Dr. Gabor Maté: The Myth of Normal & The Power of Connection | Wholehearted
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- The Myth of Normal & The Power of Connection | Featuring Dr. Gabor Maté
Dr. Gabor Maté, the world-renowned physician, human development expert, and bestselling author, is known not only for his groundbreaking discoveries about health and illness, but also for his ability to explain his findings in simple and accessible ways. Is this flagship presentation Gabor covers the primary themes in his latest book, The Myth of Normal, and connects the dots between trauma, science, medicine, and spirituality.
ADHD, cancer, multiple sclerosis, chronic anxiety: all of these conditions may have connections to a society that fails to meet the basic needs of human beings. A cycle that Dr. Gabor Maté and Wholehearted want to help break.
The Power of Connection & The Myth of Normal was lovingly crafted by Wholehearted.org in support of Dr. Gabor Maté’s core message: HEALING IS POSSIBLE.
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The Myth of Normal is a magnum opus of exploration that deepens our understanding of our minds, bodies, spirit and the origin of disease. The long awaited book has caused a tidal wave through the medical community by bringing to light the true causes of so many conditions and struggles that were previously unknown or misunderstood by even the most credited doctors and scientists.
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As a nanny, I used to walk my child in his buggy to a place every day. On the way as we reached the top of the hill, I would point out certain things as we passed them and make the appropriate noises where needed. One day I just forgot this, and the little boy turned around at looked at me as if prompting me. It made me realise that he was listening to me all this time, and I wasn't just talking into thin air.
I could listen to Dr Gabor all day, every day because it's like listening to my soul speaking. I know what he is saying is true deep down in the core of my being.
You have articulated it so well!
So true, I feel the same.
I do everyday when getting ready and cooking. Has changed my outlook on my parenting and has made me a more compassionate woman overall
That is really astonishing to listen to your soul , wow
Same
12 years without a drink, and 22 months clean from opioid abuse after a tough surgery. I ran for so long from my childhood trauma and simultaneously lived inside of it. After being misdiagnosed bipolar, I am off all psychiatric medication. This isn’t a path for everyone and I’m grateful for the medication, it helped me when I needed it most. I worked closely with my therapist and my psychiatrist to wean off. It’s opened space for me to process the trauma from my past. I’m learning my why and I couldn’t have understood that without listening to Gabor Mate’s talks.
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My thyroid healed when I started meditating. It's a longer story than that. This guy is gold.
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What’s your story?
@@hildaamethyst528 Look up Joe Dispenza.
You needed him to start meditating (scratches head)...
@@robynhope219 your response makes zero sense.
I'm a preschool teacher. I agree one hundred percent with what you say. Thank you, thank you!! Young children thrive and develop in a loving, nurturing environment where they feel safe and connected with their primary care giver. You've confirmed what my heart and experience has shown me. God bless you.
I'm starting to rediscover connection with my fellow humans and my higher power through AA. 7 days sober. I've been watching a lot off this man's speeches and it helps me understand how I became so broken. I'm working to change my ways so that I can have more meaningful and lasting connections. My mind and body are not used to this so I see it as stressful. I never want to drink again. One day at a time.
Edit: Now 10 months sober. Thanks everyone for the kind words.
I hope you're doing well
Take care!
I'm excited for you. I was broken and a slop-show when I was drinking. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO CONTROL what has been controlling you! I suggest a video called Pleasure Unwoven... it helped me understand the physiological and biological aspects of addiction. I'm eight years sober and I thank our creator, YHWH (YAHUA) and his son, Yahusha for removing my sickness from me.
You got this! Introspection is powerful as long as you learn from your past
I can relate to what you’re saying about connections being stressful. The whole dealing. I’m glad you got help and is better understanding yourself
This is one of the most amazing talks I've ever heard. I studied 4 years of psychology and we were not taught like this. It's only after studying sociology and then through my own consumption of research on trauma that I found out even a hint of what this guy is saying. This is it.
