My trick: always be friends with the man FIRST. You’ll have to meet them organically, in person, over time for this one. Dress average, be approachable and friendly. Over time, as the days go by, you and him get to know eachother more and more - opening up to eachother. On a random day, or occasion dress up to the 9s. Look, smell and feel as amazing as you can when you know that he’ll be there. He will start to move you from being just a friend to seeing you as a potential romantic fling. Just be cool, and then surprise him. It works for me when it comes to roping them in ❤️
Since when did dating/relationships become so dam difficult? What ever happened to being yourself to get a man..... ? It's become so methodical . Oouuufff
1) being yourself isn't good enough sometimes 2) Social media and online dating 3) feminism I agree with you 100% however, I think the biggest thing to blame is ease to "access" to another person. For example, if you lived in a small town back in the day, you don't have a lot of options so statistically over a long period of time you would see people start to settle down with others in the town (assuming they stayed in the town and didn't look elsewhere) because that is the only options they had. It's basically like having to put up with your boss because you have a super high paying job that you're not going to find elsewhere lol. BUT now you have TINDER!! The beautiful contradiction with Tinder is its convenience. I hear women talk about how easy and convenient is it to meet people now because of apps and online dating. You have more people to choose from, no more stress, no approach anxiety, it's good for busy people, introverts, and blah blah blah. While all that is true, it's just not easy for you. It is easy for everyone! So while it's easy for you to find a guy, it's easy for you to lose a guy to because of all the competition out there. No more does a guy or girl need to kiss the other's ass because if he doesn't like you, he just has to turn on his phone and start swiping right. This means there is less margin for error. If someone messes up, shows red flags, comes off too strong or whatever, no more sticking it out and seeing what happens because of how hard it is to meet someone. Nope. Now you just arrive back to your place after the bad date or the argument, turn on your phone and start looking for others. Even if a guy gets bored or gets into a routine with a girl, he can just get back on the apps and start looking. This ease of access makes it ridiculous to commit. Logically, unless the guy really really likes the girl, he would be an idiot to commit. The odds of you being the one are heavily against you and his curiosity in wondering on what is always out there is going to make him hesitant to commit. You have to look at it from a guy's perspective too. Girls always get more attention (on average) than guys so this new phenomenon of online dating is a Godsend to men. We are literally thinking, "Holy fucking shit this app is too good to be true." It's like a kid getting introduced to video games for the first time. There is no way in hell he's going to go outside when he has this cool new game he can only play inside. You can't even get mad at the guy for that. Not saying you are, but it's just stupid for the guy to commit unless he's intentionally looking for a relationship. Most of the times the guy isn't. he is looking for the right woman and that transitions into something more. But if that is the case, he's always going to be chasing for the "right woman" and it's going to seem like an illusion like the next one is better because the one he's currently with is starting to feel like it's falling into routine, you already know what you're getting with each other, and so on. where with the new person someone could could meet, there is mystery, the unknown, thrill, and excitement that comes with any new relationship. If girls don't like this, then stop using Tinder and other dating apps. Guys always follow where the women go. Even if you don't meet guy online, still women as a whole need to get off the apps so it's just a bunch of dudes. lol. Just because you don't meet him online doesn't mean he's not using it. Why do you think Bars and clubs always let women get in for free and advertise towards women? Owners know that if they can get girls in, the guys will follow and start buying drinks. Dating isn't difficult. It's just very advantageous towards men now because they don't have to put up with anything anymore and women now have competition. If you're a good looking girl, tough shit. There are a bunch of good looking girls now that he can message and mess with because the fear and stress of approaching her is eliminated. Dating has always been a numbers game.
Elliot Scott Attraction Coach yes Eliot I so agree.... But it's a special kinda hell for old school daters like me.. Nothing seems to be good enough for men these days... Bc of the social media standards and accessibility.. .💋.
Well, emotional stability is for everyone. I'm not going to lie. I live in Germany and foreign men have more control over their emotional states than Americans. All germans seems to have a calm quiet confidence that American men I have met lack. American men seem to be either really insecure or arrogant with no middle ground.
Us girls must all be emotionally unstable because we want relationships if a guy wants to talk and be intimate, we’re so crazy lol... btw it takes a lot of emotional strength to get through a divorce but I don’t blame you on that one Elliot since you’re still young
If all men were as self-aware as you about the importance of emotional stability, rebound relationships, etc, then finding the right man would not be so hard. Make sure your videos address these issues with men, as well. Knowledge is power, and power is sexy as hell!
I didn't understand it either until a female friend explained it to me. I met a guy that said he wanted a relationship and she said it's a red flag. I asked how and she said "because he is trying to fill a slot...and anyone will do". I still dated him and she was right.
I have been researching "things that attract men" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - *4WhatHeWants. Com* Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.?
