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This reminds me of my childhood. I lost everything and everyone I knew in one day. My 12 year old brother was dead and our mom went to jail for murder. That was 29 years ago, but I had some Amazing families who I lived with until the courts finally placed me with some relatives to raise me! I'm forever grateful to those foster families!
Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation So Many times people always think about their selfs forgetting others. People are out their struggling for existence, while existence is some how okay for some of us. Some are having a place to sleep while others are sleeping in the street with out even food and water to drink. Some are eating good and delicious food while others are looking for food in the street, eating the reminant of people. We have the opportunity to buy new clothes or even change a dress, While others have a single cloth to cover their nakedness. Some have cars,Moto bike, Moto Cycles and even more while others are out their suffering. I know they are not the reason why you are having your Money or wealth, but let's have sympathy and help them out through a humanitarial foundation called' Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation'. We help the Following 1 the poor 2 The needy 3 Those less Fortunate Children 5 Those Children that are out their suffering and striving for food and existence 6 We help those Children that want to go to school . Earn allot of blessings by helping these Less Fortunate people For More information WhatsApp on the following numbers +23230305098 +23276652183 Or Email us on contehmajeed@gmail.com
@@cristyluv1205 I'm glad you are able to Foster children. All kids need love, a lot will probably act out and be defiant because of past trauma. (that's how I was). Don't give up on them no matter how much they push you! It takes strong people to love people who have been through trauma.
Make sure you are developed enough mentally to even parent. Parenting isn’t a game or joke. It’s the real deal. Make sure your life is stable and you have your ish together before bringing someone else into your life. That includes safety with family and friends.
I started fostercare when I was 23. I am 63 now . We fostered 60 and adopted 10. My memoir is " The Will of a Wildflower". It is a recommended reading for social work students interested in working in child welfare.
I know...that IS the hardest part of fostering. What helps me is to think about it this way - I am a home that can be safe for this kid and help him/her weather this really tough situation until they go home. You still make a tremendous impact and you do it for them :)
Its is hard, very hard and it rips your heart out when they leave or reject you. Yet it is hard cause everything that is worth it is hard. And think about how hard life is for the kids. Nothing compared to how we as Foster parents feel.
not living with you doesn't always mean goodbye. many foster parents keep in touch with the families after reunification, older kids can remember your phone number and call you or email you, and many kids reach out in adulthood to the families that impacted them.
None of you are developed enough mentally to even parent. Parenting isn’t a game or joke. It’s the real deal. Make sure your life is stable and you have your ish together before bringing someone else into your life. That includes safety with family and friends.
Great tips. I am a former foster parent who relocated down south and am considering getting back into it. I am also looking to start a support group for some church members who are fostering and these tips coupled with my 15 years experience as a foster parent I feel will really help. Thank you for the amazing work you are doing.❤
Am interested in learning about becoming a foster parent. I jist had my firstborn and am in graduate school so idk how soon id be able to foster a child...i just want to start learning bc this is heavy on my heart.
@@lorankimani7319 thank you for sharing... that is great advice! And im sure many aspiring foster parents would benefit from really understanding and empthizing with those the foster child feels coming into a strangers home.
@@Tyler_Bundy You also got to think about what the kids been through. Some have been abused, raped , molested , abandoned and ect...Your welcome by the way.
I just had a 24 year old move out and my 18 year old daughter is about to move out. So I need one of the extra rooms for one of my hobbies but I'll have an extra room soon. So I'm considering fostering
Thx for providing this valuable information for new foster parents. I was a Foster Mom so I could help some of the children I met in troubled teen industry as a Psych Nurse. I wanted to share that this appears to be an unwise move in mwny cases. Innocent caring humans should be warned that if you become a Foster Mom to someone in DJJ after their mom was murdered often leads to your loved ones suddenly dying within a few years. This happened to me, so I feel obligated as a USVet Chaplain Assistant to warn others. TY Foster Parents for your genorosity & love!❤❤❤
I was thinking that maybe its gonna be my future because I'm very dedicated mom and cannot have more children (I have a 6yo son) but I'm too of an empath for that I think, I was crying whole video 😢
I raised kids from the time i was 5. I got rapped by an aged out black foster kid 4 months before i turned 3. I had 100s of brothers and sisters throughout my childhood. One of my favorite memories is when i walked into my baby brother Raymond, who had down syndrome had coated his entire room top to bottom with a lovely coating of poop. It really was a work of art. I don't know how he did it from inside his crib. Lol. I slowly walked backwards to school without saying a word. I think the room just got rebuilt. That's a thing about being a foster parent,, keep a handy man handy. Kids can be extremely destructive. My next poopiful memory was my first day of second grade and i got to wear pants for the first time, i was changing mimi and she exorcism diarrheaed all over me. That wasn't so funny. Plus i got beat for being late and wearing a wrinkled plaid uniform. I miss my little sister with spina bifida though. She was so sweet.
I think a great thing would also be better if they actually talked to you about phone calls . What to expect how to handle bad behavior from bio parents . I wish someone would have prepared me for that..
In process of getting licensed. As a foster parent, when we take them to the DR and they have an ear infection. Can we say give them antibiotics? Or do we have to get permission from caseworker or bio parent first
From what I know you have to have a prescription. You don't have to ask the case worker as long as a Dr has signed off and you have PROOF. Because they will ALWAYS ask for a paper trail.
