This is so true. I have a man chasing me and all he is offering me is material things, but not once has he supported me in my business and my goals. I need a partner in crime someone who ready to be there for me mentally, spiritually not just financially.
Thing is, men are not interested in a woman's accomplishments. They just aren't. They want a woman to be needy and then degrade her for it. Contradiction is what it is. Run from a dude like that.
Thats because most men are avrage and most women are avrage but the truth is , women are attracted to the men that are above avrage and thats the minority of men . Most avrage men are the ones that are hard working and are the ones that actually cares and will cater to and about a womans needs , but women today are putting what they want on the table instead of what they really need from a man . An avrage man can provide provision , protection and stability but the problem is most women wont kno this because most avrage men are totally invisible to the avrage women because of his job, or his hight, or his looks. These things sounds great on paper but in reality wonen are and will always be attracted to high top tier men and when u look at it the numbers dont add because their all after the same men and these men are few . We live in a hiarchey system and women will always date up the ladder and thats the truth. No women arent leaving any billionare especially if shes got the ring , the house , the kids , the cars, the bank accounts, ect. Best advice for men is to take control of their lives and get their money up create their value make themselves the ideal suiter for the right women and build a legacy.
It took all of me to not cry when my brother-in-law was telling us that a guy asked him why did he want to go home to his wife and kids when he can go out and have fun with the boys my brother-in-law told him I love going home to my wife and kids he said that's the safest in the best place I could ever be and that's my happy place at home with my family. It took all of me to hold back them tears😭😭
@@cindykidd9174 We are equal now so you can do whatever you want... A feminine women would roll her eyes at you even asking that question, but as i say we are equal now.
@@truth1teller so why does she have to be submissive in order for a man to rush home to her. You say equal but by virtue of your statement “feminine and submissive” you would rather it not be so.
@@dragonfly4494 if you valued loyalty and commitment, you would identify women with the same values. You value money and are attracted to women who value money.
@@dragonfly4494 seems like an excuse to not be loyal or to not be a provider. Women have been both in today's society. Whats your excuse? Just because a few women left doesn't mean they all will. You're living in fear due to the actions of a few. Very immature way of thinking.
Facts. In the early 2000s I was engaged to a multi-millionaire. Shared an absolutely beautiful home with him, and even traveled the world with him. Turns out he is a very nasty and controlling predatory narcissist. I gave back that big ring and left him. At that time, I left with nothing but my clothes and my car, and I was content, leaving everything behind just to have my peace of mind back. My life has been sweet ever since.
Yes. There is nothing like peace of mind. My ex-husband wasn't a multi-millionaire. He had an annual salary of $250,000+. He really thought that gave him the right to be nasty and disrespectful to me. Mind you.. I had my own job/earnings and had been just fine before marrying him. Well.. I left and later divorced him. We got along better after divorce then we did while married.Crazy. Were able to even build a platonic friendship. He died a few years ago. I was glad that we had been able to be friends. Since the divorce I've been living my best life. Peace of mind. Nothing beats it. Not money. Not possessions. Nothing.
Yep I dated a combat veteran who had a pension and business totaling to 300k however I noticed that the relationship was rapidly getting worst with his jealously, controlling behavior, quick temper, and snide comments. I chose to leave and he called me crazy saying I was making the biggest mistake of my life and I will end up homeless. They really cannot stand that your soul and respect can’t be bought and they can’t be a tyrant. A lot of men don’t really like women just want to have power over someone hence why they make it seem like it’s a bad thing if a woman is focused on her career or that women eventually hit a wall….they know that you can only control fearful anxious ridden people
This is one of the reasons they don’t want you to work, if you’re not dependent on them you can leave when you please. If you don’t have your own money or and have become too accustomed to the lifestyle they have provided they think they can treat you as a 2nd class citizen. That’s where all this “nobody cares that women have their own” talk comes from. I had an ex that was adamant that I not work and let him take care of me instead. I thought it was romantic at first but then he displayed other controlling behaviors. I’m happy I had the resources to leave. I chose myself and I’m happy you did too 💛
You’re so right my brother ❤money CANNOT BUY A REAL WOMAN. A real woman is looking for a REAL MAN who can : PROTECT, LOVE, CARE FOR HER, TREAT HER LIKE SHE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN HIS LIFE, LOYAL TO HER, VALUE HER and in return she will give the same thing back to him.
Loyalty. Commitment & Teamwork . 35 years with the same husband, my Nubian Prince until death did we part. It’s been 6 years now and I’m still blessed because of how he loved me.
I lost my husband last year. I recently started dating someone who is pretty financially well off especially compared to my husband who was a man of very modest means. We struggled financially thru out our marriage but I never questioned for one minute the love he had for me. No amount of money can ever take the place of that 🙏🏾💝
They have so many layers to peel back from a lot of us women because we have been hurt. Opening up and trusting someone is very difficult. We become adjusted to dealing with the struggle and never rising above that poverty level. Rather than to continue to live in poverty with a man we then get this drive in us so that we can accumulate more so that we can do more like go on trips lots of traveling. Some men say it's living above your means but we call it wanting to see the world. When someone constantly tells you they may not be able to take you somewhere but I love you that's a problem. At least try I know men who have worked three jobs just so that they could go on a decent vacation with their wife. I'll say it again women are constantly upgrading when it comes to their profession or when it comes to them looking for a job you can't stop them from getting training on something new that they've never done. You can't stay comatose in the same type of job if there is no work. News flash guys if you can't find work in your perspective profession then you need to find something else that you can quickly get trained in and not sit around the house and say there is no construction job so I can't find nothing and make everybody else miserable. You want submissive women you have to submit too.
The sad part is truly The Simps are in hiding because the amount of ridicule they get from men and some guys are just learning how to be strong enough to fight against their own male counterparts.
