I think that Carrie didn't think Aidan was the one because he wasn't good enough for her, in her head. Yes, he was wealthy compared to her, but he wasn't cocky enough like Mr Big. Aidan was a countryside dude at heart, he doesn't care about fashion or luxury or fancy restaurants etc. And of course she couldn't become the simple, marrying type girl Aidan was looking for. And that's why, in my opinion, kept MrBig near her as a "friend". He had all the features she craved in a man and she was waiting for him to change his mind about her.
💯 and she chose to just keep Aidan at waist side because she didn’t want to be alone. All the while knowing he wouldn’t fully fulfill her despite him being a good man.
@@TheSkankxrhapsodyyup. Aidan was fun to sleep with and hang out with, she kept Big in her life because he was the one she really wanted. And given Carrie didn’t want kids or anything like that, she was fine to wait around until Big decided he wanted her. Thats why she didn’t want to marry Aidan.
Carrie once said "I'm used to the hunt, but this.. this is effortless" about her relationship with Aidan. Carrie just digs and lives for the drama, and Big gave her that.
It’s 2002. Social Media was not around yet. So the only way to stalk your ex and know about his new girlfriend was to “befriend” him. What a terrible time to live 😂
Need to point out one interesting observation, Big drives a Jag to Aden's country house! He usually gets chauffeured in a Lincon town car, which stands for typical American luxury. As a fashion-interested car guy, I would like to explain that despite the luxury, elegance, and performance, Jaguar sedans were often related to robbery and crime, having a perfect image of vicious getaway cars. It makes Big more villain-ish than ever.
as someone who has absolutely no idea about cars I LOVE THIS!!! and speaking about cars I have a question: how Aidan manages to find parking space for his pickup truck in New York City?
@@KasiaSopniewska That’s very hard to figure out 🤣. He probably saved on clothes and splurged on parking spots. Or he probably only used the truck for furniture delivery. 😌 Pick-up truck’s practicality, roughness, and masculinity really match to Aden well.
@@somebody7070 Hhhhhhhh, thanks and how you doing! I think what car a man drives says a lot about him. So that’s why I always couldn’t help wondering about the car choice of male character.
@@Happimiataboi oh absolutely agreed. A man's car says a lot about him . But I always associated Jaguars with wealthy posh men , rather than the rebellious mobsters 😄
i think maybe saying that aidan is the worst is a bit of an exaggeration. Carrie did absolutely nothing to win his trust back after SHE convinced him to get back together. Being cheated on can make you paranoid and take a toll on your mental health and confidence(and lets add the fact that carrie is a gaslighter that will make you think that nothing she did is wrong and its a u problem). Im also pretty sure that her making him accept a "friendship" with the person she cheated with at least made him unintentionally compare himself to him which definetly didnt help built his confidence up. Thirdly i truly believed that he was in love with her and desperately wanted to believe she could change (when we are in love many times we are not seeing things realistically). This led to him putting up with behaviours which in other conditions probably would have not been accepted. What he did was surely not the right but when we are talking about betrayed partners its a more complicated issue than it appears and has a lot of layers that need to be examined.
Well, maybe not the worst, but surely isn't good. And not only for Carrie, but in general. Now, I'm not saying she was right, like you said, she messed him up really good. But just think of how clueless he was as to the woman he was dating! Right from the start he has these conditions, like he knew she was smoking, he is dating her anyway and then tells her how much he hates it and wants her to stop. Really? Why date her at all then? Just so he could gaslight her? Many stuff like this throughout his run in the show and the icing on the cake is the forest cabin. Now, don't get me wrong, this is my personal idea of a paradise, but for Carrie it is a torture. If you are dating someone and you care for them enough, you should know stuff like this. He didn't care enough. He just expected her to enjoy stuff he does, even if it makes her miserable. Like if my husband hates the movie theatre, I wouldn't buy tickets to a Lord Of The Rings marathone for our aniversary. But Aiden doesn't bother himself with stuff like this. He just expects everyone to automaticly go with his vibes. He takes it for granted
@@irinakl441 the relationship only lasted for about a year and a half. At that point you still continue to learn your significant other. Many relationships end then because people realise things that bothered them since the begging just don’t change! The thing about smoking, even though I don’t remember everything since it has been some time since I watched the season, happened at the start of the relationship and yes surely was a miss on his part! The cabinet one maybe it’s not the ideal vacation but in relationships we sometimes do things that even though are not of our liking they are very important for our partner ( ESPECIALLY when she is trying to make her significant other trust her again since she cheated not even half a year into the relationship) and she brought her ex there..At the end of the day it was very obvious throughout the series that they weren’t a good much even though Aidan at least in theory was a much better guy than big.
@@irinakl441 I also forgot to mention that it bothered me that the producers kept bringing him back again and again and now ever for just like that 💀 At this point bringing back jack burger would make A LOT more sense
@@dora0270 they were very very bad together. Yes. Sometimes the click is just not there. But there are some red flags there from the beggining, that makes me think he is a bit of a duche. Again, Carrie really messed up that one, no argue here. But the gaslighting is just so obvious. And yes, he is better then Big, everyone are really, even the ADHD guy, lol. But if both are d**ks, it doesn't matter who makes you feel less bad, if no one makes you feel good.
@@irinakl441 at the end of the day Carrie was also a douche so I really don’t know who to defend here I just think we are being extremely harsh to a person who wanted to believe that the woman he loved could change for the better!
I'm so glad I've watched SATC in my early 20s. Made me understand I should stop searching for both Mr. Bigs and Aidens. It took me another 10 years to understand I should look for a Gomez Addams )))
@@KasiaSopniewska Yes your right. Aidan is at best naive, and at worst malicious over thinking renewing the relationship with Carrie would ever end well.
@@KasiaSopniewskawell, to be fair, when Carrie begged him to get back together with him, she never mentioned she’s gonna insist on her entitlement to still be “friends” with the guy she cheated on him with. That’s kind of a bait-and-switch.
@@KasiaSopniewska I think he likes that she can be quite cute and witty and fun to be with. Plus, maybe, he thinks she will grow out of her obsession with Mr. Big. What he does not really understand is that Carrie somehow likes the drama. He seems to me like a person who is not into drama at all and tries to make others happy and to enjoy himself. And I guess he has a bit a minority complex. I bet he did not grow up rich but got all the money by hard work himself, so he is a self-made guy and he sometimes feels he does not really belong in that rich society, whilst I totally think that Mr. Big already grew up rich.
Yeah I also don’t think Charlotte isn’t in the same situation for that reason.. I think she came from money already. You can tell by her style, and by how she carries herself
How is that changing the point, though? It still means she is in a more comfortable situation not due to her own decisions (she quit er job after all) but because of luck.
Yes but Charlotte never had to worry about money because of that financial family background plus bc of her marriage to someone from the same background. She is not better off financially because she worked harder or made more responsible financial decisions than Carrie. She quit her job without a plan B and can’t find a new one, she is also quite a luxurious spender - yet her decisions do not have the same impact because of her wealthy background. So in that regard she is privileged compared to Carrie who appears to have no financial backup from family.
14:49 i wholeheartedly disagree. Carrie was being a brat. Charlotte would have been fine if she didnt get the apartment in the divorce i know she would have ended up openinh her own gallery and thriving. But she also had her bills organized, didnt over spend like some people, and saved. And im saying this as the carrie. Im horrid with money. But i got to buy a house not guilt my friend still dealing with her divorce clearly. Instead of checking on Charlotte and being like gurl why do you feel the need to do that? You ok?
She wants him as her friend because she is still in love/lust with him and wants to keep him in her life. She can't let go of him. It's that simple I think.
When first rewatching the series, I was shocked by how much I liked Aiden in S3. Then S4 comes round, and he falls off so hard for me, it's unreal I like your juxtaposition of how Carrie and Charlotte's relationship choices specifically caused their respective living situations; I don't think I've thought about it from this angle before. Which only makes me also wonder if the writers themselves had done so, lol. Looking forward to part two!