You might feel inspired to read "The Continuum Concept'" by Jean Liedloff. She explained much of this (and more) very eloquently 50 years ago. It's an astonishing read.
Isn’t it just mind blowing how little information we’re exposed to, even those of us who have graduated with a bachelors or masters or even a PhD
I have two masters & I had to seek out for myself the information that interested me (connected to a topic I was studying) bc for as “liberal” as universities are, there is most certainly a “knowledge filter” that exists & far too few professors who are willing to share it with their students
Once a critical mass of people believe these truths and begin to act on them our world can change I Believe. Thank you for your courage and wisdom. The world needs more of your teaching if we are to survive as a human race.
Imagine the world if everyone took some time to read this thing.
This man has a powerful message for all of us. We have literally become sick on a global basis, cause we hold onto negative beliefes and emotions about us, the others, and about life itself. But as I can see, more and more people are healing and asking important questions, and people like Gabor Maté are acting as healers and facilitaters for this importan evolution of human consciousnes. I cannot express how grateful and lucky I feel, because the powerful message of Dr. Maté has transformed me already.
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I'm reading this book the myth of normal. I have wept reading it cus I can feel my own trauma releasing as I go through it. His wisdom, depth and courage moves people. Thank you Universe for delivering Dr Mate to us after 13.8 billion years
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the trouble is, that the more connected I am with others, the more stressed I am! People have a tendency to be at odds with one another all the time.
The cogency, compassion and brilliance of this man is phenomenal. The sheer breadth and scope of the picture he is painting is breathtaking.
Absolutely! He has so much to say and has such a way of making complicated ideas simple.
I love what he is saying also. I am in Houston, Texas. Where are you?
Agreed!
@@joeldwest I believe that they are in California. Gabor Mate lives in Canada.
What an honour to hear world’s greatest and beloved teacher Gabor mentioning my city and country Nairobi Kenya 🥰.
can't unsee what he sais now whenever I see a pram!
me too. This guy is my Hero
How lucky we are that this seeming "voice crying in the wilderness" is actually pointing to the answer to the way the world is now, a world and a life that most would agree is pathologically sick. There ARE reasons for that. . And there ARE solutions. Thank you for being with us, Dr. Gabor Mate. In my 80 years on this planet, I have never heard anyone enunciate the truth of our human life as clearly as this man does. He knows whereof he speaks! THank you, thank you, thank you! I'm glad I've lived long enough to know this person! At last, at last! There's hope for us all if we do our individual part of being true to ourselves.
Beautiful expression!! I am glad I read your comment.
As ALWAYS, Gabor nails it all across the board.
Gabor Maté MD is the most brilliant doctor on the planet and I consider him to be a trauma shaman.
I wish everyone would listen to him and read his books for a true and deep understanding of who we are and what we need to do in order to heal our broken disconnected society.
Thank you. Dear Gabor, for your wonderfully thoughtful and helpful work. Just listening to you is pure therapy. ❤🙏
I also had come to the conclusion that our culture is killing us, but you just doubled the depth of my understanding. Thank YOU again
Wow Dr. Maté! This is eye opening and explains why 30 years of suppressing my emotions and desperately seeking connection with my ex-husband while keeping it secret resulted in my breast cancer diagnosis (with no family history). It also explains that the stress I endured during my pregnancy from my husband coming home and telling me “he wasn’t happy” while I was pregnant resulted 3 miscarriages and in my son’s asthma (no family history) diagnosis. But there is no one to blame he (ex-husband) was a victim punished as a child for expressing his emotions by his parents. This is the generational curse spoken about in the Bible but this cycle stops with me.
Spoken in the bible? Wasn’t it God himself that allowed all these craziness?
God is LOVE, He doesn't allow these things, He allows free will without interfering unless you ask Him to ( prayer).
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,970 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Hi @nathananderson8720, thank you for sharing about your journey, it puts a big smile on face. I hope you continue to grow and share! ~AJ
@@WholeheartedPublishing Thank you!
