1. every time I made a mistake, I slapped myself on my face and in many ways I hurt myself, I was very harsh to me. 2. I didn't follow my passion 3. and I am a loner. most of the time I remain in my room that's why I have acute depression. I was in medications but I stopped taking them. I am suffering from multiple mental disorders. but I promise you, from this moment, 1. I am going to praise myself 2. I am going to follow my passion 3. I am going to build connection to people
Mahmudul Hasan Jahid Don’t forget how you feel now, and the desire you have to make a change. I know how you feel as an introvert who is self critical. Just take small steps each day, and don’t give up. Follow your heart. It will get better. Good luck.🍀
I started painting full time when I turned 40. I got laid off from my work in 2012 and painting is what kept me from losing my mind and sense of self. Now, seven years later I am thriving as an Artist. Wrote and published a book which actually received raving reviews on many platforms including Amazon. I will not be taking a sob story to my grave but rather a life well lived and productive that not only helped me fulfill my purpose but also helped me leave something noteworthy behind for my community.
@@sheilaflahertyartist9788 So nice of you to comment. Yes, I am still painting everyday and for 8 to 12 hours a day. It is amazing how circumstances can either make you or break you - it boils down to your choice.
I always wanted to be famous, and then when someone told me being famous is stressful and you don't get much privacy, I thought, maybe I'll be a counselor. Well, I am a city bus driver and I feel small fame, but I also help people with their problems and listen. I love my job and it's perfect for me! I was pretty depressed earlier in my life, taking meds and then lost my job. I started exercising and losing weight, it was enough for me to ween myself off of depression/anxiety meds and I got my current job bus driving and haven't felt depression ever since. I'm healthier and happier than I ever have been. Blessing to each of you! ❤
@@ginab2801 sometimes in your darkest times is when you finally realize what will make you whole. I remember feeling lonely after getting divorced. One day 3 kittens showed up on my doorstep, I wasn't planning to keep any of them but I did end up keeping one and it gave me purpose. Maybe consider getting a pet or a roommate?
@@MarisaPeer You're an awesome lady. You always seem to know how to boil things down to their simplest essence and provide a practical, actionable, solution!
@@MarisaPeer : Marisa, can you please talk in some of next videos about condition after depression. I feel very strange...like I am in a no man's land (hope that is a correct expresion)...it is like I am in tha vast clearing and like I have no previous knowledge about things in general. Very strange. Like literaly, I am begining again from year 0. It is a bit frightening. Thank you 🙋😘
@@DV-dt9sq I am just finishing my studies as an RTT practitioner w Marisa Peer Method. I have had several clients describe a similar feeling. They stopped the negative self talk but then they feel like there is brain fog or nothingness. I have had excellent results with having the person replace the negative talk with positive talk. Your mind was busy before - beating you down. Now, practice talking to yourself in a loving, supportive manner. Make your mind your best friend. Be proud of the steps you have already taken and be sure to take another step every day. What you say to your mind creates your reality. Also, if you add in following your passion & connecting with community - it will help fill your mind too. I wish you the absolute best.
@@sherihadfield-chronicpainr4864 : Dear Sheri, thank you so much for this. You are absolutely right and... nicely putted that my brain was busy before criticizing myself. I need to fill it with more good thoughts. Thank you and I wish you all the best in your work 🙋💜🌼
My heart's desire has always been to help others with their mental well-being, but life got in the way. I am now in my 30s and training to be a wellbeing therapist. It's never too late.
My first Carrer has nothing to do with what I later studied. I studied a second career while My children were growing up, and now a psychotherapist. It's never to late.
@@MarisaPeer I am an IT consultant and love what I do. But, my heart's calling is to motivate others and so, I have joined RTT's "become a therapist" course and I am loving it. ❤
Cures: 1. Stop criticising yourself. 2. Find a way to follow your heart. 3. Connection is vital to your soul. Find a tribe. 4. Do what you don't want to do (eat healthy food, exercise, go out).
I am taking anti depressants, have been doing so for over 20 years now, but I say positive affirmations to myself every day that I am love and I am light. I make an effort to go to the gym 3 times a week which helps lift my mood. I also do latin dance lessons 3 nights every week where I meet lovely happy creative people. And then I go to our latin dance parties.Great community! I have 6 cats that keep me feeling warm and loved. And I give lots of love and consideration to my husband. I am on anti depressants, but I work to be well every day. I've tried to come of my meds, but I simply break right down. But I never give up trying to help myself daily. Thank you for listening to me.
To my is hard to get out of my house, I feel like I'm not accepted or judgement by others, I can't stand people critize me but I get I can't control that. Sometimes I can be weeks or months without going out, thank so much Marisa.
If you knew you were enough and built up your self-esteem, you would know not to let criticism in. There's a free chapter of my book in this blog post for you. marisapeer.com/wellnessweekly15feb/ x
Wow I just heard this for the first time this morning, because I was reading on the mind and wondering why I don’t accomplish the things that I want to accomplish and what’s holds me back. I’m trying to figure out my calling in life although I am a senior retired and working part time I still feel that I never got to really figure out what I really wanted to do I hope you understand what I’m trying to say thank you
Also, something to look into. It is said that over 50 percent of serotonin is produced in/by the gut. While trying to beat depression myself I came across that statistic. Sometimes (has helped me to some degree) cutting out /adding certain foods you will feel some helpful results.
I have been in depression for 27 years. Since my early twenties. Sometimes I can not believe that I lost all of that time. It is a span of somebody life. More than a year ago I got better thanks to myself. Marisa is right on all three causes. I had them and I didn't recognise it that they are reason of my unfortune. I grew up being an artist - I needed art and painting as oxygen that we breathe, so when I finished high school I thought I would paint and sell my paintings. I tried to enter university for art and I didn't got in. I had no one around me. I lost friends because my parents decided to move from a place which I adored and where I had friends. I didn't manage to make new ones out of fear of loosing them again. I would say that most important thing in the world are friends and life with them. I miss people sooo much! I don't have friends, I got lost and don't know how to make friendships in 46. And as Marisa says I criticised myself (even beaten). For being with no friends, not manage to make my way into art world. I am gay, and that was something I had to supress growing up. Anyway, my dreams went unrealised. Funny, as I write this I feel good...like I finaly can put my past into a perspective. I was going to therapy for several years, I realised some thinghs about myself but still it didn't help me to move. I was almost all 27 years in my room. Being in love with furniture design I tried to make some chairs with a hand tools and that helped me to go forward. I aquired some energy to oppose my parents and that was liberating. But I still have no aspiration, I do not know what to do in life... I love painting but I still don't have that passion I used to have. I love designing furniture, but I don't know how to go forward with that and earn money with it. And the most important thing is that I would like to have friends in my life, I wish friends like I need oxygen. And I realise (every time) when I write long comments on Marisa's videos that I just want to talk with someone out there... here, with people with similar situations and with all of you who like Marisa's work. I like being here. Thank you. 🙋🙌😉
DV in many ways I can relate to your story. I had a lot of talent when younger but lacked confidence and didn't fulfill my potential. My artistic talent manifested itself in other ways like landscape gardening and interior design and I'm at my happiest now.
Totally agreed with that...when your parents kept calling you names, saying you are worthless, while comparing you to your bro/sis who is way better...that is the beginning of self-criticizing
I have many rare chronic illnesses and have lost myself to this. Lost so many friends and family. My hearts desire is to gain wellness and help others advocate in my situation.
For the first time a comment section has brought me pure peace. I have struggled with my health for years and I’ve realised it has made me afraid, depressed and disconnected. All of the lovely comments has brought a tear to my eye. I hope everyone finds bliss and happiness. I think it’s more a case of becoming okay with these feelings and gaining a new perspective about why we feel this way. Good luck everyone, you deserve it ❤️
My partner is overcoming depression and is troubling to see him sink. After watching your video I am confident that he can beat depression. Thank you for this helpful advice.
I truly wish I could have a session to discuss my problems . I found myself punishing myself when everything was going well . I’m stuck at a ceiling , what can you say about this ?
Hi Marisa, I want to thank you for all you´ve done to help people who are living depression. Currently, I am living a deep depression, I am unemployed and also I was separated a year ago, my marriage is failed for vary bad circunstancies. Your videos can help me a lot. Really, I apprecciate that.
It’s easy to forget, so many people are sad and alone, longing for connection and fulfillment. But we are never alone if we just take a moment to look beyond ourselves.
Dear Marisa, Your videos are changing my life. Thank you so so much for all your wisdom and life-changing advice. Currently: 1. I don't praise myself that much, but I'm starting to do so (slowly but surely). 2. I'm following my passion, which is studying Psychology to become a therapist in the future. 3. I have friends in university that I hang out with, and one really good friend from my school days who I talk to and meet up often. She makes me feel calm, centred and happy. Plus I'm close to my sister and brother, and my bond with them makes me happy. Years ago I was extremely lonely, sad and I had faced so much rejection that I had totally given up on having any real close bond with a friend, but last year when I started to believe in myself just a little more, when the desperation for having friends faded away and when I started to enjoy my own company, things improved and I made friends pretty quickly when I started my bachelors program in Psychology in fall 2018. Bottom line is that becoming the best you that you can be is an on going process that requires all the things you talk about - 'I am enough', self praise, doing the hardest task first, and making the unfamiliar familiar. Honestly Marisa, ever since I pasted the words "I am enough" in my bathroom, in my room and on my phone lock screen, my addictive behaviours (particularly my addiction to food and sugar) have dropped so significantly that I don't consume sugar anymore except for the usual home made chocolate milk in the morning, and even in that, the chocolate quantity is minimal. Your advice is helping me turn around my 7 year long struggle with food, and is helping me become the version of me that I've only dreamed of. Years of therapy didn't help as much as your advice has, and for that, *I am forever grateful* ❤️❤️❤️❤️ With so much love and admiration, Fatima.
