Who puts it all together better? Culture, family, physiology, spirituality, psychology, environment. We need more thinkers and healers like Gabor, instead of our system of "specialists".
+baconlatte Each of us has to "put it all together," modify our values & reclaim our power to take responsibility for our well-being as well as that of the community. Notice how old paradigms are slowly imploding. Maté co-authored the book : Hold On to Your Kids.
@@ObjectiveMedia Well, when I was younger, I got very enthusiastic after watching the Zeitgeist trilogy. But then when I got a bit older, I realized that some of their ideas, for example the idea of not owning anything (just borrowing) and the idea of giving the control of all resources to programs and machines, are just absolutely aligning very well with Marxist and Technocratic/Transhumanic ideas, and this is what turns a BIG red alarm in my head.... Personally I think they are a Trojan Horse, hidden (of course) in a lot of nice and valid ideas that we could see in the trilogy. So I rather say BIG NO to that movement... I think there are better ways, when we can still have peace, own things, respect the nature, respect ourselves and our neighbor, and most of all that we still are in control, and not the bloody programs, or machines, or handful of Marxist communists, who just pretend "not to be any ism" - as a smokescreen..... If you watched the 3rd part properly, you will understand what I mean by that " not to be ism" ;) Aside what I said here above, this is a great lecture by Dr Gabor (y)
my whole life: I've lived with suicidal grief and homicidal rage... and, in THIS moment, as I watch THIS video, I am happy to say... that I am happy. blissfully, easily, gently, expansively: happy...
Wow. What a dramatic shift. Those are profoundly intense states of mind to experience. What helped you create that healing. And how have you maintained that very difficult change in neural patterning?
I love this man. I've been a Montessori teacher and I've seen the terrible pressure put on small children to 'achieve'. I've always been a true Montessorian: preparing the environment and letting the child explore it and make connections for himself... I despair at how most parents inadvertantly treat their small vulnerable offspring, setting them up for failure by asking too much of them too soon. Watch your child UNFOLD at HIS OWN PACE... please. A child will ask questions, give the parents clues as to what he is ready for. Answer the questions. Be attentive to what fascinates your child. Let him explore that thoroughly. Have some FAITH that all is unfolding as it should. Don't compete with other parents: that is one of the most toxic things you can put your child through. He is a child of God, as you are. Respect his rhythm. He is a miracle made flesh. See the sacred in him and let him feel free to explore.
Agree with you 100%. Whenever my faith shakes, I remind myself this eternal truth. Actually my father with his humble background was a dissident of comparison between individuals. So this culture is ingrained in me.
Agree! I started substitute teaching when I retired. I am surprised to find most parents dont talk to but, at their children. They dont explain what they're doing or why theyre doing it. Some of the little ones. dont even know their names, or parents names, or where they live. I talked with my kiddoes everyday. My parents had me memorize my full name, their full names, our address, and phone number, all of which I still recall. People truly ar eliving unconscious lives, not even knowing why they do things.
No, We already have one -who is largely being ignored in our toxic culture Having more brilliant doctor's being ignored by our toxic cronyCorpiratist psychosociopathic eco-cidal society would be ineffective What is required is for more people to dedicate themselves to rush the barricades, storm the Bastille, mount the insurrection to tear down the plutocracy - by whatever means necessary. The heartless assholes in government colluding with the heartless greedy assholes in the 1% create the conditions he is talking about.
Dr Mate' is genius. I am so glad that there's someone whom understands the connection of environmental influences that put children at risk for lifetime battles of the toxic self loathing, addictive behaviors.
omg...Someone who can see what I've been seeing for my entire life...but who is more likely to be listened to. Thanks so much for saying it! A rare example of TRUE intelligence.
I agree with your assessment, thank you so much. I myself am stymied by the ignorance or indifference to such a huge Important subject. I, however do not know where to begin with the action which needs to take place to raise awareness to ( i cannot even come up with a word ) which is rare for me. It seems to me most people want to escape into entertainment or other forms of distraction which leave the most important subjects such as Dr. Mate's "BIO PSYCO SOCIAL MODEL" to flounder endless stream of You Tube video's with out any action being taken. I am open to all and any ideas. This is a subject I feel about passionately. Although I am bereft of answers to this conundrum. there has to be a starting point to mobilize enough people who care enough about what really amounts to our future on this little pale blue dot spinning through the cosmos.
AWE WONDER Thank you for your comment, I love to look for solutions in this matter that passionates me too... As Gabor says, we live in a toxic society, which is like a matrix from where most people don't want to escape because they're so used to it and are addicted to it's pay-backs. I believe awakening from this 'Dream of Hell' as Don Juan Ruiz calls the way our society is organized comes from within each one of us first. It's a personal matter to get conscious and it requires guts to go against what we're used to however, all the help one needs is already out there and the rewards are enthralling. Then, everyone who cares enough, like you, can make new choices about the way we give birth (this is where separateness and trauma begins), live and educate children. I believe we could totally turn our world into a 'Dream of Heaven' within 2 decades...
phoenix rising Thanks for your kind reply. I noticed you alluded to Don Juan Ruiz, the author of the "Four Agreements" that book is a treasure trove of wisdom for me. But once again keeping these concepts and paradigm shifts in the forefront of my consciousness and as you said "the guts to go against what we are used to" is far more difficult than just ingesting the wisdom. It is all in the application. Thanks once more.
