Why I quit my job with no backup plan | Should you?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ส.ค. 2024
- We're in a world where 3 years ago, the economic environment was thriving and many people were well on their way to building the lives they've always wanted... or so we thought.
The great resignation came with a flood of people around the globe quitting their jobs for a newfound sense of purpose, new ways or thinking, or simply to remove themselves from the rat race. It's a quest for fulfillment, instead of plugging into the system.
In 2020, I quit my job with no backup plan in pursuit of a larger long term goal. It wasn't something I'd intended to do at the time, but when things fall together in a way where your intuition is speaking to you, it's your responsibility to listen. So, I did.
In this video, I explain:
Why millennials are quitting their jobs
Why I quit my job without a plan
Signs to look for if you are facing these same, existential questions.
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I quit my job at 29. I’m 33 now. Best decision I’ve ever made in my entire adult life. Of course it was easier because I had nothing tying me down. But if the question is “should I jump?” When it comes to taking risk, let me tell you - once you’ve jumped, it’s easier to jump again and again and again. A lot of times it can be an awakening. For me, it was empowering because I learned that I can say no to shit jobs, shit salaries, shit work environments, shit managers, and shit colleagues. Quitting with no plans helped me learned that we have some control.
Those are some wise words, Cheng! “Once you’ve jumped, it’s easier to jump again…” True words right there! You’re totally right. Taking the leap can show you what you’re made of and can give you the awakening to see your worth.
THIS RIGHT HERE. Exactly this!
Were u paid enough?
Im a consultabt i get paid good but cant stop thinking of quitting i feel bad specially ahen thr working hrs are long
Exactumundo
I recently quit a job with no backup plan. Zero regrets, I was miserable. Thinking about quitting daily, and my friends telling me I always looked stressed out. Ended up finding something even better in a little over a month.
That’s awesome to hear, Tyler! Oftentimes the best thing you can do for your future is simply remove yourself from the negative situation. It’s then where a better opportunity can find it’s way into your life. Congrats on the success and many more your way!
I feel same way I am goin to quit Monday
lucky you..I am unemployed for 2 months still didn't get a new job
@@Nabila-dx8xf hows it goin now?
@@richardramirez2319 I am employed now. but I hate the job.
I left my job of 7 years last year. I had thought about quitting 1000 times before then...I didn't even realize the trauma I had endured there until I left. I was young and naive in thinking I actually meant something to them. Don't be like me, don't stay in bad situations or jobs not for you, it can affect your health in so many ways.
It sucks to have that feeling when you know you should quit, but you feel stuck at the same time. Glad to see you left the bad environment. Keep pushing forward. 👊🏼
I am putting in my resignation next Friday without having anything else lined up yet. I’ve been at this company for 11 years and I don’t really see any opportunity for growth for me beyond my current position. Now is the time for me say goodbye and take a break for 2 months. Once those 2 months are up, I will re-evaluate what I really want to do.
It is the most nerve racking decision I have ever taken but I know once I pull the trigger, I will feel a lot better.
Nothing wrong with making moves to set you up for a better future. No growth leads to unfulfillment. Good move.
Good luck to you!
Just quit my job to start social media and other side business ventures! I’m tired of not living my life how I want to. Good luck to everyone out there on a similar journey! You’ve got this 💪🏽
Proud of you for taking a huge step! Keep going! 🫡
I think about quitting this job EVERYDAY. The only reason why I’m still here because I don’t know what to do next. I’m in desperation to quit this place call a 9-5. I’m a hair away from quitting without a backup.
Try and take some time, totally free of distractions and completely uninterrupted, to work through those thoughts a little bit. I know in times like this, it seems like all you can think about is the dilemma you’re in, but clarity can sometimes come in the most chaotic times. Be present when you get a moment and think about those things you want out of life. Ideas come when you make space mentally.
Hey Nick! I quit my job 2 weeks ago after 3 years of working there. I've been very anxious this first full week of being unemployed but it's not as bad as when I worked at my previous location. I really became a shell of who I once was, lost a lot of self confidence, and developed bad depression and anxiety from the workplace culture and how I was being treated. I finally said enough is enough and left. Now there is this journey of figuring out what to do next. At 32, it's a little scarey because it's also not where I pictured myself to be at. But, I didn't expect myself to be in an abusive work culture either. Anyways , it's nice to hear stories like your own where you chose you. It makes this big decision less scarey for me. Thank you
I’m glad to hear you’re out of that environment! The journey is definitely a process and I can also relate when you mentioned, at 32 not where I pictured being. I hope you can find some encouragement that you chose yourself and your well-being over some job. Life’s too short and we owe it to ourselves to do something that lights the fire within us.
Just completed my 3 months with the career I really wanted but quit last night because of how toxic management was, most co workers, over worked and policies being broken. I'm going back to my recent employer who treated me good and was recognized and they're very happy I'm coming back.