Carrie being friends with Big doesn't make any sense. Their relationship never had much substance, when I re-watched the show as an adult I was never able to see an actual relationship/partnership. Big never wanted a serious commitment with Carrie, it was pretty much sex with extra steps, but Carrie's narrative made it seem like a relationship. Her being friends with Big doesn't make any sense - they don't have common interests, so what would that relation be based on?
I know! it's mad to me that Carrie and Big have literally nothing in common. He loves jazz. She doesn’t listen to music at all. She collects shoes. He doesn’t care for fashion. What do they even talk about?
@@magda010195 beyond that, she knew that Big and his first wife divorced as a result of an extramarital affair he had! Is that not a red flag to you ma’am? Mayyybe if it’s a one off but this was part of a pattern: he had issues with commitment. Why are we supposed to think that he became a faithful partner to Carrie after going down to city hall?
I think you can't judge like that, sometimes friendship and closeness are not so obvious for an outside person but still exist. sometimes people are just in tune with each other, which I think was the case here. and they had at least something in common - restaurants, smoking)) also it seemed that they had a similar sense of humour
Little thing, Charlotte left her job because she married rich, if she was with someone with less money she surely would had continuing working at the gallery, besides, we cannot compare relying on your husband you united with a contract with a boyfriend you have an rocky on and off relationship, Charlotte may had a privilege, but only because she had her papers in order
How can she be in a “friendship” with a man she dated whilst been in a relationship with another guy. Not only that, she insists on staying friends with someone that she cheated with in her current relationship. How did aiden stay?
Honestly I think back when this aired we just wanted Big and Carrie to work out. I remember watching this, I wanted her with Aiden but I knew it would never ever work.
I can't believe the bartender is Jenny and Dan's mum! Thank you so much, I live for Sex and the City and Gossip Girl crossovers (ps it's even funnier when you do a Sex and the City and Law and Order crossover - Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda have dated all the criminals in New York).
Aiden was sick of her shit with Big and I don't judge him for that, she messed him around and she wouldn't even wear the ring on her finger I mean wtf .... I loved Aiden but they really weren't good together.
12:06 It was explained though, the apartment situation! Remember how Carrie had Miranda look over the legal aspects of the contract where Aiden was offering Carrie to buy the apartment?! We already knew they had started to join the two apartments, by smashing down the wall. There are a few options here, during a sale- put the wall up and sell it as one apartment or keep it open and sell it as a bigger apartment. We know the space was closed up again, because of filming later on in the apartment. Carrie probably also wouldn’t have been able to buy it back if Aiden had offered both apartments (so he probably closed it up and sold the added space that he had paid for already, and offered Carrie’s original space back to her as could be seen in a 20 seconds exchange between Miranda and Carrie). The show wasn’t about real estate in that sense, so this is something viewers have to understand themselves from that short exchange between Miranda and Carrie when she put on her lawyer hat to help put her friend for free, since Carrie didn’t understand if the offered deal was fair or if she lol was about to get scammed by Aiden. Carrie was dumb to allow Aiden in financially like that, by doing so she risked her entire home. She could have found another way to finance it when her apartment complex transformed and switched from a rental. People often talk down on feminism or try to make it about bodies, but feminism is about equality and women making an equal amount of money as men. This is one among many thing that puts women in a financially weaker position, and why men are able to buy out a woman when the relationship comes to an end. While the woman is all of the sudden facing a position where she is about to get homeless or needs to move to a much smalller rental. This is why the stay at home wife/mom arrangement doesn’t serve women at all. The argument that daycare is too expensive doesn’t cut it, then have things reformed instead of making women be in the same position as children with little to no income, so they are dependent on their men to get by. It’s also dangerous if the relationship turns into domestic abuse, where is she suppose to go with no budget or income. It’s a trap! The argument of ”each family has the right to decide”, then how come it’s a structural thing because there is no equality in the ration terms of stay at home dads/husbands and stay at home wife/mom. Charlotte was no better! She quit work when she married Trey, and it got her in trouble too! Him eventually signing over the apartment to her even though it was worth several milliions, that rarely happens and it’s still expensive for the woman. Ladies look out for yourselves and please teach your daughters to be financially independent and also teach your sons to not demand a woman to give up her autonomy for his sake, so he can make a career etc.
Carrie would not have been able to find another way to finance the apartment without Aidan. I mean it’s not like she could have accepted money from Big if she was in relationship with Aidan and Charlotte would not have offered her ring if Carrie was still with Aidan and not so desperate. Carrie of course could have moved elsewhere and rented cheaply (although with lack of funds in her bank account she probably would also have needed to sell some of her designer clothes). But Carrie would not have done that unless she had no other options
The writers did a good job, and Charlotte actually loved Trey even though she of course was worried about the sex thing. They worked on it, it got better, but then the baby thing happende. Charlotte could not know this in advance. For Carrie to demand Charlotte's ring is insance. She could simply have sold some of her very expensive shoes.
Thanks for the explanation of "following your heart"; it makes sense that Carrie feels resentment at following what felt right in her heart and is evicted as a result. Whereas Charlotte married rich and went along with a wedding despite her alarm bells ringing and gets "rewarded" with an apartment. But there is a difference: Charlotte was always rich (and an elitist) and would always have married rich. She never hid who she was and lived accordingly to her "old money" upbringing. It is irrational to resent her for that. Charlotte wouldn't have married a Steve, we even get an episode on this in S2. Carrie, OTOH, lived outside her means and lifestyle and she wouldn't have been in that desperate financial situation if she hadn't spent 40 K in shoes. Even her higher-earning pals don't even spend that money on fashion. Perhaps Samantha did, but she is a rich business owner who, as you pointed out, handled celebrities as her client accounts. Also, Charlotte quit her job to become a SAHM, convinced by her husband - who ditched parenthood and marriage at the last moment. It is not unusual that he would give her something in a divorce settlement to compensate for the income she lost, and for the time spent on a marriage and a family that would not exist anymore. Aidan dumped Carrie due to distrust but he OFFERED her to keep the ring and she refused it. So, yeah, good principle from the writers but it was executed poorly.
“She could reach me, but I could never get her” “..that’s fucked up” I love that scene with Big and Aiden haha That scene with Carrie on her 35th birthday waiting a long time for her friends who are super late and the waiter keeps coming up to her is how I felt a couple of months ago on my birthday. Waiting at the restaurant for my 3 friends late as hell.
I always felt bad for Aidan, he was fine.. he mended the broken pieces that Carrie left behind and Carrie did not seem to think about him at all UNTIL she found out Aidan was not the one to send the invitation, once Carrie felt that Aidan did not wanted her that’s when she wanted him.. Carrie only wants the guys she cannot get, the ones she has to fight for (remember Berger?). Aidan forgave Carrie but Carrie never truly did anything to prove that she would not betray him again, but she was constantly acting annoyed every time he was not helplessly devoted to her (which I do not blame him, he was so nice and available to her when they first dated and she walked all over him, he probably is acting out as a way to protect his heart the second time). Aidan was not perfect, but Carrie certainly did not deserve him.. Aidan was certainly well off enough to buy two apartments, the cabin. have his furniture store and also invest on Steve’s bar.. he has money but lived comfortably but not flashy, Carrie spent her money recklessly on clothes and shoes and was BY far the less wealthy of the group.
You hit the nail on the head 👏🏾👏🏾. Carrie had nothing but audacity when it came to aiden. I was upset when he took her back. He wasn’t perfect but he was for dang sure too good for her
@@LasBlackUnicrnand don’t get me started on people saying he is a jerk for acting that way. It’s true, if he didn’t want her he should have leave, however I think is unreasonable for people to think a human being is just gonna stay taking hits over and over again without a reaction. He is reacting to her continuing abuse, that’s it, that’s the answer.
Charlotte is not responsible for parenting or being an adult so that Carrie doesn't have to sacrifice or budget. Carrie has to take care of herself and suffer the consequences of her own choices. Spending $40k on shoes means she doesn't have a down payment. She made that choice. Why should other people pay for her choices? She's an entitled spoiled child parentifying her friends. That's too much of a burden to place on any friendship. Grow up.
