Well... Yes sort of. But we have just as many annoying and/or obnoxious people as anywhere else unfortunately. And weirdos who walk around filming stuff for TH-cam
@@ThreeStarVagabond Yeah generally speaking, if population gets denser in an area , you can’t totally avoid it. So then,the least dense Country with a nordic lifestyle would be my choice
Subscribed ! "You cant live with them and prefer to live without them" coming from USA where illegals are storming borders from mexico with NO respect, No regard, No manners No paperwork No licenses (c*v*l w*r)
I agree with mostly everything, when it comes to "bring your own drinks" it is as stated for when going to a "party", if you are over for a dinner and you are all grownups it is not at all expected (at least not as a norm) but it is instead nice to bring a bottle of vine or something to the host(ess). But if you go over for a new years party at someones house where a lot of people are invited you are most definitely expected to bring your own drinks if you intend to drink more than a glass for a toast. You will have no problem finding people willing to happily share what they got so if you are planning on an early morning and just want something in a glass to look the part you don't need to go and buy just a single beer to bring. If you don't know exactly how many people that are invited it is always ok to ask "should I bring anything?", if the intent is that you should bring your own drinks it is usually clarified. I personally just go by the rule that if there is going to be a sit down dinner I expect the host to have vine/beer to the food (unless something else have been stated, or if the rules of engagement are unclear I just ask, nothing embarrassing about that as this is just as unclear to Swedish people). But if it is just snacks and the focus is on drinking ;) then I bring what I want to drink.
Good summary! I think this shows my lack of dinner parties these last few years, more than anything :D I still mostly go to parties, or restaurants - very seldom anything in between.
And systembolaget closes at 15 on Saturdays and is closed on Sundays. So plan ahead if you plan to take liquor with you. If you’re unsure, just ask the one who is hosting
1:43 "People are horrible. You can't live with them and I'd prefer to live without them". We certainly have that in common, Miro! Thanks for the video!
12:15 Not only should you not talk to a stranger on public transport or in public in general. Even if you talk to a friend, keep it down. One is not loud in Scandinavia.
I’m from the UK but live in Australia. People here are very outgoing for the most part. I love the Scandinavian outlook and behaviour in general, as I’m much more introverted so this list is actually great! I found the Swedes to be pretty friendly more so than Norwegians imo…
That's interesting! I've always felt like Norwegians are a bit more outgoing but possibly even harder to make real friends with than Swedes. I would have imagined that it's a bit difficult to be an introvert in Australia - but then again, I wouldn't really know....
As a Swede myself. When he started talking about reinventing the death penalty I *immediately* knew what he was gonna say. Don’t ever sit next to someone on the bus or metro.
Just discovered your channel. I visited Sweden by myself last year and taking my family in October. We are all introverts and very anti social so it looks like we will have a great time!
I hope you'll have a great time in Sweden, and that you'll find some nice people to talk to - not everyone is a complete introvert here, and most people try to be nice :D
Tack Miro for another interesting and informative video. Speaking as a person living in the UK with high functioning Autism, Sweden look's, and sounds like the perfect anti social Utopian Paradise to me. Miro, you are living the dream! You have a great day too!😀
I'm extremely thrilled that I can spend several days without talking to a single person in Sweden :D Thanks a lot, and hope you have a great day as well as week!
Have you considered the fact that there is a European country known for aggressively rushing into trains? The passengers make sure to stand at the exit before the train stops, so that they can quickly leave and minimize getting pushed. It’s normal there, however it is refreshing to see a different train culture.
That's fair enough - and to be honest, I think that it makes sense. People should try to get off quickly as well, to not make others wait unnecessarily. A combination of both is probably wise!
I've watched both of these videos. I just gotta say ... I'm a New Zealander, and the more I read and learn about Sverige, the more I realise we seem to be twins, separated at birth. Absolutely everything you mention in both these "Do not XYZ" videos would pretty much earn you Kiwi citizenship. The only thing that differs, is the 'buying a round of drinks'. In New Zealand, you never do it without asking. Before you leave your group to go to the bar to buy your own drink, it's extremely good form to take discreet note of whose drinks are low. It's good manners to ask at least two people if you "can get them another". It's good manners for them to refuse, and also to say yes (keeping a mental talley of the obligation they now owe you - one drink) 🤭 Can't wait to visit, and feel absolutely at home, apart from my svenska pronunciation standing out like I've recently incurred a head injury 🥳
That actually sounds like a perfectly reasonable way to handle rounds! I think we just might be twin countries, separated by a whole world... I'd love to visit New Zealand - it does sound like quite a brilliant place. Maybe I need to think about when I could go there to see this near-Sweden for myself :D
You'd be most welcome,@@ThreeStarVagabond - your humour alone would ensure you fit right in. As an introvert, that is 🤭 Though, we kiwis are excellent at small talk, as long as it's One Topic Only: The Weather. Kiwis can talk to any stranger for 30 seconds± about The Weather. And, that's it 😊 Suits us fine! Love your videos - please, carry on!
That's perfect! The weather is the only thing Swedes can talk about either way. We suck at smalltalk...except for "how about this weather eh". We excel at that. I look forward to trying my weather talking skills down there :D
That felt SO weird! I was happy that there weren't many people on the bus that day - everyone pointedly ignored me when I recorded. "That's a crazy person - let's not look at him!"
I'm new to your channel, thanks for all the information, in my country everything that you mentioned its the opposite here hha, that's why I want to continue my career in Sweden in a couple of years, I'm not super social and usually don't talk to many people. Sweden really fits my style of life. Tack
Oh wow, then I hope that you'll fit right in in Sweden! It can be a bit difficult to come here from a different place, since it takes time to get to know Swedes - but once you do, I promise that we're quite nice :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond One thing I noticed, correct me if am wrong, was Swedes are uncomfortable saying “No” or disagreeing in a group conversation. Is that common?
@@srivathsakk That's absolutely true! It's all about consensus - you want to convince people to see things your way, without openly disagreeing with anything... It's a strange kind of social game, really.
You can not be excited but you can not complain either, thats hard 😅 I must said I am guilty for excitement, but I am just honest, I really love living in Stockholm.
Nothing wrong with enjoying Stockholm - I do it too :D And nothing wrong with being enthusiastic, really. But we do think that it's a bit silly, unfortunately! ^_^
I'm going to Stockholm and Gävle for a week next month so these videos are quite useful. Gotta say I'm from South America and live in the US and I don't understand wearing shoes inside either, gross
I think running in the escalator is more a Stockholm thing, never seeing that any where else in Sweden, so I'm like, use the damned stairs if you're in such hurry
I had NO idea that shoe customs might be different between England and Scotland. Which is a bit embarrassing, since I've actually been to both places...
I watched both of your videos about this topic and I agree with everything: I am an italian guy who hates the typical ways that italian people use to act or interact with other people, so the more I learn about Sweden, the more I feel that I live in the wrong Country. I am an introvert man, a thing that for other italians turns you into a sociopath due to their way of seeing another person... 🙄 Plus, most of the italians are way too talky and sometimes for the very wrong reasons. I seriously hate that! Even summers are starting to get excessively hot and risky for health, in fact we can easily reach 46° or even 52° in the south of Italy (where I live) so...long live the colder kind of weather, even during summers!
I actually know a few Italians that moved to Sweden - I guess they felt the same way :D But yeah, I agree about the weather. I love warm weather, but when it gets to those temperatures it's just dangerous... :/ 25-30 is perfect for me!