Sometimes it’s seeing the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Good luck with your journey! 💪🏼👊🏼
I was def sold a bad product. Told since elementary school to go to college, endure years of schooling, take on loads of debt, and ended up in a job i abhor. All the loans pushed back life such as being able to buy a house and pushing back marriage. It’s true. I did everything “right”, and this is where I’ve ended up - wanting to just leave my job behind if one more thing happens at work. It’s time to rebuild.
Never too late to rebuild. Create the life you want and don’t hold back. The most important time is now.
i took a leap of faith and quit my job of 5 years that i didn’t necessarily hate but was pretty unsatisfied with (plus i did hate the area). moved states, but within 6 months i found myself needing a job again quicker than i had planned due to unforseen circumstances. the job hunt is stressful and kinda traumatic to be honest, especially when you’re running out of money.
i managed to land a job that pays well and has benefits just like my last one, but is way way way worse…. my two coworkers are both 20 years older than me and the laziest people i’ve ever met. so my managers, rather than discipline them, put everything on me instead. they even tried to forcibly promote me (as in, they didn’t even ask me if i wanted it, they just started talking about it happening as if it was fact) so that it would then be my literal job description to take on everything. when i declined the promotion, they were not happy… and they still treat me like i’m in the lead position anyway, i’m just not paid like it. so it was a no win situation.
because of this, i go to work stressed out and spend my days off stressed out too. both coworkers are lazy, but one likes to play stupid and disappears while the other will get very hostile if i call him out on not doing his job and putting it on me. i’m a woman, they are both men, and we’re on nightshift. so the hostility makes me very uncomfortable being alone around him. i have brought it up to management and they dont care.
i have tried “quiet quitting” but it’s almost just as stressful in it’s own way.
i am worried that if i take another leap of faith and quit like before, i will just continue to get worse jobs each time. i don’t want to continue being miserable… but since i’ve been here before, it’s a scary decision to make.
It’s scary to put your neck out there again after you feel like you’ve been burned. It’s normal to be worried, but be careful creating the image in your mind that worse positions will keep coming. Good jobs, good people, and good pay are out there, it’s simply a matter of getting linked up with them. Your situation is tough because the ability to up and quit has many factors that go with it. If the environment is just getting worse and worse, you’ve told management and nothing has been done, it wouldn’t hurt to start prospecting elsewhere. If the situation is not ideal, finding the strength to change it is the only option.
If you aren’t in a financial position to quit right now, you might need a different approach to your exit.
-Introduce yourself to a recruiter on linked in and see what they have in the pipeline
-Reach out to a staffing agency and maybe they’ll have a better fit to place you with. Lots of people have good luck through those agencies in terms of finding a better role.
At the end of the day, it comes down to your sanity and quality of life. I always ask, “would I put up with someone close to me treating me like garbage? No. So, why allow it in your professional environment?” It’s not easy, but it’s not worth living your life so unhappy.
You can do this.
Woww I definitely needed to see this video. I'm a property manager and when I tell you you hit the nail on the head! I'm ready to quit without a back up plan because I'm just so miserable, but my sanity is worth much more. Thank you!
Right?! I know that world, all too well. Respect to you. Property managers have one of the toughest jobs on the planet. Very rarely is someone calling you to tell you 'good job.' It's usually some complaint or issue. Take care of that sanity!
I just quit my job today because I was so depressed and miserable. I just can't do it anymore.
I am self employed and think about quitting and doing absolutely nothing.
I quit my job in oct 2022. Started actively applying again in spring 2023. Still working on finding a job and supporting myself through doordash/uber eats/etc but still covering my bills and chuggin along 👍
Keep up the good fight, Miles. Do what you gotta do to get where you wanna go. It may not seem clear at the moment, but you'll be right where you need to be if you keep pressing on.
@NickTShelton I will say regardless of being mostly broke most of the time my life is more at peace regardless and I never once regretted my choice. Always remain positive and be grateful for the things you do have and blessings will come 🙏
@@mileswestmoreland5515peace gives you clarity and clarity will take you far. 🙏🏼🫡
I heard that some of my colleagues are being paid more than me - and they have fewer responsibilities.. My performance at work suffered, started to care less... Tired of being worried about my future, doing work I hate, being paid horribly, and being surrounded by people that treat me
like a doormat. I'm going to quit - I have a bit of savings but will need a new job within 4 months.
I hate to hear it @annekeruben3238
I get the feeling of losing motivation that you’re experiencing. I’ll say from past experience, even if you were to get a raise, it’s tough to change your mind once you’re already having those feelings. I don’t blame you for being fed up.
Start looking as soon as you can or working on a project to extend your 4 month time horizon. While you’re still getting paid, do what you have to do to make your next steps a little easier. Networking, thinking about your next avenue, etc.
Happy to give any advice if I can help.
@@NickTShelton thanks for the words of encouragement 👍
Good luck on your journey. I just quit my job recently. My main channel is Jake Tilk and I made a video just like this! Can relate.
Good luck to you Jake! Thanks man, I’m going to check out your channel.
Just recently subscribed.
When I was burnt out working at a very physical job, the thought of getting out of there one day was what gave me an extra last burst of energy to work on my painting 5-7 days a week! I did it like my life depended on it, because I felt like it did! And now I am hoping for a rewarding future, as I still continue to work on another painting now 💓.
