I love this book and the theories. I've lived in Denmark, I've studied a lot of new psychology and neurology researches and everything she says matches with the studies. Amazing effort that adults do for kids and for themselves in dk
@@Finnec123 Hej Finn, jeg vil det ikke hvis du are joking eller du er forvirret med beskeder :) jeg spørte kun om hvis man har at lære af denne video :) Francisco, Spansk fyr i Aarhus Yes, you probably know how to spell it :) I don't think one needs to be so picky about one word as well. Btw, did you know that is not actually a Danish word? I found this surprising data in the book called Hygge.
My son was three when his wish for X-mas was an adult size duvet...He had been stealing mine all the time, and he really enjoyed just being under this down duvet. That, to him, was pure hygge
Whe don't receive grades until we're around 14, up untill then we just get some remarks from the teacher on the paper when we get it back, usually a couple of questions like (why do you think so and so?) like maybe about 10 lines or something and maybe a couple of corrections as well. But when we start getting grades we still get some remarks from the teacher that we can use to reflect on, or remember for the next essay
Most of what Mrs. Alexander talks about is implimatet into the danish daycare system, and the adults there actually have a ba degree to be there they are called paedagogues, they know its important to teach emphaty and other social skills, its also important to give the child selfestime, to give the child curiosity to the world around it, and let it try out different things so the child get experiences, trusting they are able to learn fromt it.
I love the part where she talks about the toys. I'm sick to the back teeth of ugly, plastic toys that have only been played with for like a day after they were bought, only to become clutter in the future...
how can a single parent incorporate this without going crazy/losing sight of their individuality? I could care less about the brand I wear or the fancy things I could have at home, but I still need to make my college happen while balancing work. My support system is low.
"Danish kids don't have many toys" 🙄 yeah right You need to say that "not all", because this is NO WAY how things are overall in Denmark (from a 45 year old dane).
Children are naturally kind and empathetic they do not need to be taught they need to be praised when they do it but it is natural. We are born loving and caring and interested and appreciative and it is squashed by stressed, inexperienced parents. Many cultures have good ways of living someone write a book about the best stuff and share it ASAP.
This is not the problem at all actually, the real problem is that the actual narcissists and bullies out there who usually always start the stuff in the first place just haven't been put in their place sufficiently enough by others or their targets.
Not true. You better teach them not to bite, hit, scream, say no! Take the toy, not share and pitch a fit when they don't get Thier way, because these things all come very naturally. Lol
They have a great social system that is very supportive of families and new moms and so obviously that helps a lot. They also have forest kindergartens. These are very popular and children go from morning to night to the forest in warm suits and they spend the whole day climbing trees, whittling sticks with knives, jumping around on logs, no matter the weather. They’re outdoors from morning to night. And looking at the research this is very, very good for children. One of the things that they really, really encourage up until the age of six is this idea of play. So not over-programming their lives. There is a lot more support between parents there. They’re not checking every milestone as much because they want children to have self-esteem and not base it on this kind of measurements. (Which we sort of tend to get into that in the US sometimes)
Daycare is not required, it's just what most parents do, both because of what they described in the video, but also because both parents either need to go to work or want to go to work. We also have something called "dagpleje (which literally translates to daycare)" that essentially is a daycare in the private home of an educated daycare worker, and they usually do not have a large group of children (maybe around 5 or so), which gives them even more room and time to care for and teach the children. In the larger daycare centers/institutions it's not uncommon that there are more than 60 children, typically divided into groups of around 15-20 and situated in their own room in the daycare center, and of course there are educated adults in all of the rooms. Homeschooling is absolutely allowed, danish law does not dictate that you MUST go to school, rather it dictates that YOU as a parent have a duty to teach your child, and of course there is a curriculum that you're bound by law to teach, math, danish, english etc. etc. I myself went to kindergarten back in the 70s before forest kindergartens were even a thing, and even back then we learned to whittle and bake what we call Snobrød over an open fire (i remember participating in building a bonfire and lighting it when i was around age 6-7), it was just not concentrated and systematized like todays forest kindergartens. Usually children attend kindergarten at the age 3 to 6, and then they "graduate" to what we call fritidshjem, or an SFO that located at the school you go to (which is a somewhat new thing that came about i think around 15-20 years ago if i remember correctly), that is basically a kindergarten for the big kids that just started in school (which we typically do at the age of 6, sometimes 5 or sometimes 7 all depending on when you are born during the year). We also have a few burroughs around the country that started school dedicated to children's way of learning, some learn by books and others learn by doing, these specialized schools are still in their experimental phase and have been for a few years, and the data so far suggest that children the were lost in school before, because of the they learn are actually now at the same level as other children. So there's almost always something new going on and being talked about.
I grew up in Yugoslavia these people are joke and I am not kiding I would go out at 7am.and come back at 7 pm eat at my friends rode bikes went to lakes.was never left in front of the coffee shop lol
I also lived in sweden croatia serbia usa germany...ex yu is 3 lightyears away from all these countries...usa is by far worse of all total crap...they think money can buy everything...kids dont know how to hold a pen univeraities are total joke while parents are only career oriented unless they inherited money.. .than its a different story
I found this interview and possible the book is missing the point. It doesn't seem organic, but rather some kind of contrived way of picking 'parts' in the belief that it is going to create the so called 'desired' outcome.
