It’s not a desire for perfection. Just to be better. We can grow though, like I have, to let people be in whatever state they are. As a parent, it’s difficult because we are hyper responsible. So I feel for Kaylee’s friend.
As a 1, this video was very insightful (yes, we do never ending task after task). Loved this perspective & helpful for me to relax more. Kaylee, excellent insight in this video. I take on way too much responsibility. I remember at age 5 asking my Mom "when would I be old enough to load the dishwasher?" and thinking that I really wanted to do this task! Also loved the poem recommendation.
I am a 1 and every time someone I know meets my parents they say, " You must be amazing parents! You've raised such a wonderful daughter. What's your secret? " Both of my parents answer, "We didn't raise her. She raised herself." There was one time I grounded myself for letting my grades slip and carried my TV out of my room. My dad was walking down the hall and asked what I was doing. I told him I was grounded and he just said, "okay " and let me go about my business. 😂
Type 1s are so packed with knowledge like a type 5. But unlike a type 5, they have such strong gut to decide and practice wisdom. Especially when it is based from a relationship with God.
Great insight. Yes, the list of tasks is never ending! When I finish lists of tasks for things I need to do, I start making lists of tasks to do for my mom, my sister, etc.
As someone who is a self preservation/social 1 with a strong 9 wing confused on if they actually are a 9, this video explain from a 9 with a strong 1 wing perspective brought me clarity. So coming from someone who gets pretty ticked off about people not going the speed limit literally (either too slow or fast…idk why I’m like this) yeah, pretty A positive I’m a 1 now, thanks guys!
I love type 1 content, because my type 1 cousin is so awesome. She looks a lot like a 7 from the outside. Type 1’s reading this, I am glad you all exist! Yours truly, A 4w5
I believe my husband is a 1 but sometimes he looks exactly like a 7!! When you said they might look like a 7 I thought: this makes sense! Now I understand it
So i'm pretty sure i'm a type 1. But I'm not so concerned about right and wrong, except on a few key, often global subjects. I can apologize when I see I was wrong about things, but certain global things I refuse to back down on. Makes me think of characters like Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mocking Bird. He knew he was right. There was anger there for sure. And fighting for what was right got him in trouble. So do healthy 1's just always have to back down? Or let go of what is right? I feel pretty trapped some days with certain global topics that i feel are truly wrong, but they aren't going to change anytime soon. How do I find peace with that as a 1?
Hey guys, keep this in mind. She is a wing type 1, assuming that all type 1s are like the weaker version of her wing. Outburst isn’t a fair judge of what defines someone. I don’t want for others to keep telling me that I am a bad role model just cuz I had fun with mustard in hair on my 28th birthday.
I can attest that I 100% raised myself lol (sorry and also YOU'RE WELCOME Mom and Dad jk). Looking back on when I was married, I literally used to ask my husband why can't you just be good ever?! (He was actually doing things that got him in trouble with the law, so it wasn't just my thoughts of what "good" is that he was going against). I had never heard of enneagram until maybe a month ago and I haven't done a ton of research but I would say I'm probably a 1 through and through. When I'm keeping myself busy, with light and easy things, I'm on the healthier side. Unfortunately, if I have nothing to do or lots of hard things to accomplish, I can get real feisty. It's also mildly embarrassing to have someone nail my personality to the T lol but this was a fun watch! Thanks for the video
1s can look like 5 more than 7! Odd that you would advice type 1s “No one can read your mind.” When they are the ones telling others just that and then learn how to adjust their adjustments and fun.
I love your wisdom and have learned so much listening to your videos. As a one, and I think I’m pretty healthy, I think that sometimes when you laugh about ones behavior, ones beliefs, ones opinions your laughter feels mocking and personally your last couple videos on ones have left me sobbing. I know that is not your intent. That internal critic beats me down for the things you laugh about even though I don’t even struggle with those extreme examples anymore. I don’t know what I expect out of this comment. I get that, especially at our most unhealthy, we ones can be ridiculously rigid and it is laughable. I just don’t want myself and others to go away feeling condemned vs convicted if at all possible.
