I was in "Mean Girls" 20 years ago, This is How my Life Changed - with Rajiv Surendra

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  • @gra1nne814
    @gra1nne814 หลายเดือนก่อน +646

    Me and my friends use your name to encompass our artistic, thrifty, stylish, crafty, elegant, bon-viveur, polymath and accomplished acts in life. "May you live your best Rajiv life" one of my friends wrote to me on a card once, giving me gorgeous unique wood cuts from a native tree so I could carve something. "I'm learning __ to pursue my graduation in Rajivness" I said when learning a new set of skills. "I rajivly went antiquing today for a thimble." told me another friend when she took up embroidery. "I got amazing real vintage oxfords, very Rajiv" another friend boasting about his treasured quality clothing finds.
    You are your own unique category of lifestyle/career. Your existence is so inspiring - and beyond inspiring us to do the things you do, you inspire us to do the things we want to do, to live this life well and fully.
    Much much love to you, dear Rajiv!

    • @miebaybee
      @miebaybee หลายเดือนก่อน +70

      I'm 70 years old, found this channel a while ago, and also 'verb'' Rajiv's name when I find the perfect thing for the perfect spot and/or circumstance.

    • @jenniferwalker9616
      @jenniferwalker9616 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      haha same with my social group. We got into antiquing due to his videos.

    • @l.c.6282
      @l.c.6282 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      Ok. I’m adopting the “Rajiv” verb, adverb, adjective from now on. It’s brilliant. I always say “my guy” on TH-cam, “the one from Toronto that lives in New York, taught me this or that”.

    • @dawnzerleelight
      @dawnzerleelight หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      What a beautiful compliment!! I hope he reads this.

    • @rajivsurendra
      @rajivsurendra  หลายเดือนก่อน +229

      I'm beaming after reading this comment. Thank you ♥

  • @BMRS03
    @BMRS03 หลายเดือนก่อน +646

    He poured his heart out for 26 minutes. No script, no notes, no BS. Such a masterful story teller!

    • @aidajones-goins882
      @aidajones-goins882 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Yes he did! BEAUTIFUL!!

    • @BelindaM44
      @BelindaM44 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Indeed!❤

    • @nikkistax
      @nikkistax หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Immediately buying his book! Had no idea! Love Rajiv for all that he is!

    • @carols4813
      @carols4813 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I just finished his book. It was awesome. Loved every part!!!

    • @joannrabideau1657
      @joannrabideau1657 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I am actually reading the book right now. 😊

  • @c0wtron
    @c0wtron หลายเดือนก่อน +329

    "The Life of Rajiv" has a better ring to it anyway.

    • @nokateno
      @nokateno หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes!!

    • @winterseyes
      @winterseyes หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes!!!❤

    • @Earthy-Artist
      @Earthy-Artist 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I agree!

  • @zacharylebwohl4834
    @zacharylebwohl4834 หลายเดือนก่อน +391

    Don’t let the haters stop you from doing your thang!

    • @chloeuntrau4588
      @chloeuntrau4588 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Or even worse: the so called "well intentioned" people...They just want you to be like them...

    • @ancientwisdom108
      @ancientwisdom108 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Those people, deep down, wish they could do their thing.

    • @you_are_welcome97
      @you_are_welcome97 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Perfect reference

    • @harrypottah8889
      @harrypottah8889 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@ancientwisdom108it’s from the movie babe

  • @benwolffpottery
    @benwolffpottery หลายเดือนก่อน +239

    Knowing you in “real life” … this is you! Our talks about these subjects over coffee or making pottery ect.. is so interesting and yes inspiring to so many. So glad you made a video like this and I hope everyone who watches you feels the same. You are an amazing person bud and this was a perfect video.

    • @rajivsurendra
      @rajivsurendra  หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      Thanks, Ben! We have to do a collab video when I'm up there next.

    • @benwolffpottery
      @benwolffpottery หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@rajivsurendra Always down for that bud! See you soon!

    • @SaralinaLove
      @SaralinaLove หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @benwolffpottery ​@@rajivsurendraYES, a collab w you both! That would be amazing! ❤🎉❤

    • @CuriousandCultured
      @CuriousandCultured หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@SaralinaLove I second that!

  • @idarabassey7455
    @idarabassey7455 หลายเดือนก่อน +151

    as the child of Nigerian immigrants, this video speaks to me SO clearly...there is absolutely no precedent in my immediate family for the life I am living as a woman of a certain age, unmarried and without children...but like you, I questioned the culture I grew up in, and took personal and professional risks. I am grateful for the life I am living today and seek to continue to do it on my own terms- continued best wishes and thank you

    • @alittlebitofjessica
      @alittlebitofjessica หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Loving this vibe! It’s so cool to hear from someone who’s made bold life choices and is totally owning it. You completely broke the mold, and I’m wishing you the most epic, beautiful life ahead.