I was watching a few episodes yesterday and when Miranda said that Steve wanted her and Debbie to meet and be friends, Carrie said that your current partner and your ex being friends was unnatural. YET, she wanted Aiden and Big to be friends after what they did to him. The audacity!!!
"It looks like a TV adaptation of a fan fiction a 14-year-old wrote" haha so spot on. The quality of writing was steadily decreasing after S2 and now I understand why me and my friends loved this show as teenagers and now we love to criticize it. The characters and especially Carrie were acting like what teens think adulthood is like, not actual adults.
I don’t mind you talking about this show, your perspective makes me see some stuff from another angle it’s so enlightening and I won’t mind you just talking for an hour 😂 if you want. I can’t wait for part two, love this channel
Maybe I'm wrong but I always assumed that the two apartments were merged and that's what Carrie bought. But even if they weren't, maybe he put the other apartment on the market right away. Aidan clearly moved away.
No they never combined apts bc otherwise we'd see Carrie's post break up and movies apt be bigger but it stays the same size. I think he patched up wall and put it back on the market immediately to recoup his investment. He probably crashed with Steve and/or at the furniture store till he eventually got a new place then finally married and had his sons.
4:50 anyone who thinks aiden is poor needs slapped. HE OWNS HIS OWN FURNITURE MAKING BUSINESS. yall think thats easy to be successful with in your mid thirties???
I admit I missed this point in numerous rewatches but from personal experience can say that women who married younger or at all are definitely at a financial advantage later in life despite society telling you to wait for the “right one” and take time in making that big decision.
Cigarettes with chocolate cake is the exception to the rule. It's pure and utter decadence. Also- of course Carrie didn't want a trendy laptop. Carrie followed fashion, not trends. It was more then a metaphor for her own unwillingness to let go of the past and embrace what most girls would want (Aidan/trendy laptop), it was evidence that Aidan would never really "get her", if he thought she wanted what 13 year old girls were told by the tv to want...
This reevaluation of this show is priceless! ❤ It gives us context and meaning and is much needed to talk about this groundbreaking show's topics even after 20 something years. If somebody watches the show nowadays for the first time, I hope they come across your videos, Kasia! 😊😊
The eviction notice was a dick move from Aiden. Carrie had lived in that apartment for years, he buys it so that she can be more secure. That's what he wants Carrie to believe. In actual fact he buys the apartment as leverage to punish Carrie if she ever does anything to hurt him. He hands her an eviction notice as a petty means of hurting her back; this is after Aiden rushes Carrie into a marriage so that he can feel some sense of security. In the second season of AJLT they make it out like it's all Carrie's fault for breaking the engagement, when in fact Aiden shouldn't have forced Carrie to marry him the first place. That is why I have issues with Aiden's return to AJLT, Carrie was at the mercy of Aiden. How is she the one fully at fault when Aiden LITERALLY ALMOST MADE HER HOMELESS??
That’s not the reason Aiden bought the apartment. He didn’t buy the apartment to punish Carrie “if” she ever hurt him. Carrie had already hurt Aiden by cheating on him with Big. Not to mention her bringing big around every chance she got. Aiden bought the apartment because they were engaged and thought they would get married. Plus Carrie told him the apartment was going co-op so the options were to buy shares in the corporation of apartments or buy it out right. Carrie didn’t have the money to buy her apartment but Aiden did. Either way Carrie would have had to fork out money for that apartment, and we all know Carrie didn’t have money. After the way Carrie treated Aiden, he had every right to sell her the apartment in a pure business manner with no emotions. Not to mention Aiden told Carrie to keep the engagement ring. She said no. She could have kept the ring for her down payment. Instead she runs to big and then gets upset with charlotte for not offering her the money.
@@ladybug7273 Carrie did not want to get married, like I said it was used as a tactic to give Aiden some sense of security. Carrie didn't treat Aiden like anything the 2nd time around, she was fine. Aiden did the wrecking, Aiden did the guilting, Carrie and him were only seeing each other for a short period of time before getting engaged. Carrie was not given the time or space to get used to the idea of marriage, we both know Carrie is a skeptic of marriage and still is one even after marrying Big. Aiden treated Carrie horribly throughout their 2nd shot at a relationship, guilt tripping, forcing her to put up with a lot of stuff she doesn't need to deal with. Make no bones about it, Aiden had no right to nearly make her homeless and kick her out of an apartment she had had for a decade, there are always other options on the table like renting it out to her.
Being in a relationship with someone and buying an apartment is very different from when the relationship ends. He could have continued to give Carrie more time to get money but it’s not his job to support Carrie financially.
@@ladybug7273spot on I’ve always been with the good guys like him and they’re great but if you ever show signs you’re becoming independent or self sufficient it’s a no go for them I’m not gonna lie I’m the daughter of an immigrant single mom I have to take care of so I play it up and act like a hopeless woman and they fall right into it my husband takes care of both of us
Is there a part two! I couldn’t agree more season 4 is my favorite and the best!! It shows how much love they have for one another! Also the Kodak finale is beyond iconic! I would loooooove mad men recaps - the fashion leaves me in awe!!!!
It’s control! When some people refuse to accept something has run its course, they might insist on staying friends to be able to keep up with what the ex is doing (who they are dating and they also tend to make comparisons to themselves tied to this new partner in their ex’s life). Carry has strong narc. traits and hoovering exes is their thing!
Maybe perhaps the writers meant to juxtapose Charlotte and Carrie, but regardless of their intention, that moment came across as Carrie once again taking no responsibility for her actions, and expecting other people to pick up the pieces for her financial and emotional shortcomings. Carrie is so frustrating to watch, and I couldn’t help but wonder, did the show expect us to root for her? I genuinely root for everyone else lol. Carrie sure is messy though, and makes for an entertaining watch. It kills me that she never really grows.
It was stupid of carrie to be friends with big especially since she got back with Aidan I definitely wouldn't had done that the mud fight was so hilarious
Kasia, you need to be a host for the official SATC/And Just Like That podcast, your commentary is so poignant and well researched. They should at least have you as a guest host! Anyways, keep up the fantastic work! ps. feel better soon 🤍
I never truly understand how people gush over Aidan, especially the second time he and Carrie get back together. He was clearly punishing her for cheating and tried to force her into getting married. I've gotten into many an argument on the SATC subreddit (lol) about how trying to push someone into marriage because you don't trust them is incredibly toxic. But that whole page is just dedicated to bashing Carrie smh
The way it looked to me was that Carrie took advantage of him by cheating on him, they got back together and she realized he wasn't obsessed with her like he used to be, so she made it her mission to throw herself at him and win him back. Then the second, she saw it was working, she immediately pulled the "Big will never leave my life" stuff and started pushing Aiden away because she likes it when people are fighting for her attention.
@@1bwash To me, Carrie insisting on keeping Big in her life was one of the things I could actually respect in her behaviour. She could've lied about it like she often did to avoid problems, but she was honest and I can commend that. I would certainly not allow any man to forbid me from seeing anybody, not even an ex I cheated with. Because yes, maybe Carrie pressured Aidan to get back together, but he wasn't a helpless victim. He actively chose to continue the relationship, and any mature man would only do this if he truly forgave her and let go of the past. A relationship that's only safe when you forbid each other to see certain people, is not worth having!
How did he force her? He just proposed. How is that forcing? They are in their mid-thirties. Nothing unnatural about getting married if you are with one you love, and he did love her. The other way around not so much.
@@FacetterdkHe did not force her with violence obvs. But he kept pushing and pushing the topic, even though he clearly recognized that she wasn't ready. That is certainly not "natural" behavior, and at the very least unhealthy and pressuring.
I don’t think Charlotte would fall in love with a poor person. She had her requirements and was not giving them up. Everyone she showed interest in was well off.
