Have a friend who's like this. She's trained herself to the point where she doesn't even need an alarm, she wakes up at give or take 10 minutes around 6AM. I lived with her for three months last year, by the time I wake up at 9 she's done all her chores, jogged a mile, and finished two homework assignments. Literally a superwoman.
it's really not that hard. I've been getting up at 5-6am since I was a child. Never needed an alarm clock in my life and it absolutely never felt like effort. However it's also true I go to bed at like 10pm
this is so hilarious because that's literally exactly how it works with most veterans that i know. i mean, just casually getting up at 4 in the morning, doing earth breaking workouts, and then being early for the morning shift.
@@dhriti4001 idk man. I got up early and went to bed on time as a kid and i simply kept that up. Now I'm tired af after 11pm automatically and even if i stay up exceptionally long on new years or sth, i can go to sleep at 3am and still wake up at 6-7 without an alarm. I also dont drink coffee or anything. I wake up, can immediatelly roll out of bed onto the floor and do pushups. It's honestly great. Some people tease me for being a "grandpa" who goes to sleep at 10pm but honestly i wouldnt give it up for the world
@@blazejecar damn that's great of you are able to to do all that and not feel tired, like i wake up at 6 for school too and yet I can't bother to wake up even one minute earlier on days when I don't have it or when there's nothing important
Check in on your friends who seem to "have it all together", they might be silently suffering but it's even harder for them to open up about it because they're supposed to be the one who "has it all together"♡
Exactly, and they might be achieving all those things in a fruitless and misguided pursuit of satisfaction. Nobody works crazy hard because they're happy.
For anyone who feels like that and wants others to know: don‘t wait for others to recognize it by themselves (there is a chance that this won‘t happen), a true friend will not judge you for having issues/flaws/fears or whatever (also I think sharing your weaknesses is very strong) Don’t get me wrong, I highly agree with the original comment too :)
The fun thing about having a friend who has everything together is that you always have a role model, and if you’re friends with them for a while you just naturally start getting better I mean I’m *never* gonna get up at mfing 5:30 but I’m taking care of myself better :)
Very true I recently changed to homeschool (by recently i mean like 2 years ago )and had a very good role model right after transferring and I instantly started changing the way I thought I’m still working on when it comes to fitness and health but I was able to learn to be a lot more mature and I’m 15 now but when I think about when I was still in public school my immaturity blinded me to having meaningful relationships now I feel like I am able to actually have relationships that last a lot longer not just love relationships but friendships too
Nah I'm like an infection. Had a roommate who had their shit together and me, who flops upwards. I'd literally literally nothing all day and things jist went my way. Next semester he was literally just like me. Good Lord I ruined the man.
I started waking up really early but it's 5:00 am for me, I'm not a morning person, but then i remember that I'll have a lot of time to study so this inspires me
Uhm…this is me 🥲 Apart from my handwriting sucksss Also, workout and yoga..but protein shake before, then breakfast. And I journal after I do breakfast and before I go to bed, but I go to bed way to late 9/10
Tbh, a lot of those ppl are probably hiding depressions, anxieties, eating disorders, etc. from everyone else. It's always the people you expect the most and the least
Though I don't have my life put together like the protagonist on this short, it genuinely makes me happy when people compliment my writing, cursive or not! Kinda adds to my life span lol.
@@EmptyEmpathy If you do nothing about the person you are, yes it is a waste. And that’s a good thing. Wanting to “be” someone else who is doing things right creates aspiration and motivation. We should all want to “be” someone great.
This is literally my aunt. . . Has one of the most successful salons in the US, does a morning podcast, goes to the gym, never eats sugar, just published her first book on leadership, and her house is absolutely spotless. I asked my uncle (who is a low energy introvert who loves to sit and do numbers all day) how he keeps up. He said that he doesn't and that it's f**king exhausting XD.
That sounds so cool but kinda unrealistic, it's like, does this actually make her happy or is it just for image ... I wish I was like your aunt but I'm your uncle instead lmao
@@skaio.5279 Some people are built like that irrespective of whether that makes them happy or not. Even my mother is like this. She is a workaholic. Now at the age of 58, she has achieved well beyond her means and education. She is extremely active and knows lot of stuff about many subjects which other people in that field do not know. The key to success is work. Thats pretty much the entire truth.
The “it looks like a font!” Is relatable. I was helping go through forms with my mom at her work when I was little, and there was a form that I asked my mom if they used a printer, and she said “nope, just the neat handwriting. Yours needs to look like that.” (It was written in pencil, so it was true.) It legitimately looked like Arial. Like the default font whenever you make a new document. (Also parents need to chill with the whole “you need to have perfect handwriting” and comparing yours to every single piece of handwritten paper. Like jeez, sorry I didn’t have muscle memory, the time, or extremely fine motor skills yet.)
I actually have disgrapia, a disorder where I struggle with keeping sentences straight, properly spacing letters, and keeping up with things like notes, so my handwriting is always messy
Having life together to me means quality relationships and having finances in order. Not trying to be contrarian, it’s just interesting the values we have at different stages in life.
For me it means someone having a mature and strong relationship with Jesus. So 3 different people and we already have 3 different views on this topic. Interesting indeed!
@@MsScarletwings You know, the wonderful thing about Christianity is that anyone can become a follower of Christ. Jesus died for the sins of every single human being on this planet, all we need to do is receive that free gift through faith! I've seen what people are like when they have a strong and mature relationship with Jesus. They are really remarkable people! I hope to be that way one day!
There’s more to having your life together than just finances and relationships. A lot of people have both and are just putting on the appearance of happiness. I think mental health is also extremely important along with regular health too, but if they go wrong, you entire life will be a mess
Being around someone who is being productive is actually a good way to get productive :> I had a friend who had recently cleaned and reorganized his room which motivated me to get my life somewhat together and do the same :)
As a person with a similar vibe to "having their life together" I'd like to say - hoping that I'm representing the rest of us and it's not just me- that we in fact are not okay, but internally suffering and attempting to drown our insecurities through endless perfectionism until we crumble :)
This is everytime I go golfing with my Uncle. I got up at like 11, he's been up since 4:30 am, he worked a half day, went shopping, did his laundry and some yard work, I'm like, I had lucky charms for brunch, so there's that.
Dude! That’s what I tell my mom and grandma, by the time I get up at 9am they’ve already done some yard work, cleaned the house, washed a few loads, washed the dishes, taken a bath and are clean and well dressed… I’m about to make breakfast ‘-‘
I've struggled with high functioning anxiety for most of my life and have been the friend that "has their life together". From the outside, my life looks great, organized, almost perfect. But, I never see what everyone else sees. I have this overwhelming sense of failure and a need to be better- in almost every area of my life. It's taken years of therapy and deliberate effort to get to a point where I can relax more and not compete with myself. I've learned that perfection is a trap that keeps you in an endless loop of unhappiness and self sabotage. So, to anyone who has found themselves on this side of the road and can relate, just know you're not alone and no one expects you to be perfect but you- and you can give yourself a break this one time 😘 Edit: TYSM for 700+ likes 😀😀😀
I’m so sorry. Just wanted to tell you that you will always be good enough. You’re great. Even when you don’t think so. I know a lot of “perfect” Instagram models who fans will tell them “I’d kill to look like you” and everyone thinks they look perfect. But in reality they’re some of the most insecure people and obsess about their appearance, constantly touch their face, freak out if makeup isn’t perfect, take 4 hours to get ready and are always late, blow people off when they feel “ugly”, etc. they’ll use FaceTune and photoshop apps for hours perfecting their photos, which end up half the time never being posted bc “it’s not good enough”, they’ll delete n freak out over comments that are any way negative about their appearance (no matter how tiny), spend so much money on injections and makeup and hair stuff, spend hours and hours taking pictures to get the right pose that makes them look thinner or on the good side of their face, freak out if anyone dares take a candid picture of them or posts it and insists all friend pictures be taken on their phone so they can edit and post it, spend hours lurking and comparing their looks to other Instagram models and feeling awful, not do live streams/video they can’t edit or spending lots of money to get expensive equipment and software so they can, won’t take pics without ring lights, have tons of anxiety about it, etc. In reality they actually look like average girls without all the makeup, lighting, and photoshopping. They have acne and bad skin, they are shorter or weigh more, they don’t have as big lips or small of a waist, and some look barely unrecognizable IRL like a totally different person. A lot of people think they’re perfect but most of them just have such bad anxiety about looks that they go far out of their way to make it look perfect by whatever means possible. And all those hours and hours of wasted time make them feel worse. They’re not happy esp when they know they don’t look anything like that IRL, it just gives them a short quick fix bandaid boost of self esteem when they get comments calling them beautiful, but then they look in the mirror and get depressed. It’s really sad and I know one girl who tried to kill herself twice over not looking perfect on Instagram and being obsessed with looking perfect physically online and the toxic culture and enabling surrounding it.