    • @user-fd7gy9zh8x
      @user-fd7gy9zh8x 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Can relate. Well done sis ❤

  • @Lisatwade
    @Lisatwade หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Your mom wanted you to study study study, but you ARE studying now, every day! You study shoe making, paper marbling, harp playing, painting, soap making, and so much more. You are the eternal student. Your mom would be proud.

    • @CuriousandCultured
      @CuriousandCultured หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      He has always been a life-long student. This should be celebrated more!

  • @MarjeMills
    @MarjeMills หลายเดือนก่อน +129

    I am an a lady of 80 and watch all your videos and you inspire me I love all you do. A d I am going to buy your book. LTHIS COMING FROM LIVERPOOL England. Take care love and best wishes. Marje. Xx

  • @juanitapulgarinhenao
    @juanitapulgarinhenao หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    Wow … this is a very special corner of the internet ❤

    • @apushkal
      @apushkal หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Came for the home decor, stayed for the beauty and the inspiration for an authentic life. Bravo Rajiv!

  • @jessicamichalski6253
    @jessicamichalski6253 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

    I am so grateful that people find the courage to resist conformity to society’s norms. This world would be so boring without artists, activists, and philosophers. Love seeing examples of people who push back and get rewarded with a beautiful and fulfilling life. 💕

  • @Yourhighnessnona
    @Yourhighnessnona หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    Not to be shady towards the actor who did an amazing job at it, or take away from your story, but Life of Pi would be so insanely epic with you as the role as Pi Patel 😍

    • @amy83079
      @amy83079 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I remember when the movie won an Oscar there was a great deal of discussion in the media over whether the movie was deserving of such honors because the lead actor, wasn’t an actor. It seems to me that movie roles should be given to actors. Otherwise, it’s kinda like cheating.

    • @lilacfunk
      @lilacfunk หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@amy83079hi, the guy is an actor. And is acting today?

  • @aresclough3001
    @aresclough3001 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    Life was hard on me. I found myself falling into nihilism. I discovered your videos months ago and your words brought me back to beauty. I see the beauty in mundanity, functionality, and flaws now. I’m inspired to cultivate my own little slice of happiness in this world. For the first time in a long time, I’m throwing myself into creativity, I’m wanting to share my life with others, and I’m using all my nice things daily and appreciating every moment of it. Thanks Rajiv. 💚

    • @shermarkham6376
      @shermarkham6376 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      What a wonderful comment.

    • @ramonagutierrez1671
      @ramonagutierrez1671 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes, it’s!💙😊

    • @SaralinaLove
      @SaralinaLove หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Amazing!! Congratulations!! Thank you for sharing your story and opening to life and your beautiful souls' expression!!!❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

    • @m.maclellan7147
      @m.maclellan7147 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Congratulations 🎊 !

  • @JesseLeon
    @JesseLeon หลายเดือนก่อน +234

    I saw your video about using your nice things, a little over a year ago, and i was like, "isn't this the guy from mean girls, what the heck??" It's legitimately one of my favorite movies, so i clicked it and was so thrown off by what i found, and immediately was hooked. Rather than liking your channel because you were the guy from Mean Girls, I ended up a fan of YOU and you just happen to be the guy from Mean girls. Your content is so enjoyable, I even watch with my three your old daughter now because she saw me watching the paper marbling video and now asks to watch it when i open youtube haha. Love your videos, keep it up Rajiv.

    • @godoggo9346
      @godoggo9346 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I think the first one I saw was making a lavender bundle for laundry (sorry i don’t recall the french term for the bundle), and I watched the whole thing in AWE like “how is Kevin G so sweet and wonderful” and then i told everyone about it but none of my friends were as amazed as I was. So here I am now like 2 years later and just seeing Rajiv as his own person and not a character, appreciating doing things slowly and by hand, but honestly watching this at 1.5x speed ironically. But I’ll blame the ADHD for that one

    • @joycegronenthal2560
      @joycegronenthal2560 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Can you tell us about your beautiful bracelets?

    • @lilacfunk
      @lilacfunk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@joycegronenthal2560they’re called kankan, traditional thick Indian gold bangles 😊

  • @AnnWhelanDuneSteward
    @AnnWhelanDuneSteward หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I found your youtube by reading your book. It was at the library!

  • @tonifoster7095
    @tonifoster7095 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    The book is wonderful. Get it and read it if you can and if not audible has it and Rajiv reads it, which makes it even better. I’ve read it once and listened to it once. I loved it. ❤

    • @alisonmeeks5580
      @alisonmeeks5580 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks just grabbed it.

    • @PaulaSimoes67
      @PaulaSimoes67 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great !!!❤

    • @leontineke
      @leontineke หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh my god Rajiv reading it, I’m melting already 🫠🫠🫠💐💐💐

    • @sharon7785
      @sharon7785 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Omg Rajiv reading it?! I need to go get it! Xxx

  • @acupofteawithmeesh
    @acupofteawithmeesh หลายเดือนก่อน +119

    I'm one of those people who had NO idea! Loved learning about this part of your story.