As a biological child of foster parents ive got some tip almost knowone ever talks about in foster care because they dont care I think. If you thinking about getting into foster care and want to have multiple foster children but you have 1 biological child, dont do it. Because you are getting verry bussy with foster children they need extra care there behavior is different then biological children because of children. So that means there will be a lot of times you neglet your biological child meanimg they feel lonely there will be times they will feel they dont belong. They may feel a competition for love because the foster gets all the attention. With all consecuences in the futhure. Also some foster children also will be jealous on your child and will attack them. So make sure when you go in fostercare and you have biological children that you have 2 of them at least. Also biological children are a key to make caring for a foster succeed or not. Moster fosters first go talk to a kid then to an adult so your biological child will hear storys from the foster first. Some foster kids wont talk to adults because the adults are the ones that hurt them or the ones that took them away from there parents so trust in adults is verry low so when you have a biological child thats a huge plus but make sure you have 2 of them. Because when your an fosterparent with a biological child you may think your at the front line. But your not you biological is at the front line and the case workers and everyone else in fostercare does not care about your biochild. Biochildren in foster care are invissible theyre almost disposable. Also make sure you spent time with your biochildren every week talk to them and take them serious. The foster children are damaged for life already. There is no need to let your biological child get damaged for life. Make sure they know and feel that someones cares about them to. Believe me it can be really lonely as a biochild from foster parents your invisible 🫥
Remember it can go both ways. I dislike the way you’re dehumanising the foster kids by saying they’re “damaged for life”. It’s honestly disgusting. You should probably think about it from the other perspective too. My previous foster cater had a adopted from birth daughter, and she was always number one out of the kids. Do you understand how damaging that can be? I don’t think you’d ever understand how the foster kids in your household felt, and I don’t think that foster parents should also have bio kids. You’re household was the exception, not the rule. I felt so invisible, like a spare part and a source of money
Aw dude- I'm really sorry all that stuff happened to you. That is NOT ok. Your insight, is actually very, very good, and honestly, quite true. I myself, will be going into the system, with two siblings soon, if all goes well, and I came to this video, to know what to expect. I appreciate your insight, you've made some very good points, and I genuinely hope stuff gets better in life. Thank you for trying to help other people.
@@soaringspirits2267 thankyou for your message. I really hope it helps and you will have a better time then I do. Watch yourself and your siblings. Talk to eightother when your parents can. And nomatter what things do get better in the end
@@korstiaanakse1 Aw mate, you really are too sweet. Thank you for the reply. :] Please excuse me if I read it wrong, but we're actually all hoping for adoption, as our parents are both rather awful. But! But! My siblings and I should remain a trio, near guaranteed, and our communication is awesome. 👍 Truly, it will. Thank you for your kindness, be safe out there, and I hope you have a lovely week. (And beyond!)
Sorry you feel that.way. I lived in a foster home with bio kids and all were treated the same. And today we are all still very close and.call each other brother and sister
Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation So Many times people always think about their selfs forgetting others. People are out their struggling for existence, while existence is some how okay for some of us. Some are having a place to sleep while others are sleeping in the street with out even food and water to drink. Some are eating good and delicious food while others are looking for food in the street, eating the reminant of people. We have the opportunity to buy new clothes or even change a dress, While others have a single cloth to cover their nakedness. Some have cars,Moto bike, Moto Cycles and even more while others are out their suffering. I know they are not the reason why you are having your Money or wealth, but let's have sympathy and help them out through a humanitarial foundation called' Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation'. We help the Following 1 the poor 2 The needy 3 Those less Fortunate Children 5 Those Children that are out their suffering and striving for food and existence 6 We help those Children that want to go to school . Earn allot of blessings by helping these Less Fortunate people For More information WhatsApp on the following numbers +23230305098 +23276652183 Or Email us on contehmajeed@gmail.com
Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation So Many times people always think about their selfs forgetting others. People are out their struggling for existence, while existence is some how okay for some of us. Some are having a place to sleep while others are sleeping in the street with out even food and water to drink. Some are eating good and delicious food while others are looking for food in the street, eating the reminant of people. We have the opportunity to buy new clothes or even change a dress, While others have a single cloth to cover their nakedness. Some have cars,Moto bike, Moto Cycles and even more while others are out their suffering. I know they are not the reason why you are having your Money or wealth, but let's have sympathy and help them out through a humanitarial foundation called' Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation'. We help the Following 1 the poor 2 The needy 3 Those less Fortunate Children 5 Those Children that are out their suffering and striving for food and existence 6 We help those Children that want to go to school . Earn allot of blessings by helping these Less Fortunate people For More information WhatsApp on the following numbers +23230305098 +23276652183 Or Email us on contehmajeed@gmail.com
I hate foster care no one understands you at all i am completely alone i have no family or friends im about to age out im using wjat energy and motivation i have left but im at my ends. I dnt want to live but im to scared to die
