Therapist gets Sober by Tool

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  • Therapist analyzes the lyrics of Sober by Tool to discuss the internal battle that many individuals experience when they are on the path of sobriety. The song gives us insight into how strong the addictive voice to be and encourages us to fight back against it by remembering what we want to achieve and who we want to be.
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  • @chefnoah1048
    @chefnoah1048 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +393

    For the millionth time, hearing a song through another person's ears has me hearing a song for the first time in 32 years.

    • @neogenesis0038
      @neogenesis0038 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      "32 years" made me vomit...good lord that's when I first heard it.

    • @thothheartmaat2833
      @thothheartmaat2833 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      i dont know what any of tools lyrics are and ive heard all their songs 100 times so im like oh thats what this song is about..

    • @chrismclendon1166
      @chrismclendon1166 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      All poetry and art are interpretation.
      I always have and still feel that this song is about humankind more than just 1 person.

    • @allenoriti2246
      @allenoriti2246 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      If you listen to this song as an addict I feel the song describes life as an active user. But again it’s cool to think about it from a recovery point of view. Amazing work from Tool

    • @jessicavanhorssen431
      @jessicavanhorssen431 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      same

  • @John-4649
    @John-4649 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +663

    Please keep going down the Tool rabbit hole!!!!

    • @fbtdcfbygb1385
      @fbtdcfbygb1385 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      No she’ll end up taking shrooms lol

    • @Destructionater
      @Destructionater 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@fbtdcfbygb1385Exactly how my dad described high school with his friends lol

    • @MsFuqyu
      @MsFuqyu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      not down, spiral out. ride the spiral.

    • @firecracker187
      @firecracker187 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Any maynard

    • @firecracker187
      @firecracker187 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Pucifer

  • @evantarracciano4211
    @evantarracciano4211 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +527

    If she’s a therapist, she will have a field day with “Vicarious”

    • @ted1976hailspiralout
      @ted1976hailspiralout 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      No doubt 🤘🏻🌀

    • @JaysonStark
      @JaysonStark 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Try 4° or Disgustipated. Either way, More TooL.

    • @xhighone
      @xhighone 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Just a Floyd/Tool channel. That would give her like 2 years of analysis of all sorts of fun mental situations.

    • @stinkasscat
      @stinkasscat 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Lol​@@xhighone

    • @deminybs
      @deminybs 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      if she's a therapist she will realize why it's peeps like us that listen to these good tunes instead of going to therapy lol

  • @medicmike7449
    @medicmike7449 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +362

    Youve got to see the live video! See the expressions of Maynard while singing.

    • @Bundleofsass
      @Bundleofsass 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      The live performance for this song is crazy. Not just because the band is just as good - if not better - live, but because Maynard’s performance is beautiful and disturbing and very real for someone experiencing addiction and withdrawal. The first time I saw it, I genuinely thought he was high af, but after reading more about him and the song and what it meant to them, I finally understood that it was all very intentional.

    • @InTuGuru
      @InTuGuru 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      The live version is pure art

    • @jimbojones8978
      @jimbojones8978 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Bundleofsass I think the live version is a remaster fwiw. So the audio is damn near perfect because of that. The performance in the live version is what's important. They do... as I recall sound just as amazing live though, so there's not a really diminishing factor, but for a video from 1993, it's quite an amazing video experience. imo.

    • @matchu.j
      @matchu.j 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      One of the best performances of all time...

    • @leaann6445
      @leaann6445 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Please watch the live version, it hits differently.

  • @randomsasquatchwithwifi4090
    @randomsasquatchwithwifi4090 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +232

    You're a therapist? Oh, you are so going to Love Tool!

    • @ericbartha7438
      @ericbartha7438 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      And A Perfect Circle!
      She needs to do the entire first APC album.........

    • @adampindell
      @adampindell 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ericbartha7438and second!

    • @el-violador
      @el-violador 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Tool, Nine Inch Nails, Deftones, Failure, System of a Down, Nirvana.... These are my therapists

    • @edwardmunoz7853
      @edwardmunoz7853 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ericbartha7438By and Down 💯🔥

    • @Nanan00
      @Nanan00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@el-violador +Mudvayne

  • @tbrancs03
    @tbrancs03 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    I am an addict in recovery. Tool is my favorite band. When I decided to get clean 6 years ago and went to treatment, the clinician had us pick a recovery song. She printed out the lyrics of each of our songs for us and played them during a group session. By the end of the song, most of the group were in tears because this is exactly what addiction feels like and the internal battle that we go through. Thank you so much for putting out this video because it’s a reminder of why I choose to stay clean and not have to relive that hell ever again.