    • @emilyr2836
      @emilyr2836 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Same! I was actually following this channel for ages before I ever watched Mean Girls!

  • @AngeliaJaLiggins-hv6oe
    @AngeliaJaLiggins-hv6oe หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Rajiv,
    You're one of the very few people who's TH-cam videos I look forward to watching.
    With that being said, the next time someone ask you what is your profession, tell them Renaissance Man or Whatever I Choose!
    If that person doesn't like your answer because it's not specific enough for them, walk away.
    People like that are ONLY defined by the education and title in their life and they can't appreciate anything different. Only like minded people will understand and appreciate you. I'm speaking from experience.💚

  • @dori9024
    @dori9024 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    I once was at a table and everyone was bragging about their family members in the legal system. My brother is a lawyer, my uncle is a District Attorney, my Father is a judge. Everyone at that table was trying so hard to impress and outshine that it got to a point that I was so sick of the bragging I held my head up high and emphatically said my brother is in jail 😂. At that moment I thought to myself, boy it sucks to be so insecure that you need to constantly brag to feel secure.

    • @tj6742
      @tj6742 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hahaha 🤣😂
      I'd love to hear the rest of that story !🤣 Reactions etc ! You made me laugh so hard !🤣😂

  • @jenniferj4143
    @jenniferj4143 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

    Right now life is really tough, taking care of a 101 year old who is fully aware of his situation. I followed your advice and took "you tube" watercolor classes. Which I can pick up and in 10 minutes have something to show for my time. I appreciate your honesty and knowledge. I have not found a local water color teacher but for now it fills the creative side of me! Thank you for your inspiring words and sharing!

    • @rhondadownes207
      @rhondadownes207 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I am in a similar situation caring for my 99 year old mom, who is living with me, and trying carve out time for myself to make sure my life doesn’t get pushed aside. Well done you!

    • @celinefederici6951
      @celinefederici6951 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      There are a lot of watercolor videos on TH-cam....try a few and see which instructors style and personality you like.

    • @gabriellechilton5902
      @gabriellechilton5902 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I am now a 70 year old woman that took care of my mother until she passed at the age of 97. Im glad those days are behind me, because i never thought they would be. Taking care of an elderly parent is the toughest thing one can accomplish in life. It can be soul crushing. Especially if there is no help and if you have or had aspirations for your self. I am free from the responsibility of caring for my mother for 3 years now. I like Rajiv decided moving forward i was going to do what pleased me. With that said…..I watercolor, (good therapy) i acrylic paint, i draw , sew, crochet and Knit. When ever i darn well please. I am making up for the years i was stalled out. Keep the faith in your endeavors, make time for yourself, and ignore people that are nay sayers to your dreams and aspirations, no matter how you or old you become. 🎉

  • @FreeAsABird53
    @FreeAsABird53 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    Honestly, no movie can eclipse you as a person. You truly give people permission to fully be themselves. It’s truly a wonderful thing to witness ❤

  • @sharonnocera3083
    @sharonnocera3083 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    The more I get to know you the more I love you.
    Are you ok? You did everything by yourself and I am so proud of you! When someone asks you what you do tell them “I am a very successful influencer.”

  • @6moonsofsaturn
    @6moonsofsaturn หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I wonder if you've seen Sir Ken Robinson's TED talk about how schools kill creativity? You are the embodiment of a Scholar of Life. ❤

    • @sharon7785
      @sharon7785 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I agree❤ excellent comment xx

  • @rais14
    @rais14 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I love how he posted this on October 3rd.

  • @eunicebarcenas4005
    @eunicebarcenas4005 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I randomly go from saying things like "Uhhh, Kevin G!" to me telling my husband "That's not how Rajiv taught me how to clean the tub." We absolutely love you so much, Rajiv. Keep doing what you're doing. We are all multi-faceted people doing extra-ordinary things. You are a gem.

  • @leannagivens5349
    @leannagivens5349 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Rajiv not getting the role he wanted after investing so much of his energy reminds me of something Elizabeth Gilbert said which is... "jump, and the net may or may not catch you". There are big wins but no real big losses. Everything is a lesson or a test. Everything that happens, whether it's good or bad... is an opportunity to learn something new, and like Rajiv said... make choices. We choose the paths we walk all our lives.

  • @BelindaM44
    @BelindaM44 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Your mama just wanted you to be secure, and only had your best interest at heart. I’m glad that nobody was able to stifle your desire to create all the beautiful things you learned to make. I love hearing your stories! Rajiv, I hope you know what an inspiration and treasure you are for all who come here.

  • @Chosospacebuns
    @Chosospacebuns หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I usually feel left behind in one way or another even though I love my life when someone talks about their life but this made me feel like I’m right where I want to be. Thank you for being you 🥹

  • @worldlit1146
    @worldlit1146 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    "cuz we got jackets ...". I absolutely loved your character, now discovering that you are such a multi-faceted, inspirational human being also in real life. Happy 20th anniversary. You created something really special, and continue to do so.