Well I don’t really comment on these things but congratulations I’m so happy for you I’m sending you love, happiness and light through this comment. Keep up the good work you’re more than enough your blessed
@@MarisaPeer I admire you Marisa I have not always known this. I went through darkness and pain to rediscover this bliss and joy within me. I realised there has to be some darkness to see the stars :)
U think I wanna be depressed? That I want attention? I didnt choose this... I cant fucking stop thinking. I dont controll the way I think, it controlls me. You obviously wont understand... No one does I hate life,so fcking much.
@@xx-si6fe Powerful and very hurtful. Stop criticising yourself, your better than that. Those negative thoughts are automatic reactions to your low mood. Your life is yours to live and to enjoy, if you'd only allow yourself the grace of happiness your world would change. I was once told "you don't get depression you do depression" meaning your reflecting outwardly the feelings you've harboured inside and your hiding away from life. Can I ask is there nothing in life that has ever brought joy or any happiness? you must have something or someone that has stirred your soul and made you light up. Don't stay in such a dark place, find your hearts desire and connect. I was deeply depressed for many years and thought life would never change, contemplated ending my life, but something inside wanted to be just free and I thought that was the only way, until I stopped the self criticism and negative way of thinking and then looked to find some joy in the things I did. I took some meds from the doctor for a while to get me on my feet and then began to climb out of that dark hole, that I had dug for myself. Now I am in a better place and it was not easy, but I knew deep down I was really hiding from myself and the world around me, but with the help of others I started a new life and never looked back.
I feel depressed and isolated due to lack of friends and a real "tribe". And I find it hard to make friends because I'm insecure about being alone. I'm afraid people might think something is wrong with me and stay away
There is always a place we can fit in and be a part of things ; often when we least expect it. Wishing you love and success. Be yourself and celebrate 🎉 who you are. Living your life you will have achieved many great things and you have many more great things to achieve xx sending you positive joy 🌟👍 Thank you Marisa for your superb videos x Please keep them coming 😊❤️Fabulous 🏅
You are so right dear Marissa . It happened and sometimes want to come back . Now that I watch your videos , I feel so supported and brings peace. I’m a loner cause I felt betrayed many times but I’m willing to change . And I’m giving love to others and I feel good and peaceful . Thank you Marissa !
This is brilliant . Thank you Marisa. So here goes . Just turned 55 been fighting off depression most of my life . My ego was out off control and was always criticising myself feeling not good enough and going over and over passed mistakes and reliving them this all culminated in me having a heart attack two years ago . With the help of the wonderful NHS and the gift of modern medical science I’m still here . But I’m vulnerable and feeling isolated and not good enough . I long to be loved and I long to be in a community . I’ve always loved the arts wether it’s singing , drawing and acting . I always wanted to be an actor after my dad died when I was eight years old I became empathetic and loved drama at school but never followed it through basically I came from a comprehensive school background money was scarce and I had to follow the line to get by . I became a carpenter , a very good one but it does not fuel my soul . If I could start again I would have left my home town ( which I’m still in , and that makes me depressed ) gone to university and or drama school and followed my dream . I’m great with people I’m a part time tai chi instructor and I give a lot of myself to my students , many elderly but when the classes are over I’m home alone again and missing connection ......so that’s me in brief . Anybody out there looking for an unknown mature man to take part in something ...... I’m here ...... wow ! Dare to dream , I feel better already . Thank you Marisa . X
Marisa Peer Thankyou Marisa . I never felt that inspired at the thought of Am Dram but it’s a constant learning this thing called life so I will check it out I may just be surprised . Thank you so much for your kind reply . Much love to you .
My inner voice drew me back so badly! It followed me everywhere at any occasion and took over my body. I didn’t realize it before. All the sudden, after I read so many books and your videos, I can deal with it now. Whenever I have some negative inner voice pops up, I say:”shut up! It is not true! I can handle it! Let’s see!” All the things turn out, it is actually not that bad or even nothing happen as your predictions. I teach my son to deal with his inner voice in these way. It seems work on him too. His friends love him. They think he is such a happy person; always make you feel so happy to be with.
That is so beautiful. Bravo! I am doing the same thing...I am trying to converse with my inner me with more compassion, and on negativism also with saying "that is not so,...let see..." . Good luck! 🙋💪
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I have just broken out of the family scapegoat dynamic at the age of 48. I have been transforming myself over the last year, I think I've nailed the issue of criticism, next steps are to connect with my heart's desire and people, I have been disconnected from both all my life so it feels like I don't know where to start. Thank you so much for this video Marisa, perfect timing for me! 🙂
yes I have a cure right here you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
Yep, my ex family, especially her that gave birth to me, did a number on me psychologically. She was physical with my brother and he said if he could take a third of what she did to me he would. The advice Marisa gives is invaluable, she's amazing xx
No, it’s not. The Trauma itself isn’t the cause, it’s the way you beat yourself about going through it that is. Guilt, Shame & Anger about your past. You need to forgive yourself to let go and move forward. Otherwise it becomes your identity.
I found self -talk made a huge difference for me, I didn't realize I was because it wasn't always the talk it was the aggrivation I felt about what I did or didn't do right. Thank you for these reminders. Another one I find with my client sis looking back on the future making you sad ornregtretful. I love how you always look forward and keep healing interesting.
Totally spot on with the community thing it feels like. I've been working at home now for 4 years and this is making sense to me. I don't want to go to a co-working space so need to find a way to build community around me some other way. For me right now that's joining a group of sea swimmers. There's always someone to meet for a swim and it really affects me in a good way. I've been scratching my head thinking how did I end up feeling so shitee but now I'm starting to realise. Community.
Whenever a friend would criticize themselves, I would try to make them feel better by saying something like "We are our own worst critics. Nobody thinks that about you." What I've come to realize now is by me saying that, I had been reinforcing that belief and letting myself remain my own worst critic as well. I'm just now learning that the words we say to ourselves do help shape our reality. I'm glad I'm able to share this with my students now, too. When they tell me their dreams are too big or unattainable, I let them know that they are right, as long as they keep thinking and saying that. I encourage them to follow their passion and do what makes them happy, no matter how big or impossible it might seem. Sometimes I feel like I work too much (yet don't make enough money) to be able to have an interesting life outside of work. For a long time I've felt I don't belong or don't quite fit in. I think I need to begin telling myself just the opposite, so I can make the meaningful connections I desire. I love your videos, Marisa. Thank You
You make a great point on all these 3 causes. We have to make this information more wide spread because way too many people are suffering from depression. Thanks for doing your part.
I agree. Everyone who has depression should know Marisa. She speaks so much common sense and should be compulsory viewing and listening to everyone with depression, much better than 30 years of medication and useless counselling, Marisa has given me back my life. Thank you a million times over for giving me all this I sight.
My calling is to become an RTT therapist. I have been following Marisa Peer since May and i know that i want to do that even part-time. I was very unwell and almost depressed to go back to my teaching job in September ans then i realized i could help my students using some materials, advice and tips during my lessons when i felt my students needed them to overcome their fears and challenges. I know that soon i will find the money to finance the training but in the meantime i am testing RTT on my students and colleagues and they love it. Thank you Marisa.
I recently started taking Nature Made super B-Complex and it is helping. It says take one a day but I take one mid morning and one late afternoon. There is a lot to beating depression. I mean a lot of things come into play. I have battled for almost thirty years. Started with a divorce I didn’t want and four beautiful children. Had to become an every-other weekend dad. Missed out sooo much on fathering. I love being a dad. I had a great mum and dad. Anyways, I’m rambling. Marissa, you are a blessing. Thank you for all you do to help people.
For people with digestive disease it’s better to put the vitamin B complex in injection, because when there are digestive issues the vitamins B in pills or capsules are not well absorbed by the digestive system. It’s also more recommended in injection for severe anxiety or depression problems. My anxiety and my blood circulation issues have improved a 98% after taking the vitamin B in complex. 🙏🏻
I’m very new to meditation. I don’t know how to take it in. My hearts desire has been to sing. Singing fills my heart and soul. My true hearts desire has been to sing with Bette Midler. It has been for almost 40 years. Instead, I sing karaoke. I realized I did not love myself and it’s been from all the negativity in my life starting as a child. These first meditations have really helped so far. Thank you
Thanks so much! I’m encouraged by ur words and your voice is so soothing. I recently lost my mum I’m so depressed and lonely. I want a friend but where I am no people to connect. I will try to practice what u say. Thanks again
As a Conscious Awareness Coach; Marisa is an extreme expert in this field. She is easy to hear (not listen) and gifted in a way of presenting vibrant ways of thinking. She is someone I closely follow and research and outsource her work. Thank you Maria! I love you and I hope to meet you one day soon!
Hardest thing to do for me is to speak about my needs and my boundaries.Also,I spend a lot of time by myself and I find it hard to control my anger regarding my past..I often feel guilt for my mistakes and for the fact that my own parents didn't love me.
Hi everyone! I love working in the arts. I find it hardest to get up and start creating paintings, writing, singing, etc. And when it comes to acting and singing, auditioning and reaching out, I find it hardest to jump over the belief that I can't, I won't get anywhere or I'll get rejected and it causes a feeling of paralysis. I learned how to get past this with Marissa and I'm so grateful however I always have to jumpstart and I found the power and energy within myself to be the source of that.
Thank you Marisa 💚. I tend to isolate and feel shame because of family problems, and I want to be a mentor for young people who feel insecure and lonely. Because I have lost everyday connection with someone I love more than anything to manipulation, I want to connect to those who need someone to listen and not judge. I want to turn adversity into something good, because I have the gift of compassion and empathy. I'm also writing a book about grief because my Mother died suddenly this year. I feel better when I am communicating and helping people gain linguistic and personal confidence. It helps me forget my ego and my grief, and feel that I have purpose, despite having been through some major trauma. Please feel free to reach out to me anyone who is lonely and/or ill. I have health challenges too so I get it. Thanks again Marisa 💚
1.I always blame my self for anything that happen,even for something that i m not sure if it is caused by me or not 2. my passion is toward making my crush to love me back, 3.Being locked up myself in my own room n in my own fantasy life of thing that not hurt me,so i tend to run rather than face n solve the reality... its hard to do all that...but,gonna try to atleast make a first step..if not,nothing gonna change..
