Childhood Scars-Gracie
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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Gracie, a survivor of childhood dysfunction.
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I hope her Mother watches this and really listens to her child’s story.
These kind of mothers will never understand: it's never their fault and "it's all in our heads and we made it up"
@@janeyun4128And were crazy...
I agree that everyone should take a gap year after high school. She is such an eloquent and strong woman. It was such an inspirational interview!!!
Her mom's excuses are sickening. Sexually abusing your child isn't enough to leave, but him throwing a remote at your face was the final straw?! I hate that kids have to deal with situations like this smh. I pray for this young lady's healing and peace.
Thats what I was thinking! The mom can't even take accountability for her negligence!
@johncena04101 Right. To a certain extent, I was being understanding (with the showering together). I understand people go through their own trauma too that results in them making certain excuses and whatnot, but come on. All this happened and she was only 10/11. God I wish children were more protected.
Literally was just about to comment this I hope she cuts this pathetic person out of her life I think the only reason she doesn't she probably feels like she has no one
Easy AF to judge from outside of her skin, mang.
Actions are infinitely more valuable than impotent prayers.
What a beautiful, intelligent and wonderful human! The world needs more Gracies ❤
My heart hurts, when I watch how much pain these people go through. I want to hug them. God bless you for sharing their stories. ❤️🙏🏽❤️
I hope she remains sober and continues her life as a journey she’s very intelligent best wishes
The brightest side to situations like yours is at the age of 22 you are so wise. And you’ll continue to grow at that accelerated rate bc of that trauma. Pain is the greatest teacher. I connect deeply with your story. Of course all stories are different. When I went to alcohol treatment at the age of 21 I was with adults who were in their 40s-70s. I deeply connected with my group and they connected and saw me too. I’d always get comments that I was beyond my years of experience and knowledge and because of that it would launch me far in my recovery, not of just substance but life.
I hope you take care and life shows you the opportunities you so deserve. Much love ❤️
I GIVE GRACE MUCH CREDIT FOR LIFTING HERSELF UP, LEARNING & TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR HERSELF. HER LOVE OF READING SURE HELPED. YES, A WISE 22 YEAR OLD INDEED. HUGZ TO YOU GRACIE. 🥰🥰🥰
WHY ARE WE YELLING?
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It may be a visual problem. 'jus sayin'
Your level of awareness is truly beautiful and profound. I loved the way you opened up with the book. I couldn’t agree more with what you touched on when reading it. I purchased it immediately. Continue to seek your truth 🤍🦋 lovely interview.
Her story 💔
Please continue to keep her close, God. I wish this story could be heard by sooooo many more. I have a 6yr old Daughter and this story is beyond helpful to make sure I keep her close and stay aware.
What an amazing person with so much life experience, I absolutely loved her attitude throughout the video, she is a lovely soul
This young person is emotionally mature far beyond their years. It’s refreshing to see someone her age who can understand personal growth like she can. She seems like a wonderful person. I hope she continues down the path she’s on. I am nothing short of impressed by the person she was able to become in spite of her rough beginning. Wow. ❤
Gracie is inspiring, insightful, thoughtful, tragic, has patience, is funny, analytical , has perspective loves learning . The practical study of meditation, yoga and Tibetan Buddhism, is and will be so helpful to you…. as you go through life and particularly as you peel the onion layers off your significant childhood trauma and sexual abuse….without attachment. You are such a beautiful wise soul. I hope your life is full of enriching and enjoyable experiences and you come home to a safe secure home to nest in. I hope you travel and further broaden your intellect. Please come back on SWU for updates.
I have watched you for many years now and never subscribed until now...... this video has spoken to me on so many levels.... I am here in LA...... San Gabriel Valley.... If I can ever be of any help please let me know..... thank you so much for the work you do.... you are seen by many who may be silent.... much like me.
Thanks you Gracie! You may have childhood scars (like so many of us) YET you went from Scars tp Stars , I am so proud of you!
Thanks for being so open & honest about your life so far Gracie. I hope you'll do a (follow up) video. ❤ from 🇬🇧
Follow up ❤
My heart breaks for her. Jesus Christ her parents let her down so much.
I started watching these videos and thought I had a normal, dull, life. I was wrong, my life has been a miraculous. I appreciate the perspective. I'm very grateful and won't take it for granted....