I am a bit sick of people blaming Carrie's housing crisis on her spending habits. This is such a classic case of blaming the victim, her rent control apartment went co-op, who could suddenly come up with $40000 cash without any problem? She always paid her bills, her shoe collection took years to build, I don't think she was financially irresponsible. She just didn't prepare for the crazy exploitative housing market, this uncontrolled vulture capitalism is the big problem not her shoe collection.
I wouldn’t say he was the worst. Carrie made him desperate because all she did was play mind games with him. He was such a good guy but not the guy for her.
I never really got why people were so angry about that scene with Charlotte since Carrie clearly states that a) she knows she acts irrational and unfair and b) this is about Charlotte not offering to help (like the other girls) more than it is about Carrie demanding the money from her. The reason she feels fine accepting the money from her in the end and not miranda, Samantha or Mr. Big is because it also offers an opportunity for closure to Charlotte through selling her wedding ring to help a friend. As others have pointed out, Charlotte makes pretty irresponsible financial decisions herself, had she not come from a rich family and married rich on top, her situation would be just as bad as Carrie's.
Carrie didn't want a relationship that was balanced, loving and ran smoothly; she wanted drama, screaming, crying, all that BS carry on - its what narcissists do and they will feed off you like an energy vampire and when they are done....discard you like a used tissue and not look back
After being very hurt by my bf , we continued our relationship but i still hated him for doing that to me , until he told me " you either forgive me or we can't go on anymore " . And just like Aidan , i decided my love for him was bigger than my resentment. 5 years still going strong 😊
thank god someone actually thinks adam is the wrost. i mean, he had a good heart, seemed like someones thats will always be there for u, but carrie and him didn't really fit, it was like he had this fantasy about a having this happy suburbian family, who owns a country house, and wanted carrie to be like this, and clearly didnt want to. i've just rewatched the entire show a couple of weaks ago, and had the same feeling
One thing about Carrie and Big is that they have a very similar humour. They bounce off each other and, to me, they have the best chemistry in the show because of it. It’s a shame about the rest of their crap
Carrie had a communication problem as a whole. This was the only thing I didn’t like in the show. Such an aware of her surroundings woman and writer would have that big of a communication problem? Weird. But I looove this show so much! Great videos you make!
The thing is that Charlotte would never be in Carries situation. She comes from money and married some more money, yes. But she is also financially responsible. This can be examplified with the shoe fetish episode. Charlotte falls in love with a shoe but does not buy it (even though of course she can afford it). If it had been Carrie she would have taken 400 dollars from her 900 dollars savings and bought the shoes. Carrie was 90% in the wrong in this episode but the 10% where Charlotte went wrong was when she was trying to change the subject, friends must be able to talk about financial hardships with eachother.
I was always on carrie's side in the ring argument. Because yeah, Charlotte clearly comes from a pretty privileged background, she would never have had to worrry financially - even in her divorce, the issue never seems to be financial, she never even gets another job. It's the lecture about finances that pushed Carrie too far after she was so silent when Miranda and Samantha were both offering the money. I do wish they showed something of Carrie repaying that money though.
Didn't she repay it? As I recall, that's why she started writing for Vogue. I feel like she brought it up with Charlotte once or twice but maybe I misremember.
@JP-ve7or I don’t recall it ever being diss used again. Also we don’t know what Charlotte’s background is. I don’t think the scene is as bad as some say. But Carrie never did anything like that for Charlotte and she didn’t need to bully Charlotte when Miranda and Samantha were offering her money. Ring isn’t just money but emotional attachment Charlotte might have wanted to keep for longer.
I think that Carrie only wants the things that she can’t have. And that she’ll throw all commonsense and caution to the wind to get the things that she wants.
It is interesting that these TV-Show people thought Aiden was not rich. I actually always considered him to be quite rich and successful. However, there are some guys who downplay it when they can. Even with their clothes. We do have such guys a lot in Germany. Downplaying your wealth is extremely common. Somehow, everyone wants to be middle class here. And Aiden seems to go exactly for this type of vibe. This is quite a contrast to Mr. Big, John, who somehow seems to enjoy a lot showing the status symbols. As Carrie also loves status symbols, there is a little potential for conflict here already between Aiden and her....And I do like Aiden but I am not absolutely sure that Carrie is the best choice for him. He is a good guy. He is sweet and caring and it is great how he works on overcoming his problems with her smoking and how he even is willing to try again after Carrie cheating but he a a type needs someone more grounded than Carrie. Carrie is witty, funny and intelligent, all qualities that a man like Aiden would love but I guess she is also a lot a woman for the big city life whilst Aiden can do without it. I do also think that deep down, Aiden wants kids whilst I am not really convinced Carrie wants kids.What I can understand, though, is that when he is turned down by Carrie, he wants his appartment back. Even though I guess that if I had been Aiden, I would have demanded rent for it.
@@magda010195 i love capitalism, fashion, shopping. I wanted to be a writer. I love words. I idealise American culture. I am also a drama queen, self centered and i love literally things
Carrie knew she shouldnt be with Big but she didnt want to let him go in case he changed for the better so she "befriended" him, aka kept him around as an option because she didnt love Aidan anyway.
I never liked Aidan. To me he's the embodiment of the "nice guy". And I agree with you about Carrie. As annoying and toxic as she can be I understand her and she's relatable.
SHE CAN REACH ME BUT I CAN'T GET HER... EVER!
That’s fucked up.
One of big’s funniest moments 😂he totally deserves everything he went through!! Call it karma
@@bintousowe6409 Exactly! Now he knows how it feels to be with someone unavailable
where is part 2 though
I think that Carrie didn't think Aidan was the one because he wasn't good enough for her, in her head. Yes, he was wealthy compared to her, but he wasn't cocky enough like Mr Big. Aidan was a countryside dude at heart, he doesn't care about fashion or luxury or fancy restaurants etc. And of course she couldn't become the simple, marrying type girl Aidan was looking for. And that's why, in my opinion, kept MrBig near her as a "friend". He had all the features she craved in a man and she was waiting for him to change his mind about her.
You are so right and it makes me so mad and sad at the same time.
💯 and she chose to just keep Aidan at waist side because she didn’t want to be alone. All the while knowing he wouldn’t fully fulfill her despite him being a good man.
@@TheSkankxrhapsodyyup. Aidan was fun to sleep with and hang out with, she kept Big in her life because he was the one she really wanted. And given Carrie didn’t want kids or anything like that, she was fine to wait around until Big decided he wanted her. Thats why she didn’t want to marry Aidan.
You’re 100% on the money.
Absolutely agreed . Which makes Aidan LITTERALY just a " guy to have until Big changes his mind" . Horrible for him
Carrie once said "I'm used to the hunt, but this.. this is effortless" about her relationship with Aidan. Carrie just digs and lives for the drama, and Big gave her that.
Yup. Super toxic.
It’s 2002. Social Media was not around yet. So the only way to stalk your ex and know about his new girlfriend was to “befriend” him. What a terrible time to live 😂
This!😂
Oh, yes, how much better to "stalk" them online....
@@Facetterdk a lot of people do this 🤷♀️
Need to point out one interesting observation, Big drives a Jag to Aden's country house! He usually gets chauffeured in a Lincon town car, which stands for typical American luxury. As a fashion-interested car guy, I would like to explain that despite the luxury, elegance, and performance, Jaguar sedans were often related to robbery and crime, having a perfect image of vicious getaway cars. It makes Big more villain-ish than ever.
as someone who has absolutely no idea about cars I LOVE THIS!!! and speaking about cars I have a question: how Aidan manages to find parking space for his pickup truck in New York City?
@@KasiaSopniewska That’s very hard to figure out 🤣. He probably saved on clothes and splurged on parking spots. Or he probably only used the truck for furniture delivery. 😌 Pick-up truck’s practicality, roughness, and masculinity really match to Aden well.
Oh wow, thanks for the Ted Talk ahah . It's interesting to read comments sometimes coz you get to learn new things
@@somebody7070 Hhhhhhhh, thanks and how you doing! I think what car a man drives says a lot about him. So that’s why I always couldn’t help wondering about the car choice of male character.
