Podcast 16 : returning to Paris, dealing with a narcissist & Jean's birthday
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You have a lovely vibe…we could chat all day🤣…the light shines around you🤗
Narcissists will punch you in the face and maintain they love you and it is for your own good.
Thank you for sharing about the narcissists in your life. More people need to know about these narcissists.
WHOA--beautiful advent calendar!!!! I 1000% agree with your frustrations of putting so much effort into community and not getting that same effort back--so hard!
Self confidence is definitely the key to being able to say "peace out" when dealing with, not just narcissists, but manipulators in general. I think it's like having that ultimate inner peace regardless of the circumstances. It's been a long, hard lesson for me because I'm in a toxic work situation with multiple individuals that display those exact characteristics you describe. But I realized that I shouldn't have to leave my job that I love because of manipulative people.....I'd much rather stick around and let my mere presence and smile annoy them every single day! 😂
YES inner peace ! Happiness and confidence are for sure the keys to not allowing other peoples poor behaviour to affect you
I think these long podcasts are super nice.
Thanks for answering my question!! Love your videos, especially your podcasts! ❤
You seem lovely, Arielle. Wish I had a friend like you.
I remember the Christmas Market video with cute Jean, who was just a friend 😊
I need to show him this comment right now 😂 he refers back to “just friends” all the time haha
I know you kept referring to things being above and beyond. It totally baffled my brain that the lack of common courtesy, morals, or any kind of value is becoming more and more obsolete in today's world. I find my self cherishing those people with those same morals and values so much more these days ❤️
Ariel, ❤Bonjour, great podcast; welcome “home.” I so agree and don’t understand the lack of gratitude expressed today or people not living up to their word. If I say I’m bringing wine; I’m bringing wine. And always call, text or handwrite a real Thank you! I don’t understand. I know people are busy, we all are; and yes sometimes life happens, you get ill etc. However lately communication seems so laissez-faire. It’s truly quite sad. Speaking of gratitude. Thank YOU for such fun, informative and sincere content. Love your videos in Paris & getting margaritas! God bless you (& Jean. 🥳Happy 29th Jean!) in the New Year. Looking forward to seeing & learning more. Bonsoir! ❤
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Yay a walk around I'm so excited to see! will you see Notre Dame?
yess !! ☺️☺️
My experience of parties in Paris & elsewhere in France, starting in my 20s when I married a Parisian guy, is that they fall into 2 categories. The first is the cocktail parties with champagne to begin , perhaps whiskey 🤮, and charcuterie. They last about an hour & 1/2.
The 2nd is dinner parties, which means sitting around a dinner table with 4-10 guests. They last at least 3 hours & begin with champagne. I’ve found it’s unusual for people to bring anything because in their heads, they’ve been invited. I hosted a dinner party last year on the Provençal coast. No one brought anything, nor did I expect that. It’s weird for me as an American, but it’s such a different culture. The only expectation is that the guests will host you at some point.
The other thing is that some people are introverts. Even when I was in college and law school, I never stayed at parties past 10 pm because I like to go to bed early & find long parties to be stressful. Most people thought I was kind of weird for that. 🤷🏼♀️
I find that so bizarre 😭 perhaps it is a culture shock… to me a party can be an apéro with drinks and games and conversation followed by a sit down dinner and dessert standing… idk… but they don’t have to be mutually exclusive 😂 i think i would be less ticked off about people leaving early if they had at least arrived on time 😂😛
I felt that this time in Crete , you filmed very little
A little bit your friend
But nothing about his wife
Yet the first time you could not stop talking about her
So I wondered whether she became jealous of you being close to her husband
It would have definitely spoiled your time there
Thanks to Sophie and her family
You still enjoyed your stay 🤗🌸🌸
It might be just my imagination
Imagining 🙂
Nooo silke has the biggest heart, she is very maternal towards me - she was the one who actually drove 2h to pick me up from the airport when I arrived 😉
I am sorry 🎄💫
I share your thoughts on snow around the holidays! It is my last Christmas in NYC and I’m sooo hoping for snow! It has barely snowed here the last few winters
Can you show Norte Dame Christmas market please.