I love to hear it! Keep going and keep creating like your life depends on it, because it does!
@@NickTShelton 💓
Do you listen to music while painting? If so my music might be useful
Thank you for this thoughtful video. It warms my heart reading the comments and your replies, to know so many out there have the same worries and fears, and we all have different stories and paths. I have been contemplating on quitting my receptionist job of 12 years and now I am more sure that leaving is the best way for my soul. My values are no longer aligned with that of my new boss. She’s the head of HR but has no empathy and self-awareness. She is ill-tempered and cynical, wants to control every little thing and everyone, very resentful and unforgiving. It just feels disheartening how she treats people esp. the rank and file. And it’s sad that nobody is calling her out. What is holding me back is being repatriated, not knowing where to find a new source of income and having so little savings as I am starting over after divorce. It feels scary to start from scratch at 50! This is on my mind for the last months and I just know that I have to stay true to myself and really trust myself even if I don’t know where I am going. I look forward to having more time to read books, pursue painting, be closer to my family. And I hope to find something that will help me make money to support myself. All the best!
Hey Ann - there's nothing wrong with outgrowing a role in pursuit of something else, especially something that drives you. Make sure you're prepared, have some cash stacked before making any big leaps. Something that's helped me when I feel like I don't know where to look is completely unplugging. Spend a few days, or if you can, weeks, without touching social media, without consuming content and just let your mind wander. A lot of our clarity is lost with things that pull our attention in every other way. I'm not saying this IS the answer, but hopefully it will give you some clarity and present some new ideas. Good luck to you and don't give up on yourself.
Why do I get the feeling that a lot of people with "no back up plan" actually have family and friends they can stay with if they can't pay their rent and parents who I can bail them out financially....
Build up your savings before leaping.
Quit my job to start my own venture. It's been eye opening as to how much I can grow as a person by putting myself in a new mind set.
Love to see it. Keep growing.
Good video. I went from feeling ill about 4 months ago. I started slowing down at work since we haven’t had any projects and I don’t foresee any that would be challenging or fulfilling. Of course due to my slowing down due to health concerns my company started focusing on my performance and put me on a PIP. I’m 49 and don’t have anything lined up yet but I’m resigning tomorrow and I’m starting to feel better already. Wish me luck :)
Good luck, buddy. Get healthy and best wishes to you on your journey. Don't give up on yourself and keep movin' along!
I work in real estate as a property accountant and hate it. I quit yesterday. I totally feel you on property management. It’s awful. Never again lol
You get it lol. That industry, it’s something else. There are some good people but damn there are some shady ones too.
Don’t forget, if you quit your job you can always get another Shity job.
Haha, you’re right on that.
Lol
Just about to do this after Easter, wish me luck. I'm shi**ing it!
Good luck! It’s scary, no doubt. But, there’s a lot of clarity that comes with it.
thank you! It's done, working my notice then doing a course in SQL 😊
The algorithm showed youre video to me Yt know that im ij this situation. Lol 😂
Thanks for this Nick! 💯
The algorithm Gods speaking to you 🤣 thanks for watching Paddz!
I can't stand a "you have to go to college in order to be successful" person.
Yeah, for sure. That mindset is becoming a thing of the past. Times are changing and college is being priced out of the market as a viable option for many careers. It’ll be interesting to see what the “college route” looks like in 10-15 years.
Omg! Thank you so much. I’m in property management and I hate everything about it . I deal with angry and awful people on a daily basis… 😢
Property management is such a tough job! People don’t call because they’re having a great day, haha. They’re calling because they need answers and they’re usually not happy. Follow your intuition- life’s too short to be unhappy like that.
When you mentioned the overnight change due to the internet, it made so much sense, our parents are wired differently. We have a whole different world of opportunity.
It’s true. The opportunity is really endless. Just gotta find the one that works for you.
Its so true, growing up without internet not able to access certain info, you had to take what was given. Especially in education and the route in your life. Not many options. Because now you see the younger kids being millionaires because of online business. Its ridiculous but also eyeopening. Now I am trying to catch up at 43 years of age. I am still working a coorperate job but I have never liked it. I dont know how I held on for so long. I did learn a lot working at the office, especially about myself. Made some friends.
Now I am going to take the next step, i am taking a course and then slowly start my own online business. Then I will quit.
You’re right, Nora. Make the best of the situation because that’s all we can do. Great job on keeping a positive mental attitude and putting yourself in a situation to succeed. Good luck to you and keep going!
@@NickTShelton thank you so much nick
all the people who just quit their job like that tend to be people who were smart enough or skilled enough to make a living working from home, the average guy working at taco bell or walmart isnt gonna be able to do it
Very good point @kerpal321
I don’t want to assume everyone at Taco Bell or Walmart doesn’t like their job. But, for the average guy in those positions, it has to be a game of chess to move up in life. A move to look for a way to learn a skill or trade that will help them move up in society is key. It’s also so hard to build any sort of financial runway in minimum wage jobs to be able to quit and pursue other avenues. Damn near impossible.