Word! But remember that people hear only what they want to hear. Also everyone receives this message through the lenses of their state of awareness, their level of consciousness. Dr. G.V. is a genius. All my respect to people like him. Real is rare.
Absolutely brialliant Quietly spoken no ego about True sound words We need to lead ourselves with wisdom like this, rather than electing twits that are outa range and disassociated Love it
To wish more people in positions of expertise and authority could speak publically as Mr. Mate is doing! I am with this man. We live in a time when the systems, institutions, values and driving motives of global society are "upside down" in terms of how they are being viewed, interpreted and actioned.
found Gabor Mate when I was looking up information on addiction for a friend. can't believe I missed him for so long. he is someone I have needed for decades. bless him for his integrity.
I am hoping Jordan Peterson fanboys will watch Mate's videos to discover how a real teacher explains difficult complex ideas. No word salad, no obfuscation. Mate supports the content of his lectures with multiple references. You can tell he has done tons of research, whereas Peterson likes to reinterpret the scholarly writing of others in order to make them fit his worldview. Mate, I would love for you to critique more of Peterson's lectures.
He's given me SEVERE PTSD. I have debilitating paralyzing daily panic attacks. He raped my soul. He used me while he needed me and then discarded me like garbage. My soul is raped. When he'd get mad/upset/hurt/whatever: he'd give me the silent treatment. REMINDER TO SELF: Reasons for narcissistic silent treatment: * Stonewalling * Gaslighting * Emotional immaturity * Lack of interpersonal skill * Victimhood * Dysregulation * Avoidant attachment style * Doing to me, what was done to him * Terrified of conflict * Not knowing any other way * Fear/panic/anxiety/terror * Felling incapable/not good enough * Desperation * Power over * Regaining a (false) sense of control * Punishment EVEN STILL, regardless of the above, I miss him and what we had, our friendship, our connection: WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING. But he never really cared about me. He used me and discarded me. Replaced me so easily. Why is she better than me? Why? What makes her so much more profoundly better than me? Is he her best friend now? Or maybe is there even more between them? Why couldn't he love me like he loves her? Is there something wrong with me? Is she just so much better? He's replaced me with another. In an instant: just like that. HE REPLACED ME. HE SHATTERED MY HEART. HE RAPED MY SOUL. I'm all alone and suffering in anguish, and they are living happily ever after together. The PTSD and the loneliness and the grief that he's given me... Makes it so that I can't breathe. I drowned. I suffocate. I die inside. I'm in hell with no escape. NO ESCAPE. I need him. I loved him. He raped my soul: brutally viciously violently maliciously. Every night: nightmares. Every day: panic attacks. I want to die. Every morning I wake up in despair, desperately praying to die. I can no longer bear the pain. I could die from the pain of missing my best friend. He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage. My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend. I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing... I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear. I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified. I'm dying inside. My soul is raped. He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe! How and when will I ever heal? God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief, I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and heal me... I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough!!! It's time to be free: in Jesus's name! I’m giving my life to Jesus! 100%! ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF: When you chase a man, you NEVER get the man, and you ALWAYS lose yourself!
I was turned onto In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts while in an intensive rehab program. That book helped me release so much self-deprecating behavior and connect my traumas with my addictions and struggles. I remember crying as I read the intro and he explained finding an addict who had passed away, and the state she was in was just heartbreaking. Thank you for what you do. This helps people understand who they are.
As always Gabor and also the therapist Antonia are the only people who I ever experienced who just got it they just understand it ( trauma) and listening to this helps me feel like someone out there understands it’s like friend even though I never met Gabor Mate I live on the opposite end of Canada his explanations his words have such a comforting profound affect and I can regain at least a little strength and comfort and solace as someone who lives with the effects of many many traumas he helps me to be able to get through the next 24 hours and so on
For most of us it’s trauma that’s the issue and understanding it and how to learn and move forward instead of feeling trapped and frustrated hopeless has been a blessing over the past year I never thought I would have the courage to work on getting a drivers license or start exploring schooling and training on massage therapy and natural healing as with not shutting down on life anymore the anxieties have decreased the learning and return of the ability to laugh is back Healing trauma helps you find who you are and slowly sometimes it comes in leaps and bounds you become free of what trauma made you believe about life who you are what others are and so on and the behaviour trauma causes to protect yourself with out trying starts to slowly stop as you heal one old belief after another leaves and you don’t find yourself dealing with the same situations the same way you learn how trauma is what causes miss communication and confusion you communicated not as yourself but a traumatized person you saw others not from the perspective of who they are but their trauma ( ie substance users are not nor their substance use they are people with trauma hurting trying to self soothe and when they are doing that they are acting from trauma not who they are ) so stay consistent in getting help for trauma and it eventually does truly work wonders
@@katiehewitt1541 Your response inspires me. Strip the onion layers to the core and then rebuild to the true you. I am on this journey of my truth thanks to Dr Gabor.