What I really focus on is the value of the content and what I’m truly passionate about while helping others! I'm glad that I'm foolish enough to believe that I can actually start making money through my passions. I've never thought that I'd be able to gain 1K subs faster. I can't imagine how many opportunities could have been wasted if I didn't have courage to go after them. That includes having this channel, being in a management role, having the people who actually care about me for who I am, freelance gigs, being an ambassador in a creative community and now I'm also planning on honing my public speaking skills through joining a toastmaster club and these all happened in 2023. It started with writing them all down on a piece of paper. A paper that serves as a reminder for me to go after what I want even through hard times. I'm not bragging about my accomplishments but simply hoping that this message can also inspire others to believe in themselves.
My GI asked me all those questions, we did an endoscopy and found nothing wrong with me internally. It was all just high and intense stress and anxiety that was destroying me. During that time I was getting triggered as well and seeing myself regress into a child when the events in my life was occurring. It was all just anxiety and stress killing me, making my body throw up food, not have an appetite, choking on every thing I consumed.
Thank you Dr Mate. 'Safety is not a lack of threat, it is the presence of connection. ... [ref Australian study] If a woman is stressed and emotionally isolated the risk of a breast lump being cancerous is 9 times greater than average. I would love to know the stats on single mothers, and single mothers who've left abusive relationships in particular. Also, when we know or have a sense of the why , then what? In terms of creating the environment where our kids can heal, when we are so broken and depleted.
My biggest takeaway is that the physical and mental self are inseparable and that's why stress leads to sickness. Especially unresolved childhood trauma, which leads to health problems in adulthood. #wholehearted so glad I discovered this Dr🤗 at a time where I'm experiencing many issues with my health.
I never get sick and was abused as a kid. So I think there is another angle , in addition to the one presented here where childhood trauma causes physical sickness when older _ it does but not for everybody. ( I think it does when your more nuerotypical and had some good enough parenting,) I had psychopaths for parents. What I figure is that I ran out of cortisol because my mast cells (20000 cells above normal when stressed) mopped up the excess cortisol because it was killing my prefrontal cortex when I was an abandoned baby _ mom went crazy from giving birth and abusive family and abusive neighbours. ( Rosemary baby situation,). When I'm stressed I break out in a rash and I need cortisol cream cause I'm all out of cortisol. The baby abuse shut down my cortisol so my brain wouldnt die - my brain knew it needed to stay alive for me to survive.Everybodies body is different when it comes to stress_ our healings from childhood woundings is a individual journey.
I want to virtually hug this human. Very well put perspectives.
He is compassionate, insightful & so humane. ❤
Waw finally the human with a big H. Compassonate, full of understanding and Who face everybody with the reality and the problems in our Society....I love him realy. Finnaly somebody Who realy gets to the core and the roots of the problem!!!! And describes how to deal with it and gives the answers!!! He is the emotion and understandable father which I didn't had❤
My favorite presentation of Gabor Maté.
Glad you liked it!
Such an impactful presentation. My biggest takeaway was that we need to be looking at everything as a whole. It goes beyond just ourselves, but our surroundings and environment. Having recently been diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder myself, this gives me hope that I will be able to find avenues to help heal myself. Thank you so much for this!
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Thank you for sharing. We're so happy to see Gabor's efforts to uncover the true causes of autoimmune disorders and other conditions FINALLY getting more mainstream recognition. Good luck in your healing journey, you got this!
@@WholeheartedPublishing Thank you so much for spreading the word! :D You guys are doing great work!
Wow! This is the best thing I’ve seen from Gabor! He never ceases to amaze
Agreed, some people have a profound ability to see truth. Gabor is certainly one of them.
