This I can agree with. Childbirth was the most hellish 32 hours I have ever spent. And don't ask about how I felt after having an emergency C Section which went wrong. "A small task" words spoke by a person who never gave birth.
Only a person who has never been pregnant would call carrying a child a "small task". I have had three children and being pregnant is not a small task!!
Three HUGE requirements for being a surrogate is you must have at least two kids first (proof your body can handle pregnancy), you can't do it for any family (it always gets messy in some way), AND the potential parents have to prove they're fit to raise the child (evaluation of mental and emotional wellness, which IVF clinics also do). OP does not meet the first two requirements, and SIL and BIL clearly don't meet the last. She needs to run. Far and fast.
That's what I think a lot of these people don't seem to understand. The fact that I've heard other stories like this irritates me cause you know the ones pushing it heard all of this before
The sister is so pathetic, she literally saw her husband threaten to SA her sister, stalk her, physically assault her, break in her appartment and yet in the end she was still debating wether or not to report him. Op is a much better person than me
Not to excuse the sister but you can tell how warped she is from the abuse. Abusive partners can change you for the worse. I hope she can get help and get a therapist.
My sister. She sat around when her crazy mother in law was screaming at my dad after inviting us for dinner. I took a stand and didnot go back screaming..and never returned. Fuck her
The sister is crazy too, not setting boundaries with her husband. someone isn't crazy enough to attack and threaten to grape someone before being abusive enough to their partner. Poor OP has to watch her sister losing her sanity and get harrassed by her psycho husband.
A sister who's mind has been twisted by serious abuse. You think that man just flipped a switch and became a psycho? No way. I guarantee he's been torturing his poor wife this whole time.
Unfortunately when you ask anyone for help there are two problems present: your problem and their problem of you being in front of them with your problem. People who have no business being in law enforcement usually try to solve the latter as it is always easier. I worked with some of these creatures, an empty shirt would be more useful. I did 32 years of military and federal LE and never took that approach, my responsibility weighed heavy on me every day.
This is ridiculous. OP was willing to donate her eggs, but that wasn't good enough??? Crazy people will do crazy things. Please keep yourself and your family safe. Her sister is in need of a psych evaluation immediately..
I would not easily forgive my sister for this mess. I think the BIL had a thing for Op for a long time already. He didn't need Op or her sister for a bio child. He just wanted Op. This is pretty scary.
Probably. There's also the fact that Op and her sister are twins, and a lot of people view twins as a unit more than an individual. And not to mention how most lewd content seems to treat twins. So the BIL could've had some sick fantasy about impregnating twins or just has a sick fetish. Either way, man was a complete and utter creep to both sisters and I hope both of them get the help the need to get through what that man did to them, because unfortunately their relationship is forever changed now.
I read one similar to that where the man burned down OP's old house to try to force OP to come out where he could "catch" her, not realizing she'd sold the house, and the furniture in there had just been the staging furniture that had been placed there for the sale. When in court, the man said he had "the right to do that" because "He'd been promised a child and by hell or high water he was going to make them keep their promise"
@@ohno7153 I don't know but it sounds extremely disgusting that any man would say that but yet it's far, far too common these days. that's why I have pepper spray on me all the time even though I'm under age. I started carrying it at 15 and I got another one soon after my first one was taken by a cop when I forgot to leave it in the car during a concert. nothing happened beside it getting taken but I still never want to be without one. it's because of how common this is that I refuse to be left defenseless.
Pregnancy is NOT a "small" task. The body of the pregnant person goes through as much damage, as much physiological stress & change, as going through a major car accident, save only that it's spread out over 9-ish months and not suffered in an instant. It requires literal MONTHS of commitment, and carries significant and potentially *life-threatening* and/or *long-term* health risks. IT IS NOT A "SMALL" TASK!