Same here! The worst part in my case is that everyone believes that I can achieve/handle anything and everything I'm handed. Even my husband believes that. Of course in reality I'm not capable of everything and when I protest and refuse to do certain things, they brand me as stubborn and unwilling. As if not wanting to do something is a bad thing.
Same. I get anxiety over the smallest things, especially in college where virtual learning is just kicking me in the butt (I've realized that learning at a school environment where there's actually people present around makes me focus more that in front of a device in my room), like, when there's quizes and stuff, my family keeps reassuring me that those scores aren't going to matter much in the future and that I shouldn't stress myself too much over them but I can't help but feel bad whenever I do worse or if some classmate is speaking and it seems like they actually comprehended the material more than I did, I feel like I failed even though my grades are actually passing.... I dunno, man. It sucks. So whenever I feel extra down, I end up confiding in my mom or my sister (more than I did before quarantine actually, so that's a plus) or else just hang out with our dog a bit to settle myself.
my handwriting isn’t ugly but it isn’t pretty either, and ever since i was little i used to be jealous of the girls who had nice handwritings lol with time i’ve tried improving it and it definitely worked but it will never be neat and clean like i want it to be :|
You know people with bad handwriting are smart and pls don't say 'well I'm not smart lol' cuz first it ain't funny second everyone is smart in there own way and third don't let others bring you down by the smallest things
I used to be the friend who didn't have their life together but after I realised how badly it affected me I started getting up at around 6AM and have a daily routine and bedtime so my body was never disorientated. It's seriously helped with my procrastination and my mental health. I know from experience that it's not very easy to get into it (especially if you have a packed schedule) but once you start it feels so nice. You just feel in control of your life and it can help with so many things. 🥰🥰
As someone who analyzes handwriting, of someones *natural* handwriting is 'like a font' its typically a bad thing, usually means the person carries a lot of tension or anxiety; a lot of people like this are actually really stressed with keeping their life as perfect as possible. Give these people a hug if they seem stressed :)
Me: psss Alisha come here Alisha: what Me: come here Alisha **comes** Me: **gives hug** Alisha: why are you hugging me I don't even know you?!?! Me: oh... But a random guy on the internet says that if someone has good handwriting that means they're stressed and need a hug.. So I gave u one. Alisha: *.*
Not always true tho. I have a very good handwriting but thats only bcs i very genuinely love hand writing stuff. Like i am a comp science student and all my actual notes are typed, so i take out time every day and write some random paragraph from some book into my diary bcs i really love to write by hand.
Not always of course, but I also didn't go into detail. It's not just necessarily good handwriting, because there's so many variations of good handwriting- in this case I was referring to the baseline, when it's unflinchingly straight, because that's a sign of tension. That, coupled with a couple other traits, can sometimes lead to font-like handwriting. But people who practice handwriting often can't be categorized with the typical traits of graphology; so yes, in your case that's probably not the case
Exactly ! I like to put extra effort into my handwriting because it helps me get the feeling that I control something, that at least this aspect of my life is clean and under control, especially when I’m in a stressful day, or just not feeling great day !
"You got up at 5:30?? Like, on purpose?" had me rolling because I've been waking up at 2:00pm lately and my face is breaking out and I'm a literal mess 24/7
I have a friend quite like this. His mom kicked him out and his dad doesn’t really give a shit about him. He stopped going to uni since then. But yet he kept his life so stable he even works out and meditates.
@@hitormisshuh I don't think it's to necessarily "distract." Yes, it could be a possibility and could help for a little while, but you will at the end of the day have those trauma feelings coming back at you. It's more about how you precede those experiences by reflecting and growing from them as a person
@@anjafrohlich1170 No one knows if he got his life together immediately afterwards, neither does it matter if he did got it immediately together. What matters is he pulled through and it shows.
Ok I should stop reading comments I am very offended because all these comments actually are like 'imagine having your life together' cuz I do and I luv it and I'm not sending hate I just kinda hate how everyone is saying having your life together is a dream come true or its to good to be true
@@farah-mt6dx But for some people it really is too good to be true, for example I have ADHD and I can only try to imagine what it would be like to live like this because I’m literally mentally and physically incapable of this…
Sure but some people literally don’t have any or are pretty minuscule because they are normal people. These people exists they are called normal and productive people.
@@tfries72 While I understand your point. I do agree that some people have less issues then others. (Like Jiminie has said as well in a previous comment.) But I'm not sure if someone doesn't have any at all. It's totally your opinion to think that though. I just personally think that everyone has problems, but some are really minimal. (As you said as well) Also, I don't really consider anyone to be "normal".. since everyone has such different interpretations of it. (Like you, with your interpretation that they're productive people.) Also since you said "some people" I'm assuming that you aren't including yourself (I could be wrong though. And I don't mean to be insulting when I say that, everyone has them). I mention this because if you got your information about this from someone else or your impression of someone else's life. It probably isn't as accurate rather then if it came from you directly. Also, thought I should let you know that you kinda sounded like a smart-ass in your comment and a little patronizing too. (I say it directly, because I'm not sure how to phrase it nicely) Not sure if this was your intention, but I just thought I should let you know for future reference.
@@gingercakerules I’m definitely not the norm I was just saying in general but more than likely You’re right everyone has their issues no matter the severity and it’s relative
Listen, I'm that friend who is super positive and seems to have things together but I fall on very hard times with my mental & physical health from time to time, and need really good friends to help me get through it. Sometimes the ppl who seem to have it all together are fighting against something trying to take them down, so they always have to fight even harder. Don't assume anything.
Look imagine you have fight yourself and alone fight every problem that comes with life so technically you know you have to win every time so you are like all charged up prepared yourself for that's which makes you positive from outside but internally you are a warrior not survivor and well Every warrior have to well fail once in awhile which makes you perfect human in my opinion who fail and get up and fight back
@@oopsie3415 When that happpens you take some tylenol and you'll be down for maybe 2 days so you call and cancel all your appointments (depends on how important) and bring hell to those that don't understand how health works.
As someone who doesn’t have their life together, I’m glad she was showing that character having admiration for the one that has their life together. I’ve seen so many where the person who doesn’t have their life together hates on the other person because wow that’s so not relatable. Also, I have a feeling a lot of quirky girls try and portray that image and hate on people who are actually organised. It’s refreshing to see a more friendly relationship instead of seeing that typical pitting women against each other behaviour. If anyone sees this I’m so sorry, my sentence structure is shit, it’s 3am, I’m sleep deprived and I’m just rambling. Clearly don’t have my life together XD.
