It's like when you go to HR. The first thing they are going to ask is how you've tried to fix it yourself, and if you haven't done anything, that will damage your credibility. People also don't react well when you just drop information on them without giving expectations and directions on what you want them to do with it. "Dumbo is harassing me" causes a whole lot of consternation on what they need to do about it, but "Dumbo is harassing me, can you ensure I'm never in a room alone with him, and go with me when I tell him to knock it off?" is much more likely to get the result you want.
At 23, your whole life is ahead of you. And the best revenge you can have is to be happy. Forge ahead with your own life, on your own terms.
What happened once will happen again. If maybe has not already happened as noticed by Rose’s behavior. The one where no one spoke up. One commenter very close to prophetic, makes OP testify on dumbo’s behalf. Rotten is the word and either response from OP is fine with me. I saw no innocent by-standers. I did see the making of historical precedent, perhaps the future will be bright for someone in the remaining family. These videos are very close to revealing the birth of the gangster ethos.
OMG all the questions in the comments echoing exactly all the arguments the parents used to not believe OP, GROSS GROSS GROSS.
YOU are what's wrong with the world?
I bet you anything there were signs well before this that the parents clocked and they still sided with Dumbo. I bet if you check that family tree, there's more predators in there
who else also laugh after op names Cousin’s Husband Dumbo
Oh, delightful, victim blaming with the entire family. Jesus, run girl, just run
World's worst parents award goes to:
i wanted to cry by the end, so upsetting how a family can protect some creep, even the goddam female cousin
Hey scaling just a heads up, OP said in their post that they didnt want this story to be reposted!!
hi
First!
Just how dumb can one person be.
Move on OP, they clearly want nothing to do with your spineless self.
Victim-blaming is what's the truly spineless thing to do.
@inferiorinferno8859 Sure..let her keep being stupid and bringing the demons back into her life, then wondering why it's hell.
@@shuichisaiharasimpYou've clearly never been sexually harassed. If you've never went through it, then shut up.