Thank you very much Dr Gabor. I listen to your talk with deep respect and joy. You are very brilliant spiritually, humanitarian , authentic and wise talented physician. We need more people and advanced thinkers and physicians like you. Sometimes I think that we all are crying for help. Your talk brings me more awareness and remember my true essence.
20:00 - Loss of control. 20:41 - “When in Rome, do as the Romans do”. Perfectly put. “Roman” dating rather than authentic dating and relationships. Just my actual experience. This man sounds like a genius!
I know that my message may not get to the part of the universe that manifest itself as important, but I know if you listen to this man, if you really bring yourself to the place where ego does not exist, you will see that his words are being given to us, they're like a token or certificate, he is speaking from a place where he wants to give back to the world, and that is where he wants us to meet him.
Exactly. Healing leads to growth. In order to heal, you must find the wounds, accept them as wounds, find the cause, understand and forgive, let it go with grace and set yourself free. A level of freedom that not many get to exoerience, know and level up further.
I've got drug addiction problems. The psychiatrist will not be able to see me unless I get clean off drugs which I am trying to do and it's going slow but ok. The problem is, substance misuse is a symptom of my underlying problem, so, stopping taking drugs without finding out the reason I keep relapsing sounds a bit crazy, because I will be vulnerable to other destructive compulsions, if my source of my addiction is not identified. I have no money but I would love to have the opportunity to see mama ayahuasca in my lifetime, so i can share my gifts and talents to benefit the earth before I die.
Yeah i take your point, its the integration of the exerience into your everyday life, but you can't deny the benefit that aya and iboga have done for some really badly addicted people.
WTF? U need help with addiction but they say u can't see a shrink unless u get off them? Who the fuck are these braindead assholes that decided this stupidity? If u get off the drugs then u probably won't need to see a doc then -so what the fuck is the point of them? Sorry-that just pisses me off. What a bunch of useless "professional" pricks
@@surfinmuso37 Agreed. So ask these bunch of useless 'professional' pricks if they know who Dr Gabor is. If they don't know - then don't waste your time.
Hallellluiaaaa !!! Hallellluuuuuia !!!!That someone finaly spoked about it !! ! & it's so sad that THE MEDICAL WORLD doesen't want to accept that ! That's even worster ! The one that has to cure & hellp the people ...That's why I choose many Years ago ...to go holistic way...& the "Antic Cultures " & thanks GOD That there are people like Dr. Gabor on this side of the World ! THANK's GOD 4 THIS MAN !
What you seek is seeking you. Remember this: the brain doesn't differentiate truth from fantasy or fiction. Also we are what we repeatedly do. This two sentences will change your Life. Contemplate on them. Introspect. All your answers are within you. Stay blessed.
even politicians where normal humans once, but the side effects from this sick culture is making people do crazy stuff,(rape, murder, mass shootings, war, ...) Basically every human being is good, but circumstances make you into abnormal behaviour) This message is the most important every individual living in this sick industrial, commercial, digital sytem.
yeah mostly due to trauma though, that's when their wiring got messed up. there probably are however also those born psychopaths. but never forget trauma!
No they are, it’s just that the capitalist/fascist economic system turns them into narcissists who lack empathy. No one is born a narcissist/psychopath
@@ObjectiveMedia what evidence do you have that no-one is born a psychopath? all i'm going off is a comment a psychology teacher of mine said which was that (extremely rarely) some people are born with terrible combinations of an incapacity to empathise with other's experience, violent temperaments, super low emotional regulation, and it predisposes them to have a super high chance of being clinically psychopathic. but i don't know! do you? i'm interested and have no strong opinion, i'll go with the facts as they fall :)
Now that I am aware, I am looking for the pieces that take the knowledge and make it applicable to specifically to healing the broken system. Multiple early childhood traumas impacted/changed my brain physiology, and now I'm aware. What resources, TH-cam channels, movements help guide the movement through restoration and healing?
Gabore is one of a kind who goes beyond just taking out his presciption pad and dispensing more medication. As if doing that can undo years of discomfort, or sadness. Gabor tells the truth as it is.
! 1# !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sorry 4 my lack of compassion 4 MYself... My sons, my Family... my indigenous Families.... My world....... the spirituaL realms ... which make up my essence and existence ..........in a sorrowful world................. I am honored to Learn of myself, able to forgive, live,and able to NOW hear someone as gifted as Gabor... to Be the Change ........ for the betterment of All !!!!.............amR.....Lila ... Welcome to Turtle island !!! blessings 4 Gabor and his Family .... for sharing him with us ...honors... respects..............!!!!.
Maté is a Maverick physician. Conventional medical paradigms treat body parts & organs as if each suspended in isolation in a vacuum. A pattern recognition system sustained by BIG PHARMA. Some "public sick care" is available offering "free" passage to the chronic illness ferris wheel; healthcare must be funded by the individual. Conscious Parenting is critical to health maintenanance. Common sense is uncommon. Institutions are immune to new knowledge.
