the 4 stages of personal style

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  • @tubaavalon
    @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    let me know of your very own rule you stick to, to build your personal style!

    • @missspiritual
      @missspiritual 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Let your inner middle schooler shine through with the angst if she wants to - So, I allowed myself to buy, wear regularly and cherish the miu miu flame loafers 🥰

    • @SoaringSpear
      @SoaringSpear 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@missspiritualI need you to send these!!!!

    • @brickchains1
      @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      nothing is worth the money - and youll immediately know whats right for you when you see it.. if you dont make your decisions DECISIVELY you will more likely regret them

    • @Luftballon1970
      @Luftballon1970 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      great advice ❤

    • @davidallen346
      @davidallen346 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You have to know what looks good on you without following trends or spending a lot of money. Accentuate your body without modifying or exploit

  • @FlaerMcGrathHolmquist
    @FlaerMcGrathHolmquist 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +425

    My one guideline is this: an article of clothing should make me want to move my body, whether because of its aesthetic qualities, or because of the feeling of a particular fabric, or because of the fit, or even the way the clothes move with my body, visually and otherwise.

    • @brickchains1
      @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      love the body first movement first mentality - clothes serve your purpose

    • @jedrzejowskia
      @jedrzejowskia 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes love this

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      this is almost philosophical, great description of what silhouette and fabric actually create at the end. we all are in movement all the time, so thats so relevant when thinking about clothes. Maybe thats why I love coats that are too wide, I love how they flow in the back with that empty space 🧚‍♂

    • @MIOLAZARUS
      @MIOLAZARUS 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I feel this!

    • @kimberlytucker3517
      @kimberlytucker3517 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ditto. Well said. 😊

  • @nettiemooo7629
    @nettiemooo7629 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +206

    I slowly accepted the old saying “too poor to buy cheap”. As a kid with a low income family, buying cheap shoes was a way of life that I could never turn back to. Not only were they constantly breaking, the comfort and support they lacked has definitely had long term impacts on my feet. I try to buy pairs that are leather so that they stretch and mould to my feet. Interesting video Tuba.

    • @piccalillipit9211
      @piccalillipit9211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      A Savile row suit costs about £3.50 a week over its life. A dirt cheap suit costs about £4 a week and will look terrible. A mid range suit costs about £5 to £6 a week.
      Poor people are trapped by the bad buying decisions they are forced to make - even worse they are sold the idea that excess and newness is the goal and not quality, which further keeps them poor.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I understand the urge for high quality pieces, not just for the sake of having better pieces, but also just meaningful ones, that do good to our bodies.

    • @tacocatseven
      @tacocatseven 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      It’s hard to do, when companies are cutting costs at every corner and all brands across every price range are switching to lower quality materials and workmanship.

    • @piccalillipit9211
      @piccalillipit9211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@tacocatseven many towns, even now, have a small tailor or seamstress that will make almost anything for you and you may be surprised how reasonable their prices are.

    • @LowSlungBadBitch
      @LowSlungBadBitch 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tacocatseven diligent research can be helpful for that. But yes it is hard at first.

  • @WatermelonYoshi
    @WatermelonYoshi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +127

    I've spent YEARS to get a cohesive wardrobe, gathering my pieces, forming my style, and investing in things I know I'll never grow out of. it doesn't happen in a week you can't buy a whole new closet and say that's it, it takes time and an understanding of not what's popular in a single season but what fits your personality and what you feel comfortable in !!

    • @ZurditaDinamita
      @ZurditaDinamita 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      This, taking it slowly is being SO important for me and my indecisive trait lol I've been analysing my wardrobe since 2020, and recently (like one-two months ago) I'm finding my ground! I had a bohemian phase, a minimal phase, extra-creative phase... Fortunately I didn't buy anything 😂 now I know the *common traits* I need on my garments!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      thats so true, taking the time is painful sometimes almost, but always worth it. and the again there are the moments where the impulsive ones were very correct, so figuring out quick what one likes is also important ☺

  • @jawbreaker8125
    @jawbreaker8125 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My one rule: the road to great style is paved with fashion faux pas. Just own it and move on. Be unapologetic about what you like and ruthless about what you don't like, you don't owe your wardrobe to anybody else than you.

  • @sarahfrede3488
    @sarahfrede3488 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

    please make a video about the 50 most important designers and what they stand for... would love to hear your take on this

    • @christallenisavva7440
      @christallenisavva7440 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes please!!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      oh cool, adding to the list!