@@Happimiataboi oh absolutely agreed. A man's car says a lot about him . But I always associated Jaguars with wealthy posh men , rather than the rebellious mobsters 😄
i think maybe saying that aidan is the worst is a bit of an exaggeration. Carrie did absolutely nothing to win his trust back after SHE convinced him to get back together. Being cheated on can make you paranoid and take a toll on your mental health and confidence(and lets add the fact that carrie is a gaslighter that will make you think that nothing she did is wrong and its a u problem). Im also pretty sure that her making him accept a "friendship" with the person she cheated with at least made him unintentionally compare himself to him which definetly didnt help built his confidence up. Thirdly i truly believed that he was in love with her and desperately wanted to believe she could change (when we are in love many times we are not seeing things realistically). This led to him putting up with behaviours which in other conditions probably would have not been accepted. What he did was surely not the right but when we are talking about betrayed partners its a more complicated issue than it appears and has a lot of layers that need to be examined.
Well, maybe not the worst, but surely isn't good. And not only for Carrie, but in general. Now, I'm not saying she was right, like you said, she messed him up really good. But just think of how clueless he was as to the woman he was dating! Right from the start he has these conditions, like he knew she was smoking, he is dating her anyway and then tells her how much he hates it and wants her to stop. Really? Why date her at all then? Just so he could gaslight her? Many stuff like this throughout his run in the show and the icing on the cake is the forest cabin. Now, don't get me wrong, this is my personal idea of a paradise, but for Carrie it is a torture. If you are dating someone and you care for them enough, you should know stuff like this. He didn't care enough. He just expected her to enjoy stuff he does, even if it makes her miserable. Like if my husband hates the movie theatre, I wouldn't buy tickets to a Lord Of The Rings marathone for our aniversary. But Aiden doesn't bother himself with stuff like this. He just expects everyone to automaticly go with his vibes. He takes it for granted
@@irinakl441 the relationship only lasted for about a year and a half. At that point you still continue to learn your significant other. Many relationships end then because people realise things that bothered them since the begging just don’t change! The thing about smoking, even though I don’t remember everything since it has been some time since I watched the season, happened at the start of the relationship and yes surely was a miss on his part! The cabinet one maybe it’s not the ideal vacation but in relationships we sometimes do things that even though are not of our liking they are very important for our partner ( ESPECIALLY when she is trying to make her significant other trust her again since she cheated not even half a year into the relationship) and she brought her ex there..At the end of the day it was very obvious throughout the series that they weren’t a good much even though Aidan at least in theory was a much better guy than big.
@@irinakl441 I also forgot to mention that it bothered me that the producers kept bringing him back again and again and now ever for just like that 💀 At this point bringing back jack burger would make A LOT more sense
@@dora0270 they were very very bad together. Yes. Sometimes the click is just not there. But there are some red flags there from the beggining, that makes me think he is a bit of a duche. Again, Carrie really messed up that one, no argue here. But the gaslighting is just so obvious.
And yes, he is better then Big, everyone are really, even the ADHD guy, lol. But if both are d**ks, it doesn't matter who makes you feel less bad, if no one makes you feel good.
@@irinakl441 at the end of the day Carrie was also a douche so I really don’t know who to defend here I just think we are being extremely harsh to a person who wanted to believe that the woman he loved could change for the better!
I'm so glad I've watched SATC in my early 20s. Made me understand I should stop searching for both Mr. Bigs and Aidens. It took me another 10 years to understand I should look for a Gomez Addams )))
My great obaservation is there a are few MTF 😮 " actresses"
❤❤❤❤my dream man always ❤
lol :))) good one
@@Kat.Evangeline14what does this mean
Aidan is 101% right about Carrie and her relationship with big
true but why he wanted to be with someone he doesn’t trust?
@@KasiaSopniewska Yes your right. Aidan is at best naive, and at worst malicious over thinking renewing the relationship with Carrie would ever end well.
@@KasiaSopniewska because he was human and loved her and made a mistake. Like Carrie does every 5 minutes of the show lol
@@KasiaSopniewskawell, to be fair, when Carrie begged him to get back together with him, she never mentioned she’s gonna insist on her entitlement to still be “friends” with the guy she cheated on him with. That’s kind of a bait-and-switch.
@@KasiaSopniewska I think he likes that she can be quite cute and witty and fun to be with. Plus, maybe, he thinks she will grow out of her obsession with Mr. Big. What he does not really understand is that Carrie somehow likes the drama. He seems to me like a person who is not into drama at all and tries to make others happy and to enjoy himself. And I guess he has a bit a minority complex. I bet he did not grow up rich but got all the money by hard work himself, so he is a self-made guy and he sometimes feels he does not really belong in that rich society, whilst I totally think that Mr. Big already grew up rich.
I know this is a small part but Big sayjng "she could reach me, but I could NEVER reach her" kills me everytime lmao
I don’t see how it works with Charlotte and Carrie. Carrie spent 40k on her shoes, so Charlotte should check her privilege? Huh?
Exactly lol
Yeah I also don’t think Charlotte isn’t in the same situation for that reason.. I think she came from money already. You can tell by her style, and by how she carries herself
How is that changing the point, though? It still means she is in a more comfortable situation not due to her own decisions (she quit er job after all) but because of luck.
@@lucialayr bc trey is not the reason she is not in the same situation.
Yes but Charlotte never had to worry about money because of that financial family background plus bc of her marriage to someone from the same background. She is not better off financially because she worked harder or made more responsible financial decisions than Carrie. She quit her job without a plan B and can’t find a new one, she is also quite a luxurious spender - yet her decisions do not have the same impact because of her wealthy background. So in that regard she is privileged compared to Carrie who appears to have no financial backup from family.
14:49 i wholeheartedly disagree. Carrie was being a brat. Charlotte would have been fine if she didnt get the apartment in the divorce i know she would have ended up openinh her own gallery and thriving. But she also had her bills organized, didnt over spend like some people, and saved. And im saying this as the carrie. Im horrid with money. But i got to buy a house not guilt my friend still dealing with her divorce clearly. Instead of checking on Charlotte and being like gurl why do you feel the need to do that? You ok?
She wants him as her friend because she is still in love/lust with him and wants to keep him in her life. She can't let go of him. It's that simple I think.
Yep totally agree
It is
Yup! Carrie was a pick me waiting on her turn
Yes, that is very obvious.
When first rewatching the series, I was shocked by how much I liked Aiden in S3. Then S4 comes round, and he falls off so hard for me, it's unreal
I like your juxtaposition of how Carrie and Charlotte's relationship choices specifically caused their respective living situations; I don't think I've thought about it from this angle before. Which only makes me also wonder if the writers themselves had done so, lol. Looking forward to part two!
Carrie being friends with Big doesn't make any sense. Their relationship never had much substance, when I re-watched the show as an adult I was never able to see an actual relationship/partnership. Big never wanted a serious commitment with Carrie, it was pretty much sex with extra steps, but Carrie's narrative made it seem like a relationship.
Her being friends with Big doesn't make any sense - they don't have common interests, so what would that relation be based on?
I know! it's mad to me that Carrie and Big have literally nothing in common. He loves jazz. She doesn’t listen to music at all. She collects shoes. He doesn’t care for fashion. What do they even talk about?
@@KasiaSopniewska When they were dating, they would have 4-hour conversations, but she didn't know that he had been married 🤣
@@magda010195 beyond that, she knew that Big and his first wife divorced as a result of an extramarital affair he had! Is that not a red flag to you ma’am? Mayyybe if it’s a one off but this was part of a pattern: he had issues with commitment. Why are we supposed to think that he became a faithful partner to Carrie after going down to city hall?
I think you can't judge like that, sometimes friendship and closeness are not so obvious for an outside person but still exist. sometimes people are just in tune with each other, which I think was the case here. and they had at least something in common - restaurants, smoking)) also it seemed that they had a similar sense of humour
@@astrid_live Wow, a relationship based on going to restaurants and smoking 😳
Little thing, Charlotte left her job because she married rich, if she was with someone with less money she surely would had continuing working at the gallery, besides, we cannot compare relying on your husband you united with a contract with a boyfriend you have an rocky on and off relationship, Charlotte may had a privilege, but only because she had her papers in order
This!