    • @samhillis4320
      @samhillis4320 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I remember in rehab once someone brought in "Mr. Self Destruct" by NIN. A song with quite different energy than this song, but it was kind of funny because many people had no idea wtf they were listening too.😂 Congrats on sobriety. No easy feat.

    • @68AMW
      @68AMW 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hang in there dude and I hope you enjoy life sober. Life is for living as you only get one. All the best

    • @anthonyonorato9529
      @anthonyonorato9529 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Proud of you dude

  • @daleschilg3973
    @daleschilg3973 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +177

    There is a live version of this song from Reading Festival in 1993. Watching Maynard deliver this song adds a huge next level to it! Definitely worth a watch

    • @144megabytes
      @144megabytes 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I've not had addiction issues and it still makes me cry every time.

    • @The_real_gaston
      @The_real_gaston 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I second this

    • @rexahdar4199
      @rexahdar4199 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      The live performance at Reading is one of THE great rock performances in the history of the genre,

    • @troyevitt2437
      @troyevitt2437 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maynard looks like the line for the loo was too long and could end up running behind the bass amps for a piddle at any moment!

  • @tattoodude8946
    @tattoodude8946 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

    Thank you for being one of the few reactors that understands the double negative of "why can't we not be sober." So many get that wrong.

  • @ericingham9925
    @ericingham9925 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    As a recovered alcoholic, it also speaks to how a user treats those around him, particularly those he loves, admitting to them that "I will only complicate you, trust in me and fall as well. I will find a center in you, I will chew it up and leave. I will work to elevate you, just enough to bring you down." Meaning, if I'm going to let alcohol destroy me, I'll manipulate you into going down with me.

    • @user-tk8zh8lw8g
      @user-tk8zh8lw8g 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's a good analysis of that part, but I prefer to see it this way : in reality, it's the drugs that are talking "I will find a center in you
      I will chew it up and leave
      I will work to elevate you
      Just enough to bring you down. I'm not saying you're wrong, just that I like how Tool can make you give it different meanings and how they all make sense.

    • @JL-cb8gl
      @JL-cb8gl 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Agreed. I was a piece of sh%# using those around me to get what I wanted.
      People can say it was the dugs or alcohol.
      But no it wasn’t.
      It was who you were as an addict.
      It doesn’t have to be you anymore.

  • @Phantomselbst
    @Phantomselbst 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    For me, the song wasn't about drug addiction, but rather addiction to destructive thinking, ultimately the ego.

    • @danielhill8200
      @danielhill8200 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I struggle to perceive how you even arrived at that conclusion. Can a person be addicted to a type of comprehensive thought?

    • @johnthompson6374
      @johnthompson6374 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@danielhill8200 Absolutely!! Our brains get "wired" from our experiences. A brain that grows up in a constant state of depression due to their surroundings will end up in such a way. Peace/JT

    • @RustinChole
      @RustinChole 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@danielhill8200are you kidding? Absolutely yes.

    • @tshinn
      @tshinn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🎯

    • @Raelwald
      @Raelwald 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@danielhill8200 I think its not just addiction to drugs or alcohol, but addiction in general. Maynard was good friends with Layne Staley, so he saw addiction first hand. But he never experienced it himself.

  • @barte3822
    @barte3822 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +149

    I am clean and sober for almost 5 years now. Your analysis is spot on on. Undertow like sober is worth examining the addictive mind.
    Tool has been so important in my recovery.
    46&2 was instrumental in getting through my step 4 & step 5.
    ✌️❤️

    • @oldeskul
      @oldeskul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Good on ya, my bro. Stay strong and keep clean! We may never meet, but know that I'm rooting for you to stay clean.

    • @DJMAERZ
      @DJMAERZ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      5 years here as well. We got this!

    • @devolve42
      @devolve42 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      "Undertow" makes me think of my brother getting sucked into the alt-right and Fox News and Q-Anon idiocy.

    • @anthonydawson8080
      @anthonydawson8080 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@devolve42sorry to hear that :|

    • @AlBrownComedy
      @AlBrownComedy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Almost 9 months totally sober here after 2 years of recovery. 💯 agreed and me too!

  • @douglasdrain
    @douglasdrain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Since you’ve heard the song, now you HAVE TO watch the live version. Maynard’s emotional performance is INSANE !!!😮

  • @kevinstull8552
    @kevinstull8552 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Claymation is an underrated art form that doesn't get used that much anymore, which is a shame. It can be weird and creepy at times, but yet also beautiful and fascinating all at once.

    • @freddiemossberg7204
      @freddiemossberg7204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Check out the trailer for the upcoming horror movie Stop Motion. Looks very creepy.

    • @PoopscoopMcgoop204
      @PoopscoopMcgoop204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It was done by the guitarist too!