@@ThreeStarVagabond oh, that's the same for me! "Idag är det bara 29 grader varmt lyckligtvis, så det är perfekt för mig!" 😄 Seriously, apart from my personal hate about the typical italian ways of doing things and the weather, the main topic who's seriously making me think about moving to Sweden for the next year is the job system: Italy is really fu**ed up (no job opportunities and very low salaries compared to the actual cost of life, just consider that the italian amount of taxes is similar to the swedish one, but here we have really bad working services in exchange compared to the swedish system) under this point of view, but the main reason for that comes as first from the italians themselves...sad truth. Thank you for your quick response. Premumenerade! Vi ses! Joe
Ouch, that really sounds awful. Do you think that tourism and gentrification from outside people could be partly to blame? I mean, Italy is (I assume) the most visited country in the world, and I guess that drives up prices and apartment costs and everything like that. Either way, I guess I really shouldn't complain about Sweden too much since there are many other places with problems. Similar problems, or completely different ones... Cheers, and thanks a lot! Vi ses :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Hej, det är trevligt att tala med dig igen! :D About your question.. As I already anticipated about, the main core of the problem comes from the italians themselves: sometimes they don't want to offer higher salaries because they're... greedy, fast and simple. The other option is that simply they can't do it, because a lot of them are surviving just for the idea they got to open a new activity. In this last case, truth stands in the middle: they have a huge will to act as entrepreneurs, but they don't know how to do it well. Improvisation is always a bad thing, especially in the moment when you have to balance all your momey between taxes, new supplies and salaries. ;-) The main problem about the job research is this, the HUGE one: most of the italians don't base their choices on your skills, but they prefer to call someone when he/she comes under the (in)famous "raccomandazione" (recommendation) of a friend, or even a politician. That's the main problem who afflicts the italian job system as first: a recommendation doesn't always mean professionalism! Then we got the other aspects: the hours (from 8 to 10) of work and the salaries (the most commons go from 700 to 1200€)... That says enough, I think. There's nothing much to complain about Sweden my friend, it's a beautiful country with beautiful people. Yes, there are some troubles also there but hey, every Nation got problems and the perfect place doesn't exist in reality (as you already said). As my father says, "the best part of a problem is how you will solve it" and, coming from my little experience, you swedes typically have really smart methods for solving problems. Ha det bra! Vi ses! :D
I went back to Sweden last January. Getting used to most businesses not taking cash was an adjustment. At least the convenient store in Stockholm Centralstation took it. The express train to Oslo broke down in the tunnel outside the city. Waad faun!
It's really amazing how quickly stores have gone from accepting cash, to just allowing cards! But it really is super convenient (at least in my view). But too bad about the train! Sorry for our crappy railways...
@@Hispandinavian Sometime I need to try Amtrak. I've seen a few videos of train rides and it does look really cool - but then I hear stuff like this as well...
@@ThreeStarVagabond The North East is not too bad. When you go West of Chicago, that's when the train in hardly on time. On the bright side, it's a great way to see the landscape. You just won't get to your destination on time.
This whole video explains why I fit in so well in Japan. I have heard them calling us the Japanese of Europe even. Haha Great video and I agree on everything, especially the last point.
Thanks :D I really look forward to visiting Japan one of these years. I have a suspicion that it'll feel just like home (if I just can learn a bit more of the language first)
@@ThreeStarVagabond Well, better to do it sooner than later, while the Yen is cheap. Yeah if you know the language just a bit it really opens doors here!
Thanks Miro - more information for my trip (only 74 days to go but who’s counting 🤣). Just one question regarding clothing- are shorts acceptable (for men and women)? It will be warmish when I’m there but don’t want to wear anything that offends!
I'm going to Sweden next month and I'm immensely anxious. My kid is perfectly like Swedes in every way. I'm perfectly opposite of Swedes in almost every way. I laugh easily and often, I smile at people, I say hello. I'm very enthusiastic about everything. I like people, I like good food, I like going for walks, I like tipping to say "thank you." I'm frankly petrified, lol. I feel like a Jack Russel Terrier preparing to try to fit in with a group of sleeping cats. "Oh boy, oh boy, I'm so excited, so excited. Sorry. Sorry. Putting on 'not excited' face. But wait, what's that! Can you tell me what this is?? Where does it come fro-- Sorry, sorry. Sorry! Hey, look at that! Sorry. Sorry!"
Don't worry! It'll be fine - and if you see that people aren't meeting your energy immediately don't be alarmed; they just need a little time to get used to someone being open and forward like that :D Just don't take any awkwardness the wrong way - they'll be happy with someone being so full of energy. As long as they don't have to be it themselves ;D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Thank you. :) All of the Swedish people I've met (admittedly few) or watched online (rather a lot more) really seem so nice. I've noticed that many seem to have a very real and strong empathy. It's one reason I want to visit, honestly. I hope I do okay, lol. I'll try not to take things personally. I really enjoy your channel, tack så mycket!
I love the irony that you view these as good rules, but others commenting on my previous video said that those were 10 reasons not to ever visit Sweden. Tastes are like rear ends - everyone's got one :D
Some tips seems to be Obvious ....however there are umpolite people everywhere. I am from Sao Paulo, Brazil and I have to tell you. About not respecting timetables.....It is not a standard rule people do not behave the same way .. It depends on the region. Fortunatly! 😅
Im visiting Stockholm in a few weeks and I feel like I’m going to the land of conditions and expectations. Kinda stressful😳 “Don’t show you’re feelings or emotions, ever!” “Don’t be you!” focus on what everyone thinks of you!”
Thanks for giving me a full list of what TO DO in Sweden. I will come and visit just to do every single one of these things just to annoy you guys. With kisses from Armenia and see you soon 🙃
Yea use to reside in Goteborg. And there after would travel to Sverige annually for 2 to 3 weeks stay. People there just seem to keep to themselves. Its funny i found my wife from there and is far from the normal swedish behavior, in that she is very outgoing. Also last time, I got in dispute with a Swede for cutting in line. And he didnt say anything and went back to wait his turn.
The last part really sounds very Swedish! Then he'll complain to his family and friends afterwards instead... But yeah just like there are different types of Americans, there are different Swedes as well. I'd say that I'm not a stereotypical one either, even if I am introverted.
I've visited Sweden a few times over the years, as I have friends in Stockholm. As an outsider from Australia looking in, I would agree to all of the above points you have mentioned. One biggie that I will mentioned is when you are with a bunch of Swedes in Sweden they will only speak Swedish (obviously). Don't think they will speak English as a group because you can't speak Swedish ..... NEVER!. Tip: learn some basic Swedish and you will be accepted. Reference to Tip 4: that's anywhere in the world regarding Americans and their over-enthusiasm.
I'm actually really annoyed at that speak-Swedish thing! Some people revert back to Swedish at every opportunity even if it's obvious that one or even more of the company don't speak the language. It's not that they don't know English - they just choose to leave some people out of the discussion. Just plain rude in my view...
Would doing impersonations of the Swedish chief from the Muppet Show after a few pints go down well in Stockholm or will I end up tarred and feathered with a moose head stuck on my head chained naked to some roundabout in Central Stockholm by a local biker gang... asking for some local cultural advice? trying to avoid appearing on peak time Swedish news one evening so planning ahead..I've already got the inflatable 🫎 moose so that should be OK, I hope!
Haven't seen it! Or even heard of it actually. One of these days I need to watch some good old fashioned TV - but there's always so much anime to watch instead...
@@ThreeStarVagabond It is from 2014 and made in cooporation with TV4. Many famous americans have minor roles in it: Will Ferrel, Jason Priestly, Patrick Duffy, Paul Simon and Gene Simmons from Kiss.
I just had some Swedes tell me that Dunkin' Donuts in Sweden was not well received. People there thought it was over priced. I've heard the Swedes have the best pastries and candies.
Yeah I used to see Dunkin in the city mall, but I never really felt tempted to try it. It was expensive, they just had donuts and no other pastries, and it wasn't as cozy as most Swedish cafes
Im Swedish... When you ask "how are you" we always take it as a rhetorical question. We are raised to not complain. We always say were fine. Even if we are not. Swedes are notorious for not opening up.
Im gonna keep watching the 10 don'ts from both videos because I am Swedish American. I also found out Sweden join NATO 4 months ago. So who knows what US Army has to offer now or what Swedish Army has to offer for them.
