Let your inner middle schooler shine through with the angst if she wants to - So, I allowed myself to buy, wear regularly and cherish the miu miu flame loafers 🥰
nothing is worth the money - and youll immediately know whats right for you when you see it.. if you dont make your decisions DECISIVELY you will more likely regret them
My one guideline is this: an article of clothing should make me want to move my body, whether because of its aesthetic qualities, or because of the feeling of a particular fabric, or because of the fit, or even the way the clothes move with my body, visually and otherwise.
this is almost philosophical, great description of what silhouette and fabric actually create at the end. we all are in movement all the time, so thats so relevant when thinking about clothes. Maybe thats why I love coats that are too wide, I love how they flow in the back with that empty space 🧚♂
I slowly accepted the old saying “too poor to buy cheap”. As a kid with a low income family, buying cheap shoes was a way of life that I could never turn back to. Not only were they constantly breaking, the comfort and support they lacked has definitely had long term impacts on my feet. I try to buy pairs that are leather so that they stretch and mould to my feet. Interesting video Tuba.
A Savile row suit costs about £3.50 a week over its life. A dirt cheap suit costs about £4 a week and will look terrible. A mid range suit costs about £5 to £6 a week. Poor people are trapped by the bad buying decisions they are forced to make - even worse they are sold the idea that excess and newness is the goal and not quality, which further keeps them poor.
I understand the urge for high quality pieces, not just for the sake of having better pieces, but also just meaningful ones, that do good to our bodies.
It’s hard to do, when companies are cutting costs at every corner and all brands across every price range are switching to lower quality materials and workmanship.
@@tacocatseven many towns, even now, have a small tailor or seamstress that will make almost anything for you and you may be surprised how reasonable their prices are.
About 3 years ago I adopted a 90’s cowboy esthetic and I havnt looked back. It’s part of who I am now and I can confidently say that it’s the style I’m keeping for the rest of my life
love thisssss 👏🏼 my rules: know/love your body type/shape, know your measurements, be authentic/real, pay attention to the weather, own your weirdness, experiment, ELEVATE, don't be boring/safe lol....tho biggest thing is to trust & follow your intuition and allow yourself to evolve, embrace change
I've spent YEARS to get a cohesive wardrobe, gathering my pieces, forming my style, and investing in things I know I'll never grow out of. it doesn't happen in a week you can't buy a whole new closet and say that's it, it takes time and an understanding of not what's popular in a single season but what fits your personality and what you feel comfortable in !!
This, taking it slowly is being SO important for me and my indecisive trait lol I've been analysing my wardrobe since 2020, and recently (like one-two months ago) I'm finding my ground! I had a bohemian phase, a minimal phase, extra-creative phase... Fortunately I didn't buy anything 😂 now I know the *common traits* I need on my garments!
thats so true, taking the time is painful sometimes almost, but always worth it. and the again there are the moments where the impulsive ones were very correct, so figuring out quick what one likes is also important ☺
My personal rules involve freedom of movement, natural fibers, and sleeves that never become restrictive when I move my arms. I prefer colors found in nature and appreciate that as we evolve we see more colors, new colors, light. I’ve always appreciated Edward Sissorhands because of his cutting skills- thanks for including him🙏🏼🦋💧
Knowing yourself should be our number one goal in life; it's the key to achieving anything authentic and original. A related fact is the aphorism 'Know thyself,' inscribed in the pronaos of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in the Ancient Roman mosaic featuring a skeleton alongside the Greek aphorism 'Know thyself.' It has been there for thousands of years and its one of the most challenging things to achieve in life. While finding your style might take less time, knowing your true self is a never-ending journey because we are always changing and evolving. So, don't be too hard on yourself; you're doing the best you can. For me, knowing yourself isn't only about understanding your current state but acknowledging that I'm always changing, learning, and evolving. The awareness of this constant change, to me, is the essence of knowing oneself.
Your channel is pure pleasure! I am at a decluttering stage of my life and feel challenging to add pieces, avoiding colors other then gray black white. Maybe it's a stage of some sort. Lately the most comfortable for me are loose pants+tighter top, long wool coat with oversized shoulder + heavy boots
thank you! the decluttering stage is always a recurring one and I think its good to question oneself once a year, like a temperature check. You're on the right track 💝
Personal aesthetic should be sung like an anthem, which will only sound better with time and practice. Another great video from a great and insightful channel! 🌻🌞
My guideline is will I still like this item 5-10 years from now? This statement keeps me from buying trends that don't fit into my wardrobe. Wonderful videos! Thoroughly enjoy your point of view. 🤘
Your 4 guidelines are brilliant. What really uplifted me is that we are not a product we have emotions and that we have dreams and fears which can be used to influence how we dress. .For a long time clothes just covered me and I used it to appear normal however I'm not (who is) - I love the critical thinking and then the beautiful,chaotic,emotional outburst that you bring to your vlogs - lm now thinking more about shepherds, l'm following you and I predict that your voice and channel will continue to get bigger......keep challenging the fashion world, we need you and they need you.