    • @gracechen4
      @gracechen4 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes!! I would love this :)

  • @luzm3319
    @luzm3319 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I find it helpful to have a small wardrobe. I came across the wonder wardrobe method in like 2019 and ever since I have been keeping a small and interchangeable closet. It’s crazy to think that almost 5 years have passed since then now. I definitely like my wardrobe a lot better now than I did in 2019. I also enjoy thrifting, window shopping, and searching for gems in the sales section. Having an interchangeable wardrobe helped me figure out what my go to color palette is, how my lifestyle looks/what clothes I actually wear, and how to have more discipline when shopping. Knowing you color palette and lifestyle type makes shopping so much easier. I would recommend the wonder wardrobe method to anyone trying to figure out what your style and lifestyle looks like. Also, you don’t have to have a minimalistic wardrobe with this method, it can be trendy and fun too. Sometimes all you need is one pair of shoes, a necklace, or a bag, etc. to turn a classic outfit into a fresh and new outfit. Outfit repeating is not a crime, it’s called having personal style! So don’t be scared by the idea of a small wardrobe. 4 bottoms and 5 tops will get you 20 outfits! And accessories will make it easier to make your wardrobe grow and change with you and your tastes

  • @b3naqua
    @b3naqua 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    love thisssss 👏🏼 my rules: know/love your body type/shape, know your measurements, be authentic/real, pay attention to the weather, own your weirdness, experiment, ELEVATE, don't be boring/safe lol....tho biggest thing is to trust & follow your intuition and allow yourself to evolve, embrace change

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      great summary of your feelings, love it 💘

  • @ozgardea8782
    @ozgardea8782 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    About 3 years ago I adopted a 90’s cowboy esthetic and I havnt looked back. It’s part of who I am now and I can confidently say that it’s the style I’m keeping for the rest of my life

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      haha that's great, this means your authentic self can identify with the nonchalance life of a cowboy 🐎

  • @thevirgoals
    @thevirgoals 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    My essential rule in finding my personal style (I think ***hope*** I have it together now) is finding what I don't like. It's odd but my style really improved when I started paying attention to what I didn't like to see myself in. It was pretty eye opening to see how many times I bought items that just didn't flatter me

  • @AnnaDG516
    @AnnaDG516 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I think for me something that is helpful is to go somewhere and be by myself away from people (even just for a day or two) and get myself dressed. I find that when I have time away from others, I get dressed very quickly and purely from an intuitive place. It's never stressful or difficult. The outfits that I create when no one perceives me feel authentic to what I actually love wearing and I just make a quick note of those outfits to look back on as an anchor.

  • @Soulcrash3
    @Soulcrash3 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    You aren't too ugly for your clothes even if you feel you are/don't be afraid or ashamed that your clothes are prettier than you, most clothes worth having are/ your current self deserves beautiful comfortable inspiring and well made clothes too, don't waste your life waiting for a future self that may never come (weight-, acne-, career-, success or self steemwise) although be mindful that the way people perceive you will shape your life and could potentially put you in danger and prepare accordingly (or change your environment to a safer one if you have the privilege to do so). Be as happy as you can be now. Of all the miseries in life why suffer for the clothes you choose to buy/wear. Clothes don't own you so don't serve fashion/clothes/trends/societal expectations as if it was an unforgiving master/ You are not a mannequin nor a hanger/ Your clothes should serve YOU: your purpose, your joy, your self-expression, your comfort and your soul. They are not a goal within themselves and shouldn't be purshased just to please people or fill a void/ Retail is in fact not therapy/ The clothes alone will not fix your life id you want a significant change then change significantly/ At the end of the day they are an accessory we throw in the washer... You your thoughts and lived expirience are far more complex and worth a lot more than the clothes you wear/ Clothes take space both in irl and in your brain, don't overfill it. Moderation is key and fashion can absolutely be your drug of choice.

  • @amooriify
    @amooriify 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Knowing yourself should be our number one goal in life; it's the key to achieving anything authentic and original. A related fact is the aphorism 'Know thyself,' inscribed in the pronaos of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in the Ancient Roman mosaic featuring a skeleton alongside the Greek aphorism 'Know thyself.'
    It has been there for thousands of years and its one of the most challenging things to achieve in life. While finding your style might take less time, knowing your true self is a never-ending journey because we are always changing and evolving. So, don't be too hard on yourself; you're doing the best you can.
    For me, knowing yourself isn't only about understanding your current state but acknowledging that I'm always changing, learning, and evolving. The awareness of this constant change, to me, is the essence of knowing oneself.