And you can't assume that it's impossible. Nothing is impossible. Anyone can start from zero to massive success
@@thetimesofnoah3471 exactly. A strong belief in an idea coupled with ridiculously strong work ethic will take you places most small minds can’t fathom.
2 of my colleagues left in the last few months because of our new boss.When my colleague gave his resignation yesterday, my boss was like “ I already thought of asking you to leave in the next few months”. I’m sure all that work is coming my way with a quote “ I’m sure you will be able to handle it, please let me know if you have any issues”. I am 42 and looking for a new job now, don’t think I’ll find one at this age, but I’m unable to sleep these days for the last one year after she joined. I’ve been sitting for the company for 9 years but I guess I will have to quit soon. Don’t know what to do 😢
Sounds like your boss isn’t great at leading and managing people if you’re getting a lot of resignations and they aren’t filling the positions, just by the context given.
Just from experience, I’ll be honest with ya, once your mind is halfway out the door, you need to seek other opportunities. You don’t want to bargain and make deals with yourself trying to convince yourself that “it’ll get better.” If it’s not a good situation and even more so, you find your sleep quality diminishing, you’re getting into some rough territory with it spreading stress into other areas of your life. As far as saying you don’t think you’ll find a new job at 42, ya gotta approach that differently. There is nothing factual that says, “this is the best you’re ever going to get.” That fear of not finding anything better comes from a place of desiring comfort which is very normal. Change can be overwhelming but in order to have peace, you’ve gotta push that comfort zone. A new environment can change your life. Don’t delay the possibility of finding joy in what you do out of fear.
@@NickTShelton Thank you so much for taking time to write those words my friend. Really appreciate it. God bless you
I haven't fully watched the video yet but reading comments inspired. I'm about to have my last day of work in 3 days and I've always been wanting to leave for months. It wasn't going well for me and affected my mental health that prevented me to actually work on my projects. I felt so guilty but I knew I had to really leave this job and I'm getting a family vacation right after so I definitely need this! But I'm also guilty again because I worry if I'll get a better job for me out there to pay bills sigh
Congrats on leaving the bad environment! Enjoy your vacation and good luck with everything. It’s always scary at first, but keep moving forward each and every day. 👊🏼
I've been in the same job for 9 years, I feel stuck and I don't have the guts to leave. The idea of not finding another job quickly is terrifying.
Yep, I agree, that can be a tough task. Feeling like you're chained to a job is terrible, but I ask myself this question when I need a lot of courage to get through something: Do I want to look back 10, 20, 30 years from now and wonder, what could I have accomplished if I'd gotten a little uncomfortable and pushed myself toward the possibility of a better future? Don't live with regret, bud. There are a lot of things you can do in this life and taking chances is part of the process. If someone else has done it, so can you.
This is a perfect explanation of career ish. Amazing video!!!!
Thanks my dude! I’m digging your new branding with your business, by the way. Keep it up 💪🏼
I want to quit my job and be my own boss and be a barber have more time with family and do my own Schedule life to short to be stress everyday 90 percent of people that work don’t like they job people need to start doing what they like and not always work for someone but work for ur self
Nick, I appreciate you and this video you have created.
Thanks, Adam - I appreciate you, my friend.
@NickTShelton thanks Nick but just knowing I am not alone and the clarity of thought in which you presented this information wss helpful.
I just resigned two weeks ago! Now I’m working on my true passion to become a Wim Hof Method instructor (cold exposure) and practice my Iridology along with coaching where I was making supplementary income. Now I have to make it full time income. It’s not easy out there!
Never give up! There will be ups, downs, and everything in between. A life worth living has its battles, but as you know, it’s enjoying the process that makes it worthwhile. You got this!
I'd say continue to job hunt as if you don't have a job during your first 90-100 days. It can take weeks or even months for an employer to respond to your application whereas it can only take a few days to determine if you can see yourself in your current role on day 91 or 101.
Them golden handcuffs got me...my family depends on me ..being a manager sucks
I'm so grateful for the journey this video took to find its way to me...thank you so much for this insightful piece sir! 🙏🏾💛
Thanks for watching @plaidboy23 - I appreciate ya! 👊🏼
Hey Nick, I feel like quitting my job EVERYDAY. It’s physically, mentally, and emotionally draining me. I cry everyday, have chest pains, stress, anxiety, etc. Sometimes, I even feel like killing myself cause there’s “no way out” meaning like I can’t just quit (even tho I absolutely can) but just the thought of the unknown scares me. Like why can’t I do it if I’m not happy? Sometimes I feel like I ask God why can’t he find me something, but maybe he’s waiting for ME to take that leap, you know?
Hey J, I hate that you are in that spot. That’s an overwhelmingly amount of stress, so I can see why you’re frustrated.
I want to share a couple things.