  • @raymondmurdock8603
    @raymondmurdock8603 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    I feel like this song is about how the guilt you feel but also the judgment of others how you'll never be able to escape the shadow of blame and doubt from others or yourself even when you are sober and how that can make you want to give up on bothering to try

    • @TraditionalHippie
      @TraditionalHippie 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think you’ve found the right TooL, and there’s no need to dwell on it brother. It usually doesn’t change. I could lament how this caricature of me is untrue. I can go so far as to say it’s a valid form of gaslighting, if weaponized against you. Some people do hold grudges. You listen to Maynard so I assume, and you assume, that people know grudges are not worth it. But just as this woman said, we tell ourselves a different story. It’s good to be judged on behavior, but if used in a tyrannical way… is brutal. My advice, don’t listen to this song again until you can isolate on the 1st person perspective

  • @Roh_Echt
    @Roh_Echt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +109

    If interested in one of their songs inspired by a Carl Jung theory, try their song: 46 & 2. Many here are likely wishing you reacted to the 'Sober Live - 1993 Reading Festival' video. Another song where 'the addiction talks to the addicted' is Master of Puppets (lyrics version if possible) by Metallica...and it's a great song too.

    • @itenshidoom
      @itenshidoom 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      And another is Pet by APC. Another great song about addiction by MJK

    • @CodeNameV13
      @CodeNameV13 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@itenshidoomthe whole basis of 13th Step is addiction

    •  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'll never understand that. The album version is a much better rendition of this song, live "angst" notwithstanding. VERY rarely does a live vocal do justice to the "original", and this is no exception, though the live version is definitely good.

    • @AshsFool
      @AshsFool 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      46 & 2 is my favorite Tool song, and THANK YOU for mentioning Jung! Hell Yeah! 🤘

    • @MonkeyNLaLaLand
      @MonkeyNLaLaLand 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes I agree totally do that one next

  • @nikolah.8472
    @nikolah.8472 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    For a Therapist i would recommend for Tool "Parabol/Parabola"(allways together WITHOUT Pause). Best song for motivating you to reach out and enjoy life.

    • @tao2sic
      @tao2sic 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My favorite tool song

    • @edwardmunoz7853
      @edwardmunoz7853 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      " We are eternal
      all this pain is an illusion "
      My favorite 💯🔥

    • @jollyjohnthepirate3168
      @jollyjohnthepirate3168 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How about her reacting to The Pot?

  • @Just_a_ittle_T
    @Just_a_ittle_T 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Going on 29 years of Sobriety and this song has been part of my backdrop music all along the way. Nice job interpreting it in more detail. Thanks for taking a look at this song.

  • @bradical7772
    @bradical7772 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Tool songs are a treasure trove for a therapist.
    Don’t even know wear to begin recommending. Sooo many deep songs!
    Keep going you are sure to get hits.

    • @RealKlausSchwab
      @RealKlausSchwab 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      46 and 2. The whole song is about Jungian psychology.

  • @lawrencefine5020
    @lawrencefine5020 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    The Tool rabbit hole goes so deep and so far.
    This I like.

  • @xTRich78x
    @xTRich78x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I just recently relapsed in terrible fashion with alcohol after over a year of sobriety and this reaction video hit me hard with all the feels: tears, goose bumps, grim determination to overcome my inner demons and this cunning, baffling, and powerful addiction. I am definitely in need of support in this life-or-death struggle! ❤

    • @Psychonut
      @Psychonut 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hang in there brother I’ve fallen many times many of us have. The most important thing I’ve learned is what you do after you fall! Need to get the fuck up and fight for your life with everything you got. Identify and acknowledge toxic destructive behaviors move/get away from bad company, whatever it takes!! Jobs, relationships, whatever it is that might cause you to fall isn’t worth your own life!! Good luck my friend❤🙏

    • @MJAce85
      @MJAce85 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Don't take this wrong, but it's ok to fail at sobriety. It means you're trying, and trying actively. If you have 100 addicts, maybe MAYBE 5 succeeded the first time, and in those 5, 4 are probably full of shit. It's so rare. And you're never done fighting until you're dead. Every day is another day you can fail. Don't beat yourself up. Fight. EVERY. DAY.

    • @waltgaffert2554
      @waltgaffert2554 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey brother xTRich78x, I'm feeling that. It seems that in my struggle with addiction, I want to reach into my soul, rip out the sickness and violently kick my addiction to the curb, that is referred to as a "hot quit". I have done that so many times! I'm thinking I need to try another game plan. It is depression and being overwhelmed with issues beyond my control that lead me to temptations. So I need to get out of my head. I'm looking for a "cold quit" that will persevere. I hope the best for your self determination and your journey into a sober lifestyle. Addiction may be behind us, but it is always RIGHT behind us it seems.. be well brother!