It's so interesting listening to Gabor talk about the impact of environmental stress on human development and well being without mentioning any genetic factors minutes after listening to a leading geneticist talk about the impact of heritability on life outcomes without mentioning environment. My instinctive sympathy is with Gabor as a leftie as childhood stress and trauma is obviously a huge factor but the stark contrasts in their world views after years of studying the same phenomena is baffling
incredible, that one man can be so compassionate and heals people with his words, Dr Gabor, I hope you live too 140 years old, and another creep, can become the president of the United States, and vomits all over the planet with his words, and cause so much harm keep sharing your energy Dr Gabor
#Capitalism demands we blame the victim and deny shared responsibility because.. #profit. That's why we bailed out the banks and not it's victims. That's why we prosecute terrorist but industrial accidents / negligence w/more victims don't get treated w/the same outrage.
The only banks that get bailed out are part of the fake capitalists who are operating under socialism for them but not for you and me who don't get bailed out...You blame capitalism but you are really looking at socialist corporations pretending to be capitalists so as to sabotage capitalism!
@@DerekFullerWhoIsGovt never notice how certain large corporation can murder and pollute and steal with minimal consequences, while a small business can't do anything it wants and is punished very hard if it slips up or makes one mistake?
Thankyou Gabor Mate and genius thinkers and individualistic artists who think realistically.-Clancy Imislund (Hitler)puts down people who don't look the way he would like them to look.He's "old school 1958 when He got sober
The only question that remains is: how to survive in a toxic environment with least possible impact on psyche and health, not only of the childhood but continuing into every day adulthood, as changing it is hard to impossible and in most cases implies a collective effort. It would be great if we could be taught that.
had social anxiety since I was a teenager. Turned into severe depression and anxiety in my 30s. I found Trauma release exercises about 5year's ago. Changed my life, been meds free for 4 years now.
21:30 Dr. Gabor Mate on FOUR types of alienations of man (in modern, competitive and materialistic culture) from 1. Man, 2. Nature, 3. God and 4. Self (according to Karl Marx) leading to the loss of meaning in life (Learning to Reconnect is vital to regain authenticity and self-actualization):
Who puts it all together better? Culture, family, physiology, spirituality, psychology, environment. We need more thinkers and healers like Gabor, instead of our system of "specialists".
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+baconlatte Each of us has to "put it all together," modify our values & reclaim our power to take responsibility for our well-being as well as that of the community. Notice how old paradigms are slowly imploding.
Maté co-authored the book : Hold On to Your Kids.
TH-cam “Zeitgeist Addendum” and “Zeitgeist Moving Forward” ✊
I'm going to quote you in my shared YT link
@@ObjectiveMedia Well, when I was younger, I got very enthusiastic after watching the Zeitgeist trilogy. But then when I got a bit older, I realized that some of their ideas, for example the idea of not owning anything (just borrowing) and the idea of giving the control of all resources to programs and machines, are just absolutely aligning very well with Marxist and Technocratic/Transhumanic ideas, and this is what turns a BIG red alarm in my head.... Personally I think they are a Trojan Horse, hidden (of course) in a lot of nice and valid ideas that we could see in the trilogy. So I rather say BIG NO to that movement... I think there are better ways, when we can still have peace, own things, respect the nature, respect ourselves and our neighbor, and most of all that we still are in control, and not the bloody programs, or machines, or handful of Marxist communists, who just pretend "not to be any ism" - as a smokescreen..... If you watched the 3rd part properly, you will understand what I mean by that " not to be ism" ;) Aside what I said here above, this is a great lecture by Dr Gabor (y)
my whole life: I've lived with suicidal grief and homicidal rage...
and, in THIS moment, as I watch THIS video, I am happy to say...
that I am happy. blissfully, easily, gently, expansively: happy...
This resonates, how did you get there?
Wow. What a dramatic shift. Those are profoundly intense states of mind to experience. What helped you create that healing. And how have you maintained that very difficult change in neural patterning?
Sounds too good to be true...this was two yrs ago...how are you today??
Watching Mate's speeches is a quick escape from the pain.
We all need a reprieve (quicky escape) from stress from time to time. It's OK. 👶
My pain rn is a stupid essay that I have to write which has absolutely nothing to do with my program. Stupid course ughh
@@curiousgal243 That's stressful enough. I can't imagine trying to be your age and focus. Hope it went well.
@@curiousgal243 how are u now?
too bad he popularised Ayahuascha tourism, with the unfortunate consequence of assisting in the destruction of Peruvian native traditions.
I love this man. I've been a Montessori teacher and I've seen the terrible pressure put on small children to 'achieve'. I've always been a true Montessorian: preparing the environment and letting the child explore it and make connections for himself... I despair at how most parents inadvertantly treat their small vulnerable offspring, setting them up for failure by asking too much of them too soon. Watch your child UNFOLD at HIS OWN PACE... please.
A child will ask questions, give the parents clues as to what he is ready for.