I respect the respect. But for me, it’s hard not to feel spiteful towards these people. Because yes, they’ve been able to keep the simple daily functions of their life manageable when I, like many others, sometimes struggle to get out of bed. And often I don’t feel impressed by this productivity, I just feel isolated by it. You know? “You we’re able to get up at 5 or 6 am when I can’t even get in the shower”
Who said anything about pitting women against eachother though?? Only you brought that up. The video is made by one person playing 2 characters so of course it looks like women because the creator is a woman, but these type of people aren't just women. Sorry not sorry but I do hate these kinds of people because they are the ones who create the "standard" for the way the rest of us have to live. It's like the semi-joke about how 8am work/schooldays suck but morning people decided to make that the rule while the rest of us were still asleep. The deadlines, the workweek, the expected start of days, etc are all decided upon by them FOR us while some of us are so debilitated we can't meet those standards and fall behind in this strict societal structure they created. It gets to the point where it's an ableism problem tbh
Every mom in the world: “ I’m so sorry it’s a mess in here “ Her two hour before hand: 🧹🧼🧽🧺🧻 The house: ✨✨✨✨ The guests: “ it’s literally spotless “ Mom: “ omg really thanks, it always looks like this, but really it’s kinda messy “ Us kids: 🧐 Us thinking: “ okay if you say so “
If you think about why they do that it's kinda messed up. They want you to compliment them so they clean the house. They can't just clean it and let it be they need that compliment so they'll say it's dirty just so you'll respond positively
Let's just take a moment to appreciate those people in our life that, at the very least, have got the essentiel parts of life togheter. For me it's my brother that I love and have learned to admire so much for his strenght! ( the best part is i've managed in a drunken way to share to him my admiration for his goodness)
Having your life together means healthy relationships, financial stability, bills paid, no consumer card debt, a stable career and no addiction or reliance on social media, alcohol, drugs or outside validation from strangers to feel valuable. Journals, spotless homes and running with every new trend isn't having your life together. I'm arguably more concerned about the together girl. From 22 years of adult experience, someone needs to check in on her overall well-being. None of that seems together, it looks like a mental health crisis and masking. I stopped thinking people like this had their lives together after like the 3rd suicide in my peer network. You'd think by 40 we'd kill ourselves less, but it only seems to get worse. Don't think people who project this image have it together. Its dangerous.
Couldn't agree more. I used to be the girl in the video, one of my friends was even jealous of me. Reality was I was in a cult and felt pressure to do those things. I am doing a lot better now sleeping in til 9am and having a messy kitchen lol
Working hard under current standards (ie trends) aint getting it together. Living life the way you need it is getting it together. You may need that afternoon nap. You may need more carbs for a sustainable e energy level. You might need more metime n less rushing around.
Lmao. What about being 40 makes you think we'd kill ourselves *less*? The prime of our life is over by 30, by 40 you're aching and cracking, and that's assuming you've lived a physically non traumatic life. Most of us are crippled by 25 or 30. By the time I'm 40 you're damn right I'm gonna kill myself. I just gotta work up the nerve to step in front of a truck since I don't have a gun and hanging is terrible.
I've been held back by depression since childhood and naturally made friends who are in similar circumstances, but it has been improving for the past few years and I realize I am now seen as the one with life together. I wake up early and cook meals and use a calendar. I'm not used to having energy yet, it's weird. I've stopped being the person I've been all my life.
@@Turnpost2552 there's nothing wrong with waking up at 4 am assuming you go to bed early and get your 8 hours of sleep. Its actually better in terms of knocking out some duties/hobbies/workouts before needing to get ready for work/school. Just don't be going out for runs in the dark at 4 am unless you wanna get mugged.
i relate to your question and i feel that for me it is because 'getting your life together' with examples like this random video from the internet in mind looks like a checklist which was not written by you. makes you focus on and stress about things that may be of absolutely no significance to you specifically. earlier this month i made a list of goals which i personally would like to work towards and my life is changing for the better in little steps :)
Just like the person who comment before me, I think it's mostly because of pressure. The more we think we 'have' to get our life together, the more we become stressed, pressured and ended up in this viscous cycle of 'I can do better. Why can't I?' And the thing is, people operate and work differently. For some people, being totally organised and having structure helps them. It works for them. For some other, they see method in madness, they have another approach and method in live. I am sure there are many other way to live too. This sounds cliche, but find what works for you. Good luck for your journey. Sending you best wishes ✨✨✨
If you try to do everything at once, you'll just get overwhelmed and end up getting nothing done. It's good to make a list of things you want to achieve, and why you want to achieve them. I make a list at the beginning of each year with achievable goals to be completed before the year ends. Stuff like "save $x by the end of the year (so that I can eventually buy a house). Find a cleaning routine that works for me (because I don't feel happy sitting in a messy house) etc. It's important to not set them too high, or you'll just be disappointed. Its super rewarding and motivating when you achieve even the smallest of goals. Eventually, you'll be where you want to be :)
I have a friend who even has AESTHETIC parents- She has good hand writing, is named Jasmin and Has a FRIEND GROUP! And she doesn’t even need to worry about financial issues 😭😭😭
Not really. Some people are straight A students who play varsity sports and have a decent friend group with small to no mental problems. Sometimes the cards line up with someone ready to take them and that's it. Their issue might be that their the second best on varsity or that they only got into their second choice uni
The problem is that most people that meet me think that my life is complete, but that's because I want everyone to think this way, indeed what's going on in my head is absolutely disaster, and having the thought that others think high of me, helps me to relaz
Yup…usually these folks who seem super perfect and put together struggle with internal chaos. So, the best way to feel like they have some type of control and order is by controlling their external environment with: Over achievements, perfectionism, over working, micro managing, excessive exercise or extreme food restrictions that are not needed, etc. I know quite few like that…and trust me…they portray to be perfect and have a perfect life, yet behind doors they have the most sad, sinister and chaotic lives ever. It’s actually quite sad and scary…
One time my friend came over to my house and I was getting ready for a family thing and she was like “girl your so put together, you got ready in like 5 minutes and you look great, you have a skincare routine, your room is so clean, and you have a record player, can I be you” honestly it felt so good to hear that 😭
Make sure you tell her how much you appreciate her! From personal experience those people tend to have a lot of insecurities they hide really well, so it's important you let them know that you admire them.
Me: "Hey, why don't you study a course from home in your spare time?" Friends: "..Well, I'm sort of half way though Game of Thrones for the third time and I don't want to start anything new till I've finished everything I'm doing." Me: " I see."
The thing I found most interesting in this video is this girl's definition of what "having your life together" means. Don't get me wrong..... she's not wrong with everything she's saying. What someone "having their life together" means, is an opinion. I bet in 10, 20, 30 years from now.... her definition of "having life together" will change. It's the same concept of "What does successful mean?". People will have lots of different answers from one another.
Yes, the video is more about the friend that tries to perfectly fit in with societys always changing expectations and definition of "perfect". That is not the friend that has their life together. That is the friend you should be really really worried about because they are cleary not living for themselves but for the people around them
@@eineperson3689 well I'm that friend and I have never thought of it that way. I do all the so called perfect things not because I want to fit in society's standards, it just genuinely makes me happy.
@@eineperson3689 is there anything wrong with keeping your body healthy (by working out) and getting stuff done? My grandma is absolutely this type of person, and (trust me) she could not care less about anybody in the world except her family.
"Your handwriting looks like a font" Lol, my mom's handwriting when she was at the age of 14 looks exactly like a font. She was a secretary back then from her school and tbh, she does it so perfect that it literally looks like a font. 😗😗
Let me tell you, being the “perfect person” isn’t what it seems to be. It’s a lot of pressure to hold it together all the time. We wish someone could just take care of us but since they haven’t or won’t, we reject the part of ourselves that can be lazy and relax and trust that things will get done. We overcompensate for the unmet need to be taken care of by trying so hard to be independent and “functional”, but on the inside we’re tired and feel like if we can’t do everything for ourselves, we’re never going to be safe and taken care of. Grass is always greener
okay this makes me see how “put together” my life is- i get up early, if a room isn’t cleaned i’m stressed, and i’m a straight A student, and apparently my handwriting is good 👁👄👁
@@_mozz_5372 it's also quite hard for me now. I used to be able to sleep till 10 on weekends but ever since I had the realization of a lifetime, I couldn't... Why should I sleep when I could be helping my parents who're working their hardest or studying... I do this and my mum is just like, "Haiya, why you get up so early!! Go back to sleep!!" 😂
I can only relate to getting up early, like i usually woke up at 5:30, because i always think i'm wasting my time by sleeping but then i end up wasting it by being on my phone all day😭😭
Lol I literally cannot go to bed before 11 even if I pulled an all-nighter the night before, my average going to sleep time is probably around 1 am, and I never get up before 9 by choice. Also my room is usually pretty messy lol I have pretty good grades tho (in most classes heh..) and my handwriting is decent :S
I can relate to the "don't mind the mess". My mom is borderline OCD and so I just grew up thinking the smallest things make a dirty room. I had a roommate who's one of my friends from high school and he literally would be like "why are you cleaning, it's literally spot less" and I would just remark "my mom knows and I can feel her dissapointment". Fun times
Can we stop thinking that having your life together means you have to wake up at dawn to journal and mediate . Otherwise your a failure ? Having YOUR life together is different for everyone and for you it might be waking up at 8 eating breakfast going to work and hanging with friends on the weekend . As long as your happy its success .❣️
Honestly, I’ve always been more of a night person. It’s cooler, calmer, and quieter, whereas the morning is hot, loud, and chaotic as everyone races to get to work 5 minutes before they’re late
The “YOUR HANDWRITING LOOKS LIKE A FONT” is SO accurate.