I have been disconnected from life my whole life and when I work on being connected my sensitivity to words and feelings from others I shut off my feelings. I actually like my own space. Working on the understanding of true emotions and not the masked, practiced emotions. I have been diagnosed with Depression, anxiety, ptsd and ocd thoughts
I went through alot of depression for years. I wanted to be a doctor but couldn't be one. Now I follow my heart's desire and volunteer for stroke and Parkinson patients at an NGO. My life has turned 360* around. I am Happy to learn from inspirational speakers like you and teach them I also do speech enhancement with them. Thank you Marisa for changing my life.
OMG this is amazing! I need to implement these 3 things immediately in my life - all of them - seems if we do the first one the second one will be easier to figure out and then the third one will fall into place. The third one affects me daily I get cabin fever and have to get out of the house by noon - TY Marisa 🤗
Marissa thank you. You mention 3 simple steps, yet each imply hard work. What I noticed is I lose Focus on those 3 steps. I AM doing what I like, being a psicologa. Need to stop being harsh with myself and start connecting more. Appreciate this space yo connect.
Thank you Marisa, I am following my heart desire, I am 54years old. And you helped me a lot, you don not know how much. I have listened All of your videos, audios, etc.
“You are not allowed to beat up your body for being human” ...this is genius .I am mot depressed, never been but my kids are falling into this nightmare often .I am learning how to help them , thank you , you are a gift sent from God. As for me...I am a pharmacy worker who hates pharmaceuticals, how crazy is that. I need to change something 🤨
Probably you have been awakened...I too have not been taking any medications from pharmaceuticals as I know lots based on what I read....since I practice qiqong and meditation, I have never been sick. Since you hate pharmaceutical, as it is hate can bring you into lower vibration and in the long run it can have an impact on your body if it's not addressed. I wish you have a good career change and pray it will elevate your life in so many ways🙏
My hearts desire is to help people heal from depression, to help them learn now to love themselves unconditionally. To be a self-love coach. I don't know how to even get to this point. I suppose not until I am completely healed can I truly be a power of healing to others and the timing isn't right now. Praying I will get there soon.
When I was young I was feisty, assertive, more playful, determined, focus and centered. But then some people in my family and life were too critical of myself. That sunk in and I quit loving myself. I lost all iniciative, personal and artsy projects; all happynness was gone. I found refuge in music, films and loneliness. I was self critizing myself all time and that led to drinking issues, meeting the wrong people and major disapointments Even in the espiritual sense I was disconnected with my Self and my purpose in life. It took me more than 30 years of my life of self theraphy and wanting to be happy and really going for it without having to please other people. Now I take care of myself, and I'm kind to myself even when I fail or in more challenging situactions. Self love is the way of changing your life, believe it. And stay true to yourself no matter what others think of you.
I have been very critical of myself in the past and watching your videos and practicing "i am enough" has changed my life. I am also working on shifting towards doing things that speak to my heart, thank you so much for helping so many people! ❤❤❤❤
You have the right Marisa, when we don't follow our heart desires and we don't do what we like, when we don't live where we like, when we don't respect our desires then you feel that need that you immediately you have to change this important issue in your life👏💖
I feel disconnected from reality. I am 26, and the the last time I felt like I had people who I could call a tribe, I was in middle school. I work in the media, where I sit around for 4 to 9 hours a day alone in a room. I have always had high standards for myself and take things to the extreme. I found music in college and the music program at acc is the closest things I could get to a tribe. I am a virgin and would like to meet other people, but I've always been driven towards other things like music, work, and self inspection. I know that the time to change is now! I will be reborn from this day forward. I will not allow myself to continue on the path that I am on. I will connect on deeper levels to every person I meet. I will explore everything that life has to offer. I will get everything I want, and more!
Just the word of Marisa it hit me....to connect with people's...whom I have been disconnected for a very long time and have been feeling depressed......thankyou somuch Marisa!!! This is the first time I'm commenting in the comments box......after a very long period of time....it's as if my fingers are moving itself without any brake🤗!!!!
Thanks Marisa! I find this very inspiring to me. In terms of number 2 & 3 I already did a great job and proud of myself and keep it develop. And Of course point number 1 will be my homework hehe. I have a heart's desire to help people who younger than me who have struggle with finance. I wanna make them very good in finance. Because I care and I wanna see them smile, I wanna make an impact to them. I talk about my employee. I love em.
My mother and grandmother committed suicide from depression. Losing them has affected my ability to connect with people. I also struggle with Aspergers....I make a lot of mistakes socially, which affects my ability to connect. I followed my heart and became a writer, but have had limited success and am now 51 and so disappointed in my life. I've lost all joy and question what I thought was my heart's desire. And I feel deep ecological grief about how we are destroying our planet. I hope through this grief I can find my calling. Thank you Marisa, for sharing your wisdom with us.
I have a hard time sometimes hanging out with new people because I feel maybe I’ll make them uncomfortable or maybe we won’t do anything together we’ll just be standing around. I want a connection and I think it worries me that if I don’t get that connection I’ll be pressured to stay there or else I’m a bad friend. I’m normally very extraverted but it seems I want to almost control the situation of what I do with my friend so we can have fun but that’s just because I think that they won’t want to do really anything fun unless I ask first.
I feel exacly in the same way, it is hard to find someome we can connect with. But don't worry, people come and people go, sooner or later you will find someone that y can find yourself connected with :)
Hey Hun! I have learned a lot from Marisa my fav thing she talks about is the concept that you are enough! Think you are enough to have fun regardless what your friends are doing! :) Come from fear to freedom!
I was very close to my mom and grandmother. They both died two years apart. My mom was 58. It's been a really hard 10 years. We had a small family but very close, life was so much more fun and exciting when they were here. I've tried very hard to overcome the depression and I fake it when I have to. From watching your videos I know there are words in that last sentence and in general that I am not going to use anymore. My issue is isolation and apathy. I know many things I could do- I'm just not doing them. I am a very creative person who loves to do so many things and I am doing nothing but staying in my apartment for the most part. I started binging on your videos today and I actually feel there are many more possibilities to snap myself out of this. I have loving relationships but I just miss them so much and the magical fun we had together.
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Kathleen McGowan .. You're very welcome. You will be able to search state, federal, maritime and international laws with your phone or computer. Be sure to to start on the home page click if you want state or federal laws etc. And do KEY words search. Like criminal. Domestic. State. Product liability. Family or what ever category you are looking for in the state where the law is you are looking for. It will take you several hours to figure out how to navigate . but then it will become easy. Remember you will never be able to read all the laws. learn how search with key words. Much easier than the old book way. Happy Holidays.
Thanks to you Marisa. I can’t have a baby and i’m 46. I’ve trying for 16 years and sometimes I think I don’t want to live without my baby. I keep trying but depression knocks me down. I haven’t support from anyone, I live alone and is so hard for me. My mum never loved me and she is alive but we have a toxic relationship that tortures me. But I don't give up, when I get depressed I give myself a lot of affection and step by step I get ahead and I keep fighting for my baby and to put aside that toxic family. Regain my self esteem and create a wonderful life. Your videos help me a lot and I thank you with all my heart for your selfless labor. Thanks Thanks Thanks 👏🌷💝
I often say negative comments about myself, I love writing children’s stories, and I often withdraw from social occasions. I need to address all 3. Thank you! Pico from Queensland Australia
Back when I was younger I wanted to attend cocking school, but it was really expensive and I decided to choose a different career path... 6 months ago I started attend a cocking course, and I gotta say that the feeling of fulfillment and joy when I'm in the kitchen, whether cocking for me or my family and friends it's awesome... I feels as if a part of me, that I didn't knew that was missing, suddenly it's complete. I totally agree with Marisa about following your passions.
I have always been lonely and consequently depressed sometimes from personal circumstances beyond my control. Recently had a very bad experience and instead of walking away I let it continue and have been replaying this . finally I drcided to take St Johns wort and valarium for insomnia and anxiety .. it has assisted .. with isolation .. but also joined a gym and church which have helped more as ferl some self worth... constantly criticised by family member but have weathered this finally .. went travelling but after a while solo returned to London (5 1/2 months) ... now planning to go again and as cant secure good job am cleaning which is double hard as asthmatic but have my goal .. to do voluntary work maybe cleaning in Kolkata ... and travel more on a budget again. I dont feel people are friendly as put me into a box as am 59 but look 39 dont have kids ...but now I dont care anymore and do as I please. So that s my story ..
I always wanted to be an actress,worked in a theatre and there was no money after a while and many internal issues. so I left and i found other ways of keeping ignited my passion , I do kids entertainment and now I am preparing myself to be on a stage again with a kids musical show where I act and sing (original songs written by me) Marisa is right don't give up your heart gets sad and don't give in there is always a way, you can create opportunities !
I have found the hard way that I was taught that medicines were the only way I could somewhat function. I came off all my medications. Now I used cbd oil and personal development. The last piece of my journey is to find a community and connection to people.
hey i'm from Morocco! we have the best cannabis in the world but it's not legal yet and we do not have CBD oil ! And I think that I need that! And by the way I'm an engineer and I also sing go check my videos.
My hearts desire from an early age was just to be married and have children. And that is exactly what did not happen. I have one grown up child. But my life is empty really. It's so true what you say about the causes of depression.
Awww this is deep, i have been waiting for someone who will look at depression differently in a way that creates hope from within to overcome it...and you just brought it out so well Marisa ...You are a blessing. I love you.
check this out you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
@@MarisaPeer What if that picture keeps changing? I'm so confused. It always like that. I have many interests but all with the same level of preferences. None stand out enough. For ex: this month I'm passionate about being an illustrator and then I suddenly lose that passion. After that I'm passionate about helping people emotionally then it will die down again. And so on.