This is the soul of a gentle warrior ❤
Omg what an angel. So beautiful, gracious, and forgiving. Not sure how she became so level-headed and not bitter. So many people have a chip on their shoulders for a lot less reasons! 💔💔💔
She's so intelligent and self aware. Her parents failed her. But sadly someone failed them and so on generations suffer!
This young lady is exceptional Life is hard at its best She has learned the principal of making decisions to press forward Good luck young lady❤
Wow! This young lady has been through a lot. How refreshing it is to listen to such a bright, person who sees life from a different point of view than a lot of people. Very wise and very sweet. You seem like a legitimately kind person..
Most powerful interview ❤
Best heart felt.
Wow she has the most self reflection in a person I think I have ever seen…truly amazing❤ she should be a counsellor as she has a true gift
Pure honesty, introspection & vulnerability. Beautiful yet painful ❤
Thank you Gracie and Mark. Blessings and prayers for you Gracie ❤
Sending love and support. Sweet Gracie, you have a soothing voice. Your story is powerful. Thank you for sharing with us.
She’s absolutely amazing! She can tell her story so well too! ❤
"my books were my friends"
Damn i don't know why that hit home so hard
If you can learn to turn your pain into strength you'll become a very powerful women. Good luck dear..
"Forgiveness" would be a great name for this strong testimonial. What a deeply intelligent person.
Lol her mom being a free spirit has nothing to do with allowing your own child to be naked around adults.
It's always the nice ones who get abused 😢
That’s because broken users can see her empathy and take advantage of it to try and heal themselves. Even when she was a sugar baby, I bet she game much more than she got. She is a natural empathic healer.
Yeah! Because-nobody was good to us in the past and we don't want to be like abusers that hurt us, we want to be loved and love back!
It’s always the young and naive who are abused
Not always
Tell that to Michael Jackson. Sick fuck.
Lovely and disturbing. I’m sending universal grace & love to Gracie🙏🏾
This young lady is so intelligent and insightful. I hope she gets an opportunity to do great things!! Beautiful soul.
I'm 12 minutes in and I just want to give her the biggest hug, omg.
Gracie you're an amazing brave girl. Wishing you all the best.
I could listen to to you all day. You really have a way about articulating.
Gracie is amazing! She’s extremely wise for her age. I’m hoping others will dig deep to heal completely, forgive and do self reflection until they improve their situation.
You’re a beautiful soul I’m sorry this happening to you but to still be worried about other people when you had all this stuff happening to you truly an empathetic person
The title says it all. Poor girl. Her childhood robbed her of her confidence and self-worth. I hope she can gain the courage to be around more people and just be herself so that she can realise that there are some great friendships out there waiting to happen and that unconditional love from family is not the be-all-end-all and that if it's not received, you aren't the only one in the world like that. It would be great for her to read "The Happiness Trap" also. It's a great psychology book that explains really simply that the thought of true happiness is out of reach for most people and that people who claim they are truly happy are not. Great example is Will Smith's marriage. I really wish her well. If she wants to be friends, send me a message in TH-cam.
The internet always seems like a place for the trolls to gather and people to let out there insecurities in forms of bullying. These comment sections always make me smile and gives me hope. I hope she reads all this. You seem like a very self-aware and wise person. To be bigger than everything you experienced in forgiving those people. It's quite moving.
amazing strength Gracie - god bless you and may the bright light within you continue to guide your way on.
She is such a strong person. Something to be very proud of..
Such an intelligent and self-aware young lady.I wish her the best and want her to know that MOST people live paycheck-to-paycheck. Hang in there and keep reading the good stuff.
I can relate to never telling my dad what happened to me because i know he would handle it and hes my hero. I cant handle the thought of him wven being handcuffed. My mother ignored me when i told her what was happening and continued to dump me at that uncles house to get me out of her way. I never trusted her again. It was the start of a lot of trauma that has not healed. It has affevted my whole life.
This wise young woman has been thinking deep thoughts. I believe she has a very bright future.
Amazing! Great interview!
She has much to say and she tells her story so well. I wish her well
So beautiful and amazing soul. So wise woman. I am sure you will have a great and deep life. God bless you.
I worked at a hospital in Omaha and Blackfoot Indian res MT and Red Lake MN res! Sending love and understanding from MN! ❤️🙏✌️🌏🌍🌎💯🍻 Both of my parents are hoarders as well... Both doctors... Both covert narcissists...! My 103 year grandma is a covert Malignant Narcsissit.
From the nursing home to me over the phone... Called out the narcsissits in the family over email... She said:
"If I was in a black family... I'd knife you right now..." / "Still coming to Thanksgiving tomorrow?!"