  • @tesnimguesmi6087
    @tesnimguesmi6087 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    My style is very moody like me, it's like playing characters, a form of disguise without betraying my truth. Today, I'm in a biker aesthetic, tomorrow I might become a working woman in corporate world. I don't know if even we can call this style, it just makes me feel good and/or helps me get through hard days

    • @isadoramasierodossantos
      @isadoramasierodossantos 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      yess i love dressing up as a diferent character every day

  • @Contraltosarah
    @Contraltosarah 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    A rule for me is that I only buy pieces that move me, pieces that have soul and integrity as objects (quality and intrinsic beauty). I only thrift and buy vintage designer which allows me to play and experiment. Often I buy a piece because I am moved by jt - the I have to work to learn how to style it in a way that feels like me which is a wonderful learning process. After many years of doing this, I do know what silhouettes/colours suit me and my style for me - and I will still override for a piece that makes my heart wobbly.

  • @Findyourcall
    @Findyourcall 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Your channel is pure pleasure! I am at a decluttering stage of my life and feel challenging to add pieces, avoiding colors other then gray black white. Maybe it's a stage of some sort. Lately the most comfortable for me are loose pants+tighter top, long wool coat with oversized shoulder + heavy boots

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      thank you! the decluttering stage is always a recurring one and I think its good to question oneself once a year, like a temperature check. You're on the right track 💝

    • @Findyourcall
      @Findyourcall 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon thanks for your feedback and for sharing your views on personal style 🌺

  • @dontbeekoi
    @dontbeekoi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I was today years old when I found out about Tuba Avalon. life forever changed.

  • @zanbudd
    @zanbudd 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    My personal rules involve freedom of movement, natural fibers, and sleeves that never become restrictive when I move my arms. I prefer colors found in nature and appreciate that as we evolve we see more colors, new colors, light. I’ve always appreciated Edward Sissorhands because of his cutting skills- thanks for including him🙏🏼🦋💧

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      when I read comments like yours, I see the beauty of personal style and how different we can perceive the needs of fabrics and designs 💚

  • @brickchains1
    @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    7:57
    "ALL THESE THINGS IN YOUR DAILY LIFE DISTRACT YOU FROM UNDERSTANDING YOURSELF WHILE BEING BUSY QUESTIONING WHY YOU ARE NOT A CERTAIN WAY" 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      hahaha I AM ALWAYS DISTRACTED FROM EVERYTHING BUT MY OWN THOUGHTS

    • @brickchains1
      @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      wow tuba that is exactly it.. you are truly the next level.. that is the negation!@@tubaavalon

  • @kimonowitheyes3825
    @kimonowitheyes3825 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your 4 guidelines are brilliant. What really uplifted me is that we are not a product we have emotions and that we have dreams and fears which can be used to influence how we dress. .For a long time clothes just covered me and I used it to appear normal however I'm not (who is) - I love the critical thinking and then the beautiful,chaotic,emotional outburst that you bring to your vlogs - lm now thinking more about shepherds, l'm following you and I predict that your voice and channel will continue to get bigger......keep challenging the fashion world, we need you and they need you.

  • @sabrinaw.7432
    @sabrinaw.7432 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    My guideline is will I still like this item 5-10 years from now? This statement keeps me from buying trends that don't fit into my wardrobe.
    Wonderful videos! Thoroughly enjoy your point of view. 🤘

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you and very strict guidelines you have! 5-10 years is very far, but I’m sure it helps to keep staying on your main track of style 🌹

  • @Rhandomcurator
    @Rhandomcurator 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Absolutely in love with your channel, to add: Personal style for me is the question of how i want to do the world and how i want the world to respond to me, fashion is a visual language that's felt, lived in and always evolving we don't always want to say the same thing: clothes are the words that construct the answer to the questions before presented and a full look is the text.

  • @a.s.3318
    @a.s.3318 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have a fairly primitive approach to identifying personal style and keeping a clear sense of it. I look for those sparks, where you only see something once and immediately identify with it. Whether you see it in your mother’s old pictures, on the street, or on the runway - if it only takes one look for you to get excited about it, then it’s probably authentic attraction to the piece or what the piece represents.
    I also examine what things I have loved throughout my lifetime and why I’ve loved them. Some things I’ve loved because they helped me portray myself a certain way (motivated by fear and comparing myself to others), and those were unauthentic expressions of my personal style. Whenever I’ve loved something with my heart and soul instead of a motive, it’s more true to me. Like true love.
    As I learn more about art and fashion, I hope to develop a more detailed understanding of my style. I’m trying to learn from people who know a lot about fashion, and I’m trying not to get oversaturated with soulless, uninformed fashion content, where influencers are really just competing to show how “on trend” they are, never developing individual fashion identities.