@@wendybone8104 This question comes out a lot however what if I can't even answer that?:( I grew up in a strict household with no freedom. My parents dictated all my activities and they didn't believe in hobbies; only academics. I couldn't just go out of the house as well so no opportunity for exploring. I have no memories of doing things I love as a small child. However maybe in elementary-teenage years I read a lot of fantasy/adventure/detective books and really love them.
I try to be good to myself, I try to follow my callings but I'm quite disconnected from people. I can socialise well but when it comes to something more people get dependant and I feel stressed because I don't want to hurt people taking them away from me. I'm sure its me not knowing how to handle this, but the fact is that I physically feel I miss people interactions. I'm happy alone, but I need people. Thanks Marisa
Don’t wait somebody show up in your life one day. Save you love you. You go out to creat connection with people. Take a small risk to talk with people; learn something you are interested but think it is too difficult; wear the smile on your face , until people tell you they love your smile they like your positive attitude. Wish you luck and happy!
I always wanted to write educational but fun children books and I feel extreme heartbreaking when I see people committing suicide. I have never believed I could achieve any of those things because my mother never ever believed I could do anything. Now, I am 30 and I'll just do it! Thank you for the mental push
i am a foreign student based in Paris, France. Ever since I came here I feel people are live such secluded lives. I am quite an overt person but most locals I come across are not open to discussion or conversation. This has led me to leave a more introvert life as well. How do you connect with people when you have the motivation but others dont
In the last few months major changes happened that allowed me to be more aware. I had a lot of time to think. I realised that I was a people pleaser. I always put the others first. I didn’ t bother to ask myself if I want to do things because to me it was more important what the others needed and what they expected from me. I don’t want to be like that anymore. I am working on myself to fully accomplish that and I am learning to be patient, kind and loving to myself. I am starting to learn how to love and respect myself. So about the video I’m being more conscious about the self criticism and every time I say bad things to myself, I stop, I realise what I just said and correct it. I am also trying to figure out what I am really passionate about. I have a lot of ideas but I need to start doing instead of just thinking. The last thing that makes me sad is that the people I meet doesn’t really want to connect. I want to talk about interesting topics. I just don’t want to spent my time hearing people complaining and gossiping. But I don’t know where to start. That’s why I want to spent time alone doing nothing or doing things that I like and inspire me. I live in a small town where everybody know everybody. I am doing new experiences because I want to know myself, hanging out with new people but if I need to talk to someone I don’t really have true friends that don’t judge me and with whom I can really open up with. Maybe it is just in my mind and I am scared of people🤣 That’s funny because I worked as a bartender for many years and I didn’t have any issue to talk to people.
I want to act like MYSELF. I want to be MYSELF. But I have different masks for different people... It's exhausting to change masks so many times every single day... I want to be comfortable feeling like Myself in Public and not give a damn about what others think... Also, I want a tribe which is young, dumb, joyous, fun-loving, encouraging, enthusiastic, badass, self-growth lover, etc. I haven't found any... I don't have any person like that in my life not even with 50% of these traits
I have had depression for my whole life. I am digging out and trying to retrain my brain. It is hard at any age. Community is key. I am multi talented artistically but never fully dove in to anything. I fear It is nowtoo late to chose something else. I feel stuck. I do Love Marissa Peer. Wonderful woman and life coach!
It’s never too late to start doing what you love, take heart from Marisa’s message and know that you can take steps however small, praising yourself as you do x Marisa Peer Team
I followed my heart's desire and became a moderately well-known and respected member of a still working band...but it didn't cure my critical inner voice and disconnection. My depression and extreme anxiety remained, worsened even, and I've made rash, wreckless moves that are threatening to destroy everything in my life. I'm 56 now and want to escape a world that many people dream of being in. It opened up a whole new set of problems and didn't solve my initial ones.
It's combination,of anger sadness, emotions that are uncontrollable,I went through it and I'm trying to share how I used to feel and how I'm overcoming it, bless you😍😍
@@penninahthegrace3036 Thank you. In my case it is unpredictable. I sometimes wake up in the mornings with depression and it can take a few hours to overcome depression.
@@adampowell5376 I understand I was there few months back,but now I'm healing I pray you find a way sending you some love and prayers,try to share please don't hold it inside try to talk to your friends and if you need someone to talk to I'm here I can help #i care
So very true I feel depressed and I'm on medicaton, but what I know i need the most is the connections to others this what helps me feel better, Thank You Marisa and all the best 2 You.
Marissa I saw you in London this year. I love listening to you. Regret and deep remorse keeps my depression lingering. My only child, who is thirty with children, will not have me in his life. I am not in contact with any of my family, because of the trauma in my background. Is self forgiveness ever possible lovely lady?
Been dealing with depression since I was 15, it comes from not performing my best, every time I feel a failure I beat myself up till I hide away. My dream since I was a little girl is to be an author, I’ve always been gifted at writing and have had work published but being a single mum at 24 has stopped me from getting there, as you need a lot of free time to write a book, I finally wrote my first novel in lockdown and finished it this year. I’ve tried sending it off and was in talks with a publisher who wanted to see my ideas but was pretty negative to me after lots of hard work. I think it’s caused me to feel completely flat as it’s triggering my inner narrative of being a failure. Every time I get depressed it’s the same thing, you are a failure in life and it makes me exhausted and want to hide away, suicidal too. Marissa every time helps me untangle these thoughts.
I saw a video in FB AND SHE SAID FOLLOW THE LINK... but there’s none. I said it’s probably was gone cost $$$ I don’t have... then without thought I come to TH-cam. All these to choose from, since I suffer from daily depression I searched for this... all 3 I related to and said wow can’t wait to TRY IT
I'm a big lover of Tony Robbin's. He so impressed me I became a Neurolinguistic Programmer. Even though in 1992 the training glorified my life it has been such an enormous pleasure to listen to you and the message you impart. I have to tell you, where you are right now is probably where you are at your most elegant. Because of my history with Trancendental Meditaton, Siva Mind Control and much more it makes your words Express themselves in practical foundation that is rock solid right.i just love it!
I'm really hard on myself when I loose a job that I didn't really like but needed to stay with it to stay somewhat a float. When I don't feel like I belong there I get angry and lash out. The very few jobs I've actually really liked being at would tell me Im not good enough but have potential so I stay because it's my passion and then I get let go from the job because I'm not making them the money they are looking for. It's a cycle that won't stop. Leads to me be the most critical to myself and listening to toxic people doesn't help.
1. every time I made a mistake, I slapped myself on my face and in many ways I hurt myself, I was very harsh to me.
2. I didn't follow my passion
3. and I am a loner. most of the time I remain in my room
that's why I have acute depression. I was in medications but I stopped taking them. I am suffering from multiple mental disorders.
but I promise you, from this moment,
1. I am going to praise myself
2. I am going to follow my passion
3. I am going to build connection to people
Do it!!!! You desrve it! 💗
Go for it brother! You deserve happiness and success!
Mahmudul Hasan Jahid well done! You can do it! Be proud !
Mahmudul Hasan Jahid Don’t forget how you feel now, and the desire you have to make a change. I know how you feel as an introvert who is self critical. Just take small steps each day, and don’t give up. Follow your heart. It will get better. Good luck.🍀
Yaaay! Go, go, go!!!
I started painting full time when I turned 40. I got laid off from my work in 2012 and painting is what kept me from losing my mind and sense of self. Now, seven years later I am thriving as an Artist. Wrote and published a book which actually received raving reviews on many platforms including Amazon. I will not be taking a sob story to my grave but rather a life well lived and productive that not only helped me fulfill my purpose but also helped me leave something noteworthy behind for my community.
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That is a fabulous story. Congratulations
@@sheilaflahertyartist9788 So nice of you to comment. Yes, I am still painting everyday and for 8 to 12 hours a day. It is amazing how circumstances can either make you or break you - it boils down to your choice.
Love this, so inspiring. I have always wanted to sale my crafts but feared no one will buy them.
I always wanted to be famous, and then when someone told me being famous is stressful and you don't get much privacy, I thought, maybe I'll be a counselor. Well, I am a city bus driver and I feel small fame, but I also help people with their problems and listen. I love my job and it's perfect for me!
I was pretty depressed earlier in my life, taking meds and then lost my job. I started exercising and losing weight, it was enough for me to ween myself off of depression/anxiety meds and I got my current job bus driving and haven't felt depression ever since. I'm healthier and happier than I ever have been. Blessing to each of you! ❤
Bravo!! 💪💪💪🙋
You should watch the movie Paterson with Adam Driver.
barbieshs777 amazing success. Well done.
I feel lonely at this time.i had bad anxity a day. Ant e en keep food down.stiggled day ot even away to get out of my house.how can o stop alm this
@@ginab2801 sometimes in your darkest times is when you finally realize what will make you whole. I remember feeling lonely after getting divorced. One day 3 kittens showed up on my doorstep, I wasn't planning to keep any of them but I did end up keeping one and it gave me purpose. Maybe consider getting a pet or a roommate?
We love you marisa peer
Thank you, we love you too!!
@@MarisaPeer You're an awesome lady. You always seem to know how to boil things down to their simplest essence and provide a practical, actionable, solution!
@@MarisaPeer : Marisa, can you please talk in some of next videos about condition after depression. I feel very strange...like I am in a no man's land (hope that is a correct expresion)...it is like I am in tha vast clearing and like I have no previous knowledge about things in general. Very strange. Like literaly, I am begining again from year 0. It is a bit frightening. Thank you 🙋😘
@@DV-dt9sq I am just finishing my studies as an RTT practitioner w Marisa Peer Method. I have had several clients describe a similar feeling. They stopped the negative self talk but then they feel like there is brain fog or nothingness. I have had excellent results with having the person replace the negative talk with positive talk. Your mind was busy before - beating you down. Now, practice talking to yourself in a loving, supportive manner. Make your mind your best friend. Be proud of the steps you have already taken and be sure to take another step every day. What you say to your mind creates your reality. Also, if you add in following your passion & connecting with community - it will help fill your mind too. I wish you the absolute best.