How can she be in a “friendship” with a man she dated whilst been in a relationship with another guy. Not only that, she insists on staying friends with someone that she cheated with in her current relationship. How did aiden stay?
carrie really is ridiculous 😂😂
Because deep down she probably knew they would get back together
Bc she's the queen of gaslighting! I always wondered what Aiden must have thought when heard about their big wedding lol.
@@mrslvw maybe we’ll find out because he’s coming back for season two of and just like that!!
Honestly I think back when this aired we just wanted Big and Carrie to work out. I remember watching this, I wanted her with Aiden but I knew it would never ever work.
I can't believe the bartender is Jenny and Dan's mum! Thank you so much, I live for Sex and the City and Gossip Girl crossovers (ps it's even funnier when you do a Sex and the City and Law and Order crossover - Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda have dated all the criminals in New York).
Aiden was sick of her shit with Big and I don't judge him for that, she messed him around and she wouldn't even wear the ring on her finger I mean wtf .... I loved Aiden but they really weren't good together.
Aidan was a hyped furniture designer in New York, right? So it made sense he was wealthy.
12:06 It was explained though, the apartment situation! Remember how Carrie had Miranda look over the legal aspects of the contract where Aiden was offering Carrie to buy the apartment?! We already knew they had started to join the two apartments, by smashing down the wall. There are a few options here, during a sale- put the wall up and sell it as one apartment or keep it open and sell it as a bigger apartment. We know the space was closed up again, because of filming later on in the apartment. Carrie probably also wouldn’t have been able to buy it back if Aiden had offered both apartments (so he probably closed it up and sold the added space that he had paid for already, and offered Carrie’s original space back to her as could be seen in a 20 seconds exchange between Miranda and Carrie).
The show wasn’t about real estate in that sense, so this is something viewers have to understand themselves from that short exchange between Miranda and Carrie when she put on her lawyer hat to help put her friend for free, since Carrie didn’t understand if the offered deal was fair or if she lol was about to get scammed by Aiden.
Carrie was dumb to allow Aiden in financially like that, by doing so she risked her entire home. She could have found another way to finance it when her apartment complex transformed and switched from a rental. People often talk down on feminism or try to make it about bodies, but feminism is about equality and women making an equal amount of money as men. This is one among many thing that puts women in a financially weaker position, and why men are able to buy out a woman when the relationship comes to an end. While the woman is all of the sudden facing a position where she is about to get homeless or needs to move to a much smalller rental. This is why the stay at home wife/mom arrangement doesn’t serve women at all. The argument that daycare is too expensive doesn’t cut it, then have things reformed instead of making women be in the same position as children with little to no income, so they are dependent on their men to get by. It’s also dangerous if the relationship turns into domestic abuse, where is she suppose to go with no budget or income. It’s a trap! The argument of ”each family has the right to decide”, then how come it’s a structural thing because there is no equality in the ration terms of stay at home dads/husbands and stay at home wife/mom.
Charlotte was no better! She quit work when she married Trey, and it got her in trouble too! Him eventually signing over the apartment to her even though it was worth several milliions, that rarely happens and it’s still expensive for the woman. Ladies look out for yourselves and please teach your daughters to be financially independent and also teach your sons to not demand a woman to give up her autonomy for his sake, so he can make a career etc.
So very true.
Carrie would not have been able to find another way to finance the apartment without Aidan. I mean it’s not like she could have accepted money from Big if she was in relationship with Aidan and Charlotte would not have offered her ring if Carrie was still with Aidan and not so desperate.
Carrie of course could have moved elsewhere and rented cheaply (although with lack of funds in her bank account she probably would also have needed to sell some of her designer clothes). But Carrie would not have done that unless she had no other options
The writers did a good job, and Charlotte actually loved Trey even though she of course was worried about the sex thing. They worked on it, it got better, but then the baby thing happende. Charlotte could not know this in advance. For Carrie to demand Charlotte's ring is insance. She could simply have sold some of her very expensive shoes.
Thanks for the explanation of "following your heart"; it makes sense that Carrie feels resentment at following what felt right in her heart and is evicted as a result. Whereas Charlotte married rich and went along with a wedding despite her alarm bells ringing and gets "rewarded" with an apartment.
But there is a difference: Charlotte was always rich (and an elitist) and would always have married rich. She never hid who she was and lived accordingly to her "old money" upbringing. It is irrational to resent her for that. Charlotte wouldn't have married a Steve, we even get an episode on this in S2. Carrie, OTOH, lived outside her means and lifestyle and she wouldn't have been in that desperate financial situation if she hadn't spent 40 K in shoes. Even her higher-earning pals don't even spend that money on fashion. Perhaps Samantha did, but she is a rich business owner who, as you pointed out, handled celebrities as her client accounts.
Also, Charlotte quit her job to become a SAHM, convinced by her husband - who ditched parenthood and marriage at the last moment. It is not unusual that he would give her something in a divorce settlement to compensate for the income she lost, and for the time spent on a marriage and a family that would not exist anymore. Aidan dumped Carrie due to distrust but he OFFERED her to keep the ring and she refused it.
So, yeah, good principle from the writers but it was executed poorly.
“She could reach me, but I could never get her”
“..that’s fucked up”
I love that scene with Big and Aiden haha
That scene with Carrie on her 35th birthday waiting a long time for her friends who are super late and the waiter keeps coming up to her is how I felt a couple of months ago on my birthday. Waiting at the restaurant for my 3 friends late as hell.
I always felt bad for Aidan, he was fine.. he mended the broken pieces that Carrie left behind and Carrie did not seem to think about him at all UNTIL she found out Aidan was not the one to send the invitation, once Carrie felt that Aidan did not wanted her that’s when she wanted him.. Carrie only wants the guys she cannot get, the ones she has to fight for (remember Berger?). Aidan forgave Carrie but Carrie never truly did anything to prove that she would not betray him again, but she was constantly acting annoyed every time he was not helplessly devoted to her (which I do not blame him, he was so nice and available to her when they first dated and she walked all over him, he probably is acting out as a way to protect his heart the second time). Aidan was not perfect, but Carrie certainly did not deserve him.. Aidan was certainly well off enough to buy two apartments, the cabin. have his furniture store and also invest on Steve’s bar.. he has money but lived comfortably but not flashy, Carrie spent her money recklessly on clothes and shoes and was BY far the less wealthy of the group.
You hit the nail on the head 👏🏾👏🏾. Carrie had nothing but audacity when it came to aiden. I was upset when he took her back. He wasn’t perfect but he was for dang sure too good for her
@@LasBlackUnicrnand don’t get me started on people saying he is a jerk for acting that way. It’s true, if he didn’t want her he should have leave, however I think is unreasonable for people to think a human being is just gonna stay taking hits over and over again without a reaction. He is reacting to her continuing abuse, that’s it, that’s the answer.
Charlotte is not responsible for parenting or being an adult so that Carrie doesn't have to sacrifice or budget. Carrie has to take care of herself and suffer the consequences of her own choices. Spending $40k on shoes means she doesn't have a down payment. She made that choice. Why should other people pay for her choices? She's an entitled spoiled child parentifying her friends. That's too much of a burden to place on any friendship. Grow up.
I was watching a few episodes yesterday and when Miranda said that Steve wanted her and Debbie to meet and be friends, Carrie said that your current partner and your ex being friends was unnatural. YET, she wanted Aiden and Big to be friends after what they did to him. The audacity!!!
"It looks like a TV adaptation of a fan fiction a 14-year-old wrote" haha so spot on. The quality of writing was steadily decreasing after S2 and now I understand why me and my friends loved this show as teenagers and now we love to criticize it. The characters and especially Carrie were acting like what teens think adulthood is like, not actual adults.