Listen kid, you’re not going to die and I’ll tell you exactly how to get a real family and be taken care of for the rest of your life. Join the US Army, best decision I ever made. Lots of aged out foster kids do this, one of my best friends who’s a veteran was a faster kid and he was a signal soldier, he helps me with securing my communication and it’s a really good option. It’s not as tough physically as it was when I was in around 2010. And the NCO’s have to be nicer to you. But you’ll get a family, your NCO’s and Officers will be your parents, you’ll have a lot of big brother and big sisters who are specialists and they’ll look out for you and probably buy beer for you before you turn 21 lol. They (NCO’s and Officers) actually are supposed to care about you believe it or not, it’s in the training and indoctrination. You’ll be a specialist in three years which means NCOs and Officers can’t fuck with you as much and then after that you’ll be a junior NCO and it will be your job to care about some 18 year old kid, you’ll be about 22 24 or so maybe 27 if your MOS doesn’t rank up fast or you’re lazy or bad at the job somehow, which is no big deal plenty of bad soldiers out there make it to retirement these days of perpetual deployments every ten or twelve years or so. And the likely hood of dying is .65% here’s the math if you care about it in parentheses if not just skip it (Total deaths since Vietnam: Approximately 65,302 Total Army enlistments since Vietnam: An estimate of millions if we assume total enlistment figure of 10 million since Vietnam, the very rough estimate would be: (65,302 / 10,000,000) * 100=.65%) The other thing that’s cool besides the free college, the life long free medical care from the VA, is that society generally accepts that after an army career you become disabled and literally everyone who joins unless they’re stupid and don’t pursue this benefit get what’s called a disability rating from the Va, you’ll at bare minimum get like 50% and that’s 1200 bucks a month for nothing other than not getting kicked out for committing some kind of felony. It’s very easy to get 100% service connection disability which is 3600 a month so you don’t have to work if you don’t want to and you live a sort of humble ish life. When I say that it’s really not that humble like you can still live in a city just not NYC if LA you can still eat at restaurants sometimes just not super fancy ones more like diners and such, you can even buy a significant amount of weed and alcohol if you want you’re not gonna drive a Mercedes at least a good one but you’ll have a car you can drive back and fourth across the country with a few times, might even be able to support a girlfriend that doesn’t work really if you’re smart with your finances and that’s just if you don’t want to work. Me and that foster kid who aged out and joined the army are doing all that without working. So in summation, you’re about to go on the most thrilling adventure of your life, sign up as soon as you can, the army is one of those things the younger you join the more you will get out of it. I wish you luck it’s not as scary as it sounds, best decision I ever made.
Hey man, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m being fostered in the UK so I’m lucky at the end of the day. Is there anyone you can talk to at all? Like teachers maybe?
I’m sorry to hear that! You are a child of God regardless of how old you get. I admitir you sharing your truth. Keep strong and first thing I encourage you to do is. Get plugged in with a church bc church is such a great way to find community. You have a true father that adores you and knows how you feel. Praying. If you need help finding a church let us know your city where you reside. 🤗
No. I am 63 and have had to take my 9 year old granddaughter in as a foster child. Even though I'm her grandmother, I still have to be licensed. It's a long process but worth it.
Hey guys, thinking about starting the foster care process. How long do the kids usually stay with you? And can you pick your age group you would like to care for?
Do we have option to not be put in positions where the child has to go back to their parents and or adoptive parents? I am afraid we get attached and then have to rehome the children.
That fear is what keeping so many kids in foster care. We can't control the future of the kids, we just have to do what we can today with what we know. We know there are thousands of kids who need help, so we help them even if that means it might break your heart if they leave your home.
the unspoken rule is "your money should not be spent on your foster kids" but a lot of the time you want to buy little extras for that foster child. And they only give you enough money for the child's expenses, and if you do it correctly there will NOT be a penny left over for your personal stuff. So fostering is not profitable but it is moral and a fantastic thing to do.
I live in England and I was so ready to begin my application for fostering, but then I got really cold feet out of nowhere. I had wanted to be a foster carer for almost 8 years, but then I got really scared and worried. I didn't think I could do it, I worried if the kids come with lice and a whole bunch of other thoughts flooded my mind.
I need help!!! I don't know who else to ask. I am a foster parent now and I have a one year old with a crazy situation. I have called all the adoption lawyers in my area and I've gotten no answers on what to do. how can I message you directly?!
Hello! It would be best to speak with an attorney in your state because state laws differ when it comes to foster care. If you have a foster child, my guess is that there is still a case open for that child in juvenile court and there are already lawyers involved. You will want to speak with an attorney who is experienced with the juvenile court system in your state to get some help.
@@teischamarievlogs5968 Oh ok. I could help you if you lived in Nebraska...unfortunately only an attorney licensed in your state can assist you with the adoption.
❤❤😢😢😢 I'M 66 YEARS OLD AND A DOUBLE AMPUTEE NOW! AND I WAS FOSTER RAISED. I DIDN'T SEE MY REAL MOTHER VERY MUCH. SHE WAS WHITE, AND I WAS RAISED IN A BLACK FAMILY. NOW. I'M ALL MIXED UP! I SEE MYSELF IN A MIRROR AS BEING BLACK. (THAT'S NOT MY REAL LOOKS). ALSO MY REAL MOTHER PASSED AWAY. AND I'D LEFT A LOT IN HER POSSESSION.😊😊. BUT NOW I AM DIRT POOR. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Hi, did you take these ideas from the Zero2Five family youtube channel? th-cam.com/video/neeN-k5USiU/w-d-xo.html They did a video with the exact same 7 points and are foster parents. It's a good video, but you should at a minimum credit them at the start of your video.
No their not. The abuse starts and bribing continues while in the room alone your getting for reason. That's even worse on 12yr olds. I no been forced thru it.
@@mmalithefather1472if a child is removed from a good home it’s a crime. From a drug addicted alcoholic or abusive home…it’s probably a blessing and time/wake up call for that parent to get their shit in order.