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      From Micro: @xTRich78x Thank you for your openness and sharing about a struggle that too often brings a huge amount of shame on our shoulders. It's hard to talk about those things, especially in light of a relapse, so I hope you can acknowledge the step you took here and be proud of yourself for it. I'm personally so thankful that you've decided to share about your own experience and how things have been recently. You absolutely don't deserve to face these challenges just on your own. There's people out there rooting for you.
      Relapses are some of the most challenging experiences that one can feel. You're on top, you fele in control and suddenly it feels your entire just collapses. It makes you want to retreat, give in and hide in a corner. It makes you question all your efforts, everything you've learned, all the strength and resilience you've developed over time - was it worth it? why am I trying in the first place? what's the meaning of healing really?
      Somehow, relapses *are* part of recovery, but knowing this doesn't always make the pill easier to swallow. Once you're in the belly of the beast, it feels like you're just caught up in fucking trainwreck, sitting both at the driver and passenger seat simultaneously. You seel the fall happening while feeling it all. It hurts like hell. My heart goes out to you as you are fighting this tough battle.
      If anything, this relapse will become a part of your journey, but it's not going to condition it as a whole. You've been over ONE YEAR sober - how freaking awesome and strong is that? You've spent an entire year not giving in to the urges to drink your emotions away, while feeling a huge range of things and being confronted to varied situations. You have the tangible knowledge experience of the *strength* that exists within you, of your beautiful ability to overcome this struggle. Sometimes we face situations where our vulnerability feels stronger in the equation, and a relapse happens. But I hope you can forgive yourself and offer yourself all the grace you deserve in this time, without losing sight of *why* you are working on your sobriety. We are SO very proud of you, friend, and we wholeheartedly believe in you. You can get back on your feet. :heart:

  • @michaeldost8203
    @michaeldost8203 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    One of my all time favorite bands!!! Please do more Tool

  • @johnnyb6067
    @johnnyb6067 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Thank you. About one out of every 30 reactor actually picks up on the double negative in “why can’t we not be sober?!” I think there’s a lot in Tool for you. You should definitely check out some more songs. The Undertow is mostly about struggling with addiction/abuse. The Aenima album is post addiction dealing with the world and trying to figure that out. Lateralus album is like a spiritual awakening and coming to terms with everything and finding peace.

  • @jenniferbarberi8584
    @jenniferbarberi8584 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am a recovering addict, March 3rd was nine years 😊 I spent most of my thirties wasted on one thing or another. This song resonates

  • @FlatShoeLance
    @FlatShoeLance 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have dealt with alcohol addiction my whole life. The last time I ever took a sip of alcohol was October 13, 2019 at none other than a Tool concert (Aftershock). I knew it was time, and I wanted to say goodbye to alcohol while watching my favorite band. I have been to 7 more Tool concerts since and have loved each and everyone more without alcohol. Since quitting drinking, my wife (she quit drinking with me too) and I had a daughter and we both went back to school and finished our Bachelor's degrees. Life is amazing without alcohol. I love that you are doing this series and I am here for all of it.

  • @israelolguin1156
    @israelolguin1156 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The Package by A Perfect Circle... Great reaction. Loved it.

  • @toddvandell85
    @toddvandell85 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love the bass on this song. So brutally heavy. The lyrics just rip my soul to shreds. Every time. Tears flood down every time. Never make it within crying. Brilliant. Maynard is a genius. Tool are amazing.

  • @sirtrevor149
    @sirtrevor149 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    0:37 "It's so dark, I can't see what's happening!" Amazingly funny, and amazingly accurate to what it's like for people with addition and depression.

  • @urielsalazar7464
    @urielsalazar7464 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Tool - Aenima
    A Perfect Circle - The Noose
    A Perfect Circle - Pet

    • @kellyrae5829
      @kellyrae5829 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ohhh the noose. But no video. He uses videos for propaganda. Just the song alone

  • @synthe_
    @synthe_ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I never heard anyone talk about a song like this before. I've seen vocal coach videos, but this is so much more valuable to me.

  • @GrifonJ
    @GrifonJ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I've never seen or heard anyone break down a song like this, it's fascinating. I think I may watch more of her.

  • @theodorebear6714
    @theodorebear6714 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I understood immediately that this song was not about alcohol addiction.
    We all connect to something that we obsess over that defines us.
    *Our behaviors can be as damaging and addictive as any substance.*

  • @ECCTT2000
    @ECCTT2000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Fun fact: Tool’s guitarist Adam Jones directed and worked on the video’s claymation.

  • @roopepitkanen3324
    @roopepitkanen3324 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Gojira The Art Of Dying

  • @bennysmms
    @bennysmms 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You just floored me with this video! My wife and I both struggle with alcoholism for different reasons but have the same demon talking in our ears. 😭😭
    I want to save her and she wants to save me. I wish we could save each other.