  • @TheBaronessBlack
    @TheBaronessBlack หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    I watch all your videos but I don’t think I ever comment. You’ve inspired me and my husband to reorganize our stuff and to spend more of our time appreciating and creating beautiful things! We always get excited when you have a new video. I’ve always loved antiques and small ways of living and I just wanted to say thank you for all the inspiration and personal stories you share! I always say to my husband “Rajiv is like a whimsical fairy!” ❤ Thanks for showing me how to spend my time better and we are truly happier for it!

  • @MissouriCrookedBarnHomestead
    @MissouriCrookedBarnHomestead หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    You are unapologetically you and I think that is amazing. We have a very short lifespan, we should make the most of every moment and that is what you are doing.

  • @jdp486
    @jdp486 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I had no idea you were an actor! While I was describing your channel to my husband, I had a hard time condensing the content into a few sentences, which I hope you find is a wonderful compliment. I watch, not because I share any of the same hobbies, but because you inspire me to live a life so full of passions that who I am cannot be quickly summed up in something like a job. Hope you take care, and get some good sleep soon! 😅

  • @kimberlyhacker3334
    @kimberlyhacker3334 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I introduced my girls to Mean Girls recently and I didn't put it together that that was you! That's fantastic!

  • @peipei0366
    @peipei0366 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Thank for this episode 🙏🏻 Really needed to hear this today. I just resigned, not retired, just quit, my 20 year career to take time to figure out how to live my own genuine life. You are such an inspiration and living testimony of how you can follow your heart and live an unconventional life.

    • @litaibarcena4041
      @litaibarcena4041 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      I want you to know that I am here doing exactly the same thing: trying to figure out what to do. The problem is that I am not quite sure what, but I know that I need a change. After all these years doing survival chores I know that I have to do something meaningful to myself. I know it's a quest that I should have taken long, long time ago. Some , like Rajiv, are more driven, more focused. But I am here. Trying.

    • @Lifeinthewyldewest
      @Lifeinthewyldewest หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Same! I quit after 31 years. I’m not regretting it. The only regret is I didn’t do it sooner.

    • @nancyelliott162
      @nancyelliott162 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      There are a lot of doors to open ahead of you! Onwards

    • @lynnewillette2654
      @lynnewillette2654 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That old saying: when one door closes, another door opens. So true.

  • @sandramigacz1766
    @sandramigacz1766 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Everything you present on TH-cam always inspires a better life!

  • @traceydelfs2657
    @traceydelfs2657 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I love this. Gifted thinker and always an eloquent speaker. No edits just honesty.

  • @MzVixen05
    @MzVixen05 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I thought I couldn't love you anymore, but just 2 minutes in - my gosh. Thank you.

  • @queens6583
    @queens6583 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I found you during the pandemic and haven't looked back. You are wise beyond your years and I have learned many things listening to your perspectives on so many things. What I appreciate the most is your honesty and telling your truth without apology. You have touched so many lives in a positive way and your parents should be proud.

  • @Shelviliger
    @Shelviliger หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I enjoy in your "Renaissance way of life" and how easy it can be obtained through everyday activities.

  • @h3artands0uLL
    @h3artands0uLL หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I started by saying a funny quote from the movie but am now typing a more sincere response. This turned out to be a wonderful life lesson you are sharing with us - thank you! I can’t imagine how traumatizing it must have been to see the part go to somebody else after all the waiting and investment you put into it. I would’ve felt lost too. So glad you followed your hunch to look into the next gig that landed you in Germany and ultimately revived you!
    I want to follow my hunch too to get more into crafts. I’ve never considered myself an artist because I was pigeon holed as book smart as a kid and my sibling the artsy one. Thankfully my partner now encourages my gifts.
    I want to get into ceramics and even lamp work.
    I’ve loved calligraphy in the past and am bummed I didn’t follow that through so I’ll do what I can now with the resources I have now.
    You are right that our series of choices lead us to where we are today. I am unhappy with several things and need to remember I have the power to change them.
    I struggle with a melancholy disposition. Usually when I finally attain happiness and feel my energy high and lifted, something tragic happens. So I’ve learned to fear happiness in a way.
    But that’s no way to live. Got to accept the good and bad.
    Thank you for the inspiration.

  • @beverlyness7954
    @beverlyness7954 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I live in Oregon (at one time in Beaverton) and was so touched by the letter you read. I am a potter from 50 years ago as well (I'm 71). I learned how in High School, then continued in Portland Community College and University of Oregon. Life kicked in with children, divorce then being a single parent - that changed my path completely. I share so many of your interests and learned how to do many of them years ago, calligraphy, pottery, macrame and weaving. I'm now retired so I've again begun to create fiber art by knitting, weaving, wet and dry felting as well as macrame. Pottery may be next. Thanks to Mean Girls for setting you off on your path so we all can enjoy your creativity.