Were any of them First Nations children ? As of Jan 1 McFd was found guilty of discrimination that caused children to be removed without the support that would have been offered to any other race or class of child Sleep on this - remember this when they call you mom- what it be like to lose them so unjustly by what is supposed to be the most polite country in the world by people paid with part of every dollar u make ..
This content is a lighthouse of fresh perspectives. Reading a book with similar topics enlightened my understanding of life. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
1.You are a paid baby theif for the state. 2.sometimes the kids are there in foster care for little to no reason. 3. Even if the kids are there for some kind of reason they don't belong with foster care providers they belong with immediate or extended family. 4. This country has one Nation under God on its money and thou shalt not steal is a mistranslation. In reality its thou shalt not kidnap. I would be begging God for forgiveness if you have done ANYTHING besides work your BUTT off towards reunification. 5. You are not a parent you are a foster care provider you don't have ANY right to block visits or take a child out of state or find ways to block the real family from getting hospital training for medically complex kids. 6. You don't have the right to impose your culture and religion on someone else's child. 7. You don't have ANY moral right to go to court over these kids they are not yours and the only way to make it not a conflict of interests for them to be in your home is that you have no option to make these kids a permanent part of your household. That means foster care providers should NEVER be allowed to legally adopt their charges. If the child cannot go back home or to an immediate or distant relative they should be put up to be under a guardianship with someone who has no incentive to block reunification. That way you will not be tempted to undermine or sabotage the real parents. And you should not be giving adoption stipends to these people EITHER! If reunification fails the people who get a guardianship over the kid first of all should not be the foster care providers and secondly should have to pay 40,000 dollars to the kids family to be put into a trust for all siblings and cousins that stay with the real family to be tested for aptitude and trained for an appropriate trade. And the state should have to cough up three times that amount for every kid they never return towards that purpose as well. There is far too much federal funding going towards baby snatching and it is time to give back to the families that are being destroyed by it. The government right now is paying ten times the amount to permanently destroy families rather than put that money into family restoration.
Hi Rebecca, I have worked in foster care for years and everything in my videos is from my own experience. If there is another youtube channel that has the same content, that's great. I am glad the information is going out to people
@@Lucrecebundy everything in the video might be from your experience. But you've copied the structure and points directly from someone else's channel and taken their content without crediting them. You can make a video based on someone else's content but you do need to credit Zero2Five at the start. I'm not playing the 'oh it's just by chance' game. Stop lying and just credit them.
Every situation is different. There are many children stuck in the system now that have no other options. We had three children for over a year that returning to parents has never been an option. They trafficked their own kids since at least age 4. They were homeless at one point. No other family members stepped up. Fostering provided them homes and families that loved them. We had another child for two and a half years that the plan was always to return to mom when she was ready. I was happy to write the letter of support for mom and witness their reunification. It is hard on the foster parents as well, saying goodbye is often goodbye forever. We are experiencing that today.
my advice is never do it it will be the biggest mistake you will ever make in your life you will loose your biological children if you want to go to hell and back start foster caring and have a good Lawyer ready remember these children are troubles children they will lie daily they know the system
Don’t do it. It will break you down no matter how strong you think you are unless you want a baby or you are around the age to retire and just want to help out a kid. Caseworkers are unsupportive, bio families are impossible to deal with and foster kids will hate you for being alive.
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This reminds me of my childhood. I lost everything and everyone I knew in one day. My 12 year old brother was dead and our mom went to jail for murder. That was 29 years ago, but I had some Amazing families who I lived with until the courts finally placed me with some relatives to raise me! I'm forever grateful to those foster families!
You had more trauma than most. So sorry. I'm glad you had supportive people to help you.
Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation
So Many times people always think about their selfs forgetting others.
People are out their struggling for existence, while existence is some how okay for some of us.
Some are having a place to sleep while others are sleeping in the street with out even food and water to drink.
Some are eating good and delicious food while others are looking for food in the street, eating the reminant of people.
We have the opportunity to buy new clothes or even change a dress, While others have a single cloth to cover their nakedness.
Some have cars,Moto bike, Moto Cycles and even more while others are out their suffering.
I know they are not the reason why you are having your Money or wealth, but let's have sympathy and help them out through a humanitarial foundation called' Empowering Less Fortunate Children Foundation'. We help the Following
1 the poor
2 The needy
3 Those less Fortunate Children
5 Those Children that are out their suffering and striving for food and existence
6 We help those Children that want to go to school .
Earn allot of blessings by helping these Less Fortunate people
For More information WhatsApp on the following numbers
+23230305098
+23276652183
Or Email us on
contehmajeed@gmail.com
Jesus Christ!!!! It’s stories like these that further solidifies why I see my self as a foster parent and eventually adopting.
@@lallred1911 I did go through a lot of trauma, but I know people who have went through worse than me.
@@cristyluv1205 I'm glad you are able to Foster children. All kids need love, a lot will probably act out and be defiant because of past trauma. (that's how I was). Don't give up on them no matter how much they push you! It takes strong people to love people who have been through trauma.
I’m only 18, months away from going to college, and I’m looking forward to fostering children when I’m older. This was very helpful
Samee
Me too
Make sure you are developed enough mentally to even parent. Parenting isn’t a game or joke. It’s the real deal. Make sure your life is stable and you have your ish together before bringing someone else into your life. That includes safety with family and friends.
I started fostercare when I was 23. I am 63 now . We fostered 60 and adopted 10. My memoir is " The Will of a Wildflower". It is a recommended reading for social work students interested in working in child welfare.