So.. Guys have gotten so lazy we have to do everything these days just for them to look at us. Men need to take care of us and do the work for us. If we are independent, we dont need you so don't expect us to need you, especially if you won't provide anything
I love this Elliot and I am smiling because I have all of these qualities with my man. I almost messed up though because I offered to go and live with him until I realized, I would be giving up my independence, that which he loves and values and wants as a come up in his own life. I had to back up, slow down my emotions and realize that living with him prematurely, would make him feel like a babysitter and he would actually begin to value me less and love me less as a consequence. I realize now from your teachings that scarcity is a must to maintain the connection. Living with him prematurely would kill that. You're amazing Elliot. Thank you. And I love you back. Your words give me hope and my life confidence, direction and inspiration. Kudos to you. God bless, always.
I'm not sure how I'm going to flirt from across the room with my visual impairment. At this point for me, I'm just happy when people know I'm actually talking to them and respond to me LOL great video!
Depends on the nature of the divorce ive been emotionally detached for years before my separation, a guy just tried to make me a rebound and he was showing emotional instability
Great video. Needed it. Went on 5 dates over the last 2 months. Chemistry is explosive. Sex is crazy good. He's been separated for a few years, has kids, was cheated on by his wife & waiting for divorce to be final. Not looking for serious right now. I really like him. Need to pump the brakes but don't want to disengage just want to give him the time crave me like I do him. Make a video on how to navigate a situation that you are dealing with multiple obstacles.... You're the shit !
I love how you're breaking it down into steps, I'm currently trying to change up myself and come to realize the things that's said in this video...❤ it keep up the good work!!
You should do a video about giving ladies advice who are jumping back into dating. I love you boo! You help me get out of a relationship where the guy took me for granted. You da best! 😘
I enjoy how these topics relate to our own personal health. It’s like when you feel confident and you’re taking care of yourself most of these fall into place
I hate these dating apps. Met someone l dated almost 5 years, then he goes back on dating sites to meet someone else. Grass is always greener on the other side. He's in a rebound relationship already. He can kiss my cute ASS!!!
I’ve been working on my confidence and I have all of those qualities, my narcissistic army soldier ex shut me down to the point where I forgot how to shine my light and own my power. I’m rebuilding and stepping back into these qualities and I can see the effect I have on men now, it’s fun lol but I know not to use it for bad or manipulative reasons
Taking notes in my PJs, drinking beer. Learning so much from TH-cam dating/relationship tips but don't really feel like going out since it's raining. Bah...
You are right. However, if there is an attraction between a man and a woman and the man is going through a divorce, what the woman can do is this:(and yes this has worked, I'm not saying every woman can do it) Tell him you can be there as a friend while he is going through his separation. Make sure you are not giving yourself sexually but making yourself available; as a friend when he really needs to talk, vent, or cry..Don't discuss what is going on between you two..or what day you are moving in...he can't consciously think straight...needs time to get over the divorce. .which are steps that can mimic stages of grieving. Time goes on....and he will realize how emotionally supportive you were being there for him...he can count on you through difficult times. .,he is able to open up to you without judgement. But you have to let him go through the stages...it's not gonna be easy but if you truly care about him...than its all worth the wait...also you made your bond stronger by doing so. .
Elliot I love watching your videos while I'm here at work (graveyard shift) I learned a lot from you and how men think..glad you are taking care of the ladies!
Guys love boundaries!! They love when you hold them accountable. They really just want a mom. Be their mom and they will love you. Not a doting mom, a mom that holds them accountable and has clearly defined boundaries.
I'm an extravert who is fed up with having had to stay in so much during the pandemic. Already started going out to play with friends, now I want to go out and play with new men, in the sense of dating, going out to fun places, having a laugh together and taking it from date to date. Nothing is exclusive till mutual 'I love you's' have been said. So your video looks good for me. No hang ups and no recent past relationships either. Just me and my happy cat. Must bite the bullet and join some decent dating sites; NOT POF!
I think you are wrong about the rebound thing. I was in a fearful emotional abusive type relationship. So I tried to end it for four months before it finally ended so I was ready to start dating the new guy not out of a rebound but outta having had four months of being done before starting something new
Caro H No because I was thinking I need to do the same. Lol. He's like a dating professor teaching mini lectures on dating. We need to take 📝 notes. Lol
I don't know...I'm all of these things and found they only get me attention of the guys who only wanna have sex with me, not a relationship with me. I feel like these traits make you desirable, not necessarily "dateable".