My essential rule in finding my personal style (I think ***hope*** I have it together now) is finding what I don't like. It's odd but my style really improved when I started paying attention to what I didn't like to see myself in. It was pretty eye opening to see how many times I bought items that just didn't flatter me
I find it helpful to have a small wardrobe. I came across the wonder wardrobe method in like 2019 and ever since I have been keeping a small and interchangeable closet. It’s crazy to think that almost 5 years have passed since then now. I definitely like my wardrobe a lot better now than I did in 2019. I also enjoy thrifting, window shopping, and searching for gems in the sales section. Having an interchangeable wardrobe helped me figure out what my go to color palette is, how my lifestyle looks/what clothes I actually wear, and how to have more discipline when shopping. Knowing you color palette and lifestyle type makes shopping so much easier. I would recommend the wonder wardrobe method to anyone trying to figure out what your style and lifestyle looks like. Also, you don’t have to have a minimalistic wardrobe with this method, it can be trendy and fun too. Sometimes all you need is one pair of shoes, a necklace, or a bag, etc. to turn a classic outfit into a fresh and new outfit. Outfit repeating is not a crime, it’s called having personal style! So don’t be scared by the idea of a small wardrobe. 4 bottoms and 5 tops will get you 20 outfits! And accessories will make it easier to make your wardrobe grow and change with you and your tastes
for me my style is an extension of who i am. it's my gameplay in melee, it's my politics, it's my music, it's my writing style. everything in the world is exactly the same.
I think for me something that is helpful is to go somewhere and be by myself away from people (even just for a day or two) and get myself dressed. I find that when I have time away from others, I get dressed very quickly and purely from an intuitive place. It's never stressful or difficult. The outfits that I create when no one perceives me feel authentic to what I actually love wearing and I just make a quick note of those outfits to look back on as an anchor.
It took me years to realise that 1950s vintage fits my physique way better than modern clothing ever could. I have a 12" difference between my waist and hips and 50s tailoring fits beautifully. Modern clothing seems to be made for people with very straight torsos/bodies, so I tend to wear form-fitting clothing if I'm buying modern - bodycon works best on me as it shows my curves. I can't get away with big boxy styles, it just makes me feel too masculine when I've been blessed with an overtly feminine body shape. I do love playing with androgyny though, even with my curves - a fitted waistcoat and 30s style puffed shoulders have always been my 'go tos'. I think having knowledge of fashion history (being a former vintage clothing trader myself) really has taught me so much about tailoring, fabric quality and cuts that were popular during different eras - knowledge, is fashion power ;) Great video, thank you x
Your style sounds amazing! and its very unique, since you gained all these enlightening thoughts during a process, its an interesting thought to follow what the body asks for more than the mind when it comes to shapes but you proved thats also possible. Thanks for sharing!
Girl I see you - also have that butt 2 size bigger than my waist 😂 nothing except A silhouette fits - but I prefer more masculine style, so it is complicated to find pieces
I want your cardigan so much, love your style Tuba. My fave silhouette is wide high pants (especially dark raw denim or linen in Summer) and fitted top on top. Of course there is a female gaze, towards other females, who doesn't check out what their fave female colleague dresser is wearing or what other women are wearing on the streets.
Absolutely in love with your channel, to add: Personal style for me is the question of how i want to do the world and how i want the world to respond to me, fashion is a visual language that's felt, lived in and always evolving we don't always want to say the same thing: clothes are the words that construct the answer to the questions before presented and a full look is the text.
My one rule: the road to great style is paved with fashion faux pas. Just own it and move on. Be unapologetic about what you like and ruthless about what you don't like, you don't owe your wardrobe to anybody else than you.
I have a fairly primitive approach to identifying personal style and keeping a clear sense of it. I look for those sparks, where you only see something once and immediately identify with it. Whether you see it in your mother’s old pictures, on the street, or on the runway - if it only takes one look for you to get excited about it, then it’s probably authentic attraction to the piece or what the piece represents. I also examine what things I have loved throughout my lifetime and why I’ve loved them. Some things I’ve loved because they helped me portray myself a certain way (motivated by fear and comparing myself to others), and those were unauthentic expressions of my personal style. Whenever I’ve loved something with my heart and soul instead of a motive, it’s more true to me. Like true love. As I learn more about art and fashion, I hope to develop a more detailed understanding of my style. I’m trying to learn from people who know a lot about fashion, and I’m trying not to get oversaturated with soulless, uninformed fashion content, where influencers are really just competing to show how “on trend” they are, never developing individual fashion identities.
Waiting (and FOMO) is my biggest nemesis. When I wait, it sells out. When I don't, it's half price later. But yes I agree that waiting teaches self control and prevents many bad, impulsive decisions. I am now having to sell several bad purchases that I know I won't wear - many of them at about a third of what I paid. It's a hard, painful lesson.
My rule is that the outfit should look good in actual environments that are filled with other people, and still look good. Because sometimes what you wear might look ok in a mirror selfie, but will look plain and boring when compared to other people.