This is so correct in that we have followed a distorted power and money hungry reality. ❤It's stressed us out, broken our connections. I'm following a spiritual journey and no longer a human construct. But, that only could happen because I withdrew from the human construct early as I saw death coming. First, of the soul then of the body which was breaking in front of me completely. My spirit has driven a health and joy regardless of the people being stressed and addicted around me. I want to share my spiritual journey. Peace and love to anyone reading this.❤
Thank you, Dr. Mate, finally for entering my sad life as it approaches its end. I would get down on my hands and my knees and worship you if I could. I don't believe in God or in anything but dear Heaven and God bless you all of your days on this earth and eternally beyond.
Sending you love 💕 You are not alone!
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Oh! Thank YOU for that amazing talk. I grew up in total dysfunction and have some of these conditions, which I was willing to take the blame for myself. But thanks to committed people like you I am learning and growing. I am about your age but haven't been able to accomplish much in my life. Learning the importance of connection is helping me understand myself better, but Im still resisting the connections I need so badly.
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Bless you. If I may..? As a person who also has had a difficult time connecting with humans--first and foremost I would advise getting out in nature as often as you can. We make connections with all members of the life community on this planet. When you find your connection to Earth and the Earth community, it is easier to take the ups and downs of human connections. Also, read lots of books about varied people and their experiences. This helps. Again, bless you. You are not alone.
The whole world ought to be paying attention to Dr. Gabor Mate’. He’s one of the few, next to Dr. Peter Breggin and Dr. David M. Allen, that the world needs to hear. They know the reality of what’s happening and it’s NOT inherited.
57:26 nailed it!!
When asking myself what the need of this presentation is, I instantly came to the understanding that its to help create connection. To be an attuned, conscious inhabiters of this Earth. I then wanted to comment and say thank you for your work Dr. Mate but after hearing your talk I want to say thank you for taking the time to be with the why and create dialogue around human nature. This constant action to do instead of be with has driven us away from our needs and ultimately our nature. I love how you adopt a curious mindset that looks at the whole picture rather than the action piece alone. I will continue to bring the why into my work as a therapist to better understand the needs of my clients. #wholehearted
Gabor's discussions on human nature are so fascinating as they reveal just how far society has come from fulfilling most humans' basic needs.
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My takeaway #wholehearted : As a hopeful mum-to-be, I was drawn to Dr. Maté's simple explanation of attachment and his message about the importance of early intervention and action. It was put frankly that our indigenous knowledge and the knowledge of our ancestors is paramount to our own healing and wellbeing. We should take heed of our current insular world and the role technology is playing in disrupting an age-old experience of childhood and development. His use of common every-day examples, i.e. a parent pushing a child in a buggy while using his phone contrasted to the mum carrying her baby providing very different experiences for the child, were impactful and relatable. This talk and its many other takeaways have left plenty of food for thought.
Definitely, his comparisons between our modern parenting conventions and those of other civilizations is very interesting and educational!
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I adore Dr. Maté and his teachings
Gabor Maté newest book with his son & talks like this & Diederik Wolsak Choose again Book, talks & healing system have given me more insight into my own inner world & everything connected & how to heal myself then years with mental health Counselors, Psychologist etc. I am super grateful to both of the above mentioned men....their own Healing Journey & their sharing has helped sooo many people.
You are right about the myth of normal . When facing all of the ruin of our society better staying away from it .
probably the most powerful thing i've listened to in a very long time. This is what the internet was created for - to inspire, empower, inform and educate. Dr Maté's words do all of that. His candidness about his own failings and experiences lend weight to what he is saying. Very well articulated.
I benefited from the worst and best things that happened to me. Only because I got my feelings back my ability to feel I was able to heal from those horrible things, to have my mind for me.
Absolutely gripping!! Dr Gabor connects the dots between social, psychological and spiritual dimensions in such a flawless manner. Loved it wholeheartedly!!!
We can all transform and wake up to our true nature! Thanks Gabor. #wholehearted
Magnificent to see so many gathered to be open to learning to become best versions of themselves. CONNECTION.