I have read an article recently, that if a woman has those qualities such as flirty, outgoing, comfortable around men, she is seemed as more "sexually exploitable", therefore gets put in the category of "short-term" "for-fun-kinda-girl", that's why she gets more attention, usually from wrong men. And if she is more reserved, maybe even shy, then it's the long-term gf material.
pinkaa17 But also keep in mind that the shy and more reserved women are mistaken for being too timid and boring. It’s harder to meet men if youre always playing the hard to get tactic. You know what I mean by that.. Looking away if a cute guy looks at you. Ignoring making eye contact with any men. Not looking relaxed and comfortable in your own body and in the place you’re at. I’ve done that before and men just don’t approach me because I don’t seem loud or friendly enough to talk to. Men sometimes want a mix of both worlds, some want the shy and some want the outgoing. Don’t change for anyone cause someone out there will want you for you, not just because the shy girl is his fetish. Also wanna add that some men (mistakenly) believe that shy girls are more loyal and committed which is NOT always true. Some men have the audacity to demand a “shy” girl (sometimes a virgin) when he himself has been a raging whore for years. If a man wants someone who seems and looks innocent, run girl run.. Cause no body is innocent and he believes it’s easier to manipulate her if she is !!!
I passed with flying colors. Only issue with me is I can be moody and sometimes I don't handle stress well. At first I thought maybe he meant emotional stability as meaning not being moody, but no. I do everything myself and every guy I see/date I tell them I don't need you per say, I want you and I also don't want/need your money. I'm fine on my own but would like to find a great man and have deep meaningful companionship/connection. This video was great. I swear, the more I watch you the more I agree with you. You really know what your talking about. Thank you for doing these, I appreciate it
Nice video as usual 😊 Also I feel like these are the qualities that apply to guys as well. No one is going to be with a guy that is unattractive, lacks independence, or is just crazy emotional haha 😂 😂
I am definitely all those things to the man I’ve been seeing. One of the things I said to him out the gate was I don’t need you to Support me I make my own money. I also used to tell him when certain things would come up I’m never going to follow you chase you or try to figure out where you are I have my own life. When we’re together I always make sure that I look good for him in a way that he craves me. He has even told me that he’s addicted to me. LOL. I’m very quick witted with him we crack up about the things he says and how I respond quickly back to them and we both start laughing. We are also very Eye 2 Eye when we are connected together emotionally and speak very softly and it’s the sexiest thing I love it and I know he does too.
Strange part is i'm not even divorced, I've never been married or dumped, I usually do the dumping I feel mean now, but I think this is probably why I keep my distance, I have to many emotional problems, so I ended up a widow. It's important to figure out what your wanting out of a woman when you look for her maybe put on your dating profile for example, "I only want a one night stand!" just warn women and explain your intent so they know what to avoid so nobody's time gets wasted. It's like selling products, if you want good comments and more girls around you, have a sense of humor, or personality, there's nothing worse then a mopey ass dude that doesn't defend himself, he'll never land chicks. I'm mopey at times too I won't lie, but I will say that it creates a distance with me, not sure why, but it's a feeling. There has to be some kind of feelings there or the sex is going to suck, and there's nothing worse then lousey sex, I don't even see a point in bothering, if there's no attraction, it feels empty for me, personally.
I have all these qualities and yet that guy must be afraid of me 😂 I am quick witted infront of my guy when his friends are around and since his friends laughed because I gave a smart comeback, he actually was hurt. We had a discussion later about it and I told him he should figure out what he wants because being sassy infront of his friends towards me will result in me clapping back.
Yeah never, ever go with a man who was just divorce (even when the divorce happened a year ago). That was my first relationship if I can even call it that. I broke it off 4months ago bec he was breadcrumbing/ghosted then gaslit me while he was out of town. Through the last message from him, I figured out he just wanted me for validation in a sense to feed his ego. Now he is flaunting his new girl. I feel sorry for her but grateful bec it re-affirms my decision was right. But yeah, my advice is run. Don't even give these guys a chance they are so broken inside. They lull you in with 'my ex-wife cheated on me sap story'. Don't fall for it please, they need to figure themselves out
ok when it started with 'emotional stability' i wondered if i should watch the whole thing because im not stable at all en depressed af but 10 min later the most happy and active person on earth sooo 😂😂😂
Girls, why are you All so upset? I feel like women seek almost the same stuff in men! Its natural. Flirting is a game. Now, I for example have to work on emotional stability (in a comepletly dofferent way, i tend to push away because of some insecurities). Its ok if we have to work on something, See it as self improvement! For yourself mostly
Men are providers women should be receivers ...that's how they are made...they should dig in their pockets ...to provide for their prize ..women are a responsibility
QUESTION FOR ELLIOT PLEASE LIKE THIS SO HE RESPONDS: Can you gear some of your videos towards marriage? Is that a thing? Do you know anything about what men look for in a marriage? I know some of us are abstinent until marriage, and that sex and living together before marriage actually decline the chances the couple will get married ever, and that their marriage will last if they ever do. But I'm SURE you have a Christian / Jewish / Islam / abstinent and atheist etc audience Elliot. Where my girls at?!?! Since we can't have sex until marriage, our courtship with men would be faster, therefore our focus is marriage not necessarily just dating. Can you help us?!?! ?!