  • @franceshanna3724
    @franceshanna3724 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I want your cardigan so much, love your style Tuba. My fave silhouette is wide high pants (especially dark raw denim or linen in Summer) and fitted top on top. Of course there is a female gaze, towards other females, who doesn't check out what their fave female colleague dresser is wearing or what other women are wearing on the streets.

  • @adarsh_p7046
    @adarsh_p7046 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Personal aesthetic should be sung like an anthem, which will only sound better with time and practice. Another great video from a great and insightful channel! 🌻🌞

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      definitely supporting to make an anthem out of this 🙌

  • @ceramicfrog1
    @ceramicfrog1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I love your cardigan!!!!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thank youu!

  • @PAULDIPEOLU
    @PAULDIPEOLU 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    One important rule to finding your personal style is accessorizing. Accessories are staple, they convey emotion and stories through detail

    • @brickchains1
      @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      and you can see, you have really cool sunglases

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      yes, its the salt and pepper of the look 🥳

  • @JuliaCLundmark
    @JuliaCLundmark 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Know yourself, know your lifestyle. Be honest to yourself about the life you live and what your clothes need to do to function in your life. Cliché but for me motherhood helped me let go of the need to perceived as sexy and I have allowed myself to focus on more interesting aspects of myself style.
    Buy interesting silhouettes, even simple things can be interesting and with a point of view.

  • @user-sf3os2xb9d
    @user-sf3os2xb9d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Wonderfully done! Humour, insight, and wisdom - in less than 30 minutes. So unexpected, which makes this great. Keep it up.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🥰

  • @Katana1982dark
    @Katana1982dark 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love how you always remember people to watch out for sustainability. Thank you!

  • @enthusiastinquestion711
    @enthusiastinquestion711 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    you mentioning alexander mcqueen... my relative got me shoes from his brand that their friend gave them cuz they dont wear these shoes anymore. i've never felt high price = high quality as strongly as when wearing these. they are so, so comfy, easy to clean and STURDY. i accidentally tore my last shoes within the first few months of wear by tying them too hard - meanwhile mcqeen shoes seem like they could withstand an explosion. i rly underestimated the value of good quality clothes lmaoo.. time to grind to be able to afford more one day 🤪

  • @shellbell8062
    @shellbell8062 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Waiting (and FOMO) is my biggest nemesis. When I wait, it sells out. When I don't, it's half price later. But yes I agree that waiting teaches self control and prevents many bad, impulsive decisions. I am now having to sell several bad purchases that I know I won't wear - many of them at about a third of what I paid. It's a hard, painful lesson.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      it is so hard!!

  • @nadda698
    @nadda698 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a refreshing channel! A reminder why yt is elite

  • @julie.k15
    @julie.k15 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    loved this

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      the maximum of my professional editing skills

  • @ohgodohgodhelp6152
    @ohgodohgodhelp6152 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When I first came across your video I thought you were a channel with 250k+ subscribers! You have a professional set up and a lot of good things to share, I know you’ll blow up soon!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😭thank youuuu

  • @judithholder2537
    @judithholder2537 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    STUNNING look today, Tuba. Brava. You must be feeling excellent. My personal style has always been quite Pierrot & now Altazurra has done it. Damn. I do not wish to be au courant.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you and Altuzarra has always been so underrated, I like it a lot 💌

  • @YoogiNation
    @YoogiNation 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    the most impactful video i’ve watched since i started my fashion journey

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      omg that’s so amazing to hear! 🥹

    • @YoogiNation
      @YoogiNation 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon thank u for what u do🫶🏿

  • @p5742j
    @p5742j 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    you got 21k subs now, its actually a huge channel, you literally manifested it with that intro

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      don't know, but I believe in our earths magnetic field ❤‍🔥

  • @aruraj2564
    @aruraj2564 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    tuba ur skin and makeup looks especially amazing in this video 🤩

  • @brickchains1
    @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    just go to a shop you like and try on tons of stuff!!! as a practice!! perfection is a process

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      speak up!

  • @m00hrew
    @m00hrew 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i find your vids very inspiring. revisioning my wardrobe at another angle already

  • @allymounga4902
    @allymounga4902 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just discovered you through this video, and I am blown away. You are brilliant. WOW!