It's actually pretty interesting to watch some videos about the Swedish military. Some are vastly overexaggerating the Swedish capabilities, but I'm sure there are a few objective analyses of what Sweden brings to the table.
The ’don’t be a slob’ thing is something I would say is kinda inaccurate. I can’t speak for people in big cities such as Stockholm, Göteborg or Malmö but In smaller cities (Örebro is the largest city I lived in), no one really cares if you show up in sweatpants and a sweaty shirt at the mall or the corner store. Overall, great job!
@@ThreeStarVagabond I have no idea. But what's strange is that those standing right in front of the doors when I'm getting off are distributed over all ages.
@@beorlingo True! And it's so strange that they don't learn after they get into a flood of people. Then again, I also hate people who get off really late. Right when everyone's entering some bugger decides that "oh this was my stop" and tries to get off.
What about throwing litter in the nature? From a boat? Or light a cigarette in someone's house without being given explicit permission in beforehand? You risk being labelled "a swine". Another thing I think is typical Swedish is to use titles as sparingly as possible. If you treat people differently depending on their social status, you will get sulky comments behind your back. Official, formal or military contexts have their own rules, but otherwise you are supposed to address EVERYONE with their first name - no matter if it is the cleaning staff or the Prime Minister. The only exception is for the King and Queen, who informally are addressed "the King/Queen" (not "Your Highness"), but the other members of the royal house are addressed like ordinary people. Of course Sweden also have their more or less self-appointed celebrities and "stars", but the general attitude among ordinary people is that noone is above the others.
Good additions, all of those! I guess there's really a bunch of people one shouldn't do in Sweden. Maybe I need to make one more follow-up to this one...
Sweden is all about modesty: not being too much, repress your individuality, taking the middle ground, seeking consensus, avoiding disagreements and conflicts. We only show our difference in opinion in polls or at the ballot. Unless you are a crazy person who has built their career on expressing loud opinions on TV or in social media. It is kind if sad that we can't have constructive debates. But you know, there is a risk at offending someone. And that is not what a most Swedes like to do publicly. They tend to want to deal with their own stuff rather and avoid any negative attention or criticism.
That's extremely well put! And I think that all of this can be both a positive and a negative thing. No culture is perfect, and there are always pros and cons to how people decide that they want to function...
@@ThreeStarVagabond I think it is hurtful in situations where you are aware and knowledgeable about an issue, of which you have an opinion, but you know that if you open your mouth you will be met with passive aggressiveness for caring so much. Especially when others don’t care as much as you do. So always pick your fights. Swedes in general dislike people with strong beliefs or opinions. They prefer to let people believe whatever as long as they aren’t loud about it. There is also this notion that we all agree at a basic level. About values and so. Yet we never talk about it because of fear of finding out that someone else might think differently. This enforces our collective identity. Which also scares people when it comes to immigration. Btw. Seemingly having different values from “us”.
What is not said in this video is: Don't think that Swedes avoid arguments. If you get too "hot", the risk is high that you will end up in a hospital bed...
Right on! If you find yourself arriving early, you either sit in your car until the clock strikes the hour, or you take a turn around the block, but heaven forbid if you push the doorbell five minutes too early. And he is right when he mentions that the Swedes are not as good in English as they think they are. He, himself, can't say "shoes" correctly, and neither can 99% of the Swedes -- nor any other word with a "voiced s". They can't do it in German, either. Finally, yes, DO NOT randomly talk to anybody on public transport -- if you do -- they won't think you are a sociopath (as he says), just bloody drunk. When I first arrived in Sweden, I did have "interesting" conversations with random people on the subway, who were, of course, drunk as a skunk.
Another Great Video, I bet I could offend a lot of people in a short time 😂. I hate being late, so that’s one good thing, but in Sweden I might be a psycho most of the time, not really I give people their personal space cause I like mine. One of the hard things that I had to contend with moving to the Southern states was someone held a door open for me and I said Thank you, there response was HmmHmm, I was quite offended then was told it’s there way of saying you’re welcome, so I must be part Swedish, my fist was hidden in my pocket 😂. Stay safe till next time.
I think it would be fun to see how many Swedes one could annoy. The only problem is that it would be impossible to know for sure because of that fist in the pocket :D But ooh, that sounds so annoying with the HmmHmm response! I would have no idea how to interpret it really! Cheers, and have a great one :D
Great video! You know as an American, it baffles me how people still don't know how to act in other countries. Maybe one day my fellow Americans can stop dressing like they're going to walmart...
I love complaining about Americans, but in truth there are so many different kinds of people there, so it's hard to generalize ^_^ It's all in good fun either way!
@ThreeStarVagabond my swedish nephew does too. He complained why Americans don't walk. Then, when he came here, I told him to go to the grocery store and get us some snacks Which is a 40mim walk one way then he understood why....lol everything is spread out I tell him.
I talked to a lot of people on the streets in Sweden and was never considered a „Psychopath“ 😄 The opposite occurred: I made a lot of friends in and around Malmö and even had a girlfriend there. How am I supposed to make new friends or find a girlfriend if I don’t talk to anybody? 🤔 Doesn’t make any sense to me…
Seems you guys are not that weird after all, as most of these are just "common sense" to me. But... bring and drink your own alcohol? Seriously? Is that only for actual parties or is it also for eg. home dinners, kräftskiva, or whatever? Here, I would expect to be clearly told to bring my own if necessary, or else just bring something for the hostess if it's a not too casual gettogether.
To be honest, here it's almost the opposite - unless it's clearly stated that you don't have to bring anything, then it's expected that you bring your own. There are some exceptions though, like weddings and dinner for just a couple of friends. But anything with a bunch of people - yep, then it's bring your own booze!
@@j.q.higgins2245 Oh yeah, that was way too subtle! I'm more familiar with the banana-in-your-pocket version. If someone was saying that about a fist in the pocket, I'd suspect they were referring to some very inappropriate behaviour among people... ^^
The overenthusiastic people, i.e. the American style (@7:00) drives me nuts. It also induces a biased perception far away from reality. Probably it's engrained in their culture. The often call things best ... whatever (e.g. best seller), forgetting that best is supposed to be superlative, and can be only one best.
Agreed! It's like inflated review scores, inflated travel recommendations and so on - it just causes confusion in my view, because I want to know what's really the best and not just good.
A great video, but remember folks (from abroad), Swedes will be happy if you break these rules, because we Swedes hate these rules but don’t dare. Sit next to a person on the bus and start a conversation and you have gotten a bff.
@@ThreeStarVagabond Sweden is a great place that needs great people like you (and me). Swedes are in many ways different than other people, or, or "national soul" is. But getting to know Swedes or a Swede is a bit of a lock to unlock or a code to uncode and as pointed out in the very amusing vids is to behave like a Swede, but also to break the rules little by little, cause that's exactly Swedes want to do, but don't dare. Anyhow, as long as the government let you keep your ICA card, all is fine.
@@Soundbrigade I'm more non-conforming than most Swedes but I still am very much an introvert, so I guess it works out as being pretty Swedish in the end. But I do break a lot of rules... So far my ICA card is still working at least (just tried it when buying lunch) so I must not be breaking too many of the rules!
I am guilty of being the slap-happy American who thinks everything is awesome. But other than that...I'm good with keeping to myself and enjoying being around others without interaction. (Although I HAVE been known to chat with strangers...but only if they seem okay with it.) Even among friends, I'm generally quiet and simply enjoy being around people I care about -- while listening to what they're up to.
You'd be an excellent Swede! Everyone's entitled to a few quirks, and if it has to be being happy and upbeat...well, I'm sure it would be accepted eventually :D Although the chatting with strangers bit WOULD be exotic and extremely weird ^^
Bringing your own drink to parties is NOT the norm. That's a very British thing, though. And Swedes DO complain a lot. We're actually quite famous for it.