Bruh- when you are struggling to get notes down in class and the girl next to you already has hers printed it in sans serif and highlighted 😟✋
People say this to me 💀👺
@@tealmarble5444 lmao I lost so much grades just bc the teachers hecking want us to take notes of EVERYTHING
🥲 that was so triggering (I’m a doctor)
Your* :)
The "it's a mess" when it's spotless 😂🤣😂 so true
I just saw your comment in Isiah Photo
@@sanmariyajoseph1126 😂🤣 in that case I love your sub list
@@trashbug4843 😂
Basically my aunt lol,
Being at that on aunties house like:sorry it's messy...but you can live the floor and literally feel BETTER....like....
*”Can I be you-“* Perfect touch for thee ending 😂
So true (why am I the first one to comment/reply)
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“When did you get up”
3pm *Y E S T E R D A Y*
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relatable i stayed up still 4 last night i am falling apart mentally and physically 🤠
I’m the 1k LIKEEEEE Sorry it just so satisfying
@@mayamartin7359 somehow I read ur reply as:"it made me jiggle"
Don't ask lol
“Your handwriting looks like a FONT” got me 😂
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@@coreyalan3675 no one care
@@coreyalan3675 imagine using gay as an insult in 2021 🥺💅
@@saltymarshmallows316 why would someone even be offended? Imagine someone thinking with was anything else? This video she seems pretty happy to me.
"even ur purse is hot,can I be u" I'm ded this whole vid is a mood 😂
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@shutupdude how is it cringe??
"Can i be you?" Literally me😅
bruv why cant i just be organised and have my life put together like that is a fucin privalige
@@qualitycontrol05 or you just put a little effort everyday until you reach that goal..?
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Uhm…this is me 🥲
Apart from my handwriting sucksss
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“Oh… You meant a.m…”
lmao
Have a friend who's like this. She's trained herself to the point where she doesn't even need an alarm, she wakes up at give or take 10 minutes around 6AM. I lived with her for three months last year, by the time I wake up at 9 she's done all her chores, jogged a mile, and finished two homework assignments.
Literally a superwoman.
it's really not that hard. I've been getting up at 5-6am since I was a child. Never needed an alarm clock in my life and it absolutely never felt like effort. However it's also true I go to bed at like 10pm
this is so hilarious because that's literally exactly how it works with most veterans that i know. i mean, just casually getting up at 4 in the morning, doing earth breaking workouts, and then being early for the morning shift.
@@blazejecar HOW??
@@dhriti4001 idk man. I got up early and went to bed on time as a kid and i simply kept that up. Now I'm tired af after 11pm automatically and even if i stay up exceptionally long on new years or sth, i can go to sleep at 3am and still wake up at 6-7 without an alarm.
I also dont drink coffee or anything. I wake up, can immediatelly roll out of bed onto the floor and do pushups. It's honestly great.
Some people tease me for being a "grandpa" who goes to sleep at 10pm but honestly i wouldnt give it up for the world
@@blazejecar damn that's great of you are able to to do all that and not feel tired, like i wake up at 6 for school too and yet I can't bother to wake up even one minute earlier on days when I don't have it or when there's nothing important
Check in on your friends who seem to "have it all together", they might be silently suffering but it's even harder for them to open up about it because they're supposed to be the one who "has it all together"♡
True! If only people knew these things. 🤍
Exactly, and they might be achieving all those things in a fruitless and misguided pursuit of satisfaction. Nobody works crazy hard because they're happy.
For anyone who feels like that and wants others to know:
don‘t wait for others to recognize it by themselves (there is a chance that this won‘t happen), a true friend will not judge you for having issues/flaws/fears or whatever (also I think sharing your weaknesses is very strong)
Don’t get me wrong, I highly agree with the original comment too :)
*laughs in insomnia*
Me lol
The fun thing about having a friend who has everything together is that you always have a role model, and if you’re friends with them for a while you just naturally start getting better
I mean I’m *never* gonna get up at mfing 5:30 but I’m taking care of myself better :)
Very true I recently changed to homeschool (by recently i mean like 2 years ago )and had a very good role model right after transferring and I instantly started changing the way I thought I’m still working on when it comes to fitness and health but I was able to learn to be a lot more mature and I’m 15 now but when I think about when I was still in public school my immaturity blinded me to having meaningful relationships now I feel like I am able to actually have relationships that last a lot longer not just love relationships but friendships too
i’m the mf who wakes up at 530 on purpose but then i just lay in bed reading fanfiction
Nah I'm like an infection. Had a roommate who had their shit together and me, who flops upwards. I'd literally literally nothing all day and things jist went my way.
Next semester he was literally just like me.
Good Lord I ruined the man.
I started waking up really early but it's 5:00 am for me, I'm not a morning person, but then i remember that I'll have a lot of time to study so this inspires me
my brain is wired the opposite direction and I see it as a way to compare myself.
“See there’s a pen of the floor-“
There’s literally nothing dirtier
2 of my freinds room: yup totally not here
What I wanna do every morning: Workout, do yoga, journal and do smoothie bowls
What I actually do every morning: *snooze my alarms*
Same
Same...
Too relatable to mention xD
ya it take hard work and discipline to get up
I never heard my alarm even tho I turn it on, alarm won't wake me up
"When am I supposed to workout, do yoga, journal and make smoothie bowls" lol
Uhm…this is me 🥲
Apart from my handwriting sucksss
Also, workout and yoga..but protein shake before, then breakfast. And I journal after I do breakfast and before I go to bed, but I go to bed way to late 9/10
@@user-wy5kx2zv6v omg so quirky🤣💀
@Louis Kingsta sorry to hear about your insomnia! Hope it gets better ♡︎
I'm concerned that I can relate to that. Except the yoga and smoothie bowls part lol
Before my kid is was gym at 4am, shower and cook breakfast, then work at 7:30. Starting the day how you want just makes the whole day seem better
That someone who actually has their life together is literally every other person except me!
Yeah I went to a school in an area full of rich people and everyday was like this, it's kinda depressing
Except me and you!
Tbh, a lot of those ppl are probably hiding depressions, anxieties, eating disorders, etc. from everyone else. It's always the people you expect the most and the least
I guess I am worthy opponent
@@septimiusthedestroyer7394 I feel ya
Though I don't have my life put together like the protagonist on this short, it genuinely makes me happy when people compliment my writing, cursive or not! Kinda adds to my life span lol.
I was criticized for my handwriting all my life, now it's so neat people just say I must be a sociopath..I swear, I can't win lmao 😅
The 'can I be you?' Is just so relatable.
Oh i thought, it was can i Beat u
wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are
@@EmptyEmpathy If you do nothing about the person you are, yes it is a waste. And that’s a good thing.
Wanting to “be” someone else who is doing things right creates aspiration and motivation. We should all want to “be” someone great.
If I was them I would just ruin their schedule lol
I want to be you but not with the effort it takes
This is literally my aunt. . . Has one of the most successful salons in the US, does a morning podcast, goes to the gym, never eats sugar, just published her first book on leadership, and her house is absolutely spotless. I asked my uncle (who is a low energy introvert who loves to sit and do numbers all day) how he keeps up. He said that he doesn't and that it's f**king exhausting XD.