Hi Elliot, been following you religiously, thank you for all the great tips and truths you speak!! And my, you are a very attractie man, must say ;) Could you perhaps give tips on how to go about dating a widow, please. I have this widowed man, only been 11 months since his wife passed (in front of him) from cancer and they had a beautiful relationship. He loved and still love her endlessly (which I understand and accept) My grown up daughter and his grown son is great friends and we all get on very well!!He is just not ready. He has told me he likes me a lot and we have had deep conversations. I make him laugh and him me and good sexual attraction :D He works on ships so his month here month away. I just need some advice and input, cause I believe getting him there or helping him is very different from "normal" situations... ?
Piece of cake, except possibly the snappy comebacks. Since you are great at them, will you please make a video of ten snappy comebacks or back handed compliments women can use? That would be awesome.
Quick wit is fun and playful, but not everyone can do it. People just have different styles. Though you do have some kind of mutual connection to create attraction, and for most wit is great, and can be improved upon. Think acting or improv classes. There are probably meetups for free.
You are recommending to be a good flirter but aren't we setting ourselves up as looking easy to get and a person doesn't want to look easy to get do they?
What if you don’t have good looks.. personality... quite shy.. I’m kind but I’m shy obviously to society I’m ancient.. 45 so no hope here unless I date an 60-80 yro men.. :/ I’ve never cared for older men.. they tend to be controlling I don’t like that.. ):
Great video so true. Sexy is important. I challenged him 30 days for working out and after he said I inspired him and strong relationship resulted. Thx again for the insight..
Wow, really noticed how you kept it real when you spoke about men not wanting to babysit a grown ass woman.....this was hilarious, hopefully you never had to experience this. Love ya, Elliott.
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1. Emotional stability
2. Quick wit
3 great flirt
4. Build sexual tension
5. Independence
Thank you, dear one!
Thank you!!
Great thanks saved me 12 minutes lol
I don’t have any of that 😢
Emotional stability, Quick wit, Good flirt, Sexual tension, and Independence
My trick: always be friends with the man FIRST. You’ll have to meet them organically, in person, over time for this one. Dress average, be approachable and friendly. Over time, as the days go by, you and him get to know eachother more and more - opening up to eachother. On a random day, or occasion dress up to the 9s. Look, smell and feel as amazing as you can when you know that he’ll be there. He will start to move you from being just a friend to seeing you as a potential romantic fling. Just be cool, and then surprise him. It works for me when it comes to roping them in ❤️
He looks like Abraham Lincoln 🙄
Mae W. A lit Abraham Lincoln.
Hahahaha
Mae W.
LOL ! It's the hair and beard. He definitely should change his look
😂😂😂
He's sexy y'all are haters lol
Since when did dating/relationships become so dam difficult? What ever happened to being yourself to get a man..... ?
It's become so methodical . Oouuufff
1) being yourself isn't good enough sometimes 2) Social media and online dating 3) feminism
I agree with you 100% however, I think the biggest thing to blame is ease to "access" to another person. For example, if you lived in a small town back in the day, you don't have a lot of options so statistically over a long period of time you would see people start to settle down with others in the town (assuming they stayed in the town and didn't look elsewhere) because that is the only options they had. It's basically like having to put up with your boss because you have a super high paying job that you're not going to find elsewhere lol.
BUT now you have TINDER!! The beautiful contradiction with Tinder is its convenience. I hear women talk about how easy and convenient is it to meet people now because of apps and online dating. You have more people to choose from, no more stress, no approach anxiety, it's good for busy people, introverts, and blah blah blah. While all that is true, it's just not easy for you. It is easy for everyone! So while it's easy for you to find a guy, it's easy for you to lose a guy to because of all the competition out there. No more does a guy or girl need to kiss the other's ass because if he doesn't like you, he just has to turn on his phone and start swiping right.
This means there is less margin for error. If someone messes up, shows red flags, comes off too strong or whatever, no more sticking it out and seeing what happens because of how hard it is to meet someone. Nope. Now you just arrive back to your place after the bad date or the argument, turn on your phone and start looking for others. Even if a guy gets bored or gets into a routine with a girl, he can just get back on the apps and start looking.
This ease of access makes it ridiculous to commit. Logically, unless the guy really really likes the girl, he would be an idiot to commit. The odds of you being the one are heavily against you and his curiosity in wondering on what is always out there is going to make him hesitant to commit. You have to look at it from a guy's perspective too. Girls always get more attention (on average) than guys so this new phenomenon of online dating is a Godsend to men. We are literally thinking, "Holy fucking shit this app is too good to be true." It's like a kid getting introduced to video games for the first time. There is no way in hell he's going to go outside when he has this cool new game he can only play inside.