Lmfao when they take the laptop in, it’s one of my favorite Carrie lines: “you are mortifying… ME”
I don’t mind you talking about this show, your perspective makes me see some stuff from another angle it’s so enlightening and I won’t mind you just talking for an hour 😂 if you want. I can’t wait for part two, love this channel
thank you! I can easily talk for hours about this show, the problem is video editing takes AGES :(((
There’s something so soothing about your accent! ❤
omg, this is the best analys I have heard. Congrats!!!
Carrie was not entitled to charlottes money , “check your privilege” no
Maybe I'm wrong but I always assumed that the two apartments were merged and that's what Carrie bought. But even if they weren't, maybe he put the other apartment on the market right away. Aidan clearly moved away.
@Marcell Tóth or maybe he kept it in order to spy on Carrie?
Nope, you are right!! At least that's always the impression that I got as well
@@KasiaSopniewska It's just your Aidan is the worst mood talking :D
No they never combined apts bc otherwise we'd see Carrie's post break up and movies apt be bigger but it stays the same size.
I think he patched up wall and put it back on the market immediately to recoup his investment. He probably crashed with Steve and/or at the furniture store till he eventually got a new place then finally married and had his sons.
You are write. They were merged.
Omg including the iBook in this review was just soooo good! I love the attention to detail with your revisits of SATC 😘😘
aiden is honestly perfect for not carry. he’s too real and she’s a little delusional
Samantha’s three seconds on screen were the highlight of the entire season two
Obsessed with the title of this video I like how it's just a sort of conversational question
4:50 anyone who thinks aiden is poor needs slapped. HE OWNS HIS OWN FURNITURE MAKING BUSINESS. yall think thats easy to be successful with in your mid thirties???
I admit I missed this point in numerous rewatches but from personal experience can say that women who married younger or at all are definitely at a financial advantage later in life despite society telling you to wait for the “right one” and take time in making that big decision.
Cigarettes with chocolate cake is the exception to the rule. It's pure and utter decadence.
Also- of course Carrie didn't want a trendy laptop. Carrie followed fashion, not trends. It was more then a metaphor for her own unwillingness to let go of the past and embrace what most girls would want (Aidan/trendy laptop), it was evidence that Aidan would never really "get her", if he thought she wanted what 13 year old girls were told by the tv to want...
This reevaluation of this show is priceless! ❤ It gives us context and meaning and is much needed to talk about this groundbreaking show's topics even after 20 something years. If somebody watches the show nowadays for the first time, I hope they come across your videos, Kasia! 😊😊
Oh nooooo you had me until Aidan not shit. Aidan was a great guy. Carrie wasn’t shit because she lied to him from day one and the lies just continued
The eviction notice was a dick move from Aiden.
Carrie had lived in that apartment for years, he buys it so that she can be more secure. That's what he wants Carrie to believe.
In actual fact he buys the apartment as leverage to punish Carrie if she ever does anything to hurt him.
He hands her an eviction notice as a petty means of hurting her back; this is after Aiden rushes Carrie into a marriage so that he can feel some sense of security.
In the second season of AJLT they make it out like it's all Carrie's fault for breaking the engagement, when in fact Aiden shouldn't have forced Carrie to marry him the first place.
That is why I have issues with Aiden's return to AJLT, Carrie was at the mercy of Aiden. How is she the one fully at fault when Aiden LITERALLY ALMOST MADE HER HOMELESS??
That’s not the reason Aiden bought the apartment. He didn’t buy the apartment to punish Carrie “if” she ever hurt him. Carrie had already hurt Aiden by cheating on him with Big. Not to mention her bringing big around every chance she got. Aiden bought the apartment because they were engaged and thought they would get married. Plus Carrie told him the apartment was going co-op so the options were to buy shares in the corporation of apartments or buy it out right. Carrie didn’t have the money to buy her apartment but Aiden did. Either way Carrie would have had to fork out money for that apartment, and we all know Carrie didn’t have money. After the way Carrie treated Aiden, he had every right to sell her the apartment in a pure business manner with no emotions. Not to mention Aiden told Carrie to keep the engagement ring. She said no. She could have kept the ring for her down payment. Instead she runs to big and then gets upset with charlotte for not offering her the money.
@@ladybug7273 Carrie did not want to get married, like I said it was used as a tactic to give Aiden some sense of security.
Carrie didn't treat Aiden like anything the 2nd time around, she was fine.
Aiden did the wrecking, Aiden did the guilting, Carrie and him were only seeing each other for a short period of time before getting engaged.
Carrie was not given the time or space to get used to the idea of marriage, we both know Carrie is a skeptic of marriage and still is one even after marrying Big.
Aiden treated Carrie horribly throughout their 2nd shot at a relationship, guilt tripping, forcing her to put up with a lot of stuff she doesn't need to deal with.
Make no bones about it, Aiden had no right to nearly make her homeless and kick her out of an apartment she had had for a decade, there are always other options on the table like renting it out to her.
Being in a relationship with someone and buying an apartment is very different from when the relationship ends. He could have continued to give Carrie more time to get money but it’s not his job to support Carrie financially.
@@ladybug7273spot on I’ve always been with the good guys like him and they’re great but if you ever show signs you’re becoming independent or self sufficient it’s a no go for them I’m not gonna lie I’m the daughter of an immigrant single mom I have to take care of so I play it up and act like a hopeless woman and they fall right into it my husband takes care of both of us
Is there a part two! I couldn’t agree more season 4 is my favorite and the best!! It shows how much love they have for one another! Also the Kodak finale is beyond iconic! I would loooooove mad men recaps - the fashion leaves me in awe!!!!
So good! I would listen to an hourlong version tbh - I love longer videos I can vibe out to 💗
It’s control! When some people refuse to accept something has run its course, they might insist on staying friends to be able to keep up with what the ex is doing (who they are dating and they also tend to make comparisons to themselves tied to this new partner in their ex’s life). Carry has strong narc. traits and hoovering exes is their thing!
Clocked that Mad Men reference - would love to hear your thoughts on the entire series!
i truly love your channel. keep going ❤
Thank you! Will do!
Maybe perhaps the writers meant to juxtapose Charlotte and Carrie, but regardless of their intention, that moment came across as Carrie once again taking no responsibility for her actions, and expecting other people to pick up the pieces for her financial and emotional shortcomings. Carrie is so frustrating to watch, and I couldn’t help but wonder, did the show expect us to root for her?
I genuinely root for everyone else lol. Carrie sure is messy though, and makes for an entertaining watch. It kills me that she never really grows.
It was stupid of carrie to be friends with big especially since she got back with Aidan I definitely wouldn't had done that the mud fight was so hilarious
Kasia, you need to be a host for the official SATC/And Just Like That podcast, your commentary is so poignant and well researched. They should at least have you as a guest host! Anyways, keep up the fantastic work!
ps. feel better soon 🤍
I wish! maybe one day! I just have to work on my most melodramatic voice and call MPK's every artistic choice ‘a very bold choice’.
@@KasiaSopniewska 😏😁
She literally gave the cake a b job! 😂
I never truly understand how people gush over Aidan, especially the second time he and Carrie get back together. He was clearly punishing her for cheating and tried to force her into getting married. I've gotten into many an argument on the SATC subreddit (lol) about how trying to push someone into marriage because you don't trust them is incredibly toxic. But that whole page is just dedicated to bashing Carrie smh
The way it looked to me was that Carrie took advantage of him by cheating on him, they got back together and she realized he wasn't obsessed with her like he used to be, so she made it her mission to throw herself at him and win him back. Then the second, she saw it was working, she immediately pulled the "Big will never leave my life" stuff and started pushing Aiden away because she likes it when people are fighting for her attention.
@@1bwash To me, Carrie insisting on keeping Big in her life was one of the things I could actually respect in her behaviour. She could've lied about it like she often did to avoid problems, but she was honest and I can commend that.
I would certainly not allow any man to forbid me from seeing anybody, not even an ex I cheated with. Because yes, maybe Carrie pressured Aidan to get back together, but he wasn't a helpless victim. He actively chose to continue the relationship, and any mature man would only do this if he truly forgave her and let go of the past.
