Can a psychopath love??

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  • @mistydawn2717
    @mistydawn2717 2 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    I always wondered why my grandma and father were so mean. My grandmother had dementia / Alzheimer's and they made her go see a psychiatrist he diagnosed her as a psychopath. She made me cry every time I visited her. I was her personal maid,my entire childhood. The only reason I cried when she died was I didn't understand why she didn't love me. I seen her hospital patient paperwork and it all made sense. My father acts exactly like her and mom's a narcissist. It was a really rough childhood. After my grandmother passed away I cut contact, it's been about 3yrs. I believe my father has it too who in their right mind puts a cigarette out on an 9 yr olds arm and does it with no emotion, other than laugh at that victim. I understand now at almost 49 it wasn't my fault.

    • @kiskakuznetsova503
      @kiskakuznetsova503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      It sounds like your father was building a competency case against her. That’s very strange, diagnosing someone as anything once they are showing signs of Alzheimer’s. Our backgrounds sound similar though my mother once said, “I slap you three times instead of hitting you because you would probably bruise if I hit you.” I had said, “Why do you always corner me and slap me a lot, why not just give me one good hit so it’s over sooner?” All that mattered was that the outside world admire her.

    • @mistydawn2717
      @mistydawn2717 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@kiskakuznetsova503 sounds like my mother and her favorite thing was to drag me around by my hair and punch my in my scoliosis and call me lazy because my back is bent. My grandmother tried to run someone over with her car yes she got evaluated at that point we were told by the psychiatrist the court appointed her. She has a personality disorder and was a diagnosed a sociopath before that we just didn't know it until we found her paperwork after her death it explains a lot. She was ungodly cruel to her kids. The daughter took her life a few yrs before the grandmother died. My father is exactly like her. After her death I stepped away from them and never went back. I've spent years trying to understand why I meant so little to them. I understand now they're just not capable of it.

    • @healershealth5818
      @healershealth5818 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists
      Author- Lisette SQ
      This is an absolute must read. I had an
      One ☝️ of those a-ha moments whilst reading this book. What a refreshing,honest take on what childhood traumas really does to you… now it all makes sense, no longer living with guilt that they all made me feel for far too many years of my precious life 🙏🏼
      One life, live it well on your terms ❤

    • @mistydawn2717
      @mistydawn2717 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@healershealth5818 ty ❤️

    • @k8eekatt
      @k8eekatt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm so sorry. I hope you will give your self as rich a life as possible with pets and walks on the beach, healthy food and time with friends, a new family of your heart.❤

  • @Free2B3
    @Free2B3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Psychpaths form a temporary attachment, not a genuine, long-term love bond.

    • @NittyByGritty-7
      @NittyByGritty-7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Very disappointing when you are thinking it means something special to them to, turns out it didn’t mean a thing! That’s when you move to the next level of realizing how shallow they are and have to deal with your self feeling like a fool!

    • @Fabian6980
      @Fabian6980 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Married psychopaths do if he dosent see you as marriage material he will never love you psychopaths only love family and even then rarely show signs of loving them but its there psychopaths that dont find a woman they see worthy of being family remain single moving from women to women just for their sexual needs

    • @banglaanimeproject9036
      @banglaanimeproject9036 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@NittyByGritty-7Psychopaths, Sociopaths and Dark empaths are true devil on earth.

  • @ts4686
    @ts4686 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I have two psychopathic narcs (NPDs) in my immediate family, and the more I learn about these two disorders, the more they tick more and more traits.
    It's horrible.

    • @arin.000
      @arin.000 ปีที่แล้ว

      it is not horrible , try to be more understanding

    • @banglaanimeproject9036
      @banglaanimeproject9036 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@arin.000Lol nice joke Narcissist and Psychopaths are true devil on earth.

  • @kiskakuznetsova503
    @kiskakuznetsova503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I love Jim's channel. Can I add that (as a layperson who suspects her parents were malig narcs or psychopaths) that psychopaths will invoke their worst revenge on people with whom they felt something approaching love/ fondness. In other words, the closer you are to them, the more danger you are in. When they do feel, they can't tolerate it. Any show of independence or individuation is perceived as an insult / threat and they will absolutely exact revenge. And their revenge is bottomless because you caused strong, intolerable emotions like sadness, loss. If you suspect someone could be on this spectrum, get out ASAP and quietly. Tiptoe out, and like you'll be back soon.