This story is so disturbing and heartbreaking! It’s one thing to be asked to help family in such an intense way, but the moment your boundaries were disrespected, it crossed a serious line. Your sister and brother-in-law’s desperation doesn’t excuse the pressure and stalking you’ve been subjected to-it’s terrifying and totally unacceptable. You have every right to say no, and your decision should be respected without question. I hope you stay safe, and that they come to understand how serious and personal this decision is. Thank you for sharing your story-it’s a powerful reminder of the importance of respecting boundaries, no matter how sensitive the situation.
Don't -- your sister and brother-in-law would make awful adoptive parents. As an adopted child with no family ties I know what it is to be loved unconditionally by my parents and I seen the misery friends patented under "conditions" have gone through. Unconditional love by heart trumps family only by blood every time.
Tho it depends on states cuz I know Florida has a stand your ground law but in other states she will have to prove she was in immediate danger and since the cops weren’t helping it would be hard as fuck, also I know for me personally no matter what I don’t want a gun in my home due to mental illness that runs in me and my family. So she might not have a firearm for reasons too.
@@MarinanaBRHe has an arrest on file now, alongside his own wife's testimony against him. A decent lawyer will get her acquitted. A GOOD one will keep the DA from pressing charges.
@@nancythane5672 that’s true finding a good lawyer will help tremendously. I’m glad she is safe and hopefully she doesn’t have to kill him to stay safe. It can be traumatizing and she already has enough trauma for this situation too
Carrying a pregnancy and going through childbirth is NOT a "small favor." It's a life altering, body-changing and potentially psychologically damaging event.
Op has to recognize that theres no way in hell she'll have her sister back, her sister is letting on this harrasment and abuse, ops sister doesnt love them at all
Op should have been talking to a lawyer the minute her car was damaged and he followed her home, and certainly after he pulled her hair hard enough to bleed. Restraining Order.
By your logic, a husband asking to have a baby is a terrible husband who risks his wife's health because of serious health complications that are possible.
@@Endev_Prime if wife is against it, then yeah. It's more likely that unwilling person, that have trauma with pregnancy (OP's mom) would be a lot more stressed, and affect the baby and her own health. Add to this complications like not liking doctors (again, OP's mom because doctors failed) and you have a recipe for a diseaster, while hubby can be just "hehe, cute baby" ;/ The risk might not be always big, but there always IS one, and should be discussed
I suspect that STBXBIL was contemplating kidnapping and raping her just to have that child he so desperately wanted with 'family' DNA. Sister's divorce should go well, what with the proof of stalking and such.
1st thing every victim should know: The police don't GAF. Period. End of sentence. They don't care until physical contact is made, and even then, it has to be proven assault. The only thing they are good for is filing reports, and at least, that does help when it comes to restraining and/or protective orders.
Do you know what surrogacy is? The women who will become pregnant with the baby needs to have had a baby. Not the women who can't have children but will raise the baby. The reason is you do not know how they will be during the pregnancy. It is I higher risks carry a a baby that's been implanted. To women and child, if the women has had a child those risk go down. All the would have to do is find any women willing and who has had a child. It dies not prevent the couple from that route. The BIL is just fixated on it having to be her.
@@katherinehutton9870That’s not what the OP comment meant. If you are doing surrogacy through a clinic, they typically require the woman who is volunteering herself as a surrogate to have been pregnant before. Aka, the clinic wants proof that the surrogate can carry a child to term before moving forward with the procedure. The OP in the story has never been pregnant and has no children, meaning a clinic would not likely approve her for surrogacy even if she wanted to do it.
This is such a heartbreaking and complex situation. I can't imagine the emotional toll it's taking on you, especially with the added pressure and the safety concerns. You’ve shown incredible strength in standing your ground, even when faced with so much opposition from your sister and her husband. You’re not wrong for prioritizing your boundaries and well-being. It’s clear you care deeply about your sister, but her husband’s behavior is extremely concerning and completely out of line. I hope the authorities take your situation seriously and provide the protection you deserve. Sending you strength and support-you’ve been so brave!