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      From ThriceTheThird: @bennysmms I think its noble that you both want to help each other. It must be quite hard when you both are fighting the same vice. Alcoholism is a very hard thing to deal with, and overcome. Have you guys tried any addiction therapy, or counseling of any kind? I think that to do it a lone. Even if its two people alone. Is something that can be very difficult to achieve without proper support and guidance. Addiction is a very hard Demon to overcome, but it is achievable. Feel free to share more with us if you ever want/need. <3

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      From Shan: @bennysmms Hello friend,
      Thank you for sharing. I commend both you and your wife for wanting to take the steps to overcome your struggles with alcoholism. Addiction of any kind is a very difficult hurdle to overcome. It definitely requires lots of support. It is amazing that you are both supportive of each other and are on the same page in regards to seeking recovery.
      Maybe including a professional 3rd party could be of some benefit to you both. Someone that can provide professional assistance and guidance and does not hear from the same demons. Even with the incorporation of a 3rd party, you and your wife can still help to save each other through your continued support and by holding each other accountable to your journey on recovery.
      I wish you both the best, and I'm rooting for you! :white_heart:

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      From jpaga: @bennysmms
      Hi friend,
      I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through - addiction can be such a tough battle, and I wish you all the best as you navigate the situation. I think simply the awareness you have regarding your struggles is already a great first step, especially when some people deny that they have a problem to start with. The fact that you do want to ameliorate everything is a good sign, and it’s just a question of getting the right help to move things forward:) I understand that you and your wife want to help each other, and I am glad that you both have a loved one to support each other, but I believe that getting an outside perspective and working your way to the root of the problem is what may help with making progress. Just maybe something to think about, if it hasn’t been considered already! I truly hope everything works out for you and your wife, and if ever you want to share more we are always here<3

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      From Micro: @bennysmms It's hard when your partner and you are facing the same struggle(s) at the same time. You want to support each other yet at the same time you are confronted to the fact that the relationship alone may not be an asset strong enough to keep you both head above waters. In a similar manner, my partner and I experienced depression and burn out at the same time, from similar traumas, and it's been so difficult to feel *on top of it* that our relationship couldn't breathe because of the way we were feeling. It's hard to feel like you have to delineate what is about your needs, your partner's, and the ones of your relationship.
      To us personally, it has made a tremendous change to seek support outside of our own relationship and circle. Somehow, it has helped us - and me especially - to compartmentalize more the spaces and relationships I had in my life. My partner would know about my struggles, but he wouldn't be my therapist or savior anymore, wouldn't feel any pressure to hold this role - and vice versa. In the end, it has allowed *love* to be fully present, away from the urge we were feeling of saving each other. Somehow, the work that needs to be done is first and foremost lived individually, then it radiates on the relationship where we can hold each other accountable and be *allies*.
      I hope with all my heart that your wife and you will manage to find and receive support - could it be from addiction/recovery groups, therapy or even the added support of friends and family. What you are going through is heavy, but you have been doing very strong already by acknowledging the problem and naming it. There is a life beyond the alcohol, and both you and your wife can reach it. I wholeheartedly believe in you and send you as much strength as possible from afar. You can do this. You can overcome this. :heart:

  • @hepunk
    @hepunk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "Trust in me and fall as well
    I will find a center in you
    I will chew it up and leave
    I will work to elevate you
    Just enough to bring you down"
    SHEEEEEESSHHH

  • @shauntemplet
    @shauntemplet 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    After 15 years sober, and 30 years as a tool fan, this video had a tear roll down my cheek. This interpretation is exactly What I needed today. Thank you.

  • @iesickboy
    @iesickboy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    As a long time alcoholic, seeing a therapist that happens to be incredibly beautiful uncover one of my favorite bands is right up my alley. Thank you.

  • @Dexiray
    @Dexiray 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I NEED more Tool reactions from a your perspective, a therapist perspective! They have THE lyrics for your type of break down.

  • @Psychonut
    @Psychonut 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I just rewatched and it reminded me how much this song resonated with me a couple decades ago when I thought I had destroyed my life and will to live. “I just want to start this over” (life)
    “Why can’t we sleep forever” (end this misery)
    ugh what a time! And I’ve doubled my years since… used to say if I can do it anyone can

  • @commieprohibition5429
    @commieprohibition5429 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Depression is no fun, it takes everything away from you until it makes you a nothing.

  • @Phantomyona93
    @Phantomyona93 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Passive by A Perfect Circle; also look into the back story of the actual song

    • @smokingmangop
      @smokingmangop 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I had the live version of this song right before Dime Bag was murdered and it was nasty and heavy...wish the Tape Worm Project would have made it out!