    • @artandculture5262
      @artandculture5262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes. Individuation is inciting of wrath. Can’t play it low enough to avoid what you so comprehensively described. No win except to severe the connection.

    • @AnimosityIncarnate
      @AnimosityIncarnate 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don't cheat. Get out. Cheating will induce a ted Bundy situation 😔

  • @rosebud93
    @rosebud93 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your rose is beautiful.
    Omg this is so true. I'm suffering currently from PTSD from repetitive attacks.

  • @gaetanemcgraw5567
    @gaetanemcgraw5567 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I met one. He was a block of ice.

    • @cc1k435
      @cc1k435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's common enough that I absolutely believe you've encountered more than one, whether you knew it or not.

    • @brianwalsh1401
      @brianwalsh1401 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cc1k435 I agree. I saw that narcissists are 6.2% and sociopaths/ASPD is 4% of the population. There is no shortage of these folks around once you know what you're looking for.

  • @CMcc-m9l
    @CMcc-m9l 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Spot on 👏

  • @Fabian6980
    @Fabian6980 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yes we can feel love we just dont feel comfortable expressing it often and also we love few people mother father siblings children and wife and would do anything to protect them thats it

    • @TheComicChild
      @TheComicChild 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This was very important to me. Thank you very much & I wish i didnt have to uncomfortably comb thru yt comments to find out. AS you uncomfortably posted to help people like me. Case closed.

  • @asdyle
    @asdyle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I love all the beautiful plants that are always surrounding you.

  • @WaterBug46
    @WaterBug46 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I believe I was raised by psychopath/narc gparents. Not a thing I did was good enough, I was beaten everyday, told I should have died and that I could be easily un adopted. Then I married another one. Serial cheater, cold and abusive. But he bawled uncontrollably and on his knees when MY dog died. We got together over shared interests but I’ve changed. I’m working on my mental health and that has highly disrupted our relationship. So lots of either rage or over the top hoovering swinging back and forth for months. It’s a pattern. I think it’s sadly all he knows to do. But for my safety I can’t involve myself in it. So sad

    • @brianwalsh1401
      @brianwalsh1401 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, once you start working on your issues and healing from your wounds and developing healthy boundaries and self esteem, you'll have a shot at picking health people in your life.

  • @natlyfranks6856
    @natlyfranks6856 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I really appreciate your post- THANK YOU. I am learning so much from you.

  • @sbdsinc8366
    @sbdsinc8366 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is really helpful. My husband I suspect is a psychopath (or at least has traits). I was hooked with with tremendous charm and love bombing, and really I was happy for most of the time thinking he was truly in love with me. Then one day he just left. Turns out he had been dating other people and spinning false stories to me the entire time, even about how many times he had been married before me, etc. the woman he left me for apparently had no clue he was married.
    It’s hard for me to reconcile that although his mask was good, it wasn’t real. And yet he is a human being with his own needs and motivations trying to fit in and yes manipulating to get those needs met.
    We still keep in touch although at a distance, his sister for sure is one of those close relations he is loyal to for now. I am trying to have compassion as I withdrawal my emotional connection. In order to stay in any kind of relation I need to think like him, be on guard, and not expect more.

    • @banglaanimeproject9036
      @banglaanimeproject9036 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are playing with fire just leave. Psychopaths are true devil on earth don't play with the devil.

    • @stephbyerly9491
      @stephbyerly9491 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Unless there's some reason that you have to stay in touch with him, like you have children together, you should absolutely not stay in touch with him. That's just asking for trouble.

  • @ladyofthecreek279
    @ladyofthecreek279 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    They don't love you, they tolerate you.

    • @reformerx667
      @reformerx667 ปีที่แล้ว

      Or just manipulate you until they get what they want.