I still don't understand how Foster Care isnt an option here. There are millions of reported cases of infertile families adopting or opening their home to foster care only to get pregnant shortly after, and naturally too. Theres something about being thrown into the parental position that rewires the body and mind and makes it possible to get pregnant. I've literally seen it, woman only had 1 set of eggs after an accident, tried for years. She fostered 3 kids for a couple of months and BAM, preggers.
It's not a common fact (and seems pretty outlandish, no offense) Also, the BIL is clearly not in the right mind. I don't know if it's family values or whatever, but seeing misscariage as murder, and thinking he's entitled to his wife's sister isn't normal. Maybe they would pretend for a while, but no child should be near man like that
I would assume it's part the sister wanting to make up for everything, and part that the (soon to be ex)BIL was probably ordered to stay away from Op or more charges would be put against him, so the sister has some level legal protection while staying with Op.
RIGHT!!!??? I would NOT feel safe with living sith someone who was sitting on evidence because they had to choose between SAVING MYLIFE and saving their abuisve stalker husband. I do genuinely hope the sister gets the appropriate help to unpack all that but shed HAVE to stay with mydad. What happens if the sister invites the husband over if charges arent pressed or if hes easily bailed out????? She let him keep harassing OP for WEEKS after the hair pulling incident!!!! Whynwould you trust her so easily to be around you ??
I'm not excusing the sister bit she's going to need some serious therapy because not only was she suffering abuse from her husband but also her inlaws. Sister had been with the husband since college so goodness knows how long that abuse was happening. It really does take something monumental for the light to switch on. Also, there is an element of shame involved, the sister may well have felt ashamed that she was abused. Not too sure I'd have the sister living with me while the divorce and legal proceedings against ex BIL were happening but I wouldn't cut the sister off entirely. I'd forgive.
In Dad or boyfriend's shoes, the first comment by BiL would have eared him a savage beating. Also, I wonder what we are paying the police for... Clearly, it's not to do their actual job! After all, if OP's sister could find out what he was up to and the police couldn't, wtf *do* they do!
No they won’t. It’s a liability issue for the hospital as well as an insurance issue. Like it was pointed out by the sister there are ways to get around that but no reputable doctor or agency will allow it.
@@InSearchofaFeministUtopia That happens to me when I type. I somehow forget the negatives so instead of "can't" I'll type "can" and won't notice. Gotta read things multiple times T^T'
Hearing this sent me into my own PTSD spiral. Had to backtrack the video a bit to re-listen to the part I zoned out at. I'm glad she's safer. They need a restraining order, and maybe to move from the area while he's not following her.
Just how the OP would get pregnant is a moot point. Hopefully not the traditional way. Yikes! What a frightful thought. Especially with that particular BIL. Erik.
hey if this particular story DOES get updated again can anyone lemme know, I'll leave my comment so folks can check the replies if anyone tells whether there's an update or not but the cops BETTER do something to the soon-to-be-Ex BIL
S1. Your bil is a creep who has a "I got to have s*x with twin sisters mentality. He's telling her it'll be cheaper to force himself on you & she doesn't care if he hurts you as long as she gets kids out of you. I suggest you go ahead with the egg retrieval/donation if you're comfortable doing so. Then give info to sis & tell her you did it cause you don't want kids & you had your tubes tied right after egg retrieval. Later on if you decide to have kids, just say procedure reversed itself & you're so shocked about being a mom. Good luck
In a firm believer that our dna chooses which dna were willing to connect with. Like ive known some women and even read up in similar stories that women or even men will have partners for long time and unable to have any child together and once they leave those oartbers theyre able to concieve. Its mindblowing. Theres alot more i believe but i won't get into it.
I believe it too, mainly because it happened to me. Was with my ex husband for 6 years. Tried for 6 years and nothing. He was an abusive alcoholic gambler. Would lie to avoid work. After 3 years with my current husband, I went off birth control and fell pregnant 3 months later. My current husband rarely drinks and never gambles. He also works hard. And doesn't lie.