@@sherihadfield-chronicpainr4864 : Dear Sheri, thank you so much for this. You are absolutely right and... nicely putted that my brain was busy before criticizing myself. I need to fill it with more good thoughts. Thank you and I wish you all the best in your work 🙋💜🌼
My heart's desire has always been to help others with their mental well-being, but life got in the way. I am now in my 30s and training to be a wellbeing therapist. It's never too late.
You're absolutely right, it's never too late. x
@@MarisaPeer bless you Marrisa, how does a person cope when he or she feels so low and doing general chores feels to much...?
Hi its so great
My first Carrer has nothing to do with what I later studied. I studied a second career while My children were growing up, and now a psychotherapist. It's never to late.
@@MarisaPeer I am an IT consultant and love what I do. But, my heart's calling is to motivate others and so, I have joined RTT's "become a therapist" course and I am loving it. ❤
Cures:
1. Stop criticising yourself.
2. Find a way to follow your heart.
3. Connection is vital to your soul. Find a tribe.
4. Do what you don't want to do (eat healthy food, exercise, go out).
I am taking anti depressants, have been doing so for over 20 years now, but I say positive affirmations to myself every day that I am love and I am light. I make an effort to go to the gym 3 times a week which helps lift my mood. I also do latin dance lessons 3 nights every week where I meet lovely happy creative people. And then I go to our latin dance parties.Great community! I have 6 cats that keep me feeling warm and loved. And I give lots of love and consideration to my husband. I am on anti depressants, but I work to be well every day. I've tried to come of my meds, but I simply break right down. But I never give up trying to help myself daily. Thank you for listening to me.
To my is hard to get out of my house, I feel like I'm not accepted or judgement by others, I can't stand people critize me but I get I can't control that. Sometimes I can be weeks or months without going out, thank so much Marisa.
If you knew you were enough and built up your self-esteem, you would know not to let criticism in. There's a free chapter of my book in this blog post for you. marisapeer.com/wellnessweekly15feb/ x
Wow I just heard this for the first time this morning, because I was reading on the mind and wondering why I don’t accomplish the things that I want to accomplish and what’s holds me back. I’m trying to figure out my calling in life although I am a senior retired and working part time I still feel that I never got to really figure out what I really wanted to do I hope you understand what I’m trying to say thank you
Also, something to look into. It is said that over 50 percent of serotonin is produced in/by the gut. While trying to beat depression myself I came across that statistic. Sometimes (has helped me to some degree) cutting out /adding certain foods you will feel some helpful results.
I have been in depression for 27 years. Since my early twenties. Sometimes I can not believe that I lost all of that time. It is a span of somebody life. More than a year ago I got better thanks to myself. Marisa is right on all three causes. I had them and I didn't recognise it that they are reason of my unfortune. I grew up being an artist - I needed art and painting as oxygen that we breathe, so when I finished high school I thought I would paint and sell my paintings. I tried to enter university for art and I didn't got in. I had no one around me. I lost friends because my parents decided to move from a place which I adored and where I had friends. I didn't manage to make new ones out of fear of loosing them again. I would say that most important thing in the world are friends and life with them. I miss people sooo much! I don't have friends, I got lost and don't know how to make friendships in 46. And as Marisa says I criticised myself (even beaten). For being with no friends, not manage to make my way into art world. I am gay, and that was something I had to supress growing up. Anyway, my dreams went unrealised. Funny, as I write this I feel good...like I finaly can put my past into a perspective. I was going to therapy for several years, I realised some thinghs about myself but still it didn't help me to move. I was almost all 27 years in my room. Being in love with furniture design I tried to make some chairs with a hand tools and that helped me to go forward. I aquired some energy to oppose my parents and that was liberating. But I still have no aspiration, I do not know what to do in life... I love painting but I still don't have that passion I used to have. I love designing furniture, but I don't know how to go forward with that and earn money with it. And the most important thing is that I would like to have friends in my life, I wish friends like I need oxygen. And I realise (every time) when I write long comments on Marisa's videos that I just want to talk with someone out there... here, with people with similar situations and with all of you who like Marisa's work. I like being here. Thank you. 🙋🙌😉
D V thanks for sharing that
@Louise Fox : Thank you dear Louise for these beautiful words and support. I wish you all the best 🙌🌼🌼🌼
Your awesome and hang in there my friend 💕
@@HiddenHistories-0 : You too friend! 💜🙌
DV in many ways I can relate to your story. I had a lot of talent when younger but lacked confidence and didn't fulfill my potential. My artistic talent manifested itself in other ways like landscape gardening and interior design and I'm at my happiest now.
When you've been criticized your whole life its natural to do it to yourself🤦🤷
That's true. We learn from others. But when we know we're enough we silence those voices which do us harm and listen to our own x
@@MarisaPeer Its funny, when we know we're enough, even if its just enough, we can give ourselves permission to accept ourselves.
Sara Mathous exactly!!!
Totally agreed with that...when your parents kept calling you names, saying you are worthless, while comparing you to your bro/sis who is way better...that is the beginning of self-criticizing
@@MrChungmen they'll never admit their wrong doings tho🤷
I have many rare chronic illnesses and have lost myself to this. Lost so many friends and family. My hearts desire is to gain wellness and help others advocate in my situation.
For the first time a comment section has brought me pure peace. I have struggled with my health for years and I’ve realised it has made me afraid, depressed and disconnected. All of the lovely comments has brought a tear to my eye. I hope everyone finds bliss and happiness. I think it’s more a case of becoming okay with these feelings and gaining a new perspective about why we feel this way. Good luck everyone, you deserve it ❤️
What a lovely, giving message. Thank you x
Oh wow Marissa your reply has made my day! I follow all your work, you are a true inspiration xxxx
My partner is overcoming depression and is troubling to see him sink. After watching your video I am confident that he can beat depression. Thank you for this helpful advice.
I just want to love and be loved
Sending you love and light ♡ whatever it is you are going through you can find the strength to overcome it. Life is happening for you and not to you.
What a beautiful thing to say. Thank you for watching and spreading love and positivity.
@@MarisaPeer thank YOU Marisa, you are a big inspiration 💕
I truly wish I could have a session to discuss my problems . I found myself punishing myself when everything was going well . I’m stuck at a ceiling , what can you say about this ?
Hi Marisa, I want to thank you for all you´ve done to help people who are living depression. Currently, I am living a deep depression, I am unemployed and also I was separated a year ago, my marriage is failed for vary bad circunstancies. Your videos can help me a lot. Really, I apprecciate that.
It’s easy to forget, so many people are sad and alone, longing for connection and fulfillment. But we are never alone if we just take a moment to look beyond ourselves.
Each of us are responsible for our own happiness.
Dear Marisa,
Your videos are changing my life. Thank you so so much for all your wisdom and life-changing advice.
Currently:
1. I don't praise myself that much, but I'm starting to do so (slowly but surely).
2. I'm following my passion, which is studying Psychology to become a therapist in the future.
3. I have friends in university that I hang out with, and one really good friend from my school days who I talk to and meet up often. She makes me feel calm, centred and happy. Plus I'm close to my sister and brother, and my bond with them makes me happy.
Years ago I was extremely lonely, sad and I had faced so much rejection that I had totally given up on having any real close bond with a friend, but last year when I started to believe in myself just a little more, when the desperation for having friends faded away and when I started to enjoy my own company, things improved and I made friends pretty quickly when I started my bachelors program in Psychology in fall 2018.
Bottom line is that becoming the best you that you can be is an on going process that requires all the things you talk about - 'I am enough', self praise, doing the hardest task first, and making the unfamiliar familiar.
Honestly Marisa, ever since I pasted the words "I am enough" in my bathroom, in my room and on my phone lock screen, my addictive behaviours (particularly my addiction to food and sugar) have dropped so significantly that I don't consume sugar anymore except for the usual home made chocolate milk in the morning, and even in that, the chocolate quantity is minimal. Your advice is helping me turn around my 7 year long struggle with food, and is helping me become the version of me that I've only dreamed of. Years of therapy didn't help as much as your advice has, and for that, *I am forever grateful* ❤️❤️❤️❤️
With so much love and admiration,
Fatima.
Sending love and admiration to you too. Thank you for your lovely words x
Well I don’t really comment on these things but congratulations I’m so happy for you I’m sending you love, happiness and light through this comment. Keep up the good work you’re more than enough your blessed
We were born as happy and joyful beings , but we try too hard being unhappy
What a great reminder, thank you for posting this. Have you always known this? Thank you for watching.
@@MarisaPeer I admire you Marisa
I have not always known this. I went through darkness and pain to rediscover this bliss and joy within me. I realised there has to be some darkness to see the stars :)
U think I wanna be depressed? That I want attention? I didnt choose this...
I cant fucking stop thinking. I dont controll the way I think, it controlls me. You obviously wont understand...
No one does
I hate life,so fcking much.
KpopCreepz TM I don’t know if this makes you feel better, but you’re not alone
@@xx-si6fe Powerful and very hurtful. Stop criticising yourself, your better than that. Those negative thoughts are automatic reactions to your low mood. Your life is yours to live and to enjoy, if you'd only allow yourself the grace of happiness your world would change. I was once told "you don't get depression you do depression" meaning your reflecting outwardly the feelings you've harboured inside and your hiding away from life. Can I ask is there nothing in life that has ever brought joy or any happiness? you must have something or someone that has stirred your soul and made you light up. Don't stay in such a dark place, find your hearts desire and connect. I was deeply depressed for many years and thought life would never change, contemplated ending my life, but something inside wanted to be just free and I thought that was the only way, until I stopped the self criticism and negative way of thinking and then looked to find some joy in the things I did. I took some meds from the doctor for a while to get me on my feet and then began to climb out of that dark hole, that I had dug for myself. Now I am in a better place and it was not easy, but I knew deep down I was really hiding from myself and the world around me, but with the help of others I started a new life and never looked back.