I add in 'know the construction and fabric rules because as a plus sized person the chances are you will need to recreate pieces to be things that actually fit you so as to not just have shoes in your wardrobe.'
There's nothing wrong with asking people we trust, who know us, who tell us the truth, if something "suits" us. We don't always see ourselves and we need the mirror of those we trust. And admire.
When I first came across your video I thought you were a channel with 250k+ subscribers! You have a professional set up and a lot of good things to share, I know you’ll blow up soon!
STUNNING look today, Tuba. Brava. You must be feeling excellent. My personal style has always been quite Pierrot & now Altazurra has done it. Damn. I do not wish to be au courant.
Love your take on this topic on personal style. my uniform would also be a good wool pant in black, a white cotton tighter boat neck took with three quarter sleeves, my beige long. urberry trench and gucci brixton loafers in burgundy ❤
I came to a point in my style now where it's 90% set, I know what I like and what looks good on me, I know what I don't like, and I leave some space for experimentation which is now shoes. I feel like shoes are the thing that's holding my style back since I can't seem to balance comfort with aesthetics, especially having reaaaaaally sensitive feet. Even sneakers give blisters 🙄, so it would be great to have some tips on finding quality shoes and how to wear them in
I think it’s good to not set the style a 100%, as you said it gives you some freedom to experiment. As for shoes, it’s very hard to find beauty and comfort in one. I tend to buy lower heeled shoes now, that’s already a big comprise for me on beauty 🥲 have you tried Toteme shoes? I find them pretty comfy, for looking elegant and almost stiff
@@tubaavalon I tried a pair of the city slides, but the size seemed too small, it’s very hard to come by a pair that’s beautiful in style and price 😅 I could that Acne Studios sick boots are really comfortable, not sure about their other models
This video deserves more than 50k views. In everyone's opinion, where did you start with fashion, and how/where did you start sourcing articles of clothes? For someone who has been tired of searching through the same online stores and going to malls, I am so curious to hear how everyone shifted when embarking on finding the styles in which they wanted to wear more. I am especially new to thrifting online; in my days of travels, I've been graced with awesome thrift shops, but I do not know where to really begin finding the clothes I want. Whenever I search online, let's say for a black high-neck tank top, I get inundated with fast fashion brands.
I love how a video about personal style makes fun of people wearing skinny jeans! I say this lovingly, but it always amazes me how deep the need for validation runs in the fashion world, even in videos that claim to be about rejecting trends and doing your own thing. I’ll wear skinny jeans whether they are trendy or not because my body is shaped right for them. People follow trends that don’t work for their body shape, and skinny jeans look bad on a lot of people. Boot cut and baggy look bad on a lot of people too. I wouldn’t wear anything with a long squared-off vertical shape because my body is petite hourglass and curvy. I don’t want to look like a man or a flour sack so I stick with clothes that skim my body and follow the lines of my body. I love my curves and don’t want to hide them. I’m not into the “Grandpas clothes” silhouette everyone is wearing today. If it’s shaped like a cereal box it’s not going on my body! I’ll keep my skinny jeans, thanks! That’s the point of personal style, it’s about what looks good on your body and what you like. All the girls who look awful in squared-off style lines will come back around to skinny jeans. They already are! I’m seeing people on videos saying they miss the silhouette of a streamlined look and they are pulling the skinny jeans back out of the closet. Some people just intuitively know that tapered shapes flatter their bodies. In the flip side, I’ll never look good in a bootcut ever! It cuts my petite curvy body off at the knee. It’s awful and I’m ashamed I ever wore them back in the 90’s.
Skinny jeans are very uncomfortable- and they DE FACTO can’t be comfortable- because OF the stiff material around your crotch and ankles always will bother - that is just truth, and that what she meant I guess / I do remember wearing them as a kid and never going back after any normal pants … it is not about fashion - only if you like torturing yourself for the style
I love that you said it’s always more interesting including fashion into childhood trauma stories- one of the main things I remember when my trauma started when I was 8 was that my mom would make fun of how I wanted to dress constantly. It was 1998, so that was baggy jeans and platform shoes- she called them clodhoppers. Now that those things are back, you can imagine I’m over the moon about it 🥹
Try not to be influenced by influencers, trust your gut are my rules. What about Phoebe Philo and Jil Sander Tuba? They used to be part of your discussion which I miss so much. I loved the wool Jil Sander dress that your sister appreciated the craftsmanship. It’s a memorable one.
oh you remember 😢ofocurse Celine is untouchable to me, the brand that shaped me. I still love Jil, but their latest shows disappointed me a bit and I am waiting for the Meiers to refresh a bit...
My uniform would be an oversized white button down in a natural cotton or linen fabric, a black denim miniskort and black, glossy leather mid-calf boots with a chunky heel.