@@chocolatethunder7453 just make sure you don't befriend women under the guise of "friendship" knowing that isn't your true intention and there wouldn't be a "friendzone". You would either be rejected right away or accepted if you guys opened your mouths and said what you truly felt. Instead of wasting both people's time. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
I would rather be with a man that honors me, respects me, is faithful to me, is compassionate towards me, and affectionate towards me;;;; than a so called man that thinks they can buy my love and treat me horribly.
Its refreshing bc its been so many brainless broken and hurt dudes spreading their experiences as if those are thee only experiences. The amount of people with podcasts not taking accountability is frightening. Like, when are you gonna realize that YOU’RE the common denominator for all these failed relationships? Could it be you don’t know yourself well enough? Maybe you go after the wrong things. Maybe you’re naïve. Maybe you don’t listen bc you haven’t healed your past traumas. Maybe you have a flawed perception of what real love is! The people not ready. That’s why we’re here…2022, contaminated dating pool with rocks and used needles, men and women getting surgery to switch genders, children being taught and groomed about sexuality in school in the 4th grade….and that doesn’t put the tiniest dent in the issues of this world in this time.
I was just telling someone this today that all women aren't hoes and broke it down to him. Thanks for the knowledge. God bless all the good women out here. We (men) need you.
Medical doctors advise people to eat healthy and exercise and men and women still don’t listen so does that give others the right to question their expertise?
@@dsmart2002 Seriously? You wanna compare medical doctors to relationship experts. Biological science is the same as relationship expertise in your world huh. Lol. I’m done.
To make a relationship turn to marriage it shouldn't be rushed... number one is to put God first, have respect, consideration, communication, commitment, and unconditional love for each other... it's not easy to find but when you let go and let God place that person in your life true love will find you 💖 I'm Living that testimony ✨️
I think the problem is men and women both have two different definitions of the word simp but I personally don’t think a man that’s married can be a simp unless his letting his wife walk all over him. 🤷🏾♂️
Facts! True intimacy comes from relationship, and relationship is built through communication, understanding, and action in love through understanding. Real love isn't based on looks or materialism, or a nice body. Real love is someone who wants to know you, be a true friend to you, and understand you and love you through the ups and the downs while learning and growing together. Chasing after money and looks, isn't all that, because those things WILL fade away, but love, real love lasts forever.
The dating pool out here is in the negatives. I've been proposed to 3x now and I could tell you exactly why none of those would've worked out and why I walked away. For example one was very wealthy, but had a horrible temper. This dude is speaking truth. A real woman will walk away if it's not right and respectful. Bring on the caring understanding men that aren't driven by lust.
Hate to break it to you ma’am but 3x….you need to start looking in the mirror and think about the man you are attracting. People don’t just walk around proposing
Exactly. My husband and I got married when we were dirt poor. We've since worked together to get to the top 5%. We have been through the toughest times you can imagine and 22 years later we're still happily married.
@S Suleiman you are exactly right! We were both raised on farms and of the same religion. Our parents never divorced and we were disciplined in our youth.
Thank you!! We know Simp was created to reduce women to “less than” 🥴 it’s like Simon Says out there and a lot of young men definitely need guidance to see that a good woman is to be respected aNd appreciated. Much love to you 💕
@@josephsdaughter In short it means someone is desperate. But, men are saying it only regarding to women. So lets say, if a guy likes a woman and he treats her nice other men are calling him a simp or desperate for being soft. They are saying NOT to be nice to Women. All because Women are only there to be of service to men. Its an old mindset that never dies. Simp is just a new term for men wanting to be misogynist.
🥰😜😇I would love to be in a room with these type of men all around me pick one each one they all will be perfect this is the way men should be they strength is inside show the women the love and compassion that you can give this is what I want from a man right here🥰🤪
You two look and sound beautiful . You can complete a sentence. And your aura is one of self confidence. Which makes you more attractive. How you make her feel is everything …
@@roseelariyu5012 you too will die on day my friend. Dying doesn’t mean you are bad and being alive doesn’t mean you are good. You are a fool if you do not realize this.
@@panama2468 Most men don't know if they treat a *good woman* bad they'll give back the same energy in return. Women were created to receive down to their very anatomy and will spit out exactly what was put into them. Not knowing God's order is the first problem.
@@lareinelester685 "women were designed to receive?" thats a bit of a selfish view and quite damaging to society. Who ever made that rule? God? No one is designed to recieve their entire life other than a helpless baby. It's a give and take in this world. You must add value to a man's life as a woman just as he adds to yours. The world doesn't revolve around us. Stay humble
@@nicoobrowner Just because you didn't understand the statement doesn't mean you can make assumptions about me not being humble. Your comprehension is skewed and yes my view point is biblical. You're attributing me saying designed to receive in a material sense but I'm more so referring to a spiritual sense. Spiritual things are spiritually discerned. Like an old married man once said, "All women need is love." Women are born nurturers and are ready to pour out love and whatever else if treated with love and respect. I'm not referring to anything else. Men expect the woman to respect first in order for him to love her but are not aware the woman is a reflection of what is poured into her. God created it so. There are women who don't respect creation either but if things flowed the way God designed relationships wouldn't be in the mess they're in.
You're labeled a simp when you offer understanding and loyalty to someone who DOES reciprocate as well. It's like to be a real man from what i see in comments is to objectify and dismiss the humanity and individuality of women. Only the male perspective is valid.
You are so Right! My ex-husband still thinks this way . He has been trying to pursue me but his old ways for 43 years of marriage still haunts me every time I cross paths with him.😢
I absolutely love this! "REAL WOMEN" love Simps! It is refreshing to know that there are men out here like this man. Keep teaching them my brother. Thank you for sharing.
Stephan Le… (a French last name) also has it right [he has a book called “He’s Lying, Sis”… as does this one pastor on here (sorry, I just can’t remember names tonight) that does a series, telling women what type of men to stay away from and how to choose and things along those lines.