The unknown IS scary. No doubt. I would encourage you to think about it a little differently. Instead of focusing on the fear of the unknown, the disasters that could happen - no income, losing your lifestyle, etc., shift your focus the effects of this long term. Imagine you are 80 year old J and you are reflecting on your life, the one thing that sticks out is that period in your life when you let fear control you. You stayed in a job that crippled you emotionally and mentally. Let 80 year old J look back and realize you had the courage to do what others won’t. To take a chance on you and your sanity. This one move can alter the path of your life, if you allow it.
Questioning God is normal. It’s part of the process in faith. But, you wouldn’t ask God if you didn’t have faith that He is guiding you. Oftentimes, the word from God isn’t as clear as we want it to be, but can sometimes be manifested in different ways. That gut feeling you have that you need to get out of this job, the stress, the anxiety, etc., it’s all reasoning to seek something better. We are meant to serve, and that requires blind faith sometimes. I wouldn’t say you’re too far off with your thinking.
Hope this helps.
@@NickTShelton Thank you so much for the kind words and advice! Didn't mean to get all personal, I just don't know who to talk too about this. I'm ok with my savings and income at the moment. I know how to invest and I enjoy saving my money. (Which I have done for YEARS.) I've just never had this issue before. I'm only 25 and I only had one other job than the one I have now. So my resume isn't impressive at all. If worse comes to worst I'll just go back to my old job and move up to management. (I was there for 7 years and I could of had the potential to move up, I just chose not too.)
@j.837 yep of course! No problem.
Without a ton of context, it's hard to know your total situation, but from what I see here, you have a lot of skills that are putting you in a good position to make a move. Good financial sense (savings built up and investing experience), something to fall back on if all fails, and the discipline to throttle spending back when you need to.
The thing about your resume and where you don't feel like it's impressive, I want to encourage you to shift the way you think about that because that small seed can create other limits down the road. The playing field right now in getting jobs is fairly tough because there is a lot more competition for many desirable jobs. But, my honest question to a lot of the competitors you'll face in the job market is, "are they really more talented than you?"
I'd look at what you just mentioned and find a way you can highlight that in your resume to help you really showcase all of your experience, even if it isn't directly job related. You have saved money and you enjoy it, my assumption is you do that because you're trying to keep a budget for yourself or create an emergency fund, etc. That displays some type of entry level financial management that is actually worth displaying on your resume. A lot of people can't do that basic skill. You also have some investing experience, from what I read. That displays some type of entry level asset reallocation. Maybe you don't have experience of putting 100s of thousands of dollars in different places or managing multi-million dollar budgets, but you have a start. I would encourage you to illustrate this if you really want to change your situation.
Think to yourself, what have I demonstrated in different situations in my life, job, etc. and find ways you can tell that story. Think of your resume as a story, not a list of responsibilities.. "how did you accomplish x or y" and "what were your results."
I quit my job yesterday it had gone to far. Was only there for 4 months. Job got me stressed on so many levels and made me feel incompetent for that career I chose aswell as affecting my sleep and lifestyle. Idk if I made the right choice but I feel you have to do what’s best for yourself. I feel relieved yet still feel traumatised from how disorganised and overwelhming my time there had been. I hope to God I never even get a phone call about that place.
That’s rough, but you’re right. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for yourself. Nobody is coming to save you, so just gotta make the call.
I have been wanting to quit for 1 year! Haha gave chance a lot. Then one of my colleagues in my department left with no backup plan. She has savings and a husband. What stopping me was higher savings and no husbang or family (i rent out not live with family) but i was so drained out with my current job. My boss no help at all. He's not toxic or micromanage but he's no help at all. I plan to tender my resignation by end of this week. Serve my notice period and took a break for a month ish while go to interview if any. Will work part time if needed. Praying I'll get a new job while serving the notice period. What scare me is, if i made stupid decision or am i just too week for this kind of challenges. Until i talked to one of the interviews i went this year for kinda same position i am now, they all surprised on my current tasks on how my task and responsibilities are too much in their views as well.
Anywau, thanks for the video. Definitely will keep this in mind.
How did it go @cyeri2806? Did you end up turning in your notice?
The volume on this is super low.
Nick,
Here's my situation. I am also stressed out. I needed to request a transfer. I could not handle the site anymore.
Waiting for my boss to find me a new site. I had to leave the lawfirm account. Too much drama, too much politics. Putting a dead mouse inside my security blazer with an attached threatening post-it message is the straw that broke the camel's back. It is a toxic environment.
I worked there for almost 2.5 years. The silent treatment became unbearable but the dead mouse and threatening note did it for me. Monday night was my last day. I am now a man without a site anxiously waiting to start working at a new location.
People are really mean which is the main reason why I love to be alone. Thank God I have enough sense to save money for a rainy day. I hope to be at a site in the next few days.
You say?
Wow, hate to hear that Guido. One thing I’ll say is keep working for your next role. Put yourself out there and don’t be afraid to start over. It’s a challenging journey to move from one place to another or one role to another, but your sanity is worth it. The peace of mind you’ll gain is worth the journey.
Look, it’s easy to want to be alone because people have hurt you or wronged you in the past. Don’t let that pain determine your future. If you hide out and avoid people, they’ve won. You’ve done the hardest part by removing that environment from your life. Keep moving forward and keep that image in your mind of where you want your life to be.