Can you please tell me the brand name of that sweater and what is made of so I can look for something similar but in blue, gray or pink? The rust color picks up the warm orangish color in your skin and looks great with your dark hair. You look divine in it and the earrings. I don’t have pierced ears or I would be covetous of the earrings, too. My rule is that I love, love, love color and pattern. So many fashionistas don’t understand color and are afraid of it. I don’t understand why.
It’s a Miumiu cardigan from their 2020 collection, it’s a mix of mohair and wool. And agree on colours, even if you don’t want to be a clown, it’s one of the most important features of fashion.
Stick to your favorite styles and allow for fluidity beyond that. That means, I will forever wear wideleg pants and western booties - but I also have other categories of more frivolous things that get worn less or cycle in and out of my wardrobe (a lot of it secondhand). So I think it's important to embrace two things: 1. Parts of your style will never change, they may sometimes feel boring to you, but it's worth sticking to what you're always comfortable and confident in. 2. Accept that findind your style is never a finished process. You will evolve forever, the world around you will, and so will some of the clothing that you want to wear and the stuff you surround yourself with.
Can you please link the article you spoke about in the beginning? Or mention the name of the authors if possible, I would love to read it. thank you :)
Hi Tuba! Who said this thing about shoulders and hills and where can I find it? Actually even not knowing who suggested it I instinctively know that I love wearing emphasized shoulders and always put sth and make padded shoulder line even in simple longsleeves. I like the video I guess you can’t find the style without experimenting. ❤❤❤
skinny jeans look good on me but i don’t like them anymore and i only wore mom jeans in the last 5 years but few days ago i bought a skinny jean because i liked how it looked on me and it’s weirdly looks stylish on me lol
Omg love this video! And I also hate mood boards. There totally IS a female gaze. Men comment on my accessories very often, oh what a lovely sparkling bag, oh look at your pretty shoes etc. Women very seldom give appreciative comments, oh, wow, you wear THAT? Hahaha😂 never the details. Edited to add, i aim to dress so well that i fall in love with myself every morning going to work.
"Real" artistic fashion is not created for all bodies. Very well made clothing is made in a limited size range and larger clothing is often not well made. Well made plus size clothes are incredibly boring. We cant all be quite so picky on materials and country of origin. If I was, I would have no clothing that suited my style.
let me know of your very own rule you stick to, to build your personal style!
Let your inner middle schooler shine through with the angst if she wants to - So, I allowed myself to buy, wear regularly and cherish the miu miu flame loafers 🥰
@@missspiritualI need you to send these!!!!
nothing is worth the money - and youll immediately know whats right for you when you see it.. if you dont make your decisions DECISIVELY you will more likely regret them
great advice ❤
You have to know what looks good on you without following trends or spending a lot of money. Accentuate your body without modifying or exploit
My one guideline is this: an article of clothing should make me want to move my body, whether because of its aesthetic qualities, or because of the feeling of a particular fabric, or because of the fit, or even the way the clothes move with my body, visually and otherwise.
love the body first movement first mentality - clothes serve your purpose
Yes love this
this is almost philosophical, great description of what silhouette and fabric actually create at the end. we all are in movement all the time, so thats so relevant when thinking about clothes. Maybe thats why I love coats that are too wide, I love how they flow in the back with that empty space 🧚♂
I feel this!
Ditto. Well said. 😊
I slowly accepted the old saying “too poor to buy cheap”. As a kid with a low income family, buying cheap shoes was a way of life that I could never turn back to. Not only were they constantly breaking, the comfort and support they lacked has definitely had long term impacts on my feet. I try to buy pairs that are leather so that they stretch and mould to my feet. Interesting video Tuba.
A Savile row suit costs about £3.50 a week over its life. A dirt cheap suit costs about £4 a week and will look terrible. A mid range suit costs about £5 to £6 a week.
Poor people are trapped by the bad buying decisions they are forced to make - even worse they are sold the idea that excess and newness is the goal and not quality, which further keeps them poor.
I understand the urge for high quality pieces, not just for the sake of having better pieces, but also just meaningful ones, that do good to our bodies.
It’s hard to do, when companies are cutting costs at every corner and all brands across every price range are switching to lower quality materials and workmanship.
@@tacocatseven many towns, even now, have a small tailor or seamstress that will make almost anything for you and you may be surprised how reasonable their prices are.
@@tacocatseven diligent research can be helpful for that. But yes it is hard at first.
About 3 years ago I adopted a 90’s cowboy esthetic and I havnt looked back. It’s part of who I am now and I can confidently say that it’s the style I’m keeping for the rest of my life
haha that's great, this means your authentic self can identify with the nonchalance life of a cowboy 🐎
love thisssss 👏🏼 my rules: know/love your body type/shape, know your measurements, be authentic/real, pay attention to the weather, own your weirdness, experiment, ELEVATE, don't be boring/safe lol....tho biggest thing is to trust & follow your intuition and allow yourself to evolve, embrace change
great summary of your feelings, love it 💘
I've spent YEARS to get a cohesive wardrobe, gathering my pieces, forming my style, and investing in things I know I'll never grow out of. it doesn't happen in a week you can't buy a whole new closet and say that's it, it takes time and an understanding of not what's popular in a single season but what fits your personality and what you feel comfortable in !!