  • @MetalManiac0285
    @MetalManiac0285 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    This band has helped me so much in my mental health journey. The band is insanely talented and Maynard James Keenan is a poet and his lyrics about the human experience connect with me so much! The Grudge is my suggestion

    • @RealKlausSchwab
      @RealKlausSchwab 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      46 and 2 is perfect for her, the whole song is about Jungian psychological theory.

  • @cu4209
    @cu4209 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Been 25 months SOBER. Thanks for your insight and feedback. ❤❤❤

  • @dpaquette69
    @dpaquette69 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I would love to see this therapist's review of Tool's "Pushit".

  • @mondellharris5369
    @mondellharris5369 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    More T00L..
    Ur awesome

  • @lisaredeemed5679
    @lisaredeemed5679 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I remember when I was in the throes of my addiction, I would listen to this and revel in its hopelessness and it further cemented my addiction for another 20 years.
    This song is dangerous because it influences you to be whimsical to abuse yourself and to turn away from not just sobriety and a better life, but also turn your back on God and all good and healthy things.

  • @1Samuel1524
    @1Samuel1524 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    One of the best songs ever made.

  • @blessjesus-o2b
    @blessjesus-o2b 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Would - Alice in chains

  • @Mandonburphy
    @Mandonburphy 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Not something i was expecting to see today but i am very excited to hear any input you may have from a Tool experience 🤟🤟🤟🌀🌀🌀spiral out, keep going

  • @joshcarpenter2008
    @joshcarpenter2008 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For many in my generation this was the first Tool song we ever heard. Been a fan ever since. Top notch musicians whose songs have so much depth. Keep listening as many before me have said the best Tool song is the next one...

  • @seaypolhemus4989
    @seaypolhemus4989 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love how apt her interpretation is! She has obviously seen these symptoms time and time again.

  • @technomocarter
    @technomocarter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am totally and utterly loving your Tool videos

  • @brendonjune
    @brendonjune 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    So glad to see you cover this song and topic. I am a sober alcoholic addict with a few years of sobriety. If you need help it’s out there it’s free and it’s worth it and so are you.

  • @peterthompson8014
    @peterthompson8014 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been sober since 2008, and this song helped me in immeasurable ways.

  • @xstatixtribalelectronicmus2787
    @xstatixtribalelectronicmus2787 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Especially in your case, I would do Lyric videos or just listen to the audio. TooL have many songs about self evolution, healing, mind expansion, and harmony in the universe. This is right up your alley. And I am so here for it!

  • @jeremeywilson2318
    @jeremeywilson2318 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    TOOL ~ Stinkfist!!!
    A Perfect Circle ~ By and Down

  • @JoshOrr-yw4nu
    @JoshOrr-yw4nu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is my favorite Tool song of all time..

  • @cynical_rd
    @cynical_rd 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is by far my favorite artist. The band name "tool" they've claimed is through the music, u'll have the tools in your mind, to cry properly, then heal from it.. this man was raised very well with solid to the ground moral ethics. If you ever think you're hearing simple profanity or cruelty, then you've missed a word or two.. though the sense to avenge seems to be on his plate.

  • @alexl8065
    @alexl8065 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Loved your reaction and you were spot on with interpreting the lyrics! Hope you keep doing more tool! This band is like no other.

  • @W00dy590
    @W00dy590 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Your Tool journey continues, i recommend you try schism for a really deep video.

  • @theebulll
    @theebulll 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Stinkfist next pleeease. I even said please.

  • @franklincord2812
    @franklincord2812 วันที่ผ่านมา

    FWIW, speaking as someone who has been going to meetings and who hasn't touched alcohol in over 18, almost 19 years, I agree 100% with her interpretation. This young lady really knows her stuff. There's a reason that people who get sobriety gravitate to songs like this one and "Hate Me" by Blue October. When you hear someone else telling the exact same story you lived through it reinforces your sobriety by making you feel less alone in the world.

  • @HerrLindstrom
    @HerrLindstrom หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ima just put this out there. I have video game addiction, p*rn addiction, and marijuana dependency. Life is... survivable but getting tired of just surviving all the time. Its songs like this that make the struggle worth it.

  • @JimmyRJump
    @JimmyRJump 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    You're way off with the worthless analysis. It's not the addiction trying to lure you in, it's the inability to stop that makes you feel worthless, not able to change the behaviour and that behaviour will drag down everyone the addict comes into contact with.

    • @jonscottacord
      @jonscottacord 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I bet you're a.big hit with all the ladies.

    • @vincentnavarre7431
      @vincentnavarre7431 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Nailed it.