@@NickTShelton :
My boss responded tonight via email. He used my PTO and sick time to cover the days of work this week and will be getting back to me over the weekend about a new site. By using my PTO and sick time, I will have a full check for week ending 2/3/23.
This means I will not lose money during this crazy situation. Very good because my rent is due on 2/1/23. Praise the Lord!
Guido
How about an update? What are you doing now?
Got a video coming soon, Danny. Took some time and made a lot of life changes to help move the needle forward in areas that needed my attention. Looking forward to getting back on the content and sharing the wins, losses, successes, and failures over the past few months.
Planning on quitting my job soon, can’t do it anymore. Thinking about quitting all the time. No support from family.
College is an investment in you rself.
Sometimes it’s a road you have to travel alone. Keep your head up and keep going.
I feel trap because I don't know how to quit, without knowing what I should do next :')
Break down a plan of action to follow so you have some sort of direction. Start with questions like:
Who do I want to become?
What exactly do I want to do with my time where I am both fulfilled and happy?
What are paths I know for a fact I do not want to take?
Take those answers and work backwards in terms of how to get there. Reverse engineer the steps to get there by starting with the end in mind.
Great video! Really makes me think.
Thanks Pamela! Hope you enjoyed 👌🏼
Am on the verge in quitting my job. But it scares me what am I going to do afterwards. I though in working on a TH-cam Channel since I have one and love what I do. But sadly I don't get paid from it. So....idk.....
Something I do, that may help you, is I get out my whiteboard and I brainstorm. I ask myself questions:
What am I good at?
What are problems I am naturally good at solving?
What brings me joy?
It’s all about problem solving. Problem solving in what you want to do and when it comes to starting a business, providing a solution to the problems others experience.
Let’s dissect your comment:
It scares you to quit because of the unknown of what to do afterwards. Start there and ask, “why?” List out any and every reason why it scares you and find solutions to those problems.
Maybe some of those answers are:
-I won’t have any money. (Answer could be get another job that is more aligned with what you actually want to do or who you want to be. Income resolved, increase in happiness resolved. Easier said than done sometimes, but the road less traveled is often most rewarding. It just takes more work to travel that road.)
-maybe you don’t have a plan on how to monetize your channel. (Answer: look up other channels in your space and study them relentlessly. The ones that have a great following and monetization. Success leaves clues and you can learn from those clues left by others.)
Don’t give up on what you want to do, but most importantly, don’t give up on yourself. It’s a different road for everyone but if you stick with it, you can make stuff happen.
Hope this helps.
@@NickTShelton Thank you very much for taking the time in breaking this down for me. I feel alot better reading this. Ill work on what am good at and see where it goes. :)
What if you dont know what you want to do? Even if you are hating what u do now how do u figure it out
Great question, Rachel. It is a very tough situation to be in when you hate what you do because, oftentimes, your energy level is so low you might not want to do anything else.
It sounds so simple, but I have 2 things that helped me:
1) try things. If you have even a slight interest in something, try it. Maybe it’s a free course online or an educational TH-cam video related to the subject matter. You don’t have to know the “how” or the details of pursuing this interest, you just need to try things to learn about yourself. The only way to discover what you like or what you want to do is to try things.
2) embrace being bored. This concept might be most powerful in terms of generating ideas of what you may want to try or do. Oftentimes, when we hate what we do, we go for the dopamine hit of social media, binging shows or TH-cam, or something else bringing instant gratification. It’s a cycle we can easily fall into. Typically, when We get bored, we seek a dopamine hit. Instead, try this. When we are bored, it’s an opportunity to have conversations with ourselves that require introspection and cause us to answer the hard questions. Try a little time just being in that space and you might find some resolution.
Hope that helps!
@@NickTShelton thank you for the feedback. It really helps to hear that perspective!
@@rachell1249 that’s what’s up, happy to help!
Man, i been thinking about quitting my engineering job. Im 32 and hate my managers and the toxic work enviroment. I have 2 startups for businesses and i have not been able to complete them because my energy gets drained. I have 11 months to survive con savings, and i was thing to quite and focus on my businesses for a couple of months and then get back to a 9-5 to keep fueling my businesses. Any experience adivce would be appreciate it 🙌🏼🙏🏼
That’s tough, man. I know how that feels in an environment like that. It can definitely suck the energy right out of you. First, congrats on the 2 startups. That’s a great start for something of your own. Second, nice cushion on your savings. Glad to see you have a little insurance there in case you need to buy some time.
Without knowing the entirety of your situation, I’ll give you my best recommendation, so take it with a grain of salt.
It’s definitely valuable to keep that income from your engineering job as long as possible. So, if there is a possibility of working remote, that will be a step in the right direction in removing yourself from the physical office environment.
If that’s not in the cards, I’d recommend assessing what you do outside of work. Is there anything that you may do in terms of habits or things taking up your time that you can eliminate to give you some more time to recharge and work on your startups? In other words, is there something you can do to eliminate distractions and help focus in on your goal of getting the startups to produce enough income in your free time?