This, taking it slowly is being SO important for me and my indecisive trait lol I've been analysing my wardrobe since 2020, and recently (like one-two months ago) I'm finding my ground! I had a bohemian phase, a minimal phase, extra-creative phase... Fortunately I didn't buy anything 😂 now I know the *common traits* I need on my garments!
thats so true, taking the time is painful sometimes almost, but always worth it. and the again there are the moments where the impulsive ones were very correct, so figuring out quick what one likes is also important ☺
My personal rules involve freedom of movement, natural fibers, and sleeves that never become restrictive when I move my arms. I prefer colors found in nature and appreciate that as we evolve we see more colors, new colors, light. I’ve always appreciated Edward Sissorhands because of his cutting skills- thanks for including him🙏🏼🦋💧
when I read comments like yours, I see the beauty of personal style and how different we can perceive the needs of fabrics and designs 💚
Knowing yourself should be our number one goal in life; it's the key to achieving anything authentic and original. A related fact is the aphorism 'Know thyself,' inscribed in the pronaos of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in the Ancient Roman mosaic featuring a skeleton alongside the Greek aphorism 'Know thyself.'
It has been there for thousands of years and its one of the most challenging things to achieve in life. While finding your style might take less time, knowing your true self is a never-ending journey because we are always changing and evolving. So, don't be too hard on yourself; you're doing the best you can.
For me, knowing yourself isn't only about understanding your current state but acknowledging that I'm always changing, learning, and evolving. The awareness of this constant change, to me, is the essence of knowing oneself.
Your channel is pure pleasure! I am at a decluttering stage of my life and feel challenging to add pieces, avoiding colors other then gray black white. Maybe it's a stage of some sort. Lately the most comfortable for me are loose pants+tighter top, long wool coat with oversized shoulder + heavy boots
thank you! the decluttering stage is always a recurring one and I think its good to question oneself once a year, like a temperature check. You're on the right track 💝
@@tubaavalon thanks for your feedback and for sharing your views on personal style 🌺
Personal aesthetic should be sung like an anthem, which will only sound better with time and practice. Another great video from a great and insightful channel! 🌻🌞
definitely supporting to make an anthem out of this 🙌
My guideline is will I still like this item 5-10 years from now? This statement keeps me from buying trends that don't fit into my wardrobe.
Wonderful videos! Thoroughly enjoy your point of view. 🤘
Thank you and very strict guidelines you have! 5-10 years is very far, but I’m sure it helps to keep staying on your main track of style 🌹
Your 4 guidelines are brilliant. What really uplifted me is that we are not a product we have emotions and that we have dreams and fears which can be used to influence how we dress. .For a long time clothes just covered me and I used it to appear normal however I'm not (who is) - I love the critical thinking and then the beautiful,chaotic,emotional outburst that you bring to your vlogs - lm now thinking more about shepherds, l'm following you and I predict that your voice and channel will continue to get bigger......keep challenging the fashion world, we need you and they need you.
My essential rule in finding my personal style (I think ***hope*** I have it together now) is finding what I don't like. It's odd but my style really improved when I started paying attention to what I didn't like to see myself in. It was pretty eye opening to see how many times I bought items that just didn't flatter me
I find it helpful to have a small wardrobe. I came across the wonder wardrobe method in like 2019 and ever since I have been keeping a small and interchangeable closet. It’s crazy to think that almost 5 years have passed since then now. I definitely like my wardrobe a lot better now than I did in 2019. I also enjoy thrifting, window shopping, and searching for gems in the sales section. Having an interchangeable wardrobe helped me figure out what my go to color palette is, how my lifestyle looks/what clothes I actually wear, and how to have more discipline when shopping. Knowing you color palette and lifestyle type makes shopping so much easier. I would recommend the wonder wardrobe method to anyone trying to figure out what your style and lifestyle looks like. Also, you don’t have to have a minimalistic wardrobe with this method, it can be trendy and fun too. Sometimes all you need is one pair of shoes, a necklace, or a bag, etc. to turn a classic outfit into a fresh and new outfit. Outfit repeating is not a crime, it’s called having personal style! So don’t be scared by the idea of a small wardrobe. 4 bottoms and 5 tops will get you 20 outfits! And accessories will make it easier to make your wardrobe grow and change with you and your tastes
I was today years old when I found out about Tuba Avalon. life forever changed.
for me my style is an extension of who i am. it's my gameplay in melee, it's my politics, it's my music, it's my writing style. everything in the world is exactly the same.
love this idea, yes, just another form of communication, just like a diary, a school presentation or an article ❤🩹
One important rule to finding your personal style is accessorizing. Accessories are staple, they convey emotion and stories through detail
and you can see, you have really cool sunglases
yes, its the salt and pepper of the look 🥳
I think for me something that is helpful is to go somewhere and be by myself away from people (even just for a day or two) and get myself dressed. I find that when I have time away from others, I get dressed very quickly and purely from an intuitive place. It's never stressful or difficult. The outfits that I create when no one perceives me feel authentic to what I actually love wearing and I just make a quick note of those outfits to look back on as an anchor.
just go to a shop you like and try on tons of stuff!!! as a practice!! perfection is a process
speak up!