Answer the questions. Be attentive to what fascinates your child. Let him explore that thoroughly. Have some FAITH that all is unfolding as it should. Don't compete with other parents: that is one of the most toxic things you can put your child through. He is a child of God, as you are. Respect his rhythm. He is a miracle made flesh. See the sacred in him and let him feel free to explore.
What a beautiful attitude you have!
Amen! Beautiful truth you wrote!
Agree with you 100%. Whenever my faith shakes, I remind myself this eternal truth. Actually my father with his humble background was a dissident of comparison between individuals. So this culture is ingrained in me.
Agree! I started substitute teaching when I retired. I am surprised to find most parents dont talk to but, at their children. They dont explain what they're doing or why theyre doing it. Some of the little ones. dont even know their names, or parents names, or where they live. I talked with my kiddoes everyday. My parents had me memorize my full name, their full names, our address, and phone number, all of which I still recall. People truly ar eliving unconscious lives, not even knowing why they do things.
❤❤❤love this comment
If only we had more doctors like Gabor Mate!
No,
We already have one
-who is largely being ignored in our toxic culture
Having more brilliant doctor's being ignored by our toxic cronyCorpiratist psychosociopathic eco-cidal society would be ineffective
What is required is for more people to dedicate themselves to rush the barricades, storm the Bastille, mount the insurrection to tear down the plutocracy - by whatever means necessary.
The heartless assholes in government colluding with the heartless greedy assholes in the 1% create the conditions he is talking about.
@@kurtklingbeil6900 Murder the Government?
Notable psychologists always seem to come out of Canada for e.g Jordan Peterson
His experience is unique to understand and see differently. Unlikely, but not impossible.
They wud onlymint .nobody is fr only treating
Ideas of this guy is very addictive. This is nothing but naked truth.
In a world past,
Some village long ago,
This man is who they would call,
an "Elder".
Dr Mate' is genius. I am so glad that there's someone whom understands the connection of environmental influences that put children at risk for lifetime battles of the toxic self loathing, addictive behaviors.
Yeah, but, as you can see, 4 years later, that most good ideas are ignored. Oh well.
He and his son, Aaron, are a double team doing battle against the evils of our world.
omg...Someone who can see what I've been seeing for my entire life...but who is more likely to be listened to. Thanks so much for saying it! A rare example of TRUE intelligence.
Yesss!!!👍🏼
Every talk of Gabor is so eye-opening. We have been blind all this time.
We need this message to be followed by action.
I agree with your assessment, thank you so much. I myself am stymied by the ignorance or indifference to such a huge Important subject. I, however do not know where to begin with the action which needs to take place to raise awareness to ( i cannot even come up with a word ) which is rare for me.
It seems to me most people want to escape into entertainment or other forms of distraction which leave the most important subjects such as Dr. Mate's "BIO PSYCO SOCIAL MODEL" to flounder endless stream of You Tube video's with out any action being taken. I am open to all and any ideas. This is a subject I feel about passionately.
Although I am bereft of answers to this conundrum. there has to be a starting point to mobilize enough people who care enough about what really amounts to our future on this little pale blue dot spinning through the cosmos.
AWE WONDER Thank you for your comment, I love to look for solutions in this matter that passionates me too...
As Gabor says, we live in a toxic society, which is like a matrix from where most people don't want to escape because they're so used to it and are addicted to it's pay-backs. I believe awakening from this 'Dream of Hell' as Don Juan Ruiz calls the way our society is organized comes from within each one of us first. It's a personal matter to get conscious and it requires guts to go against what we're used to however, all the help one needs is already out there and the rewards are enthralling. Then, everyone who cares enough, like you, can make new choices about the way we give birth (this is where separateness and trauma begins), live and educate children. I believe we could totally turn our world into a 'Dream of Heaven' within 2 decades...
phoenix rising Thanks for your kind reply. I noticed you alluded to Don Juan Ruiz, the author of the "Four Agreements" that book is a treasure trove of wisdom for me.
But once again keeping these concepts and paradigm shifts in the forefront of my consciousness and as you said "the guts to go against what we are used to" is far more difficult than just ingesting the wisdom. It is all in the application. Thanks once more.
AWE WONDER My pleasure. I'm sure you will find a way to walk the talk. xx
Listening to this person is always a joy to me . For some unknown reason his voice alone is compelling. His message is life changing.
Every government and doctor should hear this!!
Word!
But remember that people hear only what they want to hear. Also everyone receives this message through the lenses of their state of awareness, their level of consciousness.
Dr. G.V. is a genius. All my respect to people like him. Real is rare.
Lol implying governments WANT to solve our problems
7 years from then, still timely..
A truly authentic human being......Thank you for your crystal clear insight Gabor Mate'
Absolutely brialliant
Quietly spoken no ego about
True sound words
We need to lead ourselves with wisdom like this, rather than electing twits that are outa range and disassociated
Love it
So agree with your thinking. Bravo Gabor Maté. THANK YOU for standing up and saying what is needed.
To wish more people in positions of expertise and authority could speak publically as Mr. Mate is doing! I am with this man.
We live in a time when the systems, institutions, values and driving motives of global society are "upside down" in terms of how they are being viewed, interpreted and actioned.
