As requested, here is a full in-depth video guide on how to find your personal style if you've never had one: th-cam.com/video/u6CTrW622Z4/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgyaYXp-bbNBWfyWWip4AaABAg Thank you to everyone who's taking their time to share their experiences, thoughts, and knowledge on this topic! I wanted to reiterate that I want to make this a safe space for ALL viewers, and I'm so grateful to be seeing important topics and thoughts being discussed in the comments💕 If you're at the beginning of your personal style journey, or you just want to know more about it, I have made a playlist for your convenience that includes all of my personal style related videos thus far: th-cam.com/video/tqYNKAxZJIo/w-d-xo.html And as a final reminder, I didn't go in-depth in my video about how girls growing up in patriarchal systems heavily affects our style choices as well, because as I was writing the script for it, I triggered myself accidentally. As such, I didn't want viewers leaving feeling triggered and depressed, so I omitted the section completely - but if you want to read more about these societal issues that affect our style and how we perceive fashion in a societal setting, feel free to read some of the articles under the "Sources on matters I can’t discuss in this video" section in my description.
I somewhat relate. When I was a child I loved girly, but practical clothing, but unfortunately a lot of my clothing was hand-me downs, so I couldn't always wear what I really loved. Then when I was a teenager I started to only wear jeans (even during Summer) and basic, simple clothing, because I didn't have access to cuter clothing I preferred, I didn't want to be sexually harassed for wearing a skirt and I didn't really wanted to stand out. Where I grew up, people would bully and talk on your back if your outfit stood out or was slightly different, which was unfortunate, because I liked to look at magazines and recreate their unusual outfits. When I moved out I started to wear more skirts and dresses as a way to reclaim the "lost time" and nowadays I mostly wear skirts and dresses, because I work sitting down and they're usually more comfortable than jeans for that.
This is so relatable! Not wanting to stand out and wanting to avoid the creeps from noticing us feels like a universal experience at this point (but I'm really glad we're talking about it and bringing the issues to light). 🥲Growing up in a smaller city in Finland, people would literally come and tell you you look weird if you dressed differently. When I returned to Finland a few times after coming back from studying abroad, I'd always have people stare at me because I dressed so differently - I eventually learned to ignore it, because I'd rather have people stare at me than hide myself away again to fit in. Glad to hear you've been able to reclaim the parts about your style you had to hide away when you were younger 💕
@@jemi_omg you’re Finnish? When you said English wasn’t your native language I thought about where you could be from and because some of your facial features reminded me of two of my friends that both have Finnish relatives I guessed in my head that you came from Finland! I am actually quite surprised that I was right about that because it doesn’t really make sense that you would look similar to my friends just because you’re Finnish😃 (I’m from Sweden btw)
@@bathtubtyler1538 That's so interesting that you made that connection! I've actually usually had slavic people try to adopt me as their own lol, cuz some of them claim I don't look very Finnish, but I try not to think about my "facial identity" too much haha. And also, hi fellow Nordic! 🇫🇮🇸🇪❤
@@jemi_ mmm yeah that’s quite weird because I also thought that you maybe could be from Poland before you reminded me of my friends! Also I never thought that Finnish people looked a certain way either so that’s why I’m so surprised that I got it right and that you reminded me of both of those friends when I never thought that they look alike to each other. 🙃But maybe I also unconsciously heard it in the accent or something. You’re either way really pretty!😁🫶🇫🇮🇸🇪
I remember that when I was 7 years old, I told my grandmother that I specifically only liked spaghetti strap tops, or really long sleeves, nothing in between. She told me that the short straps are too revealing and the long sleeves aren’t practical for doing chores and activities. She was the one that bought me most of my clothes, therefore she used to buy whatever she thought was appropriate for me. As an adult, I still prefer my short strap tops and really long sleeves, and that’s pretty much all I wear. I can’t help it, this is what I like and what makes me feel comfortable. I also have always hated wearing sweat pants and sporty clothes. My style hasn’t changed in that regard and I’m almost 29
I had a similar experience with my grandmother. She would not allow me to wear cropped tops or short shorts/skirts. For decades I didn't wear clothes that showed midriff, but I discovered some years ago I actually love shorter shirts... (I don't care much for short shorts or skirts tho)
That's how you know you're on the right track! 💕 I just bought a very overly pretty and princess-like skirt for myself for my birthday and I kept thinking "3 year old me would have wanted this so bad".
this video honestly helped me not cringe when i look at my childhood photos (my mom actually just randomly sent me some yesterday). i was bullied a lot in elementary and middle school for my style, but after some consideration, i see that kid me actually knew wtf was up!! my style was true to my interests (shorts or loose pants, t shirts, and sneakers for easy running. dancing, and jungle gym shenanigans), i had a consistent color palette (yellow, green, and blue), and even a beginning understanding of what clothing shapes worked for me (i was rocking small top big pant before it was cool). also omg i AATEEEE a monochromatic fit. green shirt, green plaid shorts, with the green sketchers... SLAY. so much of this remains true today!! i still love yellow and green, and shorter clothing that's comfy and easy to move in. Evolution wise, I used to hate the idea of wearing dresses and dressed relatively masculine or androgynous. In high school I found A-line dresses as skirts were still moveable. Now that i'm adult woman and not a literal child lol, I rock a mini skirt or dress to dance rehearsal. Any way, i say all that to say this was a great and well researched video that made me have more love for my childhood self and reinforced my sense of personal style, so thank you it was also so cute seeing your childhood photos and i would totally watch a vid of you creating those tutu fits!! 💞
I'm sorry to hear you were also bullied, I hate it so much and kids really can be so mean! I know right haha, our kid selves knew we were onto something gooooddd with our styles~ I love monochromatic fits so much, you can tell I also had a consistent color palette haha 😂 It's crazy how many of us have lived such similar style evolutions from androgynous/masculine clothing to later wearing more feminine clothes! Thank you so much taking the time to watch and share your own thoughts and experiences, and I will definitely be attempting to recreate my childhood outfits soon💕
Hi! Image consultant over here! It's safe to say that your video is so great! While I was studying image consulting I had this coflict because it was more oriented to become what society expects instead of what you really want, so yeah, colorimetry is cool but dress as your inner child IS EVERYTHING! I really like your video and your approach. Most people don't get that personal style is exactly that PERSONAL is not a formula it's a journey.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on your experiences with this! I absolutely agree with your points, dressing for society won't truly make us happy with our style and sense of identity. It's been very interesting to see people confusing personal style with what's trending right now and I'm hoping we can slowly correct that misunderstanding ❤
I was so inspired by your video, I've been wanting to try it myself for a while now! 💗 I have a feeling I could, at least partly, recreate the outfits pretty accurately 😊
most of my clothes growing up were hand-me-downs from my older sister, who loves anything girly, vintage, or colourful. but my style was always influenced by cartoons and fashion dolls - particularly villains, badass, or "spooky" characters such as the Trix from Winx, Shego from Kim Possible, or any character from Monster High. those characters were both dark and colourful, drawn with exaggerated proportions which looked both feminine and edgy to me. for this reason I loved to match my sister's bright colours with dark, edgier looks (or as edgy as you can be as a literal child). when I was able to buy clothes for myself, that evolved into my current style which still gravitates towards alternative, grungy styles mixed with feminine silhouettes.
That… actually explains a lot! When I was a kid I basically had 2 wardrobes - one can be simplified into hand-me-downs for “You’ll crawl into some mud regardless. We’ll mend it, get down from the tree, please!”, and the other was spawned by my grandma’s love for sewing and my love for design, aka “Can we add more bows and make it rainbow? Nice!”. The in between mode of “comfy, casual AND clean” started appearing only in my teenage years, when all of my clothes were purchased and lacked the oomph a 5 year old adds into design. Nowadays, after I regained control over my wardrobe the dichotomy persists - it’s either heavily mended and upcycled dirt collectors or custom made red carpet edition of renaissance fair, my brain doesn’t comprehend presenting like a working professional.
That's so precious that your grandma helped you personalize your clothes!🥹💕 I love the sound of your style, and it seems to clearly work for you! Besides...professional is boring (take it from someone who worked in corporate), wear what you want 🥰
Same here. I have a ‘respectable going out, working wardrobe’ and an ‘at home, old sloppy comfy, down and dirty’ wardrobe for my gardening, animals, house repairs etc.
This is a fascinating topic! As a little girl (early 90’s, in rural America ) I was obsessed with all things dark and spooky, and Morticia Addams was my ideal. I loved the vamp style, dark and elegant and sexy, despite being a little kid whose mother made her clothes. I even tried at age 6 to sneak and ask the hair dresser to dye my white-blonde bob black while my mother wasn’t in ear shot. Due to many factors I didn’t dress goth in my younger years, but it has always stayed with me and god did I love Halloween! Every year was a variation on witch or vampire or siren, and though I can’t walk around in a cobweb sleeved black gown every day, I am still drawn to dark cloths with a vamp-y element: velvets, bell sleeves, corsets, and black turtlenecks galore. I always wondered why I latched on to that persona so strongly at such a young age, especially since no one around me showed a similar interest, but I am 35 and all I can say is that after 3 decades my ideal hasn’t changed a bit - I guess it will always be a deep part of my core identity.
Morticia Addams is such an icon (and also the source of style inspiration for many of the commenters, I've noticed)! Did you succeed getting your hair dyed black? 🫢 When my mom wasn't looking, I cut my own hair (It was fairly long for a 3 year old), which is why it's very short in all the pictures 😂 Your style sounds really beautiful, I honestly think Halloween is a time of relief for many who struggle to express their style normally due to societal pressures. I'm so glad you stuck with it though, it sounds like it really is a part of you and I think it's beautiful that you honor that part of yourself in your self expression 🥰
I honestly found that y2k\90's runway style fits me the best. I never really vibed with the fashion of the mid to late 2010’s, but bring me back to 97 to 2001 in fashion [born early 97] and I slay. That is what I've seen worn around myself when I was a kid.
So glad you've found your style and a pre-existing style to tie it to! I'm born in the same time period and I agree, you can't make me convinced the 2010s fashion era was good 😅 I also love late 90s fashion, I think it's one of the reasons I'm drawn to minimalism and cool, but elegant styles.
As someone who lived through late 90's and Y2K fashion as a teenager, DO IT. Seeing this stuff come back around has given me new life and has increased my dopamine to wear it again and see it again.
@@jemi_ It is SO pretty. And elegant. And gorgeous. I mean, I won't ever fit the items I had in the 90's and Y2K since I'm a completely different size now, but I recently gave away a lot of stuff that I had cleaned out of my closet (shirts mostly), and recently my 17yo niece took a liking to one of my old blue green asymmetrical shirts with asymmetrical bell sleeves that I had from 2001. She wears it all the time now. She's taken in a number of other shirts and dresses I had back then too. My younger sister also took some of the stuff I had that my niece didn't want and is selling it on depop as well (like a satin button down shirt with pearl shank buttons, it has a pattern of blue roses all over it, and it's from rue21, amongst other items that I once owned). But I'm glad some of these fashions have come back around, I feel like a lot of 2010's fashion, no offense, they just kinda phoned it in. Like, I don't know if the 2008 crash had an effect (it probably did), but, the fabrics got cheaper, the cuts were more awful (i'm not talking styles that people used to body shame people with, I'm talking of overall cuts of the fabric just not flattering people at all, and where companies don't scale their product up or down in size where it will fit people properly), and companies used stretch in favor of things that actually had structure. And I feel like it didn't really have a cohesive defining feature where you could pick it out and say "ah yes, this is definitely something from this this particular 2010's year." Except maybe bright colors in the first half of the 2010's. And for the first couple of years those godforsaken bumpits that people wore on their heads. maybe large bib necklaces and higher rounded heels. But other than that, I can't really think of a lot of truly characteristic things from that fashion era that were definitive clothing-wise. Ok maybe those silly brimmed hats that a lot of girls wore in the latter half of the 2010's. It just feels so very blah to me. But 90's and Y2K is the antithesis of "blah" fashion for most part (aside from maybe some preppier "norm core" kind of fashion that existed even then). I'm happy to see things like the highly embellished lug soled shoes (including loafers) and "going out tops" making a comeback. Including with metallic fabrics. And flared cargo pants that have pockets for days (even though I no longer have to cram a sony discman into the side pockets of them). There's just something about that era that is so ridiculous over the top, yet elegant, and I'm all here for it.
@@annajohnson5779 Oh yeah, if I don't have to repeat the 2010s fashion in my life again, I'll have a peaceful life...I think that's actually when I really got into thrifting vintage, because nothing in the stores really appealed to me - I actually ended up refusing a lot of my sister's hand-me-downs from the 2010s because I didn't like any of it, and actually preferred my mom's hand-me-downs from the 80s and 90s. I remember when I was a kid I literally had a little pokemon themed gameboy bag for my gameboy and the games 😆 Lowkey though it was really cool and I'm sure my mom got it for me cuz she also thought it was really cute~
I grew up always wanting to wear my older brothers clothes. His t shirts were always so nice and big because he was bigger than me and his cargo shorts were just so comfy. I dressed in his hand downs up until the age of 13. As a teenager I felt like I tried to dress how I saw other girls dressing. It was all denim shorts and crop tops which I hated, look wise and comfortability wise too. Now I've discovered like baggy street style and nothing has felt more right. When I finally got baggy cargo pants, jeans and proper oversized cut tshirts now as a 22 year old, It just felt so right. This is not to say I didn't wear dresses when I was little but I think most times it was when my mom dressed me or we had to go for a formal dinner. I do enjoy dressing feminine now but I've realized I like long elegant dresses over short ones. I think 16,17,18 I was like a horrendous mix of both. I would tuck baggy shirts into long skirts. I only wore long skirts never short ones, I was insecure about my legs tbf. My dad is 6ft 1 and a big guy so I would find that when my mom and dad were doing closet clean outs I would be more excited to receive a shirt from my father because it was so oversized 😂 I only grew to appreciate some of my mother's pieces now in my 20s where I would say I'm just starting to sorta get the hang of putting together outfits and building my wardrobe essentials. Like i'd say even at 19 -21 when I was in uni I did not have 90% of the clothes I currently own and really really love. Sorry that was a real ramble, I really enjoyed the video ❤
It's so interesting how many of us had this phase of entering an almost "false style" phase in our teen years in order to fit in! I also hated my jeans and tight fitting shirts so much, I vividly remember some of the tops I'd wear just so I could get by without being bullied more at school. If you haven't already, you should look into Japanese street style! When I visited Japan last year, I was in awe of how well they styled baggy clothing and made it look so effortless and fashionable (and then of course adding their own unique touches). That's interesting how many directions your personal style took throughout the years! I think my personal style also developed far more when I reached my early 20s and had the budget and freedom to dress myself how I wanted to, I feel like for some of us that's when we feel most "at peace" to explore our style. Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for taking the time to watch the video! 🥰
I can personally attest to this. I fell in love with light blue letters on a cream white or light yellow background and later remembered that was how my Baby Book looked. I used to spend a long time looking at all my families old photo albums when I was young. I also just love anything nostalgic that takes me back. It makes it feel so special.
There's a lot to be said for nostalgia in style! I think in many ways, a return to childhood preferences/hobbies etc is a way of healing our inner child - teenage me had it the toughest and I'm glad I decided to return to what I like after leaving high school 💕
its amazing to see this video bc currently at 23 im recreating my wardrobe since i moved out and couldnt take a lot of stuff with me. and a lot of my purchases have been colorful bottoms, mainly shorts, and colorful graphic tees of cartoons i used to watch, colorful bags some even plushy bags, beaded jewelry or jewelry with cartoonish looking pendants, ankle bracelets... lmao. it is very much reminiscent of how i used to dress throughout the years before i turned 13. not to take this so literally, but i think you might really be onto something !!
Your style sounds so lovely! ❤ I can definitely relate to paying homage to childhood cartoons via graphic tees etc, I collect little anime and video game clothing articles and accessories whenever I can!
When I was a child I wore anything my parents didn't want to me to and 20 years later I wear what my parents, society and government don't want me to wear. Nothing changed, just evolved😈
I salute this attitude 🫡 coming from a country where everyone is expected to dress the same, it's definitely been interesting curating the more experimental and fun parts of my personal style throughout the years. I learned that unless I want to have a boring style forever, I'll never win society's favor anyways (not like it's really worth it)🤷🏼♀
Your video is very well made, congrats! What I can add from personal exp: In highschool I used to wear more masculine clothes to "feel strong". Maybe because internally I felt weak, didn't want to get emotionally hurt. So that reflected on my personal choice of clothes. This changed when I started my first long-term relationship where I felt appreciated and beautiful. Thus, I started feeling more feminine and this reflected on my clothes choice. Nowadays, I appreciate both my feminine and masculine side. Sometimes, choosing pretty clothes, other times a more androgenous look depending on how I feel during the day.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your experience! 💕 I can 100% attest to a person who makes us feel safe opening up the door to make us feel safe in other areas of our life too, like artistic self expression and fashion. I started re-discovering my feminine side around the time I met my partner and it was so important to have the support I needed to experiment and find myself. It's very interesting how who we surround ourselves with affects even our fashion choices
I agree so much with this video because I recently started allowing myself to like and wear the color pink again, which I avoided through all my teen years to not look „too girly“. I wanted to not be like the other girls so bad. But growing up is realizing being just like the other girls is actually a great thing. When I was a toddler my mum also had to hide my pink stuff because I would only want to wear those clothes. So this recent realisation of me going back to what my childhood me liked was really cool for me, because I really think there is a reason why you liked the stuff that you did as a child. Now I wanna follow that thought and put together a vision board with all of the characters and outfits I liked during my childhood like winx club and barbie and I can‘t wait to integrate this into my personal style amazing video! the effort you put into this was absolutely worth it 💗
Haha, that's so cute we both had our moms hide our clothes cuz we wouldn't stop wearing them! 🥹 Your vision board idea sounds really good! What has also helped me is making a "timeline" of my style and identifying at which points in my life I've felt the most "me" and then looking at what was it in my outfits back then that made my style feel right. Also - I'm so glad somebody finally mentioned Winx Club! I WAS OBSESSED with Winx club and I'm still waiting for an excuse to dress up as Bloom for Halloween one of these days (I would've absolutely rocked the fit with my long hair last year). Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment ❤
When I was little I looooved colourful clothing! My favorite piece was a bright yellow fleece jacket. But as a teenager I realized most people around me only wore neutrals(I am from Norway so think scandinavian style, very beige and neutral), and wanting to fit in I changed my style to the same. But now at 25 I barely own any neutrals again, only dressing in bright colours and things that give me joy! So I think you hit bullseye with this theory as it is exactly what I experienced too!💛
Hello fellow Nordic (I'm from Finland)! I feel like Nordic countries really struggle with wearing color unless it's in the form of accessories or part of a bigger brand identity like Marimekko 😅 I actually lived in Norwary for 9 months at one point, and it definitely felt the same as back home. Every time I travel back to Finland, I get weird stares because I often dress outside of the norm (even though I'm a minimalist at heart). 😂 I'm so used to it at this point, it doesn't really phase me - though Berlin took me off guard, but that's because I didn't know of the infamous "german stare", so I kept wondering if I had forgotten to zip my pants or something when in fact they just were regular staring lol.
when i was a child i wasn’t allowed to put together my own outfits because i was “bad” at color matching-my mom and sister would give me a choice between outfits they had put together. i’m in my late 20s now and still love to play with color, just with a better understanding of how palettes work lol. the other day i wore an outfit with four different colors in it and felt great!