    • @henrytoler7327
      @henrytoler7327 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Lol. It takes an addict to really know one. You're spot on.
      Btw, not saying you are an addict. Just that she doesn't quite get it, despite being a therapist

    • @dubyajayyo
      @dubyajayyo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Addiction is not an entity separate from you that is making you do things. Addiction is a choice.

    • @JimmyRJump
      @JimmyRJump 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@henrytoler7327 Well, I'm an alcoholic who sometimes drinks and sometimes doesn't. I've learned to live with it and am not afraid of falling off the wagon cuz I know I can climb back on.

  • @leviharrison1545
    @leviharrison1545 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm a year and a half sober now, and even before I made the decision to be this song really spoke to me. It speaks to me not only on the addiction front but it also feels like the voice of depression reaching out from the shadows and trying to take me away. I am just a worthless liar, I am just an imbecile, I will over-complicate you, trust in me and fall as well. That always felt like how my behavior, my actions were treating my friends and family. I will find the center in you, I will chew it up and leave. That always made me think of the people who do try and help and my venomous actions hurt them in response. This song has definitely picked me up from a few bad spots but it also symbolizes some bad things I have done. It is nuanced and it is powerful.

    • @leakyboomboomman3098
      @leakyboomboomman3098 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Congratulations on being sober for a year and a half! I have a family member who has struggled with it and I understand how difficult it is.

  • @vineshnaidoo9402
    @vineshnaidoo9402 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tune about addiction.............Keenan is a living legend

  • @LanceThompsonKssooner
    @LanceThompsonKssooner 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Here for TOOL! Greatest band ever! And probably one of the deepest groups you will hear.

  • @heatherkrause6787
    @heatherkrause6787 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this!!! Just watching now. Sober is my favorite song. I feel the most when I listen to this song. I've been sober for 31 years and the struggle, though easier now, is still very much there. When my Dad passed, I think this was truly the first time I really thought I was going to give in. I listened to this song and the verse, I want what I want, actually enticed anger inside - I want a drink... I want what I want. Thank God I had kids that were close to their Grandpa because they helped me. This was 4 years ago, I'm glad that I chose sobriety. The shadow didn't win that day.

  • @GreySavo
    @GreySavo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The self-centered part of me wants to qualify. I was in a coma for 4 weeks due to a suicide attempt back in May 3rd of 2021. I've been sober since June 19th of 2022 and with the program of alcoholics anonymous and a lot of help from music. Like mostly music and now I'm lead singer in a band I started. Life has never been so beautiful! Whatever you're going through, it's a choice to go through it alone and I suggest you reach out to someone because you might be helping them in the process.

  • @iuseaspork
    @iuseaspork 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sometimes there's a song that effortlessly reaches in, grabs your soul where it's vulnerable, slaps it around a bit and shoves it back in to give you perspective on yourself. The music alone could do this to me There are more things to be addicted to than chemicals. Self loathing is a warm, comfortable, familiar, heavy, smothering, inescapable shadow that I've never been able to shake. Thank goodness for professionals like you that help us keep our shadows in check.

  • @derekthue8026
    @derekthue8026 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She does so good at relating to the lyrics- and explaining them

  • @cortedemico
    @cortedemico 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    by the end i am literally crying...
    this hit hard

  • @dk2614
    @dk2614 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I used to have Tool programmed to wake me up when I was in the Marines 30 years ago! Here I am again!

  • @ezzreacts9791
    @ezzreacts9791 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She needs to watch the live version of this James performs while singing, is totally amazing, im not a HUGE Tool fan, but any Tool fan will say you this

  • @crayb420
    @crayb420 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow I love your analysis, we need to hear more tool plz 🙏 like H., 46and2.... deep reaction thank you

  • @paulhenry9051
    @paulhenry9051 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Did not read all the comments but you need to watch the live version of sober to really get the full interpretation of this song. His performance is just so spot on for the subject matter.

  • @Veuxdeux666
    @Veuxdeux666 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Gosh. I feel so much better now that a theropist explained Sober to me....This is her interpretation of the song.. Be yourself and interpret it how ever you like...Sober could mean so many things..It doesn't just revolve around drugs...Don't follow. Take the lead..🤘

  • @MichaelDavis-si9bv
    @MichaelDavis-si9bv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If u were my therapist and u told me u listened to Tool, I would for sure fall in love with u and our sessions would have to end. 😢

  • @billj8817
    @billj8817 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I see it differently. "I want what I want" is me wishing that I could use without the damage it causes me and my family. It is the selfish part of me that says I should be able to "sleep" (be high) forever without my habit chewing me up inside and destroying my world. I wish could start it over and do this without it controlling me. I want it.. I love it.. I hate that it controls me

  • @Deguello23
    @Deguello23 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Waiting like a stalking butler" is one of my favorite short lines in a song, ever. It's just really evocative.