    • @mariadonkova2759
      @mariadonkova2759 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@reformerx667some people change

    • @mariadonkova2759
      @mariadonkova2759 ปีที่แล้ว

      People can change

  • @umairshah1337
    @umairshah1337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love your content 💗

    • @JB-nz8ph
      @JB-nz8ph 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank You 😊

  • @ice12984
    @ice12984 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Look not all are bad and some can form attachments for long term in my opinion geuninely but there still are things they use that are benefiting them

  • @jillw892
    @jillw892 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Appreciate you posting all this. I wish I had known it years ago. I've been to therapist for help. Unfortunately went to the wrong one and had the therapist blame me because unfortunately he had already talked to my narcissistic ex person what a shame so thank you for posting people need to see this.
    My therapist actually told me he was a victim of a narcissist yet he fell victim again to my ex I mean yeah that really messed up my daughter. Took me years to get her to go see another one life can get crazy y'all stay strong

  • @Filos_al-Hafamani
    @Filos_al-Hafamani 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Imagine the only feelings you're halfway capable of feeling would be sadness and anger. I can't imagine a more meaningless life

    • @cc1k435
      @cc1k435 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Paranoia seems to be what they're living, along with sense of triumph in outdoing others. I guess that lends a feeling of accomplishment to life, so don't you worry about them. It just gets them the corner office. 😕

    • @Filos_al-Hafamani
      @Filos_al-Hafamani 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@cc1k435 I agree. But there is *always* a downside. If your feelings are that shallow and you didn't learn how to cope with it, with yourself others in a healthy way, how're you going to fill that void? Even if you're successful in your job. Than I'd say Yes you can spend your money that bring you some pleasure and distracts you from your inner world... but no happiness, no peace, no satisfaction - nothing of that would be meaningful. And having a bad connection to your emotions prevents you from learning.
      I don't pity them but I also don't envy them. Some people say that psychopaths are born and sociopaths are made. I'd say ASPD like every personality disorder is a mix of genetics and upbringing. They recently found out that borderliner for example have a higher density of mirror neurons than most people. But give them what they really need in their childhood and they learn how to cope with it and become "normal" people. There are genetic psychopaths that live normal and even mentally healthy lives. If they're rased with many unsolved conflicts the chances are high that they won't learn how to cope with what they're born with.
      All of us are born with flaws we have to overcome.

    • @vmm5163
      @vmm5163 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@Filos_al-Hafamanipsychopaths don't have a void. You can't project your own expectations and life experiences onto a psychopath. It's like expecting a chair to behave as you do. And as for a meaningless life, most humans running and ruling this world are psychopaths, that's how they got into their positions in the first place. The lack of emotions mean they're not hampered by guilt or etiquette that would hinder others. The psychopathic gene is very useful in building any society.

    • @evalunanera6157
      @evalunanera6157 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am not psychopath but genuinely can feel only sadness, hate, anger, excitement but I don't remember when I felt real happiness from all my heart. But I can feel something like happiness when my enemies suffer and something bad happens to them. And my love is like obsession, I don't like to make gifts, I can love and hate person at the same time. It's weird.

    • @vmm5163
      @vmm5163 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@evalunanera6157 that's either Narcissistic Personality disorder or Unstable Personality disorder, also known as Borderline personality disorder. Probably NPD if you don't feel happiness in the regular sense 👍

  • @mandyR643
    @mandyR643 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Why is it that no one teaches you this in schools, so you are aware of this evil!! The schools need to teach you how to recognize, acknowledge, a potential narcissistic, psychopath, sociopath, or other types with same characteristics, I was married to a narcissistic for over 25 years, my kids suffered the most. I thought one day he was going to change, until I started reading books on barbara Evans, about toxic relationships, about verbal, psychological abuse, , then the psychopathy checklist by Robert Hare and many many more, thank God I ran away as fast and as far away! Kept running , never turned back!!

  • @lauriewilson4741
    @lauriewilson4741 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    These shorts are about all the info I can handle at one time

  • @oliviaanne2468
    @oliviaanne2468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the channel!

  • @judithl.morton9178
    @judithl.morton9178 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just like Dexter even though it's a TV show and BTK and it gives me shivers to help my spine that is so so scary

  • @onopuni7864
    @onopuni7864 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish you would take your glasses off, it looks like you have really kind eyes, seeing them would help me feel your words, Blessings

  • @southernbelladonna78
    @southernbelladonna78 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What kind of person ends up dating two different psychopaths? Asking for a friend.

    • @AnimosityIncarnate
      @AnimosityIncarnate 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Borderline usually? Coverts are "empaths" so that's a definite possibility.
      I'd say any long term arrangements that don't immediately fall over are two specific types.
      First malignant Narcissists take your existence as a challenge.
      Second, dependents with sadomasochism.