That sounds so cool but kinda unrealistic, it's like, does this actually make her happy or is it just for image ... I wish I was like your aunt but I'm your uncle instead lmao
@@skaio.5279 Exactly.
U can't never eat sugar. Sugar is also important for our body! But u probably mean sweets right?🍧
@@skaio.5279 Some people are built like that irrespective of whether that makes them happy or not. Even my mother is like this. She is a workaholic. Now at the age of 58, she has achieved well beyond her means and education. She is extremely active and knows lot of stuff about many subjects which other people in that field do not know.
The key to success is work. Thats pretty much the entire truth.
Is your aunt marcia kilgore?
The “it looks like a font!” Is relatable.
I was helping go through forms with my mom at her work when I was little, and there was a form that I asked my mom if they used a printer, and she said “nope, just the neat handwriting. Yours needs to look like that.”
(It was written in pencil, so it was true.)
It legitimately looked like Arial. Like the default font whenever you make a new document.
(Also parents need to chill with the whole “you need to have perfect handwriting” and comparing yours to every single piece of handwritten paper. Like jeez, sorry I didn’t have muscle memory, the time, or extremely fine motor skills yet.)
my handwriting looks different every time so i cant really look like ONE specific font
I actually have disgrapia, a disorder where I struggle with keeping sentences straight, properly spacing letters, and keeping up with things like notes, so my handwriting is always messy
@@arion2931 literally me! it changes constantly :"( also insee youre a dsmp fan POGGIES :D
Your handwriting is influenced by your personality so you can't forcefully change it
@cl0udy what ab it 👀
THE CUT OFF “CAN I BE YOU-“ HAS ME DEAD I CANT
"Can I be you?!"
"Yeah! The fridge is already stocked and I just refilled the gas tank."
Lmao I also want to be her now
Having life together to me means quality relationships and having finances in order. Not trying to be contrarian, it’s just interesting the values we have at different stages in life.
Health too
For me it means someone having a mature and strong relationship with Jesus.
So 3 different people and we already have 3 different views on this topic. Interesting indeed!
@@TheRealSimeon That seems pretty derogatory against literally anyone not born into or prescribing to your specific denomination of Christianity...
@@MsScarletwings You know, the wonderful thing about Christianity is that anyone can become a follower of Christ. Jesus died for the sins of every single human being on this planet, all we need to do is receive that free gift through faith!
I've seen what people are like when they have a strong and mature relationship with Jesus. They are really remarkable people!
I hope to be that way one day!
There’s more to having your life together than just finances and relationships. A lot of people have both and are just putting on the appearance of happiness. I think mental health is also extremely important along with regular health too, but if they go wrong, you entire life will be a mess
Being around someone who is being productive is actually a good way to get productive :>
I had a friend who had recently cleaned and reorganized his room which motivated me to get my life somewhat together and do the same :)
I can say I agreed to it, I used to watch lots of productive TH-cam videos and they somehow always motivates me to be more productive and organized
Then why my brother doesn't clean his fucking bed when mine is spotless!
@@yooooo8652 😭
My best friend in school was like that
As a person with a similar vibe to "having their life together" I'd like to say - hoping that I'm representing the rest of us and it's not just me- that we in fact are not okay, but internally suffering and attempting to drown our insecurities through endless perfectionism until we crumble :)
Yes. You get me.
100% lol. Our feeble attempt to control something in our lives
Fr
Omg, why? I'm sorry that, that happens
This is everytime I go golfing with my Uncle. I got up at like 11, he's been up since 4:30 am, he worked a half day, went shopping, did his laundry and some yard work, I'm like, I had lucky charms for brunch, so there's that.
Literally 😂✋
I'm more a fruity pebbles guy, but yeah totally relatable
I'm more of a captain-berry-crunch kinda guy, but yeah totally relatable
Dude! That’s what I tell my mom and grandma, by the time I get up at 9am they’ve already done some yard work, cleaned the house, washed a few loads, washed the dishes, taken a bath and are clean and well dressed… I’m about to make breakfast ‘-‘
@@Chuleta_9 You made BREAKFAST!? sometimes, I don't even feel energetic enough to make a damn toast.
I've struggled with high functioning anxiety for most of my life and have been the friend that "has their life together". From the outside, my life looks great, organized, almost perfect. But, I never see what everyone else sees. I have this overwhelming sense of failure and a need to be better- in almost every area of my life. It's taken years of therapy and deliberate effort to get to a point where I can relax more and not compete with myself. I've learned that perfection is a trap that keeps you in an endless loop of unhappiness and self sabotage.
So, to anyone who has found themselves on this side of the road and can relate, just know you're not alone and no one expects you to be perfect but you- and you can give yourself a break this one time 😘
Edit: TYSM for 700+ likes 😀😀😀
I’m so sorry. Just wanted to tell you that you will always be good enough. You’re great. Even when you don’t think so.
I know a lot of “perfect” Instagram models who fans will tell them “I’d kill to look like you” and everyone thinks they look perfect. But in reality they’re some of the most insecure people and obsess about their appearance, constantly touch their face, freak out if makeup isn’t perfect, take 4 hours to get ready and are always late, blow people off when they feel “ugly”, etc. they’ll use FaceTune and photoshop apps for hours perfecting their photos, which end up half the time never being posted bc “it’s not good enough”, they’ll delete n freak out over comments that are any way negative about their appearance (no matter how tiny), spend so much money on injections and makeup and hair stuff, spend hours and hours taking pictures to get the right pose that makes them look thinner or on the good side of their face, freak out if anyone dares take a candid picture of them or posts it and insists all friend pictures be taken on their phone so they can edit and post it, spend hours lurking and comparing their looks to other Instagram models and feeling awful, not do live streams/video they can’t edit or spending lots of money to get expensive equipment and software so they can, won’t take pics without ring lights, have tons of anxiety about it, etc.
In reality they actually look like average girls without all the makeup, lighting, and photoshopping. They have acne and bad skin, they are shorter or weigh more, they don’t have as big lips or small of a waist, and some look barely unrecognizable IRL like a totally different person. A lot of people think they’re perfect but most of them just have such bad anxiety about looks that they go far out of their way to make it look perfect by whatever means possible. And all those hours and hours of wasted time make them feel worse. They’re not happy esp when they know they don’t look anything like that IRL, it just gives them a short quick fix bandaid boost of self esteem when they get comments calling them beautiful, but then they look in the mirror and get depressed. It’s really sad and I know one girl who tried to kill herself twice over not looking perfect on Instagram and being obsessed with looking perfect physically online and the toxic culture and enabling surrounding it.
Same here! The worst part in my case is that everyone believes that I can achieve/handle anything and everything I'm handed. Even my husband believes that. Of course in reality I'm not capable of everything and when I protest and refuse to do certain things, they brand me as stubborn and unwilling. As if not wanting to do something is a bad thing.
Thissss 💯
Im the exact opposite. I have low ass functioning anxiety and every single task seems like its not worth it and that imma fail regardless
Same. I get anxiety over the smallest things, especially in college where virtual learning is just kicking me in the butt (I've realized that learning at a school environment where there's actually people present around makes me focus more that in front of a device in my room), like, when there's quizes and stuff, my family keeps reassuring me that those scores aren't going to matter much in the future and that I shouldn't stress myself too much over them but I can't help but feel bad whenever I do worse or if some classmate is speaking and it seems like they actually comprehended the material more than I did, I feel like I failed even though my grades are actually passing.... I dunno, man. It sucks. So whenever I feel extra down, I end up confiding in my mom or my sister (more than I did before quarantine actually, so that's a plus) or else just hang out with our dog a bit to settle myself.