Just thinking about it always make me tear up. You can search the tittle here on TH-cam to see some animations of the story. It is a story by Hans Christian Andersen (H.C. Andersen)
Anab Issa H.C. Andersen. The Disney movie "Frozen" is based on his story "The Snow Queen" which is originally a very deep, dark story. You probably know "The Little Mermaid" from Disney too, but the original story is kind of bleak and sad and very, very beautiful. You should read some of his stories if you have the chance. I think they are literary masterpieces.
@@IngeniousBaby being Danish is being of the Danish ethnicity. It’s not something you can just assimilate into. You can assimilate into the American culture because it’s multiethnic. So to feel at home in Denmark, you have to look Danish. This is how most of the world works.
That has got to be some of the dumbest I have ever read, or heard. Not to mention incredibly biased - you can assimilate into any place if you want to, and there is no specific way of looking danish or being danish as such. At most you need to speak and read the language - and even if you can´t manage that you can get by with english.
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I love this book and the theories. I've lived in Denmark, I've studied a lot of new psychology and neurology researches and everything she says matches with the studies. Amazing effort that adults do for kids and for themselves in dk
Except for the spelling of hygee. It is actually 'hygge'.
do you have more insights than this video??
@@francis363 It IS spelled "hygge". I'm a Dane, so I should know, right?
@@Finnec123 Hej Finn, jeg vil det ikke hvis du are joking eller du er forvirret med beskeder :) jeg spørte kun om hvis man har at lære af denne video :)
Francisco,
Spansk fyr i Aarhus
Yes, you probably know how to spell it :)
I don't think one needs to be so picky about one word as well. Btw, did you know that is not actually a Danish word? I found this surprising data in the book called Hygge.
@@francis363 I didn't know that. Interesting n
My son was three when his wish for X-mas was an adult size duvet...He had been stealing mine all the time, and he really enjoyed just being under this down duvet. That, to him, was pure hygge
Aw! I love that! My kids like to do that too!
trust, empower, and support..
Parenting 101: Pretend it's the neighbours kids, most people knows exactly how those should be raised.
😄
Thanks for all the hard work and effort you put into the show. I am truly enjoying it and learning so much
So glad you are finding it useful!
I want to live where there is respect, kindess, intelligence- this is how i treat others. I live in the USA.
Whe don't receive grades until we're around 14, up untill then we just get some remarks from the teacher on the paper when we get it back, usually a couple of questions like (why do you think so and so?) like maybe about 10 lines or something and maybe a couple of corrections as well.
But when we start getting grades we still get some remarks from the teacher that we can use to reflect on, or remember for the next essay
Most of what Mrs. Alexander talks about is implimatet into the danish daycare system, and the adults there actually have a ba degree to be there they are called paedagogues, they know its important to teach emphaty and other social skills, its also important to give the child selfestime, to give the child curiosity to the world around it, and let it try out different things so the child get experiences, trusting they are able to learn fromt it.
I am a teacher, artist in Chicago- i am so interested in going to Denmark, living there. I'm a natural born hygge:-) Great talk.
We do actually have national testing of the subjects in the Danish schools. It’s quite unpopular and always up for debate and improvement.
Love this! Buying the book tonight!
Yur Jhr it’s fantastic book!
Hygge is very much a state of mind. You can't force hygge, but you can help it on it's way.
As a dane, it seem more like what Jessica Joelle Alexander wants Denmarks parenting to be - rather what is true.
Whats truth
Thank you for the very informative videos.
I love the part where she talks about the toys. I'm sick to the back teeth of ugly, plastic toys that have only been played with for like a day after they were bought, only to become clutter in the future...
Agreed! Quality over quantity
@@IngeniousBaby Which also is a very Danish value :)
Yessss. I agree. 2021 no moreeee!!!
how can a single parent incorporate this without going crazy/losing sight of their individuality? I could care less about the brand I wear or the fancy things I could have at home, but I still need to make my college happen while balancing work. My support system is low.
It's more of a 'mindset' to adopt. You might appreciate reading the entire book: amzn.to/498MqSD
"Danish kids don't have many toys" 🙄 yeah right
You need to say that "not all", because this is NO WAY how things are overall in Denmark (from a 45 year old dane).
how to make the short course on this content of this book? really amazing👏...
It’s a really great book! Did you read it?
Children are naturally kind and empathetic they do not need to be taught they need to be praised when they do it but it is natural. We are born loving and caring and interested and appreciative and it is squashed by stressed, inexperienced parents. Many cultures have good ways of living someone write a book about the best stuff and share it ASAP.
This is so true. It all comes down to the interactions.
This is not the problem at all actually, the real problem is that the actual narcissists and bullies out there who usually always start the stuff in the first place just haven't been put in their place sufficiently enough by others or their targets.