  • @LW-ex9ui
    @LW-ex9ui 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    27:20 I had the same Vestiaire breakdown last week over a pair of Chloé boots in my favorites 😂 Saddest thing was that I got the notification that they had been heavily discounted and I thought "nah I'll wait a couple of days"...

  • @makeup_onhermind
    @makeup_onhermind 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Stick to your favorite styles and allow for fluidity beyond that. That means, I will forever wear wideleg pants and western booties - but I also have other categories of more frivolous things that get worn less or cycle in and out of my wardrobe (a lot of it secondhand). So I think it's important to embrace two things: 1. Parts of your style will never change, they may sometimes feel boring to you, but it's worth sticking to what you're always comfortable and confident in. 2. Accept that findind your style is never a finished process. You will evolve forever, the world around you will, and so will some of the clothing that you want to wear and the stuff you surround yourself with.

  • @ElizabethNonsuch
    @ElizabethNonsuch 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    It took me years to realise that 1950s vintage fits my physique way better than modern clothing ever could. I have a 12" difference between my waist and hips and 50s tailoring fits beautifully. Modern clothing seems to be made for people with very straight torsos/bodies, so I tend to wear form-fitting clothing if I'm buying modern - bodycon works best on me as it shows my curves. I can't get away with big boxy styles, it just makes me feel too masculine when I've been blessed with an overtly feminine body shape. I do love playing with androgyny though, even with my curves - a fitted waistcoat and 30s style puffed shoulders have always been my 'go tos'. I think having knowledge of fashion history (being a former vintage clothing trader myself) really has taught me so much about tailoring, fabric quality and cuts that were popular during different eras - knowledge, is fashion power ;) Great video, thank you x

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Your style sounds amazing! and its very unique, since you gained all these enlightening thoughts during a process, its an interesting thought to follow what the body asks for more than the mind when it comes to shapes but you proved thats also possible. Thanks for sharing!

    • @bigpunchline
      @bigpunchline 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Girl I see you - also have that butt 2 size bigger than my waist 😂 nothing except A silhouette fits - but I prefer more masculine style, so it is complicated to find pieces

  • @pierce.the.sketch
    @pierce.the.sketch 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The pieces I own should be first of all comfortable and make me FEEL stylish. I found this is the only way I can make everything work because I like to wear it. Then of course pay attention to which silhouettes and colours make you FEEL your best. Voilá!

  • @gigisorbet5559
    @gigisorbet5559 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Absolutely loved this video Tuba!!! Please keep them coming 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you my love 😘

  • @laurenstorey8206
    @laurenstorey8206 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My rule is to build on the bones of your style-things that people may not see, but that you can feel, and that appeal to your other senses. This includes undergarments, perfume, and of course, the most basic pieces of clothing. It can be different for everyone. For some, it might be a basic white tank top, for others, a lace skirt that creates shape. Play with silhouettes at this level first to discover what you love. I’ve learned that I love the way tops flow at my hip bone, and the two scents I wear daily feel like they define me, even before I get dressed-they’re like my muse. A silky pair of panties or a slip dress is my little secret. I define my style as sexy, flowy, light, and cool. I can shift between different aesthetics because I know what makes up the bones of my wardrobe.

  • @kmrymy7088
    @kmrymy7088 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I came to a point in my style now where it's 90% set, I know what I like and what looks good on me, I know what I don't like, and I leave some space for experimentation which is now shoes. I feel like shoes are the thing that's holding my style back since I can't seem to balance comfort with aesthetics, especially having reaaaaaally sensitive feet. Even sneakers give blisters 🙄, so it would be great to have some tips on finding quality shoes and how to wear them in

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think it’s good to not set the style a 100%, as you said it gives you some freedom to experiment. As for shoes, it’s very hard to find beauty and comfort in one. I tend to buy lower heeled shoes now, that’s already a big comprise for me on beauty 🥲 have you tried Toteme shoes? I find them pretty comfy, for looking elegant and almost stiff

    • @kmrymy7088
      @kmrymy7088 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon I tried a pair of the city slides, but the size seemed too small, it’s very hard to come by a pair that’s beautiful in style and price 😅
      I could that Acne Studios sick boots are really comfortable, not sure about their other models

  • @piccalillipit9211
    @piccalillipit9211 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    *NEVER BUY ANYTHING BECAUSE ITS A "BARGAIN"* only ever buy something because you deeply want it - ask yourself "Would I wait 3 months for this to be made for me if that was the only option?"
    Of course, if the answer is "YES" and it is a bargain - FANTASTIC. "Bargain" clothes are the worst buys, you hardly ever wear them and then only because you feel you should cos you bought it

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      so so true this comment!