I don't get not taking off shoes inside thing. You just walked on wet and dirty road outside and now you stepping on to someones carpet with you shitty shoes..
Summary is: have basic good manners and use the common sense. I loved my last trip to Stockholm ^^ P.S. I never understood "how are you?" culture when only "I'm good" is expected to be the correct response. I wanna hear your real story if I ask 😁
I think you just summed up everything in one simple sentence :) If everyone was considerate regardless of where they are, things would just be so much nicer!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Oh, yes, some tourists are a bit too selfish. I think being an introvert makes it a bit easier. I could enjoy my trip in peace. There are more useful tips in your video, so I will keep them in mind for my next travel to Sweden someday. Thank you!
@@DeeDeifiesGayo Thanks for checking them out :D And I get what you mean. I try to not be obnoxious when I travel abroad either - maybe it's the introverted side of me that helps with that too. Or maybe it's just comes naturally, since I don't interact all that much with people...
Det kanske är en generationsfråga? Jag tycker man fortfarande ser många som delar med sig lite väl mycket. Och jag själv kör alltid med "det är skit!" om någon frågar hur läget är :D
@@andersmalmgren6528 Hmm kanske.. Jag behöver lyssna på lite olika åldersgrupper på jobbet och se om jag märker skillnad i hur de använder uttrycken...
If you are foreigner and expresses your enthusiasm, you will notice that Swedes often bring forward a lot of negative stuff like overfilled hospitals, high taxes, too much snow, or too much sun, low pension rates or too high … I have come to a point where I try to be positive but make remarks if someone is too enthusiastic about something that actually are bad like healthcare, which is AWSOME in Sweden, but you have to wait three years before you’re in for removing that inflamed appendix. Else Swede is … Sweden.
12:15 Strangers talking to each other in a friendly way?! Oh my, it's horrible! Just sit there like an iceberg and stare out the window! Well, your migrants will cheer you up a bit!
I'm married to an American... stereotypical loud, over enthusiastic and very opinionated..... sooooo, I guess I will leave him at home when I visit Sweden haha😂😂
Only kids bring their own booze. When you throw a get to gather as a grownup its the host that fixes the drinks. edit: You off-course bring a bottle for the hosts
How come that Swedish people, having such a good command of English language, dont understand the simple "How are you" as a greeting? English teachers should teach that at school.
Some of these stereotypes are changing however. I meet a lot of people at work and to summarize, we’re getting Americanized. I don’t like it, sorry for complaining ;)
I think I see some of it too, but I'd say that I still encounter a lot of "traditional Swedishness". I feel that there are significant differences in values, even if we adopt a lot of American trends....
If you missed my first video about things not to do in Sweden, check it out here: th-cam.com/video/Zih7kV61H0A/w-d-xo.html
Dang,it’s just a heaven for all considerate ,positively introverted and civilized and also scientists who love quiet environments
Well... Yes sort of. But we have just as many annoying and/or obnoxious people as anywhere else unfortunately. And weirdos who walk around filming stuff for TH-cam
@@ThreeStarVagabond Yeah generally speaking, if population gets denser in an area , you can’t totally avoid it. So then,the least dense Country with a nordic lifestyle would be my choice
@@MotivMinute Fair point! And yeah, I love visiting other places but I think I'd have a hard time adapting to another way of life completely
Subscribed ! "You cant live with them and prefer to live without them" coming from USA where illegals are storming borders from mexico with NO respect, No regard, No manners No paperwork No licenses (c*v*l w*r)
I agree with mostly everything, when it comes to "bring your own drinks" it is as stated for when going to a "party", if you are over for a dinner and you are all grownups it is not at all expected (at least not as a norm) but it is instead nice to bring a bottle of vine or something to the host(ess). But if you go over for a new years party at someones house where a lot of people are invited you are most definitely expected to bring your own drinks if you intend to drink more than a glass for a toast. You will have no problem finding people willing to happily share what they got so if you are planning on an early morning and just want something in a glass to look the part you don't need to go and buy just a single beer to bring.
If you don't know exactly how many people that are invited it is always ok to ask "should I bring anything?", if the intent is that you should bring your own drinks it is usually clarified. I personally just go by the rule that if there is going to be a sit down dinner I expect the host to have vine/beer to the food (unless something else have been stated, or if the rules of engagement are unclear I just ask, nothing embarrassing about that as this is just as unclear to Swedish people). But if it is just snacks and the focus is on drinking ;) then I bring what I want to drink.
Good summary! I think this shows my lack of dinner parties these last few years, more than anything :D I still mostly go to parties, or restaurants - very seldom anything in between.
And systembolaget closes at 15 on Saturdays and is closed on Sundays. So plan ahead if you plan to take liquor with you. If you’re unsure, just ask the one who is hosting
Another very interesting video full of good tips!
Much appreciated! Thank you :D
1:43 "People are horrible. You can't live with them and I'd prefer to live without them". We certainly have that in common, Miro! Thanks for the video!
Thanks for checing it out! Happy to hear that I'm not the only asocial strange person out there ;D
😂 very nice video. As an foreign here, I understand all the points and I like most of them.
Happy to hear that! Some of them are just comon decency in my view, after all :D
Here in Hawai'i, we are all on island time! We are not late,we will get there when we get there. You would love the bus schedules lol
Haha, I would probably be frustrated the whole time :D
USA maybe you'll understand L.A. is hardly USA anymore !! illegals storming our borders has pushed us to - - -
You' ve got another happy subscriber right now!
Hey that's awesome! Thanks a lot :D
12:15 Not only should you not talk to a stranger on public transport or in public in general. Even if you talk to a friend, keep it down. One is not loud in Scandinavia.
Very well said!
I’m from the UK but live in Australia. People here are very outgoing for the most part. I love the Scandinavian outlook and behaviour in general, as I’m much more introverted so this list is actually great! I found the Swedes to be pretty friendly more so than Norwegians imo…
That's interesting! I've always felt like Norwegians are a bit more outgoing but possibly even harder to make real friends with than Swedes. I would have imagined that it's a bit difficult to be an introvert in Australia - but then again, I wouldn't really know....
Australia is the the most anti social place. Swedes are just reserved not arrogant.
@@hilarykoppen2776 Hmm not sure I'd agree Australia is anti social, how so? From living here people are very outgoing and social for the most part.
As a Swede myself. When he started talking about reinventing the death penalty I *immediately* knew what he was gonna say. Don’t ever sit next to someone on the bus or metro.
Haha, Swedes will always be Swedes! :D
pure cämmöh. väpping uh ör sö ^ ^
I love that you are using the same song as they use in Dirty Rotten Scoundrels when Lawrence teaches Freddy how to behave with class.
I didn't really make the connection to be honest, but now I'm even more happy about the song choice :D
Just discovered your channel. I visited Sweden by myself last year and taking my family in October. We are all introverts and very anti social so it looks like we will have a great time!
I hope you'll have a great time in Sweden, and that you'll find some nice people to talk to - not everyone is a complete introvert here, and most people try to be nice :D
Tack Miro for another interesting and informative video. Speaking as a person living in the UK with high functioning Autism, Sweden look's, and sounds like the perfect anti social Utopian Paradise to me. Miro, you are living the dream! You have a great day too!😀
I'm extremely thrilled that I can spend several days without talking to a single person in Sweden :D Thanks a lot, and hope you have a great day as well as week!
@@ThreeStarVagabond That sounds like pure bliss 😁
Introverted people are just people who have no idea what actual isolation is.
In reality you need people to survive humans are social creatures.
Love your incredibly clever rhyming rhymes. Who would have thought "stupid" was so rhymeable😁?
Have you considered the fact that there is a European country known for aggressively rushing into trains? The passengers make sure to stand at the exit before the train stops, so that they can quickly leave and minimize getting pushed. It’s normal there, however it is refreshing to see a different train culture.