  • @lilaccapulet
    @lilaccapulet หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Your story really touches me. I come from an Indian background myself. My father was and still is a raging alcoholic. There was never a time I was around him where he didn’t smell of rum. It was heartbreaking. But as a fellow artist I decided to use my creative abilities to better my connection to myself and to those around me. You’re revolutionary and I’m glad you followed your heart. Thank you. 🙏🏽💙

  • @cmolona7547
    @cmolona7547 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Best life story of all my 70 years. Thank you

  • @stylishoversixty9459
    @stylishoversixty9459 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I hope you won't be disappointed; I didn't know you were in a movie, and I have never seen the movie Mean Girls...it's nice knowing that acting is part of your resume!

  • @richies6420
    @richies6420 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    That's why we watch you. You aren't conventional. That's what makes your videos so interesting. You should be very grateful to be able to have an apt in NY and all that you have.

  • @shepherdessofskymeadow
    @shepherdessofskymeadow หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Your tenacity is such a precious gift. I don't come by it as naturally, kind of the opposite in fact - I too easily put my deeper dreams and hopes aside to focus on what I "should" be doing or what I think other people expect of me. But I have been working on that a lot. I'm so grateful for folks like you who remind us that we have the choice to be brave and do it anyway.

  • @cleoutch1
    @cleoutch1 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Ommmgg it's October 3rd !! Thank you for remind me ! That movie is pure pop culture and you're brilliant in it :p

  • @SueBonacci
    @SueBonacci หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you Rajiv for being so real and honest. You are such an inspiration. You would not have touched so many peoples lives if you stayed at the bank!
    .

  • @patriciablue2739
    @patriciablue2739 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Oh man! I have also said to people who complain in that way “we’ve spoken about this before and I can’t hear it again..”
    And- I love my life too!

  • @mariaf5474
    @mariaf5474 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I have been following you on video from your early slots in HGTV. But even before then, my daughter in law talked about this great chalkboard artist in Toronto and was hoping could do their wedding invites. It didn't happen, but I knew of you then.
    My local library has your book, so I made a point of reading it. I had just been to Pondicherry, so could visualize your time there.
    As a Mom, I could empathize with your Mom. We just want security for our kids and not have them go through times of want. But I am sure your mom was proud of the man you are and continue to develop into. Keep being true to yourself.

  • @elena-mariagrigore2666
    @elena-mariagrigore2666 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Keep calm and love Rajiv! He's a great guy, multi-talented, and oh so inspiring

  • @sumirakesh2329
    @sumirakesh2329 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I am an immigrant Indian mother, never skipped your videos even though some of them are not area of my interest. But respect that in this world of social media you are teaching us how to focus on little things which bring more clarity and happiness. Thank you Rajive.

  • @Mualulu
    @Mualulu หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    i'm not nearly as ambitious as you are, so i'm not exactly where i'd like to be, but i've always been proud of that "i'm going to do whatever *i* want" instinct. and yes, it's made my life unnecessarily difficult sometimes, but it's also made me very proud not to have put myself through situations i wasn't okay with. and really, it's thanks to people like you i've realized i don't have to do whatever is expected of me or follow a "traditional" path to have a good life, a life i'm happy with. so thank you! and thank you for being a part of mean girls (it was my favorite movie for a long time), and thank you for introducing me to writing letters, which i now consider a big hobby. i hope you always thrive.

  • @shealafredrick4122
    @shealafredrick4122 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I had no idea. My Dad didn't get my art joy either. I would get in trouble for wasting time. I'm so proud of you

  • @SlowFlow-g6b
    @SlowFlow-g6b หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Lawyer, doctor or cricket player. Still the same here.
    With the role in the movie you'd never become an inspirer and influencing thousands of viewers with your way of seeing the world and its opportunities. That's a very good statement about choosing your life. but someone only might understand if they are honest with themselves. Thank you for these intimate moments.

  • @lakshmiarunkumar7413
    @lakshmiarunkumar7413 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I can relate so much with your story. My kids are at the cusp between finding job and finishing education. Sometimes that’s scary. As you said parents want nothing more than seeing their kids settled.