  • @Luftballon1970
    @Luftballon1970 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love your take on this topic on personal style. my uniform would also be a good wool pant in black, a white cotton tighter boat neck took with three quarter sleeves, my beige long. urberry trench and gucci brixton loafers in burgundy ❤

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ok, I see you infront of me now :)

  • @LexLeo_
    @LexLeo_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love that you said it’s always more interesting including fashion into childhood trauma stories- one of the main things I remember when my trauma started when I was 8 was that my mom would make fun of how I wanted to dress constantly. It was 1998, so that was baggy jeans and platform shoes- she called them clodhoppers. Now that those things are back, you can imagine I’m over the moon about it 🥹

  • @nadinehildebrand8035
    @nadinehildebrand8035 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Be yourself create things new for you

  • @teo9847
    @teo9847 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I LOVE your videos! Always so much great information. AND You make me laugh out loud ….every…single…..time.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thats always part of the package 💘

  • @Youmeandyume
    @Youmeandyume 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I clicked and took one look at your home and decided that I wanted to hear what you have to say. Fabulous outfit too!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      haha love this!

    • @milabolognini6305
      @milabolognini6305 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exact same thing I did! Gorgeous house!

  • @jent14
    @jent14 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. Very underrated

  • @gabrielladesantis3210
    @gabrielladesantis3210 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video deserves more than 50k views. In everyone's opinion, where did you start with fashion, and how/where did you start sourcing articles of clothes? For someone who has been tired of searching through the same online stores and going to malls, I am so curious to hear how everyone shifted when embarking on finding the styles in which they wanted to wear more. I am especially new to thrifting online; in my days of travels, I've been graced with awesome thrift shops, but I do not know where to really begin finding the clothes I want. Whenever I search online, let's say for a black high-neck tank top, I get inundated with fast fashion brands.

  • @marklee1960
    @marklee1960 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    There's nothing wrong with asking people we trust, who know us, who tell us the truth, if something "suits" us. We don't always see ourselves and we need the mirror of those we trust. And admire.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      but they are always having a perspective, you will never have. you should trust more yourself on that 💗

  • @lisbethmller-jg8km
    @lisbethmller-jg8km 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    True kowledge of who I am came with age, as I dress only for myself and know what I feel comfortable in.😄 I found that if I really wanted a piece of clothing and make sure I'm not just falling for a trend, I will be ready to wait for the right one, looking for it secondhand, as vintage clothes is better made. And if I don't wear it, I will be able to sell it again, as it is of good quality. Have basics of good quality, and then have statement pieces as shoes, bags and jewellery, because you don't grow out of them as with clothes. I express myself through jewellery, and see them as investment pieces, (and if made of silver or gold, they really are!)😉

  • @soovincho
    @soovincho 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Will you ever do a class on the history of designers and what they stand for so that we can follow Step 2

  • @lunafairfield9913
    @lunafairfield9913 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this was so educational

  • @maliciouska22
    @maliciouska22 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My rule is that the outfit should look good in actual environments that are filled with other people, and still look good. Because sometimes what you wear might look ok in a mirror selfie, but will look plain and boring when compared to other people.

  • @estefaniacampero3489
    @estefaniacampero3489 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes to the male gaze video ❤

  • @eliflebon
    @eliflebon 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i'm also at stage 4 and couldn't agree with you more

  • @PatsyConnaughton
    @PatsyConnaughton 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I make some of my clothes as I don't find many things I like , that fit or can afford. I have made some very strange things!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      we love strange!

  • @EnnameMori
    @EnnameMori 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I add in 'know the construction and fabric rules because as a plus sized person the chances are you will need to recreate pieces to be things that actually fit you so as to not just have shoes in your wardrobe.'

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think thats always a great talent to have, especially construction!

    • @EnnameMori
      @EnnameMori 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon hard won, but very useful!

  • @brickchains1
    @brickchains1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    People need to realize Tuba Avalon is the future fashion leader of a new generation. Listen to her and your soul grows

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't lead, just show ❤‍🩹

    • @user-ry1vi1jc7o
      @user-ry1vi1jc7o 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I prefer the "before" picture of the simple white tee and clean pair of jeans, over the "after" fashionable pictures. It's a personal preference of order over chaos.