That's fair enough - and to be honest, I think that it makes sense. People should try to get off quickly as well, to not make others wait unnecessarily. A combination of both is probably wise!
New sub. Thanks for the quality content.
Woohoo! And thank you for checking it out :D
This is good content. Very helpful for my future trip there. 8:08
Happy to hear that! Glad to be of any help 😊
Lovely video and good humoured. The buildings are rather more modern i thought
Thank you! Yeah I guess I mostly filmed in a newly built area actually
I've watched both of these videos. I just gotta say ... I'm a New Zealander, and the more I read and learn about Sverige, the more I realise we seem to be twins, separated at birth. Absolutely everything you mention in both these "Do not XYZ" videos would pretty much earn you Kiwi citizenship. The only thing that differs, is the 'buying a round of drinks'. In New Zealand, you never do it without asking. Before you leave your group to go to the bar to buy your own drink, it's extremely good form to take discreet note of whose drinks are low. It's good manners to ask at least two people if you "can get them another". It's good manners for them to refuse, and also to say yes (keeping a mental talley of the obligation they now owe you - one drink) 🤭
Can't wait to visit, and feel absolutely at home, apart from my svenska pronunciation standing out like I've recently incurred a head injury 🥳
That actually sounds like a perfectly reasonable way to handle rounds! I think we just might be twin countries, separated by a whole world... I'd love to visit New Zealand - it does sound like quite a brilliant place. Maybe I need to think about when I could go there to see this near-Sweden for myself :D
You'd be most welcome,@@ThreeStarVagabond - your humour alone would ensure you fit right in. As an introvert, that is 🤭 Though, we kiwis are excellent at small talk, as long as it's One Topic Only: The Weather. Kiwis can talk to any stranger for 30 seconds± about The Weather. And, that's it 😊 Suits us fine! Love your videos - please, carry on!
That's perfect! The weather is the only thing Swedes can talk about either way. We suck at smalltalk...except for "how about this weather eh". We excel at that. I look forward to trying my weather talking skills down there :D
03:36 With the exeption of SJ and POST NORD. Where punctuality is a rarity.
You hit the nail on the head there.
Haha! Damn, I should have thought of that - that would have been perfect to add in the video...
Hahaha 😂 I love your content but how did you manage to film inside the bus isn't that weird!?😂
That felt SO weird! I was happy that there weren't many people on the bus that day - everyone pointedly ignored me when I recorded. "That's a crazy person - let's not look at him!"
I'm new to your channel, thanks for all the information, in my country everything that you mentioned its the opposite here hha, that's why I want to continue my career in Sweden in a couple of years, I'm not super social and usually don't talk to many people. Sweden really fits my style of life. Tack
Oh wow, then I hope that you'll fit right in in Sweden! It can be a bit difficult to come here from a different place, since it takes time to get to know Swedes - but once you do, I promise that we're quite nice :D
I love this guy!
Hey, what a coincidence - so do I :D
Good one ☝️ .. more suttle ones than the previous video .. but still a worthy addition
Happy to hear that! I was trying to think of common annoyances more than broad cultural issues I think :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond One thing I noticed, correct me if am wrong, was Swedes are uncomfortable saying “No” or disagreeing in a group conversation. Is that common?
@@srivathsakk That's absolutely true! It's all about consensus - you want to convince people to see things your way, without openly disagreeing with anything... It's a strange kind of social game, really.
Love the father Ted reference 😂
Best thing to come out of Ireland after Guinness! 😀
@@ThreeStarVagabond ❤️❤️❤️
You can not be excited but you can not complain either, thats hard 😅
I must said I am guilty for excitement, but I am just honest, I really love living in Stockholm.
Nothing wrong with enjoying Stockholm - I do it too :D And nothing wrong with being enthusiastic, really. But we do think that it's a bit silly, unfortunately! ^_^
I love your humour, always makes me laugh. Please keep these videos coming.
Thanks a lot! I'll do my best to continue with weird stuff like this :D
I'm going to Stockholm and Gävle for a week next month so these videos are quite useful. Gotta say I'm from South America and live in the US and I don't understand wearing shoes inside either, gross
Happy to hear that! And yeah, us no-shoes-indoors people have to stick together :D
I think running in the escalator is more a Stockholm thing, never seeing that any where else in Sweden, so I'm like, use the damned stairs if you're in such hurry
Do swedish people like the people from their neighbourhood countries like Finland/Norway/Danmark? What is your experience?
Oh absolutely. We're all like siblings. We hate each other a little bit but if anyone else messes with our neighbor, we defend them at all costs.
I hope you weren't implying that the UK and England are the same. I'm from Scotland and its just as frowned upon here to wear shoes inside...
I had NO idea that shoe customs might be different between England and Scotland. Which is a bit embarrassing, since I've actually been to both places...
@@ThreeStarVagabond A lot is different. we are seperate countries.
@@thevis5465 Fair enough. And I can't wait for Scotland to secede and join Scandinavia instead
@@ThreeStarVagabond Anything to get away from England.
I could so easily be a Swede - all of these things come as second nature and I’d be appalled if someone either sat or stood too close to me, anywhere!
Happy to hear that we're not alone :D Introverts of the world, unite!
While it is a little exagerated it is still a good video and you will do fine if you folow these tips in sweden.
Yeah, very much exaggerated for effect - but I think that there's a kernel of truth in it all at least :D
I watched both of your videos about this topic and I agree with everything: I am an italian guy who hates the typical ways that italian people use to act or interact with other people, so the more I learn about Sweden, the more I feel that I live in the wrong Country. I am an introvert man, a thing that for other italians turns you into a sociopath due to their way of seeing another person... 🙄 Plus, most of the italians are way too talky and sometimes for the very wrong reasons. I seriously hate that! Even summers are starting to get excessively hot and risky for health, in fact we can easily reach 46° or even 52° in the south of Italy (where I live) so...long live the colder kind of weather, even during summers!
I actually know a few Italians that moved to Sweden - I guess they felt the same way :D But yeah, I agree about the weather. I love warm weather, but when it gets to those temperatures it's just dangerous... :/ 25-30 is perfect for me!
@@ThreeStarVagabond oh, that's the same for me! "Idag är det bara 29 grader varmt lyckligtvis, så det är perfekt för mig!" 😄
Seriously, apart from my personal hate about the typical italian ways of doing things and the weather, the main topic who's seriously making me think about moving to Sweden for the next year is the job system: Italy is really fu**ed up (no job opportunities and very low salaries compared to the actual cost of life, just consider that the italian amount of taxes is similar to the swedish one, but here we have really bad working services in exchange compared to the swedish system) under this point of view, but the main reason for that comes as first from the italians themselves...sad truth.
Thank you for your quick response.
Premumenerade! Vi ses!
Joe
Ouch, that really sounds awful. Do you think that tourism and gentrification from outside people could be partly to blame? I mean, Italy is (I assume) the most visited country in the world, and I guess that drives up prices and apartment costs and everything like that. Either way, I guess I really shouldn't complain about Sweden too much since there are many other places with problems. Similar problems, or completely different ones...
Cheers, and thanks a lot! Vi ses :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Hej, det är trevligt att tala med dig igen! :D
About your question..
As I already anticipated about, the main core of the problem comes from the italians themselves: sometimes they don't want to offer higher salaries because they're... greedy, fast and simple.
The other option is that simply they can't do it, because a lot of them are surviving just for the idea they got to open a new activity. In this last case, truth stands in the middle: they have a huge will to act as entrepreneurs, but they don't know how to do it well. Improvisation is always a bad thing, especially in the moment when you have to balance all your momey between taxes, new supplies and salaries. ;-)
The main problem about the job research is this, the HUGE one: most of the italians don't base their choices on your skills, but they prefer to call someone when he/she comes under the (in)famous "raccomandazione" (recommendation) of a friend, or even a politician. That's the main problem who afflicts the italian job system as first: a recommendation doesn't always mean professionalism!