Same! I want to be able to help these kids and give them the lives and love that they should’ve had all along.
Fostering sounds scary.... In that as the foster mom i am going to be attached to the child then bam..... He or she is gone.. That's hard.
I know...that IS the hardest part of fostering. What helps me is to think about it this way - I am a home that can be safe for this kid and help him/her weather this really tough situation until they go home. You still make a tremendous impact and you do it for them :)
@@Lucrecebundy true, I'm really thinking about foster to adopt.
@@Lucrecebundy i just watched that video you posted aboout the difference between fostering & foster-adopt.
Its is hard, very hard and it rips your heart out when they leave or reject you. Yet it is hard cause everything that is worth it is hard. And think about how hard life is for the kids. Nothing compared to how we as Foster parents feel.
not living with you doesn't always mean goodbye. many foster parents keep in touch with the families after reunification, older kids can remember your phone number and call you or email you, and many kids reach out in adulthood to the families that impacted them.
Fostercare is such a gift! It's hard but it's 100% worth it!!
Yea because you mfs get PAID to have those children despite the fact that they’ve been ripped from their children’s lives!!
I’m 22 & really want to foster. I know I am legally eligible but I feel too young. I wish I could hear from other young foster parents
I feel that, I’m 19 and when I hit 21 my army contract ends and I wanna foster.
Find a family that you can babysit for and shadow daily life.
None of you are developed enough mentally to even parent. Parenting isn’t a game or joke. It’s the real deal. Make sure your life is stable and you have your ish together before bringing someone else into your life. That includes safety with family and friends.
@catherinesigurdson4189 this is a great idea
It's not really that young. I did it when I was 5. I didn't really have a choice, but it comes easy with practice.
Great tips. I am a former foster parent who relocated down south and am considering getting back into it. I am also looking to start a support group for some church members who are fostering and these tips coupled with my 15 years experience as a foster parent I feel will really help. Thank you for the amazing work you are doing.❤
Am interested in learning about becoming a foster parent. I jist had my firstborn and am in graduate school so idk how soon id be able to foster a child...i just want to start learning bc this is heavy on my heart.
Wow that's amazing! That's very much needed!
it's clear that you have a real passion for what you do! thanks for the great video
I'm 16, live with my grandparents and we are in the process of fostering.
I'm full of respect for people who can do that for those kids, we need you guys, because some of as are too sensitive
This is so helpful! I'm looking forward to becoming a foster parent!
Good luck I'm a foster kid been in 7 homes and u should really watch a video on the kids side and how they see things
@@lorankimani7319 thank you for sharing... that is great advice! And im sure many aspiring foster parents would benefit from really understanding and empthizing with those the foster child feels coming into a strangers home.
@@Tyler_Bundy You also got to think about what the kids been through. Some have been abused, raped , molested , abandoned and ect...Your welcome by the way.
@@lorankimani7319 are you allowed to have your cell phone in foster care?
I fostered 60 and adopted 10.
thank you so much for sharing openly about this topic which can be quite sensitive
Absolutely!
I just had a 24 year old move out and my 18 year old daughter is about to move out. So I need one of the extra rooms for one of my hobbies but I'll have an extra room soon. So I'm considering fostering
I'm 19 and want to adopt kids in the future.
That's amazing!
I started at 23.
Me too!
This was so helpful I’m looking forward to become a foster parent
Glad I found this video. I've been fascinated by the topic of fostering for a while.
This is amazing information. I am Iooking to foster this year and this video was helpful
Thx for providing this valuable information for new foster parents. I was a Foster Mom so I could help some of the children I met in troubled teen industry as a Psych Nurse. I wanted to share that this appears to be an unwise move in mwny cases. Innocent caring humans should be warned that if you become a Foster Mom to someone in DJJ after their mom was murdered often leads to your loved ones suddenly dying within a few years. This happened to me, so I feel obligated as a USVet Chaplain Assistant to warn others. TY Foster Parents for your genorosity & love!❤❤❤
I love this video. I do have to say tho that Medicade doesn’t pay for everything, especially dental: braces, root canals, filling, etc
I was thinking that maybe its gonna be my future because I'm very dedicated mom and cannot have more children (I have a 6yo son) but I'm too of an empath for that I think, I was crying whole video 😢
dont do it
why? I am in the same boat as this mom and I am thinking too. @@Farmer2492
I raised kids from the time i was 5. I got rapped by an aged out black foster kid 4 months before i turned 3. I had 100s of brothers and sisters throughout my childhood. One of my favorite memories is when i walked into my baby brother Raymond, who had down syndrome had coated his entire room top to bottom with a lovely coating of poop. It really was a work of art. I don't know how he did it from inside his crib. Lol. I slowly walked backwards to school without saying a word. I think the room just got rebuilt. That's a thing about being a foster parent,, keep a handy man handy. Kids can be extremely destructive. My next poopiful memory was my first day of second grade and i got to wear pants for the first time, i was changing mimi and she exorcism diarrheaed all over me. That wasn't so funny. Plus i got beat for being late and wearing a wrinkled plaid uniform. I miss my little sister with spina bifida though. She was so sweet.
I’m sorry life was so hard! God loves you! Even though life is hard and bad things happen that isn’t Gods plan for you. Love ya
I think a great thing would also be better if they actually talked to you about phone calls . What to expect how to handle bad behavior from bio parents . I wish someone would have prepared me for that..