I feel depressed and isolated due to lack of friends and a real "tribe". And I find it hard to make friends because I'm insecure about being alone. I'm afraid people might think something is wrong with me and stay away
If you could choose some activity to do with others, what would it be?
Thank you for the wonderful message.I find it hard to make friends in a new country I am 62.I feel lonely most of the time
There is always a place we can fit in and be a part of things ; often when we least expect it. Wishing you love and success. Be yourself and celebrate 🎉 who you are. Living your life you will have achieved many great things and you have many more great things to achieve xx sending you positive joy 🌟👍
Thank you Marisa for your superb videos x Please keep them coming 😊❤️Fabulous 🏅
Join activities, online if you have to. Get human connection. Lot of people are just like you. Find each other
You are so right dear Marissa .
It happened and sometimes want to come back .
Now that I watch your videos , I feel so supported and brings peace.
I’m a loner cause I felt betrayed many times but I’m willing to change .
And I’m giving love to others and I feel good and peaceful . Thank you Marissa !
This is brilliant . Thank you Marisa.
So here goes .
Just turned 55 been fighting off depression most of my life . My ego was out off control and was always criticising myself feeling not good enough and going over and over passed mistakes and reliving them this all culminated in me having a heart attack two years ago . With the help of the wonderful NHS and the gift of modern medical science I’m still here . But I’m vulnerable and feeling isolated and not good enough . I long to be loved and I long to be in a community . I’ve always loved the arts wether it’s singing , drawing and acting . I always wanted to be an actor after my dad died when I was eight years old I became empathetic and loved drama at school but never followed it through basically I came from a comprehensive school background money was scarce and I had to follow the line to get by . I became a carpenter , a very good one but it does not fuel my soul . If I could start again I would have left my home town ( which I’m still in , and that makes me depressed ) gone to university and or drama school and followed my dream . I’m great with people I’m a part time tai chi instructor and I give a lot of myself to my students , many elderly but when the classes are over I’m home alone again and missing connection ......so that’s me in brief . Anybody out there looking for an unknown mature man to take part in something ...... I’m here ...... wow ! Dare to dream , I feel better already . Thank you Marisa .
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Is there anywhere nearby where you get involved in amateur dramatics? If that's your passion and you want connection, why not join the two? x
Marisa Peer Thankyou Marisa . I never felt that inspired at the thought of Am Dram but it’s a constant learning this thing called life so I will check it out I may just be surprised . Thank you so much for your kind reply . Much love to you .
Robert Sidwell I really hope you went to a drama class buddy
You've got skills as a carpenter! Could you build sets for drama groups?
How fortunate are we who have this access to Marisa Peer. I am GRATEFUL. Thank you.
My inner voice drew me back so badly! It followed me everywhere at any occasion and took over my body. I didn’t realize it before. All the sudden, after I read so many books and your videos, I can deal with it now. Whenever I have some negative inner voice pops up, I say:”shut up! It is not true! I can handle it! Let’s see!”
All the things turn out, it is actually not that bad or even nothing happen as your predictions.
I teach my son to deal with his inner voice in these way. It seems work on him too. His friends love him. They think he is such a happy person; always make you feel so happy to be with.
That is so beautiful. Bravo! I am doing the same thing...I am trying to converse with my inner me with more compassion, and on negativism also with saying "that is not so,...let see..." . Good luck! 🙋💪
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I have just broken out of the family scapegoat dynamic at the age of 48. I have been transforming myself over the last year, I think I've nailed the issue of criticism, next steps are to connect with my heart's desire and people, I have been disconnected from both all my life so it feels like I don't know where to start. Thank you so much for this video Marisa, perfect timing for me! 🙂
Childhood trauma is the first cause
yes I have a cure right here
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
Very very true
Gabor Maté
Yep, my ex family, especially her that gave birth to me, did a number on me psychologically. She was physical with my brother and he said if he could take a third of what she did to me he would. The advice Marisa gives is invaluable, she's amazing xx
No, it’s not. The Trauma itself isn’t the cause, it’s the way you beat yourself about going through it that is. Guilt, Shame & Anger about your past. You need to forgive yourself to let go and move forward. Otherwise it becomes your identity.
I found self -talk made a huge difference for me, I didn't realize I was because it wasn't always the talk it was the aggrivation I felt about what I did or didn't do right. Thank you for these reminders. Another one I find with my client sis looking back on the future making you sad ornregtretful. I love how you always look forward and keep healing interesting.
Totally spot on with the community thing it feels like. I've been working at home now for 4 years and this is making sense to me. I don't want to go to a co-working space so need to find a way to build community around me some other way. For me right now that's joining a group of sea swimmers. There's always someone to meet for a swim and it really affects me in a good way. I've been scratching my head thinking how did I end up feeling so shitee but now I'm starting to realise. Community.
Mark I hope you will find your sea people.
I am watching the videos that you collected on your page and find them very useful. Thank you.
Whenever a friend would criticize themselves, I would try to make them feel better by saying something like "We are our own worst critics. Nobody thinks that about you." What I've come to realize now is by me saying that, I had been reinforcing that belief and letting myself remain my own worst critic as well. I'm just now learning that the words we say to ourselves do help shape our reality. I'm glad I'm able to share this with my students now, too. When they tell me their dreams are too big or unattainable, I let them know that they are right, as long as they keep thinking and saying that. I encourage them to follow their passion and do what makes them happy, no matter how big or impossible it might seem. Sometimes I feel like I work too much (yet don't make enough money) to be able to have an interesting life outside of work. For a long time I've felt I don't belong or don't quite fit in. I think I need to begin telling myself just the opposite, so I can make the meaningful connections I desire. I love your videos, Marisa. Thank You
You make a great point on all these 3 causes. We have to make this information more wide spread because way too many people are suffering from depression. Thanks for doing your part.
I agree. Everyone who has depression should know Marisa. She speaks so much common sense and should be compulsory viewing and listening to everyone with depression, much better than 30 years of medication and useless counselling, Marisa has given me back my life. Thank you a million times over for giving me all this I sight.
My calling is to become an RTT therapist. I have been following Marisa Peer since May and i know that i want to do that even part-time. I was very unwell and almost depressed to go back to my teaching job in September ans then i realized i could help my students using some materials, advice and tips during my lessons when i felt my students needed them to overcome their fears and challenges. I know that soon i will find the money to finance the training but in the meantime i am testing RTT on my students and colleagues and they love it. Thank you Marisa.
I take a multi B vitamin in the morning and at night every day. This has lifted my mood immensely very quickly!
Please which one do you take?
What brand and how much each time?
I recently started taking Nature Made super B-Complex and it is helping. It says take one a day but I take one mid morning and one late afternoon. There is a lot to beating depression. I mean a lot of things come into play. I have battled for almost thirty years. Started with a divorce I didn’t want and four beautiful children. Had to become an every-other weekend dad. Missed out sooo much on fathering. I love being a dad. I had a great mum and dad. Anyways, I’m rambling.
Marissa, you are a blessing. Thank you for all you do to help people.
For people with digestive disease it’s better to put the vitamin B complex in injection, because when there are digestive issues the vitamins B in pills or capsules are not well absorbed by the digestive system. It’s also more recommended in injection for severe anxiety or depression problems. My anxiety and my blood circulation issues have improved a 98% after taking the vitamin B in complex. 🙏🏻
Kiki Kiki 12hr timed release whatever is on sale must be a multi B vitamin!
I’m very new to meditation. I don’t know how to take it in. My hearts desire has been to sing. Singing fills my heart and soul. My true hearts desire has been to sing with Bette Midler. It has been for almost 40 years. Instead, I sing karaoke. I realized I did not love myself and it’s been from all the negativity in my life starting as a child. These first meditations have really helped so far. Thank you
Thanks so much! I’m encouraged by ur words and your voice is so soothing. I recently lost my mum I’m so depressed and lonely. I want a friend but where I am no people to connect. I will try to practice what u say. Thanks again
As a Conscious Awareness Coach; Marisa is an extreme expert in this field. She is easy to hear (not listen) and gifted in a way of presenting vibrant ways of thinking. She is someone I closely follow and research and outsource her work. Thank you Maria! I love you and I hope to meet you one day soon!
Hardest thing to do for me is to speak about my needs and my boundaries.Also,I spend a lot of time by myself and I find it hard to control my anger regarding my past..I often feel guilt for my mistakes and for the fact that my own parents didn't love me.
Have you ever thought about working with an RTT therapist? rapidtransformationaltherapy.com/findaspecialisttherapist/bookingform/
Hi everyone! I love working in the arts. I find it hardest to get up and start creating paintings, writing, singing, etc. And when it comes to acting and singing, auditioning and reaching out, I find it hardest to jump over the belief that I can't, I won't get anywhere or I'll get rejected and it causes a feeling of paralysis. I learned how to get past this with Marissa and I'm so grateful however I always have to jumpstart and I found the power and energy within myself to be the source of that.
Thank you Marisa 💚. I tend to isolate and feel shame because of family problems, and I want to be a mentor for young people who feel insecure and lonely. Because I have lost everyday connection with someone I love more than anything to manipulation, I want to connect to those who need someone to listen and not judge. I want to turn adversity into something good, because I have the gift of compassion and empathy. I'm also writing a book about grief because my Mother died suddenly this year. I feel better when I am communicating and helping people gain linguistic and personal confidence. It helps me forget my ego and my grief, and feel that I have purpose, despite having been through some major trauma. Please feel free to reach out to me anyone who is lonely and/or ill. I have health challenges too so I get it. Thanks again Marisa 💚
Thank you for sharing your story x
Pauline Burke 🙏🏼
1.I always blame my self for anything that happen,even for something that i m not sure if it is caused by me or not
2. my passion is toward making my crush to love me back,
3.Being locked up myself in my own room n in my own fantasy life of thing that not hurt me,so i tend to run rather than face n solve the reality...
its hard to do all that...but,gonna try to atleast make a first step..if not,nothing gonna change..