    • @johanh9637
      @johanh9637 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If your friend has add/adhd with autistic traits she is really a psychopath aswell.

  • @TheFriendlyPsychopath
    @TheFriendlyPsychopath 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What I experience is investment and property. Relationships to me are a benefit I’m getting and/or someone I like having sex with the most.

  • @shovelheadpec
    @shovelheadpec ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mostly alot of misery life long guilt with rage and blame..

  • @elsjemassyn8921
    @elsjemassyn8921 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It depends what you define as love.
    It seems most people have a misconseption of what REAL love is.
    Remember:
    Sex isnt love - its lust
    Jealousy isnt love its selfish
    Gifts isnt love because its external
    True love is:
    1 Corinthians 13
    Love is patient
    Love is kind
    Love forgives
    Love does not keep a record of wrongs
    Love builds up, it doesnt tare down
    Love encourages
    Love listens
    Love endures

    • @evalunanera6157
      @evalunanera6157 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And now I understand that I can't love normally 😔😕

    • @Tetradepodmelontea
      @Tetradepodmelontea 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well, its, also said that true love does not know love.
      Psychopaths on some level are patient to the point of total self-destroying. They are enormously adaptable and self-abandoning. They don't have "core" of strong irrational desires. They just hi and accept reality as it is without any arguments.
      Its kinda "love". They have endless silent unjugemental will to receive raw reality and survive its surreal appeal without complaints or self-pity.
      Black space of black fire of the most strange kind of love that does not seek even inner reward with joy or feeling of happiness.

  • @ronieGirl327
    @ronieGirl327 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I told my narc. He only had two emotions... Anger and horny

    • @reformerx667
      @reformerx667 ปีที่แล้ว

      Perhaps that is one emotion?

    • @ronieGirl327
      @ronieGirl327 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@reformerx667 perhaps

  • @rei..-meoww
    @rei..-meoww 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My best friend just told me they have been diagnosed a psychopath, and, this friend and me have been friends our whole lives and done everything together. She talks to me about everything (as far as I know) and I genuinely love and adore her, I feel really bad for thinking this but sometimes I wonder if she loves or cares for me at all

    • @utueliel
      @utueliel 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I believe she does care, when she's been there for so long and also trusted you enough to tell you about her psychopathy. Love or caring for her may be different but she's there.

  • @Kindness.20247
    @Kindness.20247 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    good description!

  • @jc2386
    @jc2386 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sounds like a Beauty and the Beats reference, maybe that's why theres a rose in the clip 🤣👍

  • @CynthiaSchoenbauer
    @CynthiaSchoenbauer ปีที่แล้ว +2

    YOur wisdom as a man is a very attractive male quality. It is really encouraging to women to see a man of your quality.

  • @coreyanderson7424
    @coreyanderson7424 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my son... I better get him.

  • @carmelle2665
    @carmelle2665 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is disrespect just contempt?

  • @TonyTeresa-y6l
    @TonyTeresa-y6l หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a little worried, he's just described me to a T???😅

  • @elmatadorpedro06
    @elmatadorpedro06 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He’s wrong a psychopath can choose to fall in love with the idea of something not necessarily love someone but the idea of wanting something

  • @1313wikked
    @1313wikked 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So the answer is...NO??

  • @emmarae4322
    @emmarae4322 ปีที่แล้ว

    If they never harm anyone and live a decent life does it matter?❤

  • @NikkiCCoop
    @NikkiCCoop ปีที่แล้ว

    Hair checklist?

  • @Bunyip3124
    @Bunyip3124 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    They treat you like property. But yes, it's a scale of severity, not all psychopaths are the and or as severe as the next one.

  • @kriskairn3715
    @kriskairn3715 ปีที่แล้ว

    Question. When a person feels sadness when an animal companion dies ,they are inconsolable with grief ,but when a human being dies they don't cry ..Does this make them a psychopath?

    • @J-tt1lu
      @J-tt1lu ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would think no

  • @christinediguistini8629
    @christinediguistini8629 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is it hereditary?

  • @TheMainChannelViewer
    @TheMainChannelViewer ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t think there monsters I think they can learn to feel just like we all did they just need better guidance.