Sounds like you're a color harmony master🥰 I recently made a video on color theory in fashion and it opened my eyes to the insane variety you can have in color palettes (and also how different it can look for minimalists and maximalists). Maybe there wasn't anything wrong with your color matching, maybe it just didn't feel "right" to others - color is also very personal, and what I may see as harmonious someone else might call too chaotic etc. I've just learned to take any and all fashion advice with a grain of salt~
My mother is a tomboy and my dad is an artist. I used to dress more tomboyish as a teenager and young 20 something. Now I gravitate toward quirky feminine and androgynous clothes.
Glad to hear about your interesting style evolution! What do you think prompted you to gravitate towards the more quirky and feminine aspects of your style (if you want to share)?
I was recently thinking about how my mom used to style my hair as a child, and I always thought it was so cute yet practical. I went to the salon and basically got the more adult version of that same hairstyle and I loved it! I'll probably do it again next time, my mom really had the right idea
Sometimes our moms are onto something! My mom cut my hair until I turned 18, hence the bangs - I went on and off with bangs, but basically had nothing but curtain bangs until last month, and now I'm loving this shorter straight cut bangs style again 🥰
when i was younger, i had to wear maroon, navy, white, and khaki clothes because i went to a charter school. they didnt allow patterns or graphics either. everyone looked the same and it was hard to find good clothes in those colors then i moved to public school in 7th grade. my outfits were lazy but eventually i started dressing better now i like more statement pieces and unique clothing. i have a pair of pants i painted a bunch of big eyes on and theyre my favorite. i also used to hate bugs but now i wanna make bug themed clothing
Sounds like perhaps you had a mini rebellious/release phase eventually, gravitating towards what you were restricted from when you were younger. Your bug comment is interesting haha, it's like a different phenomenon of the "liking the food I hated now as an adult" 😮
I love this video because it resonates a lot with me. My favorite things to wear are Victorian fantasy vibe dresses and accessories and that’s what little me was about
Your style sounds so beautiful!! Even though my style is more laid back, I've always been in awe of people who take time to curate a wardrobe that allows them to express themselves in more whimsical ways.
When my mom was a child her mom made her wear girly clothes and dresses and she hated it, so when she had me she tried to dress me like a tomboy so I wouldn’t experience the same thing, but I was such a girly girl! I remember her eventually giving up and letting me pick my own clothes (at like age 5) and I wore my princess Halloween costumes to school. I also remember it was a point of contention between my parents and I because we live in a colder climate and I wanted to wear skirts and dresses all the time. Today at 28 years old I’m still very hyper feminine with my fashion, I love pink and ruffles and lace and wearing ribbons in my hair~
I'm so happy to hear I wasn't the only one wearing princess dresses to school! Sounds like our styles are very similar 🤭 I think Finland definitely made it harder for me to wear the styles I wanted to wear, cuz it's cold most of the year there, so now that I live in a warmer climate I'm very happy to be able to dress the way I want without worrying about the weather 🥰 Pink ruffles, bows, and pretty dresses all the way 🎀
This has had me thinking a lot. I realized what wore to my own wedding at age 23 is a grown up version of what I wore when my aunt took me to the ballet around age 4.
That's so sweet, that must be an important and precious memory 💕 It's interesting, I think weddings definitely bring out some of that "what would've kid me wanted to wear", because a wedding dress is such a personal preference and key item in weddings.
This is so interesting, a unique and thoughtful video. I have been reflecting a lot on this myself lately. I grew up around people who had money and dressed in an elegant conservative way. I later got really into food growing and joined groups with lots of left wing and hippy gardeners who dressed the opposite. I'm now in my next chapter and I've been thinking what a big contrast those two worlds and styles are, and how I can maybe combine them into my own unique style. I still love the 'old money' aesthetic but my values are more aligned to community, collaboration, food growing and permaculture. It's an interesting challenge to create our own style.
That's such an interesting mix of worlds you've been immersed in! I'd say, go with what you feel like defines those values of yours - being comfortable and confident in expressing ourselves and our interests/values is a huge part of personal style, and it's important to look back and analyze "am I wearing this because I want to, or because society wants me to".
PLEASE do it, I've sorta done it for an upcoming video and it was really interesting to see at which points I felt like my style was most accurately "me" rather than what others wanted me to wear/what I wore because I was scared to dress in my own personal style. Looking back, it's been really helpful to me in understanding the core elements of my personal style.
I cried when I was 3 because my mom made me wear a kids sweatshirt and kids jeans to a football party. All I said as a kid before I was 6 was “I want to wear a pretty dress” and in between 6 and 20 I completely lost myself because body image and trying to fit in. I’m so happy to of regained my confidence and am now able to wear my feminine but mature clothes. I get to wear my pretty dresses 🥰
Sucks when you don’t get a choice in style 😅 growing up with hand-me-downs left me having to discover it in my 20’s. 18:10 definitely applies 😑 It’s fun though I have some good friends I go shopping with who help me find clothes I love and fit who I am 😎
I was a hand-me-down baby too! Luckily I think my parents realized early on that I was going to be very fussy about which parts of my sister's and brothers' clothes I'd want, and which I'd want to chuck away. And yeah, depression/anxiety in teenage years is some of the worst I've experienced, because I didn't even fully understand what was happening to me and didn't receive help. I'm glad you have a supportive friend group, it's honestly one of the few blessings I had growing up, hold onto those friends! 💕
Omg! Psychology AND Fashion? Two of my favorite topics already, BUT THEN YOU BRING VIDEO GAMES INTO IT TOO??? Instantly in love with this content haha.
I absolutely believe this! Growing up, I always wanted to wear dresses and skirts and hated sneakers. I also didn’t like graphic tees. I grew up in the 90s and early 2000s. It was hard to find outfits that I liked that my mom approved of. About 3 years ago, I officially gave up wearing pants and jeans. On dress down days, I wear a denim skirt with a nice top or a laid back dress.
So glad I'm not the only one who doesn't like jeans! ❤ I feel like apart from the times when you need to do a lot of heavy work like lifting or running, dresses are great, and they flow so prettily too~ I'd hate to just wear jeans. All of my pants these days are very comfy and stretchy, since I also like to tap into my indie style a lot. 😊
@@jemi_ if I wore pants, I would love jeans. The reason I don’t like pants is that they don’t flatter my body at all. I have an hourglass figure with a tiny waist with very wide hips and butt. Pants create a weird look from the side and back that I don’t like. Plus they don’t feel comfortable on me. I wear skorts when I work out. I have a classic style, so I like simple and understated looks.
@@theresaarnold8911 I actually have the same problem! 🫢 It's very difficult to find jeans that aren't too small around the hips and too big on the waist - I also have a lot of skorts (including for working out)! They're so much nicer and flowy~
this is very interesting. as someone who has borderline personality disorder, i really struggle with finding my own style because I kind of don’t have a sense of self. there’s things i like, but i struggle to find things that feel like ME because i don’t know me. i have clothing, but no wardrobe in a way. it’s all random and i handle it at best.
Sounds like it might be good to start with knowing yourself :) I just uploaded a video where I guide people on finding their style when they have no past style to reference or compare to, but also on what that entails - and yes, a big part of it is really finding and understanding yourself. I hope it helps, I'd be happy to help with anything else you want help with ❤️
I’ve definitely noticed my personal style developing into my version of what my Mom and Grama were wearing when I was five in the early 2000s. Those kinds of silhouettes but with way more color. I also value clothing I can wear for a long time, so I like certain patterns and more room so I can continue to grow into my clothes as time moves on. But god, show me a cute lil top with a denim skirt and I am PLEASED as a peach
Hahaha, I feel like we all have the "exception" items we'd jump the chance to wear! For me it's all the princess/fairy style dresses that are often too fancy for everyday wear. That's interesting that you've adapted your mom's and grandma's style to something you love to wear in the modern day!
I was a very girly girl in my style as a child in school in the 2000s; a lot of pink and "girly" colours. It started with hand-me-downs and a very "vintage" muted look as a baby/small child of the late 90s. But the girly clothing was more practical and chill aka not a lot of dresses. But I never felt 100% myself in these clothes because my interests were a mix of girly and boyish activities and never felt like I was a part of the girly girls at school. It sounds stupid now to divide it like this but it has always been built on stereotypes. Then from 12 and up I started choosing the clothing I wanted together with my mom, so the colours and styles became more of a clusterfuck; I switched between light, Brandy Melville esque clothing and dark, muted and "emo" clothing and everything in between those, keyword was muted colours, not any bright colors etc. because I didn't like to stand out with bright colors and was a shy/calm kid. Then had a super feminine phase in my early 20s were I rejected jeans and only wanted to wear vintage-esque trousers and long skirts with blouses etc. Safe to say at 25 I feel more myself now reverting back to the more casual, chill and tomboyish style with big sweaters, shirts and t-shirts (+ comfy jeans!!) but I also love wearing my long skirts, vintage trousers, hairbows and tighter tank tops/crop tops. Again key word is still muted earthy natural colours with whites and blacks as base, if I'm bold I reach out to dark red, light greens and muted blues, I never reach for super bright in your face colors at all and had to sell stuff I've bought for "trying" out new colors. As you said, I've taken the things I like the most from my exploration and now my style is a whole mishmash of different types of clothing which each taps into different aspects of my personality.
Thank you for sharing your style journey thus far! 💕 Sounds like you've found a way to bring "the best of both worlds" to your style! That's so wonderful that you know the key elements in your style and which styles match which aspects of your personality! 😊
Interesting and fun to think about. As a child, I hated anything frilly or too fussy because it prevented me from playing outside the way I wanted. As an adult, I still feel uncomfortable in anything like this. I also preferred the same dark/jewel tone colors that I currently wear.
That's so valid! Even small things like comfort, sensory factors, and what wearing a certain item entails for your expected behavior/how you can move about is very prominent in our personal styles. I personally can't wear heels unless they're low and block heeled and 99% of the time I don't wear heels at all because I walk everywhere I go. Some items just don't serve our lifestyles, even if they're pretty to us.
That sounds like such a cool style! If I had the money, I'd love to experiment with more fantasy themes, especially video game characters inspired looks!
The first favorite piece of clothing I ever remember having was a pair of blue denim overalls with Blue from Blue's Clues on the front. It was comfortable, androgynous, and fun! My preteen favorite was a denim jacket. I wore it _everywhere_ until I outgrew it as a young adult. As a teen, I acquired a quilted flannel jacket that was about a size too small for me --- it flattened my chest into androgyny, which made me feel good. Another favorite from that time was a boxy suit. I would put it on, tie my hair up in a peculiar way carefully engineered to look like a boy's haircut, and sing to my laptop camera (I was recording my own music videos for some of my favorite songs, and this was the look I chose for the "guy" character). Lastly, I had a bright red skirt with an elasticated waist that was just fully knife pleats all the way around. I didn't exactly wear it often, as I was coming to terms with the fact that she/her pronouns didn't feel _right_ to me and faltering in expressions that could be interpreted as feminine, as a result, but I loved it to death. When it gave up the ghost, I tried to use the fabric to make a replica for my dollar-store-Barbie "Fashion Doll." My religious mother had strict ideas about modesty and always pressured me to implement more dresses as casual wear, but to me, femininity was fancy, and dresses were for church. I like feeling pretty, but not every day. Dresses or skirts would have gotten in the way of my running, jumping, hiking, and climbing, anyway, and my idea of modesty is a lot looser than Mother's. As long as my curves aren't standing out and the coulours/patterns/cuts/combination of all of that aren't calling attention, I'm fine. Because of the religious environment I grew up in, my own interpretation of modesty is still a cornerstone of my personal style. I also still love denim, and I'm exploring how to style skirts and dresses in a way that still feels masculine, now that I've come to find that I enjoy wearing them, even though I still don't take too well to femininity except on special occasions.
I actually have a close friend with a similar journey to yours and they had a very tough time presenting masculine without their mother trying to get involved using pretty underhanded tricks and threats. It's very unfortunate how judgemental and cruel our closest family members can be to us. I'm so glad you still found your style and know what it is that you like and why. My friend loved shopping at Uniqlo because of how many androgynous styled clothes they could find (tbh they got me into uniqlo too haha). You might want to look into Japanese and Chinese street style for masculine skirt styling inspiration! I saw a lot of really cool ways people styled skirts masculinely in Japan! Tech wear inspiration (not necessarily as a style to claim as yours) is also awesome because of how edgy and androgynous it can be :)
I loved your video. Now at 19 going on 20 soon, im finally getting into what I really love to wear. I grew up in a family who love the western farm style, my mom and sister both have similar styles. So growing up i was pushed into that style. It didnt help that i was surrounded my Agriculture kids in middle school and high school. The girls in this group are all tomboys for the most part. So to fit in i basically wore tshirts and jeans every day. The catch is, as a kid I was obsessed with Ever after high and monster high. I loved everything about it down to their outfits. I wanted to dress like them but i couldn't. Whenever i went shopping with my mom i would pretend to like the things she picked out. Im a people pleaser so i was just happy that my mom was happy. When covid came around my style was non existent, i didnt go to school so there was no reason to dress up. Its almost like i had to find myself again after that. I finally started exploring in my senior year of high school what i liked. I still didn't go full force and tried to get things my mom and i both liked, especially for my senior pictures. Looking back at those i can confidently say that was not me in those pictures. I dont know how to describe my style today but it is kinda chaos core pink girly gothic if that makes sense lol. My mom and sister think my developing style is weird but i dont care, its my style and it is what I've always wanted to wear since i was a monster high obsessed child.
There are so many monster high fans in this comments section! 😮 I'm a big people pleaser too haha, I eventually found a way to gently reject my mom's offer to buy clothes in her preferred style, and instead started showing her how I preferred to dress (honestly, it was a long process). Your style sounds so cool to me, I hope you can keep your positive mindset about it despite what anyone else says! Life is short, we're not on this earth to people please 🥱
Looking back at old photos of my childhood back in the late 2000s, I can see so much of a resemblance between my current style and my kid self's style, specifically the very 90s way of dressing with a baggy button-up shirt, baggy jeans, graphic tee, and sneakers Even now, as an adult, the clothes I thrift still lean heavily into this 90s/2000s style of dress, along with some preppy elements mixed in due to wearing uniforms at school for most of my childhood. I will say, dreaming of the fashion from my childhood TV shows have also influenced my tastes a lot more than I'd realized XD
Same for me! I'm still very much drawn to what people wore when I was young, though the 2000s fashion doesn't interest me personally. And I know right, I think all the content I consumed as a kid definitely influenced the more whimsical/magical parts of my style!
Thoughtfully written, intriguing, insightful and intersectional. Love this video. Especially fun through the lens of transgender experience. It's so nice to hear someone else articulate the "loving a dress" feeling.
Thank you so much and thank you for sharing your viewpoint! ❤Yessss, the first "omg i love dresses" feel is the most bizarre and wonderful feeling I've had - a real "lightbulb switched on" moment for me.
I love the psychological focus of this video and that you talked about your own style evolution as an example. You’ve inspired me to ask my mom about my childhood fashion to reconnect with my inner child! I can relate to learning to hide yourself in adolescence. I have a theory that the 20 year trend cycles are kind of affected by this generational rite of passage-I feel like current trends now that I’m in my 20s are kind of reliving the aesthetics I looked up to in teens when I was a kid, and now we have the personal freedom to choose them ourselves :)
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the video and share your experience! 💕And yes, trends definitely cycle with generations (e.g. what's vintage to us is for our grandparents simply what they used to wear when they were younger). It's very interesting to see clothes from my childhood resurface, and in some ways I've been grateful because kid me could've never afforded the cute late 90s attire I loved.
I'm Intrigued on how accurate this is! In kindergarden I wore princessgowns and then again dressed up as a pirate with a beard for carnival. Today I'm a 30 years old bigender person who is part of the gothic subculture and likes to dress either romantically and dramatically feminine or as a male vampire or pirate. Your theory explains everything! 🎉
I just turned 29 and recently made the decision to stop putting up with uncomfortable clothes. I saw a youTube video a mom made about the capsule wardrobe her toddler would be wearing for the season and everything looked cute and comfortable and I took inspiration for my own wardrobe. I now pretty much only wear comfy cotton leggings with a T-shirt or sweatshirt. Anything with cats on it gets bonus points. It's very basic but I feel better about my style now that I've kind of "given up" having a style.
Yay, join the crew, cuz I can't tolerate uncomfy clothes any longer either! I'm not gonna lie, I also have a collection of cat t-shirts...🫢 There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a "basic" style - if it works for you and makes you feel good, it's all that matters. Life's too short for us to feel uncomfortable in our clothes, and most modern clothes are made in a way that make them look ill-fitting and feel uncomfortable on most body types anyways 🤷🏼♀ I guess that's why I've often preferred vintage/thrifted.
I resonate with this so much. When I was a child, I imagined myself as a fairy. Nowadays, I still gravitate towards fairylike, airy, mystical clothing. Especially flared sleeves and pants/skirts. Edit: Also.... Hi to fellow finn! 💙🤍
I haven't finished watching the video yet but I have been thinking about Majora's Mask so much lately and was not expecting you to reference it in this video. I got so excited when you did!!
This was such an interesting video! I’m so glad you showed up on my page! I don’t remember much about what I wore when I was little, but I’ve always been a creative soul. Ever since I was young I’ve loved any type of creative hobby (clay, painting, craft kits etc.) and it’s always been the one personality trait that’s stuck. I also love the fantasy genre in general so I read as much fantasy as I could! Fast forward to present day and I love being creative with my style. Currently I’m exploring the “whimsi-goth” aesthetic while keeping to my personal color palette I love (olive green, dark teal, bright orange, and purples). I want little kids to look at my outfit and think I just stepped out of a magical book series!🥰
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and share your experience! ❤ I've seen so many beautiful personal styles stem from whimsi-goth, I think it can serve as a good "intro" in guiding yourself to your personal style (many subcultures/aesthetics actually can be helpful in this way, because they let you identify some of the basics of your style and what it can look like in different formats). I see we both love the idea of kids seeing us in that fantasy light 🥹💕 My niece once said I look like a fairy and I have held that comment so close to my heart🧚🏻
Ik you posted this a while ago but what an interesting topic! Im a guy who loves fashion. I used to love dressup and had this bat costume my mum made that I was obsessed with. Now I dress kind of gothy and completely love it...finally at the grand old age of 27, didn't really have the courage before & it's still a process. But black and white is my favoruite, colours make me feel horrible and fake. So glad I finally ditched them. A relation is genderfluid and is discovering what he likes wearing in femme clothing at 22. It's a process, and people definitely express their personal style only if they feel safe to do so in my experience!