May God bless you gentlemen. You let me know that are are beautiful wonderful men like you out there. I pray to to meet my wonderful husband soon. 🙏🏽✝️
That mindset is a result of Matrix programming. Everything in, around, and beyond this Planet is a product of love. Therefore you are love, I am love, and everything around us is love. Love most definitely pays the bills ☀️✨
Reminds me of my current boyfriend, he speaks to me calmly and listens to my issues then creates a solution then goes further by making sure I’m okay with that solution. Then this man actually follows through with it. No yelling, no backhanded comments, no judgement. I am extremely in love with this man. He has really made a positive impact in my life and even supports my passions. I’d give him the sun and the moon if I could. ❤
I'm so glad you have found a man who values you and loves you that way. I just separated 4 months ago from someone who I gave what some may call my "best YEARS" to. I've been cheated on, abused in many ways, and then he made it appear across social media that I was the problem our marriage didn't work. Anyway, your comment made me smile. Keeps me hopeful....I'm so sincerely happy for you Queen.
@@Lotus_LoveHER Thank you so much Love! I’m glad you’re still hopeful about the love you deserve, we all deserve someone that cherishes us. You have my highest wishes of prosperity on your love life, may you find someone that makes all the harsh days you endured feel 1000 years away. Your best years are right now! Even though it didn’t work out understand that there is strength in being able to love the way you do. Don’t let this world change who you are at the core of your being and that is a loving and passionate woman that is WORTHY of the highest adoration from yourself and your partner.
Spend time and listen to her. Support and grow through changes or up and down. But, anyone can leave..so be thankful for the time spent and cherish it by doing the best that I can. It's ok ..we may lose but we tried
When I was married . Was feminine , took care of the whole house. Home cooking. Helped him through 3 business . Worked, helped pay bills. He still played me. Go figure 🤔
@@sootheyoursoulmeditation7297 Interesting,since the latest studies show that women cheat just as much as men do and the number one reason is "lack of intimacy" from the other spouse.
@@dragonfly4494 and who asked all those people in that study? Yall are starting to sound like robots quoting studies. It still doesn't mean a thing for excusing behavior.
That’s what I be telling my girls! The quickest turnoff is to tell me how much money you got… and I’m like what you telling me for, I got my own money! Do sum for me that I can’t do for myself!
@@chrism6347 Before I got married, my husband worked at a Winchells making the bare minimum. But he treated me like a princess. We supported each other and now we make a decent living. I could have gone with others who made more money at the time but i knew better. Now they just cheat on their now wives
LOOK fellows, You still have great women out there who want men like you!!! FACTS! I promise you, we are still out HERE!!! Peace and blessings to all the GREAT BLACK MEN ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️!!!!!
@@tessajones1693 Because most are busy chasing the unmet emotional needs of their parents' failings instead of the peace they want for their futures. I noticed that in middle school and took detailed notes not to do the same.
@@normarndelathassologenesis2967 You are so right because I was one of those people. I thank God for opening my spiritual eyes to recognize that I was broken that’s why I was attracting broken people. I have since wrote a book about my healing journey and I thank God for setting me free from that bondage that stemmed from my childhood. I am now celibate enjoying life, loving myself, and fulfilling my purpose. Glory be to God👆🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️😇
I happened upon this short and couldn't move forward because His beautiful eyes caught my attention!! I had to watch it again to listen to his words!! Totally agree!!
All I ever wanted was someone to love, be my most feminine self with, explore genuine mutual kindness and adoration with freedom to grow and keep bringing newness each day we live together ❤️. Being respectful to someone who has NEVER experienced this can be wasted on the wrong person.
Yes that's what you want. Problem is, you have no skill at doing all those nice words you mentioned. I want a private jet. Yet if someone gives me one today, I have no idea how to fly that thing. There is skill to loving properly. There is skill to respecting a man properly. Be honest. You haven't learnt those skills.
It’s so refreshing to see how much of us black women on the same page! Our own black men lie and say they can’t find that! But it’s the excuse to date hoes! They turn street walkers into wives!
LIL BIT... .... JUST SOME THING'S YOU NOT GO DO I DON'T CARE WHAT VULTURE IT CULTURE IT IS .. THO... YOU go hit🎯🎯🎯✊🏿🙌🏿🙏🏼a blind spot on this one. even in vala PARKING! BEEP BEEP. HARLEY----÷---- EVER DOUBT THE DOSE. NOT IN HIM. HE WHOM MAKE ONE 🔑. YUP. A REALLY GOOD SMELLY MAN NOT GO HAVE TRAITS. UNDER. OVER. THROUGH 35 YEAR'S AND HE PAID FOR YOU?! YOU NOT EVEN MARRIED. CUZ YOU CAN'T GET OUT THE MARRIAGE HE OR SHE IN. HE GOT BENT AT THE DOOR OPEN THO. FLY! FLY AWAY
A conversation that needs more recognition!!! I love these kind of men. Men who wants to understand women better to have a healthier and lasting relationship.
I left my ex-husband because he didn’t understand this. I wanted for nothing. If I asked for it, I had it. I even stopped working when I had our son but he thought that all he had to do was buy me something. I’m not about money, he just didn’t get it. Nor did he listen when I tried to explain.
@@Ruthforme he sounds like a KS orphan. Women stay at home so the children are raised right and not institutionalized. I stayed home too but left him because he was clueless.
@@Ruthforme oh because he didn’t agree ? Ok well I don’t agree with you so that makes 2 of us and if 1 person tells you something then you can brush it off but if 2 people tell you something then you have to take a look at it , ijs
That’s so true! I dated a doctor that wanted to marry me. This man was on his way to becoming an anesthesiologist, he said to me “the least amount of money I’ll make as an anesthesiologist is $300,000 a year, so I am well able to take care of you” I replied “ l’m not here for your money and I’m insulted for you to think so, I make my own money” I broke up with the brother because the Holy Spirit led me to do so. I love being with an intellectual brother. If a man can’t get my mind he can never get me. There has to be an intellectual exchange...now that’s what I consider sexy!!!