Haven't talked to her back to last Thanksgiving... Sent hoover letters to my house says I was crazy and she never said that... Good thing I recorded it and emailed to the whole family...
Next Thanksgiving should be interesting staying at home watching football... Without any of them... Walk away and heal. Find other empaths to spend your years with! 🌎🍻❤️🙏✌️
Mark, God bless you 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
19:34 Training for war deliberately prepares people to not value human life (in order to make sure a soldier won't hesitate or deliberately aim high when it comes time to defend yourself or your fellow soldiers). If soldiers don't get therapy for this (and often they don't want it since they were trained to compartmentalize their hurts, pains, emotional trauma in order to keep fighting) they sometimes continue in a bad state (since its hard or impossible to deprogram them) to wage war or mental illness (have a negative impact) in domestic situations.
Sebastian Junger (author of the book *_Perfect Storm_* and *_Tribe_* ) did some beautiful and informative talks on the effects modern warfare has. Or even on him when he was a reporter. And how they don't often transition back into domestic life very well since they were classically conditioned to live in war.
What I'm saying is that I think war, or training people for war, is a form of abusive training in order to prepare them for a certain diluted version of hell. But it hurts people. And those people can hurt others.
I suspect that war may have been utilized to stimulate economies into action. Therefore, wars, and the advertising for constant conflict, has been used to pull people in low economy places into living their lives in dedication to the armed forces which offers a continual source of soldiers to fight in battles for which they know not the reasons.
you are beautiful!!!you told the truth about forgiveness, Gracie you said you love reading have you read this amazing book a bible?if not pls do..wish you the best!
good and interesting watch. wasn;t sure where it was headed at first but glad i stuck with it. Mark didn't even ask a question until 49 minutes in! That's always crazy to see.
Wow! Amazing story! Very interesting and intelligent young lady! I hope she eventually finds true, real love!
WHAT a beautiful, intelligent, sweet amazing woman ! Bravo
i could relate to her so. much. with the college relationship pandemic family dynamic. so much
I wish there was a podcast version!
Yeah, I was in same situations as you, and tbh your mom is the problem. After all of these things happened to you she kept letting you get taken advantage of. I understand parents having to work, but I would never leave my child unsupervised with ANYONE. I can trust maybe 2 people, and I have to know no one else will be coming over. Call me dramatic, my kids won't get hurt like I was. I'm glad you're finally finding your voice, but you need to tell your mom these situations you went through are not excusable she needs to take accountability for making you shower and "play games" naked with her grown boyfriend.
Good morning from Colorado
GM from Arvada!!!!!!!
Good morning, from West Atl! Hope you have a fantastic day, Remedy!
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telling Americans to take a gap year is so privilege of her. I agree it would be GREAT if we all could, but if I had taken a gap year it would literally had just been working a full time job. Def wouldn't have been able to travel etc etc. Going immediately from high school to community college was the best choice I could have done
Ps.. no matter what people go through..that doesn't EVER justify them hurting another especially a child! No excuse. I finally cane to realize that it's not my job to forgive..that's God's job. All I had to do is to accept what happened to me. Something aren't forgivable:/ I was so tired of feeling like I wasn't strong enough to forgive monsters. That's when I realized I didn't have to and that's ok. I gave it to God♡ what helped me to heal a little was to face everything that tried to destroy me instead of running from it..that's the key to healing ♡ I pray for you and your journey!.Never let the dark hide the light. And others will be cruel & disrespectful enough..let us not do it to ourselves too♡ self respect,self love,peace,& contentment.
The mom should have protected her.
Good job on being sober. Stay sober and enjoy your mind.
Gracie.You're very wise,self-aware beautiful young women.Take care.Greetings from UK❤🙂
As a young man who had to be sent home from college my sophomore year because of the pandy: I have to say yeah that shit sucked. I hated having to get wrapped back up into family life.
Thank you for sharing your story Gracie ❤
She’s an extremely wise old soul. You should look into motivational speaking. Love this interview.
She is a GREAT Speaker with a sultry voice and a Sweet Soul
Gracie is unbelievably articulate and self-reflective. Check out the way she holds her composure - and that reading at the beginning shows some real insight. Shes an inspiration, honestly. I wish her the best and all the best in the world. Blessings from VA
So we’ll spoken! I hope she does well…❤️
.*well
Gracie you are a Starseed
Her ability to forgive is amazing and I commend her strength
Yes, that was Powerful!!.. I think she's really heading toward Happiness!--
She's really been working through her feelings & memories to a brighter day!-
Just wish she would expand any Christian roots in that regard!!- :)
How the heck do people get through stuff like this - so much violation on so many levels - and not turn into raving lunatics, addicts, abusers, etc. I have had an easy line compared to this woman and am still all messed up over things that happened in the past. This is very inspiring.