Then we got the other aspects: the hours (from 8 to 10) of work and the salaries (the most commons go from 700 to 1200€)...
That says enough, I think.
There's nothing much to complain about Sweden my friend, it's a beautiful country with beautiful people. Yes, there are some troubles also there but hey, every Nation got problems and the perfect place doesn't exist in reality (as you already said). As my father says, "the best part of a problem is how you will solve it" and, coming from my little experience, you swedes typically have really smart methods for solving problems.
Ha det bra! Vi ses! :D
I went back to Sweden last January. Getting used to most businesses not taking cash was an adjustment. At least the convenient store in Stockholm Centralstation took it. The express train to Oslo broke down in the tunnel outside the city. Waad faun!
pro tip: any of the grocery stores chains will happily relieve u of ur coins & bills-ICA, coop, willys, lidl, hemköp, tempo etc.
It's really amazing how quickly stores have gone from accepting cash, to just allowing cards! But it really is super convenient (at least in my view). But too bad about the train! Sorry for our crappy railways...
@@ThreeStarVagabond It's still better than Amtrak in the US. It's rickety and slow.
@@Hispandinavian Sometime I need to try Amtrak. I've seen a few videos of train rides and it does look really cool - but then I hear stuff like this as well...
@@ThreeStarVagabond The North East is not too bad. When you go West of Chicago, that's when the train in hardly on time. On the bright side, it's a great way to see the landscape. You just won't get to your destination on time.
This whole video explains why I fit in so well in Japan. I have heard them calling us the Japanese of Europe even. Haha Great video and I agree on everything, especially the last point.
Thanks :D I really look forward to visiting Japan one of these years. I have a suspicion that it'll feel just like home (if I just can learn a bit more of the language first)
@@ThreeStarVagabond Well, better to do it sooner than later, while the Yen is cheap.
Yeah if you know the language just a bit it really opens doors here!
I think it'll have to be in 2025 but I hope it'll be fine anyway by then. はい、ちょっとちょっと日本後がはなせます
Thanks Miro - more information for my trip (only 74 days to go but who’s counting 🤣). Just one question regarding clothing- are shorts acceptable (for men and women)? It will be warmish when I’m there but don’t want to wear anything that offends!
Oh absolutely! It's not a prude country so don't worry about shorts and tank tops etc. But the question is if the weather will permit it 😊
I'm going to Sweden next month and I'm immensely anxious. My kid is perfectly like Swedes in every way.
I'm perfectly opposite of Swedes in almost every way. I laugh easily and often, I smile at people, I say hello. I'm very enthusiastic about everything. I like people, I like good food, I like going for walks, I like tipping to say "thank you."
I'm frankly petrified, lol.
I feel like a Jack Russel Terrier preparing to try to fit in with a group of sleeping cats. "Oh boy, oh boy, I'm so excited, so excited. Sorry. Sorry. Putting on 'not excited' face. But wait, what's that! Can you tell me what this is?? Where does it come fro-- Sorry, sorry. Sorry! Hey, look at that! Sorry. Sorry!"
Don't worry! It'll be fine - and if you see that people aren't meeting your energy immediately don't be alarmed; they just need a little time to get used to someone being open and forward like that :D Just don't take any awkwardness the wrong way - they'll be happy with someone being so full of energy. As long as they don't have to be it themselves ;D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Thank you. :)
All of the Swedish people I've met (admittedly few) or watched online (rather a lot more) really seem so nice. I've noticed that many seem to have a very real and strong empathy. It's one reason I want to visit, honestly.
I hope I do okay, lol. I'll try not to take things personally.
I really enjoy your channel, tack så mycket!
10 more reasons to like Sweden. I definitely live in the wrong country... 😅
I love the irony that you view these as good rules, but others commenting on my previous video said that those were 10 reasons not to ever visit Sweden. Tastes are like rear ends - everyone's got one :D
Yea, it's a lonely country. It's hard to make friends.
@@ThreeStarVagabond and some are more attractive than others 😅
@@VAR_life Haha!
Some tips seems to be Obvious ....however there are umpolite people everywhere. I am from Sao Paulo, Brazil and I have to tell you. About not respecting timetables.....It is not a standard rule people do not behave the same way
.. It depends on the region. Fortunatly! 😅
Im visiting Stockholm in a few weeks and I feel like I’m going to the land of conditions and expectations. Kinda stressful😳 “Don’t show you’re feelings or emotions, ever!” “Don’t be you!” focus on what everyone thinks of you!”
Don't worry! People really aren't as judgmental as I make them out to be - this is all exaggerated, and I'm sure you'll have an awesome time :D
Thanks for giving me a full list of what TO DO in Sweden. I will come and visit just to do every single one of these things just to annoy you guys. With kisses from Armenia and see you soon 🙃
Haha, I'm sure you'll fit in despite your best efforts to be different. Swedes are pretty laid back and they won't complain openly anyway.
As an introvert, I find Sweden to be a paradise. Oh no, I just praised you guys, I better be quiet now. 😀
Haha that's okay - you just praised the country and not a specific person, so that's just fine even in Sweden 😅
Yea use to reside in Goteborg. And there after would travel to Sverige annually for 2 to 3 weeks stay. People there just seem to keep to themselves. Its funny i found my wife from there and is far from the normal swedish behavior, in that she is very outgoing. Also last time, I got in dispute with a Swede for cutting in line. And he didnt say anything and went back to wait his turn.
The last part really sounds very Swedish! Then he'll complain to his family and friends afterwards instead... But yeah just like there are different types of Americans, there are different Swedes as well. I'd say that I'm not a stereotypical one either, even if I am introverted.
@@ThreeStarVagabond it's all cool, I like sweden for itt laid back ways. Even traffic is not hectic. I love it over there.
I've visited Sweden a few times over the years, as I have friends in Stockholm. As an outsider from Australia looking in, I would agree to all of the above points you have mentioned. One biggie that I will mentioned is when you are with a bunch of Swedes in Sweden they will only speak Swedish (obviously). Don't think they will speak English as a group because you can't speak Swedish ..... NEVER!. Tip: learn some basic Swedish and you will be accepted. Reference to Tip 4: that's anywhere in the world regarding Americans and their over-enthusiasm.
I'm actually really annoyed at that speak-Swedish thing! Some people revert back to Swedish at every opportunity even if it's obvious that one or even more of the company don't speak the language. It's not that they don't know English - they just choose to leave some people out of the discussion. Just plain rude in my view...
@@ThreeStarVagabond Maybe. I am not offended by it, it's the old "when in Rome" scenario. Keep up the great work!
@@teejay5295 Thanks! And well, I guess that you're more tolerant than me in that case :D
Would doing impersonations of the Swedish chief from the Muppet Show after a few pints go down well in Stockholm or will I end up tarred and feathered with a moose head stuck on my head chained naked to some roundabout in Central Stockholm by a local biker gang... asking for some local cultural advice? trying to avoid appearing on peak time Swedish news one evening so planning ahead..I've already got the inflatable 🫎 moose so that should be OK, I hope!
They're all true lol, and yet these are all reasons why I love the country. I must remember to tone down my enthusiasm next time though 😌
Take it all with a grain of salt! I'm sure we'd miss the enthusiasm if it was all gone :D
I can recommend watching the series "Welcome to Sweden". It´s hilarious, also for a Dane.
Haven't seen it! Or even heard of it actually. One of these days I need to watch some good old fashioned TV - but there's always so much anime to watch instead...
@@ThreeStarVagabond It is from 2014 and made in cooporation with TV4. Many famous americans have minor roles in it: Will Ferrel, Jason Priestly, Patrick Duffy, Paul Simon and Gene Simmons from Kiss.
Oh right! I remember something about this one after all - I must have seen it back then. I really need to re-watch it :D
I just had some Swedes tell me that Dunkin' Donuts in Sweden was not well received. People there thought it was over priced. I've heard the Swedes have the best pastries and candies.