You can't even get mad at the guy for that. Not saying you are, but it's just stupid for the guy to commit unless he's intentionally looking for a relationship. Most of the times the guy isn't. he is looking for the right woman and that transitions into something more. But if that is the case, he's always going to be chasing for the "right woman" and it's going to seem like an illusion like the next one is better because the one he's currently with is starting to feel like it's falling into routine, you already know what you're getting with each other, and so on. where with the new person someone could could meet, there is mystery, the unknown, thrill, and excitement that comes with any new relationship.
If girls don't like this, then stop using Tinder and other dating apps. Guys always follow where the women go. Even if you don't meet guy online, still women as a whole need to get off the apps so it's just a bunch of dudes. lol. Just because you don't meet him online doesn't mean he's not using it.
Why do you think Bars and clubs always let women get in for free and advertise towards women? Owners know that if they can get girls in, the guys will follow and start buying drinks.
Dating isn't difficult. It's just very advantageous towards men now because they don't have to put up with anything anymore and women now have competition. If you're a good looking girl, tough shit. There are a bunch of good looking girls now that he can message and mess with because the fear and stress of approaching her is eliminated.
Dating has always been a numbers game.
Elliot Scott Attraction Coach yes Eliot I so agree.... But it's a special kinda hell for old school daters like me.. Nothing seems to be good enough for men these days... Bc of the social media standards and accessibility.. .💋.
Yes! I agree. It makes me not even want to date anymore. Its all games now. I just want to chill with someone who I can be myself with.
Gigi Sam girl 🙄 I’m about to give up that shit I know I’m still young but ouf j!
I agree its too much
Well, emotional stability is for everyone. I'm not going to lie. I live in Germany and foreign men have more control over their emotional states than Americans. All germans seems to have a calm quiet confidence that American men I have met lack. American men seem to be either really insecure or arrogant with no middle ground.
THIS IS WHY I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN ATTRACTED TO FOREIGN MEN! I FIGURED IT OUT! 😭💖
‘looks and personality, I hope you have one of those’ ...hilarious!!
And funny enough those who get to get married have usually none
Guess I have neither 🤣
LMAOOO
This is the only dating coach video you'll ever need to watch, ladies!
It’s too much game playing for me... when I was Younger, years ago ... if you liked it you kept it... now it’s if you play correctly you keep it!
Us girls must all be emotionally unstable because we want relationships if a guy wants to talk and be intimate, we’re so crazy lol... btw it takes a lot of emotional strength to get through a divorce but I don’t blame you on that one Elliot since you’re still young
Emotional stability.. You're dreaming. We are emotional beings so we have high empathy for our offspring to keep them alive. Women are not robots
If all men were as self-aware as you about the importance of emotional stability, rebound relationships, etc, then finding the right man would not be so hard. Make sure your videos address these issues with men, as well. Knowledge is power, and power is sexy as hell!
So, eagerness for a relationship means you're emotionally unstable.....wow
I would think that it's normal to want a relationship.
I didn't understand it either until a female friend explained it to me. I met a guy that said he wanted a relationship and she said it's a red flag. I asked how and she said "because he is trying to fill a slot...and anyone will do". I still dated him and she was right.
Apparently it is wrong to be interested in having a relationship. Great.
5 Qualities: Emotional stability, Quick wit, Great flirter, Sexy, Independent.
holly shit man you look good as hell in this video
This one was really good. Also, I love the new look.
I have been researching "things that attract men" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - *4WhatHeWants. Com* Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.?
"You might as well just be his friend."
Me, LOL.
So.. Guys have gotten so lazy we have to do everything these days just for them to look at us. Men need to take care of us and do the work for us. If we are independent, we dont need you so don't expect us to need you, especially if you won't provide anything
I think it's safe to say any girl who would be offended by your "sexy" comment is not sexy 😄
I love this Elliot and I am smiling because I have all of these qualities with my man. I almost messed up though because I offered to go and live with him until I realized, I would be giving up my independence, that which he loves and values and wants as a come up in his own life. I had to back up, slow down my emotions and realize that living with him prematurely, would make him feel like a babysitter and he would actually begin to value me less and love me less as a consequence. I realize now from your teachings that scarcity is a must to maintain the connection. Living with him prematurely would kill that.
You're amazing Elliot. Thank you. And I love you back. Your words give me hope and my life confidence, direction and inspiration. Kudos to you. God bless, always.
Nice to finally see you make videos outside of your car!
I'm not sure how I'm going to flirt from across the room with my visual impairment. At this point for me, I'm just happy when people know I'm actually talking to them and respond to me LOL great video!