It took me years to realise that 1950s vintage fits my physique way better than modern clothing ever could. I have a 12" difference between my waist and hips and 50s tailoring fits beautifully. Modern clothing seems to be made for people with very straight torsos/bodies, so I tend to wear form-fitting clothing if I'm buying modern - bodycon works best on me as it shows my curves. I can't get away with big boxy styles, it just makes me feel too masculine when I've been blessed with an overtly feminine body shape. I do love playing with androgyny though, even with my curves - a fitted waistcoat and 30s style puffed shoulders have always been my 'go tos'. I think having knowledge of fashion history (being a former vintage clothing trader myself) really has taught me so much about tailoring, fabric quality and cuts that were popular during different eras - knowledge, is fashion power ;) Great video, thank you x
Your style sounds amazing! and its very unique, since you gained all these enlightening thoughts during a process, its an interesting thought to follow what the body asks for more than the mind when it comes to shapes but you proved thats also possible. Thanks for sharing!
Girl I see you - also have that butt 2 size bigger than my waist 😂 nothing except A silhouette fits - but I prefer more masculine style, so it is complicated to find pieces
I want your cardigan so much, love your style Tuba. My fave silhouette is wide high pants (especially dark raw denim or linen in Summer) and fitted top on top. Of course there is a female gaze, towards other females, who doesn't check out what their fave female colleague dresser is wearing or what other women are wearing on the streets.
Absolutely in love with your channel, to add: Personal style for me is the question of how i want to do the world and how i want the world to respond to me, fashion is a visual language that's felt, lived in and always evolving we don't always want to say the same thing: clothes are the words that construct the answer to the questions before presented and a full look is the text.
My one rule: the road to great style is paved with fashion faux pas. Just own it and move on. Be unapologetic about what you like and ruthless about what you don't like, you don't owe your wardrobe to anybody else than you.
I have a fairly primitive approach to identifying personal style and keeping a clear sense of it. I look for those sparks, where you only see something once and immediately identify with it. Whether you see it in your mother’s old pictures, on the street, or on the runway - if it only takes one look for you to get excited about it, then it’s probably authentic attraction to the piece or what the piece represents.
I also examine what things I have loved throughout my lifetime and why I’ve loved them. Some things I’ve loved because they helped me portray myself a certain way (motivated by fear and comparing myself to others), and those were unauthentic expressions of my personal style. Whenever I’ve loved something with my heart and soul instead of a motive, it’s more true to me. Like true love.
As I learn more about art and fashion, I hope to develop a more detailed understanding of my style. I’m trying to learn from people who know a lot about fashion, and I’m trying not to get oversaturated with soulless, uninformed fashion content, where influencers are really just competing to show how “on trend” they are, never developing individual fashion identities.
I love how you always remember people to watch out for sustainability. Thank you!
Waiting (and FOMO) is my biggest nemesis. When I wait, it sells out. When I don't, it's half price later. But yes I agree that waiting teaches self control and prevents many bad, impulsive decisions. I am now having to sell several bad purchases that I know I won't wear - many of them at about a third of what I paid. It's a hard, painful lesson.
it is so hard!!
i find your vids very inspiring. revisioning my wardrobe at another angle already
My rule is that the outfit should look good in actual environments that are filled with other people, and still look good. Because sometimes what you wear might look ok in a mirror selfie, but will look plain and boring when compared to other people.
I add in 'know the construction and fabric rules because as a plus sized person the chances are you will need to recreate pieces to be things that actually fit you so as to not just have shoes in your wardrobe.'
I think thats always a great talent to have, especially construction!
@@tubaavalon hard won, but very useful!
There's nothing wrong with asking people we trust, who know us, who tell us the truth, if something "suits" us. We don't always see ourselves and we need the mirror of those we trust. And admire.
but they are always having a perspective, you will never have. you should trust more yourself on that 💗
tuba ur skin and makeup looks especially amazing in this video 🤩
so agree!!
When I first came across your video I thought you were a channel with 250k+ subscribers! You have a professional set up and a lot of good things to share, I know you’ll blow up soon!
😭thank youuuu
I make some of my clothes as I don't find many things I like , that fit or can afford. I have made some very strange things!
we love strange!
the most impactful video i’ve watched since i started my fashion journey
omg that’s so amazing to hear! 🥹
@@tubaavalon thank u for what u do🫶🏿
STUNNING look today, Tuba. Brava. You must be feeling excellent. My personal style has always been quite Pierrot & now Altazurra has done it. Damn. I do not wish to be au courant.
thank you and Altuzarra has always been so underrated, I like it a lot 💌
I clicked and took one look at your home and decided that I wanted to hear what you have to say. Fabulous outfit too!
haha love this!