I hate when my friends say they have ugly handwriting when it’s so good because my handwriting is actually ugly
That’s exactly what happened with me and my friend today
Yeah hate that, my handwriting is a mess and inconsistent and theirs might not be perfect but it looks so good and consistent
my handwriting isn’t ugly but it isn’t pretty either, and ever since i was little i used to be jealous of the girls who had nice handwritings lol with time i’ve tried improving it and it definitely worked but it will never be neat and clean like i want it to be :|
😂😂😂
You know people with bad handwriting are smart and pls don't say 'well I'm not smart lol' cuz first it ain't funny second everyone is smart in there own way and third don't let others bring you down by the smallest things
I used to be the friend who didn't have their life together but after I realised how badly it affected me I started getting up at around 6AM and have a daily routine and bedtime so my body was never disorientated. It's seriously helped with my procrastination and my mental health. I know from experience that it's not very easy to get into it (especially if you have a packed schedule) but once you start it feels so nice. You just feel in control of your life and it can help with so many things. 🥰🥰
“Even your purse is hot. CAN I BE YOU?!” Love it
At first I thought I heard 'Can I mate you?' 😅
Course you do.
"... without having to do all the work you did?"
Mood
As someone who analyzes handwriting, of someones *natural* handwriting is 'like a font' its typically a bad thing, usually means the person carries a lot of tension or anxiety; a lot of people like this are actually really stressed with keeping their life as perfect as possible. Give these people a hug if they seem stressed :)
Me: psss Alisha come here
Alisha: what
Me: come here
Alisha **comes**
Me: **gives hug**
Alisha: why are you hugging me I don't even know you?!?!
Me: oh... But a random guy on the internet says that if someone has good handwriting that means they're stressed and need a hug.. So I gave u one.
Alisha: *.*
Ahhh so THAT's why my handwriting was at its best when I was at my most anxious!! Thank you for the explanation/insight! :D
Not always true tho. I have a very good handwriting but thats only bcs i very genuinely love hand writing stuff. Like i am a comp science student and all my actual notes are typed, so i take out time every day and write some random paragraph from some book into my diary bcs i really love to write by hand.
Not always of course, but I also didn't go into detail. It's not just necessarily good handwriting, because there's so many variations of good handwriting- in this case I was referring to the baseline, when it's unflinchingly straight, because that's a sign of tension. That, coupled with a couple other traits, can sometimes lead to font-like handwriting.
But people who practice handwriting often can't be categorized with the typical traits of graphology; so yes, in your case that's probably not the case
Exactly ! I like to put extra effort into my handwriting because it helps me get the feeling that I control something, that at least this aspect of my life is clean and under control, especially when I’m in a stressful day, or just not feeling great day !
"You got up at 5:30?? Like, on purpose?" had me rolling because I've been waking up at 2:00pm lately and my face is breaking out and I'm a literal mess 24/7
Saaaaame
Oh my god same 😭
It's ok! Take the time you need to recharge and take it slow :)
The time you wake up has literally nothing to do with anything as long as you get the amount of sleep you need.
Does the time you wake up affect your acne? Lol I am intrigued
"EVEN YOUR PURSE IS HOT"
As someone who has their shit together, I agree
HOW DO U DO IT
I have a friend quite like this. His mom kicked him out and his dad doesn’t really give a shit about him. He stopped going to uni since then. But yet he kept his life so stable he even works out and meditates.
i feel for him. he's probably keeping himself like that to distract himself from those things.
@@hitormisshuh I don't think it's to necessarily "distract." Yes, it could be a possibility and could help for a little while, but you will at the end of the day have those trauma feelings coming back at you. It's more about how you precede those experiences by reflecting and growing from them as a person
@@anjafrohlich1170 Since when has meditation been escapist behavior? I suspect there may be some envy motivating these comments...
@@anjafrohlich1170 No one knows if he got his life together immediately afterwards, neither does it matter if he did got it immediately together. What matters is he pulled through and it shows.
Let’s all take a moment to note that her friend didn’t appear jealous or intimidated by her but was just in awe of her decisions👏
Ik! Imagine having your life together and being able to not just be a mess 😂😂
Lmaoo the world would have ended by then 😂😂😂
Ok I should stop reading comments I am very offended because all these comments actually are like 'imagine having your life together' cuz I do and I luv it and I'm not sending hate I just kinda hate how everyone is saying having your life together is a dream come true or its to good to be true
@@farah-mt6dx This seriously wasn't meant to be hate in any way to anyone, I'm sorry that my comment offended you. :) xx
@@elleetn it's fine I knew u were joking but just kinda felt offended by it but it's okay lol don't worry about it
@@farah-mt6dx But for some people it really is too good to be true, for example I have ADHD and I can only try to imagine what it would be like to live like this because I’m literally mentally and physically incapable of this…
"You got up at 5:30, LiKe oN PUrPOsE?"😂😂
"Can I be you?"😂😭
Everyone has their issues, no matter how 'perfect' they may seem.
Yea but some people have way less issues lmao
True, but normalizing issues doesn't help.
Sure but some people literally don’t have any or are pretty minuscule because they are normal people. These people exists they are called normal and productive people.
@@tfries72 While I understand your point. I do agree that some people have less issues then others. (Like Jiminie has said as well in a previous comment.) But I'm not sure if someone doesn't have any at all. It's totally your opinion to think that though. I just personally think that everyone has problems, but some are really minimal. (As you said as well) Also, I don't really consider anyone to be "normal".. since everyone has such different interpretations of it. (Like you, with your interpretation that they're productive people.) Also since you said "some people" I'm assuming that you aren't including yourself (I could be wrong though. And I don't mean to be insulting when I say that, everyone has them). I mention this because if you got your information about this from someone else or your impression of someone else's life. It probably isn't as accurate rather then if it came from you directly. Also, thought I should let you know that you kinda sounded like a smart-ass in your comment and a little patronizing too. (I say it directly, because I'm not sure how to phrase it nicely) Not sure if this was your intention, but I just thought I should let you know for future reference.
@@gingercakerules I’m definitely not the norm I was just saying in general but more than likely You’re right everyone has their issues no matter the severity and it’s relative
Listen, I'm that friend who is super positive and seems to have things together but I fall on very hard times with my mental & physical health from time to time, and need really good friends to help me get through it.
Sometimes the ppl who seem to have it all together are fighting against something trying to take them down, so they always have to fight even harder. Don't assume anything.
Look imagine you have fight yourself and alone fight every problem that comes with life so technically you know you have to win every time so you are like all charged up prepared yourself for that's which makes you positive from outside but internally you are a warrior not survivor and well
Every warrior have to well fail once in awhile which makes you perfect human in my opinion who fail and get up and fight back
Chin up king, we’ve got you I promise
Anyone need tissues?
And then you catch a cold and can't do the things you gotta do to keep your body away from hurting
@@oopsie3415 When that happpens you take some tylenol and you'll be down for maybe 2 days so you call and cancel all your appointments (depends on how important) and bring hell to those that don't understand how health works.
As someone who doesn’t have their life together, I’m glad she was showing that character having admiration for the one that has their life together. I’ve seen so many where the person who doesn’t have their life together hates on the other person because wow that’s so not relatable. Also, I have a feeling a lot of quirky girls try and portray that image and hate on people who are actually organised. It’s refreshing to see a more friendly relationship instead of seeing that typical pitting women against each other behaviour.
If anyone sees this I’m so sorry, my sentence structure is shit, it’s 3am, I’m sleep deprived and I’m just rambling. Clearly don’t have my life together XD.
very true, its good to see them still be friends. it can be alienating either way.
I get what you mean but I feel like the opposite happens to me, organized friends lowkey judge me
I'm pretty organized and I feel as if a lot of people are mean abt it, I just can't live my life without it 😪
I respect the respect.
But for me, it’s hard not to feel spiteful towards these people.
Because yes, they’ve been able to keep the simple daily functions of their life manageable when I, like many others, sometimes struggle to get out of bed.
And often I don’t feel impressed by this productivity, I just feel isolated by it.
You know?