Brilliant, ethical, consensus paradigm transcending intellect.... Hurrah for PUBLIC HEROES such as this wonderful man❣
found Gabor Mate when I was looking up information on addiction for a friend. can't believe I missed him for so long. he is someone I have needed for decades. bless him for his integrity.
I am hoping Jordan Peterson fanboys will watch Mate's videos to discover how a real teacher explains difficult complex ideas. No word salad, no obfuscation. Mate supports the content of his lectures with multiple references. You can tell he has done tons of research, whereas Peterson likes to reinterpret the scholarly writing of others in order to make them fit his worldview. Mate, I would love for you to critique more of Peterson's lectures.
He's given me SEVERE PTSD.
I have debilitating paralyzing daily panic attacks.
He raped my soul.
He used me while he needed me
and then discarded me like garbage.
My soul is raped.
When he'd get mad/upset/hurt/whatever:
he'd give me the silent treatment.
REMINDER TO SELF:
Reasons for narcissistic silent treatment:
* Stonewalling
* Gaslighting
* Emotional immaturity
* Lack of interpersonal skill
* Victimhood
* Dysregulation
* Avoidant attachment style
* Doing to me, what was done to him
* Terrified of conflict
* Not knowing any other way
* Fear/panic/anxiety/terror
* Felling incapable/not good enough
* Desperation
* Power over
* Regaining a (false) sense of control
* Punishment
EVEN STILL, regardless of the above,
I miss him and what we had,
our friendship, our connection:
WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING.
But he never really cared about me.
He used me and discarded me.
Replaced me so easily.
Why is she better than me? Why?
What makes her so much more profoundly better than me?
Is he her best friend now?
Or maybe is there even more between them?
Why couldn't he love me like he loves her?
Is there something wrong with me?
Is she just so much better?
He's replaced me with another.
In an instant: just like that.
HE REPLACED ME.
HE SHATTERED MY HEART.
HE RAPED MY SOUL.
I'm all alone and suffering in anguish,
and they are living happily ever after together.
The PTSD and the loneliness and the grief that he's given me...
Makes it so that I can't breathe.
I drowned. I suffocate. I die inside.
I'm in hell with no escape.
NO ESCAPE.
I need him.
I loved him.
He raped my soul:
brutally viciously violently maliciously.
Every night: nightmares.
Every day: panic attacks.
I want to die.
Every morning I wake up in despair,
desperately praying to die.
I can no longer bear the pain.
I could die from the pain of missing my best friend.
He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage.
My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend.
I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing...
I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear.
I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified.
I'm dying inside. My soul is raped.
He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe!
How and when will I ever heal?
God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief,
I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and heal me...
I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough!!!
It's time to be free: in Jesus's name!
I’m giving my life to Jesus! 100%!
ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF:
When you chase a man,
you NEVER get the man,
and you ALWAYS lose yourself!
Gabor is a beautiful authentic soul...master!!
If you seek a Guru then you can find yourself fortunate to claim Dr.Mate in that role for your well being.
Canada needs to invite this man for more talk. Please.
Gabor Maté is Canadian, lucky us
One of the best talks I've heard.
Hmmm woke up from a nap and this just came up on my screen thank you this was meant to be seen and heard
He is a genius, felicitaciones Gabor!..keep going..!
it's must watch, it gave me too many goosebumps; facts and truth ...
Well said, well done.
Love and gratitude 🙏
Got to wonder who doesn’t get this message, 38 down thumbs, really? These people must not like truth.
I was turned onto In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts while in an intensive rehab program. That book helped me release so much self-deprecating behavior and connect my traumas with my addictions and struggles. I remember crying as I read the intro and he explained finding an addict who had passed away, and the state she was in was just heartbreaking. Thank you for what you do. This helps people understand who they are.
great talk
This talk is ever more relevant in 2021.
As always Gabor and also the therapist Antonia are the only people who I ever experienced who just got it they just understand it ( trauma) and listening to this helps me feel like someone out there understands it’s like friend even though I never met Gabor Mate I live on the opposite end of Canada his explanations his words have such a comforting profound affect and I can regain at least a little strength and comfort and solace as someone who lives with the effects of many many traumas he helps me to be able to get through the next 24 hours and so on
For most of us it’s trauma that’s the issue and understanding it and how to learn and move forward instead of feeling trapped and frustrated hopeless has been a blessing over the past year I never thought I would have the courage to work on getting a drivers license or start exploring schooling and training on massage therapy and natural healing as with not shutting down on life anymore the anxieties have decreased the learning and return of the ability to laugh is back Healing trauma helps you find who you are and slowly sometimes it comes in leaps and bounds you become free of what trauma made you believe about life who you are what others are and so on and the behaviour trauma causes to protect yourself with out trying starts to slowly stop as you heal one old belief after another leaves and you don’t find yourself dealing with the same situations the same way you learn how trauma is what causes miss communication and confusion you communicated not as yourself but a traumatized person you saw others not from the perspective of who they are but their trauma ( ie substance users are not nor their substance use they are people with trauma hurting trying to self soothe and when they are doing that they are acting from trauma not who they are ) so stay consistent in getting help for trauma and it eventually does truly work wonders
@@katiehewitt1541 Your response inspires me. Strip the onion layers to the core and then rebuild to the true you. I am on this journey of my truth thanks to Dr Gabor.