You are saving peoples lives, in a million ways ❤️
I have been disconnected from life my whole life and when I work on being connected my sensitivity to words and feelings from others I shut off my feelings. I actually like my own space. Working on the understanding of true emotions and not the masked, practiced emotions. I have been diagnosed with Depression, anxiety, ptsd and ocd thoughts
People who constantly talk about themselves and do not listen or care about what you have to say or what you can offer. I avoid these people.
I went through alot of depression for years.
I wanted to be a doctor but couldn't be one. Now I follow my heart's desire and volunteer for stroke and Parkinson patients at an NGO. My life has turned 360* around. I am Happy to learn from inspirational speakers like you and teach them I also do speech enhancement with them.
Thank you Marisa for changing my life.
That's wonderful to hear x
OMG this is amazing! I need to implement these 3 things immediately in my life - all of them - seems if we do the first one the second one will be easier to figure out and then the third one will fall into place. The third one affects me daily I get cabin fever and have to get out of the house by noon - TY Marisa 🤗
Marissa thank you. You mention 3 simple steps, yet each imply hard work. What I noticed is I lose Focus on those 3 steps. I AM doing what I like, being a psicologa. Need to stop being harsh with myself and start connecting more. Appreciate this space yo connect.
This is the most meaningful video I've heard of yours to me personally. Thank you so much ❤️
You're very welcome x
Thank you Marisa, I am following my heart desire, I am 54years old. And you helped me a lot, you don not know how much. I have listened All of your videos, audios, etc.
“You are not allowed to beat up your body for being human” ...this is genius .I am mot depressed, never been but my kids are falling into this nightmare often .I am learning how to help them , thank you , you are a gift sent from God.
As for me...I am a pharmacy worker who hates pharmaceuticals, how crazy is that. I need to change something 🤨
Probably you have been awakened...I too have not been taking any medications from pharmaceuticals as I know lots based on what I read....since I practice qiqong and meditation, I have never been sick. Since you hate pharmaceutical, as it is hate can bring you into lower vibration and in the long run it can have an impact on your body if it's not addressed. I wish you have a good career change and pray it will elevate your life in so many ways🙏
My hearts desire is to help people heal from depression, to help them learn now to love themselves unconditionally. To be a self-love coach. I don't know how to even get to this point. I suppose not until I am completely healed can I truly be a power of healing to others and the timing isn't right now. Praying I will get there soon.
When I was young I was feisty, assertive, more playful, determined, focus and centered. But then some people in my family and life were too critical of myself. That sunk in and I quit loving myself. I lost all iniciative, personal and artsy projects; all happynness was gone. I found refuge in music, films and loneliness. I was self critizing myself all time and that led to drinking issues, meeting the wrong people and major disapointments Even in the espiritual sense I was disconnected with my Self and my purpose in life. It took me more than 30 years of my life of self theraphy and wanting to be happy and really going for it without having to please other people. Now I take care of myself, and I'm kind to myself even when I fail or in more challenging situactions. Self love is the way of changing your life, believe it. And stay true to yourself no matter what others think of you.
🙏🏻absolutely!!!! xx
I have been very critical of myself in the past and watching your videos and practicing "i am enough" has changed my life. I am also working on shifting towards doing things that speak to my heart, thank you so much for helping so many people! ❤❤❤❤
Marisa you are a Genius!! And I love this colour on you❤❤❤❤
Thank you for watching and for your kind words. xx
You have the right Marisa, when we don't follow our heart desires and we don't do what we like, when we don't live where we like, when we don't respect our desires then you feel that need that you immediately you have to change this important issue in your life👏💖
I feel disconnected from reality. I am 26, and the the last time I felt like I had people who I could call a tribe, I was in middle school. I work in the media, where I sit around for 4 to 9 hours a day alone in a room. I have always had high standards for myself and take things to the extreme. I found music in college and the music program at acc is the closest things I could get to a tribe. I am a virgin and would like to meet other people, but I've always been driven towards other things like music, work, and self inspection. I know that the time to change is now! I will be reborn from this day forward. I will not allow myself to continue on the path that I am on. I will connect on deeper levels to every person I meet. I will explore everything that life has to offer. I will get everything I want, and more!
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And so it is! Thank you! 💐
Just the word of Marisa it hit me....to connect with people's...whom I have been disconnected for a very long time and have been feeling depressed......thankyou somuch Marisa!!!
This is the first time I'm commenting in the comments box......after a very long period of time....it's as if my fingers are moving itself without any brake🤗!!!!
Thanks Marisa! I find this very inspiring to me. In terms of number 2 & 3 I already did a great job and proud of myself and keep it develop. And Of course point number 1 will be my homework hehe. I have a heart's desire to help people who younger than me who have struggle with finance. I wanna make them very good in finance. Because I care and I wanna see them smile, I wanna make an impact to them. I talk about my employee. I love em.
My mother and grandmother committed suicide from depression. Losing them has affected my ability to connect with people. I also struggle with Aspergers....I make a lot of mistakes socially, which affects my ability to connect. I followed my heart and became a writer, but have had limited success and am now 51 and so disappointed in my life. I've lost all joy and question what I thought was my heart's desire. And I feel deep ecological grief about how we are destroying our planet. I hope through this grief I can find my calling. Thank you Marisa, for sharing your wisdom with us.
I don't think enough is written about Aspergers and the problems it causes people in social situations. Have you thought about writing a blog?
I have a hard time sometimes hanging out with new people because I feel maybe I’ll make them uncomfortable or maybe we won’t do anything together we’ll just be standing around. I want a connection and I think it worries me that if I don’t get that connection I’ll be pressured to stay there or else I’m a bad friend.
I’m normally very extraverted but it seems I want to almost control the situation of what I do with my friend so we can have fun but that’s just because I think that they won’t want to do really anything fun unless I ask first.
I feel exacly in the same way, it is hard to find someome we can connect with. But don't worry, people come and people go, sooner or later you will find someone that y can find yourself connected with :)
Me too❤
Same!!!
Hey Hun! I have learned a lot from Marisa my fav thing she talks about is the concept that you are enough! Think you are enough to have fun regardless what your friends are doing! :) Come from fear to freedom!
Is it the childhood trauma that made you depressed or what you said to yourself after the abuse ended? Are you still being abused right now?
I was very close to my mom and grandmother. They both died two years apart. My mom was 58. It's been a really hard 10 years. We had a small family but very close, life was so much more fun and exciting when they were here. I've tried very hard to overcome the depression and I fake it when I have to. From watching your videos I know there are words in that last sentence and in general that I am not going to use anymore. My issue is isolation and apathy. I know many things I could do- I'm just not doing them. I am a very creative person who loves to do so many things and I am doing nothing but staying in my apartment for the most part. I started binging on your videos today and I actually feel there are many more possibilities to snap myself out of this. I have loving relationships but I just miss them so much and the magical fun we had together.
I need to find a way to work as a lawyer. I'll think outside the box over the next few days. Thank you Marisa
Kathleen McGowan .. Cornell University of Law.. Or Lexis law online libraries. . Free legal research for legal education. You will never read all the laws but the trick is to know where to find the laws you are looking for. It took me 3 years of reading to learn that trick. I helped build the library.
@@cousin_ifs_q_music5466 Thank you, thank you. I will look into both. Much appreciated.
Kathleen McGowan .. You're very welcome. You will be able to search state, federal, maritime and international laws with your phone or computer. Be sure to to start on the home page click if you want state or federal laws etc. And do KEY words search. Like criminal. Domestic. State. Product liability. Family or what ever category you are looking for in the state where the law is you are looking for. It will take you several hours to figure out how to navigate . but then it will become easy. Remember you will never be able to read all the laws. learn how search with key words. Much easier than the old book way. Happy Holidays.
@@cousin_ifs_q_music5466 Thank you so so much, I will. Happy Holidays to you 😁
Thanks to you Marisa. I can’t have a baby and i’m 46. I’ve trying for 16 years and sometimes I think I don’t want to live without my baby. I keep trying but depression knocks me down. I haven’t support from anyone, I live alone and is so hard for me. My mum never loved me and she is alive but we have a toxic relationship that tortures me. But I don't give up, when I get depressed I give myself a lot of affection and step by step I get ahead and I keep fighting for my baby and to put aside that toxic family. Regain my self esteem and create a wonderful life. Your videos help me a lot and I thank you with all my heart for your selfless labor. Thanks Thanks Thanks 👏🌷💝
Lots of Love !!!!
you just spoke my heart !!!
Thank you
I often say negative comments about myself, I love writing children’s stories, and I often withdraw from social occasions. I need to address all 3. Thank you! Pico from Queensland Australia
Can you make video on loss and grief
Back when I was younger I wanted to attend cocking school, but it was really expensive and I decided to choose a different career path... 6 months ago I started attend a cocking course, and I gotta say that the feeling of fulfillment and joy when I'm in the kitchen, whether cocking for me or my family and friends it's awesome... I feels as if a part of me, that I didn't knew that was missing, suddenly it's complete.
I totally agree with Marisa about following your passions.
I have always been lonely and consequently depressed sometimes from personal circumstances beyond my control. Recently had a very bad experience and instead of walking away I let it continue and have been replaying this . finally I drcided to take St Johns wort and valarium for insomnia and anxiety .. it has assisted .. with isolation .. but also joined a gym and church which have helped more as ferl some self worth... constantly criticised by family member but have weathered this finally .. went travelling but after a while solo returned to London (5 1/2 months) ... now planning to go again and as cant secure good job am cleaning which is double hard as asthmatic but have my goal .. to do voluntary work maybe cleaning in Kolkata ... and travel more on a budget again. I dont feel people are friendly as put me into a box as am 59 but look 39 dont have kids ...but now I dont care anymore and do as I please. So that s my story ..