I know the feeling of slowwwly but surely coming out of your shell with your style, I still am (partly also cuz I can't afford the style I want lol). I'm glad you've found what makes you feel like you and that you're around people who support that! Yeah it's very difficult to dress the way you want if you feel unsafe to do so in your immediate circle - I think moving out of Finland definitely helped me learn to love my style and express myself more confidently.
aivan ihana video ❤ I've had quite a similar style journey, I was a little fairy princess too, but started dressing darker and more androgynous in primary school due to my emotionally neglectful parents not really allowing me to act like a kid. I also hit puberty early, so I did my best to hide my curves. Generally, I just didn't want to be perceived by anyone. after a decade of suppressing and forgetting about that girly side of me, I got into fashion again. But for a few years it just felt like something was missing. It wasn't until I had a major breakthrough in therapy and I rediscovered that inner fashionista child, (along with other, separeted parts of my conscience) that it clicked for me! Now I've been experimenting more with those girly styles I've always liked and it has just brought me so much joy ❤ of course to dress in this authentic style has been a bit daunting, especially since I live in a small, religious town in Finland, but I find that expressing my true self is more important to me now than to go under the radar 😌
Kiitos paljon! 💕 I can relate to the "hiding curves at a young age" feeling 😭 I can definitely relate with finding what you loved as a kid and translating it to the present day, it really is fulfilling in such a meaningful and deep way 💕 I had to go through the whole "everyone's staring at me cuz I'm dressed differently" thing too haha, I still do nearly every time I go back to visit family 😅 I just assume they think I look cool.
As the only girl, and youngest, of seven children I wore all my brothers hand-me-down jeans and shirts. Unless my mother wanted to dress me up as a girly doll - which I hated! To this day I love wearing turtleneck sweaters, pants (dressy or casual and jeans) and sneakers or boots. I own exactly three dresses and two skirts and they have a 60s vibe (I was born in 1963). My favorite colors are blue (sky to navy), grey, red, burgundy, black and white. I've had my style described as grim elegance. I see it as comfortable minimalism. I can put it on, not have to fuss with it and its appropriate for the occasion.
When I was a child, I liked glitter, bright colours, sequins, and silly shirts. Now I wear earth tones, and have a very goblincore style. When my mother tried to dress me all cute cottage-y, I would protest.
Hahaha, the polar opposite protest of mine! My mom couldn't stop me from wearing my dresses and skirts. Very interesting how opinionated a small child can be.
Love the information you’re sharing here! I am on a style journey right now, curating a wardrobe that really feels authentic to me. Used to wear a lot of goth/edgy stuff as a kid, but I realized that what I really like is highly detailed and fitted clothing and not necessarily being edgy or dark. :)
That's so cool that you were able to make that distinction! I think that's why substyles are important, but often work more as guides that push us in the right direction with regards to our personal style - I like some of the elements in Lolita fashion for example, but I wouldn't necessarily feel comfortable dressing in a lolita style, but rather in just a very feminine, "i like my pretty dresses" kind of style - I'm still figuring out what that all looks like for me though, since curating that type of wardrobe is pretty expensive 🥲
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When I was young I would dress my Barbie in only black sheer lace tights, no top no shoes- she didn't need it to clutter the look! She was it in those tights! I still feel most myself in black tights and boots- funny how that physical connection to the child-you becomes this psychological gateway to a deeper part of your self/personality. So nice to hear your thoughts on this topic :)
I'm noticing so many interesting item-specific links in the comments like yours! It's very interesting how childhood play reveals a lot about our preferences - I for one, would consistently wear my little Maid Marian veil and act like some dreamy elegant princess haha - funny how aspects of that play are still prominent in my current style because I never fell out of love with the romantic/elegant/dreamy things about life😊
I love this!! It’s what I needed when I became interested in personal style! I spent so long looking for a missing piece, I thought I needed a unique individual part to personal style like people often explain it as. But when I visited my home country I realised I feel more myself in the basic styles there even though I was a kid when I left. That was it 🤷🏼♀️ The other parts of my style are things I loved as a small child or reactions against parental/religious control. I was a tomboy as a reaction to femininity being forced on me as a girl, but I later had a hyperfeminine phase as a reaction against purity culture. Now it’s a mix of all that! Also I’m so sorry ped0s harassed you too, it sounds traumatic. I was first targeted for my red hair as a literal baby 🤢 It was worst from preteen-early 20s though. Everyone I’ve asked about it was catcalled more as a kid/teen than as an adult! So so gross. And as a girl boys your own age or older are a problem too 😞 Girlhood shouldn’t have to be traumatic!
So happy to hear you're on this journey! This is why I always want to emphasize that personal style looks incredibly different to each person. Basic or relaxed styles do not equate to lazy or undeserving of being called your personal style. I see we both went through a similar journey with the religious control factored into fashion! That's a good point you raise about hyperfemininity reacting against purity culture - I think that actually helps partly explain how and why I also turned to hyperfeminine clothes (and now a mishmash of different vibes). The longer I read your comment, the more relatable it becomes, because I had flaming red hair as a baby too! And yes, catcalling was waaaayyy worse for me when I was a literal child and teen, it reduced significantly when I reached my mid 20s, but even now they're still not fully gone 🤢 Agh yeah, I stayed far away from boys my age when I was young, I always felt like they were years behind me in maturity and decency haha. It's a shame us women have to go through literal trauma as children because we're brought up in a world that caters to men (I did want to talk about it, but it's such a triggering topic that I had to scrap it in the end. If you want to read about related topics more, I have the links in my sources) 😞
@@jemi_ Yes that felt so clear from your video! I related a lot to what you said, it made my own childhood influences clearer to me. I’m so glad to be out of that controlling environment and I hope you’ve left too!! They said I’d understand one day but I can’t imagine caring what children wear 😭 As long as they don’t burn, overheat or freeze and can move freely. Same for anyone! It’s not my business and I don’t want it to be Red hair is an experience 😅 Yes that’s understandable! Tysm for saying what you did, it’s not easy and posting it online seems even harder. It reduced mid 20s for me too. Hahaha boys really were behind 🤣 You were wise!! Tbh in some ways I related to them as a tomboy and autistic/adhd girl. Apparently autistic girls and neurotypical boys develop socially at a similar pace, imo their difficulty is upbringing. But the moral contrast was huge 😬 And I wasn’t exactly taught to be nice! Where do they get it from?? Knowing answers doesn’t make me understand…
@@EmL-kg5gn Oh yeah, I agree with you, I couldn't imagine trying to control my kids' style (if I have any in the future) - it's such a personal thing, why would I want control over something completely unique to them that helps them express themselves? I think there's a fine line between protecting a child from p3dos and taking full control of something that ultimately should be part of their decision making procoess and artistic expression (same goes for hobbies etc, if your kid wants to draw, let them). I also hung out with boys as friends....until they'd develop crushes on me and I'd always find out the friendship wasn't authentic and they always wanted more🥲 I eventually got sick of it haha, it's only after I was already "off the market" that I could have manageable friendships with guys, but some of them still made it weirddd. That's so interesting about neurotypical development, I didn't know that! I wish I knew why boys act so differently from girls, but I think a lot of it boils down to being raised in patriarchal systems - unless boys are made very aware of the advantage they have by being born male, they'll take it for granted and leverage it to their advantage. I hope I can talk about these issues more some day, I would just need to be very careful with my phrasing and approach to the topic.
@@jemi_ I agree it’s so creative and personal, and when they’re first old enough to want to dress themselves it’s a big step for their independence too! That’s the worst! That’s what stopped me having guy friends too, it can be so hurtful. One of my guy friends had a crush on me as a teenager, when we were older he said he’d gotten over it and we became friends again. Years later I found out he hadn’t and was just hoping I’d change my mind!! I couldn’t believe he was lying the whole time we were friends… So I asked him if he’d ever be able to just see me as a friend, he was at least honest that time and said he wouldn’t so we don’t talk anymore Yes, it’s learnt so young too. Tbh I think objectification is so literal that their consciences don’t even function when they interact with us. It’s tricky to discuss! Especially online when your audience can come from completely different backgrounds. It’s so sensitive and I imagine you’d really want to do your research too
@@EmL-kg5gn Aghhh I'm so sorry to hear that about your guy friend D: I had a guy friend who wouldn't take no for an answer for TEN YEARS until he eventually fell in love with someone else (and that girl hated me because of his previous affection for me so he instantly cut me out of his life). It feels so deceptive and I personally can't begin to understand why you wouldn't simply respect someone's decision to remain friends instead of trying to pressure or wait for them to change their minds 🙄 I've lost too many friends that way. And yeah, I've definitely noticed how the objectification of women really is so common for boys from a young age, that they often don't think about how it makes us feel - I feel like the only time I can get a slight hint of sympathy is when I bring up their own mothers/daughters/siblings - otherwise they don't seem to recognize empathy or the personification of the person in front of them. Yeah there's so many topics I'd want to discuss, but most of them feel like walking in a mine field - it could blow up from any minor mistake or lack of research, which is why I'm glad to be able to at least have these discussions in the comments 🥲
I think my favourite outfits as a kid were sportswear and sneakers. Anything that was comfortable and I didn't have to worry about "ruining" or sullying, anything that allowed me free movement and exploration. Years later and I'm buying oversized t-shirts and sweatshirts from the men's section because COMFY and COOL. So I guess there's something to your theory 😅
I think a lot of us gravitate towards what we define as comfortable for ourselves :) I don't dress like a tomboy anymore, but I still love to have most of my t-shirts oversized/a size or two bigger than my actual size.
Thanks so much! I consider myself bilingual, english actually has been my emotional language, but I grew up learning english in a non-english speaking country, so some of my pronunciation is sometimes off.
It’s funny; when I was little, I was the stereotypical little girl who love pink and I played with Barbie dolls. I wore dresses & skirts with yellow, orange, green and blue ascents. Around the time I turned 12, I became more tomboy I guess; I started wearing my brother’s hand me downs, graphic tees and jeans. When I watched WWE, Jeff Hardy was my favourite wrestler and he wore a lot of purple, he’s the reason I wanted to dye my hair that colour, so to this day purple is still my favourite colour! Around 20 years old, I wanted to wear more feminine clothes again but didn’t know how, and I still liked my tomboy style. A big style inspiration for me is Barbara Dunkelman, she can go from pretty fairy girlie girl one minute and then cool effortless skater the next. At first I tried to fully emulate her look but realised that some stuff didn’t personally work for me (like she wore a lot of florals, but I switched that out for tie dye, which I’ve always loved anyway). Now (30) my style is like a mix of all of it; all colours of the rainbow, which I loved as a kid. Pink is now more of an ascent instead of the main colour (I turned my nose up at it as a tomboy but now I like it again lol), I wear dresses and skirts with lighter colours/tie dye in summer, and more of my rock/metal style in winter/going to gigs: band tees, jeans, boots, leather jackets etc. So I’d say for the last 10 years, I’ve had a consistent style and still have a lot of the same clothes lmao.
I love this style evolution of yours! It's so interesting how so many of us had a tomboy phase in our teens, I'm honestly baffled at how universal that experience is 🫢 That's so good that you were able to take inspiration from Dunkelman's style and transform it into something unique of yours 💕
From my cute 90s cloud set and butterflies, hello kitty and Dragon Ball Z, cow girl boots to abandoning jeans cause tight around my knees...... I've kept and taking those aesthetics with me through graphic tees and stickers when journaling and being creative. It what adds and helps with my curious creativity. More princess and cool anime 2D males; balance of view points and perspectives coming together. Rambly, but as overjoyed and chaotic, I feel with a lot of words of what I love and thrive in.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💕So glad to hear you've found ways to incorporate aspects of your childhood preferences into your current style and lifestyle! I've definitely noticed my romantic aspects flourish in journaling, which has been so refreshing recently. Funny how these things circle back to us time and time again 😊
when i was in 1-2 grade of school i discovered that you can wear shorts and big t-shirts. im turning 24 this year. still a big fan of wearing shorts and big t-shirts... it something about the proportions idkkkk i also had an interest in dark-red aesthetic, goth, emo, edgy thingies since young age. when i was 2011-2013 i was attracted to fashion of scene kids, "tumblr goth" posts. then in 2015 i discovered MCR. needless to say, i mostly wear red and black now, i really enjoy that having tats, gauges and dyed hair is more acceptable, more mainstream now.
No, I 100% get you, because I also love the oversized shirt + shorts combo so much. I wasn't a scene kid myself, but I remember the unnecessary hate they got for their style when I was younger :( I'm just glad fashion is considered to be more of an individualistic thing now (as it should be) and a form of self expression rather than just a tool to further conform to society.
My mom forced girly and sexy clothes on me when I was a kid (barf) and to this day I still can't touch hyper feminine clothes and anything showy is just a struggle. I make my inner child happy by just forgetting about those and focusing on what makes me feel confortable ♥️
I'm so sorry about your mom's approach on how to dress you as a kid! 😞 Happy to hear you're now listening to your inner child and what feels good and true to you, rather than catering to what your mom wanted ❤
Ive noticed something similar recently! I have slowly been coming back to favorite colours i liked when i was younger aswell as dressing in the way which was trendy back then and which i wanted to wear but i was too young to dress like that bcs my mum would dress me obv.
I've definitely noticed a decade-specific return to style in outfits! In my case, I like to integrate parts of 90s style to my outfits because of the darker, romantic and minimalist outfits in the 90s (especially with the dresses) 🥰 I wonder just how much our styles would change if we had complete knowledge of it and an unlimited budget to curate the right wardrobe for us.
Really nice video. I agree with it, when I was 5 or 6 I waz absolutely in love with pink bell bottoms and a flowy floral blue top with long sleeves, that was my favorite outfit I would surely wear today ❤
This sounds like an outfit from Winx Club (in the best way possible)! 💕 Sounds so cute~ I wish it were easier to find adult versions of what we wore as kids, I'd love to re-wear some of my clothes.
I grew up in an “underground”/street/ hippop rap environment, lets say and I love wearing boys’ things, hats and oversized stuff, but lately I started wearing what I loved when I was very little and its all very girly, pink and full of skirts and Im actually so happy and confident with myself.
I got a colorblock windbreaker that looks much like the one I had as a little kid in the ‘80s, I love a good windbreaker foe a crisp late summer/early autumn day
my partner is obsessed with 80s-90s windbreakers, so we also have a lot of those in the house haha. I love the 80s style a lot because it reminds me of my late grandpa (who was also into colorful and funky patterned windbreakers)💕
@@jemi_ aw! Cool how we get inspiration from loved ones. My mom also dressed me in a girly style with lots of ruffles etc, and I still prefer a femme style now. Whenever I look at my childhood photos, I often think “I wish I had that in my size now” since there were so many fun looks in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s. I had this denim purse that I messed up from this highlighter pen that got uncapped and bled. That was when I was about 7. Now I’m over 40 and I found the same purse (never used, tags on) on eBay-still so cute!
@@malvavisco10 Agh, I feel you on the "I wish I had that in my size now", if I could get adult versions of my childhood clothes I'd be a very happy woman indeed! So glad you found the same purse in the end! I'm definitely still keeping a look out for specific purses I've loved (I've especially had my eye on the sequin shell handbags, I have one in pink, but I'd love to find a bigger one in navy blue) since I was young, and hopefully I can slowly keep curating more pieces that really feel like that princess-like version of me that I love 💕 It's just expensive so it'll take some time lol
this got recommended to me at a wierdly specific but needed time. I always had an idea of how I wanted to look (femme fatale/streetwear with hints of androgyny). When i was younger, whenever I steered too far away from the look ppl expected by cropping my shirts or wearing tighter clothing when I was young nearly everybody would try to police my self expression so I never put into much thought into how I would look at the time until recently when I started thinking about my presentation.
Please tell me you've watched "Charlie's Angels" and "Mr and Mrs Smith"! They're one of the many good sources of style inspo for the femme fatale look (and also some korean edgy street styles)! And I feel you, I always had kids at school try to make fun of me when I steered towards what felt more like my style, it's very hard to be true to yourself in a society that tells you to conform. I have a more in-depth guide on personal style coming up that tackles those issues though! 🥰
As a linguist and language teacher, I've been trying to identify your native language for the entire video, but I just can't identify it - English not being my first language either. Have you revealed it in another video? This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I think you have a point. I've definitely had certain tendencies in my personal style since my early childhood.
"copy-paste" in the best way possible, your mom's and your style sounds so cool! I love watching late 90s runway videos, the fashion of the time was so elegant, but cool at the same time, I don't think we've ever quite re-captured that essence as a society.
7:54 this was pretty much me, though im pretty sure i didnt hate being girly, as i also liked typically "girl" things like barbie, my little pony and so on. pink, purple, blue was my favourite colour scheme and early 2010s galaxy aesthetics. though, my mom went through a deep depression and later passed away before i was ten, so my style (and interests) shifted more androgynous or boyish as i grew more accustomed to male role models, since she wasnt there to influence my style. paired with this a (completely valid) fear of being sexually harassed + insecurities going through puberty, and i covered up much more and stopped wearing skirts in public. my personal style is adopted more from my role models when i was 13-15 (BTS members to be exact). the only thing i can attribute to my younger self are my love for graphic tees with cute characters on them. just little guys :))) my gender is androgynous and genderfluid because i link my gender heavily to my visual expression/style. my girly/kid side is still within me and i dont mind dressing up feminine here and there, but i still only feel comfortable doing it in private or in cosplay (when in public). physical comfort is a huge thing for me and feminine jeans are almost all high waisted but its soo uncomfortable that i cant leave the house i feel like for some gender diverse people, especially non binary, its more likely their exploration of gender that explains their style better, instead of just what they liked to wear most as a 5 year old. though i acknowledge trans people do tend to have strong preferences as a child too, so in that case this theory makes sense for them
Thank you for sharing your story 💕 I love BTS so much, been a fan since 2013! There are some other genderfluid/gener diverse people in the comments who have voiced similar thoughts about their style and style identity - Linking to what I mentioned about us also wanting to create a style that portrays the "ideal self", it makes a lot of sense that the exploration of gender heavily affects one's own fashion choices as well. After all, we're showcasing parts of our identity (or the identity we wish to have) to the world.
I feel that our early choices in clothing do affect the style we choose now, although I was really surprised that it can start from such a young age of three or four years old. It must be true for some of my early childhood friends (one of which, in fact, could even notice that my mom had bought a new pair of boots). But I can't relate myself: I couldn't care less about the clothes being put on me until 10 or 11 yo, whether it was my brothers' clothes they had outgrown, something new and fashionable my mom was proud of buying for me or a funky present from my parents' friend who was a professional seamstress (the only thing I recall from my primary school is a handsewn leather sundress, because nobody cared whether it was stained badly or not - it could be cleaned with a rag or a couple of wet wipes). The problem of finding the clothing I actually like started muuuuuch later, but it still affects what I prefer to wear now.
Do you think there was perhaps an environmental factor (family/school/climate etc) that affected how you viewed clothes up until 10/11 years old? I think style is so individualistic that it develops very differently and at a different pace for everyone. I have some family members who to this day don't have very strong preferences in their clothes (other than comfort and functionality), but know more or less what it is they need from fashion to go on about their daily lives.
@jemi_ the attention deficit factor could be the one. Counts for family/genetics, maybe Surprisingly, the lack of normal clothing for plus-sized pre-teens and teenagers has actually influenced my style. When almost everything over size medium was either too small or too ugly (probably made for someone at least middle-aged and color blind as well), I finally got some thoughts on what I'd actually like to wear instead. And that it would probably be a good idea to search in that direction.
my style is very much all over the place - i find it really hard to combine classic punk, whimsical fairytale, and earthy vintage/folk, while still feeling my best in modern practical basics...