If that’s not it, and you’ve completely exhausted all resources on making it work with the company, such as talking with your manager or maybe asking for the possibility of a different role outside of that manager’s leadership, then I think you know what to do. You either look for another job that is a little more in alignment with what you’re trying to do long term, schedule wise and financially, or you go all in on your start ups.
The thing is, we can always find a shit job to live on in a worst case scenario. But regret is something you’ll have to live with forever if you never try believing in yourself. Going all in on yourself is crippling to most of the population, and that’s why many of those same people will shame you for following a dream. Just ask, would you be happier at the end of your life saying “I gave it my all” or would you be alright saying, “I never took that chance I always wanted to”? There is no right or wrong, it all comes down to your risk tolerance and where you are in your phase of life.
Hope that helps!
Thanks man 🙏🏼🙌🏼 I really appreciate it. Better use some time and effort full time to my start ups and then go back to a 9-5 to keep fueling it. Otherwise im going at a slow pace.
@@RanchoCarne 💪🏼 go get it! Good luck, man! 🙏🏼
@@NickTShelton I Nick really appreciate your advise as I'm i the same situation. I work an internacional corporate as an engineer and the job is very draining, demanding and competitive. I really love my coworkers but the responsabilities consumes all my soul lol, the wage and benefits are amazing, it's like a dream job for most people but the price that I pay for this job is the unlimited tiredness. I do have savings/Investiments will say its about 50 months (4 years) of my living expenses which is generate me 40% monthy of my monthly bills. I do pay rent and want to save for down payment and really want to start my small business which is beauty care ( I love it so much) but the 9-5 eats me alive so, no energy for anything else.
I was considering quitting 2023 (will reach 50% of my monthy income) but will wait a more until save for down payment and pile up more savings, will try my best to work on my small business which I love so much. I'm 34 by the way but feel like 50 due to so much tiredness lol.
are you married. if you are maybe it is best for not quit the job.
Well put. Well done.
I appreciate that, Ursine. Thank you!
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I left a pretty good job as a fire technician after a month today. I was struggling with wiring fire devices and I was going too slow so I felt like I was wasting my time. I also dreaded working in construction sites so I decided to try get my foot in the door with IT. Wish me luck.
Bust that door down and pursue what set's your spirit on fire. No pun intended haha - Life's too short!
Having to work is the very fact that has rooted and from there my depression has grown. I know there isnt a job out there that i will like because all jobs mean having to spend most of your life doing that job. Far too monotonous for me. Dealing with traffic before you even start your shift and then afterwards before you even get home. I cant help spending my days of miserable because im dreading how fast they will go and before i know it im back to the monotonous slog. But we need to work just for a roof over our head and food. So what are you supposed to do when your that depressed even getting out of bed is a monumental task because you know what lies ahead in your day.
I feel ya, man. My best and to the point advice is to channel that energy into building your way out. Define where you want to be, who you want to be, what you want to do. Then, reverse engineer the process of how to get there. It'll take time, but it'll give you a purpose to chase. It'll give you a light at the end of the tunnel.
i should do this more often .
Nick, Kindly up the Volume. As a non native english speaker. the volume is less and have to concentrate more.
I will do that! My apologies!
Do not quit your job until you have another one.
Doesn’t work for everyone, my friend. I get where you’re coming from but for someone that has a business idea or significant savings lined up to give themselves a shot at a dream, I’m on the side of taking a chance on yourself. Having another job is just going to slow you down and pull your focus away from plan A.
@@NickTShelton, I would argue, then, in the example you’ve given that one does have a job, which is starting a business. That’s a lot of work!
@@Melifter You are right on that. Context is key in that statement for sure. Despite the work involved in starting a business though, I'd much rather work 100 hours a week on a business I own and that's something I believe in, then spend 40 hours doing something that doesn't excite me... or where I have to ask another adult if it's okay that I take the day off. Different strokes for different folks and some people make it work where they are. For some though, something has to give.
depends on what u make a hour lol i mean 9 bucks a hour like im making now, i had to take the job just have some income ., i cant quit or id be like no income coming in and im allready in the hole now, so figure that one out, how to go from being in the hole and 9 bucks a hour , when u have rent and eletric to pay. and gas .
Situations are different. Gotta find a way to level up your skills, my friend. If you’re in the hole, no money saved, then we gotta ask, what can I get into that will at least get me back to a baseline? I know many construction jobs that start out at $15/hour and many of those companies are struggling for help. Get in the door with something you see an opportunity with. For example, maybe work in a warehouse for $13-$18 an hour, do something at night to level up your skills, can be anything. Gonna take work, man and the frame of mind that you CAN get out of the situation you’re in.
By the way… small world, I see ENMU on your profile pic. Played baseball there before transferring schools. Go hounds.