Not true. You better teach them not to bite, hit, scream, say no! Take the toy, not share and pitch a fit when they don't get Thier way, because these things all come very naturally. Lol
So are daycares a required thing for little ones?
Also is homeschooling allowed?
They have a great social system that is very supportive of families and new moms and so obviously that helps a lot. They also have forest kindergartens. These are very popular and children go from morning to night to the forest in warm suits and they spend the whole day climbing trees, whittling sticks with knives, jumping around on logs, no matter the weather. They’re outdoors from morning to night. And looking at the research this is very, very good for children.
One of the things that they really, really encourage up until the age of six is this idea of play. So not over-programming their lives. There is a lot more support between parents there. They’re not checking every milestone as much because they want children to have self-esteem and not base it on this kind of measurements. (Which we sort of tend to get into that in the US sometimes)
Daycare is not required, it's just what most parents do, both because of what they described in the video, but also because both parents either need to go to work or want to go to work. We also have something called "dagpleje (which literally translates to daycare)" that essentially is a daycare in the private home of an educated daycare worker, and they usually do not have a large group of children (maybe around 5 or so), which gives them even more room and time to care for and teach the children. In the larger daycare centers/institutions it's not uncommon that there are more than 60 children, typically divided into groups of around 15-20 and situated in their own room in the daycare center, and of course there are educated adults in all of the rooms.
Homeschooling is absolutely allowed, danish law does not dictate that you MUST go to school, rather it dictates that YOU as a parent have a duty to teach your child, and of course there is a curriculum that you're bound by law to teach, math, danish, english etc. etc.
I myself went to kindergarten back in the 70s before forest kindergartens were even a thing, and even back then we learned to whittle and bake what we call Snobrød over an open fire (i remember participating in building a bonfire and lighting it when i was around age 6-7), it was just not concentrated and systematized like todays forest kindergartens. Usually children attend kindergarten at the age 3 to 6, and then they "graduate" to what we call fritidshjem, or an SFO that located at the school you go to (which is a somewhat new thing that came about i think around 15-20 years ago if i remember correctly), that is basically a kindergarten for the big kids that just started in school (which we typically do at the age of 6, sometimes 5 or sometimes 7 all depending on when you are born during the year).
We also have a few burroughs around the country that started school dedicated to children's way of learning, some learn by books and others learn by doing, these specialized schools are still in their experimental phase and have been for a few years, and the data so far suggest that children the were lost in school before, because of the they learn are actually now at the same level as other children.
So there's almost always something new going on and being talked about.
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Forest kindergarten is not even 10% of how much kids who grew up in USSR were allowed to do. 😉
Lol, yup!! And we're better for it
I grew up in Yugoslavia these people are joke and I am not kiding I would go out at 7am.and come back at 7 pm eat at my friends rode bikes went to lakes.was never left in front of the coffee shop lol
I also lived in sweden croatia serbia usa germany...ex yu is 3 lightyears away from all these countries...usa is by far worse of all total crap...they think money can buy everything...kids dont know how to hold a pen univeraities are total joke while parents are only career oriented unless they inherited money..
.than its a different story
I found this interview and possible the book is missing the point. It doesn't seem organic, but rather some kind of contrived way of picking 'parts' in the belief that it is going to create the so called 'desired' outcome.
A sad story i heard as child: The little girl with the matchsticks.
Just thinking about it always make me tear up.
You can search the tittle here on TH-cam to see some animations of the story.
It is a story by Hans Christian Andersen (H.C. Andersen)
@@mikeyb2932 I'm a Dane, i know hes story and all his storyes
please the name of the danish writer
chris ?
hans christian Anderson
Jessica Joelle Alexander (it's also on the interview thumbnail)
@@sulekhaissa746 Hans Christian Andersen - just to make your search on internet a bit easier (I'm Danish and agree completely with every word :-) )
Anab Issa H.C. Andersen. The Disney movie "Frozen" is based on his story "The Snow Queen" which is originally a very deep, dark story. You probably know "The Little Mermaid" from Disney too, but the original story is kind of bleak and sad and very, very beautiful. You should read some of his stories if you have the chance. I think they are literary masterpieces.
Starts about 6.5s
Just be sure to be blonde and you will be happy in Denmark.
I don't understand?
@@IngeniousBaby being Danish is being of the Danish ethnicity. It’s not something you can just assimilate into. You can assimilate into the American culture because it’s multiethnic. So to feel at home in Denmark, you have to look Danish. This is how most of the world works.
@@naverno Er det egen erfaring, du taler udfra?
@@finnchristiansen6625 God pointe. I found your question interesting.
That has got to be some of the dumbest I have ever read, or heard. Not to mention incredibly biased - you can assimilate into any place if you want to, and there is no specific way of looking danish or being danish as such. At most you need to speak and read the language - and even if you can´t manage that you can get by with english.
Sweden is way better though!
yes, but it's boring!
@@gruvi5042 true story
No Norway is better
Navah Eierdal yeah sveden is better with your insane “hen”
Looking at the disaster zone that is now Sweden, I find that hard to believe.