Through intense therapy and tons of research on psychology/self-reflection.
I believe in these processes very much, but wonder how much brain anatomy - something you’re just born with - can play a part in being able to live with this.
We are incredibly resilient creatures. Our power to heal ourselves is immense. I love books by Dr. Gabor Mate.
@@luciannebeans6679 oh yes - thank you for reminding me Dr. Mate's work is out there to light the way...
I didn’t hear any intense therapy here? I didn’t hear any type of professional treatment or diagnoses? All I heard are a lot of mixed messages. Someone who is still pretty lost… listen closely…
"He threw a remote at her head and that's what finally made her leave" Heart breaking.
I'm so sorry no one protected you the way they should have. I hope you continue to heal x
It's mind boggling how she was able to go through all that trauma and not be on heavy drugs. I listen to these true childhood nightmares and think damn compared to them my childhood was easy street. Nobody should have to endure all this kind of pain and chaos. I'm so proud of her for being so strong and resilient. She's also very smart, intellectual and articulate.
Would you still be proud if she was on drugs ? Cause you sorta hinged your opinion ontop of it
I agree. My psychologist said that to me many years ago. He was surprised I wasn't addicted to anything, booze or drugs due to my childhood. I still don't really understand that statement ten years later...
Prayers for this young lady. She is bright enough and smart enough to live a better life. I believe that this may be the first time in her life that she has been able to open up and talk about her life and the trauma she experienced and suffered. I wish her much success and happiness
U believe? Alright opal
@@icetraythegang5873 I said what I said
Wishes and prayers are both equally useless. Get involved with the people who call out.
She is a good Storyteller for sure. Really would like to hear from her Mother WTF she thought about her Role in this.
There are millions of parents like that 😭
True! 🤔Her mother was just as traumatized as Gracie. Her mother sounds like a covert narcissist. They are unable to take any blame or accountability because being in denial protects her false self image from shame. 😞
@@robm8067 you hit this spot on 💯 these parents are the worst smh...I wish all the best for her because she is such a strong young lady ❤ after all she went thru
Exaclty
Her story sounds so similar to mine... I thought it was all normal until the school called the cops for the third time after seeing us covered in bruises multiple times. And somehow both my sister and I were sexually abused as well by different people at different times. Her story resonates with me, because music was my escape as well. Unfortunately though, I had to hide my cd player because when my stepmother realized how important music was to me, then I was no longer allowed to listen to music, and I was pulled out of choir and band classes. And to make sure I didn't break the rules and listen to music, my bedroom door was removed so I never had privacy, even when changing. Unfortunately we all cope in different ways, but many truly abused people either think it's normal, or blame themselves...
I wrote my first comment before I heard her say she had her bedroom door removed...
I’m so terribly sorry for what you had to endure. Take very good care of yourself.
This video broke my heart. 💔 As a victim of childhood trauma myself, her story hit home deep. She is so strong to be able to share her story. I am impressed with her amazing ability to articulate her inner reflections into words. She is a beautiful soul and I will definitely pray to God for her healing and continued personal growth. 🙏🏼 I LOVE THIS VIDEO! ❤
I feel truly Blessed to be alive, well, and present to see and witness that a person like you EXISTS! You're an amazing soul Gracie! 💯
Yes! Same.
You should try to do the kids of of the Turpin family crazy story
For real that shit is nuts
That would be something. Those Turpin parents were real scumbags.
@@talonmadc i love so close to the city that shit was in
22 years old. Wow. What a load of experiences in such a short lifetime.
That intro was so profound. I was glued from the very beginning because of it and how she’s telling her story 🥹
The human spirit is resilient. In order to survive, and or thrive, most people compartmentalize to carry on. Thank you, Gracie, you have gone beyond managing your past traumas by facing them and sharing with us all❤️
Some people, like myself, crave honest conversations, but bec of shame (other factors) they can be hard to come by.
Than you, Mark🙏
She had one betrayal on top of another it takes a lot to work through that
I know what she's saying , God bless her❤
Gracie you can speak three hours and I would listen to every word you have to say.