    • @brickchains1
      @brickchains1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-ry1vi1jc7o chaos is constantly defeating order

  • @pipgreenaway7869
    @pipgreenaway7869 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    really appreciate your channel and humour 🌟

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you so much! 💓

  • @achaley4186
    @achaley4186 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your face looks absolutely beautiful…I think you have some makeup…but wow, perfect…wishlist!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      haha I do wear make-up, thank youu!

  • @ioanafgorgan
    @ioanafgorgan 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So good info💙

  • @wallyrbc
    @wallyrbc 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your videos on personal style! Very helpful.

  • @Sodeska1000
    @Sodeska1000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is no real formula to how I dress but usually if a child comments positively about my clothes I take it as the biggest compliment there can be !
    I also cherish some pieces made by friends specifically for me. These are just the best.

  • @Kris7245
    @Kris7245 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love how a video about personal style makes fun of people wearing skinny jeans! I say this lovingly, but it always amazes me how deep the need for validation runs in the fashion world, even in videos that claim to be about rejecting trends and doing your own thing. I’ll wear skinny jeans whether they are trendy or not because my body is shaped right for them. People follow trends that don’t work for their body shape, and skinny jeans look bad on a lot of people. Boot cut and baggy look bad on a lot of people too. I wouldn’t wear anything with a long squared-off vertical shape because my body is petite hourglass and curvy. I don’t want to look like a man or a flour sack so I stick with clothes that skim my body and follow the lines of my body. I love my curves and don’t want to hide them. I’m not into the “Grandpas clothes” silhouette everyone is wearing today. If it’s shaped like a cereal box it’s not going on my body! I’ll keep my skinny jeans, thanks! That’s the point of personal style, it’s about what looks good on your body and what you like. All the girls who look awful in squared-off style lines will come back around to skinny jeans. They already are! I’m seeing people on videos saying they miss the silhouette of a streamlined look and they are pulling the skinny jeans back out of the closet. Some people just intuitively know that tapered shapes flatter their bodies. In the flip side, I’ll never look good in a bootcut ever! It cuts my petite curvy body off at the knee. It’s awful and I’m ashamed I ever wore them back in the 90’s.

    • @LowSlungBadBitch
      @LowSlungBadBitch 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Is this not you also seeking that same validation? I love skinny jeans as well, but it was clearly a joke that hit you in a sore spot.

    • @bigpunchline
      @bigpunchline 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Skinny jeans are very uncomfortable- and they DE FACTO can’t be comfortable- because OF the stiff material around your crotch and ankles always will bother - that is just truth, and that what she meant I guess / I do remember wearing them as a kid and never going back after any normal pants … it is not about fashion - only if you like torturing yourself for the style

  • @chill_sander
    @chill_sander 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hello Tuba!

  • @duncanlester
    @duncanlester 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so good Tuba!! Thank you!

  • @user-xm1od9nb1m
    @user-xm1od9nb1m 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Even though some things might be consistant in personal style I try to see it as something ever evolving and not something static and perfect I have to ”find” and then stick to

  • @miguelgarzaiga8299
    @miguelgarzaiga8299 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    first time watching you and love your content!

  • @SilentRunningRedux
    @SilentRunningRedux 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Trust your intuitions. As TAvalon says at the end. Your intuition is a key form of self-knowledge (her Rule #1, as she herself says),

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      👩‍🏫correct!

  • @bobjames7016
    @bobjames7016 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Can you please link the article you spoke about in the beginning? Or mention the name of the authors if possible, I would love to read it. thank you :)

  • @scatterbrained1457
    @scatterbrained1457 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Can you please tell me the brand name of that sweater and what is made of so I can look for something similar but in blue, gray or pink? The rust color picks up the warm orangish color in your skin and looks great with your dark hair. You look divine in it and the earrings. I don’t have pierced ears or I would be covetous of the earrings, too.
    My rule is that I love, love, love color and pattern. So many fashionistas don’t understand color and are afraid of it. I don’t understand why.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s a Miumiu cardigan from their 2020 collection, it’s a mix of mohair and wool. And agree on colours, even if you don’t want to be a clown, it’s one of the most important features of fashion.

    • @scatterbrained1457
      @scatterbrained1457 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon Thanks for the Information. I would like to find a knock off within my budget.

  • @erikreeds3836
    @erikreeds3836 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    for me my style is an extension of who i am. it's my gameplay in melee, it's my politics, it's my music, it's my writing style. everything in the world is exactly the same.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      love this idea, yes, just another form of communication, just like a diary, a school presentation or an article ❤‍🩹

  • @sarahsmith1418
    @sarahsmith1418 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My uniform would be an oversized white button down in a natural cotton or linen fabric, a black denim miniskort and black, glossy leather mid-calf boots with a chunky heel.