“You we’re able to get up at 5 or 6 am when I can’t even get in the shower”
Who said anything about pitting women against eachother though?? Only you brought that up. The video is made by one person playing 2 characters so of course it looks like women because the creator is a woman, but these type of people aren't just women. Sorry not sorry but I do hate these kinds of people because they are the ones who create the "standard" for the way the rest of us have to live. It's like the semi-joke about how 8am work/schooldays suck but morning people decided to make that the rule while the rest of us were still asleep. The deadlines, the workweek, the expected start of days, etc are all decided upon by them FOR us while some of us are so debilitated we can't meet those standards and fall behind in this strict societal structure they created. It gets to the point where it's an ableism problem tbh
“Can I be yo-“
Me to everyone I meet
‘Be yourself, everyone else is already taken’ 😜
Literally
Every mom in the world: “ I’m so sorry it’s a mess in here “
Her two hour before hand: 🧹🧼🧽🧺🧻
The house: ✨✨✨✨
The guests: “ it’s literally spotless “
Mom: “ omg really thanks, it always looks like this, but really it’s kinda messy “
Us kids: 🧐
Us thinking: “ okay if you say so “
My mom always did that, and now at my own place I catch myself doing it too, especially when a lady comes down lmao
@@DowntownLAKid I certainly hope you clean before she "comes down".
@@derp195 yup! lol
@@derp195 yo
If you think about why they do that it's kinda messed up. They want you to compliment them so they clean the house. They can't just clean it and let it be they need that compliment so they'll say it's dirty just so you'll respond positively
“Your handwriting looks like a font” hits every time
Same. Mine looks like a child’s scribbles
that’s literally me and my roommate, the poor girl woke up at 2 p.m. and got traumatised when she saw me, all ready, completing my assignments 😭
"See? I left a pen.. On the floor."
💀
"your hand writing looks like a font." -literally the handwriting all my classmates have
Probably 1/2 of my accounting students have perfect handwriting. My handwriting is a hot mess. I feel a little intimidated, lol.
@@aina3387 my handwriting is that of an 8 year old and thats being polite to myself. I usually can’t read my own handwriting
@Tayshaun Emerson that’s tuff 😂😂 I can’t even sign my name. My signature is different every time. Now i think i need one of those doctor signatures 😂😂
Isn’t there a thing about how smarter people have crappy handwriting?
@@nylotical I mean that's definitely not true 😭😭😭
Let's just take a moment to appreciate those people in our life that, at the very least, have got the essentiel parts of life togheter. For me it's my brother that I love and have learned to admire so much for his strenght! ( the best part is i've managed in a drunken way to share to him my admiration for his goodness)
Having your life together means healthy relationships, financial stability, bills paid, no consumer card debt, a stable career and no addiction or reliance on social media, alcohol, drugs or outside validation from strangers to feel valuable.
Journals, spotless homes and running with every new trend isn't having your life together. I'm arguably more concerned about the together girl. From 22 years of adult experience, someone needs to check in on her overall well-being. None of that seems together, it looks like a mental health crisis and masking.
I stopped thinking people like this had their lives together after like the 3rd suicide in my peer network. You'd think by 40 we'd kill ourselves less, but it only seems to get worse.
Don't think people who project this image have it together. Its dangerous.
Couldn't agree more.
I used to be the girl in the video, one of my friends was even jealous of me. Reality was I was in a cult and felt pressure to do those things. I am doing a lot better now sleeping in til 9am and having a messy kitchen lol
You are on a social media platform saying this.... God dam the irony.
@earth star - as a person who’s still struggling to get their life together, I needed this.
Working hard under current standards (ie trends) aint getting it together. Living life the way you need it is getting it together. You may need that afternoon nap. You may need more carbs for a sustainable e energy level. You might need more metime n less rushing around.
Lmao. What about being 40 makes you think we'd kill ourselves *less*?
The prime of our life is over by 30, by 40 you're aching and cracking, and that's assuming you've lived a physically non traumatic life. Most of us are crippled by 25 or 30. By the time I'm 40 you're damn right I'm gonna kill myself.
I just gotta work up the nerve to step in front of a truck since I don't have a gun and hanging is terrible.
So accurate I have a friend like this and she's so productive and I aspire to be like her 😌💅
"Can I be you?"
Was the most relatable line ever
I've been held back by depression since childhood and naturally made friends who are in similar circumstances, but it has been improving for the past few years and I realize I am now seen as the one with life together. I wake up early and cook meals and use a calendar. I'm not used to having energy yet, it's weird. I've stopped being the person I've been all my life.
Sorry to hear that you deal with that, but I’m glad you’re making progress. Stay strong
@@badpiggy2403 thank you! (:
wow i wonder if i'll be able to do even half of what ur capable of. Depression got me so far that i am afraid of actually getting better.
that is freaking awesome, dude. I admire you for the work you've done. best wishes.
I'm glad you're getting to places where you want to be. The adjustment I imagine, is hard. I hope I can get there one day.
Im glad that most people who are like this dont judge everyone else because then life would be a mightmare
AND THEN THEY ARE SOOOOOOOOOO CUTE AND LIKE THEY ARE ALWAYS PERFECT AT EVERY CLASS AND OUTFIT😫
“Even your purse is hot. Can I be you” 😂🤣
This has gotten me the confidence to start getting my life together somehow-
"And make smoothie bowls?" lol Best thing I've heard all day
I think we all have that one person in our life that just is so perfect and has there whole entire life together
people have different perceptions of “having it together.”
Life is so much more than what time you wake up at
right like a fing toddler wakes up at 4 am all of sudden he is super hard. Man life waking at 4 am man pity me wooo is me ???????
No. Only pigs wake up after 12:00, well manered people get up early and prepare everything and are mindful of time
@@tomotomi2182 ok
@@Turnpost2552 there's nothing wrong with waking up at 4 am assuming you go to bed early and get your 8 hours of sleep.
Its actually better in terms of knocking out some duties/hobbies/workouts before needing to get ready for work/school.
Just don't be going out for runs in the dark at 4 am unless you wanna get mugged.
@@tomotomi2182 wtf...
I love this. It’s so inspirational and it inspires certain people to keep being their good, hardworking innocent self
The lazy one is me completely
“Can I be you?” I think that everyday 🤣🤣🤣
why do I feel like by being overly obsessed into getting my life together, I'm just becoming increasingly unstable?
i relate to your question and i feel that for me it is because 'getting your life together' with examples like this random video from the internet in mind looks like a checklist which was not written by you. makes you focus on and stress about things that may be of absolutely no significance to you specifically. earlier this month i made a list of goals which i personally would like to work towards and my life is changing for the better in little steps :)
You just put into words what I had been going through for years... 🥲
Just like the person who comment before me, I think it's mostly because of pressure. The more we think we 'have' to get our life together, the more we become stressed, pressured and ended up in this viscous cycle of 'I can do better. Why can't I?'
And the thing is, people operate and work differently. For some people, being totally organised and having structure helps them. It works for them. For some other, they see method in madness, they have another approach and method in live. I am sure there are many other way to live too.
This sounds cliche, but find what works for you. Good luck for your journey. Sending you best wishes ✨✨✨
If you try to do everything at once, you'll just get overwhelmed and end up getting nothing done. It's good to make a list of things you want to achieve, and why you want to achieve them.
I make a list at the beginning of each year with achievable goals to be completed before the year ends. Stuff like "save $x by the end of the year (so that I can eventually buy a house). Find a cleaning routine that works for me (because I don't feel happy sitting in a messy house) etc. It's important to not set them too high, or you'll just be disappointed. Its super rewarding and motivating when you achieve even the smallest of goals. Eventually, you'll be where you want to be :)
This happens when my mania really peaks lol
This is literally like me and my bestie, she’s like extra perfect and it’s so relatable except for the handbag thing
I have a friend who even has AESTHETIC parents- She has good hand writing, is named Jasmin and Has a FRIEND GROUP! And she doesn’t even need to worry about financial issues 😭😭😭
Wait... Did she live in Iran? Cause that's literallt somebody i know who moved like at the beggining of 6ht grade. She has all of these things
@@louchevalier8709Sadly, she’s Malaysian..
@@4R4B_ Oh ok!!!