@@nekea93 It's a sad state of affairs for everyone, especially them and any woman who procreates with them. However, with God, all things are possible. We must continue to pray for them and us and remain humble, loving and wise👈🏽🙏🏽💜
@@nekea93 omg YES my ex commonly loved the alpha/beta dynamic but completely lost his mind when I decided to leave him. When his begging to stay didnt work oh the insults and all of a sudden they never liked you like that😂😂
Positive masculinity is a beautiful thing! ❤
Yes indeedy
Definitely is if it's real... not just trying to go opposite to get views lol
@@glorydbaf674 True. Do you think that’s the case here?
@@lifelikelisa absolutely 💯
Nothing he sead was masculine.yo ment to say he is beautiful admit it.
*”What’s going to keep a woman??” “Is learning what she needs.” “And that is SO MUCH MORE THAN MONEY.” Tony Gaskins*
This is so true. I have a man chasing me and all he is offering me is material things, but not once has he supported me in my business and my goals. I need a partner in crime someone who ready to be there for me mentally, spiritually not just financially.
Key word: partner. Most men are so obsessed with a woman being submissive that asking for a partnership seems insulting to them.
Thing is, men are not interested in a woman's accomplishments. They just aren't. They want a woman to be needy and then degrade her for it. Contradiction is what it is. Run from a dude like that.
Amen I love your speech!!!🥰👍
Thats because most men are avrage and most women are avrage but the truth is , women are attracted to the men that are above avrage and thats the minority of men . Most avrage men are the ones that are hard working and are the ones that actually cares and will cater to and about a womans needs , but women today are putting what they want on the table instead of what they really need from a man . An avrage man can provide provision , protection and stability but the problem is most women wont kno this because most avrage men are totally invisible to the avrage women because of his job, or his hight, or his looks. These things sounds great on paper but in reality wonen are and will always be attracted to high top tier men and when u look at it the numbers dont add because their all after the same men and these men are few . We live in a hiarchey system and women will always date up the ladder and thats the truth. No women arent leaving any billionare especially if shes got the ring , the house , the kids , the cars, the bank accounts, ect. Best advice for men is to take control of their lives and get their money up create their value make themselves the ideal suiter for the right women and build a legacy.
@@ronbramble5634 I definitely agree 100percent👍🥰
It took all of me to not cry when my brother-in-law was telling us that a guy asked him why did he want to go home to his wife and kids when he can go out and have fun with the boys my brother-in-law told him I love going home to my wife and kids he said that's the safest in the best place I could ever be and that's my happy place at home with my family. It took all of me to hold back them tears😭😭
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I could bet his wife is feminine, submissive and gives that man peace, every men would rush home because his wife have these traits.
@@truth1teller what do you mean by feminine. I love to use a drill and power tools does that make me less feminine???
@@cindykidd9174 We are equal now so you can do whatever you want... A feminine women would roll her eyes at you even asking that question, but as i say we are equal now.
@@truth1teller so why does she have to be submissive in order for a man to rush home to her. You say equal but by virtue of your statement “feminine and submissive” you would rather it not be so.
If you want your marriage to last listen to these men. It isn't simping. It is loyalty and commitment.
You know he is so right and I am talking from experience.
loyalty and commitment are conditional and temporary to a woman
Women leave loyal and committed men everyday. Show up with no money and see how far loyalty and commitment will get you.
@@dragonfly4494 if you valued loyalty and commitment, you would identify women with the same values.
You value money and are attracted to women who value money.
@@dragonfly4494 seems like an excuse to not be loyal or to not be a provider. Women have been both in today's society. Whats your excuse? Just because a few women left doesn't mean they all will. You're living in fear due to the actions of a few. Very immature way of thinking.
Mr. Gaskins and Rev. R.C. Blakes deliver messages straight up-no smoke screen and lights. ❤
Straight facts
Yes❤❤❤❤
They are the only two I watch on these topics
He look like akadmiks
Facts. In the early 2000s I was engaged to a multi-millionaire. Shared an absolutely beautiful home with him, and even traveled the world with him. Turns out he is a very nasty and controlling predatory narcissist. I gave back that big ring and left him. At that time, I left with nothing but my clothes and my car, and I was content, leaving everything behind just to have my peace of mind back. My life has been sweet ever since.
Yes. There is nothing like peace of mind. My ex-husband wasn't a multi-millionaire. He had an annual salary of $250,000+. He really thought that gave him the right to be nasty and disrespectful to me. Mind you.. I had my own job/earnings and had been just fine before marrying him. Well.. I left and later divorced him. We got along better after divorce then we did while married.Crazy. Were able to even build a platonic friendship. He died a few years ago. I was glad that we had been able to be friends. Since the divorce I've been living my best life. Peace of mind. Nothing beats it. Not money. Not possessions. Nothing.
Yep I dated a combat veteran who had a pension and business totaling to 300k however I noticed that the relationship was rapidly getting worst with his jealously, controlling behavior, quick temper, and snide comments. I chose to leave and he called me crazy saying I was making the biggest mistake of my life and I will end up homeless.
They really cannot stand that your soul and respect can’t be bought and they can’t be a tyrant.
A lot of men don’t really like women just want to have power over someone hence why they make it seem like it’s a bad thing if a woman is focused on her career or that women eventually hit a wall….they know that you can only control fearful anxious ridden people
This is one of the reasons they don’t want you to work, if you’re not dependent on them you can leave when you please. If you don’t have your own money or and have become too accustomed to the lifestyle they have provided they think they can treat you as a 2nd class citizen. That’s where all this “nobody cares that women have their own” talk comes from. I had an ex that was adamant that I not work and let him take care of me instead. I thought it was romantic at first but then he displayed other controlling behaviors. I’m happy I had the resources to leave. I chose myself and I’m happy you did too 💛
I have the very same story. I kept the ring though1😆
Women should never give up their independence or earning power. Always ensure you have options.