OK, so I just looked this up on the web what your sister’s husband is doing is actually against the law and United States, there is a extreme law of harassment texting and stalking is a serious felony Only that is, if he also assault you made you believe that should be enough evidence for cops to realize that he did that they also can get fingerprints from the nails or from the fabric Like, what is the United States cops doing like step up do your job?!
Id go get an IUD and show it to them. Sister needs a therapist who can do deprogramming therapy. The BIL is a Narcissist, possibly the most dangerous known type, the SocioNarcissist. Reply
The fact that he could call his own wife a murder for an accident she was the victim in, is disgusting. I get the impression his wife was damaged goods to him the moment he found out she couldn't give him a baby and OP became the prize in his eyes. I think this goes beyond just wanting her to be a surrogate I think he genuinely wants OP to replace his wife and be a baby factory.
Don't surrogate's use the bio moms eggs so why didn't she just use a agency cause she would be using her own eggs so the baby would still be bio her's and her husband
Some surrogates use their own eggs if the legal mother can't produce her own. Some use a different donor egg altogether. The reasons for surrogacy vary widely. It is possible to a baby to be born to five different parents - the carrier, the biological parents (gamete donors) and the legal parents who will raise the child.
???? So.. she wants to experience being pregnant, yet declined op's suggestion to donate her eggs? everyone else in the comments brought up other problems i took issue with so im just.. im baffled, im gonna be baffled about that logic. If i was the sister id take op's first offer
“Small task” being pregnant is not a small fking task.
That, and in some places there's a requirement for a surrogate to have had at least one pregnancy to term.
This I can agree with. Childbirth was the most hellish 32 hours I have ever spent. And don't ask about how I felt after having an emergency C Section which went wrong. "A small task" words spoke by a person who never gave birth.
Only a person who has never been pregnant would call carrying a child a "small task". I have had three children and being pregnant is not a small task!!
Agreed
The US still has a fairly high maternal death rate, too.
If the BIL isn’t unalived in one of these updates or a future update, justice will not be done.
Damn right. Wood chipper 2024.
Not sure how the dad would ever be able to sit by and not "solve" the problem.
Like he needs to GO.
Jealous of her not being able to have kids?
@@VeliThaGawd huh?
Three HUGE requirements for being a surrogate is you must have at least two kids first (proof your body can handle pregnancy), you can't do it for any family (it always gets messy in some way), AND the potential parents have to prove they're fit to raise the child (evaluation of mental and emotional wellness, which IVF clinics also do). OP does not meet the first two requirements, and SIL and BIL clearly don't meet the last. She needs to run. Far and fast.
That's what I think a lot of these people don't seem to understand. The fact that I've heard other stories like this irritates me cause you know the ones pushing it heard all of this before
The sister is so pathetic, she literally saw her husband threaten to SA her sister, stalk her, physically assault her, break in her appartment and yet in the end she was still debating wether or not to report him. Op is a much better person than me
Not to excuse the sister but you can tell how warped she is from the abuse. Abusive partners can change you for the worse. I hope she can get help and get a therapist.
Not sister but TWIN SISTER
Abuse is a hell of a drug
She is spineless
@@yesthatmousyiris4887 who fking cares
What kinda sister sees her family being treated like this and makes excuses for her garbage husband?
A weak and desperate woman. Especially when she doesn't realize that she's been abused by her own husband.
The kind that would threaten to disown their sibling in order to force them into doin what they want
My sister. She sat around when her crazy mother in law was screaming at my dad after inviting us for dinner. I took a stand and didnot go back screaming..and never returned. Fuck her
The sister is crazy too, not setting boundaries with her husband. someone isn't crazy enough to attack and threaten to grape someone before being abusive enough to their partner. Poor OP has to watch her sister losing her sanity and get harrassed by her psycho husband.
A sister who's mind has been twisted by serious abuse. You think that man just flipped a switch and became a psycho? No way. I guarantee he's been torturing his poor wife this whole time.