Depends on the nature of the divorce ive been emotionally detached for years before my separation, a guy just tried to make me a rebound and he was showing emotional instability
your commentary cracks me up. Just found your channel for understanding male psychology and it's amazing! Thanks so much 0:-)
I feel loved thank you so much!
Great video. Needed it. Went on 5 dates over the last 2 months. Chemistry is explosive. Sex is crazy good. He's been separated for a few years, has kids, was cheated on by his wife & waiting for divorce to be final. Not looking for serious right now. I really like him. Need to pump the brakes but don't want to disengage just want to give him the time crave me like I do him.
Make a video on how to navigate a situation that you are dealing with multiple obstacles....
You're the shit !
I love how you're breaking it down into steps, I'm currently trying to change up myself and come to realize the things that's said in this video...❤ it keep up the good work!!
Damn it, Elliot, I have all of these and I’m still single. Whyyyy lol
😂😂😂😂
Good question
Well, they melted. No form to a puddle on the floor.
The more I listen to Elliot the more I like him. My relationship is fine I just like hearing him talk
You should do a video about giving ladies advice who are jumping back into dating. I love you boo! You help me get out of a relationship where the guy took me for granted. You da best! 😘
I actually might make that a dating course!
Emotional stability is very hard to give lol
but I am working on it really hard.
Great :) have all of these... i always end up getting guys to melt and open up now i know the reason thanks.
I enjoy how these topics relate to our own personal health.
It’s like when you feel confident and you’re taking care of yourself most of these fall into place
"if you're a basic ass woman" lol
I hate these dating apps. Met someone l dated almost 5 years, then he goes back on dating sites to meet someone else. Grass is always greener on the other side. He's in a rebound relationship already. He can kiss my cute ASS!!!
I’ve been working on my confidence and I have all of those qualities, my narcissistic army soldier ex shut me down to the point where I forgot how to shine my light and own my power. I’m rebuilding and stepping back into these qualities and I can see the effect I have on men now, it’s fun lol but I know not to use it for bad or manipulative reasons
Taking notes in my PJs, drinking beer. Learning so much from TH-cam dating/relationship tips but don't really feel like going out since it's raining. Bah...
You are right. However, if there is an attraction between a man and a woman and the man is going through a divorce, what the woman can do is this:(and yes this has worked, I'm not saying every woman can do it)
Tell him you can be there as a friend while he is going through his separation. Make sure you are not giving yourself sexually but making yourself available; as a friend when he really needs to talk, vent, or cry..Don't discuss what is going on between you two..or what day you are moving in...he can't consciously think straight...needs time to get over the divorce. .which are steps that can mimic stages of grieving.
Time goes on....and he will realize how emotionally supportive you were being there for him...he can count on you through difficult times. .,he is able to open up to you without judgement.
But you have to let him go through the stages...it's not gonna be easy but if you truly care about him...than its all worth the wait...also you made your bond stronger by doing so. .
“Am I spelling this right?” ..
Doesn’t matter... you can’t read this shit anyway 😂😂😂😂
Yessss!!!
Elliot I love watching your videos while I'm here at work (graveyard shift) I learned a lot from you and how men think..glad you are taking care of the ladies!
You had me at "you're probably a square." Very smooth. Lol
I love how you say "you might as well be his friend!" lol love it
Great video love the breakdown of each area. Particularly the independence. Keep up the great work.
I have four of your qualities, so why is the guy breadcrumbing... just call in the morning and wanting to meet few hours during the weekend?
Guys love boundaries!! They love when you hold them accountable. They really just want a mom. Be their mom and they will love you. Not a doting mom, a mom that holds them accountable and has clearly defined boundaries.
Dude I love watching your videos. You are funny haha Thanks For the videos!
What camera are you using??? This is LIT AF!!!
I'm an extravert who is fed up with having had to stay in so much during the pandemic. Already started going out to play with friends, now I want to go out and play with new men, in the sense of dating, going out to fun places, having a laugh together and taking it from date to date. Nothing is exclusive till mutual 'I love you's' have been said.
So your video looks good for me. No hang ups and no recent past relationships either. Just me and my happy cat.
Must bite the bullet and join some decent dating sites; NOT POF!
I think you are wrong about the rebound thing. I was in a fearful emotional abusive type relationship. So I tried to end it for four months before it finally ended so I was ready to start dating the new guy not out of a rebound but outta having had four months of being done before starting something new
Is it sad I wrote down notes in this video?? Thanks Elliot. I look forward to class....
Caro H No because I was thinking I need to do the same. Lol. He's like a dating professor teaching mini lectures on dating. We need to take 📝 notes. Lol
SM D I know!! Hell I need to revise - I’m forgetting what I learnt in class 🙄
I did to!