  • @csrla
    @csrla หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Jackie's note made me tear up. Thanks, Rajiv, for being you ❤

  • @Frost0rbs
    @Frost0rbs หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    omg i've been trying to figure out why you seemed so familiar! that's so awesome

    • @buzzy.bee.crafts
      @buzzy.bee.crafts หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same! As soon as I saw him in costume it clicked. Been watching him on TH-cam for years lol

  • @CH-jp4py
    @CH-jp4py หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You played the hell outta that part!!!
    Rajiv Surender: Artist, Renaissance man, Bad Ass thespian! Lol

  • @Lifeinthewyldewest
    @Lifeinthewyldewest หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You receive many comments and often I find myself not leaving comments because I know how overwhelming it can feel responding.
    Your channel has been such a favorite channel of mine for such a long time now.
    YOU are such an exceptional person and I love to listen to your life experience and your tenacity and your not give up attitude. I admire the way you live your life. You literally are exceptional at everything you put your mind to.
    Thank you for being YOU! Exactly YOU!
    I quit my job of 31 years working for family and felt like I had to because it was family. I was slowly dying. I finally quit! Now I make YT videos and I’m much more happy!
    I hope people watching this are inspired too and realize they can follow their heart and it may not be conventional but it will fill their hearts to the brim.
    I’ve also been wanting to write to you but have been to shy to do so. We are all human! I need to just do it!
    Thank you for all you share with us!

  • @susanrombak7959
    @susanrombak7959 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    💯% Choice is the first responsibility given to humans. Good talk Rajiv! ✌🏽

  • @wendyeskelin8765
    @wendyeskelin8765 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Mean girls is a movie I've watched SO many times over the years, and it never gets old.

  • @NewRiverSelkie
    @NewRiverSelkie หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You remind me of my youngest son, now 22 and charting his own path. Hearing your story brings me hope for him while sets out into the sometimes choppy but beautiful sea. Thank you for all the gifts you bring to the world.

  • @mklarson2980
    @mklarson2980 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’m so grateful that your journey brought you here to this format. With so many ways that you could share your passions, this channel adds a wonderful aspect of community. It’s a respite from some of the harshness that bombards us. It renews my spirit that so many like-minded people find their way here who share an appreciation of someone literally making their own way through handcrafts, art, and an intentional life.

  • @arlinejernigan
    @arlinejernigan หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I am dedicated to living an unconventional life.
    I love what you do, that you are here and that you share with us all of what you do.

  • @jlmo3027
    @jlmo3027 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You speak so well about choices. And whenever I watch your videos about art, travel, home keeping, craft, etc.,the word that always comes to mind is “intention.”

  • @fabulousmsthang
    @fabulousmsthang หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    A grateful life is a fabulous thing ❤

  • @tj2351
    @tj2351 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thank you for sharing. This was great. I’d LOVE for you to record an audiobook, for your book, in your own voice.

    • @rajivsurendra
      @rajivsurendra  หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Hi There, I DID in fact record my audiobook! It's available through Audible.

    • @dinafisman
      @dinafisman หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@rajivsurendraGetting the audiobook right now!!! Love from Argentina!

    • @jenniferwalker9616
      @jenniferwalker9616 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I highly recommend the audible audiobook! I listened to it on my walks and felt like I had Rajiv with me sharing his life story as a friend. It's so charming.

    • @tj2351
      @tj2351 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rajivsurendrayay! Ordering now!! I have a long hike coming up and you will be going with me on trail!! ❤

  • @bluemoyie8618
    @bluemoyie8618 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Rajiv, you are such an excellent communicator. We love your voice, and your honesty. I wish that you had gotten the role for Life of Pi. That episode was a while ago, but it stayed with me. Take special care of yourself 🥰 🤗

  • @guywolff
    @guywolff หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    There is such a difference between doing things you think you might want to do and things you have to do, KNowing the difference is what makes one driven . The most important message here is none of this life story that was shared here was a free ride.All of it came from an inner drive .That drive comes from exersiing one's will power and listening to the quiet inner voice speaking to each of us ..Learning to trust that voice takes big adult muscles ..We are all in the same gym :)

    • @Cheesyenchilady
      @Cheesyenchilady หลายเดือนก่อน

      My inner voice be saying some stupid shit tho

  • @Nancyjarnecke
    @Nancyjarnecke หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Funny, I had been watching your TH-cam channel for sometime, including your appearances on HGTV, which I believe proceeded your channel. One evening my kids had “mean girls” playing on the kitchen television. One of your scenes caught my eye and I knew immediately it was you. I continued watching your TH-cam channel (of course) because your content is inspiring for many “artists” wired this way. However, the message you broadcast today, October 3rd mean girls day, surpasses all of it! Thank you. May your “determined” journey continue -happily!

  • @winromeo
    @winromeo หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Wow Rajiv, thank you so much for sharing the personal journey here! As an Asian I completely understand the upbringing, luckily my parents were very supportive and I believe being a daughter had less obligation as a son. Every choice we make leads to today, I firmly believe that! Sometimes I asked myself, am I too old for this? How can I compete with the young ones who are so keen on everything? Work is very slow at home but I’m so happy to do what I love even though that means I had to travel to work (which you’re lucky if it breaks even). Things will always work out one way or the other….live the life the way you want is the most important. Thank you again, so very inspiring!

  • @mmmarloes
    @mmmarloes หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Not “a line about October 3d”
    The BEST line
    “On October 3d, he asked me what day it was.”
    “It’s October 3d.”