A relationship that's only safe when you forbid each other to see certain people, is not worth having!
How did he force her? He just proposed. How is that forcing? They are in their mid-thirties. Nothing unnatural about getting married if you are with one you love, and he did love her. The other way around not so much.
@@FacetterdkHe did not force her with violence obvs. But he kept pushing and pushing the topic, even though he clearly recognized that she wasn't ready. That is certainly not "natural" behavior, and at the very least unhealthy and pressuring.
Wow, right on time! I just finished season 4 as well :) thanks
Very much enjoyed your fashion analysis
Would watch videos discussions the evolution of the characters alone!
Big and Aiden at the cabin is my favorite episode of this season. So hilarious!
I don’t think Charlotte would fall in love with a poor person. She had her requirements and was not giving them up. Everyone she showed interest in was well off.
I am a bit sick of people blaming Carrie's housing crisis on her spending habits. This is such a classic case of blaming the victim, her rent control apartment went co-op, who could suddenly come up with $40000 cash without any problem? She always paid her bills, her shoe collection took years to build, I don't think she was financially irresponsible. She just didn't prepare for the crazy exploitative housing market, this uncontrolled vulture capitalism is the big problem not her shoe collection.
Love these videos 💕
Love these reviews
As a former heavy smoker I can confirm, eating and smoking is a thing haha the hunger for a cig and a sweet can happen simultaneously
So true, cig’s and ice cream, the best
I wouldn’t say he was the worst. Carrie made him desperate because all she did was play mind games with him. He was such a good guy but not the guy for her.
I never really got why people were so angry about that scene with Charlotte since Carrie clearly states that a) she knows she acts irrational and unfair and b) this is about Charlotte not offering to help (like the other girls) more than it is about Carrie demanding the money from her. The reason she feels fine accepting the money from her in the end and not miranda, Samantha or Mr. Big is because it also offers an opportunity for closure to Charlotte through selling her wedding ring to help a friend.
As others have pointed out, Charlotte makes pretty irresponsible financial decisions herself, had she not come from a rich family and married rich on top, her situation would be just as bad as Carrie's.
This, too!
Thank you for pointing out that Carrie and Aidan had communication issues... never noticed that before!
Carrie didn't want a relationship that was balanced, loving and ran smoothly; she wanted drama, screaming, crying, all that BS carry on - its what narcissists do and they will feed off you like an energy vampire and when they are done....discard you like a used tissue and not look back
Well I underestimated you! You nailed it! I agree! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Toxic relationship or not, they were always written as soul mates.
I mean it’s pretty simple why Carrie still talks too big even though he hurt her and all that… She’s still in love with him. Obviously
Charlotte looks STUNNING at the H&G shoot but she comes across as money grubbing where the apartment is concerned
After being very hurt by my bf , we continued our relationship but i still hated him for doing that to me , until he told me " you either forgive me or we can't go on anymore " . And just like Aidan , i decided my love for him was bigger than my resentment. 5 years still going strong 😊
Loving all the Twin Peaks and Gossip Girl crossovers 😂
thank god someone actually thinks adam is the wrost. i mean, he had a good heart, seemed like someones thats will always be there for u, but carrie and him didn't really fit, it was like he had this fantasy about a having this happy suburbian family, who owns a country house, and wanted carrie to be like this, and clearly didnt want to.
i've just rewatched the entire show a couple of weaks ago, and had the same feeling
Zajebisty odcinek ❤
Always felt this way about the 4x16 episode.
One thing about Carrie and Big is that they have a very similar humour. They bounce off each other and, to me, they have the best chemistry in the show because of it. It’s a shame about the rest of their crap
love ur videosn
Carrie had a communication problem as a whole. This was the only thing I didn’t like in the show. Such an aware of her surroundings woman and writer would have that big of a communication problem? Weird.
But I looove this show so much!
Great videos you make!
Mad Men… I see you are a woman of taste Kasia ;)
"remember Don... when god closes a door, he opens a dress"
Fellow early 90s kid, i agree on every single point
Lol the gossip girl crossover 🤣
we dont watch it bc its good we watch it bc its entertaining.
Aiden is a successful furniture designer
The thing is that Charlotte would never be in Carries situation. She comes from money and married some more money, yes. But she is also financially responsible. This can be examplified with the shoe fetish episode. Charlotte falls in love with a shoe but does not buy it (even though of course she can afford it). If it had been Carrie she would have taken 400 dollars from her 900 dollars savings and bought the shoes. Carrie was 90% in the wrong in this episode but the 10% where Charlotte went wrong was when she was trying to change the subject, friends must be able to talk about financial hardships with eachother.
I was always on carrie's side in the ring argument. Because yeah, Charlotte clearly comes from a pretty privileged background, she would never have had to worrry financially - even in her divorce, the issue never seems to be financial, she never even gets another job. It's the lecture about finances that pushed Carrie too far after she was so silent when Miranda and Samantha were both offering the money. I do wish they showed something of Carrie repaying that money though.
Didn't she repay it? As I recall, that's why she started writing for Vogue. I feel like she brought it up with Charlotte once or twice but maybe I misremember.
@JP-ve7or
I don’t recall it ever being diss used again.
Also we don’t know what Charlotte’s background is. I don’t think the scene is as bad as some say. But Carrie never did anything like that for Charlotte and she didn’t need to bully Charlotte when Miranda and Samantha were offering her money. Ring isn’t just money but emotional attachment Charlotte might have wanted to keep for longer.
Carrie could just sell her shoes.
The writers should had shown carrie missing Aidan because I didn't like that carrie and Aidan got back together
I think that Carrie only wants the things that she can’t have. And that she’ll throw all commonsense and caution to the wind to get the things that she wants.
Deep down she knew she and Aidan were incompatible. While Big was familiar.
It is interesting that these TV-Show people thought Aiden was not rich. I actually always considered him to be quite rich and successful. However, there are some guys who downplay it when they can. Even with their clothes. We do have such guys a lot in Germany. Downplaying your wealth is extremely common. Somehow, everyone wants to be middle class here. And Aiden seems to go exactly for this type of vibe. This is quite a contrast to Mr. Big, John, who somehow seems to enjoy a lot showing the status symbols. As Carrie also loves status symbols, there is a little potential for conflict here already between Aiden and her....And I do like Aiden but I am not absolutely sure that Carrie is the best choice for him. He is a good guy. He is sweet and caring and it is great how he works on overcoming his problems with her smoking and how he even is willing to try again after Carrie cheating but he a a type needs someone more grounded than Carrie. Carrie is witty, funny and intelligent, all qualities that a man like Aiden would love but I guess she is also a lot a woman for the big city life whilst Aiden can do without it. I do also think that deep down, Aiden wants kids whilst I am not really convinced Carrie wants kids.What I can understand, though, is that when he is turned down by Carrie, he wants his appartment back. Even though I guess that if I had been Aiden, I would have demanded rent for it.
I always wanted to be carrie
Why?
@Youmna Wehesh didn't we all? 😅
@@magda010195 i love capitalism, fashion, shopping. I wanted to be a writer. I love words. I idealise American culture. I am also a drama queen, self centered and i love literally things
The abortion episode is so underrated. It handled the subject with nuance.
I love that episode
Series 4 is amazing.
"hideous, hideous shirts" hahahahaahhaahhahahahahahahaahha
Where is the rest of season 4 analysis?
it's still in the making 😅
*cries in Millenial*
Me too, girl, me too!
So, where is the rest of season 4? 😅
I love your videos and your very beautiful, calm voice 😊 pozdrawiam xxx
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Carrie knew she shouldnt be with Big but she didnt want to let him go in case he changed for the better so she "befriended" him, aka kept him around as an option because she didnt love Aidan anyway.
Part 2 plz
Aidan was the worst. Totally fake nice guy.
Also, his stance on abortion was pretty icky!
I never liked Aidan. To me he's the embodiment of the "nice guy". And I agree with you about Carrie. As annoying and toxic as she can be I understand her and she's relatable.