Thank you for sharing your story. My jaw dropped at your only being 22.
I wish you every success in your life!
The best is yet to come.
What an amazing young lady. So in tune with her feelings. So emotionally intelligent and so courageous for powering through to a place where she can find forgiveness.
Suga baby who whores herself out to married men, oh ya, such an amazing young lady...
WOW when Gracie said she’s 22 i couldn’t believe it 😳,in the sense of everything she’s been through and come through is equatable to a 40 year old for me,such a beautiful (inward and outward) young woman and i wish you well on your journey through life,thanks for sharing 🙂.
She has beautiful captivating voice. I was listening to her while I was driving. Sad to hear her childhood life and the abuse she endured.
Gracie, you are so brave. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish I could give you a big hug. What happened to you, in your childhood, was not your fault and it should have never happened to you. It is amazing that you are not letting it define you.
Throughout all of the bad there is good!! What an incredible interview. Gracie is so well spoken and so very self aware. I hope you have her back for a follow up. Such a tragic childhood with all of the sexual abuse :( I wish her all the best for a very bright future ahead!
I’m just blown away! A smartie, avid reader and just a sweet and strong Soul! Thank you for sharing this story, it’s just sickening to listen to. Be safe and well always, little one. You are in my prayers, brave one!
Throughout this interview I couldn’t help but think how relieved she must feel to say all these things out loud. Being so young and knowing you’re being treated badly must’ve made her feel so unheard and trapped. Thank you mark for giving these people an outlet to tell their story, we’re all listening!!
I’m going to get nasty replies for this but #PlannedParenthood stories like this need to be heard.
The prolifers don't care. They'd rather see it carried to term at the expense of ruining a young victims life and permanent damage to her small, frail body- then have zero regard to what happens to said infant after that.
As long as it's born, right?
Honored to say that grace has been a great love in my life for a very long time. Her words a true and raw. Her experiences have molded her into such a resilient woman that I’m so grateful to know. Edit: to those of you in the comments saying she is self centered, placing blame etc, you missed the whole point of the interview. This was her chance to speak her truth her way and share her first hand experiences without having to sugar coat it. The interview is about her and her life, of course she’s going to talk about herself. Her stating where blame should be held doesn’t mean she doesn’t hold herself accountable, it means she holds everyone else to the same level of accountability.
I don't see any negative comments.
@@hazeleyedbitch5120 there have been several comments made of the validity of her story as well as people assuming she is a certain type of person when she isn’t. Many comments are calling her boring, comments have asked sexually charged questions that were absolutely inappropriate for the video. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there.
Very well put
@@hazeleyedbitch5120I see this type of comment in lots of these and often don't see the derogatory comments either. Granted I don't have time to read them all but most of the comments are supportive.
Thanks. I needed that. I am a survivor of family abuse and have been in treatment counseling for a month now. I can identify with the pain. We are the ones who see life for what it's worth despite our broken lives. Thanks for the inspiration.
Gracie you are SO STRONG and such an INSPIRATION to everyone! Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story with the world!
I know that all this wisdom came from the mouth of a very badly abused 22 year old because I watched this...but it "felt" like the words of a much much older person. Gracie has somehow squirmed her way through life-long abuse and misery and come up for air with knowledge we could all learn so much from! At the age of 22!! She Must become a teacher! It's her calling! She's amazing!
I hope you do a video one what it’s like growing up having an illiterate parent. I grew up with an illiterate mother. Illiteracy in North America isn’t really talked about.
Wow. Just wow. I am simultaneously so sorry to hear her story and so honored that she shared this with the world. She is so well spoken and amazingly aware and well thought out. Very inspiring and thought provoking. Wishing her and all survivors peace and healing.
❤🔥💯🙏🏼Wow Gracie! Thank you for your very detailed moving story. I’m mentally exhausted and also inspired. I wish you Good luck on continued good health and sobriety. As a tip I would suggest that you volunteer at an outreach for abused teens/children… even if you just read to them. You actually still need coping mechanisms for your multiple traumas. It’s simply constructive positive traumas which you may preferto try. Keep up the yoga and other physical activity. Thanks again
I feel the same! Great comment, you said this so well, so thank YOU 😊❤
I truly don’t understand how a mother can believe the behavior and requests from her boyfriend was normal??? There is absolutely no excuse & her mother is just as responsible if not more than the boyfriend. Truly disturbing.
Smartest 22 year old ever! I could listen to her all day! You'll go far babygurl!