This is not necessarily a bad thing, you just know your interests well! This is an older video I made where I talk about mixing styles/aesthetics, but maybe it'll help you come up with some styling ideas if you want to combine those styles together! th-cam.com/video/EBMHAO_RLtc/w-d-xo.html
I had absolutely no interest in style or clothes as a child. I would wear whatever mum prepared for me. I still have absolutely no style or interest in fashion today. I must force myself to start caring about those things because its important in the society. its so annoying and overwhelming, though. I dont understand why people care about clothes so much. The idea that some people show genuine natural interest in clothes so early in childhood is really strange to me. Ive always thought that fashion is something that is forced on girls in puberty by social pressure.
In some ways I believe that not having a distinct or set style is also your personal style :) I have some close friends who don't care what they wear, as long as it's comfortable, and they express themselves in other ways, such as their hobbies or other artistic pursuits, but their style is just whatever they happen to put on. To me, fashion is an art form and a great tool for self expression - I've been both into film and fashion since I was young, and those were the two things I always felt unparalleled joy in doing, and maybe that's why I'm a fashion content creator haha. You're definitely not wrong though about fashion being forced on girls though, but personally I've chosen to own it and take control of it rather than let society dictate how I should dress all the time.
@@jemi_ I think it's really lovely when it's easy and joyful for you to dress nicely! 😊 It's a huge advantage in society. People treat you better and they're nicer to people who look well. I know because there's a shocking difference how people look and smile at me when I'm dressed better than usual. The issue is that I'm autistic and I've never been taught how to do it, never had a feminine role model in my life. Plus, I've always been fat despite basically constant dieting and working with nutritionists etc 😂 Now I'm on the quest to study the rules for how to dress so that it hopefully helps me be seen more feminine.
@@vevepriezviskova6909 It's an advantage until you dress differently from everyone else and it's frowned upon (I grew up in Finland where looking even a bit different from the rest of the crowd will get you a lot of hate)! I hope you can also do what is most comfortable and best for you even if you're pursuing these goals for career/societal purposes - maybe outside of those social settings you can dress according to what aligns more with what you feel comfortable in 💕
as I remember, I didn't have very much shaped preferences as a child, I had some colors I liked more, though we bought new things very rare, they were perceived as espensive, and I think that shopping might have been something not very casual are "suited for me". and a lot of clothing I had didn't connect with if I viewed them as nice, they were just to put something on, second hand, maybe mum chose most of them? or I got as a gift from people? I happen to think sometimes that some of our clothing preferences may be connected with what our mothers used to wear, for me, I think I happen to have some connections with some things similar to some of hers.
Financial habits/background + what your parents prefer and how they introduce fashion to you definitely affect your style and I'll actually be talking about it more in depth in an upcoming video! I definitely have some similarities with my mom's style and she often gave me her hand-me-downs as I grew up.
When I was a child I was usually dressed in hand me downs from my oldest cousin, which were often cute clothes. As a teenager, I discovered flared jeans and never went back (everyone else moved to skinny jeans but I never did) and now I mostly wear flared skirts and hoodies. I need a bit of volume at the legs, but now I'm ready to look eccentric while doing it :D
I love the sound of your style! I've really been getting into wide leg and flared pants recently, I think the super long and wide jeans from the early 2000s had me convinced I'd never want to try it again, but I found some pants in non-denim material that are flared/wide leg and I think they fit me really well 😊 I'm currently searching for the Japanese-style super wide leg and baggy pants, I don't know what they're called, but they look so comfy and cool to me.
Ive started dressing like middle-school me could have only dreamed of. Lindsay Lohan, Hillary Duff, and Miley Cyrus were my icons, and ive found myself, at 23, drawn to these silhouettes. Baggy pants, tight tops, layering and lots of accessories. I think what's matured is the color pallete. I prefer colors like red, grey, black, navy blue, white. Cool Neutrals with jewel tones, very much a grunge color palette. And I know exactly where it came from. I grew up listening to a lot of classic rock, heavy metal, and music on that vein because of my dad. I've always been a loud, bold, experimental fashionista. I am so happy i get to dress like one now 🥹
So happy for you! It's very interesting to discover what our style was inspired by and what it has evolved into in present day. I definitely think it's an incredibly fulfilling thing to have in our lives 💕
Hey, Jemy! Another Robin Hood lover here! He was my first one and true love hehe 😅 I also have managed to keep dressing up kinda fairy princess in my adult life. Love your video!
So glad I'm not the only one who was obsessed! 😂 My mom won't stop reminding me that 3 year old me would walk around the house with a veil on my head asking for my Robin Hood to come save me 😅
My personal style as a kid: I actually don't remember. As a preteen/ teen: Resorted to mostly comfy clothing to cope with a foster care situation, though I did resort to wearing dresses all the time to hide myself from family; teen years was influenced by Disney Channel with a bit of internet trauma. As an adult to this day: Comfy clothing, but exploring androgynous outfits. Found a few good ones I'd wear again.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! It sounds like comfort is one of the most important things to you (which I agree with, my clothes HAVE to be comfy)! 😊
i never thought about how childhood can effect your style! i always dressed girly and very feminine and this year started getting into vintage. my parents are older and i grew up watching old tv your pictures look so pretty they remind me of flickr in 2011 but what is this 18:14 is that a fire hydrant
Oooooh is there a specific decade you're focusing on, or just vintage in general? I've loved vintage fashion for so long, I love hearing what other people are drawn to in that aspect 💕And the bug bulky red object in the picture is actually a mailbox (it was taken in London, the vintage mailboxes and other old objects are still pretty common around there)
As a little kid like five all the way up to ten I didn’t choose what I wore I had major sensory issues (I’m autistic) as a child so my grandma would pick my pre approved outfits out for me. But as I got older i still didn’t get to choose what I wanted to wear because I moved schools and my new school had uniforms and i resented the hell out of it so i started to modify my clothes within the schools dress code. Safe to say my style today is very dark gothic and as non conformist as I can get.
Huge props to your grandma helping you out ❤Agh, tell me about the sensory issues! There are certain materials I haaaate even touching. I also discovered I'm allergic to pure wool and it's one of the best warm fabrics you can wear in a cold country like Finland....so my mom made me wear wool clothes until I swore to her they made me itch like crazy. 🥲 Glad to hear you're staying true to yourself now (as you should!)💕
Im really socially anxious + reserved, kinda a people pleaser and im called nice by people i know but im a Metalhead + guitarist and i like to dress up in a alternative kinda style (black, leather, chains, Spikes, bullet belts, big heels/boots, band merch, etc.) and I guess it could come off as intimidating to people the 'don't mess with me' kinda vibe which is kinda the message i wanna give since i also have a trouble time standing up for myself so whenever i wear that i feel like i can step into a more assertive persona but people get surprised with how nice i really am once they meet me During childhood it used to be bright colors, lots of rainbows and what not but my favorite show was my little pony and my favorite character (i was obsessed with) was rainbow dash who was always the cool, badass, outgoing, cocky, sporty character and Little me based my style off of her and pretended to be like her even tho my personality was and still is the opposite
That's so interesting how there's a split between your ideal self and identity-focused self! I have a few friends who'd dress up goth or punk and look intimidating from the outside but would be the sweetest people I've ever met, and I think it's just one of those things where your ideal self helps protect you, since it is the first thing people will see in you and associate with you. Some people assume I'm very chatty and bubbly when I dress in all pink and ruffles, but I'm an ambivert so that "bubbly" part of my personality doesn't get revealed to most people. My ideal self is both confident and kind, which is why I have three very distinct "styles within a style". I think a lot of it comes down to which part of you you want to reveal to the world or feel most comfortable in when in public - I'd dress like a cute fairy everyday if I wasn't going to classes haha🧚🏻
Ahhh thank you so much for taking the time and effort to consider watching! 🥰 I love beepworld's videos~ I'm curious about what you're crocheting hehe, I just started my very first crochet project! ❤
In a sense, I see where you derive your point and agree, but, and I guess this is maybe more of a personal style evolution thing, but, personally, at age 45...across ALL aesthetic areas of my life at the moment the expression of my style has done a 180* turn(at least internally...now its just a matter of time, money, and design work to manifest it outwradly) from very traditionally romantic goth drowning in macabre ornate details to a VERY stream lined, clean, sleek and Thoroughly modern, even futuristic expression of goth. Still dark, still moody, still luxuriously sensual, still a bit romantic, still quite "formal" or "dressy"....just through a modern lens
Sounds like you ventured into a new aspect of goth in your personal style! Could this maybe be what I mentioned briefly in the beginning, discovering something new along the way that fits your personal style even better than what you had up to that point? I'm also noticing a bit of a 180 degree turn in my style recently, but more along the concept of showing skin vs not, and I think the biggest factors for that change were 1. my trip to Japan (exposure to Japanese conservative/relaxed street style, which I fell in love with) 2. a change in my environment and lifestyle - going from the heart of NYC to a small-ish city and returning to retail work definitely affected what I can/want to wear every day. All this to say, I think our formative years shape who we become initially, and as we evolve and discover more experiences etc, our style evolves too. But those little things like, in your case, the romantic/moody aspects carried along to the next version of you :)
I didn't get to choose my clothing till I was older, around 14 is when I really got the chance to explore fashion. Hot Topic was a discovery. I love gothic and dark clothing of all types. I wonder where I got that from? Maybe all the witchy content from the 90's/00's. I'm in my mid 30s
Was Buffy The Vampire Slayer or Sabrina The Teenage Witch perhaps part of the media you were consuming? 👀 I never saw much of the 90s witchy tv because it wasn't broadcast to Finland, but a lot of the movies I watched were fantasy/fairy/princess themed (I remember OBSESSING over secret garden especially), so that checks out for a big chunk of my style ☺
man i wish i had photos of when i was young so i could see what i wore. i only vaguely remember wearing a lot of form fitting tops and jeans, tho i wore skorts a lot in elementary. i wore jeans because i was a tomboy and form fitting tops because my grandmother kept trying to put me in baggier boxy clothes to hide my body as I grew up
@@jemi_ In a way, I guess. soft t-shirts from a brand I've fallen in love with and I've kinda fallen away from jeans and i like wearing sleek slacks and soft pants instead, though I still have jeans if I'm gunna be roughing it since I'm a tomboy at heart, too. I also wear longer skirts when I don't feel like dealing with pants. I like how my personal style's evolved to look more sophisticated as a 30+ adult but still have that same comfort. I like feeling mature in my clothes and my skin and like I've gotten somewhere in life.
@@TriskelionHallow I feel you about the jeans! I just can't deal with the discomfort of them anymore (though i recently found some fake denim-ish pants that I think are perfect cuz they're stretchy but a similar material). And I feel you about getting a sense of maturity in your style, I feel like I've recently felt that a little extra, especially since I'm surrounded by young college kids these days haha.
I kinda agree and disagree with the statement, but truthfully because i have a big factor that you also didn't mention: Gender and sex. Yeah im a straight cis man (i think lol) and obviously my relationship with fashion at the start was veeeery different from today. But i do vivdly remember talking in class with a friend about her teaching me how to punch and me teaching her a nice outfit (LMAO). What i said to her was a long brown coat with jeans and matching brown boots. And omg i do that same style today lololol, i love mixing earth tones with a very androgynous style and 70's men's style. i loooooved that you incorporated a scientific paper on the video, buuut the autor did forget (or deliberately ommit) men from the study. I'd love to see how it changes with gender and sex. Great video is was a really cool topic!! ;3
Thank you for this insight! I didn't go too much into gender/religion/body shaming etc, because for some individuals they may be triggering topics. I have been interested to explore men's fashion though, because I've noticed the way most men in my life have been brought up to relate to fashion is so different from women. But I've also noticed it's very different in the US in contrast to where I'm from (Finland). I want to look into men's fashion, and how it's evolved (such as how it has eventually turned from feminine to masculine, and how "masculine" has been redefined throughout the ages), but since I myself cannot speak for the collective, I want to do more research that could point me in the right direction. Any topic requests/ideas you may have, please let me know!😊 And I agree with your fashion advice, that sounds like a fantastic outfit ✨
@@jemi_ (insert tik tok audio of "omggg i love this question" lol) I have a lot of ideas due to having thought of this for a long while. I adore fashion. But masculinity was some concept in my life that limited what i could literally *do* with my existence. I couldn't show excitement for a new shirt, couldn't express softness for something/someone, it goes on and on. I'm not really sure how this came to be, like why is masculinity so limiting... but that's a very big and tuff question. At least, sticking with fashion: the shift from over the top dresses for men in the 1700's to today may have to do with class system. Fashion was for the wealthy, it expressed wealth. Nowadays it express something else, we asocciate fashion with being superflous, a "second neccesity". Women being left out to do house work and having more time for those "second neccesities" made them prone to fashion and makeup. I decided i want that second neccesity because i love it. I don't internalize shame through it. Hopefully that conclusion of mine becomes a new societal norm. some day. dang sorry for the essay i went overboard lol. Hopefully you get an idea with my yapping
@@Varaga_82 Please don't apologize for giving me information I asked for, I'm just so grateful to receive your insight and perspective! 😊 I've definitely noticed the emotional and mental limits that are automatically placed on men, it's actually a huge mental health issue in Finland where I'm from because in addition to these limitations, we're a very cold climate culture, so people don't really seek help or talk about their problems much from the get-go. And that makes so much sense regarding the shift in menswear being linked to class systems! It's very interesting to see how the purpose of fashion has changed so much throughout time, but I'm glad it's now something accessible to everyone, and that it can be used for creative and self expression. And I share your dream, we should all be able to express ourselves individualistically through fashion without shame ❤
Oh yeahhhh, how much our parents dabble in our style choices really affects what we can wear as kids :O This seems like a really universal experience based on what everyone else is saying too!
My mom wouldn’t let me wear crop tops but did say it was okay to look sexy but not slutty lol. I let my daughter wear crop tops but would tell her there is a time and place for certain attire. She is comfortable in her own skin and style. We are both pretty moderate hippy/boho. Mine more mature and suited for my physical job as a cook at a preschool. Hers more eclectic and youthful in her 20s and working at Starbucks and going to college.
this is so sweet! Sounds like she took a lot of inspiration from your style, I've definitely also gravitated towards specific types of things my mom loves as well (most notably we both love basic/minimalist pieces with that "little something special" to make them quirky or stand out a bit), it's interesting to see what parts of their parents lifestyle/fashion etc kids choose to adapt into their own lives.
The thing is, my mother dressed me horrendously when I was a child. I would get made fun of in school, etc. Then, I was a fat kid and teenager, so none of the things I wanted to wear would fit me. We were also poor, and I could not afford any of the beautiful clothing my peers would wear. I feel like I have some fashion trauma. I'm a University student now, and I have little money. I do my hair every day because my mother never did anything with it. It's the only thing I can do to have a "personal style."
I'm so sorry this happened to you! My mom tried to dabble in influencing my style choices just enough so I'd fit in at school, but I still got bullied, unfortunately. Fashion trauma is a very real thing, if you don't feel comfortable in who you are and what you wear, it affects your daily life pretty severely, and having gone through a similar journey, I feel so bad for all the people who have gone through this 💔 Eventually you'll get there (but it takes time! Took me a little less than a decade to feel good about my closet) - perhaps if you wanted to, you could slowly try to thrift a more personalized closet for yourself? When I started building my own closet, I went exclusively only to thrift stores (which is still mostly the case). I still can't afford 70% of the types of clothes I'd love to buy, but I get overjoyed when I find an amazing piece for only $5 🥰 I'd only buy the things that I really really loved, which also helped make sure I wasn't going over a very limited budget.
It’s funny. I actually thought about it a week ago. For me it’s really true. Finding my personal style was more of a travel back to kindergarten - just with more knowledge how to make the clothes more practical (how did nobody introduce me to the concept of wearing leggings under a skirt when cycling then?). The colors and patterns are the same.
So glad this rings true to you! 💕Knowledge of where your style came from + the knowledge you have now on how you can style clothes to fit you best for your needs, is so useful to help you understand and personalize your style.
You should get in touch with Gabrielle Arruda. She has a podcast where fellow style enthusiasts can discuss fashion and personal style. I think you two would have a lot to talk about.
I grew up watching the Addams Family, Buffy, Goosebumps and every creepy show you can think of. I'm goth now. The only reason I didn't start young is because I was raised by a narcissistic mother.
I'm sorry about the treatment you've received in the past, but I'm so glad to hear you've found your way in your style now ❤ I find it very sad how controlling parents can be towards many aspects of their child's life, especially the ones where creative freedom should be allowed (to an extent at least) 💔Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment 🥹💕
As requested, here is a full in-depth video guide on how to find your personal style if you've never had one: th-cam.com/video/u6CTrW622Z4/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgyaYXp-bbNBWfyWWip4AaABAg
Thank you to everyone who's taking their time to share their experiences, thoughts, and knowledge on this topic! I wanted to reiterate that I want to make this a safe space for ALL viewers, and I'm so grateful to be seeing important topics and thoughts being discussed in the comments💕 If you're at the beginning of your personal style journey, or you just want to know more about it, I have made a playlist for your convenience that includes all of my personal style related videos thus far: th-cam.com/video/tqYNKAxZJIo/w-d-xo.html
And as a final reminder, I didn't go in-depth in my video about how girls growing up in patriarchal systems heavily affects our style choices as well, because as I was writing the script for it, I triggered myself accidentally. As such, I didn't want viewers leaving feeling triggered and depressed, so I omitted the section completely - but if you want to read more about these societal issues that affect our style and how we perceive fashion in a societal setting, feel free to read some of the articles under the "Sources on matters I can’t discuss in this video" section in my description.
I somewhat relate. When I was a child I loved girly, but practical clothing, but unfortunately a lot of my clothing was hand-me downs, so I couldn't always wear what I really loved. Then when I was a teenager I started to only wear jeans (even during Summer) and basic, simple clothing, because I didn't have access to cuter clothing I preferred, I didn't want to be sexually harassed for wearing a skirt and I didn't really wanted to stand out. Where I grew up, people would bully and talk on your back if your outfit stood out or was slightly different, which was unfortunate, because I liked to look at magazines and recreate their unusual outfits. When I moved out I started to wear more skirts and dresses as a way to reclaim the "lost time" and nowadays I mostly wear skirts and dresses, because I work sitting down and they're usually more comfortable than jeans for that.
I relate so deeply with your story!