Dude needs to permanently lose his ability to have any kids. This will teach him a lesson he will never forget.
Lessons are useless if you can't use any conclusions you got from those lessons.
Carrying a child that is biologically yours and handing it over to you sister is NOT a small task…. That will affect you for a lifetime
Sis is an abuse victim, and it is hard for them to break free. I understand this, and yet i don't know if i could forgive as easily as OP
its so much harder than one thinks.
once again, the police are entirely unhelpful. surprise surprise
Unfortunately when you ask anyone for help there are two problems present: your problem and their problem of you being in front of them with your problem. People who have no business being in law enforcement usually try to solve the latter as it is always easier. I worked with some of these creatures, an empty shirt would be more useful. I did 32 years of military and federal LE and never took that approach, my responsibility weighed heavy on me every day.
9 months of pregnancy isn’t a small thing. Also a baby won’t fix this
A baby will only add to the Hell.
This is ridiculous. OP was willing to donate her eggs, but that wasn't good enough??? Crazy people will do crazy things. Please keep yourself and your family safe. Her sister is in need of a psych evaluation immediately..
I would not easily forgive my sister for this mess. I think the BIL had a thing for Op for a long time already. He didn't need Op or her sister for a bio child. He just wanted Op. This is pretty scary.
Probably. There's also the fact that Op and her sister are twins, and a lot of people view twins as a unit more than an individual. And not to mention how most lewd content seems to treat twins. So the BIL could've had some sick fantasy about impregnating twins or just has a sick fetish. Either way, man was a complete and utter creep to both sisters and I hope both of them get the help the need to get through what that man did to them, because unfortunately their relationship is forever changed now.
I read one similar to that where the man burned down OP's old house to try to force OP to come out where he could "catch" her, not realizing she'd sold the house, and the furniture in there had just been the staging furniture that had been placed there for the sale.
When in court, the man said he had "the right to do that" because "He'd been promised a child and by hell or high water he was going to make them keep their promise"
Men like them need to lose that right of having kids. Tell me he gets jail time
Oh god is so dangerous being a woman this 2024 we aren’t in the 1920s
what story is this?
@@ohno7153 I don't know but it sounds extremely disgusting that any man would say that but yet it's far, far too common these days. that's why I have pepper spray on me all the time even though I'm under age. I started carrying it at 15 and I got another one soon after my first one was taken by a cop when I forgot to leave it in the car during a concert. nothing happened beside it getting taken but I still never want to be without one. it's because of how common this is that I refuse to be left defenseless.
Pregnancy is NOT a "small" task. The body of the pregnant person goes through as much damage, as much physiological stress & change, as going through a major car accident, save only that it's spread out over 9-ish months and not suffered in an instant. It requires literal MONTHS of commitment, and carries significant and potentially *life-threatening* and/or *long-term* health risks. IT IS NOT A "SMALL" TASK!
This story is so disturbing and heartbreaking! It’s one thing to be asked to help family in such an intense way, but the moment your boundaries were disrespected, it crossed a serious line. Your sister and brother-in-law’s desperation doesn’t excuse the pressure and stalking you’ve been subjected to-it’s terrifying and totally unacceptable. You have every right to say no, and your decision should be respected without question. I hope you stay safe, and that they come to understand how serious and personal this decision is. Thank you for sharing your story-it’s a powerful reminder of the importance of respecting boundaries, no matter how sensitive the situation.
"Probably won't update anymore" I see sections for three more updates. ruh-roh.
For real, that usually means that the op is underestimating the situation and how it can still escalate or go on.
Don't -- your sister and brother-in-law would make awful adoptive parents. As an adopted child with no family ties I know what it is to be loved unconditionally by my parents and I seen the misery friends patented under "conditions" have gone through. Unconditional love by heart trumps family only by blood every time.
Let's gooooo he was caught by the police and his ass is getting divorced
THANK YOU JESUS!!!
@@ElizabethHamato-fz2jt jesus is a lawyer?