Love these insights, but as an artist (7w8... maybe), why make poetry about gender? Poems are NOT "girly" (whatever that means). But I did love the dialogue and discussion.😊
(Low-key gonna rewrite this entire block of text because I genuinely am worried this comes off as disrespect and know-it-all-ness.) (I did do so, and now my message is longer.) As a type 1, here's my takes on this. Take it with a grain of salt, knowing that I personally have the desire to be good. Conversations like these always leave me with the worry of "what if this is what people see me as?" Because I want to be good and loving and patient, and I realize I'm not always that, but sometimes y'all's humor comes off as condescending. This conversation feels... a bit nitpicky of 1s. For the most part, we want to improve ourselves and the world. We're not trying to be unkind or insulting, but we typically see more black and white. It's a fault of mine that I'm blunt at times. I've been trying harder lately to be kinder with my words and more sensitive to people's feelings. (I'm not a super feely type of person, so it's difficult for me to sympathize with people.) The more stressed out we are---and the more self-centered we are---, the more our value comes from how good we think we are. It's why 1s go to 4. I don't personally deal with an "inner critic" (I don't think), but I do at times question if I'm doing the right thing/am a good person/am obeying Christ/etc. The more stressed out a 1 is, the more unhealthy and less constructive these thoughts get. Those mindsets can then hurt other people if not properly dealt with---whether coming out in resentment towards those who don't deal with this pressure, or can weigh down on people because those insecurities are never processed. (That prior paragraph is from experience. I know someone dealing with insane insecurities---who I believe is a 4---and those mindsets can be toxic for everyone.) Now, in these kinds of conversations, I'd say it is good to acknowledge where a 1 (or any other type) is acting out of line. We WANT to improve ourselves, and getting advice from an outside source is good. But it always needs to be constructive. Anyone who tries to talk on a "self-help" topic needs to do so with compassion for the other person, and in a manner that the other can apply it. It's no good to say that 1s are being nitpicky. Chances are, we know that already. I'm the first to know when I'm in a bad attitude. It's very likely that in an hour or two I will feel incredibly guilty for it. I'm not trying to make myself look great. I'm a messed up person. I need God like the rest of us. But conversations like these always get my more... angry side going, I'll admit. I'm sorry if any of this comes out rude. I'm sorry if what I'm saying is out of line, and I'm misunderstanding y'all's point. Just wanted to say, I agree with plenty of your statements, but leave the nitpickiness to the Negative Nellies of the world. We need more unity in the world :)
Whatever your wing is, that just mean that you are somewhat there but not like them. There is a reason that’s your wing and not your main. So you shouldn’t be the one to represent your wing.
Showing off his Phd and pastor title, he tries to garner your confidence in what he is saying. Well, don’t be bothered with his opined and highly biased hatred towards type 1. :( One can only wonder why his daughter too have a wing of of 1s. With his hatred towards them, I’m not surprised that none of his kid would dare to say that they are type 1. :| Type 1w9 are so philosophical and really soft too.
It’s not a desire for perfection. Just to be better. We can grow though, like I have, to let people be in whatever state they are. As a parent, it’s difficult because we are hyper responsible. So I feel for Kaylee’s friend.
As a 1, this video was very insightful (yes, we do never ending task after task). Loved this perspective & helpful for me to relax more. Kaylee, excellent insight in this video.
I take on way too much responsibility. I remember at age 5 asking my Mom "when would I be old enough to load the dishwasher?" and thinking that I really wanted to do this task!
Also loved the poem recommendation.
@7:32 when you said "there's probably some ones cringing right now" about an unmade bed being okay, i really was cringing🤣🤣🤣
I am a 1 and every time someone I know meets my parents they say, " You must be amazing parents! You've raised such a wonderful daughter. What's your secret? " Both of my parents answer, "We didn't raise her. She raised herself."
There was one time I grounded myself for letting my grades slip and carried my TV out of my room. My dad was walking down the hall and asked what I was doing. I told him I was grounded and he just said, "okay " and let me go about my business. 😂
Type 1s are so packed with knowledge like a type 5. But unlike a type 5, they have such strong gut to decide and practice wisdom. Especially when it is based from a relationship with God.
Great insight. Yes, the list of tasks is never ending! When I finish lists of tasks for things I need to do, I start making lists of tasks to do for my mom, my sister, etc.
Yes! I want to align with what's right. Sometimes I don't care what or who is right - I just want to know WHAT it is so I can get on board.
Great discussion! Love this idea of preferences instead of the only right thing. Thank you for sharing!
As someone who is a self preservation/social 1 with a strong 9 wing confused on if they actually are a 9, this video explain from a 9 with a strong 1 wing perspective brought me clarity. So coming from someone who gets pretty ticked off about people not going the speed limit literally (either too slow or fast…idk why I’m like this) yeah, pretty A positive I’m a 1 now, thanks guys!
I absolutely love your content man!
Great video! Thanks!
I would love to see a new series: Parenting as a type 1-9. Thank you for all your content!
He is only capable of speaking for himself as a type 6 or 7. That’s all.
Your daughter looks so much like you! And her outfit is cute lol :"
I love type 1 content, because my type 1 cousin is so awesome. She looks a lot like a 7 from the outside. Type 1’s reading this, I am glad you all exist!
Yours truly,
A 4w5
I believe my husband is a 1 but sometimes he looks exactly like a 7!! When you said they might look like a 7 I thought: this makes sense! Now I understand it
So i'm pretty sure i'm a type 1. But I'm not so concerned about right and wrong, except on a few key, often global subjects. I can apologize when I see I was wrong about things, but certain global things I refuse to back down on. Makes me think of characters like Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mocking Bird. He knew he was right. There was anger there for sure. And fighting for what was right got him in trouble.
So do healthy 1's just always have to back down? Or let go of what is right? I feel pretty trapped some days with certain global topics that i feel are truly wrong, but they aren't going to change anytime soon. How do I find peace with that as a 1?