This is so relatable! Not wanting to stand out and wanting to avoid the creeps from noticing us feels like a universal experience at this point (but I'm really glad we're talking about it and bringing the issues to light). 🥲Growing up in a smaller city in Finland, people would literally come and tell you you look weird if you dressed differently. When I returned to Finland a few times after coming back from studying abroad, I'd always have people stare at me because I dressed so differently - I eventually learned to ignore it, because I'd rather have people stare at me than hide myself away again to fit in. Glad to hear you've been able to reclaim the parts about your style you had to hide away when you were younger 💕
@@jemi_omg you’re Finnish? When you said English wasn’t your native language I thought about where you could be from and because some of your facial features reminded me of two of my friends that both have Finnish relatives I guessed in my head that you came from Finland! I am actually quite surprised that I was right about that because it doesn’t really make sense that you would look similar to my friends just because you’re Finnish😃 (I’m from Sweden btw)
@@bathtubtyler1538 That's so interesting that you made that connection! I've actually usually had slavic people try to adopt me as their own lol, cuz some of them claim I don't look very Finnish, but I try not to think about my "facial identity" too much haha. And also, hi fellow Nordic! 🇫🇮🇸🇪❤
@@jemi_ mmm yeah that’s quite weird because I also thought that you maybe could be from Poland before you reminded me of my friends! Also I never thought that Finnish people looked a certain way either so that’s why I’m so surprised that I got it right and that you reminded me of both of those friends when I never thought that they look alike to each other. 🙃But maybe I also unconsciously heard it in the accent or something. You’re either way really pretty!😁🫶🇫🇮🇸🇪
I remember that when I was 7 years old, I told my grandmother that I specifically only liked spaghetti strap tops, or really long sleeves, nothing in between. She told me that the short straps are too revealing and the long sleeves aren’t practical for doing chores and activities. She was the one that bought me most of my clothes, therefore she used to buy whatever she thought was appropriate for me. As an adult, I still prefer my short strap tops and really long sleeves, and that’s pretty much all I wear. I can’t help it, this is what I like and what makes me feel comfortable. I also have always hated wearing sweat pants and sporty clothes. My style hasn’t changed in that regard and I’m almost 29
Haha, I love that your preferences persisted through time! I love hearing about stories of consistency, thank you for sharing your experience! ❤
I had a similar experience with my grandmother. She would not allow me to wear cropped tops or short shorts/skirts. For decades I didn't wear clothes that showed midriff, but I discovered some years ago I actually love shorter shirts...
(I don't care much for short shorts or skirts tho)
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something I've been thinking about recently. When I get an item I really like, I think "wow! 12 yr old me would be so happy!"
That's how you know you're on the right track! 💕 I just bought a very overly pretty and princess-like skirt for myself for my birthday and I kept thinking "3 year old me would have wanted this so bad".
this video honestly helped me not cringe when i look at my childhood photos (my mom actually just randomly sent me some yesterday). i was bullied a lot in elementary and middle school for my style, but after some consideration, i see that kid me actually knew wtf was up!! my style was true to my interests (shorts or loose pants, t shirts, and sneakers for easy running. dancing, and jungle gym shenanigans), i had a consistent color palette (yellow, green, and blue), and even a beginning understanding of what clothing shapes worked for me (i was rocking small top big pant before it was cool). also omg i AATEEEE a monochromatic fit. green shirt, green plaid shorts, with the green sketchers... SLAY. so much of this remains true today!! i still love yellow and green, and shorter clothing that's comfy and easy to move in. Evolution wise, I used to hate the idea of wearing dresses and dressed relatively masculine or androgynous. In high school I found A-line dresses as skirts were still moveable. Now that i'm adult woman and not a literal child lol, I rock a mini skirt or dress to dance rehearsal. Any way, i say all that to say this was a great and well researched video that made me have more love for my childhood self and reinforced my sense of personal style, so thank you it was also so cute seeing your childhood photos and i would totally watch a vid of you creating those tutu fits!!
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I'm sorry to hear you were also bullied, I hate it so much and kids really can be so mean! I know right haha, our kid selves knew we were onto something gooooddd with our styles~ I love monochromatic fits so much, you can tell I also had a consistent color palette haha 😂 It's crazy how many of us have lived such similar style evolutions from androgynous/masculine clothing to later wearing more feminine clothes! Thank you so much taking the time to watch and share your own thoughts and experiences, and I will definitely be attempting to recreate my childhood outfits soon💕
Hi! Image consultant over here! It's safe to say that your video is so great! While I was studying image consulting I had this coflict because it was more oriented to become what society expects instead of what you really want, so yeah, colorimetry is cool but dress as your inner child IS EVERYTHING! I really like your video and your approach. Most people don't get that personal style is exactly that PERSONAL is not a formula it's a journey.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on your experiences with this! I absolutely agree with your points, dressing for society won't truly make us happy with our style and sense of identity. It's been very interesting to see people confusing personal style with what's trending right now and I'm hoping we can slowly correct that misunderstanding ❤
would looove to see you recreate your childhood outfits!
I was so inspired by your video, I've been wanting to try it myself for a while now! 💗 I have a feeling I could, at least partly, recreate the outfits pretty accurately 😊
most of my clothes growing up were hand-me-downs from my older sister, who loves anything girly, vintage, or colourful. but my style was always influenced by cartoons and fashion dolls - particularly villains, badass, or "spooky" characters such as the Trix from Winx, Shego from Kim Possible, or any character from Monster High. those characters were both dark and colourful, drawn with exaggerated proportions which looked both feminine and edgy to me. for this reason I loved to match my sister's bright colours with dark, edgier looks (or as edgy as you can be as a literal child). when I was able to buy clothes for myself, that evolved into my current style which still gravitates towards alternative, grungy styles mixed with feminine silhouettes.
That… actually explains a lot!
When I was a kid I basically had 2 wardrobes - one can be simplified into hand-me-downs for “You’ll crawl into some mud regardless. We’ll mend it, get down from the tree, please!”, and the other was spawned by my grandma’s love for sewing and my love for design, aka “Can we add more bows and make it rainbow? Nice!”. The in between mode of “comfy, casual AND clean” started appearing only in my teenage years, when all of my clothes were purchased and lacked the oomph a 5 year old adds into design.
Nowadays, after I regained control over my wardrobe the dichotomy persists - it’s either heavily mended and upcycled dirt collectors or custom made red carpet edition of renaissance fair, my brain doesn’t comprehend presenting like a working professional.
That's so precious that your grandma helped you personalize your clothes!🥹💕 I love the sound of your style, and it seems to clearly work for you! Besides...professional is boring (take it from someone who worked in corporate), wear what you want 🥰
your closet sounds like SO much fun omg you get custom really fun clothes AND clothes youre not afraid of damaging so you can run around and have fun
Same here. I have a ‘respectable going out, working wardrobe’ and an ‘at home, old sloppy comfy, down and dirty’ wardrobe for my gardening, animals, house repairs etc.
Love your channel. More, more please! Love to hear an intelligent woman talk.
This is a fascinating topic! As a little girl (early 90’s, in rural America ) I was obsessed with all things dark and spooky, and Morticia Addams was my ideal. I loved the vamp style, dark and elegant and sexy, despite being a little kid whose mother made her clothes. I even tried at age 6 to sneak and ask the hair dresser to dye my white-blonde bob black while my mother wasn’t in ear shot. Due to many factors I didn’t dress goth in my younger years, but it has always stayed with me and god did I love Halloween! Every year was a variation on witch or vampire or siren, and though I can’t walk around in a cobweb sleeved black gown every day, I am still drawn to dark cloths with a vamp-y element: velvets, bell sleeves, corsets, and black turtlenecks galore. I always wondered why I latched on to that persona so strongly at such a young age, especially since no one around me showed a similar interest, but I am 35 and all I can say is that after 3 decades my ideal hasn’t changed a bit - I guess it will always be a deep part of my core identity.
Morticia Addams is such an icon (and also the source of style inspiration for many of the commenters, I've noticed)! Did you succeed getting your hair dyed black? 🫢 When my mom wasn't looking, I cut my own hair (It was fairly long for a 3 year old), which is why it's very short in all the pictures 😂 Your style sounds really beautiful, I honestly think Halloween is a time of relief for many who struggle to express their style normally due to societal pressures. I'm so glad you stuck with it though, it sounds like it really is a part of you and I think it's beautiful that you honor that part of yourself in your self expression 🥰
I am in agreement with all this! I'm gonna be 35 in less than two weeks. And I'm from Kansas😂!!!
I honestly found that y2k\90's runway style fits me the best. I never really vibed with the fashion of the mid to late 2010’s, but bring me back to 97 to 2001 in fashion [born early 97] and I slay. That is what I've seen worn around myself when I was a kid.
So glad you've found your style and a pre-existing style to tie it to! I'm born in the same time period and I agree, you can't make me convinced the 2010s fashion era was good 😅 I also love late 90s fashion, I think it's one of the reasons I'm drawn to minimalism and cool, but elegant styles.
As someone who lived through late 90's and Y2K fashion as a teenager, DO IT. Seeing this stuff come back around has given me new life and has increased my dopamine to wear it again and see it again.
@@annajohnson5779 It's so prettyyyy too! I definitely want to keep curating more 90s-inspired items! 💕
@@jemi_ It is SO pretty. And elegant. And gorgeous.
I mean, I won't ever fit the items I had in the 90's and Y2K since I'm a completely different size now, but I recently gave away a lot of stuff that I had cleaned out of my closet (shirts mostly), and recently my 17yo niece took a liking to one of my old blue green asymmetrical shirts with asymmetrical bell sleeves that I had from 2001. She wears it all the time now. She's taken in a number of other shirts and dresses I had back then too. My younger sister also took some of the stuff I had that my niece didn't want and is selling it on depop as well (like a satin button down shirt with pearl shank buttons, it has a pattern of blue roses all over it, and it's from rue21, amongst other items that I once owned).
But I'm glad some of these fashions have come back around, I feel like a lot of 2010's fashion, no offense, they just kinda phoned it in. Like, I don't know if the 2008 crash had an effect (it probably did), but, the fabrics got cheaper, the cuts were more awful (i'm not talking styles that people used to body shame people with, I'm talking of overall cuts of the fabric just not flattering people at all, and where companies don't scale their product up or down in size where it will fit people properly), and companies used stretch in favor of things that actually had structure. And I feel like it didn't really have a cohesive defining feature where you could pick it out and say "ah yes, this is definitely something from this this particular 2010's year." Except maybe bright colors in the first half of the 2010's. And for the first couple of years those godforsaken bumpits that people wore on their heads. maybe large bib necklaces and higher rounded heels. But other than that, I can't really think of a lot of truly characteristic things from that fashion era that were definitive clothing-wise. Ok maybe those silly brimmed hats that a lot of girls wore in the latter half of the 2010's. It just feels so very blah to me.
But 90's and Y2K is the antithesis of "blah" fashion for most part (aside from maybe some preppier "norm core" kind of fashion that existed even then). I'm happy to see things like the highly embellished lug soled shoes (including loafers) and "going out tops" making a comeback. Including with metallic fabrics. And flared cargo pants that have pockets for days (even though I no longer have to cram a sony discman into the side pockets of them). There's just something about that era that is so ridiculous over the top, yet elegant, and I'm all here for it.
@@annajohnson5779 Oh yeah, if I don't have to repeat the 2010s fashion in my life again, I'll have a peaceful life...I think that's actually when I really got into thrifting vintage, because nothing in the stores really appealed to me - I actually ended up refusing a lot of my sister's hand-me-downs from the 2010s because I didn't like any of it, and actually preferred my mom's hand-me-downs from the 80s and 90s. I remember when I was a kid I literally had a little pokemon themed gameboy bag for my gameboy and the games 😆 Lowkey though it was really cool and I'm sure my mom got it for me cuz she also thought it was really cute~
I grew up always wanting to wear my older brothers clothes. His t shirts were always so nice and big because he was bigger than me and his cargo shorts were just so comfy. I dressed in his hand downs up until the age of 13. As a teenager I felt like I tried to dress how I saw other girls dressing. It was all denim shorts and crop tops which I hated, look wise and comfortability wise too. Now I've discovered like baggy street style and nothing has felt more right. When I finally got baggy cargo pants, jeans and proper oversized cut tshirts now as a 22 year old, It just felt so right.
This is not to say I didn't wear dresses when I was little but I think most times it was when my mom dressed me or we had to go for a formal dinner. I do enjoy dressing feminine now but I've realized I like long elegant dresses over short ones. I think 16,17,18
I was like a horrendous mix of both. I would tuck baggy shirts into long skirts. I only wore long skirts never short ones, I was insecure about my legs tbf.
My dad is 6ft 1 and a big guy so I would find that when my mom and dad were doing closet clean outs I would be more excited to receive a shirt from my father because it was so oversized 😂 I only grew to appreciate some of my mother's pieces now in my 20s where I would say I'm just starting to sorta get the hang of putting together outfits and building my wardrobe essentials. Like i'd say even at 19 -21 when I was in uni I did not have 90% of the clothes I currently own and really really love.
Sorry that was a real ramble, I really enjoyed the video ❤
It's so interesting how many of us had this phase of entering an almost "false style" phase in our teen years in order to fit in! I also hated my jeans and tight fitting shirts so much, I vividly remember some of the tops I'd wear just so I could get by without being bullied more at school. If you haven't already, you should look into Japanese street style! When I visited Japan last year, I was in awe of how well they styled baggy clothing and made it look so effortless and fashionable (and then of course adding their own unique touches). That's interesting how many directions your personal style took throughout the years! I think my personal style also developed far more when I reached my early 20s and had the budget and freedom to dress myself how I wanted to, I feel like for some of us that's when we feel most "at peace" to explore our style. Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for taking the time to watch the video! 🥰
I can personally attest to this. I fell in love with light blue letters on a cream white or light yellow background and later remembered that was how my Baby Book looked. I used to spend a long time looking at all my families old photo albums when I was young. I also just love anything nostalgic that takes me back. It makes it feel so special.
There's a lot to be said for nostalgia in style! I think in many ways, a return to childhood preferences/hobbies etc is a way of healing our inner child - teenage me had it the toughest and I'm glad I decided to return to what I like after leaving high school 💕
its amazing to see this video bc currently at 23 im recreating my wardrobe since i moved out and couldnt take a lot of stuff with me. and a lot of my purchases have been colorful bottoms, mainly shorts, and colorful graphic tees of cartoons i used to watch, colorful bags some even plushy bags, beaded jewelry or jewelry with cartoonish looking pendants, ankle bracelets... lmao. it is very much reminiscent of how i used to dress throughout the years before i turned 13. not to take this so literally, but i think you might really be onto something !!
Your style sounds so lovely! ❤ I can definitely relate to paying homage to childhood cartoons via graphic tees etc, I collect little anime and video game clothing articles and accessories whenever I can!
When I was a child I wore anything my parents didn't want to me to and 20 years later I wear what my parents, society and government don't want me to wear. Nothing changed, just evolved😈
I salute this attitude 🫡 coming from a country where everyone is expected to dress the same, it's definitely been interesting curating the more experimental and fun parts of my personal style throughout the years. I learned that unless I want to have a boring style forever, I'll never win society's favor anyways (not like it's really worth it)🤷🏼♀
Your video is very well made, congrats!
What I can add from personal exp: In highschool I used to wear more masculine clothes to "feel strong". Maybe because internally I felt weak, didn't want to get emotionally hurt. So that reflected on my personal choice of clothes.
This changed when I started my first long-term relationship where I felt appreciated and beautiful. Thus, I started feeling more feminine and this reflected on my clothes choice.
Nowadays, I appreciate both my feminine and masculine side. Sometimes, choosing pretty clothes, other times a more androgenous look depending on how I feel during the day.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your experience! 💕 I can 100% attest to a person who makes us feel safe opening up the door to make us feel safe in other areas of our life too, like artistic self expression and fashion. I started re-discovering my feminine side around the time I met my partner and it was so important to have the support I needed to experiment and find myself. It's very interesting how who we surround ourselves with affects even our fashion choices
I agree so much with this video because I recently started allowing myself to like and wear the color pink again, which I avoided through all my teen years to not look „too girly“. I wanted to not be like the other girls so bad. But growing up is realizing being just like the other girls is actually a great thing. When I was a toddler my mum also had to hide my pink stuff because I would only want to wear those clothes. So this recent realisation of me going back to what my childhood me liked was really cool for me, because I really think there is a reason why you liked the stuff that you did as a child. Now I wanna follow that thought and put together a vision board with all of the characters and outfits I liked during my childhood like winx club and barbie and I can‘t wait to integrate this into my personal style
amazing video! the effort you put into this was absolutely worth it 💗
Haha, that's so cute we both had our moms hide our clothes cuz we wouldn't stop wearing them! 🥹 Your vision board idea sounds really good! What has also helped me is making a "timeline" of my style and identifying at which points in my life I've felt the most "me" and then looking at what was it in my outfits back then that made my style feel right. Also - I'm so glad somebody finally mentioned Winx Club! I WAS OBSESSED with Winx club and I'm still waiting for an excuse to dress up as Bloom for Halloween one of these days (I would've absolutely rocked the fit with my long hair last year). Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment ❤
When I was little I looooved colourful clothing! My favorite piece was a bright yellow fleece jacket. But as a teenager I realized most people around me only wore neutrals(I am from Norway so think scandinavian style, very beige and neutral), and wanting to fit in I changed my style to the same. But now at 25 I barely own any neutrals again, only dressing in bright colours and things that give me joy! So I think you hit bullseye with this theory as it is exactly what I experienced too!💛
Hello fellow Nordic (I'm from Finland)! I feel like Nordic countries really struggle with wearing color unless it's in the form of accessories or part of a bigger brand identity like Marimekko 😅 I actually lived in Norwary for 9 months at one point, and it definitely felt the same as back home. Every time I travel back to Finland, I get weird stares because I often dress outside of the norm (even though I'm a minimalist at heart). 😂 I'm so used to it at this point, it doesn't really phase me - though Berlin took me off guard, but that's because I didn't know of the infamous "german stare", so I kept wondering if I had forgotten to zip my pants or something when in fact they just were regular staring lol.
Hi fellow Nordic!! Good to know there are more of us out there defying the style norms of this area😂
when i was a child i wasn’t allowed to put together my own outfits because i was “bad” at color matching-my mom and sister would give me a choice between outfits they had put together. i’m in my late 20s now and still love to play with color, just with a better understanding of how palettes work lol. the other day i wore an outfit with four different colors in it and felt great!
Sounds like you're a color harmony master🥰 I recently made a video on color theory in fashion and it opened my eyes to the insane variety you can have in color palettes (and also how different it can look for minimalists and maximalists). Maybe there wasn't anything wrong with your color matching, maybe it just didn't feel "right" to others - color is also very personal, and what I may see as harmonious someone else might call too chaotic etc. I've just learned to take any and all fashion advice with a grain of salt~
@@jemi_ oooo ty, i’ll go check it out!!
My mother is a tomboy and my dad is an artist. I used to dress more tomboyish as a teenager and young 20 something. Now I gravitate toward quirky feminine and androgynous clothes.
Glad to hear about your interesting style evolution! What do you think prompted you to gravitate towards the more quirky and feminine aspects of your style (if you want to share)?