@@Albme94 yep because I once hired him to sue a plushie that killed another plushie
No. There's no proof that he will 'let gooooo.' She needs to BE SAFE~~NOT LET A PREDATOR ATTACK HER WHEN HER GUARD'S DOWN!
Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
I've always loved that saying.
dont let yourself drown just to keep someone else afloat? idk
"I live in the US, what law can help me?" Girl.... it's called the second amendment...
Tho it depends on states cuz I know Florida has a stand your ground law but in other states she will have to prove she was in immediate danger and since the cops weren’t helping it would be hard as fuck, also I know for me personally no matter what I don’t want a gun in my home due to mental illness that runs in me and my family. So she might not have a firearm for reasons too.
@@MarinanaBRHe has an arrest on file now, alongside his own wife's testimony against him. A decent lawyer will get her acquitted. A GOOD one will keep the DA from pressing charges.
@@nancythane5672 that’s true finding a good lawyer will help tremendously. I’m glad she is safe and hopefully she doesn’t have to kill him to stay safe. It can be traumatizing and she already has enough trauma for this situation too
I read this story before, minus the three new updates, and I just knew this story will be updated soon enough from what I read about the BIL… 😅
Carrying a pregnancy and going through childbirth is NOT a "small favor." It's a life altering, body-changing and potentially psychologically damaging event.
Op has to recognize that theres no way in hell she'll have her sister back, her sister is letting on this harrasment and abuse, ops sister doesnt love them at all
Glad the sister finally wised up but worried about how he will take the divorce. Hope they all stay safe.
Op should have been talking to a lawyer the minute her car was damaged and he followed her home, and certainly after he pulled her hair hard enough to bleed. Restraining Order.
Women die during child birth! She's asking her sister risk serious health complications.
By your logic, a husband asking to have a baby is a terrible husband who risks his wife's health because of serious health complications that are possible.
@@Endev_Prime if wife is against it, then yeah. It's more likely that unwilling person, that have trauma with pregnancy (OP's mom) would be a lot more stressed, and affect the baby and her own health. Add to this complications like not liking doctors (again, OP's mom because doctors failed) and you have a recipe for a diseaster, while hubby can be just "hehe, cute baby" ;/
The risk might not be always big, but there always IS one, and should be discussed
“Not enough evidence” BULL 🐂 who else is doing that to her 💀 jeez
The sister is horrible she could got op killed.
The story of the definition why sometimes you got to buy a gun
That depends on what country you're in.
And have access to abortion.
This is another level of insanity
I hope she ditches her sister the minute all of this is over
I suspect that STBXBIL was contemplating kidnapping and raping her just to have that child he so desperately wanted with 'family' DNA. Sister's divorce should go well, what with the proof of stalking and such.
I would’ve pressed charges after the car incident!
1st thing every victim should know: The police don't GAF. Period. End of sentence. They don't care until physical contact is made, and even then, it has to be proven assault. The only thing they are good for is filing reports, and at least, that does help when it comes to restraining and/or protective orders.
Surrogacy is not allowed for people with no children, so????? How is that selfish
Do you know what surrogacy is? The women who will become pregnant with the baby needs to have had a baby. Not the women who can't have children but will raise the baby. The reason is you do not know how they will be during the pregnancy. It is I higher risks carry a a baby that's been implanted. To women and child, if the women has had a child those risk go down. All the would have to do is find any women willing and who has had a child. It dies not prevent the couple from that route. The BIL is just fixated on it having to be her.
@@katherinehutton9870That’s not what the OP comment meant. If you are doing surrogacy through a clinic, they typically require the woman who is volunteering herself as a surrogate to have been pregnant before. Aka, the clinic wants proof that the surrogate can carry a child to term before moving forward with the procedure. The OP in the story has never been pregnant and has no children, meaning a clinic would not likely approve her for surrogacy even if she wanted to do it.