Finally, some brothers on here with some intelligence and maturity!!! ❤❤❤❤
Don't lose faith we are out here lol
Yes, finally! I know there's many out there, but it's such a breathe of fresh air to see clips that aren't demeaning women.
@Action Reaction! What?
Yaass!
Its a beautiful sight
You’re so right my brother ❤money CANNOT BUY A REAL WOMAN. A real woman is looking for a REAL MAN who can : PROTECT, LOVE, CARE FOR HER, TREAT HER LIKE SHE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN HIS LIFE, LOYAL TO HER, VALUE HER and in return she will give the same thing back to him.
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Loyalty. Commitment & Teamwork . 35 years with the same husband, my Nubian Prince until death did we part. It’s been 6 years now and I’m still blessed because of how he loved me.
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I lost my husband last year. I recently started dating someone who is pretty financially well off especially compared to my husband who was a man of very modest means. We struggled financially thru out our marriage but I never questioned for one minute the love he had for me. No amount of money can ever take the place of that 🙏🏾💝
♥️ beautiful
@Willenta Burks... No disrespect Sis... He wasn't a Nubian Prince... He was/Is a KING!!!...PERIOD!!! no precursors required..."KING"...
"God Bless"
WOW! Where are these Simps then?👀👀👀
I love a respectful, loyal and committed man!!!❤️❤️❤️
They have so many layers to peel back from a lot of us women because we have been hurt. Opening up and trusting someone is very difficult. We become adjusted to dealing with the struggle and never rising above that poverty level. Rather than to continue to live in poverty with a man we then get this drive in us so that we can accumulate more so that we can do more like go on trips lots of traveling. Some men say it's living above your means but we call it wanting to see the world. When someone constantly tells you they may not be able to take you somewhere but I love you that's a problem. At least try I know men who have worked three jobs just so that they could go on a decent vacation with their wife. I'll say it again women are constantly upgrading when it comes to their profession or when it comes to them looking for a job you can't stop them from getting training on something new that they've never done. You can't stay comatose in the same type of job if there is no work. News flash guys if you can't find work in your perspective profession then you need to find something else that you can quickly get trained in and not sit around the house and say there is no construction job so I can't find nothing and make everybody else miserable. You want submissive women you have to submit too.
Just make sure you don't friend zone them😂😂😂
@Ororo Munroe 😂😂😂
The sad part is truly The Simps are in hiding because the amount of ridicule they get from men and some guys are just learning how to be strong enough to fight against their own male counterparts.
@@chocolatethunder7453 just make sure you don't befriend women under the guise of "friendship" knowing that isn't your true intention and there wouldn't be a "friendzone".
You would either be rejected right away or accepted if you guys opened your mouths and said what you truly felt. Instead of wasting both people's time.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Best thing ive heard all day! This is gold, 30 secs of pure gold.
Nothing wrong with being SIMPathetic to the other human you’re doing life with 😅
Stop
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Well said.
I would rather be with a man that honors me, respects me, is faithful to me, is compassionate towards me, and affectionate towards me;;;; than a so called man that thinks they can buy my love and treat me horribly.
@@crystallynnmcphail841 that’s cool, but what does he get in return.
This is grown grown men speaking, thank you gentlemen👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Its refreshing bc its been so many brainless broken and hurt dudes spreading their experiences as if those are thee only experiences. The amount of people with podcasts not taking accountability is frightening. Like, when are you gonna realize that YOU’RE the common denominator for all these failed relationships? Could it be you don’t know yourself well enough? Maybe you go after the wrong things. Maybe you’re naïve. Maybe you don’t listen bc you haven’t healed your past traumas. Maybe you have a flawed perception of what real love is! The people not ready. That’s why we’re here…2022, contaminated dating pool with rocks and used needles, men and women getting surgery to switch genders, children being taught and groomed about sexuality in school in the 4th grade….and that doesn’t put the tiniest dent in the issues of this world in this time.
u wouldn’t be with them tho😂
Yess better than the manosphere stuff
I was just telling someone this today that all women aren't hoes and broke it down to him. Thanks for the knowledge. God bless all the good women out here. We (men) need you.
We have a plethora of “relationship experts” these days however the current relationship between men and women is the worst it’s ever been.
Right. It's sad. And all those "experts" are single.
People are not paying attention to those that are actually speaking wisdom.
@@godsgift2916 How much of an expert can you really be if no one listens to you?
Medical doctors advise people to eat healthy and exercise and men and women still don’t listen so does that give others the right to question their expertise?
@@dsmart2002 Seriously? You wanna compare medical doctors to relationship experts. Biological science is the same as relationship expertise in your world huh. Lol. I’m done.
To make a relationship turn to marriage it shouldn't be rushed... number one is to put God first, have respect, consideration, communication, commitment, and unconditional love for each other... it's not easy to find but when you let go and let God place that person in your life true love will find you 💖 I'm Living that testimony ✨️
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Simpin = Responsible Respectful Resourceful
I need a simp in my life. Simple as that.
Simpin= Dependable, Reliable, Trustworthy
I'm dead...
Most women don't want a simp lol they run away when they see a man trying trying to respect her
You don't really think that's what that means do you?
Y'all are not "Simps" you're REAL Men
I think the problem is men and women both have two different definitions of the word simp but I personally don’t think a man that’s married can be a simp unless his letting his wife walk all over him. 🤷🏾♂️
Yes they are. They call my man a simp and I love him to death best man I could have ever dreamed for.
Men women control are simps
@@ThEwAvE000 man and woman have different definitions on most things.
I'm not familiar with the term "simp".....
What does it mean?