Exact same thing I did! Gorgeous house!
Love your take on this topic on personal style. my uniform would also be a good wool pant in black, a white cotton tighter boat neck took with three quarter sleeves, my beige long. urberry trench and gucci brixton loafers in burgundy ❤
ok, I see you infront of me now :)
Absolutely loved this video Tuba!!! Please keep them coming 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
thank you my love 😘
I came to a point in my style now where it's 90% set, I know what I like and what looks good on me, I know what I don't like, and I leave some space for experimentation which is now shoes. I feel like shoes are the thing that's holding my style back since I can't seem to balance comfort with aesthetics, especially having reaaaaaally sensitive feet. Even sneakers give blisters 🙄, so it would be great to have some tips on finding quality shoes and how to wear them in
I think it’s good to not set the style a 100%, as you said it gives you some freedom to experiment. As for shoes, it’s very hard to find beauty and comfort in one. I tend to buy lower heeled shoes now, that’s already a big comprise for me on beauty 🥲 have you tried Toteme shoes? I find them pretty comfy, for looking elegant and almost stiff
@@tubaavalon I tried a pair of the city slides, but the size seemed too small, it’s very hard to come by a pair that’s beautiful in style and price 😅
I could that Acne Studios sick boots are really comfortable, not sure about their other models
Your face looks absolutely beautiful…I think you have some makeup…but wow, perfect…wishlist!
haha I do wear make-up, thank youu!
Yes to the male gaze video ❤
This video deserves more than 50k views. In everyone's opinion, where did you start with fashion, and how/where did you start sourcing articles of clothes? For someone who has been tired of searching through the same online stores and going to malls, I am so curious to hear how everyone shifted when embarking on finding the styles in which they wanted to wear more. I am especially new to thrifting online; in my days of travels, I've been graced with awesome thrift shops, but I do not know where to really begin finding the clothes I want. Whenever I search online, let's say for a black high-neck tank top, I get inundated with fast fashion brands.
this video is god's work
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I LOVE your videos! Always so much great information. AND You make me laugh out loud ….every…single…..time.
thats always part of the package 💘
I love how a video about personal style makes fun of people wearing skinny jeans! I say this lovingly, but it always amazes me how deep the need for validation runs in the fashion world, even in videos that claim to be about rejecting trends and doing your own thing. I’ll wear skinny jeans whether they are trendy or not because my body is shaped right for them. People follow trends that don’t work for their body shape, and skinny jeans look bad on a lot of people. Boot cut and baggy look bad on a lot of people too. I wouldn’t wear anything with a long squared-off vertical shape because my body is petite hourglass and curvy. I don’t want to look like a man or a flour sack so I stick with clothes that skim my body and follow the lines of my body. I love my curves and don’t want to hide them. I’m not into the “Grandpas clothes” silhouette everyone is wearing today. If it’s shaped like a cereal box it’s not going on my body! I’ll keep my skinny jeans, thanks! That’s the point of personal style, it’s about what looks good on your body and what you like. All the girls who look awful in squared-off style lines will come back around to skinny jeans. They already are! I’m seeing people on videos saying they miss the silhouette of a streamlined look and they are pulling the skinny jeans back out of the closet. Some people just intuitively know that tapered shapes flatter their bodies. In the flip side, I’ll never look good in a bootcut ever! It cuts my petite curvy body off at the knee. It’s awful and I’m ashamed I ever wore them back in the 90’s.
Is this not you also seeking that same validation? I love skinny jeans as well, but it was clearly a joke that hit you in a sore spot.
Skinny jeans are very uncomfortable- and they DE FACTO can’t be comfortable- because OF the stiff material around your crotch and ankles always will bother - that is just truth, and that what she meant I guess / I do remember wearing them as a kid and never going back after any normal pants … it is not about fashion - only if you like torturing yourself for the style
I love that you said it’s always more interesting including fashion into childhood trauma stories- one of the main things I remember when my trauma started when I was 8 was that my mom would make fun of how I wanted to dress constantly. It was 1998, so that was baggy jeans and platform shoes- she called them clodhoppers. Now that those things are back, you can imagine I’m over the moon about it 🥹
So good info💙
Trust your intuitions. As TAvalon says at the end. Your intuition is a key form of self-knowledge (her Rule #1, as she herself says),
👩🏫correct!
I love your videos on personal style! Very helpful.
Try not to be influenced by influencers, trust your gut are my rules. What about Phoebe Philo and Jil Sander Tuba? They used to be part of your discussion which I miss so much. I loved the wool Jil Sander dress that your sister appreciated the craftsmanship. It’s a memorable one.
oh you remember 😢ofocurse Celine is untouchable to me, the brand that shaped me. I still love Jil, but their latest shows disappointed me a bit and I am waiting for the Meiers to refresh a bit...
@@tubaavalon I agree with you on that. Jil Sander was a sleeper.
really appreciate your channel and humour 🌟
thank you so much! 💓
My uniform would be an oversized white button down in a natural cotton or linen fabric, a black denim miniskort and black, glossy leather mid-calf boots with a chunky heel.