That’s an incredibly disturbing situation-stay safe and protect your boundaries 🚨
This is such a heartbreaking and complex situation. I can't imagine the emotional toll it's taking on you, especially with the added pressure and the safety concerns. You’ve shown incredible strength in standing your ground, even when faced with so much opposition from your sister and her husband. You’re not wrong for prioritizing your boundaries and well-being. It’s clear you care deeply about your sister, but her husband’s behavior is extremely concerning and completely out of line. I hope the authorities take your situation seriously and provide the protection you deserve. Sending you strength and support-you’ve been so brave!
I still don't understand how Foster Care isnt an option here. There are millions of reported cases of infertile families adopting or opening their home to foster care only to get pregnant shortly after, and naturally too. Theres something about being thrown into the parental position that rewires the body and mind and makes it possible to get pregnant. I've literally seen it, woman only had 1 set of eggs after an accident, tried for years. She fostered 3 kids for a couple of months and BAM, preggers.
It's not a common fact (and seems pretty outlandish, no offense)
Also, the BIL is clearly not in the right mind. I don't know if it's family values or whatever, but seeing misscariage as murder, and thinking he's entitled to his wife's sister isn't normal. Maybe they would pretend for a while, but no child should be near man like that
Let us know what happens after Court and the consequences to BIL
Restraing order is needed and a jail term for BIL
Some sisters do things like this, other sister would lay down their lives for their sis 😂 couldn’t imagine being the first type
Why is she letting her sister live with her? Why can't she stay with her dad?
I would assume it's part the sister wanting to make up for everything, and part that the (soon to be ex)BIL was probably ordered to stay away from Op or more charges would be put against him, so the sister has some level legal protection while staying with Op.
RIGHT!!!??? I would NOT feel safe with living sith someone who was sitting on evidence because they had to choose between SAVING MYLIFE and saving their abuisve stalker husband. I do genuinely hope the sister gets the appropriate help to unpack all that but shed HAVE to stay with mydad. What happens if the sister invites the husband over if charges arent pressed or if hes easily bailed out????? She let him keep harassing OP for WEEKS after the hair pulling incident!!!! Whynwould you trust her so easily to be around you ??
I'm not excusing the sister bit she's going to need some serious therapy because not only was she suffering abuse from her husband but also her inlaws. Sister had been with the husband since college so goodness knows how long that abuse was happening.
It really does take something monumental for the light to switch on. Also, there is an element of shame involved, the sister may well have felt ashamed that she was abused.
Not too sure I'd have the sister living with me while the divorce and legal proceedings against ex BIL were happening but I wouldn't cut the sister off entirely. I'd forgive.
In Dad or boyfriend's shoes, the first comment by BiL would have eared him a savage beating.
Also, I wonder what we are paying the police for... Clearly, it's not to do their actual job! After all, if OP's sister could find out what he was up to and the police couldn't, wtf *do* they do!
This is scary.
From what I understand, someone who has never had a child will be approved as a surrogate.
No they won’t. It’s a liability issue for the hospital as well as an insurance issue. Like it was pointed out by the sister there are ways to get around that but no reputable doctor or agency will allow it.
You do mean “won’t” don’t you? Because No. Any woman who has not had a child will definitely NOT be approved legally to be a surrogate.
@RedPanda74 actually I meant will not. I left out the not.
@@InSearchofaFeministUtopia That happens to me when I type. I somehow forget the negatives so instead of "can't" I'll type "can" and won't notice. Gotta read things multiple times T^T'
Hearing this sent me into my own PTSD spiral. Had to backtrack the video a bit to re-listen to the part I zoned out at. I'm glad she's safer. They need a restraining order, and maybe to move from the area while he's not following her.
Just how the OP would get pregnant is a moot point. Hopefully not the traditional way. Yikes! What a frightful thought. Especially with that particular BIL. Erik.
hey if this particular story DOES get updated again can anyone lemme know, I'll leave my comment so folks can check the replies if anyone tells whether there's an update or not but the cops BETTER do something to the soon-to-be-Ex BIL
me omg this was crazy bro.