Facts! True intimacy comes from relationship, and relationship is built through communication, understanding, and action in love through understanding. Real love isn't based on looks or materialism, or a nice body. Real love is someone who wants to know you, be a true friend to you, and understand you and love you through the ups and the downs while learning and growing together. Chasing after money and looks, isn't all that, because those things WILL fade away, but love, real love lasts forever.
Luv it 💓 💖
Amen.
yes when its all said and done,.. love will stand the test of time not Goodlooks
Respect, loyal, honesty is never dead. I don't care what it may look like.
But can we talk about this mans eyes 👁👄👁 ❤
No
Oh yesssss 💚
I know but I saw that ring on his finger so nope!
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I like what they are saying, but, yes, his eyes are gorgeous
The dating pool out here is in the negatives. I've been proposed to 3x now and I could tell you exactly why none of those would've worked out and why I walked away. For example one was very wealthy, but had a horrible temper. This dude is speaking truth. A real woman will walk away if it's not right and respectful. Bring on the caring understanding men that aren't driven by lust.
Amen Sister.
Hate to break it to you ma’am but 3x….you need to start looking in the mirror and think about the man you are attracting. People don’t just walk around proposing
@@mikeben5128 lol sure. I'll be sure to take life advice from a random. Thanks.
Amen that's the truth
So,you are terrible in the bedroom? You are not a candidate.
Exactly. My husband and I got married when we were dirt poor. We've since worked together to get to the top 5%. We have been through the toughest times you can imagine and 22 years later we're still happily married.
That's bc you both on the same page, and stood by eachother, most women today selfish and fake. No?
@S Suleiman you are exactly right! We were both raised on farms and of the same religion. Our parents never divorced and we were disciplined in our youth.
I LOVE a man who tries to understand rather then judge and throw labels
From what I understand. When a woman has complete trust and faith in you while feeling secure. Good chance she'll be there for you.
Indeed !
Till the end, a real woman will
That’s when the man will cheat on her.
Lol
Thank you!! We know Simp was created to reduce women to “less than” 🥴 it’s like Simon Says out there and a lot of young men definitely need guidance to see that a good woman is to be respected aNd appreciated. Much love to you 💕
What does simpin mean pls?
@@josephsdaughter In short it means someone is desperate. But, men are saying it only regarding to women. So lets say, if a guy likes a woman and he treats her nice other men are calling him a simp or desperate for being soft. They are saying NOT to be nice to Women.
All because Women are only there to be of service to men. Its an old mindset that never dies. Simp is just a new term for men wanting to be misogynist.
Keywords, "Learning and understanding what a woman needs"! Thank you, my brother.
Facts!!
That doesn't say anything though.
What does a woman need?
Some women need money. Bills don't pay themselves.
No man can ever satisfy woman 💯
Grateful every day for my "simp"le man. 22 years and getting sweeter every day❤️
Love what you gentlemen are doing, thank you❤️
🥰😜😇I would love to be in a room with these type of men all around me pick one each one they all will be perfect this is the way men should be they strength is inside show the women the love and compassion that you can give this is what I want from a man right here🥰🤪
You two look and sound beautiful . You can complete a sentence. And your aura is one of self confidence. Which makes you more attractive. How you make her feel is everything …
Now this is a conversation I can get behind. None of that Kevin Samuel's talk. This is so refreshing!
Yesssss . Yet he never told these so-called HVM about the cons of their money and women. They really think money keeps women.
Yasss and I heard hes dead now.
@@roseelariyu5012 yep he is.
@@roseelariyu5012 you too will die on day my friend. Dying doesn’t mean you are bad and being alive doesn’t mean you are good. You are a fool if you do not realize this.
I get it but y’all celebrating someone’s death because you don’t agree what does that make y’all
Yup 🙌🏽🙌🏽 it’s not simping it’s respect and understanding
I'm not materialistic. I love my family and most of all my husband. ❤
We require mental maintenance
And that starts with you. If you treat your man bad, then you'll get back that same energy
@@panama2468 Most men don't know if they treat a *good woman* bad they'll give back the same energy in return. Women were created to receive down to their very anatomy and will spit out exactly what was put into them. Not knowing God's order is the first problem.
...amongst other things....
@@lareinelester685 "women were designed to receive?" thats a bit of a selfish view and quite damaging to society. Who ever made that rule? God? No one is designed to recieve their entire life other than a helpless baby. It's a give and take in this world. You must add value to a man's life as a woman just as he adds to yours. The world doesn't revolve around us. Stay humble
@@nicoobrowner Just because you didn't understand the statement doesn't mean you can make assumptions about me not being humble. Your comprehension is skewed and yes my view point is biblical. You're attributing me saying designed to receive in a material sense but I'm more so referring to a spiritual sense. Spiritual things are spiritually discerned. Like an old married man once said, "All women need is love." Women are born nurturers and are ready to pour out love and whatever else if treated with love and respect. I'm not referring to anything else. Men expect the woman to respect first in order for him to love her but are not aware the woman is a reflection of what is poured into her. God created it so. There are women who don't respect creation either but if things flowed the way God designed relationships wouldn't be in the mess they're in.
Tony ain't interviewed enough! ✨✨✨❤️
Listening and understanding is always needed. You're simping when you offer understanding and loyalty to someone who doesn't reciprocate.
You're labeled a simp when you offer understanding and loyalty to someone who DOES reciprocate as well. It's like to be a real man from what i see in comments is to objectify and dismiss the humanity and individuality of women. Only the male perspective is valid.
Bottom line... Be the KING that you are, and you will meet the Queen that stand beside you.
BRINGO
AND BINGO.
NICE
Exactly! When we know our worth things, money etc won't keep us. My ex husband is still trying to get me back. It's still a hard NO.
😂😂hard
You are so Right!
My ex-husband still thinks this way .
He has been trying to pursue me but his old ways for 43 years of marriage still haunts me every time I cross paths with him.😢
I love respect man who knows how to speak to a woman 😎
Nothing sexier…
Exactly
I absolutely love this! "REAL WOMEN" love Simps! It is refreshing to know that there are men out here like this man. Keep teaching them my brother. Thank you for sharing.