I was recently thinking about how my mom used to style my hair as a child, and I always thought it was so cute yet practical. I went to the salon and basically got the more adult version of that same hairstyle and I loved it! I'll probably do it again next time, my mom really had the right idea
Sometimes our moms are onto something! My mom cut my hair until I turned 18, hence the bangs - I went on and off with bangs, but basically had nothing but curtain bangs until last month, and now I'm loving this shorter straight cut bangs style again 🥰
when i was younger, i had to wear maroon, navy, white, and khaki clothes because i went to a charter school. they didnt allow patterns or graphics either. everyone looked the same and it was hard to find good clothes in those colors
then i moved to public school in 7th grade. my outfits were lazy but eventually i started dressing better
now i like more statement pieces and unique clothing. i have a pair of pants i painted a bunch of big eyes on and theyre my favorite.
i also used to hate bugs but now i wanna make bug themed clothing
Sounds like perhaps you had a mini rebellious/release phase eventually, gravitating towards what you were restricted from when you were younger. Your bug comment is interesting haha, it's like a different phenomenon of the "liking the food I hated now as an adult" 😮
I love this video because it resonates a lot with me. My favorite things to wear are Victorian fantasy vibe dresses and accessories and that’s what little me was about
Your style sounds so beautiful!! Even though my style is more laid back, I've always been in awe of people who take time to curate a wardrobe that allows them to express themselves in more whimsical ways.
When my mom was a child her mom made her wear girly clothes and dresses and she hated it, so when she had me she tried to dress me like a tomboy so I wouldn’t experience the same thing, but I was such a girly girl! I remember her eventually giving up and letting me pick my own clothes (at like age 5) and I wore my princess Halloween costumes to school. I also remember it was a point of contention between my parents and I because we live in a colder climate and I wanted to wear skirts and dresses all the time. Today at 28 years old I’m still very hyper feminine with my fashion, I love pink and ruffles and lace and wearing ribbons in my hair~
I'm so happy to hear I wasn't the only one wearing princess dresses to school! Sounds like our styles are very similar 🤭 I think Finland definitely made it harder for me to wear the styles I wanted to wear, cuz it's cold most of the year there, so now that I live in a warmer climate I'm very happy to be able to dress the way I want without worrying about the weather 🥰 Pink ruffles, bows, and pretty dresses all the way 🎀
This has had me thinking a lot. I realized what wore to my own wedding at age 23 is a grown up version of what I wore when my aunt took me to the ballet around age 4.
That's so sweet, that must be an important and precious memory 💕 It's interesting, I think weddings definitely bring out some of that "what would've kid me wanted to wear", because a wedding dress is such a personal preference and key item in weddings.
the connection between personal style & authentic self is my favorite concept ♡
It has become my favorite thing as well. That and the creative self playing a part in our style choices in whatever capacity we let it 💕
This is so interesting, a unique and thoughtful video. I have been reflecting a lot on this myself lately. I grew up around people who had money and dressed in an elegant conservative way. I later got really into food growing and joined groups with lots of left wing and hippy gardeners who dressed the opposite. I'm now in my next chapter and I've been thinking what a big contrast those two worlds and styles are, and how I can maybe combine them into my own unique style. I still love the 'old money' aesthetic but my values are more aligned to community, collaboration, food growing and permaculture. It's an interesting challenge to create our own style.
That's such an interesting mix of worlds you've been immersed in! I'd say, go with what you feel like defines those values of yours - being comfortable and confident in expressing ourselves and our interests/values is a huge part of personal style, and it's important to look back and analyze "am I wearing this because I want to, or because society wants me to".
You're making me want to make a style timeline of myself.
PLEASE do it, I've sorta done it for an upcoming video and it was really interesting to see at which points I felt like my style was most accurately "me" rather than what others wanted me to wear/what I wore because I was scared to dress in my own personal style. Looking back, it's been really helpful to me in understanding the core elements of my personal style.
I cried when I was 3 because my mom made me wear a kids sweatshirt and kids jeans to a football party. All I said as a kid before I was 6 was “I want to wear a pretty dress” and in between 6 and 20 I completely lost myself because body image and trying to fit in. I’m so happy to of regained my confidence and am now able to wear my feminine but mature clothes. I get to wear my pretty dresses 🥰
I'm so proud of you for being able to take back control and feel good about yourself again! You deserve to wear your pretty dresses 💗
Sucks when you don’t get a choice in style 😅 growing up with hand-me-downs left me having to discover it in my 20’s. 18:10 definitely applies 😑 It’s fun though I have some good friends I go shopping with who help me find clothes I love and fit who I am 😎
I was a hand-me-down baby too! Luckily I think my parents realized early on that I was going to be very fussy about which parts of my sister's and brothers' clothes I'd want, and which I'd want to chuck away. And yeah, depression/anxiety in teenage years is some of the worst I've experienced, because I didn't even fully understand what was happening to me and didn't receive help. I'm glad you have a supportive friend group, it's honestly one of the few blessings I had growing up, hold onto those friends! 💕
Omg! Psychology AND Fashion? Two of my favorite topics already, BUT THEN YOU BRING VIDEO GAMES INTO IT TOO??? Instantly in love with this content haha.
I'm so happy someone finally commented on the little video game moment! 🥹💕I like to include a lot of my interests in my videos haha
I absolutely believe this! Growing up, I always wanted to wear dresses and skirts and hated sneakers. I also didn’t like graphic tees. I grew up in the 90s and early 2000s. It was hard to find outfits that I liked that my mom approved of. About 3 years ago, I officially gave up wearing pants and jeans. On dress down days, I wear a denim skirt with a nice top or a laid back dress.
So glad I'm not the only one who doesn't like jeans! ❤ I feel like apart from the times when you need to do a lot of heavy work like lifting or running, dresses are great, and they flow so prettily too~ I'd hate to just wear jeans. All of my pants these days are very comfy and stretchy, since I also like to tap into my indie style a lot. 😊
@@jemi_ if I wore pants, I would love jeans. The reason I don’t like pants is that they don’t flatter my body at all. I have an hourglass figure with a tiny waist with very wide hips and butt. Pants create a weird look from the side and back that I don’t like. Plus they don’t feel comfortable on me. I wear skorts when I work out. I have a classic style, so I like simple and understated looks.
@@theresaarnold8911 I actually have the same problem! 🫢 It's very difficult to find jeans that aren't too small around the hips and too big on the waist - I also have a lot of skorts (including for working out)! They're so much nicer and flowy~
this is very interesting. as someone who has borderline personality disorder, i really struggle with finding my own style because I kind of don’t have a sense of self. there’s things i like, but i struggle to find things that feel like ME because i don’t know me. i have clothing, but no wardrobe in a way. it’s all random and i handle it at best.
Sounds like it might be good to start with knowing yourself :) I just uploaded a video where I guide people on finding their style when they have no past style to reference or compare to, but also on what that entails - and yes, a big part of it is really finding and understanding yourself. I hope it helps, I'd be happy to help with anything else you want help with ❤️
I’ve definitely noticed my personal style developing into my version of what my Mom and Grama were wearing when I was five in the early 2000s. Those kinds of silhouettes but with way more color. I also value clothing I can wear for a long time, so I like certain patterns and more room so I can continue to grow into my clothes as time moves on. But god, show me a cute lil top with a denim skirt and I am PLEASED as a peach
Hahaha, I feel like we all have the "exception" items we'd jump the chance to wear! For me it's all the princess/fairy style dresses that are often too fancy for everyday wear. That's interesting that you've adapted your mom's and grandma's style to something you love to wear in the modern day!
I was a very girly girl in my style as a child in school in the 2000s; a lot of pink and "girly" colours. It started with hand-me-downs and a very "vintage" muted look as a baby/small child of the late 90s. But the girly clothing was more practical and chill aka not a lot of dresses. But I never felt 100% myself in these clothes because my interests were a mix of girly and boyish activities and never felt like I was a part of the girly girls at school. It sounds stupid now to divide it like this but it has always been built on stereotypes. Then from 12 and up I started choosing the clothing I wanted together with my mom, so the colours and styles became more of a clusterfuck; I switched between light, Brandy Melville esque clothing and dark, muted and "emo" clothing and everything in between those, keyword was muted colours, not any bright colors etc. because I didn't like to stand out with bright colors and was a shy/calm kid.
Then had a super feminine phase in my early 20s were I rejected jeans and only wanted to wear vintage-esque trousers and long skirts with blouses etc. Safe to say at 25 I feel more myself now reverting back to the more casual, chill and tomboyish style with big sweaters, shirts and t-shirts (+ comfy jeans!!) but I also love wearing my long skirts, vintage trousers, hairbows and tighter tank tops/crop tops. Again key word is still muted earthy natural colours with whites and blacks as base, if I'm bold I reach out to dark red, light greens and muted blues, I never reach for super bright in your face colors at all and had to sell stuff I've bought for "trying" out new colors. As you said, I've taken the things I like the most from my exploration and now my style is a whole mishmash of different types of clothing which each taps into different aspects of my personality.
Thank you for sharing your style journey thus far! 💕 Sounds like you've found a way to bring "the best of both worlds" to your style! That's so wonderful that you know the key elements in your style and which styles match which aspects of your personality! 😊
Interesting and fun to think about. As a child, I hated anything frilly or too fussy because it prevented me from playing outside the way I wanted. As an adult, I still feel uncomfortable in anything like this. I also preferred the same dark/jewel tone colors that I currently wear.
That's so valid! Even small things like comfort, sensory factors, and what wearing a certain item entails for your expected behavior/how you can move about is very prominent in our personal styles. I personally can't wear heels unless they're low and block heeled and 99% of the time I don't wear heels at all because I walk everywhere I go. Some items just don't serve our lifestyles, even if they're pretty to us.
Yeah, that checks out. I've always loved colorful, comfortable clothes and ones that look like I'm a character from a fantasy novel...
That sounds like such a cool style! If I had the money, I'd love to experiment with more fantasy themes, especially video game characters inspired looks!
The first favorite piece of clothing I ever remember having was a pair of blue denim overalls with Blue from Blue's Clues on the front. It was comfortable, androgynous, and fun!
My preteen favorite was a denim jacket. I wore it _everywhere_ until I outgrew it as a young adult.
As a teen, I acquired a quilted flannel jacket that was about a size too small for me --- it flattened my chest into androgyny, which made me feel good. Another favorite from that time was a boxy suit. I would put it on, tie my hair up in a peculiar way carefully engineered to look like a boy's haircut, and sing to my laptop camera (I was recording my own music videos for some of my favorite songs, and this was the look I chose for the "guy" character). Lastly, I had a bright red skirt with an elasticated waist that was just fully knife pleats all the way around. I didn't exactly wear it often, as I was coming to terms with the fact that she/her pronouns didn't feel _right_ to me and faltering in expressions that could be interpreted as feminine, as a result, but I loved it to death. When it gave up the ghost, I tried to use the fabric to make a replica for my dollar-store-Barbie "Fashion Doll."
My religious mother had strict ideas about modesty and always pressured me to implement more dresses as casual wear, but to me, femininity was fancy, and dresses were for church. I like feeling pretty, but not every day. Dresses or skirts would have gotten in the way of my running, jumping, hiking, and climbing, anyway, and my idea of modesty is a lot looser than Mother's. As long as my curves aren't standing out and the coulours/patterns/cuts/combination of all of that aren't calling attention, I'm fine.
Because of the religious environment I grew up in, my own interpretation of modesty is still a cornerstone of my personal style. I also still love denim, and I'm exploring how to style skirts and dresses in a way that still feels masculine, now that I've come to find that I enjoy wearing them, even though I still don't take too well to femininity except on special occasions.
I actually have a close friend with a similar journey to yours and they had a very tough time presenting masculine without their mother trying to get involved using pretty underhanded tricks and threats. It's very unfortunate how judgemental and cruel our closest family members can be to us. I'm so glad you still found your style and know what it is that you like and why. My friend loved shopping at Uniqlo because of how many androgynous styled clothes they could find (tbh they got me into uniqlo too haha). You might want to look into Japanese and Chinese street style for masculine skirt styling inspiration! I saw a lot of really cool ways people styled skirts masculinely in Japan! Tech wear inspiration (not necessarily as a style to claim as yours) is also awesome because of how edgy and androgynous it can be :)
I loved your video. Now at 19 going on 20 soon, im finally getting into what I really love to wear. I grew up in a family who love the western farm style, my mom and sister both have similar styles. So growing up i was pushed into that style. It didnt help that i was surrounded my Agriculture kids in middle school and high school. The girls in this group are all tomboys for the most part. So to fit in i basically wore tshirts and jeans every day. The catch is, as a kid I was obsessed with Ever after high and monster high. I loved everything about it down to their outfits. I wanted to dress like them but i couldn't. Whenever i went shopping with my mom i would pretend to like the things she picked out. Im a people pleaser so i was just happy that my mom was happy. When covid came around my style was non existent, i didnt go to school so there was no reason to dress up. Its almost like i had to find myself again after that. I finally started exploring in my senior year of high school what i liked. I still didn't go full force and tried to get things my mom and i both liked, especially for my senior pictures. Looking back at those i can confidently say that was not me in those pictures. I dont know how to describe my style today but it is kinda chaos core pink girly gothic if that makes sense lol. My mom and sister think my developing style is weird but i dont care, its my style and it is what I've always wanted to wear since i was a monster high obsessed child.
There are so many monster high fans in this comments section! 😮 I'm a big people pleaser too haha, I eventually found a way to gently reject my mom's offer to buy clothes in her preferred style, and instead started showing her how I preferred to dress (honestly, it was a long process). Your style sounds so cool to me, I hope you can keep your positive mindset about it despite what anyone else says! Life is short, we're not on this earth to people please 🥱
Looking back at old photos of my childhood back in the late 2000s, I can see so much of a resemblance between my current style and my kid self's style, specifically the very 90s way of dressing with a baggy button-up shirt, baggy jeans, graphic tee, and sneakers
Even now, as an adult, the clothes I thrift still lean heavily into this 90s/2000s style of dress, along with some preppy elements mixed in due to wearing uniforms at school for most of my childhood. I will say, dreaming of the fashion from my childhood TV shows have also influenced my tastes a lot more than I'd realized XD
Same for me! I'm still very much drawn to what people wore when I was young, though the 2000s fashion doesn't interest me personally. And I know right, I think all the content I consumed as a kid definitely influenced the more whimsical/magical parts of my style!
Thoughtfully written, intriguing, insightful and intersectional. Love this video. Especially fun through the lens of transgender experience. It's so nice to hear someone else articulate the "loving a dress" feeling.
Thank you so much and thank you for sharing your viewpoint! ❤Yessss, the first "omg i love dresses" feel is the most bizarre and wonderful feeling I've had - a real "lightbulb switched on" moment for me.
I love the psychological focus of this video and that you talked about your own style evolution as an example. You’ve inspired me to ask my mom about my childhood fashion to reconnect with my inner child! I can relate to learning to hide yourself in adolescence. I have a theory that the 20 year trend cycles are kind of affected by this generational rite of passage-I feel like current trends now that I’m in my 20s are kind of reliving the aesthetics I looked up to in teens when I was a kid, and now we have the personal freedom to choose them ourselves :)
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the video and share your experience! 💕And yes, trends definitely cycle with generations (e.g. what's vintage to us is for our grandparents simply what they used to wear when they were younger). It's very interesting to see clothes from my childhood resurface, and in some ways I've been grateful because kid me could've never afforded the cute late 90s attire I loved.
I'm Intrigued on how accurate this is! In kindergarden I wore princessgowns and then again dressed up as a pirate with a beard for carnival. Today I'm a 30 years old bigender person who is part of the gothic subculture and likes to dress either romantically and dramatically feminine or as a male vampire or pirate. Your theory explains everything! 🎉
Oh wow, that's such a cool style you've carried along with you throughout the years! I'm happy to hear you stayed true to yourself! 🥹
I just turned 29 and recently made the decision to stop putting up with uncomfortable clothes. I saw a youTube video a mom made about the capsule wardrobe her toddler would be wearing for the season and everything looked cute and comfortable and I took inspiration for my own wardrobe. I now pretty much only wear comfy cotton leggings with a T-shirt or sweatshirt. Anything with cats on it gets bonus points. It's very basic but I feel better about my style now that I've kind of "given up" having a style.
Yay, join the crew, cuz I can't tolerate uncomfy clothes any longer either! I'm not gonna lie, I also have a collection of cat t-shirts...🫢 There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a "basic" style - if it works for you and makes you feel good, it's all that matters. Life's too short for us to feel uncomfortable in our clothes, and most modern clothes are made in a way that make them look ill-fitting and feel uncomfortable on most body types anyways 🤷🏼♀ I guess that's why I've often preferred vintage/thrifted.
I resonate with this so much. When I was a child, I imagined myself as a fairy. Nowadays, I still gravitate towards fairylike, airy, mystical clothing. Especially flared sleeves and pants/skirts.
Edit: Also.... Hi to fellow finn! 💙🤍
Yesss another (fairy) Finn! 🧚🏻🇫🇮 kiitos ihanasta kommentista! 💕
@@jemi_ Finnish fairies unite! 😄
Ole hyvä ❣... Sait myös uuden seuraajan 😃
@@littlelilykitty4527 Aa kiitos paljon! 🥹❤Mun pitää alkaa käyttämään "finnish fairy" mun videoissa hehe, has a nice ring to it~
I haven't finished watching the video yet but I have been thinking about Majora's Mask so much lately and was not expecting you to reference it in this video. I got so excited when you did!!
This was such an interesting video! I’m so glad you showed up on my page!
I don’t remember much about what I wore when I was little, but I’ve always been a creative soul. Ever since I was young I’ve loved any type of creative hobby (clay, painting, craft kits etc.) and it’s always been the one personality trait that’s stuck. I also love the fantasy genre in general so I read as much fantasy as I could!
Fast forward to present day and I love being creative with my style. Currently I’m exploring the “whimsi-goth” aesthetic while keeping to my personal color palette I love (olive green, dark teal, bright orange, and purples). I want little kids to look at my outfit and think I just stepped out of a magical book series!🥰
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and share your experience! ❤ I've seen so many beautiful personal styles stem from whimsi-goth, I think it can serve as a good "intro" in guiding yourself to your personal style (many subcultures/aesthetics actually can be helpful in this way, because they let you identify some of the basics of your style and what it can look like in different formats). I see we both love the idea of kids seeing us in that fantasy light 🥹💕 My niece once said I look like a fairy and I have held that comment so close to my heart🧚🏻
Ik you posted this a while ago but what an interesting topic! Im a guy who loves fashion. I used to love dressup and had this bat costume my mum made that I was obsessed with. Now I dress kind of gothy and completely love it...finally at the grand old age of 27, didn't really have the courage before & it's still a process. But black and white is my favoruite, colours make me feel horrible and fake. So glad I finally ditched them.
A relation is genderfluid and is discovering what he likes wearing in femme clothing at 22. It's a process, and people definitely express their personal style only if they feel safe to do so in my experience!