Very important topic. Thanks for sharing
In process of getting licensed. As a foster parent, when we take them to the DR and they have an ear infection. Can we say give them antibiotics? Or do we have to get permission from caseworker or bio parent first
From what I know you have to have a prescription. You don't have to ask the case worker as long as a Dr has signed off and you have PROOF. Because they will ALWAYS ask for a paper trail.
If you receive a child during the summer, does that give you more time to enroll in school. Seems like summer would be the best season to receive.
Okay....😢 thank you. Sad it cant be simple.
As a biological child of foster parents ive got some tip almost knowone ever talks about in foster care because they dont care I think.
If you thinking about getting into foster care and want to have multiple foster children but you have 1 biological child, dont do it. Because you are getting verry bussy with foster children they need extra care there behavior is different then biological children because of children. So that means there will be a lot of times you neglet your biological child meanimg they feel lonely there will be times they will feel they dont belong. They may feel a competition for love because the foster gets all the attention. With all consecuences in the futhure.
Also some foster children also will be jealous on your child and will attack them. So make sure when you go in fostercare and you have biological children that you have 2 of them at least.
Also biological children are a key to make caring for a foster succeed or not. Moster fosters first go talk to a kid then to an adult so your biological child will hear storys from the foster first. Some foster kids wont talk to adults because the adults are the ones that hurt them or the ones that took them away from there parents so trust in adults is verry low so when you have a biological child thats a huge plus but make sure you have 2 of them. Because when your an fosterparent with a biological child you may think your at the front line. But your not you biological is at the front line and the case workers and everyone else in fostercare does not care about your biochild. Biochildren in foster care are invissible theyre almost disposable. Also make sure you spent time with your biochildren every week talk to them and take them serious. The foster children are damaged for life already. There is no need to let your biological child get damaged for life. Make sure they know and feel that someones cares about them to.
Believe me it can be really lonely as a biochild from foster parents your invisible 🫥
Remember it can go both ways. I dislike the way you’re dehumanising the foster kids by saying they’re “damaged for life”. It’s honestly disgusting.
You should probably think about it from the other perspective too. My previous foster cater had a adopted from birth daughter, and she was always number one out of the kids. Do you understand how damaging that can be? I don’t think you’d ever understand how the foster kids in your household felt, and I don’t think that foster parents should also have bio kids.
You’re household was the exception, not the rule. I felt so invisible, like a spare part and a source of money
Aw dude- I'm really sorry all that stuff happened to you. That is NOT ok.
Your insight, is actually very, very good, and honestly, quite true.
I myself, will be going into the system, with two siblings soon, if all goes well, and I came to this video, to know what to expect.
I appreciate your insight, you've made some very good points, and I genuinely hope stuff gets better in life.
Thank you for trying to help other people.
@@soaringspirits2267 thankyou for your message. I really hope it helps and you will have a better time then I do. Watch yourself and your siblings. Talk to eightother when your parents can.
And nomatter what things do get better in the end
@@korstiaanakse1 Aw mate, you really are too sweet. Thank you for the reply. :]
Please excuse me if I read it wrong, but we're actually all hoping for adoption, as our parents are both rather awful.
But! But! My siblings and I should remain a trio, near guaranteed, and our communication is awesome. 👍
Truly, it will.
Thank you for your kindness, be safe out there, and I hope you have a lovely week. (And beyond!)
Sorry you feel that.way. I lived in a foster home with bio kids and all were treated the same. And today we are all still very close and.call each other brother and sister
I will planning to adopt soon some kids.. I would love have a big family and give some love for some kids need a family
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Beautiful lady you are ! Thank you so much, very helpful!
Right my family is too much so Ik I’ll be at my house by myself a lot
LOL!
I'm looking to fostering a baby girl
If you can, try to foster older kids too. Mostly only babies can find homes and older kids are unwanted
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So Many times people always think about their selfs forgetting others.
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I hate foster care no one understands you at all i am completely alone i have no family or friends im about to age out im using wjat energy and motivation i have left but im at my ends. I dnt want to live but im to scared to die
Listen kid, you’re not going to die and I’ll tell you exactly how to get a real family and be taken care of for the rest of your life. Join the US Army, best decision I ever made. Lots of aged out foster kids do this, one of my best friends who’s a veteran was a faster kid and he was a signal soldier, he helps me with securing my communication and it’s a really good option. It’s not as tough physically as it was when I was in around 2010. And the NCO’s have to be nicer to you. But you’ll get a family, your NCO’s and Officers will be your parents, you’ll have a lot of big brother and big sisters who are specialists and they’ll look out for you and probably buy beer for you before you turn 21 lol. They (NCO’s and Officers) actually are supposed to care about you believe it or not, it’s in the training and indoctrination. You’ll be a specialist in three years which means NCOs and Officers can’t fuck with you as much and then after that you’ll be a junior NCO and it will be your job to care about some 18 year old kid, you’ll be about 22 24 or so maybe 27 if your MOS doesn’t rank up fast or you’re lazy or bad at the job somehow, which is no big deal plenty of bad soldiers out there make it to retirement these days of perpetual deployments every ten or twelve years or so. And the likely hood of dying is .65% here’s the math if you care about it in parentheses if not just skip it (Total deaths since Vietnam: Approximately 65,302
Total Army enlistments since Vietnam: An estimate of millions
if we assume total enlistment figure of 10 million since Vietnam, the very rough estimate would be:
(65,302 / 10,000,000) * 100=.65%)
The other thing that’s cool besides the free college, the life long free medical care from the VA, is that society generally accepts that after an army career you become disabled and literally everyone who joins unless they’re stupid and don’t pursue this benefit get what’s called a disability rating from the Va, you’ll at bare minimum get like 50% and that’s 1200 bucks a month for nothing other than not getting kicked out for committing some kind of felony. It’s very easy to get 100% service connection disability which is 3600 a month so you don’t have to work if you don’t want to and you live a sort of humble ish life. When I say that it’s really not that humble like you can still live in a city just not NYC if LA you can still eat at restaurants sometimes just not super fancy ones more like diners and such, you can even buy a significant amount of weed and alcohol if you want you’re not gonna drive a Mercedes at least a good one but you’ll have a car you can drive back and fourth across the country with a few times, might even be able to support a girlfriend that doesn’t work really if you’re smart with your finances and that’s just if you don’t want to work. Me and that foster kid who aged out and joined the army are doing all that without working. So in summation, you’re about to go on the most thrilling adventure of your life, sign up as soon as you can, the army is one of those things the younger you join the more you will get out of it. I wish you luck it’s not as scary as it sounds, best decision I ever made.