Such a rare and Precious Gem 🎶
Amen my dear brother. My husband and I have been happily married for 43 years!
A real woman needs to feel protected, loved, respected, and appreciated! Money is at the least! Real women are providers who can get money!🔥🔥🔥
I love that they're having this conversation!!
Thank yalll… this is too real
RIGHT!!! You are speaking the truth!!! Get real on how you treat that woman 101
Key word: Real woman....
Fax 📠
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Dat 2 words niga
That part!!
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This is already the second short of this guy TH-cam has recommended to me this week. And I find it just great and brilliant like the first one!
Ms. Li Chin this whole segment is on TH-cam. Look up “Men it’s our fault.”
I am pleased as a woman to know that this message is going out. I hope it’s truly understood. Blessings ❤
You are so right but men still refuse to hear it because it takes away their hate for us
EXACTLY!! This is actually Biblical. Thank you Sir!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽💖👌🏽
This is the ONLY BMAN on youtube who even come CLOSE to getting it right.
Stephan Le… (a French last name) also has it right [he has a book called “He’s Lying, Sis”… as does this one pastor on here (sorry, I just can’t remember names tonight) that does a series, telling women what type of men to stay away from and how to choose and things along those lines.
So in your perspective what is the key to keeping a man?
RC Blakes!
@@fluffysox6072 RC is the truth!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
He’s more than close…he got it all right.
It’s refreshing to hear this healthy convo between two black kings.
You’re a real man!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Love that Tony and Rc Blake’s have been on your show. So inspiring❤
I'm grateful for my hubby simpin' over me for 19 yrs 🥰
😆 🤣 😂
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Am here for this entire conversation 🙌🏾
Speak Black Kings 🤴🏾 🥰
Thank you both!
KEEP THIS TRUE NARRATIVE BROTHERS ❗❗💯
LISTEN UP LADIES AND GENTLEMAN 👂🏽👂🏽🌹🌹
You guys keep doing what you need.
You can’t keep a women nothing wrong with letting them go. We gotta get out of this ownership mindset. Women aren’t our property!
They’re public property lol
Preach!
@@livingwithout8457 We know what you living without.🤷🏾♀️
@@livingwithout8457 *The women you attract
@@livingwithout8457 HAHAHA...below the belt mate
May God bless you gentlemen. You let me know that are are beautiful wonderful men like you out there. I pray to to meet my wonderful husband soon. 🙏🏽✝️
True!! But love don't pay the bills so money definitely matters...🤷🏾♀️
That mindset is a result of Matrix programming. Everything in, around, and beyond this Planet is a product of love. Therefore you are love, I am love, and everything around us is love. Love most definitely pays the bills ☀️✨
Yes, you don't have to he rich, but you have to have enough money to live comfortably 😉
Reminds me of my current boyfriend, he speaks to me calmly and listens to my issues then creates a solution then goes further by making sure I’m okay with that solution. Then this man actually follows through with it. No yelling, no backhanded comments, no judgement. I am extremely in love with this man. He has really made a positive impact in my life and even supports my passions. I’d give him the sun and the moon if I could. ❤
I'm so glad you have found a man who values you and loves you that way. I just separated 4 months ago from someone who I gave what some may call my "best YEARS" to. I've been cheated on, abused in many ways, and then he made it appear across social media that I was the problem our marriage didn't work. Anyway, your comment made me smile. Keeps me hopeful....I'm so sincerely happy for you Queen.
@@Lotus_LoveHER Thank you so much Love! I’m glad you’re still hopeful about the love you deserve, we all deserve someone that cherishes us. You have my highest wishes of prosperity on your love life, may you find someone that makes all the harsh days you endured feel 1000 years away. Your best years are right now! Even though it didn’t work out understand that there is strength in being able to love the way you do. Don’t let this world change who you are at the core of your being and that is a loving and passionate woman that is WORTHY of the highest adoration from yourself and your partner.
@@maiu.9366 Thankyou sooo much for responding in such an uplifting and beautiful way! ❤️
dang🥺
God bless the men! They are kings!!!! Period KINGS!!!! ❤🎉
these men here tho! 🔥🔥🔥
I'm married but I love you Brothers 💞 25+💍 and you guy's are on point!
Finally!!! A man with understanding!!!
Thank you for saying the truth.
Spend time and listen to her. Support and grow through changes or up and down. But, anyone can leave..so be thankful for the time spent and cherish it by doing the best that I can. It's ok ..we may lose but we tried
“Better to have loved and lost…”
Feeling beautifully seen. Thank you 🤍
Beautifully said, young black kings🤴! That’s exactly what a Real Women needs. ❤
y'all are so right. a good woman will work to keep a good man around. mutually love and respect
When I was married . Was feminine , took care of the whole house. Home cooking. Helped him through 3 business . Worked, helped pay bills. He still played me. Go figure 🤔
You ignored what he was complaining about.
@@dragonfly4494 or he was a dog who wanted it all. You don't know their relationship. Stop validating bad behavior.
@@dragonfly4494 Some human beings cannot be satisfied...
@@sootheyoursoulmeditation7297 Interesting,since the latest studies show that women cheat just as much as men do and the number one reason is "lack of intimacy" from the other spouse.
@@dragonfly4494 and who asked all those people in that study? Yall are starting to sound like robots quoting studies. It still doesn't mean a thing for excusing behavior.
About time someone figured this out! Facts! I am a real one!!!
Love these Real Men...we are desperately in need for more of u. Never change.🥰
I love my “simp” ! 😍❤️💍
You two are AWESOME!! Keep preaching!
Real talk from real men. Keeping it 💯.
That’s what I be telling my girls! The quickest turnoff is to tell me how much money you got… and I’m like what you telling me for, I got my own money! Do sum for me that I can’t do for myself!