I know the feeling of slowwwly but surely coming out of your shell with your style, I still am (partly also cuz I can't afford the style I want lol). I'm glad you've found what makes you feel like you and that you're around people who support that! Yeah it's very difficult to dress the way you want if you feel unsafe to do so in your immediate circle - I think moving out of Finland definitely helped me learn to love my style and express myself more confidently.
i grew up watching buzzfeed videos so now i’m obsessed with twee style 😭
I think you win in the funniest comment category! 😂 I remember the buzzfeed era vividly, but hey, twee is really cute style!
aivan ihana video ❤
I've had quite a similar style journey, I was a little fairy princess too, but started dressing darker and more androgynous in primary school due to my emotionally neglectful parents not really allowing me to act like a kid. I also hit puberty early, so I did my best to hide my curves. Generally, I just didn't want to be perceived by anyone.
after a decade of suppressing and forgetting about that girly side of me, I got into fashion again. But for a few years it just felt like something was missing. It wasn't until I had a major breakthrough in therapy and I rediscovered that inner fashionista child, (along with other, separeted parts of my conscience) that it clicked for me! Now I've been experimenting more with those girly styles I've always liked and it has just brought me so much joy ❤
of course to dress in this authentic style has been a bit daunting, especially since I live in a small, religious town in Finland, but I find that expressing my true self is more important to me now than to go under the radar 😌
Kiitos paljon! 💕 I can relate to the "hiding curves at a young age" feeling 😭 I can definitely relate with finding what you loved as a kid and translating it to the present day, it really is fulfilling in such a meaningful and deep way 💕 I had to go through the whole "everyone's staring at me cuz I'm dressed differently" thing too haha, I still do nearly every time I go back to visit family 😅 I just assume they think I look cool.
As the only girl, and youngest, of seven children I wore all my brothers hand-me-down jeans and shirts. Unless my mother wanted to dress me up as a girly doll - which I hated! To this day I love wearing turtleneck sweaters, pants (dressy or casual and jeans) and sneakers or boots. I own exactly three dresses and two skirts and they have a 60s vibe (I was born in 1963). My favorite colors are blue (sky to navy), grey, red, burgundy, black and white. I've had my style described as grim elegance. I see it as comfortable minimalism. I can put it on, not have to fuss with it and its appropriate for the occasion.
When I was a child, I liked glitter, bright colours, sequins, and silly shirts.
Now I wear earth tones, and have a very goblincore style. When my mother tried to dress me all cute cottage-y, I would protest.
Hahaha, the polar opposite protest of mine! My mom couldn't stop me from wearing my dresses and skirts. Very interesting how opinionated a small child can be.
@@jemi_
Hahaha, yeah! Oh, the fuss I’d have if my whole outfit wasn’t from Justice. 😆
Love the information you’re sharing here! I am on a style journey right now, curating a wardrobe that really feels authentic to me. Used to wear a lot of goth/edgy stuff as a kid, but I realized that what I really like is highly detailed and fitted clothing and not necessarily being edgy or dark. :)
That's so cool that you were able to make that distinction! I think that's why substyles are important, but often work more as guides that push us in the right direction with regards to our personal style - I like some of the elements in Lolita fashion for example, but I wouldn't necessarily feel comfortable dressing in a lolita style, but rather in just a very feminine, "i like my pretty dresses" kind of style - I'm still figuring out what that all looks like for me though, since curating that type of wardrobe is pretty expensive 🥲
When I was young I would dress my Barbie in only black sheer lace tights, no top no shoes- she didn't need it to clutter the look! She was it in those tights! I still feel most myself in black tights and boots- funny how that physical connection to the child-you becomes this psychological gateway to a deeper part of your self/personality. So nice to hear your thoughts on this topic :)
I'm noticing so many interesting item-specific links in the comments like yours! It's very interesting how childhood play reveals a lot about our preferences - I for one, would consistently wear my little Maid Marian veil and act like some dreamy elegant princess haha - funny how aspects of that play are still prominent in my current style because I never fell out of love with the romantic/elegant/dreamy things about life😊
I love this!! It’s what I needed when I became interested in personal style! I spent so long looking for a missing piece, I thought I needed a unique individual part to personal style like people often explain it as. But when I visited my home country I realised I feel more myself in the basic styles there even though I was a kid when I left. That was it 🤷🏼♀️ The other parts of my style are things I loved as a small child or reactions against parental/religious control. I was a tomboy as a reaction to femininity being forced on me as a girl, but I later had a hyperfeminine phase as a reaction against purity culture. Now it’s a mix of all that!
Also I’m so sorry ped0s harassed you too, it sounds traumatic. I was first targeted for my red hair as a literal baby 🤢 It was worst from preteen-early 20s though. Everyone I’ve asked about it was catcalled more as a kid/teen than as an adult! So so gross. And as a girl boys your own age or older are a problem too 😞 Girlhood shouldn’t have to be traumatic!
So happy to hear you're on this journey! This is why I always want to emphasize that personal style looks incredibly different to each person. Basic or relaxed styles do not equate to lazy or undeserving of being called your personal style. I see we both went through a similar journey with the religious control factored into fashion! That's a good point you raise about hyperfemininity reacting against purity culture - I think that actually helps partly explain how and why I also turned to hyperfeminine clothes (and now a mishmash of different vibes).
The longer I read your comment, the more relatable it becomes, because I had flaming red hair as a baby too! And yes, catcalling was waaaayyy worse for me when I was a literal child and teen, it reduced significantly when I reached my mid 20s, but even now they're still not fully gone 🤢 Agh yeah, I stayed far away from boys my age when I was young, I always felt like they were years behind me in maturity and decency haha. It's a shame us women have to go through literal trauma as children because we're brought up in a world that caters to men (I did want to talk about it, but it's such a triggering topic that I had to scrap it in the end. If you want to read about related topics more, I have the links in my sources) 😞
@@jemi_ Yes that felt so clear from your video! I related a lot to what you said, it made my own childhood influences clearer to me. I’m so glad to be out of that controlling environment and I hope you’ve left too!! They said I’d understand one day but I can’t imagine caring what children wear 😭 As long as they don’t burn, overheat or freeze and can move freely. Same for anyone! It’s not my business and I don’t want it to be
Red hair is an experience 😅 Yes that’s understandable! Tysm for saying what you did, it’s not easy and posting it online seems even harder. It reduced mid 20s for me too. Hahaha boys really were behind 🤣 You were wise!! Tbh in some ways I related to them as a tomboy and autistic/adhd girl. Apparently autistic girls and neurotypical boys develop socially at a similar pace, imo their difficulty is upbringing. But the moral contrast was huge 😬 And I wasn’t exactly taught to be nice! Where do they get it from?? Knowing answers doesn’t make me understand…
@@EmL-kg5gn Oh yeah, I agree with you, I couldn't imagine trying to control my kids' style (if I have any in the future) - it's such a personal thing, why would I want control over something completely unique to them that helps them express themselves? I think there's a fine line between protecting a child from p3dos and taking full control of something that ultimately should be part of their decision making procoess and artistic expression (same goes for hobbies etc, if your kid wants to draw, let them).
I also hung out with boys as friends....until they'd develop crushes on me and I'd always find out the friendship wasn't authentic and they always wanted more🥲 I eventually got sick of it haha, it's only after I was already "off the market" that I could have manageable friendships with guys, but some of them still made it weirddd. That's so interesting about neurotypical development, I didn't know that! I wish I knew why boys act so differently from girls, but I think a lot of it boils down to being raised in patriarchal systems - unless boys are made very aware of the advantage they have by being born male, they'll take it for granted and leverage it to their advantage. I hope I can talk about these issues more some day, I would just need to be very careful with my phrasing and approach to the topic.
@@jemi_ I agree it’s so creative and personal, and when they’re first old enough to want to dress themselves it’s a big step for their independence too!
That’s the worst! That’s what stopped me having guy friends too, it can be so hurtful. One of my guy friends had a crush on me as a teenager, when we were older he said he’d gotten over it and we became friends again. Years later I found out he hadn’t and was just hoping I’d change my mind!! I couldn’t believe he was lying the whole time we were friends… So I asked him if he’d ever be able to just see me as a friend, he was at least honest that time and said he wouldn’t so we don’t talk anymore
Yes, it’s learnt so young too. Tbh I think objectification is so literal that their consciences don’t even function when they interact with us. It’s tricky to discuss! Especially online when your audience can come from completely different backgrounds. It’s so sensitive and I imagine you’d really want to do your research too
@@EmL-kg5gn Aghhh I'm so sorry to hear that about your guy friend D: I had a guy friend who wouldn't take no for an answer for TEN YEARS until he eventually fell in love with someone else (and that girl hated me because of his previous affection for me so he instantly cut me out of his life). It feels so deceptive and I personally can't begin to understand why you wouldn't simply respect someone's decision to remain friends instead of trying to pressure or wait for them to change their minds 🙄 I've lost too many friends that way.
And yeah, I've definitely noticed how the objectification of women really is so common for boys from a young age, that they often don't think about how it makes us feel - I feel like the only time I can get a slight hint of sympathy is when I bring up their own mothers/daughters/siblings - otherwise they don't seem to recognize empathy or the personification of the person in front of them. Yeah there's so many topics I'd want to discuss, but most of them feel like walking in a mine field - it could blow up from any minor mistake or lack of research, which is why I'm glad to be able to at least have these discussions in the comments 🥲
I think my favourite outfits as a kid were sportswear and sneakers. Anything that was comfortable and I didn't have to worry about "ruining" or sullying, anything that allowed me free movement and exploration. Years later and I'm buying oversized t-shirts and sweatshirts from the men's section because COMFY and COOL. So I guess there's something to your theory 😅
I think a lot of us gravitate towards what we define as comfortable for ourselves :) I don't dress like a tomboy anymore, but I still love to have most of my t-shirts oversized/a size or two bigger than my actual size.
Never would I have taken you for a non-native speaker of English at all. You are fluent.😊
Thanks so much! I consider myself bilingual, english actually has been my emotional language, but I grew up learning english in a non-english speaking country, so some of my pronunciation is sometimes off.
It’s funny; when I was little, I was the stereotypical little girl who love pink and I played with Barbie dolls. I wore dresses & skirts with yellow, orange, green and blue ascents.
Around the time I turned 12, I became more tomboy I guess; I started wearing my brother’s hand me downs, graphic tees and jeans. When I watched WWE, Jeff Hardy was my favourite wrestler and he wore a lot of purple, he’s the reason I wanted to dye my hair that colour, so to this day purple is still my favourite colour!
Around 20 years old, I wanted to wear more feminine clothes again but didn’t know how, and I still liked my tomboy style. A big style inspiration for me is Barbara Dunkelman, she can go from pretty fairy girlie girl one minute and then cool effortless skater the next. At first I tried to fully emulate her look but realised that some stuff didn’t personally work for me (like she wore a lot of florals, but I switched that out for tie dye, which I’ve always loved anyway).
Now (30) my style is like a mix of all of it; all colours of the rainbow, which I loved as a kid. Pink is now more of an ascent instead of the main colour (I turned my nose up at it as a tomboy but now I like it again lol), I wear dresses and skirts with lighter colours/tie dye in summer, and more of my rock/metal style in winter/going to gigs: band tees, jeans, boots, leather jackets etc. So I’d say for the last 10 years, I’ve had a consistent style and still have a lot of the same clothes lmao.
I love this style evolution of yours! It's so interesting how so many of us had a tomboy phase in our teens, I'm honestly baffled at how universal that experience is 🫢 That's so good that you were able to take inspiration from Dunkelman's style and transform it into something unique of yours 💕
@@jemi_ yeah it’s wild, I’ve been reading some of the other comments here and glad I wasn’t alone with going through the tomboy phase!
From my cute 90s cloud set and butterflies, hello kitty and Dragon Ball Z, cow girl boots to abandoning jeans cause tight around my knees......
I've kept and taking those aesthetics with me through graphic tees and stickers when journaling and being creative. It what adds and helps with my curious creativity. More princess and cool anime 2D males; balance of view points and perspectives coming together.
Rambly, but as overjoyed and chaotic, I feel with a lot of words of what I love and thrive in.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences 💕So glad to hear you've found ways to incorporate aspects of your childhood preferences into your current style and lifestyle! I've definitely noticed my romantic aspects flourish in journaling, which has been so refreshing recently. Funny how these things circle back to us time and time again 😊
when i was in 1-2 grade of school i discovered that you can wear shorts and big t-shirts. im turning 24 this year. still a big fan of wearing shorts and big t-shirts... it something about the proportions idkkkk
i also had an interest in dark-red aesthetic, goth, emo, edgy thingies since young age. when i was 2011-2013 i was attracted to fashion of scene kids, "tumblr goth" posts. then in 2015 i discovered MCR. needless to say, i mostly wear red and black now, i really enjoy that having tats, gauges and dyed hair is more acceptable, more mainstream now.
No, I 100% get you, because I also love the oversized shirt + shorts combo so much. I wasn't a scene kid myself, but I remember the unnecessary hate they got for their style when I was younger :( I'm just glad fashion is considered to be more of an individualistic thing now (as it should be) and a form of self expression rather than just a tool to further conform to society.
My mom forced girly and sexy clothes on me when I was a kid (barf) and to this day I still can't touch hyper feminine clothes and anything showy is just a struggle. I make my inner child happy by just forgetting about those and focusing on what makes me feel confortable ♥️
I'm so sorry about your mom's approach on how to dress you as a kid! 😞 Happy to hear you're now listening to your inner child and what feels good and true to you, rather than catering to what your mom wanted ❤
Ive noticed something similar recently! I have slowly been coming back to favorite colours i liked when i was younger aswell as dressing in the way which was trendy back then and which i wanted to wear but i was too young to dress like that bcs my mum would dress me obv.
I've definitely noticed a decade-specific return to style in outfits! In my case, I like to integrate parts of 90s style to my outfits because of the darker, romantic and minimalist outfits in the 90s (especially with the dresses) 🥰 I wonder just how much our styles would change if we had complete knowledge of it and an unlimited budget to curate the right wardrobe for us.
Really nice video. I agree with it, when I was 5 or 6 I waz absolutely in love with pink bell bottoms and a flowy floral blue top with long sleeves, that was my favorite outfit I would surely wear today ❤
This sounds like an outfit from Winx Club (in the best way possible)! 💕 Sounds so cute~ I wish it were easier to find adult versions of what we wore as kids, I'd love to re-wear some of my clothes.
I grew up in an “underground”/street/ hippop rap environment, lets say and I love wearing boys’ things, hats and oversized stuff, but lately I started wearing what I loved when I was very little and its all very girly, pink and full of skirts and Im actually so happy and confident with myself.
I'm so happy for you!💕Sounds like you have a love for both kinds of styles (which is amazing!)❤
This video is SO interesting, fun and unique! I really enjoy it a lot, thanks for sharing! 💗
Thank you so much for watching! 💗
I got a colorblock windbreaker that looks much like the one I had as a little kid in the ‘80s, I love a good windbreaker foe a crisp late summer/early autumn day
my partner is obsessed with 80s-90s windbreakers, so we also have a lot of those in the house haha. I love the 80s style a lot because it reminds me of my late grandpa (who was also into colorful and funky patterned windbreakers)💕
@@jemi_ aw! Cool how we get inspiration from loved ones. My mom also dressed me in a girly style with lots of ruffles etc, and I still prefer a femme style now. Whenever I look at my childhood photos, I often think “I wish I had that in my size now” since there were so many fun looks in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s. I had this denim purse that I messed up from this highlighter pen that got uncapped and bled. That was when I was about 7. Now I’m over 40 and I found the same purse (never used, tags on) on eBay-still so cute!
@@malvavisco10 Agh, I feel you on the "I wish I had that in my size now", if I could get adult versions of my childhood clothes I'd be a very happy woman indeed! So glad you found the same purse in the end! I'm definitely still keeping a look out for specific purses I've loved (I've especially had my eye on the sequin shell handbags, I have one in pink, but I'd love to find a bigger one in navy blue) since I was young, and hopefully I can slowly keep curating more pieces that really feel like that princess-like version of me that I love 💕 It's just expensive so it'll take some time lol
this got recommended to me at a wierdly specific but needed time. I always had an idea of how I wanted to look (femme fatale/streetwear with hints of androgyny). When i was younger, whenever I steered too far away from the look ppl expected by cropping my shirts or wearing tighter clothing when I was young nearly everybody would try to police my self expression so I never put into much thought into how I would look at the time until recently when I started thinking about my presentation.
Please tell me you've watched "Charlie's Angels" and "Mr and Mrs Smith"! They're one of the many good sources of style inspo for the femme fatale look (and also some korean edgy street styles)! And I feel you, I always had kids at school try to make fun of me when I steered towards what felt more like my style, it's very hard to be true to yourself in a society that tells you to conform. I have a more in-depth guide on personal style coming up that tackles those issues though! 🥰
As a linguist and language teacher, I've been trying to identify your native language for the entire video, but I just can't identify it - English not being my first language either. Have you revealed it in another video? This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I think you have a point. I've definitely had certain tendencies in my personal style since my early childhood.
I'm Finnish, but I'm a third culture kid, so I've learned a mix of languages which has resulted in my weird accent :D
When i was a kid my mother was my style icon, she was so 90s corporate chic. Fast forward to now and im so 90s corporate chic 😭
"copy-paste" in the best way possible, your mom's and your style sounds so cool! I love watching late 90s runway videos, the fashion of the time was so elegant, but cool at the same time, I don't think we've ever quite re-captured that essence as a society.
7:54 this was pretty much me, though im pretty sure i didnt hate being girly, as i also liked typically "girl" things like barbie, my little pony and so on. pink, purple, blue was my favourite colour scheme and early 2010s galaxy aesthetics.
though, my mom went through a deep depression and later passed away before i was ten, so my style (and interests) shifted more androgynous or boyish as i grew more accustomed to male role models, since she wasnt there to influence my style. paired with this a (completely valid) fear of being sexually harassed + insecurities going through puberty, and i covered up much more and stopped wearing skirts in public.
my personal style is adopted more from my role models when i was 13-15 (BTS members to be exact). the only thing i can attribute to my younger self are my love for graphic tees with cute characters on them. just little guys :)))
my gender is androgynous and genderfluid because i link my gender heavily to my visual expression/style. my girly/kid side is still within me and i dont mind dressing up feminine here and there, but i still only feel comfortable doing it in private or in cosplay (when in public). physical comfort is a huge thing for me and feminine jeans are almost all high waisted but its soo uncomfortable that i cant leave the house
i feel like for some gender diverse people, especially non binary, its more likely their exploration of gender that explains their style better, instead of just what they liked to wear most as a 5 year old. though i acknowledge trans people do tend to have strong preferences as a child too, so in that case this theory makes sense for them
Thank you for sharing your story 💕 I love BTS so much, been a fan since 2013! There are some other genderfluid/gener diverse people in the comments who have voiced similar thoughts about their style and style identity - Linking to what I mentioned about us also wanting to create a style that portrays the "ideal self", it makes a lot of sense that the exploration of gender heavily affects one's own fashion choices as well. After all, we're showcasing parts of our identity (or the identity we wish to have) to the world.
I feel that our early choices in clothing do affect the style we choose now, although I was really surprised that it can start from such a young age of three or four years old. It must be true for some of my early childhood friends (one of which, in fact, could even notice that my mom had bought a new pair of boots). But I can't relate myself: I couldn't care less about the clothes being put on me until 10 or 11 yo, whether it was my brothers' clothes they had outgrown, something new and fashionable my mom was proud of buying for me or a funky present from my parents' friend who was a professional seamstress (the only thing I recall from my primary school is a handsewn leather sundress, because nobody cared whether it was stained badly or not - it could be cleaned with a rag or a couple of wet wipes).
The problem of finding the clothing I actually like started muuuuuch later, but it still affects what I prefer to wear now.