You need to make sections for us to scrub through
number 1 rule.... experiment. Wear something that you would never wear...
Can you please tell me the brand name of that sweater and what is made of so I can look for something similar but in blue, gray or pink? The rust color picks up the warm orangish color in your skin and looks great with your dark hair. You look divine in it and the earrings. I don’t have pierced ears or I would be covetous of the earrings, too.
My rule is that I love, love, love color and pattern. So many fashionistas don’t understand color and are afraid of it. I don’t understand why.
It’s a Miumiu cardigan from their 2020 collection, it’s a mix of mohair and wool. And agree on colours, even if you don’t want to be a clown, it’s one of the most important features of fashion.
@@tubaavalon Thanks for the Information. I would like to find a knock off within my budget.
Stick to your favorite styles and allow for fluidity beyond that. That means, I will forever wear wideleg pants and western booties - but I also have other categories of more frivolous things that get worn less or cycle in and out of my wardrobe (a lot of it secondhand). So I think it's important to embrace two things: 1. Parts of your style will never change, they may sometimes feel boring to you, but it's worth sticking to what you're always comfortable and confident in. 2. Accept that findind your style is never a finished process. You will evolve forever, the world around you will, and so will some of the clothing that you want to wear and the stuff you surround yourself with.
Can you please link the article you spoke about in the beginning? Or mention the name of the authors if possible, I would love to read it. thank you :)
As always, inspiring to my style development ♥️
yaaaay!
first time watching you and love your content!
u r brilliant
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Hi Tuba! Who said this thing about shoulders and hills and where can I find it? Actually even not knowing who suggested it I instinctively know that I love wearing emphasized shoulders and always put sth and make padded shoulder line even in simple longsleeves. I like the video I guess you can’t find the style without experimenting. ❤❤❤
Martin Margiela in the documentary called in his own words
21:02 and tuba, in her PFP, dressed in a striking red, looking up and rolling her eyes
haha deaddd
So helpful, thank you! 😊
my pleasure 🎩
I dont wear designers, are these rules still applicable?
absolutely, non-designer pieces are influenced from popular designs usually, so just as good to know about them :)
Great suggestions 💙
So good. Thank you 🤩
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source for the study ???????
Where is your desk from?
maya desk by dare studio
Amazing advices
I actually have a pair of Margiela wedge boots, and the bottoms are glued! For the price point this was very disappointing.
Where is your computer desk from? It’s so beautiful!!
Thank youu! Maya desk by Dare Studio
You are precious
skinny jeans look good on me but i don’t like them anymore and i only wore mom jeans in the last 5 years but few days ago i bought a skinny jean because i liked how it looked on me and it’s weirdly looks stylish on me lol
do you feel like yourself in them? If yes, go for it!
hello i love your earrings!! where are they from :)
most luxury brands are not worth to invest in if you really want good quality go for independent young designers reason they care about craft.
I don't think we can generalise it, there are pros and cons on both sides unfortunately
love you sweater and would love to know what it is if you can share!
It’s Miumiu from 2020 💚
Get Tuba a book deal
signed!
Tuba, are you saying that if we copy someone else’s style of dressing that we are lacking a sense of self?
taking guidance is very normal, but you shouldn't try to mimic another person, but find your style fitting to your very own character
Omg love this video! And I also hate mood boards. There totally IS a female gaze. Men comment on my accessories very often, oh what a lovely sparkling bag, oh look at your pretty shoes etc. Women very seldom give appreciative comments, oh, wow, you wear THAT? Hahaha😂 never the details. Edited to add, i aim to dress so well that i fall in love with myself every morning going to work.
Very well said! Bravo!
oh no this sounds terrible though! but love your mantra, loving oneself is very underrated!
where are the earrings from? love them
from a very random boutique in Paris, you can find similar at Bijou Brigitte i guess 💖
Hello Tuba!
I dress like i feel
Hi Tuba :) What hair product do you use?
Loreal Studioline
❗if you arent in the discord already, would you please join and share more if you'd care to ⁉
never wearing white pants what if i get in a piss and mustard accident!!!
daily struggles!
the uniforrm for my life would be a full rick fit im sorry p.s twin flame gang!
The earrings!!!! 🥰
they do all the work
what's this microphone/lavalier everyone has?
dji
WHITE HOT SPARKLE EARRINGS!!! Glorious Haircut.
haha, made my day!
Tuba, nice to see you for once wearing a crop top it suits you.
haha, I am also trying new things 😇
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"Real" artistic fashion is not created for all bodies. Very well made clothing is made in a limited size range and larger clothing is often not well made. Well made plus size clothes are incredibly boring. We cant all be quite so picky on materials and country of origin. If I was, I would have no clothing that suited my style.
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God i HATED the opening of the video with the cheering screaming children 🤢🤢🤢🤢 literally never do that again
I love it 😊
It’s not that serious