Pretty sure this is fake AI bullshit. It has no trace anywhere on Reddit. So it’s most likely made up
S1. Your bil is a creep who has a "I got to have s*x with twin sisters mentality. He's telling her it'll be cheaper to force himself on you & she doesn't care if he hurts you as long as she gets kids out of you. I suggest you go ahead with the egg retrieval/donation if you're comfortable doing so. Then give info to sis & tell her you did it cause you don't want kids & you had your tubes tied right after egg retrieval. Later on if you decide to have kids, just say procedure reversed itself & you're so shocked about being a mom. Good luck
I would’ve just told them I’m infertile they would’ve backed off
WTH? The couple could have gotten IVF and then gotten another woman as surrogate. Does not have to be the sister.
In a firm believer that our dna chooses which dna were willing to connect with. Like ive known some women and even read up in similar stories that women or even men will have partners for long time and unable to have any child together and once they leave those oartbers theyre able to concieve. Its mindblowing. Theres alot more i believe but i won't get into it.
I believe it too, mainly because it happened to me.
Was with my ex husband for 6 years. Tried for 6 years and nothing. He was an abusive alcoholic gambler. Would lie to avoid work.
After 3 years with my current husband, I went off birth control and fell pregnant 3 months later.
My current husband rarely drinks and never gambles. He also works hard. And doesn't lie.
Get a lawyer and get a restraining order.
OK, so I just looked this up on the web what your sister’s husband is doing is actually against the law and United States, there is a extreme law of harassment texting and stalking is a serious felony Only that is, if he also assault you made you believe that should be enough evidence for cops to realize that he did that they also can get fingerprints from the nails or from the fabric Like, what is the United States cops doing like step up do your job?!
There is absolutely a law to help. It's called the 2nd Amendment.
Unfortunately in this case, the 2nd Amendment protects ownership but not use
looks like the main problem here is the BIL pressuring his wife to convince her twin
get a lawyer!!!!!!
Please do a part2 and part 3 of this story thank you
Extremely common police L
No way ...i heard of a mother being a surrogate so her daughter could have a baby ...that is a creep factor big time
The way her sister and the police keeps failing her...
We're twins if she cant have a baby how can i? So shes infertile from a car accident.
Id go get an IUD and show it to them. Sister needs a therapist who can do deprogramming therapy. The BIL is a Narcissist, possibly the most dangerous known type, the SocioNarcissist.
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“My BIL is stalking me until he can get me pregnant” WHAT
The fact that he could call his own wife a murder for an accident she was the victim in, is disgusting. I get the impression his wife was damaged goods to him the moment he found out she couldn't give him a baby and OP became the prize in his eyes. I think this goes beyond just wanting her to be a surrogate I think he genuinely wants OP to replace his wife and be a baby factory.
It would make more sense if the sis and BIL paid for the damages.
Though many places make that illegal.
Don't surrogate's use the bio moms eggs so why didn't she just use a agency cause she would be using her own eggs so the baby would still be bio her's and her husband
Some surrogates use their own eggs if the legal mother can't produce her own. Some use a different donor egg altogether. The reasons for surrogacy vary widely. It is possible to a baby to be born to five different parents - the carrier, the biological parents (gamete donors) and the legal parents who will raise the child.
Apparently she had issues with egg retrieval for IVF
That boyfriend of op SUCKS! I hope they break up
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He just wanted to sleep with the sister 🤦♀️
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So.. she wants to experience being pregnant, yet declined op's suggestion to donate her eggs?
everyone else in the comments brought up other problems i took issue with so im just.. im baffled, im gonna be baffled about that logic. If i was the sister id take op's first offer
The sister is literal trash with a psycho as a husband. The boyfriend sucked until it got scary. Just a lot to unpack with this story...
why sometimes you got to buy a gun
AI BS.
Oh please, stop these graphics, it's making nauseous.
Then don't listen
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This is so fake I just physically can't stand it
Let's gooooo he was caught by the police and his ass is getting divorced