#Wholehearted Dr. Maté is asking the right questions… he’s evolving in his spirit and willing to now recognize the spiritual aspect of human beings. His questions are leading him to greater discoveries in human behavior. As Christians, we know this- our nature is derived from God. We are created in the image and likeness of our Creator. Science is finally catching up! And that’s an awesome thing! God created science 🧪 🌎💫✨
A big part of the separation of humanity today is due to a need to be part of a faction that acclaims to have the “True” creation myth instead of coming together in our shared humanity.
I doubt you've read the bible. The biblical 'god' is a monster.
Wow! Very informative. This made my day and happy to discover Dr. Gabor Maté. Thank you very much.
I have been going through a hellish life for the last 16 years of my life as I am getting targeted persistently 24x7 in an unprecedented way by the highly corrupt people, as I am speaking the truth and criticizing their tons of unstoppable advanced criminal acts all these years.
Satyameva Jayate.
This man is so wise. I’m 30 and have lived with multiple sclerosis since I was 13, after an extremely abusive, neglectful and stressful childhood left me devoid of any love, connection and authenticity. When I was in the hospital bed at that young age of 13, I sensed something was very wrong, but I didn’t have the words to describe what it was I felt. No one could tell me why it had happened, and I was of course told there was no cure and I was doomed for a life of paralysis, but I never gave up on myself. It’s been a rough 17 years, but I can thankfully say I am still fully able bodied, with a sharp mind to boot. Gabor nailed it when he said we are bio, psycho, social and spiritual beings, and all four of those areas need to be met in order to cultivate health. He has put words to what I intuited, and has led me to a life no one ever thought possible. I am so grateful for this all he has done and continues to do.
The most valuable and important lecture I've seen in my entire life, it clicked and my life has a meaningful and clear understanding now. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate.
❤ that's an a amazing jump in illness in a very short time
My daughter was born into a highly addicted and traumatized family but with the help of lots of therapy and intuition we nurtured her into a healthy human being who can express her feelings and needs and does not have to suppress them with drugs. Nurture does it.
Everyone deserves love and support. Take time to cultivate relationships and stop blaming. I’m thankful and grateful to God for Dr. Gabor Mate and the work he does and the Word of God and all the wonderful people that have come into my life and have taught me more on how to be a better person despite my flaws. KEEP ROCKIN’!! AND BE THE BEST OF WHO YOU ARE!! Even though I don’t know any of you in this community, I love you and may God bless you all abundantly. ❤️🤗
🕊🕊🕊❤️❤️❤️ I admire this MAN ... INCREDIBLE.. AUTHENTIC.. TRULY EVOLVED!!
READ HIS WORKS.. LISTENING TOUCHES ONE'S HEART!!
I found this one of Gabor's most helpful lectures. He has made an amazing contribution to our understanding of our inner worlds but this is some of his best work.
Thank you. Producing and crafting this talk was a significant undertaking. We believe this is the best overview of Gabor's work, and we're honored to have created it. His work deserves the time and effort involved in producing this. Wholehearted absorbed the cost so that we can distribute it freely. This is our contribution to sharing Gabor's work with the world. Please explore our other videos featuring Gabor Maté and other thought leaders in this field.
Thank you so much for sharing this video. I feel very grateful for having an opportunity to hear it.
@michaels.5778 You're very welcome. Producing this presentation was a lot of effort and expense. The free distribution of this is our way of giving back. - The Wholehearted Publishing Team
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society” Krishnamurti
“Herb is the saving of a nation, alcohol the destruction” Bob Marley
Spot on ………society definitely needs to change back to basics. Caring / nurturing for the wider community is key. I feel for the children of today who lack the necessary attachment once a given.
I am thinking the increased number of diagnosed cases of adhd and anxiety can also be caused by the increased awarness for mental health in general in the latest years. More people are adressing to the mental health specialists than before
Possibly, it’s a chicken & egg situation. Which came first?