  • @krazzybastard
    @krazzybastard 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You need to do the live version 1993 festival. Really shows the power of the lyrics.

  • @horbags1181
    @horbags1181 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've always interpreted the end of this song from the other perspective.
    It's the addiction finally consuming the adict, telling him "Trust me" I know what's best for you, and the user giving in to his addictions, admiting to himself that he'll never escape his vice; "I want what I want" is him conceding this.

  • @oldeskul
    @oldeskul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've always interpreted this song as being from the perspective of someone struggling with substance abuse and the self-destructive cycles that happens with addiction.
    The first time the verse, "I am just a worthless liar/I am an imbecile/I will only complicate you/Trust in me and fall as well/I will find a center in you/I will chew up and leave/I will work to elevate you/Just enough to bring you down", is the addict knowing that they're not only hurting themselves, but also everyone they love and care about, and they're trying to push them away, because part of the self-destructive cycles of addiction is isolating yourself. The addict knows the harm they're doing and they don't want to see the harm they're doing to others.
    The second time that verse comes around, but Maynard repeats "Trust me" over and over I interpret as the drink or the drug talking to the addict saying, "Trust me. I'll take away all your pain."
    I've lost many friends to addiction, and when I remember what they went through that caused them to burn up their lives, it hurts every time.
    Another good song about the harm that addiction can cause is Hurt. If you react to it, react to the Nine Inch Nails version first then react to the Johnny Cash cover. But I warn you, Johnny Cash's cover will make you cry.

  • @Garden-bu2if
    @Garden-bu2if 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    We love anyone who gives Tool a shot!

  • @kellyrae5829
    @kellyrae5829 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Her at 4:32 with the trust me.!! Awesome . Given she never heard the song before. Much respect

  • @Tunda2
    @Tunda2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m sober 3 years and yep. This has been one of my favorite songs since I was like 10 and had no idea what it meant. It’s extra special now

  • @SteveReddington
    @SteveReddington 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One of the greatest videos of all time!!!

  • @michaelfoti8123
    @michaelfoti8123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Tools has the deepest lyrics. I have been using tool to overcome the most difficult, mentally challenging times and it only gets better. Please continue with the Tool analysis. I recommend Schism next.

  • @backwardstacocat1360
    @backwardstacocat1360 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tool is my all time favorite band! Spiral Out!

  • @samhillis4320
    @samhillis4320 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I first heard this song when it was on MTV, back in 93 I believe. I haven't seen this video in a while, but hearing it again starts my eyes starting to well up. Such great imagery along with lyrics that really hit home. I've never heard a song about addiction that really nails the desperation and frustration of addiction. I like how a large part of this song is about how a person can be completely aware they have a problem, yet the addiction almost speaks to them and tries to/does lure them back into their addiction.

  • @edh3709
    @edh3709 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You must watch the famous live version of this song. The emotions Maynard displays are insane. Great job though. As someone in the depths of my own addiction, this song hits me hard. It doesn't matter what addiction you have. The feelings are the same. I need the pain to be over. 😢

  • @chinito398
    @chinito398 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This song by tool is amazing not only because it draws such a perfect picture of someone under that addiction but paralleling that addiction to someone who is battling their own blind belief, specifically here Christianity.

  • @BallisticStigmata
    @BallisticStigmata 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Heard this when it first dropped. And despite all of the amazing music I've heard over the years, this is still my favorite song of all time. Especially relatable the older you get. Not to mention just how good this song is for Karaoke at a holl-in-the-wall bar!

  • @anthonysage4323
    @anthonysage4323 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Always, for the last twenty years. You never get over it. It changes you forever

  • @shaunfogarty3020
    @shaunfogarty3020 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maynard has been the impetus of so much healing in the world. He has given a voice to the alone and voiceless, torn masses.

  • @drunkenmettalist5158
    @drunkenmettalist5158 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you need too see them live.. maynards on his knees singing this!! makes you cry

  • @ShaynePatton
    @ShaynePatton 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    And that voice (Why can we not)..... is so so so loud comparatively..... Overwhelmingly clear when the other words are so soft & seem to run together......

  • @01bonny790
    @01bonny790 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    16+ yrs sober and this is arguably my favorite Tool Song. Many of their songs are pretty open for interpretation but this one is pretty straight forward. It encapsulates the internal dialogue/struggle of addiction very succinctly, as does your take on it. Thank you

  • @joshuah5121
    @joshuah5121 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    3 years sober. This song was one of many things that helped me deal with the struggles of cravings and society's norms.

  • @tminus1019
    @tminus1019 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There was that time when drinking was fun and normal like everyone else drinks. Then at some point, you can't remember when, it stopped being fun. But you're constantly remembering and trying to get back to that point in time when it was fun. Once you've crossed that line, there's no going back.