Hey guys, keep this in mind. She is a wing type 1, assuming that all type 1s are like the weaker version of her wing. Outburst isn’t a fair judge of what defines someone.
I don’t want for others to keep telling me that I am a bad role model just cuz I had fun with mustard in hair on my 28th birthday.
what is Kaylee's channel name?
www.youtube.com/@kayleerademaker5377
I can attest that I 100% raised myself lol (sorry and also YOU'RE WELCOME Mom and Dad jk). Looking back on when I was married, I literally used to ask my husband why can't you just be good ever?! (He was actually doing things that got him in trouble with the law, so it wasn't just my thoughts of what "good" is that he was going against). I had never heard of enneagram until maybe a month ago and I haven't done a ton of research but I would say I'm probably a 1 through and through. When I'm keeping myself busy, with light and easy things, I'm on the healthier side. Unfortunately, if I have nothing to do or lots of hard things to accomplish, I can get real feisty. It's also mildly embarrassing to have someone nail my personality to the T lol but this was a fun watch! Thanks for the video
1s can look like 5 more than 7! Odd that you would advice type 1s “No one can read your mind.” When they are the ones telling others just that and then learn how to adjust their adjustments and fun.
I love your wisdom and have learned so much listening to your videos. As a one, and I think I’m pretty healthy, I think that sometimes when you laugh about ones behavior, ones beliefs, ones opinions your laughter feels mocking and personally your last couple videos on ones have left me sobbing. I know that is not your intent. That internal critic beats me down for the things you laugh about even though I don’t even struggle with those extreme examples anymore. I don’t know what I expect out of this comment. I get that, especially at our most unhealthy, we ones can be ridiculously rigid and it is laughable. I just don’t want myself and others to go away feeling condemned vs convicted if at all possible.
Love these insights, but as an artist (7w8... maybe), why make poetry about gender? Poems are NOT "girly" (whatever that means).
But I did love the dialogue and discussion.😊
We are definitely cringing!! Wait!? It’s not wrong to leave the bed unmade!?!? 😮
(Low-key gonna rewrite this entire block of text because I genuinely am worried this comes off as disrespect and know-it-all-ness.)
(I did do so, and now my message is longer.)
As a type 1, here's my takes on this. Take it with a grain of salt, knowing that I personally have the desire to be good. Conversations like these always leave me with the worry of "what if this is what people see me as?" Because I want to be good and loving and patient, and I realize I'm not always that, but sometimes y'all's humor comes off as condescending.
This conversation feels... a bit nitpicky of 1s. For the most part, we want to improve ourselves and the world. We're not trying to be unkind or insulting, but we typically see more black and white. It's a fault of mine that I'm blunt at times. I've been trying harder lately to be kinder with my words and more sensitive to people's feelings. (I'm not a super feely type of person, so it's difficult for me to sympathize with people.)
The more stressed out we are---and the more self-centered we are---, the more our value comes from how good we think we are. It's why 1s go to 4. I don't personally deal with an "inner critic" (I don't think), but I do at times question if I'm doing the right thing/am a good person/am obeying Christ/etc. The more stressed out a 1 is, the more unhealthy and less constructive these thoughts get. Those mindsets can then hurt other people if not properly dealt with---whether coming out in resentment towards those who don't deal with this pressure, or can weigh down on people because those insecurities are never processed.
(That prior paragraph is from experience. I know someone dealing with insane insecurities---who I believe is a 4---and those mindsets can be toxic for everyone.)
Now, in these kinds of conversations, I'd say it is good to acknowledge where a 1 (or any other type) is acting out of line.
We WANT to improve ourselves, and getting advice from an outside source is good.
But it always needs to be constructive. Anyone who tries to talk on a "self-help" topic needs to do so with compassion for the other person, and in a manner that the other can apply it.
It's no good to say that 1s are being nitpicky. Chances are, we know that already.
I'm the first to know when I'm in a bad attitude. It's very likely that in an hour or two I will feel incredibly guilty for it.
I'm not trying to make myself look great.
I'm a messed up person.
I need God like the rest of us.
But conversations like these always get my more... angry side going, I'll admit.
I'm sorry if any of this comes out rude. I'm sorry if what I'm saying is out of line, and I'm misunderstanding y'all's point.
Just wanted to say, I agree with plenty of your statements, but leave the nitpickiness to the Negative Nellies of the world. We need more unity in the world :)
Whatever your wing is, that just mean that you are somewhat there but not like them. There is a reason that’s your wing and not your main. So you shouldn’t be the one to represent your wing.
Showing off his Phd and pastor title, he tries to garner your confidence in what he is saying. Well, don’t be bothered with his opined and highly biased hatred towards type 1. :(
One can only wonder why his daughter too have a wing of of 1s. With his hatred towards them, I’m not surprised that none of his kid would dare to say that they are type 1. :|
Type 1w9 are so philosophical and really soft too.