Breaking the Silence: Domestic Violence Awareness with Ariel B. and Millicent St. Claire
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- Breaking the Silence on domestic violence isn't just about sharing stories-it's about shining a light on the power of resilience and hopefully saving a life. In our latest episode of #AcrossGenerations, we dive into the lives of two incredible women, Millicent St. Claire and Ariel B., who bravely share their journeys from surviving domestic violence to becoming beacons of strength and advocacy.
I was 18, he was 23 and after the first time he beat me up, he locked me in the apartment. Bars on the window and a deadlock on the door that required a key inside and outside to open, and he took both sets of keys when he walked out of the apartment. Months later it occurred to me that if there had been a fire, I would have been trapped. That was over 50 years ago.
Couldn't finish watching this video because it was too triggering.... but SO GLAD we're talking about this. Keep talking! Keep talking until this STOPS.
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Tiffany Cross, you have a gem here and every episode has been great! Thanks to the ladies for sharing these traumatic stories and thank you Tiffany, for continuing to bring these challenging stories to light! Amazing!
Across Generations is my favorite podcast!!! Thank you Tiffany Cross!
This was a great episode. Please do one with Male survivors of Domestic Violence. Their voices are completely SILENCED.
26:47 When someone can "suck the life out of a room".....that makes "walking on eggshells" seem like a party in the park. Im so glad that Ms Ariel has found peace.❤
As a survivor, this was a conversation that was so needed. Thank you both, Ms. Claire and Ariel B for sharing your stories and how you overcame and survived. The information shared at the end by Ms. St Claire was so informative.❤
Love me some Ariel B and her family. Tiffany, this one was needed. I witnessed it in my family dynamic , but regardless of how it still hurts.
Please I wish this episode was longer. I do hope there will be more on this topic. Thank you Ms Cross
Prayers for anyone going through domestic abuse. These women are so beautiful and brave.
Thank you for shedding light on this. Praying for our world
Lord have mercy! These stories are overwhelming and as a survivor, I would like to speak to the shame and embarrassment that comes with asking for help, and being further victimized by the court and family court systems. It’s a lot… Also, the confirmation of abuse that continues forever if you share children with your abuser. Wild!
40:20 Im glad Ms Cross made Ms Millicent go back to her experience...because we need to learn from all of it...not just the intellect of it.
The most powerful conversation I’ve ever seen. Incredibly proud of you both.
Wow😢I’m 49,never got married, I wonder why and the only thing keep coming to my mind, is my dad hitting my mom and knew I would never let a man near me. It makes me sad that I feel that way. Thank you Tiffany love don’t hurt ❤❤❤
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I survived 7yrs of abused. I was strangled by my daily bible reading, church serving, anger and rage filled, manipulative ex-husband. Why are women who look like me and these women not likely to be believed?
When she said I was the most lonely in my marriage than anything else... I 1000% connected with that statement.
Another insightful and informative podcast. I wish people would watch, text, share and comment this podcast with the same energy as with other podcasts featuring celebrities spilling tea and ill words about others. This was so timely as I’ve had to debate with some who are somehow Diddy sympathizers. There is no defending abuse of women.
As a survivor of domestic violence I found th8s informative and humbling. Thanks Tiffany.
I can’t get through this without crying. But Wow, we women struggle and I pray God has something for us on the other side.
This is the best podcast ever ❤❤❤❤❤🎆🔥🔥🔥🔥
I JUST posted about this very subject. There are no innocent generations just innocent children who grow up damaged by abuse in the home. Domestic violence in my definition is any abuse experienced in the home not limited to or have to include physical because there’s ALWAYS the treat of physical to control as well.
I passed on my trauma unknowingly to my son. I have spoken and atoned in words for my reactivity and volatility that was also sometimes physical. My living atonement is my inner healing work that is responsible for my transformation out of the cycle of generational trauma.
Thank you ladies for this conversation. I am alone in this journey, my family members choose denial, avoidance and a lack of accountability. My brother is now an abusive man having gone to jail for domestic violence as well as sexual abuse. Trauma travels until someone stops the cycle.
Thanks for this video! I tuned in because I lost a college friend this week from domestic violence and wanted to understand how could this have happened. What she probably endured and her possible mental state to stay. I had no clue and even her closets friends that she’s seen in recent weeks were clueless that she was suffering from domestic violence. She’s been with her husband since high school and all I can think about is has she been enduring abuse for decades with him. I’m so hurt because she was a beautiful soul and left behind two young adults that she poured her all into. Prayers to my beautiful friend Tiffanie Stokes. I love you sis!
May her beautiful soul find enternal peace 🙏🏽
May God comfort you and her family. 🙏🏽
I love how Millicent tried to steer the conversation away from just the trauma story to conflict resolution
Yes, she was persistent in presenting the way forward. Love it.
Thank you so much Ms. Cross. Wonderful knowledge dropped by Ms. Millicent. My heart goes out to Ariel. Wishing you healing my dear sister.
Informative and heartbreaking. Inspired by the women.
This is a very informative episode and this was across generations and socioeconomic groups to an extent as well. This is such a great podcast.
Between this and the Mother’s Day episode, I’m worn out. So many of us have lived these experiences that are so common and so wrong.
I am infuriated. I struggled as a single mother but not like this. God bless you all!
Powerful show, I had to stop working for a second just to listen to their stories. I'm so glad they made it through. And I'm sorry that you and all other women went through this.
I second Dr. Joy DeGruy.