Yeah I used to see Dunkin in the city mall, but I never really felt tempted to try it. It was expensive, they just had donuts and no other pastries, and it wasn't as cozy as most Swedish cafes
Im Swedish... When you ask "how are you" we always take it as a rhetorical question. We are raised to not complain. We always say were fine. Even if we are not. Swedes are notorious for not opening up.
Agreed, but I think people get less "subtle" when speaking English, and start taking it more literally. But not as extreme as in my example of course!
Some people call us over enthusiastic, I like to think we’re just positive appreciative people! 😂
That's the spirit! Truly positive thinking 😀
Im gonna keep watching the 10 don'ts from both videos because I am Swedish American. I also found out Sweden join NATO 4 months ago. So who knows what US Army has to offer now or what Swedish Army has to offer for them.
It's actually pretty interesting to watch some videos about the Swedish military. Some are vastly overexaggerating the Swedish capabilities, but I'm sure there are a few objective analyses of what Sweden brings to the table.
The ’don’t be a slob’ thing is something I would say is kinda inaccurate. I can’t speak for people in big cities such as Stockholm, Göteborg or Malmö but In smaller cities (Örebro is the largest city I lived in), no one really cares if you show up in sweatpants and a sweaty shirt at the mall or the corner store.
Overall, great job!
Haha fair enough! But I do think it's better than for example fashion in the UK or the US, even in smaller places. Thanks a lot either way :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond that might be super true! Maybe other countries are more open toward it than we are
Introvert paradise❤❤❤
A good day is when I don't have to talk to anyone :D
The subway culture of getting off and on has gone totally down the tube so to speak.
Haha good one. But yeah I totally agree. What happened?!
@@ThreeStarVagabond I have no idea. But what's strange is that those standing right in front of the doors when I'm getting off are distributed over all ages.
@@beorlingo True! And it's so strange that they don't learn after they get into a flood of people. Then again, I also hate people who get off really late. Right when everyone's entering some bugger decides that "oh this was my stop" and tries to get off.
What about throwing litter in the nature? From a boat? Or light a cigarette in someone's house without being given explicit permission in beforehand? You risk being labelled "a swine".
Another thing I think is typical Swedish is to use titles as sparingly as possible. If you treat people differently depending on their social status, you will get sulky comments behind your back. Official, formal or military contexts have their own rules, but otherwise you are supposed to address EVERYONE with their first name - no matter if it is the cleaning staff or the Prime Minister. The only exception is for the King and Queen, who informally are addressed "the King/Queen" (not "Your Highness"), but the other members of the royal house are addressed like ordinary people.
Of course Sweden also have their more or less self-appointed celebrities and "stars", but the general attitude among ordinary people is that noone is above the others.
Good additions, all of those! I guess there's really a bunch of people one shouldn't do in Sweden. Maybe I need to make one more follow-up to this one...
The sitting on transport rule is pre standard across the world really
I wish someone told Americans that 😅
spot on . funny vlogs
Thank you, I appreciate it!
Sweden is all about modesty: not being too much, repress your individuality, taking the middle ground, seeking consensus, avoiding disagreements and conflicts. We only show our difference in opinion in polls or at the ballot. Unless you are a crazy person who has built their career on expressing loud opinions on TV or in social media. It is kind if sad that we can't have constructive debates. But you know, there is a risk at offending someone. And that is not what a most Swedes like to do publicly. They tend to want to deal with their own stuff rather and avoid any negative attention or criticism.
That's extremely well put! And I think that all of this can be both a positive and a negative thing. No culture is perfect, and there are always pros and cons to how people decide that they want to function...
@@ThreeStarVagabond I think it is hurtful in situations where you are aware and knowledgeable about an issue, of which you have an opinion, but you know that if you open your mouth you will be met with passive aggressiveness for caring so much. Especially when others don’t care as much as you do. So always pick your fights.
Swedes in general dislike people with strong beliefs or opinions. They prefer to let people believe whatever as long as they aren’t loud about it.
There is also this notion that we all agree at a basic level. About values and so. Yet we never talk about it because of fear of finding out that someone else might think differently.
This enforces our collective identity.
Which also scares people when it comes to immigration. Btw. Seemingly having different values from “us”.
Why is this so accurate though
Punctuality is a virtue in Scandinavia. 9 times out of 10 the only reason for being late is that you prioritized something else over being on time.
What is not said in this video is: Don't think that Swedes avoid arguments. If you get too "hot", the risk is high that you will end up in a hospital bed...
I think that depends on which Swede we're talking about as well. The nerds I spend time with couldn't harm anyone even if they tried :D
Right on! If you find yourself arriving early, you either sit in your car until the clock strikes the hour, or you take a turn around the block, but heaven forbid if you push the doorbell five minutes too early. And he is right when he mentions that the Swedes are not as good in English as they think they are. He, himself, can't say "shoes" correctly, and neither can 99% of the Swedes -- nor any other word with a "voiced s". They can't do it in German, either. Finally, yes, DO NOT randomly talk to anybody on public transport -- if you do -- they won't think you are a sociopath (as he says), just bloody drunk. When I first arrived in Sweden, I did have "interesting" conversations with random people on the subway, who were, of course, drunk as a skunk.
Another Great Video, I bet I could offend a lot of people in a short time 😂. I hate being late, so that’s one good thing, but in Sweden I might be a psycho most of the time, not really I give people their personal space cause I like mine. One of the hard things that I had to contend with moving to the Southern states was someone held a door open for me and I said Thank you, there response was HmmHmm, I was quite offended then was told it’s there way of saying you’re welcome, so I must be part Swedish, my fist was hidden in my pocket 😂. Stay safe till next time.
I think it would be fun to see how many Swedes one could annoy. The only problem is that it would be impossible to know for sure because of that fist in the pocket :D But ooh, that sounds so annoying with the HmmHmm response! I would have no idea how to interpret it really! Cheers, and have a great one :D
Great video! You know as an American, it baffles me how people still don't know how to act in other countries. Maybe one day my fellow Americans can stop dressing like they're going to walmart...
Speak for yourself. Not all Americans are the same.
I love complaining about Americans, but in truth there are so many different kinds of people there, so it's hard to generalize ^_^ It's all in good fun either way!
Totally agree. Even when it comes to tourists, there's a lot of different people from over there!
@ThreeStarVagabond my swedish nephew does too. He complained why Americans don't walk. Then, when he came here, I told him to go to the grocery store and get us some snacks Which is a 40mim walk one way then he understood why....lol everything is spread out I tell him.
@@Joe-eg7ml Never said they are all the same. .
I talked to a lot of people on the streets in Sweden and was never considered a „Psychopath“ 😄 The opposite occurred: I made a lot of friends in and around Malmö and even had a girlfriend there. How am I supposed to make new friends or find a girlfriend if I don’t talk to anybody? 🤔 Doesn’t make any sense to me…
Brother we show up to court in sweatpants in the USA. Why not? The judge wore a bed sheet.
But how do swedish people socialise?
Very carefully :D Nah, but there's a lot of socializing within your group of friends
Seems you guys are not that weird after all, as most of these are just "common sense" to me.
But... bring and drink your own alcohol? Seriously? Is that only for actual parties or is it also for eg. home dinners, kräftskiva, or whatever? Here, I would expect to be clearly told to bring my own if necessary, or else just bring something for the hostess if it's a not too casual gettogether.
To be honest, here it's almost the opposite - unless it's clearly stated that you don't have to bring anything, then it's expected that you bring your own. There are some exceptions though, like weddings and dinner for just a couple of friends. But anything with a bunch of people - yep, then it's bring your own booze!
I gotta live in Sweden
I recommend it! Even though I'm biased ^_^
So, does that fist-in-pocket thing basically mean that you can never tell whether a Swede is actually angry or just glad to see you?
Well, you'll see a little scowl as well at the same time! But it's honestly hard to say when a Swede is angry sometimes. At least for other people.