His tips really work 😮🤔
I don't know...I'm all of these things and found they only get me attention of the guys who only wanna have sex with me, not a relationship with me. I feel like these traits make you desirable, not necessarily "dateable".
Same here, on top of that when i look at my happily married female friends they often don't possess those qualities. What is going on?
I have read an article recently, that if a woman has those qualities such as flirty, outgoing, comfortable around men, she is seemed as more "sexually exploitable", therefore gets put in the category of "short-term" "for-fun-kinda-girl", that's why she gets more attention, usually from wrong men. And if she is more reserved, maybe even shy, then it's the long-term gf material.
pinkaa17 But also keep in mind that the shy and more reserved women are mistaken for being too timid and boring. It’s harder to meet men if youre always playing the hard to get tactic. You know what I mean by that.. Looking away if a cute guy looks at you. Ignoring making eye contact with any men. Not looking relaxed and comfortable in your own body and in the place you’re at. I’ve done that before and men just don’t approach me because I don’t seem loud or friendly enough to talk to.
Men sometimes want a mix of both worlds, some want the shy and some want the outgoing. Don’t change for anyone cause someone out there will want you for you, not just because the shy girl is his fetish.
Also wanna add that some men (mistakenly) believe that shy girls are more loyal and committed which is NOT always true. Some men have the audacity to demand a “shy” girl (sometimes a virgin) when he himself has been a raging whore for years. If a man wants someone who seems and looks innocent, run girl run.. Cause no body is innocent and he believes it’s easier to manipulate her if she is !!!
You're so funny, "it doesn't matter you can't read that shit anyway" lol great video! I loved it!
I passed with flying colors. Only issue with me is I can be moody and sometimes I don't handle stress well. At first I thought maybe he meant emotional stability as meaning not being moody, but no. I do everything myself and every guy I see/date I tell them I don't need you per say, I want you and I also don't want/need your money. I'm fine on my own but would like to find a great man and have deep meaningful companionship/connection. This video was great. I swear, the more I watch you the more I agree with you. You really know what your talking about. Thank you for doing these, I appreciate it
Love the new lookk!! Always upgrading
Nice video as usual 😊 Also I feel like these are the qualities that apply to guys as well. No one is going to be with a guy that is unattractive, lacks independence, or is just crazy emotional haha 😂 😂
This has got to be your best video ever!
I am definitely all those things to the man I’ve been seeing. One of the things I said to him out the gate was I don’t need you to Support me I make my own money. I also used to tell him when certain things would come up I’m never going to follow you chase you or try to figure out where you are I have my own life. When we’re together I always make sure that I look good for him in a way that he craves me. He has even told me that he’s addicted to me. LOL. I’m very quick witted with him we crack up about the things he says and how I respond quickly back to them and we both start laughing. We are also very Eye 2 Eye when we are connected together emotionally and speak very softly and it’s the sexiest thing I love it and I know he does too.
The "quick wit" point is really hard for me. What can I do to improve it?
If you just broke up with someone you are a loose electron! Constantly striving to connect to create the next molecule.
Strange part is i'm not even divorced, I've never been married or dumped, I usually do the dumping I feel mean now, but I think this is probably why I keep my distance, I have to many emotional problems, so I ended up a widow. It's important to figure out what your wanting out of a woman when you look for her maybe put on your dating profile for example, "I only want a one night stand!" just warn women and explain your intent so they know what to avoid so nobody's time gets wasted. It's like selling products, if you want good comments and more girls around you, have a sense of humor, or personality, there's nothing worse then a mopey ass dude that doesn't defend himself, he'll never land chicks. I'm mopey at times too I won't lie, but I will say that it creates a distance with me, not sure why, but it's a feeling. There has to be some kind of feelings there or the sex is going to suck, and there's nothing worse then lousey sex, I don't even see a point in bothering, if there's no attraction, it feels empty for me, personally.
I have all these qualities and yet that guy must be afraid of me 😂
I am quick witted infront of my guy when his friends are around and since his friends laughed because I gave a smart comeback, he actually was hurt. We had a discussion later about it and I told him he should figure out what he wants because being sassy infront of his friends towards me will result in me clapping back.