I recognize that you were trying to get the story and keep Mrs. St. Claire on track, but it was clear to me that she did not feel safe or comfortable revisiting the night that changed her life forever. One can say "well she agreed to come on the show and talk about it", but as a survivor of domestic abuse I know what it's like to feel ready to have certain conversation, but your body just isn't on board. For me it looks like shutting down, sharing minimal details, intellectualizing the experience, or deflecting in various ways. So with that being said, when speaking to survivors of complex trauma I think it is important to have patience, be respectful of boundaries verbal or non verbal, and most importantly to choose empathy over whatever it is you are seeking to gain from the encounter.
We all have been a victim of domestic violence whether it was in our homes or outside of our homes. Domestic abuse is emotional, physical and verbal. It is a very traumatic and psychological experience that affects individuals on different levels of abuse. Both Women and Men suffer domestic violence in silence and the danger is the victim or the abuser either repeats that cycle generationally or choose death or prison as an alternative. We should not victimize the victims for how long they suffered the abuse but applauding them that they are survivors and able to give their testimonies to help other victims that are currently in domestic violence situations. Thankyou Tiffany and Thankyou To Ariel and Ms. Claire for being survivors willing to share a very important discussion that resonates with so many toxic and unhealthy relationships. Peace ✌ and Blessings 🙌 to All 🫶
I had to pause at the point where she said “He is in prison” I was like finally!!!!! Yeassssssss some amazing news. Now let me continue watching.
I usually watch but listened today. Thanks for tackling this important topic. Women are abused every day. I grew up knowing someone who tried to hide abuse behind makeup and glasses like your guest. This had such an impact on me... even though it occurred decades ago.
That was good Tiffany , I have never been a victim of domestic violence but have witnessed it. I will say it 😡 me very much and I had something to say, maybe not everytime I witnessed it but, so I am glad these ladies are survivors and I pray this episode reaches the masses and helps anyone who needs it.
As a man who does not nor ever been an abuser of women, I would give this advice to all my Black women out there. Take your time when you meet a man. Examine his character. Date and don't sire children until marriage. But be sure this is the man to marry. Watch for red flags. It's not your fault if a man puts his hands on you, but don't stay. Love does not require a beating or control. Love is about being supportive and in tune with another individual. Your partner should cherish you. My ex-wife was abused when she was in high school, and it affected her. No woman should have to go through that shit. Again, take your time to get to know someone.
The physical abuse is part of the whole. Intimate partner violence impacts the survivor and if children are involved the children as well.
I myself witnessed DV as a child which has been the root of my relationships, marriage. Although i promised myself that I would never engage or remain in a toxic relationship. However, turning around and Attaching to an individual who is emotionally unavailable & also an addict. Healing trauma before entering into a relationship is necessary.
Let’s continue to learn and help women and girls in this world
@tiffany needs her own talk show
I’m crying for these women and all survivors. So strong
GREAT Episode Ladies!!! Thanks for sharing your stories!
I found this podcast watching ArielB Instagram page!!
Great episode
This was a very good episode. I think there should be a part II.
This was so informative and enlightening! God bless them! 😊❤
This was a powerful episode.
Great episode. Hearing these stories pissed me off but gave me strength
Awesome Host!
I'm a survivor and remember fighting for my life the night I left.
Need more like this on TH-cam ❤❤
Excellent convo!
22:37 that was my mother’s story. Her family weren’t well to do but image was everything and she must have felt she would be a failure once again second divorce with two children from the previous marriage
Dr. Claire came on the show to be a counselor and was not focused on telling her story and tapping into the emotional piece of being a domestic abuse survivor. She brushed on serious incidents to focus on explaining trauma and reasons why. We want to hear yr authentic story.
Maybe because she’s a therapist she’s driven to focus on the resolution. She does seem to be disassociating.
We all as a human race need to ask Jesus/ God to give us new hearts. We live in a sinful world and we all need new hearts. Funny thing is we need to ask God for it. I 🙏
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That song is full of witchcraft not just toxic!
There is always complicity against women who are abused in most cases. No way should this woman have gone to jail based on the abuse she had reported. He goated his wife into killing him. 😢 How unfortunate. And how many women are raped by their husbands; many. 😢
It’s a team! That why God made man and woman. I made them in my image
With the Chris Brown and Rihanna situation the rumor was that Chris was diagnosed with having herpes which Rihanna had contracted though an affair with S Carter.
The older lady seems disassociated from the abuse and situation she went through she speaks as an expert and in general terms rather than as a survivor which could indicate that the trauma is being suppressed. No judgement just an observation.
Not disassociated at all. She’s come through the fire, advocated for many women, escalated to a conflict resolution expert, and has learned how to protect her emotional health. Kudos to her.
Summer Walker needs a therapist.
Unfortunately, toxic behavior is viewed as passion, he's all about me....that is a game and a ploy.
Ms. St. Claire seems so disconnected from her situation. She wants to go the clinical route and leave emotion out of it. She doesn't even want to give details. She had to brought back to the conversation of the night it happened more than once.
She has compartmentalized things, probably when she went to prison...to survive that also.
38:13 Ms Millicent was married to a Sociopathic narcissist. That second husband was off..AND HE WAS A PSYCHIATRIST ❓️‼️⁉️❓️‼️⁉️
When has domestic violence been silenced? Past 10+ years, especially in sports, that's all we've been hearing.
When are we going to cover DV without the double standard... is the ??? As to race & gender... Amber Heard/Johnny Depp, for example
M. StClaire has no empathy. How did she not cry during Ariels story.?
Not crying isn’t an indication of empathy. Everyone reacts differently.