"but now I dont care anymore and do as I please" - 🙏🏻
I always wanted to be an actress,worked in a theatre and there was no money after a while and many internal issues. so I left and i found other ways of keeping ignited my passion , I do kids entertainment and now I am preparing myself to be on a stage again with a kids musical show where I act and sing (original songs written by me) Marisa is right don't give up your heart gets sad and don't give in there is always a way, you can create opportunities !
I have found the hard way that I was taught that medicines were the only way I could somewhat function. I came off all my medications. Now I used cbd oil and personal development. The last piece of my journey is to find a community and connection to people.
hey i'm from Morocco! we have the best cannabis in the world but it's not legal yet and we do not have CBD oil ! And I think that I need that! And by the way I'm an engineer and I also sing go check my videos.
My hearts desire from an early age was just to be married and have children. And that is exactly what did not happen. I have one grown up child. But my life is empty really. It's so true what you say about the causes of depression.
Juanita Bynum said "when the past present and future are all trying to be lived in one setting then depression is the inevitable."
Deep talk
Awww this is deep, i have been waiting for someone who will look at depression differently in a way that creates hope from within to overcome it...and you just brought it out so well Marisa ...You are a blessing. I love you.
You're very welcome x
check this out
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
What if you don't know what your passion is, and you don't know what your calling is?
We have to find the passion in life. To me life has no meaning. We make the meaning. So go out there and experience things to find what you might love
What did you naturally love doing when you were a child? That could give you a clue to your heart's desire. I hope you find it.
What makes you smile? If you imagine yourself doing something that you really love doing, what would that picture look like?
@@MarisaPeer What if that picture keeps changing? I'm so confused. It always like that. I have many interests but all with the same level of preferences. None stand out enough. For ex: this month I'm passionate about being an illustrator and then I suddenly lose that passion. After that I'm passionate about helping people emotionally then it will die down again. And so on.
@@wendybone8104 This question comes out a lot however what if I can't even answer that?:( I grew up in a strict household with no freedom. My parents dictated all my activities and they didn't believe in hobbies; only academics. I couldn't just go out of the house as well so no opportunity for exploring. I have no memories of doing things I love as a small child. However maybe in elementary-teenage years I read a lot of fantasy/adventure/detective books and really love them.
I try to be good to myself, I try to follow my callings but I'm quite disconnected from people. I can socialise well but when it comes to something more people get dependant and I feel stressed because I don't want to hurt people taking them away from me. I'm sure its me not knowing how to handle this, but the fact is that I physically feel I miss people interactions. I'm happy alone, but I need people. Thanks Marisa
Ive been depressed for 4 years and it gets too much.I became depressed after my friend left me.I need connection.
There'somebody out there for everyone. So don't worry:)
Be happy, will pray for you😊
Ask yourself how can you be Happy?
Ask yourself: how can I be Happy?
Don’t wait somebody show up in your life one day. Save you love you. You go out to creat connection with people. Take a small risk to talk with people; learn something you are interested but think it is too difficult; wear the smile on your face , until people tell you they love your smile they like your positive attitude.
Wish you luck and happy!
I always wanted to write educational but fun children books and I feel extreme heartbreaking when I see people committing suicide.
I have never believed I could achieve any of those things because my mother never ever believed I could do anything.
Now, I am 30 and I'll just do it!
Thank you for the mental push
I have had serious problems trying to find my calling in life. Frankly, I wonder if I have got one.
Adam Powell same here
Me too.
me too
i am a foreign student based in Paris, France. Ever since I came here I feel people are live such secluded lives. I am quite an overt person but most locals I come across are not open to discussion or conversation. This has led me to leave a more introvert life as well. How do you connect with people when you have the motivation but others dont
Hi Marisa! Today's my birthday and I would really love to get a wish from you
In the last few months major changes happened that allowed me to be more aware. I had a lot of time to think. I realised that I was a people pleaser. I always put the others first. I didn’ t bother to ask myself if I want to do things because to me it was more important what the others needed and what they expected from me. I don’t want to be like that anymore. I am working on myself to fully accomplish that and I am learning to be patient, kind and loving to myself. I am starting to learn how to love and respect myself. So about the video I’m being more conscious about the self criticism and every time I say bad things to myself, I stop, I realise what I just said and correct it. I am also trying to figure out what I am really passionate about. I have a lot of ideas but I need to start doing instead of just thinking. The last thing that makes me sad is that the people I meet doesn’t really want to connect. I want to talk about interesting topics. I just don’t want to spent my time hearing people complaining and gossiping. But I don’t know where to start. That’s why I want to spent time alone doing nothing or doing things that I like and inspire me. I live in a small town where everybody know everybody. I am doing new experiences because I want to know myself, hanging out with new people but if I need to talk to someone I don’t really have true friends that don’t judge me and with whom I can really open up with. Maybe it is just in my mind and I am scared of people🤣 That’s funny because I worked as a bartender for many years and I didn’t have any issue to talk to people.
Special hug 🤗🤗🤗 to all my fellow people for sharing their depression cause n taking a step to overcome it ... Wishing all good luck ✨👍👍
This better, than to go to consult, no money and a Dr. Takes just 5 minutes with you🙏❤God Bless you Dr. Marisa Peer and thanks a lot
I want to act like MYSELF. I want to be MYSELF. But I have different masks for different people... It's exhausting to change masks so many times every single day... I want to be comfortable feeling like Myself in Public and not give a damn about what others think... Also, I want a tribe which is young, dumb, joyous, fun-loving, encouraging, enthusiastic, badass, self-growth lover, etc. I haven't found any... I don't have any person like that in my life not even with 50% of these traits
When you know you are enough, you can be yourself x
I have had depression for my whole life. I am digging out and trying to retrain my brain. It is hard at any age. Community is key. I am multi talented artistically but never fully dove in to anything. I fear It is nowtoo late to chose something else. I feel stuck. I do Love Marissa Peer. Wonderful woman and life coach!
It’s never too late to start doing what you love, take heart from Marisa’s message and know that you can take steps however small, praising yourself as you do x Marisa Peer Team
I just want to be a professional dancer and in the arts world but I just don’t think I’m good enough. I need to work on #1, stop criticising!
Listen to my free gift audio about imposter syndrome x marisapeer.com/free-gifts/
I followed my heart's desire and became a moderately well-known and respected member of a still working band...but it didn't cure my critical inner voice and disconnection. My depression and extreme anxiety remained, worsened even, and I've made rash, wreckless moves that are threatening to destroy everything in my life. I'm 56 now and want to escape a world that many people dream of being in. It opened up a whole new set of problems and didn't solve my initial ones.
I find it difficult to stay on a healthy routine.
What keeps you from sticking to the routine?
Dear marisa.. You're completely right👍 i've had all these three in my life and now i feel depressed
I am told that depression is anger that has got stuck.
It's combination,of anger sadness, emotions that are uncontrollable,I went through it and I'm trying to share how I used to feel and how I'm overcoming it, bless you😍😍
@@penninahthegrace3036 Thank you. In my case it is unpredictable. I sometimes wake up in the mornings with depression and it can take a few hours to overcome depression.
@@adampowell5376 I understand I was there few months back,but now I'm healing I pray you find a way sending you some love and prayers,try to share please don't hold it inside try to talk to your friends and if you need someone to talk to I'm here I can help #i care
@@penninahthegrace3036 Thank you. That is kind but there is so much material I could not do it justice online and I would prefer some privacy.
@@penninahthegrace3036 Thank you for your kindness.
So very true I feel depressed and I'm on medicaton, but what I know i need the most is the connections to others this what helps me feel better, Thank You Marisa and all the best 2 You.
My heart calling, start own digital media marketing business
She is right on all 3 reasons, I would also add traumatic experiences through your childhood.
Marissa I saw you in London this year. I love listening to you. Regret and deep remorse keeps my depression lingering. My only child, who is thirty with children, will not have me in his life. I am not in contact with any of my family, because of the trauma in my background. Is self forgiveness ever possible lovely lady?
Of course. You have to forgive yourself x
@@MarisaPeer thank you so much xx
Been dealing with depression since I was 15, it comes from not performing my best, every time I feel a failure I beat myself up till I hide away. My dream since I was a little girl is to be an author, I’ve always been gifted at writing and have had work published but being a single mum at 24 has stopped me from getting there, as you need a lot of free time to write a book, I finally wrote my first novel in lockdown and finished it this year. I’ve tried sending it off and was in talks with a publisher who wanted to see my ideas but was pretty negative to me after lots of hard work. I think it’s caused me to feel completely flat as it’s triggering my inner narrative of being a failure. Every time I get depressed it’s the same thing, you are a failure in life and it makes me exhausted and want to hide away, suicidal too. Marissa every time helps me untangle these thoughts.
This video made me cry it’s so beautiful.
Thank you x
I starting to listen to your material and it changed my life. Thank you
I saw a video in FB AND SHE SAID FOLLOW THE LINK... but there’s none. I said it’s probably was gone cost $$$ I don’t have... then without thought I come to TH-cam. All these to choose from, since I suffer from daily depression I searched for this... all 3 I related to and said wow can’t wait to TRY IT
I'm a big lover of Tony Robbin's. He so impressed me I became a Neurolinguistic Programmer. Even though in 1992 the training glorified my life it has been such an enormous pleasure to listen to you and the message you impart. I have to tell you, where you are right now is probably where you are at your most elegant. Because of my history with Trancendental Meditaton, Siva Mind Control and much more it makes your words Express themselves in practical foundation that is rock solid right.i just love it!
I'm really hard on myself when I loose a job that I didn't really like but needed to stay with it to stay somewhat a float. When I don't feel like I belong there I get angry and lash out.
The very few jobs I've actually really liked being at would tell me Im not good enough but have potential so I stay because it's my passion and then I get let go from the job because I'm not making them the money they are looking for. It's a cycle that won't stop. Leads to me be the most critical to myself and listening to toxic people doesn't help.
Wow you discussed depression so elegantly and it's right on the money.