  • @litaibarcena4041
    @litaibarcena4041 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Oh, my! You have touched a fiber of my soul again. I always told you how much inspiration you have been to me. But I have never confessed that I am embarking into quite a few challenging experiences now because of your inspiration. Wish me luck, though. I am not as tough as you are. Just resilient. Thanks again for another gift. I will keep this chapter on my treasure box.

  • @sugaryxegnirys
    @sugaryxegnirys หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So happy to see you following what little Rajiv wanted all along!
    Your content , art, words, views, they all resonate with me.

  • @chateaumelmont
    @chateaumelmont หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I just fell in love and cried ❤ was watching human design videos and I swiped and lost what I was watching and your video out of nowhere started playing . Heaven sent x

  • @JenniferLee273
    @JenniferLee273 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Rajiv, this was so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing that story. When I first came across your channel a few months ago, I thought, “hey isn’t that the guy from Mean Girls?!” So I looked your name up on IMDB and lo and behold you were. I live in Central Massachusetts near Old Sturbridge Village, and the Brimfield Flea Market, so I’ve enjoyed many of your HGTV videos on those places, as well as the videos on your personal channel. I was never crafty as a kid, because I thought I was terrible at art. But in the last nine years or so, I’ve taught myself how to knit, Cross stitch, paint with different mediums, sew and quilt, and whatever else my little heart desires. I enjoy these crafts more than anything and they fill me up so my cup is truly overflowing. I so enjoy learning from you, not because you were in Mean Girls (even though that is definitely one of my all time favorite movies!), but I just enjoy you as a human being. I’d like to think we would be friends in real life, because we seem very similar. Keep putting your beautiful light out into the world and I look forward to your next video! ❤

  • @hopedash5372
    @hopedash5372 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I've never seen mean girls but I love your channel😊..

  • @zarinahhayes8220
    @zarinahhayes8220 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Rajiv - you have worked so hard to live the life you want and that is an inspiration. I'm reading your memoir "The Elephants in My Backyard" and I love it so much; You are a natural storyteller. Keep being you and doing you. You bring joy to so many. Thank you.

  • @FarahRoseSmith
    @FarahRoseSmith หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your pursuit of so many different creative passions (many of which I share!) has been such a comfort, especially as someone who was always pressured/shamed when it came to having "too many" interests. I love hearing about your journey, Mean Girls-adjacent or otherwise (especially when you visit RI, my home state). Keep doing you, Rajiv!

  • @carolynthompson6518
    @carolynthompson6518 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You are such an inspiration - truly you’ve had such an impact on my life so thank you (I’ve eliminated all plastic from my home and replaced with beautiful period pieces). I am 73 and am an Uber driver nowadays (after a long professional career) and I am privileged to be able to pass your channel name onto my Sri Lankan passengers (in Australia studying) and they swell with pride ❤❤. Just found your book on Audible 🙏🏻

  • @TheLeslieMichelle
    @TheLeslieMichelle หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Happy Mean Girls Day! I remember you and your character from the movie, "Mean Girls". Your character was one of my favorites because of how naturally funny he was...he was so passionate about math, and about his crush. You were so perfect for this part too, and I'm glad you pushed to be in it because that movie is so memorable and fun after all these years.

  • @myself2861
    @myself2861 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Rajiv, everytime I see one of your videos pop up in my feed, *immediately*, and I mean immediately I start hearing "Allllll yooooouu sucka MC's ain't got nothing on me..."
    😂😂
    I watch your videos with my children. We love seeing your adventures and I adore the person that you are. ❤ Never change. I started watching for the mean girls, but I stayed for the rajiv.

  • @harlemneedlearts576
    @harlemneedlearts576 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are a great example of creating and manifesting your own joy and building what you love. BRAVO!!!! I'm with you. I also created my own joy. Founder and ED of an arts and cultural org.

  • @LeanMeanAsianCuisine
    @LeanMeanAsianCuisine หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’ve been watching you for a while now and I’m going into accounting in college this year. While I think it’s important work a part of me feels like I need to bring life back into my soul. Thank you for sharing your experience with pursuing your passions

  • @andrewsartduchy7721
    @andrewsartduchy7721 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    A lot of us were difficult children for whatever reason, (nurture or nature) but being able to look back on your younger self and recognize how far you’ve come is real humility so brava.

  • @Vanessa_S0
    @Vanessa_S0 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Dear, you are so special! Thank you for being who you are and staying true to yourself. This was good advice. As someone who gets very anxious thinking about what will happen if things don't work, it was very helpful to hear you talking.

  • @isash787
    @isash787 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I have the hardcover edition of The Elephants in My Backyard, featuring Rajiv’s amazing chalk art. 💚 I’m excited to dive in and get inspired!

  • @j.phinnaeusmorgan7125
    @j.phinnaeusmorgan7125 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Rajiv, what an extraordinary life- thank you for sharing yourself so authentically. Giving a glimpse into your “interior world” that informs your choices in the physical.
    “Leap and the net shall appear!”