Thank you very much Dr Gabor. I listen to your talk with deep respect and joy. You are very brilliant spiritually, humanitarian , authentic and wise talented physician.
We need more people and advanced thinkers and physicians like you.
Sometimes I think that we all are crying for help.
Your talk brings me more awareness and remember my true essence.
He says at about 4:20mins he says human beings' physiology is affected by their relationships. This is very true.
Raw and Real! Love Gabor!
Gabor weaves essential threads of connection with such brilliance and wisdom! 💫❤️🦋💫
A special human being. So glad I found him 🙏🏾
20:00 - Loss of control.
20:41 - “When in Rome, do as the Romans do”.
Perfectly put. “Roman” dating rather than authentic dating and relationships. Just my actual experience. This man sounds like a genius!
A humble man with a genius insight into human nature.
I know that my message may not get to the part of the universe that manifest itself as important, but I know if you listen to this man, if you really bring yourself to the place where ego does not exist, you will see that his words are being given to us, they're like a token or certificate, he is speaking from a place where he wants to give back to the world, and that is where he wants us to meet him.
Such a powerful message. In the right hands the message is all that's needed to cure
Exactly.
Healing leads to growth. In order to heal, you must find the wounds, accept them as wounds, find the cause, understand and forgive, let it go with grace and set yourself free.
A level of freedom that not many get to exoerience, know and level up further.
Proud to be a Canadian :)
'Our gut feelings are not luxuries'
Beautiful said. Never mind truth.
I've got drug addiction problems. The psychiatrist will not be able to see me unless I get clean off drugs which I am trying to do and it's going slow but ok. The problem is, substance misuse is a symptom of my underlying problem, so, stopping taking drugs without finding out the reason I keep relapsing sounds a bit crazy, because I will be vulnerable to other destructive compulsions, if my source of my addiction is not identified. I have no money but I would love to have the opportunity to see mama ayahuasca in my lifetime, so i can share my gifts and talents to benefit the earth before I die.
Yeah i take your point, its the integration of the exerience into your everyday life, but you can't deny the benefit that aya and iboga have done for some really badly addicted people.
Fobile Moan Ayahuasca/Iboga is waiting for you
The person who refused to help you should lose their license.
WTF? U need help with addiction but they say u can't see a shrink unless u get off them? Who the fuck are these braindead assholes that decided this stupidity?
If u get off the drugs then u probably won't need to see a doc then -so what the fuck is the point of them?
Sorry-that just pisses me off. What a bunch of useless "professional" pricks
@@surfinmuso37 Agreed. So ask these bunch of useless 'professional' pricks if they know who Dr Gabor is. If they don't know - then don't waste your time.
WOW! Now I understand myself, much better. As well as the world around me, today, Covid 2020.
Hallellluiaaaa !!! Hallellluuuuuia !!!!That someone finaly spoked about it !! ! & it's so sad that THE MEDICAL WORLD doesen't want to accept that ! That's even worster ! The one that has to cure & hellp the people ...That's why I choose many Years ago ...to go holistic way...& the "Antic Cultures " & thanks GOD That there are people like Dr. Gabor on this side of the World ! THANK's GOD 4 THIS MAN !
As always, Gabor gives the best information ever. I love n admire this incredible, talented person. Professional in every sense! 👋
This amazing man helped me find my way from a dark abyss.
Same.
Like I like to share. We come from an Ecosystem, not a belief system!! ;)
Sooo important! It has to be shown to everyone.
This man is a genius. Everyone should listen to Gabor
pure intellect!
No, he isn't...he tells ppl what they wanna hear.
I love you Gabor❤🌏you make sense. I have a need to make sense of things.
What you seek is seeking you.
Remember this: the brain doesn't differentiate truth from fantasy or fiction. Also we are what we repeatedly do.
This two sentences will change your Life. Contemplate on them. Introspect. All your answers are within you.
Stay blessed.
I’m so thankful I found Gabor Máte. He has helped me so much, on my self healing journey. Thank you, Gabor
After healing the door to growth opens.
Have a nice journey.
Blessed be.
So glad came upon you.
I just understood why my mental health is a mess…
thank you
.....but never believe that everybody is 'wired' for empathy.....most people in power are not.
even politicians where normal humans once, but the side effects from this sick culture is making people do crazy stuff,(rape, murder, mass shootings, war, ...) Basically every human being is good, but circumstances make you into abnormal behaviour) This message is the most important every individual living in this sick industrial, commercial, digital sytem.
yeah mostly due to trauma though, that's when their wiring got messed up. there probably are however also those born psychopaths. but never forget trauma!