We all have that one friend love it
Everyone has their own struggles, even those who seem "perfect"
Nope
People who seem perfect are just good at hiding their insecurities. We all have em
Not really. Some people are straight A students who play varsity sports and have a decent friend group with small to no mental problems. Sometimes the cards line up with someone ready to take them and that's it. Their issue might be that their the second best on varsity or that they only got into their second choice uni
Struggle to become human
@ T. H. stop being jealous
"your hand writing is like a FONT" got me dead 💀
The sooner you realize that nobody has their life together. The sooner you will be happy
My friend is EXACTLY like this. People like that are just PERFECT
The problem is that most people that meet me think that my life is complete, but that's because I want everyone to think this way, indeed what's going on in my head is absolutely disaster, and having the thought that others think high of me, helps me to relaz
Start living for yourself versus for others… once you find that , you will relax.
@@MediaBuccLA I wish it was that easy, however I don't have a good identity more than that I like math...
@@SuperCaptain4 I can relate
Yah some people that dont know me well think i have my shit together 🤣 but reality is, not that much. I just dont wanna look weak
@@SuperCaptain4 yo the same tf
Yup…usually these folks who seem super perfect and put together struggle with internal chaos. So, the best way to feel like they have some type of control and order is by controlling their external environment with: Over achievements, perfectionism, over working, micro managing, excessive exercise or extreme food restrictions that are not needed, etc.
I know quite few like that…and trust me…they portray to be perfect and have a perfect life, yet behind doors they have the most sad, sinister and chaotic lives ever.
It’s actually quite sad and scary…
Happiness is realizing you're slowly becoming more of the "life together" person, and less like the other
Happiness is realizing you can be happy by your own choice
@@MakeDemocracyMagnificientAgain yess
One time my friend came over to my house and I was getting ready for a family thing and she was like “girl your so put together, you got ready in like 5 minutes and you look great, you have a skincare routine, your room is so clean, and you have a record player, can I be you” honestly it felt so good to hear that 😭
I have a friend like that...and im a mess so in so jelous. The “can i be you“ is so relatable 😭😂
The "no it's a mess i left a PEN on the floor" had me dying 😂😂😂
YESSSSS one of my friends are like that and they’re so humble! I could never relate to how they live but just being her friend is enough for me
Make sure you tell her how much you appreciate her! From personal experience those people tend to have a lot of insecurities they hide really well, so it's important you let them know that you admire them.
Someone in my class got accused for printing her work. HER HANDRITING IS LITERALLY A FONT-
Damn the “Your handwriting looks like a font” hella got me rolling 😵🤣
Me: "Hey, why don't you study a course from home in your spare time?"
Friends: "..Well, I'm sort of half way though Game of Thrones for the third time and I don't want to start anything new till I've finished everything I'm doing."
Me: " I see."
I have become both of those people. :|
@@gustavomendez6279 nothing wrong with that. No body said we can't enjoy stuff around bettering our selves.
Keep it up.
This is fake, since no one rewatches game of thrones
@@ivar1543 no one but us bots.
The most unbelievable part was being impressed by a coach purse
what's wrong with a coach purse
Yeah, that part definitely got a raised eyebrow from me 🤨
I literally have a friend like this and I CANNOT HER EYELINER IS PERFECTION
I stumbled on to her skits the other day and I've been watching a lot of them, I definitely have to say that in my opinion she's good, very good!!
The thing I found most interesting in this video is this girl's definition of what "having your life together" means. Don't get me wrong..... she's not wrong with everything she's saying. What someone "having their life together" means, is an opinion.
I bet in 10, 20, 30 years from now.... her definition of "having life together" will change.
It's the same concept of "What does successful mean?". People will have lots of different answers from one another.
Yes, the video is more about the friend that tries to perfectly fit in with societys always changing expectations and definition of "perfect". That is not the friend that has their life together. That is the friend you should be really really worried about because they are cleary not living for themselves but for the people around them
@@eineperson3689 well I'm that friend and I have never thought of it that way. I do all the so called perfect things not because I want to fit in society's standards, it just genuinely makes me happy.
@@arundhatidash6431 I don't know you so I believe you and that is great 😊 I guess then the currently trending things just suit you
this is hands down the best comment
@@eineperson3689 is there anything wrong with keeping your body healthy (by working out) and getting stuff done? My grandma is absolutely this type of person, and (trust me) she could not care less about anybody in the world except her family.
“Can I be you?”
Is what I say to Harper like she’s so pretty and can literally pull off anything!
And they’re always the nicest people lmfaooo
"Even your purse is hot?!?"
Now that's my favorite 😂
“Even your purse is hot?!” Had me laughing/crying/dying😂🤣
"Your handwriting looks like a font"
Lol, my mom's handwriting when she was at the age of 14 looks exactly like a font. She was a secretary back then from her school and tbh, she does it so perfect that it literally looks like a font. 😗😗
"See I left a pen on the floor"
Hannah: *visible confusion*
Let me tell you, being the “perfect person” isn’t what it seems to be. It’s a lot of pressure to hold it together all the time. We wish someone could just take care of us but since they haven’t or won’t, we reject the part of ourselves that can be lazy and relax and trust that things will get done. We overcompensate for the unmet need to be taken care of by trying so hard to be independent and “functional”, but on the inside we’re tired and feel like if we can’t do everything for ourselves, we’re never going to be safe and taken care of.
Grass is always greener
I don’t think so I think there’s perfect person who’s very happy, and got their shit together
@@adamj3977 and everybody expects him to be best at everything I guess.
“We” HAHA
@@josephsegal1435 yeah LMAO I mean what a narcist
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Organised and has their life together are 2 very different things
Exactly.
Totally not me going to bed at 11:00 and waking up and 3:00 perfectly fine and also getting no sleep
@@nevalackin I think u wake up at 1 and just stay there until 3pm
The one who doesn't have their life together: "can I just be you for the rest of my life?" 🤣
"Can I be you" literally me everytime 😂😂
okay this makes me see how “put together” my life is- i get up early, if a room isn’t cleaned i’m stressed, and i’m a straight A student, and apparently my handwriting is good 👁👄👁
Same 😂 what time do you get up? I like to get up at 5, so you can workout and get freshh.
@@cassichu966 Right? I get up around 5 too- I’m actually incapable of sleeping in past 8 AM, I’ve tried.
@@_mozz_5372 it's also quite hard for me now. I used to be able to sleep till 10 on weekends but ever since I had the realization of a lifetime, I couldn't... Why should I sleep when I could be helping my parents who're working their hardest or studying... I do this and my mum is just like, "Haiya, why you get up so early!! Go back to sleep!!" 😂
I can only relate to getting up early, like i usually woke up at 5:30, because i always think i'm wasting my time by sleeping but then i end up wasting it by being on my phone all day😭😭
Lol I literally cannot go to bed before 11 even if I pulled an all-nighter the night before, my average going to sleep time is probably around 1 am, and I never get up before 9 by choice. Also my room is usually pretty messy lol
I have pretty good grades tho (in most classes heh..) and my handwriting is decent :S
Just a side note: Nobody's life is perfect, don't compare yourself to others, be thr best version of yourself! 💜
I can relate to the "don't mind the mess". My mom is borderline OCD and so I just grew up thinking the smallest things make a dirty room. I had a roommate who's one of my friends from high school and he literally would be like "why are you cleaning, it's literally spot less" and I would just remark "my mom knows and I can feel her dissapointment". Fun times
my best friend HER LIFE IS LITERALLY PERFECT
This is the literal definition of having a "that girl" friend 😂
I’m gonna be that friend in 3 years’ time, with a sense of humour and style.
That's the dream
Let's fulfill it 😌
Can we stop thinking that having your life together means you have to wake up at dawn to journal and mediate . Otherwise your a failure ? Having YOUR life together is different for everyone and for you it might be waking up at 8 eating breakfast going to work and hanging with friends on the weekend . As long as your happy its success .❣️
It should be serving God and repenting of sin
Honestly, I’ve always been more of a night person. It’s cooler, calmer, and quieter, whereas the morning is hot, loud, and chaotic as everyone races to get to work 5 minutes before they’re late
@@worm_and_no_man bruh
@@aaronlandry3934 I get what u mean 100% lmao
And here i am waking up at 2pm everyday
Please do more of these! They’re so funny! 😂