Hey man, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m being fostered in the UK so I’m lucky at the end of the day. Is there anyone you can talk to at all? Like teachers maybe?
I’m sorry to hear that! You are a child of God regardless of how old you get. I admitir you sharing your truth. Keep strong and first thing I encourage you to do is. Get plugged in with a church bc church is such a great way to find community. You have a true father that adores you and knows how you feel. Praying. If you need help finding a church let us know your city where you reside. 🤗
Hi, is there an age limit to becoming a foster parent? I am 60 female. Thank you
No. I am 63 and have had to take my 9 year old granddaughter in as a foster child. Even though I'm her grandmother, I still have to be licensed. It's a long process but worth it.
Hey guys, thinking about starting the foster care process. How long do the kids usually stay with you? And can you pick your age group you would like to care for?
What state are you in? Foster care is so different depending on the state!
Nebraska. And yes I agree...it's different from state to state
I’m confused on what to do if I have a kid that 17 or 18 what happens for them at that age and how can I help them or what would I do?
Would the Dcf people take them to see their bio parents ? Or do you have to?
Aww yay I'm kinda early! 😁😁
I have a question. Should my husband and I home school our foster son?
Do we have option to not be put in positions where the child has to go back to their parents and or adoptive parents? I am afraid we get attached and then have to rehome the children.
That fear is what keeping so many kids in foster care. We can't control the future of the kids, we just have to do what we can today with what we know. We know there are thousands of kids who need help, so we help them even if that means it might break your heart if they leave your home.
@@Lucrecebundy well it's not for me I could barely deal with rehoming my cats
@@dinayansane7524it’s not about YOU, it’s about the KIDS, that’s what this lady was trynna say, but somehow you still made it about urself🤦🏾♂️☠️
Hi so I!m Mbabazi so I am a mother of 2kids .And I have plant to be a foster care now how I can start the process?
How much money do you have to make to foster?
I'm assuming enough to pay all of your own expenses, but I'm curious too
Well you typically have to be able to take care of yourself. But my guess is that every foster care agency has their own requirements.
the unspoken rule is "your money should not be spent on your foster kids" but a lot of the time you want to buy little extras for that foster child. And they only give you enough money for the child's expenses, and if you do it correctly there will NOT be a penny left over for your personal stuff. So fostering is not profitable but it is moral and a fantastic thing to do.
I have a kid and want to adopt her
Thanks 😊❤🇺🇸😎👍
I live in England and I was so ready to begin my application for fostering, but then I got really cold feet out of nowhere. I had wanted to be a foster carer for almost 8 years, but then I got really scared and worried. I didn't think I could do it, I worried if the kids come with lice and a whole bunch of other thoughts flooded my mind.
I have questions
What do you call them “my kid” and what do they call you?
By the way your clock is frozen!
I know.
I wanna be a faster parent so bad but I can’t afford a nice big home
I need help!!! I don't know who else to ask. I am a foster parent now and I have a one year old with a crazy situation. I have called all the adoption lawyers in my area and I've gotten no answers on what to do. how can I message you directly?!
Hello! It would be best to speak with an attorney in your state because state laws differ when it comes to foster care. If you have a foster child, my guess is that there is still a case open for that child in juvenile court and there are already lawyers involved. You will want to speak with an attorney who is experienced with the juvenile court system in your state to get some help.
@@Lucrecebundy no it’s for my one year old. I want to finish her adoption. I have permanent custody but no one is getting back to me :(
@@teischamarievlogs5968 Oh ok. I could help you if you lived in Nebraska...unfortunately only an attorney licensed in your state can assist you with the adoption.
Do you have to be married? I don't have kids financially ok 47 have been with my live in boyfriend 7 years.
Is this in UK?
no
Nebraska.