@@ThreeStarVagabondI was actually pointing at a Beverly Hills Cop quote here, but that might have been just as subtile as Swedish anger... 🙂
@@j.q.higgins2245 Oh yeah, that was way too subtle! I'm more familiar with the banana-in-your-pocket version. If someone was saying that about a fist in the pocket, I'd suspect they were referring to some very inappropriate behaviour among people... ^^
@@ThreeStarVagabondO.K. I'll admit I messed up...
(... unless Swedes tend to give thumbs up inside their pockets, too.)
@@j.q.higgins2245 Haha, no thumbs up in Sweden - just slightly less awkward frowns ;D
only old people wear some shoes indoors here in
sweden
I wouldn't do it anywhere except in stores, restaurants and at work. Even though I'm getting old 😅
The overenthusiastic people, i.e. the American style (@7:00) drives me nuts. It also induces a biased perception far away from reality. Probably it's engrained in their culture. The often call things best ... whatever (e.g. best seller), forgetting that best is supposed to be superlative, and can be only one best.
Agreed! It's like inflated review scores, inflated travel recommendations and so on - it just causes confusion in my view, because I want to know what's really the best and not just good.
A great video, but remember folks (from abroad), Swedes will be happy if you break these rules, because we Swedes hate these rules but don’t dare.
Sit next to a person on the bus and start a conversation and you have gotten a bff.
You're spoiling all our secrets now :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond Sorry, but all our travels and living abroad has have a bad effect on us ….🤕🥴😱🙄😰
@@Soundbrigade Yeah, I'm afraid that I'm not really a typical Swede any longer. I wonder if they'll revoke my Coop card...
@@ThreeStarVagabond Sweden is a great place that needs great people like you (and me). Swedes are in many ways different than other people, or, or "national soul" is. But getting to know Swedes or a Swede is a bit of a lock to unlock or a code to uncode and as pointed out in the very amusing vids is to behave like a Swede, but also to break the rules little by little, cause that's exactly Swedes want to do, but don't dare.
Anyhow, as long as the government let you keep your ICA card, all is fine.
@@Soundbrigade I'm more non-conforming than most Swedes but I still am very much an introvert, so I guess it works out as being pretty Swedish in the end. But I do break a lot of rules... So far my ICA card is still working at least (just tried it when buying lunch) so I must not be breaking too many of the rules!
I am guilty of being the slap-happy American who thinks everything is awesome. But other than that...I'm good with keeping to myself and enjoying being around others without interaction. (Although I HAVE been known to chat with strangers...but only if they seem okay with it.) Even among friends, I'm generally quiet and simply enjoy being around people I care about -- while listening to what they're up to.
You'd be an excellent Swede! Everyone's entitled to a few quirks, and if it has to be being happy and upbeat...well, I'm sure it would be accepted eventually :D Although the chatting with strangers bit WOULD be exotic and extremely weird ^^
Watching this in my hotel room in Gamla Stan.
Haha nice one! A bit better weather than when I recorded this eh
A home for introverts. ❤
Bringing your own drink to parties is NOT the norm. That's a very British thing, though. And Swedes DO complain a lot. We're actually quite famous for it.
Do you take off your shoes in a mosque there?
Who knows - I've never seen a mosque in Sweden
I love how so many of those rules are just basic decent behaviour. At least for me as a Swiss person...
You should have said "at least for me as a decent person" :D But yeah, maybe it's just common sense most of it!
"how are you?" Is a question, not a greeting. That is the problem.
Agreed! Weird to use a clear question like that as a phrase
I don't get not taking off shoes inside thing. You just walked on wet and dirty road outside and now you stepping on to someones carpet with you shitty shoes..
Totally agree! It's just...insane to me
I think enthusiastic Americans are great. I´m getting used to them from the internet.
I guess I just love to have something to complain about! What would the city be like without 'em, after all...
Thats called "Line Culture" while I was in UK. This is a good practise and called as Decency :)
Totally agree! :D But I guess that I'd lie if I said that I've never cut in line, despite being as Swede ^^
@@ThreeStarVagabond 😉
Summary is: have basic good manners and use the common sense. I loved my last trip to Stockholm ^^
P.S. I never understood "how are you?" culture when only "I'm good" is expected to be the correct response. I wanna hear your real story if I ask 😁
I think you just summed up everything in one simple sentence :) If everyone was considerate regardless of where they are, things would just be so much nicer!
@@ThreeStarVagabond Oh, yes, some tourists are a bit too selfish. I think being an introvert makes it a bit easier. I could enjoy my trip in peace.
There are more useful tips in your video, so I will keep them in mind for my next travel to Sweden someday. Thank you!
@@DeeDeifiesGayo Thanks for checking them out :D And I get what you mean. I try to not be obnoxious when I travel abroad either - maybe it's the introverted side of me that helps with that too. Or maybe it's just comes naturally, since I don't interact all that much with people...
Äh, det är mer eller mindre standard att säga "hur har helgen varit", "vad har hänt sedan sist" etc, eller hur mår du. Outdated advice :D
Det kanske är en generationsfråga? Jag tycker man fortfarande ser många som delar med sig lite väl mycket. Och jag själv kör alltid med "det är skit!" om någon frågar hur läget är :D
@@ThreeStarVagabond kanske det. Jag är gen x själv. Men tycker nog det är samma för de millennials man måste interagera med på jobbet osv.
@@andersmalmgren6528 Hmm kanske.. Jag behöver lyssna på lite olika åldersgrupper på jobbet och se om jag märker skillnad i hur de använder uttrycken...
“don’t be so enthusiastic” lmao
If you are foreigner and expresses your enthusiasm, you will notice that Swedes often bring forward a lot of negative stuff like overfilled hospitals, high taxes, too much snow, or too much sun, low pension rates or too high …
I have come to a point where I try to be positive but make remarks if someone is too enthusiastic about something that actually are bad like healthcare, which is AWSOME in Sweden, but you have to wait three years before you’re in for removing that inflamed appendix.
Else Swede is … Sweden.
Alternate title things not to do in stockholm and maybe gothenburg as well
12:15 Strangers talking to each other in a friendly way?! Oh my, it's horrible! Just sit there like an iceberg and stare out the window!
Well, your migrants will cheer you up a bit!
I hope your problems in life will get better, because with that much bitterness your life really must suck now ^_^ Cheers!
I'm married to an American... stereotypical loud, over enthusiastic and very opinionated..... sooooo, I guess I will leave him at home when I visit Sweden haha😂😂
Haha, or just keep him on a tight leash so he doesn't go overboard ;D
My ADHD and my adept skill of being late has been hell as a swede.
Only kids bring their own booze. When you throw a get to gather as a grownup its the host that fixes the drinks. edit: You off-course bring a bottle for the hosts
Fair enough! I'll happily stay with the kids at the parties in that case, rather than more grown-up dinner parties... ^_^
How come that Swedish people, having such a good command of English language, dont understand the simple "How are you" as a greeting? English teachers should teach that at school.
Nah, our English speakers teach English, not the American dialect of it. It's only Americans who say "how are you".
But we do understand this, there is a similar sayin in swedish. So we do not tell you the whole story. We just repy ”Fine, and you?”.
Asking nonblonde Swedish if they are real Swedish or did they immigrated.
Some of these stereotypes are changing however. I meet a lot of people at work and to summarize, we’re getting Americanized. I don’t like it, sorry for complaining ;)
I think I see some of it too, but I'd say that I still encounter a lot of "traditional Swedishness". I feel that there are significant differences in values, even if we adopt a lot of American trends....
I'll make sure not to cut in line and not be a hypocrite like my comedic brother from another mother. Hej Hej it's fika time.
Not cutting in line is the important thing! Everyone's a hypocrite now and then ;D
there are no vikings in stockholm
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badmouth ikea
Boo, boo, IKEA for president!
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