Amen
Would you date a broke dude?
Exactly!!!
@@chrism6347 Before I got married, my husband worked at a Winchells making the bare minimum. But he treated me like a princess. We supported each other and now we make a decent living. I could have gone with others who made more money at the time but i knew better. Now they just cheat on their now wives
@@chrism6347 it depends on what you consider broke!
LOOK fellows, You still have great women out there who want men like you!!! FACTS!
I promise you, we are still out HERE!!!
Peace and blessings to all the GREAT BLACK MEN ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️!!!!!
What you two brothers are saying IT IS THÈ TRUTH 👍
Man I'm glad I'm married, brothers got it rough out here
I would say both woman & men have it bad. There are a lot of good men & woman out here but for whatever reason they are not connecting.
@@tessajones1693 too many people playing games in our way of seeing each other 😢
@@tessajones1693 Because most are busy chasing the unmet emotional needs of their parents' failings instead of the peace they want for their futures. I noticed that in middle school and took detailed notes not to do the same.
@@normarndelathassologenesis2967 You are so right because I was one of those people. I thank God for opening my spiritual eyes to recognize that I was broken that’s why I was attracting broken people. I have since wrote a book about my healing journey and I thank God for setting me free from that bondage that stemmed from my childhood. I am now celibate enjoying life, loving myself, and fulfilling my purpose. Glory be to God👆🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️😇
@@tessajones1693 Have to get off-line! Go back to in person socializing...
So true Brother, so true
I happened upon this short and couldn't move forward because His beautiful eyes caught my attention!! I had to watch it again to listen to his words!! Totally agree!!
Please do more and more and more.....FOREVER!! 💗💙💯🍷🥰 Thanks in advance!
All I ever wanted was someone to love, be my most feminine self with, explore genuine mutual kindness and adoration with freedom to grow and keep bringing newness each day we live together ❤️. Being respectful to someone who has NEVER experienced this can be wasted on the wrong person.
Yes that's what you want.
Problem is, you have no skill at doing all those nice words you mentioned.
I want a private jet.
Yet if someone gives me one today, I have no idea how to fly that thing.
There is skill to loving properly. There is skill to respecting a man properly. Be honest. You haven't learnt those skills.
It’s so refreshing to see how much of us black women on the same page! Our own black men lie and say they can’t find that! But it’s the excuse to date hoes! They turn street walkers into wives!
Preach fellas! We will jump through fire 🔥 for a good reals solid man!
LIL BIT...
.... JUST SOME THING'S YOU NOT
GO DO
I DON'T CARE WHAT VULTURE IT CULTURE IT IS ..
THO...
YOU go hit🎯🎯🎯✊🏿🙌🏿🙏🏼a blind spot on this one. even in vala PARKING!
BEEP
BEEP.
HARLEY----÷---- EVER DOUBT THE DOSE.
NOT IN HIM. HE WHOM MAKE ONE 🔑.
YUP.
A REALLY GOOD SMELLY MAN NOT GO HAVE TRAITS.
UNDER. OVER. THROUGH 35 YEAR'S AND HE PAID FOR YOU?! YOU NOT EVEN MARRIED. CUZ YOU CAN'T GET OUT THE MARRIAGE HE OR SHE IN. HE GOT BENT
AT THE DOOR OPEN THO.
FLY! FLY AWAY
This short is much appreciated, thank you!
REAL🙏🏽👑♥️👏🏽
Amen Amen 🙏🏽 ❤ now you have said a mouthful!!
Seems like they call any man with a respectful relationship a simp. It's obvious that it's jealousy because these other men can't get women
This is definitely true
A conversation that needs more recognition!!! I love these kind of men. Men who wants to understand women better to have a healthier and lasting relationship.
I left my ex-husband because he didn’t understand this. I wanted for nothing. If I asked for it, I had it. I even stopped working when I had our son but he thought that all he had to do was buy me something.
I’m not about money, he just didn’t get it. Nor did he listen when I tried to explain.
@Vin Steel we agreed I would stop working to raise “our” child. You know what?…this is too mature for you
@@Ruthforme he sounds like a KS orphan. Women stay at home so the children are raised right and not institutionalized. I stayed home too but left him because he was clueless.
So you failed at marriage and family life? And you are here looking for validation?
He is right tho
@@Ruthforme oh because he didn’t agree ? Ok well I don’t agree with you so that makes 2 of us and if 1 person tells you something then you can brush it off but if 2 people tell you something then you have to take a look at it , ijs
That’s so true!
I dated a doctor that wanted to marry me. This man was on his way to becoming an anesthesiologist, he said to me “the least amount of money I’ll make as an anesthesiologist is $300,000 a year, so I am well able to take care of you”
I replied “ l’m not here for your money and I’m insulted for you to think so, I make my own money”
I broke up with the brother because the Holy Spirit led me to do so.
I love being with an intellectual brother. If a man can’t get my mind he can never get me.
There has to be an intellectual exchange...now that’s what I consider sexy!!!
Real men!!! Refreshing!!! Thank you!!!
We need more me like these two. ❤❤❤❤❤
It's hard work to understand another person, with both working together they get to be the example for their grandchildren to see.
Teach!!!👏🏾 Keep the fire burning, my brother.
The guys who call you a simp are the TRUE SIMPS 💯
They are like babies throwing a temperature tantrum because you won't let them cause trauma to you 🤣🤣🤣
@@nekea93 It's a sad state of affairs for everyone, especially them and any woman who procreates with them. However, with God, all things are possible. We must continue to pray for them and us and remain humble, loving and wise👈🏽🙏🏽💜
@@nekea93 omg YES my ex commonly loved the alpha/beta dynamic but completely lost his mind when I decided to leave him. When his begging to stay didnt work oh the insults and all of a sudden they never liked you like that😂😂
As a young man who was once a simp I'm telling you now they are not, Far from it.