    • @guywolff
      @guywolff หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is my favorite responce to Rajiv , Thank you J so well said ! yours Guy

  • @cbeauty3619
    @cbeauty3619 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Rajiv, there is something about you that is very special. You savor everything around you. You are very interesting and calming. I enjoy your videos very much. I hope that you continue to share your knowledge with us. You truly inspire us to stop and enjoy the moments. God bless you.

  • @jeanneh6361
    @jeanneh6361 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You're a good storyteller. I love listening to you. I never knew you were in the movie Mean Girls. I grew up in a large family. We had to have a large garden and canned our food. Mom bought us crafts for Christmas presents to keep us busy. Our whole family is crafty or an artist, which is why I like your videos. I love that you loooove the things in your life and use them every day. Life is a series of choices. Complaining gives a person "reason" not to take personal responsibility for their life. I have to learn this lesson over and over. Thanks for sharing.

  • @sage.sweetgrass
    @sage.sweetgrass 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I recently watched Life of Pi for the first time and thought that you would have fit the role. So crazy to hear your journey and how you delved and studied in the role. I hope you could find a project that would align with this story. If they did spinoff with some inspiration from the book, I would LOVE to see you in another film. You are so talented! And you are inspiration for me to find my own creativity and purpose. I had the same experience with my parents as a South Asian-American and wasn’t pushed or had access to creative mediums. I put school first and now have a hard time finding my creative purpose- but it’s never too late. Thank you for pouring heart out. I resonate so much for being the black sheep and being the system disrupter in my family system. Thank you ❤️

  • @SonjaGeier-k4g
    @SonjaGeier-k4g หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Lieber Rajiv,
    Danke für deine Worte!
    Alles, was du machst, wie du denkst, dein ästhetischerGeschmack kommt mir sehr vertraut vor und spricht mir aus der Seele! DANKE, Sonja aus Stuttgart

  • @jjdooley85
    @jjdooley85 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Adore you dahling. You bring me so much joy!!! 💜💜💜

  • @stefs3460
    @stefs3460 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for fixing the TH-cam algorithm so that I could find your channel! While Mean girls is a fun movie that I enjoy rewatching every so often and that must be how your video came up, I usually watch things like your TH-cam channel content so I checked out your channel and subscribed right away. I'm surprised the algorithm didn't pick up that I would enjoy your videos. I am Italian American ( 1st generation born here from immigrant parents so the whole 1st part of your video EXTREMELY relatable, btw the exact same conversations with distant relatives are happening at Italian weddings too. Oh and I too am a disappointment to my culture and much of my family even though I do own my own home, am contented with life, have great friends and wonderful pets!) I watch art docs, cooking, travel, sewing, furniture refinishing, ancient pottery making, interior design, painting and other diy videos so don't know why I missed your channel before. Loved this video so inspired, keep doing what you are doing! Also as I said I grew up in an immigrant household, it is a very different experience than traditional North American childhoods. I grew up working in my family's restaurant since I was a very small child. I see a lot of people who grew up in immigrant households in the comments. Maybe your next book should be about that. You have a natural way of narrating your experiences that has a pleasant rhythm to listen to and you have an interesting story to tell.

  • @heatherk6445
    @heatherk6445 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your story is so compelling and I think part of why it resonates is that you demonstrate that ambition doesn't need to be GRAND to be meaningful. There is just as much value in wanting to properly clean a tub so you can take an amazing bubble bath, or trying to make the perfect floral arrangement, as there is in auditioning to be in a potential Hollywood blockbuster. Everyone needs to find out for themselves what makes them happy, and that's something that can change over time. It takes discipline and hard work to keep reaching for our goals, no matter how big or small... and we can make these experiences better by learning from others along the way.

  • @CinemaLaHuerta
    @CinemaLaHuerta หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm so happy that you went against the grain, poured your heart into what you love, and that you're actually doing what you love for a living! It's amazing, but it wasn't without lots of hard work and judgement, which proves you're amazing! Thank you for adding beauty to my world!

  • @sandrahampton3669
    @sandrahampton3669 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Never saw Mean Girls, but definitely read "The Life Of Pi" and can definitely see you as that character. Especially the Rabbi, Catholic Priest, and Imam descending upon your house at the same time to talk to your parents who didn't know you were attending all. Life is full of ups and downs and can be so unfair at times, but I love how you live your life with no regrets.

  • @jeannie-2172
    @jeannie-2172 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Rajiv for being honest. You are wonderful in Mean Girls. Keep on doing whatever makes you happy. ❤

  • @avaraquel
    @avaraquel หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    And we are so, so, so grateful for you!

  • @brenna-oh6uy
    @brenna-oh6uy หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Aww. My favorite nice guy from Mean Girls!
    Your journey has given you so much --Thank you for sharing this with all of us❤