And increase in profits for pharma
I think that perspective might be missing the larger point; at least according to Gabor. His point is that too many people are being diagnosed with conditions in order for us to have a functioning society. These conditions are a result of a society that does not meet many people's basic needs, all while society still produces incredible benefits. There are many conflicting qualities within ourselves and society. He starts out the special explaining how he has internal contradictions within himself, and that those dynamics exist in relationships, families, communities, and society as a whole. We use the term Wholehearted, as shorthand for integration or coming together of those conflicting parts. :)
The message I believe is stress is what is making these mental disorders become prevalent, he quotes a Harvard Pediatric Study of Infant’s urine of pregnant mothers during 9/11 were studied and the findings of higher stress hormones such as cortisol are prevalent in these infants and these higher dosages of stress hormones are making people sick.
I can’t wait to read this latest offering.
I had a doctor in high school that asked me those questions and asked if I might be depressed. At the time I was still in denial.
Dr Mate, you truly are a physician for mankind. Thank you
It takes a village. Thank you for your video
You're welcome. Thank you for taking the time to watch and leave us a comment :)
The national product in Nepal is measured in happiness. I don’t know how this affects their health , I bet they are pretty healthy. Wonderful teaching . Thank you.
Dr. Mate, I have heard your story about your wife not picking you up at the airport and it hurts every time, I can feel your pain, to the point that I cannot agree with you and what you say about this. I wonder if your wife has said, "I am so sorry, time flew and I didn't realize, I'm late do you still want me to come and pick you up? I can leave right now!" Because to me it makes a huge difference, and I don't think it's ok to just handle it in such a nonchalant way. It just doesn't feel good, is perhaps the culture we have become. What do you say? I experience the same thing over and over as you may have imagined. Just that for instance, my husband back then when something like that happened, wouldn't care and will go without talking to me for even years... same with other members of my family. So to me is totally a case of adding insult to injury.
I agree.
Growing up in military families causes detachment from the roots of family. I never knew my grandparents or relatives.
This is probably by design. We moved every 2-4 years my entire life. You make friends and have to leave them behind again and again.
So powerful!! Thank you Gabor Mate I always come away from listening to you inspired hopeful and comforted!!
This is good; "diagnosis is a description" I think this is much healthier and safer than working from the dsm
Thank you doctor Gabor and the people that made this speech possible, it reminded me once more about the importance that an individual can have when explaining important questions of todays society on the best path of development that has been known for a long time, spread love and kindness to others so they get to heal themselves
Encore et encore Merci ! Dr Maté ☆♡☆
Congrats Dr Gabor, Thank you so much. for sharing your Your remarkable views on the complex nature along the healing journey, such as been viewed as a complex Social Traumas. Coming from someone that has learned to grow from her persistents daily trauma by having won a comatose state, due to a car accident, I thank you for such insighful tips by keeping us concerned on how we can evolve our studies, concerning, this rising ''Global Human issue''!
Amazing talk, this cemented so much of what I know about stress and trauma contributing to chronic autoimmune development. It certainly played a big part for me and it wasn't until I addressed this side of things that I was able to fully recover my health. It also opened my eyes to so many new areas that I can't wait to dig deeper into. #wholehearted
Thank you Gabor.
Thank you for sharing the art pieces. I’ve never seen them before. I feel it really made the point. 💞
You're welcome. You can see more of Rae's art at her website www.raemate.com. When we designed the set, we really wanted art in the background. Rae was gracious enough to let us use one of her pieces. She painted these decades ago. Rae sent us digital versions, and we enlarged and enhanced the images and printed them for the production. I (AJ), built the frames and my best friend and I stretched and stapled the canvas to them. A worthwhile effort to provide a beautiful background to Gabor's powerful message.
Both my parents lived through German occupation, both lost one parent early, and both had severe emotional disorders. They should never have children, in my view.
I'm sure they loved me, but not enough, and only recently, thanks to Dr Maté's teaching, I started to understand why.