  • @lindaharris9133
    @lindaharris9133 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hell No!

  • @royston6451
    @royston6451 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Now, What I would Ike to know is........
    Can A Narcissistic Person feel Love.?
    Apart from Only Loving Themselves.! 👍

    • @jimbrillon
      @jimbrillon  2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      They truly don't feel love the way most people understand love. Most narcissists have some level of cognitive empathy, but not emotional or compassionate empathy. They can have closer bonds with their own children, but their kids are more projections of themselves, and that is not what we would call love.

    • @reformerx667
      @reformerx667 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am not sure psychopaths love themselves either.

    • @AnimosityIncarnate
      @AnimosityIncarnate 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@reformerx667
      Interesting point, you're correct... love isn't there for anything the way normal people have. There is a severe reduction with oxytocin production... So you literally don't bond to anything. Possession is literally it and you can't posses yourself 😂
      Empathy is interesting cause psycopaths have very high cognitive empathy but no affective at all, makes sense why they read people so well, very good Intuitive guesses and constantly being in observer mode, while people live their lives makes you very adapt at mimicry and guessing people's intentions..
      But it's never towards themselves. Possibly the only way to get a psychopathic individual to become more normal or to reduce the emotional dysregulation, is empathy for self, reduces self destructive habits and need for Sadistic outbursts.. easier to engage with other empathy and altruistic stuff.

  • @Nyziko
    @Nyziko ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You say they can 'feel'? I disagree, they can only imitate. That part of the brain is disconnected in a simplified term

    • @johanh9637
      @johanh9637 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The whole of you is a simplified term.

  • @marlenamislivec1621
    @marlenamislivec1621 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great info

  • @carollittlewind6581
    @carollittlewind6581 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love/lust.

  • @marcjtdc
    @marcjtdc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What about when someone is using a camera on a stick and pretends it's someone filming them. Is this person a psychopath?

    • @marcjtdc
      @marcjtdc 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is someone a psychopath if they like and comment on their own comment?

  • @lynnhenry9998
    @lynnhenry9998 ปีที่แล้ว

    That's Brandon

  • @Alchemicalprincess
    @Alchemicalprincess 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love my boyfriend because he knows I am a psychopath. ALSO?? PSYCHOPATHS DON'T EXPERIENCE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS!!! THIS IS COMPLETELY FALSE! THAT'S EMPATHY I lack that.
    I absolutely love and more than normal people can as I'm willing to die for my partner are you?!

  • @jedidiah6104
    @jedidiah6104 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey what do you call a person that loves everyone, has a sense that has a little known empathy towards human beings.

  • @marcoosiris5051
    @marcoosiris5051 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    My ex .. except usin my son agains me

  • @Logan-t1d
    @Logan-t1d ปีที่แล้ว

    If a psychopath can love why even live?

  • @machstem2536
    @machstem2536 ปีที่แล้ว

    the answer no jim

  • @debbieparks8108
    @debbieparks8108 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    NO!!!

  • @nomudnolotusnodragonnogold
    @nomudnolotusnodragonnogold ปีที่แล้ว

    Thats not love.

  • @AWOLCPA
    @AWOLCPA 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ask Trump

  • @randomelvis3359
    @randomelvis3359 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everything is perfect… ✨ be here now…TH-cam “Ram Dass”

  • @wackabacka
    @wackabacka 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Diagnosed psychopath (ASPD) here "love" and true happiness is verry difficult to explain how I feel it i enjoy my partner and having her around in the way a person might enjoy talking or be around there friend thats the easiest way to explain it but I dont get butterflys or anything like that i dont really feel anything for anyone but I can mirror emotions so that in a social situation i look normal but everything others see me mirror or say its a big fasad and in a way its depressing i was explained how emotions and feelings like love and empathy is like and I got confused but know this after living my whole life thinking i was just as normal as anyone else and then got showed the real deal i would give everything just to feel that for just a minute to know what its like because living as a psychopath is extremly lonly society looks at you as if you are some kind of a serial killer or someone who should be in jail i was born like this so as far as i know im normal in my mind 🤌

  • @HappilyDivine
    @HappilyDivine ปีที่แล้ว

    Y I understand everything but my own illness ? Why the fuck am I so smart yet I can’t analyse or adapt to being called a psychopath 😂