You are so incredibly funny and intelligent...you have really helped me so much... keep up the good work.👯
Yeah never, ever go with a man who was just divorce (even when the divorce happened a year ago). That was my first relationship if I can even call it that. I broke it off 4months ago bec he was breadcrumbing/ghosted then gaslit me while he was out of town. Through the last message from him, I figured out he just wanted me for validation in a sense to feed his ego. Now he is flaunting his new girl. I feel sorry for her but grateful bec it re-affirms my decision was right. But yeah, my advice is run. Don't even give these guys a chance they are so broken inside. They lull you in with 'my ex-wife cheated on me sap story'. Don't fall for it please, they need to figure themselves out
my weak point is emotional stability so far need to work on it
Elliott those glasses r really working out for.you
Hello, my favorite dating coach!
ok when it started with 'emotional stability' i wondered if i should watch the whole thing because im not stable at all en depressed af but 10 min later the most happy and active person on earth sooo 😂😂😂
Girls, why are you All so upset? I feel like women seek almost the same stuff in men! Its natural. Flirting is a game. Now, I for example have to work on emotional stability (in a comepletly dofferent way, i tend to push away because of some insecurities). Its ok if we have to work on something, See it as self improvement! For yourself mostly
If he trying to dig into my cookie, He needs to be paying all my bills first.
Men are providers women should be receivers ...that's how they are made...they should dig in their pockets ...to provide for their prize ..women are a responsibility
Agree 100% but youre not entitled to it. He must choose to agree to going through that process with you
This was great thanks. Love the look!
QUESTION FOR ELLIOT PLEASE LIKE THIS SO HE RESPONDS:
Can you gear some of your videos towards marriage? Is that a thing? Do you know anything about what men look for in a marriage?
I know some of us are abstinent until marriage, and that sex and living together before marriage actually decline the chances the couple will get married ever, and that their marriage will last if they ever do. But I'm SURE you have a Christian / Jewish / Islam / abstinent and atheist etc audience Elliot. Where my girls at?!?! Since we can't have sex until marriage, our courtship with men would be faster, therefore our focus is marriage not necessarily just dating.
Can you help us?!?! ?!
Real facts. Feminine energy is so important.
Any TH-cam channel recommendations for us married women that need similar tips, but not necessarily so focused on dating, Elliot?
Just a tip: continue your thoughts. You always break them in the middle.... it breaks our concentration and interest.
Hi Elliot, been following you religiously, thank you for all the great tips and truths you speak!! And my, you are a very attractie man, must say ;)
Could you perhaps give tips on how to go about dating a widow, please. I have this widowed man, only been 11 months since his wife passed (in front of him) from cancer and they had a beautiful relationship. He loved and still love her endlessly (which I understand and accept) My grown up daughter and his grown son is great friends and we all get on very well!!He is just not ready. He has told me he likes me a lot and we have had deep conversations. I make him laugh and him me and good sexual attraction :D He works on ships so his month here month away. I just need some advice and input, cause I believe getting him there or helping him is very different from "normal" situations... ?
Great video Elliot.
Piece of cake, except possibly the snappy comebacks. Since you are great at them, will you please make a video of ten snappy comebacks or back handed compliments women can use? That would be awesome.
Great video. On point
I started laughing when he said “You might as well be his friend “ 🤣🤣
Men n women are alike. We always want what we cannot have.
I really like this new setting :)
The same thing goes for guys when they get out of a marriage... So do us a favor and know that it goes both ways
Quick wit is fun and playful, but not everyone can do it. People just have different styles. Though you do have some kind of mutual connection to create attraction, and for most wit is great, and can be improved upon. Think acting or improv classes. There are probably meetups for free.
I agree, with the comments 👇 ...you can really pull off sexy nerdy teacher look, I like it Elliot
Great video... still need to hear this every now and then.. 😁
You are a big bottle of awesome sauce! 😘🥰
You are recommending to be a good flirter but aren't we setting ourselves up as looking easy to get and a person doesn't want to look easy to get do they?
You said "not baby sitting some basic woman" 😂😨😂😨😂😨 Laughing so hard because its true!
Whaoooo your video quality is wayy better lol like it
What if you don’t have good looks.. personality... quite shy.. I’m kind but I’m shy obviously to society I’m ancient.. 45 so no hope here unless I date an 60-80 yro men.. :/ I’ve never cared for older men.. they tend to be controlling I don’t like that.. ):
Hi Elliot?
Can you make a video on how to get a narcissist capricorn to take you out on a date. Thank you!
🤨 wow.
Run from his ass
Hahaha "this woman is the shit" made me smile xD great video!
You always explain very well♡
Thank you so much you said every thing on earth we need to know exactly .
Ur hysterical! As well as educating me!
Great video so true. Sexy is important. I challenged him 30 days for working out and after he said I inspired him and strong relationship resulted. Thx again for the insight..
I like your new look
PLEASE MAKE A VID ON HOW TO BE SEXY & CREATE SEXUAL TENSION
Hana red lipstick, intelligence, DON'T CHASE
Dress classy, speak classily, act classy. Have a sense of humor. And always fucking smile. Just be charming and positive. Guys will see it! 😉
Wow, really noticed how you kept it real when you spoke about men not wanting to babysit a grown ass woman.....this was hilarious, hopefully you never had to experience this. Love ya, Elliott.