Sorry for the unfortunate event on Kreta😢.It sucs when you learn,you do not know the person at all. The Party gests are out of this world,when someone invites you,the least you can do is to bring something and stay at least 2-3hours.
Thank you for not making me feel crazy 😂🥲
@@Getthemargarita you're welcome 😃
Wow I’ve never invited people over for an apéro or dinner party and had people bring nothing ! It’s more often the opposite….they bring too much and I feel obliged to put everything out ! It was the same when I lived in Madrid, Paris and now in Marseille. Maybe because I’m older than you….so different generation ? Same goes for holiday meals and festivities….it’s a big deal here with my French in laws. One can only speak from their own experiences though and you are very young.
Someday in the future you will look back at things you post and say and get a good chuckle about your comments on feeling you are “aging “
Were there more guys at the party than girls? Cause could see them being more clueless…maybe next time (and there will be a next time) just tell them what to bring. And reinforce that you are counting on them. Think of it as a teaching moment for them. 😉
Ahhh so frustrating lol I wish you had kept it all to yourself until you’re ready to share the whole story. ❤
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You should move to Greece!!
I need to learn Greek first 🥲😂
i am so sorry about your experience in Crete. i have my suspicions but i am not asking. my heart just breaks that you were used and betrayed by someone you cared for and trusted who did not deserve you. Regarding your party expectations --maybe you are learning that you dont enjoy hosting as much as you thought. i am from the US and would not dream of showing up empty handed or not saying thank you for a gift. in fact at a birthday party it is customary to bring a gift. i can only guess that maybe its a cultural difference. i too would feel vested in the idea that to enjoy hosting you at least want people to enjoy the party that to me would be the biggest disappointment and enough for me to consider carefully whether and whom i want to host. perhaps you could introduce your french friends to the american concept of what we call a potluck ;). sometimes the host even makes a list for people to sign up for what they will bring (you give up control, but make your expectations clear, and also dont end up with 65 bags of chips)
Who shows up empty handed?! So bizarre. Also, I have many years on you and I have had to tone down my hosting efforts for all the reasons you stated. We only have so much time in a day and I don’t want to feel like my time was not well used. Hard to find the balance. ❤
I’m so happy to hear this perspective because sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who gets these frustrations from hosting 🥲 I think toning it down is going to be the right approach for me too 😂
Genuinely meaning no disrespect, I wonder what your party guests would think if they heard you talking about them like this on your podcast. I personally would be really hurt, and I probably would wonder why you had sunk this much time into a singular birthday party. It's great if you love doing this kind of hosting work and if the reward is in the planning and executing the party itself, but it sounds like that's not the case for you, and that's okay! Maybe it means putting in less effort for future events and building up fewer unvoiced expectations in your head in the run-up to the party.
I also mean this with no disrespect, but i am a little confused - I do not believe that receiving a “thank you” text after offering a massive gift that took hours and hours to make or receiving a bottle of wine for hosting a huge dinner party, or having guests show up on time are expectations that need to be voiced ? I am genuinely curious… When you receive a gift do you need the person who gave you that gift to tell you to say thank you ? 😂 and when you go to a party… do you show up empty handed ? Do you show up 2h late ?! 😭 I thought these were common social norms but maybe I’m wrong...
And honestly, if my guests saw this, I hope they would learn something from hearing the host’s perspective 😂 the guests who attended were not all my friends - the party wasn’t MY birthday party so it’s not quite like I am talking about my close close friends here.
I think it’s interesting that you say “the reward is in the planning and executing the party itself” because when people show up late and leave early, you don’t even have the chance to execute the party 🙃
Just my thoughts 🤷🏼♀️
Are you serious !