  • @mm-it7tv
    @mm-it7tv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this video is god's work

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ☺️💜

  • @ablesister
    @ablesister 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are my favorite recent find on youtube!!!! Insightful and refreshing for the fashion content world. I'd like to watch similar content. Tuba (or subscribers), do you have any favorite fashion/style youtubers?

  • @troyflatland5299
    @troyflatland5299 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You need to make sections for us to scrub through

  • @DoRuPodcast
    @DoRuPodcast 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Tuba! Who said this thing about shoulders and hills and where can I find it? Actually even not knowing who suggested it I instinctively know that I love wearing emphasized shoulders and always put sth and make padded shoulder line even in simple longsleeves. I like the video I guess you can’t find the style without experimenting. ❤❤❤

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Martin Margiela in the documentary called in his own words

  • @zm9308
    @zm9308 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    love you sweater and would love to know what it is if you can share!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s Miumiu from 2020 💚

  • @lack4343
    @lack4343 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great takes as always tuba

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      merci 💞

  • @CateCartier
    @CateCartier 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Where is your computer desk from? It’s so beautiful!!

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank youu! Maya desk by Dare Studio

  • @Loula318
    @Loula318 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So helpful, thank you! 😊

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      my pleasure 🎩

  • @VMP-gs5xz
    @VMP-gs5xz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    u r brilliant

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😊

  • @11kindpunk11
    @11kindpunk11 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great suggestions 💙

  • @matocv
    @matocv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As always, inspiring to my style development ♥️

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yaaaay!

  • @SilentRunningRedux
    @SilentRunningRedux 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What about inviting designers, both “new” and in your “top 50” list (of those, obviously if still living) to have a brief or long exchange with you in your channel? if not now later, when your channel is still more huge, ad it will be if you continue it). I think certain designers would adore your sardonic, deadpan and intellectual comedic timing….the content and the delivery! (First 1-2 minutes and you’ve done it again in this video, which I revisit a 3d time.) It feels unforced, completely natural. Tom Ford- is HE on that “50” list? Maybe not… I didn’t appreciate him until HE commented on his own fashion work, his road to designing clothes (as a trained architect with few experiences comparatively with clothing), etc. I suddenly appreciated him more (or for the first time?), after I heard him speak about himself…realistically, sympathetically, with intelligence. It was precisely the time he self-funded (all or most) of the film “A Single Man,” saying filmmaking would be his primary focus if he can/could (may/will?). I think he believes he’s a better film director than clothes designer. Similarly, Lagerfeld was intelligent, wrote well, and was dismissive of designers who made grand philosophical statements about the meaning of their collections. Lagerfeld famously said, while critiquing designers with long show notes, and “theories”: “I’m just a dressmaker.”

  • @Kitakita87
    @Kitakita87 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Try not to be influenced by influencers, trust your gut are my rules. What about Phoebe Philo and Jil Sander Tuba? They used to be part of your discussion which I miss so much. I loved the wool Jil Sander dress that your sister appreciated the craftsmanship. It’s a memorable one.

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      oh you remember 😢ofocurse Celine is untouchable to me, the brand that shaped me. I still love Jil, but their latest shows disappointed me a bit and I am waiting for the Meiers to refresh a bit...

    • @Kitakita87
      @Kitakita87 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@tubaavalon I agree with you on that. Jil Sander was a sleeper.

  • @aerz03
    @aerz03 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The wisdom in this video! ❤️‍🔥

  • @Monicalala
    @Monicalala 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My style rule is to allow the outfit to suit myself and my occasion.

  • @consideredconsumer
    @consideredconsumer 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So good. Thank you 🤩

    • @tubaavalon
      @tubaavalon  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💝💝💝

  • @6cbb
    @6cbb 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    hello i love your earrings!! where are they from :)

  • @HaileyCook-h4x
    @HaileyCook-h4x 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    me personally i think that personal style is 1, overrated. and 2, very hard to do. i think the best thing to do when actually trying to build a style for yourself is to connect with a designer's vision and follow that vision. i also think that having a certain system when buying clothing can also be very beneficial when building a style. and im not talking just colors and shapes, im talking textures and patterns and embellishments. what are SPECIFIC things that you wear that make people look at a garment and say, "oh this is very *your name*". i think that is crucial when finding your "style"