No they are, it’s just that the capitalist/fascist economic system turns them into narcissists who lack empathy. No one is born a narcissist/psychopath
@@ObjectiveMedia what evidence do you have that no-one is born a psychopath? all i'm going off is a comment a psychology teacher of mine said which was that (extremely rarely) some people are born with terrible combinations of an incapacity to empathise with other's experience, violent temperaments, super low emotional regulation, and it predisposes them to have a super high chance of being clinically psychopathic. but i don't know! do you? i'm interested and have no strong opinion, i'll go with the facts as they fall :)
They are born with it, it gets trained out
Now that I am aware, I am looking for the pieces that take the knowledge and make it applicable to specifically to healing the broken system. Multiple early childhood traumas impacted/changed my brain physiology, and now I'm aware. What resources, TH-cam channels, movements help guide the movement through restoration and healing?
Excellent Bionneers all natrural
Ty God for you you helped me so much you made me feel better about myself
Thank you!Dr.Gabor
Protect him at all costs
Thank you.
Gabore is one of a kind who goes beyond just taking out his presciption pad and dispensing more medication. As if doing that can undo years of discomfort, or sadness. Gabor tells the truth as it is.
Please investigate a resource based economy.
Frank Flores LOL I love that..."Money Is Over"
I love the woman tearing up at the end. She's wired for compassion.
“Im a physician not a physicist. Im not that smart” LOL
…and then he moves the microphone away from his mouth.
😅
Thank You
! 1# !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry 4 my lack of compassion 4 MYself... My sons, my Family... my indigenous Families.... My world....... the spirituaL realms ... which make up my essence and existence ..........in a sorrowful world.................
I am honored to Learn of myself, able to forgive, live,and able to NOW hear someone as gifted as Gabor... to Be the Change ........ for the betterment of All !!!!.............amR.....Lila ...
Welcome to Turtle island !!! blessings 4 Gabor and his Family .... for sharing him with us ...honors... respects..............!!!!.
Maté is a Maverick physician.
Conventional medical paradigms treat body parts & organs as if each suspended in isolation in a vacuum. A pattern recognition system sustained by BIG PHARMA. Some "public sick care" is available offering "free" passage to the chronic illness ferris wheel; healthcare must be funded by the individual. Conscious Parenting is critical to health maintenanance.
Common sense is uncommon. Institutions are immune to new knowledge.
"Conscious Parenting". Thank you for that term.
You give me hope Gabor
This is still so relevant
It's so interesting listening to Gabor talk about the impact of environmental stress on human development and well being without mentioning any genetic factors minutes after listening to a leading geneticist talk about the impact of heritability on life outcomes without mentioning environment. My instinctive sympathy is with Gabor as a leftie as childhood stress and trauma is obviously a huge factor but the stark contrasts in their world views after years of studying the same phenomena is baffling
Thank God for Dr. Mate!
incredible, that one man can be so compassionate and heals people with his words, Dr Gabor, I hope you live too 140 years old, and another creep, can become the president of the United States, and vomits all over the planet with his words, and cause so much harm
keep sharing your energy Dr Gabor
I need more talk like this please
Curious Gal are those ancient dildos?
Wow!
#Capitalism demands we blame the victim and deny shared responsibility because.. #profit. That's why we bailed out the banks and not it's victims. That's why we prosecute terrorist but industrial accidents / negligence w/more victims don't get treated w/the same outrage.
The only banks that get bailed out are part of the fake capitalists who are operating under socialism for them but not for you and me who don't get bailed out...You blame capitalism but you are really looking at socialist corporations pretending to be capitalists so as to sabotage capitalism!
@@MGTOWPsyche 🤨
@@DerekFullerWhoIsGovt never notice how certain large corporation can murder and pollute and steal with minimal consequences, while a small business can't do anything it wants and is punished very hard if it slips up or makes one mistake?
He is so good !
Thanks
Genius
The new Carl Jung.
No?
Bozhidar Yordanov Yes?
Yes. :)
NO, there is only one Carl Jung. GM is an imposter.
Thankyou Gabor Mate and genius thinkers and individualistic artists who think realistically.-Clancy Imislund (Hitler)puts down people who don't look the way he would like them to look.He's "old school 1958 when He got sober
The only question that remains is: how to survive in a toxic environment with least possible impact on psyche and health, not only of the childhood but continuing into every day adulthood, as changing it is hard to impossible and in most cases implies a collective effort. It would be great if we could be taught that.
his solution is so simple.... and yet.. SO DIFFICULT.
Social Anxiety ruined my life. It was only when I took medication that I got my life back
had social anxiety since I was a teenager. Turned into severe depression and anxiety in my 30s.
I found Trauma release exercises about 5year's ago. Changed my life, been meds free for 4 years now.
I am seriously ill and I am DESPERATE to get well and don't know how?
21:30
Dr. Gabor Mate on FOUR types of alienations of man (in modern, competitive and materialistic culture) from 1. Man, 2. Nature, 3. God and 4. Self (according to Karl Marx) leading to the loss of meaning in life (Learning to Reconnect is vital to regain authenticity and self-actualization):
Wow! Starting 20:00 it’s so much great information
I'm very curious as to what the reasons were for the 5 "thumbs down".
+Keb They would be advocates of mainstream medicine
He's extraordinary
Amazing!!!!
awesome
What an amazing soul