@@NickTShelton I'm 50. Bad arthritis in both knees. So can't do construction and can't do heights. Vertigo
@@johnpierce2095 lots of opportunities out there to advance yourself, but gotta look for them. Driving a truck, managing a restaurant, UPS, there are opportunities and you gotta start somewhere. Doesn’t have to be forever but it’s a stepping stone
I wish I could quit
Set it up like a goal. Determine what you need to do to quit and reverse engineer from there. Plan and execute. 💪🏼
@@NickTShelton thanks nick, putting it into plan now!
Never quit. Get fired. Then they will remember you. It's good to be remembered in a world full of forgettable people. BTW: I'm a physics professor - I have a mind of my own.
Don, you have some truth to that, haha. I like where you’re head is at!
Subbed. Thanks for the insights!
Thank you 🙏🏼 I appreciate you!
I cut my hours in half
Ive got so much debt. But i just cant take it at my work anymore going to quit I'm in south africa and economy is in a bad state not a lot of jobs out there . Its either i quit or i take my life
Hey Michael - I feel ya. It’s not a great spot to be in when you despise your job that much. Slow down, breathe slow, make a plan. If the economy is bad, lay out some options of what you can do. This isn’t about leaping into the unknown without critical thinking. Get some thoughts together and start moving in that direction. Nothing, absolutely nothing, especially a job, is worth taking your life. Do not succumb to the pressures of an external circumstance like that and let it wreak havoc on you. There is a way out. That way out is through the fire with some hard work in developing a plan. Indescribable discipline in executing that plan. And absolute focus every single minute until you get yourself out of the situation you don’t want to be in.
Go get it.
This Nick Shelton youtube feature of Why I Quit My Job With No Backup Plan contains some poignant and in earnest type of details from the youtube author's life on how he embarked on his journey. I also came away being more informed with the youtube author's reminder on cultivating certain skills if choosing to follow a related choice that he selected (for instance skills pertaining to writing, resources andor places outside of a professional's workplace to look i.e. state based employment workforce centers etc.). The author also includes convenient/applicable content preceding up to both the why and when he put in his 2 week notice at the employment workplace he references.
I actually watched this video approximately 6 months ago having very little idea that I would actually do this though I cheated a little on this theme via doing so with a job offer that is still in the works rather than guaranteed though already being aware of other jobs I could go after (with a focus on some career and money goals that I am after that are more easily accomplished with a different job). I have recently made the leap to put in my vocal and written two week notice even with working for one of the managers I professionally admire and having some coworkers I already know that I will miss. Even with my still in progress job search I am rationally and intuitively aware that I am doing the right thing for multiple reasons I would prefer to keep private for now. Luckily I have a supportive partner who is allowing me to do what the theme of this video communicates just for once in my current lifetime (though my amazing partner understands some of the professional and money goals that I am after in conjunction with luckily and currently I am a navy reservist).
I was always told getting a college degree will open more opportunities! Well, yeah sure, but they are shit jobs that require hard work, debt, and a piece of paper that states, yes, I can do this shit job that a HS graduate or dropout could do.
Yeah… it’s an interesting system. At one point, having a degree got you in the door to a lot of opportunities that weren’t available, especially financially. Now, there are people with degrees that make less than someone that dropped out of high school. The career landscape has changed but we are slow to change our minds to keep up. In recent years, people have pursued different avenues for education but we are still far away from that being the norm.
Who os going to pay your rent and bills the following month? Family and friends?
Build up your cash so you don’t have to depend on someone to pay for your lifestyle was step 1. Living below your means and spending only on necessities in said lifestyle was key when I started in the workforce. Learning to invest years ago was also a nonnegotiable for me.
I'm quitting my job because of my condescending, insensitive boss. Of course, I have to email her (not approach that intimidating bítch) about _why_ I'm leaving. She'll need an explanation. I'm thinking I have to tell her that I'm leaving the job so that I can emotionally restore myself and find other things I might be good at. That I might even be able to do tasks alone without someone to "guide" me, a word she has used about me in a belittling manner. She doesn't believe in me. I want her to get the hint that _she_ has wrecked my confidence and pushed me to leave. Would anyone be interested in reading my practice email, if I post it here?
Hopefully everything worked out never let anyone take your confidence away 🙏 💯 you got this
@@toddpacker1015 Thank you. I emailed my ex-boss, minus the "find-what-I'm-good-at" stuff...or any explanation. She didn't even respond to my two week notice.
@johnrainsman6650 They didn't deserve anything from you never let an employer determine your self worth. Also the great feeling of walking in and quitting a job is a feeling you'll remember your entire life.
@@toddpacker1015 Yeah. She was once upset I had signed up for a one-person shift, because she didn't think I could manage alone. She was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. Sure, I'm a slow learner and have messed up at work before, but the automatic assumption that I was heIpIess, that really hurt.
Yeah. She was once upset I had signed up for a one-person shift, because she didn't think I could manage alone. She was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told me I need someone there to guide me.
Now he sleeps under a bridge at night.
Yep. You got it. Good insight.
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Gen Z here 👋🏿 😭
You kind of look like Chuck Norris.
Chuck is a legend, I’ll take it.
I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish. (Luke 13:5)
But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away. (Isaiah 64:6)
As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. (Romans 3:10-12)