But I lost my life as surely as if I was never born. I I am loved and needed as mother and grandmother, but I don't it. The pain of this lack of feeling is unbearable most of the time, and if I allow myself to think about it, I fear for my life. I do love my family too much to do anything rash. But the unhappiness kills me slowly and I'm losing the will to stay healthy.
At least Dr Mate made me understand why I am this way, and at least I don't blame or judge myself.
I love Dr. Mate talks. There are so many takeaways: pathologies are manifestations of life and western medicine separates the mind from the body. Both validated ACEs #wholhearted
Absolutely! We have another free Gabor video specifically on ACEs if you're interested in the topic: www.wholehearted.org/title/adverse-childhood-experiences/
Very wise and helpful words from Dr Mate: Rather than looking at diagnosing disease, conditions or behaviours [only], "Why don't we look at the nature of human beings? What conditions are needed for the healthy development of human beings?"
This is similar to educator Maria Montessori's philosophy, materials and methods related to children's learning -- create the right environment for children to learn and they will learn and grow in healthy ways that are unique to their personalities, needs, etc. The teacher then becomes more of a guide and a facilitator, rather than someone who is depended on and who supposedly knows all the answers.
So, like he said, 70+ years later, and he still has that problem of feeling like the abandoned infant which leads to fights in the marriage. So my question is: once we've identified the root of that behavior or coping mechanism, then how do we FIX it, how do we RESOLVE it? I don't want to be 70 years old and still acting out these same unconscious detrimental patterns...
Yeah, he won't tell u that bc he is NOT a fixer..only a victim. Go to Dr. Bessel van der Kolk for fixes.
I also have adhd plus cptsd. So I'm going to come back to the rest of this talk. However, I have to say, even at this point. I'm fascinated and in complete agreement.
Thank you for the insights Dr. I am suffering autoimmune condition and I can vouch that it is due to lack of true connection.
My daughter asked me, what this man is talking about. I said: He says, that we human beings need to learn something. We need to connect to mother earth again. We need to respect her, love her. Protect her. She said: Are you mother earth, too? I said: Yes.
So grateful for Dr. Mate❤
So happy you survived and became what you are Gabor. We ALL benefit. ☮️
I ❤ Dr Mate through his teachings,and authenticity,I have learned to love and accept myself as I really am. It has been a long journey of retrospection to finally start my healing ❤️🩹 and enjoy Life in me as I really am 😊!!!!
It was so interesting & educational just listening to you. Thank you Dr. Gabor. God bless you for sharing your knowledge & experiences in such a humble manner.😇
This is so much knowledge.
Powerful
I love it. He has very good insight in human nature
and really makes it easier for us to understand things. The only thing that I find missing is the solution, what do we do after understanding and reaching that level of consciousness, how do we cope with?
Psilocybin.
After awareness you then need to reset the mind and body and release stuck emotions.
❤ Thank you ❤
Such a powerful talk. Thank you.
This is a must read.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Absolutely blown away by this presentation and aligns with my thoughts 🕉️❤️☯️🙏😊
Bless you. Powerful talk.
So enlightening...thank you
Thanks for You Maté Gábor ❤🦋❤
Thank you. This really resonates with me.
thank you will all of my heart!
Wow! Thank you again for making this wisdom accessible for all of us! So mich of your work influences my work and so it is passed on continuously. Deep gratitude 🙏🏼 ❤
Admiration shared with Deep Respect... incredible research.. experience.. authentic TRUTH... HEALS..
“It's not behavior defined our nature， but the needs defined our nature.” -Dr. Mate. 17：01 .
Very rightly mentioned.. labeling everything pathologically is really impacting the life even further in weeker direction...
He is phenomenal, bringing up the black community and race as warm/inclusive about it that makes the subject so much more interesting like there’s something to look forward to connection and sharing so simple and yet the west is so adamant about division and toxicities what a dump
I respect the life changing perspective he brings to me….what is challenging is there isn’t information oh how to make changes .
There are 7 more episodes. This is just the first episode :). The rest of the series is available at Wholehearted.org
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Thank you!