Do you think there was perhaps an environmental factor (family/school/climate etc) that affected how you viewed clothes up until 10/11 years old? I think style is so individualistic that it develops very differently and at a different pace for everyone. I have some family members who to this day don't have very strong preferences in their clothes (other than comfort and functionality), but know more or less what it is they need from fashion to go on about their daily lives.
@jemi_ the attention deficit factor could be the one. Counts for family/genetics, maybe
Surprisingly, the lack of normal clothing for plus-sized pre-teens and teenagers has actually influenced my style. When almost everything over size medium was either too small or too ugly (probably made for someone at least middle-aged and color blind as well), I finally got some thoughts on what I'd actually like to wear instead. And that it would probably be a good idea to search in that direction.
my style is very much all over the place - i find it really hard to combine classic punk, whimsical fairytale, and earthy vintage/folk, while still feeling my best in modern practical basics...
This is not necessarily a bad thing, you just know your interests well! This is an older video I made where I talk about mixing styles/aesthetics, but maybe it'll help you come up with some styling ideas if you want to combine those styles together! th-cam.com/video/EBMHAO_RLtc/w-d-xo.html
I had absolutely no interest in style or clothes as a child. I would wear whatever mum prepared for me. I still have absolutely no style or interest in fashion today. I must force myself to start caring about those things because its important in the society. its so annoying and overwhelming, though. I dont understand why people care about clothes so much. The idea that some people show genuine natural interest in clothes so early in childhood is really strange to me. Ive always thought that fashion is something that is forced on girls in puberty by social pressure.
In some ways I believe that not having a distinct or set style is also your personal style :) I have some close friends who don't care what they wear, as long as it's comfortable, and they express themselves in other ways, such as their hobbies or other artistic pursuits, but their style is just whatever they happen to put on. To me, fashion is an art form and a great tool for self expression - I've been both into film and fashion since I was young, and those were the two things I always felt unparalleled joy in doing, and maybe that's why I'm a fashion content creator haha. You're definitely not wrong though about fashion being forced on girls though, but personally I've chosen to own it and take control of it rather than let society dictate how I should dress all the time.
@@jemi_ I think it's really lovely when it's easy and joyful for you to dress nicely! 😊 It's a huge advantage in society. People treat you better and they're nicer to people who look well. I know because there's a shocking difference how people look and smile at me when I'm dressed better than usual. The issue is that I'm autistic and I've never been taught how to do it, never had a feminine role model in my life. Plus, I've always been fat despite basically constant dieting and working with nutritionists etc 😂 Now I'm on the quest to study the rules for how to dress so that it hopefully helps me be seen more feminine.
@@vevepriezviskova6909 It's an advantage until you dress differently from everyone else and it's frowned upon (I grew up in Finland where looking even a bit different from the rest of the crowd will get you a lot of hate)!
I hope you can also do what is most comfortable and best for you even if you're pursuing these goals for career/societal purposes - maybe outside of those social settings you can dress according to what aligns more with what you feel comfortable in 💕
as I remember, I didn't have very much shaped preferences as a child, I had some colors I liked more, though we bought new things very rare, they were perceived as espensive, and I think that shopping might have been something not very casual are "suited for me". and a lot of clothing I had didn't connect with if I viewed them as nice, they were just to put something on, second hand, maybe mum chose most of them? or I got as a gift from people? I happen to think sometimes that some of our clothing preferences may be connected with what our mothers used to wear, for me, I think I happen to have some connections with some things similar to some of hers.
Financial habits/background + what your parents prefer and how they introduce fashion to you definitely affect your style and I'll actually be talking about it more in depth in an upcoming video! I definitely have some similarities with my mom's style and she often gave me her hand-me-downs as I grew up.
When I was a child I was usually dressed in hand me downs from my oldest cousin, which were often cute clothes. As a teenager, I discovered flared jeans and never went back (everyone else moved to skinny jeans but I never did) and now I mostly wear flared skirts and hoodies. I need a bit of volume at the legs, but now I'm ready to look eccentric while doing it :D
I love the sound of your style! I've really been getting into wide leg and flared pants recently, I think the super long and wide jeans from the early 2000s had me convinced I'd never want to try it again, but I found some pants in non-denim material that are flared/wide leg and I think they fit me really well 😊 I'm currently searching for the Japanese-style super wide leg and baggy pants, I don't know what they're called, but they look so comfy and cool to me.
Ive started dressing like middle-school me could have only dreamed of. Lindsay Lohan, Hillary Duff, and Miley Cyrus were my icons, and ive found myself, at 23, drawn to these silhouettes. Baggy pants, tight tops, layering and lots of accessories. I think what's matured is the color pallete. I prefer colors like red, grey, black, navy blue, white. Cool Neutrals with jewel tones, very much a grunge color palette. And I know exactly where it came from. I grew up listening to a lot of classic rock, heavy metal, and music on that vein because of my dad. I've always been a loud, bold, experimental fashionista. I am so happy i get to dress like one now 🥹
So happy for you! It's very interesting to discover what our style was inspired by and what it has evolved into in present day. I definitely think it's an incredibly fulfilling thing to have in our lives 💕
Great research, thank you!❤
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! 🥰
Hey, Jemy! Another Robin Hood lover here! He was my first one and true love hehe 😅 I also have managed to keep dressing up kinda fairy princess in my adult life. Love your video!
So glad I'm not the only one who was obsessed! 😂 My mom won't stop reminding me that 3 year old me would walk around the house with a veil on my head asking for my Robin Hood to come save me 😅
Its so refreshing and interesting !
Thanks so much for watching! I'm glad you found it refreshing, I'll be making more personal style content from hereon out ☺
My personal style as a kid: I actually don't remember.
As a preteen/ teen: Resorted to mostly comfy clothing to cope with a foster care situation, though I did resort to wearing dresses all the time to hide myself from family; teen years was influenced by Disney Channel with a bit of internet trauma.
As an adult to this day: Comfy clothing, but exploring androgynous outfits. Found a few good ones I'd wear again.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! It sounds like comfort is one of the most important things to you (which I agree with, my clothes HAVE to be comfy)! 😊
i never thought about how childhood can effect your style! i always dressed girly and very feminine and this year started getting into vintage. my parents are older and i grew up watching old tv your pictures look so pretty they remind me of flickr in 2011 but what is this 18:14 is that a fire hydrant
Oooooh is there a specific decade you're focusing on, or just vintage in general? I've loved vintage fashion for so long, I love hearing what other people are drawn to in that aspect 💕And the bug bulky red object in the picture is actually a mailbox (it was taken in London, the vintage mailboxes and other old objects are still pretty common around there)
As a little kid like five all the way up to ten I didn’t choose what I wore I had major sensory issues (I’m autistic) as a child so my grandma would pick my pre approved outfits out for me. But as I got older i still didn’t get to choose what I wanted to wear because I moved schools and my new school had uniforms and i resented the hell out of it so i started to modify my clothes within the schools dress code. Safe to say my style today is very dark gothic and as non conformist as I can get.
Huge props to your grandma helping you out ❤Agh, tell me about the sensory issues! There are certain materials I haaaate even touching. I also discovered I'm allergic to pure wool and it's one of the best warm fabrics you can wear in a cold country like Finland....so my mom made me wear wool clothes until I swore to her they made me itch like crazy. 🥲 Glad to hear you're staying true to yourself now (as you should!)💕
Im really socially anxious + reserved, kinda a people pleaser and im called nice by people i know but im a Metalhead + guitarist and i like to dress up in a alternative kinda style (black, leather, chains, Spikes, bullet belts, big heels/boots, band merch, etc.) and I guess it could come off as intimidating to people the 'don't mess with me' kinda vibe which is kinda the message i wanna give since i also have a trouble time standing up for myself so whenever i wear that i feel like i can step into a more assertive persona but people get surprised with how nice i really am once they meet me
During childhood it used to be bright colors, lots of rainbows and what not but my favorite show was my little pony and my favorite character (i was obsessed with) was rainbow dash who was always the cool, badass, outgoing, cocky, sporty character and Little me based my style off of her and pretended to be like her even tho my personality was and still is the opposite
That's so interesting how there's a split between your ideal self and identity-focused self! I have a few friends who'd dress up goth or punk and look intimidating from the outside but would be the sweetest people I've ever met, and I think it's just one of those things where your ideal self helps protect you, since it is the first thing people will see in you and associate with you. Some people assume I'm very chatty and bubbly when I dress in all pink and ruffles, but I'm an ambivert so that "bubbly" part of my personality doesn't get revealed to most people. My ideal self is both confident and kind, which is why I have three very distinct "styles within a style". I think a lot of it comes down to which part of you you want to reveal to the world or feel most comfortable in when in public - I'd dress like a cute fairy everyday if I wasn't going to classes haha🧚🏻
I won best dressed in the 5th grade yearbook!! :P I def remember the fits I'd wear, and I'm so happy to see myself getting back 2 my old self
So happy for you! Your style must be immaculate if you were already a fashionista in 5th grade! ✨
Such a young y2k queen! Thriving in Limted too/Justice!! Imagine how i felt when I was able to buy my first juicy tracksuit!!!
Xoxoxoxo!! @jemi_
oooo so excited to watch this!! it was recommended on my feed (prob bc of beepworld) and already saved to see when crocheting
Ahhh thank you so much for taking the time and effort to consider watching! 🥰 I love beepworld's videos~ I'm curious about what you're crocheting hehe, I just started my very first crochet project! ❤
instantly subscribed! this is so cool and i haven’t even watched it yet haha
Thank you so much!! 🥹💕
In a sense, I see where you derive your point and agree, but, and I guess this is maybe more of a personal style evolution thing, but, personally, at age 45...across ALL aesthetic areas of my life at the moment the expression of my style has done a 180* turn(at least internally...now its just a matter of time, money, and design work to manifest it outwradly) from very traditionally romantic goth drowning in macabre ornate details to a VERY stream lined, clean, sleek and Thoroughly modern, even futuristic expression of goth. Still dark, still moody, still luxuriously sensual, still a bit romantic, still quite "formal" or "dressy"....just through a modern lens
Sounds like you ventured into a new aspect of goth in your personal style! Could this maybe be what I mentioned briefly in the beginning, discovering something new along the way that fits your personal style even better than what you had up to that point? I'm also noticing a bit of a 180 degree turn in my style recently, but more along the concept of showing skin vs not, and I think the biggest factors for that change were 1. my trip to Japan (exposure to Japanese conservative/relaxed street style, which I fell in love with) 2. a change in my environment and lifestyle - going from the heart of NYC to a small-ish city and returning to retail work definitely affected what I can/want to wear every day.
All this to say, I think our formative years shape who we become initially, and as we evolve and discover more experiences etc, our style evolves too. But those little things like, in your case, the romantic/moody aspects carried along to the next version of you :)
I didn't get to choose my clothing till I was older, around 14 is when I really got the chance to explore fashion. Hot Topic was a discovery. I love gothic and dark clothing of all types. I wonder where I got that from?
Maybe all the witchy content from the 90's/00's.
I'm in my mid 30s
Was Buffy The Vampire Slayer or Sabrina The Teenage Witch perhaps part of the media you were consuming? 👀 I never saw much of the 90s witchy tv because it wasn't broadcast to Finland, but a lot of the movies I watched were fantasy/fairy/princess themed (I remember OBSESSING over secret garden especially), so that checks out for a big chunk of my style ☺
man i wish i had photos of when i was young so i could see what i wore. i only vaguely remember wearing a lot of form fitting tops and jeans, tho i wore skorts a lot in elementary.
i wore jeans because i was a tomboy and form fitting tops because my grandmother kept trying to put me in baggier boxy clothes to hide my body as I grew up
Do these specific outfit formats still ring true to you today? And yes haha, I can relate to a grandparent/parent wanting to hide your figure 😅
@@jemi_ In a way, I guess. soft t-shirts from a brand I've fallen in love with and I've kinda fallen away from jeans and i like wearing sleek slacks and soft pants instead, though I still have jeans if I'm gunna be roughing it since I'm a tomboy at heart, too.
I also wear longer skirts when I don't feel like dealing with pants.
I like how my personal style's evolved to look more sophisticated as a 30+ adult but still have that same comfort. I like feeling mature in my clothes and my skin and like I've gotten somewhere in life.
@@TriskelionHallow I feel you about the jeans! I just can't deal with the discomfort of them anymore (though i recently found some fake denim-ish pants that I think are perfect cuz they're stretchy but a similar material). And I feel you about getting a sense of maturity in your style, I feel like I've recently felt that a little extra, especially since I'm surrounded by young college kids these days haha.
I kinda agree and disagree with the statement, but truthfully because i have a big factor that you also didn't mention: Gender and sex. Yeah im a straight cis man (i think lol) and obviously my relationship with fashion at the start was veeeery different from today. But i do vivdly remember talking in class with a friend about her teaching me how to punch and me teaching her a nice outfit (LMAO). What i said to her was a long brown coat with jeans and matching brown boots. And omg i do that same style today lololol, i love mixing earth tones with a very androgynous style and 70's men's style. i loooooved that you incorporated a scientific paper on the video, buuut the autor did forget (or deliberately ommit) men from the study. I'd love to see how it changes with gender and sex.
Great video is was a really cool topic!! ;3
Thank you for this insight! I didn't go too much into gender/religion/body shaming etc, because for some individuals they may be triggering topics. I have been interested to explore men's fashion though, because I've noticed the way most men in my life have been brought up to relate to fashion is so different from women. But I've also noticed it's very different in the US in contrast to where I'm from (Finland). I want to look into men's fashion, and how it's evolved (such as how it has eventually turned from feminine to masculine, and how "masculine" has been redefined throughout the ages), but since I myself cannot speak for the collective, I want to do more research that could point me in the right direction. Any topic requests/ideas you may have, please let me know!😊
And I agree with your fashion advice, that sounds like a fantastic outfit ✨
@@jemi_ (insert tik tok audio of "omggg i love this question" lol) I have a lot of ideas due to having thought of this for a long while. I adore fashion. But masculinity was some concept in my life that limited what i could literally *do* with my existence. I couldn't show excitement for a new shirt, couldn't express softness for something/someone, it goes on and on. I'm not really sure how this came to be, like why is masculinity so limiting... but that's a very big and tuff question. At least, sticking with fashion: the shift from over the top dresses for men in the 1700's to today may have to do with class system. Fashion was for the wealthy, it expressed wealth. Nowadays it express something else, we asocciate fashion with being superflous, a "second neccesity". Women being left out to do house work and having more time for those "second neccesities" made them prone to fashion and makeup. I decided i want that second neccesity because i love it. I don't internalize shame through it. Hopefully that conclusion of mine becomes a new societal norm. some day.
dang sorry for the essay i went overboard lol. Hopefully you get an idea with my yapping
@@Varaga_82 Please don't apologize for giving me information I asked for, I'm just so grateful to receive your insight and perspective! 😊 I've definitely noticed the emotional and mental limits that are automatically placed on men, it's actually a huge mental health issue in Finland where I'm from because in addition to these limitations, we're a very cold climate culture, so people don't really seek help or talk about their problems much from the get-go. And that makes so much sense regarding the shift in menswear being linked to class systems! It's very interesting to see how the purpose of fashion has changed so much throughout time, but I'm glad it's now something accessible to everyone, and that it can be used for creative and self expression. And I share your dream, we should all be able to express ourselves individualistically through fashion without shame ❤
When i was a child, my mom and my aunt wasn't that girl girl. I was only able to touch my feminine side during college 😂
Oh yeahhhh, how much our parents dabble in our style choices really affects what we can wear as kids :O This seems like a really universal experience based on what everyone else is saying too!
My mom wouldn’t let me wear crop tops but did say it was okay to look sexy but not slutty lol. I let my daughter wear crop tops but would tell her there is a time and place for certain attire. She is comfortable in her own skin and style. We are both pretty moderate hippy/boho. Mine more mature and suited for my physical job as a cook at a preschool. Hers more eclectic and youthful in her 20s and working at Starbucks and going to college.
this is so sweet! Sounds like she took a lot of inspiration from your style, I've definitely also gravitated towards specific types of things my mom loves as well (most notably we both love basic/minimalist pieces with that "little something special" to make them quirky or stand out a bit), it's interesting to see what parts of their parents lifestyle/fashion etc kids choose to adapt into their own lives.
The thing is, my mother dressed me horrendously when I was a child. I would get made fun of in school, etc. Then, I was a fat kid and teenager, so none of the things I wanted to wear would fit me. We were also poor, and I could not afford any of the beautiful clothing my peers would wear. I feel like I have some fashion trauma. I'm a University student now, and I have little money. I do my hair every day because my mother never did anything with it. It's the only thing I can do to have a "personal style."
I'm so sorry this happened to you! My mom tried to dabble in influencing my style choices just enough so I'd fit in at school, but I still got bullied, unfortunately. Fashion trauma is a very real thing, if you don't feel comfortable in who you are and what you wear, it affects your daily life pretty severely, and having gone through a similar journey, I feel so bad for all the people who have gone through this 💔 Eventually you'll get there (but it takes time! Took me a little less than a decade to feel good about my closet) - perhaps if you wanted to, you could slowly try to thrift a more personalized closet for yourself? When I started building my own closet, I went exclusively only to thrift stores (which is still mostly the case). I still can't afford 70% of the types of clothes I'd love to buy, but I get overjoyed when I find an amazing piece for only $5 🥰 I'd only buy the things that I really really loved, which also helped make sure I wasn't going over a very limited budget.
It’s funny. I actually thought about it a week ago. For me it’s really true. Finding my personal style was more of a travel back to kindergarten - just with more knowledge how to make the clothes more practical (how did nobody introduce me to the concept of wearing leggings under a skirt when cycling then?). The colors and patterns are the same.
So glad this rings true to you! 💕Knowledge of where your style came from + the knowledge you have now on how you can style clothes to fit you best for your needs, is so useful to help you understand and personalize your style.
Omg your cat is sooooo cute, looks like the cat from Sabrina the teenage witch 😍
YESSSS I think so too! And he's got the same sass to him. When his eyes get all big he also looks like Jiji from Kiki's Delivery 🥹🐈⬛
I love this!!! Im driving but im coming back to comment details lol
Thank you so much for watching! 🥰 Please let me know if you had any thoughts on the discourse!
You should get in touch with Gabrielle Arruda. She has a podcast where fellow style enthusiasts can discuss fashion and personal style.
I think you two would have a lot to talk about.
That's so interesting! I've never heard of it before, I'll have to check out her work, thank you for the recommendation! 🥰
Haha ! 4 year old me would be proud of myself. To this day, I still dress like the princess that I have always been 🩷🖤✨
You an me both! 🥹💕🎀 I love how so many of us chose to listen to how we really want to dress!🥰
13:56 so... the starfleet vibes are no coincidence...
I grew up watching the Addams Family, Buffy, Goosebumps and every creepy show you can think of. I'm goth now. The only reason I didn't start young is because I was raised by a narcissistic mother.
I'm sorry about the treatment you've received in the past, but I'm so glad to hear you've found your way in your style now ❤ I find it very sad how controlling parents can be towards many aspects of their child's life, especially the ones where creative freedom should be allowed (to an extent at least) 💔Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment 🥹💕
Genuine question. Why is your mom narcissistic for not allowing you to look goth? You do know it’s not a normal style, right?