Thank you
❤❤😢😢😢 I'M 66 YEARS OLD AND A DOUBLE AMPUTEE NOW! AND I WAS FOSTER RAISED. I DIDN'T SEE MY REAL MOTHER VERY MUCH. SHE WAS WHITE, AND I WAS RAISED IN A BLACK FAMILY. NOW. I'M ALL MIXED UP! I SEE MYSELF IN A MIRROR AS BEING BLACK. (THAT'S NOT MY REAL LOOKS). ALSO MY REAL MOTHER PASSED AWAY. AND I'D LEFT A LOT IN HER POSSESSION.😊😊. BUT NOW I AM DIRT POOR. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Hi, did you take these ideas from the Zero2Five family youtube channel? th-cam.com/video/neeN-k5USiU/w-d-xo.html
They did a video with the exact same 7 points and are foster parents. It's a good video, but you should at a minimum credit them at the start of your video.
Your clock is broken 😅
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New 👍🏻😀right exmple
No their not. The abuse starts and bribing continues while in the room alone your getting for reason. That's even worse on 12yr olds. I no been forced thru it.
My mom fostered my cousin and she’s so annoying she takes all my thing my room and I don’t have a room IN MY OWN HOUSE 🙄
YOU'RE SUCH A BAD PERSON
Foster's is the crime partner of Dcfs.And they play with children's emotions and lives.
Thank you! She’s not fooling anybody
@@mmalithefather1472if a child is removed from a good home it’s a crime. From a drug addicted alcoholic or abusive home…it’s probably a blessing and time/wake up call for that parent to get their shit in order.
Were any of them First Nations children ? As of Jan 1 McFd was found guilty of discrimination that caused children to be removed without the support that would have been offered to any other race or class of child
Sleep on this - remember this when they call you mom- what it be like to lose them so unjustly by what is supposed to be the most polite country in the world by people paid with part of every dollar u make ..
I need to sue acs I’ve had my nephew for 4 yrs jus got custody last yr and do not recieve any funding assistance for him
Hlo I am 29 years old I want to get this job in uk. Plz can you help me
This content is a lighthouse of fresh perspectives. Reading a book with similar topics enlightened my understanding of life. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
1.You are a paid baby theif for the state.
2.sometimes the kids are there in foster care for little to no reason.
3. Even if the kids are there for some kind of reason they don't belong with foster care providers they belong with immediate or extended family.
4. This country has one Nation under God on its money and thou shalt not steal is a mistranslation. In reality its thou shalt not kidnap. I would be begging God for forgiveness if you have done ANYTHING besides work your BUTT off towards reunification.
5. You are not a parent you are a foster care provider you don't have ANY right to block visits or take a child out of state or find ways to block the real family from getting hospital training for medically complex kids.
6. You don't have the right to impose your culture and religion on someone else's child.
7. You don't have ANY moral right to go to court over these kids they are not yours and the only way to make it not a conflict of interests for them to be in your home is that you have no option to make these kids a permanent part of your household. That means foster care providers should NEVER be allowed to legally adopt their charges. If the child cannot go back home or to an immediate or distant relative they should be put up to be under a guardianship with someone who has no incentive to block reunification. That way you will not be tempted to undermine or sabotage the real parents. And you should not be giving adoption stipends to these people EITHER! If reunification fails the people who get a guardianship over the kid first of all should not be the foster care providers and secondly should have to pay 40,000 dollars to the kids family to be put into a trust for all siblings and cousins that stay with the real family to be tested for aptitude and trained for an appropriate trade. And the state should have to cough up three times that amount for every kid they never return towards that purpose as well. There is far too much federal funding going towards baby snatching and it is time to give back to the families that are being destroyed by it. The government right now is paying ten times the amount to permanently destroy families rather than put that money into family restoration.
your clock is broken
I know.
th-cam.com/video/l1c-1RhLOOQ/w-d-xo.html
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Legitimately copied this list from another TH-cam channel (zero to five).
All the way down to the painted sign. Didn’t you learn not to plagiarize in law school?
Hi Rebecca, I have worked in foster care for years and everything in my videos is from my own experience. If there is another youtube channel that has the same content, that's great. I am glad the information is going out to people
@@Lucrecebundy yea is it a coincidence that you mentioned everything with the same order with somebodyelse. It is disrespectful to their afford
Rebecca, yup noticed the same thing. Exactly the same points and added extra little tips. No credit given to the original video. Terrible.
@@Lucrecebundy everything in the video might be from your experience. But you've copied the structure and points directly from someone else's channel and taken their content without crediting them. You can make a video based on someone else's content but you do need to credit Zero2Five at the start.
I'm not playing the 'oh it's just by chance' game. Stop lying and just credit them.
I’m against fostering and adoption
Why? are you against fosters and adopting.
Every situation is different. There are many children stuck in the system now that have no other options. We had three children for over a year that returning to parents has never been an option. They trafficked their own kids since at least age 4. They were homeless at one point. No other family members stepped up. Fostering provided them homes and families that loved them. We had another child for two and a half years that the plan was always to return to mom when she was ready. I was happy to write the letter of support for mom and witness their reunification. It is hard on the foster parents as well, saying goodbye is often goodbye forever. We are experiencing that today.
my advice is never do it it will be the biggest mistake you will ever make in your life you will loose your biological children if you want to go to hell and back start foster caring and have a good Lawyer ready remember these children are troubles children they will lie daily they know the system
Don’t do it. It will break you down no matter how strong you think you are unless you want a baby or you are around the age to retire and just want to help out a kid. Caseworkers are unsupportive, bio families are impossible to deal with and foster kids will hate you for being alive.
I am so sorry you had such a bad experience!
That’s what tf you get for trying to STEAL a child from their REAL families!! Go to hell!
I’m really sorry that you feel that way, but honestly you sound weak if you believe these things are worse than helping the kids is amazing
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